This is, presumably the same god who allowed the narcissist to enter her life in the first place!? I think I’ll stick to the reality of the situation and leave fairytales to children...
I'm no longer on any social media platforms other than RUclips. So, no one is watching me anymore > 6 weeks no contact. I'm struggling, but staying strong.
That's not a good atitude. You should feel sorry for somebody else's inevitable pain, unless they deserve it because of their bad character, but we''re not the judge of that. Are you glad they were your headache?
@@antoinegladney6523 Dear Antoine, I'm sorry to say this, but that's an answer a narc would give. It's called deflection. I really hope you understand this.
@@netosampaio8548 , You are entitled to your opinion and I know I'm not a narc , I'm also aware of what deflection is. I know how I meant for what I said to be received, however I can't be responsible for how you decided to interpret it.
For the 10 years we were together I was a stay at home mom n it took a friend 6 months after he left to explain to me that he was taking my life source energy and that was the energy he was taking to build himself up while I DRASTICALLY and DEVASTATINGLY changed to unrecognizable. It's only been a year and I am shocked at the amazing progress and how I look and feel since he left. Literally I was diagnosed with lupus and fibromy. I had 0 energy always in pain my teeth were falling out from cracking because i was always tense and jaw clenched, my hair was falling out my weight was up and down, after I year April 20, I'm in probably the best physical health and working with determination on my spiritual and emotional. My family and few friends are constantly taking pictures and say I am glowing again and I actually see and feel it. These monsters are vile if you get away stay away!!!!!
I am totaly impressed at your ability to explain these things like no one else on the internet....God Bless you for the help you are giving to people who would otherwise be lost and confused ......the way you express things actually feels like you truly care about the wounded in relationships of this sort...not trying to sell something.....Thanks
This really is the body snatchers right? It just riminds me of the movies. I think they really are harvesting our energy. Had a dream about this stuff and I thinking wow. This is crazy. And can't stand to be around him sometimes so I just go on our balcony. To get that fresh air. Then I am like... So good. How do ppl get physically sick around there partner. Well I do. Oy. Lol
They look 👀 for the next victim while still in a situationship. I’m in the process of leaving & he’s fully aware . It hurts 😢a lot still & I still cry 😭 though I want him to move on & I genuinely feel bad sorry for the next person.
Amen. Actual, real interactions. Everything ia so fake today, the people, their lives, their experiences, emotions, just a big show, fake. I yearn for a return to realness.
One conclusion I have reached after my relationship with a narc is that they are emotional toddlers. I broke up with mine 6 months ago but the guy keeps messaging me every 3 weeks just to see if I'm "game" or to seek validation of some sorts or to see if I still miss him. He has no intention to be friends, I have not met him in person since we broke up, he doesn't want to meet but he loves to know how much control he still has over me and get a little supply (high). He didn't seem to have any problem broking up with me but he can't "disengage". I don't want to block him but it's getting super annoying.
The ex will NEVER want to see me again. His biggest mistake was telling Me I wasn’t smart enough, unknown to him I had been recording him and his rants, rages etc and when I left he found out about them from the Police as I had made a statement against him with 100 recordings as evidence. He’s now on the Police nationwide database for life. 👍 He would put all his calls on speakerphone not knowing I could hear everything, he had my replacement before I moved out and she dumped him which was of great hilarity to me at his expense as he was gushing that she was The One and so much better than me. I heard him chatting up 3 other women off dating websites the week prior to moving out and they all dumped him without even meeting him, he had been giving that HE was the victim to these terrible women. Only last week I went onto the dating website I have gone onto and there HE is and is looking for someone else. So who ever came after my replacement has dumped him too. He knows I’m on as he viewed me, but he’s actually advertising he’s on his own..he’s crazy, that’s the last thing I would have done. 🙄 He’s even lying from the get go, his photo is 15 years old…they will get a damn shock when they meet him. He’s even listed that he uses VIAGRA to great effect….no wonder he’s been on for 2 weekends, what woman wants to read that in the introduction? 🤦♀️ He’s getting desperate as he had to pay me my share of the house when I left, so now he’s got a mortgage, tens of thousands from his savings, half a house furnished and all the bills. He wants someone to move in and share the costs. You see, they do get their comeuppance. It just takes the right one to kick the feet from under them. 👍
Hi Anoushka I thought it was time to thank you for all the videos and information you have posted over the last few months, it has helped me a lot to come to terms with my toxic friendship, please keep up the good work and kindest regards from Germany Sven
That's really interesting to hear u say that Narcissist are empths to.They certainly know how to read someone's energy to,how they target their Victims. And yes, you're right..hope my ex is now, finally ,picking up. I don't give a flying F......k any longer .I know mine is exactly doing that atm,he is laying low as he knows I'm upset about something from our last contact ,well.i was but anymore. 🎉
Thank you Anoushka. Your videos are helping daily. I like that you included the energetic facet here. It is so true and with that focus it is easier to stay centered and on track. All the best to you. 12:08
After 4 decades of on again off again toxic player and alcoholic behavior I went NO CONTACT thankfully! This Empath is finally happy and moving forward Narc free and Divinely protected. God is bringing me a much prayed for true healthy giving heart Soulmate. Life is grand! TY for a beautiful reading 🙏🤗❤️😇
Oh girl! I feel you! The same. I'm definitely feeling lighter and happier. The negativity and absolute grossness of these people astounds me..add alcohol and sex addiction. Yuk.
