Confronting My Mom About Her 18 Year Affair | Aiken Chia
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- 4 months into starting my company and channel, I stopped work and asked myself, “If I could create anything, any type of content, what would it be?” I wanted to be Oprah. HAHA To get deep into the life and journey of people who have overcome adversity and to put out content that would hopefully make a difference to someone’s life.
A lot of what I do encourages you to look outward - where and what to eat, where and how to spend your time in what hotel, in which country, but through this series, I hope to encourage us to look inward to embrace what’s there, defeat any shame holding us back, and to celebrate overcoming adversity and growth… and what better way than to start from homeground.
I’m super proud of my Mom for sharing her story and owning her past while taking the chance to celebrate some of the things I admire about her most… and for our next episode, Rachel Lim, co-founder of Love, Bonito shares vulnerably about the ending of her first marriage and radically accepting she may not be the best CEO for the company she founded!
Stay tuned as we’re also bringing you around the world with new episodes of CARRY-ON!
00:00 - Intro
00:24 - Why I made this video
02:00 - Confession
02:30 - How my parents met
03:49 - Did you know he was married?
05:59 - Reminiscing the past
08:35 - Did you ever encounter his family?
10:50 - Sharing my Dad's perspective
12:45 - Ending the relationship
15:19 - Letting go of Shame
16:30 - Advice to people in the same situation
17:15 - An emotional thank you to Mom
18:11 - Visiting our first home together
20:30 - Celebrating my Mom's generosity
21:45 - Supporting a children's home in Nepal
27:09 - Retirement and Volunteering
Director: Nicole Tan
Produced by: Gaius Gay
Videography & Edit by: Charmaine Zheng & Nicole Tan
2nd Camera: Yvonne Isabelle
Sound: Krison Sum
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🍔: @aikenchia | @charzheng | @gaiusgaye
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Hello dear fam 💜, Mom and I are wonderfully overwhelmed by the heartwarming responses to us sharing our story. Thank you so much. While I'm unable to reply every comment, dm, and email but trust us, we read every one. Our hope is that through this video, you'll find the courage to look inward, embrace what's there, and give you the courage to walk away from anything you need to. We don't need to be defined by our mistakes. We love you and you're not alone!
this is so brave, Aiken + Mom. Thank you for sharing this story, couldn't have been easy.. Lots of love for you both.
Shalom! Watched your vid this early morning from Kuala Lumpur and my tears flowed at such raw, sincere words from two genuine hearts, Aiken and Mum Ros, both just so precious at wanting to do the best after walking out of a painful experience. It made me see that making a conscious decision of walking out of a dark period and walking into the next phase for our own sakes and worth are what makes us, the good bits so overlooked now all come to the front and that's what touches my heart most. Because it's this period of walking alone with our innocent children in tow. When Aiken talked about how he used to watch his mum from far, and memorized every turn and direction his mum walked, and the time when Mum Ros had to go for a caesarian all alone, I wept!!!
I could go on and on but I'll stop here and say that your testimony is to the Glory of God alone and how He alone can turn our pain into joy again is so evident. I recognize so much of us in both of you, tho I was the wife abandoned with three small children. Looking back I see how merciful God was to keep coming through for my children and me. So many life lessons to be honed and learned yet ever faithful, is Our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. No one is turned away who comes to Him.
God bless you both always. With hugs and love.
I really feel for your mum. She was too young to make any proper decisions or judgement and also due to her lack of love from parents. There are so many people like her and we cannot judge before we know the whole story
Thanks for sharing so openly and with such sincerity . Indeed when are obedient unto God, He will make us a channel of blessings to others .
So lovely of your mother to be willing to share her story with us - I’ve recently learnt about what my parent(s) went through in their lives
I understand them much better
now that they have started to open up and share too. It’s been very therapeutic allowing for much emotional healing.
Speaking from the heart (Reminds me of some ancient words : “My say is the sincere expression of my heart and my lips utter the best of their knowledge “ - Job33:3) applying this has improved our relationship☺️)
Thank you for sharing 🌹
Much appreciated
They did their best
You have a beautiful and humble mum 🌹
I almost teared when Aunty Ros said she went in for C-section all alone. Imagine going in to have your body cut open and having no one to hold your hand when you wake up, followed by healing all by yourself. The pain isnt just physical. I'm so sorry you had to go throught that all by yourself, Aunty Ros. Aiken is worth it, though!
15:45 hearing "i'm not ashamed of you" out loud is so moving 🥺those words are so powerful and healing...
