Choosing Humility in a Self-Centered Age | Quincy Mix | TEDxFurmanU
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 17 мар 2018
- In the course of their lifetime, the average millennial will take over 25,000 selfies. Quincy Mix shares how you can choose to be humble in an age all about "being yourself" in this hilarious, yet relevant, talk.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
This has to be my favorite Ted Talk. It's okay to be humble, and I'm a fan. The most humble person that ever lived was Jesus and studying his life in the Bible, we can learn so much from him. Thanks for an amazing and insightful TedTalk.
I absolutely love this comment ❤️
æ
I'm surprised this hasn't blown up. People don't want to hear the truth man fr
Well according to Eckhart Tolle when you address the human Ego it fights back harder for dismantling it's perceived sense of self.
People have been fed a steady stream of "the world doesn't care about you, why are you caring about it", and "you need to fight for what you want" for at least a century now. As broken as society is, not many people see what society does for them, so there isn't much motivation to *want* to serve others or be humble.
I don't trust that man as far as I can throw him.
It’s because the argument itself was weak, there was valid points but he never gave any reasoning to why it’s an issue with being more selfish
Your story touched me man, humility, service, selflessness
Go good ways or bad ways.
So just let people walk all over you?
I was expecting some depth to this deep subject. *Humility is the opposite to entitlement.* Entitled to be adored. Entitled to be respected. Entitled to be served. Entitled to have everything my way.
Humility forgives readily, is appreciative and is never easily offended. Humility seeks to empathise instead of ridicule (including ridiculing one's self) -- it's gentle with people (including one's self). Thus, insecure people with low self-worth are not to be misunderstood as humble -- they can still have huge feelings of self-entitlement, they're just too shy to let them be known.
Noted
Amazing! thank you! :)
Thank you for this perspective because at the mention of his parents as the model of the solution, was a bit pausing. I have learned that humility is not only found in focusing on servicing others. The contrary might be true. there is a lot of self-serving in service. yuck
I agree with the sentiment of the video, and was interested enough to watch it through, but this guy doesn't come across as humble.. he comes across as an entrepreneurial millenial who has seen a niche anti-market for millenials.. what does he mean by "humility" ? we can all claim to be humble can't we ? Psalms 149: 4 For the LORD takes pleasure in his people; he adorns the humble with salvation.
How can humility, or the quest for humility, ever result in anything except low self esteem and inability to accomplish anything? If I go all day long meditating on how unworthy I am, that won't result in holiness. That only results in the person becoming that much more unworthy.
Does anybody else have this problem? Has putting yourself down really resulted in holiness or power for living for any of you out there?
Feel for your neighbor as you do for yourself. Their hurts, feelings and needs are just as valid and real as your own. Stay connected with all those around you. Jesus is our perfect example of love and acceptance and ultimate sacrifice for others.❤️
Yes, practice gratitude, meditation and yoga but not just regular yoga, karma yoga 🙏
You're absolutely right.
Thank you, I am 65 and brought up to believe in putting other people first. It isn't easy and can be painful, it takes time and inner strength to realise that come what may it is right. However, I also needed to learn to look after myself too. I think you have set a big challenge to your generation and well done for raising the issue.
i went to school with this guy, totally didn’t know he did ted talks hahaha
I gotta say. I really enjoyed this video especially the fact that he was so self aware that he was real enough to say he IS a proud person but he even so still works to humble himself. I dig it
I just looked up the value of humility because I find myself getting very egotistical and thinking highly of myself despite never willing to work hard enough to prove how good I am.
This man just took my 3AM inner monologue of feeling vomit that keeps me from falling asleep and turned it into something valuable I can collaborate with to grow from. I've skirted along the sidelines of understanding these ideas and never figured out a way to put it into coherent ideas. Thanks man!
Fabulous message! Practice empathy and watch the world change.
You are an amazing young man. Be Humble amen!!
Good points... Aim for acquiring virtues... "Humility exalteth man to the heaven of glory and power, whilst pride abaseth him to the depths of wretchedness and degradation.” ~ Bahá’u’lláh
love this tedtalk---I watched it 4 or 5 times to absorb his lesson of Humility!!!!
A few are speaking to this issue and Quincy you did it very well! Addressing this reality is greatly needed! Indeed, such a self absorbed me me me time. thank you!
wow. what a powerful talk. eye opening.
