I’m 38 and my BF is 26. I turned him down several times but he kept pursuing me and now We’ve been together for 3 years. We moved in together two weeks after we met and we’ve never left each other’s side. He just proposed and I said yes. We’ve started a business together, bought a house together, and he’s wise beyond his years. I never thought I could EVER be happy with a younger guy, as I usually dated men 8-15 years or older. But I was wrong, and I would have missed out on the best thing that’s ever happened to me if I had turned him down solely based on his age.
I'm 26, I think want an older woman, someone in the mid 30s. Not just to play with, I actually want to kick it. I honestly perceive that it may work better for me than a woman who is still early in her youth.🤷🏾♂
Wow. I'm 38 and fiance is 25. He pursued me to no end. Proposed after 2 1/2 months. We will be married in February. Best relationship I have ever been in.
I'm 53 and my husband is 34, we've been married for 12 years and I wouldn't entertain him for a while but he kept pursuing me and I fell in love with him when he told me," God made me for you", we were inseparable after that.
Look I'm a 32 year old man and I'm dating a 45 year old woman. We just click on everything. It's literally the most insane thing but we have the same outlook on love, romance, religion, and the afterlife. We both met after some trauma going on at the same time. Btw she's only been with 1 man ever and I've been with 8 women so there you go. You can't assume age determines those things.
@@mjmj4902 the question is does he want to marry her and have kids with her? No offense but if he met a 25 year old with the same personality who would he pick. How familiar is he with biology and that a woman is fertile from 15-47 at best? How many kids you want bro, 1,2,3? Age matters bro. Best of luck to you.
I pray all is still well with you two..However, from your own admission, you guys trauma-bonded...The trauma bonding is an emotional attachment two ppl have and it can often be mistaken as love bc u feel like u are genuinely bonding, but its only the shared trauma which after a while fizzles out..again I pray all is well Did u marry her??
Just remember... an older woman feels good being desired by a younger man, especially when he’s spending his money. Not all older women are getting taken advantage of.
Ladies, I am not with a man 10-15 years older than I, but he brushed me the wrong way too, lol. Yet I see his point that your examples, while true, may be just exceptions from the rule. I want to add that I work with money, and it’s just a barter used to trade things. Aging body, experience, support, spirituality, peace of mind vs. young body, energy, looks, etc. Telling young men not to go for it is akin to telling them not to spend their hard-earned money (note, money in this case is equivalent to time) on sports memorabilia - and the response you will get is “mind your own business”. Lol! The purpose of life is to fulfill one’s purpose. In some cases, it’s not relevant what the age of the partner is, as long as your mission is fulfilled. I shouldn’t need to explain this concept to a God-understanding man. Ahem. This reminds me that, perhaps, modern religion is just a matrix and that it has nothing to do with true spirituality, which has no limits and boundaries - except for the karma you “earn” yourself. To continue with this point, if the older woman is “using” the younger man, that’s bad karma. But if she takes someone on the trajectory to hell and genuinely helps him find purpose in life and fulfill his mission, that’s great karma. Cheers, guys! And remember, life is nothing but a series of lessons, and karma is REAL.
I usually date older, and most of them weren't doing as well as me financially and needed me financially. Most of the men I've dated that were younger were well off financially and treated me well and were chivalrous and let me be feminine and cared for. I'm 41 and dating a man that is 30 now. He is amazing. He is very mature, treats me well, pays for everything, gives me gifts, prays for and with me every night and makes more money than me. He is protective of me and tries to make sure I'm good. I have to tell he doesn't have to do so much for me, but he insists. The narrative you are presenting isn't necessarily true. At least for me.
I have to agree with you, sounds like he isn’t the 100% aware ALL men are different and have different dating experiences or preferences. He also is wrong abt his reason for younger girls liking older guys. I genuinely had a thing for handsome older men and the reason was genuinely maturity and the vague reason that they obviously are truly good looking. Thats his own opinion. I personally started liking older men really young i just loved the idea of it. Unfortunately they didnt find me mature enough. Younger guys fall for me all the time never ask for anything not even sex they just cant believe im the age that i am. They get crazy over me and pay for things. He is offfff. He forgets dudes these days YOUNGER than him are going through really hard times w these young girls who have these crazy beliefs. I dont blame a younger man wanting someone who has traditional values.
Thank you. These gurus haven’t lived long enough to realize this. Matter fact. There are A LOT of beautiful desirable older women. He said 1 out of 100. He doesn’t know what’s going on.
This is a great talk! My husband and I have been married for 34 years. He's 56 and I'm 66. We are exceptions to the rule. Thank you for all you give to us.
Out of curiosity i would love to hear what other factors played into pursuing this kind of relationship that have weathered the time...other than LOVE.
He is truthful. We live in a society where older ( over-40) women are degraded and devalued simply for ageing. They are judged and seen as ridiculous and desperate for having any expectation of love or normal human relationships. Why? Why have older women conformed to this de- personalization and de- sexualization of themselves. Allow yourselves to be happy and define that for yourselves.
@@niaomimaurer7180 older women are not loose. It's all the same body part but younger women these days have far more partners, which is not desirable. FWIW: after having a baby, your vagina can have sex differently and it feels a lot better 😝
@@em77775 So you tryna tellin me that old ass woman don’t have saggy labia’s? You’re telling me that there is not a single wrinkle on they pussy????! You’re gonna have to go and try and convince somebody else cause I’m not believing that for shit for a second 😂
I’m 43 my man of 6.5 yrs is 31 He begged for a baby for 4 yrs we now have a two year old . I had 3 children from a prior (15yrs marriage ) we bought a house he put all the money down and pays the majority of the bills.
Follow your heart...you can't barely get anyway with these men your age...Don't let society dictate your happiness.... double standard men been doing it for years! God has what he has for you ..
The man pursues woman asks her to marry him ...but the divorce rates are still high..so its obvious by him asking her is not a concrete solution...if so,the divorce won't still be so high! Regardless of who asks who or finds who first...its not going to work unless both agree to committee to the marriage whole heartedly! God never said that a husband or wife has to me a certain age... younger , older or the same age ..Society is did that! cause decades ago Society was in agreement with people getting married at 14 -15 years old starting families, they remained married 60-70 years. My great- grandmother/ grandmother did at least in their generation! Families stayed together back than, more than they do today! What happen? Everybody wants to make money that's what happen.. From the judges, pastors to the social workers! Everybody needs a counselor now! People back then did just fine without it, if they didn't they still made it ! Whatever God has for you is for you regardless of age ..live your life and be happy...its nothing wrong with listening to other people opinions...but you make the final decision with the help of the Lord!❤❤🙏🙏
Funny I noticed a lot of videos of other races have positive things to say about dating older women. Yet, here our Black man has a negative perspective on why younger men pursue older women. WOW!! Thank you my Black Christian Man.
I mean the man is actually telling the truth. The truth hurts worse than a lie. I know a guy that dated a woman that was 21 years older than him and he said deep down inside he was on his butt and needed a place to live. She took him in.
@@missmarymack3457older dusties will need the same thing too or someone to provide geriatric care for them.... bases of the story is to love who loving up on you
Well... I dated on both sides of the spectrum. I have also experience a younger man that was mature & older man acting childish. I learned from both. I dont see why age is a big factor, especially if you are a mature adult ( 25 & older) and if you guys have great connection & chemistry... who are we to judge? The only time ppl treat you different is when you tell them your age ( which is really none of there business). If the couple love one another, why hate on them? They are two grown adults well aware of what they are getting into. Whether it works or not, that is something they have to deal with.... not you all!
I agree with you 100%. Obviously, there are men and women out there picking people for the reasons he said, if it works for them, it's their life. But there are also people out there that love each other's souls, despite their age.
I thoroughly respect your perspective on this comment. Truly FACTS!! Women who have a huge issue with younger men pursuing them, have serious control issues which could be an aid to why they are older women and alone (if not widowed). Have discernment with everyone at any age. 40+ men seems to be emotionally immature and unreasonable in many aspects of a relationship due to their religions and old behaviors. Once they hit 50+ then they wise up. Who has time to wait?!?!?
I’m 65 and my man is 48. We met 23 yrs ago, and we weren’t able to be together then. But, 2 1/2 yrs ago, we reconnected and have been together and very happy!! Sex is AWESOME ❣️ We are planning on being together forever ♥️ So, it IS possible.