So beautiful to see mom and son had no vengeance but so forgiving and accepting to the flaws and wrongs. This is what needed in every family. Acceptance in every ups and especially the downs. May God bless you two abundantly!
You are very fortunate to have such an amazing mum. I am born a illegitimate child, my dad was never divorced and lived with my mum. I was never being loved by my parents. Since 15yrs old I worked part time to earn my own pocket money, and at 18yrs old I had to help pay rental and household bills for me and my mum. My mum till today is only in favor with me cos I pay bills and supported her. I am envious of how open you and ur mum can talk to each other. This is something I can never have cos my mum will only talk about money or something she want. I suffered from severe trauma becos of my past and my mum but I never give up in giving love to my own family.
I am touch and respect the courage and strength you have. Choose love and forgiveness so your heart will have peace this world cannot give. GBY.
Your mom is so brave for stepping out and sharing her life with the public! It’s so heart warming to see how far both of you have come and a united household. She truly has a heart of generosity ❤
Auntie made a “bad” choice in her younger days but she bore the consequences with strength and courage and made the best of her life. Bravo.
Amazingly put. Could not have said it better❤❤❤
You and your mom are so kind and blessed. Thank you for your sharing. Please give this small gift for the charity of your mom choice. God Bless you all
🥺🥺 thank you so much. I'll make sure she gets it :) thanks for watching and giving too
I'm in tears when aunty Ros asked you if you can forgive her. This is truly the work of the Lord. Only He can turns every darkness into light if we decided to walk in His light. Amen. Thank you for sharing your personal story. Love you both much. Hugs.
WE NEED MORE OF THESE KINDA CONTENT IN THE SCENE!!!!!! always rooting for you!
Yay more to come. Thank you Mandon 🎉
super agree but def not easy though. in this day and age, it is difficult to show your vulnerabilities/weakness to the world. And probably some are staged just for content but I can totally feel this sincerity and genuine of this sharing. Very touched by this video. ;)
@@AikenChiaMing Looking forward to more 🤗
Bringing up a kid alone definitely is no easy feat. I can see your mom's emotion on face when you told her that you're not ashamed of her. I believe it is her greatest comfort that she had you supporting and being there with her. Happy CNY to both of you and hope your social media career get more huat ah!
Mama Ros is an excellent example of being at peace, something that I’ve set to work on this year onwards. Not absorbing negative energy or feeding attention to other’s thoughts/opinions/judgements about you, instead, learning to be at peace within and everything will fall into place. Everyone’s journey can be vastly different, and Mama Ros’ sharing has truly inspired me! ❤
It takes so much vulnerability to share this, honouring Aunty Rose. Love and appreciate Aiken for sharing all these. Love you guys!
Such openness and bravery to talk about painful past and able to embrace it with grace and dignity. I applaud both mother and son for the sharing what true love is all about. God bless you both.
It is so heart warming watching you, Ros and Aiken. Deep inside, a very special love between a son and his mom. So wonderful and I am very very proud of both of you.❤
Auntie Ros was very young and naive . She was manipulated by that older man when she was in an emotionally vulnerable state . Be strong and leave all those unhappy memories behind . Just look to the future and make new happy memories . All the best to you and God bless 🙏
This is a very intimate episode. I have the upmost respect to single parent and Aunty Ros is a great role model. Thank you for sharing this with the world! xoxo
Arghhh! Why did I watch this on my birthday! My tears like waterfall watching this. Auntie Ros, you're a great mum. Look at Aiken, you raised him well. So don't be ashamed. You have everything to be proud of now. You're a strong lady and I can tell you're an amazing mum.
Agree with this comment totally!!!! Love this beautiful mum and son!!!
thank you for sharing this so openly & so vulnerably! What an amazing family 🥺
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story, Aiken. This is so beautiful and I feel a sense of peacefulness watching it ❤
Auntie thank you for having the courage to share your story with us. You are a good mother and did an amazing job raising your son despite doing it all alone
..dear auntie everyone has a past and story to tell.. What is beautiful is that you have grown through all the pain and hardship to be strong, generous and loving. Really encouraged by your story. Thank God for protecting and guiding you and Aiken. 🤗 Thanks for your courage
Love this interview so much… Thank you Auntie Ross for sharing your story with us and props to Aiken for being a good listener and giving so much love and support back to your mom…
Wow so honest. Beautiful story of her redemption from darkness. Thank you for letting your mum share her testimony. She has so much wisdom she needs to keep sharing.
