WOMEN DON’T WANT KIDS | Women on TikTok explain why they are childfree |
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- Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024
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At the age of like 9-10 I learned that having kids was not mandatory and some people could choose to have none. I remember just feeling this immense relief and happiness at that realization... and I never looked back. Now 35 and feel blessed that I don't have kids. I descend directly from a line of men and women who had no business having children and who all turned out terrible abusive parents. Not every bloodline needs to be kept alive...
shit same with the shitty family (my mom excpted), but I figured that out at like 18 or 19 :)) in my defense I was told all my life "that I would someday have children...blablabla", and there were never any childfree people in my life or like even as a story at tv or anything so I had no concept of it until one day it clicked that I could just not have sex ever and I won't have kids then :))) finally been so relieved I cannot even tell you, still remember the moment itself when it clicked
Do you really want a man who wants kids just for legacy reasons? Does that sound like a person who will help you raise his kids? To me, it sounds like someone who will spread his seed anywhere and everywhere he can.
Legacy… now This is selfish…
Kids aren't legacies.
Nah. I don’t want him anywhere near me. Don’t touch me, 🐈 is closed. 🙅🏻♀️
I always imagine what would happen if that kid grows up to be some notorious criminal, is this your "legacy"? Especially since these men tend to wash their hands off said "legacies" instead of actually caring, mentoring and instilling their wisdoms and experiences in any way. Fatherless behavior epidemic makes their argument crumble so fast, like you're no role model for there to be more of you, sit down. It's really just pure animal instinct to spread and then who cares what happens to the kids, they may starve or be traumatized and these men will be unfazed.
I like to just sit and chill and not do a damn thing when I'm done with work. Sometimes I cook, sometimes I don't, with a child you HAVE to do all those things.
The sleeping part is so VERY important to me. If I don't get adequate sleep I'm a bitch and I'd hate to be waken up to a screaming child. Plus, I need my alone time even away from my husband
Men [who think women will do all the child raising]: I MUST leave a legacy!
Men [who realize they have to put in some work with kids]: Nvmd I'm good!
My thoughts exactly!!!! 💯💯💯💯💯💯
this is why i don't want kids, i don't want to have to put in the work to raise one lol
I think more people should be asking themselves why they are having children and if their reasons are either, "to continue MY legacy", "have someone to care for ME in my old age" or "so I won't be lonely" then you shouldn't be having children.
Exactly. With most people wanting kids is all about how their future kids can serve them. ME ME ME
Wanting children for a legacy?? Wow, that's not about the kid at all.
Fair
LOL, "My mother-in-laws kid is the hardest one."
I will only have a pet rock.
What about chickens? 🐥 🐔
@@pce12345 I don’t want to have to keep anything alive other than myself.
Name it rocko
@@babyfaceweeb8937 I have a pet rock my mom made me from crocheting. I named him Rocky.
Rocko makes me think of the beef Elmo has with Zoey’s pet rock. I was Elmo last year for Halloween, so I’m loyal to my Elmo monster family🤣
How about some rolly polly bugs..they make good pets ❤
Before you think I want to be a wife and mother,ask yourself
Do I want this,
Or has society/family brainwashed me into believing my only purpose on earth is wife and mother.
Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you should
Growing up as a curvy child that looked too close to an adult, I decided at 13 when grown men started flirting with me that I no longer wanted children. I thought I would change my mind at some point in my life but at 26 I still don't want them.
Men flirting with you at 13 is so gross. I’m so sorry you had to go through that
Children aren't a legacy. Next time a man says that, ask them what is the name of Steve Jobs dad. What's the name of Jimmy Hendrix's dad? Etc. You are your own legacy. If your kids do something amazing, no one is gonna remember who you are unless you were an awful parent.
My aunt: why don't you want children you don't wanna continue our bloodline?
Me: 1. Children annoy me
2. Children annoy me
3. CHILDREN ANNOY ME!!
And as far as continuing our bloodline I could care less because considering half the people in our family don't even talk to each other or get along, I could care less
Thats a lot of words to say you are afraid to grow up.
@@stevenfetzer4911wait, so people should have kids in order to grow up?? There's people out here having kids and STILL acting immature, effecting the child's wellbeing/livelihood. Yet you're concern about people without kids not growing up, who are they hurting?
