I'm 58, Christian, and currently live in the GCC. I've had some interesting "suitors" that I've tactfully told off VERY early on. I've reminded them that my (American) friendliness doesn't automatically mean I'm Haram. I was even pursued, walking to my car, to be a second wife (when I was trying to dodge him 😂). I met an Omani (17 years younger last year) in Muscat last year. We've met up two more times, when I go on holiday to 🇦🇪 or 🇴🇲. I don't plan the trips around him. We've hugged hello/goodbye; he once put his hand on my shoulder, another time he reached for my hand then entwined fingers. That's IT for physical contact. We still stay in touch, including when his father died (during Ramadan 😢). Between "actions speak louder than words" and my belief that Muslim men see western women as playthings, not wives, I'm cautious (PLUS I'm beyond child bearing age). I even asked him, once, if his family tried to find a wife for him. He said he was allowed to choose. He'll sometimes express his desire to hold and kiss me. I know he's a man, and remind him I'm halal. I don't want to be played. It's a shame the disrespectful Muslims have created trust issues in me if he's being sincere. I keep living my life; that I can control. Seeking your insight please. Shukran.
I'm dating an Egyptian 10 years younger for awhile now. But he's a US citizen, has been here a long time, and has an old soul. I am 50 and he's 40. While I don't disagree with anything you said Fuad, many 50 year old women do not look like the picture you posted 😂😂 I can pass for early to mid 40's easy, and he looks older, so most people don't notice our age difference.
Yeah I guess if the age difference is very noticeable and you have different lifestyle (e.g. broke college student man with a great social life + with an established retired woman who is lonely) it’s not possible. The other way around is possible though, because women attach very strongly.
Yes, you are right. I just started a relationship with an Egyptian man two weeks ago. He is 29 and I just turned 50. However, I look like I'm in my 30s. People don't believe me when I tell them my real age and yes I am an American.
Unfortunately, Egyptian men who agree to enter into relationships with more mature European, American and Australian women want benefits from such relationships. Rarely is it true love. Thank you for such an interesting🙏 video
These mature middle aged women especially of European heritage need to question why these much younger foreign men are actually interested in them? Why are European men who are their own age group not interested in them? It's obviously not genuine. Mature middle aged European women are seen as an easy target by foreign men, especially Middle Eastern and African men.. They just get used to get a visa... Most foreign men don't really like them. It's all a false pretense.
Me also I am realistic. Some women in 45-50 look much better than other women in 30, just because they care about themselves with some good workout and healthy food, and some men in their 25-30 look older, so it can happen they just fall in love and age gap is just secondary. Life experience makes even women better sometime and they can really give a good support to their husband and family, so yes, it can be possible, it is Allah's will.
It depends on the circumstances. If a man is poor, doesnt want to work or just wants papers... obviously run. However, some look for an older woman to be a second wife. They assume an older woman will have more experience and might not want kids. Or just in general, single men above 35, i think they wouldn't mind an older woman. And even some prefer them because young ladies tend to be more feminist and liberal. Mature women might be more traditional..sadly these days...very young ladies have more ....'experience' and as someone commented before, these days ladies in their 40s can look as good. Is not like before.
Thanks for this topic. I met a Moroccan man, not online, but here in Canada. He is 10 years younger and 35 cm taller. He is not very committed to Islam. He invited me out 2 times, but we met 3 times. I am also a foreigner from Eastern-Europe. I don't have money, status etc. He seems kind but I noticed his compliments were mainly about my appearance. Also he ordered me another vine without asking me. I did a test. I told him, that I feel dizzy, which was true, but I exaggerated a bit, and I noticed he became very touchy. At one point I told him I want to take it slowly and not getting to physical at the beginning. I don't want any short term thing. Since than he kissed me and he wants to see me again. I am pretty curious where this is going, but I am also cautious. He also seems to be very outgoing, which I think, he goes to partied, bars.
