Why the sexual pull to the narcissist is so strong

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  • Опубликовано: 20 янв 2025

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  • @queenbee7074
    @queenbee7074 2 месяца назад +26

    Ive realised to be abused by a narcissist means that you have a lot of healing to do. If we are easily infatuated with bread crumbing and mind games it means we have a lot to heal within ourselves . The narcissist cannot win over a grounded, secure and emotionally confident person

  • @mmm091000
    @mmm091000 9 месяцев назад +102

    It’s a very dark energy ‘the spirit of Jezebel’ I believe this has a strong spiritual pull ! The female narcissist i know is a master seducer. Another wonderful vid thanks Anna.

    • @martyc2637
      @martyc2637 9 месяцев назад

      She oozed sexuality.

    • @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972
      @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972 9 месяцев назад +12

      Don’t forget the dark male incubus and female sucubus

    • @mzion4686
      @mzion4686 9 месяцев назад +2

      Amen!!! I was just thinking about THIS.

    • @hibiscushoney3759
      @hibiscushoney3759 9 месяцев назад +4

      Some have the incubus or succubus attached to them. Seen it in 2 experiences

    • @HospitalForSouls.X
      @HospitalForSouls.X 9 месяцев назад

      That’s why my narc is obsessed with me. I’m a female narc, so I think he’s falling for the same game. He respects me as an equal and he’s definitely captive to my looks. I see him watching me all the time from his police cruiser. He wants me to see him studying every inch of my curves. I’d like to know what it would actually do to him if I seduced him. He’d melt.

  • @teresahunt5521
    @teresahunt5521 9 месяцев назад +150

    Once you decide you're done, you realize the sex wasn't all that great. It was a performance and they were the star. You were just an extra on the set.

    • @DennisIsadore
      @DennisIsadore 9 месяцев назад +5

      I can see that from a woman victim's point of view

    • @teresahunt5521
      @teresahunt5521 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@DennisIsadore It was certainly true in my case. Now he realizes that we had great chemistry and I could blow his mind in bed. I loved him very much and it was a gift I gave him. He's having trouble replacing me but he burned this bridge. While he had me, he treated our relationship like a game. I made him feel so good about himself.....and I felt like $hi+. I'm fine once I stepped back and looked honestly at the situation. He doesn't understand why things can't go back to the way they were, but he has no interest in changing things

    • @leegorringe5580
      @leegorringe5580 9 месяцев назад +5

      Soooo true and so SICK❤❤

    • @Mav3rik28
      @Mav3rik28 9 месяцев назад +3

      Spot on

    • @skybengal
      @skybengal 3 месяца назад +10

      Gosh so true. I looked back and the penny dropped. She was acting. It wasn’t natural and I saw when she said love you she was emotionless. So sad really. Been scammed.

  • @JanetNewnes
    @JanetNewnes 9 месяцев назад +95

    It’s so weird! That happened to me! I never felt that way about anyone else!

    • @patriciaburnett7199
      @patriciaburnett7199 9 месяцев назад +2

      Happy to be here from Virginia.

    • @carolinaromero4877
      @carolinaromero4877 9 месяцев назад +5

      Me neither. Don't know why 😢😢

    • @vickibazter3446
      @vickibazter3446 9 месяцев назад +2

      ✔️

    • @drcarltonames1826
      @drcarltonames1826 9 месяцев назад +1

      My dad passed in January and the person that I’m talking about wants to go to Chicago and coordinate with her best friend after my dad‘s celebration of life that’s when I knew that she didn’t care for me
      And I called her my soulmate. We’ve been together for five years long-distance relationship and I would have done anything for her and when she came to visit me two weeks after I got from Chicago, she got flowers for Valentine’s Day and didn’t even give me accept sympathy card so that right there let me know that she wasn’t thinking about me when she was planning to go hang out with her friends after my dad‘s celebration. What do you think ?
      And didn’t even take her flowers and balloons back from my house. Have to come to see me when my dad passed away a few weeks after I got back from Chicago, including that having a sympathy card and saying I forgot when I asked her about it a week later, I got a sympathy card .
      And a week after I told her that I didn’t want to speak with her no more and I didn’t want her around my family when the celebration of life happens in July and I haven’t heard from her in about six weeks nowp

    • @michaeliorio1115
      @michaeliorio1115 9 месяцев назад +7

      Same here. It was the craziest thing I have ever experienced.

  • @monicag3943
    @monicag3943 3 месяца назад +22

    So true. Even at 7 weeks with no contact, I still think about him a lot and missing the person I thought he was. My heart still hurts, but I know there's no going back.

    • @susanmayell5707
      @susanmayell5707 3 месяца назад +2

      But the person you love...DOES NOT EXIST.

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 3 месяца назад

      ​@@susanmayell5707the person exists , the mind does not

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 3 месяца назад +1

      Same .I miss him 13th week of ghosting me

    • @somethingbambi875
      @somethingbambi875 2 месяца назад +2

      Try 10 months. He is having a baby in 2 months... one year after our only night. I wish I never met him. Asking God why!

    • @Xxaaaassyyyan
      @Xxaaaassyyyan 2 месяца назад

      @@somethingbambi875 @monicag3943 🥺💔

  • @wietskesteijger4288
    @wietskesteijger4288 3 месяца назад +27

    I experienced it. It is very strong. Almost obsessed. I am over it but wow. Trauma bond, charm, their intensity.

    • @kenishahammond3935
      @kenishahammond3935 2 месяца назад +1

      Facts!

