@@hemangmathur2823 I mean, I wouldn't pin it on capitalism, but I don't exactly understand the point of marriage either, especially where I live, you pay more taxes for getting married and besides the taxes thing it just seems like an outdated concept...Most people don't even stay together. I don't get why people get married nowadays.
@Hemang Mathur Capitalism is all about exploiting others; you need to at least be able to tell when someone is trying their grift out on you if you want to survive. You don't have to be hurt to see that.
Yes dude. This is what I've been saying. If you want to be in a romantic relationship, especially long term, you're going to have to make some changes and should expect that the other person will be changing as well. You gotta plan for that if you really want it to last.
100%. But also don't base a relationship on your own prediction for how your partner will change. I've been there and it sucks when your SO wants to force you into a person you're never going to be.
Absolutely. I was on my way to being an astronaut before getting into a relationship, but it completely switched when my current relationship got adequately serious. I'm not going to leave her behind and go to space. What if we have kids? I refuse to be the dad that leaves for months and months for work. I don't care how amazing a dad I am during those months I'm there. I'm not going to be away from my kids for 6 months at a time. What if I die in space? Sure, technology is becoming better and stronger, so the chances of dying aren't 100%, but the opportunity is still there, and it's higher than I would like it to be. I'm also not leaving my partner alone for 6 months. I have no doubts about her loyalty; she's not the type to cheat on me while I'm away. I just don't want her to be alone for so many months of the year. I can't do that to her. So I decided to change my life plans, and it turns out I have no regrets, and what I'm doing now is what I really wanted to do all along. All's well that ends well, and I have no regrets about my decision.
I'm in the same exact situation as the Valentine's guy. First date was last Saturday. Second date is tomorrow. We text every day. I wished her Happy Valentine's on Monday and it was hardly different than had I wished her a happy birthday. I feel like everyone is overthinking this haha
@@adamyooz I would say apologize for forgetting and talk about what the holiday means for you two. My wife and I have never once celebrated Valentine's Day, but we do go out and buy cheap chocolate and a teddy bear after. We call it National Cheap Chocolate Day. Just don't ever forget and anniversary or her birthday and you'll be fine.
Agreed. And without the disclaimer Dr. K put in the beginning. Just happy valentine's day or happy valentine's day with a heart is fine. If she likes him she will probably just think it's nice that he likes her enough to think of her on valentine's day. If she doesn't, she probably wouldn't have agreed to go on a second date.
This whole thing just screams overthinking to me. Maybe cultural differences, but it really is such a small thing. If you get her these nice things regularly it shouldn't be a big deal, if you don't then that sounds like the issue and not this arbitrary day.
These streams together with dr k and his wife are so cute. Reminds me of my wife and I. Lots of teasing and laughing I’m the goofball and she keeps me in line. His goofy happy smile the whole time is fantastic
"Help me decode this message" I think I can give a perspective on it since I've been that girl. I've got tinder once and talked to guys and tried this whole being normal thing and as soon as something got serious, I get terrified and I shut down and I reject everyone because its too overwhelming for me. I totally believe her when she says its not you its me, cause its very much an internal struggle for someone who has anxiety especially someone who never had the normal kind of socialisation in their childhood
Lol my now husband, before we were dating, but were friends who texted regularly … texted me on Valentines Day to wish me “Happy Patron Saint of Beekeeping Day”-which was a sweet way to obliquely let me know he was thinking of me on a romantic holiday-even though we weren’t “officially anything” yet. I thought this text was incredibly sweet at the time in that it indicated his crush without putting any major pressure on me- (Speaking of not pressuring me…He didn’t actually ask me on an ‘official’ date until May…😳) Fast forward to today we are married and we still put 🐝 on our valentines cards to each other.)
I really enjoyed this vid. It is great to see them both together. I was emotionally abused when I was a kid and now when I see people in a healthy relationship it just makes me very emotional. I cried quite a lot watching this because I realise how much the negative influence from my childhood is still affecting me negatively in having relationships with people. I am 33 now and sometimes it feels like it is to late for me. In the end I am not one to give up and will keep trying to overcome my past for a better future. Thanks a lot to this dr K his wife and this community.
Please keep going, it is not too late! I got into a relationship with my boyfriend when he was 33! He has a lot of trouble expressing and dealing with emotions since they were almost not allowed in his home. We've been together for 4 years and this is the longest relationship he's ever had but we make it work! I believe you can do it too, you'll find someone who clicks with you, understands and you will help each other grow and develop you skills, emotional or otherswise. My colleague from work is moving into a new flat with his girlfriend, he's a 38 bachelor and just found "his person". Timing is different for us all :) Good luck 🍀
idk why but i feel like wishing valentines day is usually for people that can celebrate it. for example i would wish my female friends valentines day because they are dating someone, and i would even wish some jokingly knowing they are single and can't really celebrate v day. i don't feel like wishing someone valentines day its a sign of attraction at all, its like saying merry Christmas
I think it's because people only think of romantic love when it comes to Valentines Day. At least with my family it's all about family and friendship love, too.
Same spread the love and show love to yourself on valentines day, specially under covid people feeling more disconnected and lonely than ever let them know you care and were thinkin of them!
Just a thought! The idea of a soul mate puts a lot of pressure on you to choose the right person, and a lot of pressure on your partners to BE a specific person. The reality is that we're all working on ourselves every day (whether we're doing so with purpose or not), and having an expectation that someone out there is the absolute perfect fit for you right now is not fair to yourself and to your partners. Look for the person who makes you want to work on yourself not just for yourself, but for them as well. The person who makes you feel that way will feel the same for you. THAT is what I think of as a true "soul mate." Someone who brings out the best in you and makes you want to do the same for them, even though you're both clearly still a work in progress. Sincerely, guy who's been happily married for 11 years.
One great tips I got for flirting is to focus on body language! Since flirting is supposed to be subtle and a lot of communication is non-verbal, its best to focus on making eye contact with the other person and mirroring the other person's body language. Also specific stuff like have your hips and shoulders face them if you're sitting down and go in with a touch of the shoulder while talking is good too.
I call my wife dude too. I've had people tease me for it but I call everybody dude honestly. It's just what I say when I get excited and want to tell someone something. It's like an opener so usually I end up calling her dudebabe.
It's a difference of taste I guess. My bf says dude for everything but I can't handle when he calls me dude. It feels so weird. It just sounds horrible in my head. I just remind him I don't like it though, no need to make a big deal about it when it's non intentional
@@Kaybye555 Idk, I feel as he respects you as an equal and can just be himself around you. That's why it comes to him so naturally. I find myself doing that same to Profs or mentors I feel I have a bond with. It's informal and out of place but they know me and my intentions so they don't care much and laugh at it. Try looking at it from what his intentions are by using those words instead. He's just trying to connect with you on his level is all. Not saying your feeling aren't valid but giving you some perspective to what he might think.
