Don't give up on food king there are better people out there that is willing to work for u just reach out for that specal star to guide you and pray that the specal star will guide that person to you
For a young man to speak about sex in the context of Christianity so openly, that is a clear example of a godly man. You have my support Aiken! God's in all future endeavours 🌈❤️
I cried when Aiken and John talked about being a “yes man” cos I totally relate to that. And what John said hits too close to heart - the expectations that because you were there for your friends, you expected them to be there for you. And you end up getting hurt when they weren’t there for you the way you wanted them to be. And that it’s actually our fault to have that expectations. And yes, they might have tried to be there for you in their own ways but you just don’t recognise it. And that hurts to know too. It just make you feel like you’re an unappreciative person. Tough pills to swallow guys 😭 but thanks for the episode, really enjoyed it. Feels like a free therapist trial. 😂
aiken was the only reason i watched NOC, glad he got to work through his troubles and is looking to start his own channel! he always seemed like the most down-to-earth, humble and kind one of the lot and i hope the best for him ☺️ also big kudos to him for sticking to his beliefs!!! it’s rare in the best of ways!
I always looked up on Aiken for being such a genuinely wonderful person. Like, seriously, even if he was a yesman and a people-pleaser (which I am struggling to say no as well) , the way he portrayed himself is something else. I hold my respect towards him at such high regards, but after watching this video, man.... I'm so proud to see him improving and putting himself first now.
I can relate. Saying no was so difficult for me in my younger days too. It stemmed from being overlooked from everything during my school days. Teachers didn’t even know I existed, I was picked last during football games, and I just wanted to be part of things, so I would say yes to everything. Now I just DGAF if it doesn’t align with my values. Good on you Aiken.
Yeah, in workplace setting, if you are a newbie or just 1 year working within the company, you condition yourself to earn brownie points to the higher ups in your dept and in the HRD, even if you have no intention of downright asskiss under them you try hard to always be on their good side, by way of minimizing as much as possible saying "no" to them
I think yall should invite Nina from noc too! I dont think shes been on media for a while now so itd be interesting to invite her to know what she is doing now(if she wants to come to the show lah ofc) Edit:just noticed shes back from hiatus now
Yas really respect Aiken and his convictions :) Praying that God will continue to sustain and provide for you through everything in life :) God bless!!
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) is a game-changer for trauma, that's particularly hard for the brain to digest. For those who are curious, read 'the body keeps the score'. I was doing alot of self-help to assimilate my PTSD but only got to therapy after another similar incident and had a breakdown. There is no shame to getting help and if you are able to, (both emotionally-ready and finacially able) please get help. It won't be easy, as your brain and behaviour learns new method of coping but you will come through it like a phoenix revived. Thank you Aiken for sharing so openly, and adding the fact that you had done your own homework and discovered EMDR and got the help you need. Part of healing is the self advocacy and courage to do so.
It's so true. That you will not know the importance of mindfulness until you've been to the state that was out of your control out of a sudden. Often ur actions now links to ur experience in the past that i realised too. Its so true that learning about urself does help in managing ur emotions. Expectations have always been hurting u when it's not met. Regardless how low u set the baseline, it's bound that it might not be able to meet that. Overtime, i forgot about it n unknowingly had expectations again n got hurt once again. #MindOverBody In every negativity there will be positivity n we should shift it there instead of victimising ourselves.
actually this video has really really taught me a lot. i finally realise that i’m just like aiken, i’m a people pleaser and it’s also caused by my parents fighting. this out so much sense into me, people tell me that i’m too nice and i try to avoid conflict and all that. he explains so well, thank u aiken
I think aiken got a good talking, good presentation skills , great hosting. He can actually do a podcast channel Or if he wants. Rebrand a new food show Anyways wish him all the best and hope to see him back to the field
Great session! Just a personal feedback that Johnathan could perhaps wait a little before cutting into providing comments right when Aiken is sharing (esp his walk in therapy). And the questions phrased and asked if not processed properly could come across as mocking therapy services…
Can relate, my friend, husband and I are people pleasers. But I’ve also matured through therapy. Saw Aiken gyming in Virgin Active Marina One before, he seemed slightly down then, almost wanted to encourage him but too shy. Glad he’s gone for therapy and in a better space now.
Respect for Aiken for his take on sex and being so honest. It takes courage and confidence for one to admit he's a virgin in this day and age, and not afraid to be mocked. He's a very fine, young man!
For people that are experiencing anxiety, just wanna tell you guys to not blame yourself too much for it. Let go of the stress that you are giving yourself. You’re doing fine.
