Great video! And I think I would sleep with someone who is undetectable but I would want to know that they have HIV. So, I think people who are undetectable should still tell their partner. I feel like it would avoid future problems and trust issues, because if your partner found out they would be wondering why you didn’t tell them and might not even believe you when you say you’re undetectable.
Thanks Alex! Happy to hear you would be open to sleeping with someone who's HIV+ :) I agree with you that, if it's not a big deal then you should just say it so the person knows. Cause if you tell them after, you can't change the past. If you tell them before, they can never blame you for not saying it earlier.
And undetectable people are more safe than the people we meet at after party who never tested their status. Imagine a condom busts or slips while you're enjoying the honeyworld with a person you don't know their status. You'll be sweating and panicking but with undetectable person it's even safer
I had 135K viral load when I first diagnosed in May, 2017. I started my medication in June and my next test in Aug, 2017 I was already undetectable :) since then I've been UD. U=U is amazing. I shouldn't be careful with myself infecting others but should be careful not others infecting me with any other STDs. Because there are still millions of people who doesn't get checked regulary against STDs.
Diana! I LOVE your videos. I grew up with one of my closest family members having HIV, and watching your videos has been teaching me so much about HIV that I wish I’d known earlier. I’m so happy to be better informed. Thank you for doing this! You are incredible!
Thanks Sabrina for the support!! You're the first person I personally know that had someone close to them also with HIV which I find so cool. You just never know these things! Glad to hear you got something out of the video :)
Wow! I love how mentally stable you are. U accepted this and life still remains the same. People out here in Africa are mentally ill bkoz of this. Suicides everywhere. I wish you cud organise and visit Uganda, East Africa as a team just as a charity social move sort of motivational yet HIV therapy at the same time. People here need this! U are absolutely loveable! Dr.Jacob, Uganda, East Africa.
Hi Dr. Jacob, Thanks for this compliment, it means a lot to me because it took over ten years for me to finally reach a point where I can put happy and hiv together in the same sentence. To me, hiv has been a psychological disease to learn to accept and overcome. I always wanted to visit Uganda and I would be so very happy to help those who are struggling in any way I can. Please reach out to me via the email connected to the channel, looking forward to hearing from you!
Very educatioal vedio only wish there was more of these vedio in 2006 as the Dr who diagnosed my husband did not ask him to go on treatment he passed away in 2010 Jan but i am still alive as my friends who work with HIV pt advised me to go the antiviral drug and i am still around 13 yrs after my husband died and i feel great at the age of 78yrs
My answer to your question -- well, if you can't transmit anything to your partner, telling him/her boils down to pure communication. Which doesn't really make it any simpler -- there's no clear boundary for this, is there? As a general rule, I always encourage communication in matters of sex. Asking is not wrong (but the timing can be...), and I guess that understanding if your partner is completely oblivious to basic safe sex behaviors should be of primary importance. And once you're there, you can/should ask whatever you'd like to know. When all of this U=U will be common knowledge, you'll be free to decide whether telling without being asked. For know, since we're not there yet, even if I think that he/she shouldn't ASSUME that since you're not telling, there's nothing to tell -- especially if it's something he/she'd want to know -- you should follow your conscience and say that openly ("Btw, I think you should ask..."), or hide it. The latter can be tricky, with all these videos around.
Yeah definitely! You bring up an interesting point of how we seem to assume that if no one says anything, then both parties are clean. Because if someone had something, they would say it, right? We give _them _ the responsibility of telling the partner they have something. Maybe no one says anything until someone asks.. But of course, if someone directly asked "hey do you have hiv?" and if the person straight up lies then I don't think that sets up a good foundation of trust. Since it sounds like you are trying to hide something at that point. Like you mentioned, the answer seems to be to always have open communication 🌟
I wouldn't ask "By chance, do you have HIV?", I would ask "Something I should worry about? I don't like worrying later, you know". The point is, if you have something and you can transmit it, even if in your opinion it's no big deal, I expect you to tell me. But if it's not transmissible, then I should expect you to tell me only if I clearly state "tell me whatever in advance, even if it's no big deal for you". And in general, asking "Before we go on tell me your story in 30 seconds" should lay down the right foundation for a lot of things. Then there is YOUR point of view -- maybe you don't care for them to know, or maybe you want this off your shoulders. That makes a difference.