@@sadesemolu I know, that's why I said I don't make a big deal. I know he doesn't do it on purpose. Especially after I asked him not to do it But thanks
Relating to 33:39, I think it was really kind of that girl to send OP that message, as it’s much better to be honest about your feelings than to leave the person your dating in the dark. I’ve been in a similar situation (though it didn’t go as far as OPs) where a girl I was dating said she was too anxious about having a relationship and wanted to work on herself before getting into one. One piece of advice I would give is that if you have romantic feelings for someone then it’s usually best to not remain friends with them, because if they see you platonically but you see them romantically then it can make things really awkward for both of you.
21:57 don't let this sway you from homeschooling. It's a great way to make sure you child gets a valuable education BUT you have to be diligent about getting them socialized (through sports, church if you're religious, homeschool groups, etc.). I feel like the stigma of "homeschooled" is largely perpetuated by overly conservative/religious/controlling parents. Which could also be translated to private religious schools at a grander scale. It's all about how YOU want the child to be raised, so if you want them socialized and "normal" then take them out to socialize.
I agree! I was homeschooled for middle school; it tremendously helped my academic skills, but I didn't get out much (lol) so I was pretty socially anxious by the end of it. As soon as I went to public high school I was fine; if I had that during middle school I would've been fine too lmaooo
@@Dimitris_Half only if the kid doesn't go out to get socialization of any kind. I speak from personal experience--I was homeschooled and it was great. Socialization is simply just a skill. It can and should be developed: they just need to have opportunities to interact with people. This can be finding group activities like sports/clubs/bands, hanging out with friends/family, and other stuff along those lines.
Damn I'm proud of myself, I've agreed with basically y'all've said in this. I'm just proud of the emotional maturity I've developed particularly in the realm of just enjoying myself with women and not even seeking any particular outcome.
@@SkeleTonHammer I mean it doesn't make sense to demand anything. In fact I think that this mentality in talking about has led me to having much more opportunity of "meeting my needs" than being a scouring mutt lmao
@@SkeleTonHammer Depends on the context. If you're in a relationship with someone, then yes. Compromise is important and that means talking about your needs. But if you're talking about women in general, like this guy seems to be, then other people don't owe you anything. That's not a gender thing.
I’ve heard interpretations of Hinduism’s lifetimes as like the leaves on a tree. Rather than singular pieces reincarnating into other singular pieces. It’s one substance that reincarnates into every being. The love of you and your wife is the echo of all beings who have ever loved or married. It’s the one becoming many.
It happens to be a little saddening and disturbing to me that this person’s first instinct wasn’t to tell her boyfriend "I’m a little worried about this, can we talk about it," but instead to post on Reddit bout it. How is that a healthy place to be in, socially?
Yeah it's not :( Not communicating about things that worry you is what crashed my relationship, don't play the passive tactic and be scared of "worst case scenarios" just because you have something on your mind, say it, talk about it, get it out instead of being quiet and holding it in. I regret it heavily, don't do my mistake.
@@reformed_attempt_1 isn't that just sad? "There's a problem between me and a person I interact with on a regular basis... let's see what other people, who aren't involved in either of our lives, tell me to do."
I feel tired of attempting relationships. The last girl I liked, we spent almost 5 months hanging out weekly and I never kissed her, nor have I kissed anyone for that matter. The first time I saw her, she talked about how her bad experiences with guys making out with her was. Made me a bit retrospectively jealous, but she acted like they didn't exist and insisted she's never "been in a relationship", although that was a red flag in hindsight. She isn't reciprocative and so I feared rejection greatly. We both suffer from AVPD. The most beautiful girl in the world imo and as I got to know her, I felt that way even more so. But now that I've been thinking to myself, I realize it's almost been an anomaly if I even get to hang out with a girl at all. So I've decided to let go of that desire so I can focus on other things. Ats this point, she has begun her process of distancing and ghosting as of 6mo ago. She sent a message 3mo ago, but I guess she's in such a shitty place emotionally that she's entirely closed off. It feels like life is testing me by giving me someone I connect with entirely and making it nearly impossible to attain that union with them.
It sounds like an awful experience. 5 months and no physical touch? My dude, touch is important as hell. It's completely unacceptable to not even kiss after 5 months, it's unfair to you. While she says she wasn't comfortable because of mental health issues with kissing and all that, hindsight would've been to still make efforts to make a move anyway. I guarantee if you guys were able to kiss, hold hands, and hug, not even talking about sex yet, that the relationship would've been better. There's all sorts of articles on how to kiss a girl, increase physicality etc, if you Google search, but it all comes down to making a move. From your experience, which I'm sorry to hear sounded difficulty and painful, you'll need to improve your confidence and being assertive. This is a brutal truth but sometimes people push things away and say they don't want something when really they want the other person to take action. Of course that's not entirely acceptable because clear communication is important. Alternatively, you guys both weren't mature enough hence all the conflict. Now that you're not together, work on yourself, and serve your community or find a peer group. Another relationship will come when you least expect it if you're living your best life. Assert yourself.
@@Dimitris_Half I didn't. I'm scared of rejection, but she's also not reciprocative. I tried last time I saw her, but she ran away saying "I don't wanna mess it up". She was really depressed at that point though. It's difficult to find a time that she isn't.
@@johnnynguyen3521 yeah, it was something like that. She's really uncomfortable with being physically close, but there was a time where she thought I didn't even like her. When I was being affectionate, she froze as if it was unnatural to her. The guys she was with for a bit pulled her hair while kissing and were generally abusive, but we're both virgins, which made it worse. My main problem really is confidence and assertiveness. I've done everything to increase my confidence and I know I'm good looking, funny, and a great person, but I just feel so awkward trying and messing up with someone I really like. I'd feel more comfortable with someone that would let me figure it out without judgement, but then I'd feel that's not a great connection to have either as I have trouble getting close to people.