Heyyy F.! My mom used to say the young belong with the young / old with old. That said on a female level my sweet mommy was very intelligent , morality and zippy up until her stroke 2019 and loss of voice ( insert tears )...I thought just now Fuad can probably hear me now because as soon as I saw the 82 yr old and the younger guy and the other " couple " Im screaming "EWWWWWWW! oooh shivers gross! " Both those were too much, blech now I cant take my night food ( 😅). Ok so myself at 50 Im more in looks and actions like 30 and fact check I HAVE had men and women say no way your not 50, your skin, attitude etc. I prefer anyone that is mind and feelings stimulating ( not the ohhlala way) , as Im a MA in child adoption advocacy, and Im still lookin good however no way - am I a gold digger ( disgusting and not moral). Most of the men I have spoken with are in their 40's. Dont get me started on old men and little girls that is for God to judge the sin. So those " couples " no way ewwww. I believe in decent honesty and not being a tramp--Im no Anna Nicole Smith! BTW: Fuad-nice haircut !
Hey Diane, thanks for sharing your thoughts. In my view, there's no shame in connecting with someone older or younger, as long as there's a clear understanding of what every part of the connection is bringing to the table.
Let's be real, most women who are mature would prefer an older man even if he is bit older, as most mature women want love, protection and security. No woman in her right mind wants to be a cougar or a milf. Most Godly and successful men are not looking to marry an older woman. They prefer younger women. Furthermore, most men prefer a younger woman even if she is a bit younger than him. Father Abraham was nine years older than Sarah his beautiful wife and the mother of Isaac, his righteous seed. Adam came before Eve. Use this as an example and stop following disorderly ways.
I totally disagree because at some age, after 40ies,older men are already taken and pretend to be single while married, or they are toxic narcisisst people, be careful to follow the stereotiphs that older men are better, not true, not at this historical period. Older single men are not reliable, liars and even much worse. @@Fuadtalks
I am not sure what ''GODLY'' men means here, really I am trying not to assume what you mean. but in any case are you saying religious men go for young women? what does religion has to do with this? Is it that older women are irreligious, evil, filthy or else...? People talk as if their mothers and aunties and gran-mothers are younger than them or that they themselves will never grow old and become UNGODLY and no longer be attractive to all these GODLY men AND WOMEN. . For god sake please cut these rubbish off. A religious men here talking about muslim here, would establish the community that will take care of all the men women and children. Not destroy their land and allow others to destroy it, which for sure will manufacture these types of men and women that are willing to humiliate themselves even on tv with such relationship where often time these VERY MUCH older women are taking care them. and I mean not the way khadija was with the prophet (SAWS) but really like a men would take care of a stay at home women. clearly these cases are fraudulent individuals, I agree with you and Faud. As for these actual relationship, they ARE halal, they ARE as godly as it can be. Allowed and blessed by Allah inshallah. These ideas really often time are carried and entertained by women as long as their daughters and sons are able to marry. once their own flesh and blood falls into a situation similar and them they can then question the society they live in and look at themselves instead what they are doing that is deepening the situation. Please enough with this. and this is my own wording but the demonizing of older women, I am sure you are your female relative are not evil that their generations can be viewed in such way. Now this what I got from what you wrote, assume that it is my perception of what you wrote.
@@hanaori1324 Salam sister, Thank you for your input. There is absolutely nothing wrong with older women. We all age, and it's a natural part of life. It is not haram for a woman to marry a younger man. My message from the video is that just as a 70-year-old man can marry a woman the age of his granddaughter, a woman can also be with a man who is much younger. However, my point is that these connections are less likely to be based on genuine love. Often, older men who marry significantly younger women know that these women might see them as providers of security, typically financial security. If the man were financially unstable, it's doubtful that a woman would choose to marry someone twice her age. I agree with the sister's observation that usually, women prefer men who are older or the same age. This preference often stems from a desire for stability, protection, and life experience. Thanks again!
