The best relationship advice I ever got was from my former fiancé’s grandmother. “I love my grandson but I don’t want you to end up like my daughter, so you really need to break off this relationship.” I listened, met my husband and we’ll be celebrating our 40th anniversary next month. (Grandma and I kept in touch until she passed away. She even sent gifts when I had kids.)
“ Sweetie mama’s gone on to be with the Lord.” She passed away in July. She was 75. I was at work when I got the call. Big ups to my manager for keeping me together until my husband got there to come get me.
"You're mediocre and will never amount to anything in life." - my own father, when I was a teenager. It still hurts because, 20 years later, he couldn't be more _correct_ than he was.
Another thing I've heard: "YOU'RE ALREADY EXISTING OVERTIME HERE! ONCE OUR MOTHER DIES, I WILL KILL YOU! I'LL RIP YOU IN HALF! I'LL F*CK YOU UP!" - my older brother, a week ago, while drunk (likely meaning it was his most honest, sincere and heartfelt wishes towards me). All while I was (and still am) feeling suicidal due to underlying depression + a heartbreak. Just because I asked him to be less loud while singing, because I was hurting. I still wish my mother didn't stop us from meeting and he killed me. Because afterwards, a third person I was pouring my heart to decided to mock me and be condescending towards me. I'm done with life. For real. These past weeks have been hell, it's like they've been lasting _months_. 2023 has been lasting _years_. I want it all to end.
Same brother who accused me of killing my father almost 15 years ago, even! My father died of cardiac arrest. It wasn't without warning. And despite all he had said and done to me, I was desperate for him to go to the hospital before that because he had a heart attack before and survived and I knew something was wrong, but he just kept dismissing me saying it was gases. Maybe I did indeed kill him. Maybe if _I_ didn't warn him and asked someone else he actually cared about to warn him, maybe that wouldn't have happened.
This year, said brother also told me I was "fake cultured" and that "if you're so smart, why are you unemployed? I really want to get away from him, but he's my mom's favorite (he's her only male child and the oldest) and she'll always protect him and refuse to call the cops, I'm, well, an unemployed failure at age 36 who's still trying for a university diploma just to make my grandpa's dream come true, and becoming homeless while having a (defective, fibroid-filled) uterus and being mentally ill in Brazil (or any developing country, so to say) is literally one of the worst fates someone can have in modern times. The only exit for me is being gone from this world.
I think the most painful thing someone has told me was when a dear friend of mine told me I was too affectionate with women, and that spelled out that I was too needy, and that makes women run away from you. Now I'm unable to hug or kiss someone without feeling guilty, or feeling they gonna run away from me. It's very uncomfortable now to do that kind of stuff.
Most messed up things said to me: 1. "I had you so that I have someone to worship me" changed to "So that someone will love me no matter what I do" - my mother who was abusive. 2. "I love you but I don't like you" - my grandma before she consulted with a doctor about some symptoms I had until my late 20s. Once she learned about a possible diagnosis of why I was the way I was, she did apologize and take it back. Both women said other horrible things to me. Many family members say horrible things to others. I don't even know why.
Sorry that happened / was said to you. I pray life has gotten better for you & you realized you were meant to be here at this moment in time. Stay in the good fight😊
Story 4 is something I kind of relate to since my parents used to dump all of their past trauma onto me at random times. It would close to always effect my life choices and make me feel horrible about asking even the smallest things of them.Then they would say they just need someone to talk to, thanks for that mom.
The following story tends to get different responses based on gender assumptions, so know I'm lesbian. I remember being 16 and thinking 21 year olds looked ancient. Now I'm 36. My first wife turned 40 this year and, even during the divorce, I had to look away because her eye lines and silver strands made her look angelic. I'm gearing up for my second wedding and my fiance is a bit younger, and she had to hunt my ass down like the Predator because my ancient brain thought her 24 year old ass belonged in high school. Seriously. Attraction has a weird relationship with age.
The 1st Story 7: My daughter was a natural when it came to math. Her HS math teacher once said, “If Megan didn’t understand it, we’ll try it another way”. Megan went to college to be an architect and tested out of math at the college. She tutored math for the 5 years years she was there (Bachelors of Architecture is a 5 year program) and went to all the math classes she could to see how the teachers were teaching their classes. She tutored because “I miss math” lol. She didn’t get that from me but from her PE father.
Relationship stories: The only grudges you should hold are revenge pranks. Often times the best revenge prank is one that doesn't come. Just remind them from time to tome about the time they did X and "their time will come!". If they start to laugh at it, that is your moment to strike. It is VERY important to never plan a prank out of the following: Hate, Spite or Malice. If you do want to hit them back make sure it is NEVER as hard as they hit you. You know them. Unless they have hidden their true self from you, you know what will send them off. Just pay attention and plan accordingly. If done right, it will be a story you share with a laugh. If done poorly it will be a story you share separately, likely, with anger.
