Leaving Behind Those That Disrespect You

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  • Опубликовано: 30 ноя 2024

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  • @meeraraj0
    @meeraraj0 6 лет назад +43

    Why do people do this to each other. Just reading through these comments people have been so mis- treated and hurt. 😔😔😔

  • @frankiemaria1279
    @frankiemaria1279 6 лет назад +10

    I don't personally know the man in this story, but I feel so proud of him. It's no easy task to overcome all that he experienced, and to be trusting and open again. Doing the work really gets the results, and this video gives me hope. Thanks to you and him for sharing this with us.

  • @joshcourtois9556
    @joshcourtois9556 4 года назад +14

    Congratulations Craig! I was hurt so bad my my ex it felt like I had PTSD. I hope no one can relate.

  • @cynthiadavison5785
    @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +28

    Can you mistake avoidants for narcissists? I want a video on that.

  • @jinxlee8556
    @jinxlee8556 4 года назад +6

    My ex got knocked up by a former boyfriend. And she is pregnant with her 5th child by a 5th man. I have nothing to do with her and her life of drama. I am much better than that. I can relate to this video.

  • @shiningdiva_2
    @shiningdiva_2 6 лет назад +13

    My ex was like this men ex. Always was in contact with his ex, always was looking after her house but he didn’t care about our home, in 6 years never show that he want to move forward with me, always lies after lies, sneaking behind my back, manipulating me, abusing me emotionaly, acusing me of thinks wich he was doing not me. Bastards never change. So...after he left looks his not happy with his choice but i don’t want him back, now his free to talk with his ex 24hour. Enough is enough🙄 I deserve more then he was offering me.

    • @evernynemarions567
      @evernynemarions567 5 лет назад

      Exactly my situation. Same amoun5 of time same behavior. If he ever comes back I cant wait to turn him down due to o5 wanting it again

  • @cccopycat583
    @cccopycat583 6 лет назад +28

    my ex told me I was the source of his turmoil so I walked away now he's emailing saying he misses me..turns out I am NOT the cause of his problems..he is..alcohol. drugs alcoholic daughter runs a business stress money problems etc. it wasn't me..trying to get away..I really now think he has some real mental.health personality disorder issues..gotta stop attracting these guys..😎

    • @DarcyMarieTCB
      @DarcyMarieTCB 6 лет назад

      Cat W. So sorry to hear hun. Things will get better for you and he needs help.

    • @brianhill6842
      @brianhill6842 Год назад

      How did this ever workout? I’m dealing with a suspected DA who drinks himself until he’s drunk every weekend but he says I’m his problem.

  • @Agent_L84
    @Agent_L84 6 лет назад +16

    I needed this before bed. The guy I dated triangulated me against his ex wife, always comparing me to her and discussing his co-parenting issues. As much as it hurt me after investing in him, I said I want more than he could give and couldn't speak to him anymore. It's been so difficult, but I had to because of myself. Where there's drama, look for trauma, right?

    • @Agent_L84
      @Agent_L84 6 лет назад +1

      What made it so horrible for me is he chased me for months, and I kept my guard up. I found it odd he would frequently send screenshots of texts between him and his ex to show how crazy she was. When I brought it to his attention, citing that I thought he still loved her, it all went downhill. It's not right. I helped him considerably -- mentally, emotionally, and financially.

    • @Glint396
      @Glint396 Год назад

      Urgh I bet they’re not happy. And I bet you’ve moved on. 😁👍🏿👏🏽

    • @Agent_L84
      @Agent_L84 Год назад +1

      @@Glint396 Yeah, I have moved on, and I'm with the most incredible man. Found what I was looking for when I wasn't looking. Imagine that.

