how i stopped letting social media ruin my life + how u can too.
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hello hello lil cherubs. in today's video i wanted to share with you some tips that i have on how i stopped letting social media ruin my life, control me, make me anxious, and how i instead created a great community around me, only consuming content i love, and overall a more positive experience. i'm a firm believer that social media doesn't have to be toxic, it's the way you use it. anyway, so stick around for all my tips and advice that i use everyday to help me be more happy when i use social media!! xoxo nikki nasty
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funny how social media can teach me how to not let social media ruin my life... deep shit.
metalanguage indeed
IT’S A PARADOX
OMG I LOVE YOUR CHANNNEEELLLL
@@shrimpymcshrimpstonmashups3812 hahah tysm
I hate how ENDLESS social media is now. Tiktok literally never ends so there’s no signal for u to stop, and Instagram now shows you recommended posts, plus the endless explore page. Twitter goes on forever, RUclips goes on forever, it never stops. This is even harder when you’re someone like me who gets fomo and feels like they HAVE to keep up with social media to get all the jokes that my peers get to connect with them. It’s exhausting and I wish there was an app that ONLY showed me the people that I followed
i can relate to that! and i guess u already know they do it on purpose, they're perfectly aware that that keeps you trapped.
something that helps me is:
on instagram or facebook, scrolling down the amount of posts i want to see (without "seeing them"/reading them), then reading them going "up" and stopping when i reach the top (and of course, not updating it). it's like an artificial way of creating a limit.
for youtube, i use the remove youtube suggestions. i also have the fb news feed erradicator.
i don't have any app on my phone (not insta, not fb, not even youtube) and i don't have a tiktok, i just watch compilations.
i guess this is unsolicited advice ahaha but i leave it here if it helps someone!
Agreed. Personally the only way I manage to stop scrolling is because I'm very FOMO so I heavily curate my feeds. I only follow accounts I absolutely can't live without and anything not bringing my joy gets culled. This means I don't follow many accounts or any accounts who post too much, so it's easy for me to "catch up" on my feed and see all the day's posts now
@@prosperenfantinylosgeograf2721 that artificial scrolling limit thing is so smart. thank you for commenting this😭. rn I only have youtube and instagram for social media and i’m trying to limit instagram for only 45 mins to one hour a day. Imma try this method from now on
@@arayax04 thank you! i find that the cool thing about that trick is that it's really quick and easy
in any case, it takes time to un-hook ourselves. i know it has taken me months but i'm sort of being successful in that! ahaha
I've never related to something more!
i was just thinking about how when i was younger i would stay up so late reading books all the time and it would made me so happy and now i just stay up scrolling through tiktok/instagram and end up feeling horrible :( i really needed this 🤍
Oh man... I was exactly the same, and I wasn't even aware of it until I read this comment. Now I feel bad lol... The good kind of bad, the kind that makes me really want to change. Thanks for the eye opener dude
Now I just read all my books on my phone and it makes my screen time atrocious 😳
@@risstommo2166 no problem :’) you got this
I can proudly say, that I still stay up really long just to read a book. My screen-time is high but not at night...
I know I used to read like 2 books a week and now I read 1 in 4 months 😔
FINALLY A PERSON WITH A RELATABLE SCREEN TIME. So many videos about "social media addictions" but then the people in the vid share their screen time and its 4-6 hrs!!! like!!!! yeah that's a lot but nothing compared to some of us lmao
Apparently I spend 8h30 on average. And that I spend most of that time on RUclips..
m’y mom had to put time limits on my phone because my screen time was 13 hours
@@oliviamoore2849 I relate so hard 🥲my screen time was 8-11hrs and I had to set limits for myself!