Great video! I honestly found out about U=U like 3 years ago reading a poster at my university. Your video is very fun, clear, scientific and educational, so I hope it reaches many other people :) To answer your question: education+communication is important. It is always good to wear protection when having sex with someone you don't know well, or if it's the first time with that person. You never know, they could be lying to you when they say they are clean but are in the heat of the moment (sounds awful but there are cases) or they simply have never gotten tested for any STD! I think honesty is the minimum you should expect so is better if both parts say from the beginning if they have any STD, have had one, or is undetected. But I can see why this can be hard as it is still not very common to talk about these topics in everyday life and honestly changes drastically based on culture. For the case of U=U, if the other person doesn't know what this means then, of course, explain it and if they don't want to believe the scientific background, then 'chao pescao' they don't deserve you, a more educated or open-minded person will come around. I can speak from my personal experience, and of some friends, that Latino men get super offended when you ask them if they are clean, or if you ask them to go take a test in case you want to begin a more serious relationship or don't wanna worry about condoms, etc. As for Latinas, we never get asked. With Americans/Europeans I never had this problem, they would automatically say 'yeah, sure do you recommend a place where to go get tested? Wanna come with me?' and that gave me so much more confidence. Again, don't want to generalize but it is a fact that sex-ed in Latin America is awful, so we can get very misleading information and act ignorantly. So yeah it is all about better education+communication.
Cool that you knew about it already from a poster! I wouldn't have expected that :) When you bring up 'chao pescao', I agree 100%. It's sometimes a lot easier said than done because the rejection is super rough at the beginning :/ .. but with time you'll forget about it... I can totally see what you mean when you say Latino men can get super offended because it might be so engrained in the culture to associate the STI with 'dirtyness' and they might get defensive and aggressive thinking you are implying they are dirty if they aren't clean. and this is just for bringing it up! ugh. I'm glad though that at least the Americans/Europeans are more open to getting tested together :)
Hello Diana, I love your passion, confidence and knowledge about HIV. It is very illuminating and educative, indeed "knowledge is power". U=U is a game changer in this era and just as much a stigma offsetter as education on the topic. I would like you to kindly go through the risks of exposure to; blood VS sexual fluids VS breast milk of somebody that is undetectable. I really appreciate your courage and initiative. Cheers.
Thank you for this great way to explain....i was just diagnosed positive but with a very low viral load of 27 only ! Without medication. They call it Elite HIV patient But i was afraid to go back to my sex life and not sure .🤞
Wow I can't believe I'm just now hearing about such an earth shattering revelation. You posed interesting questions. In the interest of disclosure you should probably tell sex partners about your HIV+. If they don't want to sleep with you after explaining U=U, then it works in your favor anyway because who wants to be with someone that doesn't honor facts and science.
Just came across your channel, you are amazing please keep doing the videos. I am heterosexual male, 6 weeks ago, while on a walk in my local park I stood on a syringe, It was a small cut I washed it, and disinfected it (or so I thought). 3 weeks after that I got flu like symptoms, when I went to the doctor, and told him about the syringe they ran blood tests, and stated that there is a high chance that I could be HIV positive (this was 3 days ago), since this news I have been lost, as my results are not officially back yet I cannot be linked in with help services. The only positive I am taking is that during this period, myself, and my partner have not had sex. I am so scared to tell her that I could be HIV+ in case I lose her, your videos at least take my mind off the worry for a few mins.
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..
The while you touch on it a little at the end, sleeping with a person who is HIV+ still requires trusting that they are infact undetectable and will stay on top on taking their medicine everyday for the rest of their life.
Hello Diana could you please make a video on medication ..I mean we as a human tends to make error so what if I missed my medication by some minutes or hours ?
Hello diana thank you very much for your videos🙏, please i just have a question, instead of the pills every day, i found out a person could also go for injections which could be taken maybe monthly or after 2months, so i guess my question is why wouldn't you rather take the shot than the pill everyday?
Thanks for the comment :) I stick with pills everyday because of the concept “don’t fix something that’s not broken”. My pills keep my viral load undetectable and don’t cause severe side effects so why try something that miiiight be better but is unknown to me? Also, I don’t notice I take the pills everyday, it’s just so second nature for me at this point. I’m like a grandma in that sense 👵🏼Had I just been infected I would’ve been open to trying it though and I see the pros of taking the injections :)
I have slept with someone who told me after the act that he was HIV undetectable we had sex without a condom and i am on Prep, but i missed a few days. I am worried. I know I pretty much shouldn't be, but going to the doctor asap. I'm scared. I think people must say it before.
Hey hey just for ease of mind, if he is HIV undetectable and you can trust that he _is_ indeed undetectable aka he takes his medication religiously AND he is consistently undetectable from his lab work, then you are fine (regardless if you take prep or not, and regardless if you guys wore a condom). Ask your doctor, but if they are educated on U=U, I think they will tell you not to worry :) However !!! there are still other STDs that can still spread without a condom, so good to always get checked on those!
@@dianakoss2686 i know. I take.prep. I go to regular checks every 3 months. I already spoke with the doctor. He said I'm safe. But I'm also hypochondriac so im out of my mind 😒🙈🙈🙈 and I dont3take orep because I'm promiscuous, but cause I'm hypochondriac
@@Isirla0 I know I know it’s scary but you gotta trust the science !! You are fine, your doctor thinks it and I do too ☺️ imagine all the couples that have condomless sex for years and the partner is still negative
hard to believe. The virus is there even when it is undectable. How many virus is needed to infect An other person? 1, 20, 200? Is this not only to get rid of the stigma? thx for the video.
