The expression " You're dead to me" or basically I'm done with you applies. They're testing to see if the door is open or to get a reaction. They're manipulative, abusive, and hate being ignored. No contact equals empowerment! You're history 💪💪💪 Missing The Loss Of Someone That Mistreated You Is Like Mourning The Loss Of Trash - Natalie Lue podcast ♥️ Narcissistic Harems In A Nutshell ---Natalie Lue No Contact articles and podcasts, by Natalie Lue Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by.Gavin De Becker No Conscience by Robert D Hare What The Heck Is Self Love? Jonathon Aslay ♥️ The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg 8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman If The Budda Dated by John and Julie Gottman
I'm 34 days, no contact, and I feel great! I don't want him back a second time. Nothing will change, and I've lost interest. I'm a Super Empath I don't want a narricist in my life.
It's all crazy making! All of a sudden they have a change of heart after ghosting you, leaving you to pick up the pieces and figure things out for yourself after they leave! Well I did! Thanks to these videos. If I didn't come across these I would be still on that hamster wheel! I don't need that nonsense back in my life again. I have peace now you can too if you stay away from these toxic humans!
Great info, this is text book covert narcissism. Mine poped up several times already and I gave no response, and she will continue to do so; even when she is blocked everywhere. And with these people, there is no relationship... it is a manipulationship. Thanks Anoushka!
Oh god I broke it once too and two months later it was just more and more lies. Why do they come back when they don’t care about us at all? When I don’t care about someone I literally forget about them and never contact them again. These people are a sub-human category all by themselves.
Sorry Marty. I often feared that too after I realized how dark he really was. Just had another bunch of tests and feel relieved. I can only imagine how devastated you are. I’m so, so sorry. If it’s what I think it is, you can still live a full life. Many people manage it with healthy lifestyle and pills. God bless.
It's been a year now, no contact! I blocked him on social media and my phone, he doesn't even know where I live! Silence is bliss...he can't even contact me! ❤
The energy thing is real. I never believed it. But now I do. Once you no longer give your energy to things that no longer matter to you, It no longer has any power over you. In the case of narcissists, they cant handle not having power over you. So they will come back. Once you learn and understand energy you can then control what does and doesn't effect you. It will give you new found confidence and you will give off a new energy yourself. Others will feel this new energy.
You are so right 😮. First time 3 months after she discarded me. Like a idiot. Got suckered back in. But you start to see through all the bullshit and lies. And the same patterns start happening again, so I left. Thank God. All the messages and phone calls start again a good few months later down the line. So left them on read. And blocking her on everything for good.
There's no end to it unless WE put an end to it. In my case my narc came back, hoovered and drew me back in. They came back with an even worse agenda than before. No-contact forever.
I absolutely love your videos. Exnarc hasn't hoovered and it has been 70-plus days. He's busy and smitten with his new supply. I'm a forgotten and faded memory. One day I'll get there too.
This just happened to me. For the first time in 6 months, I was feeling whole again and like my old self after a horrendous break-up last August. I wasn't thinking about my ex at all for a couple of days - but then all of a sudden, he texted me and said "I need your help with something." He was a cheater and I caught him on Bumble multiple times when we were together. I don't think he needs help at all...I think he is baiting me and wondering what I've been up to, since I've held firm on no contact all this time.
If it’s possible please block him. Block him from everything and all flying monkeys and privatize your socials. Don’t allow him to contact you. This way you don’t have to wonder about “why” he’s contacting you, cuz he won’t be able to. Take your power back.
I am dealing with a narcissist at work. I cut them off, and went total social media blackout. They had no way to contact me. While at work. I completely ignore and look through them as they don't even exist. I was out for two months to recover from surgery. The best time ever. Transferred to a new college to finish my I.T. degree. I come back to work. The narcissist saw how everyone was so happy to see me and hugging me. I received so much positive attention from coworkers. You look at them. There is nothing but hate and rage in their face. Now their flying monkeys hoover me all day. The narcissist is playing nice to a coworker that works directly with me. So they can be near me. Still do not acknowledge their existence. Energetically, I feel the anger they have for me. So I found a better job and leaving. Can't wait to see their face. When I walk out and they know I am never coming back.
I'm not doing well. I'm pissed, because I just saw the pic of the new relationship. Yuck, but still livid. He's blocked and deleted from all social media, phone, email, etc.
I am currently separated from my wife of 21 years, together for 25 since college. I have felt a constant desire to please her at the expense of my own authenticity. I do not blame her; I believe past experiences and parent modeling influenced this behavior. I am learning that I was the "empath", the "people pleaser", and the "fixer". I struggle with letting go simply because I feel that I have failed to repair the marriage. I am on day 3 of no contact. It is difficult, but necessary. Thank you for the video, very empowering.
Tell me about it ! Like there is months in between. Then u get a random, weird message like there's been no time pass or emotional abuse ..it's extraordinary.
Thank you so much for your videos. I really appreciate you! My narc returned too a month ago after I went no contact. She popped up somehow out of nowhere again. This time I know her game. Super easy to predict. Almost comical in a sad way. I know what’s going to happen before it does and i know what she’ll say and how she will react before she does. I’m always 10 steps ahead of her. No more lies and tricks. The gig is up! I got her number. Thanks again for sharing all your insight with us! You are valued and appreciated!! 🤗🙏🏼❤️
I really messed up. I moved out, went no contact for 7 weeks. I served her with divorce. Then in November she found me and lured me back in. We had been hooking up since then. We would have our arguments. We discussed getting back together. I knew it was about money. I even helped her out a little. Then we actually stopped the divorce. I even got her back the wedding / engagement ring that she pawned. At one point I took money from my savings to pay some bills and she took it and blew it in her out of work daughter etc… now I am at the house , and I feel that I am back at day one. Anxious, depressed, broke, etc… I wish I never started communicating in November 2020. I should have just left the divorce. The problem is I am addicted to her like Heroine. Every one tells me she is a psychopaths and toxic and that she just wants to destroy me. I am a wreck again. Why do I not listen?!
