I LOVE the head nod without the usual “Thank you” at the end. It gives off “magician after he nails his magic trick” vibes (and so do the arms he uses as he walks off the stage). I love it! He is as much a performer as he is an intellectual, or at the very least, he has most definitely chosen to appear that way to us. Bravo.
I've become acquainted via RUclips with Mark Bowden from his participation on The Behavior Panel. I think he's really smart, funny, and thoughtful. All of these qualities are displayed well in this TEDx Talk.
I find Mark and the Behavior Panel really interesting too. The only problem is that Mark is lying in this speech. One of the things he is forever pointing out on the Panel is when someone is showing a smile that they don't really mean and how it still registers on their face and that we can spot it at an instinctual level. Here (no matter what he states to the contrary) he truly likes people and his smile is authentic. Busted, Mark!
I also think that Mark's consistent congeniality, his sense of humor, and great listening skills really enhance any dialogue in which he participates, and make for enjoyable listening.
In my opinion... He is right! I used to be authentic and realized that is was taking me nowhere. Being "inauthentic" does not mean being dishonest but changing our mindset for our own betterment.
Yes. Your "OWN" betterment. That says volumes about you without seeing your body to interpret it. The greatest advancements made by humans throughout history was, in the overwhelming majority of times, to help someone other than the creator and usually involved them making a huge personal sacrifice. But those who acted for themselves history has recorded as tyrants ... or not at all. When we compare Mark Bowden and Madame Curie in 100 years, which one will people still know about?
Wow. Masterful. I'm at 16:15 and watching Marks descension from displaying competence, vulnerability and empathy in body language and facial expressions, to the opposite was awesome. Suddenly, no smile, minimal eye contact, hands down or in pocket, agitation, aggressive stance. Love it.
This is a great counter-balance to the conventional messages of this era that being authentic and real is a one-way ticket to betterment. As with all betterment ideas, balance and intention is the often the best approach. Perhaps being inauthentic - but with good intentions - can become our authentic self with practice.
If you broadcast friendliness, you will find the world a much richer and beautiful place. I broadcast happiness when I visited places and found the locals to be absolutely charming. I’ve also been places where I’ve been more guarded and found it indifferent. Mark is so right. Doors will open for the friendly that don’t exist for the indifferent.
Mark trained as an actor. It tells. He knows how to manipulate and play an audience. He proved this when he did the Nike super bowl streaker advert. Can't be unseen.
holy moly! I totally just stumbled across this one when looking for body language videos! He is amazing! and that was brilliant! and ive watched Ted talks for years. its also ironic how many teachers, lecturers, politicians and even public speakers have the body language that Mark intentionally adopted half way through the talk, and don't realise why nobody listens to them!!
Great way to demonstrate the paradox and bring us back to our choices. We all yearn for connection but wait for others to start it or notice us. This brings home the profound effect of reaching out to the person near us. Well said
This is a TEDx Talk, that doesn't only speak to those searching for authenticity, but also to the people who have seemingly found it. What a perfect guide to self reflection. Knowledge, humor, and charisma. Thank you, Mark.
Wonderful talk; I just read his book "winning body language" and Vloged about it.It was worth the time it took to read it! Thank you for all the great content Mark!
I have been watching quite a few of Tedx videos today, and I must say Mark Bowden gives me the most pleasant "feel". He comes off as interesting, funny and genuine (even if he pretends to be). I am surprised the views of his video is so low comparing to some of the videos with very mediocre content and communication.
Mark, Thank you very much for this insightful and intelligent talk. This is something I have been trying to explain but of course, I have never been able to explain with articulation and expertise. There are so many times when we must be a bit fake to become a better community and become closer. I have a very dominant and aggressive personality but I am also very caring and loving. They can appear to be contradictory so I must do exactly what you did in the video just to make sure that the listener feels safe receiving my message. It does work. As I am developing my business I will make sure that this TedTalk is required watching. You are brilliant and I am thrilled I found you and all of the group through The Behaviour Panel whom I found through Spidey. This kind of information is life-changing.
When he said "so..." in 16:03 I immediately burst with laughter and clapped for him while I'm watching on my laptop!!! He's brilliant in acting being authentic ''a predator''..
@gerald geriaafter he said he was manipulating us and he went straight to the aggressive tone saying that was his authentic behavior, I was like "hes about to pull the o'l switch-o-dic ko on us.
I saw Mark at a recent Conference at Humber College - what an incredible speaker and such interesting content. Loved it then and again watching this today.
If you turn the sound down on your tv/hulu/Netflix you will still be able to follow what is going on - even without words. Hollywood and politicians live and breathe this stuff. Body language can even be used for stress relief.
I also had the pleasure of working with Mark - in fact I decide to consult him within 5 minutes or so of meeting him! One of the best career decisions I ever made.
