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My mom teaches first grade at a Catholic school. I told her about Peekaboo Jesus, and I think her class will have a new game soon! 😂
That’s perfect lol
Can we have an update? and Peekaboo Jesus games there yet???
I am religious and can say that game sounds cute and amusing. My paternal grandma collected basically every angel figurine she could find, every time I was visiting I'd try to figure out which ones were the new ones. It's harmless and cute.
Angels are God's way of saying "Howdy!"
I think it's sad people think Jesus has no sense of humor. I think he would find it funny too.
@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 I agree. Joy is an important facet of all religion, I would think! The reason the homeowner hid statues and images everywhere to begin with might also be for a sense of joy & surprise when they're found.
My aunt’s house is the same way! Little angels EVERYWHERE. It’s sweet and they make her happy. And I have one angel my grandma gave me that doesn’t exactly GO with, you know, all the skulls and TARDISes and stuff, but he’s cute and he’s blowing me a kiss from my grandma so on the shelf he stays!
@@bitchenboutique6953 oh, totally off topic, but TARDIS together with an angel figurine gives me very creepy vibes! Weeping angels are the most terrifying villains in the Doctor Who world!
Peekaboo Jesus definitely gives elf-on-the-shelf vibes! What a fun game, that with a simple apology for the misunderstanding, OP can explain that they find a simple joy and appreciation in spotting new Jesus's. It feels like a game that stems from affection, which is sweet.
yeah I felt that too !
I feel like apologizing for this is quite tricky. If the other person thinks you are making fun of them and gets upset because of that and then you apologize, that's like admitting that you were indeed making fun of them. That can be hurtful. And then next time they will be even more likely to suspect you of being rude and condescending because from their pov, their hunch about it was confirmed when you apologized.
It would have to be carefully handled. Perhaps explaining why and apologizing that they kept this game a secret from her. It might be hard to see why they would do that if it's really from affection and not from condescension/making fun.
@@Desimere "If the other person thinks you are making fun of them and gets upset because of that and then you apologize, that's like admitting that you were indeed making fun of them."
How do you apologize to people? ^^'
Like, of course if you apologize for something like that, you start by "I wasn't making fun of you" and you explain your thought process, you don't just say "Im' sorry" and leave XD
And not apologizing is even more rude, they'll think you were making fun of them AND that you don't respect them enough to apologize once you're caught ^^'
@@krankarvolund7771 well, people in general are terrible at communicating and expressing their feelings. There could even be another reason she was upset. I think the best way is to try to have a conversation about it. But yeah, many people just say "sorry" right away just because the other person seems upset without understanding what they are apologizing for.
They can explain more of their intentions and that it’s appreciating the Jesus decorations more. They could also hear the MIL side of why she was hurt by that and hopefully everyone would have a better understanding of the whole thing
Oh my goodness! The "have you found Jesus yet?" killed me! 😂🤣
On the Peekaboo Jesus thing: I'm Catholic and was brought up very religious (in a "my family can be found performing a notable percentage of vital functions at the local parish and my entire education was Catholic until Grad School" kind of way, not, thankfully, a "Pokemon and Harry Potter are Satanic, if our kids are queer we're disowning them" kind of way). Growing up my mother had something of a minor obsession (that admittedly, I may have inherited) of collecting Nativity figurines from a certain brand (Fontanini for those wondering) that had a lot of additional figures, and so our Nativity was less the standard "manger, stable, angel, Holy Family, livestock, Wise Men and maybe a couple shepherds" (we had a couple of those too though), and more "the usual Nativity suspects, and also Basically The Rest Of Nazareth". It was very beautiful and a Big Deal to put up. Part of that Big Deal was that my parents were adamant that baby Jesus was Not to be on display before Christmas day. In fact, they actively hid him, and a major Christmas morning activity for myself and my brother was Hot and Cold Baby Jesus, which is what it would sound like, our parents would hint to us how close we were but we had to find him (winner got to put him in the manger). Imo Peekaboo Jesus sounds perfectly fine, even fun, and frankly people who can't laugh at their own religious sensibilities peeve me. Self-awareness is healthy, and besides, Jesus's first miracle was to keep a party going. You're allowed to have fun.
I was raised not-super-strict Catholic by a very progressive mother (dad was there too but he doesn’t really matter 😂) and I’ve inherited her love of nativity sets. She had two I want to swipe from their house if I can ever figure out where they got stashed (they aren’t with the rest of the Christmas stuff so I’m worried I need to look in the attic), but they both have their Jesuses attached to the manger so we wouldn’t have been able to play that game! I think she would have done it!
