Hampton I not only want to say sorry for your loss. but thank you for making this video. tonight has been a rough night on me. being mentally unstable and going through such a hard one sided break up. to see this video pop in my feed was either god or the universe telling me what I need to hear. I'm not okay now. nor will I be tomorrow, or the day after. But i know with patience ill be the best version of me. so if you ever see this comment. please know that I'm so thankful for your words.
Your mom is proud of you, and she thinks you did an amazing job in the moment and wants you to let go of any guilt because she is not feeling anything but love and admiration for you right now and for eternity. ❤❤❤❤
My logic circuits state that a fully feeling human being would feel shitty. I, however, am puzzled by why you're here drinking yourself stupid." -- Data to probably Riker.
THANK YOU. I so needed to hear that....I felt so guilty for not being able to protect my daughter during child custody with a narcissist because the family court system is PRO abuser (who have $$$). I live with a broken heart but I go on...
I just lost my mom after 8 years as her caregiver after her 2nd stroke. I’ve put on so much weight. I found your channel looking for some help. It’s an odd comfort to know you understand the caregivers heart.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. And I can’t imagine how hard it was to care for someone full time for that long. You want to, of course, but I’m sure there were times you just didn’t want to have to, the burden is so much. Thankfully, you get to spend time with your loved one but caregivers so desperately need breaks, like parents of small children, sometimes you just need time away. I hope you were able to have that time away for your own self care, which we all so often neglect. Good luck on your fitness journey, I hope you’ve joined the Reddit sub bc everyone there is SO very wonderful and supportive.
It is so honorable to take care of someone as you have to sacrifice so much for their benefit yet you did it graciously for 8 years bless you and your mother if you believe in God I pray that she’s being held in the highest heaven.
My condolences.❤ I’ve found the support group GriefShare to be very (!) helpful to me after I lost my nephew to a sudden and tragic incident. Wishing you peace and hope .
Caregiving for a loved one is one of the hardest challenges a person can face in life. It can take a toll on your health. Hope you are surrounded by love and support as you continue your journey of being an amazing human being. ❤
I believe, as a mother and a daughter, it is not the child's job to “pay us back.” It is the greatest joy to see your children doing what they love, being healthy and well…and shining their light. That is payment enough, that lets you know that all those years of hard work and sleepless nights were well worth it. I’m sure your mom was very proud of you!
As a primary doctor i see a lot of people only living to take care of loved ones. Often over the years the primary care giver eventually wears down to complete kaputt. They oftentimes sacrifice everything: relationships, phisical and espacially mental health, ... and oftentimes there persists a feeling of never doing enough. I have the utmost respect for these caregivers. You can only do your best, no one should expect more of you than that, not even yourself. It is ok to take of yourself.
That's a good reason to take care of yourself now to prevent getting into a condition that requires that of your children, per se you have children. I want to have that old man strength and abilities that blow everyone's mind and so far in my thirties people think I'm in my twenties
@@LatimusChadimus avoid covid infections. They have disabled millions of people with long covid, heart damage, brain damage etc. I developed an autoimmune condition from an asymptomatic infection
Shouldn't health services be in charge of taking care of people that need medical equipment and professional help? Why must family put their lives on hold and take care of patients when they're not prepared nor have the facilities?
Dealing with your own grief and you still managed to share your light with the world... You helped me (and I'm sure 100 of others too) so many times, to regain my own strength and see my own light. The guilt will remain, since we could always have done "better". But I'm sure: if you had the chance to talk to her again, she'd be proud! Thank you much for existing Hampton, we love you brother!
I lost my dad to cancer at 23 and I’m still dealing with the aftermath 3 years later. I lost weight, have developed digestive issues, and struggle with anxiety. But I’m still doing my best to give myself patience and improve my life gradually by investing in things like therapy, exercise, hobbies, etc. Nothing will bring him back but I at least want to take care of myself and enjoy my precious life while I have it. It’s what he would’ve wanted
I’m very very sorry for your loss. Cancer is cruel. To take care of yourself and help heal your anxiety , be sure to eat plenty of protein and healthy fats, and stay away from processed foods (anything besides whole foods that only have one ingredient). to learn more about how Nutrition impacts anxiety, Dr Eric Berg and Judy Cho on RUclips provide sound advice. Best wishes to you.❤
Hey, hang in there bud, it really does take some time. I'm so proud that you're taking care of yourself right now. I'm sure your dad is proud of you that you're doing the best for yourself too ❤
I lost my mom 2 years ago when I was 28, and I experience everything you have, except I gained weight and the anxiety has made me prone to lots of muscle tension and occasional panic attacks as well. Society often doesn't care enough to give us ample time to grieve; even 2 years later and with a great graduate school program that accomodated for me, I still deal with all these issues and new thoughts towards living and dying. Missing her gets much easier with time, but it will never go away, and I never want to not miss her. We've got this :))
As a mom, I can tell you that you have nothing to apologize for. She loved and appreciated every moment you cared for her, and likely felt bad for making you do so much. You will see her again. When you do, you can let me know if I am wrong. 💜✌🙏
I'm 47, starting a career over after losing my dream job which was radio hosting a daily show in my hometown (São Paulo, Brazil). Your reflections always bring me light to deal with life's issues. You make me want to be better every day my friend Hampton! Thank you for sharing! Much love to you! Alessandra.
"In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger, something better, pushing right back." - Albert Camus
AW BUDDY Making a dude cry on a Saturday morning SO sorry about your mom, Hampton. I lost mine in 2020 myself due to long-fought medical issues. Hope you're healing!
Dealing with my father being diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. You have no idea how wonderful this was to come across at such a difficult time. Thank you for taking the time to share and articulate your vulnerable experience.
