How to Deal With a Bully at Work (How to Handle a Workplace Bully)
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
- How to Deal With a Bully at Work (How to Handle a Workplace Bully)
In this video, we’re giving six tips to dealing with a workplace bully-because most women will deal with a workplace bully at some point in their careers. With these six tips, you’ll feel more confident in your work, and hopefully you’ll be able to find the support you need.
DOWNLOAD Our FREE Self-Love at Work Guide:
bit.ly/SelfLoveAtWorkGUIDE
READ more advice, interviews, and find FREE downloadable resources on our site:
bit.ly/ccYT
And for our WEEKLY newsletter, subscribe below:
bit.ly/CCEmailClub
Join the BEST Club & Follow Us on Instagram:
bit.ly/contessainsta
Work in Progress is a "how to" video series to help you with everything from interviewing for jobs to improving your confidence or negotiating a raise. We break these tough questions down into simple, actionable tasks-getting you one step closer to owning your career.
Music: www.bensound.com
Work bullies are usually lacking in self esteem from their personal life and like to feel above others at work.
If you confront a bully that is a narcissist or sociopath they will just deny it and gaslight you. If anything, their behavior may escalate since they are now offended that you had the "audacity" to confront them or accuse them of something that they are doing.
So true after complaining about them they have gotten worst and my Manager keeps making excuses for them so after Christmas I will put out 3 grievances against them because it’s really getting me down
Of course they can capitalize on ambiguity and confusion. They often play on that. It is so easy and also by default they know they can abuse the common prejudice that everybody is good so much so that the person who tries to prove otherwise expose themselves to being pointed as the problem or bad person.
That's been my experience, too, and if they have been kissing up to their narcissistic boss (and badmouthing you to them), going over their head brings down a double whammy.
@@michellewara3646 That's exactly what that bully wants is to get you completely down and unconfident.
@@janf9657 update: I was chosen to work during lockdown and the bullies were left on furlough so me working ended up being a blessing in disguise because I gained knowledge and more experience working alongside my manager. As soon as lockdown was lifted they came back to work and saw me in a different light, because I was confident and strong. I felt empowered because they couldn’t put me down as I wasn’t the new girl anymore and I’m confident in my job. Only 1 person is still trying to bring me down as she has the traits of a narcissist but I just get on with my work be polite and I don’t take no shit anymore.
I’ve been working in different states, and all people are the same toxic co workers, toxic managers.. I’m planning to work from home instead.. I’m here to work not to be bullied! Stop bullying! Spread love! not Hate!
Very true
Absolutely...need more love and support...especially at this time.
U should hate bully even after understanding them because they no it's bad still they do. They r ur enemy. And u no someone who is bad to u. U Dosnt like them right or u may hate them if someone is nice to u or help u. U like them right that is normal world is like this right. If person help u from belly then it's a big help but the helper is the enemy of bully.
Jesus Christ this is so true
True!! Even though you don't do anything to them they will still bully you
HR can't be bothered. They will make you a target. I like to get the bully alone off guard and tell them to respect you firmly and allow them to feel your energy that if we weren't at work I would own you. Remember without witnesses or cameras with sound, it's their word against yours. Trust me I have been in the trenches with psychos.
Daddy Ding confront them and I’m direct tell them how it is especially if they are lazy. The bully will just automatically stop.
Yea. I was targeted by an HR rep. There is lots of bullying happening in the medical field.
Medical training and Medicine is a toxic culture. Find allies in educators and medical governing board. You’re not alone in looking for support - structural systemic change is the way to feel hopeful - best of luck finding/creating community xx
Hell yea.
Authorities give no shit about how u feel or what’s going on as long as the job is done for them.
You gotta do it both ways,
tell the managers professionally and face them bully low key thug way.
This happened to me. I’ve gone mad trying to document only to be gaslit by HR and my boss. It’s sick.
From experience, NEVER allow the bully to get a rise out of you. When it's building and building and you occasionally say something more firm, that's fine. But never lose control and yell, curse, etc. The bully will never let you live it down and other colleagues are either too stupid/ignorant to understand what was going on or don't care because they have their own ambitions and goals and interests.
I withstood bullying at my current workplace for like 2 years, then I snapped mentally because it became just too much, and while I still function at work and get my paycheck, I lost the advantage I had and it completely halted any progress I had and furthermore, the bully came out of it looking stronger and better. And what will irritate you the most, it brings them strong satisfaction, to know they broke you and ridiculed you and that you're now angry and demotivated.
No matter how hard it is, stand your ground.
My bully is passive aggressive and making it hard to actually prove that it’s happening. I don’t know what to do
I'm currently going through a bully situation at my office with a person who is promoted to an office manager. My birthday is this Saturday and I'm preparing for my birthday get together. Write down what actually happened and then you can see what is not acceptable. She can be passive aggressive but what she has done to you can be classified as being bullying. Get a support system of a few very good friends and don't do this alone. Get advise.
Same...
to be honest, the bible tells us, if you get hit in the face, turn the other cheek around, you know... But in such cases (i was bullied myself because of my size, very "little" 1,70 cm 😔), the top of a telescopic defense baton would be just the right thing to get their brain back to where it belongs, because a head is not only for wearing hair....