Myself too could relate very hard to that "yes man" part. Used to be a people pleaser for so many years until one day I decided to say "enough is enough" . Guess not only we have to do the right things, doing things right is equally essential to anyone's mental health in some way. And nothing to be ashamed of for being virgin no matter how old one is. Many people treat it like a laughing stock coz sexuality has been portrayed as what Aiken mentioned. Staying virgin doesn't necessary mean it's purely being conservative or religious, there're some other aspects and reasons as well. As much as we don't judge someone who isn't, people who have yet been staying virgin are not supposed to be alienated in any way. This is another great episode of TDK, appreciate Aiken's sharings and TDK's effort along the way delivering such good podcast episodes.
You are in showbiz, is 33 YO, good looking, have good personality and are still virgin? You sir are not a rare breed you are a Unicorn. And I say this as the highest compliment.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. Ideally its supposed to remove the negative emotions and beliefs from the traumatic memory to make it more bearable to live with if it ever resurfaces.
It'll be really interesting if one of the host goes through a professional therapy and share their experiences and learnings, cos comparing the stuff they say here VS after having awareness of self, the changes will be obvious and educating :) I'm learning a lot too just by hearing this discussion. Thanks for sharing so honestly on a social platform! Great stuff.
I pretty much watched this boy grow up on telly from doing children's shows and always thought he had something special. He seems pretty put together so looking forward to seeing him flourish ... Not sideways 🤣 , career and life I mean
Thanks for this video, I took a day and reflected. I am a people pleaser. I was stressed, but I came to the conclusion that nobody gives 2 shits about you other than you. Without this video I wouldn't be able to learn this as fast as I did. Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and thoughts, it helped.
Regarding the question at 26:30: no, the Catholic church never introduced dating sessions for singles. We are given that choice to meet, mingle and date whomever we want. 26:37 there are dating apps for specific religion. I tried the Catholic and Christian ones but there are hardly anyone there.
Good time for Aiken to get a proper job now at this stage of his life. Maybe its God's call that things happened in NOC for him to leave so he can start afresh with a proper job
Lol appreciate for the shoutout! I'm doing very well at the moment! -Virus
Aiken is as real as it gets. His confidence and humility is to be admired.
A good example of a Christian man (as a Christian myself)
Don't give up on food king there are better people out there that is willing to work for u just reach out for that specal star to guide you and pray that the specal star will guide that person to you
Christians are the worst.
Respect Aiken so much for his views on sex and not being pressured to doing it.
The guest I never knew we needed
For a young man to speak about sex in the context of Christianity so openly, that is a clear example of a godly man. You have my support Aiken! God's in all future endeavours 🌈❤️
I cried when Aiken and John talked about being a “yes man” cos I totally relate to that. And what John said hits too close to heart - the expectations that because you were there for your friends, you expected them to be there for you. And you end up getting hurt when they weren’t there for you the way you wanted them to be. And that it’s actually our fault to have that expectations.
And yes, they might have tried to be there for you in their own ways but you just don’t recognise it. And that hurts to know too. It just make you feel like you’re an unappreciative person.
Tough pills to swallow guys 😭 but thanks for the episode, really enjoyed it. Feels like a free therapist trial. 😂
aiken was the only reason i watched NOC, glad he got to work through his troubles and is looking to start his own channel! he always seemed like the most down-to-earth, humble and kind one of the lot and i hope the best for him ☺️ also big kudos to him for sticking to his beliefs!!! it’s rare in the best of ways!
I’m so happy that Aiken stand firms of his faith and belief in marriage. Kudos to that.
I always looked up on Aiken for being such a genuinely wonderful person. Like, seriously, even if he was a yesman and a people-pleaser (which I am struggling to say no as well) , the way he portrayed himself is something else. I hold my respect towards him at such high regards, but after watching this video, man.... I'm so proud to see him improving and putting himself first now.
Respect to Aiken. How he stands by his beliefs.
I can relate. Saying no was so difficult for me in my younger days too. It stemmed from being overlooked from everything during my school days. Teachers didn’t even know I existed, I was picked last during football games, and I just wanted to be part of things, so I would say yes to everything. Now I just DGAF if it doesn’t align with my values. Good on you Aiken.
