Stop tolerating people who constantly disrespect you. The response to disrespect is to walk away; and keep walking. Remain silent, and have no contact. Space + Time + Silence = Healing. You owe them nothing...Not a damn thing.
70 year old grandmother here, survived Cancer and multiple surgeries. Narc still tried to destroy me. These people are incredibly Evil!. I was incredibly abused and neglected as a child and could not imagine treating anyone so horribly, so I disagree they were abused. They are inheritantly evil at birth.
There are actually no scientific evidences that NPD stems from childhood trauma. It is just a widespread hypothesis and actually the most scientific evidence seems to disprove this. Their lack of empathy is a reflection of a different brain hardwiring and funcioning.
Believe me when I tell you, it just takes time go no contact give yourself plenty of time to heal. Don’t stay stuck you’ve outgrown them learned to self love stop being a people pleaser user empathic ability for good the people that deserve it.
Great comment...You've outgrown them! Let's make this the year where these sad creatures are exposed for all to see. I do feel sorry for some of them but that has taken most of what I have in every sense and I can't say it every day. 🙏
I was completely blindsided! She took away my access to credit cards and a joint business account. She ended up stealing and ultimately destroying our family business. She smeared my name all around the neighborhood and in the business community. When I found out what she was doing, and had been done, I said to her “ you had this all planned, and did all of this right under my nose, didn’t you“? “ Then I said to her “you set me up!” She turned her coward face the other way…. Damn!
That is unfortunately how they operate. I even realized that the trap was set from the git go, long before the relationshit ended. I saw the pattern with my "father" destroying my mother. They really do operate all the same way like they would be robots programmed by the same programmer.
@@Chercheure_Indépendante although I’m not sure if NPD is a fixed disorder, It appears to be just that. The patterns are consistent and the methods of controlling others used are pretty much the same. And we all seem to end up with the same or similar “emotional issues“ as a result…. 🤯
@@peterknyk1942 I agree with 98% of your comment. Here is the 2% exception: though the mental health world considers this as a disorder, I don't. Now this being said, the mental health world would agree with you 100%. I mean, they don't need my pity and they are not going to. However you can disagree with me, I have no problem with that.
They definitely feed off your supply of thinking about them, esp if they are telepathic at all which many narcs are. I have gone back and forth about this from I should avoid dwelling on him, to allowing myself mostly the last 6 months. I am finally moving on more. I feel like I've learned so much about narcissism and seen what he was actually doing. So now i'm shifting to anytime I think of him, redirecting my thoughts to myself. I think we all need that in order to heal. Learn to NOT think about them and think about ourselves. But I certainly allowed myself to ruminate for a long time. Now I feel just finally done with that stage.
@@springfauna1465 my ex was and I've heard its common among narcs. They are actually very tuned into what others think or feel but they only care about using it to have power and control. 'JT' has a channel about narcs and videos about this subject. I never would have believed in telepathy until experiencing things with my ex that were much more than coincidence. They also tend to go after all sorts of dark practices. I can feel his energy when he's thinking of me and I know he can when i think of him. He's much more sensitive though where he knows what ppl are thinking or saying at times. So I am SURE he has been feeding off knowing i'm thinking of him a lot. That is what they want is for you to not move on. I'm am finally ready to move on and training my brain to not think about him.
Spent 31 years taking care of my ex and our four children. She found a man half her age and worth far more than me, money wise, and she devalued and discarded. The last thing she said to me, was "I wish I had aborted our first child and never had a life with you". Fast forward a year later and she has sent me a text saying she has learned so much and that she is sorry for what she did. I think she is sorry, because her children barely talk to her, she lives with an alcoholic roommate and has to work three jobs to maintain the lifestyle/spending habits I used to help support. All said and done, it's still hard not thinking that a relationship with her, might just work this time. Even though I'm happier and stress free now.
Two things I remembered is that I used to ask if he was ok? A lot! As if he was most important not to upset. He also loved to shame his loved ones cuz I don't think others cared. Moved on Thank you Ancestors❤
7:40 They want your energy, EVEN HATE WORKS for them. I see. I'm not going to heal unless I do as if he's on another planet already. I guess I'm getting there, I just have to continue in that direction. Of course, I understand that I do not control 100% but I control 50% in this deal. I totally control my side of the deal. I guess I had to go through this to unlearn my powerlessness which came from childhood.