One day everyone of you, will wake up to see, what a shameful game they play/ed on us... and that it only takes that one eye opening short moment, to realize, to grow up and grow a solid back, because everything they done to us, is as meaningless as a mosquito bite in your left ass cheek...it can be annoying, if you give all that power and attention to it and , but if you don't give a healthy fuck and validate and confirm their attitude, you'll always be the winner... I hope you understand my text and take it as an encouragement, i promise you'll understand one day what I mean, if you did not already. And to be honest, even if it feels impossible, we should pray for them, that they get their mind, body and soul enlightened, so they see their mistakes. Have a nice day guys and girls 🙏
Talk to your boss.
I've dealt with bullies at EVERY JOB IVE HAD. Makes me really wonder why I get up and do this every day when I constantly get treated like I'm worthless. Maybe it's location. But I'm tired of it.
👍
Same I'm tired with it.
Same I’m done with it these hating asz grown adults and the gossiping
Go to kick boxing school.
Same. We deserve better.
Lots of times bullying won't stop until the bully quits, or you quit. If it is really bad, then leave while you still have a good attitude and a good resume and can list three good references for future jobs. Make sure to never burn bridges as you leave. Bullies are bullies because they are insecure, jealous, have mean streaks, or have too much time on their hands. But sometimes there's no real reason for it. Workplace dynamics are tricky but you must never give anyone power over you by "misbehaving". Don't yell or scream, dont gossip, be on time and do your assignments efficiently. Sometimes it is best to not talk at all, just do what is necessary. Don't ever give a bully ammunition to hurt you or your reputation.
Many times a bully does not directly confront you, they alienate you or treat you differently intentionally. For example, they invite all the other people to go to pubs after work except you. Or, when there is other people in the office, they will go out to chat on the phone, so that they do not disturb others. But you are the only person there, they do not care. Could you give some advice on how to deal with this kind of subtle bully?
Don’t drink . Your there to work not Mae friends
A subtle bully could be a Covert Narcissist. Research that type of highly toxic, highly dangerous person.
backfire and make them respect you or fear you
It’s happening to me now and they are all female!
I literally just lost my job because my boss was putting me through the same exact thing for 3 whole years!!! This kind of bullying HURTS TOO!!!
I love the controled, unrealistic response to a fictitious bully. A true A type personality bully won't quit until the person is dead, or they quit, or disappear, go away. Most employers don't want to deal with the drama, and will leave the bully to completely have their way with the person.
My bully is a woman who thinks it's ok to talk shit about me to other coworkers in front of me. I went to management but by the time they responded she had already had weeks of time to pull other employees aside and trick them into being on her side. Still waiting for management to sit down with both of us. I'm convinced they have played it off and wont do it.
I hope the bullying has long since stopped. I suffered bullying at school and tried to do the two recommended things such as ignoring the bully, and I also reported to teachers, who did nothing to put an end to it. By not standing up for myself I simply bottled up emotions for a few years until the time came with I erupted in response to the last abuse and I smashed a wooden chair across said bully's head, regrettably.
You must stand up the first time someone bullies you, as they will most likely stop at that point, satisfied that you reacted. The longer you put up with it and they get to know you and what you're capable of, the less likely you will be able to resolve things by standing up at a later date. HR can help in some cases, but it's a long process that gets worse before it gets better, and it won't make a bully suddenly respect you.
This bully shamed you publicly with intention and was driven by their ego. So the best way to confront her is also publicly. The more your colleagues hear first hand, the harder it is for her to spread rumours. I don't think this late on there's much you can do to bring about a resolution, plus she's disrespected you in such a public way and needs putting in her place. I would choose such a time when she is in the office but very distracted and you launch into a tirade or verbal battering that no one can ignore. Don't use abusive language, but hit her with a well rehearsed statement of everything she's done. You have to be direct and concise, and know exactly what you want to say. Taking her by surprise will disorientate her and her confidence will suffer, unlike yours. Yell at her to explain herself but don't give her time to formulate a response. Direct eye contact, close in on personal space and all fingers pointing. Break her concentration at every opportunity to discredit her. Use correct but harsh words like bully and keep asking her why she behaves that way and describe the effects it had on you and why she took enjoyment out of it. Do not give her time to answer, interrupt and distract her, slam your hand on a table but don't make physical contact and don't make it look like you intend to (lots of open palm gestures), do not let her get out of the situation but reduce her to the point where she won't have any fight left, and then ask her calmly to explain why she thinks bullying and public shaming is an appropriate way to behave. Don't ask her what she was reacting to or trying to provoke from you, keep it all about her and her methods and the effect it had on you, so that way she hasn't got the opportunity to turn things round on you. As long as you ensure that you are not abusive or threatening then you can't be disciplined just for being noisy and standing up for yourself.
It may seem heavy handed and perhaps you don't have to go quite so aggressive. But at least like that of a political journalist delivering short sharp blows at question time. She does deserve a large dose of humility, and she'll probably never approach you again, let alone try to shame you in that way ever again. To avoid this kind of behaviour I find that assertiveness training is a good way to go as is public speaking and debating. Passiveness seems to attract bullies who so badly want an emotional reaction. knowing who you are and what you believe helps you to speak with conviction and confidence. Direct eye contact, wide hand and arm gestures, and making interactions earlier on will always help to project a more confident and secure image, even if you have to put on an act to 'fake it till you make it'.
@@roberttruman8444 Agree not to wait. Handle it immediately.