Most painful thing I was told was from my 3rd grade teacher, I was 8years old at the time. "If you fail this test your friends will leave you behind and think you're stupid and will no longer be your friends. Your parents will hate you, likely disown you if you fail this test." He said this to the whole class I think trying to give us reason to study and do well as it was the first year they put out the state test. Instead I shut down for two weeks, barely ate, did no homework. I was described literally as "the lights are on but no one's home". He waited two weeks before reaching out to my parents and when I explained what happened, full on ugly crying and panicking thinking I'd be abandoned because I was too stupid my mother was appalled and proceeded to rip into him. Somehow he kept his job but I have literally never been the same. It caused me to be diagnosed with ADHD, uncommon for young girls in the 90s and 00s, as well as depressive anxiety which I still struggle with on bad days. Family history dictates this would not ally kick in late teens or early 20s but this butt of a teacher kick-started mine at age 8....
One of the managers at my old workplace told me “if you were normal you would have been terminated a long time ago.” I have aspergers. If it wasn’t for Covid 19 overwhelming our hospitals and over stressing our medical staff, god bless what they went through; I would have put my manager in the hospital for saying that to me. I didn’t and just ended up quitting on my own terms about a year later. I went to HR; they did nothing.
My s/o called me evil during an argument once. I could tell in their eyes that they immediately regretted it. We worked through that argument. Months passed, and two weeks ago during a misunderstanding on my part, they called me evil a second time. I left the website we both frequent and took a two week hiatus from it. I guess the guilt got to us, because we were both apologizing the next day. That's it. No cuss words, no insulting each other's intelligence. Just one word like "evil" can make a person question everything about themselves.
Most painful thing ever said to me was my mother telling me she never wanted children. Like DUDE I WAS 7 YEARS OLD, WHY WOULD YOU TELL YOUR OWN KID THAT. I never felt wanted as a child and I'm almost 18 and I still don't feel wanted. I moved out of her house when I was 12 to live with my dad and now we're having some pretty bad issues. I wish I could just move out and leave both sides behind
The 50/50 thing is hard. Really it should be "do what you can." Horrible work days happen. Extra frenzied busy times happen. Emergencies happen. Depression happens. Exhaustion happens. A need to have a fun day or nothing day happens. In the case of my marriage, my husband has mobility and memory issues and can't work. I do the lion's share of everything, but when he sweeps the hallway, scrubs the toilet, washes the dishes, or bags up the trash and puts a new liner in I'm always grateful and thank him.
My wife (26) once said to me that she felt really bad and guilty because she didnt try with me anymore. She said when she was younger, she used to try so much like putting on make up every day, shave every inch of her body, and eat healthy and would sometimes used to starve herself so she would stay skinny for her exes. I didnt care. I loved her because of her. She will always be beautiful to me. I told her we could be trolls under the bridge together 😂😂 her mom apparently told her that i was leaving her because she didnt shave (its cool now, her mom is cool now). I just laughed when she told me that. And the laugh. Yep. So true. Apparently she was very insecure because someone told her that she sounded and looked like a seal when she would laugh uncontrollably. I told her to keep it up because that was one of my favorite things about her. My mission every day is to make her laugh just so i could hear it. I love you, amelia riley.
This is from somebody who called me a laundry list of insults when I finally stood up to his bullshit, out of all of those, the last one that hurt the most, was him saying "you are such a fake person." That hurt the most out of everything. The rest felt like genuflecting, but calling me fake you're the spit in the face of my character as a person. I don't think I'll ever forgive him for that
I was bullied/teased a lot as a kid and teen but the most hurtful comment came from my own mother. I want to preface this by saying my mother is an incredible woman who raised me and my sisters incredibly well. However this memory resurfaced while I was in therapy. When I was twelve my mom told me straight to my face “if you wear a bikini this summer you’re gonna look like a beached whale.” My mother has since apologized for this not realizing how hurtful rather than helpful it was for her nearly plus sized daughter.
My dad had been mentally and verbally abusing me as far back as I can remember. One day him and my new stepmom were driving me to work in downtown Dallas and as we past the post office he told me "I know a guy there that is blind, deaf, dumb and stupid. If he can get a job there so can you!!!!"
For the first lot of stories my most painful thing is a mix between being told to drink bleach and that my family is ashamed to have a daughter like me because I’m gay; either that or that people wish that I get assaulted
My mom used to say the "I have to love you but I don't like you" thing whenever she was really mad at me. At some point my little brain normalized it to the point where it just became a thing that she said all the time. Now I'm 23, and I have huge chunks of memories missing from my childhood and she wonders why we don't get along.