@@oliviamoore2849 i used to follow limits until one time my friend told me ‘nah limits don’t work i just choose ignore “ and from that day on i remember what she said and ignore limits every time lol i hate her /joke
My daily avg is 13h 😭😭😭
I felt personally attacked when you brought up “the tiktok comments” I noticed how much I do that last night. I was reading the comments for almost a half hour when I realized I’m still on the first video I watched when I opened the app.
omg, same. And this happens to me in other apps, i do it more often than what i thought 😳 Not proud of it at all, im now trying not to do it, but is harddd, and i spend a lot of time on it and i don't even noticee.
i know i felt like reading the comments made me feel like i was part of a community until i woke up and was like wait i don't even know these people
@@estrellasjournal omg thats so true. i used to really enjoy the comments cause they were so creative but now they just suck. And this sense of being part of a community is sooo true
@@Haysti2000 yaaas it was fun, now most of it is just fights and not really useful stuff :(
This is the first video I see of you I loved you very much and had alerts enabled so I could quickly see your videos❤️❤️❤️
thank you for making this video for me specifically
i should have @‘d you in the title
@@fishersullivan1430 I just saw a comment like this on a completely different video.... this has to be some kind of scam or smt 💀
Sorry to be offtopic but does anybody know a way to log back into an Instagram account..?
I was dumb forgot my account password. I would appreciate any tricks you can give me
@Achilles Julio instablaster =)
@Langston Lyle I really appreciate your reply. I found the site through google and im in the hacking process now.
Seems to take quite some time so I will reply here later when my account password hopefully is recovered.
I'm glad you added "stop idolizing others." Since the pandemic I realized I would put a lot of creators and celebrities on a pedestal. I learned quickly how unhealthy that was and I almost feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders because I'm not constantly hyper-focusing on people who had no idea I existed.
omg sameeee! i didnt realize how much i started comparing myself becus of quarantine boredom where im just on my phone all day looking at celebs and its so unhealthy. now im taking a serious detox from twitter and instagram lol it hasnt been easy cus were all addicted lol but i do feel lighter, and less triggered ever since i deleted the apps couple days ago. i recommend everyone to try it for a while.
Same
Omg SAMEE, I didn't realized how quarantine made me feel obsessed over content creators so much. I feel like I was in every social media just to keep up with them.
this literally couldn’t have come at a more perfect time
So true love her videos
THAT LIPSTICK SHADE THO 😍
YASSS she looks like a 90's QUEEN!!!
Does anybody know what lipstick it is? It's so pretty :)
Agree it’s sooo pretty
Another tip for Instagram: if someone's content isn't for you but you don't want to "hurt your relationship" just MUTE them. They'll never know and it makes you feel so much better!!
Ahhh the way this comment answered the exact question i was just thinking about
Thank you for this idea!!
Part of growing up with social media is teaching yourself what deserves your attention and what doesn’t because there’s so much content we can be tempted to consume as much as possible but you have to just let some things go.
“I deleted snapchat two years ago”
*me using snapchat as my main form of communication between me and my friends*
Anything that helps u stay in contact with your friends is a good thing, keep those connections strong 😘
Yeah same I hate texting people the only people i text are my close friends and family everyone else i just snap
I still have Snapchat to keep my 1,600 day streak going. I’m not sure if that’s something I should be proud of or not😭💀💀
i like snapchat because its a dead platform and no one is really paying attention lol
fr i feel like its basically a form of texting for ppl who dont pay much attention to stories
THE WAY I DON'T NEED POST NOTIFICATIONS BECAUSE I'M CONSTANTLY ON RUclips
what you’re saying about likes not making you like yourself is what i needed to hear, if i focus on likes i’m never satisfied and the goal just keeps increasing ?? it feels like you’re chasing happiness you’ll never get
The hate watching part is so true. I used to do it all the time and I find myself in such a better mood all the time now that I don’t
nicole: “if you have that app that tracks who unfollows you, DELETE IT”
me: “YES MA’AM”
personally for me the worst part is just tik tok comments in specific. tik tok is a really harsh platform and i enjoy the content on there but the comments are almost always negative, and as i keep reading through them over and over again with the same negative energy the more i noticed how i'm becoming negative in my own life, without even noticing it. and thats my issue, i love tik tok and i love most of the content on there, but i cant watch a video without checking the comments, and once i check those comments everything feels negative again.