I'm 58, Christian, and currently live in the GCC. I've had some interesting "suitors" that I've tactfully told off VERY early on. I've reminded them that my (American) friendliness doesn't automatically mean I'm Haram. I was even pursued, walking to my car, to be a second wife (when I was trying to dodge him 😂). I met an Omani (17 years younger last year) in Muscat last year. We've met up two more times, when I go on holiday to 🇦🇪 or 🇴🇲. I don't plan the trips around him. We've hugged hello/goodbye; he once put his hand on my shoulder, another time he reached for my hand then entwined fingers. That's IT for physical contact. We still stay in touch, including when his father died (during Ramadan 😢). Between "actions speak louder than words" and my belief that Muslim men see western women as playthings, not wives, I'm cautious (PLUS I'm beyond child bearing age). I even asked him, once, if his family tried to find a wife for him. He said he was allowed to choose. He'll sometimes express his desire to hold and kiss me. I know he's a man, and remind him I'm halal. I don't want to be played. It's a shame the disrespectful Muslims have created trust issues in me if he's being sincere. I keep living my life; that I can control. Seeking your insight please. Shukran.
I'm dating an Egyptian 10 years younger for awhile now. But he's a US citizen, has been here a long time, and has an old soul. I am 50 and he's 40. While I don't disagree with anything you said Fuad, many 50 year old women do not look like the picture you posted 😂😂 I can pass for early to mid 40's easy, and he looks older, so most people don't notice our age difference.
Yeah I guess if the age difference is very noticeable and you have different lifestyle (e.g. broke college student man with a great social life + with an established retired woman who is lonely) it’s not possible. The other way around is possible though, because women attach very strongly.
Yes, you are right. I just started a relationship with an Egyptian man two weeks ago. He is 29 and I just turned 50. However, I look like I'm in my 30s. People don't believe me when I tell them my real age and yes I am an American.
Unfortunately, Egyptian men who agree to enter into relationships with more mature European, American and Australian women want benefits from such relationships. Rarely is it true love. Thank you for such an interesting🙏 video
These mature middle aged women especially of European heritage need to question why these much younger foreign men are actually interested in them? Why are European men who are their own age group not interested in them? It's obviously not genuine.
Mature middle aged European women are seen as an easy target by foreign men, especially Middle Eastern and African men.. They just get used to get a visa... Most foreign men don't really like them. It's all a false pretense.
Facts 😂
Me also I am realistic. Some women in 45-50 look much better than other women in 30, just because they care about themselves with some good workout and healthy food, and some men in their 25-30 look older, so it can happen they just fall in love and age gap is just secondary. Life experience makes even women better sometime and they can really give a good support to their husband and family, so yes, it can be possible, it is Allah's will.
I love ‘90-day Fiancé’.
It depends on the circumstances. If a man is poor, doesnt want to work or just wants papers... obviously run. However, some look for an older woman to be a second wife. They assume an older woman will have more experience and might not want kids. Or just in general, single men above 35, i think they wouldn't mind an older woman. And even some prefer them because young ladies tend to be more feminist and liberal. Mature women might be more traditional..sadly these days...very young ladies have more ....'experience' and as someone commented before, these days ladies in their 40s can look as good. Is not like before.
Thanks for this topic. I met a Moroccan man, not online, but here in Canada. He is 10 years younger and 35 cm taller. He is not very committed to Islam. He invited me out 2 times, but we met 3 times. I am also a foreigner from Eastern-Europe. I don't have money, status etc. He seems kind but I noticed his compliments were mainly about my appearance. Also he ordered me another vine without asking me. I did a test. I told him, that I feel dizzy, which was true, but I exaggerated a bit, and I noticed he became very touchy. At one point I told him I want to take it slowly and not getting to physical at the beginning. I don't want any short term thing. Since than he kissed me and he wants to see me again. I am pretty curious where this is going, but I am also cautious. He also seems to be very outgoing, which I think, he goes to partied, bars.
The Prophet Mohammed's first wife was a lot older than Him.
Correct
@@Fuadtalkshow old
15 years
@@Fuadtalks😮 I did not know this! That's promising.
She is old enough to be his grandmother, no I don't think it's love most probably he wants an American visa or he is after her money.
Heyyy F.!