Hot and Cold Baby Jesus literally had me laughing out loud, and the tradition sounds like it was so cute!
My dad was similarly insistent on not displaying baby Jesus before Christmas, but now I wish we did a game like that xD
OP Number One is completely the asshole. The situation in the US is that public assistance will cover long term care (which virtually no one can afford to pay for) only if you have already spent every penny you have. This also includes your spouse’s assets. It’s a horrifying reality that people are forced to get a legal divorce in those circumstances, when in their hearts they’re still together for life. God bless America.
This. It’s heartbreaking because you also give up a lot of rights when you divorce making it a real crap topper to an already crap situation
YES! I recently learned about this. Truly mindboggling. Someone shouldn't have to get divorced in order to get the care they need.
not just that, but pretty much all disability stuff is made infinitely more complicated if you're married to someone who cannot 100% support you. and then they send people around to check to see if you're still married if they suspect you of fraud. its just infinite cruelty, and this lady piling the song shit on top of what her step sister is going through made me bawl.
Hmm, the naming/not naming your kid after someone has struck me. This is because I named my daughter Evelynne. It was a name that both my husband and I agreed on together at the same time and when we looked into the meaning, it meant 'wished for child' which was particularly poignant since we'd had a miscarriage before her, and we were actually starting to look at our fertility just before we conceived her naturally, so we thought the name fit perfectly to our situation. Plus, we loved that we could shorten it to Evie. However, my Aunt is called Lynne. I wouldn't say she's my favourite person in the world, we get along but I always remember her being particularly strict towards me as a kid, but let my brother get away with anything and everything. So as you can imagine, I most definitely was NOT naming my child after her. But she still loudly mocks me and my husband in front of the whole family, claiming I named my daughter after her. I absolutely didn't, especially as the intention was always to shorten her name to Evie. She goes on and on and on about it every time we all meet up as a family and it's getting really frustrating - I can feel myself losing my patience and predict one day saying something mean like 'you're the last person I'd name my kid after' - I haven't but this kind of teasing is getting tiresome. It's sad because the name meant so much to me and my husband before, and now it's making me regret her name :(
Tbh, do it. Shout that at her next time, so she shuts the hell up about it and maybe air out the dirty laundry that apparently the family is keeping covered up. It smacks of so much misogyny and now emotional abuse.
You have my permission to be the asshole to stop the bigger asshole from bothering you and your family.
This story stuck with me too, but for a very different reason that might give you a chuckle, so I'll share it with you:
When my youngest was on their way, my ex and I had decided on one name, but were looking for a second name, and while I was suppressing the pain of contractions, the second name popped into my head, I mentioned it to my ex, and we agreed that would be their second name.
So this was a last minute, barely thought through, decision.
It wasn't until our baby was born and we'd shared their name with everyone, that one of our close friends got really excited.
They felt so proud that we named our child after them.
We didn't have the heart to tell them the truth, and honestly, we don't mind them thinking that.
We know the truth, and most of our friends do too, and it's honestly really funny to think about the fact that of all the names to pop into my head at that moment it was the name of a good friend.
You can absolutely say this, next time it comes up, especially in front of family - that gives her an opportunity to understand and be gracious about it, and also sets you up to be supported by family if it happens again.
"Auntie, can I tell you the story behind Evelynne's name? (As above) So it actually has a lot of meaning for us, and I'd appreciate if you wouldn't tease us about it again."
If you need to, a follow up could be, "I don't want to debate or argue about it, I just don't enjoy being teased about this, and I'm asking you nicely to please not do it anymore," or, "Auntie, please respect my request to not make such comments."
I wouldn't say that she's the last person you'd name your chil after. Simular idea but say she's doesn't make the 100 list of people to name your child after. It seems small but saying she's the worst person isn't true as you said she's alright and you have a good relationship.
Be firm, say the true meaning, say she's actually commonly called Evie. Say how you don't want your daughter to get confused on where her name comes from either. It's cool they are both Lynn's but not names after
I've heard of another version of that name that is spelled "Evelyn". You could shorten it to that, so your aunt's name isn't in your daughter's name anymore. 🤔
The only thing I can think about with "Peekaboo Jesus" is if the seemingly silly placements are a way for Mom to be comforted. Like, maybe she feels defensive because they are helpful to her in some way? I still think that OP is NTA (and the game honestly cracked me up) and a sincere apology would go a long way. Just sounds like a misunderstanding of intentions / impact.