After he bolted 900 miles away, he said to me "I left a path of destruction behind me." A year later, he attempts triangulation with new supply and tells me he thinks she's bi-polar. From what I found about her, they are a perfect match. The Truth is he fled down a path to ruin hoping he destroyed me. I'm fine without him, blocked the phone, let go, and let God. Without me as a source to feed off or dump on anymore, I'm sure things are going to work out just as it should on his end.
Trust me Peter, that's the poison working it's way out. Forgive yourself....Its the first step to true recovery. Draw out the arrow 🙏 and treat the wound. You will recover!
My first narc relationship was 17 yrs and 3 kids, but it the last 5 were brutal, I only looked at improving myself, I had no idea I wasn’t the problem, she was, up until this last breakup with another woman. I did the same thing, internal reflection, what can I improve in myself etc, until I stumbled on a narcissist how to sort of video. WOW. Opened my eyes. I’ve been down the rabbit hole of am I the problem, what do I need to fix twice now, I was lucky this time. I’ve answered so many questions because this is still fresh, 4 wks now. Everything was always my fault. But I learned enough from the first one to have my boundaries and stand my ground and be strong in my beliefs. First one took 17+3 yrs of my life, this one has taken 15 months + 1 so far, but I know I was set up to fail and stood my ground on my beliefs, which has gotten me discarded again. But as they say, it is what it is, I’ve rebuilt myself before, I’ll do it again even stronger.
I love you Anoushka!❤ Thank you so very much for what you do ! Do you actually realize how many people you are guiding through healing and making them realize what has happened in their life with their relationship with a true narcissist? I didn't know the actual identification of a narcissist I just thought they were an egotistical man I didn't realize that a woman was capable of so many evil terrible things You have educated and enlightened you should be very proud of what You do Thank you again I look forward to your videos everyday You have guided me through the darkness to the light 🙏bless you
Mine left me soon after she blew up on me over a meet up and me parking my car ordeal. It did not effect her at all. She straight out told me she was in a great mood leaving church serve day and knew as soon as i didnt park my car where she was parked it was the start of her day being ruined and she fought the whole day to not let me or her aunt steal her joy. More stuff got said but that was one of the first things said to me when she finally resoonded to me days later after she raged on me. Then she had belittled me after that accusation and days later up and broke up with me coldly then later added more excuses to it of her biblical nature. She was sent to me, to wake me up but i wouldnt here his voice and join the calling with the rest of us is how it was worded. So she washed her hands etc etc
guess it took a really low blow to get me finally push away from my ex narc friend. She was really getting off on that she was feeling like shes doing better than me while I was going through some depression and she wasn't really helping my situation, she in fact tried to be sneaky about it, making me feel worse with bread crumbling so she could go around telling ppl nonsense about me, that I'm needy and being jealous of her having better life, a house, healthy pets (you don't wanna know what she does to sick ones) and has a boyfriend :D Unfortunately for her, I found out what she was doing and how low she really thinks of me, its as if she was kicking me when I'm already so down. I cut ties and contact right after processing the situation. I even tried put myself in her shoes and think how lame she is, how I am in so many things better than her.... it didn't really give me any satisfaction. It just felt childishly pathetic and a waste of time making myself look better than other people. I don't even think about my other ex friends. I just wanna do my thing and have a friend to talk to and that's what I'm doing~ Knowing how low she really thinks of me was all the closure I needed to move on
Could you improve the audio quality? The sound is annoying and makes it difficult to pay attention. The content is the best! Thank you for your effort to bring us much important information.
...there is no shortage of Anoushka--you got access to 1,500+ videos for free. She ain't changing s**t with that music. Personally, I don't think it is ever loud enough.
How about ..you meet someone..you think you are talking to the real them...but.. actually talking to Nick Fiend...not actually the real Nick Fiend...just the Narc impersonation of them...a kind of personality Cosplay....the whole time i never met the real them ..the Narc dont want love..dont want to be themselves..they hate themselves and are at their core unlovable...they believe they are unworthy..hate your kindness...hate anything wholesome....to really love them is to walk away ....truely sad and heartbreaking..but nothing will ever get them to love you..