Thank you Hampton, I find this particular video very helpful for someone that is struggling with anxiety. I haven't lost an immediate family yet, but I know that it is something that everyone will experience in their lives due to the nature of life. These kind of thoughts often triggers dread in me that sends me in a spiral. I'm doing better these days and don't spiral as much because of videos like this. Therapy is pretty expensive where I'm from so I had to make do with what's available to me.
I’ve started my life in my 40s. Found out I have several ailments. But because I know what I have I can finally focus on what matters and accept myself for how I’ve even survived up until now. I actually started watching your channel several years ago for beginner body weight movement training. Turns out the things that helped me the most have been the focus on self and mindfulness. You’re a gem Hampton!
Trying to start in my 40's too. Don't stay in bad situations and waste time feeling sorry or ashamed. Just think of things you want to do and do them and have a rainy day fund.
"Strategic patience can help give us mental peace." I love this quote of yours. I never thought of that before and it makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for your video friend! I lost my dad when I was 27 and my mom to c*vid in 2022 at age 35. It’s so hard. What you did for your mom is amazing and Im so happy that you have been able to find some silver lining in all the grief. thank you for sharing with us.❤
Lost my own Mom in 2018 to cancer. I did not take it well initially, but the eventually realizing that I was living my life poorly in response to this death allowed me to make small changes, and rebuild my faith and my life, connecting with people, and organizations I would not have normally if I had not made those changes. Thank you for sharing with us
Hello Hampton. I hope you see this because I could really relate to those times. My dad got a rare neurodegerative disease right after my elementary school, 2013, and I had to become his primary caretaker in my early teens. It was hard to do, feeding tubes and all, and 'I'm just a girl' so I thought I couldn't handle it. But I did, and he died 6 years after. I fell into despair and didn't know what to do with myself afterwards but finding your channel gave me some solace that it'll be made right, and I'm building myself again. Thank you.
Greetings from Texas, Hampton! You're a good dude, and I don't say that lightly. I watched this video again with my family, so they could see your example. Your humanity shines through, and you are a man that any parent would be proud of. May all the decency you put out into the world come back to you multiplied!
I'm sorry for your loss. Proud you could deal with it. The level of empathy and attention to your word choice is something I always notice in your videos, and admire. Continue to be such a great person Hampton!
I’ve had kidney problems for 10 years, I’m 54 and had surgery number 5 in April. Sometimes I feel like my life has been on hold since I was 44 and time has forgotten about me. I live in the uk I work for the nhs and next April I’m leaving my job to work in a less stressful environment, I plan on travelling more, smile more, be happy more and love my life more. Time waits for nobody, 10 years have gone by so fast I used to think I’m only 44 and now I think wow I’m already 54. Embrace every day because one day every day doesn’t come back around ✌️
Haven’t even finished this video yet but wanted to express my gratitude and admiration for all that you do for us. You have learned a lot and improved your own quality of life, but you have also worked very hard to share with others so we can do the same. The fact that you did so much of it while still trying to figure it out is amazing to me. I’m recovering from a similar situation and try to give myself appropriate levels of credit and encouragement just for having been so persistent in helping just myself. Kudos to you; well done! And please keep it up, I am very much a work in progress and will happily continue absorbing the knowledge and wisdom for as long as possible.
so sorry for your loss man. paying respects to your mom. so good that you took care of her🙏🏽. keep up the good work in life your work helps many people
Utmost respect for caring for her. I have heard of many people who would not accept that responsibility. Also don't forget the life/relationship before that event. Struggling with my dad who is demented at a fairly early age, so I understand it somewhat. Thank for the tips and for the great videos!
I lost my Mom in 2012, I was 27, I went into a deep depression as well, and it was the hardest year and subsequently, the years after were the hardest times of my life!! I'm so sorry that you lost yours, but I'm happy for you that you had a great support system around you to help you navigate that change. Your ability to self regulate is wonderful!! Peace to you!
Thank you for sharing. 💜 I am the main caregiver to my paralyzed mom. I never feel like I’m doing enough. There is only so much I _can_ do to help since the main source of her pain is unchangeable. I don’t know how I will cope when she’s gone, but knowing there are other people in this world who understand makes me feel less alone.
Hampton you are such a bright light. I have your book, watch your videos and am slowly learning calisthenics at 61. I lost both of my parents in the last 10 years, and I had a similar experience as you as primary caregiver. I love your exploration of how you made sense of what happened, and the depth of character that you chose to allow unfold as a result. I went through a similar process, it was really difficult but I am glad that I was there and how it all turned out. It was and is complex...and I feel your loving and careful navigation of the options from a place of doing your best. :) Beautiful...I appreciate exploration of nuance, we really need that, our world has gotten to placed into tiny little boxes
Thank you for making this video. I understand what you are saying…. I refer to it as The Serenity Prayer, though… God , grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, & the wisdom to know the difference. You are a very wise & sweet young man. I wish you all the best in your future years.🙏🏻❤️
The broken cup, patched with more clay, is wider and deeper and can hold more later. As an alcoholic I can say the pain IS the element that allows new members to "hear." The message from a random person means next to nothing. But the message from another alcoholic can save lives. Using your painful experience to pay it forward is a blessing to all and an honor to the people you went through it with. Thank you for sharing.
Hampton, let go of the guilt. You did the very best you could in an incredibly difficult situation. My mother in law had a stroke in April and I was the one who noticed and urged her to get to the hospital. I only went through a tiny fraction of the stress you went through and I was exhausted. Sending love. ❤
As someone who took care of a disabled parent full time til passing. I salute you. It's harder than people will ever grasp. But it gives you something to look back on and realize how tough you are.