@@stevenfetzer4911 if she's afraid to grow up, isn't the decision of her not having kids the most mature decision she could ever make?, it should be only people who are not scared to grow up and who loves responsibility thst should have children, not everyone deserves children, but children deserves stable and conscious deciding parents who are intentional in every step of the way, don't you think?
Right?? So many families that push ''continuing the family line'' are like super dysfunctional with loads of mental disorders and an endless array of serious health issues. Like... what in hell is so important about preserving this mess of a sh*tshow??!
My brother also doesn't want kids, but (of course) he never hears a peep about it. I'm the female so all the ''you need to have kids'' automatically falls on me 100% of the time.
@@stevenfetzer4911 why do you care if a stranger on the internet has children or not? Do you know her? Are you her spouse?! No? OK, cool, MIND YA BUSINESS and keep it pushing 👍 Have a blessed day y’all 💖
Children are NOT a legacy! And the adjective and noun are self-determined and self-determining, not selfish!
As a mom of 2 who wanted to be a mom since I was a little girl, I have no ill feelings towards people who don't want kids. I totally get it it's not easy and not for everyone. I think both sides need to be nice and understanding towards other people. I think it's great that people know they don't want to have kids because having a kid just cuz everyone says you should is horrible that's how we get all these messed up people/ messed up situations kids and adults are put into.
I don't want children. I'm a singer and fatherhood would damage my vocal cords. Singers will sound powerful, resonant and full without children but they will sound tired, hoarse and strained after they have children. I don't want that happening to my voice if I had a child.
What does fatherhood have to do with someone's vocal cords...? Can't quite get the point here...
Where’s the girl with the list? We got another one for you
Too expensive and i want freedom. Im 28, earn $115k+, no debt, single. Inflation is so bad my rent for a 1 bed is 2.2k. I cant even afford a home, which is needed for a kid. Then all the associated costs. My partner would have to work so we could afford to live, plus add in a nanny. Only way i and others should even consider having kids, is if the economy goes back to precovid and if they financially can afford it.
This!! The economy HAS to get better and EVEN THEN, you really really have to think about it because it most likely will go back to being terrible
What do you work as? How did you get to earning $115k+ ?
Wait. Where do u live? My friend just applied for a home loan and BOA advised he needs to make $40k with a 700 credit score?😊
@@antinatalistwitch111 where does this friend live?! I'm in California. Now I'm up to $120k and 800 credit score. My credit card company jumped my limit to 32k. The largest problem is that investors are buying all the small first time homes and then resell them for way more and to cash investors that rent THUS leaving me with 0 homes that I can start. This government allows this BS to happen just ruining another generation.
I love how people talk abt legacy without knowing what legacy even means, like babes its lineage you're referencing not legacy💀
I'm 27 years old, and i think it was around middle school when i realized i didnt want kids AT ALL!.
There was this "flour baby" Project where you had to tape up a sack of flour and PRETEND it was a baby, and when i say i hated it, i HATED it with every fiber of my being, especially when there was an electronic baby that just wouldn't stop screaming. That would be my living hell.
I breathed a huge sigh of relief when the project was over, because that bag of flour was ripped and was made into cookies :-).
Every now and then, i'll see my uncles kids and that's enough for me, but the idea of having my own kids is a big NOPE from me.
Made cookies 🍪 😂👍🏽
I totally understand what these women are saying about not one children I already have adult children they're grown and gone I love them they're here but if I had known what I know now I wouldn't have ANY
I believe more women would want to have children, if men were raised to be emotionally available, considerate and useful as a husband and father.
I've seen too many times how a guy twiches up on their partber the moment they fall pregrant and treat them like shit.
I read so many Reddit stories of how husbands abandoned their wives in the birthing room or did inconsiderate things because they, the man, was uncomfortable!
Its very scary for a woman to think about having children whilst sitting next to a useless man and footing 100% the responsibilities of said children with little consequences to fathers.
Until the bar is raised for len to where the bar is set for us women, I'm not having kids or getting married. Its a bad investment/business plan logically. 80% of men are useless in relationships, hence why there is now a loneliness epidemic in men. Women are checking out of this liability trap society calls marriage and motherhood.
