Why The No Contact Rule Works!

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  • Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024

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  • @NotYourTypicalMermaid94
    @NotYourTypicalMermaid94 4 года назад +891

    I want to give everyone a hug in the comment section here. We are all going through it.

  • @bobbydigits88
    @bobbydigits88 5 лет назад +723

    Give those who don’t appreciate your presence, the gift of your absence.

    • @Tony90277
      @Tony90277 4 года назад +15

      That is such a beautiful saying.

    • @lizxu322
      @lizxu322 4 года назад +9

      Wow that's so eloquently put.

    • @GoldLeafPress
      @GoldLeafPress 2 года назад +1

      Hahahaha idk why but your comment reminds me of “if you can’t handle me during my diddleness you can’t support me through my doodlynes”🤣🤣🤣

    • @harolddasynth795
      @harolddasynth795 Год назад

      I like this

  • @paradiseisland3352
    @paradiseisland3352 5 лет назад +1120

    No contact is still communicating, it’s sending you’re ex a very powerful message, that you’ve accepted him or her request to break up, and it’s ok with you, even though you’re at home crying your eyes out

    • @jetclntn
      @jetclntn 5 лет назад +14

      Michell Joseph
      Yes it’s been a month since she left me a voicemail saying she wants to be friends without any intimacy. She also said she understood if I didn’t return her call. I did not return it but now it’s been a month and still waiting

    • @isiscastillo1690
      @isiscastillo1690 5 лет назад +4

      jetclntn do you have an update

    • @Solus_Invicta
      @Solus_Invicta 5 лет назад +21

      @@jetclntn still waiting.....look i was with her for 2 years,i respected her,in my city a lot of people look at her like queen because of me,i gave her everything,i was romantic like noone else towards his gf,4 days ago she told me that she is cold,she dont want me,i tried to talk try to figure out something.she refuses,ok i tried again,again nothing,so i decide to continue my life without her,she wants that,she is loser,she losing something,not me...so dont wait....live life...enjoy in every day,those who leave us,they will come back, one day,in my case,i decide to be cold when that day comes

    • @stefanmolejo4578
      @stefanmolejo4578 5 лет назад +4

      That's *real talk*

    • @darcilyles6542
      @darcilyles6542 5 лет назад +2

      @@jetclntn its only been a little over week ..so uncertain of he will contact me

  • @robertwormald1865
    @robertwormald1865 3 года назад +269

    One of two things happens from no contact every single time. 1) they come back 2) you find someone better... So no contact is a win win situation. There's nothing to fear. Be gentle with yourself and you will win the day in time.

    • @Sihara.Liyanapathirana
      @Sihara.Liyanapathirana 2 года назад

      Thank you

    • @michaeljohn1474
      @michaeljohn1474 2 года назад

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    • @Chris-ey7zy
      @Chris-ey7zy Год назад +7

      3 things. You become a stronger person

    • @hotshot5072
      @hotshot5072 Год назад +2

      Absolutely well said, its a win because the dumper has to reinvent the wheel and experiment with a new person, and the world is not all that green and beautiful with just anyone.

    • @Photo-ms1mo
      @Photo-ms1mo Год назад

      So is dumpee unfortunately

  • @jeremyanderson3615
    @jeremyanderson3615 5 лет назад +393

    I was so close to breaking no contact, and boom she hits me up first. It really does work

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 лет назад +64

      Way to go Jeremy!

    • @miasandholdt
      @miasandholdt 5 лет назад +2

      Jeremy Anderson Update?😊

    • @jeremyanderson3615
      @jeremyanderson3615 5 лет назад +53

      Mia We’ve been steady seeing each other about once a week, and to top it off she’s the one initiating to see me now! Makes me realize my past mistakes texting constantly in between dates

    • @miasandholdt
      @miasandholdt 5 лет назад +5

      Jeremy Anderson Yay!😊

    • @bryanarroza2526
      @bryanarroza2526 5 лет назад +2

      Jeremy Anderson right on

  • @christiankoch-azeke4853
    @christiankoch-azeke4853 4 года назад +392

    No contact works. I was 100% faithful and supportive during our 5 year relationship. Being a little older than her made it easy for me to avoid the bull shit and focus on building a future for us. She got a new job and decided to explore other possibilities outside of our relationship, I.e. her male co-worker . We broke up Dec 10 and only saw each other one time for me to pick up my things on Dec 17.I’ve been practicing no contact during this time. Now it’s Jan 7 and she texted me last night with this, “you were everything, I lost everything”.
    All you can do to survive a one-sided break up is to CONTROL YOURSELF. You’re going to have so many emotions and feel a lot of heartache but stand up for YOURSELF and don’t chase.

  • @powerlifting85
    @powerlifting85 4 года назад +226

    She reached out after over 4 months of no contact. We met up in person today and she admitted to being in love with me and lots of other deep things. You gotta stay the course and work on your career, fitness, and mental health. I never thought i'd hear from her again and out of nowhere, right when i'd given up, here she is. telling me she loves me, misses me. apologizing. trust no contact.

  • @mightyapostolic
    @mightyapostolic 3 года назад +153

    it brings me peace to know that i’m not going through it by myself. love you guys, we got this.