update: cant believe i wrote this just a week ago, i’ve gotten myself to delete tik tok, and i feel a lot better honestly. the thing is, that so many of my friends are influenced by it rn it’s hard to even talk to them without some negative experience, i hope more people understand that platforms can be negative, and u need to look back on the content ur seeing sometimes, and focus on what’s best for u. good luck :)
omg yes, I don't spend much time on tiktok bUT, I literally spend half of the day on youtube and I always reads the comments and omg, the negativity on some comment sections it's unbelievable (sorry for my english)
definitely my issue as well, like even when i know that the comment section is going to be negative, i feel like i have to read the comments and it always ends up with me feeling negative and hurt :/
Yeah...fortunately I was able to delete tik tok and it really helped my self esteem. i definitely agree with u on the harsh platform thing, some comments are absolutely ruthless and repetitive...it really makes me miserable afterwards
SAME but with RUclips! I just instinctively scroll down to the comment section and obsessively read it, and surprise surprise, I feel absolutely miserable and empty afterwards. I also have a habit of internalising so much of what is said in the comments
Negative comments definitely affect me. :/ it instantly puts me in a bad mood
this video lowkey makes me wanna wipe my entire existence off the internet
Yes, she set avibe ✔
ikr but i would be bored
I recently went on an unfollowing spree and literally felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. Now I don’t feel *invalid* scrolling through my feed😃👍🏾
"if following me makes you unhappy"
GIRL NO WAY
"stop reading comments and threads"
*immediately heads to the comments section to see if people are talking about it*
I'm trying my hardest to limit myself to twitter and posting on youtube, but people keep telling me to use tiktok to grow my audience, and I really needed this video to help remind me not to use social media in terms of progression, but rather enjoyment
yes!!!
I feel feel this to my core. It’s weird talking to people about how I don’t really care about social media solely because of how common it is to prioritize your online presence. I’m totally chill with not being on social media for months at a time. Sometimes it’s necessary to give yourself a break, because I very much doubt we were meant to be taking in that much stimulation at once. Plus, when I’m really in deep with using social media, I find that I don’t prioritize the importance of my actual in person life because of how I’m trying to perfect the way that I’m perceived online. This video was wonderful. 10/10 would recommend
This 100%
i totally relate with scrolling through threads of people arguing!! i somehow always end up doing that on twitter and i need to cut that shit out lmao. also i realized iphones have a feature where you can remove apps from your home screen without deleting them! it has been really helpful bc i had so many apps i didn't want to delete but hardly ever enjoyed using, just became part of my social media rotation so at least i had to go looking if i really wanted to use it haha
I literally just started limiting how much time I spend on my phone and social media and I am actually seeing changes because I just don't waste so much time looking at other peoples lives and how they're so "perfect" and instead I focus on myself and my mental and physical health. This video could not come at a better time! Love you and your kitty! She was so feisty in this video XD
I need to stop idolizing Harry Styles and One Direction. I can watch video compilations about them and read fanfics about them all the time but at the end of the day it’s kinda sad how much happiness I get from these people that I will never meet and I need to start making happy relationships with the people and things around me instead. Thanks, this was rlly helpful
YES another video in this series is exactly what i needed
Same!!
This is so true - I definitely put pressure on myself to 'boss' instagram because I have a following on there so I should 'be good' at it. But at the end of the day most people who follow me on instagram are there because they FIRST followed me on youtube, so I should forgive myself for just focusing my energies on what I actually like making (videos) and let the rest ebb and flow as it will. Thank you this gave me lots to think about!
holy heck my favs interacting 🥺 I would love to see your view on this too!
Even when I follow only positive accounts, after endless scrolling (on Instagram), I feel horrible, like i'm just wasting my time. Also, it's so easy to 'stalk' peoples accounts and that temptation is so bad for me. Love your video Nicole xx
the reading the comments thing really got to me. every time i watch a tiktok i instinctively open the comment section either because i'm bored or just curious... it's such a bad habit and they're only positive like 5% of the time now that i think of it :/
Just watched Tiffany Ferg’s video about graduating college and I am so proud of both of u for getting it done during this crazy year!!! As someone who finally graduated at age 29 I understand how hard that shit is.
thank you so much!!
