How to Build Self Confidence
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- Опубликовано: 12 июл 2014
- We are all imperfectly perfect.
Ready to start your journey? You're not alone :) Here are my personal tips on how to build self confidence. It was a long, hard and sometimes painful journey, but I made it by staying positive. Best of luck to all of you who are looking to find self confidence. Just remember, beauty is a birthright. Everyone is born beautiful and unique.
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You are perfectly imperfect ❤️
thanks Michelle. ;D
This is all so true. Thanks, Mish! I really needed this today. It was just one of those days where I wasn't feeling good about myself at all and felt like it was hopeless, but this video gave me a burst of confidence in myself.
you didn't really get sued right? :'(
Why are you getting sued mish this is ridiculous
lovey_dovey123 Yeah shes getting sued. Its really ridiculous. They want to take all of her profits from all of her videos.
If you are reading this, there is no need to hide. If you think you have crooked teeth, messy hair, uneven skin, or even if you think youre not skinny enough or big enough... It does not affect how you can act. I want you to take all your insecurities and throw them away, and I want you to shove how amazing you are in the fave of people that doubt you. So rock those weird jeans, rock that thin hair, and work that big afro or your big frizzy hair. Find a way to make yourself better... and use it. If you're not being your best self, I want you to do that now. I know things are hard... and things get rough. But you need to stay positive and think about good things. I just want every girl or guy to know that they are amazing. I hope everyone can realize that. Be yourself and stay Beautiful. 💕
this is so freaking nice to read after a long day❤ thank you❤ im sure you are beautiful in and out❤
thank you. :)
I love this❤️
+Alisha Edvardson I tkink you are a nice person so thank you to be you!
Thanks this was beautiful
her voice is so comfortable and makes me smile every time I hear it 😻
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This is what a youtuber should be
- doesnt keep their money by themselves
- videos are always helpful
- uses their money from youtube to improve their channel
ok you should have more subscribers because u deserve it really
i get this comments tons of time. Yes i am HUHEUE (:
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Thanks mish …Love you back x
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your so best ,love you ,made my life
omg i have exactly same crystal 😍😍😍😍
This video made me feel like a house elf being presented with a sock.
Best comment ever
thesheepthatwentmooo your videos are so funny! :)
You just gained a follower. :3
I'm literally crying. Am I the only one?!
xophja I did too
I can't get it right...
Me too ...
I used to when I watched these types of videos but I've gotten more confidence and love my self !!!
You are not alone
I have 0 confidence and I am trying to change things like my clothes but I'm afraid that people at my school r gonna say that I'm trying to be cool (which I'm not at all) or I'm trying to hard to fit in. But I think I will b ok since I watched this video. Thank u for making this.
I completely forgot about this comment and haven’t even thought about it in 3 years but I wanna thank all of you so much for your kind words. I know I’m a little late for most of them but they really mean a lot to me even now. I was going into high school when I watched this and now I’m a senior. Again, thank you all so much and I’m sorry I’m so late
just dont care what peoples think. feel Free to be yourself
SwaggBear93 Easier said than done. Thank u for the advice though
+Maleah Manning Trust me I feel the same. I feel ignored, unwanted, useless. But remember that you came into this world for a reason... It may take a long time to find what that reason is. In fact I'm still on my journey. Your confidence may not show but I know it's there. It's hard to remember that all the time but you're special. Stay strong ❤❤
+xDragonTrainerx // Lord Of The Dragons Thank u so much😊❤
+Maleah Manning No problem! I'm really glad I was able to make you happy!
I built self confidence by simply knowing how to be satisfied and trust myself. I am who I am for a reason just as anyone who stumbles upon this comment is. I honestly have little to no close friends and I can't live my life pretending that everyone I'm with at school is my friend when they really are not. To any girls out there, don't feel lost if you have no friends or anyone you're close with. Honestly, sit down in front of a mirror and talk to yourself for a bit, it might sound insane, but you are the only person who will understand you, just until you find someone who you can fully trust and will appreciate you just as much as you appreciate them, whether that's tomorrow, or a while from now. Love yourself first, always!
Thanks for this: I am going through exactly what you descibed and I'm glad there's somebody else who know how lonliness feels. :)
From looking at your profile pict I see you're a beautiful lady. It made me sad to read that you have no friends :'/ but I'm sure you'll meet a lot of awesome people when you're ready to get "out there" (I mean when you're an adult out of school etc). Good luck
I agree with Samurai Sakura. When I see your profile picture, I see a beautiful lady and I'm sure that you'll meet a lot of wonderful people when you're out of school. People who will love and appreciate you for being you. I can understand the situation you are in though as I went through the same thing in high school; I moved to a new school and no one wanted to be friends with the new girl. I'm actually not going to my high school reunion because I refuse to celebrate with people who tortured me for 4 years.