She probably sees them as mini-shrines and interpreted it as them disrespecting Jesus by "making fun" of the pictures. Really just a misunderstanding
Longtime Christian here, and I think you absolutely got the "Peekaboo Jesus" situation right! Personally I don't keep images of Jesus around the house because I don't find them all that helpful for my devotion, but I know people who do. To each their own. The game is harmless (and absolutely the sweetest, funniest thing), but the feelings of the other person are also worth considering. NAH, for sure. I love the way you handle situations with such grace, Shaaba!
As someone who is Christian, I absolutely love the Peekaboo Jesus game. That's some good, lighthearted fun. I think MIL is taking things too seriously and needs some more joy in her life.
Peek-a-boo Jesus is like the live action version of "Where's Waldo?"
Going to start playing "peek a boo Pokémon" since I got so much pokemon toys.
My favorite non-binary aunt/uncle word is Zizi - from the Italian words for Aunt (Zia) and Uncle (Zio). 💕
I've heard pibling (parent's sibling) used in English to go with sibling and nibling.
Oh that's adorable!
I think the Spanish version is Titi which is really similar.
Hey, so my nephew's sibling is non-binary, anyone know a way to refer to them other than my nephew's sibling? That seems a bit distancing, but I honestly have no idea how to term it.
They are my family, I am their uncle, what's the best way to say that without this whole thing?
Edit: I understand I should just ask them, but I'm sad to say not all of my family has been kind about it, I'm worried my not knowing might be upsetting to them.
@@jakeand9020 Nibling is the ungendered version of niece/nephew (like sibling for brother/sister). You can also use it as a shorthand for "my nieces and nephews" - just say "my niblings" instead.
Shaaba, sweet, you brought up a very happy memory. So my big sister was pregnant with her first. We were in a grocery store when she told me what the baby's name was gonna be. Then she said "Guess what her middle name is." Right now, 19 years later, my heart still feels so full when I think about it. And that sweet baby is now grown up, and one of my absolute favorite people in the world. Thank you so much, love, for bringing that memory to mind. ❤
We have a thing for reusing names in my family.
My first name is my older sister’s middle name.
My middle name is my eldest sister’s first name.
I tell people that by the fourth kid my parents couldn’t afford any more new names. 😅
Finding out about ‘Peekaboo Jesus’ would absolutely just encourage me to put them in even stranger places for them to find 😂😂😂
Moulin Rouge is literally my favorite movie, so knowing the context of the song in the movie, and then the context of the step sister's relationship to the song is really pulling at my heartstrings. 😢 i can't believe the OP is having a hard time wrapping their head around that???? Very Upset. 😠
Hiiii! Would you care to explain the context? I'm a gen z who hasn't seen the movie and I would like to hear it from someone who feels enthusiastic about the movie instead of looking it up on Google. If you don't feel like it that's okay too :)
I'm gonna agree with the NAH on the last one. OP isn't an AH for having what they believed was a little harmless fun, nor is MIL an AH for simply feeling what she feels. If OP had gotten defensive or dismissed MIL's reaction out of hand, that would be an AH move. But this honestly just seems like a small, innocent misstep that should be easy to get past.
I grew up in a religious family and until recently was dedicated to serving a church. This would have been awesome. And as the person who decorated with it, it would have created a chance to talk about something important to me. It's cute.
I would have started to make opportunities to set up Peek-a-Boo Jesus moments.
@@Hair8Metal8Karen Right, like embrace it, and if there were ever grandkids, then they could continue the tradition/game.
Context absolutely makes the first op the asshole. How can she have so little compassion for the heartbreaking situation her sister is in
Also I'm a Christian and I found peekaboo Jesus funny tbh 😂
I got them confused and thought you meant the Thor one was heartbreaking, but I agree. Also Christian and lowkey jealous that I can't play peekaboo Jesus 😞
She can change "Come what may" for "Your song", from the same soundtrack, if she likes the movie so much. Or play the original version as sung by Elton John. "Your song" is a very good first dance song, either version would work.
Right?! There's plenty of great songs on that soundtrack (I really enjoy the Elephant Love Medley as well). Come What May is not only incredibly special to her sister but is also tragically ironically apt for what she's going through. Just pick a different song, dang!
Story 1 is the definition of, just because you CAN, doesn't mean you SHOULD.
If I had a younger nibbling with a name that similar to mine, I’d claim to be named after them as a joke. I don’t think I’d claim to be the inspiration for their name because I would assume the parents would tell me if I was.