I went out of my way to delete every other social media other than RUclips, Facebook and Instagram. Everyone thought I was crazy for it. I call this self care.
nicole: stop idolizing people
me: ...but...you’re my idol for this exact reason lol
if you don't belive her, just watch "social dilemma" on netflix. This made me uninstall instagram 😐
I recently got rid of Instagram and TikTok but now that has fuelled a RUclips addiction 😔
there is a new feature where every few hours/minutes ect. so you can get a notification to get a break :)
@@grace-fx4cf Where do you find that? I’d like to try using it
@@Emmaaa_02 I'm on mobile, so it might be different on desktop if that's what you use. You click your avatar on the home screen (edit: upper right corner) and then go to settings/general. Under that menu, there's settings like "Remind me to take a break" and "Remind me when it's bedtime" that you can set the frequency of.
@@grace-fx4cf word? I’ll try that
i've unfollowed, muted, and blocked so many people since watching this video and it's been amazing
All the tips she mentioned:
6:10 unfollow people who make you unhappy
8:56 stop hate-watching people
11:27 stop reading comments/threads
12:09 block words that trigger you
13:38 don’t be so strategic with social media
I found this quote recently and I think it really suits the video! "You are what you consume. Everything you put around yourself is conditioning you. The people you you follow on social media, the content you consume, the things you read. You are molding yourself into the person you'll become with each action every single day"
I wonder what Clem said when she meowed for like 10 seconds
i’d like to know too
omg i needed this, i am so addicted to social media and my phone.... it's not healthy
my screen time is insane and i think i need help
omg the comment thing is never talked about & i’m glad you brought it up... cause i read comments all the time & my mood just gets all messed up :/
I love when you make these kind of videos so much. My recent upload was based off the one you did on how to stop hating yourself because this series has really changed my perspective on the way i look at things and life in general. Fr never stop making these videos 😭
Dude how I love your so chill and not forcing people subscribe. You asked them to unfollow if it helps. That’s a genuine person
finally someone who does one of these videos and their screen time isn’t like 4 hours, i love it here
I LITERALLY was just rewatching your “unfollowing everyone” video bc I wanna delete my IG 😭. Are .. you ... in my mind rent free?
yup i am!
I deleted it and it feels great, I check my Instagram sometimes on my laptop for like 5 seconds because then I get bored :)
@@lidialoren7035 same !
@@lidialoren7035 oh I mean like permanently-permanently deleting lol, not just disabling! that’s why I’m stuck
@Jess Kaldwin what i do is that i don’t have insta on my phone but i have it on my ipad so from time to time i answer dms from my friends but don’t really check other people’s posts
“I dont think sm is toxic but i think the way you use it can be” YES
I literally haven’t been going on Instagram for about 3 months. I posted once before Christmas saying I wasn’t really going on it very much anymore but yeah. I got too obsessed with how “aesthetic” I looked or getting sad that I think I used to be prettier and I got more likes and I got so obsessed with likes and getting a certain amount and if I didn’t I would be in a bad mood like all day. I just feel it doesn’t benefit me and I would doom scroll all day and feel empty afterwards. I still have a problem with watching RUclips too much instead of doing things that would help me achieve my goals but my goal is to limit watching it to three hours a day (I go on it for like 10 or more probably)and analyzing what content is actually important to me. I love your content Nicole and love how honest you are and you’ve helped me see that I’m not alone in my feelings. You always make my day when I see you’ve posted a video and I hope you see the impact you’ve made on others lives ❤️
"Stop idolizing people."