I had to say this , THANK YOU so much for ALL the education AND SUPPORT you have given ALL of us !!! I love you and all the good you are doing for all of us !!! Thank you sooooo much !!! Big , BIG Hugs and so much LOVE !!!!
We heal when we stop feeling victims and we stop feeling victims when we realize the others are just mirrors, and are all people we subconsciously "hire" in our life to treat us the way they do just so that we realize and remember who we really are and we forgot. I believe true permanent and complete healing can only happen when we stop feeling as victims of random events, and this can only happen when we realize it is just the pain of the karmic injury we did to ourselves when we "fell" i.e. separated from the unity of all things in the spiritual realms and it is a pain that we carry from previous lifetimes in a loop of return of the same. The pain and addictions to soothe it in adulthood does not start in childhood done by parents, caretakers and repeated by partners and relationships, it started in previous unaware lifetimes we forgot which led us to be attracted and choose such dysfunctional families just like we are attracted and choose dysfunctional relationships. The proof is in the fact that often the same people who abuse us act in a totally different way with other people, because they are "hired" to play a different role with them by them. Only when such awareness is anchored it is possible to see the problem in us and not in the other mirrors and break the loop and cycle. Let’s look deep inside and admit if we are in a toxic relationship somewhere there is a wounded part in us which allowed for it to happen.
I’m so grateful to find your channel, Anoushka. And, I also wonder about the events in your life which have brought you to your knowledge. I have respect for you, and, again, gratitude because you have help me.
you are so right on the energetic chord... discarded and blocked about 9 months ago... haven't reached out, worked really hard on myself and recently i woke up one morning and i knew i have finally broken the trauma bond... he started liking with ❤ the posts that my father posts about me on his personal social media (while i am still blocked)... which i believe it's a bait to hoover myself by reaching out first... i stay in my lane but i am not sure what to expect. Also i would like to thank you for the work you are doing, you have helped me tremendously throughout this horrible journey ❤
John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I have come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly. ( Jesus)
My wife kept me stoned for 30 years, I sober up and see what she really is. At Christmas, yet another major put down at me, she didn't want to say sorry. A week it took, that was because she wanted fun new years day with the family, so she finally apologised, only because of her own selfish reasons. I told her she has nearly broken me, then this next one 4 weeks ago where she goes away with the woman she was/is having an emotional affair with (which I didn't learn about until a few days ago). My wife is a Covert Narcissist, I would like to thank you for opening my eyes and educating me personally. 33 years together wiped out, kept drugged by someone who I thought loved me. Life goes on, I'm learning that so thank you very very much
I know she is not stalking me. I have to not look at her social, because I am so physically addicted and very jealous that she may find someone else. But, she reaches out to me , needing something, money, support, help. I am sure she pawned the 3 carrot wedding/engagement ring, that I already got out of pawn once , after our first separation. I just do not understand why I miss her, go back to her and then within a few weeks of her spending all my money, verbally lashing out to me, I leave again and then I miss her !
Been there, done that brother. You can win the lottery and they will still figure out a way to make you spend everything 🤣 I was addicted to the endless sex that was available to a sex addict. You will eventually leave for good once you are tired of the endless cycle. Goodluck everyone!
I feel sorry you're still stuck. You have to break free and find ways to validate yourself. Be courageous, love yourself. Start over. Please believe me, it can be done, and when you're succeeding, you'll see the narc BS period was actually a blessing, an opportunity of growth. Painful though, very painful, but it will be worthwhile. Get yourself together and live, preferably alone for quite some time. You'll be surprised.
The problem with a narcissist is themselves and their parents and it not problem their is no get back with me or in the future, Because I know the tactics of her and is being control by demonic spirits and I have move on for good, and permanently and all the evil tactics it want work period and she got nothing coming from me period.....
Exactly Gerald I moved on and I know all of their tactics,fake lovebombing,crocodile tears,playing the victim,and worse. It's like we know your tactics,the game is over.
Finally forced an admission out of her, but literally it was still like more about me than her. She admitted the behavior. I'm still the problem. We live together and have children that are thriving.
Anoushka it has been 6 weeks since the ex narcissist discarded me for new supply caught him out with her 1 day the next day he moved in with her then he moved he away I have been struggling thanj you anoushka for all your goid videos❤
I'm 5 years in and still learning but...I will never be compliant nor a person expected to be on call again! I ask not for help in this difucalt time and...None has been offered.....That to me, says who I thought was my BF since kids...Wants me to suffer and fail. I Will Not Fail and she knows that but...Wants me to HURT!!
My doesn’t reach out he waits for the reverse hoover well it’s not coming this time he saw last time I had moved on and hoovered me back with false promises it lasted a couple of months before I walked blocked he can look at me through his fake accounts he can’t see anything but my happiness I don’t look at his and never will he definitely felt my energy shift last time and I hope he feels it this time because it will make no difference last time he emailed saying he thought I would hate him and eveytime he thought about me sad songs came on the radio that reminded him of me and made him cry and no one matched up to me it makes me laugh now
Thank you Anoushka, your genuine and clear mannerism, and the moments when a viewer can sense real experience behind a topic gives us the energy and support to carry on, becoming a better version of ourselves every day. (Please ignore my profile pic, my ex partner planted spyware on all my gadgets.) Thanks you again and kudos to you. Zoltan
It’s not an empath per definition: it means they see and copy empathy, but don’t feel it like a normal human-> they see, copy & use it against you, that’s „dark empathy“ Which of course, you’re right, it’s not a real/ true empath and not a true feeling/real
I'm off all social media and she lives 35 min away in a different town. Unless she's stalking me or hacked any of my electronics she doesn't have the slightest clue what I'm up to as we have zero mutual friends.