Some of the mainy painfull things I was told were : When I was 4 years old I failed an skiing exercises while other kids succeed. I Always had pretty bad coordination so looking back at it it wasn't surprising. But my grandmother (from my father side) snapped at me saying how much I embarrassed her in front of everyone. And got even more mad when I cried saying that I was too much of a crybaby. When I was 8-9 years old. For context there were two girls in my class, one moment they were "nice" to me and I was playing with them, the next second they were straight up bullying me, pushing me to the ground, hitting and kicking me. This shit was going on for like years. One day I ended up telling them "leave me alone !" After they bullied me one of them only responded "But you already alone !" The thing that hurted was it was true. I was alone. I tried to complain to a teacher the teacher just told me to "stop being a whiny kid and learn to defend yourself." When I was 11 years old, my grandmother (from my mother side) died of cancer. I was bullied by almost all my classmates all year long and when I cried about my grandmother being dead and my mother being in hospital one of my classmates told me "Why don't you just join your grandmother ?" All through my life my parents told me I had no reason to be depressed because "other have it worse" I actually ended up almost trying to end myself with paracétamol when I was like 15 years old. It's not one of my parents that stopped me because I was home alone but my cat. Too this day I still think that my cat saved my life by giving me comfort at a time where no one else would. No one in my family knows that I was about to try to end things that day. I think even if I told them they would either yell at me or tell me that if a cat managed to stop me it wasn't that big of a deal. Oh and all of the time where my parents (that broke up when I was 9 years old and basically hate each other) tell me "You are just like your mother/ father, a selfish liar and manipulator/ a narcissist" Lastly one of the more récent hurtful thing was said by my school nurse. I struggled taking care of myself because I was grieving because my cousin that at the time died 3 months ago. I was super close to him because we were the oldest kids of the familly. He was like a brother too me and died suddenly when he had a seizure in his sleep he was 16 years old. I said to the nurse that I was feeling unwell because of his death and she just responded with "He died a while ago ! Get over it already !" I was yelling and crying because of what she said because it really hurted me in a moment where I was particularly vulnérable and I rarely wanted to punch someone in the throat more. Even now thinking about it makes my blood boil. And that same school nurse wonders why I seem to dislike her.
Family member that I grew up with told me to go lay down and die. I told them I don't think they loved me. And they said go lay down and die. Well first they exploded with can only be described as narcissistic rage, probably because they thought they had me figured out and after all of that they ended with "why don't you go lay down and die" While I was dealing with an undefined health issue. Been seeing doctors that whole year, etc.. yeah we haven't spoken since. I mean he called me a number of things throughout that rage fit and i probably would have forgiven it all had he not uttered that last sentence.
41:35 the moment i got diagnosed with adhd i spent literally days upon days to make research to make things easier for myself. Why wouldn't i know bout something i'm diagnosed with?
The most painful thing said to me: My ex told me, "It's like you said, you'll never know if you don't try." She then left me to go back to her ex. He was jealous she was with me, broke up with his own gf, told her he wanted my ex back, and ruined my life. I literally felt the weirdest and worst pain in my heart. I thought a "broken heart" was just an expression, but by the Gods, it hurt like hell emotionally and physically. I spiralled out of control for years. I know I'm better off without her and deserved better, but I still miss what we had. She was my dance partner, and the days we spent together were bliss. To rub salt in the wound, he left her again a couple of years later. All that pain, for what!?
Story 5 of unknown attractive features - my fiance has a laugh he only does when he finds something really, REALLY funny, and it sounds like how you'd imagine a cartoon mouse to laugh. An extremely high pitched "HEE HEE HEE!", so much unlike his regular speaking tone, and it's *wonderful* I wish I could one day record it so I can listen to it when I please. Never fails to cheer me up
The few times I’ve said “kill yourself” as an angsty teenager when alone or during a fight (even when it didn’t seem to impact the other person) each cut away at me. I promised myself I’d never say that but there are slip ups that I’ve held closely as reminders to never lose myself so much
One thing that always annoys me about my GF is when we talk about initiating intimacy she likes to do this thing where she doesn’t say yes, and ive told her i rather you say yes before i start doing anything and then ill re-ask and she will giggle and say maybe. We live in a society where men can easily go to jail for things like this and i got to protect myself. She is also like this with every question, she will never say yes just (perhaps and maybe). And ive told her its annoying.
"You've made this day so much worse" - my Grandma to me at a funeral. I didnt feel comfortable talking to other people, since it's a funeral, and I didn't really feel good in general. I apparently wasn't allowed to do this, since one of my siblings ran off crying (randomly may I add), which apparently meant that I made her cry, and was some kind of demon of a child.
"no man left behind." -my family constantly. "Oh hey we just got back from (fun thing I probably brought up) we didn't think you wanted to go" also my family constantly.
40:36 Omg with people saying shit that they have no fucking idea about is infuriating like when my dad passed away 2 DAYS after I went back to school and 1 of the girls in my year said “omg grace is so happy it’s honestly disgusting” I was under a meter away from her when she said this and I honestly was so just horrified by what she said and the main reason I was acting fine and acting happy was because I wasn’t close with her so didn’t want her to see how I felt ( this was 2hrs into the school day and I had gone through 3 mini mental breakdowns around my friends who were and still are absolutely wonderful and supportive)
In about 2nd or third grade in PE, we were playing some game I don’t remember. I didn’t hear the rules correctly and ended up breaking one. Had to sit out for the remainder of the game. The grown ass man teacher proceeds to say, “Owen can’t do ANYTHING right.” The whole class ended up laughing and snickering, while I sat on the sidelines feeling like a sack of turds.
A state trooper told me to be friends with a violent woman that I didn't want to be friends with. I've had people say meaner things than that, but what the trooper said to me, made all of my other concerns that much more meaningless, and it added an all new level of lointlessness to life, that I've never recovered from. And the violence from the woman continued for many years after. Defund the police.