Sadly, those in charge are often lacking courage and often happy to blame the victim.It is easier.I am sorry any of you are suffering thisxxx
Human Resources don’t do anything
True
They are not your friend
HR is notorious for turning the tables, and even if a policy of investigation is supposed to be thurough and impartial; it's nothing BUT partial and short changed.
HR is lazy, and don't like making waves, so they cut corners. So rather than speaking with HR, you can call a VERY good lawyer and press charges on a bully. It maybe expensive, but the bully will learn the hard way to leave you alone.
@@Chris9017 HR are not lazy, they will do everything to protect the company's arse, which is exactly why your union is a better port of call.
It's because their there to protect the company from you, not the workers nor the coworkers itself.
I don't know why it wasn't mentioned, but the first time a bully acts in an antagonistic way towards someone, they are testing their reaction. If you fail to act the first time then it gives the green light to proceed, and it will only intensify from there. So always confront on the first occasion. It gets harder to confront further down the line and will seem out of character to the bully, whose reaction could be dismissive or explosive. Make the confrontation in private or in public to depending on how private or public the offence was. If they are narcissistic then calling out in front of all colleagues (in a calm and dignified way) can take power away from them since they are being watched, and since the argument is carried out in the open it makes it harder for the narc to spread rumours and alter the history.
I think you might be right. I do not get bullied very often. I think it's because I stand up for myself right away. Messing with me just is not fun and there are easier targets. However if I witness them bulling others I try and do something about it too. My current bullied was a friend and I let some things she said slide because she was going through some stuff. Now it is harder to make her be a nice human.
When you are being bullied by the people at top of the organisation there's nothing (without spending $$$ to go to court) you can do!
It’s terrible to deal with that power trip driven supervisor who only wants to make an example out of you to control everyone through fear. It’s sad type of bullying
I am currently dealing with bullying at work by 4 catty Jealous and Insecure women. They are making up lies about me and ganging up on me.
Same . It's always those old hags >:(
Same and two of them are grandmothers!!
Same these people are crazy
Bet you're more attractive, that's why.
@@jacquelinemurfitt3455 I'm younger than them too. I had to flee that job because of them. I had worked there for 8 years. The boss did not take it seriously so I left.
Am dealing with one now. God I feel like yelling at her to stop being so disrespectful and to not talk to me period!
I’m being bullied now! Unfortunately every place I worked I have had problems and had to quit! I try to be professional but nothing is working. Where I work at the woman are so miserable and fake I can’t stand it. This one nurse think she runs the place and talks to people like crap. So I told her about herself. I stood my ground! She didn’t like that but she seems to be calming down! However now her friend a second nurse is on my back. She pretends to be nice by complementing my hair and saying good morning I speak because I’m not a ignorant person and it is a work place. A part of me just want to act like I don’t hear them and stay in my zone but they quick to tell on me. So yesterday I hear them talking about me at the nurses station. They were looking for me they thought I was outside but I was doing my job. I didn’t say anything I just laughed because they have something wrong with them! When it was time for me to leave I headed to my car and the two nurses were standing on the corner talking. Then I hear one say yeah she’s eating good implying that I’m fat lol it was funny to me because I have a medical condition that makes me gain weight. You never know what people are going through. So for them to pick and pick and not know me shows that they are low lives. When I was smaller I always had woman coming for me in a harsh way so this is not new. I just didn’t think it would still happen after I gained weight. I do have a pretty face tho. However I just wish people left me alone. I don’t bother anyone but when I snap I’m the bad guy I’m over it. I guess I’ll just deal with it like I been doing until I graduate from college get my private practice and become my own boss but I promise I’ll treat people with respect and kindness.
@@jaypi8806 You made me read all this for nothing. I was waiting for advice
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
@@ninjapirate123 medlab
@@kichw I never knew scientists or doctors or nurses that works at medlab would get bullied. How are you bullied and what kind of bullying is it?
I believe I am a victim of workplace bullying. I have been at my job for 4 mths and everything was fine in the beginning, our team which consists of 4 people all got along. Then, recently 2 weeks to their attitudes have changed. I am being reported for petty things such as constant bathroom breaks, they document when i leave and return from break/lunch. I’m lost for words.
Same with me. The start of my career was decent, i wasnt praised, but I was left alone. A couple years in, I had a manager punch me in the face. There were witnesses who reported it but not me. The person got fired and told everyone i over exaggerated and that i snitched. Ever since, all the coworkers treat me like an outcast. Im ignored, avoided, given an attitude anytime i talk, it’s been tough, to top off, im underpaid and I have a lot of personal health & relationship issues going on outside of work. These bullies don’t realize what they’re doing to some people, cause they may just push someone over the edge to where they don’t want to be here anymore
@@Alchemist9572 thats how i feel..its getting to be a pattern meeting the manager because she has “feedback” I’ve tried to explain my POV and meetings are like 3x a month. I’ve isolated myself and they still have false accusations towards me. I don’t know what else to do.
I'm so terribly sorry to hear this. I'm actually being bullied by a boss.