I really needed this video, I went through a break-up 4 days ago, and it destroyed me mentally since I had my toughest exam today, I found out that she was cheating on me, while I would've forgiven her if she had really regretted it, I can't do much about it when what she says is "I never really loved you from heart" So all I can do is accept it and move on as hard as that can be
Oh no…. She was very cruel to you. it makes me sad to think of what she did to you I hope you will take really good care of yourself during this stressful time and reach out to friends and loved ones who can support you.❤
This is very helpful. Especially for the acceptance. After my breakup with my wife and i got up with that my mother died last year and the world broke down again. I dont wanted to accept why this all happens to me. I really felt alone and wanted someone in my life who helped me (my ex). But in the last weeks i really learned to accept how it is and have to go my own way. The acceptance was a huge part for me. Somedays i wish the days went in a other way but it's okay how it is nowadays. Thank you for your story and that you help so many people and give little pokes for thinking.
Thank you Good Sir. I was caretaker for my wife for almost a decade for multiple issues. Lost her during the peak of covid hysteria, and wandered numbly for too long after that. Stumbled across your videos as I slowly decided to dig out and actually get into some sort of shape for the first time in my late 50's. Seeing how you went through similar things at a much younger age, and came out the other side with such a zeal for life and positivity is truly inspiring. Thank you for your honesty, and your light.
This sharing is utterly precious especially when you said you don't really share this kind of stuff. It's real, well-presented and allows us to be reflective as well. My family has gone through very similar experiences in terms of falling really sick (cancer for myself) and an old dog getting lost in winter, so this sharing really resonates with me. Often life experiences shape us to think 'Hope for the best and prepare for the worst' so that we won't get too disappointed, it is a means of self-protection. In short, I just want to say, balance is so important with everything in life. And I do love the Serenity Prayer as well. Thank you.
I'm in a hard situation right now and it's a little different from most of the situations described in this video bc i chose it for myself. Still, most of the advice still applied and I particularly resonated with the bit at the end on patience. So hard to internalize but so important. I cried almost the whole way through the video and I think that's a testament to the openess that Hampton models in all his videos. Thank you to Hampton and everyone involved in the creation of this video for putting out content that is inspiring and genuine. I really appreciate it.
Thank you for sharing your journey 🙏. We are all students in this life and though I'm older than you were when you lost your mom I empathize with you. I believe it is our love and grief that causes us to feel we didn't care for them as well as we could have. You are a blessing 🙌 with your calm, insightful dialogs and reflections. Your videos have and will continue to be a gift of growth mentally and physically for me. May you be blessed as you are a blessing ❤.
As a caretaker, I needed this video. Sorry for your loss and thank you for your insight; it will certainly be of help in moments to come in the future for me.
Growth mindset is the only way I don’t kill myself, lost my mom to dr neglect in 2010, have had multiple serious health and body issues throughout my life where I cannot keep a normal job, been broke most of my life, currently can’t walk without a cane because my back went out and can’t afford medical care because of other issues. Yet growth mindset i can still see myself getting stronger, making more money, building a better life for myself. Being a foster kid/ adoptee dealing with grief all my life sucks, but def makes you look internally and become a better problem solver at a very young age. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for your powerful message. The universe knew I needed this. I’m a nurse and my new reality requires me to nurse my widowed mother along with raising my two teenagers. Work and home environment is blending together. Practicing self care and maintaining a healthy marriage is a balancing act. I feel like I’m shifting through the stages of grief again when my father passed. I’m grieving over our future plans but Your message gives me hope and fuel to strengthen my mindset.
no matter how hard we try to perfectly care for a sick or infirm loved one, we never think we’ve done enough and/or it occurs to us later how we could have done it better. and we are wracked with guilt. this is a trap in which we are denying our own humanity, our maturity level at that moment and overriding the pain and grief we are feeling for ourselves and our loved one. please try to release yourself from that guilt. the kindness and care you seem to apply to everything we can see on this channel makes me think you took excellent care of your mom. i’m so sorry she had to endure such an awful illness and that you had to go through that, particularly as a young adult. i admire you for your dedication and loyalty. ❤
Thanks for sharing your story Hampton. Your story of giving back to parents is something I resonate with a lot. Currently dealing with a health issue myself and your video have been timely. Regards, Kenny
Thank you for sharing your deeply nuanced perspective, it really came at a fitting time. May you also have a great day and may you find more patience in time. Something I am now looking forward to implement ad well. And as a side note: You chose a beautiful background for this video. The fireflies started dancing at the perfect time🪳🌟
Wow!!! Here literally in TEARS. This video reflected so much of my own personal journey. My mom passed in 2018, it was ROUGH. Since Ive been finding my way as a healer again. It’s been isolating and hard but this video reminds me of possibility and hope. So thank you. Thank you for these words of encouragement and for sharing this vulnerability with us. Love and light to all 🌻✨💚
My grandma just died going through exactly what you were describing in the opening seconds, got the news literally minutes ago 😅 Thank you very much man, have a feeling this will come in great handy
Holy shit. I needed this Hampton…..I was a caregiver for my grandma and my dad, but didn’t have a good upbringing ( violent household)…seeing that you know the experience of being a caretaker….and having less than 3 hrs of sleep….omfg you’re my role model
Dear Hampton❤, I was deeply moved by this video, for me it was 8 long years taking care of my father. May he rest in peace. We all feel like we could have done better, but we are just imperfect humans, doing what we can...❤
I started listening to David Goggins audible and it helped me learn more about intrinsic motivation. Your videos are not only therapeutic, but they actually pushed me to start looking more into nutrition. So I started a backyard garden and here I am today. Have a beautiful day, brother! Love from California.
I'm the complete opposite: I'm a fighter who will try everything to get a change. I fought for my grandma at the hospital when I thought she was treated unjustly because she was senile and difficult; I fought for my pets whenever they'd get sick to give them the best chance as possible to get better. But sometimes, it gets to the point of burnout and being blinded to the reality that things are not going to work out the way I want them to. I'm working towards balance and I wish I had your more accepting mindset.