On a driving trip to Florida, my son wet his pants in the back seat. He started to cry because he was so embarrassed, I said hey I pee my pants all the time. My wife cracked up and we all laughed.
About looking at your partner naked. As a woman, all i can think about is my flaws in that situation. Like if i bend over will i have rolls? My boobs aren't as perky anymore etc. We are so used to seeing our flaws and obsessing about them it can feel very vulnerable to be naked. It can be annoying because im just trying to do something and now i have to worry how i look
11:09 I had a teacher that would teach us the math wrong. She also took of points if you didn’t use proper punctuation in a written sentence. I actually could never get an A in her class getting a B in that class was an achievement. I didn’t know a single person in my grade who could pass her class with higher than a B- on their report cards. There where times I got all the answers right but had gotten 30 points taken away because I forgot to put periods at the end of sentences.
Fun fact if can’t remember a line but remember a scene just make things up that sound like they could be in the play, and let the others help guide you along I did this for a play called Taming of the shrew (I was gremio, don’t k now what Act or Scene
Not the most painful ‘cus it wasn’t someone I knew, but one that sticks out the most: “If I had to live like you, I’d kill myself.” I use a wheelchair. Have my entire life. It’s normal to me. But it wasn’t normal to the older guy sitting in the doctor’s waiting room who told me that. I don’t remember exactly what I said in reply, probably just laughed at the awkwardness of a stranger saying that. He knew nothing about my life. Didn’t see how I graduated college and had been employed in my field ever since. Didn’t see how I own a car with hand controls and used it to drive to work every day. Didn’t see how I was involved in adaptive sports: swimming, sailing, and sit-skiing from a young age. Didn’t see that I have family and friends who love me, and a church community that’s been a huge support in my life. Didn’t see how I’m an honorary aunt to my friends’ kids, and would go on to volunteer with the children at my church. Didn’t see my hobbies, my comic book podcast and several comic con and Renaissance festival visits each year, complete with cosplay. No. He saw only the most obvious, surface-level detail of my life and decided my life was worthless.
Questions sick of being asked part: Why don't you want to do this (job)?: I have suffered from poor hand/foot eye coordination all my life, I am incredibly clumsy as a result and not that great at heavy lifting either. Yeah I would be great a assembling furniture, packaging anything in a warehouse etc. And carrying anything requiring both hands up and down stairs without an elevator... Not happening. And on a similar note that was more of a statement than a question but it didn't feel any different: "You're built like a wall, you'd be a great goalkeeper." That's fat and you might want to play Soccer with me for fun once before adding me without my consent to your tournament team. Won't save anything and I won't send the ball anywhere intended half the time. And the first one to say that and learn the hard way... Liked to lecture people on things like ignorance. Hypocrite
“ Go cut yourself some more then! “ -Mom, when I was 11 struggling with SH. (Then she said she didn’t mean it that way, just asking if I would cut myself bc she’s mad.)
I couldn’t breast feed either of my kids the breast is best comments me feel like a bad mom and made me want to cry. No one looks good wearing immodest clothes. It just makes you look like you have nothing more than your body to offer someone
i have friends who call me the intresting facts person, i drop facts on them, on of my u.k friends loves it for her pub quizes it is who i am and if i ever have a partner they will have to get use to it because part of who i am.
I can't think of a tackier combination than socks and sandals. Yeah I get it, not everyone likes seeing your bare feet and that's fine. But wear different shoes if you need to be weary of who will see you. Can't see socks with flip flops, sliders, sandals or anything else open toed without cringing.
I love when Mr. Mainly Facts pops up and is beside himself, I wish he was my grandma..
The best relationship advice I ever got was from my former fiancé’s grandmother. “I love my grandson but I don’t want you to end up like my daughter, so you really need to break off this relationship.” I listened, met my husband and we’ll be celebrating our 40th anniversary next month. (Grandma and I kept in touch until she passed away. She even sent gifts when I had kids.)
“ Sweetie mama’s gone on to be with the Lord.” She passed away in July. She was 75. I was at work when I got the call. Big ups to my manager for keeping me together until my husband got there to come get me.
Thank you for sharing. I am truly sorry for your loss. 😢
I remember my mom’s exact words when my dad passed away. “Last night God took Daddy up to heaven.” I had just turned 10. 😢
"You're mediocre and will never amount to anything in life." - my own father, when I was a teenager.
It still hurts because, 20 years later, he couldn't be more _correct_ than he was.
Another thing I've heard: "YOU'RE ALREADY EXISTING OVERTIME HERE! ONCE OUR MOTHER DIES, I WILL KILL YOU! I'LL RIP YOU IN HALF! I'LL F*CK YOU UP!" - my older brother, a week ago, while drunk (likely meaning it was his most honest, sincere and heartfelt wishes towards me).
All while I was (and still am) feeling suicidal due to underlying depression + a heartbreak. Just because I asked him to be less loud while singing, because I was hurting.
I still wish my mother didn't stop us from meeting and he killed me. Because afterwards, a third person I was pouring my heart to decided to mock me and be condescending towards me.
I'm done with life. For real. These past weeks have been hell, it's like they've been lasting _months_. 2023 has been lasting _years_.