Yeah, in workplace setting, if you are a newbie or just 1 year working within the company, you condition yourself to earn brownie points to the higher ups in your dept and in the HRD, even if you have no intention of downright asskiss under them you try hard to always be on their good side, by way of minimizing as much as possible saying "no" to them
I think yall should invite Nina from noc too! I dont think shes been on media for a while now so itd be interesting to invite her to know what she is doing now(if she wants to come to the show lah ofc)
Edit:just noticed shes back from hiatus now
One of the few RUclipsrs i like. Humble, sincere and talented. 👍👍
i seldom watch podcast but Aiken made me sit through 30mins of it
Aiken really glowing here
Genuinely happy that the content is about mental health and not just gossip and negativity.
Thanks Aiken for being open, confident and firm on your views on sexual intimacy. Hope to meet a wonderful guy like you one day :)
Truly a refreshing POV from a young man! Love it. It's true that Hollywood does not show us the real picture of relationships.
we need a round 2 with aiken!
Aiken, may God continue to bless you with His peace and joy in whatever you set out to do in the future.
Yas really respect Aiken and his convictions :) Praying that God will continue to sustain and provide for you through everything in life :) God bless!!
I love Aiken's sincerity and that is so rare now! I have subscribed to him again. I wish him well! God will provides for him.
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) is a game-changer for trauma, that's particularly hard for the brain to digest. For those who are curious, read 'the body keeps the score'.
I was doing alot of self-help to assimilate my PTSD but only got to therapy after another similar incident and had a breakdown. There is no shame to getting help and if you are able to, (both emotionally-ready and finacially able) please get help. It won't be easy, as your brain and behaviour learns new method of coping but you will come through it like a phoenix revived.
Thank you Aiken for sharing so openly, and adding the fact that you had done your own homework and discovered EMDR and got the help you need. Part of healing is the self advocacy and courage to do so.
Thanks Jon Paul for getting Aiken to give background context. This is my first time seeing him.
It's so true. That you will not know the importance of mindfulness until you've been to the state that was out of your control out of a sudden. Often ur actions now links to ur experience in the past that i realised too. Its so true that learning about urself does help in managing ur emotions. Expectations have always been hurting u when it's not met. Regardless how low u set the baseline, it's bound that it might not be able to meet that. Overtime, i forgot about it n unknowingly had expectations again n got hurt once again. #MindOverBody
In every negativity there will be positivity n we should shift it there instead of victimising ourselves.
Good sharing from Aiken. Simply love the vibes and chemistry of daily ketchup hosts!
actually this video has really really taught me a lot. i finally realise that i’m just like aiken, i’m a people pleaser and it’s also caused by my parents fighting. this out so much sense into me, people tell me that i’m too nice and i try to avoid conflict and all that. he explains so well, thank u aiken
Really enjoyed this episode with Aiken. I don't know how to explain it but his perspective on the diff topics is just so refreshing.
I think aiken got a good talking, good presentation skills , great hosting.
He can actually do a podcast channel
Or if he wants. Rebrand a new food show
Anyways wish him all the best and hope to see him back to the field
Great session! Just a personal feedback that Johnathan could perhaps wait a little before cutting into providing comments right when Aiken is sharing (esp his walk in therapy). And the questions phrased and asked if not processed properly could come across as mocking therapy services…
Can relate, my friend, husband and I are people pleasers. But I’ve also matured through therapy. Saw Aiken gyming in Virgin Active Marina One before, he seemed slightly down then, almost wanted to encourage him but too shy. Glad he’s gone for therapy and in a better space now.
From the Start till now i have always been a Fans of Akien and forever will be
Happy to see aiken’s face, hope to see him more on youtube!
theres so much layers too, not just what aiken is saying but also Jon.
Respect for Aiken for his take on sex and being so honest. It takes courage and confidence for one to admit he's a virgin in this day and age, and not afraid to be mocked. He's a very fine, young man!
I respect Aiken all the more after he shared these things. Thanks for asking him big questions
For people that are experiencing anxiety, just wanna tell you guys to not blame yourself too much for it. Let go of the stress that you are giving yourself. You’re doing fine.
Aiken is really a talented host and producer. Looking forward to your new RUclips channel! God Bless! 😊
Myself too could relate very hard to that "yes man" part. Used to be a people pleaser for so many years until one day I decided to say "enough is enough" . Guess not only we have to do the right things, doing things right is equally essential to anyone's mental health in some way.
And nothing to be ashamed of for being virgin no matter how old one is. Many people treat it like a laughing stock coz sexuality has been portrayed as what Aiken mentioned. Staying virgin doesn't necessary mean it's purely being conservative or religious, there're some other aspects and reasons as well. As much as we don't judge someone who isn't, people who have yet been staying virgin are not supposed to be alienated in any way.