    • @renehalstead3522
      @renehalstead3522 2 месяца назад

      Absolutely. It’s like a Drug. He is still consuming My Mind. Because We’ve known each other for so long, I was so comfortable with Him.He Love Bombed Me over 11 years with His Words via Text long distance. I finally let the walls down. And I wanted Him. BAD. I wanted to wait until his next trip down and then I was ready for the Fireworks to Explode! He’s 3 1/2 hours away and maybe it was too much effort to “court” me? He was rude to me by text one night on the phone when I was sick with the flu. and I thought, “F You!). Just thought it, mind you. But then I stopped texting and calling. He did the same! Then started flaunting this New Supply on His Facebook. Probably for Me See.
      I’m Very Sexy Hot for My age and kind. I have A lot going on. Home Chef, Fitness Guru, Own my own Salon, have a couple Rental Properties. I have so much to offer a Relationship. He is making me feel so inadequate. So Foolish! What was I thinking?! I I I wasn’t! He’s not the First Narcissist to Love Bomb Me. I had to Go Looking for all the Books I had gotten for the Malignant Narcissist I was with for 41/2 years, several years back. I guess I was Rusty!

  • @Fionaspeople
    @Fionaspeople 9 месяцев назад +52

    That’s what happened to me and one of the reasons I stayed so long. I was so sexually pulled to her even tho she rarely returned the favor. I’ve never felt that way towards anyone. still struggle with it at times but realizing what she is has made me lose a lot of attraction.

    • @tinapizzo6349
      @tinapizzo6349 3 месяца назад

      I don't sleep with him anymore. We have been married 15yr with a 11yr old girl and he is making her the same way. I can't stand it. She has no feelings it's all about gimmy gimmy it's crazy he won't make her do anything to teach her to better herself. I have nothing now trying to help myself . Figure a way out . He took everything. Money car daughter ect. I'm Stück

  • @arthur.phoenix
    @arthur.phoenix 9 месяцев назад +37

    *Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, and tolerance, optimism, joy in the other’s achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain. -Fred Rogers*

  • @vickibazter3446
    @vickibazter3446 9 месяцев назад +67

    They make you feel ecstasy at first. ❤

  • @NoLuvv-Holly
    @NoLuvv-Holly 3 месяца назад +29

    Something very strange… I’d think of him and literally he would call me…weird… I’ve also never been so pulled sexually to another in my 40 yrs🤦‍♀️… I can’t even think of anything sexual with anyone else and I’m sick of it! This video really has my brain flowing 🙏💯💕

    • @joenowak8186
      @joenowak8186 10 дней назад

      I literally cannot even be with anyone else intimately anymore...my covert exwife was the my last time and I cannot give myself to anyone else

  • @sototallyover2359
    @sototallyover2359 9 месяцев назад +69

    It's all an act-it's why the relationship will never work. The honeymoon period was never real. It did happen-it just wasn't real.

    • @susanmayell5707
      @susanmayell5707 3 месяца назад +3

      Exactly

    • @renehalstead3522
      @renehalstead3522 2 месяца назад +3

      Thank you. I keep Trying to Tell Myself that. What’s hard, is the Collapse of the “Shared Fantasy “.
      You mean, I’m Not all those Wonderful Things???!!!!! I’m Not Beautiful, kind and Smart? The Best Thing that’s EVER Happened Him?!!”"

    • @renehalstead3522
      @renehalstead3522 2 месяца назад +2

      Yes. I Know I am. Just Not to Him.
      Can’t I Go in for just a little Taste?! 😅 ha ha!
      Just Kidding…… Maybe if I Block Him. That will make it FINAL in My Heart.

    • @sototallyover2359
      @sototallyover2359 2 месяца назад +1

      @@renehalstead3522 Block him, you probably are beautiful, kind, and smart. Once they get you to go all in-they don't want you anymore. I don't understand it either.

  • @cherylmcelman6648
    @cherylmcelman6648 9 месяцев назад +19

    Your videos have helped with my healing 110%. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It’s been a difficult 10 months, but I feel like I have finally come out the other side and have reached indifference❤

  • @217truthseeker
    @217truthseeker 5 месяцев назад +26

    So intense, yet so void of truth, so intoxicating, yet so empty, so promising of satisfaction , never delivering, I come to the conclusion they have mastered the art of lust in its darkest form. Pure slavery, I have exhausted all sexual experiences with my ex borderline. The more I gave in, the more death entered my soul, with a insatiable appetite for more, there is no casual sex, you will reap the void in your soul. You become one with their darkness which equals pain, pain, pain. Truly I would rather be alone the rest of my life or die than to be intimate with a bpd or npd..

    • @seratoninmanagement6360
      @seratoninmanagement6360 3 месяца назад +5

      This reads more like art. I feel the pain in your power and your process ... weather you meant it to be artistic or not it is beautiful and I relate so very much. 🖤

    • @nathanielgates2863
      @nathanielgates2863 Месяц назад +2

      Very poetic, thanks.

  • @vincentferguson2601
    @vincentferguson2601 9 месяцев назад +21

    The strangest thing.. to hear someone talk of MY narcissist and know all her sexual guile and manipulation and behaviours. Drawn in knowing I had some attachment issues myself and reassured and seduced and made, yes made to fall in love - I couldn't help it - and then to be left high and dry and confused and questioning my mental self. And so I reached out to one of her former partners and heard his story mirror mine to a T. Then after no contact to be drawn in and in and captured again in her spiders web of deceit, lies and mistrust. I'm forever bonded as I've never felt love like it, she has my heart but not my soul. I understand what she is and what a fool she made of me.

    • @donald7188
      @donald7188 9 месяцев назад +2

      She told me her ex tried to put her in the trunk now I understand why this is a very dangerous game he was not stronger than I am but I still think about her but I do know the no contact for 4 months

    • @donald7188
      @donald7188 9 месяцев назад +4

      Never going back

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 3 месяца назад +3

      I think she has your soul, not your heart .