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Stop tolerating people who constantly disrespect you. The response to disrespect is to walk away; and keep walking. Remain silent, and have no contact. Space + Time + Silence = Healing. You owe them nothing...Not a damn thing.
Amen to that 👏👏
Amen!!!!!
Perfectly said 🇨🇦
Amen!
Absolutely 💯 💯
This lady is sooo right! I don't even need closure now like I did in times past. KNOWING IS CLOSURE! THERE'S NOTHING TO GO BACK TO. IT'S ALL A DREAM.
Thats dam right
Right I'm fed up
I'd describe it as a nightmare
70 year old grandmother here, survived Cancer and multiple surgeries. Narc still tried to destroy me. These people are incredibly Evil!. I was incredibly abused and neglected as a child and could not imagine treating anyone so horribly, so I disagree they were abused. They are inheritantly evil at birth.
Mom is a survivor too. Strong women persist in these parts.
You should fit in right at home here.
Cheers--
a far flung son.
EXACTLY 💯 This is NOT all about child abuse. I was abused as a child too. These people are evil and the demons know they can enter and escalate it!
I completely agree!
There are actually no scientific evidences that NPD stems from childhood trauma. It is just a widespread hypothesis and actually the most scientific evidence seems to disprove this. Their lack of empathy is a reflection of a different brain hardwiring and funcioning.
Believe me when I tell you, it just takes time go no contact give yourself plenty of time to heal. Don’t stay stuck you’ve outgrown them learned to self love stop being a people pleaser user empathic ability for good the people that deserve it.
Great comment...You've outgrown them! Let's make this the year where these sad creatures are exposed for all to see. I do feel sorry for some of them but that has taken most of what I have in every sense and I can't say it every day. 🙏
I can not be in another narcissistic relationship ever again. My soul can’t take any more abuse. I need healing and peace. Please respect my request.
There is FINAL discard they don’t always come back.
You will never love them!!! Once you have SEEN...it's all over from there!
I have No thoughts of competition with NO ONE!! It doesn't even cross my mind. Not once
I was completely blindsided! She took away my access to credit cards and a joint business account. She ended up stealing and ultimately destroying our family business. She smeared my name all around the neighborhood and in the business community. When I found out what she was doing, and had been done, I said to her “ you had this all planned, and did all of this right under my nose, didn’t you“? “
Then I said to her “you set me up!”
She turned her coward face the other way….
Damn!
There EVIL!
That is unfortunately how they operate. I even realized that the trap was set from the git go, long before the relationshit ended. I saw the pattern with my "father" destroying my mother. They really do operate all the same way like they would be robots programmed by the same programmer.
@@Chercheure_Indépendante although I’m not sure if NPD is a fixed disorder, It appears to be just that. The patterns are consistent and the methods of controlling others used are pretty much the same. And we all seem to end up with the same or similar “emotional issues“ as a result…. 🤯
@@peterknyk1942 I agree with 98% of your comment. Here is the 2% exception: though the mental health world considers this as a disorder, I don't. Now this being said, the mental health world would agree with you 100%. I mean, they don't need my pity and they are not going to. However you can disagree with me, I have no problem with that.
@@peterknyk1942 Yeah, like they all went to the same school of hard knocks.
They definitely feed off your supply of thinking about them, esp if they are telepathic at all which many narcs are. I have gone back and forth about this from I should avoid dwelling on him, to allowing myself mostly the last 6 months. I am finally moving on more. I feel like I've learned so much about narcissism and seen what he was actually doing.
So now i'm shifting to anytime I think of him, redirecting my thoughts to myself. I think we all need that in order to heal. Learn to NOT think about them and think about ourselves. But I certainly allowed myself to ruminate for a long time. Now I feel just finally done with that stage.
I've never heard that they're telepathic. Did you read this somewhere? Just wondering.
@@springfauna1465 my ex was and I've heard its common among narcs. They are actually very tuned into what others think or feel but they only care about using it to have power and control. 'JT' has a channel about narcs and videos about this subject. I never would have believed in telepathy until experiencing things with my ex that were much more than coincidence. They also tend to go after all sorts of dark practices. I can feel his energy when he's thinking of me and I know he can when i think of him. He's much more sensitive though where he knows what ppl are thinking or saying at times. So I am SURE he has been feeding off knowing i'm thinking of him a lot. That is what they want is for you to not move on. I'm am finally ready to move on and training my brain to not think about him.