@@stevenkovler5133 I completely understand!! I was no contact for 3 months and I’ve been talking to her again too. 🥺🥺 she reached out and I talked to her. She always tries to get money and as hard as it is to tell her no I stand my ground. Which is a shock to her. The no contact I think was harder on me than her. I’ve never done that to anyone. I’m keeping her at arms length and waiting for the discard from her then I’m out. Then It’s on her. Is my thinking. I’m also shocking her by when she says or does anything I stand up and snap back at her and I also call her out on any and all BS!! That’s a surprise to her also. But she still hangs around. Kinda loosely. I never text or call her. I make her do everything. It may be days but I never initiate contact. She is constantly chasing me now. I have also told her we will never work out and I’m staying single for now. I see it confuses her. But I think she knows she messed up and she can see she will never get another chance with me. But truth be told I love that woman so much!! But I know it’ll never ever work. That’s a hard line right there. I’ll never return to her. I’m thinking and hoping she’s moving on now especially since she sees nothing is working on me and I closed my wallet tight. Good luck my friend!! Sincerely. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through but at the same time ive learned so much about myself and I’m growing powerful!! You will too! Believe in yourself and dig deep as to what it is YOU need that we feel they are fulfilling for us. It hurts to the core but remember… we fell deep in love….with an illusion. 🥺🥺
My ex narc reached out after I made it clear: only get in touch if you want the same thing as me. Weeks later, out of nowhere she reached out, only for me to learn she is just wanting to be friends. She didn't respect my boundaries at all. She said she couldn't look past the 'issues' she conjured up out of nowhere during the 5 min voice message discard. I said I respected her decision and let her go.
Having a funeral… I’m happy I get to hear someone else say this I thought I was crazy & being vindictive but it’s actually a thing & im healing so much better now , it feel good to know I’m not crazy or delusional
For a long time I was ever so slightly worried I'd get sucked back in if she ever came back. Fortunately, enough time went by that I healed and happen to see her in passing and she just didn't look the same to me. I had no attraction, no love, no suspicion and no interest. I had become indifferent. And that's where I want to be.
You must've felt my energy as well. After a whole month of no contact, the narc decided to reach out with just a Hello in the subject line. No mgs. Weirdest thing ever.
Narc discarded me, came back because he and the main supply weren’t getting along. He triangulated. I thought we were cool again, texted him the next day No response.
Mine is blocked on all social media and text ..9 months is longest he has ever went....but he has buffett of supply ...I'm off the buffett...they can have him..I need nothing from him..period..I may be alone but it's better than his bs..
She tried a few months ago and I was starting to fall for it. She hit me with the silent treatment again and I just asked her flat out "Are we done or not?" The silent treatment suddenly became a purge and she pushed me away for the last time. Hopefully I never hear from her again.
At the discard I kinda felt like this was another one of her games. I didn't bite. So some time went by and she hoovered me and triangulated me with the new supply (if he even exists). She twisted the knife further into my back and left me for dead. After 14 years. I've never experienced so much pain. I was in the ER twice and I'm going to go into the reasons why. Stay strong folks; you know in maybe the back of your mind that something isn't right. Don't believe the lies they tell you about you. They are damaged beyond repair. You don't have to take that on anymore.
I never thought I could do NC. But here I am with him blocked for 6 months!!! I was his narc puppet for NINE long years. I am pretty sure he is shocked I have not come back. I hope he enjoys his life. I feel like I went through a demonic extraction and catapulted 10 million levels up.
They contact or "try to reconnect" because they either see you as a easy source of supply or because your supply is better than what they can currently get. "for now"
No issue with this myself, she's definitely not returning. Can't attempt to smear someone's character and think of returning. Got arrested for a lie. That's a point of no return. Good post ❤
Coming up to 4 months since she discarded and about 6 weeks since no contact and I'm focusing on myself and moving forward. Things are much better now and I will never allow her poison back into my life.
💔Watching my dad get sucked back in by my mom...he just texted me today that they were talking again, was heartbreaking. I've been through it, and I married it because I was unknowingly repeating the cycle from my childhood by marrying a man just like my mom. I know what my dad is going through right now. They're divorced, but he must think there's a chance of them at least being nicer to each other. She, on the other hand, will manipulate him to no end...and I can't stop any of it. I can only hope and pray he sees it before she really digs her claws into him again. And people wonder why I don't speak to my mom...she doesn't even act like I exist, and she's destroyed our family. God! I hate this!
Your response resonates with me. I cut off my narcissistic mother last year and for the first time in 40 years I feel healthy and happy. My father is a narcissist too and my siblings are their flying monkeys. One day a switch went off with me and I just didn't want to feel bad anymore. I cut them out.. it was hard but necessary. These people will never learn and never see the error in their ways.
Let it go then..it is your father, as your mother is not able to it, who is supposed to make you feel out from their behaviours..he continues with her..his problem..don't care about that anymore and they will come back to you again..but not allow that anymore.❣️.Live your life once for all..life is short..🍀🕊🌟 .