Until that changes, I am proud of my sisters going their own way and living their beautiful life in peace and happiness. ❤
Absolutely, if there was a guy willing to take sleep and care shifts with adequate performance that would be amazing and might even sound compelling having kids but they can't be trusted at all, they don't like kids, don't wanna be around them and are either abusive or run away. Having to do everything alone? No thanks! Sounds like a superhero task to have that much time, energy and resources in a day. Exhausting.
And they don't see women as people but servant dolls so your body changing and attention concentrated on the child makes them cheat, get even more insufferable or leave in your most vulnerable time. They can't handle being human and having to give up their spotlight for someone else. Number one cause of death in one of the most dangerous medical condition - being pregnant? Murder by intimate partner. Tells all you need to know.
Unless you have a strong, supportive village willing to help, it's just not worth it.
How does a struggle bandit want kids?????? Men don’t even want or like kids - they won’t care for or pay for them. What they will do is abandon them.
I have no kids that I know about.
My husband and I wanted 5 kids. They are now adults. The best thing in our lives..
@@jcmjcm1945 Nobody cares.
Especially on that hating kids part even if they are in the kids life they are selfish asf and will get mad at their kids doing regular kid things and those poor kids will have to walk on eggshells just to please them
I regularly have nightmares about being pregnant and giving birth because even if everything goes super smooth, which it won't, it's a hell of a pain. Also I don't want to waste my precious free time having to listen to Bob the builder or watching Peppa pig or cleaning up the forever sticky mess a toddler is. I want to spend my money and my time on me and am strongly considering getting my tubes tied. I've been a nanny for years I know what having kids means, and I wasn't even responsible for one 24/7 yet. I still know I do not want that for myself
If kids are a death sentence, you absolutely don't want to be a parent.
I think what really need to be Discussed is the definition of legacy and Lineage, your children are not your legacy they are your lineage.
God, having is EXHAUSTING!😒
I spent 25 years, busting my @$$ to take care of a child. Kids grow up, they get thier own opinions and thoughts and become self entitled a holes that disrespect you. All that money, energy, self sacrifice and time WAS NOT WORTH IT. Then they grow up and show up at your door with grandkids for you to either take care of or watch. So, ladies take it from an older woman. Don't do it. Once you do, you literally put a set of shackles on yourself. Be free and go live your best life.
yooo that baby with the powder was wiiiillldd..😂😂😅
What's really bad is having to explain why you don't have kids, instead of just telling people it's non of their stupid business. I can't stand kids, don't ask me to babysit
I’m a man and tbh I don’t wants kids either. I watched a few red pill channels and I can honestly say that almost all of them keep saying the same shit over n over again. “Legacy”. I swear to u the same people that keep saying legacy are the ones that don’t even have kids or the excuse maybe is that they are waiting for the right one lol. My answer to that is, if a man wants a legacy then he can literally spread his seed and not give a shit what happens to these kids bc if u think about it the more kids u have the more chances that one of those kids will be successful. These red pill channels keep saying that men who decide not to court or play the game are the ones that weak. That it’s nature rooting out the weakest of them all lol. In some cases that may be true in a sense but there’s also women who chose not to court. I’m here to tell all genders that just enjoy life and the people that keep saying have kids are the ones that are most likely miserable and hate that u are enjoying life. Not all but some. My reason as a man as to y I refuse to have kids is bc I don’t want to bring life into a realm where everything is done by design and not by coincidence if u know what I mean. (The elites). Another thing that the red pill channels always love to say to men is “ your ancestors will be a ashamed of you bc they sacrificed everything to make sure ur blood line keeps going” like bruh, how can I care if I never knew them in the first place and another thing is that sometimes even good things must come to end.
Oh damn....my MIL's kid....😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. She told it!!!!!
I don't want children either, I went through kind of a lot of pain in my family. I have an entire family, but it was My mom, my older sister, and my other brother. We went some pain, but my sister has her own space, married, and has a child, and I'm cool with it. When I get to find my own space, I am NOT going to have kids, I'm not even gonna get myself PREGNANT. Kids CAN'T stay looking fuckin' CUTE forever.!
We don't talk enough about what pregnancy does to women's bodies... i have several friends who gave birth, and they all had medical issues. One of them is still suffering from unidentified stuff that started with her pregnancy...no, thank you, I'm not doing it.
My Cat decided to have me
I love this💫✨💛
Kid's cost money 💰
Yeah a lot of money man.