Honestly, the majority of this I already knew, sorta common sense I suppose, not all of it though. It's just sort of fascinating to hear someone put it all into just 20 minutes. Really good way of presenting too, I really follow it all and will be researching some more of Mark's work. Mark Bowden
In my feeble teaching of rapport and conversations I've always told my students rapport begins at the speed of sight! With Mark's permission I will include this great Talk in my teaching from here on.
Actually I just heard her right and she seemed solid and down to earth. Keep you doing what u r doing girl. I appreciate ur courage to speak out! Really ! I do girl! Much love!!
I was over 30 years old when I learned that people who did not like each other would still interact with each other. Blew my mind. There were very, very few people in the world I didn't like. Regarding the very few I didn't like, I would not tolerate having any contact whatsoever with them.
Don’t judge a book by it’s cover comes to mind. 😃👍🏼 I’m not a fan of Ted Talk yet this one was on point and out of the park. I watch the behavioral panel and this came up on RUclips and I decided to watch. 😊
Notes: A little eyebrow flash makes you appear more likeable You must become good enough at body language so that it doesn’t appear as inauthentic. It is a muscle that strengthens over time. You will be inauthentic for a while but eventually it’ll be natural You are indifferent to people when they meet you, and your authentic natural instinct body language isn’t enough
really inspiring talks. you can be not yourself so as to make a world a btter place and better position yourself and create more opportunity for yourself. make the conscious choice of who you want to be and how ppl like to potray u as.
Eye brow raising with smile is normal in our country (Philippines). You will feel good after doing it and also to the person you doing it to. It will also disarm person who hated you. You are not being inauthentic but you are showing what you call "camaraderie signaling".
After being in several abusive relationships and friendships because of people who exploited this kind of stuff to deceive me, I feel very weird watching this
this is low key one of the best ted talks I've heard
it's wrong though lol all of the neurobioloy is wrong
I LOVE the head nod without the usual “Thank you” at the end. It gives off “magician after he nails his magic trick” vibes (and so do the arms he uses as he walks off the stage). I love it! He is as much a performer as he is an intellectual, or at the very least, he has most definitely chosen to appear that way to us. Bravo.
I've become acquainted via RUclips with Mark Bowden from his participation on The Behavior Panel. I think he's really smart, funny, and thoughtful. All of these qualities are displayed well in this TEDx Talk.
I find Mark and the Behavior Panel really interesting too. The only problem is that Mark is lying in this speech. One of the things he is forever pointing out on the Panel is when someone is showing a smile that they don't really mean and how it still registers on their face and that we can spot it at an instinctual level. Here (no matter what he states to the contrary) he truly likes people and his smile is authentic. Busted, Mark!
@@Laura-Lee or he did a really good job.
Mark is an astonishing communicator. It's almost as if you could switch the sound off and make out what he's saying.
I also think that Mark's consistent congeniality, his sense of humor, and great listening skills really enhance any dialogue in which he participates, and make for enjoyable listening.
Same! It's a pleasure to see him moving in a physical space outside zoom. Great talk.
Mark is so charismatic, brilliant, and entertaining. Just love him and the rest of the Panel.❤
Given that mankind is the most dangerous beast, Mark’s message of inauthenticity is a good one.
In my opinion... He is right! I used to be authentic and realized that is was taking me nowhere. Being "inauthentic" does not mean being dishonest but changing our mindset for our own betterment.
Cesar.. DITTO... COMPLETELY Agree with your observation
Yes. Your "OWN" betterment. That says volumes about you without seeing your body to interpret it. The greatest advancements made by humans throughout history was, in the overwhelming majority of times, to help someone other than the creator and usually involved them making a huge personal sacrifice. But those who acted for themselves history has recorded as tyrants ... or not at all. When we compare Mark Bowden and Madame Curie in 100 years, which one will people still know about?
Wow. Masterful. I'm at 16:15 and watching Marks descension from displaying competence, vulnerability and empathy in body language and facial expressions, to the opposite was awesome. Suddenly, no smile, minimal eye contact, hands down or in pocket, agitation, aggressive stance. Love it.
Amazing to watch isn't it .
The more views this video gets, the more brilliant the world becomes.
mark Bowden is amazing. one of the best ted talk ever for me
This is a great counter-balance to the conventional messages of this era that being authentic and real is a one-way ticket to betterment. As with all betterment ideas, balance and intention is the often the best approach. Perhaps being inauthentic - but with good intentions - can become our authentic self with practice.
Not a good comparison. He is not talking about being authentic in the same way.
If you broadcast friendliness, you will find the world a much richer and beautiful place.
I broadcast happiness when I visited places and found the locals to be absolutely charming. I’ve also been places where I’ve been more guarded and found it indifferent.