@@Dimitris_Half yeah, I'm sure I can. Depression makes her that way and she was usually depressed when we hung out due to home situation. Hope I can see her sometime soon. I'll update here when I do
@@Dimitris_Half this honestly doesn't happen as frequently as you think. I knew her 6yrs before we reconnected. Me having friends or even a love interest is a rarity due to AVPD. If I ever get into that state of getting close to someone, I bail and my doubts start to affect the way they act before it happens, so it ends up with rejection which causes me so much stress that it leads to crippling ruminations for months to a year. I hope to get better at this, but it is a huge impediment to my life.
having a crush on every girl isnt only a homeschool thing, ive lived 11 years in saudi arabia first where girls and boys couldnt attend the same class, so it was segregated, and talking to girls at that age wasnt the norm, and then after i was 11, till 21 now, i lived in italy and went to school in italy, i was always shy talking to girls cause in my first 11 years it was a strange thing, and now i also develop a crush on every girl i meet, and whenever im in a relationship im too needy
I can relate as I grew up in the U.A.E. However I'm the opposite now. I can talk to any girl and have no fear talking to pretty girls. I have clear intentions and that helped me a lot in retrospect.
33:39 Yea I feel with OLD it's really hard as you're a bit forced to make big decisions in a very short amount of time. Even if she did "lead him on" it's not out of spite but out of not really knowing how to navigate the situation. Rejection sucks for both parties and like Dr K said she might be into this guy but just not ready to go all the way just yet.
At 28.20 - iirc, I think there are interesting legal cases surrounding this kind of situation. For gifts, there is an assumption that the gift has "no strings attached," so you are not legally entitled to the ring if you ask for it back. If it's an engagement ring, in most cases you are legally entitled to the ring if the other person breaks off the engagement. That is, UNLESS the engagement was at a specific gift-giving event, like Christmas. Courts have ruled that an engagement ring given at Christmas is considered a gift that the giver is not entitled to, even if they would have been entitled to it had they proposed at another time. That's more for flavortext really though-- even if the OP isn't legally entitled to take the ring back, there's no harm in asking for it back. I agree with the K's that the rationale of "I gave this gift under a different understanding of our relationship," is totally reasonable; just not to have an expectation that she will give it back.
I am honestly right now so in need of actual conseil in this aspect of my life. It has brought me just today so much hurt that i had a break down at work.
I hang out with this friend often who I have feelings for (been friends for a while and I think she’s dropping hints, but who knows)… and she has said twice now “men are so easy” as a joke when watching shows or movies when women win over men easily. I’ve always laughed along with her. I am now kicking myself for not saying “yeah we are” or something lol
Not sure anybody has said this, but I think it would be honestly super cool if he started an alternate account or something for gaming! Would be cool hearing his perspectives in video games etc. Super awesome video, great dynamic.
It would be amazing if you did a video comparing Hindu/eastern ways of living and values in comparison to typical America. I don’t know much about it but it’s interesting to me
15:09 this whole thing just broke my most recent relationship up, even the little nuances ring true. Both parties have to be willing to talk about things fully and dredge up past trauma. It’s a tall order.
I never saw both of em together on stream, but Dr K really seems like a well mannered and obedient child infront of his wife 😂, I saw a different persona of him.
About the queen thing. I think he might actually try to make you jealous or it is some kind of inside joke. If I would call some streamer "my king" in front of my partner... I feel like it would be a weird thing to do and I don't see any point in it, unless I want to say that the streamer is somehow better than my boyfriend. I would consider it as questionable behaviour.
Also about that happy valentines day thing. Lets be real it isn't even a big gesture to say happy valentines day. And I think there is better ways to tell a girl that you like her than hinting with such a small gesture. It sounds like this guy does not have any confidence if it's a big deal to him, and I am not sure if this kind of person is ready to date a girl at all.
This video is awesome, I've recently found your channel Dr. K & I've not listened to a good psych channel as much as this one. You & your wife are a beautiful couple from this video alone. 🌹
that moment at 19:37 you gained +1 texting skill , but after you sent her that text and high fived her I seen you gain that +10 charisma and +10 happy wife
Watching you take shit and try to constructively throw it back is a hard thing see. It’s hard for me to not take things too seriously and give them a taste of their own medicine. I can learn a lot from your patience.
56:00 the problem I have this this is that I am not too flirty, like being flirty doesn't come out natural to me most of the time, is not something I do for enjoyment. So it's either I am not flirting or I am flirting because I have an intent so I don't know how to approach or change this about myself. Like yes, I can be funny, I can make people laugh but flirting it's not just making people laugh, it includes a sexual intent that some people can do just for fun and low pressure but I have no idea how to do that.
Hi Dr K and wife (shruti, kruthi??)! I am an American dating in Indian who is also hindu. I was curious about the seven lifetime lore so I researched that a while ago. And I found that the seven lifetimes do not stack on top of each other, if you get married in this lifetime that means that it's either your first lifetime last lifetime or somewhere in between. The way to know if it's your last lifetime is if the woman dies first. If the man dies first then you still have more lifetimes to go. ☺️👍
01:25:09 - Dr.K says something to her wife I found to be one of the most poetic, romantic, touching thing I've ever heard someone say to their romantic intrest...❤.
With the 2nd one, I don't want to get married but I did just get out of a 8 year relationship with someone who wanted marriage more than they wanted me. So I guess I'm a bit bias on that.
00:27:59 I don't know the law from where this person lives, but in Germany, there is a law that enforces to give back engagement presents, if the legal wedding didn't happen within, I think, a year. So it might be beneficial to ask a lawyer if she won't give back the ring.
Agreed, workplace is no place for romantic relationships! We present ourselves different for the workplace then we usually would outside of work. Therefore its important to know the person outside of work and building a relationship outside of work before turning it romantic! Also you are too cute together! The flirting was funny 😘
51:45 THAT'S FLIRTING? Person says they don't want to be flirted with but then you ask them what they want and next sentence they want it? I am so confused, almost 30 and still don't get it.
My friend group all say Happy Valentines to one another, regardless of relationship status. Just use it as an ice breaker! It's harmless and polite. And cute!
Its funny, my ex-girlfriend couldn't see we had none of the chemistry a normal healthy relationship has, aka flirting, teasing, genuine kindness, and the numerous little things.
6:40 I think for a lot of people, the title brings complacency; they get too comfortable in the security. You have to be resolute to get married, or else it feels like a sentence. Once you reach the end of the sentence and add that period, does the book end or will the next sentence start?
How can I effectively tell my mom that I'm committed to staying single for the rest of my life? I'm 27 and wanting to stay single because I've yet to even witness a healthy relationship in my life outside of the screen, my first ever relationship went so poorly that I basically became the punching bag of my group of friends and classmates (her and I shared the same group of friends, and I got the shitty end of the stick). Any attempts of changing my status had just added more grit and spit to my idea of intimate relationships, and I know people who didn't make it to adulthood due to how vile people can and will be after breakups. Whenever I do thought experiments on what its like to be in a loving and healthy relationship and all I see is nothingness, it isn't even a concept to me. Top it off is that my parents are going through a knife fight like court battle and got me and my siblings involved, finally obliterating any trace of belief that I could be in an intimate relationship with another human being. I don't like being around people longer than I need to be, but I'm polite about it, even the idea of having to interact with others drains me of energy, so the less I have to interact with others the better I feel about myself.