This is a great topic Anoushka and a perfect example why one doesn't need to seek revenge. One shouldn't seek revenge anyway. Seeking revenge through a text or phone call accomplishes this - GAME ON, REPLAY, REMATCH, OVERTIME. These amoral cretins love drama and 'hurting' other people. They live for that. Example; I'm about 6 weeks making myself unavailable. BUT, I made a mistake. However I had a moment of clarity within minutes after I sent a text. I wanted my extra house & garage keys returned. I was informed ( on Wednesday ) they would be returned to me Friday ( yesterday ) by a relative. I wasn't sure what to reply- Ok? Thank you? Got it? I said thank you and there was no reply. Red flag, warning, warning. I realized because I watch channels like this I just blew the 'game starting' whistle - let's play ! 1. I said to myself almost immediately do not have any expectations. 2. I said to myself the relative with either be late or never show up. 3. I reminded myself that IF I reacted like I did in the past - text and ask about the keys or get totally upset and text I'm upset, this is what they want. They live for any response to keep the ball rolling AND THIS (RESTART/RE-ENGAGEMENT) WILL NOT END HAPPILY on my part. 4. I settled on this then, I blocked them again and decided to just change the locks and move on. For a moment though, just for a moment I told myself, " this is bullshit, I should get my keys back and not fork out money for new locks " but then SANITY returned. BUY NEW LOCKS. Guess what? Friday came an went and no relative with my keys. I walked myself through this and diverted another crisis. It takes time. MAN, I WAS SETUP AGAIN but I didn't fall for that trap. Just move on, do what you have to do, don't expect any 'in good faith' reciprocity from them. Narcissists are monsters..... except they're not hiding under beds anymore.
"They will steal it from you." Indeed! On several occasions I conducted orchestras when not my name as a conducter was announced but the ones of the concert master or the chairman of the club as if they were conducting. That happened several times! One time I even had to go on stage under the chairman's name to receive a honering for the club. The conducter was expected to be there but the chairman gave his name to the organizers so that his name was announced. He wanted this to feel important. It's ridiculous, I always laughed stupid nonsense like this away. But that maybe was one of the mistakes of mine wich eventually led to my downfall.
I blocked him everywhere including his flying monkeys and anyone else in common. There is literally no way he knows. But, he has tried to contact me. It's like he can sense when I'm doing my thing and when not. I changed work place, and he doesn't even know where I work now.
After 9 months of hell with him not trying to co parent, a judge finally signed off an order! Im delighted its over! Since then my ex has been like a demon, firing me dirty looks at drop offs and slamming his car door, can someone explain why they get in a bad mood after everything is finally over...to ne its utter childishness for an adult to do that in front of kids
Thank you for your videos, they definitely helped me to gain more understanding on what I have been going through. You mentioned this energy attachment and narcissists being dark empaths, I was wondering if you could make a video about this topic and explained how to break this attachment with the narcissist. I have been in total NC for over a year, he's blocked everywhere possible yet I still don't feel 100% free of him, it's hard to explain. Thanks.
Ok so question .I know he's watching me. I saw him two weeks ago in person first time in 4 yrs .he looked bad. He tried to talk to me but I drove away. Now I'm waiting for the text or call. He hasn't done anything. What do you think about that.
If you have mutual acquintances chances are your NPD ex will mobilize them as flying monkeys. This can be anything from asking information about you, or organizing an event where your ex "accidentally" shows up too. Some flying monkeys can be manipulated to do the hoovering on the behalf of your ex. Some will spread the smear campaign. What I recommend is the "grey rock method". It works for me so far (7 months NC and some dodged hoover attempts). Not everybody will be a flying monkey, some people will be on your side, but I recommend being on alert and very careful what info you're sharing with whom. Stay strong!
I haven’t been feeling good lately.. things are not so well personally and professionally and I’ve been feeling nostalgic and I DONT KNOW why I think of him.. I am si scared of falling into that horrible dark place again 😭.. Is it possible that even if I blocked him he still stalks me on social media???
I dated narcissist almost for a year and I found out that he was cheating on me with his ex and 4other girls during entire relationship. Like an idiot, I forgave him. Right after that, he proposed me but we constantly fought and I decided to leave him . As I expected he found new repla ements from tinder on same day we broke up. I blocked him . During the relationship, he constantly compared me to his ex .. as if he chose to cheat because I m not good enough and crazy. Also I was not attractive like his ex.. I was so hurt. It is traumatic experience. Hope I get stronger each days..
I went through something similar.. even if they are pretty that’s not the point. The point is he is extremely toxic and will keep jumping from girl to girl
@@tulipk-h3d I went through that initial shock as well!! It gets better for sure!! No contact is the way to go!!! Don’t allow him to ever come back or he will continue to disrespect you. Focus on yourself and your growth and learning that it’s not a healthy relationship to be in something that’s so toxic! It’s tough but you can do it!
