Toxic friendships will pull a number on you, totally feel you I just hate that I let it get to me when I had the experience . Similar personality traits too lol I’m a Virgo, what’s your star sign? 😊
I think that the problem was really you, you had no boundaries and because of that you shifted all the work to her because you were not brave enough to confront situations so you expected her to read the room. 1.When she moved into your house you should have then and there established boundaries and listed your expectations from her. 2.The first time that your then partner decided that you guys are a trio, you should have drawn a line for them right then and there and clearly stated what you did not want to see happening going forward. 3.when she crossed those lines at the till and when she wanted to be dropped off,all those opportunities were opportunities for you to make sure to tell her no we are unfortunately not going to Kyalami there’s not enough petrol for that trip as we had not budgeted for it. 4.at the shops when she was going crazy with the shopping the responsibility was on you to say no ma’am we are not buying this, the purpose of getting in this shop is to buy small items. Very important boundaries and standing up for yourself
That’s true but I guess I was too scared to stand up for myself because I was simply not brave enough. Hoping to do better in my next friendships because this one is unfortunately now unfixable
Sana, I've been watching you the whole day😂. Why is this me😭?! But one thing about me, you gon pay these bills chile cause I ain't your mama! We gon split everything 50/50 then I'll spoil you from time to time and buy you dinner, an item of clothing if I see something that will look cute on you etc....
Hey girl....friendship break ups are the pits hey❤ I think both of u were wrong? She was wrong for everything you mentioned and you were also wrong in how you handled everything. You can not expect a person to read your mind or meet your "unknown" expectations. It is unfortunate that you wanted to make her feel comfortable and welcome, though it costed you a friend. Nna vele I struggle with expressing myself as well, i just walk away n shut ppl out and i realised, it is a toxic trait and I am working on it. As we speak i have 1 friend😢
Lol, seems like we have a similar personality. Unfortunately life doesn’t favour us when we meet people who don’t know when to stop. I’ll try to do better next time
I understand your feelings, but there is her side as well. When you are the leader in a situation (you, for having the apartment and salary), you have to understand how the dynamics are shifted, whether you want them to or not. She did some bad things from what you said and I’m sorry you went through this, but not sitting down and really talking and just acting funny towards her, will make things much worse. You did complain with non verbal ways. And this seems to be a lot about money as well. Sorry it had to end this way.
Boundaries!! Boundaries!! Boundaries!!
True
You look stunning ❤, your friend really did you dirty. You showed her kindness and she took advantage of that , I’m glad that she decided to leave.
We live and learn
Toxic friendships will pull a number on you, totally feel you I just hate that I let it get to me when I had the experience . Similar personality traits too lol I’m a Virgo, what’s your star sign? 😊
I’m definitely a Virgo too 🤣🤣🤣
I think that the problem was really you, you had no boundaries and because of that you shifted all the work to her because you were not brave enough to confront situations so you expected her to read the room.
1.When she moved into your house you should have then and there established boundaries and listed your expectations from her.
2.The first time that your then partner decided that you guys are a trio, you should have drawn a line for them right then and there and clearly stated what you did not want to see happening going forward.
3.when she crossed those lines at the till and when she wanted to be dropped off,all those opportunities were opportunities for you to make sure to tell her no we are unfortunately not going to Kyalami there’s not enough petrol for that trip as we had not budgeted for it.
4.at the shops when she was going crazy with the shopping the responsibility was on you to say no ma’am we are not buying this, the purpose of getting in this shop is to buy small items.
Very important boundaries and standing up for yourself
That’s true but I guess I was too scared to stand up for myself because I was simply not brave enough. Hoping to do better in my next friendships because this one is unfortunately now unfixable
Recently discovered your channel and I’m loving it here ❤.
Welcome to the Dollie’s gang 💖💖💖
Hence they say Boundaries
Also we teach people how to treat us yhuuuu sile le chom😢
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Hi Khanyisa, can you please explain more on how to look for a job through tinder
Got you, will do it on one of the next videos 💖
Sana, I've been watching you the whole day😂. Why is this me😭?! But one thing about me, you gon pay these bills chile cause I ain't your mama! We gon split everything 50/50 then I'll spoil you from time to time and buy you dinner, an item of clothing if I see something that will look cute on you etc....
Yuh ha.a I’m actually triggered by this story. Friendships sometimes? 😭
It almost broke me, people can be selfish out there
It's the consistency for me ❤❤
The girl is trying. Soon I’ll even post everyday 🤣
Expose this person mntase let’s see this 🐷
Hey girl....friendship break ups are the pits hey❤
I think both of u were wrong? She was wrong for everything you mentioned and you were also wrong in how you handled everything. You can not expect a person to read your mind or meet your "unknown" expectations. It is unfortunate that you wanted to make her feel comfortable and welcome, though it costed you a friend. Nna vele I struggle with expressing myself as well, i just walk away n shut ppl out and i realised, it is a toxic trait and I am working on it. As we speak i have 1 friend😢
Lol, seems like we have a similar personality. Unfortunately life doesn’t favour us when we meet people who don’t know when to stop. I’ll try to do better next time
@khanyisakhosa1496 true hey....I enjoy my peace alone lol...
I understand your feelings, but there is her side as well. When you are the leader in a situation (you, for having the apartment and salary), you have to understand how the dynamics are shifted, whether you want them to or not. She did some bad things from what you said and I’m sorry you went through this, but not sitting down and really talking and just acting funny towards her, will make things much worse. You did complain with non verbal ways. And this seems to be a lot about money as well. Sorry it had to end this way.
You are right, I hope to do better in future
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Hanwu tiva na👀👀
Lol hayi I don’t think you know her. Most of my friendships are private 🤣
Hi babe .. you were not wrong but can I ask why you didn’t sit her down and tell her your concerns
I didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. And after she lashed out on me that day at work, I kind of got scared of her in a way