I really appreciate your outlook on life and genuinely think this channel provides a lot of value. As someone who has lost a job before that I loved it was extremely difficult to get over. Once I just accepted it was gone and that I need to move on and acquire new skills
I'm unfortunately not that close with my family minus my siblings but I still found parts of this relatable and helpful . Personally I find I have a very hard time with acceptance, I always try to change things and end up feeling like I didnt try hard enough when it doesn't work. However, I have found that sometimes when looking back, the change that happened vs the change that I wanted at the time was better or more beneficial in some way. I'm hoping that things continue this way, right now I'm dealing with the end of a long relationship that was ultimately my fault due to my actions. I still always hold onto the small hope of fixing it even though its clear that I most likely can't. And I just hope if I can't that I can let go of the guilt and find some satisfaction from life. I just dont like letting people go so easily because I wouldnt want people to let me go so easily either, I suppose.
Going through this atm with my mom, she has Parkinson's that is progressing relatively quickly and it's really doing a number on me. Your bit on patience really hit me. I think societally, especially in recent years, there's a big emphasis on "hustle" and all these things you "should" be doing and how you need to "progress" all the time or your lazy and wasting your time and all this stuff. Being my mom's primary caregiver has put my life almost completely on hold and I've really struggled with it, but you're so right about needing to have patience to give some peace of mind. Also it's good to hear from other's who have gone through or are going through the same things I am as a caregiver. It can feel so lonely at times (most of the time really) and it's nice to know that other's have survived the unique challenges it poses.
Bless you for loving your Mother enough to take care of her in that condition. Lots of people would jusy stick them in a nursing home. Always swore my parents wouldnt end their days in a nursing home. I took care of them. They didnt get to die at home but in a hospital room with us 3 kids. It was very hard on me as i lived my whole life with them. They died 18 months apart. This has left a gaping hole in my heart and i pretty much shut down. I am still not able to move on and be productive. Its been over 5 yrs.
You really are the gift that keeps on giving. I first found you as someone who could offer me realistic and sustainable ways to stay healthy physically. Now you continue to give these sincere insights into how to stay mentally healthy. As if on cue, you reminded me that I have time to accept or change the setbacks that keep coming into my life and to have patience. Thank you, much love ❤
I've only just started Calisthenics, but your channel has been an major inspiration to me, especially proving that we can have truly functional strength and fitness...and this video proves for me that holds for the mind as well as the body. Thank you for being so open and sharing what you've gone through, and I have no doubt that you did the best you could in each moment; there isn't more any of us can do. Thank you for sharing such positivity with us, and to find that this was born from such difficult times only makes it all the more impressive and important.
Thank you for raising the conversation about handling grief. Giving me another perspective as I am in a deep depression now, learning how to pass through this time. Thank you, I really appreciate it. Have a beautiful day.👋
I love me a good dichotomy and "Accept vs Change/Fight" is an absolutely fabulous one. and jfc I typed this out less than 8 minutes into the video, shortly before you explicitly reject framing this as a dichotomy rather than a spectrum. Beautiful video
Hope you're all doing well!
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You, my friend, deserve all the success you have and will achieve…keep up the great work
Brilliant video, very insightful and personal
Hampton I not only want to say sorry for your loss. but thank you for making this video. tonight has been a rough night on me. being mentally unstable and going through such a hard one sided break up. to see this video pop in my feed was either god or the universe telling me what I need to hear. I'm not okay now. nor will I be tomorrow, or the day after. But i know with patience ill be the best version of me. so if you ever see this comment. please know that I'm so thankful for your words.
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Your mom is proud of you, and she thinks you did an amazing job in the moment and wants you to let go of any guilt because she is not feeling anything but love and admiration for you right now and for eternity. ❤❤❤❤
“It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.”
― Jean-Luc Picard
Still feels pretty sh*tty, Picard.
- Data, probably
My logic circuits state that a fully feeling human being would feel shitty. I, however, am puzzled by why you're here drinking yourself stupid." -- Data to probably Riker.
THANK YOU. I so needed to hear that....I felt so guilty for not being able to protect my daughter during child custody with a narcissist because the family court system is PRO abuser (who have $$$). I live with a broken heart but I go on...
I just lost my mom after 8 years as her caregiver after her 2nd stroke. I’ve put on so much weight. I found your channel looking for some help. It’s an odd comfort to know you understand the caregivers heart.
Good luck wishing the best for you!
I’m so very sorry for your loss. And I can’t imagine how hard it was to care for someone full time for that long. You want to, of course, but I’m sure there were times you just didn’t want to have to, the burden is so much.
Thankfully, you get to spend time with your loved one but caregivers so desperately need breaks, like parents of small children, sometimes you just need time away. I hope you were able to have that time away for your own self care, which we all so often neglect.
Good luck on your fitness journey, I hope you’ve joined the Reddit sub bc everyone there is SO very wonderful and supportive.
It is so honorable to take care of someone as you have to sacrifice so much for their benefit yet you did it graciously for 8 years bless you and your mother if you believe in God I pray that she’s being held in the highest heaven.
My condolences.❤ I’ve found the support group GriefShare to be very (!) helpful to me after I lost my nephew to a sudden and tragic incident.
Wishing you peace and hope .
Caregiving for a loved one is one of the hardest challenges a person can face in life. It can take a toll on your health. Hope you are surrounded by love and support as you continue your journey of being an amazing human being. ❤
that intro leaves you in shambles
Absolutely fr
tell me about it. I just learned today that my cousin died of a brain hemorrhag. Quite the coincedence.
@@jackbordar2727I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you and your loved ones strength and may your cousin rest in peace.
I know you can’t win in the pain olympics, but give him the gold.