@@jacquelinemurfitt3455 really hate to say this but the way I resolved my issue really was by putting them in their place. It wont stop till you do. Im a passivist so I don’t like confrontation, but due to bottling up so much, one day he pushed me to where I blacked out, I had this single heavy heartbeat and it’s almost like my body took over. I screamed at him and told him to F off and that I’m tired of his sh*t. Told him if he has an issue with me, we can resolve it right after work. Since then, he’s been the nicest person to me. He doesnt test me anymore, he doesnt get loud with me. Ive been told I look intimidating being tattooed from head to toe but I’m really the nicest person you’ll ever meet which made me a target. But as soon as I let loose, he never pushed me ever again. When i screamed at him, he didn’t yell back, he just looked scared and shocked I did that. Assert your dominance, if its a boss you obviously have to be choosey with it. The way I would confront it would be passive aggressive. Tell them to not talk to you like that and if they do, you’ll gladly leave or get the cops involved. Make them nervous for losing their job. Hope this helps and please let me know how it goes for you
@@jacquelinemurfitt3455 it wont stop till you put your foot down and stand up for yourself, i promise you that. This is LIFES TEST AND LESSON. PASS IT DONT PROCRASSINATE IT. Life is impatient. It will push you till you do, and it’ll make it harder for you. It wants you to learn your lesson. “To make it stop, study your lessons” Live by that
How did I handle a workplace bully? Well, it really depends. One time, a woman let locked me in a closet and threatened me. Well, I wasn't very happy about that, especially as I didn't even know her. So, when someone from HR came by my desk to tell me something, I said, "I need to talk to you". She said that she was busy getting ready for the Christmas party. But I told her, "No. I need to talk to you now". She realized that I was very serious. So, I told her what had just happened. Come to find out, this girl HAD done stuff before, because other people apparently had complained. I was asked to put it in writing. I did. The girl who did that was relieved of her duties less than a week later.
If the bully strategically bullies you .Then the only way is to struck hard and stand up for yourself and put them in their real place . It’s that plane and simple.
@Barbary Lion
Put them in their place by confronting them either privately or even infront of others if the bully is used to bully infront of people . speak assertively to them that this behaviour is no longer accepted. Stand tall with firm body posture but avoid the person and focus on behaviour and attitude .
Sometimes when a person gets bullied they enter into a freeze mode , no problem take few breaths wait until you hold yourself then confront assertively and tell them exactly what you want to tell them but again avoid talking about the person and focus on the disrespectful behaviour .
@@saidkhleif7659 this is perfect the only problem is it’s girl how would you go about it , if you where the guy
Wouldn't it be great to have a bully list somewhere?
something like a list on the dark net? Where bored people can choose a target? lol I'd vote for that lol
You can use rating sites like glassdoor for professional. There are other for schools and so on. Search a little. You can share your experience there and also see what others experienced. It feels good when you know you're not alone, when someone approve your post and people helping each other. This is also a good way to get to know the environment ahead so that it is not a surprise when it happen to you.
Yes! Yesterday, I was bullied by 2 female managers. I am a new employee, only 4 days on the job. The bullying caused me such stress and anxiety that I threw up for hours and had a severe headache. One team member admitted this was their tactic to get me to leave the position. I know the truth about their misconduct. I wonder if these girls will even get spoken to about it.
Leave that place. If possible document their evidence then release it to the concerned authorities.
Or just confront them
I think it’s BULLSHIT that we have all been forced to watch such a video
I’m currently dealing with a bully who is my immediate manager. I’m a brand new life insurance agent and today I dealt with discrimination, harassment and bullying. I stood up for myself and put my put down and recorded the conversation without them knowing.
If you are bullied at work and follow this advice, it is likely to result in the worsening of your situation. Confronting a bully is usually not a good idea. A more realistic approach is to familiarize yourself with the research that has been done on workplace mobbing. Heinz Leyman is the pioneer in this field. Workplace Bullying Institute is another good resource.
Don't talk to the bully.
The bully doesn't care about you.
The bully is your enemy.
The enemy will want the appearance of being humble, but this is a deception.
The enemy demonstrates a willingness to lie.
Against such horrible people, you are in a struggle for your survival. Your ability to live, your very life is at risk, and these people would be pleased to see you destroyed.
Talking is pointless. No amount of reasoning can ever persuade them to stop. They won't stop. They won't simply leave you alone. They want dominion over you.
Decide what must be done.
Do what you must do.
@@HirumiKato this was written by somebody who got bullied so bad their mom put them in karate
@@HirumiKato Thank you for sharing, I agree that it is usually pointless to persuade the bully or the mob to change their behavior. And yes, bullying and mobbing sometimes endanger one's life. I prefer the option of removing yourself from the environment of the mob if you can, avoiding contact with them if you can help it. Trying to save your integrity, too, by not becoming like the bullies.
Try to bully them back because most of the bully are very cowards people, i did that many times, when i show them how aggressive i am, they were scare and back off after that event they leaved me alone and talked to me in very nice way, you could tell them that, you don't know who you are dealing with, tell them that you did make someone bullied in the past commited suicide, say that just to scare them, stalk them to their house, crack their cars but don't let anyone see that, sometimes show up in front of their houses, to make them scare, make them living hell.
@@vovanminh999 I notice the coward hid his car,haha, I'll find it!
A bully coworker is usually jealous and envyness, I take that as a compliment 😅😂 it shows how insecure they are about themselves.
Thank you for stating #5. Confrontation. I've seen so much advice that never discusses direct confrontation. But in fact this is the way that you need to handle many bullies. Otherwise, they will not stop.
this is the route I usually take but from experience, from now on, will only do this to low level workers. Confronting a higj level worker is tougher. I confronted one face to face and this person just flat out denied and lied about everything I brought up. Not always the best approach unless you have solid evidence which I did not.