Mark is so right. Doors will open for the friendly that don’t exist for the indifferent.
Stay away from anyone who tells you "to succeed, you have to be fake".
Did this guy become my new hero?
My teacher forced me to watch it
Your teacher is great
What course ? Let me guess psychology ? Or sociology?
Me too lol 😂
Even my teacher too
We are same 😂
I love Mark so much. He has a brilliant mind and way of communication. This was a great speech!
June 2016: 98K views? This should have 98 Million views - it's brilliant!
Just finished reading his book and already using these techniques with great success. I am a corporate trainer and am always speaking to people.
Mark trained as an actor. It tells. He knows how to manipulate and play an audience. He proved this when he did the Nike super bowl streaker advert. Can't be unseen.
I guess we shouldn't go around letting people know how authentic we are. Excellent TEDx Talk.
holy moly! I totally just stumbled across this one when looking for body language videos! He is amazing! and that was brilliant! and ive watched Ted talks for years.
its also ironic how many teachers, lecturers, politicians and even public speakers have the body language that Mark intentionally adopted half way through the talk, and don't realise why nobody listens to them!!
Great way to demonstrate the paradox and bring us back to our choices. We all yearn for connection but wait for others to start it or notice us. This brings home the profound effect of reaching out to the person near us. Well said
This is a TEDx Talk, that doesn't only speak to those searching for authenticity, but also to the people who have seemingly found it. What a perfect guide to self reflection.
Knowledge, humor, and charisma. Thank you, Mark.
Mark! I think you are wonderful! ❤
Wow..................MIND BLOWN.....I can already see me applying this to my life and making a big change in it.
Brilliant. I normally don't get through the first 5 minutes of any TED talk......bravo. And thanks.
His work on the RUclips Behavior Panel is interesting and fascinating as well!
This speech made, me want to be a better human.
That was brilliant!! ate it up!! loved it! and thank you Mark Bowden
Wonderful talk; I just read his book "winning body language" and Vloged about it.It was worth the time it took to read it! Thank you for all the great content Mark!
I have been watching quite a few of Tedx videos today, and I must say Mark Bowden gives me the most pleasant "feel". He comes off as interesting, funny and genuine (even if he pretends to be). I am surprised the views of his video is so low comparing to some of the videos with very mediocre content and communication.
He kinda authentically just spoke to my soul. A life lesson for me.
the Brits' greatest contribution to humanity: self depreciating humor. thanks.
Deprecating* sorry, I’m a spelling nerd
I don't agree that I am indifferent, but I DO agree that talking to everyone changes your day.
Mark, Thank you very much for this insightful and intelligent talk. This is something I have been trying to explain but of course, I have never been able to explain with articulation and expertise. There are so many times when we must be a bit fake to become a better community and become closer. I have a very dominant and aggressive personality but I am also very caring and loving. They can appear to be contradictory so I must do exactly what you did in the video just to make sure that the listener feels safe receiving my message. It does work.
As I am developing my business I will make sure that this TedTalk is required watching. You are brilliant and I am thrilled I found you and all of the group through The Behaviour Panel whom I found through Spidey. This kind of information is life-changing.
I always joke that sincerity is the main thing: if you can fake that, you've got it made.
Pure joy watching it! ❤
Mark has wonderful charisma, definitely friend category 😁
Totally agree with you 😃
Ditto
Love mark!
❤❤❤
This is like the best Ted Talk i’ve ever watched
When he said "so..." in 16:03 I immediately burst with laughter and clapped for him while I'm watching on my laptop!!! He's brilliant in acting being authentic ''a predator''..
@gerald geriaafter he said he was manipulating us and he went straight to the aggressive tone saying that was his authentic behavior, I was like "hes about to pull the o'l switch-o-dic ko on us.
Hes got all the mannerisms of a magician and a hypnotist I dont trust him. Havent even got to the part where he switches in the video.
Tedx Talk is a place of knowledge ForFREE. I was smiling and could not help it! Thank you Mark!
ahmed ouajib Me too!!!☺
That's nice, and I am happy to see someone having the same feeling as I have had.
That's nice, and I am happy to see someone having the same feeling. Keep it up Suzanne!
I am surprised this has such less and biased views. Beautifully explained and enacted.
great speech, just great
Absolutely brilliant talk. Truly inspiring. Thank you to James Lavers for pointing me to this great speaker. A must watch
Hi Sophie hope you're okay?
I've needed this video for a while. Completely remarkable. Frees up some cognitive dissonance. Thank you to Mark!
This is by far the best performance on Tedx i've ever seen and I have benefited, BY FAR, the most from this particular Ted Talk
I saw Mark at a recent Conference at Humber College - what an incredible speaker and such interesting content. Loved it then and again watching this today.