Be clothed with humility, for God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble. - 1 Peter 5:5
This guy deserves more likes
Probably my fav ted talks
In reading certain comments. Certain people didn't get the message, why because you are a narcissist. He is dead on. Every generation has issues, but Millenials are different. I know the factor of social media. I caught myself in the vortex of selfies etc. Now I am practicing humility. Suggestion google it for reals, listen to his message. People don't want the truth and it's true we are self-absurd society and it needs to change.
Your profile pic kinda contradicting
True
Humility is not thinking less of yoursekf its thinking of yourself less.
Best TT ever!! Thank you for teaching us.
This topic has only become more relevant 👏🏻👏🏻 great talk.
I really loved this Tedx talk
Love it.
"Humble Yourself"
Just perfect.
Phenomenal ⭐️ tysm 😊 🙏🏼
It’s Ted Talks like these from amazing people that offer greater perspectives on life for people like myself who are in dire need of a guide.
He says it all PERFECTLY
The problem this speaker addresses is far more complex and nuanced than he makes it out to be. The question I would prefer we begin with is, "how can we change our cultural concept of enjoyment of life to include more pro-social and altruistic behavior?"
Why did I not see this 4 years ago? Real talk!
Well said sir, this was definitely overlooked by many
this is the best ted talk i've ever heard
I wish this talk have gone viral
Anyone else hate how true this is??
This was a great talk. One thing I want to point out is that there is great self-serving self in his idea of humility as servicing others. Perhaps re-looking or defining Humility could be helpful.
preach it, brother!
WIsh they had more TED talks where im from. Would love to see one in person
Quincy, that was so Eloquently and Articulately stated. Thank you for sharing how to live Humbly. BerniE.
Please I'm begging everyone who has listened to this to please post it religiously everywhere and don't stop
Thank you for a great ending message. I did not see however, a good argument for self-centered behaviors of millennials. Why is this unique to millennials? And it what ways?
Wisdom spoken!!
good on you
Wise more than his years
Humility
I agree 100%. Kudos to Quincy's parents for raising a son like him.
unbelievable!me,my parents and humble necklace 😂
Self centeredness shows many of the same behaviors as those who are narcissistic. Humility is usually false but genuine humility for the self is protective. Self importance and hedonism seem inextricably linked, which is dangerous because the monetary system profits at the expense to individuals through their hedonism (mindless self indulgence) . The economy wants people addicted in one form or another and making them self indulgent, self absorbed and self centered creates the perfect mindless consumer who thinks the universe revolves around them.
I feel like the problem of narcissism is a inherit quality of our technology coupled with the exploitation of our natural tendency to be noticed. Smart phones and social media has made it possible to communicate and share your life with hundreds of more people we’d ever be able to naturally. It’s only natural for us to want to boast and flaunt when we always have large audiences.Also I have read that children and suicide rates have a strong correlation!
Get this man more views
God is opossed to the proud but He gives grace to the humble. 1 Peter 5:5
Humility is a catch 22. No matter how low you go, God can always say hey! that's not low enough, or He can say, oh oh, that's too low, that's false humility.
How ironic that it sounds like he's referring to the world as 320 million people... America, you are not world... Much love, New Zealand guy.
Eh...there's definitely a strain of narcissism that runs through most western countries. The U.S. is just the king
Does anyone know the name of the speaker or where to find more of his content? Would love to see what he's up to!
the first 30 seconds of his talk was so relatable, immediately drew me in
Be broken.💜
....but not you right Quincy? You're one of the enlightened few!
“Thank you for finally realizing how awsome I am!” Lol
All true, and this was an excellent start. Now ask:
What possible underlying motivation will Millennials have to live like this? I think there is only one answer. Jesus Christ. When you find out how sinful you are, and the fact that Jesus took the blame for you, it changes everything. It's automatically humbling but at the same time that you know how loved you are. There is nothing in the universe that does this besides Christ.
A little cold water from the real world: in a work situation an unselfish worker is looked on as a patsy. Co-workers avoid him, the boss overloads him with work, and of anything goes wrong he is blamed. Leadership roles? Absolutely out of the question----who will listen to a leader who does not look out for himself?
What are some ways to be humble/show humilty?
Goat
There's a lot of truth here, but he's painting with a reeeeeally broad brush which undercuts the strength of his ideas.
Really?
Self-centredness is not a virtue. It is shrewdness. There are virtues and non-virtues.
JESUS IS THE PERFECT EXAMPLE OF HUMILITY. 2 TIMOTHY 3:2, DON'T BE DECEIVED IN THINKING 'WE' CAN DO ANYTHING WITHOUT HIM. HE IS THE WAY, THE TRUTH, AND THE LIFE. JS. THIS IS ALL GOOD INFO BUT THE ANSWER TO THE PROBLEM IS JESUS!!
