I got a question...When I met my ex wife for the final time to tie up some lose end with the divorce I was struggling financially with covid. So I asked her could I borrow one of her credit cards in case of a emergency.....she waited.... then gave it to me. She told me the amount of credit on it. Thankfully I never had to use it...I still have it.....I haven't talked to her since that day....its been years....and she has moved to another state and I believe she has a new man.....I was wondering why she never contacts me or ever asked about the card?
My lover just left me because I did not want to live together her. Otherway we had a very good relationship. We gave each other freedom and were lovers and good friends supporting each other. But she left me suddenly, without any explanation. I did no contact for 3 months and then asked friendly how she is and could she help me with some things. She answered posh and arrogant way that she has happy life with another man and she is not interested in helping me at all. So, no contact did NOT work this time.
It does work😂. We broke up, two weeks later I contacted him and it was a fail. When he said no, i started the no contact and never broke it. Three months later he texted to test the waters. I didnt appear too desperate. To make the story short, after three months of no contact we came back and now we are married😂
The first time we broke up it was him who break up. It was covid and we didnt have a lot of time to spend together abd we started to argue on little things, our disagreement became often and we just disconnected. The first time we broke up it only lasted like three weeks and its true that couple who get back together in less than a month are more likely to break up again. Not long, i initiated the second break up. I felt like i didnt see a future. He was afraid to get married and i wanted it so i broke it off and he agreed. Two weeks later regretted it and contacted him and i gues he was still mad so he said no. Since then i didnt contant him ever. It was very hard though. Three months later he texted me. I knew at that point the ball was jn my court lol. I realized that i love him so much that a piece of paper (marriage) mean nothing without him so i was ok not getting married as long as i have him. A month after we got badk together he proposed. A year later we got married. You can check out our wedding vodeo😂
@@goddd_levi1072 45 days, you have to genuinely work on yourself and move on though in those days. Distract distract distract. She's not going to like you again if you don't work on being a better you. It's just unfortunate I was with a cheat, so I didn't take her back after she dumped me when I caught her. Also, don't look for guarantees of her returning. If they genuinely had zero feelings at all, they likely won't return. Either way, being a better you and ignoring her is the most attractive and only thing you can do to get her back.
@Kyle Heyy thank you.. my boyfriend broke up with me saying he needs space where i just wanted to spent some time with him. I had not seen him for like more than 6 weeks. And addressing the problem he gave up and removed me frm the social media. Rn in NC but i just wanted to be there for him. Thanks for replying 🥹
@@goddd_levi1072 Usually a block is a really bad sign that he didn't have strong feelings. You haven't seen him for six weeks post breakup or you haven't seen him in six weeks before he broke up with you. Either way it makes me think maybe someone else he was interested in and monkey branched to someone else. I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm 23, it's just really hard for me right now knowing that almost 3 years wasted with this person only for her to betray me for another guy. I'm still currently in pain too. Know that you're not alone in the hurt.
Doesn't work for every ex..If they are extremely stubborn they never talk you back...they just move on..simple things..no contact is for you for becoming a stronger person..that's all...nothing more nothing less.. my ex..is better without me...and iam stronger after that...
I agree, It doesn't work for everyone. And I feel like if a person likes or loves you enough they would not want to have a no-contact zone! My opinion.
1st day no contact . Broke up 3 days ago . Feeling my feelings … going to the gym .. eating more / healthier ( I wanna gain weight ) … either going to get another job or go back to school. I’m forgiving him minute by minute. I understand my value .. I’m an awesome person . He told me often how “ unique “ I am and he’s right ! I’m going to be fine ! It’s hard but I won’t reach out ever again . Ready to do the work
30 days in. Still a ways to go but feeling worlds better than day 1. Last night I was actually thinking how much better it is without them. No drama no worry or gaslighting or feeling bad. Just relaxing. I know it was a temporary feeling but it's progress.
I just came back to let you people know that it works. It was a 3 year- long-distance relationship that ended in September. Since then, I've been following Blac's rules by the book, without a single mistake. The ex went through all 5 stages and finally invited me out. We made it out on New Years Eve and this month we moved in together in our new apartment. He proposed, I finally got my Visa approved, we both got promoted with a raise and just today we found out that I'm pregnant. When all the starts align :)
I’m going thru this right now… 3 years long distance - he broke up with me 4 days ago. I spilled my heart out letting him know I don’t want the break up. He mentioned still taking me to a surgery I have had planned in June. And I asked if we could meet and talk. With his schedule it’s up to when he’s off work so he said we can. But we haven’t talked for two days. I’m trying the no contact thing even tho it’s killing me. I’m a single mom who he was apart of her life the last 3 years. Bummed he didn’t wish me happy Mother’s Day even tho I’m not sure why as we’re broken up. I’m crushed. I pray there is hope for us.