  • @aaronmaloney8282
    @aaronmaloney8282 6 лет назад +302

    It's almost reverse psychology,

  • @MohammedYounis-w6h
    @MohammedYounis-w6h 3 года назад +35

    No contact doesn't only work in romantic relationships. It literally works the same with friends who take you for granted or don't respect your boundaries

  • @razor2ts
    @razor2ts 5 лет назад +217

    Hi coach Lee, I've been in no contact for a few weeks now, I think around 5 or 6, my ex reached out a couple of times but I never felt the urge to reply, she wanted to stay Friends and still hang out after we broke up, I turned her down flat, to sum it up I've watched a lot of your videos, met my ex yesterday after she reached out at the week end, we spent a full day out walking laughing together sharing good times again, last night we talked, got some truths out from both sides, basically we lacked talking before our break up. We've now agreed to start dating again :-) both going slow with each other. She was very impressed on how I looked and came across, I've been hitting the gym, eating well, new clothes, feeling good in myself, thank you for all the help and advice you have given me, still going to watch your video's I have a lot to learn, I'm feeling great again after an awful few months :-)
    What I got from your videos is: How to control myself, how to get my confidence back and that I was ready to move on without my ex, but didn't have to in the end.

    • @arsjth
      @arsjth 5 лет назад +3

      congratulations razor2ts. very glad for you and thanks for sharing so that others can believe its successful

    • @Longbyname
      @Longbyname 5 лет назад +2

      Congratulations. I really hope it all pans out for you. I’m glad it’s worked for someone.

    • @karlcast4882
      @karlcast4882 5 лет назад +2

      Thanks for sharing your story it's giving me some hope and encouragement

    • @mura0
      @mura0 5 лет назад +1

      nice to hear man. I hope you are still together now.

    • @jacksonrodrigues7533
      @jacksonrodrigues7533 5 лет назад

      Lucky you

  • @lalisasmr
    @lalisasmr 6 лет назад +201

    I've been in NC for nearly 1 month. Nothing has changed and it still sucks. But I understand the importance and that's what keeps me going.

  • @erickjaydejesus2765
    @erickjaydejesus2765 6 лет назад +274

    Thank you for pushing us to stick with no contact, i was feeling hopeless thanks for encouraging us again and again :')

  • @davidbarley6653
    @davidbarley6653 4 года назад +47

    Remember one thing you came in this universe alone and will go alone .

  • @momentsinminutes4032
    @momentsinminutes4032 4 года назад +61

    No Contact works! My ex didn`t even last a week until she reached out! Even in past relationships, even after I did everything, and I mean everything, wrong, my first girlfriend still came back after a month of No Contact. Have discipline, be patient, and work on yourself in the meantime. LISTEN CAREFULLY to Coach Lee`s advice!

    • @sadiqmuhammad5335
      @sadiqmuhammad5335 2 года назад

      My ex returned ☝☝with the help of Dr osara ☝a gifted spiritualist who can mend any broken relationships and restore your lost marriage in as little as 79 hours I strongly advise you to seek help from him,

    • @sadiqmuhammad5335
      @sadiqmuhammad5335 2 года назад

      +12122028243⏭️⏭️⏭️
      Hello it's works I can't believe,,,

  • @brunaa.7069
    @brunaa.7069 Год назад +5

    My ex broke up with me three months ago. I did everything wrong after that. I begged and pleaded and cried for weeks. One day I decided I was tired to be in that situation and went no contact. He reached out to me after exactly 1 month saying how sorry he was for things he did. I was in disbelief because he is a severe DA. At this point I am not sure if I want to reconcile, I feel emotionally stronger and worked very hard to rebuild my self worth. I just came here to thank coach Lee. You are so comforting and yet so realistic about breakups. I’ve learned tons from your videos, I’ll never see relationships the same way.

  • @thesurvivalist.
    @thesurvivalist. 6 лет назад +172

    Been 12 days no contact, and she came back today, and started talking again and being nice. Going to see what happens, let her come back to me on her own, Just like when a cat come back to you when you stop trying to make them do what you want.

    • @s2h995
      @s2h995 6 лет назад +14

      The Survivalist another analogy is under watering or over watering the plant.. in my case I overwatered . No contact equals dry out

    • @kratosbear316
      @kratosbear316 6 лет назад +2

      So what happened? I'm on day 12 of no contact. She hasn't reached out all.

    • @thesurvivalist.
      @thesurvivalist. 6 лет назад +4

      She is still acting strange, she came in my store, last week a week ago, I have not seen her since Monday, I have not tried to talk to her.
      She knows when I work so why come around when you know I will be there? Even when she came in a briefly looked at her, then went in the back before he end of my shift a few minutes later.

    • @kratosbear316
      @kratosbear316 6 лет назад +3

      @@thesurvivalist. good luck brother. This pain sucks and draining.

    • @thesurvivalist.
      @thesurvivalist. 6 лет назад +3

      @@kratosbear316 The cat and mouse game get old quick, sometimes I think they just get joy from rejecting men!

  • @kadiehunte6124
    @kadiehunte6124 2 года назад +39

    This made my cry..... I'm definitely pulling away...
    No contact...
    But mainly for myself.
    To gain back my strength ❤❤❤

  • @joaofilipegoncalves9849
    @joaofilipegoncalves9849 3 года назад +26

    As Bruce Lee said "That is a huge difference between doing nothing and stay quiet". Keep calm guys we got this!!!

  • @amymitchell1054
    @amymitchell1054 Год назад +12

    Coach Lee is so right about everything. During this heartache I’am experiencing if I didn’t have this positive reinforcement I would crumble.