I'm going through the same thing , i feel lonely at times by not having close friends or best friends this comment made me think that there are others just like me and I'm not as lonely as i thought i was ...thank you :')
esmeralda munoz You're welcome and much love to you
What really hurts me is that there are so many young amazing talented girls, that are so confused, discouraged and disoriented by today's society about what is expected of them. About how they should look and act. That they get to hate and try to let go of the unique things that make them EXTRAordinary. I'm not a famous youtuber (or anything remotely close to that) but when I receive messages from my subscribers telling me that they hate themselves and wish they could look and be different, it really hurts me. I'm so happy that you are addressing this issues because you have such a huge following, many girls and boys will hear your message. Love yourself my lovelies. Don't try to be like anybody else. BE YOU! Why be ordinary? A copy of everyone else. When you can be extraordinary. One of a kind! My face is very asymmetric due to a jaw problem, my nose is crooked because of that too, and my teeth are all over the place. But guess what? I love myself!
Oh Mina. I'm glad we are youtube buddies. And you are beautiful!!! I didnt see any flaws of yours. You are just perfection! I agree with everything you said. Well said hunn!
Samurai Sakura
Thank you for your sweet words, and I agree with you. It's truly a shame! This young girls and also boys, are the future leaders of this world. How can they lead and prosper if they feel inferior and insecure?!
Zara Tyson
Dear Zara thank you for being so sweet and supporting me. I'm also, VERY glad we are youtube buddies. Now, am I perfection? Far from it! But I'm perfectly Mina as you are perfectly Zara. We are all just perfect at being ourselves right? So why try to get into a mold?
Thanks. :) I needed that. going through a hard time here.. i love you people who go out and encourage people like me. Someday..i hope i'll be able to inspire and motivate others who are in the same route. God bless all of you. :)
WHEN THE GLASS WAS KNOCKED OVER MY ANXIETY SKY ROCKETED
Literally same.
Then it's just me like... It relaxes me😂I don't know why😂
+Gabrielle Schneider there's a place in melbourne called the breaking room. you pay, get inside, break things.
An amazing for relief.
+Gabrielle Schneider I KNOW RIGHT I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT
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One thing that helped me with gaining confidence is realizing that what people think of you doesn't matter. Do what you love and what makes you happy.
Ahsoka T you are pretty right.
She is so soothing and relaxing, you can tell shes a really genuine humble person.
I can actually imagine Michelle Phan doing a Ted Talk with a topic like this.
Yesssss... Michelle would be great at TED
Oh my god YES! :D
This needs to happen!!
Someone email the people in charge of TED
HEY! I know your watching this video because your feeling down in the dumps, and I thought I'd let you know that everybody is different, but also unique. You may not like yourself, you may have depression, anxiety, maybe your really self conscious. Same here .-. but hey, even if you are some of those things, you can still try. Try as best as you can to share your unique interesting self and inspire others to do the same. Stay strong people, life is worth living for if you just try and make the best out of it so just try and see what happens. 💓✌👍
Thank you so much, I wish people were more like you. You are an amazing role model. ❤️😋
LiterallyLois ;p not really. I just hope people don't end up like me.. But hey thanks
Grace 😊 thank you
i think this helped me to be more brave and stand up for myself
Good for you at least you took a stand 😊
+ceryslovesyoutube:) sarcasam?
No I'm actually being serious I get bullied and I'm too scared to stand up for myself at least your strong enough and can
I agree
Øbliviation
Good Job
I needed this video, everyone says I'm too shy and need to talk, I'm just too scared to get embarrassed.
When I was in middle school and high school, I was very shy and barely spoke. But as time went by, I became more confident in myself. Don't feel pressured or rushed, because it doesn't happen overnight. Read sentences out loud, practice in front of the mirror by yourself (awkward but it doest help) and remember, that most people who are listening to someone else talking most likely are not there to judge or look down on you. They're just listening, so if you speak from your heart, they'll feel it :) Good luck love!
Me too I even got bullied
Michelle Phan You're the best
this is so beautiful, michelle. :) i agree, it's a muscle. last year, i went into depression and lacked sooo much confidence. and i constantly compared myself to others and it prevented me from doing so many things. thank you for being soo inspiring. i started out my makeup youtube channel last year, and grew to more than 10k subs :') i realized, even though there's prob so many people that are better at me at makeup, as long i love to do it, it's all that matters :) thank you for being that big sister i never had ;) i used to re-watch your motivational videos whenever i felt discouraged. :')
*hugs* so proud of you beautiful!
Michelle Phan omgsh! i can't believe you answered. you just made my year :') thank you so much, michelle! really. :') you really made a huge impact in my life. God bless
***** omgshh! you're so sweet! thank you so much, jamie :')
No I subscribed to you (;
koreanlovesbeauty your comment literally describes me!!! Michelle has been such an inspiration and given me the confidence to start a fashion channel here on RUclips, and even though I just reached 814 subscribers, I am very thankful
i have depression and only thing that helps me is your videos thanks for existing !
seriously though Michelle's videos help me through my saddest times
danilo mitic I'm triggered why can't be be girl and both guide to self confidence
ManrayGaming Actually my brother uses my channel too,i use it for gaming stuff tho :D like csgo and other but my brother also watches some youtubers on my channel,sorry i dont have anything with the comment,its my brother
Youre amazing
You're beautiful ✨
A positive person👌🏼
With an amazing personality 😍
Stay like that❤️Even if you don't see this in yourself I mean... I do!😗✨
you are beautiful
No matter what they say
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Liza that is so true
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'You're unique' oh shit, so are you, and you, oh and you, you, you and you. 'You're unique like every single person on this planet."