    • @loveisthedrug3579
      @loveisthedrug3579 3 месяца назад

      Your story sounds exactly like mine. I can't get over the jackass. It hurts every day

    • @joenowak8186
      @joenowak8186 10 дней назад

      I echo the same story...i had an ex contact me and 2 years previously to me....he still sounded trauma bonded and so affected by her...he sounded like me. I married mine....she destroyed my person, my life, my relationship with my kids, lied lied lied, smear Campaigns.....but if she showed up here, I would probably get pulled right back in

  • @GoogleUser-pc6tu
    @GoogleUser-pc6tu 9 месяцев назад +91

    For me , it’s the mysterious side of them that keeps me ruminating. Logically , that’s why they’re so toxic .

    • @deb2319
      @deb2319 9 месяцев назад

      its your mysterious side you want to explore, BUT there is a BIG HUGE WIDE BUTT so this is toxic negativity mindset. not healthy. Find Health and The Mind Follows. Peace.

    • @ritapeters1330
      @ritapeters1330 3 месяца назад +1

      True 💯

    • @susanmayell5707
      @susanmayell5707 3 месяца назад +4

      Yes . I found it very interesting after I realized what he is. They are pathetic and when they see you smirk it hurts them! 😅

    • @JumpWatsonYT
      @JumpWatsonYT 2 месяца назад +8

      Yes they have do have that mysterious side but once I figured out his true colors I am repulsed

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 2 месяца назад +1

      This!!! Their pattern is always the same but so illogical.

  • @RM-hk9xn
    @RM-hk9xn 3 месяца назад +8

    So true , this happend to me . Then the sudden withdrawal of intimacy for days , sometimes months . And then they’d come back . But by then I’ve detached . So guess they play themselves , always .

    • @joenowak8186
      @joenowak8186 10 дней назад

      My covert exwife would sleep next to me every night and not touch me for 45 days. I started keeping track on the calendar. 2 weeks after our honeymoon i had to ask her why she wouldn't have sex with me her HUSBAND.

  • @judy33354
    @judy33354 9 месяцев назад +11

    Love the highlights in your hair! Beautiful

  • @sleepydoppy8516
    @sleepydoppy8516 9 месяцев назад +39

    And I went in hook line sinker and the whole damn fishing pole

    • @EricMcnaughton-en8eu
      @EricMcnaughton-en8eu 9 месяцев назад +6

      This happened to me. Just anchor,motor,and the whole boat,trailer.

    • @elmaswanepoel1598
      @elmaswanepoel1598 7 месяцев назад +4

      Me too

    • @sleepydoppy8516
      @sleepydoppy8516 7 месяцев назад

      @@elmaswanepoel1598 I’m sorry you went through this.

    • @maycambridge9481
      @maycambridge9481 4 месяца назад +2

      ​@@EricMcnaughton-en8eu Me too the whole ocean and land too lol

  • @seankay8137
    @seankay8137 9 месяцев назад +70

    Most narcissist seem to be physically, very attractive people.
    Perhaps they learn to use their looks from an early age to manipulate people and master their technique as they get older.

    • @lovepeace8918
      @lovepeace8918 9 месяцев назад

      Yes I agree, well that is when we are young, but I know I'm ugly as hell now fat, and late 40's. But yes being very attractive, intelligent, and a warped personality applies to me and my friend she is so hot, in her early 30's always teases me, comes then goes. Its also about buying her the beer too lol. when I was young being chased, I had people buy my beer, for sex. So yea now I'm buying the beer for her, and can't wait to get some with her. Just afraid I will like it too much, and she will with hold sex, or get pregnant, damn...so I been trying to hook up with other people, even though I really want her more than anyone. She looks like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, so hot, pretty smile, thin, but everything is about her, everything every minute it's exhausting, but I can be that way too lol.

    • @slaughterkvng3886
      @slaughterkvng3886 9 месяцев назад +1

      True I've always been told I'm handsome since a young age. I use my looks to lure and capture victims without them knowing.

    • @HospitalForSouls.X
      @HospitalForSouls.X 9 месяцев назад +1

      Absolutely yes. I’m a female narcissist. I remember being nine years old, delving through the recesses of Google, looking for “how to seduce men” and “how to be beautiful.” By the time I was out of high school, people considered me a swan, and I had droves of men getting obsessed with me.
      I’d say I peaked in my mid twenties…I’m 28 now, so I’m definitely living in the glory for sure.

    • @seankay8137
      @seankay8137 9 месяцев назад +2

      Guys please, you're freaking me out with these comments.😳

    • @donald7188
      @donald7188 9 месяцев назад +2

      This happened to me for 7 years

  • @flying_finn
    @flying_finn 9 месяцев назад +9

    I've been having issues dealing with someone and found your videos a few days ago. I had for so long been confused about why I continued to feel the way I do and why they reacted the way they did when I realized over a year ago that it was all a game to them and I went no-contact. They tried their hardest to get me fired from my job (we were co-workers) by complaining to HR with things like "He parks beside me all the time", where I only parked beside them a couple of times over 9 months as I didn't know which car was theirs and used the closest empty space. In the end I realized that I had to look after myself and left that job. My stress and some health issues went away pretty quick. A lot less anxiety and depressive episodes now and I am so much better off.
    I look forward now to the newest videos and learning not only more about myself but also her. I worried for the longest time that I was a narcissist since it seemed like that is how they were portraying me. I do understand that I have some tendencies (as do almost everyone in some form at some time) that stem from childhood trauma from my parents but I am not even close to what actual narcissists behave like.
    I am thankful for your videos and am grateful for my healing journey now on its way.