My dad was a narc. Luckily all the drama went down when I was young. my mom didnt love my dad anymore so it was easy for her to break the cycle and move on with her life after divorce. My dad is still the same. I dont talk to him and he doesnt talk to me. And I'm okay with that
If you do somehow talk to them/see them again, stay detached and be completely unsurprised by their re-contacting you. They have already shown you their real character, their real face. The mask slipped. You saw the real face. They are toxic, immature and will hurt you again with glee the first chance they get. Why start the trauma all over ? STAY AWAY. DON’T DRINK THEIR POISON
I really try to keep an open mind-I do-and I’m not disputing your theory-I just don’t know if I buy the energy thing. I’m not EVER on social media, I have never told this person my feelings about the relationship…how could they possibly FEEL energy from me? This person does ‘pop up’ after I exited the relationship, but seems very satisfied with their life. Yes, it affected me-but I never even discussed it…I appreciate your videos.
He has not left me alone I think because I have chosen to stay away and now he says he wants to be back together that he made a big mistake. I refuse to believe anything he says after I found out about the long time cheating
I broke no contact after 4 months after some bad news in my family I know stupid and now he’s in touch but saying he isn’t with someone took me out for a meal bought me my favourite flowers so I messaged him at night knowing he didn’t have his children silent treatment I know he’s with new supply and he insults my intelligence I know he’s lying asked me to go on holiday as a friend future faking, lies gaslighting blocked never to be unblocked I’m even thinking of changing my phone number
@@ericjackson-nq4hp thank you I nearly fell for it again been through this cycle for 3 years and thought I had finally moved on, he even said he didn’t want me back but missed his best friend and loves me but we don’t work !! Called me all day for a week messaged constantly day and night until his kids went home aka he’s with new supply , he has been blocked on social media for 2 years of our relationship because I didn’t want to see how many women’s pictures he was liking although I told him it hurt me he carried on, I see right through him and he pays lip service it’s taken 3 years of my life just as I was moving on had therapy back int he gym feeling great and boom a week of him I could feel myself being anxious, feeling unworthy etc but I won’t contact him again we deserve so much more
@@ericjackson-nq4hp my self esteem was very low for numerous reasons but I’ve had RTT therapy which has helped also the love of my lads and being back in the gym has helped me with confidence and self esteem, I have a great career and I am really confident at work , he changed me and I’m getting myself back it’s helps with channels like this knowing you’re not the only one to go through this, time to put ourselves first, to heal and remember it’s not us they are sick and although I live my life spiritually and I feel empathy for the damaged child not for the adult man who knows the difference between right and wrong and is a pathological liar !! And you’re right the feelings eventually go away 😊
I’ve blocked my ex on all social media, and blocked him on my phone. If I hadn’t of blocked him and his new supply/ girlfriend, I know myself and I would be torturing myself by continuously looking on their social media. I had to set that boundary with myself, and it’s helping me to heal. It wasn’t easy to do that.
After realizing she was a narcasist and hurt me really bad that I actually started having panic attacks I left her and finally said, thank you for saving my life. I didn't want to live but you gave me hope. Then I spelled out that I know everything about her, her trauma, why she does what she does. I've already taken her to Jesus Christ and she got saved. I told her to stop. Stop hurting the other men. Stop hurting the two she was already tricking into a relationship with her. Then I told her to follow Jesus Christ and study his words. Starting with the Gospel of John. I told her as a Godly man I will always love her but I enjoyed stomping the evil spirits head on a daily basis because I've been doing it for 40 years. No contact.
I'm a big fan of you. He ran away from me blaming me for the failure of the relationship. I was being jealous because he gaslight me by telling me his friends fancy him or by finding evidence of cheating. So I thought the best way to break him like he broke me is by cyber bullying stating his horrible truth on social media. Do you still think he might contact me?
@@rma3899 you are very welcome and sorry my dear.Take it one day at a time and work on your healing gradually. Some days will be good and other days will be tough but you will get through it. They are losers and will continue to live in perpetual darkness for the damage they keep causing to the people around them. Go no contact if possible and know that you are special.sending big cyber hugs 🤗
He would definitely be walking the path of shame and is not welcomed at all no communication no difference than last three years and he cannot face me he’s to intimidated because of his lies❤
I was doing good for a year ignoring the hoover attempts until one of my family members kept pressuring me to call her back. What they didn't understand and neither did I at the time was that this attempt was purely narcissistic behavior and part of their playbook. I gave in stupidly, called, and discovered I was actually blocked. That somehow got back to her and I'm sure she's indulging that supply of me finally "giving in" to her. In a sense, it's rather fake supply as I didn't actually miss her but rather just gave in to peer pressure of sorts.
They can also Catfish you. mines did & kept sexting me saying he was single (oh and much younger with a different Nationality! 🙄) My social media’s were all private of course, but the cycle repeated itself only this time tearing apart my personality, Actually ashamed of myself for entertaining the sexual fantasy involving sub/dom stuff. I even said I know who you are let’s just talk ! but he kept saying it’s ok I’m fine, don’t wanna discuss our issues….They are sick in the head!!