The OP did mention they would "jokingly" say the kids was named after them.
I wonder if it didn't sound as jokingly as they intended, and maybe that's why the BIL got so upset.
I don't think they're the a**hole for pointing out the obvious: the name simply sounds as their name with just one letter added.
And I also don't thing they're the a**hole for jokingly claiming the child was named after them, especially since it does seem like they want to make things right with their sister and BIL.
BIL's reaction of blowing up on them seems like an overreaction, so I wonder what he's really upset with.
Because I there's more behind this that OP isn't aware of either.
2nd one - i have a brother, we'll call him Daniel, if i then had a daughter and named her Danielle of course people would assume she was named after him. like, how could you not? amazed that this never seemed to occur to BiL in the two years since his kid was born.
You're spot on about the being in the USA if your spouse needs long term care most have to divorce. As others have mentioned you can only qualify for medicaid/state benefits if you exhaust every penny AND ALSO they can come after your house after your death as well so it can also make the surviving spouse homeless then. It's very grim. 100% a tragic story and the fact that OP is so cruel in thinking about the sister. Like dang.
As far as I know, the non-binary term for the sibling of a parent is "pibling," which I think is just delightful!
I'm Christian and also think "peeka-boo-jesus" sounds like a fun game!
I was tempted to say the first OP was not being very empathetic in the first place, because music can truly mean a lot to people, but it was still within their right to stand their ground. But with the added knowledge that their step sister is in such a heartbreaking situation, and how important this song is to said situation and her relationship, they're honestly being selfish. Complete lack of compassion.
Yeah, I started off on their side and then the more info we got, the clearer it became that they're the one in the wrong not their sister.
Ordinarily, nobody should be dictating the song choice other than the couple getting married, but this is definitely one context where that rule doesn't apply.
The way she acted like that information wasn't relevant enough for the original post and made it seem like it was just a normal divorce is really underhanded.
@@alex_blue5802 Exactly. By the way she expressed things, I had a feeling, she already knows this is the assholey thing to do, but thinks that if she's vague enough, someone will tell her she's not the AH and she can do it anyways. Disgusting.
OP seems like somebody who thinks everything that's legal is morally good
For the name thing, I have two funny stories about that.
First is my uncle and his son, my auntie and uncle knew they were having a boy and named him before he was born but didn't tell anyone (in our family this is very normal). It wasn't until the nurse said "oh, named after dad is he?" That they realised their names were so similar! Their names are like Thor and Thorin, but it wasn't at all planned. They didn't mind and didn't change the name, but still find it funny.
The second story is my name. I'm second born daughter and in my mum's line the middle name is passed down through oldest daughter, so my mum had to come up with a new middle name. She spent a lot of time choosing the middle name because she wanted it to be important like my sister's. She finally settled on a middle name and then talked to my dad about a first, they settled fairly quickly. It wasn't until they were getting me registered and had to say the full name out loud for the first time did they realise my first and middle name sounded very similar and did not go together. On the spot my mum had to change my first name because she hated the way the old one sounded with the middle one. Luckily my dad just sort of went along with it and didn't mind the new name. When asked later why my mum had thought of my new first name, she said she panicked and first person she thought of was a childhood farm cat she liked, so that's how I'm named after a cat 😅
It's so funny that you used Billa as an example of a made-up name, because that genuinely is my mum's nickname! She's called Sibylle (she's German) and several family members call her Billa for short. I don't think it's that uncommon as a shortening in Germany either
I grew up religious, and while I'm not really religious anymore, I think a lot of Christians would find it funny. Personally, if they were my statues, I would specifically hide more to encourage the game. ❤
I definitely do. Spreading joy isn't against Jesus's wishes, and if our world says anything, the Lord probably has a sense of humour. That being said, the MIL is of course entitled to her feelings
"Don't stop playing the game, just be more aware of your surroundings"
Yeah, you'd be surprised how many more Jesuses you can find!
I chuckled a little cause Thor and Thora are Icelandic names written Þór and Þóra :P
1st story: I think the first comment nailed it, it's not so much about having rights over the song or not, but I just cannot fathom the lack of empathy. If my sister were going through something like that, whether the song might be truly meaningful to me or not, I would definitely have a different attitude towards the whole situation. Odd and quite sad in my opinion 🫤
As a asexual Christian peek'a'boo Jesus would be a nice way to see light and hope. For others it can be just a funny thing that brings them joy. Personal story here but I have dyslexia and for the majority of my life I couldn't spell Jesus. This was until among us the game came out and the word "sus" became a common term. I had made the mental connection of je-sus so from the on I could spell Jesus. I remind myself of this experience whenever someone "makes fun of Jesus" and remind myself that they don't mean any harm and Jesus would probably laugh with them (and give them a hug because consensual hugs are the best). Lot's of love
Edit/Update: found out I was in a cult thanks for the likes though.