I want it all to end.
Same brother who accused me of killing my father almost 15 years ago, even!
My father died of cardiac arrest. It wasn't without warning. And despite all he had said and done to me, I was desperate for him to go to the hospital before that because he had a heart attack before and survived and I knew something was wrong, but he just kept dismissing me saying it was gases.
Maybe I did indeed kill him. Maybe if _I_ didn't warn him and asked someone else he actually cared about to warn him, maybe that wouldn't have happened.
This year, said brother also told me I was "fake cultured" and that "if you're so smart, why are you unemployed?
I really want to get away from him, but he's my mom's favorite (he's her only male child and the oldest) and she'll always protect him and refuse to call the cops, I'm, well, an unemployed failure at age 36 who's still trying for a university diploma just to make my grandpa's dream come true, and becoming homeless while having a (defective, fibroid-filled) uterus and being mentally ill in Brazil (or any developing country, so to say) is literally one of the worst fates someone can have in modern times.
The only exit for me is being gone from this world.
I'm sorry. my parents say the same thigns to me
you didn't, you did everything you could@@AlineDreams
I think the most painful thing someone has told me was when a dear friend of mine told me I was too affectionate with women, and that spelled out that I was too needy, and that makes women run away from you.
Now I'm unable to hug or kiss someone without feeling guilty, or feeling they gonna run away from me. It's very uncomfortable now to do that kind of stuff.
I am so sorry someone said that to you. There is someone for everyone. If you aren't with anyone now, you will find someone.
@@leileyaravencroft i wrote this message a lot of time a go. thanks for your words :)
Most messed up things said to me:
1. "I had you so that I have someone to worship me" changed to "So that someone will love me no matter what I do" - my mother who was abusive.
2. "I love you but I don't like you" - my grandma before she consulted with a doctor about some symptoms I had until my late 20s. Once she learned about a possible diagnosis of why I was the way I was, she did apologize and take it back.
Both women said other horrible things to me. Many family members say horrible things to others. I don't even know why.
Sorry that happened / was said to you. I pray life has gotten better for you & you realized you were meant to be here at this moment in time. Stay in the good fight😊
Story 4 is something I kind of relate to since my parents used to dump all of their past trauma onto me at random times. It would close to always effect my life choices and make me feel horrible about asking even the smallest things of them.Then they would say they just need someone to talk to, thanks for that mom.
The following story tends to get different responses based on gender assumptions, so know I'm lesbian.
I remember being 16 and thinking 21 year olds looked ancient. Now I'm 36. My first wife turned 40 this year and, even during the divorce, I had to look away because her eye lines and silver strands made her look angelic.
I'm gearing up for my second wedding and my fiance is a bit younger, and she had to hunt my ass down like the Predator because my ancient brain thought her 24 year old ass belonged in high school.
Seriously. Attraction has a weird relationship with age.
The 1st Story 7: My daughter was a natural when it came to math. Her HS math teacher once said, “If Megan didn’t understand it, we’ll try it another way”. Megan went to college to be an architect and tested out of math at the college. She tutored math for the 5 years years she was there (Bachelors of Architecture is a 5 year program) and went to all the math classes she could to see how the teachers were teaching their classes. She tutored because “I miss math” lol. She didn’t get that from me but from her PE father.
Relationship stories:
The only grudges you should hold are revenge pranks. Often times the best revenge prank is one that doesn't come. Just remind them from time to tome about the time they did X and "their time will come!". If they start to laugh at it, that is your moment to strike.
It is VERY important to never plan a prank out of the following: Hate, Spite or Malice. If you do want to hit them back make sure it is NEVER as hard as they hit you. You know them. Unless they have hidden their true self from you, you know what will send them off. Just pay attention and plan accordingly.
If done right, it will be a story you share with a laugh.
If done poorly it will be a story you share separately, likely, with anger.
Most painful thing I was told was from my 3rd grade teacher, I was 8years old at the time.
"If you fail this test your friends will leave you behind and think you're stupid and will no longer be your friends. Your parents will hate you, likely disown you if you fail this test."
He said this to the whole class I think trying to give us reason to study and do well as it was the first year they put out the state test. Instead I shut down for two weeks, barely ate, did no homework. I was described literally as "the lights are on but no one's home". He waited two weeks before reaching out to my parents and when I explained what happened, full on ugly crying and panicking thinking I'd be abandoned because I was too stupid my mother was appalled and proceeded to rip into him. Somehow he kept his job but I have literally never been the same. It caused me to be diagnosed with ADHD, uncommon for young girls in the 90s and 00s, as well as depressive anxiety which I still struggle with on bad days.
Family history dictates this would not ally kick in late teens or early 20s but this butt of a teacher kick-started mine at age 8....
😮outrageous. I hope you don’t think that of yourself. As an adult I now realize, teachers are some children’s first bullies. Smh. Keep shining on 🌟
😮outrageous. I hope you don’t think that of yourself. As an adult I now realize, teachers are some children’s first bullies. Smh. Keep shining on 🌟
One of the managers at my old workplace told me “if you were normal you would have been terminated a long time ago.”
I have aspergers.