    • @Glint396
      @Glint396 Год назад

      @@Agent_L84 That’s fabulous!! 🥰💃🏾👏🏽💪🏽

  • @Floral528
    @Floral528 Год назад +1

    My ex was not abusive, but they absolutely did not respect me. They wanted me in that they had someone to take care of and love, but they were always quick to make assumptions about my intentions when I did something that inadvertently hurt them. There were too many times I did not feel fully heard or that they were willing to compromise. They had trouble trusting me and were often quick to jump to conclusions about me. They had a narrative about me in their mind and it did not feel good when it started to come out. All their problems with me stemmed from their upbringing. But to be honest, sometimes I believed their assessments of me, and it wore me down and made me feel insecure. I'm re-learning to trust myself.

    • @thecurrentmoment
      @thecurrentmoment 9 месяцев назад

      Hear, hear!
      Thanks for sharing this, this sounds like my situation and it's nice to hear someone else articulate it.
      Thanks

  • @winsmith5196
    @winsmith5196 Год назад

    I just dated a new guy after a yr of my ex breaking up with me. I was ready. He was so sweet and caring for 2 months. Then cancelled Christmas with me on Christmas Eve. With a phone call, wouldn’t even talk to me. Turns out, I think he is a Narcissist . He has all the signs . He just drove up today, like nothing happened, just to harass me 🤬. I’m so upset and confused about his actions. I fell into the trap of liking him. Why does this keep happening to me 😰?

  • @cynthiadavison5785
    @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +7

    My ex was completely unaware of his behavior. I made boundaries. He is completely ok with chatting me up while he is seeing someone. I told him it's wrong...he still has been randomly texting me. I needed to have discipline for me. What kind of respect am I gonna get if I sit around in the background. No. He cant do that. If he wants her, have her. It's gonna drive him nuts eventually. 9 years of speaking and seeing him. I finally said no. I feel like I have my power back. He must come to me now! Or it's done....I'm dating again after all of coaches help. Keep working on yourself.

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 лет назад

      Cynthia Davison Stay strong and remember your worth. Keep your boundaries and focus on other things that make you happy. If he’s smart, he’ll see what he lost in you- if not, you’ll end up with someone who appreciates and respects you. Either way, you win!! Trust everything will work out for you, and I pray each day you feel better and stronger 💗

  • @1990lathan
    @1990lathan 6 лет назад +3

    I have a video idea for you Craig.
    I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts where you've been separated from an ex for several months and were in no contact during that time until they reached out. You ask to catch up, they agree and you set a date. What if they try to bring up the relationship? What are some strategies to avoid that conversation so you can focus on having fun and catching up without coming across like you're purposefully trying to avoid that conversation?

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +2

      Don't over talk. My thoughts are....If you did do something. I would say something like, I'm sorry and I see what I did now. I've been working on those issues. We are here now. Let's have some fun. Do the mirror, validate and empathize move. But don't go overboard on it. Do not get emotional. Get coaching from Craig. That's what he told me. Do not get all mushy and stay on the subject. It will make drama and then they will start to get negative feelings again. Be very calm and patient and positive....smile.

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 лет назад

      If your ex who broke up with you brings up your relationship, it’s a good sign. It means they are thinking about getting back with you. When discussing your relationship, just stay calm and demonstrate your growth. If you’ve been working on yourself then this is a great opportunity that can bring you closer. If they don’t bring up relationship talk, just focus on the moment, building a positive rapport and having fun. No talk of the past initiated by you. Chin up- your ex is interested!! 😉

    • @marcinbenedek789
      @marcinbenedek789 2 года назад

      @@sshuteandrew I think I screwed up. Two years after breakup, the ex invited me to new year's eve, I felt weird, we did not talk almost at all, then she talked to me 5 min, about how she does not want a couple, but I was close... to being good enough I guess. I said nothing. Then next day wrote her, that it was indelicate of her to bring up the subject, that it was nonemphatetic, and made ill, and lose sleep, that it was a subject that could not bring me up, just made me feel like crap. But............ I now feel like an idiot. I should be her mountain. Appear unaffected and accepting of whatever she wants. I should make my armour strong, even the weakest link, which is the breakup subject, and meantioning that should not move me, I should have casually brushed it off, saying that this archeology makes no sense, I am good with it and just be positive :) I turned out to be super affected and anxious... A few days later I started with the workbooks. What do you think?

