Stoicism's Secret For Dealing With People
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“The things you think about determine the quality of your mind.” ~ Marcus Aurelius
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What would that mean if the only thing on my mind is trying to better myself as a person and my worry for social problems?
@@simonotori1948 I can relate to you. I think we should continue to better ourselves. We should not just feel emotions but rather understand it. Don’t blame others and yourself about your situation. We all struggle with self esteem issues and what others think about us. It has something to do with ego. If you have a healthy ego, you can take criticism from others as information to better yourself. If you have an unhealthy ego, you may feel threatened with it. Also, if someone insults you (different from criticism), you will feel pity and compassionate for that person, because it came from an unhealthy ego. For me, its not easy for I’m still in the process of trying to have a healthy ego. It will not be easy but at least your doing something
@@freakyfreddy7934 in the olden days people taught their children if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. This needs a revival in todays world.
Patience serves as a protection against wrongs,as clothes do against colds.
‐Leonardo Da Vinci
Love this too.
I don't get it. 😒
@@wildalbalass4867patience can help you be more objective, and therefore prevent you from doing something unstoic, like judging a life you have not lived prematurely, whether you say it aloud or contemplate it.
One Marcus Aurelius quote I tell myself when I’m putting stuff off is “you suffer justly, because you choose to be good tomorrow rather than today”
Procrastination can really get me sometimes!
"You have power over your mind, not outside events, realize this, and you will find strength"
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If it does not hurt your character, no harm was done.
My character is harmed. It took a lot to do it, but its been done.
@@bjorneriksson107 😂👏👌 yes its true. All in all, it wears off quickly for me, so its not my prerogative. But.. necessary . Now if only jail wasnt a consequence for what i really wana do but wont do. My health would be much better
It makes me happy to see how many people are still interested in Marcus Arelius.
Such a brief but profound message.
Be good, do good...
That really is the only way.
Or Be good, not kind..
For manipulative people
Fa del bene su questa terra
Or as a young man once said, "Do good, die great"
My husband taught our children this message when they were preteens and I believe it changed things for them significantly. 🙏🏼
Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. How often we forget the golden rule as we go through life; yet it is the best advice for getting along with others.
I should’ve watched this this morning instead of this evening, if you catch my drift.
Tomorrow is another day.
What happened today?
A year later and I understand perfectly. 😔
Start every day with it, just to remind yourself of humans. It’s not about you, or just about you, it’s about everyone else who isn’t even close to the path you’re on yet. Defensive driving philosophy.
"nothing changes one's being more so than the ability to bear the unpleasant manifestations of other people". The psychological commentaries on the teachings of Gurdjieff and Ouspensky, Maurice Nicoll
maybe you would like D J Elliot 's youtube channel on the teachings of Gurdjieff
Excellent advice. Easy said, but difficult, at times. Thanks.
It's actually a comfort for me to hear that ppl suck. I've always wondered what I did to get that kind of treatment. This takes me out of the equation. I can also choose to accept that someone is a jerk and then let it go. Thanks for this.
This makes me think of one of my favorite lines “You gotta let people be hypocrites. Not every pony grows up to be a Pegasus.” - Slug from Atmosphere. Helped me to be more patient with all the people that suck, including myself at times.
The more of your videos I watch, the more I’m realizing how much I align with Stoicism.
I'm a huge fan of your channel and your books... One small dissent I would lodge is you need to review your chapter in Stillness on relationships. IMHO it elides too much, like that many people never meet the right partner and that other people's romantic acceptance of one is beyond that person's control. Of course you might have meant a larger context than just sexual/romantic partnerships, like friendships, but that seemed to be the main thrust of your article.
Of course the locus of control for many single people is more aligned with Epictetus's realization that we can only control what we can control -- and intimate relationships are decidedly a beneficence the universe bestows (or withholds) depending on any number of random variables.
Thank you... Needed that reminder... People have been patient with me...
Needed to be reminded of this… Thank you.
Numerous exceptions aren't hard to conjure, yet for most situations, this is a liberating thought.
'as far as possible and without surrender, be on good terms with all people'
People don't suck. It's the mental wall you confined yourself to. Do you suck? Your people.
Treat every person for the capacity they have for compassion.