@pengyin88 thank you. Your words help me alot. I am sure I will be okay after some time. I am trying to not to think of him..as if he is not even existing. It is very hurtful when I see him happy and me being so sad
The narcissists I was dating is dead to me! I didn’t know I can meet such people and I don’t think I ever will again, because that was one of a kind pathological psycho, I don’t think that there are many on this planet with such severe disorders, so I’m very happy right now with someone I met. I’m afraid the psycho may be stalking though and would want to do something, because it turned out thats a very sad person, with psychopathy and wants to destroy everything that’s better and has more potential. Anyways that person will die lonely for sure and there is nothing he can do about it, because now he is and old and nobody would want to invest precious time on someone they don’t have a future with. The point is to grow together with someone, but if they are already old it’s going nowhere!
My ex got into my phone she inserted her email into my iCloud account and had all my info my location my pics my massage who I talk to, didn’t find out till like 6 months after and now I can’t find my evidence I only have so little of her actions she was on my security cameras I need help please
Should I be grateful that she has done absolutely nothing? Her number and messenger are blocked, obviously. She hasn't reached out to anyone I know, no letters, no form of contract. Just nothing. I would imagine that I'm lucky... but I meant so little to her that I'm not worth the hoover. Hard to tell how I feel about this.
Just because you have not detected any of that doesn't mean she hasn't attempted something like a smear campaign. I advise keeping your guard up, but don't ruminate on it. Don't allow her to occupy any of your thought energy.
it don't matter what supply or source nor subject you were , they will hoover you for the rest of their life , wait and you shall see , stay no contact at all cost , for the rest of your life , be safe ,good luck and be kind to yourself also
Even by chance she finds me, I will play the card of TOTAL STRANGER. And if she tries to say anything I will simply say that IM SORRY I don’t know who you are and that MY WIFE DIED ON MAY 4 2024 ,even though you look like her,and that I am GLAD SHE IS GONE cause she was NEVER AS IMPORTANT AS SHE THOUGHT SHE WAS. And now I have someone that has taken care of me when I got sick or hurt.
i know my ex narc still watches me because we have mutual friends on social media she stays friends with. Am I correct on that? Anyways narcs needs Jesus!!
It was Gods biggest gift removing the narc devil from your life. Count your blessings in peace!
Yes indeed Kat
This is, presumably the same god who allowed the narcissist to enter her life in the first place!? I think I’ll stick to the reality of the situation and leave fairytales to children...
Absolutely how peaceful
Amen
@@gort1959"The fool has said in his heart, "There is no GOD."
I'm no longer on any social media platforms other than RUclips. So, no one is watching me anymore > 6 weeks no contact. I'm struggling, but staying strong.
me too, close that, Horrible for those Demons
Hang in there🙏🏻. Took me a couple of years but so much better for it now, just stay strong.
@@craigbulkeley8827 Thank you... Still hanging in 🙏
Hope your doing better! Once you figure out what they are I think it makes it easier to find closure and let go.
Hang in there lovely it will get better every day .
I honestly don't go to any of the narcs pages that I dealt with, I'm just glad they are somebody else's headache now.
That's not a good atitude. You should feel sorry for somebody else's inevitable pain, unless they deserve it because of their bad character, but we''re not the judge of that. Are you glad they were your headache?
@@netosampaio8548 , I don't wish narcissistic pain on anybody. Why would I be glad they were my headache , that doesn't make sense.
@@antoinegladney6523 Dear Antoine, I'm sorry to say this, but that's an answer a narc would give. It's called deflection. I really hope you understand this.
@@netosampaio8548 , You are entitled to your opinion and I know I'm not a narc , I'm also aware of what deflection is. I know how I meant for what I said to be received, however I can't be responsible for how you decided to interpret it.
Block their phone number and watch how quickly they ask a question via your child's mobile phone number. Its almost instant.
Almost instant, once they really accept that we did block them
This is my current situation scary af.
For the 10 years we were together I was a stay at home mom n it took a friend 6 months after he left to explain to me that he was taking my life source energy and that was the energy he was taking to build himself up while I DRASTICALLY and DEVASTATINGLY changed to unrecognizable. It's only been a year and I am shocked at the amazing progress and how I look and feel since he left. Literally I was diagnosed with lupus and fibromy. I had 0 energy always in pain my teeth were falling out from cracking because i was always tense and jaw clenched, my hair was falling out my weight was up and down, after I year April 20, I'm in probably the best physical health and working with determination on my spiritual and emotional. My family and few friends are constantly taking pictures and say I am glowing again and I actually see and feel it. These monsters are vile if you get away stay away!!!!!
I am totaly impressed at your ability to explain these things like no one else on the internet....God Bless you for the help you are giving to people who would otherwise be lost and confused ......the way you express things actually feels like you truly care about the wounded in relationships of this sort...not trying to sell something.....Thanks
💖 that was lovely to read and so inspirational for people that are struggling like you were x
This really is the body snatchers right? It just riminds me of the movies. I think they really are harvesting our energy. Had a dream about this stuff and I thinking wow. This is crazy. And can't stand to be around him sometimes so I just go on our balcony. To get that fresh air. Then I am like... So good. How do ppl get physically sick around there partner. Well I do. Oy. Lol
Its called a soul tie..,,i have to pray against it almost every day. Emotional cord!