I'm being completely honest, I don't want him back. He was pure trash. I walked away due to poor treatment and neglect. The only thing I want at this point is for him to reach out just so I can ignore his text or call.😅
hey man, you are really helping people through their lives with such stuff and you're one of the real ones who genuinely care about their audience, thanks G
I’m always dumped around my birthday. I knew it was happening. As much as I want to be in a relationship; I don’t believe I’m supposed to be in a relationship
Wow! I love how you expressed how No Contact is a mindset! Been NC for a month and I am past the grief point and ready to transition into the mindset part! Thank you!
It’s been 8 weeks no contact and he reached out to me with a “heyy”. I did not respond. After the break up and how he discarded me, you’d think he’d say something more. I don’t know what his intentions were, but I hear to never respond to their first time reaching out (if they have wronged you) after no contact, bc usually it’s not something that substantial anyway. Their true intentions will show eventually.
@@shawny979 what happened tho? I’m not gonna lie i’m doing no contact now and if my ex ever texted me I would respond to her. They say you shouldn’t though right? Not the first time? Why is that though?
Facts! Your advice reflects mirrors what I've heard from Corey Wayne, Stephan Speaks and other real coaches. It's about improving and respecting yourself.
Two weeks no contact, I walked away from being mistreated. Saturday he txted me a lame apology about hurting my feelings, didn’t respond. Today he txted me that he misses me and can I come over, didn’t respond. I want to so bad but I’m not.
What's your goal? if your goal is to officially be done with him then keep ignoring him; but if you want a chance to work it out, then you don't ignore when he reaches out and wants to discuss getting back.
It works trust me on this, no matter how long it takes but it works wonders.... only if you start focusing on yourself, get better and build a mindset to never ever go back to them again. Let them go. I am saying all of this because she texted me and told me that she loves me after 2-3 months of no contact. Everyone out there stop worrying so much, live a little:)))
I just started listening to you the other day spot on with every thing. It’s been a long time coming but I have not contacted him, I did block his number because it’s been eight years ; going back and forth, hoping we get back together, attending family events etc. 10 years since the divorce/ after 26/years of marriage. I’m living my best life dating kinda bumpy but I’m pushing forward. Thank you for your honesty. Today is Sunday February 26, 2023. 1 Month I’m proud of myself 😊
@@blacademiccoach blac I’d like to ask you a simple question: does no contact work though if YOU did something wrong to make her mad or upset with you? Usually I’d imagine that it only works if she was to lose attraction for you because you aren’t the same man that she once loved or met etc…. In other words you didn’t necessarily do anything wrong to her but she fell out of love because of who you have become. I can see no contact working in that scenario…. But in my situation… the basis is that I have done something to upset her. So in general, would you say that it can work if she perceives something you did as wrong to hurt her feelings?
@joebermuda6452 idk about your case but mine was maybe the same she left me because I did something really big I'd rather not say what but she came back. So in your case if u don't break no contact I'm sure she'll come back because no matter how big is the problem if you're meant together you'll always find a way getting back together. It took her 6 months to come back to me but she did And if u need someone to talk to u can talk to me bcz I've been there and ik how it feels stay strong❤
@@blacademic life update, I almost forgot her and realized my life is better without her, I have a better social life and also I found a good job. I call it a win, and her loss. Keep studying yourself and know if your negative thoughts are legit or just a bad habit, we need to train our minds to be more positive and social, don't fall on that sadness spiral for too much time if you have a breakup because life has more to give we need to focus on our path.
Mannnn, everything you just said I just said, it hurts but a very important lesson Learn about what I will and won’t accept into my life or my children’s as a single mother. You literally pop up on my feeds on fb and now here thank you for speaking out as you do & sharing your wisdom and perception.