Me, a very hardcore kpop stan: 👁 👄👁
I can relate lol
BTS ARMY HERE 💜💜💜
I honestly wish that a lot of social media didn't have stuff like likes or view counts and literally just gave you the ability to comment, because I feel like that would make it so much easier to stop being pedantic about our likes and seeking a validation that never really gets fulfilled. Instead just having comments would place the focus on creating a discourse and interacting with people more through your content, which in turn is a lot more fulfilling for most people
I used to have Instagram and tiktok, which made my mental health horrible. Almost a year ago, I just decided to delete Instagram and tiktok cuz why not and trust me, my mental health was so much better. I started to do what I actually loved rather than just sitting down looking at picture perfect models and wishing I could look like them. I started using RUclips more, where people are more authentic. I think now my mental health is better and I spend less screen time and do things that are actually good for me
Clemmi is the only influencer I take advice from
I never clicked a notification so fast. So many people need to hear This and also watch your other advice videos. Thanks for being honest and real with everyone.
i saw a video where refreshing your feed is like getting a new fix. it’s honestly so addicting when you see social media as a way of validation for every part of your life. Twitter especially has made me insecure about things that I would have never been without it. love this video, thank you Nicole!!
It's so essential to set boundaries with social media!
We have to live more in the moment and appreciate what we do have
It's funny how when we are young we really want social media and we thought it was such a great thing and now it just makes us depressed
I used to be so obsessed with social media in 2019 and early 2020, I had Instagram, I did RUclips, I was on discord servers, and I followed thousands of people on every platform. I think saying I was unhealthy is one hell of an understatement.
Fast forward to today, January 17th 2021. I can proudly say I don't really use social media anymore, and I watch RUclips for fun. I'm super chill about social media now because at the end of the day there are more important things, and worrying about my virtual reputation is a waste of time and energy.
So glad you made this video Nicole, I hope it helps a lot of people. :)
Another huge tip that singlehandedly helped me the most - reduce social media intake/quit altogether!! I gave up instagram over 6 months ago since it just never made me happy & ever since my confidence has skyrocketed! Honestly is a lot easier than I thought it would be. I hope this inspires someone else :)
i just had a full on anxiety attack and i dont know why everytime i go on ur account i feel a sense of comfort and i wanted to say thank u for that.
constant social media and news= brewing pot for gen z anxiety
YES!! I second this entire video. I was growing an Instagram account for a niche I was specifically passionate about last year and I felt as though if I didn’t follow all of the accounts back in the same niche that it was a negative thing so I did and then turned around and went through and unfollowed a plethora of accounts and as much as I wanted to support everyone who potentially supported me, it was so beneficial for my mental health to just follow accounts / back that I genuinely enjoy and cut out certain things from my constant viewing. Saying it out loud I feel as though it should be an obvious thing to do but I know so many people need to hear it aside from me through talking to others with similar experiences ❤️ also YES on the capitalizing and just chilling. Love your video and so glad to have found your channel recently!!
We stan niki nasty’s character growth
ahh yeah i really needed to hear the "having a bunch of likes and followers and all that isn't gonna make you happy" because i get so caught up in the little dopamine boosts but then end up feeling so bad about myself when i could have used that energy to do smth i genuinely love or be around people who make me feel comfortable and like i'm good enough
Her voice is literally so relaxing can’t wait for the pod to be back✨✨✨✨
also!! id reccomend not using social media when youre bored, and instead using it when you *want* to go on social media. using it as a way to not be bored (ive found at least) just creates this loop where you spend hours every day on social media just scrolling and refreshing and scrolling. using it only when you want to go on social media not only limits your screen time (which ive found makes your head feel a little less groggy) but also means when you do go on youre more likely to be on with a good mindset, so youre less likely to feel like shit about what/how youre doing on it. idk. just find a thing thats not social media that you can do when youre bored. even if its like struggling to read your way through a book. its better to struggle reading the same page over and over than to be refreshing your twitter home page over and over :)
This is perfect timing 'cause one my new years resolutions was to stop taking social media so seriously cause it's not such a thing and having that mindset it's only being detrimental to my mental health. So thank u
you really are the friend you meet in a indie film who tells you life changing advice right when you need it
thank you nikki for everything, i feel like lots of things changed in my life since i found you
I clicked on RUclips tonight to watch something while I work on paperwork and honestly I was thinking “I hope Nicole posted something so I can watch” and boom there she was! Great way to end the night!