I love these videos:) makes me feel safe
I love your profile picture!!!
@@noooodianoodles thanks:)
I’m a Christian and now I want to go to family members houses and play peekaboo Jesus. I find it hysterical.
Before I knew I was trans I had the opportunity to get a cat that had my deadname. We obviously wouldn't adopt her because it would have been so confusing, like "Is my mom calling for me or the cat???"
Also, peekaboo Jesus sounds like fun. I'd be playing it on challenge mode because I'm legally blind.
Peekaboo Jesus gave me Pokemon Gameboy vibes...
*a wild Jesus appears*
He uses Peekaboo...
*it's super effective*
😂😂😂😂
I was raised Catholic and still am, peekaboo Jesus is the greatest thing I have ever heard in my entire life. I’m not going to speak for every Catholic person ever, but I personally am not at all offended and think that Jesus would be happy that he’s bringing you joy in this way. But I’m also a chaotic trans man who’s bi/pan-romantic and asexual and has encountered Catholics who would faint if I told them, so I digress.
I wouldn't want the same opening song as other weddings I've went through. It's MY wedding, I want to create my own new memories. So I really don't get why she'd want the same song.
Your eye makeup looks stunning in this video!
I think the last one is kind of a perspective of knowing your audience. I as a Christian don't really have too many religious symbols around my apartment (I heard someone once say it was like worshipping the symbol rather than God, which really stuck with me. That being said, I see absolutely no problem with other people doing it) but if I did, or if someone did that with something I do have around my apartment (my chaotic stash of pens floating about everywhere, or random anime art or something) I would laugh and roll along with it. Heck, I have a friend where we do something very similarly with, and it's a fun game for all of us. My sister and I have a running game of figuring out which new sign our mom hung up (because she's very much the person with Live Laugh Love esque signs all over the place). That being said, there are definitely some people I can see taking it from a different context and assuming it was in a jeering or mocking fashion though, especially if there's a religious symbol involved, but also just with casual things around the house.
So I'd say not the asshole, but definitely recognize your audience and perhaps be more aware for the future.
I don't think it was a problem of recognizing your audience though, because the OP didn't know the MIL would hear. I doubt they would've said it if they'd realized she was in the room
gender neutral version of niece/nephew=nibbling
gender neutral version of aunt/uncle=pibbling
I don’t know if it’s still like this in Sweden but when my ex’s dad got MS his parents had to get a divorce for him to get a place at a treatment/nursing (don’t remember the right word) home. It’s such a fucked up thing.
Hey I think the non-binary term for uncle or aunty Is Pibling.
It is! My spouse and I use 'Pibbs' for short :)
Aww I hope so, this is so cute!!
Always look forward to this every week, thank you!
My parents changed what they were going to name me when the neighbors two houses down named their dog a nickname version of it two weeks before I was born.
“Not knowingly cruel but devoid of empathy” is a very useful phrase.
I'm Christian and I think it's important to be able to laugh about things that others might find funny. When me and my siblings were teens, my mom put a little picture of Jesus in the bathroom "to help the boys." We just got used to it and forgot it was there. One day my friends were over and one of my friends had to use the bathroom. She comes back to where we were, doing a potty dance, and says "I can't pee if Jesus is looking at me!" My mom was like "oh I forgot that was there!" And took it down. We laugh about that to this day.
The first dance song one: she is being so cold to her sister. She has such a lack of understanding of what she would be putting her family member through when she is hurting so bad. Pick literally any other song.
there's a serious lack of gender neutral sibling-of-partent terms :( there's auncle, which i went with for a while for myself, but i recently found untie (pronounced like "punt-y," i can't think of a... more polite way to demonstrate it) from a tiktoker who started using for herself! my sister likes untie a lot better than auncle because it's easier to say and it rhymes with "c*nty" which is just plain funny to us lol
The ones I'm familiar with off the top of my head are pibling (portmanteau of parent's sibling), zizi (from the Italian zio and zia), and titi (from the Spanish tio and tia).