I am a 26 year old IT Professional dating a 47 year old single mother. We have been dating for a year. I'm independent and she makes her own money too. Nothing but fun times and that's it. She isn't looking for someone to help raise her kid or anything. And we are not dating to marry. People take it so personal. For the women who frown on this. Who are you to judge this shit? If dating a younger man is not your preference, then I respect that. Just don't shit to a woman in her 40s and 50s who decided to date a man in his late 20s just like myself. And do not get mad when a guy you want to get with doesn't wanna get with you. Some of the men your age do not behave like men anyway and then you wonder why some of you are still single. I like older women because some of the older women who are single are not looking to remarry or get married at all. I even had a married woman say that she would get with me because I treat her better than her husband does. They know what they want and they do not play games. Women my age that I know can't make up their minds and are indecisive. They just want to live life and so do I. I challenge you all to answer this. If you have this negative notion towards older woman getting with younger men, then what do you guys say about older men getting with younger women? Right off the bat I laugh when I read comments like, eww I wouldn't date him, he's my son age or you are old enough to be my son. So? These are some of the same ladies who have dated men who acted younger than the younger men who hit on them. Not all younger men want to get with an older women for money or sleep with you for a PS5. I do not need to get with ANYONE for money I have a job for that. I do not have mommy issues or anything. I just know I do not want kids or anything, just a woman who is feminine, cooperative, and communicative.
WOW! Thanks for BOLDLY speaking out. Your perspective is very educative & extremely refreshing, in the midst of so many sickening biased comments. What matters in the end is genuine love & mutual respect in a relationship. I am so fortunate to have met many women dating/married to someone younger. For most, it was not conscious choice at first, but genuine love & mutual respect happened. They said yes to genuine love and mutual respect.
well to be fair, he did say its either money or 'fun times' as you mentioned. he said its not best for pure, lasting love, which is not what youre looking for, so he's right.
just said it all my darling you are so right not all younger guys… Want old woman for money I do not believe that I believe that younger man sees the maturity and the feminine in a true woman younger girls you have to grow with them and teach them some of them don’t want to cook they don’t want do anything when you’re the same age as then let’s face reality that is what we’re in…. Your comment is right is true love between older and a younger person it’s just people has not seen it or feel it for them so that’s what the problem is my man is younger than me and he tells me not to discuss anything with people that are not on the same spiritual mindset as we are…. Our love 💕 ordained by God
I rate what you said and respect what you said, some the women that said oh they wouldn’t date a younger guys old enough to be their son, is because the younger guy would not even look at them it’s a blessing when a younger guy looks older woman I want to be with her a lot of women are not blessed that way or anointed in that manner I am…. Shalom 🙏🏾
I’m going to be 38 and my significant other turned 32 this year 🤗 we have been together almost a year, he is really mature and hard working. I don’t support him at all, he wants to support me. I am so grateful for him 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Libido’s match. When a man gets older, theirs goes down, and a woman's goes up 😂 It’s a beautiful thing. They also have wisdom and the confidence that you gain later in life.
@@ccrow06 ?... A woman hits her sexual prime in her 30s and it goes up from there. I'm not saying a young man and an older woman are compatible. I'm saying if a young man is interested, it is normally bc of that. Me saying it's a beautiful thing is that the woman gets to be at the height of her sexual prime while the mans declines 😂. Best thing for a woman to do is find a man with values that doesn't want to use you.
I was in a situationship with a guy in my age (23) and he "left" me for a 42 year old woman, divorced and with a child. Because I kept my legs closed. I was so insecure about myself after this. But months later I found out that she got him a job in a company that she works for. I’m so glad that God protected me, it was a redirection! Mr Gaskins now everything is clear for me. Thank you 🙏🏻 God bless everyone
sounds like he just needed help..so many people are in fake relationship..im older than you 37..and my legs and home are closed until marriage too..almost opened them in my early 20s but then said no..dont worry I look like im 27..the issue is that I dont meet many men and its not easy..I want to focus on the mindset too..and maybe id only want one child only..Age doesnt really matter..well for us after 50 it is dead but it depends on what you want..I think maybe people go with people for what they can do for themselves..
Times have changed a lot. This video is more conservative. I have 2 guy friends/workmate that are in their 30s/late 20s married to women in their late 50s and the men make more than those women. Love happens regardless of age.
Some young men genuinely like older women & vice versa because of the experience level. Hay I say if you can handle the game go for it however prepared for the perspective outcome
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL! WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!( GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! SEPT 3021
Love that Tony gives up the game. Why do older men who get with younger women 10-40 years younger say I know why, but don't care. But women will delude themselves and say... he just loves me....
My great grandmother was 70 with a 40 year old boyfriend (her grandkids age). He never worked and waited on her hand and foot. She treated him like a slave. When she got sickly he left her for another old woman. I guess they both got what they wanted. 🤷🏽♀️
My husband was 10 years older then myself, everything you are saying is spot on !!! I was 21 years old he was 31 years old, I got a Divorce at 42 , I would never do that again. Thank you for keeping real ....
Tony! So on point with this topic..Am a older women and younger men step to me because am I have a nice car, don’t look my age, and also because I have a good job. No thank you! Sticking to my age group.👏🏾👌🏾👍🏿
You’re so real, God bless you for shedding light on this. I’m a good looking older woman that needs a bat to ward off the younger men. Sometimes I wonder but listening to you say all this, realigned my head. Thank you
I do recall feeling sick and extremely disrespected when my best friend's son asked me on a date trying to play me for money. 30 years age difference... that's what desperation makes men do. Still makes me feel disgust to remember it. I told his mom.
I was in a big age gap (13 years younger man, he 38, me 50) situationship. I got paranoid he would never get serious and I was always at a disadvantage against women his age. I have bountiful energy, I am self-illuminated and young in mentality, go to the gym and look about 42. He also makes more than I do. I did approach this as a person to person thing and felt the same as him. Good video.
Polite Notice! Ladies, of all ages can we PLEASE watch, the video & LISTEN to the entire video, in context. If needs be listen to it twice. I find pausing the video & thinking about what Tony said can help. We may hear something, that goes against our current view points or get triggered and jump in to our emotions. I noticed this , in some of the comments Tony is speaking, from decades of experiences. If you are watching his video, I presume you are here to learn so lets respect the teacher . THINK before commenting! Have a good day x
Thank you ...I watch these videos several times .......then maybe I will read the comments ...sometimes I respond .....sometimes I don't .....spot on!!!!!
We are Christian...he is rich..he is a hottie. Age difference? First he fell for me first. He pursued me on social media when I blocked him. We are engaged He is employed...not me. I am 32 years older and I have been treated better with this man than any man ever!! God is the center of us...celebate until wed.😇🥰
I'm 26 and I don't talk to older women for money reasons nor just sex. Yes the chemistry can be huge but the main honest reason is because the conversations are more in depth with life and your views of life are. The average 26 year old woman doesn't think of the future beyond finances or learning about life in a more in depth way. The conversations with most young women is like a repeated pattern.. She talks to you, you talk to her either she likes you or plays games through phone numbers. You exchange snapchats and rarely speak Or she's always approaching you, you can not talk to her.
Tony your video on “the 99 percent of women won’t believe this “ was powerful and I needed every word!!! Nothing but tears God uses you!!!!! Such a GREAT CONFIRMATION FOR ME
I’m 62 and have guys in their 30’s & 40’s rolling this direction. I’ve found 3 statements that makes them run the other direction. 1. I don’t do pampers or depends. If needed explain that age range. Lord have mercy if you have to explain. 2. I’m only interested in marriage and having a baby ain’t even in the conversation. 3. The most important one is, they have experiences and bs that they will go thru and I ain’t going thru it with them. This might sound ugly but at 62, I’m NOT biting my tongue AT ALL because my HEART, LOVE AND SANITY is what’s on the line. Hope this helped!
I'm with someone 20 years older than me...been dating for 12.5 years now... haven't saw her since July this year. I've been getting ahold of her. We should get our communication back, because I want to know how she's doing. Spoke to her last week. She also should get ahold of me. I love this woman. I hope she says yes the day I propose to her. 💍
I don't know how true it is. 😕 24 year old men who have money are going for older women. What's there to benefit when he has his own money? Some of them really have genuine connections with these older women.
This was a great insightful video! Truth, truth and more truth coming out of Tony’s mouth and heart. Thank you for keeping it real!!!! I’m 53 and going on one year being divorced after 34 years of marriage. I was discarded for a younger woman, of course. My ex is 54 and she is 37. What was meant to destroy my self worth and ego, did not work. I am a born again Christian, so I’m not looking for “sex” outside of marriage. My ex was my first and only sexual experience. I’m currently waiting for a like minded godly man. I’ve had a 22, 24, 30 and 38 year olds pour on the flattery at work but I can see right through them. It’s obvious that they think I’m a desperate older woman who may give myself away just because of NICE words. But they are DEAD WRONG! I’m staying pure and true to myself. I’m waiting. I appreciate the compliments but I don’t take them seriously. So, thank you Tony for making this CRYSTAL CLEAR!