Who can heal, who can save, who can help, and the answer to all is Jesus. Period• no question😄
“Not I, But Christ” has become a scares concept in our churches and in our societies today. It is even more scares in me. It is frightening to even consider. if you would just look at social networks or media today, or humanity's regressive old traditions, and our destructive progress, the words of this song would be appear ‘oppressive’ or ‘limiting’. However, you go to church today; are people who claim to be “humble” Christians, and are still strong church-goers, however, come closer to them, you will experience the most coldest brush of human affection you never experienced before. And like the “pharisee-effect”, they do not see themselves. Dear God, in a world where success is measured by in-comprehensive love of yourself. Where self is to be better and beyond another through the most ghastly actions possible, please help us navigate our way back to you Gentle Shepherd.
Was Jesus that humble? Did He not talk back to religious leaders? Did He not chase the miney changers out of the Temple? Jesus wants us to be meek and humble but was He all that meek and humble Himself? This is not an argumentive question, I really would like to know.
So do Muhammad and other religious figures/deities.
The fact you came in here to post that is the highest form of ego.
I could also give you countless of examples of living after. The hippie generation that totally eclipsed the entire generation I grew up in... which leads to my point.. the generation z after millennial generation is changing the world and moving in packs of political activism... each generation is part of what came before and is a product of their times. Shaped by factors that manifest from those that came before, they are cycles, like in economics
👍
35 million followers but 60k views
👍👍👍👌👌👌
It's too late, the narcissism is out of control, and it's disturbing life and making the space toxic and heavy energy.
uwu amazing!!!!
Except... that's not being yourself. That's being the mask you put on. Being yourself is knowing who you are by your values and convictions. It's going deep inside your mind and knowing who you TRULY are.
Ready for my selfish response? I want your intellect around my table. Will you marry me?
Collaboration
This talk needs more views. No one needs to hear these words more than my generation.
Allahu Akbar, none is good but God. 🕊️
*insert boomer comment here*
I do be myself, but I get in trouble for it so I have to not be myself and lie to people instead of what I actually think of them. And screw self-esteem, I prefer self-confidence.
Try being honest withou coming across as condescending.
God gives grace unto the Humble and resists the proud.
It's not the way that society says today.
God will resist and that's No joke
A comedian dropping truth bombs and he has dislikes.
Hmm...I thought this video was about humility, but he only seems to be focused on mocking people for acting a certain way.
He was not mocking. He demonstrated about some people. Do not get offensive.
Bored me couldn't get to the solution. Plenty humble people in the world.
Humility means different things to different people
just empty of self.
ok boomer
why does EVERYONE insult our generation, yes, your points are good and I am not scrutinizing them, but I merely politely ask WHY?
because you can't change people by petting their heads and saying "you are a good narcissistic boy, aren't you? you can change can't you boy?" He's giving them the outside look, a thing few people stop to analyze.
This is the most cringe thing I've ever seen in my life
This is just a hate speech? Can you bring a little more depth to humility? It’s not just about people being self-obsessed, but why r people being more self obsessed. You r saying that an entire generation is off the rails for no reason... listen to Simon sinek’s talks, you can learn a thing or 2 from him about empathy.
It's based on the truth and he's offering a solution. He said people are taking the "be yourself" tip to much of the rail, and are focusing too much on themselves. So no, it's not a hate speech.
Did he tell people to hurt or harm others? Did he tell people to boast and do whatever they want?
It's simply slapping the reality in your face because you are too self-absorbed to yourself that you don't have a sense to the outside world anymore. You are too self-centered to the point that you have no empathy to others. That is why "just be yourself" is a center phrase here. It's sad but true and yes truth hurts.
Preachers can afford to be humble. They get paid whether they produce anything or not.
People in the real world cannot afford to be humble. Humble people might be nice and sweet but they accomplish very little. They cannot be leaders. They can't be husbands and fathers.
Ugh. This guy has bought into the baby boomer mythos hard. Being confident with a strong sense of identity does not imply a lack of compassion or a lack of interest in others. Nor does it imply a lack of mindfulness. He also heavily abuses the correlation fallacy to tie several unrelated facts together into one argument that is basically millenials are bad, and because they do selfies, they care nothing for others and their lives have no meaning.
You should've done the Ted talk in his place.
I agree with you, Gregory? What are we to do about all these bad things happening in the world that are no fault of ours. The people who actually have the power to don’t do anything. Also, I really have to work on myself and achieve my goals.
he breathes so heavily through his mouth 🤢🤢