This video did bring clarity 😊 It's amazing how we can Inspire others to be strong & to love themselves but we are sometimes 'unkind' to ourselves. Thank you for this video - you can be so proud that what you present is helping so many people to look inwards to the strength they have & be so full of dignity & self respect. What you advise is do-able
It works, my ex (a female) broke up with me Feb,semi saw me until late March, then randomly texted me late August saying how she’s so fkn sorry for doing that to me and I didn’t deserve it (4.5 months later ) and showed up that night (made her wait two days before I answered and didn’t ask her to come and said what when she said she was). I didn’t go no contact for a bit in the beginning, I tried for a month or two. It’s hard when you have feelings, the two other gfs I have now they get mad or say they’re done and I just don’t respond or leave, (they’re never done) but her I love her so ironically it’s easy for her to leave lol. Says she loves me again and everything came over every day. I watched your videos for hope and to feel better the first couple months. Hope this makes someone else feel better and if that didn’t, she got chubby and I lost tons of weight and almost got a six pack and have a Maserati now. She was looking at all the other girls stuff here saying how’s she sad she let that happen and did it to herself. I also believe it helped that when she was at the nastiest point saying the meanest hurtful things to me I didn’t say anything back that was bad or she would remember since it was out of character for her. Well hope this makes someone feel better or helps them through. I would scour the comments for proof comments of it working.
Your words are magical brotha, thank you. Broke up with my ex over lying to me and I moved out on her. She got mad I left her alone to pay the rent and hated me. Now she's been calling and texting but when she brought up drama, I went back to no contact. Then she apologized for lying to me.
Day 5 of no contact and I’m still struggling . It’s been 17 days since the end of a 6 year relationship . We talked off and on for the first couple of days talking about what went wrong and having a better understanding . She said she’s certainly not saying never ever again with us getting back together but for now I’ll leave her be and become a monster in the gym and really focus on my self care. If she hasn’t reached out by day 90 I’ll say my final goodbye. We had a very healthy relationship and really no issues outside of I had a kid in a previous relationship and she gets really upset from time to time about me having already experienced that. I understand where she’s coming from but she knew this day 1 . If she was the one with a kid I wouldn’t care about it. I’m certain me and her would have been together for life had it not been this one hurdle but like I said she tells me she’s not mature enough to get over that
@@marcGOAT1 we were on and off. I went to talk to him and fix things but he decided to end definetly. So i accepted, blocked everything and kept going. He never reach out.
You are exactly right! When you made the statement to think about your daughters of which I have three, I would never advise my daughter daughters to date the man that I was deeply in love with . And if you broke up with them, I would be having a party. you nailed it for me thanks very good perspective
Yea this works. Learned that she is really wanting to hang out to talk about things. We had a very mutual and agreeable break up. It helps you get them off their mind and they will feel your absence
She broke up with me a few days ago moments after telling me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me. Shocked, I mistakenly begged until I came to my senses and went silent. She then called me two days later to check on me and I told her that I was Okay. The very next day she called me crying telling me she wonders if she made a mistake and has been unable to sleep and stop crying. against my better judgment I engaged in conversation and even invited her to watch a play this upcoming weekend. Later that day she told me that she was still confused and so seeing the writing on the wall I went back to no contact mode. Did I ruin anything by engaging the first time?
I haven't talked to my ex/boyfriend for 3 to 4 days and all he's said are "hey." "Thanks for replying" lmao. He's been such a jerk and abusive with his words making me feel like im the only one messing up in our relationship when im not. Can't wait for him to realize what he's throwing away, no other girl is going to put up with all that and still stay but like an idiot I did till it was too late.
Your videos really do help pple and u make it easy for them to understand I am very strong but not everyone is it's highly appreciated for u reaching out and taking your time to help so keep up your good work and thank you!...
Coach blac" ists going on 3 months now... Still never got one single call or text" I don't think it's working" she's already got to be moved on with someone else" people don't do no contact for so long unless there's someone else involved like third-party!the longer the no-contact the longer the fun there having.... The no contact is giving me anxiety and anxiousness 😣
My lover just left me because I did not want to live together her. Otherway we had a very good relationship. We gave each other freedom and were lovers and good friends supporting each other. But she left me suddenly, without any explanation. I did no contact for 3 months and then asked friendly how she is and could she help me with some things. She answered posh and arrogant way that she has happy life with another man and she is not interested in helping me at all. So, no contact did NOT work this time.
My husband cheated and left 3 weeks ago. He has not talked to me since then. I know that I need to stop messaging him, but the hardest part is knowing that he doesn't know or care about what I have been through in this relationship. He hasn't listened before. Why would he listen now? My plan is to go no contact starting today. I have thought this before, but it's hard when more and more things surface. All the harsh truths that I never told him before. I put on a happy face all the time, but he has caused me a lot of pain in this relationship. When I was pregnant with our son, a counselor asked me how I was doing and I just started crying because I just push all that pain down.