    • @yaradagloria4940
      @yaradagloria4940 3 месяца назад +1

      All I can say, I am so glad we all can ventilate those so hidden feelings of inadequacy those princes and princesses of darkness brought to our lives. May God keep our memories sharp so we can remember what they did to us, so we will never repeat that experience ever again ! Enough of those people destroying lives after lives.

    • @evilstorm5954
      @evilstorm5954 3 месяца назад +1

      Stay strong brother👍

  • @janfinale2039
    @janfinale2039 9 месяцев назад +29

    My experience was more complex & disturbing with the ex I recently left, going "no contact" after exposing his first outburst of rage - out of the blue, with the most gutteral sounding bellow😳 I too had been overwhelmed with the unexplained sexual intensity, passion & lust I was feeling - like nothing before (& I've had my share of partners in my 69yrs). Even though I wasn't initially attracted to him physically, he quickly became the best lover I'd ever had, and was my 1st foray into a (Demonic) Narcissitic relationship. On two occasions, when we were intimate his eyes became glowing almond shaped, almost blinding, his slender body became rock hard & muscular, while his face morphed into a smiling Satan - like I was being welcomed into the DARK side. I had to close my eyes in fright & disbelief - feeling like I was engaging with the Devil - both euphoric & disgusting. There seems to be very little information on the unbelievably unsettling topic of Demonic sexual interaction.

    • @Lenak2266
      @Lenak2266 9 месяцев назад +17

      They are possed by the darker entities ! They turned away from the light a long time ago !✨🕊✨

    • @chill_rollamerica7436
      @chill_rollamerica7436 5 месяцев назад +8

      I felt the same the second time we were intimate, it frightened me, but then completely forgotten, but I remember it now.

    • @evelynshrum4790
      @evelynshrum4790 4 месяца назад +8

      His voice sometimes was so smooth and seductive. Then the soft touch it was magical. Then I started to feel this very heavy dark presence. One evening I had these four word's appear You Don't Belong Here appeared. The next day I started packing moved out and never went back !

    • @notaclue822
      @notaclue822 3 месяца назад +2

      How creepy.

  • @extremecars2024
    @extremecars2024 9 месяцев назад +8

    Ask Anoushka you are 100% right I tried to pick everything apart that you talked about and you're right every single time it's so hard to move on

  • @DennisIsadore
    @DennisIsadore 9 месяцев назад +110

    It's WITCHCRAFT.

    • @martyc2637
      @martyc2637 9 месяцев назад

      She told me she was a white witch (good witch). Intoxicating

    • @Geminifly
      @Geminifly 7 месяцев назад +12

      I agree 100%

    • @clintonnagy1662
      @clintonnagy1662 3 месяца назад +6

      As strange as your comment sounds, I agree 100% because many unexplained things happened since I met my first narcissist 12 years ago. She was a Romanian witch. I didn't find out till later. She practiced witchcraft, smoked weed and Crack. She also was psychic. I can type a list of things that explain the bizarre occurrences you wouldn't believe. My ex wife is the only one that believes me, because she saw stuff she can't explain either. YES...witchcraft is the answer for a narcissist's behavior. Oddly enough, every relationship I'm in starts and ends the same way. I'm reliving the same emotional trauma over and over. They say in HELL, a person suffers endlessly by torture. Example: Limbs, ripped off and grow back just to suffer the same pain forever, skin melted off by external fire, and grow back and start over. You see what I'm saying. I feel I'm suffering the same condemnation in every relationship for my leaving marriage to pursue a narcissist.

    • @DennisIsadore
      @DennisIsadore 3 месяца назад +16

      @@clintonnagy1662 I personally believe that the only way to end that cycle (and I have been in the same situation repeatedly also) is to go to God and confess it and take full responsibility for those choices without blaming the narcissists. WE made the 'bad choices', they were simply the 'bad choices' that WE chose. If we don't take responsibility for OUR part, the cycle continues... (and, don't even blame them for being what they are. That's for God to deal with and it's not our concern. Our relationship with God is OUR only concern.)

    • @SuperSokol7
      @SuperSokol7 3 месяца назад +7

      Spiritual war

  • @leahostevens4859
    @leahostevens4859 9 месяцев назад +19

    Ive been apart from my ex for two and a half years and lately I’ve been thinking of him sexually.. not sure why..because I in now way want him back. He’ll never change… he caused me a lot of heartache… and I have no interest in dealing with that again.

    • @Tov-h3v
      @Tov-h3v 4 месяца назад

      Some do Love Spells,and Wichcraft... JazzyT.

  • @alexcabaangable
    @alexcabaangable 9 месяцев назад +26

    I'm still not totally free from him. But I'm trying to be strong and outsmart him. But it's hard really.

    • @yaradagloria4940
      @yaradagloria4940 3 месяца назад +1

      Don't try to " auto smart" him. He is not smart. He is stupidly mean. And hopefully you will never be mean like him. It takes a tail and a pair of horns to be narcissistic.

  • @arthur.phoenix
    @arthur.phoenix 9 месяцев назад +7

    *Like # 158* If you are "falling in love" for the first time this may be difficult to see or understand simply because it is your first time, it is all new, and you are uncertain of where boundaries are, you may not know how to set boundaries or even know why you need boundaries. Every sports game has boundaries. Boundaries can help keep you safe: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially. Having mature and/or experienced friends, good communication where you can talk things out, talk things through, someone who may help you see thing more clearly. Good books, good movies, soulful music may also help give some advice, bring clarity and/or guidance.

    • @darlamckinnon4546
      @darlamckinnon4546 9 месяцев назад +1

      You may not even know a boundary is.