  • @Fishplants
    @Fishplants 6 лет назад +4

    My ex is being really disrespectful.All she wanna do is to hurt me i think.. Shes been sleeping around , even with a friend to my family, She really wanna shove it in my face it seems.. But i havent reached out once, she hasn't gotten any reaction from me what so ever. Why does she behave like this ? She dumped me btw. Thankful for any kind of answer. She is REALLY behaving out of character, she's not the one i knew. And I've been doing no contact for 3 months

    • @DarcyMarieTCB
      @DarcyMarieTCB 6 лет назад +1

      Fishplants Omg. You must walk away. Nobody deserves to be cheated on or disrespected that way no matter what. You'll find a faithful and caring and loving partner. Pray for yourself and be at peace! ❤

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 лет назад

      I’ve been very patient with my ex for 8 months; however, he never moved on with anyone else and I respected that choice. In your case, I’d walk and move on with someone who would treat me better. It’s hard, but you deserve much better. Once that trust is destroyed, it’s very hard to get it back.

  • @amstarla
    @amstarla 2 года назад

    My narc ex & his low budget drama are gone for good. He still tries to call me every so often. I don't deal with that disrespect.

  • @diegoantoniohermosillovirg3547
    @diegoantoniohermosillovirg3547 4 года назад +1

    Only now i can see, the person i was dating wasn't giving me any respect whatsoever. There was one time she left me in the middle of a date with no explanation, she never put any effort, i was the one to initiate almost every contact, she could stop answering My texts for days at a time, she flirted with other guys in front of me and, she dumped me for another person, via text and really, there were no real reasons for that and Made ir seemed like it was all my fault, absolutley everything and that she did nothing wrong. I think, to assume she was just using me while she was bored or felt lonely and waiting for someone she really liked is correct

  • @omkarkaushik6253
    @omkarkaushik6253 6 лет назад +2

    I begged and said that i will find a nice job and will convince your parents. But she said no matter how rich you become due to some Indian traditions, my mother won't allow this marriage. It will hurt more after 3 years its better to break up now. Last time i contacted her on her mother's birthday she said its ok but pls do not reach out on my birthday,... She was cold and sad. Her bday was on 7 july and i did not reached out. She loves me but due to society fear and fear of her parents she left me after 3 years of strong relationship. Everything was going awesome since the day before break up. She came up with an idea that we can not marry due to our culture so forget me.
    She could not imagine one day without me but now its about 6 months.

    • @omkarkaushik6253
      @omkarkaushik6253 6 лет назад

      Bro she is my childhood love.... Everything was going fine.... We had no fight and no complains.... She left me just because of family and society fear.... Just like every other Indian girl who don't have guts to tell their parents about their partner choice.

  • @jessicadillon9967
    @jessicadillon9967 6 лет назад +2

    My ex treated me bad . Never takes responsibility for his action always blames me for his actions . He abuses me and I love him but he hurts me all the time . I stopped talking to him . Then he send me a email thought maybe he wanted to apologize no turns out all he wanted was to use me for sex told me this is the last time I thought maybe he’ll change his mind but no he just loves hurting me . I let go but it’s so hard I shouldn’t have ever reply and the bad thing is I’m expecting his second child smh so there always has to be some kind of communication which sucks because I want to never talk to him 🙁

  • @Saki-wy8mj
    @Saki-wy8mj 5 лет назад +1

    Coach, I like you in video, because you showed your true character. Maybe you were deprived of sleep, but I took your redden eyes as you were holding your tears out of joy for this guy marrying with Kendra. I am doing the elite series after the first five of you ebook. Have to say changed my world but not my dating....YET. I just started my journey. I hope I can send the success story email like them. Much respect and love from Japan. Thank you.

