Learning to Love Yourself | Amanda Jetté Knox | TEDxYouth@Nepean
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- Опубликовано: 1 авг 2017
- In this TEDx Talk, Amanda shares her inspiring journey of self love and acceptance through personal stories which are sure to capture any audience.
Amanda Jetté Knox is an award-winning writer, human rights advocate and speaker.
The mother of three believes passionately in equality for all, and that acceptance and compassion for ourselves brings acceptance and compassion for others. Her writing has been featured on Upworthy, Buzzfeed, CBC, the Globe and Mail, and various other national and international outlets. Amanda lives in Ottawa, Canada, with her wife, daughter, two sons, and a coffee maker that never quits. She regularly blogs on her personal site, themavenofmayhem.com.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I love myself. Even if I look like a *burnt chicken nugget* I still love myself
Lol
Classic😂
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Love it. Absolutely. We did not make ourselves.. We came from our mothers womb.
Lollololol
I feel like I'm bullshiting myself when I try to tell myself something positive about me.
Edit: this was a long time ago I now understand what self love is and its only found in our Lord and saviour being born again allows us to see ourselves the way Jesus sees us he loved us so much he died for us thats the only real way you can learn to love yourself and others is through the love of Christ!
Me too, i start can't believe me when i talk to myself positively.
Wubba Lubba Dub Dub Pickle Rick Do it enough times and it might go away.
Same
Fake it till you make it.
@@GalaxyGal- That's brainwashing yourself.
I don't get it. I believe I can love and appreciate and care for others but I don't understand how to apply it on myself. There is nothing I like about myself.
You can only love others as much as you love yourself
I agree @Der John.. I can love others so much more
You need to understand yourself. You know other people aren’t perfect, but you know they are trying their best to navigate this difficult, confusing world. You can also realize this about yourself. Don’t hate yourself for the perfect person you could be, but love yourself for the broken, beautiful person you already are.
If you are kind to others, help someone at times of need, never hurt others intentionally, stand for the right cause, this makes you a good person. I believe these few reasons are enough for loving yourself. Once u start believing in yourself and start ignoring all the things you hate yourself for, you will find more things to love yourself for. It’s something like the saying, once you stop focusing on the bad things only good things persist. Your flaws and mistakes are what make you YOU. They’re stars that make up the constellation of you life. Without them how will you be yourself? If it seems difficult let’s take one step at a time. Even if you one reason to love yourself for, it’s okay. Keep going and one day you will have countless. All the best 👍🏻
Brain Supernova thank u even though wasn’t directed to me but I took something from your comment.
This is very important Ted talk. I recommend it to everyone. If you don't love yourself consciously, then you subconsciously start taking decision to self harm yourself even without knowing it. I have been there and can totally understand.
you don't have to love yourself to gain self-esteem. You can draw your motivation from people you look up to.
I totally can relate
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100% agree - Loving ourselves is the foundation to EVERYTHING that we achieve.
Yeah
What a tragic story of life until she was 37. I wish l could have been a friend to her. What a beautiful, confident woman she is. 💗💕🌸
Using food as a drug. Or not eating at all. Or exercising profusely. Or not taking care of myself at all.
I've never had a TED Talk speak so directly to me...
I was breaking down earlier. And i found this video. Thank you so much.
Twerking Penguins so was I just now. Yes this video was confiding
Summary: Learn to love yourself is the foundation of everything, of all relationships, the entire life. the better you care for yourself the better you care for everything which is going on in your life. Confidence, self-esteem, how we perceive ourselves, the foundation of our life. A cement foundation. When things happen to us we get chips and cracks in the foundation. As a kid I would run up at kids and say lets be friends and go on the slide. Father left at 6 month: Devastating effect, are self-absorbed, is there something wrong with us? What did I do wrong, was there something I did? School bullying, no one played with me except one. Fear of abandonment. Shaming. Set on fire in front of the school.
The catalyst for change: I am a girl trapped in a boy’s body, I need to be that girl, please understand, please help me. Please don’t be mad. Do everything to help through. Trans youth: high depression, self-harm, anxiety, bullying, low self-esteem, body image. I need to do more for this child. My daughter, who I love unconditionally, made me learn to love myself unconditionally. 1. Redefine my ideals of beauty. Often from magazine covers, 1 body type and look. I will never meet that. I had to change my criteria for beauty. Beauty is perspective based. To show her . It’s not just that the package, it comes from deep inside and flows outside. HOw i treat people when they need help. Do I smile at people, reach out. How I present myself, carry myself.