This is another great episode of TDK, appreciate Aiken's sharings and TDK's effort along the way delivering such good podcast episodes.
Talks likethis is very needed in the society now. Please do more podcast likethis to share and joke at the same timee.. the vibe is great! 🤗
Feels great to see aiken after so long time.
And i want to say this
How are you
Welcome to thailand lady gentleman.
Much deep respect for Aiken after this interview - Also great job to the hosts for sharing their stories and being vulnerable! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
You are in showbiz, is 33 YO, good looking, have good personality and are still virgin? You sir are not a rare breed you are a Unicorn. And I say this as the highest compliment.
This was such a great conversation to listen to, thanks for the great episode guys!
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. Ideally its supposed to remove the negative emotions and beliefs from the traumatic memory to make it more bearable to live with if it ever resurfaces.
Respect on Aiken for abstinence. You will find someone soon, bro!
Love Aiken. This episode was sooooo good, so wholesome
It'll be really interesting if one of the host goes through a professional therapy and share their experiences and learnings, cos comparing the stuff they say here VS after having awareness of self, the changes will be obvious and educating :) I'm learning a lot too just by hearing this discussion. Thanks for sharing so honestly on a social platform! Great stuff.
This is two different Aiken I have seen. One is the Food King Aiken and this is Aiken Aiken. Always learn to say no and not be a yes man.
Aiken is true and real 👍🏻 👍🏻 Stay blessed
Denise asked so many great questions!
Aiken, stay true to yourself. Way to go 🤗
This guy quite down to earth one, when I saw him and his mom on the singtel ad I was very happy he was getting work tbh
wait john’s whole speech was SO GOOD 🤯
Ohh!! This interview was so good!!
I gotta say, this show is so important 🙌 Thanks for existing!
23:11 Aiken's Christian card lai liao and I love it!
I pretty much watched this boy grow up on telly from doing children's shows and always thought he had something special. He seems pretty put together so looking forward to seeing him flourish ... Not sideways 🤣 , career and life I mean
Looking forward to seeing more contents from Aiken🙏
The hottest free agent in SG now 😂
Respect for Aiken for being a virgin. 🙇🏻♂️
Never resonated with a podcast as much as this one
Virus started his own channel on youtube now 怪咖 Outcasts 🙂
Good to hear that.
You are in the right path, good luck.....
YESSSS aikan! :D can't wait to see the youtube channel!
Thanks for this video, I took a day and reflected. I am a people pleaser. I was stressed, but I came to the conclusion that nobody gives 2 shits about you other than you. Without this video I wouldn't be able to learn this as fast as I did. Thanks everyone for sharing your experiences and thoughts, it helped.
Such an informative podcast. Jiayou Aiken!
Are we all just gonna ignore how John Paul was on his phone totally ignoring Denise during the intro 😂😂
the first 5 seconds is what i needed.
Such an amazing episode
totally surprised yall didn't capitalize on SYLVIA lining HAHA
I WAS THINKING THE SAME!!!!! 😂😂😂
Missed Aiken.
The best talk show ever
I relate to this episode very much. Best video imo. Thanks
Dont know about yal but Jon’s speech at 17 min mark is really something.
I need aiken to give me his therapist for my social anxiety
Wow …I nvr watch this channel, just because Aiken I clicked … Aiken pls come back , not to NOC of coursed , to us ;) wink
Been waiting for this ep!
love aiken! right mindset!
Regarding the question at 26:30: no, the Catholic church never introduced dating sessions for singles. We are given that choice to meet, mingle and date whomever we want.
26:37 there are dating apps for specific religion. I tried the Catholic and Christian ones but there are hardly anyone there.
Goated podcast ❤
❤️❤️ supporting you always, Aiken!!
OMG AIKEN 😍
Good time for Aiken to get a proper job now at this stage of his life. Maybe its God's call that things happened in NOC for him to leave so he can start afresh with a proper job
waited to long to be the 69th like but really love how y'all can just bounce off from one topic to another
not long enough 🥲
16:00 Is a good speech too!
daniel's northface x kaws hoodie . A man with culture
This episode like therapy ah
Am I the only one who remembers Aiken as a game show host a long time ago? lol
Wow! I like Aiken alrdy!
Hey Aiken is like me!!! Single and virgin! Also i never dated before!
My virgin cousin met his virgin bride through christian dating app. 🤩🥰 God's will.
Good ！講得非常好亦明磪
yay aiken. :))))
Solid fella 👍🏻👍🏻
Aiken!!! ❤️
Aiken is glowing
Like this ep very much
LOVE THIS EPISODE 🔥