RC Blake’s Jr has amazing vids on soul ties. I actually got his book about them. Great prayers too
Devil in human shell run 🏃♀️
Eternal Hell
She defiantly contacted me Thursday at 1:05 am asking me wyd while she’s with her new supply
Energy vampirism.
Spot on
She's locked up. For the next 3 to 4 years. By the time She's out she'll be nothing but a distant memory
Find you somebody new bro you deserve to be happy. Move on with your life and level up 💪💪💯💯‼️
They look 👀 for the next victim while still in a situationship. I’m in the process of leaving & he’s fully aware . It hurts 😢a lot still & I still cry 😭 though I want him to move on & I genuinely feel bad sorry for the next person.
Stalkers yes
Yes Kay stalkers is an understatement. It's quite sickening
@@joshuaanzalone2060 Yes, frightening and deeply invasive.😏
Total block and no contact. Even blocked 1 of my sons that she had made a flying monkey out of
They always feel at their best, when we feel bad, and they feel awful when we shine.
Google gaslight by a band called travis,it's all about them narcs
Sometimes they dont watch you and thats even better!
Don’t be on social media. Communicate with your friends and family in person - like humans have always done.
Amen. Actual, real interactions. Everything ia so fake today, the people, their lives, their experiences, emotions, just a big show, fake. I yearn for a return to realness.
One conclusion I have reached after my relationship with a narc is that they are emotional toddlers. I broke up with mine 6 months ago but the guy keeps messaging me every 3 weeks just to see if I'm "game" or to seek validation of some sorts or to see if I still miss him. He has no intention to be friends, I have not met him in person since we broke up, he doesn't want to meet but he loves to know how much control he still has over me and get a little supply (high). He didn't seem to have any problem broking up with me but he can't "disengage". I don't want to block him but it's getting super annoying.
Block him ornyou will lose you mind
Block him and change number it will make him realise what he lost
Block & never look back.💜
BLOCK. I struggled with the decision too. Once I did, the games ended.
No block him. It's a must.
The ex will NEVER want to see me again. His biggest mistake was telling Me I wasn’t smart enough, unknown to him I had been recording him and his rants, rages etc and when I left he found out about them from the Police as I had made a statement against him with 100 recordings as evidence. He’s now on the Police nationwide database for life. 👍
He would put all his calls on speakerphone not knowing I could hear everything, he had my replacement before I moved out and she dumped him which was of great hilarity to me at his expense as he was gushing that she was The One and so much better than me. I heard him chatting up 3 other women off dating websites the week prior to moving out and they all dumped him without even meeting him, he had been giving that HE was the victim to these terrible women.
Only last week I went onto the dating website I have gone onto and there HE is and is looking for someone else. So who ever came after my replacement has dumped him too. He knows I’m on as he viewed me, but he’s actually advertising he’s on his own..he’s crazy, that’s the last thing I would have done. 🙄
He’s even lying from the get go, his photo is 15 years old…they will get a damn shock when they meet him. He’s even listed that he uses VIAGRA to great effect….no wonder he’s been on for 2 weekends, what woman wants to read that in the introduction? 🤦♀️
He’s getting desperate as he had to pay me my share of the house when I left, so now he’s got a mortgage, tens of thousands from his savings, half a house furnished and all the bills. He wants someone to move in and share the costs.
You see, they do get their comeuppance. It just takes the right one to kick the feet from under them. 👍
😂😂😂amazing so happy for u
@@luvphoenix956 thank you. 👍
Yes I was onto mine from the jump. Dumped him when I got fed up
Hi Anoushka I thought it was time to thank you for all the videos and information you have posted over the last few months, it has helped me a lot to come to terms with my toxic friendship, please keep up the good work and kindest regards from Germany
Sven
That's really interesting to hear u say that Narcissist are empths to.They certainly know how to read someone's energy to,how they target their Victims. And yes, you're right..hope my ex is now, finally ,picking up. I don't give a flying F......k any longer .I know mine is exactly doing that atm,he is laying low as he knows I'm upset about something from our last contact ,well.i was but anymore. 🎉
Thank you Anoushka. Your videos are helping daily. I like that you included
the energetic facet here. It is so true and with that focus it is easier to stay centered and on track. All the best to you. 12:08
Thanks Anoushka!!❤⚘
Learning with your videos!! 😊😊😊😊
They're like Shang Tsung "Your soul is Mine" (in his voice)
Tearing up right now ! You have nailed it !!!
That’s exactly what has been happening!
She is not keeping tabs on me,she knows that WE ARE “ DONE “
You're always spot on👏🏼
True Statement, very informative.
When ever your trying to make a better life for yourself there's someone trying to stop you
After 4 decades of on again off again toxic player and alcoholic behavior I went NO CONTACT thankfully! This Empath is finally happy and moving forward Narc free and Divinely protected. God is bringing me a much prayed for true healthy giving heart Soulmate. Life is grand! TY for a beautiful reading 🙏🤗❤️😇
Oh girl! I feel you! The same. I'm definitely feeling lighter and happier. The negativity and absolute grossness of these people astounds me..add alcohol and sex addiction. Yuk.