So powerful - Aiken, thank you for this and I believe the stories on these episodes will really change and touch so many lives!!!
mama ros is so wholesome and both of yall are so brave, bless both of you 🩷🩷
This sharing is SO wholesome. Thank you Aiken and Auntie Ros for baring your hearts (':
It's a very powerful sharing. Thank you for being so courageous. May there always be light as God continues to bless His faithful child. ❤
I'd love to see Aunty Ross in more of Aiken's videos. Thank you for sharing such an intimate story, you are brave and inspiring. No one is without sin, and it's not for us to judge. Don’t have to feel shameful about it. You have such a big heart. ❤
Thank you so much for creating and sharing this video.. brought tears to my eyes because I’m in the exact same position as you. My mum did the same thing and I never ever knew my dad. Would never recognise him even if we crossed paths today.
Growing up as a child I was so so ashamed that’s I didn’t have a dad..
Thank you for letting me feel that I’m not alone..❤
I love this idea of how like u spoke and celebrated ur mum’s life. And thank you Aunty Ros! You’re such a inspiration, and you’re a living example that in every bad situation god is still there and he still wants to make it better again. God bless u and your family❤
This conversation is so beautiful. It demonstrates the heart of our nurturing Father God who brings us beauty for ashes not because of what we do, but simply because He loves us for who we are. He delights in us. Thank you, Aiken, for sharing. The deep work you are doing is worth it. Press on. The road of healing you are taking may not always be applauded, but the work will lead to great contentment and the ability to love on people with your healing. Healed people, heal others.
Aiken, you are an incredible interviewer, this was outstanding. Aunty Ros, you are courageous and have a beautiful, kind heart. Thankyou for sharing some of your story with us.
The courage to share and learn from one's mistakes show growth. Living through and surviving hardship and adversity with such grace, and the generosity to give even more to others in need even more so.
Worth the wait! Whole new respect for Mama Ros for sharing her story! 🙌
I clicked into this video not knowing who you guys are & just nosy but came out with so much joy watching it all. Such great content and wholesome things that you guys have done to give back to the community even if times are trying. Amazing!
Loved loved loved this! Thank you so much - Auntie and Aiken - for sharing your story and thank you so much for sharing your lives.
AUnty Ros. This sharing is amazing. You pulled through the most difficult of times. Stand proud Aunty Ros!
Aww thank you ❤ I'll make sure mom sees this
@@AikenChiaMingthank you for sharing this. You both are blessed to have each other ❤ In a sense, aunty ros managed to leave him because he was very nasty at the end. Any advice for people trying to leave when the other party is still very nice and loving?
Bravo!Aiken & Auntie Roslyn for sharing!
This is truly wholesome. Thank you for sharing! Aunty Ross, we all love you! 🫰🏼
Thanks for bearing all. Best story so far, and your message is powerful. This is living a full-rich life.
Dear auntie, i hope you know it is incredibly courageous for sharing. Everyone has a past, and for sharing your learning journey. I hope it is not shame that you label yourself with, but it is about you evolving as a human, and sharing your story. Love to you & Aiken
Auntie you kena gaslighted when you are very green, nothing to be ashamed of. Stand proud, you walked out and did all by yourself! ❤
Wait a minute... You only heard one side of the story and you think she has zero responsibility by participating KNOWINGLY in a man's extra-marital affair? What has the world come to? There's a difference between forgiving yourself for your mistakes and externalising for every decision you've made (i.e. it was not my fault, I was gaslit, it was him, it was his wife, it was his children).
I don't think Auntie is trying to run away from her responsibilities, so why are you being such an apologist, and trying to absolve her of any real accountability?
I truly am very very happy for Auntie for having accepted and forgiven herself. But if you were to ask me, or her for that matter, I'd still think she made a mistake. Like Aiken said, does it define her? No. But did she make a mistake? Yes. So please, don't be a revisionist.
You only heard one side of the story and alr start pointing out the aunty's mistake but didn't think that the guy should be held the MOST accountable? To compare a 18 year old woman and a 30+ man, YOU should blame the guy for being a fucking coward and not the other way round @@lubis1991
Social media is misleading. It tells you what they want you to hear. Dig deeper and the whole truth will unfold.
Doc! @@lubis1991
not only gaslighted but he was basically a predator she was 18 at that time and he was already almost in his mid 30's.
EXACTLY. it doesn't matter what others think anymore! Auntie your attitude is AMAZING. Thank you for sharing and shedding the shame. More people need to do this too. ❤
I would never think Ros doing volunteering is to atone for her past. Thanks for sharing. Continue to Love your mum for walking out of darkness to single handedly bring u up n hv the life you both hv now.