I know right! Pretty crazy how less than 200 copies/ml ensures that the viral load is so low (undetectable) that it can't be spread. I don't think it's just for the stigma - I think they're done COPIOUS amounts of studies showing this. Even when someone is NOT on medication, the risk is 8 per 10,000 sex acts (HIV positive man to HIV negative woman and 4 per 10,000 other way around, after the acute phase). This number can get higher to 1 in 100 when considering other factors. IT IS NOT ONE TO ONE that you automatically get HIV if you sleep with someone who has it (but of course it can happen just after one time too). Anyway - my dad is still HIV negative to this day and obviously he was exposed to it many many times by my mom (who had AIDS at a certain point almost 3 decades ago).
My brother is HIV undetectable. I borrowed his diabetes lancet pen to check my glucose levels for my diabetes. I am worried that if he used it prior to me that I may contract it. Does U=U account for this?
I think the virus doesn't survive in the air but this whole u=u is just advertisement for the drug company. most people don't take their medication regularly.
I am interested in someone who is undetectable. I am gay. He contacted HIV 10 years ago. He gets checked every 6 months and undetectable for years. He is interested in me and I in him. We haven't had sex, I'm nervous. Even still, I have strong feelings for him. I'm afraid of falling in love with him and becoming positive or watching him get sick. If it weren't for his status, I would have no problem spending my life with him. What to do? I don't want to be mean to him because of my feelings for him. But, I am old enough to have had many friends die and not pretty. I am torn. My brain says one thing, my heart something else.
(I answered in the how to tell someone video) buut now that I see you would be willing to spend your life with him, that means even more that he truly is a special connection
Well let’s not goes so crazy with science ! Cause often they get things wrong, but hey I don’t wanna be seeing as negative dude ! Its it important to talk things in their pure colour.
The definition of science is trying to understand the nature of our physical and natural world through observation and experiment. Aka it's ever evolving! Which is why it can look "wrong" but it's just part of the process to continue learning :) In regards to this with HIV - I'm pretty certain it's set in stone ;) Given that no studies have found any transmissions plus there's no stories of an HIV undetectable person giving it to their partner (that I know of). Sooo... safe to say that U=U
How many chance diana if hiv+ partner sex without hiv-. Any chance? Its happened with me so i am afraid so please answer me. & my viral load undetectable since 10 year.
I’m trying to share your video with a friend, for some reason it will not allow me to share from the share button. I’m in Canada theming to share with someone in the US
Are you the positive person and they are negative but bleeding (aka open skin)? I got confused XD But if you are the positive one and you are on your period - no you can't spread it :)
@@dianakoss2686 i am men and i am positive person with Undetectable VL. it was first time for my wife, like people who did it for "first time" she was bleeding. Now we have little girl, she and my wife is negative. U=U is proven.
Guys, how did she know the military colors of like infection FEMA and massacre I mean I know she’s from Germany, but those are also the military colors of infection, massacre and FEMA the potato colors she used for u=u im not lying look it up
Hello. Thank you so much for this video. I want to ask though. If someone has been on ARV but lab tests still come out positive, does it mean the virus is not undetected?
Based on your text, this means that hiv has not reached undetectable levels, therefore this person could still pose as a risk of infecting others. It sounds like they must have just started their treatment plan because you said they’re on medication?
When your viral load is undetectable it simply means there are not enough viral copies to be detected by test...but doesn't mean you are hiv negative. With undetectable viral load you will still test positive to hiv...because the virus still hides in some body cells since it has been suppressed by the ARV your taking.
@@dianakoss2686 started october 21, 2022... i had 500 copies of the virus in november and then on april this year my results were under 40 so undetectable
(You should def consult with a doctor to make sure btw) buuut they do say that you should reach undetectable levels within 6 months (as the case with you) and that you shouldn’t be able to pass it on to someone. AGAIN PLEASE check with your doctor because I don’t know all your details!
"Trust the science " yeah no. My first question is did those partners really cheat or was that just an excuse so that they can claim 0 status. And while it might be true it comes down to individual. They may or may not let you know before you have sex. Let's say that they do. Question would always be "did you take your pill ?". At some point HIV person might get petty and just stop taking it so that they infect their "partner" and try to trap them to stay with them.
It’s great! Haha I do tell my partners (I haven’t always tho) and I always thought I would get rejected but it turns out my partners really wouldn’t care and they didn’t see it as a big deal. It was more coming from my own internal anxiety about it :)
Like period sex or blood from tears? I want to answer this but I don’t want to give any misleading answers because I am not 100% certain. _however_, for period sex, blood from tears etc, if the person is undetectable it means there’s no traceable amounts of virus even in their blood, vaginal fluid, sperm, etc. blood transfers are a different story however
Hi Diana I'm HIV+ and undetectable. But question is, when you're undetectable, does it mean the lab can't find any virus in your blood? Because the treatment suppressed it.