I'm going to take this time out to write this for the poor souls crippled with depression, I spent 2 and a half years with a full blown narc she was a liar , a thief, physically and mentally abusive. Lied about her family members dying and she also has had me charged with 2 assaults on separate occasion (charges got dropped) she was a total piece of dirt. I stuck by her whilst everyone was begging that I'd stay clear. But I was deeply and dangerously in love. Thinking about all the sentimental memories , finding her socks or even her eye lashes it was enough to have me fall back on myself and cry my eyes out because "she was suppose to be my soulmate" she threatened me she'd get me done with rape if I never let her leave my house (it was 3am and thundery night) she was vile and don't get it twisted the way I speak about her now , I'd have died for her. But there comes a time folks when it's time to do what's right by you. I took my losses for the last time after she told me her papa died which turned out untrue it was just a wake up call like this girl is a demon that possessed my soul. I should have walked along time ago but love will have you do crazy crazy things. I was a shell of myself in the end. But I'm 1 week on I've been informed she is with someone but this morning she text me saying something that was funny in our prime I just left it on read. It's not me trying to play mind games although it felt good to see her poor attempts of staying relevant in my life but I know if I took absolute pleasure in those texts I'd become invested so DO NOT feed it. I used to watch these videos with my fingers crossed that she will come back. But Jesus you couldn't pay me to go back. She was cringey af , she has no solid friends , The minute we stopped talking she'd be straight on tinder just an awful awful person to commit too. I watched all these types of videos on repeat just trying to find peace but the real peace comes when you can finally say NO. I've started a fitness class and learning to be more patient. Everyone in my circle ie my son has suffered because there were times I just couldn't function without her and I technically abandoned my time with my boy. They take everything from you, If you are convinced you're with an narc then it's inevitable you will be crushed so walk away and save yourself the embarrassment. I had zero pride or dignity left but now I'm on the rise because after all this time I finally started making plans for the future without her in it. Good riddance
Dear Hanoushka, it's not always like this.... many times they will not contact you if you ignoring them 100%; furthermore, if they have a new victim they are not going to contact you and it may last for ever (bilateral NO contact)
I thing the last wepon of narsist is making confusion...because of manipulating our belifs...!!!and if they are not honest or mystrieus that just about their identity such as their abusive intentions...!!!
Now I just got fed up with him. Drained! Did no contact , blocked ,didn't answer the phones calls I mean like 20 calls short Text messages, (which he NEVER DOES) ALL THIS IN ONE DAY!!! .I MESSED AROUND TRYING TO TURN THE BLUETOOTH OFF SO HE WOULDN'T HERE THE PHONE RING (he was outside my door calling me ! When I said hello he just said "NEVERMIND)!!! AND HUNG UP!! AND WALKED AWAY!! .II DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK NOW,!😢 WHEN THEY GO SILENT I get nervous..Can anyone relate?? What should I do???
He's not coming back. 1 year and nothing. That person does not want anything to do with me. If they come back I will come back here and post. Though it will never happen. I was just a spot filler until something better came along.
Hi dear anushka.. in order to be fair with her.. how can i be sure that she is narc!! Then to follow the real steps in being out of her reach.. . Thank you very much..
funny he dumped me to go back to his karmic ex... i blocked him but funny he keeps calling and stalking me even when he is still with his ex.. telepathy energy... eventhough i focus on them i still get calls from exes..
She said going no contact, but then explains they contact you If they can still contact via phone, social media, you didn't block them meaning you never went full no contact in first place. Is that a part of wishes they come back? You really need to investigate why you enjoy being hurt so much. Trauma Bound
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Have a funeral for your narcissist and when they contact you just ignore it because they're dead
Oh I like this one 😏
Love 💕 this lol 😆 x
The expression " You're dead to me" or basically I'm done with you applies. They're testing to see if the door is open or to get a reaction. They're manipulative, abusive, and hate being ignored. No contact equals empowerment! You're history
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Missing The Loss Of Someone That Mistreated You Is Like Mourning The Loss Of Trash - Natalie Lue podcast ♥️
Narcissistic Harems In A Nutshell ---Natalie Lue
No Contact articles and podcasts, by Natalie Lue
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by.Gavin De Becker
No Conscience by Robert D Hare
What The Heck Is Self Love? Jonathon Aslay ♥️
The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters
Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman
If The Budda Dated by John and Julie Gottman
Wow, this is suuuuch a good idea
@@Offftopic718 You bet! You deserve better. ♥️
I'm 34 days, no contact, and I feel great! I don't want him back a second time. Nothing will change, and I've lost interest. I'm a Super Empath I don't want a narricist in my life.
Keep going I am over a year and happier than ever no matter what
It's all crazy making! All of a sudden they have a change of heart after ghosting you, leaving you to pick up the pieces and figure things out for yourself after they leave! Well I did! Thanks to these videos. If I didn't come across these I would be still on that hamster wheel! I don't need that nonsense back in my life again. I have peace now you can too if you stay away from these toxic humans!
The abuse just gets worse 💯👍🤗
Great info, this is text book covert narcissism. Mine poped up several times already and I gave no response, and she will continue to do so; even when she is blocked everywhere. And with these people, there is no relationship... it is a manipulationship. Thanks Anoushka!
My ex narcissist can't spy on me I deleted all my social media even the flying monkeys can't report back!
There's always other ways ...
Well done to you. Blessings to you.
Why do you have to get off social media just block them and get on with your life without them
Yeah why should u have to do that but I am thinking 🤔 of doing it for a short while! x
I did the same
I am simultaneously both craving and terrified of her reaching out.
Totally get that it’s so hard but after letting myself break no contact I wish I hadn’t nothing had changed still full of lies
Oh god I broke it once too and two months later it was just more and more lies. Why do they come back when they don’t care about us at all? When I don’t care about someone I literally forget about them and never contact them again. These people are a sub-human category all by themselves.
Become unreachable. I made it impossible for her to contact me. Problem solved =)
I said yes to the Hoover that I yearned for. Now I am very ill. He made me fysically very sick and it can’t be cured
Sorry Marty. I often feared that too after I realized how dark he really was. Just had another bunch of tests and feel relieved. I can only imagine how devastated you are. I’m so, so sorry. If it’s what I think it is, you can still live a full life. Many people manage it with healthy lifestyle and pills. God bless.
