I work as a chef and the customers and management are pleased with my work, but one of the staff hates me and she as turned everyone against me even my friends with her lies and gossip things like that years ago would tear me apart because I was so thin skinned but now these things worry me less and less to the point I cannot even be bothered to think about yes I can sometimes still be thin skinned but not so thin skinned ...
Grow a thick skin to protect yourself from lies it's important but we all need help so we don't suffer alone but at the end of the day it's all you and nobody can take your life and your light away.
Especially Miami because of thugs just wanting their 15 minutes of fame and of course, the Miami Mutilator still roams the streets. only ace detective Manny Pardo can save America.
Too many cooks in the kitchen, my friend. But, you better learn to navigate harsh waters, because it's going to get worse. Usually when I'm pessimistic, or something bad happens, I try being grateful for my life. It's not always easy, but gratitude will get you through despair, challenge, and hardship. In fact, be fucking grateful you live in the United States, and not in a slum like India (no offense to Indian Nationals). There, people are forced to shit in the street, and sell their souls for a week's worth of milk. No matter how horrible things may seem, in America, we've still got it made. You have to believe that.
Excellent! I am a woman, recently promoted - carved a path and blazed a trail - and continue to work with my original team. There is an air of contention and disgust. They remain in their previous positions. I understand their frustration however, they have done nothing to promote or further themselves. The team, now, is not wholly accessible and difficult to work with. How do i recruit their support and maintain my position? Thank you
hideyourkidsnwife congratulations on your promotion!! Good on you for working your way up. And this will always rub those around you the wrong way. Especially if they are as you said unwilling to contribute more to further their own career. But it does present a challenge trying to recruit their support as a team. I would suggest first that you remember you have nothing to feel less than about. You will have to balance being tough and showing empathy. Be there if they choose to step up and work. If they choose to work against you remind them that they are still employees of the company and it's in their best interest to put the company's needs ahead of their feelings. I know this isn't what most leadership experts will tell you but in practical terms work needs to get done and you shouldn't have to bear the brunt of the stress.
Amir, thank you for taking time to consider our questions and reply. It creates a tangible connection; a "character-building moment". Your advice is most appreciated!
hideyourkidsnwife most welcome! Join my email list for a more robust weekly conversation. The people on my list are Trail Blazers just like you. Hope to see you there. Visit my site amirmuradali.com to join.
Thank you your video it helped and its great advice but what if its not about a career its home life and its your neighbor ? she is being preaditorial. ok well here's the story , ever since she moved in she had been loud ( cursing and yelling so as that she in the same room)and banging her door as no one else lives next to her on both sides, she came over and told me ,calm and in a friendly type fashion that she got a hand cape packer, yet I never seen her walk with the cain, she has in the back of her car nor churches and or extra helping dives. and asked if I can park one spot away then usual , well we live where their is no marked parking spot for the building I am home I really don't go anywhere , but I do a lot walking ! so she got violent after that she thinks I play games with her , I don't have the time ! I just park my car to park my car! I think that is only keeps this unlikey friendship for me because she dose want to be my friend , I can use less of that in my world! but as a neighbor she came and talk down at me once more ( have in mind she stand to the height of 5'4, and myself at a height of 5'11. ( being my height you would think no one should be doing this to me!)I listened to her ,I grow up to learn not to add grease to a fire, to just told I parked where ever because no one else was here and I pulled my car closer to the house (the day is over everyone is coming home)she was the last one to come home ! 4th place , the door hits like an Adam bomb slamming closed ,All it dose it says well she home! After she was done talking to me include insults of I am fat , I don't go anywhere , I told her nicely to move so I can close my door and said good night, then she throw eggs at my front porch and at my car! she doesn't know this but I took picture of all she had done , before she cleaned it up! she also socked my friend and my son one rainy day! I seen her coming, I also seen her face look at us!) I just wish that I had gotten wet with my friend I love the water. I don't want to seek revenge its not in my skin but what can I do to make her leave me alone with out being involved! she is luck I am just a person with am imagination ,
Hi Alex, good question. It really depends on you and the circumstances. What matters is that you reflect on it the criticism with a calm mind and see the growth opportunity. Sometimes that takes me about an hour, or an afternoon or maybe even a day or two.
Sometimes the criticism has nothing to do with you, it is about what the other person is experiencing!
I’m so sensitive, I wish I can develop thick skin. Thanks for this video.
I don’t really like having thick skin because I can’t pop my blister
This is beautiful. If a person has a problem with me, then that's just it. It's their problem, not mine. Thank you.
I work as a chef and the customers and management are pleased with my work, but one of the staff hates me and she as turned everyone against me even my friends with her lies and gossip things like that years ago would tear me apart because I was so thin skinned but now these things worry me less and less to the point I cannot even be bothered to think about yes I can sometimes still be thin skinned but not so thin skinned ...
Tell her to get a life
Grow a thick skin to protect yourself from lies it's important but we all need help so we don't suffer alone but at the end of the day it's all you and nobody can take your life and your light away.
Couldn't agree more! No one can dim your light!
So correct.
Man, sometimes i hate this city
Just a city?? man, this whole country sucks! #FuckAmerica
Especially Miami because of thugs just wanting their 15 minutes of fame and of course, the Miami Mutilator still roams the streets. only ace detective Manny Pardo can save America.