He texted me after 45 days of no contact. By the way he knows that I'm in a relationship with another man. I still love him, we didn't see each other 1 year, but stayed in contact all the time . He texted: how are you doing? I hope everything is OK. I don't know if I should reply.Is it looks like breadcrumbs?Looking forward to your reply. thank you in advance
She broke up with me at the end of April. We talked on and off till the end of May. I reached out in the middle of June. She was cold. Its September now. I blocked her and haven't talked to her since.
Today I got my confirmation, we had an agreement as we were to get back together… she broke the promise so I gotta go. If somebody is physically giving themself away and still hitting you up… F* the no contact stay gone 💯
My husband of twenty seven years files for divorce. We've been separated for years. I decide, I don't want a divorce, tell him, then go no contact. So what does he do? Contact my daughter (she thinks of him as a father) austensibly because she's having a crisis. But he gets the goods on me. Am I mad? No.
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I got a question...When I met my ex wife for the final time to tie up some lose end with the divorce I was struggling financially with covid. So I asked her could I borrow one of her credit cards in case of a emergency.....she waited.... then gave it to me. She told me the amount of credit on it. Thankfully I never had to use it...I still have it.....I haven't talked to her since that day....its been years....and she has moved to another state and I believe she has a new man.....I was wondering why she never contacts me or ever asked about the card?
My lover just left me because I did not want to live together her. Otherway we had a very good relationship. We gave each other freedom and were lovers and good friends supporting each other. But she left me suddenly, without any explanation. I did no contact for 3 months and then asked friendly how she is and could she help me with some things. She answered posh and arrogant way that she has happy life with another man and she is not interested in helping me at all.
So, no contact did NOT work this time.
I realize the longer the no contact, the less they are worth it.
It does work😂. We broke up, two weeks later I contacted him and it was a fail. When he said no, i started the no contact and never broke it. Three months later he texted to test the waters. I didnt appear too desperate. To make the story short, after three months of no contact we came back and now we are married😂
If you dont mind me asking.. did he break up with you? and for what reasons did you part ways??
The first time we broke up it was him who break up. It was covid and we didnt have a lot of time to spend together abd we started to argue on little things, our disagreement became often and we just disconnected. The first time we broke up it only lasted like three weeks and its true that couple who get back together in less than a month are more likely to break up again. Not long, i initiated the second break up. I felt like i didnt see a future. He was afraid to get married and i wanted it so i broke it off and he agreed. Two weeks later regretted it and contacted him and i gues he was still mad so he said no. Since then i didnt contant him ever. It was very hard though. Three months later he texted me. I knew at that point the ball was jn my court lol. I realized that i love him so much that a piece of paper (marriage) mean nothing without him so i was ok not getting married as long as i have him. A month after we got badk together he proposed. A year later we got married. You can check out our wedding vodeo😂
Damn !!! That’s what I’m looking for
Congratulations! What a beautiful testimony to read!
you think no contact working ?*^(
It’s still lonely even when you know your self worth and value.
God will put the right person in your life.
100%
exactly
@@milachyc88 coming from a man dude it’s lonely asf
I think no contact really helps you except life without them
💯💯💯
Either way its a win.
The real problem is people don't respect people we are throw aways like trash.
@@skunk187romeo yes ppl today feel entitled chasing happiness. And do not appreciate what they had till its gone for good
Well, it's nearly been three weeks of no contact and I'm already feeling stronger and more confident in myself ❤
:)❤
No Contact worked for me, but she came back and still was lying and manipulative because she's still playing the field. smh.. had to pass her up.
You didn’t contacted her for how long?
@@goddd_levi1072 45 days, you have to genuinely work on yourself and move on though in those days. Distract distract distract. She's not going to like you again if you don't work on being a better you. It's just unfortunate I was with a cheat, so I didn't take her back after she dumped me when I caught her. Also, don't look for guarantees of her returning. If they genuinely had zero feelings at all, they likely won't return. Either way, being a better you and ignoring her is the most attractive and only thing you can do to get her back.
@Kyle Heyy thank you.. my boyfriend broke up with me saying he needs space where i just wanted to spent some time with him. I had not seen him for like more than 6 weeks. And addressing the problem he gave up and removed me frm the social media. Rn in NC but i just wanted to be there for him. Thanks for replying 🥹
@@goddd_levi1072 Usually a block is a really bad sign that he didn't have strong feelings. You haven't seen him for six weeks post breakup or you haven't seen him in six weeks before he broke up with you. Either way it makes me think maybe someone else he was interested in and monkey branched to someone else. I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm 23, it's just really hard for me right now knowing that almost 3 years wasted with this person only for her to betray me for another guy. I'm still currently in pain too. Know that you're not alone in the hurt.