Instead of doing thought experiments have you tried actually going out there and *finding* that loving relationship? You can sit around and think about being in a relationship all you want but you will never actually know what it means to be in a healthy and loving relationship until you are in one, and the only way to be in one is to physically go out there and be in one. Sitting around all day and thinking about what a relationship is like and determining you don't want to be in one is like lining up for an olympyic race, thinking about actually running in the race, and then not moving when the start gun fires because you thought the other guys were fast and you can't win, even though you made it to the olympics and are as fast as them
@@nyalan8385 I don't believe it's worth the effort to be in that kind of vulnerable state, sometimes I get sick to my stomach at the idea of being on the short end of the stick again, I don't want to give someone that kind of power over me again. I guess I'm right in thinking that people treat me like a broken toy, I'd rather people just leave me alone and find someone else to bother for their cheap thrills
@@elijahaitaok8624 ok, then you can go off and spend the rest of your life like that, dying sad and alone, or you can let yourself be vulnerable again, and find happiness. You've had a negative experience and you sound like it's caused you a lot of trauma that you haven't worked through. Platforms like this one at Healthy Gamer, and any other form of therapy related things are great places to take that first stel and start working through your trauma. Many (myself included) would argue that you're missing out on the best part of life, and you're allowing a bad experience to determine the rest of your life
@@elijahaitaok8624 honestly i get what you are saying, its really hard to go back to searching for a new relationship when the last one was so shitty. I am same as you kinda pessimistic abt 'healthy relationship' like does it even exist lol and its like everywhere u see u see ONLY the bad examples and all the reasons to not go find a partner. I think its okay to focus on something else like career or anything else and give yourself time until you can say to yourself that yes maybe i want a partner and i know its gonna be hard but i still want to try. edit: also i feel like its easier for me to say this because i am younger than you and in a diff place than you but honestly dont lose hope yet.
@@nyalan8385 why are u attacking them i mean i am sure the person already knows all the things u just mentioned but its still rude to say that,, its like that little annoying voice in our heads coming to life lmaoo like 'yOu gOnNa diE aLoNe aND nO oNe's gOnNA eVer lOvE yOu bEcaUSe u aRE unlOvabLE'
as an autistic person, that flirting interaction is confusing me the hell out. it's good that i am not capable of it, because flirting would feel like lying lol
0:01 I've seen it before but with girls saying "I love this kpop idol, wanna marry him" in front of their boyfriends, and the guys are just standing there laughing but inside I'm sure it feels bad.
15:00 I've heard from family that they really never wanted to get married. Within 2 years of meeting my cousin in law they were married and now another 2 years they've had two kids.
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"Why do you pick the weirdest chatters?"
"I don't think they're weird"
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"Kruti, how big is your biceps?"
To be fair that's just random. In the scope of the Internet, that's far from weird. And having nice biceps is cool!
@@darkphoenix2 ok weird chatter
i felt so bad for her. "he should dress better" damn.
@@apoapsisrocketsupplies1063 ok boomer
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Ok I understand now. Being in a relationship is all about getting in the hole, thanks Dr. K!
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@@jonesaffrou6014 xD
The flirting section... as a happily married guy, loved it. My wife and I flirt all the time, and these 2 were doing exactly what my wife and I do LOL
"What does marriage mean to you?"
"...can I think for a sec?"
"Marriage is just another scam the rich use to extract wealth from common people and grease the wheels of capitalism."
@@draa0gon who hurt you
@@hemangmathur2823 I mean, I wouldn't pin it on capitalism, but I don't exactly understand the point of marriage either, especially where I live, you pay more taxes for getting married and besides the taxes thing it just seems like an outdated concept...Most people don't even stay together. I don't get why people get married nowadays.
_I thought this was a joke but nope lmao_
@Hemang Mathur Capitalism is all about exploiting others; you need to at least be able to tell when someone is trying their grift out on you if you want to survive. You don't have to be hurt to see that.
Yes dude. This is what I've been saying. If you want to be in a romantic relationship, especially long term, you're going to have to make some changes and should expect that the other person will be changing as well. You gotta plan for that if you really want it to last.
100%. But also don't base a relationship on your own prediction for how your partner will change. I've been there and it sucks when your SO wants to force you into a person you're never going to be.
Absolutely. I was on my way to being an astronaut before getting into a relationship, but it completely switched when my current relationship got adequately serious. I'm not going to leave her behind and go to space. What if we have kids? I refuse to be the dad that leaves for months and months for work. I don't care how amazing a dad I am during those months I'm there. I'm not going to be away from my kids for 6 months at a time. What if I die in space? Sure, technology is becoming better and stronger, so the chances of dying aren't 100%, but the opportunity is still there, and it's higher than I would like it to be. I'm also not leaving my partner alone for 6 months. I have no doubts about her loyalty; she's not the type to cheat on me while I'm away. I just don't want her to be alone for so many months of the year. I can't do that to her.
So I decided to change my life plans, and it turns out I have no regrets, and what I'm doing now is what I really wanted to do all along. All's well that ends well, and I have no regrets about my decision.
@@LuciusHill Yup, that's awesome. Really happy for you.
@@LuciusHill I know this is 1 year ago but that's so wholesome oh my lord, bless you and I'm glad you're happy with the decision you made!
The unwillingness or over willingness to do this is the number one contributor to being unsatisfied with your relationships.
I'm in the same exact situation as the Valentine's guy. First date was last Saturday. Second date is tomorrow. We text every day. I wished her Happy Valentine's on Monday and it was hardly different than had I wished her a happy birthday. I feel like everyone is overthinking this haha
I’ve been seeing this girl and I totally forgot about Valentine’s Day. Let’s hope she doesn’t mind
@@adamyooz I would say apologize for forgetting and talk about what the holiday means for you two. My wife and I have never once celebrated Valentine's Day, but we do go out and buy cheap chocolate and a teddy bear after. We call it National Cheap Chocolate Day. Just don't ever forget and anniversary or her birthday and you'll be fine.
Agreed. And without the disclaimer Dr. K put in the beginning. Just happy valentine's day or happy valentine's day with a heart is fine. If she likes him she will probably just think it's nice that he likes her enough to think of her on valentine's day. If she doesn't, she probably wouldn't have agreed to go on a second date.