  • @readmelancholystrumpetmaster
    @readmelancholystrumpetmaster 5 лет назад +41

    I did it for 55 days and then she contacted me exactly how he said "Hey Mike, Just wanted to see how you're doing." Now he needs to make a video on the dynamic of the dumped person healing over time at the same time the dumper gets more desperate. He talks a lot about how the tables turn for the dumper but does not explain well how the dumped person gets stronger each day until they are in the position of power.

  • @monicaleond
    @monicaleond 6 лет назад +100

    You have the most hypnotic eyes and beautiful voice ever. I already forgot my ex.

    • @sharamrock2580
      @sharamrock2580 5 лет назад +1

      Mónica León hahah

    • @TheCc064
      @TheCc064 5 лет назад +2

      He's extremely handsome. I watch the videos more for Lee and not my ex

    • @Kiteattackkilo
      @Kiteattackkilo 4 года назад +2

      LMAO

    • @ach4049
      @ach4049 4 года назад

      Hahahahahaahah

    • @loveurheart
      @loveurheart 3 года назад

      @@TheCc064 seems like that’s why y’all got exes. Shallow

  • @johnh8780
    @johnh8780 4 года назад +49

    It's important to know that the longer your relationship was, the longer it takes for no contact to work.

    • @metalox88
      @metalox88 3 года назад

      Good point

    • @sadiqmuhammad5335
      @sadiqmuhammad5335 2 года назад

      My ex returned ☝☝with the help of Dr osara ☝a gifted spiritualist who can mend any broken relationships and restore your lost marriage in as little as 79 hours I strongly advise you to seek help from him,,

    • @sadiqmuhammad5335
      @sadiqmuhammad5335 2 года назад

      +12122028243⏭️⏭️⏭️
      Hello it's works I can't believe,,,,

    • @dcarley1339
      @dcarley1339 2 года назад +1

      Why ??

    • @beastlyboi1294
      @beastlyboi1294 2 года назад +8

      @@dcarley1339 probably because the longer the relationship the longer the time it takes you and an ex to get over it, or at least go through the relief, curiosity, panick, and desperation fazes before wanting u back.

  • @diamond13130
    @diamond13130 6 лет назад +118

    Broke no contact after exactly one month. I regret it to the max. Started again today and determined not to make that mistake again! God I need more of Coach Lee in my life! Keeping me in line! Thank you.

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 5 лет назад +53

      Update!!! I broke no contact the day after Christmas and we are back together again and happy!!

    • @canerkaya2224
      @canerkaya2224 5 лет назад +2

      @@diamond13130 Congrats bro.

    • @EJayyDreadHead
      @EJayyDreadHead 5 лет назад +1

      @@diamond13130 congrats bro!

    • @diegokillfun8122
      @diegokillfun8122 4 года назад +1

      @Ajet J Update?!

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 4 года назад +7

      Podcasts by Aggy Drake Still together and very happy!! Our relationship is much better than it was before the breakup. Thank you for asking!!

  • @Dad_Brad
    @Dad_Brad 5 лет назад +46

    Some women say all we men think about and all we men want is sex, we’re not faithful, etc. That isn’t necessarily true. We have feelings too. Matter of fact we can fall in love with a woman, be faithful and then get dumped and not even be able to care about sex or any other women for months and months if not a year or longer in many cases. Life ain’t no joke.

    • @Nimbus3690
      @Nimbus3690 2 года назад +4

      omg that's literally me right now. No desire to date and I barely get aroused by other women now

    • @brandonohara4122
      @brandonohara4122 2 года назад

      Facts

    • @brandonohara4122
      @brandonohara4122 2 года назад

      @@Nimbus3690 how's it going brotha?

    • @Nimbus3690
      @Nimbus3690 2 года назад +1

      @@brandonohara4122 I'm doing much better now, I feel like dating again but I don't really have any prospects

    • @brandonohara4122
      @brandonohara4122 2 года назад

      @@Nimbus3690 glad you're doing better
      Dating and relationships are rough bro. Some people I know meet "the one" when they're like 20 years old and it's like damn all my relationships last about a year. Shit sucks

  • @MissRegina79
    @MissRegina79 3 года назад +7

    You have no idea how much your videos have helped me… because when he left me I didn’t think I could survive the pain I was feeling… but you have been a life line for me Coach Lee. Thank you for saving me😘

  • @signsignsign74
    @signsignsign74 2 года назад +5

    I wish there were more Coach Lee videos like this where you just tell it straight with assertiveness.

  • @brandonrobertkersjes
    @brandonrobertkersjes 24 дня назад +1

    I simply kept texting my ex gf for approximately 3 days, as I was dumped after a year over text. She tried to act like I was a “crazy ex” for simply texting her. I didn’t call, and I definitely didn’t show up anywhere. She’ll probably never reach out to me, because that’s how she sees me, but it’s not who I am. Also, my texts were all nice and loving, not mean or threatening at all. Smh

  • @ifeomaoragwu1230
    @ifeomaoragwu1230 6 лет назад +32

    Thank you Coach Lee. I love your analysis and your coaching. It's direct and realistic ....and sometimes laden with humour ... with the very serious talk and straaaaight face. Lol... been watching you for 2months now. I'm obviously feeling better and lighter than I first did back then. I've done strict NC for 2months.. He's reached out once to know how I'm doing and occasionally looks at my status update messages. I still hope we reconcile but I'm happy to move on if we don't. Time , Coaching and NC have helped me regain my dignity, peace and self worth. Many thanks Coach Lee.