Mine was Manipulative too. I fell for the Bullshit game.
"You are a catch, you are worthy
Absolutely No Contact out of sight out of mind
Doesn't work for every ex..If they are extremely stubborn they never talk you back...they just move on..simple things..no contact is for you for becoming a stronger person..that's all...nothing more nothing less.. my ex..is better without me...and iam stronger after that...
I agree, It doesn't work for everyone. And I feel like if a person likes or loves you enough they would not want to have a no-contact zone! My opinion.
@@shanequiaweaver6843it will work when u will move on and stop waiting for them for sure even cheaters come back
1st day no contact . Broke up 3 days ago . Feeling my feelings … going to the gym .. eating more / healthier ( I wanna gain weight ) … either going to get another job or go back to school. I’m forgiving him minute by minute. I understand my value .. I’m an awesome person . He told me often how “ unique “ I am and he’s right ! I’m going to be fine ! It’s hard but I won’t reach out ever again . Ready to do the work
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Who broke up? Who cheated? He or you?
How r u doing now ? Any updates
any updates :)
Pls update :'3
30 days in. Still a ways to go but feeling worlds better than day 1. Last night I was actually thinking how much better it is without them. No drama no worry or gaslighting or feeling bad. Just relaxing. I know it was a temporary feeling but it's progress.
They say love never fails but if it fails it was never love
I have been in no contact for 8 weeks. He didn't see me but I Seen him last night driving by my house. He stopped for a minute and drove off
He’s truly missing you and too stubborn right his wrongs!!! #BASTARD
Haha NC is working and messing with your ex's mind. Hang in there 😉
He misses you
Lowkey terrifying
@@ballislife1616 😂 Michael Myers from “Halloween”.
I just came back to let you people know that it works. It was a 3 year- long-distance relationship that ended in September. Since then, I've been following Blac's rules by the book, without a single mistake. The ex went through all 5 stages and finally invited me out. We made it out on New Years Eve and this month we moved in together in our new apartment. He proposed, I finally got my Visa approved, we both got promoted with a raise and just today we found out that I'm pregnant. When all the starts align :)
I’m going thru this right now… 3 years long distance - he broke up with me 4 days ago. I spilled my heart out letting him know I don’t want the break up. He mentioned still taking me to a surgery I have had planned in June. And I asked if we could meet and talk. With his schedule it’s up to when he’s off work so he said we can. But we haven’t talked for two days. I’m trying the no contact thing even tho it’s killing me. I’m a single mom who he was apart of her life the last 3 years. Bummed he didn’t wish me happy Mother’s Day even tho I’m not sure why as we’re broken up. I’m crushed. I pray there is hope for us.
@@xokris3879no contact for me too. It’s almost been a month. Miss her dearly. It hurts
Just started my no contact, it’s been now 3 weeks. I’ve met a few nice ladies. So who knows what will happen !!
I'm being completely honest, I don't want him back. He was pure trash. I walked away due to poor treatment and neglect. The only thing I want at this point is for him to reach out just so I can ignore his text or call.😅
Crying!!!! You are funny! But, I swear I feel you! 😂😂
hey man, you are really helping people through their lives with such stuff and you're one of the real ones who genuinely care about their audience, thanks G
I’m always dumped around my birthday. I knew it was happening. As much as I want to be in a relationship; I don’t believe I’m supposed to be in a relationship
You deserve to be loved♥️,don't worry someone better will come I promise you
Stayed in no contact for 4 months. Now I’m dating a wayyy hotter and much higher value woman
You go kingg 🔥
@@WiseAsianGirlI’m single again
@@lentinikhalsa1 is that so? 😏
Hahah kidding
@@WiseAsianGirllol no. But I’m good. Lol I’ve dated a couple people since that last comment.
@@lentinikhalsa1😂
Thank you for this reminder, I started no contact and slipped now im regretting it. Ive decided to care for myself from now on❤
Out of all these coaches your content hits differently..
Absolute fire broski. Thanks alot. You win in both cases, you either get her/him back, or you become better and attract better. God bless 💪🏼
Yes, self-respect and self-value 👌 and then no contact will become a little bit easier. He does not deserve me ..
True word
After a few months you genuinely moves on and you don’t care about them
That’s real meaning of move on when you don’t care about them
Wow! I love how you expressed how No Contact is a mindset! Been NC for a month and I am past the grief point and ready to transition into the mindset part! Thank you!