ive been waiting for your upload, you’ve really been helping me recently when i haven’t been feeling my best. thank you :)
thanks for this! I deleted all my social media on news years day because I'm fed up of all my days going into a black hole. Tiktok is actually so difficult to control because theres just a constant flow of content and it's so easy to forget what you were doing. I delete youtube too because I was wasting time watching videos I didn't actually care about, but i just saw that you uploaded this and its refreshing. I'm going to clear out my subcriptions now :)
"I'm still gonna hate myself even if this post gets a bunch of likes" Exactly! That's a good point
as someone who largely grew up without any social media (well who am I kidding I'm still growing up but whatever), I can attest to the fact that social media is hella weird and can mess with you in so many ways. I utilize the screen time feature on Apple devices and it really helps, but it's still so hard and it's really refreshing to see someone with a large positive following talk about this topic in an honest and thoughtful way
Me on social media
Nicole: stop and watch this video on why
Me: yes my queen ❤️
i subscribed to you a few months ago and now when i’ve been deleting sm apps, you just rEAD MY MIND and have been making these vids at the same time that are so relevant to me. AMAZING. i love hearing your thoughts and knowing someone else feels like me :)
This video being on my fav social media platform about how to stop letting social media ruin my life hits different. Ironic? More like ICONIC.
i really needed to hear these tips because social media really affected me by caring about likes & all that dumb stuff & it just pressured me to try to post everyday which is pointless when it’s better to just live in the moment & live your life in a more fun way if that makes any sense
Two things, one, I love these videos, it’s like having an online older sister. And I don’t have an older sister so it’s nice. Two, LOVE THE MAKEUP TODAY I thought it was a weird comments to make but I had to!
True. No matter how much views or likes or comments I get saying I’m “pretty” it doesn’t change my self confidence. Found myself chasing after it for no reason.
on the first day of school in 8th grade my English teacher ousted me for admitting to spending the summer on Facebook. at the time I rolled my eyes and wondered how someone could possibly hate social media. Facebook allowed me to talk to people who never talked to me in person, and instagram (which had just become popular) was a cool new thing for cute pics and weird challenges. throughout high school it took control of my life. I got snapchat in 9th grade due to peer pressure, and was constantly scrolling mindlessly through Facebook, instagram, and other platforms trying to become "somebody". during college I constantly saw "friends" out at parties and bars and rubbing it in my face when I hadn't been invited. I would delete a picture if it didnt get a certain number of likes in a certain time and worshipped my unfollowers app. yes I was that person who had the stupid app.
now as a senior in college I recently rose up and deactivated both my instagram and Facebook. social media was truly making me unhappy and ruining my college experience. I was so caught up in not being invited to trashy parties and not getting mindless comments from people I barely knew about my appearance to enjoy the things and people I did have. I am so much happier without them and wish I had listened to my 8th grade English teacher earlier.
Liked that point about being more casual with social media. Turning off my notifications has really helped. Haven't scrolled on ig and Twitter the last 3 days and have felt the anxiety levels lower.