Not to be funny but I chuckled at his comment regarding young men avoiding dating women 10 or more older because of aging. Truth is men tend to die before women. Moreover, Black men tend to die years before the woman they are with. My dad was 10 years younger than my mother and he died before her. In the community I was raised so many black women have outlived their husbands by nearly a decade. The upside to a woman having a younger man is you might actually have someone to grow old with since statistically speaking they tend to kick the bucket before us.
Thank you so much Tony - we need to hear this hard core - we are living an era of dating disparity of age groups and is promoted to be highly acceptable in America. We have lost a sense of relationships and for a very long time we are being promoted by entertainment and other venues on what is acceptable without really tackling the root cause of our problems. You are so funny on your delivery while making so much sense.. amen!
I always have and always will like men my "own" age. Definitely not Old Papa. I am not playing Nurse and changing his diapers Tony Gaskins is telling the COMPLETE TRUTH.
I’m 42 and have a lot younger guys trying to talk to me and I say from the jump well just so u know I am not trying to have no more kids so if that’s what you want then I shut it down from there. I be willing to go a little younger. I just don’t want to be with someone who wants more kids cause I’m done with that chapter. I don’t even think I would be attracted to men more then 5 years younger.
My younger man works hard to provide ! Is not all younger man that takes advantage of older women! If you’re older woman and take care of yourself! Your younger man will work to make you happy!!! Is in a mans nature to be a provider younger or not!!!
I get hit on by younger men often. I'm in my 30s and I have the same mindset as you. They all say the same thing though - "Age ain't nothin' but a number." I'm so sick of hearing that. I tell them that they're looking for a hot mom. I drill them with questions asking if they are lonely, were rejected by their mom, weren't breastfed, etc etc. They get mad, I don't care. I do believe there are exceptions to this norm, but like you said, it could be 1 in a 1000 women who are older and have that aura to a young man.
@@ashleyv8146 this is gross... like I appreciate a man that can respect a lady but not a giant child that has to have everything done and thought for him. That is nit cute attractive or endearing it is off putting.
unfortunately many women don't know how to control their emotions and younger men know this .... words are the golden key but when you know the game trust me they shall be scared to approach you
I don’t believe this I’m 8 years older than my husband we have kids together and are doing great I was with a man older than I was and couldn’t communicate as well as my husband now so not all older women with younger men go through the same thing
I remember being attracted to a guy; then I found out he was 16 years younger. I had to go to the Lord to deliver me from that attraction. I'm so glad I didn't allow the father of lies to lure me into devastation. I kept my distance and did not succumb to fear and loneliness. I believe every word Tony spoke about May-December romances. Most have ulterior motives.
😂😂😂😂 I am so sorry but when you said “I had to go to the lord to deliver me from that attraction” I lost it ⚰️ 💀 girllllllllllll tell me about it . Lmfaooooo, I have been there. I hate when I like somebody bc I barely do. I was attracted to a married man and soon as I found out he was married I had to force the feelings away even though he was willing to cheat with me. Hellll nawl. I believe in karma buddy. Lol
I think maturity, values, goals, when the age gap is occurring (2O year old with a 30 year old vs 50 year old with a 60 year old), and the overall love connection. I’ve seen both sides- my mother is ten years older than my father and they married and had children. Other families members I know are with younger men ( one six years older and one 13 years older) and they are going on their 30th and 25th wedding anniversaries. However, I have also seen younger guys use older women for sex, money, etc. I feel many of them do have mommy issues! I think with any dating relationship you should seek God and be prayerful, look at red flags and leave or stay based on what is revealed to you!
I think it depends on whether you actively seek younger/older partner or if they just so happen to be that age and you connect without knowing how old they are.
Wow…. Respect ✊ I love how you said “ this was the wrong page” if the person is looking for sex outside marriage… I really appreciate your honesty. Thank you for standing up for your beliefs.
@@tashaequeen8935 being vulnerable doesn't mean you ignore res flags and sent self aware. Vulnerability doesn't get you played, ignoring the truth does.
Love your honesty. I met a younger guy when I thought he was much older than he was. When I realised I stopped flirting. It's been 4 years and he's still trying to sleep with me. But the minute he gets want he wants he'll be off. I'm the notch he didn't get. I adore him and it's hard to keep saying no but I'm just not that kinda women. Thank you for your insight.
Tony, there are younger guys who have old souls in them grinding and getting there own and want an older woman because he's genuinely into her especially if he took his time getting to know her over a 6 to 12 month period. I met a younger guy at my 2nd job and he's very hesitant to get involved with me, but he's definitely interested. You can't control a heart connection and guess what? I look younger than all the females I work with. The 90's babies are now looking older than the 80's babies and from what I'm hearing their vaginas are dry and unfulfilling. It's unfortunate, but you're going to start seeing a whole lot of age gaps going forward due to health reasons.
But once in a blue moon you and another can simply be attracted to each other because of the attraction not because it’s a get over plan. Hey the chemistry and the experience might be the adventure of both of our lives!! In all things get a understanding first,then relax and have some fun!!🌹🌹🌹
I’m 41 he’s 31 and we were friends for 3 years because we connected and could talk for hours. I finally gave him a chance and so happy I did. As friends he gave me money to start my business and just since we’ve been together, he takes pride in providing for me. For Mother’s Day he took me out, bought me a huge bouquet of flowers and gave me $300. Love is a strange thing. I look good for my age so the age gap isn’t too obvious.
I love talks with TG! I never thought about dating a younger guy until one approach me! There was an 18 year difference. Let me be honest we hung out for a "brief moment" and I enjoyed every minute. Made me felt like a high school girl. However, I knew it was about the bedroom. I Had to take several steps back! I asked why are you seeking a cougar, of course, Tony Gaskin touched on this piece. Same ole line (maturity). Ladies know your worth!
Listening to the ENTIRE message and not just hearing and nitpicking what you don't like and going off in the comments is as fundamental as reading...js
Tony has a simpler video on this topic that help me to break off a toxic relationship with a younger man. Thanks for your wisdom TG 🙏 you always on point.
I think when it comes to age, its about the age you look, not the age you are. Many older women can easily pass for 30 somethings as long as we take care of ourselves.
I’m 47 and i go to the gym and take care of myself and i look 30 something years old- my face is still smooth and complexion is still great so i relate to your comment
You have to ignore ignorance, I was 7 years older than my husband and he came in and spoiled me and my kids. I wanted for nothing, he is with Jesus now but Lord I miss him so much and I have been alone since he has passed.
I am 55 and have stated several times that where I live, men my age or older are either married, shacking, have a girlfriend or on their last leg...I also stated that I was 27 and married a 21 yo..a big mistake because the conversation was spent with me explaining what I was talking about..then I ended up with someone 15 years OLDER than me..another mistake because he talked to me as if i was his child at times ig because his daughter and I were only a couple of years apart, he stopped asking me things and started telling me what to do..but i had to tell him that he wasn't my daddy. So it depends on the situation. Every relation is different. I know of several older ladies who married younger n the men ended up leaving because they wanted children. several ended up having children outside of the marriage..I know several older men with younger wives and the men died within 3-4 years...I also know several couples who are really truly happy and in love. It just depends.
I'm 55 and constantly approached by younger men and very interesting younger men. I love it. It's so much fun. Every women loves to be praised like a Goddess :) and getting spoiled. Enjoy it and don't overthink it.
What I have come to overstand, and it's been a long journey to this knowledge. It does matter if they are a narcissist, they're birth sign, Age, how flattering they are, and how much money you make or they make. ALL THAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU TRULY LOVE YOURSELF. AND ANY LOVE OUTSIDE OF YOU IS A BONUS.
Great video! wow Tony said he was telling the truth in 2021, and that’s what he’s doing, that truth stings a little but, I would rather hear the truth than a lie, I’m here for it! Blessings Tony to you and the Queen🙏🏾
@@TheFactsofLife237 I'm glad u avoided that! Took a lot of courage for me to write TG and inquire about my previous situation. TG's response helped initiate my growth and healing. It was the necessary roughness I needed. I was ready 4 love and he was looking for a "mama." Glad I took my lesson and RAN🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️!
Girrrrrrl I'm out here living my best life right now, I'm not out here trying to be a player but I'm out here experiencing it. We only get one life. That's it. Just go.
Thanks Tony. But I wanna say, if you are chosen and you chose for each other, you are lucky and want you to cherish the relationship you have🙏happy for all of you those who are happy with younger men/older woman. I’m an older woman (36) here. My man (21) left me for a younger one recently. We loved each other. He didn’t use me at all. I wish I could be with him. But he never had any other relationships besides me so he needed some experience in romantic relationship. He all of a sudden left me “I’m sorry I thought I would never be in love with anyone else but that wasn’t the case”. He was not sure if he can handle age gap like if he is okay not to have children coz when he wants a child, I might not be able to have etc.. I know I shouldn’t hope and I don’t wanna put any hopes into him anymore but so hard not to do so. Now I’m working on myself. Have to move forward. So seeing those comments who are happily married with younger men made me happy. I’m genuinely happy for all of them and I believe age is just a number.