This is so helpful, but we need more on Breadcrumbs & Manipulation during the Breakup.
It’s been 8 weeks no contact and he reached out to me with a “heyy”. I did not respond. After the break up and how he discarded me, you’d think he’d say something more. I don’t know what his intentions were, but I hear to never respond to their first time reaching out (if they have wronged you) after no contact, bc usually it’s not something that substantial anyway. Their true intentions will show eventually.
Boy, I wish I would have not responded. My Ex reached out and I fell for his Bullshit Breadcrumbs.
Don't respond back to him.
You should have said byeee back
@@rideoutlondon 😂
@@shawny979 what happened tho? I’m not gonna lie i’m doing no contact now and if my ex ever texted me I would respond to her. They say you shouldn’t though right? Not the first time? Why is that though?
@@ronnymartinez9614 After 7 Months my Ex reached out again Today! I've not responded back to him. I feel stuck.
Facts! Your advice reflects mirrors what I've heard from Corey Wayne, Stephan Speaks and other real coaches. It's about improving and respecting yourself.
Two weeks no contact, I walked away from being mistreated. Saturday he txted me a lame apology about hurting my feelings, didn’t respond. Today he txted me that he misses me and can I come over, didn’t respond. I want to so bad but I’m not.
What's your goal? if your goal is to officially be done with him then keep ignoring him; but if you want a chance to work it out, then you don't ignore when he reaches out and wants to discuss getting back.
It works trust me on this, no matter how long it takes but it works wonders.... only if you start focusing on yourself, get better and build a mindset to never ever go back to them again. Let them go. I am saying all of this because she texted me and told me that she loves me after 2-3 months of no contact. Everyone out there stop worrying so much, live a little:)))
Appreciate this video i was so tempted to reach out to my ex until i seen this !
I just started listening to you the other day spot on with every thing. It’s been a long time coming but I have not contacted him, I did block his number because it’s been eight years ; going back and forth, hoping we get back together, attending family events etc. 10 years since the divorce/ after 26/years of marriage. I’m living my best life dating kinda bumpy but I’m pushing forward. Thank you for your honesty. Today is Sunday February 26, 2023. 1 Month I’m proud of myself 😊
That is a long time ! How you doing now a days
You are really a Man,Everything you said is absolutely true.You are so confident!
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I love your advice....it actually works
Happy to have you here 🙏
Coach Blac, thanks for sharing these info and mindset improvements, you really motivated me.
Glad to hear it! Keep pushing and growing!
@@blacademiccoach blac I’d like to ask you a simple question: does no contact work though if YOU did something wrong to make her mad or upset with you? Usually I’d imagine that it only works if she was to lose attraction for you because you aren’t the same man that she once loved or met etc…. In other words you didn’t necessarily do anything wrong to her but she fell out of love because of who you have become. I can see no contact working in that scenario…. But in my situation… the basis is that I have done something to upset her. So in general, would you say that it can work if she perceives something you did as wrong to hurt her feelings?
@joebermuda6452 idk about your case but mine was maybe the same she left me because I did something really big I'd rather not say what but she came back.
So in your case if u don't break no contact I'm sure she'll come back because no matter how big is the problem if you're meant together you'll always find a way getting back together.
It took her 6 months to come back to me but she did
And if u need someone to talk to u can talk to me bcz I've been there and ik how it feels
stay strong❤
@@blacademic life update, I almost forgot her and realized my life is better without her, I have a better social life and also I found a good job. I call it a win, and her loss. Keep studying yourself and know if your negative thoughts are legit or just a bad habit, we need to train our minds to be more positive and social, don't fall on that sadness spiral for too much time if you have a breakup because life has more to give we need to focus on our path.
Mannnn, everything you just said I just said, it hurts but a very important lesson Learn about what I will and won’t accept into my life or my children’s as a single mother. You literally pop up on my feeds on fb and now here thank you for speaking out as you do & sharing your wisdom and perception.
I wish I knew this before I even considered going into THAT relationship.
Thank You, makes you look at things differently, I loved this video!!
Thanks for watching Victoria!
No contact keep it moving make yourself available for the next person.