Exactly this! A good analogy is the vivid test. sometimes a rapid test wouldn’t show up positive but a pcr test would. That’s because pcr tests are much more sensitive and accurate. The same here, the hiv tests are extremely sensitive, yet they still have their limits such that there *is* hiv still in us but it’s sooo low that even the best tests can’t detect it! Aka undetectable 😎
@@dianakoss2686Hey Diana I have a burning question that I never seen anyone answer about this subject. There’s an HIV Influencer that has repeated findings over decades named PozLeigh she females say that the men that they contracted HIV from were Downlow with gay/bisexual/trans people and affected their straight female partners that’s why mainly who is affected are men that sleep with men and straight women I know that you were born with it but do you think these seemingly straight men that are Downlow just go on with their lives Undetectable and build their own families and never tell the truth do you think it’s 100% possible for someone with HIV to actually live a complete lie in their household around medications and appointments are they posing risks to having their sperm impregnating a HIV - woman and the children can possibly get it but not the HIV - mothers?
98644Islam raised the status of women and addressed her with her humanity and principles, and equalized her with discourse and duties with men- Islam singled out women in the largest wall of the Noble Qur’an, Surat An-Nisa - and the Messenger Muhammad, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, praised all those who honor women - and demanded Hellfire for those who wronged her and cursed- Islam guarantees a woman a decent life throughout her life through inheritance rights and requires spending on her father, husband, and brother - and her right to work that does not jeopardize her dignity- A woman in Islam feels psychological security and stability whenever her body recedes, unlike the woman in the West - at this stage, (mother) Islam is considered the most obligatory respect and appreciation for the mother from all society, especially from children and grandchildren- Gaining the love and approval of the mother represents a path to heaven, and her anger leads to fire in Islam, which is considered the mistress of the family, and everyone loves to win her love - from time to time you find all parties presenting her with gifts- There is nothing in the Muslim family that worries the West about the flight of children from homes - the process of abortion, suicide and the dispersal of the family, which has become a prominent feature in the West in a frightening and increasing manner, and in most countries that claim the freedom of women, especially in girls- The Muslim woman with her veil is the one who owns her freedom, so only the one she loves can see her beauty - unlike the Western woman, she does not have the freedom to control her beauty in front of the owners of sexual frenzy- This is an overview of the Muslim woman. As for the Western woman, and her suffering, it will be at an upcoming date, God willing
Uis U is partly truth ...Use condom always ..as HIV positive person you must promote condoms...u are losing your Moral Responsibilty...so sad...God bless you..
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..
Great video! And I think I would sleep with someone who is undetectable but I would want to know that they have HIV. So, I think people who are undetectable should still tell their partner. I feel like it would avoid future problems and trust issues, because if your partner found out they would be wondering why you didn’t tell them and might not even believe you when you say you’re undetectable.
Thanks Alex! Happy to hear you would be open to sleeping with someone who's HIV+ :) I agree with you that, if it's not a big deal then you should just say it so the person knows. Cause if you tell them after, you can't change the past. If you tell them before, they can never blame you for not saying it earlier.
And undetectable people are more safe than the people we meet at after party who never tested their status. Imagine a condom busts or slips while you're enjoying the honeyworld with a person you don't know their status. You'll be sweating and panicking but with undetectable person it's even safer
I had 135K viral load when I first diagnosed in May, 2017. I started my medication in June and my next test in Aug, 2017 I was already undetectable :) since then I've been UD. U=U is amazing. I shouldn't be careful with myself infecting others but should be careful not others infecting me with any other STDs. Because there are still millions of people who doesn't get checked regulary against STDs.
100%!! People often forget we need to be protecting ourselves from other things 😆 it’s not just hiv! 😅
Diana! I LOVE your videos. I grew up with one of my closest family members having HIV, and watching your videos has been teaching me so much about HIV that I wish I’d known earlier. I’m so happy to be better informed. Thank you for doing this! You are incredible!
Thanks Sabrina for the support!! You're the first person I personally know that had someone close to them also with HIV which I find so cool. You just never know these things! Glad to hear you got something out of the video :)
@@dianakoss2686 are u single
@@dianakoss2686hello isn't there like a longterm Arv treatment regimen that could last in your body more than a day?
Thank you Diane, knowledge is power. To me content like yours is the true value of the internet.
You are doing a great job. You are educating people around the world. Best wishes for your future from India 🇮🇳.
Are you positive?
Awesome ❤ eventaully the stigma will go away. The information is out there.
Wow! I love how mentally stable you are. U accepted this and life still remains the same. People out here in Africa are mentally ill bkoz of this. Suicides everywhere. I wish you cud organise and visit Uganda, East Africa as a team just as a charity social move sort of motivational yet HIV therapy at the same time. People here need this! U are absolutely loveable! Dr.Jacob, Uganda, East Africa.