My mom used to say the young belong with the young / old with old. That said on a female level my sweet mommy was very intelligent , morality and zippy up until her stroke 2019 and loss of voice ( insert tears )...I thought just now Fuad can probably hear me now because as soon as I saw the 82 yr old and the younger guy and the other " couple " Im screaming "EWWWWWWW!
oooh shivers gross! " Both those were too much, blech now I cant take my night food ( 😅). Ok so myself at 50 Im more in looks and actions like 30 and fact check I HAVE had men and women say no way your not 50, your skin, attitude etc. I prefer anyone that is mind and feelings stimulating ( not the ohhlala way) , as Im a MA in child adoption advocacy, and Im still lookin good however no way - am I a gold digger ( disgusting and not moral). Most of the men I have spoken with are in their 40's. Dont get me started on old men and little girls that is for God to judge the sin. So those " couples " no way ewwww. I believe in decent honesty and not being a tramp--Im no Anna Nicole Smith!
BTW: Fuad-nice haircut !
Hey Diane, thanks for sharing your thoughts. In my view, there's no shame in connecting with someone older or younger, as long as there's a clear understanding of what every part of the connection is bringing to the table.
Do u know some ladies at 45 or 500 look better than 35
I am sure they exist.
Yes wy exist...I am 45...🙏
And yessss they only want the papers .
Yuck Yucky Yuck. I would rather be a Nun!😅
Let's be real, most women who are mature would prefer an older man even if he is bit older, as most mature women want love, protection and security. No woman in her right mind wants to be a cougar or a milf.
Most Godly and successful men are not looking to marry an older woman. They prefer younger women. Furthermore, most men prefer a younger woman even if she is a bit younger than him.
Father Abraham was nine years older than Sarah his beautiful wife and the mother of Isaac, his righteous seed. Adam came before Eve.
Use this as an example and stop following disorderly ways.
Totally agree. Most of the time, the woman would know that. She just needs to be decent and honest with herself.
I totally disagree because at some age, after 40ies,older men are already taken and pretend to be single while married, or they are toxic narcisisst people, be careful to follow the stereotiphs that older men are better, not true, not at this historical period. Older single men are not reliable, liars and even much worse. @@Fuadtalks
I am not sure what ''GODLY'' men means here, really I am trying not to assume what you mean. but in any case are you saying religious men go for young women? what does religion has to do with this? Is it that older women are irreligious, evil, filthy or else...? People talk as if their mothers and aunties and gran-mothers are younger than them or that they themselves will never grow old and become UNGODLY and no longer be attractive to all these GODLY men AND WOMEN.
. For god sake please cut these rubbish off.
A religious men here talking about muslim here, would establish the community that will take care of all the men women and children. Not destroy their land and allow others to destroy it, which for sure will manufacture these types of men and women that are willing to humiliate themselves even on tv with such relationship where often time these VERY MUCH older women are taking care them. and I mean not the way khadija was with the prophet (SAWS) but really like a men would take care of a stay at home women. clearly these cases are fraudulent individuals, I agree with you and Faud.
As for these actual relationship, they ARE halal, they ARE as godly as it can be. Allowed and blessed by Allah inshallah.
These ideas really often time are carried and entertained by women as long as their daughters and sons are able to marry.
once their own flesh and blood falls into a situation similar and them they can then question the society they live in and look at themselves instead what they are doing that is deepening the situation.
Please enough with this. and this is my own wording but the demonizing of older women, I am sure you are your female relative are not evil that their generations can be viewed in such way.
Now this what I got from what you wrote, assume that it is my perception of what you wrote.
@@hanaori1324 Salam sister,
Thank you for your input. There is absolutely nothing wrong with older women. We all age, and it's a natural part of life. It is not haram for a woman to marry a younger man. My message from the video is that just as a 70-year-old man can marry a woman the age of his granddaughter, a woman can also be with a man who is much younger.
However, my point is that these connections are less likely to be based on genuine love. Often, older men who marry significantly younger women know that these women might see them as providers of security, typically financial security. If the man were financially unstable, it's doubtful that a woman would choose to marry someone twice her age.
I agree with the sister's observation that usually, women prefer men who are older or the same age. This preference often stems from a desire for stability, protection, and life experience.
Thanks again!