I'm ready for my prince
This video did bring clarity 😊 It's amazing how we can Inspire others to be strong & to love themselves but we are sometimes 'unkind' to ourselves. Thank you for this video - you can be so proud that what you present is helping so many people to look inwards to the strength they have & be so full of dignity & self respect. What you advise is do-able
Very eloquently put Coach Blac
It works, my ex (a female) broke up with me Feb,semi saw me until late March, then randomly texted me late August saying how she’s so fkn sorry for doing that to me and I didn’t deserve it (4.5 months later ) and showed up that night (made her wait two days before I answered and didn’t ask her to come and said what when she said she was). I didn’t go no contact for a bit in the beginning, I tried for a month or two. It’s hard when you have feelings, the two other gfs I have now they get mad or say they’re done and I just don’t respond or leave, (they’re never done) but her I love her so ironically it’s easy for her to leave lol. Says she loves me again and everything came over every day. I watched your videos for hope and to feel better the first couple months. Hope this makes someone else feel better and if that didn’t, she got chubby and I lost tons of weight and almost got a six pack and have a Maserati now. She was looking at all the other girls stuff here saying how’s she sad she let that happen and did it to herself. I also believe it helped that when she was at the nastiest point saying the meanest hurtful things to me I didn’t say anything back that was bad or she would remember since it was out of character for her. Well hope this makes someone feel better or helps them through. I would scour the comments for proof comments of it working.
Hi coach! Thank you for your advice, these have been so helpful!!!
You are welcome my friend!
Thank you for this. Been watching your videos for about a week now and they have been helping… God bless🙏🏼
Thanks for this video man. My parents and friends said the same thing. It’s a hard battle
Your words are magical brotha, thank you. Broke up with my ex over lying to me and I moved out on her. She got mad I left her alone to pay the rent and hated me. Now she's been calling and texting but when she brought up drama, I went back to no contact. Then she apologized for lying to me.
Thank you for your videos, they have helped me get through to the other side ❤
You are simply the best in this business. Manny thanks.
He was right, this was the last no contact video I needed
Love the comparison to how would you advise a child..👍appreciate your video's..sending love from South Texas RGV
Very well said.
Day 5 of no contact and I’m still struggling . It’s been 17 days since the end of a 6 year relationship . We talked off and on for the first couple of days talking about what went wrong and having a better understanding . She said she’s certainly not saying never ever again with us getting back together but for now I’ll leave her be and become a monster in the gym and really focus on my self care. If she hasn’t reached out by day 90 I’ll say my final goodbye. We had a very healthy relationship and really no issues outside of I had a kid in a previous relationship and she gets really upset from time to time about me having already experienced that. I understand where she’s coming from but she knew this day 1 . If she was the one with a kid I wouldn’t care about it. I’m certain me and her would have been together for life had it not been this one hurdle but like I said she tells me she’s not mature enough to get over that
Thank you, it's time to put everything away. And start a new mysterious future.
Hi coach, i made NC for me, so I blocked him everywhere and forever. It hurts so much and after 3 mouths just getting better on my own.
what was the reason for the breakup? and did he ever reach out?
@@marcGOAT1 we were on and off. I went to talk to him and fix things but he decided to end definetly. So i accepted, blocked everything and kept going.
He never reach out.
Hang in there
Thank u so much coach,u have been my biggest inspiration,am more better without him now 😊
Good healthy advice. I hope many disrespected women come across this video and take your advice onboard. ❤
Dear coach, thank you for your insights, I liked and subscribed already
You are exactly right! When you made the statement to think about your daughters of which I have three, I would never advise my daughter daughters to date the man that I was deeply in love with . And if you broke up with them, I would be having a party. you nailed it for me thanks very good perspective
Your video are very helpful to understand what a break is and the ways to turn it around. So thank you for sharing your knowledge with others
Hey have been in no contact two weeks now and this videos of you is helping me very well so I'm progressing day by day
Your videos are gold!🔥
I appreciate that!
Yea this works. Learned that she is really wanting to hang out to talk about things. We had a very mutual and agreeable break up. It helps you get them off their mind and they will feel your absence
I’m struggling over here.
She broke up with me a few days ago moments after telling me how much she loved me and wanted to be with me. Shocked, I mistakenly begged until I came to my senses and went silent. She then called me two days later to check on me and I told her that I was Okay. The very next day she called me crying telling me she wonders if she made a mistake and has been unable to sleep and stop crying. against my better judgment I engaged in conversation and even invited her to watch a play this upcoming weekend. Later that day she told me that she was still confused and so seeing the writing on the wall I went back to no contact mode. Did I ruin anything by engaging the first time?
Amen..this is really good!!!🙌🙌🙌 Thank you!!!