Perfect timing! Just what I needed to hear... thanks
I just wrote this today on my journal because tomorrow I am facing the people who would teach me to be not like them when I’m back to work😅 Chances are they may not want to be like me either🤣
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Great point they probably think the same way you think about them, same in my case, I never noticed this
Either my reading comprehension is crap or this comment doesn’t make much sense. Probably both
@@Cheddar_Wizard I feel the same way
Operating from the position of Love is key in these otherwise confusing and fearful times!!! Be the change, it's catchy!!!
I hope these two little Stoic quotes help someone needing to hear them:
"We suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
"Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems."
-Epictetus
All the best!💜
You’re a bloody legend mate, keep doing this awesome work 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
The Obstacle Is The Way is an AMAZING book on Stoicism. PLEASE read it! Stoicism is the way to be!
Thank you for admitting that people suck. I appreciate. Phew. Finally an honest person. I have searched far and wide.
One hundred percent correct. That's why I have few friends although I am trying to change my opinion about external factors. People really do suck except stoic philosophers. I still have much to practice and learn. Thanks Mr. Holiday..everyday!
Yep totaly agree people suck. Even myself sometimes. Be a good person no matter what those around us are doing.
Your videos hold so much value, thank you endlessly for making them Ryan!
I think about this all the time.
And then someone pisses me off and I don't cope correctly.
Wish I was more together in those situations.
Though it always feels like self defence.
Being dismissed when it's my turn to talk.
Haven't heard good advice like this in a long time.
I'm litterally reading the opening right now, the first book is on thanking his scholars and relatives for being mostly all good people in his life.
To be patient with those that aren't.
I just read through Twitter and Facebook a few times a day to remind myself of this exactly.
You don't need to plunge yourself again and again to any social media to validate if people suck. The fact that you can't control other people thoughts and actions can already help you to be less judgemental about other people and focus on what good things you can do instead.
@@nickochioneantony9288 I do this exactly to remind myself that I can not change them only my reactions. So it is also a test to see the worst things I can and press myself not to react but to try and see why they post/react/feel the way they do. Can't understand them if you don't listen to what they say.
@@cainpork well you do know what best action you can take base on your perspective, that's the good part.
Our own self interests initially guides us all. Learning that and moving on to include many human beings makes a world livable. That is an example we should all strive for, the inclusiveness of all people is the aim. After all we are just a bunch of organisms flying through space on a rock. Be well all.
Just left a C-suite leadership meeting and needed this video lol
So true! 👏🏼👏🏼 staying real to your self is the only way to be and to be a good person no matter what life throws at you.🙏🏼
Thanks for all your good work, Ryan. I only recently found you again. Years ago I subscribed to the Daily Stoic & loved it but then got caught up more work & more world. Then I found you again. Still fighting the good fight, I see.
Me too, trying to keep my head when all about us…
You help me remember everyday the things that timeless and worth respect. Keep on ✊
“Be good, be kind, and be patient to those who aren’t.” ❤
My Grandmother would say o thank u lord for this wonderful opportunity to practice patience always stuck with me one of the smartes people I've had the chance to meet
Wish I would have found your channel a year ago. I may not of retired early. I was sick of dealing with Jerks at work. I let them bring out the worst in me. Gave back what they dished out
Awesome! That is true freedom!
Ordered the book.
absolutely agree! thank your for sharing this and i might want to humbly add this thought: 'people' is not abstract, people is us, we all suck in our own ways to other people, so going within opens up the discovery of our own polarity and duality, being objective, being knowledgeable about ourselves in order to grow this patience within us for ourselves, which ultimately will pour out into the world and benefit others as well. in that way by working on ourselves we are working for the benefit of all ❤
This was exactly what I needed to hear today.
Thank you. Seems so obvious but especially lately I feel I need a constant reminder of that.
Sometimes. These shorts are exactly what I need to hear. Thank you.
I agree.. people really suck!..
but it's fortunate that i get to encounter it . 💪
Beautiful message, thank you! I'm definitely learning patience on so many levels of my life. Blessings 🙏
People don't suck, there are just not for me, you cannot change anyone, nor you should, people can only change for themselves.
The obstacle is the way! A fantastic book
Indeed
It is the enemy who can truly teach us to practice the virtues of compassion and tolerance.