Aiken and Aunty Ros, thank you for this beautiful episode. I couldn't help tearing. Thank you for shining a light in this dark world. Thank you for being salt & light of the earth. God bless you both
So so wholesome! Thank you for sharing so openly! God bless you both!
This was incredibly raw. By itself, this conversation is life changing. To share this online takes so much courage. Thanks for sharing and may you and Rosie feel peace, closure, and acceptance .
Thanks for courageously doing this episode Aiken. I’m sure many people needed to hear this.. that there is still hope & life after a mistake. Keep your content this way sir!🙌🏽
Thanks for this sincere and brave sharing! It's very touching . Auntie Ros, you are worthy of love, truth and being you! ❤
Incredible respect for Aiken and Aunty Ross, thank you for sharing your very challenging life story and to see how God truly works miracles 💪🏻
This story has touched my heart so very deeply. God loves you both Mommy Ros & Aiken. Please live life happily. Don't look back and left all the guilt behind. You guys are precious! Mommy Ros has done a great job raising her son to be a keen young man. You guys are such a dream team!
Unscripted, raw, genuine conversations. Really touch my heart with this open sharing. I always yearn to have an open conversation with my parents but us being us, theres always a part of us being stubborn and refusing to show our vulnerable side to even our own family in this harsh world. Supporting you 2!
Thank you for being brave and sharing this, am sure there are those who have been in similar situations who have really needed to hear this from aunty Ros, and likewise those in your situation Aikes, who needed the push to take the steps to heal, confront and embrace the past.
This is amazing! Thank you Aunty Ros and Aiken! Loving this content 😊
This is amazing! Thank you for sharing Aunty and Aiken. Keep up the great work!!
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Aunty, please do not feel ashamed; it is part of everyone's journey.to me, you have been successful. Having a great son, having the opportunity to face the past and move on. That is a great blessing.
this is brilliant work, supporting you to pursue this type of content !!! loved every single minute of it
Truly touched by your ministry Aiken. TQ for leading by example on how to be the salt & light in this world.
The caption of your video caught my eyes and i found myself watching to the end. Both of you are awesome and inspite of your mom's affair, she made the right decision to walk away. She has obviously raised you very well. The Lord bless you both.🙏
Thank you for such heartfelt open sharing, about your past and revealing all the sensitivity ❤ wishing you both all the happiness!
from 15:30 to 16:30... so heartbreaking... thank you Aiken for doing this. idk why but this is masterful story-telling. something that speaks to my heart. i bet it wasn't easy, but this was so powerful and emotional and IMPORTANT. amazing work.
A very courageous and selfless mommy there… Burdens lifted and endless joy coming into your lives… So good!
This is such an intimate and important story to share. How brave of you Aiken and Auntie Ros to reclaim that shame and just share the lessons you’ve learned as part of life’s journey. Wishing you both all the best in the years to come!
Auntie Ross, I must say that this was a very very heartwarming and open sharing. And I hope it helps you to find a lot more peace and closure to the shame that you felt. You have brought up a good son, and glad that you have such a loving relationship. I'm not a loyal subscriber of Aiken, and this is the 1st time I am really watching him on his channel. But I think this video definitely shows a very genuine side of him that I find very comforting. Jia you!
Aunty Ross! You are the best. Thank you for sharing your story. Your courage and strength is unparalleled I admire you so much❤❤❤
Awesome wholesome story.. We are all humans and no one is perfect.. thank you for opening up and being vulnerable to share your story.. Kudos to the set, the interview and the documentary cut.. the crew definitely pushed the boundaries of creating meaningful stories..
Thank you for sharing mama Ros's story with us. Have nothing but mad respect for her for what she's gone through. 🎉🎉🎉
Rooting for the both of you! ❤ thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing such an intimate and vulnerable part of your story
hugs!!! Aunty, your decision to move on is RIGHT! Yes, past is past, do not let this guilt pull you down, Aiken is a great man, you're a great mum. Thank you for sharing your hurt and milestone to move on! God Bless you sis, you're a wonderful lady 🥰
what a brave piece of content for you to put up, for both you and your mom. ups!
Bless you both. Hearing your stories made me tear as well.
Thank you for this interview! So many people go through things like this in silence and carry the shame of other peoples decisions. The truth will see you free!! ❤
I cried watching this video. I am very proud of you Aiken. You are such a strong guy.
Aunty is so brave. Thank you so much for sharing your story. When you come out from the darkness then you know how brightly you shine.