@@jackbordar2727 I'm sorry for your loss.
I believe, as a mother and a daughter, it is not the child's job to “pay us back.” It is the greatest joy to see your children doing what they love, being healthy and well…and shining their light. That is payment enough, that lets you know that all those years of hard work and sleepless nights were well worth it. I’m sure your mom was very proud of you!
As a primary doctor i see a lot of people only living to take care of loved ones. Often over the years the primary care giver eventually wears down to complete kaputt. They oftentimes sacrifice everything: relationships, phisical and espacially mental health, ... and oftentimes there persists a feeling of never doing enough. I have the utmost respect for these caregivers.
You can only do your best, no one should expect more of you than that, not even yourself. It is ok to take of yourself.
That's a good reason to take care of yourself now to prevent getting into a condition that requires that of your children, per se you have children. I want to have that old man strength and abilities that blow everyone's mind and so far in my thirties people think I'm in my twenties
True ♥️ 💯 kaputt.
Absolutely!!
@@LatimusChadimus avoid covid infections. They have disabled millions of people with long covid, heart damage, brain damage etc. I developed an autoimmune condition from an asymptomatic infection
Shouldn't health services be in charge of taking care of people that need medical equipment and professional help? Why must family put their lives on hold and take care of patients when they're not prepared nor have the facilities?
Dealing with your own grief and you still managed to share your light with the world... You helped me (and I'm sure 100 of others too) so many times, to regain my own strength and see my own light. The guilt will remain, since we could always have done "better". But I'm sure: if you had the chance to talk to her again, she'd be proud! Thank you much for existing Hampton, we love you brother!
Couldn’t have said it better :)
"accept things that u cant change , but still try to change the things that u can"
strange, isnt it? coming back from tragedy to the most wholesome, adorable guy on youtube
I lost my dad to cancer at 23 and I’m still dealing with the aftermath 3 years later. I lost weight, have developed digestive issues, and struggle with anxiety. But I’m still doing my best to give myself patience and improve my life gradually by investing in things like therapy, exercise, hobbies, etc. Nothing will bring him back but I at least want to take care of myself and enjoy my precious life while I have it. It’s what he would’ve wanted
I’m very very sorry for your loss.
Cancer is cruel.
To take care of yourself and help heal your anxiety , be sure to eat plenty of protein and healthy fats, and stay away from processed foods (anything besides whole foods that only have one ingredient).
to learn more about how Nutrition impacts anxiety, Dr Eric Berg and Judy Cho on RUclips provide sound advice.
Best wishes to you.❤
@@pdxoregon1 thank you, I will check them out!
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Hey, hang in there bud, it really does take some time. I'm so proud that you're taking care of yourself right now. I'm sure your dad is proud of you that you're doing the best for yourself too ❤
I lost my mom 2 years ago when I was 28, and I experience everything you have, except I gained weight and the anxiety has made me prone to lots of muscle tension and occasional panic attacks as well. Society often doesn't care enough to give us ample time to grieve; even 2 years later and with a great graduate school program that accomodated for me, I still deal with all these issues and new thoughts towards living and dying. Missing her gets much easier with time, but it will never go away, and I never want to not miss her. We've got this :))
As a mom, I can tell you that you have nothing to apologize for. She loved and appreciated every moment you cared for her, and likely felt bad for making you do so much. You will see her again. When you do, you can let me know if I am wrong. 💜✌🙏
I'm 47, starting a career over after losing my dream job which was radio hosting a daily show in my hometown (São Paulo, Brazil). Your reflections always bring me light to deal with life's issues. You make me want to be better every day my friend Hampton! Thank you for sharing! Much love to you!
Alessandra.
You are from Brazil and you can speak Chinese? Just curious!! That's fabulous if you can!
Taking care of your parents is a hard job and i think should be talked about more often. I'm happy you're sharing your story
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"In the midst of winter, I found there was, within me, an invincible summer. And that makes me happy. For it says that no matter how hard the world pushes against me, within me, there’s something stronger, something better, pushing right back." - Albert Camus
sorry for your loss .
Thanks for helping others
AW BUDDY
Making a dude cry on a Saturday morning
SO sorry about your mom, Hampton. I lost mine in 2020 myself due to long-fought medical issues.
Hope you're healing!
Dealing with my father being diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. You have no idea how wonderful this was to come across at such a difficult time. Thank you for taking the time to share and articulate your vulnerable experience.
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This video’s take really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in Unveiling Your Hidden Potential by Bruce Thornwood
Thank you Hampton, I find this particular video very helpful for someone that is struggling with anxiety. I haven't lost an immediate family yet, but I know that it is something that everyone will experience in their lives due to the nature of life. These kind of thoughts often triggers dread in me that sends me in a spiral. I'm doing better these days and don't spiral as much because of videos like this. Therapy is pretty expensive where I'm from so I had to make do with what's available to me.
I’ve started my life in my 40s. Found out I have several ailments. But because I know what I have I can finally focus on what matters and accept myself for how I’ve even survived up until now. I actually started watching your channel several years ago for beginner body weight movement training. Turns out the things that helped me the most have been the focus on self and mindfulness. You’re a gem Hampton!
Trying to start in my 40's too. Don't stay in bad situations and waste time feeling sorry or ashamed. Just think of things you want to do and do them and have a rainy day fund.
Hybrid calisthenics be strengthening mental health and awareness💪
Only love, thank you for keeping us motivated throughout these years ❤
Love in return. Thank you for being here! 🙏
"Strategic patience can help give us mental peace." I love this quote of yours. I never thought of that before and it makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for your video friend! I lost my dad when I was 27 and my mom to c*vid in 2022 at age 35. It’s so hard. What you did for your mom is amazing and Im so happy that you have been able to find some silver lining in all the grief. thank you for sharing with us.❤
Omg, I also lost my mom in 2021 due to covid. I'm still processing it to this day. Sending hugs to you.