Chrysanthemumarixo I don't get you?
They say that you're unique. Every single person on this planet is unique. Why feel so special about being unique when theres other people who are unique as well. Its nothing new.
I sound so pessimistic right now and this is probably irrelevant but whatever x)
Chrysanthemumarixo Well the amount of people in this world it is hard to be unique.
Yes
yeah but that's the thing: we're all UNIQUE that means there is literally no one who is the same crazy combination of things as you, there never has been and there never will be. like I don't know you but I know that meeting you would be completely different to meeting anyone else, you know?
I have my insecurities, but I don't let them get me down because I know that my God created me beautifully and he picked out every single little detail about me. He designed my singing voice, my crazy thick poofy blonde mess I call hair. He knew how many strands of hair were going to be on my head! Imagine that you spent time creating something, and then it sat there calling itself ugly, fat, worthless. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and God has a purpose for you, even if you can't see it quite yet.
exactly.
Just remember, keep your head up, otherwise your tiara will fall x
***** your little post really touched me and helped boost my confidence. Thank you
Thank You ❤️😃
OhMyGod you're So Right! Same Thoughts!
I'll be positive until I step into school...
It turns kids into drones
Holy shit... I have never read something more accurate in my entire life
Grace Mathai I swear
Grace Mathai I never understood how some people seem to thrive in school... It's just hell sometimes.
Truth tea.
I am positive until I go to school and feel a pang of alienation 😂😂😂
Thanks, I really needed this! I've been feeling negatively about my body for years and my health isn't the best either. I always compared myself to others and felt too "different" or "out of place". I was afraid of asking out my crushes in case they found me "ugly". But now I've been feeling more confident and my friends also encourage me to embrace my looks, be positive and tell me that I am indeed pretty. I even have a boyfriend now, who looked past my looks and loves me for who I am. So at the end of the day, I accepted myself for who I am, there's no one else like me and I feel greater than ever!
I have this one friend, well, I thought she was my friend, but I haven't seen her in a while, the last time I was with her, she called me lazy and boring, those two words were floating around my head for the whole first month of summer, it caused me to feel so insecure that I didn't even want to go out, then I realized that for her to say those things to my face, means that she doesn't know me at all, now I feel better, but not completely, now this video has made me realize that she is the negative that I don't need, thanks Michelle
A real friend would never tell you that. Friends are there to encourage you and show you how amazing you are when you don't see it. You don't need someone like that in your life beautiful.
my "friend" called me mean, evil, crazy, insane, selfish and unwanted. (that's just to name a few) count your blessings lol
My former best friend use to call me stupid and other names. On top of that, the same friend would not share a missing persons poster for my dad when he was missing. I tried to use the , if you were in my postition, I would do everything I can. She said I would never be in her position because no one in my family was as crazy as my dad and that it was ridiculous of me for trying to find him. That feeling of the person who is supposed to be there for you, but instead stabs you in the back, is one of the most painful experiences. long story short, I know how you feel. I have never spoken to her since, except when she asked why I was being a bitch by not talking to her I simple said sorry, it must be my lower iq being ignorant (since she was always calling me stupid and I wouldn't understand because I wasn't as smart as her).
Awwwww.... Im sorry that you had to go through that. i guess everyone has this one person who is just like that....
***** if that person is syaing those mean things to you and trying to make you believe it then thats not a real friend you should surround yourself with positive and encouraging friends
Thanks for this video ! I am at the hospital for my boyfriend, he is sleeping next to me, while I'm working on the computer ! This video reminds me how hard can be a journey if there is no positive ! So I smile, even if I'm scared, I am with him so everything is going to be alright ! Thanks Michelle ! xoxo from France
Watched this video five years ago for the first time. Can’t believe how much my confidence has grown till today ! Be proud of yourself always, change is coming 💛
This made me so emotional! i've been following some of the advices u give and it really works! STAY POSITIVE GUYS!! IT S THE KEY!!!
Indeed it is 😉
Sometimes it's hard to find within myself for what am I good at
Hey, don't be like that, it can be anything, there is always always one purpose for why we are living the life we live, and that's the thing we are good at...
It doesn't have to be big, I used to think that because I was an awful singer and that I didn't really have talent in either painting or sports I had no skills.
But with time, my friends made me realize that math was like, you know, ''my'' thing, and even if it's a little nerdy, if you really think about it, it can make you progress on a whole lot of levels...
I thought of it the way of a gift only a few have, to be really good in this particular subject that is the one most students fail, and that Having the opportunity to follow a path closed or hard to follow for those people is something life offered me.
Sometimes, people can be even jealous of you, for a certain ability you didn't even credit yourself for, and that is why you need to believe you have it, cause YOU DO!!!!!
How to Build Self Confidence:
1. Eggs
WHY ARE YOU EVEN IN MICHELLE'S VIDEO?!?!!?!?!?
Do you have to be in every single video I go to?
Lol
you are everywhere!!!