I have tried this, and it doesn't work, but I documented every piece of it so at least I can make a case when the time comes for legal action. If you say nothing, they can say they had no idea and their covert tactics were unintentional.
@@obgfoster it works to a degree but with people of not so high and influential position. I confront one who was a manager and now I know better to have exact evidence which I could have got at the time because this person just flat out denied everything so when it came time to tell my supeevisor, it just became a my word against his but it did stop the strange behavior but never again will I confront someone that high in a position without solid evidence from now on. With lower level employees, I dont have a probelm returning the same behavior.
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
I have deal with a bully especially if they are lazy. The way I deal with bullies is I’m direct with them I tell them about their behaviors. This stops the behavior completely.
yes, i agree. i am the same way. but if it is more attitude problem like giving you an attitude for no reason at all, i give them 2-3 chances depending on how close i am with that person bullying. sometimes doing the nice approach doesn't work, and because you are nice they mistake it to you being weak so they do it again. well, i told them otherwise. since then there is peace at work because they know i'm not afraid of them so they just back off.
@@mauimauim.3472 I completely agree with you how would you go about confronting a girl if your the guy or would you at all?
@@ivan.guitaraaa1903 hmm, well I don't know your history with this girl but if you're the one who gets bullied by a girl for no reason then I think you really have to talk to her and ask why she is doing that. You can start asking her if you hurt her feelings in the past without you knowing it. And if it's a yes then I guess you just need to say sorry and be the bigger person.. If it doesn't work then I think go to a trusted person to mediate.
@@mauimauim.3472 Apologise to a bully...? terrible advice!
@@tiffanylove6713 if you read my previous comments, you would probably have a different say. Sometimes you have to understand why you are bullied, I'm not defending a bully. I'm merely asking if there was a history between a bully and the target before the bullying
Bullies flourish in a toxic environment. The management need to be aware and tackle this problem. It should be enough to report, and it should be dealt with by those higher up in the organisation. Without this backing it is difficult to deal with and leaving is probably the best option.
So true
My bully is so aggressive, and I never know when he’s gonna be nice or a bully, when I ask him a question… when he’s mean he becomes so demeaning and explains things to me like I’m five years old, I’m new and he’s the one training me, and I get triggered when a man yells at me so I cry, and I’m sad at work, I probably look pathetic… but the other day I had enough! So I cussed him out when he raised his voice at me, I said f*** you and stfu! I thought I was gonna get fired but the odds were in my favor since he’s a bully and we are short staffed and it’s holiday season, but I feel so much better and he’s so quiet now towards me… but now we have to avoid each other, ngl it’s hard, but I am not going to blame my self for this inconvenience at work, it’s totally his fault.
Yes, I've been bullied by female coworkers on 2 different occasions, both were passive aggressive. It sucks
So how did you deal with it
I had a distant coworker, not in the same department, who wasn't really acting like a bully but didnt like his treatment regardless so I went straight into his office and gave him shit. Never acts up anymore. Treats me with respect now but he knows ill get up in his shit if he acts up. I dont allow coworkers who arent even high on the totem pole to treat me a certain way.
The tricky one was this asshole, hes kind of upper management, basically same level as my manager so at first I didnt know what to do. At first, I just thought maybe he is like that with everyone but as time passed, my suspicions became close to the truth. I figured that handling it the way I handled the previous coworker wasnt the right move and my other option was to bully him back but I figured trying to bully upper management might get me fired asap as well as create even more toxicity so instead I asked to speak to him in private and just brought up my issues.
Told him everything i observed and he flat out denied everything which is what these assholes will always do but I stuck to my guns and it was funny seeing him beg me to quiet down because the CEO could possibly hear us but at that moment i didnt care and continued my frontal assault of my claims about his behavior which he continued to flat out deny.
His biggest mistake in all of this before i confronted him was when it got physical because this is one I do not tolerate at all but people usually think if they can bully you verbally, they think they can also do it physically and once it gotten to that that point is when i told myself ok it had gotten too far and I had to end whatever this man's problem with me was and ill just say that the guy now also makes sure to treat me nice and with respect. I never saw a person switch up so fast😂.
Fortunately for me and unfortunately for him, im not the type to allow myself to get bullied. Its the doing it professionally that im still trying to handle more because my natural instinct is to just go straight at the person and basically just see what their problem is.
Im the type of person who wont mess with people but if my peace gets disturbed, they are basically waking up a pscyopathic former bully as well. To those who get bullied, you gotta learn how to defend yourself and standup for yourself no matter how uncomfortable it is. When I confronted the upper management asshole, i was very uncomfortable because it was something I never experienced before. Usually coworkers who have given issues were just that, coworkers, so I had no problem putting them in their place.
But this one, I had to tread carefully but the result i got out of it was one that worked out for me and it gave me even more confidence inmyself to handle these situations im not familiar of. Its the only way you will get better treatment from these fucks.
Remember, bullies are humans as well. They bleed the same way the rest of us do. They also experience people bullying them but no one has the right to bully you unless you allow it and you allow bullying when you dont speak up about it.
I've been trying to hide from mine... I haven't become brave enough to say anything yet.