    • @arthur.phoenix
      @arthur.phoenix 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@darlamckinnon4546 This is true, especially when it may be a person's first time this is why I mentioned a few examples. We also have our intuition that may tell us, 'Something doesn't feel right'. But this cautionary feeling can be overlooked because we haven't had enough experience to learn to listen to it, and act upon it. But this is how we develop ourselves and boundaries. Smile. *Don't be scared. Be prepared.*

    • @ms.ozywood5618
      @ms.ozywood5618 3 месяца назад

      ​@@arthur.phoenix NICE!🌻😊

  • @jozillagorilla117
    @jozillagorilla117 13 дней назад

    Thank you for talking about this. I haven't seen other narcissism channels talk about this yet, and I have watched quite a lot. It's something I have been struggling with. After I caught her sleeping with her boss she refused to move out for about a half a year. I had no way to force her, we were married with children. During that period I became hyper attracted to her sexually. To my shame, I gave in to her and slept with her a few times. It made me feel like worthless garbage afterward, but my body was physically heating up around her. When I finally got the guts to say I didn't want it anymore, she said we were going to keep sleeping together forever. I said we weren't as long as she was sleeping with other men. I'm ashamed of that, too. I should have just said we weren't ever doing it again.
    Well, we've been divorced for a little over a year amd she has tried hoovering tactics 5 or 6 times even though the guy she cheated with is now her boyfriend. Texts and calls trying to evoke sympathy for things. Trying to start conversations with me as if we're friends. She even told me she might die because something might be wrong with her kidneys. Thank the lord I have seen the content on narcissism or I might have fallen for it. She used to get me with that kind of stuff while we were married so I would praise her and console her all of the time. But, the worat thing I'm dealing with is her clear sexual advances. When she picks the kids up for the weekends, she shows up with cleavage and done up, and she stares at me. When I pick them up Sunday morning (I am the primary guardian, if you were wondering) she comes out of her trailer and stares at me in nothing but a bra and sweatpants or no bra in a thin tank top. I try not to look at her, but I can see her from the corner of my eye. I haven't given in, but I still desire her. I've tried my best not to let her see that, but I wonder if I've failed because she hasn't given up yet. I'm struggling with it. I'm dreaming about her still. I thought something was just wrong with me alone. Thank you for putting a face to it and saying that I'm not alone in the struggle.

  • @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972
    @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972 9 месяцев назад +11

    It’s like HE has a Spell on me and every time I go to leave , I can’t get away ! He says he has no “gifts” ( I do….) and I feel he’s put a spell on me amd has for years

    • @Tov-h3v
      @Tov-h3v 4 месяца назад +2

      It's said the Narcissist has a soul tie on the other,there can be Trauma bonding,some are putting Love Spells,too. JazzyT.

    • @maycambridge9481
      @maycambridge9481 3 месяца назад

      How do they put a spell though I'm curious to know

    • @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972
      @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972 3 месяца назад

      @@maycambridge9481 it’s not hard to do spells

    • @eduardomendoza5749
      @eduardomendoza5749 2 месяца назад +1

      It’s Witchcraft or Voodoo

  • @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972
    @KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972 9 месяцев назад +5

    First Anoushka - LOVE ur hair like this !

  • @dawnmalleva
    @dawnmalleva 2 месяца назад +1

    I'm so grateful that I was educated about narcissistic behavior when I met the one who started off w love bombing...and promises to change in church...but thankfully I listened to the Holy spirit & guarded my heart so when their alter personality revealed and his attempt to flip the script & twist our story and on with the demon behavior I was quite firm in ordering him & his dark spirits to leave & never speak to me that way
    Then I found your channel
    Yup you've literally disected my last 2months and my last 30days has been quite peaceful without his presence and constant mood swings and "blackouts"as an excuse for not taking accountability for saying promises or the bad stuff
    You're very educated

  • @severetruth4063
    @severetruth4063 9 месяцев назад +2

    I love your channel and your great insight and knowledge/wisdom. You are so beautiful inside and out Sweetheart.

  • @brysonmartin5405
    @brysonmartin5405 Месяц назад

    Thank you for a very eye opening expose on why my life married to a narcissist was so difficult. Thank you!

  • @LinMeulen
    @LinMeulen 2 месяца назад +2

    It was the only moment i felt sort off love. It was strong. Took me a long time to fully be detache from him.

  • @reneeboehm558
    @reneeboehm558 9 месяцев назад +7

    Your hair looks great !!!

  • @beautypablotamarini7315
    @beautypablotamarini7315 9 месяцев назад +3

    As kid, I knew very weird man, with veryyyy odd behaviour.
    Now, after decades, when I met narc, his sexual attraction and warm-cold game, I recall that man from childhood.
    They are exactly same.
    I don't want to tell what that old man was(most disgusting, I latter findout).
    That fact, that similarity, made my strong distant from narc.

  • @MikeL-7
    @MikeL-7 4 месяца назад +2

    I’ve been three years clear thanks to Anoushka. As soon as the narc appears out of nowhere to rehoover I am so nonplussed that’s it’s bewildering for them. Instead of ruminating on them I taught myself to yawn any time they came into my mind.

  • @Bluesky-f2n
    @Bluesky-f2n 9 месяцев назад +9

    I was so sad, but now I think I am lucky that it did not get to that point. I was very attracted but I said no, so he ghosted.

  • @MrNatural73
    @MrNatural73 9 месяцев назад +25

    GET OFF THE DATING APPS. THE LEACHES FROM HELL INFEST IN THEM. Go Dancing. FACE TO FACE.

  • @debbysmith7129
    @debbysmith7129 Месяц назад +1

    That how it was with me. ( the big game) and I sure got damaged. And it takes long time to recover.