I’m not a Christian, but Mr. G definitely ministers t me. He’s speaking the truth ladies. Listen up and don’t get played by these cons out here. U likely will not b the exception t these rules. Just say no.
Im 51yrs w/2 grown sons and don't look it and younger men hit on me but get checked because you don't want to get yo lil young feelings hurts....I don't play none of that....Im done raising kids 😁😂😂...take yo lil Similac and gone bout yo business nah.
Okay, I'm 48 and a 32 year old gave me the eye contact and had me looking the other way, because his gaze was very intense. Now, I'm very secure and strong in my being, but I was like wow! He wasn't disrespectful towards me, but I knew he liked me. I have never been involved with a younger man, because I'm always thinking he's not mature enough, but maybe that's what I need. I've been involved with an older man and it was like I still had to lead the relationship.....to each is to own.
I agree with most what’s being said, but I also belive not to putting Society Limits on yourself and what’s possible. When you feel organic and you have worked on yourself anything is possible. Just focus on being your best self and staying high vibes!!!!! And what’s falls on your path and is for your highes good take it!!!!!
On your story about a older man, you painted a beautiful picture, however when you spoke of a younger man older woman, you painted a dark picture, I have know several healthy relationship concerning people of different ages.
Im married to a man that is 45 and im turning 60 next month. We've been married for 15 yrs and still counting. He is a good provider. And a good husband. God fearing man. And good father to our children. And our relationship had noting to do with sex
Do you watch all my videos? Or were you searching to find out why he’s with you? Just curious why you’re watching this video if you’re happily married and secure in that. It won’t explain anything you don’t know. Happy for y’all Tho!
I am dating a man who’s 15 years younger than me. I’m reading everyone’s comments & I agree with the financial gain but let’s be real, I think this applies to any & every body. Humans with goals look for ways to level up. In my case we both make about the same amount of money. I make perhaps 10k more than he does. He pays for 90% of our dates & trips as well. I feel one needs to wisen up & look at the facts & what applies to you & be honest. I’ll share a little about our relationship in hopes of helping others. I’m 38 he’s 24 and it started with he pursuing me & I was in a relationship & he was ok with being friends. So we built a friendship first & then…Fast forward to 3 months later & he continued to pursue me & kept it as classy as any 24 years old could. He won me over, I took him to church with me a few times & showed him how I live. In my honest opinion, I believe some relationships & marriages fail because we are not friends first. One does not breakup with friends or abandon friends. We have to treat it that way in order to determine compatibility & get to know what is getting all about as well & vice Versa. All in all, life is happening & whether or not we want we are all in, in life. God is in control & he won’t lead us astray. Ask yourself if you’re making a decision based on fear or love? God has not given us a spirit of fear but of sound mind. I get it’s complicated & nerve racking I can’t say that I haven’t thought of the worse case scenario & perhaps that’s why I am here chiming in. I decided to focus on my growth & so far my partner has been growing with me. I told myself if I outgrow him & lose interest (bc it may happen) then so long as I fulfilled my purpose the one Jesus Christ has set out for me. Then, that can only mean theres someone else out there for me. Why fret? Why worry? Guard your heart! But live! You’re here to LOVE and the opposite of love is fear. I. Jesus name you will not fail! God is in control!
I’m 38 and my BF is 26. I turned him down several times but he kept pursuing me and now We’ve been together for 3 years. We moved in together two weeks after we met and we’ve never left each other’s side. He just proposed and I said yes. We’ve started a business together, bought a house together, and he’s wise beyond his years. I never thought I could EVER be happy with a younger guy, as I usually dated men 8-15 years or older. But I was wrong, and I would have missed out on the best thing that’s ever happened to me if I had turned him down solely based on his age.
Your story is exactly like mine. Some walls we put are the reason we miss out on love. Ive never felt this way with anyone older ive dated.
I'm 26, I think want an older woman, someone in the mid 30s. Not just to play with, I actually want to kick it. I honestly perceive that it may work better for me than a woman who is still early in her youth.🤷🏾♂
I'm happy for you he sounds like a great guy
😲
Wow. I'm 38 and fiance is 25. He pursued me to no end. Proposed after 2 1/2 months. We will be married in February. Best relationship I have ever been in.
I'm 53 and my husband is 34, we've been married for 12 years and I wouldn't entertain him for a while but he kept pursuing me and I fell in love with him when he told me," God made me for you", we were inseparable after that.
That's beautiful
I'm so happy for you both, Yes true Love does exist. Continue to love each other, happy for you. Wish that could have happened to me!❤❤❤
Do you have kids? No judgment, I am just so curious.
I bet he cheats a lot
@@lovelyindividual1 you wish
'No one has the right to tell another human being who they can or should love. Love is where you find it'. James Baldwin
It's all in god's hands ✝️🙏 so many young women demasculise men these days if a women's a little older we praise there masculinity
Look I'm a 32 year old man and I'm dating a 45 year old woman. We just click on everything. It's literally the most insane thing but we have the same outlook on love, romance, religion, and the afterlife. We both met after some trauma going on at the same time. Btw she's only been with 1 man ever and I've been with 8 women so there you go. You can't assume age determines those things.
Ain't you ashame when you out with her?
@@mjmj4902 the question is does he want to marry her and have kids with her? No offense but if he met a 25 year old with the same personality who would he pick. How familiar is he with biology and that a woman is fertile from 15-47 at best? How many kids you want bro, 1,2,3? Age matters bro. Best of luck to you.
you should research twin flame phenomenon sounds like you found her. The twin flame female is usually older.
Absolutely!
I pray all is still well with you two..However, from your own admission, you guys trauma-bonded...The trauma bonding is an emotional attachment two ppl have and it can often be mistaken as love bc u feel like u are genuinely bonding, but its only the shared trauma which after a while fizzles out..again I pray all is well
Did u marry her??
Just remember... an older woman feels good being desired by a younger man, especially when he’s spending his money. Not all older women are getting taken advantage of.
Facts!
I'm inclined to agree.
Not that serious
I’m spending his money. He’s taking care of me, providing for me, not the other way around.
Ladies, I am not with a man 10-15 years older than I, but he brushed me the wrong way too, lol. Yet I see his point that your examples, while true, may be just exceptions from the rule.
I want to add that I work with money, and it’s just a barter used to trade things. Aging body, experience, support, spirituality, peace of mind vs. young body, energy, looks, etc. Telling young men not to go for it is akin to telling them not to spend their hard-earned money (note, money in this case is equivalent to time) on sports memorabilia - and the response you will get is “mind your own business”. Lol!
The purpose of life is to fulfill one’s purpose. In some cases, it’s not relevant what the age of the partner is, as long as your mission is fulfilled. I shouldn’t need to explain this concept to a God-understanding man.
Ahem. This reminds me that, perhaps, modern religion is just a matrix and that it has nothing to do with true spirituality, which has no limits and boundaries - except for the karma you “earn” yourself. To continue with this point, if the older woman is “using” the younger man, that’s bad karma. But if she takes someone on the trajectory to hell and genuinely helps him find purpose in life and fulfill his mission, that’s great karma.
Cheers, guys! And remember, life is nothing but a series of lessons, and karma is REAL.
I usually date older, and most of them weren't doing as well as me financially and needed me financially. Most of the men I've dated that were younger were well off financially and treated me well and were chivalrous and let me be feminine and cared for. I'm 41 and dating a man that is 30 now. He is amazing. He is very mature, treats me well, pays for everything, gives me gifts, prays for and with me every night and makes more money than me. He is protective of me and tries to make sure I'm good. I have to tell he doesn't have to do so much for me, but he insists. The narrative you are presenting isn't necessarily true. At least for me.
I have to agree with you, sounds like he isn’t the 100% aware ALL men are different and have different dating experiences or preferences. He also is wrong abt his reason for younger girls liking older guys. I genuinely had a thing for handsome older men and the reason was genuinely maturity and the vague reason that they obviously are truly good looking. Thats his own opinion. I personally started liking older men really young i just loved the idea of it. Unfortunately they didnt find me mature enough. Younger guys fall for me all the time never ask for anything not even sex they just cant believe im the age that i am. They get crazy over me and pay for things. He is offfff. He forgets dudes these days YOUNGER than him are going through really hard times w these young girls who have these crazy beliefs. I dont blame a younger man wanting someone who has traditional values.