Lol life sucks we all know
Stand up for yourself, you're absolutely worth it x
These tips might work, however engaging in dialog with them only emboldens and reinforces the bullying behavior. It will not stop, let me repeat... IT WILL NOT STOP, they do not perceive their actions as inappropriate. If they did they would not be bullies in the first place.
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
Text him on WhatsApp
+1=2=0=.4=8=0=.8=2=2=3=4...
Confrontation to a bully is the worst idea they like confrontation and they will never take the blame
Confrontation with Marquis of Queensbury rules, or just fight dirty.
I’m dealing with this right now. I had a coworker yesterday threatening me that she’s going to beat me up, but my manager defended her as well as the other one because they’re all friends. I even have a video of one of them. I also did a complaint but he never changes. Everyone in my department is tired of them two always acting out and being lazy.
You should quit. You don't have to put up with that shit.
New job I’d say.
Contact the Better Business Bereau (BBB) and express your concern.
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
@@ninjapirate123 at Walmart because I was working in their bakery department because I wanted to get some experience for when I go to a culinary of arts school for baking and pastries, because I know at some schools they make their students get credit by helping at other bakeries. I should’ve known better though, because of the bad reputation that Walmart haves
From the bottom of my heart, thank you! This made me feel so much better ❤️
I am going through this. I just want a second chance. I moved to a new job to get away from bullies. Literally, I am driving almost an hour away. I can't believe it. A new coworker is a friend of one my old bullies from my last employment. I came to work and low and behold, my whole team is upset with me. All because of gossip and slandering my name. I don't know if I can handle it anymore. I just wanted a new start. I'm so sad.
Hostile workplaces and incompetent management are endemic to small and big businesses and institutions.
The best way to deal with a bully is ask them if there ok ? , say “ are you ok? , I was just wondering as I feel like something may be wrong in your life as you seem to be very unhappy about something, Iam hear if you need me”.
It will unnerve them .
It is reversed psychology.
If that doesn’t work punch them in the face 😂.
Sadly bullies aren't about to tell you anything because it makes them vulnerable
Brilliant!
I only ask that if I actually am trying to be there for them and help them through their problem. If you ask that to someone who is a REAL bully, as in someone who is an asshole cuz they want to be an asshole, they will just say, "there's nothing wrong with me, I just hate you." As for punching you in the face, most places will fire you on the spot.
I am facing a lot of bullies at work.Its not even a real work but an internship and yes they are all women
Most bully people are women, i have worked at many places and also encounter that .
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
WoW, Thank You So Much❗🤓...I needed guidance & motivation, & that's what you did ty again...🤩...It's exhausting & I'm ova it👊😚
I was bullied by another coworker who claimed to be a Christian ….
New job. 3 weeks of hell. Thank you for this.
I had a similar situation happen to me. I was constantly harassed and bullied for the bully who was doing this for personal gain. It was mainly silent bullying/ostracism. Eventually I raised a grievance to h.r and thats when they actually did something possibly gave the bully a warning because the bully left the company a couple of months later.
I’m being picked on at work… and the person who’s doing it is a boss. It sucks. I’m a woman and it’s from a woman. I hate it. I love my job but now it’s hard to even go in.
My management doesn’t bother, my boss is keeping his mistress in my co, my manager is so afraid of both, everything she is correct and got promoted very fast. When will karma comes?
One of my managers who still works for the company had threatened me after I had brought up the fact that I was owed time fast forward till today you still causing trouble for me
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
Not a women but I’m here because of the feeling I feel at my new job.
Ok?
These tips so wrong.
The bully's ego is already fragile.
The bully is not interested in hearing you. The bully can't hear you. There's no point in explaining, to the bully.
The bully wants dominion over you.
The hierarchy is most easily satisfied when any problem goes away. They're obligated to demonstrate the appearance of CARING ❤ ...smile pleasantly.
Do you want to live?
Understand. They don't care about you. You're in a war. And there is an enemy that wants you destroyed.
Spot on 👌
Torture them in INVISIBLE ways!!
I’m a male stylist at a salon, and I’ve got one female bully lol. I just keep ignoring her now, I told the boss lady already so I’m lucky the senior stylist has no clout
The problem with workplace bullies especially women is that they'll choose insulting jokes as a way to bully. When you call them out, they'll just say they were joking and make you out to be overly sensitive and defensive. It's just interesting who they know who to "joke" with.
its only a joke or funny if everyone is laughing....not AT each other or about someone--laughing together.
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
audio record it and put it on social media before you leave the job.
sometimes I just bully those who try to bully me until they stop, I always make them stop one way or another. I havent ran into a person who wanted to keep going after I let it be known im not to be played with.
I am currently being bullied in the workplace and have reported it multiple times and nothing is being done.
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
Im experiencing it right now. At first we were friends, but now ive become her target. Shes always pointing out my mistakes even if its not big. Always gossiping bout me. She even told my boss that im goong to resign which is not true.
I love confrontation.
Same
To win one everytime, you read a lot of books and then your communication skills will improve and win one everytime
What if their a punk and they get a little power and start with power trips on you? Bossing you around
thx for your tips.
Great video. ❤
There’s a lady at my job that’s really mean. First I thought it was all just in my head but I see they wasn’t the case. Then I thought “Hmm maybe I’m too sensitive?” Now I realized that also isn’t the case.