Hi Dr. Jacob, Thanks for this compliment, it means a lot to me because it took over ten years for me to finally reach a point where I can put happy and hiv together in the same sentence. To me, hiv has been a psychological disease to learn to accept and overcome. I always wanted to visit Uganda and I would be so very happy to help those who are struggling in any way I can. Please reach out to me via the email connected to the channel, looking forward to hearing from you!
Very educatioal vedio only wish there was more of these vedio in 2006 as the Dr who diagnosed my husband did not ask him to go on treatment he passed away in 2010 Jan but i am still alive as my friends who work with HIV pt advised me to go the antiviral drug and i am still around 13 yrs after my husband died and i feel great at the age of 78yrs
Informative 🤟🏾😁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Im HIV+ too undetectable and I am very happy that I can't infect my partner with this disease
I'm so thankful that you make such informative video!! I'd to know so many knowledge about HIV and AIDS! Could you make more videos about your life!!!
That's very rightly put and aptly informative. Great!
Are you positive?
Love your explanation!
My answer to your question -- well, if you can't transmit anything to your partner, telling him/her boils down to pure communication. Which doesn't really make it any simpler -- there's no clear boundary for this, is there?
As a general rule, I always encourage communication in matters of sex. Asking is not wrong (but the timing can be...), and I guess that understanding if your partner is completely oblivious to basic safe sex behaviors should be of primary importance. And once you're there, you can/should ask whatever you'd like to know.
When all of this U=U will be common knowledge, you'll be free to decide whether telling without being asked. For know, since we're not there yet, even if I think that he/she shouldn't ASSUME that since you're not telling, there's nothing to tell -- especially if it's something he/she'd want to know -- you should follow your conscience and say that openly ("Btw, I think you should ask..."), or hide it. The latter can be tricky, with all these videos around.
Yeah definitely! You bring up an interesting point of how we seem to assume that if no one says anything, then both parties are clean. Because if someone had something, they would say it, right? We give _them _ the responsibility of telling the partner they have something. Maybe no one says anything until someone asks..
But of course, if someone directly asked "hey do you have hiv?" and if the person straight up lies then I don't think that sets up a good foundation of trust. Since it sounds like you are trying to hide something at that point. Like you mentioned, the answer seems to be to always have open communication 🌟
I wouldn't ask "By chance, do you have HIV?", I would ask "Something I should worry about? I don't like worrying later, you know". The point is, if you have something and you can transmit it, even if in your opinion it's no big deal, I expect you to tell me. But if it's not transmissible, then I should expect you to tell me only if I clearly state "tell me whatever in advance, even if it's no big deal for you".
And in general, asking "Before we go on tell me your story in 30 seconds" should lay down the right foundation for a lot of things.
Then there is YOUR point of view -- maybe you don't care for them to know, or maybe you want this off your shoulders. That makes a difference.
Wow lovely I'm proud of you
Thank you ☺️
Great video! I honestly found out about U=U like 3 years ago reading a poster at my university. Your video is very fun, clear, scientific and educational, so I hope it reaches many other people :)
To answer your question: education+communication is important. It is always good to wear protection when having sex with someone you don't know well, or if it's the first time with that person. You never know, they could be lying to you when they say they are clean but are in the heat of the moment (sounds awful but there are cases) or they simply have never gotten tested for any STD! I think honesty is the minimum you should expect so is better if both parts say from the beginning if they have any STD, have had one, or is undetected. But I can see why this can be hard as it is still not very common to talk about these topics in everyday life and honestly changes drastically based on culture. For the case of U=U, if the other person doesn't know what this means then, of course, explain it and if they don't want to believe the scientific background, then 'chao pescao' they don't deserve you, a more educated or open-minded person will come around.
I can speak from my personal experience, and of some friends, that Latino men get super offended when you ask them if they are clean, or if you ask them to go take a test in case you want to begin a more serious relationship or don't wanna worry about condoms, etc. As for Latinas, we never get asked. With Americans/Europeans I never had this problem, they would automatically say 'yeah, sure do you recommend a place where to go get tested? Wanna come with me?' and that gave me so much more confidence. Again, don't want to generalize but it is a fact that sex-ed in Latin America is awful, so we can get very misleading information and act ignorantly. So yeah it is all about better education+communication.
Cool that you knew about it already from a poster! I wouldn't have expected that :)
When you bring up 'chao pescao', I agree 100%. It's sometimes a lot easier said than done because the rejection is super rough at the beginning :/ .. but with time you'll forget about it...
I can totally see what you mean when you say Latino men can get super offended because it might be so engrained in the culture to associate the STI with 'dirtyness' and they might get defensive and aggressive thinking you are implying they are dirty if they aren't clean. and this is just for bringing it up! ugh. I'm glad though that at least the Americans/Europeans are more open to getting tested together :)
Hello Diana, I love your passion, confidence and knowledge about HIV.