Thank you. These gurus haven’t lived long enough to realize this. Matter fact. There are A LOT of beautiful desirable older women. He said 1 out of 100. He doesn’t know what’s going on.
❤
This is a great talk! My husband and I have been married for 34 years. He's 56 and I'm 66. We are exceptions to the rule. Thank you for all you give to us.
I think the time period is a huge factor too. It's so messy to date these days
So happy to hear there's true love despite age difference
Out of curiosity i would love to hear what other factors played into pursuing this kind of relationship that have weathered the time...other than LOVE.
@Gloria Ann i thank you for your reply maybe someone else might have other caveats and nuances🤷🏽♀️
@Coach GloriAnn why not for the faint of heart?
He is truthful.
We live in a society where older ( over-40) women are degraded and devalued simply for ageing. They are judged and seen as ridiculous and desperate for having any expectation of love or normal human relationships. Why?
Why have older women conformed to this de- personalization and de- sexualization of themselves.
Allow yourselves to be happy and define that for yourselves.
It start from over 30. If you go watch male " coaches " on relationships you will see it.
True
That’s bc it is… Who would wanna tap something loose and old 🤢. Stuff expires for a reason
@@niaomimaurer7180 older women are not loose. It's all the same body part but younger women these days have far more partners, which is not desirable. FWIW: after having a baby, your vagina can have sex differently and it feels a lot better 😝
@@em77775 So you tryna tellin me that old ass woman don’t have saggy labia’s? You’re telling me that there is not a single wrinkle on they pussy????! You’re gonna have to go and try and convince somebody else cause I’m not believing that for shit for a second 😂
I’m 43 my man of 6.5 yrs is 31 He begged for a baby for 4 yrs we now have a two year old . I had 3 children from a prior (15yrs marriage ) we bought a house he put all the money down and pays the majority of the bills.
Follow your heart...you can't barely get anyway with these men your age...Don't let society dictate your happiness.... double standard men been doing it for years! God has what he has for you ..
The man pursues woman asks her to marry him ...but the divorce rates are still high..so its obvious by him asking her is not a concrete solution...if so,the divorce won't still be so high! Regardless of who asks who or finds who first...its not going to work unless both agree to committee to the marriage whole heartedly! God never said that a husband or wife has to me a certain age... younger , older or the same age ..Society is did that! cause decades ago Society was in agreement with people getting married at 14 -15 years old starting families, they remained married 60-70 years. My great- grandmother/ grandmother did at least in their generation! Families stayed together back than, more than they do today! What happen? Everybody wants to make money that's what happen.. From the judges, pastors to the social workers! Everybody needs a counselor now! People back then did just fine without it, if they didn't they still made it ! Whatever God has for you is for you regardless of age ..live your life and be happy...its nothing wrong with listening to other people opinions...but you make the final decision with the help of the Lord!❤❤🙏🙏
@@rahimahrashad2351 ❤💙💚🤎🖤💜
Agree!!
Love this comment!!!😉
Would u let a 22 yr old take you on a date?
When a younger guy hits on me, I tell them I’m flattered and have a nice day.☺️ Ain’t buying no PlayStation 5 and Jordan’s for nobody’s son 🤣🤣
That's what I say also. And if he's my age and speaks immaturely I say the same to him. 🙄
I know that right sis.!
🤣🤣🤣
Sis for real 👊🏽🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣👍👍
My husband is 32 and i am 46 we are awesome. He's such a Good God fear man.
Omg I'm asking the Lord to send me one too I'm so sick of f boys, congrats to you sister!
He could be your son
@@1SilentRiver 😂😂😂
@@1SilentRiver right lol
I believe it, they exist
Funny I noticed a lot of videos of other races have positive things to say about dating older women. Yet, here our Black man has a negative perspective on why younger men pursue older women. WOW!! Thank you my Black Christian Man.
EXACTLY not Christ like at all…
I mean the man is actually telling the truth. The truth hurts worse than a lie. I know a guy that dated a woman that was 21 years older than him and he said deep down inside he was on his butt and needed a place to live. She took him in.
@@missmarymack3457older dusties will need the same thing too or someone to provide geriatric care for them.... bases of the story is to love who loving up on you
Well... I dated on both sides of the spectrum. I have also experience a younger man that was mature & older man acting childish. I learned from both. I dont see why age is a big factor, especially if you are a mature adult ( 25 & older) and if you guys have great connection & chemistry... who are we to judge? The only time ppl treat you different is when you tell them your age ( which is really none of there business). If the couple love one another, why hate on them? They are two grown adults well aware of what they are getting into. Whether it works or not, that is something they have to deal with.... not you all!
I agree with you 100%. Obviously, there are men and women out there picking people for the reasons he said, if it works for them, it's their life. But there are also people out there that love each other's souls, despite their age.
Very well stated!! I completely agree.
Thank you 💯
Exactly
I thoroughly respect your perspective on this comment. Truly FACTS!! Women who have a huge issue with younger men pursuing them, have serious control issues which could be an aid to why they are older women and alone (if not widowed). Have discernment with everyone at any age. 40+ men seems to be emotionally immature and unreasonable in many aspects of a relationship due to their religions and old behaviors. Once they hit 50+ then they wise up. Who has time to wait?!?!?
I’m 65 and my man is 48. We met 23 yrs ago, and we weren’t able to be together then. But, 2 1/2 yrs ago, we reconnected and have been together and very happy!! Sex is AWESOME ❣️ We are planning on being together forever ♥️ So, it IS possible.
Amen
It is possible, but rare.
Exactly I believe everything you’re saying H is just a number
Good for you!
I am in a similar situation but it changed my life for the good!
I am a 26 year old IT Professional dating a 47 year old single mother. We have been dating for a year. I'm independent and she makes her own money too. Nothing but fun times and that's it. She isn't looking for someone to help raise her kid or anything. And we are not dating to marry. People take it so personal. For the women who frown on this. Who are you to judge this shit? If dating a younger man is not your preference, then I respect that. Just don't shit to a woman in her 40s and 50s who decided to date a man in his late 20s just like myself. And do not get mad when a guy you want to get with doesn't wanna get with you. Some of the men your age do not behave like men anyway and then you wonder why some of you are still single. I like older women because some of the older women who are single are not looking to remarry or get married at all. I even had a married woman say that she would get with me because I treat her better than her husband does. They know what they want and they do not play games. Women my age that I know can't make up their minds and are indecisive. They just want to live life and so do I. I challenge you all to answer this. If you have this negative notion towards older woman getting with younger men, then what do you guys say about older men getting with younger women?
Right off the bat I laugh when I read comments like, eww I wouldn't date him, he's my son age or you are old enough to be my son. So? These are some of the same ladies who have dated men who acted younger than the younger men who hit on them. Not all younger men want to get with an older women for money or sleep with you for a PS5. I do not need to get with ANYONE for money I have a job for that. I do not have mommy issues or anything. I just know I do not want kids or anything, just a woman who is feminine, cooperative, and communicative.
WOW! Thanks for BOLDLY speaking out. Your perspective is very educative & extremely refreshing, in the midst of so many sickening biased comments.
What matters in the end is genuine love & mutual respect in a relationship.
I am so fortunate to have met many women dating/married to someone younger. For most, it was not conscious choice at first, but genuine love & mutual respect happened. They said yes to genuine love and mutual respect.
Feminine..cooperative and communicative . Wow..the way you wrapped it all up with the line....was the bow on top👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
well to be fair, he did say its either money or 'fun times' as you mentioned. he said its not best for pure, lasting love, which is not what youre looking for, so he's right.
just said it all my darling you are so right not all younger guys… Want old woman for money I do not believe that I believe that younger man sees the maturity and the feminine in a true woman younger girls you have to grow with them and teach them some of them don’t want to cook they don’t want do anything when you’re the same age as then let’s face reality that is what we’re in…. Your comment is right is true love between older and a younger person it’s just people has not seen it or feel it for them so that’s what the problem is my man is younger than me and he tells me not to discuss anything with people that are not on the same spiritual mindset as we are…. Our love 💕 ordained by God
I rate what you said and respect what you said, some the women that said oh they wouldn’t date a younger guys old enough to be their son, is because the younger guy would not even look at them it’s a blessing when a younger guy looks older woman I want to be with her a lot of women are not blessed that way or anointed in that manner I am…. Shalom 🙏🏾
“First evaluate your heart as a older woman. And ask yourself, Why do you want this baby you used to babysit?” TG
LOL
Right....gross!
😂😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😂
I’m going to be 38 and my significant other turned 32 this year 🤗 we have been together almost a year, he is really mature and hard working. I don’t support him at all, he wants to support me. I am so grateful for him 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Libido’s match. When a man gets older, theirs goes down, and a woman's goes up 😂 It’s a beautiful thing. They also have wisdom and the confidence that you gain later in life.