Why are you following MEEEEEEEEEE
'perfectly imperfect' beautiful and i love it.
I've always had a lack in confidence, more now than ever. I bring myself down, I tell myself I'm stupid, or I'll never understand it. I can't seem to give myself some credit for what I do. I want to gain my confidence back. I want to be able to walk around and instead of comparing myself with others, I want to realize what I'm good at. I want to be happier than I am right now. It's not that I'm upset all the time, but school has been really stressing me out. With all of the negative vibes and the worsening grades, I've pretty much lost all confidence in myself. I want to get some confidence. I want to improve. Thank you for creating this video... it really helped me to realize I need to take action.
Although I'm not a girl, this helped me immensely. Being a male who goes through depression and is more feminine than manly, is so hard to swallow going through daily life. Sometimes, being myself isn't accepted as the norm in society. Men are supposed to be manly, muscular, and fit, according to the world. But, I don't fit into those molds. I love music, art, and have no interest in sports, haha. Thank you for inspiring people of all kinds, to be themselves and to be brave and confident about it. I don't feel so bad about being me anymore. You really are like a big sister to all of us. We love you! :)
I think ur amazing. .. screw society's norms. .. u are amazing and unique. . Keep doing wht ur doing
It's really hard to be positive, especially when your mind itself is clouded with negativity. Even throughout this video I couldn't help but compare myself to the girls thinking, "They all have cute noses...", "They are toned and skinny...", "They actually have friends...", and I used to be really proud of myself and my body, but now, everyone always says how they can never hear me because my voice is too quiet, no one knows what I like about myself because I'm too shy, I'm constantly checking my stomach, yet I still know in the back of my head that the 'perfect' girls on magazines are creations from photoshop, yet that positive voice is always pushed back again by the negative voice. All I'm surviving on is my dream, which already seems in to be way out of reach and I'm just slowly falling back into this dark curtain that hides me from everyone else, yet I can look at everyone else from while the curtain and silently compare myself to them, thinking that no one else has the same dreams or problems like me. It's weird how it seems like all the previous generations were into exploring space and our Earth, and now that we've already explored most of that, we explored ourselves but didn't like what we found.
I've been in your shoes in and out through my life. I know its very lonesome when you don't have a friend to talk about this stuff with, and I also know that everyone can be very self-conscious about the way they look. The one thing I learned going through this road is that strictly focusing on your flaws will paralyze you from ever growing. Its like depression; you don't want to go outside, and you just want to sleep longer and longer in your bed. However if you look at that, it looks like you went frozen. Nothing changes, nothing grows, and nothing moves. When nothing changes, your body won't change, your sadness won't go away, and happiness won't come. Its completely clogged with the sickly mentality of downing yourself, and I feel that is the one thing that many people fall into. So I want to say is that focusing on your mental and spirit side is the key to ever completely changing oneself inside out. I think the first thing you can do is start getting more gratitude in your life. Start being thankful for even for the things we take for granted. I promise you, there are thousands upon thousands of things to be thankful for, and you can find many just within yourself. Don't worry, you are mightily special when you get the universe in your eyes, and you are mightily unique as well. I hope you can find more love within yourself soon! I wish you luck on your journey
Don't feel alone. I'm here for you. I see girls. They're beautiful. I look at myself and wonder why. Why am I so ugly? But I always remind myself the good things about me. I have nice hair, healthy teeth, cute dark brown shiny eyes. A nose that is unique and something no one in this world will ever have. Life is a puzzle piece. Your trying to figure out where does each piece below. Let me paraphrase. In life, your discovering who you are, and your choosing the right or wrong lane. We all have imperfections, but this is what makes us perfect. Just remember that there will be haters trying to bring your self esteem down, but in God's eyes your beautiful and capable of so much. Always remember to stay confident and strong. It makes us humans a more attractive person.
*belong (lol not below)
Just think about family bondings, when you and your friends get crazy, and many more. When ever I do this a smile always appear on my face.😀
I'm late, but thank you guys so much. :) I've been slowly becoming more confident. I love all the advice and stories you guys have replied with.
I love her so much
when i first watched this video i was in the darkest place possible this video helped me a lot looking back ive changed so much i love myself always trying to think positively and i always remind myself that life is to short to be sad
How can one always be so positive?! You have made me into a better person and I wish I can do something to return the favor but as of right now all I can do is say thank you.
I was born without my left arm and a few years back it kind of hit me hard. Now I'm trying to accomplish one of my dreams that is to be a beauty guru or vlogger someday! Because I decided that if I didn't start now I will probably regret not following my dreams in a few years :)
Good luck. I believe in you.
gud luck
You're going to be a very good make up guru :)
Good luck. love and hugs.
Even though i dont know you, i Can tell you are very tough! And you are going to her very far :)
I was listen to this podcast in 5 years ago, it was lift me up after my break up, but in 2 years letter I lost my phone and lost this podcast. But until today i still looking this podcast. And yes today i really need to hear this and i found this ❤️
I will safe it forever. Your voice can warming i heart. Thank you 🥰
This really did help me, although at times I fall back to the world of insecurities. I come back here , and it gives me the boost I need. If anyone wants to talk, I'm all ears!