This whole thing just screams overthinking to me. Maybe cultural differences, but it really is such a small thing. If you get her these nice things regularly it shouldn't be a big deal, if you don't then that sounds like the issue and not this arbitrary day.
@@MrDrumStikz Luckily she’s not American so valentine’s hasn’t really ever been a thing for her apparently. She didn’t care.
These streams together with dr k and his wife are so cute. Reminds me of my wife and I. Lots of teasing and laughing I’m the goofball and she keeps me in line. His goofy happy smile the whole time is fantastic
"I would expect you to call male hot tub streamers your queen" lmaoooo
"Help me decode this message" I think I can give a perspective on it since I've been that girl. I've got tinder once and talked to guys and tried this whole being normal thing and as soon as something got serious, I get terrified and I shut down and I reject everyone because its too overwhelming for me. I totally believe her when she says its not you its me, cause its very much an internal struggle for someone who has anxiety especially someone who never had the normal kind of socialisation in their childhood
I feel the same way. I feel afraid of committing. I’m a little upset that they weren’t able to pick up on that
Lol my now husband, before we were dating, but were friends who texted regularly … texted me on Valentines Day to wish me “Happy Patron Saint of Beekeeping Day”-which was a sweet way to obliquely let me know he was thinking of me on a romantic holiday-even though we weren’t “officially anything” yet. I thought this text was incredibly sweet at the time in that it indicated his crush without putting any major pressure on me- (Speaking of not pressuring me…He didn’t actually ask me on an ‘official’ date until May…😳)
Fast forward to today we are married and we still put 🐝 on our valentines cards to each other.)
That’s awesome!
You guys genuinely restore my faith in finding a soulmate some day
hope you get there!❤️
@@jamescanjuggle thank you!
As a male in my mid twenties who never dated, ever. I also got my faith restored. 😅
You'll still remain how you are
@@jatinchanchlani8982 Hahahaa incel
I really enjoyed this vid. It is great to see them both together. I was emotionally abused when I was a kid and now when I see people in a healthy relationship it just makes me very emotional. I cried quite a lot watching this because I realise how much the negative influence from my childhood is still affecting me negatively in having relationships with people. I am 33 now and sometimes it feels like it is to late for me. In the end I am not one to give up and will keep trying to overcome my past for a better future. Thanks a lot to this dr K his wife and this community.
It is possible for you. Don't give up
Please keep going, it is not too late!
I got into a relationship with my boyfriend when he was 33! He has a lot of trouble expressing and dealing with emotions since they were almost not allowed in his home. We've been together for 4 years and this is the longest relationship he's ever had but we make it work!
I believe you can do it too, you'll find someone who clicks with you, understands and you will help each other grow and develop you skills, emotional or otherswise.
My colleague from work is moving into a new flat with his girlfriend, he's a 38 bachelor and just found "his person". Timing is different for us all :)
Good luck 🍀
the one underrated quality i wish to emulate from Dr. K is his ability to take time before he responds to think about his response. underrated skill
The dynamic duo! We need more Ms. K live.
Mrs. K*
idk why but i feel like wishing valentines day is usually for people that can celebrate it. for example i would wish my female friends valentines day because they are dating someone, and i would even wish some jokingly knowing they are single and can't really celebrate v day. i don't feel like wishing someone valentines day its a sign of attraction at all, its like saying merry Christmas
I wish everybody in my life a happy valentines day! single, dating, married, widowed. to me, it's just a day to spread love.
Well, valentines day also works for friendship in my country, so I wish all of my closest friends a good V-Day even if they are single
I think it's because people only think of romantic love when it comes to Valentines Day. At least with my family it's all about family and friendship love, too.
Same spread the love and show love to yourself on valentines day, specially under covid people feeling more disconnected and lonely than ever let them know you care and were thinkin of them!
I'm always hyped when I see the two of them together in a video! ❤
Just a thought! The idea of a soul mate puts a lot of pressure on you to choose the right person, and a lot of pressure on your partners to BE a specific person. The reality is that we're all working on ourselves every day (whether we're doing so with purpose or not), and having an expectation that someone out there is the absolute perfect fit for you right now is not fair to yourself and to your partners.
Look for the person who makes you want to work on yourself not just for yourself, but for them as well. The person who makes you feel that way will feel the same for you. THAT is what I think of as a true "soul mate." Someone who brings out the best in you and makes you want to do the same for them, even though you're both clearly still a work in progress.
Sincerely, guy who's been happily married for 11 years.
They're so great together 🥰
One great tips I got for flirting is to focus on body language! Since flirting is supposed to be subtle and a lot of communication is non-verbal, its best to focus on making eye contact with the other person and mirroring the other person's body language. Also specific stuff like have your hips and shoulders face them if you're sitting down and go in with a touch of the shoulder while talking is good too.
Well… the touch of the shoulder is definitely only in certain situations 😅
I think your flirting with birds mate. be careful next time
i‘d love to see kruti stream by herself even for just 20mins or so. i really enjoy her talk
@@vidzorko4492They said "i really enjoy her talk."
She's really funny and just as insightful as Dr. K, would be fun to see more of her
I call my wife dude too. I've had people tease me for it but I call everybody dude honestly. It's just what I say when I get excited and want to tell someone something. It's like an opener so usually I end up calling her dudebabe.
It's a difference of taste I guess. My bf says dude for everything but I can't handle when he calls me dude. It feels so weird. It just sounds horrible in my head. I just remind him I don't like it though, no need to make a big deal about it when it's non intentional
Dudebabe sounds kinda cool.
@@Kaybye555 Idk, I feel as he respects you as an equal and can just be himself around you. That's why it comes to him so naturally. I find myself doing that same to Profs or mentors I feel I have a bond with. It's informal and out of place but they know me and my intentions so they don't care much and laugh at it.
Try looking at it from what his intentions are by using those words instead. He's just trying to connect with you on his level is all. Not saying your feeling aren't valid but giving you some perspective to what he might think.
@@sadesemolu I know, that's why I said I don't make a big deal. I know he doesn't do it on purpose. Especially after I asked him not to do it
But thanks
@@Kaybye555 that's good, as long as you're open and honest you dont like, rather then staying quiet making faces or so so, communication!
Relating to 33:39, I think it was really kind of that girl to send OP that message, as it’s much better to be honest about your feelings than to leave the person your dating in the dark. I’ve been in a similar situation (though it didn’t go as far as OPs) where a girl I was dating said she was too anxious about having a relationship and wanted to work on herself before getting into one. One piece of advice I would give is that if you have romantic feelings for someone then it’s usually best to not remain friends with them, because if they see you platonically but you see them romantically then it can make things really awkward for both of you.