@@ccrow06 ?... A woman hits her sexual prime in her 30s and it goes up from there. I'm not saying a young man and an older woman are compatible. I'm saying if a young man is interested, it is normally bc of that. Me saying it's a beautiful thing is that the woman gets to be at the height of her sexual prime while the mans declines 😂. Best thing for a woman to do is find a man with values that doesn't want to use you.
@@ccrow06 I try to sprinkle humor in comments too. I changed it just so I don't have to see anymore disgusted emojis. LOL
@@ccrow06 😭 😂
@@DG-on9dz yes and women live longer, so 10 year difference isn't that bad...
@@DG-on9dz sooooo right
I was in a situationship with a guy in my age (23) and he "left" me for a 42 year old woman, divorced and with a child. Because I kept my legs closed. I was so insecure about myself after this. But months later I found out that she got him a job in a company that she works for. I’m so glad that God protected me, it was a redirection! Mr Gaskins now everything is clear for me. Thank you 🙏🏻 God bless everyone
You are bless by the Best
She did you a favor girl!
I love This community so much ♥️
God is good all the time ✨❤️
sounds like he just needed help..so many people are in fake relationship..im older than you 37..and my legs and home are closed until marriage too..almost opened them in my early 20s but then said no..dont worry I look like im 27..the issue is that I dont meet many men and its not easy..I want to focus on the mindset too..and maybe id only want one child only..Age doesnt really matter..well for us after 50 it is dead but it depends on what you want..I think maybe people go with people for what they can do for themselves..
Times have changed a lot. This video is more conservative. I have 2 guy friends/workmate that are in their 30s/late 20s married to women in their late 50s and the men make more than those women. Love happens regardless of age.
Some young men genuinely like older women & vice versa because of the experience level. Hay I say if you can handle the game go for it however prepared for the perspective outcome
AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL! WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!( GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS OUR EVERYTHING! GOD CAN HANDLE ANYTHING! GOD HAS US COVERED! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GLORY TO GOD ALMIGHTY! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! SEPT 3021
Love that Tony gives up the game. Why do older men who get with younger women 10-40 years younger say I know why, but don't care. But women will delude themselves and say... he just loves me....
My great grandmother was 70 with a 40 year old boyfriend (her grandkids age). He never worked and waited on her hand and foot. She treated him like a slave. When she got sickly he left her for another old woman. I guess they both got what they wanted. 🤷🏽♀️
Wow
Not surprised!!
He probably found someone with a better pension or retirement benefits.
@@niecys Probably. His new woman looks just like my grandmother too.
@@niecys 😂😂😂
Two of my sisters are with younger men one five years younger and the other seven years younger and they all provide and are head of the household.
He said 10 years plus
I’m nine years older than my fiancé and he is more mature than older men I date and he is very succesful and respectful he is the head of household
@@shenelle921 He said 10 yrs plus
💚
My husband was 10 years older then myself, everything you are saying is spot on !!! I was 21 years old he was 31 years old, I got a Divorce at 42 , I would never do that again. Thank you for keeping real ....
Tony! So on point with this topic..Am a older women and younger men step to me because am I have a nice car, don’t look my age, and also because I have a good job. No thank you! Sticking to my age group.👏🏾👌🏾👍🏿
Yes! And that still presents problems!
Smart!!!
Good for you. Me too. I prefer my age group.
You’re so real, God bless you for shedding light on this. I’m a good looking older woman that needs a bat to ward off the younger men. Sometimes I wonder but listening to you say all this, realigned my head. Thank you
My fiancé is 31 and I’m 48 we get along great
I hollered when Tony started the eye twitching.. Like Alright I done warned yall!😂😂😂
I do recall feeling sick and extremely disrespected when my best friend's son asked me on a date trying to play me for money. 30 years age difference... that's what desperation makes men do. Still makes me feel disgust to remember it. I told his mom.
I’m glad you said something!
What happened to him after that
I hope she punished him lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😬😬😬 I see lots of women on here are not gonna like this! But Tony is talking facts and I'm here for it! 💯
Yes sis! They are really trying to defend their dysfunctional relationships 🤦🏾 with their son-aged guys 😅
@@PeaceBeStill- 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
They’re in the comments saying how they got a younger man but don’t say if he has married them.
I respect honesty💯💜💙
Let us all remember how Terry McMillan’s situation turned out😳.
I was in a big age gap (13 years younger man, he 38, me 50) situationship. I got paranoid he would never get serious and I was always at a disadvantage against women his age. I have bountiful energy, I am self-illuminated and young in mentality, go to the gym and look about 42. He also makes more than I do. I did approach this as a person to person thing and felt the same as him. Good video.
Tony giving us all a heads up and what to look out for. Man these men are something else today. God Bless You always Brother Tony!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Facts man! That’s how I feel! I wanna grow with somebody in my age group
Me too!!
Polite Notice! Ladies, of all ages can we PLEASE watch, the video & LISTEN to the entire video, in context. If needs be listen to it twice. I find pausing the video & thinking about what Tony said can help. We may hear something, that goes against our current view points or get triggered and jump in to our emotions. I noticed this , in some of the comments
Tony is speaking, from decades of experiences. If you are watching his video, I presume you are here to learn so lets respect the teacher . THINK before commenting! Have a good day x
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Thank you ...I watch these videos several times .......then maybe I will read the comments ...sometimes I respond .....sometimes I don't .....spot on!!!!!
We are Christian...he is rich..he is a hottie. Age difference? First he fell for me first. He pursued me on social media when I blocked him. We are engaged He is employed...not me. I am 32 years older and I have been treated better with this man than any man ever!! God is the center of us...celebate until wed.😇🥰
Go girl
I'm 26 and I don't talk to older women for money reasons nor just sex. Yes the chemistry can be huge but the main honest reason is because the conversations are more in depth with life and your views of life are. The average 26 year old woman doesn't think of the future beyond finances or learning about life in a more in depth way. The conversations with most young women is like a repeated pattern..
She talks to you, you talk to her either she likes you or plays games through phone numbers.
You exchange snapchats and rarely speak
Or she's always approaching you, you can not talk to her.
Older does not equate wisdom
@@missmarymack3457 neither does younger
That’s true but the thing is I’m not here to argue or debate.
@@missmarymack3457 👍
This is occurring across the board- all ages and all age groups. Transactional relationships that are driven by opportunistic personality types.
Well said! 💯💯💯💯
Boom 💥 Exactly!
I agree strongly!
Yup!
Tony your video on “the 99 percent of women won’t believe this “ was powerful and I needed every word!!! Nothing but tears God uses you!!!!! Such a GREAT CONFIRMATION FOR ME
💯 🎯
Life changing!! 🙌
I felt the same way sis 🙌🏾
That was for me!!!! OMG!!!!
That video broke me😭!!!
I’m 62 and have guys in their 30’s & 40’s rolling this direction. I’ve found 3 statements that makes them run the other direction.
1. I don’t do pampers or depends. If needed explain that age range. Lord have mercy if you have to explain.
2. I’m only interested in marriage and having a baby ain’t even in the conversation.
3. The most important one is, they have experiences and bs that they will go thru and I ain’t going thru it with them.
This might sound ugly but at 62, I’m NOT biting my tongue AT ALL because my HEART, LOVE AND SANITY is what’s on the line.
Hope this helped!
God bless you, your family...I am 63 and still learning...
We never stop learning all our lives. My take in spiritual love has no age to a decent mature degree💯👑
Thank you, I’m in this situation currently and I’m not trying to get played. My eyes 👀 are wide open... 👍🏾
When he started crying I felt that. My cousins done cried many days.
I'm with someone 20 years older than me...been dating for 12.5 years now... haven't saw her since July this year. I've been getting ahold of her. We should get our communication back, because I want to know how she's doing. Spoke to her last week. She also should get ahold of me. I love this woman. I hope she says yes the day I propose to her. 💍
I don't know how true it is. 😕 24 year old men who have money are going for older women. What's there to benefit when he has his own money? Some of them really have genuine connections with these older women.
You know one 24 year old doing this, not 10.
This was a great insightful video! Truth, truth and more truth coming out of Tony’s mouth and heart. Thank you for keeping it real!!!! I’m 53 and going on one year being divorced after 34 years of marriage. I was discarded for a younger woman, of course. My ex is 54 and she is 37. What was meant to destroy my self worth and ego, did not work. I am a born again Christian, so I’m not looking for “sex” outside of marriage. My ex was my first and only sexual experience. I’m currently waiting for a like minded godly man. I’ve had a 22, 24, 30 and 38 year olds pour on the flattery at work but I can see right through them. It’s obvious that they think I’m a desperate older woman who may give myself away just because of NICE words. But they are DEAD WRONG! I’m staying pure and true to myself. I’m waiting. I appreciate the compliments but I don’t take them seriously. So, thank you Tony for making this CRYSTAL CLEAR!