I’m new at this job (this is my third week) and recently moved back to my home a little over three weeks ago. I noticed this woman looking at me with pure hatred. I didn’t know her (like I said, I’m new), haven’t done anything to her. This obviously made me uncomfortable. So I told myself, “I’m going to stay away from her and just do my work” Sadly they’ve started to assign me to work in the same area with…yup, you guess it, her. 😕
I did all of my side (completely my work) and my manager asked me to go downstairs and help her with hers. Of course, I didn’t want to help out someone who’s been giving me that look and making me feel uncomfortable but I went anyway, because I had a job to do.
As soon as I asked her if she needed help (I had to interact with her to get the labels from her so I could help her finish her side). She gave me that same look again then blew up at me shouting “GO OVER THERE AND HELP HIM!” Not wanting to argue, I helped the other guy. She let this other girl (who’s also pretty mean) help her, which is fine, but kind of confirm there is a problem here.
She also always seems to want me to mess up so she can say something. She’ll tell me about something I need to do even though I’m literally about to do it with that same look in her eyes. Just pure hatred.
Today I needed more boxes so that I could put the leftover labels on them (my pallet ran out of them). I needed what we call a “pallet drop”. I look around to ask someone who would have a walkie talkie to tell them. Just my luck, there was no one around but…you guessed it…her. So by now, I’m thinking “Here we go 🙄 “ But I needed to do my job so I asked her “Do you have a walkie talkie?” She gives me that same horrible look then shouts “WHAT?!! 😡 IF YOU NEED A PALLET DROP YELL WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE DRIVE BY!!!!” The machines were too loud, no one could hear me, that was the first thing I did. So ofc she walks away and another guy shows up and I ask him and he’s super cool about it.
Point is, I don’t want to snitch on this girl, but she is making life at my new job really sucky. I can tell she is one of those girls that like to fight (physically and verbally) but I refuse to play into that. I don’t like to do either. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to snitch because I know there will be retaliation with other people involved. I think she may even be friends with one of the higher ups (saw them talking today). I wish they’d assign me to work with the group I was working with before. 😢
I just take a 'dont give a shit' approach. If they say something to be insulting, I'll just say yeah, whatever. I just give the impression of just being totally uneffected by it. If I can't do a task right away, I'll just say I can't.........and what's he going to do about it? It's important to stand up straight, look em in the eye, and argue your case.
If I'm shouted at, I'll shout back, and frighten the hell out of them.
I've been in my job a few years so if I lost the job for whatever reason, I really wouldn't care. The payout would see me through until another job was found.
Always remember:- it's only a job. Just leave if you wish, giving your tormentors the middle finger as you go.
My experience; I know this is never be easy tasks but “Leave with justice” and “Put them in their place”.
1 Report to HR with evidence
2 If HR doesn’t do anything, then seek assistance from external organisations such as Fair work ombudsmen, human right commissioner or employment lawyer.
3 Think & take actions whatever the best for yourself
4 Focus on your life goals such as your happiness, health, development
I’m writing a book and I was wondering if it was alright for me to use the information in this video about it
I have to deal with one today...wish me luck! Going to speak to my direct manager and a neutral witness. This bully likes to yell at work negative comments out loud and doesn't directly say it to someone. Someone said he was doing it in regards to me, and I asked him about it. We got in a verbal argument when he started telling me to do something his way, although we are equal level managers. He did it in front of others so he made me feel less of a manager and like he knows more. He does this to everyone. I'm standing up today and raising a voice. Let's hope it's not swept under the rug
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
I’m sick due to this. I’m working on a third master in another area so I can get out… wish me luck
This might sound like a dumb question, but if you and a co-worker ride on a small transportation van (that takes the workers to work) when there are only 5 available seats (we're not allowed to sit next to each other directly cuz of covid) and u sit behind the person, and the person in front tells you, "sit somewhere else, I don't want you sitting by me." Is that considered bullying?
I’m being bullied at work by a colleague, whats even worse is my manager is her best friend and covers for her horrible behaviour. I’ve even been screamed at so loud in one incident and my manager covered for her saying it wasn’t aggressive or serious - ? - she was yelling very loudly at me. How is that not bullying? That’s just one incident. We have no HR. Not sure what to do. I’m just one target, my colleague does this to certain person every six months and the bullied person leaves. it’s my turn now it seems.
I've been dealing with 2 bullies they are both Team Leads at Walmart where I work as a Cashier, even going as far as yelling at me in front of customers! One day I was called into the office to see how things were going with me and one of the bullies Kelli was in the office as well with Heather and I kept my mouth shut about what had been happening with me, Kelli, and Requel. Kelli then was called out to help a Cashier and that is when I told Heather alone what had been happening to me.
So far things have been ok, but I've mostly been dealing with Kelli, I don't know if things have changed or if they are going to go right back to bullying me.
I did have a 3rd bully a fellow Cashier, but she got talked to by a Team Lead after bullying me about filling my bags and sh backed off
I had a job in 1985 in which I was constantly bullied by the boss of the firm. That lasted until 3 months later when he got rid of me saked/fired. He couldn't find another replacement for me. The job I had to do between September 1985 and February 1986 was not the on the job description in the advert. Luckily the firm went bust.
I had a bully who was giving me trouble at work. After failed attempts of ignoring him, he finally said something that irritated me so I quietly looked him in the eye and softly said " F$#K" You Very Much ( instead of Thank you very much).