---Dalai Lama
thank you. i found you a month ago and am a huge fan. your sharing of wisdom has helped everything.
“The two powers which in my opinion constitute a wise man are those of bearing and forbearing.”
- Epictetus
Control what you can , accept what you can’t
Thank you
This is good advice, but there are things that it is not good to tolerate in silence! 🙏🏻❤️
u dont know how much i needed this today
Love is patient, love is kind... That verse, even tho I don't read the Bible or believe in it at all, it's tattooed down my back. But it's beautiful. The first one I remind myself all the time is PATIENCE. That verse is the ONLY way to truly love/be loved. #Standard
This is beautiful and very well said. ❤ continue on your journey to be your best self no matter what others do.
I love your videos so much, thank you so much for doing them. It is an amazing reminder of who we are as human beings and how hard it is to be kind and good in this world.
Great reminder, thank you!
I needed to be reminded of this , thank you
Liked it!
really well said, I've been musing on this
Love it! Wise counsel! Thank you ♥️for verbalising what our family believes in (practising)
Keep up the great work! This is spot on and a great missive for these times of tremendous division.
Very true. Thank you.
I needed to hear this today! Thanks man
God damn such clarity
Love Marcus
Etc. Real truth.
Love this guy. So much to learn from you, Ryan.🙌🏻
Yes, be patient with those who aren’t! It’s called being a decent human. Empathy and compassion are cornerstones of being human. We must try to imagine walking in another’s shoes.
I'm so glad to have found this Gentleman on RUclips Shorts. These videos are consistently good. Thank you, kind sir, and keep up the good work.❤❤❤❤
Oh, and thank you for not having inane music in the background like every other video has.
Be tolerant of others. And strict with yourself
this is such good stuff, thanks for inspiring me to buy & read Meditations
Thank you so much for this !
Loved this video, Ryan, and you and Marcus A. are so right!
I agree with you Ryan! We care too much about what people think of us. Good advice Thanks
Happy I found you few weeks ago. I'm at the lowest point of my life and 52 years old. But the more I learn about stoicism it gives me more and more hope. Something I had none of for quite a while. I can't afford to buy a book right now, but when I can I look forward to reading some of your books and definitely Meditations. Thanks again you make a difference.👍🤞
This is the ultimate flex to have
I needed this one. Thank you.
Thank you for these post! I am new to your channel and love hearing your videos while walking
Thank you for not being toxic positive and woo-woo.
Thank you, needed to hear this today. 🙏🏼
The daily stoic channel has made me a better person!
pls give examples of being patient. For some reason I don’t understand how to apply it.
Mediations was a great book, I should re-read it
This is the video i needed
👏 I would love to share this on an Instagram reel
Great message, well said.
I had someone say something hateful that was absolutely meant to enrage me, I was angry and mad but simply looked away from them and said it was nice talking to you and continue to walk on from that point throughout that day I had nothing but thoughts of anger. But somehow I remembered how to think somehow I gained the upper hand of my emotions and my thoughts told me he means nothing as in what he says has no value to me why should I get angry these are my inner thoughts to myself even though the whole day I was pissed and angry silently stewing and anger I chose to eventually let go and just not care about what he has to say because what he says has really no real effect on my life unless I let it. I've gone through so much and I'm hurting but I choose not to suffer more than I have to I choose to focus on only dealing with my obstacles instead of suffering from them a weird phrase where most people would not understand but other fellow stoic would understand. I'm slowly piecing together different philosophies nihilism mixed with stoicism mixed with an assortment of different philosophies each philosophy has something positive about it something that can bring purpose and meaning stoicism is my basis but I am mixing all different pieces of philosophies that you would think contradict each other but actually work together to create a better philosophy hopefully one day I will be able to share it
When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself, and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.
I hugely agree that people suck - I know as I get treated like dirt just about every day of my life and I'm old now. After the last 2 days of encountering hellish humans, I quit, I'm not looking at or speaking to another human unless it's very apparent that they are nice.
Thankyou for your wisdom!
Really needed this
Thnkss alot💕 ......I'm 16years old and want to be like stoice ppls...
Fairness and being principaled does count.
Great video.