With the whole comments thing I agree, like I will be really into a game/ youtuber or something else and everyone will just be bashing something I like and I will feel basically bad for liking it, most recently I felt bad that I was a teen girl that still played Roblox and bought Robux when its considered a "childrens game", although it was made for children that doesnt mean other people cant enjoy it :/ also reading comments of other girls in my school has ruined me basically. Like I will scroll throgh people commenting "you are so pretty" or "beautiful" on someones post and I will compare my posts to theres and see if I have more likes or comments. Its sooo toxic and one of my biggest regrets in getting Instagram. Im gonna delete it soon but Im going to wait until I get my new phone. Yeah, thats my Ted Talk
I had a really toxic time with social media When I was younger, especially on tik tok (which was musical.ly then). I got so much anxiety, and at the end it was so bad, that I just one night out of almost fright of seeing how my life had turned out, I uninstalled it. Now a few years later I have a much better relationship with social media. But it just shows how it can really ruin your life. Those two years of my life I was only like 12, 13, but I was in such a bad place that those years of my childhood was just almost completely ruined. Every laugh was fake, I didn't run around and played, and I almost pushed away my real life Friends some times. Just wanted to comment this because it felt nice to let out. :)
Me, two days ago: wow I’m really getting upset about losing insta followers that’s not healthy :((
Nicole:
my instagram anxiety has been the worst and this helped so much thank you so much for talking about this
Clementine is literally the most beautiful cat I've ever seen
Wow your cat's speech at the end was so inspiring
I was just thinking about this topic earlier...mind reader lol
Literally same!
same
omg me too! i just deactivated yesterday LOL
taking Nicole’s manifestation advise way too seriously lmao
she has a video called "proof, i'm psychic" XDD
Social media is great for a lot of things, but I think when we start treating it as our primary form of satisfaction in our lives, that's when it becomes harmful. It's fun to just see what people are up to and communicate thoughts and that's it! It's not a verification of your worth and once you realize that and start using it just for fun, I swear, it helps so much.
I'm trying to get back into reading again and use that as a sort of replacement for all the times I'd normally scroll through my feed and let me tell you, it has been GREAT. 10/10 highly recommend!!
i'm literally going through a pete davidson phase rn lol
As someone who deletes social media for the school year and redownloads only for the summer... these tips are still really helpful!
geez i didn’t know i needed this until now
another thing that worked wonders for me: limit who has access to your life!!! i think while we're in high school, it's a norm to follow and be followed by everyone. but there doesn't have to be any beef to just remove people if they make you second-guess yourself! this also goes for those judgmental people that you feel like you 'have' to have on social media. spoiler: nah you don't. it's your account, your safe space to just be yourself. use that!!!
The way she said "or you're disgusting" was so lovely 😂😂💓💓
super interesting video!!! i ended up deleting instagram and twitter a while ago because i felt like people on there get their world news from social media and then make it a whole competition to see who cares about a tragedy more. which is literally like the most insane thing ever. you dont have to post about a tragedy/crisis in order to prove that you care about people... just the performative activism can be really sickening sometimes idk
bruh u read my mind!! was literally just checking my screentime and asking for tips on how to reduce screentime 😭
- honeypot films
i wish i saw this a year ago. i can’t express how much i needed it. everyone needs to see this
we've all had that phase where we would put Drake lyrics in our captions, don't feel bad lol
Girl, you know what: You have such a nice lighting. Not that eye killing bright white light that some RUclipsrs have.
I just deleted all mine, hahaha. All I have now is Discord, RUclips (not channel, I just use it to watch videos), Pinterest and my podcast C'est La Me (go check it out if ya wanna). So...yup. I gained a lot of clarity after deleting it, however, it's not for everyone.
Same, I still need to delete Instagram, but the top teir platforms are Spotify, RUclips, Discord and Pintrest (and also minecraft and roblox as games bc i play them with my friends)
For a few months now I have had deleted all my social media, besides yt and tiktok, because it had a very negative effect on me, I have been always triggered by all the negative things that were happening all over the world and felt really stressed by it, another thing was that I was a people pleaser, I would ask people what i should do how should I look or dress, I shared a lot of my life and i didn't feel great with it. I watched one of your previous videos where you said to unfollow the people that we don't feel comfortable following, I did that, it is a great tip but wasn't enough for me. I was still looking at likes and things like that. When I deleted them I realised that i was worrying about people that weren't worrying about me. I'm not constantly stressed about a lot of things happening in the world and I stopped comparing myself to others. It helped me a lot and I don't think that I will be going back to socials. If anyone feels highly affected by them then try giving them up for some time, it really helps you heal. A lot of times we don't even realise that it affects us that much. Also a great tip is turning off all notifications from socials, you won't be checking them all the time and will be more focused :)