How to flirt and how to converse with beautiful people - yes! Something for me.
Thank you, Doctor K.!
Aww when she genuinely looks confused trying to think of things she doesn't like about Dr. K and can't (aside from burping) that was so wholesome
21:57 don't let this sway you from homeschooling. It's a great way to make sure you child gets a valuable education BUT you have to be diligent about getting them socialized (through sports, church if you're religious, homeschool groups, etc.). I feel like the stigma of "homeschooled" is largely perpetuated by overly conservative/religious/controlling parents. Which could also be translated to private religious schools at a grander scale. It's all about how YOU want the child to be raised, so if you want them socialized and "normal" then take them out to socialize.
I agree! I was homeschooled for middle school; it tremendously helped my academic skills, but I didn't get out much (lol) so I was pretty socially anxious by the end of it. As soon as I went to public high school I was fine; if I had that during middle school I would've been fine too lmaooo
@@Dimitris_Half only if the kid doesn't go out to get socialization of any kind. I speak from personal experience--I was homeschooled and it was great. Socialization is simply just a skill. It can and should be developed: they just need to have opportunities to interact with people. This can be finding group activities like sports/clubs/bands, hanging out with friends/family, and other stuff along those lines.
Maybe wait until they're in their mid teens to take them to church and let them decide for themselves if your ideology is correct for them
@@DanielCook-h6r That's totally fair, church is just a good place for them to be around kids their age. It's the adults you gotta watch out for haha
Damn I'm proud of myself, I've agreed with basically y'all've said in this. I'm just proud of the emotional maturity I've developed particularly in the realm of just enjoying myself with women and not even seeking any particular outcome.
@@SkeleTonHammer I mean it doesn't make sense to demand anything. In fact I think that this mentality in talking about has led me to having much more opportunity of "meeting my needs" than being a scouring mutt lmao
@@SkeleTonHammer what kind of needs are you talking about?
@@SkeleTonHammer braindead comment
@@SkeleTonHammer Depends on the context. If you're in a relationship with someone, then yes. Compromise is important and that means talking about your needs. But if you're talking about women in general, like this guy seems to be, then other people don't owe you anything. That's not a gender thing.
@@NightWing1800 yeah what Malik is saying. We just vibin baby
These two are cute together
the smiling and fake smile moment was cyoooot
I’ve heard interpretations of Hinduism’s lifetimes as like the leaves on a tree. Rather than singular pieces reincarnating into other singular pieces. It’s one substance that reincarnates into every being. The love of you and your wife is the echo of all beings who have ever loved or married. It’s the one becoming many.
This is really insightful!
These two are so cute together, any more cuteness would overload RUclips.
You guys are sooo cute!!!!!!!!!!!! xDDD When he was describing the 7 lifetimes of marriage, I loved how she was blushing. So cute
56:48 is a gem. 100% agree with this. Personally, that's how I am when talking to people. Try to have a genuine conversation with pure intentions.
Def ask for the ring back! Normally she should've given it back, or rejected it in the first place.
It happens to be a little saddening and disturbing to me that this person’s first instinct wasn’t to tell her boyfriend "I’m a little worried about this, can we talk about it," but instead to post on Reddit bout it. How is that a healthy place to be in, socially?
Yeah it's not :( Not communicating about things that worry you is what crashed my relationship, don't play the passive tactic and be scared of "worst case scenarios" just because you have something on your mind, say it, talk about it, get it out instead of being quiet and holding it in.
I regret it heavily, don't do my mistake.
literally 99% of posts on r/relationshipadvice are solved by communicating
@@reformed_attempt_1 isn't that just sad? "There's a problem between me and a person I interact with on a regular basis... let's see what other people, who aren't involved in either of our lives, tell me to do."
I would love if this was a podcast that was released every week. I would listen to every episode of that.
i can relate with 99% accuracy to the cheating situation. this helped. i appreciate the aoe healing.
1:11:10 I had an idea a while ago. Dr k should go into lobbies in different games and talk with people the way he always does but in game.
I feel like there's a little bit of a consent issue there, but I'm not sure...
He just kinda did it on stream with Call of Duty players sometime this year.
I feel tired of attempting relationships. The last girl I liked, we spent almost 5 months hanging out weekly and I never kissed her, nor have I kissed anyone for that matter. The first time I saw her, she talked about how her bad experiences with guys making out with her was. Made me a bit retrospectively jealous, but she acted like they didn't exist and insisted she's never "been in a relationship", although that was a red flag in hindsight. She isn't reciprocative and so I feared rejection greatly. We both suffer from AVPD. The most beautiful girl in the world imo and as I got to know her, I felt that way even more so. But now that I've been thinking to myself, I realize it's almost been an anomaly if I even get to hang out with a girl at all. So I've decided to let go of that desire so I can focus on other things. Ats this point, she has begun her process of distancing and ghosting as of 6mo ago. She sent a message 3mo ago, but I guess she's in such a shitty place emotionally that she's entirely closed off. It feels like life is testing me by giving me someone I connect with entirely and making it nearly impossible to attain that union with them.
It sounds like an awful experience. 5 months and no physical touch? My dude, touch is important as hell. It's completely unacceptable to not even kiss after 5 months, it's unfair to you. While she says she wasn't comfortable because of mental health issues with kissing and all that, hindsight would've been to still make efforts to make a move anyway. I guarantee if you guys were able to kiss, hold hands, and hug, not even talking about sex yet, that the relationship would've been better. There's all sorts of articles on how to kiss a girl, increase physicality etc, if you Google search, but it all comes down to making a move. From your experience, which I'm sorry to hear sounded difficulty and painful, you'll need to improve your confidence and being assertive. This is a brutal truth but sometimes people push things away and say they don't want something when really they want the other person to take action. Of course that's not entirely acceptable because clear communication is important. Alternatively, you guys both weren't mature enough hence all the conflict. Now that you're not together, work on yourself, and serve your community or find a peer group. Another relationship will come when you least expect it if you're living your best life. Assert yourself.
@@Dimitris_Half I didn't. I'm scared of rejection, but she's also not reciprocative. I tried last time I saw her, but she ran away saying "I don't wanna mess it up". She was really depressed at that point though. It's difficult to find a time that she isn't.
@@johnnynguyen3521 yeah, it was something like that. She's really uncomfortable with being physically close, but there was a time where she thought I didn't even like her. When I was being affectionate, she froze as if it was unnatural to her. The guys she was with for a bit pulled her hair while kissing and were generally abusive, but we're both virgins, which made it worse. My main problem really is confidence and assertiveness. I've done everything to increase my confidence and I know I'm good looking, funny, and a great person, but I just feel so awkward trying and messing up with someone I really like. I'd feel more comfortable with someone that would let me figure it out without judgement, but then I'd feel that's not a great connection to have either as I have trouble getting close to people.