  • @hollydrucker5360
    @hollydrucker5360 5 лет назад +20

    I made the mistake of trusting every word that came out of my ex boyfriends mouth and that was a mistake. Always put yourself first and the rest of the relationships you have in your life will fall in to place. Coach Lee is right no contact and working on yourself is what I am doing now. and if he does not come back its his loss not mine.. for I am the better for that too!

  • @danthomas2146
    @danthomas2146 5 лет назад +18

    This is the best, most concise explanation of the no contact rule I've heard.

  • @claires1957
    @claires1957 5 лет назад +37

    OK, this is the last video of yours I’ll watch, cause I literally watched every single one!

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 лет назад +24

      lol, you know I do more, right?

    • @shripadsawant1756
      @shripadsawant1756 4 года назад +3

      @@RealCoachLee keep going you motivate me so much❤️✨

  • @kasiakasia8122
    @kasiakasia8122 5 лет назад +34

    12 days no contact!!! I love your videos they are keeping me going and making me a
    stronger person (even when I miss him so much😆) thank you 😊

    • @nisalema
      @nisalema 5 лет назад

      Kasia Kasia how are you now??

    • @sweetcandy9174
      @sweetcandy9174 2 года назад

      i hope you're fine be strong please

  • @ahmedbilal8374
    @ahmedbilal8374 5 лет назад +46

    Thank you for making me a stable person again coach lee

  • @Owennevulis
    @Owennevulis Год назад +6

    Coach Lee, from the bottom of my heart even if she doesn’t come back to me and if I find someone better, binge watching your videos and going through your emergency breakup kit makes me a stronger person. Working on bettering myself everyday and taking care of my own self needs and life and having faith in myself to further improve my future makes me just feel so much better about myself. God bless you man, I appreciate your work more than anything, thank you ♥️

  • @DfromBoston
    @DfromBoston 6 лет назад +38

    Just got into an argument with my ex. She told me to leave her alone and that she knows it won't affect me which is bullshit. I took you advice and took the mature route and didn't even respond to it. Hey! You don't want me around? Fine! You got it! It's been a few days since we spoke and I'm not contacting her.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  6 лет назад +32

      Drksms, way to show strength, dignity, class, attractiveness, and self respect! You sir, are behaving like a real man!

    • @DfromBoston
      @DfromBoston 6 лет назад +4

      Thanks bro! She'll reach reach out, especially since I'm doing something different instead of arguing with her.

    • @s2h995
      @s2h995 6 лет назад +4

      Coach Lee NC worked after a 1.5 days. For me. She reached out. But it is me who testin the waters now takinit slow.. much better for both of us

  • @anasahmed1784
    @anasahmed1784 2 года назад +8

    I've been in NC for 39 days. Nothing is changed and it still sucks. But I understand and that's what keeps me going.

    • @jacqui8392
      @jacqui8392 2 года назад +1

      How are things looking for you now? Xx

  • @CJ-dx1oh
    @CJ-dx1oh 4 года назад +10

    no matter what happens coach Lee you reassure me that things will be ok and i’ll be strong

  • @johnyrynjah184
    @johnyrynjah184 5 лет назад +42

    Silence Screams.

  • @gorrilablackjack2813
    @gorrilablackjack2813 6 лет назад +52

    coach I begged for about a week ...I was about one text or a phone call every four days then I manned up and said NO MORE BEGGING.I absolutely had to go into her job to pick a order up that i orderec before the break up .Its been about one month and she hasn't contacted me..Somedays are easy some are hard but I WILL NEVER BREAK NO CONTACT AGAIN...I WILL NEVER BEGG AGAIN.I HOPE SHE FORGETS THE BEGGING ME AND REMEMBERS THE NEW NO CONTACT ME!

  • @joanneblaize3310
    @joanneblaize3310 3 года назад +4

    I was very doubtful at first n was scared to loose him but this worked after 10 months. Its real folks and i am the happiest woman today.

  • @mikz33
    @mikz33 Год назад +3

    i have 3 favorite coaches, coach lee, coach craig kenneth and the late coach margarette... thanks for putting these videos here out for free for people like me who cant afford therapies coz it helps a lot! more power!!! ❤

  • @meoshaarnold9497
    @meoshaarnold9497 6 лет назад +47

    I love the way you keep it real coach lee straightforward and very honest!

  • @phil692
    @phil692 Год назад +3

    Coach Lee is a life saver, he takes a lot of the pain away from the heart. I'm at 22 days of no contact and I'm not sure if I want my ex back because I've had to do no contact several times in this relationship throughout the years. May be time for a change.. No contact is mostly for myself now.

  • @paolanamuncura8879
    @paolanamuncura8879 2 года назад +5

    Thank you so much coach lee. So accurate! Just wanted to add that also, the fact that you stay silent makes it seem like you have other options!

  • @kelso1286
    @kelso1286 5 лет назад +9

    Coach Lee is telling us all off 😂
    💜 he's on our side!
    I'm meant to be upset still in NC. This is entertaining me now. My moods are changing like the wind !

  • @tianasharpe67
    @tianasharpe67 4 года назад +62

    I found someone better and the ex came back after three months lol

  • @christinewatson1989
    @christinewatson1989 4 года назад +2

    These videos take my mood from sobbing, about to call my ex to strong, hopeful, and resilient in under 10 min.