Omg. The best video ever.
and her HAIR is the best too
She's such a great speaker I swear she could sell anything to me and I will buy it
I'm literally crying right now and I feel like you are a so lovely person with a lot of people around you, I know I'm not alone, but I always forgets it, so I am so thankful!!💟🦄 love you so much!!
I know this is an old video, but I just now watched it. it made me cry, but also happy. I have social anxiety and people tend to avoid me because they think I am boring or shy. I'm actually wild,loud,crazy,talkative. but I lose my confidents around people. I'm going to start highschool in August. And I really wanna boost my confidents. This video has gave me a boost. I feel good, awesome even, like theirs nothing to be afraid of. Thank you so much Michelle. This really helped me.
When I was in seventh grade, I was so self-conscious and shy all the time. I went to a private school where everyone had known everyone since preschool, and I was known as the fragile girl who would burst into tears when people talked to her (that was WAY back, in 3rd-4th grade.) I was afraid to change because I was afraid that people wouldn't understand that I was trying to change. I am now in my freshman year of high school and everything has changed. :) I took the chance and slowly inched out of my comfort zone, talked to more than the select few who were familiar with me. Of course, I still have insecurities (like everybody else) and I am slowly changing every day. That is the beauty of change! We make mistakes, but mistakes are a blessing that we have the opportunity to learn from. Then we make new ones, and the process of change starts all over again. I hope you find your path to happiness, and that your life will change for the better. 😊💕
Beautiful ☺
That's great !
I've never seen any of your videos before, but I've been going through some tough times and was actually searching on how to build self confidence. I didn't expect something like this, it made me so happy especially the crystal part. Thank you so much.
GalaxyMeow awww this comment made me so happy! :) Glad Michelle helped
GalaxyMeow One of the best on this subject. This method I found online helped me to achieve my goals, www.selfconfidenceachievement.blogspot.com
+GalaxyMeow I was about to comment the exact thing
This video helped me so much. I had depression for the longest time. It was so bad I let it affect my grades aswell as my ability to make connections with others. The crystal Michelle Phan is holding up is an amethyst.
My name is Amethyst.
I took that as a sign to find myself and improve at school. Thank you so much Michelle Phan. You saved my life :)
Edit: Graduated Highschool and fixed my relationship with religion. Never thought I'd make it this far in life. Some days are tougher than others but I'm happy to be alive! 💕✨️
Michelle is a total gift to us from God she’s so beautiful inside & our and humble! It’s rare to find authentic people like this.
that crystal really got me. its unique and no other crystal is like it, so we pay closer attention to it. so for humans, a girl for example, shes different and say she loves video games, she gets bullied and teased but this video could change society. if i show this to my school, everyone will look at each other differently and become a new person.
I didn't always have self confidence, I was bullied in elementary school, middle school and even in high school. When people found out that I made videos, people made fun of me at first. But after awhile a lot of my friends and my family were supportive of me doing what I loved doing on RUclips and even people I didn't know were very supportive at me. I love this video so much, Michelle. You're the main reason why I wanted to make videos in the first place! I am so happy that I started watching you back in 2007, when I was 15 years old. If it wasn't for my friend, for introducing me to your videos. I would never have had the courage to make my own fashion videos. Love ya girl!!
Michelle, when I saw this video the way you spoke, it helped and it made me cry in the beginning, but in a positive way not negative. You also brighten up my day with your kind attitude.
Thank you. I'm currently feeling like complete and utter crap. I have never really had self confidence, and I would cry. Being a bully victim for 5 years, that just made it worse. My goal in the long run is to build my self confidence, and to believe I am beautiful, and I am worth it. I feel as if I want to be more positive, but more often than not I make every situation worse... I hope to change that.
I don't know if anyone else feels like this, but Michelle just is literally like a goddess, she's so intelligent and talented and just so knowledgeable like how is she so positive and happy all the time, how is she never really sad, since her RUclips growth she has grown and is just a god of being literally amazing and she just knows everything I can't even put it into words
I love Michelle's videos I inspire to be like her
How can 854 people dislike this video ??
Back when there was a dislike button. Lol
There's honestly no words to express so I'll just say thank you for being you. You have helped me through your kind words more than ever. Thank you. 💕
i always come back to watch these videos when i feel down this helps me so muchh thank you for being you michelle phan.
This is a beautiful, beautiful video :) thank you!
Awhh Dodie I found youuuu
It's hard to be yourself when people always want to beat you up for doing what you like.I wore really sparkly shoes to school one day and so many people said, "Why are you wearing those?It's just school why are you trying to look cute?"
I ignored all of them because I got so many compliments from my mom and sisters and other people on the streets.Even your own age group wants to beat you up for doing things you like.What does that say?
Kids bullied me all the way in high school ^^
If you can understand that they're just not happy with themselves, that they got nasty parents/upbringing, and not cover yourself up and cry like I did then you're lucky. i have full lips, and my "best friend" used to say "you got FAT lips" (fat, not full) so I always tried to hide my mouth and cry about it... Even if my mom was saying i'm beautiful, I never believed her..