I was thinking of pride flags too
As a thing in your home that people might stumble across.. kinda.
At the same time I think it's a good idea to apologize. And say "I'm so sorry. I meant no harm or disrespect "
The TBI story is heartbreaking, of course she still loves him. It’s like when a spouse dies - they didn’t break up, she lost him.
I KNEWWWWW you were gonna say "pride flags" cause that's the first thing that popped into my head regarding what it could be for me too 😂 love this 😂😂
The first story was definitely TA. I really can't understand how they don't understand why they are wrong. I feel like they either actually lack empathy, or they have real issues with their step sister.
NTA It is weird that it wasn't addressed, and I assume most people in their lives assume there is a connection. Even so, it was a joke, not the pibling actually assuming anything.
I am a Christian, raised around a lot of pretty religious people. I would say about 85% of the people I can think of would find it funny. I agree NAH, but an apology is still right. She felt it was irreverent and you are in her house.
I think that some people forget there are other options than YTA and NTA, or they consider that since those are the titles you can't use nuance, so if you are in the grey at all YTA.
10:22 whenever I think of an odd place for religious stuff I think of a cabin I rented in Tennessee , the bathroom had a framed “the lord is watching” saying, nice sentiment, sort of awkward location
I'm religious and I find the peek-a-boo Jesus hilarious and very cute! Some people seem to take innocent, fun things too seriously. It's a shame.
Love you Shaaba!
Peekaboo Jesus really had me giggling. And I can see how that could upset MIL. (And did.)
NTA - UNLESS OP refuses to apologize.
If it were me, I’d BRIEFLY explain that no insult or sneer was intended; seeing him makes me smile and feel good - and that I can absolutely see how what I said didn’t come across that way, so I do apologize.
I love the Virgin Guadalupe. And I bought a light-up Christmas decoration of her because it makes me giggle.
I love nativity scenes! And I have one that’s a figurine; when you push a switch it plays a loud and terrible recording of some guy reading the Gospel of Matthew. It makes me giggle.
I really love Prince Ganesh the happy laughing dancing elephant god! I’d like to see him popping up unexpectedly.
It would make me giggle, and it would do me good. 🙂❤
The peekaboo Jesus reminds me of a game me and my family play at Christmas time with our Nativity scene. The baby Jesus comes out of the manger, so in the days leading up to Christmas, me and my parents will take turns hiding the tiny plastic baby in different places around the house. It's a harmless game that makes us all laugh when he's put in more and more ridiculous places.
I had a nearly identical situation happen to me (3rd post). My wife's parents have the 99 names of God hanging in each room of their house. Years ago, I started saying quietly to my wife (girlfriend at the time), "99 names of God on the wall, 99 names of God..." (to the theme of 99 bottles of beer on the wall) as a little humorous recognition of the similarity of the two things. This wasn't all that frequent, but occasionally I would quietly sing to myself or her when visiting. Some years after we were married, it must have come up in conversation with her mom, who is very religious, and has a very under developed sense of humor, unfortunately. None of us drink, and it wasn't meant to be disrespectful, but her mom was very disappointed in the comparison, and lectured us on her thoughts on the matter.
"They have got a lot of imagery of Jesus lying around the house, so recently I lifted a sink plunger and a new Jesus popped out" That was so hilarious...I couldn't stop laughing at the thought of it! 😆😆😆
Got a similar thing to the name story. Siblings preferred name is one letter off from my preferred name. More siblings than ever.
I'm sorry, but...
"Let's dive into the A-holes."
...at the beginning killed me lol 😂
Oof given the lyrics to come what may in general I can understand why after something traumatic like that and it being so much a part of their relationship that she’d have such an intense attachment to it and feel weird about her sibling using that song and ask her not to use it, I feel like that person is definitely the a-hole and really seems like she lacks empathy about how horrible that situation is for her sister in general with the way she was talking about her still going to see him and stuff. It’s a beautiful song and that movie is one of my favourites would recommend listening to it and watching it 😊!
pibling is the counterpart to nibling
the word coming from parent sibling
I will create a "Picaboo Rainbow" game for ppl coming to my house from now on, Shaaba you're a GENIUS ❤
Auncle is what my nephews call me
Lol. I have a bit of a similar story to the Jesus one. I'm not really an active member of my church atm, but we are technically a branch of Christianity, just not Catholic.