  • @calendulapulsatilla4594
    @calendulapulsatilla4594 4 года назад +8

    Hi Coach Lee! You're a genius! It's said that patience is a virtue, well that can apply to the no contact rule too. Just be patient, harbor no malice, simply be as genuine and optimistic as possible with common sense and when she contacts, which she did, she sees the freshness of one who is deeper and has thought it out. Thanks ! You're a talented guy! All the best from a Scotsman.

  • @passportbrother
    @passportbrother 2 года назад +3

    Guys/Girls. As long as you were not abusive or did something completely unforgivable IT... WILL... WORK... My Ex lasted two weeks (It felt longer). I know the turnaround for many of you will longer (some much longer). But if you disappear THEY WILL WONDER AND THEY WILL REACH OUT! Put some time in between the two of you and the pain. If you reach out while the pain is fresh, you will just bring them more pain. Allow their emotions to settle and the fond memories will return and take over. Trust his message :) You will be ok!

  • @zainnelson1074
    @zainnelson1074 3 года назад +7

    Coach Lee you don’t know how much your videos have saved me. Thanks for everything

  • @mahbuburrahmanshanto7905
    @mahbuburrahmanshanto7905 5 лет назад +9

    I'm not sure whether I want her back or not but no contact rule really helps me in overcoming this pain of break up.

  • @corinamaria6072
    @corinamaria6072 2 года назад +4

    It didn't work for me to bring him back but it did help me reflect and realize that he was an as*hole. I am glad that he didn't come back at that stage when I was very emotional and probably I would have received him back. Good luck to everyone, please be strong and know your value ❤️

  • @jacksonrodrigues7533
    @jacksonrodrigues7533 5 лет назад +12

    I watch these videos and listen to the song “I will survive” all the time

  • @mirandaschumann5261
    @mirandaschumann5261 6 лет назад +52

    People people. Listen to me. I would say. Say what u want to say to the person. Get it out. In a vulernable way. Not a angry way. Just genuine. Then when they reject u from there. Its much easier to let go. Thats what i did. And i really dont care at all

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 6 лет назад +5

      Miranda Schumann I just did the same damn thing and you are right! I feel so much better and blocked his ass and told him to never contact me again because he was just hurting me with his bs. Now we’ll see where the chips fall when he finds out that I’m dead serious this time. Blocked!! Come find me bitch. Done!

    • @mirandaschumann5261
      @mirandaschumann5261 6 лет назад +9

      I think u will know u have done the right thing. When u have peace after. Not anger

    • @mirandaschumann5261
      @mirandaschumann5261 6 лет назад +7

      U will be obsessed until u get out what ur holding back. Sometime s u gotta say it first. Before u can let it go

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 6 лет назад +1

      Miranda Schumann Absolutely and I did just that.

    • @mirandaschumann5261
      @mirandaschumann5261 6 лет назад +2

      Cool good job

  • @kavanaroy3484
    @kavanaroy3484 2 года назад +4

    This is officially my morning pep talk video!

  • @lush1276
    @lush1276 4 года назад +5

    No contact worked. After 6 months he did reach out and apologied.. I was slowly getting over him and His letter had me in tears. But I respect him and even tho I doubted myself I now know that it wasn't me.. I thanked him for helping me to heal.

  • @stvrshlp
    @stvrshlp Год назад +2

    It’s been 6 months already and my mind is tricking me. I’m reading our last conversation and I feel like there was no real reason for a break up. I scroll up and I’m convincing myself it was a huge mistake. But then I realize I’m missing the essence, the emotional state I was into before I decided that it’s enough of me. We had our first date on 29 of May and I said good bye on May 29 two years later. What a coincidence!
    Sometimes I feel regret and I want everything back, right before the moment I start remembering what led to this break up. Don’t let your memories trick you! Be grateful for the experience and move on. The further is always better

  • @FerG_MD
    @FerG_MD 4 года назад +7

    Day 25 of NC. Whenever I feel the urge to contact him, I would watch coach Lee’s videos and would feel better and strong. I got dumped 2 mos. ago. I begged, pleaded and pursued him for a month , to no avail. He said he still loves me but the last 3 arguments we had was so traumatic that everyone around him suffers. This is our 2nd break up. The first one was last year, and I was the one who dumped him. He came back in day 45 , begged, pleaded and forgave him.
    I hope this 2nd time around would still work. Praying for everyone here wallowing in pain 🙏🏻❤️ we’ll get better....

    • @Daniel-fb1qd
      @Daniel-fb1qd 4 года назад +2

      FerG_MD 0924 I’m happy for you and that’s awesome he came back. I’m on day 15 of the no contact rule but she’s already seeing someone else and is going on dates with him. I’m staying strong but its really hard to see what’s happening. I still going to continue no contact but I’m very scared I’ve lost her. Will she even miss me? Will she come back? I know there is a chance she won’t come back but how can someone erase 14 years of being together.i am making steps to better myself by joining a gym(I’ve gotten into much better shape), reconnecting with friends and family, but it’s hard when I’m in school full time. I believe by changing and graduating and becoming more than myself will bring her back but that’ll take months. And by then I fear I will completely lose her. Also our 12 year marriage anniversary is coming up in middle October, should I break no contact and ask for coffee or let her reach out or leave it alone and let nothing happen?