It is very illuminating and educative, indeed "knowledge is power".
U=U is a game changer in this era and just as much a stigma offsetter as education on the topic.
I would like you to kindly go through the risks of exposure to; blood VS sexual fluids VS breast milk of somebody that is undetectable.
I really appreciate your courage and initiative.
Cheers.
Knowledge is power indeed 🧠💪🏼
I like the video suggestions - I’ll look into that, thanks 🤗
@@dianakoss2686 I can't wait😊
Thank you for this great way to explain....i was just diagnosed positive but with a very low viral load of 27 only ! Without medication.
They call it Elite HIV patient
But i was afraid to go back to my sex life and not sure .🤞
Fantastic! Thanks for sharing this amazing information.
Great information! Thank you
Wow I can't believe I'm just now hearing about such an earth shattering revelation. You posed interesting questions. In the interest of disclosure you should probably tell sex partners about your HIV+. If they don't want to sleep with you after explaining U=U, then it works in your favor anyway because who wants to be with someone that doesn't honor facts and science.
Hi! Diana ,
How do you do.
My name is Damael from Indonesia, I just 1 year being +. And now after take arv therapy , I undectable . ..
I also have a undetectable but i take my pill daily as prescribed
Great video & you are great
Just came across your channel, you are amazing please keep doing the videos. I am heterosexual male, 6 weeks ago, while on a walk in my local park I stood on a syringe, It was a small cut I washed it, and disinfected it (or so I thought). 3 weeks after that I got flu like symptoms, when I went to the doctor, and told him about the syringe they ran blood tests, and stated that there is a high chance that I could be HIV positive (this was 3 days ago), since this news I have been lost, as my results are not officially back yet I cannot be linked in with help services. The only positive I am taking is that during this period, myself, and my partner have not had sex. I am so scared to tell her that I could be HIV+ in case I lose her, your videos at least take my mind off the worry for a few mins.
Not sure why you were not offered PreP to help prevent HIV in your body.
I just saw this.. but what are the updates...? Did they come back negative? Otherwise this is an insanely crazy way to be infected with HIV
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..
The while you touch on it a little at the end, sleeping with a person who is HIV+ still requires trusting that they are infact undetectable and will stay on top on taking their medicine everyday for the rest of their life.
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I was infected 1 and half years ago .
Hello Diana could you please make a video on medication ..I mean we as a human tends to make error so what if I missed my medication by some minutes or hours ?
Just tested + and horrified Dr put me on Biktarvy very scared
Hello diana thank you very much for your videos🙏, please i just have a question, instead of the pills every day, i found out a person could also go for injections which could be taken maybe monthly or after 2months, so i guess my question is why wouldn't you rather take the shot than the pill everyday?
Thanks for the comment :) I stick with pills everyday because of the concept “don’t fix something that’s not broken”. My pills keep my viral load undetectable and don’t cause severe side effects so why try something that miiiight be better but is unknown to me? Also, I don’t notice I take the pills everyday, it’s just so second nature for me at this point. I’m like a grandma in that sense 👵🏼Had I just been infected I would’ve been open to trying it though and I see the pros of taking the injections :)
Is u=u applicable in long run also ? I mean if person doesn’t use condom for life long with one partner & is on consistent treatment
Yes! As long as the person is consistently taking their medication. And of course, science will be monitoring it, don’t worry ;)
I have slept with someone who told me after the act that he was HIV undetectable we had sex without a condom and i am on Prep, but i missed a few days. I am worried. I know I pretty much shouldn't be, but going to the doctor asap. I'm scared. I think people must say it before.
Hey hey just for ease of mind, if he is HIV undetectable and you can trust that he _is_ indeed undetectable aka he takes his medication religiously AND he is consistently undetectable from his lab work, then you are fine (regardless if you take prep or not, and regardless if you guys wore a condom). Ask your doctor, but if they are educated on U=U, I think they will tell you not to worry :) However !!! there are still other STDs that can still spread without a condom, so good to always get checked on those!
@@dianakoss2686 i know. I take.prep. I go to regular checks every 3 months. I already spoke with the doctor. He said I'm safe. But I'm also hypochondriac so im out of my mind 😒🙈🙈🙈 and I dont3take orep because I'm promiscuous, but cause I'm hypochondriac
@@dianakoss2686 he says he does. Here.in my town we go all to the same clinic
@@Isirla0 I know I know it’s scary but you gotta trust the science !! You are fine, your doctor thinks it and I do too ☺️ imagine all the couples that have condomless sex for years and the partner is still negative
You're safe. The most dangerous people are those who don't check their status
I am HIV positive. I think I should always tell even when I got to undetectable
Nothing is impossible with our God Jesus Christ.. I believed in miracle.. God is always good... Thank you Lord for this amzing and wonderful news...
hard to believe. The virus is there even when it is undectable. How many virus is needed to infect An other person? 1, 20, 200? Is this not only to get rid of the stigma? thx for the video.