If it wasn’t for Covid 19 overwhelming our hospitals and over stressing our medical staff, god bless what they went through; I would have put my manager in the hospital for saying that to me.
I didn’t and just ended up quitting on my own terms about a year later.
I went to HR; they did nothing.
My s/o called me evil during an argument once. I could tell in their eyes that they immediately regretted it. We worked through that argument. Months passed, and two weeks ago during a misunderstanding on my part, they called me evil a second time. I left the website we both frequent and took a two week hiatus from it. I guess the guilt got to us, because we were both apologizing the next day.
That's it. No cuss words, no insulting each other's intelligence. Just one word like "evil" can make a person question everything about themselves.
Most painful thing ever said to me was my mother telling me she never wanted children. Like DUDE I WAS 7 YEARS OLD, WHY WOULD YOU TELL YOUR OWN KID THAT. I never felt wanted as a child and I'm almost 18 and I still don't feel wanted. I moved out of her house when I was 12 to live with my dad and now we're having some pretty bad issues. I wish I could just move out and leave both sides behind
I'm sorry. No one should EVER tell that to a child.
The 50/50 thing is hard. Really it should be "do what you can." Horrible work days happen. Extra frenzied busy times happen. Emergencies happen. Depression happens. Exhaustion happens. A need to have a fun day or nothing day happens. In the case of my marriage, my husband has mobility and memory issues and can't work. I do the lion's share of everything, but when he sweeps the hallway, scrubs the toilet, washes the dishes, or bags up the trash and puts a new liner in I'm always grateful and thank him.
My wife (26) once said to me that she felt really bad and guilty because she didnt try with me anymore. She said when she was younger, she used to try so much like putting on make up every day, shave every inch of her body, and eat healthy and would sometimes used to starve herself so she would stay skinny for her exes. I didnt care. I loved her because of her. She will always be beautiful to me. I told her we could be trolls under the bridge together 😂😂 her mom apparently told her that i was leaving her because she didnt shave (its cool now, her mom is cool now). I just laughed when she told me that.
And the laugh. Yep. So true. Apparently she was very insecure because someone told her that she sounded and looked like a seal when she would laugh uncontrollably. I told her to keep it up because that was one of my favorite things about her. My mission every day is to make her laugh just so i could hear it.
I love you, amelia riley.
This is from somebody who called me a laundry list of insults when I finally stood up to his bullshit, out of all of those, the last one that hurt the most, was him saying "you are such a fake person."
That hurt the most out of everything. The rest felt like genuflecting, but calling me fake you're the spit in the face of my character as a person. I don't think I'll ever forgive him for that
I was bullied/teased a lot as a kid and teen but the most hurtful comment came from my own mother. I want to preface this by saying my mother is an incredible woman who raised me and my sisters incredibly well. However this memory resurfaced while I was in therapy. When I was twelve my mom told me straight to my face “if you wear a bikini this summer you’re gonna look like a beached whale.” My mother has since apologized for this not realizing how hurtful rather than helpful it was for her nearly plus sized daughter.
My dad had been mentally and verbally abusing me as far back as I can remember. One day him and my new stepmom were driving me to work in downtown Dallas and as we past the post office he told me "I know a guy there that is blind, deaf, dumb and stupid. If he can get a job there so can you!!!!"
For the first lot of stories my most painful thing is a mix between being told to drink bleach and that my family is ashamed to have a daughter like me because I’m gay; either that or that people wish that I get assaulted
My mom used to say the "I have to love you but I don't like you" thing whenever she was really mad at me. At some point my little brain normalized it to the point where it just became a thing that she said all the time. Now I'm 23, and I have huge chunks of memories missing from my childhood and she wonders why we don't get along.
that roommate situation in 26:15 made me appreciate the cannibal roommate I had
Some of the mainy painfull things I was told were :
When I was 4 years old I failed an skiing exercises while other kids succeed. I Always had pretty bad coordination so looking back at it it wasn't surprising. But my grandmother (from my father side) snapped at me saying how much I embarrassed her in front of everyone. And got even more mad when I cried saying that I was too much of a crybaby.
When I was 8-9 years old. For context there were two girls in my class, one moment they were "nice" to me and I was playing with them, the next second they were straight up bullying me, pushing me to the ground, hitting and kicking me. This shit was going on for like years. One day I ended up telling them "leave me alone !" After they bullied me one of them only responded "But you already alone !" The thing that hurted was it was true. I was alone. I tried to complain to a teacher the teacher just told me to "stop being a whiny kid and learn to defend yourself."
When I was 11 years old, my grandmother (from my mother side) died of cancer. I was bullied by almost all my classmates all year long and when I cried about my grandmother being dead and my mother being in hospital one of my classmates told me "Why don't you just join your grandmother ?"
All through my life my parents told me I had no reason to be depressed because "other have it worse"
I actually ended up almost trying to end myself with paracétamol when I was like 15 years old. It's not one of my parents that stopped me because I was home alone but my cat. Too this day I still think that my cat saved my life by giving me comfort at a time where no one else would.
No one in my family knows that I was about to try to end things that day. I think even if I told them they would either yell at me or tell me that if a cat managed to stop me it wasn't that big of a deal.