    • @gaoang3391
      @gaoang3391 4 года назад +1

      The same we broke up 2 months ago , today is day 11 on NC , it’s rough af , I broke NC half months ago to ask if he left me because of someone due to his instagram picture, he said no and I also asked so the truth is you dont love me anymore then he replied I don’t love you anymore 😪😪😪, I called him again after 3 days he was nice to me like a friend but later went cold .. but he still asked is the problem solved after i dropped message to him , I answered his question and he wrote me back again said he feels better that I’m ok now
      After that I went to NC again , 😑😑😑 I’m going on this forever till he write me again

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      My ex returned ☝☝with the help of Dr osara ☝a gifted spiritualist who can mend any broken relationships and restore your lost marriage in as little as 79 hours I strongly advise you to seek help from him,,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      +12122028243⏭️⏭️⏭️
      Hello it's works I can't believe,,,,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      What Sapp him now,

  • @brandonrobertkersjes
    @brandonrobertkersjes 24 дня назад +1

    I wish my ex was a math problem. Instead, she’s a psychology example…

  • @chrisphalen5224
    @chrisphalen5224 5 лет назад +29

    This helped me get my ex back plus prayer.

    • @chrisphalen5224
      @chrisphalen5224 5 лет назад +5

      I also wanted to add that my situation was very complicated. This was a Long distance relationship, me from fla , her from wisconsin.On top of that she has ptsd, God can work miracles, with the proper held from coach lee videos, they work people. Believe have faith.

    • @joeblow7740
      @joeblow7740 5 лет назад

      @@chrisphalen5224 I've been praying every day...for over four months now. :(

    • @DLow1
      @DLow1 5 лет назад +5

      Joe Blow the bible says ask and you shall receive. After you pray for it, believe that it is already yours, and it will be yours. Pray once and let go and just believe it’s happening even tho it might not seem to be, God hears you :)

  • @mauricelivingston2811
    @mauricelivingston2811 4 года назад +3

    Did NC for a couple of weeks, broke after she needed to get ALL OF HER THINGS that she left after the break up. Tried to make it work but she wasn’t having it. Basically told her today that I thank her for everything and wished her the best and all she says is “oh thanks” so I officially started right after that. I’ll give you guys updates every week.

    • @mauricelivingston2811
      @mauricelivingston2811 4 года назад +7

      She reached out about some “paper work” got back into talking and playing it low key. She still brings up old stuff but I just move passed it. She still says she loves me and all this other stuff but still claims to be hurt so I’m going back into NC. I feel I’m healing day by day whether we talk or not so I think I’ll focus on me and forget about her for a while

  • @C_MightyKing
    @C_MightyKing 5 лет назад +10

    Hey coach lee, thanks for giving me hope in a rough time i have been having. I was recently friendzoned by a girl i really liked for a year and it hurt me a lot. I have been doing no contact for almost 2 weeks now and i have never felt more happier! Im doing things to work on myself like going to the gym, learning, and in five days i will be running a triathalon. Thanks for the advice coach lee, it really helps. 👍

  • @minhta2758
    @minhta2758 3 года назад +2

    My fiance just dumped me yesterday, and this video saves my life.

  • @kratosbear316
    @kratosbear316 6 лет назад +41

    Day 20 of no contact. This is killing me! She has not reached out at all. I am losing hope 😭😭😭😭

    • @Ayoooo99-p3m
      @Ayoooo99-p3m 5 лет назад +5

      Update

    • @kratosbear316
      @kratosbear316 5 лет назад +29

      @@Ayoooo99-p3m we are still together.

    • @kelso1286
      @kelso1286 5 лет назад +3

      @@kratosbear316 what happened? I'm day 12 :( I like this message. It's the first one I've seen positive like this.

    • @kratosbear316
      @kratosbear316 5 лет назад +8

      @@kelso1286 we are still together. You need to be strong and every day will get better.

    • @kevinsoto1112
      @kevinsoto1112 5 лет назад +2

      Simba Cat thanks for the positive update! I hope I can get her back.

  • @blumenthol
    @blumenthol 3 года назад +9

    I can tell you, getting dumped is some hard times. In my army years, I knew more than one man who killed himself over getting dumped - so that is how serious this can be. It's no slight matter for many. I think the advice from Coach Lee is very good. I find myself asking myself - if I have to 'play games' to get her to come back; is she really worth it? I guess I am going to find out as I am 'playing the game' by the rules and am on day three of Zero Contact. Love - what a kick in the head. Good luck to you all and thanks Coach Lee - for the coaching in this 'sport'.

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      My ex returned ☝☝with the help of Dr osara ☝a gifted spiritualist who can mend any broken relationships and restore your lost marriage in as little as 79 hours I strongly advise you to seek help from him,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      +12122028243⏭️⏭️⏭️
      Hello it's works I can't believe,,,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      What Sapp him now

  • @davids7374
    @davids7374 2 года назад +3

    Shes been gone for 1 week, sent me a thanks giving message and I answered as if nothing was happening. Im in day 5 of NC this is hard. Deeply I really hope she comes back. Stay strong people ✌🏻

    • @elohim77
      @elohim77 2 года назад

      Did she came back?

  • @krisamora4588
    @krisamora4588 6 лет назад +22

    Hey coach lee, just wanna say how detailed and amazing you are, I feel like you offer different perspectives most coaches don’t bother to talk about so thank you very much for your quality videos.

  • @kaiknowshowtoread
    @kaiknowshowtoread 6 лет назад +10

    don’t want to get my hopes up but i really hope this all works.

  • @metalox88
    @metalox88 3 года назад +3

    You can't grieve your way back..self development and ascendancy is the key

  • @kylieroberts342
    @kylieroberts342 4 года назад +4

    Really wanted to break no contact today. 5 days in. But thankfully I found this video and didn’t! Thank you so so much!