After that he left me alone.
I am a teacher. I don’t recommend critical thinkers to become teachers because you will ultimately be bullied into silence.
I am currently working as an intern as a teacher and my supervisor is being a passive agressive disrespectful bully. He is also going to be the one that evaluates me at the end of the year !
So youre bullied as a teacher
Great tips
HR exists for the benefit of the company and NOT for the employees!
Apps are available now for recording conversations.
I am a very intelligent but gentle , kind person. I have had a lot of people try to bully me.I have stood up to them and they learn that I am actually strong in my gentleness. But just the fact that they think they are so great they can bully anyone fills me with rage. I find I have to go even quieter or else I would over spill. This often has made them worse. But once you/I are in a cooler place I can find I can sort them--- often they dont feel noticed or loved enough by me/you ( can you believe), but confronted they soften. Not all bullies are that easy. many are very violentxxx
So true! Bullies are so arrogant! I wouldn't dream of bullying anyone for no reason because I'm humble! And opportunistic bullies enrage me too x
Thank you for the information I appreciate your support. What I would like to just expresses that I work with women who undermine trainees me being a training in this position does not mean that I have not had any experience as I worked for this company for 5 years 3 years ago. I have been in this business for over 30 years and I have never in my life dealt with anyone like this woman.
I work in behavioural management. I have a client that has intellectual issues as well as manipulative behaviour. Splitting of staff is strongly discouraged in his behavioural plan and it seems to me that this woman is encouraging negativity all the time in front of him. Some days I absolutely dread going to work because I don't want to deal with stress
She's not even a trainer or my boss she's = my position the frustrating part about all this is the seniority. I hope that when I approached my boss and explain this to her I can become an objective person, I guess to say a closing tall this is I really kinda feel bad for my client hes caught up in the middle of someone who just wants to bring a situation down
@@laurieleegauthier7550 Lovev's life true love Never die I know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crua without delay Just forever within 48hours he helped me too immediately
@@laurieleegauthier7550 it really works our for me get my ex back
@@laurieleegauthier7550 Text him on WhatsApp
All my life! And just recently at the age of 56! He has a crapy life and a bunch of kids and child supports! I'm filled an complaint, Anyway it finally made me realize to make my music career in jazz to go full time!
great
Content
Thank
You
Don't take the blame/resp
Doc everything
Tell someone
Confront
Ask for specifics.
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
My issues is I don’t not tolerate it and I instantly go to wanting to fight, I’m a nice genuine person, but because I don’t gossip or cause problems, I don’t talk about ppl
I’m considered a “goody two shoes” when all I want to do is come to work do my job and go home. Seems like that bothers ppl for some reason, when I’m gaslighted Instantly go to wanting to fight since I do not like to argue. Complaining about the problem doesn’t help, so my advice to anyone would be two options: 1 ;find a better job. Quit only when you found a second job. Or 2; deal with the bullying keeping records of each time you report it, I would write a letter and make a copy and send it to your chief in command. Keep your records deal with it long enough to get a lawsuit. Build a strong case to get a good lawyer so your employer will pay for legal fees. I’m sure she means well but I don’t think this advice is completely realistic in todays world.
Me and my bully went out in the parking lot and handled business!
I keep get bullied almost on a daily bases from my manager and it sucks , no matter what I try to do to solve it and ignore its continuous
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
@@ninjapirate123 Im a coordinator and trainer, my boss feels insecured by talented employees fearing they might take their place.
@@TAYOTAS But your boss is your boss, how can an employee take the boss place. There is no way employees can do that unless the boss leaves the company
Nice video
Current situation
I work as a contractor at a medical manufacturer. Everybody is so nice and humble except for one guy they made him the safety guy. He tells me when I sit. I’m unsafe when I stand. I’m un safe. I am really getting sick and tired of this. But they pay me a lot of money.
Going through it currently at work. 😞
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
I would also record the conversations and create clips of the offense parts that violate the harassment polices - have a folder with 10 of these solid examples of harassment
I am confronting my bully today. I asked my manager to be present. She is rude with words and like to involve in personal live gossiping with others. How do I present that in the meeting?
What if that bully is someone who used to be your friend but is turned against you because of a girl at work manipulating him? Because the girl has a problem with you...
I've been in that situation and had to leave, eventually. Two things - they were never your friend to begin with if they are so easily swayed, and secondly, now you have a higher standard for who's to be considered a friend.
Yes have
Yes
I'm dealing with a bully at work on a daily basis. It has come to a point where I act out by being aggressive and swearing. It has come to this point where I can't take it anymore. Don't feel like going to work tomorrow. I told the supervisor and told him I wanted to hurt this colleague, who is a guy. Help
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
Yes every day
So sorry for this to happen to you, what job did you do to end up this way?
Your the best
Sometimes you just have to pick up a stick and beat the ever loving shit out of them. Worked for me on many occasions through life. It usually nips it in the bud pretty quick. Stop being so afraid people. So afraid to take a punch ...
yes presently im facing this makes me depressed
omg same .. makes me not want to go to work
How do I deal with a bully that uses the excuse 'it's just banter'. Then he proceeds to call me sensitive when I call him out on it 😕
You have a narcissist.
See the little shaman's channel
What to do when witnesses are friends with bullies and won’t tell the truth?
Bullying is IGNORED no one wants to deal with it and reward bad behavior
They are not human.