I had to say this , THANK YOU so much for ALL the education AND SUPPORT you have given ALL of us !!!
I love you and all the good you are doing for all of us !!! Thank you sooooo much !!! Big , BIG Hugs and so much LOVE !!!!
Love the advice in this video. Anoushka is such a treasure.
No contact, period!
Many thanks, you are so right.
Really interesting video. My ex has been silent since Xmas. I know I'm doing better than her!!
You are so spot on thank you
Thanks for this educational and therapeutic message. God bless. ❤
We heal when we stop feeling victims and we stop feeling victims when we realize the others are just mirrors, and are all people we subconsciously "hire" in our life to treat us the way they do just so that we realize and remember who we really are and we forgot.
I believe true permanent and complete healing can only happen when we stop feeling as victims of random events, and this can only happen when we realize it is just the pain of the karmic injury we did to ourselves when we "fell" i.e. separated from the unity of all things in the spiritual realms and it is a pain that we carry from previous lifetimes in a loop of return of the same.
The pain and addictions to soothe it in adulthood does not start in childhood done by parents, caretakers and repeated by partners and relationships, it started in previous unaware lifetimes we forgot which led us to be attracted and choose such dysfunctional families just like we are attracted and choose dysfunctional relationships.
The proof is in the fact that often the same people who abuse us act in a totally different way with other people, because they are "hired" to play a different role with them by them.
Only when such awareness is anchored it is possible to see the problem in us and not in the other mirrors and break the loop and cycle.
Let’s look deep inside and admit if we are in a toxic relationship somewhere there is a wounded part in us which allowed for it to happen.
I’m so grateful to find your channel, Anoushka. And, I also wonder about the events in your life which have brought you to your knowledge. I have respect for you, and, again, gratitude because you have help me.
Ps thank you very much for your very detailed and informative video's . 😊
you are so right on the energetic chord... discarded and blocked about 9 months ago... haven't reached out, worked really hard on myself and recently i woke up one morning and i knew i have finally broken the trauma bond... he started liking with ❤ the posts that my father posts about me on his personal social media (while i am still blocked)... which i believe it's a bait to hoover myself by reaching out first... i stay in my lane but i am not sure what to expect. Also i would like to thank you for the work you are doing, you have helped me tremendously throughout this horrible journey ❤
I am learning so much from your Videos. Thank you. Nice Greetings from Germany ❤️
Excellent video Anoushka 🥰😘
Wow, Great teaching 👍🏻👍🏻
Thankyou Anoushka
Luv ur channel
Thanks for bringing this topic🎉
John 10:10
The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I have come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly. ( Jesus)
Yep GG
Thank you for sharing.
Having my new space created the new good energy. En garde, Narc. I am ready.
Thanks so much ❤
He can’t be doing that, he’s been blocked on everything.
My wife kept me stoned for 30 years, I sober up and see what she really is. At Christmas, yet another major put down at me, she didn't want to say sorry. A week it took, that was because she wanted fun new years day with the family, so she finally apologised, only because of her own selfish reasons. I told her she has nearly broken me, then this next one 4 weeks ago where she goes away with the woman she was/is having an emotional affair with (which I didn't learn about until a few days ago). My wife is a Covert Narcissist, I would like to thank you for opening my eyes and educating me personally. 33 years together wiped out, kept drugged by someone who I thought loved me. Life goes on, I'm learning that so thank you very very much
Believe this 3 years later boom hello there how are you couldnt get over that one 🤣🤣🤣
I know she is not stalking me. I have to not look at her social, because I am so physically addicted and very jealous that she may find someone else. But, she reaches out to me , needing something, money, support, help. I am sure she pawned the 3 carrot wedding/engagement ring, that I already got out of pawn once , after our first separation.
I just do not understand why I miss her, go back to her and then within a few weeks of her spending all my money, verbally lashing out to me, I leave again and then I miss her !
Been there, done that brother. You can win the lottery and they will still figure out a way to make you spend everything 🤣 I was addicted to the endless sex that was available to a sex addict. You will eventually leave for good once you are tired of the endless cycle. Goodluck everyone!
Can I have a go 🤣
I feel sorry you're still stuck. You have to break free and find ways to validate yourself. Be courageous, love yourself. Start over. Please believe me, it can be done, and when you're succeeding, you'll see the narc BS period was actually a blessing, an opportunity of growth. Painful though, very painful, but it will be worthwhile. Get yourself together and live, preferably alone for quite some time. You'll be surprised.
Anna thanks
Amazing ❤️
Yes, thx Ana
The problem with a narcissist is themselves and their parents and it not problem their is no get back with me or in the future, Because I know the tactics of her and is being control by demonic spirits and I have move on for good, and permanently and all the evil tactics it want work period and she got nothing coming from me period.....
Exactly Gerald I moved on and I know all of their tactics,fake lovebombing,crocodile tears,playing the victim,and worse. It's like we know your tactics,the game is over.
Finally forced an admission out of her, but literally it was still like more about me than her. She admitted the behavior. I'm still the problem. We live together and have children that are thriving.
I’ve never heard Sam Vaknin refer to himself or other narcissists as a dark empath!
Anoushka it has been 6 weeks since the ex narcissist discarded me for new supply caught him out with her 1 day the next day he moved in with her then he moved he away I have been struggling thanj you anoushka for all your goid videos❤
I'm 5 years in and still learning but...I will never be compliant nor a person expected to be on call again!