I know right! Pretty crazy how less than 200 copies/ml ensures that the viral load is so low (undetectable) that it can't be spread. I don't think it's just for the stigma - I think they're done COPIOUS amounts of studies showing this. Even when someone is NOT on medication, the risk is 8 per 10,000 sex acts (HIV positive man to HIV negative woman and 4 per 10,000 other way around, after the acute phase). This number can get higher to 1 in 100 when considering other factors. IT IS NOT ONE TO ONE that you automatically get HIV if you sleep with someone who has it (but of course it can happen just after one time too). Anyway - my dad is still HIV negative to this day and obviously he was exposed to it many many times by my mom (who had AIDS at a certain point almost 3 decades ago).
My brother is HIV undetectable. I borrowed his diabetes lancet pen to check my glucose levels for my diabetes. I am worried that if he used it prior to me that I may contract it. Does U=U account for this?
I think the virus doesn't survive in the air but this whole u=u is just advertisement for the drug company. most people don't take their medication regularly.
I would really love to take her on a date yes I’m positive as well and healthy
I am interested in someone who is undetectable. I am gay. He contacted HIV 10 years ago. He gets checked every 6 months and undetectable for years. He is interested in me and I in him. We haven't had sex, I'm nervous. Even still, I have strong feelings for him. I'm afraid of falling in love with him and becoming positive or watching him get sick. If it weren't for his status, I would have no problem spending my life with him. What to do? I don't want to be mean to him because of my feelings for him. But, I am old enough to have had many friends die and not pretty. I am torn. My brain says one thing, my heart something else.
(I answered in the how to tell someone video) buut now that I see you would be willing to spend your life with him, that means even more that he truly is a special connection
Hi Diana, I want to know that after how many days of medication test be undetectable?
Well let’s not goes so crazy with science ! Cause often they get things wrong, but hey I don’t wanna be seeing as negative dude ! Its it important to talk things in their pure colour.
The definition of science is trying to understand the nature of our physical and natural world through observation and experiment. Aka it's ever evolving! Which is why it can look "wrong" but it's just part of the process to continue learning :)
In regards to this with HIV - I'm pretty certain it's set in stone ;) Given that no studies have found any transmissions plus there's no stories of an HIV undetectable person giving it to their partner (that I know of). Sooo... safe to say that U=U
Hi. Just wanna know what is the standard copies for undetectable? Is it below 200copies or 20 copies? I got confused.
Hey it is kind of confusing soooo:
Can everyone be undetectable or its only for some people ?
How many chance diana if hiv+ partner sex without hiv-. Any chance? Its happened with me so i am afraid so please answer me. & my viral load undetectable since 10 year.
I’m trying to share your video with a friend, for some reason it will not allow me to share from the share button. I’m in Canada theming to share with someone in the US
What happens to all the other copies of HIV when the viral load of an HIV positive person becomes undetectable?.
That is a lie
U is U is lie...use condoms plz
Hi diana, how about if our partner get slight bleeding when doing sex activty? Is till untransimitable?
Are you the positive person and they are negative but bleeding (aka open skin)? I got confused XD
But if you are the positive one and you are on your period - no you can't spread it :)
@@dianakoss2686 i am men and i am positive person with Undetectable VL. it was first time for my wife, like people who did it for "first time" she was bleeding.
Now we have little girl, she and my wife is negative. U=U is proven.
I don't understand this thing
Dear Diana please help us to find a same states girl for marriage age between 30 to 34 years Pal jr
Guys, how did she know the military colors of like infection FEMA and massacre I mean I know she’s from Germany, but those are also the military colors of infection, massacre and FEMA the potato colors she used for u=u im not lying look it up
Hello. Thank you so much for this video. I want to ask though. If someone has been on ARV but lab tests still come out positive, does it mean the virus is not undetected?
Based on your text, this means that hiv has not reached undetectable levels, therefore this person could still pose as a risk of infecting others. It sounds like they must have just started their treatment plan because you said they’re on medication?
When your viral load is undetectable it simply means there are not enough viral copies to be detected by test...but doesn't mean you are hiv negative. With undetectable viral load you will still test positive to hiv...because the virus still hides in some body cells since it has been suppressed by the ARV your taking.
So if you are on ARV you should do a viral load test and not HIV test.
i reached u=u 2 months ago, is there a chance i can still pass it to someone else... i haven't stopped taking the pill daily ... thx
Depends, when did you start taking the medication?
@@dianakoss2686 started october 21, 2022... i had 500 copies of the virus in november and then on april this year my results were under 40 so undetectable
(You should def consult with a doctor to make sure btw) buuut they do say that you should reach undetectable levels within 6 months (as the case with you) and that you shouldn’t be able to pass it on to someone. AGAIN PLEASE check with your doctor because I don’t know all your details!