Lost my own Mom in 2018 to cancer. I did not take it well initially, but the eventually realizing that I was living my life poorly in response to this death allowed me to make small changes, and rebuild my faith and my life, connecting with people, and organizations I would not have normally if I had not made those changes. Thank you for sharing with us
Hello Hampton. I hope you see this because I could really relate to those times. My dad got a rare neurodegerative disease right after my elementary school, 2013, and I had to become his primary caretaker in my early teens. It was hard to do, feeding tubes and all, and 'I'm just a girl' so I thought I couldn't handle it. But I did, and he died 6 years after. I fell into despair and didn't know what to do with myself afterwards but finding your channel gave me some solace that it'll be made right, and I'm building myself again. Thank you.
I'm 20 now, feeling like I was sidelined for a while, but I'm putting myself together and doing the things I always wanted
Hey man I send you a big hug. An honest one. Thanks for inspiring me. Im scarednto death of whem that happens to my parents. God bless you man.
Greetings from Texas, Hampton! You're a good dude, and I don't say that lightly. I watched this video again with my family, so they could see your example. Your humanity shines through, and you are a man that any parent would be proud of. May all the decency you put out into the world come back to you multiplied!
Just awesome video
Please do not feel badly. You have such good energy. I know your mom loved every moment with you.
10:38 i feel that you did a very, very good job taking care of your mother, just from listening to your words.. Thanks for sharing!
I'm sorry for your loss. Proud you could deal with it. The level of empathy and attention to your word choice is something I always notice in your videos, and admire. Continue to be such a great person Hampton!
Tight hugs bro. I’m sorry you guys had to go through that.
Thank you. You are wise beyond your years. Your mother was fortunate to have you as her caregiver. The circle of life continues.🙏🏼
I’ve had kidney problems for 10 years, I’m 54 and had surgery number 5 in April.
Sometimes I feel like my life has been on hold since I was 44 and time has forgotten about me.
I live in the uk I work for the nhs and next April I’m leaving my job to work in a less stressful environment, I plan on travelling more, smile more, be happy more and love my life more.
Time waits for nobody, 10 years have gone by so fast I used to think I’m only 44 and now I think wow I’m already 54.
Embrace every day because one day every day doesn’t come back around ✌️
Haven’t even finished this video yet but wanted to express my gratitude and admiration for all that you do for us. You have learned a lot and improved your own quality of life, but you have also worked very hard to share with others so we can do the same. The fact that you did so much of it while still trying to figure it out is amazing to me. I’m recovering from a similar situation and try to give myself appropriate levels of credit and encouragement just for having been so persistent in helping just myself. Kudos to you; well done! And please keep it up, I am very much a work in progress and will happily continue absorbing the knowledge and wisdom for as long as possible.
Thank you for your input brother Hampton. I hope you have a beautiful day 🎉
so sorry for your loss man. paying respects to your mom. so good that you took care of her🙏🏽.
keep up the good work in life your work helps many people
Utmost respect for caring for her. I have heard of many people who would not accept that responsibility. Also don't forget the life/relationship before that event.
Struggling with my dad who is demented at a fairly early age, so I understand it somewhat. Thank for the tips and for the great videos!
So insightful. Your ability to articulate your thoughts and insights is extraordinary for someone so young. Blessings to you Hampton…keep it up!
You're good Hampton . You alleviate suffering in the world in many ways . Thank you.
My father in law was diagnosed with cancer June 15th. We lost him July 26th. I've never lost anyone before, and it still doesn't even feel real.
I'm so sorry for your loss. {{}}
I lost my Mom in 2012, I was 27, I went into a deep depression as well, and it was the hardest year and subsequently, the years after were the hardest times of my life!! I'm so sorry that you lost yours, but I'm happy for you that you had a great support system around you to help you navigate that change. Your ability to self regulate is wonderful!! Peace to you!
Thank you for sharing. 💜 I am the main caregiver to my paralyzed mom. I never feel like I’m doing enough. There is only so much I _can_ do to help since the main source of her pain is unchangeable. I don’t know how I will cope when she’s gone, but knowing there are other people in this world who understand makes me feel less alone.
Hugs from someone in another corner of the world who understands. 🫂 You are not alone.
Hampton you are such a bright light. I have your book, watch your videos and am slowly learning calisthenics at 61. I lost both of my parents in the last 10 years, and I had a similar experience as you as primary caregiver. I love your exploration of how you made sense of what happened, and the depth of character that you chose to allow unfold as a result. I went through a similar process, it was really difficult but I am glad that I was there and how it all turned out. It was and is complex...and I feel your loving and careful navigation of the options from a place of doing your best. :) Beautiful...I appreciate exploration of nuance, we really need that, our world has gotten to placed into tiny little boxes
Thank you for making this video. I understand what you are saying…. I refer to it as The Serenity Prayer, though…
God , grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
& the wisdom to know the difference.
You are a very wise & sweet young man. I wish you all the best in your future years.🙏🏻❤️
Your momma knows!! I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad went home 6 years ago. Thank you for your content!! May God continue to bless you!! ❤️🙏🏼💜
The broken cup, patched with more clay, is wider and deeper and can hold more later. As an alcoholic I can say the pain IS the element that allows new members to "hear." The message from a random person means next to nothing. But the message from another alcoholic can save lives. Using your painful experience to pay it forward is a blessing to all and an honor to the people you went through it with. Thank you for sharing.
Hampton, let go of the guilt. You did the very best you could in an incredibly difficult situation.