@@Dimitris_Half yeah, I'm sure I can. Depression makes her that way and she was usually depressed when we hung out due to home situation. Hope I can see her sometime soon. I'll update here when I do
@@Dimitris_Half this honestly doesn't happen as frequently as you think. I knew her 6yrs before we reconnected. Me having friends or even a love interest is a rarity due to AVPD. If I ever get into that state of getting close to someone, I bail and my doubts start to affect the way they act before it happens, so it ends up with rejection which causes me so much stress that it leads to crippling ruminations for months to a year. I hope to get better at this, but it is a huge impediment to my life.
having a crush on every girl isnt only a homeschool thing, ive lived 11 years in saudi arabia first where girls and boys couldnt attend the same class, so it was segregated, and talking to girls at that age wasnt the norm, and then after i was 11, till 21 now, i lived in italy and went to school in italy, i was always shy talking to girls cause in my first 11 years it was a strange thing, and now i also develop a crush on every girl i meet, and whenever im in a relationship im too needy
so in other words, what 0 bitches does to a mfer
@@itsbk6192 got the whole squad laughing
@@igris6128 indubitably
I can relate as I grew up in the U.A.E. However I'm the opposite now. I can talk to any girl and have no fear talking to pretty girls. I have clear intentions and that helped me a lot in retrospect.
These videos are needed, thanks so much
33:39 Yea I feel with OLD it's really hard as you're a bit forced to make big decisions in a very short amount of time. Even if she did "lead him on" it's not out of spite but out of not really knowing how to navigate the situation. Rejection sucks for both parties and like Dr K said she might be into this guy but just not ready to go all the way just yet.
At 28.20 - iirc, I think there are interesting legal cases surrounding this kind of situation. For gifts, there is an assumption that the gift has "no strings attached," so you are not legally entitled to the ring if you ask for it back. If it's an engagement ring, in most cases you are legally entitled to the ring if the other person breaks off the engagement. That is, UNLESS the engagement was at a specific gift-giving event, like Christmas. Courts have ruled that an engagement ring given at Christmas is considered a gift that the giver is not entitled to, even if they would have been entitled to it had they proposed at another time.
That's more for flavortext really though-- even if the OP isn't legally entitled to take the ring back, there's no harm in asking for it back. I agree with the K's that the rationale of "I gave this gift under a different understanding of our relationship," is totally reasonable; just not to have an expectation that she will give it back.
I am honestly right now so in need of actual conseil in this aspect of my life. It has brought me just today so much hurt that i had a break down at work.
I hang out with this friend often who I have feelings for (been friends for a while and I think she’s dropping hints, but who knows)… and she has said twice now “men are so easy” as a joke when watching shows or movies when women win over men easily. I’ve always laughed along with her. I am now kicking myself for not saying “yeah we are” or something lol
Not sure anybody has said this, but I think it would be honestly super cool if he started an alternate account or something for gaming! Would be cool hearing his perspectives in video games etc.
Super awesome video, great dynamic.
It would be amazing if you did a video comparing Hindu/eastern ways of living and values in comparison to typical America. I don’t know much about it but it’s interesting to me
1:04:52 how to practice flirting: flirt with your friends (eg for hetero male, only with straight male friends)
Love this so much. More with both of you pleeeeaaaasssse
15:09 this whole thing just broke my most recent relationship up, even the little nuances ring true. Both parties have to be willing to talk about things fully and dredge up past trauma. It’s a tall order.
I never saw both of em together on stream, but Dr K really seems like a well mannered and obedient child infront of his wife 😂, I saw a different persona of him.
About the queen thing. I think he might actually try to make you jealous or it is some kind of inside joke. If I would call some streamer "my king" in front of my partner... I feel like it would be a weird thing to do and I don't see any point in it, unless I want to say that the streamer is somehow better than my boyfriend. I would consider it as questionable behaviour.
Also about that happy valentines day thing. Lets be real it isn't even a big gesture to say happy valentines day. And I think there is better ways to tell a girl that you like her than hinting with such a small gesture. It sounds like this guy does not have any confidence if it's a big deal to him, and I am not sure if this kind of person is ready to date a girl at all.
I think it depends on the personality of the person in question too
Eh I mean, it be ok if they refer that way to both genders for his streamers etc. "hello my kings and queens!" Lol idk
the FOMO talk at the end was something that I really needed to hear. thanks dr. k
47:20 the way her face changes here is so perfect
This video is awesome, I've recently found your channel Dr. K & I've not listened to a good psych channel as much as this one.
You & your wife are a beautiful couple from this video alone. 🌹
I really hope I become the kind of person whose wife talks about me in the way Kruti talks about Dr. K. That shit had me smiling super hard.
that moment at 19:37 you gained +1 texting skill , but after you sent her that text and high fived her I seen you gain that +10 charisma and +10 happy wife
You're so insightful and have so much empathy, Dr. K
Your wife is so beautiful! I love when you guys do videos together
This was really insightful.
Watching you take shit and try to constructively throw it back is a hard thing see. It’s hard for me to not take things too seriously and give them a taste of their own medicine. I can learn a lot from your patience.
God you two are just honestly too cute, and the love between you is so obvious the way you look at each other.
God, I love these two.
Can’t have relationship problems if you’re not in a relationship
I wanna thank mrs. K for her advices, it really made me figure out a lot about my relationship.
56:00 the problem I have this this is that I am not too flirty, like being flirty doesn't come out natural to me most of the time, is not something I do for enjoyment. So it's either I am not flirting or I am flirting because I have an intent so I don't know how to approach or change this about myself. Like yes, I can be funny, I can make people laugh but flirting it's not just making people laugh, it includes a sexual intent that some people can do just for fun and low pressure but I have no idea how to do that.
Hi Dr K and wife (shruti, kruthi??)! I am an American dating in Indian who is also hindu. I was curious about the seven lifetime lore so I researched that a while ago. And I found that the seven lifetimes do not stack on top of each other, if you get married in this lifetime that means that it's either your first lifetime last lifetime or somewhere in between. The way to know if it's your last lifetime is if the woman dies first. If the man dies first then you still have more lifetimes to go. ☺️👍
I love the both of you guys. More power to y'all
51:58 happiness inducing 🎵 from Alok
01:25:09 - Dr.K says something to her wife I found to be one of the most poetic, romantic, touching thing I've ever heard someone say to their romantic intrest...❤.