Then, my boyfriend kissed me and said I looked like Angelina Jolie (cause of the lips probably..:p) and nightmare was over.. forever.. WRONG WAY to get over it, but I did learn a lesson for all the rest of my self concious crap!
You're on the right track, I think. Wear whatever u like PROUDLY. YOLO!! haha ;p
It means they weren't true friends, but mean people. I think you just have to find someone who actually suits your own person, someone who tells you the truth but not in a mean way.
I love to wear make up and some ppl in my country are utter douche bags and they says rude things like "Why do u wear it and why do u need it" and they laugh in a mocking way but I dont give a crap because I love to wear make up :) it makes me even more confident than I already am :D
sparkly shoes are the fucking bomb.
I have my own clothing style, it does have an expensive brand, but nobody wears it because its very expensive and dary. Every time I wear something, everybody makes fun of me, or says they like it and then laugh at me.. People are mean, you have to ignore them, I know its hard, I'm trying too..
Michelle, I've been a fan of yours since the beginning. Your videos, especially this one has made me feel so much better. I'm going through some personal things, and watching your videos really makes me happy. Don't ever change please. You're an amazing person. I've never met you, but just by watching your videos I feel like I know you personally. Thank you SO much. ❤️
I was supposed to hold a presentation last week and i was so nervous i was just gonna call in sick. Then i watched this video... and honestly it changed my life, i nailed the presentation and now i have 15 new friends and 2 girlfriends. thank you so much, really inspiring video. bless
The fact that there's no male characters in the video...just wanna add on to that males also have insecurities just like females do. Great video.
Well, the main population watching her videos are girls, so...............😜
That may be true but this is called "Girl's Guide" which is meant for girls :)
Well just about 99.99% of Mish's viewers are female...
She said they were universal tips they apply to everyone and anyone
lyndsay april ^^^^ Haha !
i saw the video on fawn, too. i like your ideas~
I LOVE YOU AND MISH I LOVE YOU BOTH
Same here!
That awkward moment when you realise your not good at anything.....😳😁😂😂
same😂
You can be good at anything you want to be. Try everything, keep working, but don't push yourself too hard. Don't limit yourself, there are so many possibilities.
Me
Me 🙁
You're good at getting a top rated comment
Who the hell disliked this beautiful video?
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What I hate is that everyone in this video is gorgeous...
If you're gorgeous on the inside, it will shine on the outside aswell💞xx
+Ena Laurencic (FashionistaKitty02) very true
ik it kind of pissed me off because of course they are confident
And I'm sure you are too ❤️
+Ena Laurencic (FashionistaKitty02) or puberty hits you, so you look like a monster for the rest of your life X'D
I have really bad confidence confidence. I'm 14. I'm always so afraid to wear shorts or anything above my nee's. Or wearing t shirts without sleeves. I'm not even obese or anything I'm just terrified people will judge me. Like I'm seriously TERRIFIED beyond my wits. I have these shorts,they're so pretty and I'm dying to wear them but I just can't bring myself to wear them. I think maybe its because in primary school students in my class always judged me and made fun of me .I don't even know why. They would always call me horrible names everyday and I didn't have any friends to talk to. It got to the point where I just wanted to die. I was completely convinced I was ugly. But a few years later now that its all over and I have friends and all I still can't wear anything out of my comfort zone. I'm so terrified that even my family will judge me.
you'll get there. All I can say is that I've been where you are before myself, hey I even get self conscious about what I wear now. Just remember that all that negativity comes from you. Never let someone else try to make you feel like you're not beautiful and awesome the way you are. Those people who bullied you will have major insecurities themselves, trust me. You should feel sorry for them that they feel like they have to make someone else feel like crap in order to feel better about themselves. you're not alone. I know its hard, I remember how hard it was for me in highschool. You should love your body. It's yours. its a gift. cherish the fact that it even works properly! because other people aren't as fortunate. Just always be kind and empathic and genuine. stick to your morals and do whats right and work hard to be the best possible person you can be. One day you'll move past these insecurities and be able to love yourself and not care as much what others think. you're still young, just be patient :) we've all been there! hope this helps xx
Ixy Maro awww thank you so much! ♥♥
me too. and im 28. i love shorts but hate showing my legs. I hate how they look in them! ughh, youre not alone
that's the same with me. I just don't know why, but I don't feel comfortable in short sleeves or shorts unless I'm at home or just not at school.
Do it while you can, I'm 23 and my body is getting less and less attractive for shorts and such. Grasp every moment and live to the fullest. I feel horrible because I feel that my body is aging a lot quicker than others. And my skin has a lot of scarring and is uneven in shade and shape. But I'm fighting to become a more confident person even now. So hold on!
I have very low confidence because I've been bullied my whole life. I really want to be confident and when I saw this video, her voice is so comforting and so motivating to think positive. Thank you Michelle, you are amazing.
wow i'm completely obsessed with your film! the way you talk, the music, the idea...thanks!!
I swear…this is why I love Michelle Phan. I'm glad that she became famous and rich and whatever. Because she is still an amazing girl who truly thinks of others and didn't get greedy or annoying after fame.