My mother in law had a stroke in April and I was the one who noticed and urged her to get to the hospital. I only went through a tiny fraction of the stress you went through and I was exhausted. Sending love. ❤
As someone who took care of a disabled parent full time til passing. I salute you. It's harder than people will ever grasp. But it gives you something to look back on and realize how tough you are.
I really needed this video, I went through a break-up 4 days ago, and it destroyed me mentally since I had my toughest exam today, I found out that she was cheating on me, while I would've forgiven her if she had really regretted it, I can't do much about it when what she says is "I never really loved you from heart"
So all I can do is accept it and move on as hard as that can be
Oh no…. She was very cruel to you. it makes me sad to think of what she did to you
I hope you will take really good care of yourself during this stressful time and reach out to friends and loved ones who can support you.❤
Hampton, you are spitting wisdom out here... Thank you!
I wanted to say thank you for helping me get into shape your videos, and help me a lot
This is very helpful. Especially for the acceptance. After my breakup with my wife and i got up with that my mother died last year and the world broke down again. I dont wanted to accept why this all happens to me. I really felt alone and wanted someone in my life who helped me (my ex). But in the last weeks i really learned to accept how it is and have to go my own way. The acceptance was a huge part for me. Somedays i wish the days went in a other way but it's okay how it is nowadays.
Thank you for your story and that you help so many people and give little pokes for thinking.
Thank you Good Sir. I was caretaker for my wife for almost a decade for multiple issues. Lost her during the peak of covid hysteria, and wandered numbly for too long after that. Stumbled across your videos as I slowly decided to dig out and actually get into some sort of shape for the first time in my late 50's. Seeing how you went through similar things at a much younger age, and came out the other side with such a zeal for life and positivity is truly inspiring. Thank you for your honesty, and your light.
This sharing is utterly precious especially when you said you don't really share this kind of stuff. It's real, well-presented and allows us to be reflective as well. My family has gone through very similar experiences in terms of falling really sick (cancer for myself) and an old dog getting lost in winter, so this sharing really resonates with me. Often life experiences shape us to think 'Hope for the best and prepare for the worst' so that we won't get too disappointed, it is a means of self-protection. In short, I just want to say, balance is so important with everything in life. And I do love the Serenity Prayer as well. Thank you.
I'm in a hard situation right now and it's a little different from most of the situations described in this video bc i chose it for myself. Still, most of the advice still applied and I particularly resonated with the bit at the end on patience. So hard to internalize but so important. I cried almost the whole way through the video and I think that's a testament to the openess that Hampton models in all his videos. Thank you to Hampton and everyone involved in the creation of this video for putting out content that is inspiring and genuine. I really appreciate it.
Self reflection is such a powerful tool! Thank you for sharing a different perspective. You are a blessing to many!!
Thank you for sharing your journey 🙏. We are all students in this life and though I'm older than you were when you lost your mom I empathize with you. I believe it is our love and grief that causes us to feel we didn't care for them as well as we could have. You are a blessing 🙌 with your calm, insightful dialogs and reflections. Your videos have and will continue to be a gift of growth mentally and physically for me. May you be blessed as you are a blessing ❤.
As a caretaker, I needed this video. Sorry for your loss and thank you for your insight; it will certainly be of help in moments to come in the future for me.
Growth mindset is the only way I don’t kill myself, lost my mom to dr neglect in 2010, have had multiple serious health and body issues throughout my life where I cannot keep a normal job, been broke most of my life, currently can’t walk without a cane because my back went out and can’t afford medical care because of other issues. Yet growth mindset i can still see myself getting stronger, making more money, building a better life for myself. Being a foster kid/ adoptee dealing with grief all my life sucks, but def makes you look internally and become a better problem solver at a very young age. Thank you 🙏
Hang in there my friend
Perfect timing with this topic! Thanks Hampton!
Would you be able to listen with without watching? Wishing new peace and comfort.
A lot many people love you Hampton ♥
You are a kind person ♥
Thank you for making us smile :)
Thank you for your powerful message. The universe knew I needed this. I’m a nurse and my new reality requires me to nurse my widowed mother along with raising my two teenagers. Work and home environment is blending together. Practicing self care and maintaining a healthy marriage is a balancing act. I feel like I’m shifting through the stages of grief again when my father passed. I’m grieving over our future plans but
Your message gives me hope and fuel to strengthen my mindset.
no matter how hard we try to perfectly care for a sick or infirm loved one, we never think we’ve done enough and/or it occurs to us later how we could have done it better. and we are wracked with guilt.
this is a trap in which we are denying our own humanity, our maturity level at that moment and overriding the pain and grief we are feeling for ourselves and our loved one.
please try to release yourself from that guilt. the kindness and care you seem to apply to everything we can see on this channel makes me think you took excellent care of your mom.
i’m so sorry she had to endure such an awful illness and that you had to go through that, particularly as a young adult. i admire you for your dedication and loyalty.
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You are right. That second paragraph is contextually one of the wisest things I've ever read.
Hampton, you are a sage. Please keep up the good work.
Thank you making this video and for sharing something so personal. Your channel has been a huge help to me and my family. Much love dude x
Have a podcast? Men, that voice is as crisp as ever. *Listening while working out here.
Thanks for sharing your story Hampton. Your story of giving back to parents is something I resonate with a lot. Currently dealing with a health issue myself and your video have been timely. Regards, Kenny
Thank you for this video, man. It really came out at the most needed time, somehow. I'll try to fight for happiness.
Thank you for sharing your deeply nuanced perspective, it really came at a fitting time.
May you also have a great day and may you find more patience in time. Something I am now looking forward to implement ad well.
And as a side note: You chose a beautiful background for this video. The fireflies started dancing at the perfect time🪳🌟
Thank you for this, insightful video that I'm sure will make a lot of people feel better and less alone with their struggles.