It's been a year now, no contact! I blocked him on social media and my phone, he doesn't even know where I live! Silence is bliss...he can't even contact me! ❤
The energy thing is real. I never believed it. But now I do. Once you no longer give your energy to things that no longer matter to you, It no longer has any power over you. In the case of narcissists, they cant handle not having power over you. So they will come back. Once you learn and understand energy you can then control what does and doesn't effect you. It will give you new found confidence and you will give off a new energy yourself. Others will feel this new energy.
Unbelievable that's exactly what you say about this video
You are so right 😮.
First time 3 months after she discarded me. Like a idiot. Got suckered back in. But you start to see through all the bullshit and lies. And the same patterns start happening again, so I left. Thank God. All the messages and phone calls start again a good few months later down the line. So left them on read. And blocking her on everything for good.
Same, got discarded for the 3rd time on Valentine's Day, no more, she is blocked.
@@face2799 sorry about that mate
They will never change, never go back and always keep them on blocked
There's no end to it unless WE put an end to it. In my case my narc came back, hoovered and drew me back in. They came back with an even worse agenda than before. No-contact forever.
I absolutely love your videos. Exnarc hasn't hoovered and it has been 70-plus days. He's busy and smitten with his new supply. I'm a forgotten and faded memory. One day I'll get there too.
They completely underestimate people. They don’t have a clue.
Change your contacts and disappeared. Don't let the narcissist contact you. Leave and never go back to them.
This just happened to me. For the first time in 6 months, I was feeling whole again and like my old self after a horrendous break-up last August. I wasn't thinking about my ex at all for a couple of days - but then all of a sudden, he texted me and said "I need your help with something." He was a cheater and I caught him on Bumble multiple times when we were together. I don't think he needs help at all...I think he is baiting me and wondering what I've been up to, since I've held firm on no contact all this time.
If it’s possible please block him. Block him from everything and all flying monkeys and privatize your socials. Don’t allow him to contact you. This way you don’t have to wonder about “why” he’s contacting you, cuz he won’t be able to. Take your power back.
Yep! Sounds like he’s trying to pull at your heart strings “I need YOUR help” 🤨
I've watched a lot of people talking about narcissism in videos, and truly you are not only the best but you are very sincere and I appreciate you!
Man o man my story is epic. She kicked my ass on this battlefield called love.
I think I don’t have this problem because she doesn’t want to come back, so it’s a win win. Be gone, Satan. The power of Christ compels you!
I am dealing with a narcissist at work. I cut them off, and went total social media blackout. They had no way to contact me. While at work. I completely ignore and look through them as they don't even exist. I was out for two months to recover from surgery. The best time ever. Transferred to a new college to finish my I.T. degree.
I come back to work. The narcissist saw how everyone was so happy to see me and hugging me. I received so much positive attention from coworkers. You look at them. There is nothing but hate and rage in their face. Now their flying monkeys hoover me all day. The narcissist is playing nice to a coworker that works directly with me. So they can be near me. Still do not acknowledge their existence. Energetically, I feel the anger they have for me. So I found a better job and leaving. Can't wait to see their face. When I walk out and they know I am never coming back.
Just play pink floyd, stay zen and let karma do its job ✔️❤️🙏🤟😎👌😁😁😁
I'm not doing well. I'm pissed, because I just saw the pic of the new relationship. Yuck, but still livid. He's blocked and deleted from all social media, phone, email, etc.
No way will that worm even dare to approach me let alone try a hoover, he's remarried and I have been at peace for 9 yrs.
I am currently separated from my wife of 21 years, together for 25 since college. I have felt a constant desire to please her at the expense of my own authenticity. I do not blame her; I believe past experiences and parent modeling influenced this behavior. I am learning that I was the "empath", the "people pleaser", and the "fixer". I struggle with letting go simply because I feel that I have failed to repair the marriage. I am on day 3 of no contact. It is difficult, but necessary. Thank you for the video, very empowering.
Problem is he won't LEAVE!.
How long were y’all together
Emotions Regulated👍👍👍👍
Tell me about it ! Like there is months in between. Then u get a random, weird message like there's been no time pass or emotional abuse ..it's extraordinary.
Thank you so much for your videos. I really appreciate you! My narc returned too a month ago after I went no contact. She popped up somehow out of nowhere again. This time I know her game. Super easy to predict. Almost comical in a sad way. I know what’s going to happen before it does and i know what she’ll say and how she will react before she does. I’m always 10 steps ahead of her. No more lies and tricks. The gig is up! I got her number. Thanks again for sharing all your insight with us! You are valued and appreciated!! 🤗🙏🏼❤️
I really messed up. I moved out, went no contact for 7 weeks. I served her with divorce. Then in November she found me and lured me back in. We had been hooking up since then. We would have our arguments. We discussed getting back together. I knew it was about money. I even helped her out a little. Then we actually stopped the divorce. I even got her back the wedding / engagement ring that she pawned. At one point I took money from my savings to pay some bills and she took it and blew it in her out of work daughter etc… now I am at the house , and I feel that I am back at day one. Anxious, depressed, broke, etc… I wish I never started communicating in November 2020. I should have just left the divorce. The problem is I am addicted to her like Heroine. Every one tells me she is a psychopaths and toxic and that she just wants to destroy me. I am a wreck again. Why do I not listen?!