    • @mlong506
      @mlong506 4 года назад +1

      @Kylie Roberts, update?

    • @kylieroberts342
      @kylieroberts342 4 года назад +2

      @@mlong506 i broke it once a week in. we’re still not talking. i’m doing so much better however

  • @kagandakenneth9133
    @kagandakenneth9133 Год назад +1

    Its now 18 days down the road I feel like breaking no contact but I value the effort I ve put in to where I am today

  • @crystalsom8633
    @crystalsom8633 5 лет назад +32

    NC sucks when there is a baby involved....

    • @icymike1382
      @icymike1382 3 года назад +1

      It can.. it's actually a better chance.. because you have to see each other but you have to stay strong and focus on you.. and no weakness

    • @marishajensen2282
      @marishajensen2282 3 года назад

      I know I’m pregnant and he wanted this child (he’s 19 so I doubt he meant it when he went in and on on and on about it and bought baby stuff with his own money) now he says he wants “to be friends” I got mad again and blocked him (I I can’t handle a just a friend ) who gave me a baby... I’m 15 weeks pregnant help... he isn’t reaching out. I’m no contact once again. Been a week or two

  • @janetgibbons7885
    @janetgibbons7885 5 лет назад +2

    If someone dumps you I believe you should not be hurt because it shows their true colors.That they obviously didn't care that much about you.So you should learn from it and not invest your feelings for them if they are letting you know it is not mutual.Really,the dumper is doing you a favor and it can be a blessing in disguise,so that you will move on and find someone who really does care about you!

  • @DreamTheaterFan
    @DreamTheaterFan 6 лет назад +10

    Do not do something when the mind tells you a thousand times to do it, that friends, that's struggle. And to struggle is to do something for ourselves and our dignity.

  • @baronvonrock
    @baronvonrock 4 года назад +3

    No contact works. Don't be surprised if you begin in a "concerned" stage and end up in a "relief" stage.

  • @rodney1279TheFlip
    @rodney1279TheFlip 2 года назад +3

    Even if the No contact does not work it is still a win because I am moving on with my life. I am a good guy and I deserve a good woman not no one who does not appreciate a good man.

    • @victora.g.2708
      @victora.g.2708 2 года назад +1

      How are you man, after nearly 1 year?

    • @rodney1279TheFlip
      @rodney1279TheFlip 2 года назад

      @@victora.g.2708 Fine, I have a new girlfriend

  • @hawkkim1974
    @hawkkim1974 5 лет назад +3

    holy cow. whenever I made up my mind to let go of my sociopath ex, this coach lee pops up and says it works. Honestly you know what? I hope it doesn't work.

  • @Lex-gx5sg
    @Lex-gx5sg 4 года назад +4

    no contact works, my ex returned to me after 3 weeks in which I did not speak, better said 2, he apologized and wanted to reconcile, but now we are separated, I will follow the same steps and I hope he will come back, he said that for the moment we will be friends and in the future we will see what it will be like, he is a stubborn man who is very upset, but I hope he will come back 🙏🏼

  • @cynthiahouben564
    @cynthiahouben564 2 года назад +1

    Thank you! I did the no contact rule for just 7 days and he texted today that he misses me and he’s very sorry. I also used law of attraction! This combination really works 😍

  • @sameeraaltamimi1391
    @sameeraaltamimi1391 6 лет назад +34

    I don't miss Him, i miss the feelings I had when he was around. . Now that he's not around I miss those feelings
    Honestly I used to think how some people are so cold, no feelings what so ever.. Now I wish I COULD be like that! Just so that I could move on with my life and be able to just simply breath
    I wish I was incapable of loving at this stage of my life just bcoz its done nothing but harm me in every way! why do I even still wanna be with someone who has tried to hurt me intentionally and I know it just hurts to be with them but then again I just can't be without them.

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 6 лет назад +1

      swiss mia Currently in the same boat.. 😢

    • @sameeraaltamimi1391
      @sameeraaltamimi1391 6 лет назад

      @@diamond13130 ,I'm so sorry to hear that, I know exactly how it hurts.
      I just wish I could text him,, but so many things stop me from doing so.
      Did you try contacting him?

    • @diamond13130
      @diamond13130 6 лет назад

      swiss mia yes and it turned out horribly. I blocked him on everything yesterday and told him to never contact me again. Everything he said and did was so hurtful. I couldn’t take it anymore. We were together 4.5 years.

    • @sameeraaltamimi1391
      @sameeraaltamimi1391 6 лет назад +3

      @@diamond13130 oh my God.. I'm really sorry.. That's exactly what I'm scared of, texting him and then regretting :(
      We've been together for 5yrs now I just can't go through life without him and the idea of being with someone else just scares me I can't imagine my life without him.

    • @sameeraaltamimi1391
      @sameeraaltamimi1391 6 лет назад +2

      @@diamond13130 love sucks,i just wish I was capable of being with someone without loving them! I just live my life and that's all nothing they say or do could possibly bother me!
      But I can't. And now that's horrible cuz being with them hurts and staying away from them Kills!!!

  • @noodes83
    @noodes83 3 года назад +1

    I had to stop the relationship. Had no other solutions. She completely blocked me - been a week now. These videos are v good

  • @viagemdamente8822
    @viagemdamente8822 3 года назад +3

    Guys. It takes 2 months to me to contact her. After that, she was sometimes very excited with the idea of see me, and other moments afraid of see me and all the bad feeling come back.
    Now one month after I broke the no contact rule, I am much better.
    I undertood that the things was just the way that it had to be.
    Obviously I suffer, but now I am focused in my life.
    I wish her the best, but I want the best for me first.