Better care of myself. Do things that should my self-love. I would do that for me, what I was doing for others (partner, child, friends). Put aside negative self-talk. This made my cracked wall stronger and healed them. I exercise, shopping. It made me stand taller, feel confident, stronger. Protect my body from injuries. Peace with my addictions, for nurturing and self-pleasing, balanced.
My daughter taught me love me. I did it for her. Until one day I realized I did a lot for me and I really do love myself. I gave her love and support and she gave me so much back. We are both doing so much better and we are growing and learning together. My job is to convince society to accept people exactly how they are. My instagram: sutercarlo
Thankyou
I understand English very well but I am unable to get anything out of the way you guys speak
So caption is must
This summary is longer than the talk itself
I love you. Finally, REAL talk: human, vulnerable and resilient.
I love me. I will love me. I will love me passionately and completely. I will fall in love with myself. And if I meet someone special, they will love me with me, and I will love them with them.
I love dis❤
I am like that too. I avoid mirrors and after my heart got broken. I started going to gym
enz librad You're unique and beautiful just the way you are. I know this sounds cheesy but it's true, the person who cares how you look isn't worth your time. Your personality is what makes you awesome.
I felt so down- I got bad scores and well my breakouts started to appear and I was very disappointed with me and my looks. My dad and mom tried making me feel better saying "no matter how bad you look, or whatever you do you're our little princess as usual." But I still feel bad- this sort of helped and I am alright- for now
Did you eventually stop to think?
You will be ok longer if you just slowly put more energy into loving yourself by treating people better and changing your view on beauty😊
Amazing story, you've overcome so much. Finding self love is a real struggle, thanks for sharing your story
Rachel Hearne,you are kind 🌹🌺
i think you create self love not find it but i agree with you
Oh hey, Mom.
Zxios oh hey, sis
your mom is cool.
Zxios and Amanda.
Champions.
Zxios you rock lady!
I just got diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and always disliked myself and who I am. Your mom's speech is very true to heart and uplifting.
This was so inspiring and motivating🥺💞 time to begin my self love journey❤️!
How are you now? I am just beginning
@@antrant7533 im doing better, actually thank you for asking! Lockdown has given me more time to work on myself!! I feel my self-love rising ❤❤ God bless you on your journey!
@@serenityalii7503 Thank you! Did you just have affirming thoughts? What was your process?
@@antrant7533 Actually strengthening myself in the mirror(ex:you are going to be ok, you are smart,etc),Writing my thoughts out in journals, being myself ,doing what makes me happy, ya know just embracing myself is helping💓💓
I am on my journey
What is that noise in the back? It's there someone building something?
One of the purest form of love is to always Love yourself❤️
I couldn't agree more. (:
But how does one love oneself?
What a terrible beginning to life you had, but I’m so glad you have managed to turn things around for you and your daughter. God bless
I started to think of myself as my own son and what I would push my son to do or learn if I were my own kid.
The light bulb just lit up in my head. This is such a great technique. Thank you!!
👏 this is meta
Is someone playing ping pong in the background? 🤦🏻♀️ The sound is super distracting.
My God what a brave strong incredible woman!! I'm on the journey of loving myself. Thanks for this!!
Idk how old this video is, but last year, I started to try and love myself and it's been hard, but at least I'm trying. This video helps, so thank you for uploading it. -I
People are so cruel.. you actually look beautiful!!! Thank you for sharing your story. It really resonated with me at: why would you take care of someone you don't care about.. hm.. good one.
Thank you! Social media makes us so sick..
It makes me smile to see that people are actually trying to love themselves because when you set a goal to do something and try to do it than you can surely achieve it. Sitting their and complaining that you already tried to love yourself isnt gonna do you any better. Hard work pays off and if you want to love yourself than you have to try and dont give up.
I went through the same I really hated myself. I slowly but surely started to love myself and to this day, im still learning but I can tell you that I am much better than before. If I learned how to love myself than I am 100% sure you can too.
You are beautiful the way you are and you shouldnt change yourself for anything, love yourself.
Everybody's journey is unique and their own 🙏
beauty is self love and honesty. It can be kindness and feeling happy. I noticed your dress right away, great.