@@stevenkovler5133 I completely understand!! I was no contact for 3 months and I’ve been talking to her again too. 🥺🥺 she reached out and I talked to her. She always tries to get money and as hard as it is to tell her no I stand my ground. Which is a shock to her. The no contact I think was harder on me than her. I’ve never done that to anyone. I’m keeping her at arms length and waiting for the discard from her then I’m out. Then It’s on her. Is my thinking. I’m also shocking her by when she says or does anything I stand up and snap back at her and I also call her out on any and all BS!! That’s a surprise to her also. But she still hangs around. Kinda loosely. I never text or call her. I make her do everything. It may be days but I never initiate contact. She is constantly chasing me now. I have also told her we will never work out and I’m staying single for now. I see it confuses her. But I think she knows she messed up and she can see she will never get another chance with me. But truth be told I love that woman so much!! But I know it’ll never ever work. That’s a hard line right there. I’ll never return to her. I’m thinking and hoping she’s moving on now especially since she sees nothing is working on me and I closed my wallet tight. Good luck my friend!! Sincerely. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through but at the same time ive learned so much about myself and I’m growing powerful!! You will too! Believe in yourself and dig deep as to what it is YOU need that we feel they are fulfilling for us. It hurts to the core but remember… we fell deep in love….with an illusion. 🥺🥺
Day 86 no contact. My goal is to quit counting the days.
93 for me and I hope I can stop the counting also.
@@angelaboaen1166 I will pray for both of us! 🙏🏻💕
My ex narc reached out after I made it clear: only get in touch if you want the same thing as me. Weeks later, out of nowhere she reached out, only for me to learn she is just wanting to be friends. She didn't respect my boundaries at all.
She said she couldn't look past the 'issues' she conjured up out of nowhere during the 5 min voice message discard.
I said I respected her decision and let her go.
To avoid hoovers - devalue and discard in one hit. Then go no contact .
Oooo, this is going to be a good one! Let me make a 🍵rooibos tea 😊
be right back ..💗🌻
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I love rooibos omg
It’s exactly happens as you describe it. Thank you 😊
Having a funeral… I’m happy I get to hear someone else say this I thought I was crazy & being vindictive but it’s actually a thing & im healing so much better now , it feel good to know I’m not crazy or delusional
It happened to me , and all I could think was ...throw it baaack, throw it baaack . So I did .
When you break no contact, you immeidiately feel your vibrations lower
also they come back cause they are bored or have already messed up again with other people and need a quick ego boost
Thank you anoushka things make so much sense now.
Energically Beautiful 🌞
For a long time I was ever so slightly worried I'd get sucked back in if she ever came back. Fortunately, enough time went by that I healed and happen to see her in passing and she just didn't look the same to me. I had no attraction, no love, no suspicion and no interest. I had become indifferent. And that's where I want to be.
Yup, I'm done she's damned 😊
Thanks Anoushka!!❤🌹
You must've felt my energy as well.
After a whole month of no contact, the narc decided to reach out with just a Hello in the subject line. No mgs.
Weirdest thing ever.
Good advice there.
Narc discarded me, came back because he and the main supply weren’t getting along. He triangulated. I thought we were cool again, texted him the next day No response.
@flower56 yep, well he uses me for one thing and only 1 thing! Yet tells me he loves me.
Thanks for the warning 😘
Mine is blocked on all social media and text ..9 months is longest he has ever went....but he has buffett of supply ...I'm off the buffett...they can have him..I need nothing from him..period..I may be alone but it's better than his bs..
They give you a headache
She tried a few months ago and I was starting to fall for it. She hit me with the silent treatment again and I just asked her flat out
"Are we done or not?"
The silent treatment suddenly became a purge and she pushed me away for the last time. Hopefully I never hear from her again.
Mine gave me closure and still came back ..
At the discard I kinda felt like this was another one of her games. I didn't bite. So some time went by and she hoovered me and triangulated me with the new supply (if he even exists). She twisted the knife further into my back and left me for dead. After 14 years. I've never experienced so much pain. I was in the ER twice and I'm going to go into the reasons why. Stay strong folks; you know in maybe the back of your mind that something isn't right. Don't believe the lies they tell you about you. They are damaged beyond repair. You don't have to take that on anymore.
I highly recommend a cord cutting meditation!!! However, my narc showed up at my door, that day.
I never thought I could do NC. But here I am with him blocked for 6 months!!! I was his narc puppet for NINE long years. I am pretty sure he is shocked I have not come back.
I hope he enjoys his life. I feel like I went through a demonic extraction and catapulted 10 million levels up.
I agree with watching pârt My x gf called out of nọwhere recently after i stopped all forms of Communication👍👍👍👍👍👍
Anooska I love your videos because you tell us something we couldn't work out !❤
Nobody can watch you if your not on social media. 😂😂😂😂
Thanks for the video
They contact or "try to reconnect" because they either see you as a easy source of supply or because your supply is better than what they can currently get. "for now"
I thought I was the problem they made me feel bad insecure and sad it's good to there is reason behind this toxic environment
No issue with this myself, she's definitely not returning. Can't attempt to smear someone's character and think of returning. Got arrested for a lie. That's a point of no return. Good post ❤
Coming up to 4 months since she discarded and about 6 weeks since no contact and I'm focusing on myself and moving forward. Things are much better now and I will never allow her poison back into my life.
Thankyou again. Advice I will take on board.❤
Excellent information to keep us strong and hoover-proof! Thank you very much! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
💔Watching my dad get sucked back in by my mom...he just texted me today that they were talking again, was heartbreaking. I've been through it, and I married it because I was unknowingly repeating the cycle from my childhood by marrying a man just like my mom. I know what my dad is going through right now. They're divorced, but he must think there's a chance of them at least being nicer to each other. She, on the other hand, will manipulate him to no end...and I can't stop any of it. I can only hope and pray he sees it before she really digs her claws into him again. And people wonder why I don't speak to my mom...she doesn't even act like I exist, and she's destroyed our family. God! I hate this!