Well, my cousin's grandma (the one I don't share with her) also wasn't catholic, but she had 3-5 glow-in-the-dark Catholic Jesus statues in random places in her house. They were about 8" tall and I swear they were constantly being moved around. The thing is, she had a lot of knick-knacks around, so the statues would blend in with the others. The only way you would know if one of these statues was in a room was to wait for the lights to be turned off or for night to fall and wait to see the greenish glow. It became an inside joke between my cousin and I whenever we would spot the glow-in-the-dark Catholic Jesus.
Her grandma thought it was a little funny though, and I wish that we'd been able to keep one of these statues after she passed. (Unfortunately my cousin's aunts and uncles looted the house and then threw everything that wasn't valuable away, including these statues.)
Bill is short for William, so the female version would be Wilhelmina (thank you Malory Towers / Enid Blyton for that bit of information)
Enid Blyton, the giver of names that make modern children giggle!
@@kathleenanne7868 For sure, I still feel sorry for Fanny from Faraway Tree
I see your "Fanny", and raise you a "Titty" from Arthur Ransome's wonderful Swallows & Amazon's kids' series!! 🤣
I understand some recent editions have amended it to "Tatty" (in keeping with the nickname's origins) and 100% think that's a good call? Some linguistic drift is just too major for a work to remain readable to new readers in a later era unless it gets somewhat updated... 🙈
I walked down the aisle to a string quartet’s cover of Come What May in October 2022. That song wrecks me lol.
OP was 100% TA.
If you wanted to do polls you could stream and have a live poll running. Kinda of like an interactive AITA. Just a thought.
Oh that would be cool!
"Jesus totally giggled whenever you saw him" this! Like dude was chill 🤷🏻
"Billa" - a grocery store in Austria... I do hope she didn't name her child that :D
Your makeup is so elegant and glam today I love it
Shaaba your makeup is lovely today!!
Yes! I think it's a combination of the hair and the top too, it all looks soo good.
I clicked so fast, love to learn with Shaaba
I especially love these AITA vids. We all enjoy a little “juicy drama”, but it’s about more than that. It’s a real opportunity to explore our own feelings and try to understand others’ feelings in a compassionate way.
Isnt there a version of peekaboo jesus in the south park stick of truth game?
You know where jesus is hiding and giggling in the church
I would have loved to have played this at my grandma's house before she passed. Knowing her, if she heard me say it she'd lean into it and hide even more Jesi
I think that we are assholes when the motivation has been to hurt or at least not at all care about the other party. Apologies are separate.
Honestly the context plus the blasé way she talks about her sisters situation has me baffled. I wouldn't call them exes even! Sure, legally, but it is very clear the situation is leagues more complicated than that. She sounds so dismissive, and tbh even if she has no compassion whatsoever, then like. At best this is a tactless choice and anyone who has enough info will know how selfish and absurd she is
My uncle and I have names one letter off and we bonded over the confusion and chaos it caused🤘🏻
About the last one: I was born and raised in Italy, unfortunately many Christians I have met have ZERO sense of humour when it comes to religion, especially if they are elderly people with a very "old-fashioned" approach to it. Like, any of the priests I've been around in my childhood would have LOVED this game and probably used it for Sunday school. But the old lady from across the street would have told us we'd end up in Hell. My point is that OP was definitely not the asshole and that there are specific people you can't win with, so apologising and being more aware of your surroundings next time you play sounds like a good plan 👌🏻
Novelty pop up Jeez in the Loo with musical cistern that plays a hymn of your choice.
With how much I love Jamie, it should be no surprise to me how much I ADORE Shaaba. ❤❤❤
My niece has my two middle names and I always joke she's named after me, and no one is offended by it haha
The overly religious woman hoarding Jesus figurines got upset because she knows it's weird. I mean, who does that? Sticking Jesus figurines or whatever behind a towel rack? That makes no sense. Why have so many in the first place? She seems exhausting and I'd think long and hard about joining that family.
The edit in the first one got me so emotional omg.
The Peekaboo Jesus one had me dead😂
As a somewhat religious catholic (I prsy every day and go to church sometimes) I think its funny.
I have a friend who himself is quite religious and we call the body of christ "Jesus flips".
For those that dont know what "the body of Christ is"
Its not as ominous as it sounds I promise😂 its just a little wafer type thing. Its mostly tasteless and you get one towards the end of mass, youre meant to chew it and pray and its a reminder of Jesus sacrifice for our sins.
Its called "Eucharist" and you are allowed to have one once youve recieved first communion. (I used to be super jelous when my mom was allowed to get one but not me as a young kid😂).