Not to be funny but I chuckled at his comment regarding young men avoiding dating women 10 or more older because of aging. Truth is men tend to die before women. Moreover, Black men tend to die years before the woman they are with. My dad was 10 years younger than my mother and he died before her. In the community I was raised so many black women have outlived their husbands by nearly a decade. The upside to a woman having a younger man is you might actually have someone to grow old with since statistically speaking they tend to kick the bucket before us.
We need more men like Tony. Men with character and morals who actually believe in real relationships. Goodness it's rare now days.
Thanks Tony for the authentic messages you give us. We have to receive the messages whether they hurt or not
Thank you so much Tony - we need to hear this hard core - we are living an era of dating disparity of age groups and is promoted to be highly acceptable in America. We have lost a sense of relationships and for a very long time we are being promoted by entertainment and other venues on what is acceptable without really tackling the root cause of our problems. You are so funny on your delivery while making so much sense.. amen!
I always have and always will like men my "own" age. Definitely not Old Papa. I am not playing Nurse and changing his diapers Tony Gaskins is telling the COMPLETE TRUTH.
I’m 42 and have a lot younger guys trying to talk to me and I say from the jump well just so u know I am not trying to have no more kids so if that’s what you want then I shut it down from there. I be willing to go a little younger. I just don’t want to be with someone who wants more kids cause I’m done with that chapter. I don’t even think I would be attracted to men more then 5 years younger.
You’re speaking facts ma’am.
Truth
My younger man works hard to provide ! Is not all younger man that takes advantage of older women! If you’re older woman and take care of yourself! Your younger man will work to make you happy!!!
Is in a mans nature to be a provider younger or not!!!
I get hit on by younger men often. I'm in my 30s and I have the same mindset as you. They all say the same thing though - "Age ain't nothin' but a number." I'm so sick of hearing that. I tell them that they're looking for a hot mom. I drill them with questions asking if they are lonely, were rejected by their mom, weren't breastfed, etc etc. They get mad, I don't care. I do believe there are exceptions to this norm, but like you said, it could be 1 in a 1000 women who are older and have that aura to a young man.
The trend I notice is mama’s boys too. They’re TOO close to their mother & recreate that dynamic.Tony’s right, they want a mom they can sleep with 🥴
@@ashleyv8146 this is gross... like I appreciate a man that can respect a lady but not a giant child that has to have everything done and thought for him. That is nit cute attractive or endearing it is off putting.
😂
@@ashleyv8146 🤣
@@ashleyv8146 Tony said these men often have mother issues, not that they're mama's boys.
I don't understand how older women can't see through this game from younger men and falling for it. This is really sad.
Right! This is Terri McMillan all over again🤦🏾♀️!
unfortunately many women don't know how to control their emotions and younger men know this .... words are the golden key but when you know the game trust me they shall be scared to approach you
@@Aja.S men dont know how to control their emotion at all.
We get dick-matized...🤗
I don’t believe this I’m 8 years older than my husband we have kids together and are doing great I was with a man older than I was and couldn’t communicate as well as my husband now so not all older women with younger men go through the same thing
Hi Tony!
I am a woman and I appreciate every single video and the pragmatic approach towards men, women and motivation in life.
Thank you! 🙏🏻
I remember being attracted to a guy; then I found out he was 16 years younger. I had to go to the Lord to deliver me from that attraction. I'm so glad I didn't allow the father of lies to lure me into devastation. I kept my distance and did not succumb to fear and loneliness.
I believe every word Tony spoke about May-December romances. Most have ulterior motives.
😂😂😂😂 I am so sorry but when you said “I had to go to the lord to deliver me from that attraction” I lost it ⚰️ 💀 girllllllllllll tell me about it . Lmfaooooo, I have been there. I hate when I like somebody bc I barely do. I was attracted to a married man and soon as I found out he was married I had to force the feelings away even though he was willing to cheat with me. Hellll nawl. I believe in karma buddy. Lol
This was the best commentary ever.
I think maturity, values, goals, when the age gap is occurring (2O year old with a 30 year old vs 50 year old with a 60 year old), and the overall love connection. I’ve seen both sides- my mother is ten years older than my father and they married and had children. Other families members I know are with younger men ( one six years older and one 13 years older) and they are going on their 30th and 25th wedding anniversaries. However, I have also seen younger guys use older women for sex, money, etc. I feel many of them do have mommy issues! I think with any dating relationship you should seek God and be prayerful, look at red flags and leave or stay based on what is revealed to you!
I think it depends on whether you actively seek younger/older partner or if they just so happen to be that age and you connect without knowing how old they are.
Amen
Amen
*Best comment*
I'm 34 and the thought of dating a 24 yr old is just disgusting 🤮
🤢
🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮 Agreed! I am the same age as you.
no sober man in his early 20s wants to date a mid 30s woman. at the best he could want just sex
@@carpediem-tv3ni What about a 28?
Seriously? LOL
Mr, Gaskins! I asked u for this video!! Thank u so much Sir!! Be blessed!
Same sis
Wow…. Respect ✊ I love how you said “ this was the wrong page” if the person is looking for sex outside marriage… I really appreciate your honesty. Thank you for standing up for your beliefs.
Younger men are just a turnoff for me...
Right....cant even bathe right yet...boy gone !
Ok I love a older distinguished man. Youth only looks good on a woman.
@@beefaye6861 😅😁
Same here. It's the maturity part for me.
Me too! They are already less mature than us. A 50 ish old man acts like a boy in his 30’s. No thanks!
I look very young for my age. My man is 27 and 45. He takes me out and spends time with me. He is loving, attentive and sweet.
It's so sad that men take advantage of a woman’ s vulnerability. Thanks for keeping us informed Tony.
Being vulnerable is beautiful. But unfortunately a lot of men view that as weakness. Smh
@@tashaequeen8935 being vulnerable doesn't mean you ignore res flags and sent self aware. Vulnerability doesn't get you played, ignoring the truth does.
@@nidzaboricua3294 that's all...you can't see a no and still say yes. It will get you every time.
@@nidzaboricua3294 Aint this the truth!
Love your honesty. I met a younger guy when I thought he was much older than he was. When I realised I stopped flirting. It's been 4 years and he's still trying to sleep with me. But the minute he gets want he wants he'll be off. I'm the notch he didn't get. I adore him and it's hard to keep saying no but I'm just not that kinda women. Thank you for your insight.
DANGEROUS TIMES: GOD HELP US!
Tony, there are younger guys who have old souls in them grinding and getting there own and want an older woman because he's genuinely into her especially if he took his time getting to know her over a 6 to 12 month period. I met a younger guy at my 2nd job and he's very hesitant to get involved with me, but he's definitely interested. You can't control a heart connection and guess what? I look younger than all the females I work with. The 90's babies are now looking older than the 80's babies and from what I'm hearing their vaginas are dry and unfulfilling. It's unfortunate, but you're going to start seeing a whole lot of age gaps going forward due to health reasons.
But once in a blue moon you and another can simply be attracted to each other because of the attraction not because it’s a get over plan. Hey the chemistry and the experience might be the adventure of both of our lives!! In all things get a understanding first,then relax and have some fun!!🌹🌹🌹
I’m 41 he’s 31 and we were friends for 3 years because we connected and could talk for hours. I finally gave him a chance and so happy I did. As friends he gave me money to start my business and just since we’ve been together, he takes pride in providing for me. For Mother’s Day he took me out, bought me a huge bouquet of flowers and gave me $300. Love is a strange thing. I look good for my age so the age gap isn’t too obvious.
I love talks with TG! I never thought about dating a younger guy until one approach me! There was an 18 year difference. Let me be honest we hung out for a "brief moment" and I enjoyed every minute. Made me felt like a high school girl. However, I knew it was about the bedroom. I Had to take several steps back! I asked why are you seeking a cougar, of course, Tony Gaskin touched on this piece. Same ole line (maturity). Ladies know your worth!
I'm 51 and will not entertain a man more than 5 years older or younger.
I think bc older women know what they want or maybe bc of mommy issues
That could be true, but I know plenty older women who don't know what they want
Listening to the ENTIRE message and not just hearing and nitpicking what you don't like and going off in the comments is as fundamental as reading...js
Some women just like to argue or disagree. They don't open their minds then they won't succeed in any relationship.
@@nidzaboricua3294 🎯
Tony has a simpler video on this topic that help me to break off a toxic relationship with a younger man.
Thanks for your wisdom TG 🙏 you always on point.
Yes They are very toxic. They don't have anything to offer you. At all.