I ask not for help in this difucalt time and...None has been offered.....That to me, says who I thought was my BF since kids...Wants me to suffer and fail. I Will Not Fail and she knows that but...Wants me to HURT!!
My doesn’t reach out he waits for the reverse hoover well it’s not coming this time he saw last time I had moved on and hoovered me back with false promises it lasted a couple of months before I walked blocked he can look at me through his fake accounts he can’t see anything but my happiness I don’t look at his and never will he definitely felt my energy shift last time and I hope he feels it this time because it will make no difference last time he emailed saying he thought I would hate him and eveytime he thought about me sad songs came on the radio that reminded him of me and made him cry and no one matched up to me it makes me laugh now
How are narcissits empaths if they have no empathy? I 100 percent agree with that energetic chord though anecdotally.
Thank you Anoushka, your genuine and clear mannerism, and the moments when a viewer can sense real experience behind a topic gives us the energy and support to carry on, becoming a better version of ourselves every day. (Please ignore my profile pic, my ex partner planted spyware on all my gadgets.) Thanks you again and kudos to you. Zoltan
Thank you Zoltan 😊
There. Is. No. Such. Thing. As. An. Dark. Empath
Yeah, I couldn’t agree with just that part either
It’s not an empath per definition: it means they see and copy empathy, but don’t feel it like a normal human-> they see, copy & use it against you, that’s „dark empathy“
Which of course, you’re right, it’s not a real/ true empath and not a true feeling/real
I'm off all social media and she lives 35 min away in a different town. Unless she's stalking me or hacked any of my electronics she doesn't have the slightest clue what I'm up to as we have zero mutual friends.
The Horrible part of life is at work your boss is a narc and at the house your wife or girlfriend is a narc is a living hell in the world
At the Sametime they are playing us they are playing thereselves 😮😮
I don’t really know if she is NARC but she is BPD, however, these symptoms match up too
This is a great topic Anoushka and a perfect example why one doesn't need to seek revenge. One shouldn't seek revenge anyway.
Seeking revenge through a text or phone call accomplishes this -
GAME ON,
REPLAY,
REMATCH,
OVERTIME.
These amoral cretins love drama and 'hurting' other people. They live for that.
Example;
I'm about 6 weeks making myself unavailable. BUT, I made a mistake. However I had a moment of clarity within minutes after I sent a text.
I wanted my extra house & garage keys returned. I was informed ( on Wednesday ) they would be returned to me Friday ( yesterday ) by a relative.
I wasn't sure what to reply-
Ok?
Thank you?
Got it?
I said thank you and there was no reply. Red flag, warning, warning.
I realized because I watch channels like this I just blew the 'game starting' whistle - let's play !
1. I said to myself almost immediately do not have any expectations.
2. I said to myself the relative with either be late or never show up.
3. I reminded myself that IF I reacted like I did in the past - text and ask about the keys or get totally upset and text I'm upset, this is what they want.
They live for any response to keep the ball rolling AND THIS (RESTART/RE-ENGAGEMENT) WILL NOT END HAPPILY on my part.
4. I settled on this then, I blocked them again and decided to just change the locks and move on.
For a moment though, just for a moment I told myself, " this is bullshit, I should get my keys back and not fork out money for new locks " but then SANITY returned. BUY NEW LOCKS.
Guess what? Friday came an went and no relative with my keys. I walked myself through this and diverted another crisis. It takes time.
MAN, I WAS SETUP AGAIN but I didn't fall for that trap.
Just move on, do what you have to do, don't expect any 'in good faith' reciprocity from them.
Narcissists are monsters..... except they're not hiding under beds anymore.
"They will steal it from you." Indeed! On several occasions I conducted orchestras when not my name as a conducter was announced but the ones of the concert master or the chairman of the club as if they were conducting. That happened several times! One time I even had to go on stage under the chairman's name to receive a honering for the club. The conducter was expected to be there but the chairman gave his name to the organizers so that his name was announced. He wanted this to feel important. It's ridiculous, I always laughed stupid nonsense like this away. But that maybe was one of the mistakes of mine wich eventually led to my downfall.
lol Who cares, just thought I would watch because I love you Anoushka! Thank you!
Sucubous”” is that the word the devil that draining are energy. I block so he can’t contact….
I blocked him everywhere including his flying monkeys and anyone else in common. There is literally no way he knows. But, he has tried to contact me. It's like he can sense when I'm doing my thing and when not. I changed work place, and he doesn't even know where I work now.
After 9 months of hell with him not trying to co parent, a judge finally signed off an order! Im delighted its over!
Since then my ex has been like a demon, firing me dirty looks at drop offs and slamming his car door, can someone explain why they get in a bad mood after everything is finally over...to ne its utter childishness for an adult to do that in front of kids
Thank you for your videos, they definitely helped me to gain more understanding on what I have been going through. You mentioned this energy attachment and narcissists being dark empaths, I was wondering if you could make a video about this topic and explained how to break this attachment with the narcissist. I have been in total NC for over a year, he's blocked everywhere possible yet I still don't feel 100% free of him, it's hard to explain. Thanks.