A lot of women think the government will take care of those expenses. It’s expensive taking care of yourself as sn adult I can’t imagine the expense of having kids.
@@jaddek.astrie3071 and everyday
I am alredy struggling with so many things that pregnancy can bring Me & Myself & I
-weight gain not the worst but I manage that by myself
- feet that hurt, ask my knees a lil more movement than for a moment and they complain
- emoitonalitiy - I'm already a cry-baby what would I be then "a human lake?"
- Brain fog, preganny brain, again I manage to loose phones in shoes, glasses in the refrigator without a human growing in me too
- Depression pre-during-part---statistically pretty sure that's what my mother had undiagnsoed with me and the effects might be particially while I still can#t take care of me as an adult adult and I do therapy if I have the chance and other issues in the end
- not thinking I'm rid of them between 16-18-23 c bc I see with me that is just not the REALITIY!
I don't know what to show and I don't know how to flirt in this first fuck then to get to know eachotehr time to save my lfies so before begun I'm missing a man! 😂 😂
The re-occuring thought to eiehter get to know someone who already has Kids and learn to deal with this or "Maybe, adopting, if miracles in my mentalitiy and financiallty would be happening!" Because I think every Kid deserves a chance but you need to have the means to offer them therapy
and currently with the backwards circle and THREAT that the end 20s and 30s are mirroring the last century onces with all that's going on...somehow thinking of "Happily family!" Seems just wrong.
Like COME ONE the last 1,5-2 Gens started to erase all the "Generational Traumatas" from history and now we're going back to "re-collect" and add on to that? Are you fking serious?
My boss once asked me about marriage n kids( eww)…. He has 5 marriages, 6 kids n now living w a dumb blond w pumped face, who have a kid from who knows who….
5:38 😂😂 best reason ever
Read saving Noah by Lucinda berry !!
Omg exaaaaacccttllyyy 😵💫😵💫😵💫
SINK life is great
How is it that I live in a third-world country and you have the highest mortality rate for mothers here?
You can’t be selfish as an adult
Actually, if you don't have any children, you CAN be selfish as an adult.
I support the lady who suggested adoption.
I despise the fake voices, especially the robo ones. Skipped through all that ear garbage.
Womp womp
I think the percentage of women in their late 30s early 40s who become pregnant after years of saying they don’t want kids is higher than any of us could possibly imagine.
Almost equal to the number of parents in their late 30s or early 40s who regret having kids, do you think? 🤔
What a joke 😂😂😂😂
Don't believe the catastrophic outcomes opinions. The only times (2) in my life I felt totally content is when I was pregnant. Not sure if it was the hormones or I knew I was doing a good thing. Pregnancy is not hell. Spending a ton of money on a kid is a choice for the most part. I fully support those who don't want kids, but please don't act like the people your complainting about and push no kids.
It's hormones. It's in a study journal that spoke to those high hormones that lead to the immense happiness and love. That it'll never reach those levels again and drops considerably and only raises a bit with large milestones like first walk, school, college before dropping. Not to be a downer, but that's the human body. Imagine if instead of highs they were lows during pregnancy? Humans would have made less kids.
Lmao you’re crazy. And yes that’s just your biology rewiring you. Oh and the more kids a person has, has a correlation to lower IQ.
Also “good thing” as though you didn’t just force another person onto a failing world?
Glad you got so much money and support it’s not an issue for you!
Yeah no. Kids are just as expensive as they say and require just as much attention and care (if you want to actually be a good parent).
Only a crazy person would want to spend that much resources and time (especially moms that usually loose all free time and identity outside of just being mom) just to have kids. Even more crazy if you put your body through that when plenty of kids need adopting. And yes, it does destroy your body and is horrific. Your brain literally rewrites and makes you forget how bad it was otherwise no sane person would try a second time.
Kids are expensive the good healthy one don't wanna think about special need kid
That sounds absolutely sad I’m sorry
Good for you. I still do not want to be like you. Did you really think a few sentences would convince me? You have no idea what other people feel and believe.
Then don’t have children. Not all women want children. Gawd, what a lot of bullshite about nothing
Nothing but cope 😂. I see this as a huge win all these losers won't pass on their genes or ideas.
But all these loser kids from loser parents walking around 😂😂