  • @mathews0618
    @mathews0618 5 месяцев назад +14

    Its trauma, straight up. The trauma has you looking for something to soothe its pain and the narcissist was supposed to be your safe space. I barely wanted sex with my ex because of the stress. Once she betrayed me, all i wanted was sex with her. People will say they are not evil but messed up people but you tell me how someone knows what they are doing is that terrible and they do it anyway and give it a definition. I'll say evil

    • @dalekennish4561
      @dalekennish4561 Месяц назад

      I was legit jus saying the same words in my head as I approached your message 😂 So true tho.. it's inhumane, almost punishable by Death! 😊

  • @ghaili1175
    @ghaili1175 4 месяца назад +5

    Love bomb first and yes thinking about him.

  • @ritapeters1330
    @ritapeters1330 3 месяца назад +2

    Yes is a phenomenon, and it is true 💯 so intense and I lost myself in him, constantly on my mind

  • @WalksfortheSoul77
    @WalksfortheSoul77 9 месяцев назад +18

    Yeah the sex was the only good thing about the relationship, so it hooks you in that way. Also, I think they know they have nothing else to offer you in terms of love or giving of themselves in anyway, so they use seduction and then pulling away to keep you wanting more. The ex was also very physically affectionate because again words and emotional affection were not going to be the way they win you over, at least not after the honeymoon period. They can't keep up that niceness for long periods anymore. When I think back on the things he said he would do, it was often said in front of someone else to impress them about how great he was to me (supposedly). Then he never did it, whatever it was. Just empty talk.

    • @seanharrison6437
      @seanharrison6437 7 месяцев назад +2

      I’ve never known anything like it 👍👌🇬🇧

  • @Jeff-xs1do
    @Jeff-xs1do 9 месяцев назад +6

    Exactly what happened to me ,Heartbroken 💔

  • @lisalambert81865
    @lisalambert81865 9 месяцев назад +15

    But they have sexual issues, they cut you or or pull back so you advance so they feel needed, but what about you?

  • @CowdreyPatrick-hf4vn
    @CowdreyPatrick-hf4vn Месяц назад

    The worst part for the narc is to give them marching orders then tell others about their non performance. Being at a separate address from you confirms the truth about them

  • @Narc999
    @Narc999 9 месяцев назад +8

    I’m totally broken, she just left me and has gone into a relationship with her boss and is posting how much in love she is. She rejected me sexually and is sleeping with him in his office, he’s on his own with her, doors locked and blinds shut, she’s also moved in within. It’s finished me off

    • @MikeOrange-bb5sv
      @MikeOrange-bb5sv 9 месяцев назад +9

      I understand man but remember if she truly is a narc she can’t commit to anyone and doesn’t understand what love is. Matter of time before she moves on from this guy too.

    • @seankay8137
      @seankay8137 9 месяцев назад +9

      Let him have her. They will eventually destroy each other and Karma will get them both.
      It may take a year or two to heal but your life will become calmer and one day you will be at peace with yourself.
      I'm eighteen months no contact and each day I feel a little stronger. If I can do it, you can to.

    • @HANZELVANDERLAAY
      @HANZELVANDERLAAY 9 месяцев назад +4

      Give it a yr or two...u will be stronger and more worldly...gluck

    • @MegaRockstar48
      @MegaRockstar48 9 месяцев назад +2

      Came out of similar mate on the 10th Jan. She had a new guy within days after we had been together for two years. Just think of the abuse you went through when you’re thinking about the good times. Write it down so you can visualise it, it does help

    • @jonpullar3364
      @jonpullar3364 9 месяцев назад +2

      The boss will be the next target, money, power, no love, I can pick up on narcissists now, they are everywhere ✌️👍

  • @raidenewalden4354
    @raidenewalden4354 4 месяца назад +2

    We have a lovely time together . The chemistry is so strong from my side and so his side that that keep as close . Even now that the affection from his side is gone but for me everytime I hug him just made me full asleep so quickly.He likes it when I hug him . This is what keep us still together even I said no to him in a lot of times

  • @WorkingProgress17
    @WorkingProgress17 3 месяца назад +2

    I didn't have sex with my ex and we had separate bedroom. I did not feel a sexual pull to him. What I felt was repulsed. He thought he was depriving me of affection but I didn't try either and wasn't interested. This made it easier for me not to care who he was cheating with and it also helped after the discard. He had to discard me because he refused to leave for three years. Regarding the sex when we did have sex years ago, he was terrible in bed. It wasn't fulfilling at all.

  • @cathielynn
    @cathielynn 3 месяца назад +1

    He's told me we have a deadly attraction..he calls us fire and ice... I justified that I'm using him also... it's deadly!

  • @steenkristensen6351
    @steenkristensen6351 9 месяцев назад +3

    Skønne Anouska jeg er enig med dig. God dag Anouska 😉❤️👍

  • @markkenta3077
    @markkenta3077 Месяц назад +3

    My ex had 5 personallys five different women aweek crazy 😊

  • @annaleoni8316
    @annaleoni8316 8 месяцев назад

    Another great video it helped me realize what I was going through thank you so much ❤

  • @LiddleLioness
    @LiddleLioness 6 месяцев назад +21

    Pretty sure it's because their demons

    • @KoldTurkey
      @KoldTurkey 3 месяца назад +5

      There is no doubt in my mind you are right...its completly a demonic heartless calculating and cruel spirit 100%

    • @anthonybaroni3285
      @anthonybaroni3285 3 месяца назад +6

      I agree...it's a demonic soul tie.

    • @crossnations5026
      @crossnations5026 2 месяца назад

      I swear I saw it in her eyes. It was demonic!

  • @ST30809
    @ST30809 4 месяца назад +4

    It was the most bizarre thing I’ve ever experienced. I’m not being sarcastic here but he was literally the worst lover in the world yet I couldn’t get him out of my brain. He’s still in there six months later but I’m getting further and further away from it. (He was seriously awful all the way around.)