I’m so proud of you I’m in tears
I cried so much watching this because i could relate so much to her childhood.. even tho it wasnt as extreme i just broke up with someone i really loved and I’m struggling to genuinely love myself
Sending all my love to you and your daughter, you truly inspire:)
Amen to this. Trying to work on myself and love myself because no one will love me quite like me.
Me tooo👍
I feel like this all the time. I don't buy stuff to myself, or i feel guilty if i do, because i feel like i don't deserve it. I feel that i'm being selfish and i should stop. I have few friends at school but they are all transferring to another school next year. I don't know what i'll do. I'll be all alone. I get anxiety attacks and regret everything i say. I came here searching help, and stumbled across to this. It was helpful, very important message. But even after this if i try to think differently, i feel like lying and it feels worse. I'm really lost.
You have to practice self love... reprogramm your mind. Write down some positive affirmations and read them daily few times a day. In 21-30 days you ll be another person! You can do this!
You do deserve things because your a human and anyone can become better towards others practice doing things for yourself and practice not feeling guilty about it because nobody should feel guilt. Then you can slowly start becoming less selfish... everyone can make improvements and thats why everyone (including selfish people) deserve a chance. You got this!😊😁
then you wont be nice to others because your doing it try to improve yourself (which is selfish) and You will feel better about yourself which makes you do nice things for people because genuinly care about others. This is reproggraming your sub concious mind so you will not be selfish anymore once you start taking action
^i dont know if this is write because maybe practicing doing things for other people starts off as an action for yourself and then by you keep doing things for other people makes you care and become less selfish because doing things for other people makes you feel less selfish so you start loving yourself and then you start doing things for others because you genuinly care. I think either way works really just do the one you feel is best for you
🦋love is the greatest thing a person can achieve- heck it’s a commandment after all
Thank you to everyone who is willing to love them selves no matter what, because if you love yourself love follows you everywhere you go
loving yourself is giving yourself the best treatment ever and achieving our own goal what we want with all of our might.
Thank you for giving and sharing this Ted talk. It’s so uplifting for those who have been bullied and abused. Much respect to you and you are such a beautiful human in and out. I love the way you speak. Know that you are appreciated.
Ya know, I looked up "Ted talks about how to love myself" and this came up. I knew that I didnt really love myself, and that's why I looked it up. This video really made me realize that the fact though that I looked it up period shows that I do care about myself to some extent. I'm going to look even deeper into that feeling. Thank you! 💖🤗
Its beautiful that you realized you needed to see your own worth in order to show your daughter how to love herself. Growing confidence is harder than it seems and it is pure love to share that with someone else. Thanks for your story. All the love in the world to you and your family. xo
McKenzie West I love you
Loving yourself-what exactly does it mean is confusing, yet I can sense when people are insecure
im telling you kids and teens can be cruel to each other too
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve been feeling insecure and have forgotten to love myself in all ways that I am. Beautiful message. Thank you so much.
Thanks for the message, this is exactly what I need right now x
Such beautiful words. Thank you for sharing your precious experiences with us!
I love every single moment of this speech I love her a lot.
Thank you Amanda 💚💗💚
( Also don't listen to this while doing your makeup, your tears will ruin it. )
Thank god i had a waterproof eyeliner on me 😭😭😭😢😢
This is wonderful. Thank you so much. This helped me out sooo much.
Thank you for posting this talk. I hear ones like this often but have a hard time relating to someone's story. However, I relate to yours in many ways. If you can do it, then there is a lot of hope for me. I am 25 and finally realizing that everything that I have gone through, is not my fault...which is really hard to accept but I know that when I fully accept that, it will set me free. I have a lot of work to do. Thanks for helping me along the way. This is the first thing I woke up to this morning.
Getting better everyday with loving myself it’s hard when we set certain expectations for ourselves and we fail at them, we often get discouraged, and scared to try to again but we must continue to work on ourselves to better ourselves life creates experiences that help us get better
Your dress looks beautiful on you x
you are such a beautiful person..
We can't help but love you upon hearing your story.
I really relate to her experience. Unfortunately I still haven't figured out how to love myself even though lord knows I've tried.