Your response resonates with me. I cut off my narcissistic mother last year and for the first time in 40 years I feel healthy and happy. My father is a narcissist too and my siblings are their flying monkeys. One day a switch went off with me and I just didn't want to feel bad anymore. I cut them out.. it was hard but necessary. These people will never learn and never see the error in their ways.
Let it go then..it is your father, as your mother is not able to it, who is supposed to make you feel out from their behaviours..he continues with her..his problem..don't care about that anymore and they will come back to you again..but not allow that anymore.❣️.Live your life once for all..life is short..🍀🕊🌟
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My dad was a narc. Luckily all the drama went down when I was young. my mom didnt love my dad anymore so it was easy for her to break the cycle and move on with her life after divorce. My dad is still the same. I dont talk to him and he doesnt talk to me. And I'm okay with that
If you do somehow talk to them/see them again, stay detached and be completely unsurprised by their re-contacting you. They have already shown you their real character, their real face. The mask slipped. You saw the real face. They are toxic, immature and will hurt you again with glee the first chance they get. Why start the trauma all over ? STAY AWAY. DON’T DRINK THEIR POISON
Does that applies if they ghosted you, left you for new supply and now that relationship is over?
Yes, absolutely it does. Experienced this myself with my former female covert narcissist.
I really try to keep an open mind-I do-and I’m not disputing your theory-I just don’t know if I buy the energy thing. I’m not EVER on social media, I have never told this person my feelings about the relationship…how could they possibly FEEL energy from me? This person does ‘pop up’ after I exited the relationship, but seems very satisfied with their life. Yes, it affected me-but I never even discussed it…I appreciate your videos.
I don’t honestly believe she is watching me. Too busy with her new/old bf and other sources of supply, probably.
He has not left me alone I think because I have chosen to stay away and now he says he wants to be back together that he made a big mistake. I refuse to believe anything he says after I found out about the long time cheating
I broke no contact after 4 months after some bad news in my family I know stupid and now he’s in touch but saying he isn’t with someone took me out for a meal bought me my favourite flowers so I messaged him at night knowing he didn’t have his children silent treatment I know he’s with new supply and he insults my intelligence I know he’s lying asked me to go on holiday as a friend future faking, lies gaslighting blocked never to be unblocked I’m even thinking of changing my phone number
@@ericjackson-nq4hp thank you I nearly fell for it again been through this cycle for 3 years and thought I had finally moved on, he even said he didn’t want me back but missed his best friend and loves me but we don’t work !! Called me all day for a week messaged constantly day and night until his kids went home aka he’s with new supply , he has been blocked on social media for 2 years of our relationship because I didn’t want to see how many women’s pictures he was liking although I told him it hurt me he carried on, I see right through him and he pays lip service it’s taken 3 years of my life just as I was moving on had therapy back int he gym feeling great and boom a week of him I could feel myself being anxious, feeling unworthy etc but I won’t contact him again we deserve so much more
@@ericjackson-nq4hp my self esteem was very low for numerous reasons but I’ve had RTT therapy which has helped also the love of my lads and being back in the gym has helped me with confidence and self esteem, I have a great career and I am really confident at work , he changed me and I’m getting myself back it’s helps with channels like this knowing you’re not the only one to go through this, time to put ourselves first, to heal and remember it’s not us they are sick and although I live my life spiritually and I feel empathy for the damaged child not for the adult man who knows the difference between right and wrong and is a pathological liar !! And you’re right the feelings eventually go away 😊
I’ve blocked my ex on all social media, and blocked him on my phone. If I hadn’t of blocked him and his new supply/ girlfriend, I know myself and I would be torturing myself by continuously looking on their social media. I had to set that boundary with myself, and it’s helping me to heal. It wasn’t easy to do that.
The last time I saw my ex, he smirked and walked away from me. Two years later, a random friend request from him on FB... It's all a sadistic game 🎮
My ex wife does this ill not talk to her for days and then off of a sudden she trys sparking up a conversation I just gray rock her bow
After realizing she was a narcasist and hurt me really bad that I actually started having panic attacks I left her and finally said, thank you for saving my life. I didn't want to live but you gave me hope. Then I spelled out that I know everything about her, her trauma, why she does what she does. I've already taken her to Jesus Christ and she got saved. I told her to stop. Stop hurting the other men. Stop hurting the two she was already tricking into a relationship with her. Then I told her to follow Jesus Christ and study his words. Starting with the Gospel of John. I told her as a Godly man I will always love her but I enjoyed stomping the evil spirits head on a daily basis because I've been doing it for 40 years. No contact.
It's OK if it's no more ok it's fine not now
I'm a big fan of you.
He ran away from me blaming me for the failure of the relationship. I was being jealous because he gaslight me by telling me his friends fancy him or by finding evidence of cheating.
So I thought the best way to break him like he broke me is by cyber bullying stating his horrible truth on social media. Do you still think he might contact me?
He may or may not depends on the type he is too.They are disordered !
@@Ferrys1220 yeah. I hope he have a hard life because I'm diagnosed with PTSD after him. Anyway, thank you so much for your kind reply
@@rma3899 you are very welcome and sorry my dear.Take it one day at a time and work on your healing gradually. Some days will be good and other days will be tough but you will get through it.
They are losers and will continue to live in perpetual darkness for the damage they keep causing to the people around them.
Go no contact if possible and know that you are special.sending big cyber hugs 🤗
@@Ferrys1220 Thank you for your kindness.
Its really tough .. god knows my tears don't dry out.
Thank you so much.
Hugging you back a huge cyber hug!