  • @TheAppaloosa14
    @TheAppaloosa14 9 месяцев назад +32

    It’s because it’s the only time he’s nice to you
    It’s conditioning and grooming

  • @strawberryshortcake8382
    @strawberryshortcake8382 2 месяца назад +7

    He’s the best I’ve ever had sexually. He’s so passionate, controlled and takes his time. I never thought men were like that.
    Besides that part he’s all over the place , loves game playing. Broke up with me , now wants me back because he knows I’m talking to someone.
    He is my poison. ☠️. I will break away from his seduction that he’s able to put on me. Never had anything like that in all my years.

  • @Gavin-ec2re
    @Gavin-ec2re Месяц назад

    I am just starting to get it, it's like there so ugly inside, thanks for the help, i will let you no how it goes, lov gav

  • @DEEJOJOHNSON
    @DEEJOJOHNSON 3 месяца назад +1

    I have been sleeping with my narcissistic wife for 11 years. It's not easy to just turn it off like a light switch

    • @BornSixx
      @BornSixx 2 месяца назад +1

      Tell me about it I was was with mine for fourteen years we're separated now and she still can't resist the fact she have feeling for me still

    • @DEEJOJOHNSON
      @DEEJOJOHNSON 2 месяца назад

      @BornSixx my narcissistic ex-wife, asked if we could be friends and keep sleeping together 🤦🏾‍♂️

  • @Bob-zh6dw
    @Bob-zh6dw 9 месяцев назад +2

    What happened with the LIVE today?

  • @martinback187
    @martinback187 3 месяца назад +3

    Sigma empath here, I played my narc 😄 But I still miss that crazy demon

  • @michaelmiller648
    @michaelmiller648 2 месяца назад +5

    Why was the sexual pull toward the narcissistic ex so strong, but the sexual pull toward the current partner that treats her with respect is barely a fraction of that?

    • @sbella6719
      @sbella6719 2 месяца назад +1

      It's the toxic push and pull dynamic. Doesn't happen with someone who loves and respects you.

  • @meloneymoore8856
    @meloneymoore8856 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you sooo much for explaining this 💫💫💫-Xclusyph Icon

  • @southernexposure123
    @southernexposure123 2 месяца назад

    You describe them in a way they seem like an empath. Its enigmatic because some coaches say a narcissist has no empathy. Do their seductions work on people who are empathic? There is a difference between someone who is an empath and someone who is empathic

  • @beawarenar
    @beawarenar 8 месяцев назад

    My dear sis Anushka luv ❤ to u my sis. Thanks for educating and opening the eyes of victims 🙇‍♂️🤲

  • @morganic88
    @morganic88 2 месяца назад

    Oh yes 😢😢😢 so true indeed

  • @RayAtkins-wk9zv
    @RayAtkins-wk9zv 2 месяца назад

    I wish I heard this when I was a younger man it would of saved me a lot of trouble and problems now

  • @intuitivevibes1818
    @intuitivevibes1818 9 месяцев назад +3

    I don't feel sparkles or the feelings like this is fate or from past life. Its not about them lovebombing but overall how we click together. I had with no one such a good banter as with these. Also its like normal people they either dont see me / aren't interested or are boring

    • @HilaryYorkshire
      @HilaryYorkshire 4 месяца назад

      I bet you got on like a house on fire. Very dangerous for your mental and emotional well-being because this apparent closeness is false. Good luck.

  • @loriderewitz7213
    @loriderewitz7213 9 месяцев назад +2

    Is Anoushka still doing Lives on Tuesdays?

  • @NothingCompares2U
    @NothingCompares2U 2 месяца назад +1

    You can help the narcissist clearly, because they are super far gone. That never seems to happen, though. Everyone is out there looking for self change, criticism and able to correct themselves, except for the narc.

  • @ghaili1175
    @ghaili1175 4 месяца назад +4

    Yes all of the above
    Now after months, abusive verbally
    Talks about other women
    I’m getting old
    I’m stupid
    Pull me back and now want out

  • @donald7188
    @donald7188 9 месяцев назад +1

    Happened to me but l am strong praise the Most High

  • @seratoninmanagement6360
    @seratoninmanagement6360 3 месяца назад +4

    They are both the cause and the cure of your sickness.

  • @sebastianderementeria2595
    @sebastianderementeria2595 2 месяца назад

    You made me remember

  • @Lyp067
    @Lyp067 3 месяца назад

    Yes l been there as l loved her so so much. Everythink your saying is so true. Been there nearly been drawn back to love her. She hacked my phone and been watching me. She used RUclips love peom messages to catch me. As l been lonely and a Romantic at heart. So just broken off now. Alex.

  • @MarcusBurwell-mu1nu
    @MarcusBurwell-mu1nu 2 месяца назад

    I felt so bad then I came across the video and comments. My story also a men I pray for yall cuz it crazy cuz I Neva saw it comn an I think highly of my self so I didn’t think a woman would have me this way . Sick don’t understand how she could do me !!!!! Do me !!!! Like I’m nothing throw me away move on . Got so bad I knew when it was comn start a fight go missing for few days and come back a lie say she was sleeping n car a whole time cheating . Saw the convo with her new supply n the phone a still made it my fault that she cheated . They are sick people

  • @jackp.8048
    @jackp.8048 9 месяцев назад

    Hi, it's a great video but the background music is to loud. Thank you for your great content!

  • @evilstorm5954
    @evilstorm5954 3 месяца назад

    I love all the female comments projecting on us.