    • @olivergreen235
      @olivergreen235 3 года назад

      ±2348073317460⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,

  • @stellbanne
    @stellbanne 3 года назад +2

    I was surprised that no contact actually works. I was meant to try it for 30 days but he came crawling back by 15 days. But something strange had happened. I had no feelings for him whatsoever. He now just looks to me like a weed in concrete. Nothing special. And he is still trying to hoover me.

  • @StacyReadsCards
    @StacyReadsCards 5 лет назад +7

    I hope he reaches out soon, but this NC is so helpful!

  • @Heart3577
    @Heart3577 3 года назад +1

    It works for a woman who only have a good personality. What you sow is what you reap. If you were nice, loving, caring during the relationship... That increases your value. But if you're not, you'll get dumped and he would have nothing to look back because your value has decreased already during the relationship. So this worked for me, as the saying goes "Just love him...care for him,... respect him while you're with him" if he screwed you, he's the one who'll chase you.

  • @lowkey2299
    @lowkey2299 4 года назад +6

    You’re the best! I always re watch videos to keep me motivated and positive about my current break up! I know she’ll be back!

  • @Grimaldi110560
    @Grimaldi110560 5 лет назад +2

    I totally get Coach Lee about this, I have no intention whatsoever to reach out after I was dumped, clarity is coming to me to understand the difference between loss or need and love, I have no objective desire to get back to this woman for love, but ego can easily trick me into wanting her to need me just to give it back to her.....

  • @adelnajjar1779
    @adelnajjar1779 5 лет назад +3

    I got dumbed today and I will start NC now
    I cried and begged alot but she made her final desision and dumbed me
    I will be strong and do the NC
    Thanks Coach for this helpful video

  • @2shobu
    @2shobu 4 года назад +2

    I’m applying Coach Lee’s method right now, I’m in a tough position and it’s all odds against me, but this is the best chance I got. But honestly I don’t even know who I am anymore after so long, and honestly this is actually helping me more than helping me save my marriage. Who knows, maybe after a month I won’t even want anything to do with my wife. Let’s see how it goes, wish me luck!

  • @emmabee3923
    @emmabee3923 4 года назад +11

    It does work 💕
    I just wanna say a big thank you for helping me realize so much!

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      My ex returned ☝☝with the help of Dr osara ☝a gifted spiritualist who can mend any broken relationships and restore your lost marriage in as little as 79 hours I strongly advise you to seek help from him,,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      +12122028243⏭️⏭️⏭️
      Hello it's works I can't believe,,,,

    • @catherinebose749
      @catherinebose749 2 года назад

      What Sapp him now,

  • @joshichauhan040
    @joshichauhan040 4 года назад +2

    Coach lee is amazing❤️ women Harmons very different and difficult then men.. she was acting funny for last two months, I adopted 30 days no contact rules, guess what in three days she is all over on me so I got a ball on my side I ignored her, she called I hung up on her I mean I was so mean she start to asked me did you check the girls online in that case I got silent, she burst in tears I really missed you, love you so much, I was so surprised she came to on track so fast.. patience is the key don’t panic I know is extremely depressing, frustrated, panicking, devastating, loosing appetite but don’t worry she not gonna go no where, you feel it problems has been fixed

  • @Rpamungkas-r3g
    @Rpamungkas-r3g 4 года назад +4

    I felt that Coach Lee scolding us 😂.

  • @PauloRoberto-fl5ir
    @PauloRoberto-fl5ir 5 лет назад +1

    Hi everybody
    Writing from the other side of the ocean ...Portugal, Europe.
    Thank you Lee! I learned so much from your videos (wish I could have the "Emenrgy Kit" but i have no PayPal. ..
    Anyway its working!!! Ihave applying the steps on No Contact stategy and its been great. She started to contact me writing several times a day but I ll be courageous and use No Contact "law" i.e. be calm, let her be the one to search and write in first!
    Thanks a lot Lee!!

  • @FindTheCureGBS
    @FindTheCureGBS 4 года назад +4

    Why are you yelling at me coach lee! 😢😂

  • @wiliyantosekejaya7115
    @wiliyantosekejaya7115 Год назад +1

    No contact will not work if your ex have more option or too many orbital in her or his life. He or she will try the new one rather choose to come back to you. He or she will never come back to you no matter how long you wait.

  • @shellykasper7221
    @shellykasper7221 4 года назад +9

    I’ve been in 5 relationships and just got broken up with. But I do know that with the first 3 my ex eventually told me they messed up and wanted me back. This is after at least a couple months of no contact. I’m hoping this also works with this breakup as well.

  • @sulagnasarkar8602
    @sulagnasarkar8602 2 года назад

    I didn't believe one day I will be righting my story, so here it is . On 9th april he blocked from all the social media platforms. I was going nuts about what to do cz I have done the pleading nd begging it did work but lost my self respect. Your no contact/ radio signal works . After 18th day he just called . He said he is sorry for his action . Thank You lee

  • @appiustheimperial6149
    @appiustheimperial6149 5 лет назад +10

    Man you are genius

  • @Top10-r7n5h
    @Top10-r7n5h 5 лет назад +13

    I told her indirectly I don't give the shit. I now talk with other girls and she is getting very jealous