  • @mattykay1137
    @mattykay1137 5 лет назад +1

    Craig
    My Ex respects me a lot
    But does not want me back
    She said it’s over
    I’ve been in No Contact now for 18 days
    We have been separated for nearly 6 months
    In that time I’ve tried my hardest too work on getting her back
    We last spoke on the 11/1/19

  • @nikm2045
    @nikm2045 Год назад

    …prepares you for the ones that deserve you.

  • @SuperMisterKory
    @SuperMisterKory 6 месяцев назад

    This one hurt like a mf. I was the one being dumped. But she did it at such a vulnerable point over text, and never spoke to me again. The amount of guilt I had to process was unbearable. I went through pretty severe depression that would’ve been avoided had she just spoken to me. To this day she hasn’t said a word to me. It still hurts so bad. All I want is a conversation, to part ways on better terms now I know she’s not coming back. But I can’t do anything. Anything I message her would be manipulative, or guilt-tripping. If I tried to approach her, it would be disrespecting her boundaries and “involving” whoever she was with at the time. Not to mention showing my lack of control. I absolutely cannot win at all. I get it, she’s not coming back, but the fact she never even allowed us a conversation, she never allowed me to have my say to allow me closure and to process this properly, was nothing short of selfish. One day it was over, cut off by text, and that was it. I’ve had breakups in the past, but never this abrupt. Never this painful.
    Guys, if you are breaking up with someone, never do it like this. I know where I went wrong, but I did not deserve this at all. At least permit them closure, at LEAST a conversation. No matter what happens now, I don’t think I can ever forgive her for treating me like this.

  • @vladimirjlouis
    @vladimirjlouis 5 лет назад +3

    Craig I’ve watched a lot of your videos but I disagree and agree with this one. From relationship viewpoint, I disagree because every relationship is different. People change and a intimate partner can change. I agree from a business or friendship viewpoint.

  • @markmitchell2282
    @markmitchell2282 3 года назад

    My girlfriend of eight months Never let me in her house once but her and her daughter treated mine like a hotel she always need reassurance and very needy so I had her name put on my arm because we talked about getting engaged then she fell out with me nine weeks later completely cold

  • @Malignantt1
    @Malignantt1 6 лет назад +1

    SHE HIT ME UP AFTER A MONTH AND I FUCKED IT UP FUCK

  • @joemcginnis2421
    @joemcginnis2421 6 лет назад +1

    So ppl like that can't change

    • @joemcginnis2421
      @joemcginnis2421 6 лет назад

      Sorry let me say it clearly if I was vurbuly abusive and disrespectful and didn't realize it until she was gone so I can't change and she should never talk to me again

    • @Benny.13
      @Benny.13 5 лет назад

      Joe Mcginnis you mean she never manipulated you or caused the arguments?

  • @Doom1201
    @Doom1201 6 лет назад +1

    So I've been going no contact with my ex for 3 weeks now and we broke up on good terms. She just wasn't feeling it anymore after the honeymoon period. We dated for 6 months and it was all perfect you could say. I think she was just afraid to commit because she's never been in a relationship for that long. She just contacted me at midnight as it turned July 24th for my birthday saying "Happy 21st Birthday! Stay Safe!". Does she miss me/ still love me cause it sounds like she does. Should I break no contact and respond?

    • @cynthiadavison5785
      @cynthiadavison5785 6 лет назад +1

      Anthony Arbour do it tomorrow. Say thank you. Ask how she is doing...don't talk to long.

    • @sshuteandrew
      @sshuteandrew 6 лет назад

      I’d definitely respond if you want her back- just don’t overwhelm her. Play it cool and use control. Going no contact serves its purpose, but you don’t want to send your ex the wrong idea when they send you a thoughtful message!! Be happy they are thinking of you and use that opportunity for a light and positive exchange. 🙂 🎉

  • @antesetto
    @antesetto 4 года назад

    Hi Craig. I couldn’t find the video Tragedy to Triumph anywhere. Does it have another title? I am in workbook 6.