It's hard to build self-confidence especially if there are people who brings you down. When I went to college, I had a terrible acne break out for a long time til now and have some pimple marks. I feel like the ugliest person anywhere I go. There's even a time when my bestfriend make fun of my acne through a joke in front of many people. I hated her. But we're ok now and everything. I've learned a very important lesson in life; and that is to ACCEPTANCE. I need to accept the fact that my face has lot of pimples on it no matter what (I've tried a lot of products and treatments) we only need to accept our flaws and go with it. Everybody has flaws so don't you worry about yours!
well said.ı have same problem.but ı dont really care about it.If someone evaulate me with a little red bulge in my face that means he/she is the ugliest person in the world.just my opinion :)
I agree with you. I have acne (slightly severe cystic) and let me tell you I would've dropped that friend in a second !
This has the most positive vibe I have ever found in a video. I am building my confidence for years now, but we sometimes need a reminder like that to stay on the right path. Thank you!
I'm crying. This video is so inspiring! Thank you Michelle Phan!
+Peter Jang and your a jerk. All because it doesnt make you emotional doesnt mean you have the right to insult someone effected by it.
I also cried, this video made me emotional
Alright Ladies and Gents listen up! The reality is that you have to be your own hero and help yourself. For those who are going through really tough times, i understand completely. But if you feel really unhappy then you have the courage to make the first step of being happy. If its something to do with your physical appearance, yeah its all well and good saying "be unique" (i 100% agree) but there is nothing wrong with changing yourself for the better. (so long as its safe and is done in progression!). If its something mentally, then you have to be strong enough to find a spark in you, and allow it to burn. Even if its something tiny! And if you say that there is nothing, well what is it that makes you get up in the morning? Its easy to say "surround yourself with positivity, people and happiness" but it starts and ends with YOU my friend! Dont mean to sound cheesy or cliche but i just feel its easier for people to say "be happy" when they have more in terms of money, success and family. Just do what you gotta do people! Stay cool.
This is depressingly true, but the world doesn't have to work like that. If you have the right friends and the right lifestyle that fits you comfortably, you wouldn't have to deal with confidence issues or changing yourself. If you believe what you have said so strongly, I reckon you haven't found your life friends yet.
daisy miles youre correct i havent. Not to sound like bad, but i have no reliable friends or family, which what i wrote is for the people who feel they are well and truely on thier one. But your completely right in saying you have the support of friends and family.
Some of you seem to be confused. Kaskade isn't suing Michelle; he even said so on his Twitter. It's Kaskade's record company Ultra that decided now would be the perfect time to sue her so they can get as much money as possible. It's a prime example of greed and selfishness.
Please continue to upload more of these vid, it makes my day.
I really feel warm and loved when Michelle says..Good Luck!! It seams like she really means it and is directly saying to my innerself.. Love Ya!! Michelle!! Thanks 4 Inspiring Me!!
Missy Irina I felt that too😊😊
You're such an inspiration. My best friends are so beautiful and I'm just the average one and it literally breaks my heart that people always mention how I'm darker than my family members or how people don't compliment me physically all the time unlike my friends. So thank you for making me feel a tad better.
You are my roll model, I don't give up as much, and when ever I watch your videos, I think to my self "Wow, I want to be just like her" never stop making videos!
I have to say a speech soon so i watched this everyone wish me luckkkk :(
Good luck!
Ur gonna do amaaziiinngggg
+reemobooks thanks so much you are so sweet and a wonderful person!
+skyblue blue Thankss :)) 💕💕
+ForeverUnsocial Tysm ! 🛍
this makes me feel better at nights i get really sad at night but not any more
i also always got bullied by people in school and by my siblings i feel like im useless -unloved-sad-deperesed,and
HATED BY LIFE
but i feel better now im happy i can be happy for at least a day up to a week when i can be with my oldest sis and this video make me feel better about myself
THANK YOU 😔------>😊
"We are all imperfectly perfect." Love this! and great video!
How to deal with a breakup? like tips? where I got cheated with knowing the truth from others..
It sucks when people don't tell the truth, personally I once cheated but I immediately told my GF what happened and we broke up, but atleast I didn't hide it...I felt terrible the entire time...but hey if they were too scared to tell you then he shouldn't even be worth your time
She has made a video for that too long ago
look at her video Girl's guide to starting over. It's all about dealing with a difficult breakup
Girl's Guide to Starting Over
I think you should get to know many more guys and plant seeds in different places to form relationships/friendships. And by get to know I literally mean just that (not like a hoe or anything). This way getting to know different atmospheres will automatically make you see more, try it. Also focus on yourself. Focus a passion you enjoy or that may lead to a career (if you don't have one yet in mind) that makes you grow as a person; being heart broken and betrayed can inspire and make you more passionate by transferring that energy there. Also you deserve someone mature and worth your time, this person disrespected you and doesn't deserve you! I know it looks hard and like there's no hope in finding someone unique like him, but that's just it. Because we're all unique, you'll find someone you didn't think existed from a whole different world who will treat you like a princess and protect you. Believe me guys like this exist plus who are actually hot! If you're more independent like this, you'll find someone more like you who is hopefully loyal & respects you
Thark you, great tips!