  • @DallasCowboys-c9b
    @DallasCowboys-c9b 27 дней назад

    ❤thank u verytru word by word i left my ex 4 good was with 4 15years of hell i had put him in jail n nothing he still think is not over but it is 4 good they are no good peole mess up ur life but is never 2 late if i can ran awY n run 4 ur life 2 be better anygirl can do it iz not life so im single back wirh my family n never i will g o back or have him in life hell no

  • @venuspsychicmasseuse
    @venuspsychicmasseuse 9 месяцев назад

    Totally

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin 9 месяцев назад +1

    🔊 THERE'S NO SOUND!

    • @alouise3557
      @alouise3557 9 месяцев назад

      Try your volume button!

  • @sleepydoppy8516
    @sleepydoppy8516 9 месяцев назад +2

    There is sound

  • @BornSixx
    @BornSixx 2 месяца назад +1

    It could happen to anyone more important if the man release his juice in the woman repeatedly the two will bond for a long time even after break up 💔 it has nothing to do with being a narcissist it depends on the way you treat sex

  • @renehalstead3522
    @renehalstead3522 2 месяца назад

    He Love Bombed Me over the course of 11 years. I recently gave in to a couple kisses but didn’t “go there” - yet.we were supposed to get back together to spend time in 3 weeks. I wanted to be intimate SO Bad. He became like a Drug. But, I felt Him pulling away. I called Him out on a couple things that were So slight to Me, apparently not to HIM! Since that- it must’ve “Injured “ Him?! He was very dismissive to me when I had come down with a Flu Bug! So I stopped texting and calling. And Never Called or Text Ne Either!
    think he expected me to get really sad and beg after him. I’am really sad, but I have too much dignity to show him. Now he’s flaunting his New Supply on Facebook. She is NOT even Cute! But! A Karaoke Runner up??!! lol!!
    It does hurt though. It makes me angry that he is constantly on my mind! It’s probably good that we didn’t have Sex. I’d probably be a real Mess! But I’m a Mess NOW! I keep desiring Him. He consumes My Mind😳I hate it.

  • @sarahkennedy1481
    @sarahkennedy1481 7 месяцев назад

    How can I get online counselling with you? How much does it cost please?

  • @dhamon-pi6os
    @dhamon-pi6os 9 месяцев назад +2

    Well now i am. Like wtf? Why you do that?

  • @suesmith7902
    @suesmith7902 3 месяца назад +2

    Yes demonic i could see it in his eyes face super energetic like the energizer bunny

  • @SquishyGrayMatter
    @SquishyGrayMatter 9 месяцев назад +8

    It is until their willy stops working bc of their unwillingness to be healthy at almost 50. 👋🏼 ✌🏼

    • @Annedowntherabbithole
      @Annedowntherabbithole 9 месяцев назад +2

      Then they play games such as withdrawing their affection

  • @alexkuieh1565
    @alexkuieh1565 2 месяца назад

    I experienced my mother in an emotional incestuous dynamic in the Liberia of the 1970s. Minus actual sexual intercourse, my long-grooming was a kind of very long-lasting "edging," in the BDSM sense of the word.

  • @thetruther954
    @thetruther954 9 месяцев назад

    Grandpa was a little strange himself, not a “normal man”. He kind of a saw a woman or a person just as the were leaving, not as they were coming in the door. You can imagine living in a time where married couples stayed together. Happy, unhappy, that is what you did. So a man who just “takes off” and leaves your Mother is quite a shame to live with. So a man or woman coming in and saying “how’s your Mother”, I mean you know how people especially kids are. That is a lot to handle. So instead you choose to see them as the leave, “goodbye buddy, glad that you stopped by. Come again”. Now I would be blushing crimson red if I allowed someone to see me. But, did the narcissist find in you the missing woman and take you all the way to climax? And looking into his eyes who’d you see there? Since, from my own experience, I know it wasn’t him. I can be an ass-hole for a woman, if she really loves it. But I want to be the one she’s making love to not somebody else. I respect you, you know I do. I guess I’m egotistic. I have to be the one.

  • @itsalpha2292
    @itsalpha2292 9 месяцев назад +1

    Hi

  • @LinMeulen
    @LinMeulen 2 месяца назад

    When you finally say no to them so no sex. You should see how they become. He went crazy and totally lost it.

  • @anitajo6471
    @anitajo6471 3 месяца назад

    OMG!😮

  • @thetruther954
    @thetruther954 2 месяца назад

    I wouldn’t say that your man was manipulative. Let me flip sexes talking to you, a woman. The thing I understand about this, is men don’t pay any attention to you. Now you’re with him. All of your men do not know you, but the narcissist does. That makes it work. But actually opening of yourself and taking him in, as you speak intimately of the moment, well that never goes very far in my mind. Not all the way. That is the problem. Because the moment of contact is like throwing ice on the fire. It brings the excitement to an end. And if that’s what you wanted, it could have been loving and warm from the beginning….where men pay attention.

  • @eduardomendoza5749
    @eduardomendoza5749 2 месяца назад +1

    It’s WITCHCRAFT AND VOODOO

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin 9 месяцев назад

    😔 I guess there's no LIVE today!

  • @suesmith7902
    @suesmith7902 3 месяца назад +1

    Hes a good lover and uses it as a tool braggs all his whores come back for more he means his abuse cruel mean because alot of men are not good lovers and he knows it

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 9 месяцев назад +1

    Next Video Reference: ":The Text Games Of The Narcissist". Good Luck. Nameste.

  • @EmanHamdy-wm4dj
    @EmanHamdy-wm4dj 2 месяца назад

    It was a sex circus & he was a real clown with alot of games & masks.
    but here is come the empath who is the real magician
    (when the empaths starve & slay the narc. demon)
    Plot twist mfs.

  • @ludeboukema4111
    @ludeboukema4111 3 месяца назад +1

    111 days of semen retention is the way for me to get real