Michael Collier why is anyone else more lovable than you? We start out the same, born as human babies so why can’t we achieve the same? We deserve just as much as anyone else LOVE, RESPECT, and HOPE
Wow. I’m speechless. This was nothing less than amazing.
you are an amazing mother & woman. thank you for this
My perception of beauty is clarity and strength
I was set on fire in high school. I was the smartest girl in my chemistry class and they thought to set me on fire with the Bunsen burner. I understand.
That is awful - I hope they were punished for their sadistic actions
Mu Bu they got two days after school detention. My parents filled criminal charges. And I just ran into one of them after not seeing them since 2001 and she physically hit me.
Rachel West i’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been put through that. that’s awful. sending love your way 💛
Loving ourselves is one of the hardest thing to do. We seek validation in unlikely places that we forget our first love; Jesus, and with Jesus he will teach us how to love ourselves. God made everything good but we listen to what the world say about our image or about anything Trust God... I know because I was once that person listening to worldly stuff. Reading the word has helped me to love myself and allows time alone with God. Perfect peace.
Your story was inspirational. Thank you for sharing!!!
Thank you Amanda for your empowering message.
What a fantastic Tedx Talk! Amanda, I think that you have hit the nail on the head with so many issues we all tend to have with ourselves and some stage in our lives. I hope you beautiful daughter is doing well and loving her life. Thank you.
So beautiful and heart touching...thanx for sharing...
God Bless You, thanks for sharing such an amazing story and inspired me
Wow thank you for sharing your story with us. I can relate nice to know I was never along. xx
Marcel Godfrey aa
It's truths and life like this which inspire us and thrive to love us
One of the best TED talks I've ever seen!
This is so brave and amazing. Thank you!!
Tnank you so much to everyone who has a role in the making of this video.That video was all i needed and it was so powerful and important for me to hear it out 🤍🤍🤍
What a beautiful person to share such a difficult story! U r such an inspiration! Hugs to u And give your daughter the biggest hug! ❤️ Good luck to u both! I know u found the key is loving yourself because u just glow!!!!! U look fantastic!!!!! Hope I can learn from u! Thank u!!!
Beautiful..well said.. You help me. God bless u and ur family. Much love
I too have experienced many of the same things (other than being set on fire, that's horrible. I'm sorry you had to go thru that) I trying to learn how to live myself at 37. Unfortunately I really have no idea what love feels like. So i'm guessing.
It can be simple kind gestures too your self if you have ig follow @mentalemotionalwellness
Very inspirational and motivating! You’re a wonderful person!! Thank you for sharing!
this rlly helped me. i’ve been feeling lost lately and have hated my body more than ever.
Thank you so much for your help and wise words. You’ve really helped the way I think a lot ❤️ made things make sense
Your a such a courageous and brave inspirational lady bless you and thank you
Thank you for speaking. Really trying to figure out how to love myself bit by bit.
Thank you for your story
Thank you Amanda. God bless u
Beautiful message. God bless you
Beautiful speech. Much love.
Awesome message! I believe everyone should love their self for who they are and embrace their own uniqueness! I'm so proud of your daughter for having the courage to to come forward instead of being scared to be who she is. Props to you for being so accepting! Too bad other parents could not unconditionally accept and love their children for who they are. At 42 years old I've started to love and accept myself for who I am. I'm very sorry for the pain and hurt you endured early on.
truly ma'am you are such an inspiration may god bless you with success and health
Thank you so much❤ You are beautiful mother of beautiful daughter.
This video came to my life the moment i really needed it ❤️ thank you!
Emily Gasparova I’m in your life at a good time too
Thank you very much for sharing this with us.
she is beautiful and I'm learning to love myself
I needed this. Thank you
So happy for you that you found love within❤
yo i'm balling my eyes out watching this
i know that all my live, i lived and i will live with myself. I prefer to be my best friend and love myself
She is such a beautiful person :) Thank you for the talk!
loving the beauty inside ourselves. everyones beauty is different.may be better to focus on the inside than outside.
very honest, very powerful because of it, and so profound and articulate. thank you.
I love this!
Listening to this in valentines
wow I really needed this
I feel like I’m so different and don’t fit wit people and don’t hold conversations long . Also, I’m paranoid and kinda quiet in class sum I jus breakdown and cry😪 but this video did kinda help a lil.
Very good story! Thanks resonates with me.
Thank you for giving me the strength
Beautiful speech. I really enjoyed this!