Girl at 33:45 did that really well I feel. I believe it’s better to know than leave things up in the air for interpretation
With the 2nd one, I don't want to get married but I did just get out of a 8 year relationship with someone who wanted marriage more than they wanted me. So I guess I'm a bit bias on that.
00:27:59 I don't know the law from where this person lives, but in Germany, there is a law that enforces to give back engagement presents, if the legal wedding didn't happen within, I think, a year. So it might be beneficial to ask a lawyer if she won't give back the ring.
it wasn't an engagement ring, it was just a Christmas gift.
@@sparkzzy889 I think this still counts as an engagement present.
Agreed, workplace is no place for romantic relationships! We present ourselves different for the workplace then we usually would outside of work. Therefore its important to know the person outside of work and building a relationship outside of work before turning it romantic! Also you are too cute together! The flirting was funny 😘
51:45 THAT'S FLIRTING? Person says they don't want to be flirted with but then you ask them what they want and next sentence they want it?
I am so confused, almost 30 and still don't get it.
01:29:40 - When Disturb by someone Beautiful : Get used to the stimuli of them being attractive and then ultimately pass over it.
"help me understand the joke" can be hard these days
They have such a healthy relationship! It’s awesome!
1:00:46 this gives me such inspiration
It's funny watching Mrs K try and hold herself back from instinctively shaming the guy asking the marriage question.
The audio is very quiet in this one. Thanks for all the vids!
Y'all are so PRECIOUS together 😭😭 ❤️🖤❤️🖤
Also would have loved to see this with the live chat! such a fun yet aducational episode
My friend group all say Happy Valentines to one another, regardless of relationship status. Just use it as an ice breaker! It's harmless and polite. And cute!
Man, one of my favorite videos yet.
Its funny, my ex-girlfriend couldn't see we had none of the chemistry a normal healthy relationship has, aka flirting, teasing, genuine kindness, and the numerous little things.
I want them as my parents/friends
I’ve never had a crush in my life and I went to public school. I’ve been crushed on a few times to the point where it made me uncomfortable
Dr. K talking with an Indian accent always slays me.
Thanks Dr K. I really need dopamine detox. I am addicted to youtube
6:40 I think for a lot of people, the title brings complacency; they get too comfortable in the security. You have to be resolute to get married, or else it feels like a sentence. Once you reach the end of the sentence and add that period, does the book end or will the next sentence start?
How can I effectively tell my mom that I'm committed to staying single for the rest of my life? I'm 27 and wanting to stay single because I've yet to even witness a healthy relationship in my life outside of the screen, my first ever relationship went so poorly that I basically became the punching bag of my group of friends and classmates (her and I shared the same group of friends, and I got the shitty end of the stick). Any attempts of changing my status had just added more grit and spit to my idea of intimate relationships, and I know people who didn't make it to adulthood due to how vile people can and will be after breakups. Whenever I do thought experiments on what its like to be in a loving and healthy relationship and all I see is nothingness, it isn't even a concept to me. Top it off is that my parents are going through a knife fight like court battle and got me and my siblings involved, finally obliterating any trace of belief that I could be in an intimate relationship with another human being. I don't like being around people longer than I need to be, but I'm polite about it, even the idea of having to interact with others drains me of energy, so the less I have to interact with others the better I feel about myself.
Instead of doing thought experiments have you tried actually going out there and *finding* that loving relationship? You can sit around and think about being in a relationship all you want but you will never actually know what it means to be in a healthy and loving relationship until you are in one, and the only way to be in one is to physically go out there and be in one.
Sitting around all day and thinking about what a relationship is like and determining you don't want to be in one is like lining up for an olympyic race, thinking about actually running in the race, and then not moving when the start gun fires because you thought the other guys were fast and you can't win, even though you made it to the olympics and are as fast as them
@@nyalan8385 I don't believe it's worth the effort to be in that kind of vulnerable state, sometimes I get sick to my stomach at the idea of being on the short end of the stick again, I don't want to give someone that kind of power over me again. I guess I'm right in thinking that people treat me like a broken toy, I'd rather people just leave me alone and find someone else to bother for their cheap thrills
@@elijahaitaok8624 ok, then you can go off and spend the rest of your life like that, dying sad and alone, or you can let yourself be vulnerable again, and find happiness. You've had a negative experience and you sound like it's caused you a lot of trauma that you haven't worked through. Platforms like this one at Healthy Gamer, and any other form of therapy related things are great places to take that first stel and start working through your trauma. Many (myself included) would argue that you're missing out on the best part of life, and you're allowing a bad experience to determine the rest of your life
@@elijahaitaok8624 honestly i get what you are saying, its really hard to go back to searching for a new relationship when the last one was so shitty. I am same as you kinda pessimistic abt 'healthy relationship' like does it even exist lol and its like everywhere u see u see ONLY the bad examples and all the reasons to not go find a partner. I think its okay to focus on something else like career or anything else and give yourself time until you can say to yourself that yes maybe i want a partner and i know its gonna be hard but i still want to try.
edit: also i feel like its easier for me to say this because i am younger than you and in a diff place than you but honestly dont lose hope yet.
@@nyalan8385 why are u attacking them i mean i am sure the person already knows all the things u just mentioned but its still rude to say that,, its like that little annoying voice in our heads coming to life lmaoo like 'yOu gOnNa diE aLoNe aND nO oNe's gOnNA eVer lOvE yOu bEcaUSe u aRE unlOvabLE'
This vedio is my favourite lately.. wanna have Mrs k back
seeing dr k play through disco elysium would be incredible
New setup is clean af Dr K
"where you"
-Dr. Alok Kanojia
57:30
"I've got my pitcher"
fucking sigma male 🤣
Imagine being loved, haha, amirite lads?...
Imagine no more… I love u bro
LvU4Eva bro🌹
Love you bro
couldn't. be. me.
@@peaklander1 love you bro
as an autistic person, that flirting interaction is confusing me the hell out.
it's good that i am not capable of it, because flirting would feel like lying lol
this man drinking out of a milk steaming pitcher LMAOO
0:01 I've seen it before but with girls saying "I love this kpop idol, wanna marry him" in front of their boyfriends, and the guys are just standing there laughing but inside I'm sure it feels bad.
Kruti is super smart and funny! You guys are an entertaining pair to listen to 😊
15:00 I've heard from family that they really never wanted to get married. Within 2 years of meeting my cousin in law they were married and now another 2 years they've had two kids.
Don't give your girl the ring you gave to another girl before. It's insulting and hurtful. Better not to give anything.