    • @CoachCraigKenneth
      @CoachCraigKenneth  4 года назад +3

      You cannot find the exclusive videos on RUclips. You must use the hyperlink from The Knowledge. You just click on the title and it takes you to the video. Watch the instructions video if you still get confused

  • @biaten
    @biaten 5 лет назад +1

    Hi I agree based on this guys version his ex seem insane , however, we are only seeing only one side of the story. What is the other person perspective and what was he doing during that relationship that cause this. Also why did he choose such a crazy person to date?

  • @stephenciotti2127
    @stephenciotti2127 6 лет назад +2

    Good evening coach.

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 5 лет назад +2

    WHY DO GUYS STAY WITH THESE INSECURELY DISORGANIZED WOMEN??

  • @rhosyregalado4811
    @rhosyregalado4811 4 года назад

    Hi this is Rhosy I book a Skype for Margaret I’m watching you guys since 2017. but I only have a chance to book now because I’m tight of budget paying my visa in Australia and school fees of my kids here in Australia.

  • @mrsdragonite
    @mrsdragonite 6 лет назад +1

    Craig do you have a video on Toxic Masculinity? After all this time and enduring a lot of heartbreak this has made the most since my own personal breakup last Thanksgiving. I think it qould be worth covering and give closure to a lot of the women that follow you.

  • @drjsantos15able
    @drjsantos15able 6 лет назад

    It's been 2 months and she hasnt reached out only for business we had to take care of. Does that mean it's time to move on, Even tho she said she doesnt love me anymore?

    • @NotoriousRKB
      @NotoriousRKB 6 лет назад +4

      Jay sadly there is no defined time when an ex will reach out. Sometimes it can be weeks and other times it can be months. So only YOU can answer the question to move on. If you think about it, going through personal growth is almost like moving on because you are focusing on yourself and not your ex. You should Craig's video about 'Does my ex still love me?' to answer that question. This might be terrible advice but a friend told me moving on does not mean you have to go date other people. So for me personally I am just going to work on myself and my issues and take a break from dating for a bit. If my ex reaches out I will be prepared. If not I will be just as prepared to date someone new. Keep in mine I got my ex back before and messed up so DO the work if you truly want your ex back and want to keep her

    • @thelegionary07
      @thelegionary07 6 лет назад +1

      Hey bro... It's now over 6 months since my break up, approaching 5 months of NC, and there's no sign of that changing, but being single opens the doors to new possibilities... I still struggle on lonely nights, thinking about her, but then I realize that I'm a fully capable man, that can get attractive and awesome women to go on dates with me... It's ok to hold out hope that she'll come back, but definitely keep working on yourself, and go out and date other women... She's likely dating other men, so don't let her have that power over you... Best of luck

    • @drjsantos15able
      @drjsantos15able 6 лет назад +1

      kalstar yea I watched it, it's a good video. Lol hate how ice cold women can get as if everything you ever done never mattered.

    • @drjsantos15able
      @drjsantos15able 6 лет назад

      Ryan Boyer yea well 2 months down another unknown number to go lol. I'm just curious since she still sees my statuses and hasnt unfriended me yet. Probably to see what km upto.

    • @drjsantos15able
      @drjsantos15able 6 лет назад

      thelegionary07 man that's a long time. But I think I'm heading that way too.

  • @chdk55christidonny6
    @chdk55christidonny6 Год назад

    TQ

  • @Benny.13
    @Benny.13 5 лет назад +1

    Even the Lord Jesus admitted people are of evil nature and doing and wanted us removed from the earth. These are all examples in the comments .

  • @brandymoore7191
    @brandymoore7191 6 лет назад

    🚂