Summary of the video:
1. TIP 1. Self Confidence is like a muscle, it needs exercise.
- Think positive thoughts
- Listen to positive music
2. TIP 2. Find your qualities
Focus on positive
3. TIP 3. Have a buddy system
Find someone you can trust and share your thoughts with
4. TIP 4. Pass your wisdom and gifts onto others
Loving others will inspire you to love yourself
5. TIP 5. Stay positive
Be like a proton and stay positive :)
You are perfectly imperfect!
By just watching and listening you intently i felt confident, relieved and am crying donno why🙂but theres this feeling of lightness within me ...thank you very much
My favorite reminder to stay positive: 'What you think about, you bring about.' In other words, if you think negative thoughts, you open the door to more negativity into your life. Likewise, if you look for the bright side of things, and focus on the rainbow rather than the storm, you are inviting more positive things into your life, and, like attracts like.
This is my favourite of your videos in a long, long time...so important, and incredibly well put together :) You're inspiring millions, never stop!
Nice
I am going back to school soon from an eating disorder and I’m really nervous of what they will think of my new/healthy body and this video has helped so much to build my self esteem/confidence in myself❤️
I loved this video , it really inspired me . First I was shy , but now I am gonna be confident .
I've never been confident, not even once in my life, but these days have been particularly bad for me. I suddenly started getting this horrible feeling that I just annoy people, that even my friends find my company annoying and that I should just avoid people altogether in order not to annoy anyone. I've been really quite and sad these past few weeks and no one, not even my closest friends, have realized. I just feel like I'm neither needed nor wanted, and no one has made feel the opposite. I haven't told anyone because I don't want people to worry about me when they have much more important problem of their own and because I fear they'll think I'm a whiny overreactor. I don't really know what I expect from posting this, but I just really needed to get this of my chest
Omg I feel the same way. But hey, even if you don't know me or you've never seen me before, just know that there's someone out there who cares :) I feel you, I really do. I'm going through the same stage :/ but let's stay strong :) I really hope it's just a phase
I actually was going through the same thing and I'm glad that you mentioned this because after reading what you said, I now realized how I actually felt when I was going through it. I felt like my every move, my actions, my words, my thoughts were just a burden to all my friends around me and then I became afraid to express who I really was out of fear of being judged. Just know that this fear of expression is 100% all in your head! What makes you different than the rest of your friends? Why is it that your friends don't have the same problem as you? Just know that even your own friends have their insecurities but probably express them in different ways. I want you to do something: place your hand over your heart. You feel that beating? That's called purpose. You're alive for a reason so you better make it a good life worth living:) I'm not sure how old you are but if you're in high school/college just know it's also normal to go through this. It gets better with time. You can always message me if you need anyone to talk to. I'm a psychology major as well :)
Thank you all for your kind words! My youtube acount decided that today was the perfect day to tell me someone had commented - I actually thought no one had seen this. It's been almost a month and things aren't any better. I'm part of a group of five girls and the one that was closest to me has been ditching me for another one. I end up beeing isolated from conversations and rarerly speak, when I'm always really talkative. None of them has said anything, it's as if they didn't care. I usually feel like I'm invisible or annoying, I hate speaking in public een more than before, I feel like I have dark, gloomy cloud of sadness constantly tapping my shoulder. I can be cheerful and laugh and smile but deep inside I'm just sad
GREAT quote!! "We are all imperfectly perfect!!"
Thank you for that video. Every once in while you need to be reminded how special you are.
Thank you so much for this. I was genuinely moved to tears.
Literally in tears right now!! I have been going through some tough times and this video is just what I needed! They are such simple tips that I've always known but never took the into consideration until now! Thank you Michelle!
don't focus on the can nots but on the what can :)
Yup
Thank you so much for uploading.. you have ammazing personality you have inner beauty as well.
Beautiful message. Thank you for sharing
Never to late to find your passion. It's always with you, but you just need confidence to pursue it.
I few months ago i struggled with self harm, eating and just my body i general... I was struggling for approximately half a year... I cried for a whole week and couldn't go to school, I talked with my mom all the time, she encouraged me to stay strong and she believed that i could over win these "demons". I did. I threw my blades away, focused on the positive things, deleted my "blog" on Instagram and now I can smile again!
- Today i gave advice to a friend of mine, because she also struggled with self harm. I gave her tips and tricks on how to go on with life, i told her to flush her blades, but when she was ready, so she wouldn't feel pressured to do anything. I told her, that i've been through the same thing and I believe that I made her feel better and made her realize, that throwing the blades away, really does help, because i know it helped me.
So i turned my bad side around, to something good. I knew something about the subject and i offered to help and i think i can already say, that it worked.
Yes, I'm pretty proud of my self... :)
This 2020, I have decided to be in charge of my mental state and regain confidence in myself, so here I am again browsing through your videos. 😊
Years ago, your inspirational video has saved me and helped me move on from an abusive relationship.
I hope that you don't stop making inspirational videos because a lot of people needs to be reminded of the good things that remains in the world,l.
Good luck and love you Michelle! 😘❤️😍
I literally come and watch this video all the time, it is really uplifting and does help a lot. Love you so much Michelle!!!❤️