Peekaboo Jesus reminds me of that one story in The Interpeter of Maladies!
the non-binary form of aunt/uncle is pibling (parent's sibling)! there's also some other terms that mix the two words (auncle for example) but I personally really like pibling if I ever get to be one, and nibling/niblet to my aunts & uncles
Peekaboo Jesus is hilarious. I hope the mom will accept the game as harmlessly amusing and joins in by adding new ones.
Living in a very Christian country I, too, go "Oh, Jesus!" at pictures/icons in unexpected places. Alternatively, "I found Jesus" would also be a fun phrase, although that could be found more offensive if someone read it as sarcasm.
I believe the other side of nibling is, from what I've heard from the amazing Khadija Mbowe, "pibling." As in your parent's sibling.
I like that the theme of this is "sometimes you're not the asshole, but apologize anyway if you've clearly upset the other person." It's just good advice.
With regards to the name one, I can relate to OP's predicament. My name is not quite as unique, but for my generation it is also not super common. It is, however, the exact same name as my uncle (my mother's brother). (For the record, I am a cis woman.) It is also well-known that my mother was the driving force behind choosing my name. So, of course, I tell people I was named after my uncle. My mother, upon hearing me do this the first time, seemed surprised, and protested that she actually named me after a friend of hers from college (of whom I had previously never heard). Further evidence for consideration? There's a well-known family story about how my uncle's siblings couldn't properly pronounce his name when they were little, so he ended up with a similar-sounding nickname - a nickname which I was given deliberately as a child, and continues to be one of those nicknames that pretty much only my biological family calls me. Also, the supposed college friend I was purportedly named after has never been so much as mentioned more than the one time, let alone all the family lore that my and my uncle's shared name/nickname is steeped in.
So, who's to say? Maybe my mother wanted to honor her old friend. I certainly have college friends I never mention, we're not in touch, but if something reminds me of them, of course I remember them fondly. If I loved one of their names and ever planned on having children, perhaps I would do the same. But it'd be weird if that also happened to be, say, my sister's name and I just didn't think to mention it. XD
The point though is - nobody thinks I'm an asshole when I say I'm named after my uncle, joking or not. It's a reasonable thing to assume, and I think in OP's case also a reasonable thing to assume. Maybe someday the similarity in names will bring OP and his niece closer. (Though I do agree, yes - apologize and move on.)
I AM religious, and I think "Peekaboo Jesus" is a hilarious game. I have also been in places where such images were so incredibly ubiquitous that Jesus would absolutely have made up this game. Ah, you just said it. and so did the other commentor
My cousin named her child the same as my middle name (my birth name, this was before I came ut as trans and changed all my names) and when I congratulated her to the baby and the wonderful name she said, "thank you, we wanted something unique". I said "well, it's kinda unique, your child and I are the only ones in this family that I know of, except for both yours and mine great grandmother". I think her mind errored, she blinked like ten times with a blank face before saying... nothing. I found out from her sister that she didn't know about either. I was like, come on girl, I use that name on Facebook for crying out loud. 😂And your dad should have told you about his grand mother when you mentioned it! About a decade later the child became the only one with the name in the family when I changed my names. So it became unique... eventually.
Makeup is on fleek Shaaba!
Okay, I was born, raised and lived in a high control Christian religion till I was 25. It was very strict, and I think I would have been fine with peekaboo Jesus when I was still a member. That's hilarious and adorable!
Comment on the story about the niece having a similar name to OP, I kinda found myself in a position where there’s a name I like a ton that’s exactly what I’m looking for with a name for myself. I’m not out as non-binary so I only use this name around a few people but if I ever do take the step to be out, I didn’t want to make things awkward. After my cousin got arrested, his ex-wife & daughter adopted a cat named Marley which is a name I would love for myself, I decided to go with Marlow instead because I like that one just as much & the context behind the cat, I want to be respectful towards them. I am in full support of them, they’re still family to me even though my cousin is dead to me. He’s done some awful things.
Some religious people are super serious about anything concerning their faith. Religion is not something joyful, but serious business. It is about hell, sin, being unworthy, born flawed, repenting, begging for forgiveness etc. Those are usually the ones who have been fed the religion by fear. So seemingly harmless fun by others concerning their religion, can be seen super insulting and blasphemy.
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It sounds like the peekaboo Jesus mom was already primed to be offended. Like, she knew she had hidden them all over her house, shouldn’t she be excited that they were found?
If I were going to play that game I would probably yell “found him!” each time. 😂