Where attention goes energy flows. They feel this energy.....Loving yourself more than you love them works wonders in breaking the spell 💖
@@juliecarrick8693 it's hard to know who is thinking of who first with this
Some don’t leave a crack, some go full on block mode and tell you it’s over and discard. That is also a scenario. Some never return, good for us.
Spent 31 years taking care of my ex and our four children. She found a man half her age and worth far more than me, money wise, and she devalued and discarded. The last thing she said to me, was "I wish I had aborted our first child and never had a life with you". Fast forward a year later and she has sent me a text saying she has learned so much and that she is sorry for what she did. I think she is sorry, because her children barely talk to her, she lives with an alcoholic roommate and has to work three jobs to maintain the lifestyle/spending habits I used to help support. All said and done, it's still hard not thinking that a relationship with her, might just work this time. Even though I'm happier and stress free now.
Dont be an ass. Stay well clear. For your own good. Its the trusty old tits and tears routine. DON’T fall for it!
Don't kid yourself
@@dub1951 Yep... I've grown a lot over the last seven months and escaped that trauma bond.
Control is the powerful weapon the narcisist use, they are very expert in it.
Not if she is blocked....knowing what she is was the closure I need...im healed...and I'm moving forward...
OMG so toxic !! those people are so insane... scary
Word by word👍🏻
We DONT belong to satan! Period
Oh I'm living a happier life without him I smile daily
Here first!🎉excited for this video Anoushka!
Two things I remembered is that I used to ask if he was ok? A lot! As if he was most important not to upset. He also loved to shame his loved ones cuz I don't think others cared. Moved on Thank you Ancestors❤
7:40 They want your energy, EVEN HATE WORKS for them. I see. I'm not going to heal unless I do as if he's on another planet already. I guess I'm getting there, I just have to continue in that direction. Of course, I understand that I do not control 100% but I control 50% in this deal. I totally control my side of the deal. I guess I had to go through this to unlearn my powerlessness which came from childhood.
After he bolted 900 miles away, he said to me "I left a path of destruction behind me." A year later, he attempts triangulation with new supply and tells me he thinks she's bi-polar. From what I found about her, they are a perfect match. The Truth is he fled down a path to ruin hoping he destroyed me. I'm fine without him, blocked the phone, let go, and let God. Without me as a source to feed off or dump on anymore, I'm sure things are going to work out just as it should on his end.
You are so good, and so spot on, I love you, you are making me feel like I'm not nuts. Thank you!!!
Exactly.. This is what im doing...Thinking about her. Worrying blaming myself..
Trust me Peter, that's the poison working it's way out. Forgive yourself....Its the first step to true recovery. Draw out the arrow 🙏 and treat the wound. You will recover!
My first narc relationship was 17 yrs and 3 kids, but it the last 5 were brutal, I only looked at improving myself, I had no idea I wasn’t the problem, she was, up until this last breakup with another woman. I did the same thing, internal reflection, what can I improve in myself etc, until I stumbled on a narcissist how to sort of video. WOW. Opened my eyes. I’ve been down the rabbit hole of am I the problem, what do I need to fix twice now, I was lucky this time. I’ve answered so many questions because this is still fresh, 4 wks now. Everything was always my fault. But I learned enough from the first one to have my boundaries and stand my ground and be strong in my beliefs. First one took 17+3 yrs of my life, this one has taken 15 months + 1 so far, but I know I was set up to fail and stood my ground on my beliefs, which has gotten me discarded again. But as they say, it is what it is, I’ve rebuilt myself before, I’ll do it again even stronger.
Thank you. Knowledge is a powerful thing.
BRILLIANT😘🙏🏼
Thank u God bless you
Mine said “Don’t contact me anymore” I don’t think I got anything to worry about
I love you Anoushka!❤
Thank you so very much for what you do !
Do you actually realize how many people you are guiding through healing and making them realize what has happened in their life with their relationship with a true narcissist?