@@dianakoss2686 maybe i just need to wait 6 more months... to be completly sure... thank you
Tbh, idk, maybe not necessarily - best would be to ask your physician cause they would know best :)
"Trust the science "
yeah no. My first question is did those partners really cheat or was that just an excuse so that they can claim 0 status. And while it might be true it comes down to individual. They may or may not let you know before you have sex. Let's say that they do. Question would always be "did you take your pill ?". At some point HIV person might get petty and just stop taking it so that they infect their "partner" and try to trap them to stay with them.
Can you have a child without transmitting it to a child?
Hiv positive people can go abroad, for study??
Yes for the most part :) but you can check which countries don't allow HIV+ people (just a few, but still a few)..
Hey are you positive?
Is there ejaculation taking place in those tests
Can marry?
How are you? Just curious how long someone can live with this virus
For your information, years over 30 for many are still living, focus on living and getting informed.
I'm 27 now :) My mom is in her 50s -- I'll let you know when I make it to 100 ;)
Also if I'm not digging into your personal life, please how is your sex life? Do you tell your partners, and how do they take it?
It’s great! Haha I do tell my partners (I haven’t always tho) and I always thought I would get rejected but it turns out my partners really wouldn’t care and they didn’t see it as a big deal. It was more coming from my own internal anxiety about it :)
DIANA. CAN I MARRY YOU?
You have a reduced chance to infect your partner
Does it passed by blood while doing sex
Like period sex or blood from tears? I want to answer this but I don’t want to give any misleading answers because I am not 100% certain. _however_, for period sex, blood from tears etc, if the person is undetectable it means there’s no traceable amounts of virus even in their blood, vaginal fluid, sperm, etc. blood transfers are a different story however
Hi Diana
I'm HIV+ and undetectable. But question is, when you're undetectable, does it mean the lab can't find any virus in your blood? Because the treatment suppressed it.
Exactly this! A good analogy is the vivid test. sometimes a rapid test wouldn’t show up positive but a pcr test would. That’s because pcr tests are much more sensitive and accurate. The same here, the hiv tests are extremely sensitive, yet they still have their limits such that there *is* hiv still in us but it’s sooo low that even the best tests can’t detect it! Aka undetectable 😎
@@dianakoss2686Hey Diana I have a burning question that I never seen anyone answer about this subject. There’s an HIV Influencer that has repeated findings over decades named PozLeigh she females say that the men that they contracted HIV from were Downlow with gay/bisexual/trans people and affected their straight female partners that’s why mainly who is affected are men that sleep with men and straight women I know that you were born with it but do you think these seemingly straight men that are Downlow just go on with their lives Undetectable and build their own families and never tell the truth do you think it’s 100% possible for someone with HIV to actually live a complete lie in their household around medications and appointments are they posing risks to having their sperm impregnating a HIV - woman and the children can possibly get it but not the HIV - mothers?
98644Islam raised the status of women and addressed her with her humanity and principles, and equalized her with discourse and duties with men- Islam singled out women in the largest wall of the Noble Qur’an, Surat An-Nisa - and the Messenger Muhammad, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, praised all those who honor women - and demanded Hellfire for those who wronged her and cursed- Islam guarantees a woman a decent life throughout her life through inheritance rights and requires spending on her father, husband, and brother - and her right to work that does not jeopardize her dignity- A woman in Islam feels psychological security and stability whenever her body recedes, unlike the woman in the West - at this stage, (mother) Islam is considered the most obligatory respect and appreciation for the mother from all society, especially from children and grandchildren- Gaining the love and approval of the mother represents a path to heaven, and her anger leads to fire in Islam, which is considered the mistress of the family, and everyone loves to win her love - from time to time you find all parties presenting her with gifts- There is nothing in the Muslim family that worries the West about the flight of children from homes - the process of abortion, suicide and the dispersal of the family, which has become a prominent feature in the West in a frightening and increasing manner, and in most countries that claim the freedom of women, especially in girls- The Muslim woman with her veil is the one who owns her freedom, so only the one she loves can see her beauty - unlike the Western woman, she does not have the freedom to control her beauty in front of the owners of sexual frenzy- This is an overview of the Muslim woman. As for the Western woman, and her suffering, it will be at an upcoming date, God willing
Uis U is partly truth ...Use condom always ..as HIV positive person you must promote condoms...u are losing your Moral Responsibilty...so sad...God bless you..
You have instagram ?
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..
You’ve got to tell your partner, I was seeing this lady for a year+, told her everything about me on the first day we met we even spoke about sti’s and this lady didn’t tell me she’s hiv positive (U=U)not until after a year+ of us seeing and sleeping together only for her to say she was scared to say, for me she’s evil cuz u should at least give me a chance to make my choice but she kept it and didn’t say…. No one wishes to have a poor health but if you do then tell whomever you’re seeing so they’ll be aware of what they’re getting themselves into..