Ok so question .I know he's watching me. I saw him two weeks ago in person first time in 4 yrs .he looked bad. He tried to talk to me but I drove away. Now I'm waiting for the text or call. He hasn't done anything. What do you think about that.
What if you don’t have social media & have changed phone numbers?
If you have mutual acquintances chances are your NPD ex will mobilize them as flying monkeys. This can be anything from asking information about you, or organizing an event where your ex "accidentally" shows up too. Some flying monkeys can be manipulated to do the hoovering on the behalf of your ex. Some will spread the smear campaign.
What I recommend is the "grey rock method". It works for me so far (7 months NC and some dodged hoover attempts).
Not everybody will be a flying monkey, some people will be on your side, but I recommend being on alert and very careful what info you're sharing with whom.
Stay strong!
i would like to have a one on one session if that’s possible
I haven’t been feeling good lately.. things are not so well personally and professionally and I’ve been feeling nostalgic and I DONT KNOW why I think of him.. I am si scared of falling into that horrible dark place again 😭..
Is it possible that even if I blocked him he still stalks me on social media???
I mean Anoushka
I am not active on social media NEVER posted him never said a word about him.
Stalking, attention seeking.. a.ka. slamming car doors and horn honking, name calling, typical mentaly and emotionally stunted behi
How can they watch you on social media if you have stringent privacy settings. Makes no sense. They watch you. They can’t.
I dated narcissist almost for a year and I found out that he was cheating on me with his ex and 4other girls during entire relationship. Like an idiot, I forgave him. Right after that, he proposed me but we constantly fought and I decided to leave him . As I expected he found new repla ements from tinder on same day we broke up. I blocked him . During the relationship, he constantly compared me to his ex .. as if he chose to cheat because I m not good enough and crazy. Also I was not attractive like his ex.. I was so hurt. It is traumatic experience. Hope I get stronger each days..
I went through something similar.. even if they are pretty that’s not the point. The point is he is extremely toxic and will keep jumping from girl to girl
@pengyin88 yes I m pretty shocked . How come he moved on so fast? He proposed me 2months ago.. unbelievable
@@tulipk-h3d I went through that initial shock as well!! It gets better for sure!! No contact is the way to go!!! Don’t allow him to ever come back or he will continue to disrespect you. Focus on yourself and your growth and learning that it’s not a healthy relationship to be in something that’s so toxic! It’s tough but you can do it!
@pengyin88 thank you. Your words help me alot. I am sure I will be okay after some time. I am trying to not to think of him..as if he is not even existing. It is very hurtful when I see him happy and me being so sad
I felt uncomfortable, uneasy, and somehow like a caged wild animal when i was with her.
They are a lost cause
The narcissists I was dating is dead to me! I didn’t know I can meet such people and I don’t think I ever will again, because that was one of a kind pathological psycho, I don’t think that there are many on this planet with such severe disorders, so I’m very happy right now with someone I met. I’m afraid the psycho may be stalking though and would want to do something, because it turned out thats a very sad person, with psychopathy and wants to destroy everything that’s better and has more potential. Anyways that person will die lonely for sure and there is nothing he can do about it, because now he is and old and nobody would want to invest precious time on someone they don’t have a future with. The point is to grow together with someone, but if they are already old it’s going nowhere!
My ex got into my phone she inserted her email into my iCloud account and had all my info my location my pics my massage who I talk to, didn’t find out till like 6 months after and now I can’t find my evidence I only have so little of her actions she was on my security cameras I need help please
What I did erased all there stuff and change my number
Should I be grateful that she has done absolutely nothing? Her number and messenger are blocked, obviously. She hasn't reached out to anyone I know, no letters, no form of contract. Just nothing. I would imagine that I'm lucky... but I meant so little to her that I'm not worth the hoover.
Hard to tell how I feel about this.
Just because you have not detected any of that doesn't mean she hasn't attempted something like a smear campaign. I advise keeping your guard up, but don't ruminate on it. Don't allow her to occupy any of your thought energy.
Is this only if you were the main supply? What if you were the secondary supply?
it don't matter what supply or source nor subject you were , they will hoover you for the rest of their life , wait and you shall see , stay no contact at all cost , for the rest of your life , be safe ,good luck and be kind to yourself also
@@kevind.f.chapman9810 Even if you caused severe injury and told them to move on?
She has absolutely no way of contacting me of any shape or form
Do narcs ever work together on a target
@Anoushka, What days do you go live?
Are narcissists dark empaths??? I always thought they couldnt feel or understand empathy. Or is it learned? I don't understand ❤
They copy that they see, that’s the meaning. They don’t feel empathy like a normal human, they see how people react to certain emotions and copy it.
@@dZeNa. ahh, okey. Thank you!
they have cognitive empathy but lack in ‘affect’ ( empathy).
Even if they blocked you??
Even by chance she finds me, I will play the card of TOTAL STRANGER. And if she tries to say anything I will simply say that IM SORRY I don’t know who you are and that MY WIFE DIED ON MAY 4 2024 ,even though you look like her,and that I am GLAD SHE IS GONE cause she was NEVER AS IMPORTANT AS SHE THOUGHT SHE WAS. And now I have someone that has taken care of me when I got sick or hurt.
i know my ex narc still watches me because we have mutual friends on social media she stays friends with. Am I correct on that? Anyways narcs needs Jesus!!
I dont know how she was able to be married for 10yrs😮😮
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