Oh and all of the time where my parents (that broke up when I was 9 years old and basically hate each other) tell me "You are just like your mother/ father, a selfish liar and manipulator/ a narcissist"
Lastly one of the more récent hurtful thing was said by my school nurse. I struggled taking care of myself because I was grieving because my cousin that at the time died 3 months ago. I was super close to him because we were the oldest kids of the familly. He was like a brother too me and died suddenly when he had a seizure in his sleep he was 16 years old.
I said to the nurse that I was feeling unwell because of his death and she just responded with "He died a while ago ! Get over it already !" I was yelling and crying because of what she said because it really hurted me in a moment where I was particularly vulnérable and I rarely wanted to punch someone in the throat more. Even now thinking about it makes my blood boil. And that same school nurse wonders why I seem to dislike her.
Family member that I grew up with told me to go lay down and die.
I told them I don't think they loved me. And they said go lay down and die. Well first they exploded with can only be described as narcissistic rage, probably because they thought they had me figured out and after all of that they ended with "why don't you go lay down and die"
While I was dealing with an undefined health issue. Been seeing doctors that whole year, etc.. yeah we haven't spoken since.
I mean he called me a number of things throughout that rage fit and i probably would have forgiven it all had he not uttered that last sentence.
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the moment i got diagnosed with adhd i spent literally days upon days to make research to make things easier for myself. Why wouldn't i know bout something i'm diagnosed with?
The most painful thing said to me: My ex told me, "It's like you said, you'll never know if you don't try." She then left me to go back to her ex. He was jealous she was with me, broke up with his own gf, told her he wanted my ex back, and ruined my life.
I literally felt the weirdest and worst pain in my heart. I thought a "broken heart" was just an expression, but by the Gods, it hurt like hell emotionally and physically. I spiralled out of control for years. I know I'm better off without her and deserved better, but I still miss what we had. She was my dance partner, and the days we spent together were bliss.
To rub salt in the wound, he left her again a couple of years later. All that pain, for what!?
I love your style. I wish my local weather allowed for flowy attire year round.
Story 5 of unknown attractive features - my fiance has a laugh he only does when he finds something really, REALLY funny, and it sounds like how you'd imagine a cartoon mouse to laugh. An extremely high pitched "HEE HEE HEE!", so much unlike his regular speaking tone, and it's *wonderful* I wish I could one day record it so I can listen to it when I please. Never fails to cheer me up
The few times I’ve said “kill yourself” as an angsty teenager when alone or during a fight (even when it didn’t seem to impact the other person) each cut away at me. I promised myself I’d never say that but there are slip ups that I’ve held closely as reminders to never lose myself so much
One thing that always annoys me about my GF is when we talk about initiating intimacy she likes to do this thing where she doesn’t say yes, and ive told her i rather you say yes before i start doing anything and then ill re-ask and she will giggle and say maybe. We live in a society where men can easily go to jail for things like this and i got to protect myself. She is also like this with every question, she will never say yes just (perhaps and maybe). And ive told her its annoying.
"You've made this day so much worse" - my Grandma to me at a funeral.
I didnt feel comfortable talking to other people, since it's a funeral, and I didn't really feel good in general. I apparently wasn't allowed to do this, since one of my siblings ran off crying (randomly may I add), which apparently meant that I made her cry, and was some kind of demon of a child.
That’s rough. I’m sorry you went through that
I was a really good kid but hated by my mother. One line: “You make me hate you.” I was 12 when she came out with that gem.
I can relate to story 4. I don't remember anything of the Rant that they said other then that but I remember I almost did it.
That kind of strictness in a theater operation would be expected of expert Chinese opera performers, where fans know the exact choreography
"no man left behind." -my family constantly.
"Oh hey we just got back from (fun thing I probably brought up) we didn't think you wanted to go" also my family constantly.
For the thibgs guys like that women hate (as per my straight friends) stretch marks. All 3 of my straight guy friends apparently adore them.
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Omg with people saying shit that they have no fucking idea about is infuriating like when my dad passed away 2 DAYS after I went back to school and 1 of the girls in my year said “omg grace is so happy it’s honestly disgusting” I was under a meter away from her when she said this and I honestly was so just horrified by what she said and the main reason I was acting fine and acting happy was because I wasn’t close with her so didn’t want her to see how I felt ( this was 2hrs into the school day and I had gone through 3 mini mental breakdowns around my friends who were and still are absolutely wonderful and supportive)
The only time to keep score between you and your partner is when playing video games against each other.
In about 2nd or third grade in PE, we were playing some game I don’t remember. I didn’t hear the rules correctly and ended up breaking one. Had to sit out for the remainder of the game. The grown ass man teacher proceeds to say, “Owen can’t do ANYTHING right.” The whole class ended up laughing and snickering, while I sat on the sidelines feeling like a sack of turds.
The most hurting was " You don't take up any space" I suppose it was meant well but I am still struggling to take up my space.
A state trooper told me to be friends with a violent woman that I didn't want to be friends with. I've had people say meaner things than that, but what the trooper said to me, made all of my other concerns that much more meaningless, and it added an all new level of lointlessness to life, that I've never recovered from. And the violence from the woman continued for many years after. Defund the police.