If you turn the sound down on your tv/hulu/Netflix you will still be able to follow what is going on - even without words. Hollywood and politicians live and breathe this stuff. Body language can even be used for stress relief.
Mark is the best 😊
I study body language for the same purpose you are trying to tell us .
Thanks a lot for this . i really get motivated.
This is one of the BEST TED TALKS EVER!!!
I also had the pleasure of working with Mark - in fact I decide to consult him within 5 minutes or so of meeting him! One of the best career decisions I ever made.
How much does he cost?
Honestly, the majority of this I already knew, sorta common sense I suppose, not all of it though. It's just sort of fascinating to hear someone put it all into just 20 minutes. Really good way of presenting too, I really follow it all and will be researching some more of Mark's work. Mark Bowden
Mark! That’s was FANTASTIC! Obviously love you on TBP and in interviews but wow you’re a wonderful public speaker. ❤🤟🏻
In my feeble teaching of rapport and conversations I've always told my students rapport begins at the speed of sight! With Mark's permission I will include this great Talk in my teaching from here on.
Actually I just heard her right and she seemed solid and down to earth. Keep you doing what u r doing girl. I appreciate ur courage to speak out! Really ! I do girl!
Much love!!
A brilliant talk, implemented in my every day life and it's amazing the difference it makes.
This is the best TedTalk I have seen - thank you Mark
i should watch this every day before i go teach
I watch it every once in a while
How interesting , this is so true I have experiance this so many times . This presenter was extremely entertaining and enlightening at the same time .
An amazing talk , I like the way the first 19 minutes set the framework for the last minute .
I was over 30 years old when I learned that people who did not like each other would still interact with each other. Blew my mind. There were very, very few people in the world I didn't like. Regarding the very few I didn't like, I would not tolerate having any contact whatsoever with them.
I found Mark through The Behaviour Panel on RUclips. What a Ted. So informative and a comedian too ❤
This is so spot on. It’s brilliant!!!
So beautiful! Thank you Mark.
Wow I remember him in our middle school play...always was destination ed for the stage 😉
One of the greatest presentations I've ever seen 🙏
Idea is completely true and performance is just perfect!
Eye opening and funny! Wow, I never really looked at our "authenticity" that way. 'Loved this. Thanks Mark!
Watch the hands. His gestures are all in what he is saying. Good talk.
bought his book and it's even better!!
Chris Hatfield was your fabulous opening act. You are IMO the greatest speaker on Earth. Well done Mark! I’m going to be less authentic right away. 😅❤
So talented and I laughed so hard, but even more so, I was moved by the ending. Thank you!
I find that simply affirming that someone is my friend dose wonders for how I am perceived in general.
I adore this man! Behavioral panel for the win 👯♀️
Loved,loved,loved this....best Ted talk ever!!!
Hi Shey Stolz I hope you're okay
This is very timeless 🫡
I LOVE LOVE LOVE Mark.
Don’t judge a book by it’s cover comes to mind. 😃👍🏼
I’m not a fan of Ted Talk yet this one was on point and out of the park. I watch the behavioral panel and this came up on RUclips and I decided to watch. 😊
This man is so bright and funny ..wow thumbs up i love his work and act !!!
the importance of this talk is incredible. thank you for uploading this :)
May 2019, and just 330,103 views ??? God! It's brilliant! should have 33 million views.
Brutal unskippable ad!! Grr!
Wow. Wow. Wow. I love it Mark. Genius! Great talk!
He's lovely. Reminds me of Harry Hill!
amazing information,this video should be more popular
Brilliant Mark, thanks :)
Notes:
A little eyebrow flash makes you appear more likeable
You must become good enough at body language so that it doesn’t appear as inauthentic. It is a muscle that strengthens over time. You will be inauthentic for a while but eventually it’ll be natural
You are indifferent to people when they meet you, and your authentic natural instinct body language isn’t enough
really inspiring talks. you can be not yourself so as to make a world a btter place and better position yourself and create more opportunity for yourself. make the conscious choice of who you want to be and how ppl like to potray u as.
Brilliant!
Very informative, enjoyable..
Eye brow raising with smile is normal in our country (Philippines). You will feel good after doing it and also to the person you doing it to. It will also disarm person who hated you. You are not being inauthentic but you are showing what you call "camaraderie signaling".
one of best Ted talk i've seen
Mark! Great talk! Thanks!
Fascinating stuff Bowden!
Mark…-16:57…nailed it!
good speaker... Not ground breaking but very well presented. I watched every minute and enjoyed laughing.
After being in several abusive relationships and friendships because of people who exploited this kind of stuff to deceive me, I feel very weird watching this
Wonderful talk. Have shared with my whole team
MARK, EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wow! Thank you....
This is beautiful. Thanks Mark!