I think when it comes to age, its about the age you look, not the age you are. Many older women can easily pass for 30 somethings as long as we take care of ourselves.
I’m 47 and i go to the gym and take care of myself and i look 30 something years old- my face is still smooth and complexion is still great so i relate to your comment
@@overcomerbtboj and the bonus is no one knows. You don't have to tell them immediately lol
So maybe our wisdom can keep up with all that care of ourselves... let's be real or not...
My fiance definitely thought I was in my mid 20's when we met. I'm 38
Mr, Gaskins! u should have turned off the comments! Some people don't want to hear the truth! Thank u so much for this video! Appreciated!!
I thought the same too! 🤦♀️
Oh, trust that if they say anything crazy, they will be BLOCKED! lol
@@silentdreams2415 Yeah, I don't either.
I wish he would have! Why are they on here if their relationships are so awesome?
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Yes, Ma'am!
Young men are getting benefits with these older women.
What do you mean besides sex, home,money,security?
You have to ignore ignorance, I was 7 years older than my husband and he came in and spoiled me and my kids. I wanted for nothing, he is with Jesus now but Lord I miss him so much and I have been alone since he has passed.
Everytime.
@@AndreiFantastic Oh no, I wasn't responding to Tony, I was responding to the young lady's post
As what a younger women wants in older men. Same difference!!!
Fall from Grace is about this. Excellent video with nothing but truth
I am 55 and have stated several times that where I live, men my age or older are either married, shacking, have a girlfriend or on their last leg...I also stated that I was 27 and married a 21 yo..a big mistake because the conversation was spent with me explaining what I was talking about..then I ended up with someone 15 years OLDER than me..another mistake because he talked to me as if i was his child at times ig because his daughter and I were only a couple of years apart, he stopped asking me things and started telling me what to do..but i had to tell him that he wasn't my daddy. So it depends on the situation. Every relation is different. I know of several older ladies who married younger n the men ended up leaving because they wanted children. several ended up having children outside of the marriage..I know several older men with younger wives and the men died within 3-4 years...I also know several couples who are really truly happy and in love. It just depends.
I ran here lol. I'm 42 he 32
Girl you 42 where ?? 😭❤️
Yesss hunty!!! Im 47 he's 37😊
I'm 40 he's 30😬😆😆
Go ladies!!! 😃😃
Awesome Ladies! Are y’all married?
I'm 55 and constantly approached by younger men and very interesting younger men. I love it. It's so much fun. Every women loves to be praised like a Goddess :) and getting spoiled. Enjoy it and don't overthink it.
What I have come to overstand, and it's been a long journey to this knowledge. It does matter if they are a narcissist, they're birth sign, Age, how flattering they are, and how much money you make or they make.
ALL THAT MATTERS IS THAT YOU TRULY LOVE YOURSELF. AND ANY LOVE OUTSIDE OF YOU IS A BONUS.
This‼️‼️‼️‼️
Great video! wow Tony said he was telling the truth in 2021, and that’s what he’s doing, that truth stings a little but, I would rather hear the truth than a lie, I’m here for it! Blessings Tony to you and the Queen🙏🏾
I sign up for the truth everyday all day!!!!
Aye...Tony is sooo HILARIOUS!😂🤣😭 Thank you so much brotha for sharing your wisdom, knowledge and truth. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾God bless you and your family.🙏🏾💯
Ugh... been there.. done that.. learned my lesson...🤦🏽♀️God Bless!!
I almost had one use me. Lesson learned!
@@TheFactsofLife237 I'm glad u avoided that! Took a lot of courage for me to write TG and inquire about my previous situation. TG's response helped initiate my growth and healing. It was the necessary roughness I needed. I was ready 4 love and he was looking for a "mama." Glad I took my lesson and RAN🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️🏃🏾♀️!
Yes. An older woman could be a player too. 😉 LOL!
Coach Sophie
Girrrrrrl I'm out here living my best life right now, I'm not out here trying to be a player but I'm out here experiencing it. We only get one life.
That's it. Just go.
Unrelated: My mom “snuck me in” by accident at 45.😅 But my parents were basically the same age45, and 47.
Thanks Tony. But I wanna say, if you are chosen and you chose for each other, you are lucky and want you to cherish the relationship you have🙏happy for all of you those who are happy with younger men/older woman. I’m an older woman (36) here. My man (21) left me for a younger one recently. We loved each other. He didn’t use me at all. I wish I could be with him. But he never had any other relationships besides me so he needed some experience in romantic relationship. He all of a sudden left me “I’m sorry I thought I would never be in love with anyone else but that wasn’t the case”. He was not sure if he can handle age gap like if he is okay not to have children coz when he wants a child, I might not be able to have etc..
I know I shouldn’t hope and I don’t wanna put any hopes into him anymore but so hard not to do so. Now I’m working on myself. Have to move forward. So seeing those comments who are happily married with younger men made me happy. I’m genuinely happy for all of them and I believe age is just a number.
I’m not a Christian, but Mr. G definitely ministers t me. He’s speaking the truth ladies. Listen up and don’t get played by these cons out here. U likely will not b the exception t these rules. Just say no.
Christ the only way ✝️ and he LOVES you
Amen sis, that’s why I say no every time.
👏 That’s how some women feel abt old men....disgusting!
Tony is telling the truth I work with a lot of young man and they are forever on the lookout for an opportunity
Im 51yrs w/2 grown sons and don't look it and younger men hit on me but get checked because you don't want to get yo lil young feelings hurts....I don't play none of that....Im done raising kids 😁😂😂...take yo lil Similac and gone bout yo business nah.
😂
Hollering 🤣🤣🤣 Lil Similac
“ young whipper snapper “😂😂😂
Please listen to Tony!!! I stay with my age but, I have dated older no difference.
Okay, I'm 48 and a 32 year old gave me the eye contact and had me looking the other way, because his gaze was very intense. Now, I'm very secure and strong in my being, but I was like wow! He wasn't disrespectful towards me, but I knew he liked me. I have never been involved with a younger man, because I'm always thinking he's not mature enough, but maybe that's what I need. I've been involved with an older man and it was like I still had to lead the relationship.....to each is to own.
I agree with most what’s being said, but I also belive not to putting Society Limits on yourself and what’s possible. When you feel organic and you have worked on yourself anything is possible. Just focus on being your best self and staying high vibes!!!!! And what’s falls on your path and is for your highes good take it!!!!!
On your story about a older man, you painted a beautiful picture, however when you spoke of a younger man older woman, you painted a dark picture, I have know several healthy relationship concerning people of different ages.
Im married to a man that is 45 and im turning 60 next month. We've been married for 15 yrs and still counting. He is a good provider. And a good husband. God fearing man. And good father to our children. And our relationship had noting to do with sex
Do you watch all my videos? Or were you searching to find out why he’s with you? Just curious why you’re watching this video if you’re happily married and secure in that. It won’t explain anything you don’t know. Happy for y’all Tho!
@@TonyGaskins I just like your videos
And may God continue to bless you and thank you.
I am dating a man who’s 15 years younger than me. I’m reading everyone’s comments & I agree with the financial gain but let’s be real, I think this applies to any & every body. Humans with goals look for ways to level up. In my case we both make about the same amount of money. I make perhaps 10k more than he does. He pays for 90% of our dates & trips as well. I feel one needs to wisen up & look at the facts & what applies to you & be honest. I’ll share a little about our relationship in hopes of helping others.
I’m 38 he’s 24 and it started with he pursuing me & I was in a relationship & he was ok with being friends. So we built a friendship first & then…Fast forward to 3 months later & he continued to pursue me & kept it as classy as any 24 years old could. He won me over, I took him to church with me a few times & showed him how I live. In my honest opinion, I believe some relationships & marriages fail because we are not friends first. One does not breakup with friends or abandon friends. We have to treat it that way in order to determine compatibility & get to know what is getting all about as well & vice Versa. All in all, life is happening & whether or not we want we are all in, in life. God is in control & he won’t lead us astray.
Ask yourself if you’re making a decision based on fear or love?
God has not given us a spirit of fear but of sound mind.
I get it’s complicated & nerve racking I can’t say that I haven’t thought of the worse case scenario & perhaps that’s why I am here chiming in. I decided to focus on my growth & so far my partner has been growing with me. I told myself if I outgrow him & lose interest (bc it may happen) then so long as I fulfilled my purpose the one Jesus Christ has set out for me. Then, that can only mean theres someone else out there for me. Why fret? Why worry?
Guard your heart! But live! You’re here to LOVE and the opposite of love is fear. I. Jesus name you will not fail!
God is in control!
Thank you Tony! Your videos on intentional, purposeful dating leading to marriage is sooooo appreciated!!! Please keep the great information coming!