I get all of this but I broke up with my person
Realized it was in the heat of the moment and tried to make it right
I’m in limbo now
THAT WAS AMAZING TRUE FACTS 🙏💯👍
Thank you sooooo much i choose me today is the day 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you you’re awesome 👏🏽💯❤️
Do you have Facebook ?
@@growandheal no I don’t
You are awesome my friend! Thanks for watching and supporting 🙏
@@blacademic my pleasure 🙏🏽💯
Absolutely worked for me in one week. No contact is hard but so essential.
I really like your words u so mature guy ❤
Simply the best 👌 👌 👌 thank You again
I haven't talked to my ex/boyfriend for 3 to 4 days and all he's said are "hey." "Thanks for replying" lmao. He's been such a jerk and abusive with his words making me feel like im the only one messing up in our relationship when im not. Can't wait for him to realize what he's throwing away, no other girl is going to put up with all that and still stay but like an idiot I did till it was too late.
Any updates? How are you doing? Have you heard from him at all since then?
Your videos really do help pple and u make it easy for them to understand I am very strong but not everyone is it's highly appreciated for u reaching out and taking your time to help so keep up your good work and thank you!...
This is an awesome concept! Thank you!!!!!!
Thank you for this❤
Amazing video and message coach. I love your content. 🙏🏼
This is nuts I just wanna be left the fuck alone going backwards in life is like settling for already chewed gum
Very helpful...thank you....❤
Thank you so much for this.. it seems so simple now 🖤
😢😢 it's very lonely and sad
THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR WORK..... REALLY BEEN SEEING HOW MUCH OF A HIGH VALUE PERSON I AM SINCE I STARTED WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS
Coach blac" ists going on 3 months now... Still never got one single call or text" I don't think it's working" she's already got to be moved on with someone else" people don't do no contact for so long unless there's someone else involved like third-party!the longer the no-contact the longer the fun there having.... The no contact is giving me anxiety and anxiousness 😣
If they don't contact you back! Then don't you think y'all weren't meant to be together? 🤔
The point of no contact is also to help you recover, get better without them. At one point you might réalisé you are even much better without them
Update
My lover just left me because I did not want to live together her. Otherway we had a very good relationship. We gave each other freedom and were lovers and good friends supporting each other. But she left me suddenly, without any explanation. I did no contact for 3 months and then asked friendly how she is and could she help me with some things. She answered posh and arrogant way that she has happy life with another man and she is not interested in helping me at all.
So, no contact did NOT work this time.
I wish it works. I’m waiting and trying not to be negative and working on myself meanwhile
My husband cheated and left 3 weeks ago. He has not talked to me since then. I know that I need to stop messaging him, but the hardest part is knowing that he doesn't know or care about what I have been through in this relationship. He hasn't listened before. Why would he listen now? My plan is to go no contact starting today. I have thought this before, but it's hard when more and more things surface. All the harsh truths that I never told him before. I put on a happy face all the time, but he has caused me a lot of pain in this relationship. When I was pregnant with our son, a counselor asked me how I was doing and I just started crying because I just push all that pain down.
Nice one 🤠
Much appreciated 🤲🏻 needed to hear this to help moving ahead ✨ respect you a lot ✊ thank you for your videos
Thanks I needed this 😢
Thxs coach fo da info and I really appreciate it so much coz I know iam a catch 😍🥰🥰 much love from uganda 🇺🇬
What if you aren't sure who dumped who and if you are both doing no contact?
Coach you are saving my life!
Thank you 🙏🏽
He texted me after 45 days of no contact. By the way he knows that I'm in a relationship with another man. I still love him, we didn't see each other 1 year, but stayed in contact all the time . He texted: how are you doing? I hope everything is OK. I don't know if I should reply.Is it looks like breadcrumbs?Looking forward to your reply. thank you in advance
She broke up with me at the end of April. We talked on and off till the end of May. I reached out in the middle of June. She was cold. Its September now. I blocked her and haven't talked to her since.
Thankyou ❤❤
Today I got my confirmation, we had an agreement as we were to get back together… she broke the promise so I gotta go. If somebody is physically giving themself away and still hitting you up… F* the no contact stay gone 💯
Thank's Coach Blac,i alway's listen to u and u inspire's me a lot,this is my first time making a comment👍🙏
My husband of twenty seven years files for divorce. We've been separated for years. I decide, I don't want a divorce, tell him, then go no contact. So what does he do? Contact my daughter (she thinks of him as a father) austensibly because she's having a crisis. But he gets the goods on me. Am I mad? No.