He would definitely be walking the path of shame and is not welcomed at all no communication no difference than last three years and he cannot face me he’s to intimidated because of his lies❤
I was doing good for a year ignoring the hoover attempts until one of my family members kept pressuring me to call her back. What they didn't understand and neither did I at the time was that this attempt was purely narcissistic behavior and part of their playbook. I gave in stupidly, called, and discovered I was actually blocked. That somehow got back to her and I'm sure she's indulging that supply of me finally "giving in" to her. In a sense, it's rather fake supply as I didn't actually miss her but rather just gave in to peer pressure of sorts.
We are still together but I know that I have to leave
Do it very quietly with no forewarning. Ensure you have all your important documents and get a new phone and come off all social media. Good luck!
@@thrivingnow7395 thank you for the update and I will be starting to get the stuff I need
They can also Catfish you. mines did & kept sexting me saying he was single (oh and much younger with a different Nationality! 🙄) My social media’s were all private of course, but the cycle repeated itself only this time tearing apart my personality, Actually ashamed of myself for entertaining the sexual fantasy involving sub/dom stuff. I even said I know who you are let’s just talk ! but he kept saying it’s ok I’m fine, don’t wanna discuss our issues….They are sick in the head!!
Ex texted catfished photos of his son and when I asked him why, he ran.
My narcissist was supposed to be moving out two summers ago but he is still my next door neighbor.
ok what ever. i will probably react and thats ok.
Thanks!
Thank you 😊
I'm going to take this time out to write this for the poor souls crippled with depression, I spent 2 and a half years with a full blown narc she was a liar , a thief, physically and mentally abusive. Lied about her family members dying and she also has had me charged with 2 assaults on separate occasion (charges got dropped) she was a total piece of dirt. I stuck by her whilst everyone was begging that I'd stay clear. But I was deeply and dangerously in love. Thinking about all the sentimental memories , finding her socks or even her eye lashes it was enough to have me fall back on myself and cry my eyes out because "she was suppose to be my soulmate" she threatened me she'd get me done with rape if I never let her leave my house (it was 3am and thundery night) she was vile and don't get it twisted the way I speak about her now , I'd have died for her. But there comes a time folks when it's time to do what's right by you. I took my losses for the last time after she told me her papa died which turned out untrue it was just a wake up call like this girl is a demon that possessed my soul. I should have walked along time ago but love will have you do crazy crazy things. I was a shell of myself in the end. But I'm 1 week on I've been informed she is with someone but this morning she text me saying something that was funny in our prime I just left it on read. It's not me trying to play mind games although it felt good to see her poor attempts of staying relevant in my life but I know if I took absolute pleasure in those texts I'd become invested so DO NOT feed it. I used to watch these videos with my fingers crossed that she will come back. But Jesus you couldn't pay me to go back. She was cringey af , she has no solid friends , The minute we stopped talking she'd be straight on tinder just an awful awful person to commit too. I watched all these types of videos on repeat just trying to find peace but the real peace comes when you can finally say NO. I've started a fitness class and learning to be more patient. Everyone in my circle ie my son has suffered because there were times I just couldn't function without her and I technically abandoned my time with my boy. They take everything from you, If you are convinced you're with an narc then it's inevitable you will be crushed so walk away and save yourself the embarrassment. I had zero pride or dignity left but now I'm on the rise because after all this time I finally started making plans for the future without her in it. Good riddance
Dear Hanoushka, it's not always like this.... many times they will not contact you if you ignoring them 100%; furthermore, if they have a new victim they are not going to contact you and it may last for ever (bilateral NO contact)
I dont see why she would want to contact be again since dhe was the one that discard me and got a new supply
and with this - think of it as your daily shitty job, they will make you react and thats the way it is :)
I got clout chased real badd 😂
I thing the last wepon of narsist is making confusion...because of manipulating our belifs...!!!and if they are not honest or mystrieus that just about their identity such as their abusive intentions...!!!
1 month no contact and he will never contact me again he's good with he's new supply
Why they say they will get therapy/ help!???
They’ll use the therapy sometimes to get even more evil !
Now I just got fed up with him. Drained! Did no contact , blocked ,didn't answer the phones calls I mean like 20 calls short Text messages, (which he NEVER DOES) ALL THIS IN ONE DAY!!! .I MESSED AROUND TRYING TO TURN THE BLUETOOTH OFF SO HE WOULDN'T HERE THE PHONE RING (he was outside my door calling me ! When I said hello he just said "NEVERMIND)!!! AND HUNG UP!! AND WALKED AWAY!! .II DONT KNOW WHAT TO THINK NOW,!😢 WHEN THEY GO SILENT I get nervous..Can anyone relate?? What should I do???
He's not coming back. 1 year and nothing. That person does not want anything to do with me. If they come back I will come back here and post. Though it will never happen. I was just a spot filler until something better came along.
Hi dear anushka.. in order to be fair with her.. how can i be sure that she is narc!! Then to follow the real steps in being out of her reach.. . Thank you very much..
funny he dumped me to go back to his karmic ex... i blocked him but funny he keeps calling and stalking me even when he is still with his ex..
telepathy energy... eventhough i focus on them i still get calls from exes..
Yep I'm going through the exact thing. Narcs are truly all the same
It’s been only 12 days and already feeling vampire stop sucking my energy
I have mines private
She said going no contact, but then explains they contact you If they can still contact via phone, social media, you didn't block them meaning you never went full no contact in first place.
Is that a part of wishes they come back? You really need to investigate why you enjoy being hurt so much.
Trauma Bound
How can you do when you Married
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Thanks what a great information! 🫶