Hello! Hope everyone is having an amazing day!
Lmao I was thinking of saying this also and I did, but deleted my comment because you already said this
And I hope YOU have an amazing day too, random citizen! ❤
Your mustache is perfect
On a driving trip to Florida, my son wet his pants in the back seat. He started to cry because he was so embarrassed, I said hey I pee my pants all the time. My wife cracked up and we all laughed.
My alcoholic dad saying to me "If I drink is because of you"
You can't say sexy??? Adventure time could say Sexy! Censorship is stupid.
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About looking at your partner naked. As a woman, all i can think about is my flaws in that situation. Like if i bend over will i have rolls? My boobs aren't as perky anymore etc. We are so used to seeing our flaws and obsessing about them it can feel very vulnerable to be naked. It can be annoying because im just trying to do something and now i have to worry how i look
Nice mustache 👌
YASS!!
What’s something worth paying money for? My hair!! I ain’t taming this mane by myself
11:09 I had a teacher that would teach us the math wrong. She also took of points if you didn’t use proper punctuation in a written sentence. I actually could never get an A in her class getting a B in that class was an achievement. I didn’t know a single person in my grade who could pass her class with higher than a B- on their report cards. There where times I got all the answers right but had gotten 30 points taken away because I forgot to put periods at the end of sentences.
I love your shirt!
Ngl gyro do rock those teeth grills
Hello, I'm a old watcher and was wondering what happned to the the the rules horror story?
Fun fact if can’t remember a line but remember a scene just make things up that sound like they could be in the play, and let the others help guide you along
I did this for a play called Taming of the shrew
(I was gremio, don’t k now what Act or Scene
My dad after I had surgery to save my life. (That surgery was a waste)
A combover has never looked good ever
Not the most painful ‘cus it wasn’t someone I knew, but one that sticks out the most: “If I had to live like you, I’d kill myself.”
I use a wheelchair. Have my entire life. It’s normal to me. But it wasn’t normal to the older guy sitting in the doctor’s waiting room who told me that. I don’t remember exactly what I said in reply, probably just laughed at the awkwardness of a stranger saying that. He knew nothing about my life. Didn’t see how I graduated college and had been employed in my field ever since. Didn’t see how I own a car with hand controls and used it to drive to work every day. Didn’t see how I was involved in adaptive sports: swimming, sailing, and sit-skiing from a young age. Didn’t see that I have family and friends who love me, and a church community that’s been a huge support in my life. Didn’t see how I’m an honorary aunt to my friends’ kids, and would go on to volunteer with the children at my church. Didn’t see my hobbies, my comic book podcast and several comic con and Renaissance festival visits each year, complete with cosplay. No. He saw only the most obvious, surface-level detail of my life and decided my life was worthless.
Can we get more mainly horrors?
I have had grey hair since I was 12......
Questions sick of being asked part:
Why don't you want to do this (job)?: I have suffered from poor hand/foot eye coordination all my life, I am incredibly clumsy as a result and not that great at heavy lifting either. Yeah I would be great a assembling furniture, packaging anything in a warehouse etc. And carrying anything requiring both hands up and down stairs without an elevator... Not happening.
And on a similar note that was more of a statement than a question but it didn't feel any different: "You're built like a wall, you'd be a great goalkeeper." That's fat and you might want to play Soccer with me for fun once before adding me without my consent to your tournament team. Won't save anything and I won't send the ball anywhere intended half the time.
And the first one to say that and learn the hard way... Liked to lecture people on things like ignorance. Hypocrite
My dad told me my whole life was an F and that I would be working at Mcdonalds for the rest of my life.
“ Go cut yourself some more then! “
-Mom, when I was 11 struggling with SH. (Then she said she didn’t mean it that way, just asking if I would cut myself bc she’s mad.)
I couldn’t breast feed either of my kids the breast is best comments me feel like a bad mom and made me want to cry. No one looks good wearing immodest clothes. It just makes you look like you have nothing more than your body to offer someone
what happened to the videos on spotify?
You think by chance you can make a compilation but without all the middle commentary ?
I love your shirt
For you it was oral fixation... xD
Can someone please tell me what the game with the little cars is?
i have friends who call me the intresting facts person, i drop facts on them, on of my u.k friends loves it for her pub quizes it is who i am and if i ever have a partner they will have to get use to it because part of who i am.
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This has nothing to do with anything but you need another channel just that shows off your fashion sense. I need to see all of the outfits
I can't think of a tackier combination than socks and sandals. Yeah I get it, not everyone likes seeing your bare feet and that's fine. But wear different shoes if you need to be weary of who will see you. Can't see socks with flip flops, sliders, sandals or anything else open toed without cringing.
You're just like your father
Yo what's up with me suddenly running Into a bunch of minnesota youtubers? It's cool don't get me wrong but I gotta wonder.. where have yall been??
the story about boobies made me giggle
Thanks, Baldy. Another repost but thats okay.
bro you read the stories well but you talk to much after most stories.
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@@alexclark9798 lmfao it's not that deep 😭 when i commented there was 0 comments 🤯🤯