Wow!!! Here literally in TEARS. This video reflected so much of my own personal journey. My mom passed in 2018, it was ROUGH. Since Ive been finding my way as a healer again. It’s been isolating and hard but this video reminds me of possibility and hope. So thank you. Thank you for these words of encouragement and for sharing this vulnerability with us. Love and light to all 🌻✨💚
My grandma just died going through exactly what you were describing in the opening seconds, got the news literally minutes ago 😅
Thank you very much man, have a feeling this will come in great handy
Holy shit. I needed this Hampton…..I was a caregiver for my grandma and my dad, but didn’t have a good upbringing ( violent household)…seeing that you know the experience of being a caretaker….and having less than 3 hrs of sleep….omfg you’re my role model
A truly eye-opening video. Thank you so much Hampton. You are an amazing person.
Dear Hampton❤, I was deeply moved by this video, for me it was 8 long years taking care of my father. May he rest in peace. We all feel like we could have done better, but we are just imperfect humans, doing what we can...❤
Hey just wanted to let you know I love your videos, and honestly ma, it’s really cool of you to share your story
This video came at exactly the right time for me. Thank you Hampton.
I started listening to David Goggins audible and it helped me learn more about intrinsic motivation. Your videos are not only therapeutic, but they actually pushed me to start looking more into nutrition. So I started a backyard garden and here I am today.
Have a beautiful day, brother! Love from California.
I'm the complete opposite: I'm a fighter who will try everything to get a change. I fought for my grandma at the hospital when I thought she was treated unjustly because she was senile and difficult; I fought for my pets whenever they'd get sick to give them the best chance as possible to get better. But sometimes, it gets to the point of burnout and being blinded to the reality that things are not going to work out the way I want them to. I'm working towards balance and I wish I had your more accepting mindset.
Thanks for sharing again and I just wanna say that I relate to being a caregiver to your mother and all as I had with mine.
I really appreciate your outlook on life and genuinely think this channel provides a lot of value. As someone who has lost a job before that I loved it was extremely difficult to get over. Once I just accepted it was gone and that I need to move on and acquire new skills
“Strategic patience” is something I have finally discovered in my 60’s. Thank you for giving me a name for it!
I'm unfortunately not that close with my family minus my siblings but I still found parts of this relatable and helpful . Personally I find I have a very hard time with acceptance, I always try to change things and end up feeling like I didnt try hard enough when it doesn't work. However, I have found that sometimes when looking back, the change that happened vs the change that I wanted at the time was better or more beneficial in some way. I'm hoping that things continue this way, right now I'm dealing with the end of a long relationship that was ultimately my fault due to my actions. I still always hold onto the small hope of fixing it even though its clear that I most likely can't. And I just hope if I can't that I can let go of the guilt and find some satisfaction from life.
I just dont like letting people go so easily because I wouldnt want people to let me go so easily either, I suppose.
Great video as usual. 👌❤️ And so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!
Going through this atm with my mom, she has Parkinson's that is progressing relatively quickly and it's really doing a number on me. Your bit on patience really hit me. I think societally, especially in recent years, there's a big emphasis on "hustle" and all these things you "should" be doing and how you need to "progress" all the time or your lazy and wasting your time and all this stuff. Being my mom's primary caregiver has put my life almost completely on hold and I've really struggled with it, but you're so right about needing to have patience to give some peace of mind.
Also it's good to hear from other's who have gone through or are going through the same things I am as a caregiver. It can feel so lonely at times (most of the time really) and it's nice to know that other's have survived the unique challenges it poses.
Bless you for loving your Mother enough to take care of her in that condition. Lots of people would jusy stick them in a nursing home. Always swore my parents wouldnt end their days in a nursing home. I took care of them. They didnt get to die at home but in a hospital room with us 3 kids. It was very hard on me as i lived my whole life with them. They died 18 months apart. This has left a gaping hole in my heart and i pretty much shut down. I am still not able to move on and be productive. Its been over 5 yrs.
You really are the gift that keeps on giving. I first found you as someone who could offer me realistic and sustainable ways to stay healthy physically. Now you continue to give these sincere insights into how to stay mentally healthy. As if on cue, you reminded me that I have time to accept or change the setbacks that keep coming into my life and to have patience. Thank you, much love ❤
Yes. I was totally hearing the Serenity Prayer in my mind while you were talking. Then you referenced it. :) Thank you so much for sharing.
Thank you for this video, I hope you have a wonderful day. I didn't know i needed to watch this.
Dude I never knew. And you just were out here teaching calisthenics for us to benefit as well. Respect man. Much love
Thank You for sharing your experience, to help us as well.
I hope you're doing well!
I need to watch this every day. thank you
What tremendous self awareness and insight from a young man. A gift to all of us.❤
I've only just started Calisthenics, but your channel has been an major inspiration to me, especially proving that we can have truly functional strength and fitness...and this video proves for me that holds for the mind as well as the body. Thank you for being so open and sharing what you've gone through, and I have no doubt that you did the best you could in each moment; there isn't more any of us can do. Thank you for sharing such positivity with us, and to find that this was born from such difficult times only makes it all the more impressive and important.
Wow…😮🥺 Touched my heart🫶🏻 🥺🥺🥺😩 We love you, Hampton❤ Such a good video, must rewatch it for sure 😦 Thank you for everything 🙏🏻
I like how you acknowledge the grey area of things in this video. Most certainly a fresh breath of air in my opinion! 👍🏻
Thank you for raising the conversation about handling grief. Giving me another perspective as I am in a deep depression now, learning how to pass through this time. Thank you, I really appreciate it. Have a beautiful day.👋
I love me a good dichotomy and "Accept vs Change/Fight" is an absolutely fabulous one. and jfc I typed this out less than 8 minutes into the video, shortly before you explicitly reject framing this as a dichotomy rather than a spectrum. Beautiful video