I didn't know the actual identification of a narcissist
I just thought they were an egotistical man
I didn't realize that a woman was capable of so many evil terrible things
You have educated and enlightened you should be very proud of what You do
Thank you again
I look forward to your videos everyday You have guided me through the darkness to the light
🙏bless you
After divorce she told me she was hopeful we could start new to keep me stuck
Mine didn't wait until the divorce 😂
Don't do it bro! I am telling you right now don't . You will regret it
At this point, I think I would just like to tell my story to someone that’s been through it, and understands. It’s been five years of hell.
No doubt...i believe you...
Your awesome i need a woman like you
I love your content so much! I always have to fast forward though to bypass the club music at the beginning.
Anoushka, I think this is the wrong video uploaded. It is the same as “In the end the Narcassist always does this” from yesterday 😊
Oh yeah you’re right
Yep,taken me a hell of a long time to get there but i finally am !
My ex used me to get a apartment for me to move me to another state just to show a side of herself tgat I was not expecting
🖤🖤🖤
Mine left me soon after she blew up on me over a meet up and me parking my car ordeal. It did not effect her at all. She straight out told me she was in a great mood leaving church serve day and knew as soon as i didnt park my car where she was parked it was the start of her day being ruined and she fought the whole day to not let me or her aunt steal her joy. More stuff got said but that was one of the first things said to me when she finally resoonded to me days later after she raged on me. Then she had belittled me after that accusation and days later up and broke up with me coldly then later added more excuses to it of her biblical nature. She was sent to me, to wake me up but i wouldnt here his voice and join the calling with the rest of us is how it was worded. So she washed her hands etc etc
Shared ❤
A shallow empty black hole has nothing to give you back..cause it's empty
guess it took a really low blow to get me finally push away from my ex narc friend. She was really getting off on that she was feeling like shes doing better than me while I was going through some depression and she wasn't really helping my situation, she in fact tried to be sneaky about it, making me feel worse with bread crumbling so she could go around telling ppl nonsense about me, that I'm needy and being jealous of her having better life, a house, healthy pets (you don't wanna know what she does to sick ones) and has a boyfriend :D
Unfortunately for her, I found out what she was doing and how low she really thinks of me, its as if she was kicking me when I'm already so down.
I cut ties and contact right after processing the situation.
I even tried put myself in her shoes and think how lame she is, how I am in so many things better than her.... it didn't really give me any satisfaction. It just felt childishly pathetic and a waste of time making myself look better than other people.
I don't even think about my other ex friends.
I just wanna do my thing and have a friend to talk to and that's what I'm doing~
Knowing how low she really thinks of me was all the closure I needed to move on
Could you improve the audio quality?
The sound is annoying and makes it difficult to pay attention.
The content is the best!
Thank you for your effort to bring us much important information.
Trying to explain how a narc behaves to a normal person is difficult...
👍👍👍
They lie ,lie, lie. Bye Bye,💪🏻🇨🇦
No im not doing what the hell he wants omg!
The music lasts too long, I've been hurt by a narcissist and just need to hear you!
Grow up for gods sake get a grip !
...there is no shortage of Anoushka--you got access to 1,500+ videos for free.
She ain't changing s**t with that music. Personally, I don't think it is ever loud enough.
Eric...I agree with you. Some people are so petty.
Cheers @@Bob-zh6dw
If all goes as planned,
we're all gettin' together again
tomorrow. I will see you there--
get some rest.
Eric...I'll be there. C U tomorrow
Nej Anouska jeg er ikke deres slave de kan få kommentarer fra andre ikke her. God dag 🙂
You spent the whole video talking about the Narc rather than what the title saids.
God I HATE the background music. It competes with the message. I bailed
How about ..you meet someone..you think you are talking to the real them...but.. actually talking to Nick Fiend...not actually the real Nick Fiend...just the Narc impersonation of them...a kind of personality Cosplay....the whole time i never met the real them ..the Narc dont want love..dont want to be themselves..they hate themselves and are at their core unlovable...they believe they are unworthy..hate your kindness...hate anything wholesome....to really love them is to walk away ....truely sad and heartbreaking..but nothing will ever get them to love you..
I didnt conform to his religious beliefs...so bye bye
Pretty childish I no they are he's man acts kid puts down everyone also is was discard and then
Just unfollow and live your best life !