I think Aiken this has healed a part of you even to Auntie. Keep loving each other. Also, Xin Nian Kuai Le 🎉
You forgot to add
"... ang pao na lai "
Firstly, THANK YOU for sharing this story, i'm sure it is not easy for both of you especially for Ms. Ros...i applaud both of you for the strength and pride aside.. because of this story i have now subscribed ... part that brought me to tears is ''i'm not ashamed of you"" it maybe just words to some but it means the world to ones that matters...Hugs
Aunty, you are amazing and I am so proud of you as a person. I witnessed a great testimony and also a heartwarming relationship. This is beyond the usual content just out to get viewership but right out from the heart. I am very stirred to get back to church with this...
this was very wholesome... thank you for sharing, very brave of you both..❤ ❤
Thank you Aunty Ros and Aiken and team for this! Love you guys
Aiken you are an inspiration to others and looking at your mom, I can understand why.
Keep up the good work 👏
My dears Aiken and Rose...there's so shame as you both are such wonderful, authentic , honest individuals. There's so much love coming from you both.Blessings and love from Italia 💕
Thanks for sharing! Such a beautiful and amazing story ❤ Ros is definitely well loved and blessed by our Abba to be a blessing to many others 💕
this is so beautiful Aiken!! thank you so much for sharing :) must have been tough for aunty Ros but I'm so glad everything led you two to where you are today!
I admired auntie's and Aiken's courage and openness on this. Tks both of you for sharing this with us. ❤❤❤ Respect is how I am really feeling now. Embrace our past.
Awww, both mother & son are amazing! She gave such good advice to ladies who are in the same situation. Hats off to this great mother & son, God bless them❤️
Aiken and Aunty Ros, you all are doing a wonderful job, God has definitely blessed the both of you! You all came out of the hardship, and still have the willingness to help others. It really inspired me, and I thank you so much Aiken for this video. I recently lost my dad, but I know God has bigger plans
Thank you Aiken for sharing this video.. its an eye opener .. life is full of choices and struggles.. Put the past behind and im very sure she is very proud of you and vice versa. Make her happy and treasure her . She been through alot .. Wishing both of ypu health and lots of love .
Your mum is an angel!
Such a wonderful conversation that woke me up. I’m fighting against the “fear of men” and here it is, Auntie Ros and Aiken telling it as it is. Really, thank you.
This is so so so good ... will set a lot of people free as we allow the truth to come out; and break the chain of fear. Super well done to both Ros and Aiken!
Thanks Aiken, loved this conversation with your mom! Precious and vulnerable and full of love. I can see how much you love your mom. Again, thank you for sharing this with us all. Your mom was wonderful in this conversation as well. Very brave and open and her love for God and others shines through.
Both of you are so brave to talk about this. I salute you, Aunty Ros. All Glory to GOD on your repentance.
i feel so deeply for your mom, aiken. she’s done nothing but give her love and her money without asking for much in return. as much as reciprocal relationships are ‘endorsed’ as the proper way to live in our society, there is a ridiculously disproportionate burden of shame that is placed on emotionally/financially vulnerable women who fall into the wrong situations. of course she made a mistake but she was so young, so lost - he had so many resources at his disposal and gave her the illusion of stability and unconditional love.
all in all, i think she’s incredibly strong and so beautiful inside and out. i’m sorry she grew up in an era where she felt like she had to suffer through it all in silence, but now here we are. be a good son yes! ❤️ thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you Aiken for doing this & thank you Aunty Ros for being so bold to share and own to what she did. But her story is really proof that our bad decisions are not final. We can embrace the past and look forward and find peace with whatever has gone by. 🙆🏻♀️
Thanks for sharing. As a blind, i listen to the video without seeing and i could sense the genuineness and kindness. True courage is when you embrace your past. Very inspiring. I hope our paths will cross one day 😊
I believe this was NOT an easy video to make. In view of CNY, I hope the new year will bring new beginnings and continuous prosperity for you Aiken and Aunty Ros ya.
Take care bro. Lots of love still from your beloved Hippo 🦛
Thank you both (& everyone behind this channel) for being salt and light in this world 🤍🧂 May His love overshadow you always
Very happy with this content. People are blinded by love and would do foolish things and everyone could make the same mistake. This is eye opener and thank you Aiken and you have a strong and kind hearted mum.
Aunty Ros, your heart is good. Thank you for your love and generosity. Thank you 🙏🏻
Keep up the good work Aiken, your mom is a pious and righteous lady. 👍🏻