Too many cooks in the kitchen, my friend. But, you better learn to navigate harsh waters, because it's going to get worse. Usually when I'm pessimistic, or something bad happens, I try being grateful for my life. It's not always easy, but gratitude will get you through despair, challenge, and hardship.
In fact, be fucking grateful you live in the United States, and not in a slum like India (no offense to Indian Nationals). There, people are forced to shit in the street, and sell their souls for a week's worth of milk. No matter how horrible things may seem, in America, we've still got it made. You have to believe that.
makes sense extra layer of skin is to hide tats,and temp tats can be painted on fake skin. why not give the fakes fake skin
Just social thick skin not corporate
I was born with thick skin.
BRO BOT that is because your dad was a rhino.
No, maybe his dad was the handsome thick skinned detective Manny Pardo on the hunt for the feared, cunning Miami Mutilator
Rolier he nick named me the second best detective danny pardo.
SuicideKing wish I was
Good for you
Excellent! I am a woman, recently promoted - carved a path and blazed a trail - and continue to work with my original team. There is an air of contention and disgust. They remain in their previous positions. I understand their frustration however, they have done nothing to promote or further themselves. The team, now, is not wholly accessible and difficult to work with.
How do i recruit their support and maintain my position? Thank you
hideyourkidsnwife congratulations on your promotion!! Good on you for working your way up. And this will always rub those around you the wrong way. Especially if they are as you said unwilling to contribute more to further their own career. But it does present a challenge trying to recruit their support as a team. I would suggest first that you remember you have nothing to feel less than about. You will have to balance being tough and showing empathy. Be there if they choose to step up and work. If they choose to work against you remind them that they are still employees of the company and it's in their best interest to put the company's needs ahead of their feelings. I know this isn't what most leadership experts will tell you but in practical terms work needs to get done and you shouldn't have to bear the brunt of the stress.
Amir, thank you for taking time to consider our questions and reply. It creates a tangible connection; a "character-building moment". Your advice is most appreciated!
hideyourkidsnwife most welcome! Join my email list for a more robust weekly conversation. The people on my list are Trail Blazers just like you. Hope to see you there. Visit my site amirmuradali.com to join.
I already have thick skin in powerful bone in powerful strength so why the heck am I watching this video XD
Tie fighters kick tree trunks? Lucas dropped the ball on that one...
Zol Galon thanks for watching!
No problemo, tough-guy mentor. I liked the video so much that I subscribed. We all need to keep pushing. >:).
Happy to have you on board :) You're absolutely right - we all need to keep pushing!
Thank you your video it helped and its great advice but what if its not about a career its home life and its your neighbor ? she is being preaditorial. ok well here's the story , ever since she moved in she had been loud ( cursing and yelling so as that she in the same room)and banging her door as no one else lives next to her on both sides, she came over and told me ,calm and in a friendly type fashion that she got a hand cape packer, yet I never seen her walk with the cain, she has in the back of her car nor churches and or extra helping dives. and asked if I can park one spot away then usual , well we live where their is no marked parking spot for the building I am home I really don't go anywhere , but I do a lot walking ! so she got violent after that she thinks I play games with her , I don't have the time ! I just park my car to park my car! I think that is only keeps this unlikey friendship for me because she dose want to be my friend , I can use less of that in my world! but as a neighbor she came and talk down at me once more ( have in mind she stand to the height of 5'4, and myself at a height of 5'11. ( being my height you would think no one should be doing this to me!)I listened to her ,I grow up to learn not to add grease to a fire, to just told I parked where ever because no one else was here and I pulled my car closer to the house (the day is over everyone is coming home)she was the last one to come home ! 4th place , the door hits like an Adam bomb slamming closed ,All it dose it says well she home! After she was done talking to me include insults of I am fat , I don't go anywhere , I told her nicely to move so I can close my door and said good night, then she throw eggs at my front porch and at my car! she doesn't know this but I took picture of all she had done , before she cleaned it up! she also socked my friend and my son one rainy day! I seen her coming, I also seen her face look at us!) I just wish that I had gotten wet with my friend I love the water. I don't want to seek revenge its not in my skin but what can I do to make her leave me alone with out being involved! she is luck I am just a person with am imagination ,
really very helpful.... thanks
Most welcome!
What
How long should the pause be ?
Hi Alex, good question. It really depends on you and the circumstances. What matters is that you reflect on it the criticism with a calm mind and see the growth opportunity. Sometimes that takes me about an hour, or an afternoon or maybe even a day or two.
This has nothing to do with physically thickening skin
Very good, kinda repetitive. I like his manners, way he expresses himself.
Noted. Thank you for leaving a comment and the feedback!
R Young your criticalism is what was being discussed in this video...completely baseless and material for thicked skin development
thks....your video did reassured me of many thing am going through ...thks
thunder cocolove most welcome :) Happy it helped you.
Unfaithful Banana you want attention? ok how are you?
What if its Gordon Ramsey or some shit?
Your not to get thick skinned in isolation!
Sir how can i get rid from my snstv skin nd get healthy ??????
Lol thought this video was about actually thick skin
*Thicc*
I like this video