I don't like my Type - Type 4 Dressing Your Truth
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- Опубликовано: 4 янв 2025
- I don't like my Type - Type 4 Dressing Your Truth
Learn this simple 6 step process to clear shame and judgment so that you can show up as the bold, striking, stunning, amazing person that you are so that you can bless this world with your gifts of wisdom and perfection.
Have you ever been told that you are a know-it-all, you need to be more social and outgoing? Do you ever feel that you don’t get the respect that you want and deserve? That you have to “soften” yourself for others to like you?
In my system of Energy Profiling, I teach that the Type 4 person naturally has an exact structured approach to life with a bold solid stance. They have clear opinions and a gift for perfecting and creating efficiency and structure. They have less need for social interactions, and often have a close tight-knit group of friends.
(2:42) Clear the energy of shame so that you can embrace the bold, striking, deep-thinking person that you are.
(5:14) 6 Step Healing Session:
How to identify your shame-based beliefs.
Imagine your 7 yr old self with this judgment and shame. What would your “shirt” say?
Reparent to your child-self with this image. (7:25) I offer suggestions for Type 4 affirmations.
This is how to bring those gifts to your adult-self.
Type your positive statement in a comment.
Do this to claim this truth and to own it as yourself now.
Share this video with another Type 4 person who is still living in shame, to bless them with the gift of knowing their truth.
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How did this video help you?
Still not sure. people say I am a yellow personality but. I am comfortable in black and I was shhh'd a lot to be quiet.
@@bobbyc.1111 Here is some further information bit.ly/1ei2wXd on Dressing Your Truth® and why it is not like the other color systems, and here I share her personal experience as well] my.liveyourtruth.com/dyt/4-seasons-color-analysis-system/.
Im still confused. I hate hate hate type 4 clothes I feel like it sucks my energy away. I get even more depressed and lazy than usual. I think I'm 4/1. I love to have fun, I hate chores I start lots of new projects and hardly finishing them. I doodle hearts and stars. But on other hand im socially awkward, I'm not animated at all. Nobody will agree with me if I say I'm type 1. So I'm just very much stuck. I'm not interested to shop coz I hate these clothes so much, I just don't know who I am in this program.
@@khawlahkhawlah1988 Please email my support team at support@dressingyourtruth.com for more help in determining your Type.
What if I don't like the bold Type 4 colors? I like the energy profile of Type 4s enough, and I like the fit and symmetry of Type 4 lines. But I don't like the idea of a wardrobe full of bright and bold-colored clothes or a makeup collection of only red lipstick. My favorite colors are in Type 2 and Type 3; that's what I love to see. (BUT I know I look better in the Type 4 style... it just doesn't feel 100% me.) What if I just don't like the Type 4 style? How do I embrace it, and how do I combine my secondary Type 2 to feel like the style is truly my own?
I’m a very strong type 4 and the word introvert always strikes me the wrong way bc it’s not that I don’t like people, I’m just selective about who I like!
You will like this video, it doesn't have to do with liking people or not. ruclips.net/video/DxkE-MxVsz0/видео.html
Carol I so appreciate your system. As a child, I was told I was “too much”. I burned that t shirt in the exercise, and replaced it with “ I’m a natural deep thinker whose ideas are heard”. Thank you for understanding what I’ve overcome to simply accept myself.
I felt rejected for being a know it all. My child self felt very abandoned for sharing thoughts and ideas. I feel very grateful for feeling respected for my bold and deep thoughts. Thank you.
You are welcome! Isn't it a blessing to know your true Type?
I always felt belittled from childhood and told often to stop being so odd and mix more go to this and that, you can't be so serious!!! It wasn't fun for me to pretend to enjoy myself in situations I had thought through and didn't want to be in or people that drained me. So now this all makes sense and I am no longer chained to FITTING in. Thank you Carol I am so glad my children will not have to feel guilty in being their true selves xo
Great to hear! Do you know your children's Types?
I resonate with your comments. I was always being told not to take life so seriously and that I was behaving like an old lady
Wow. I’m in awe in how you made me reflect why I feel that I can’t make friends or not social enough. You made me reflect back on a childhood memory that I actually buried or forgot about. Being in school and watching all the kids play, whilst I couldn’t find someone to play with. I would sit alone and eat my packed lunches. It made me feel unwanted as a child. As an adult I still feel this way, I feel as though no one would be interested to be my friend and I often envy people who have great social skills. Thank you for making notice that it’s just a doubt from a negative experience in my childhood.
I'm glad this video helped you. Have you visited my healing center at healwithcarol.com? This can help you heal that negative belief.
I read a lot of the comments and did not see anyone that had the same experience as I had as a child. I was an extremely sensitive child. I was obsessed with "feelings". I can remember even thinking that inanimate objects, such as school papers had feelings. I would cry very easily, often frustrating my parents as I had my feelings hurt so easily. That is why I thought I was a type 2 before being truth bombed by Carol as a type 4. I grew up with 4 brothers. We were a military family so moved every 2 years which made it difficult to make close friends. My parents were very loving and caring. Have any other type 4's experienced this being so sensitive? Thankfully, I have outgrown this, but just curious if anyone else experienced it. All of Carol's videos have helped me to know myself and my type better. Thank you, Carol!
I am grateful that I can see the big picture and bold enough to live my truth.
Perfect!
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OMG. My old t-shirt was "My opinion is always wrong." When you said "I'm a deep thinker that's respected for who I am," that shook me to the core. Holy cow. I'm so excited to wear this shirt now!!!! Thank you Carol. I'm sharing myself in a way I'm respected and heard by others.
Good for you! Isn't it a blessing to know and live your true nature?
I've always been told that I am too opinionated as a child and too stubborn...and I would ironically also frequently get comments about the wisdom beyond my age. I am both a type 4/2 and an INFJ. Figuring out that I can be boldly opinionated, intuitive on my friends emotions, and empathetic at the same time has been relieving. Since discovering that I am a type 4, I feel a sense of quiet boldness. I feel like no one else can sense the change, but internally I feel stronger. I feel like mentally I am more resolved and focused. I am bold and resolute!
Good for you! Isn't is wonderful to know and honor your energy?
I’m an INFJ too and am stuck between 2/4.
Also an INFJ and finally stepping into 4/2, no longer hiding and softening in the Type 2 world (I had leaned way too much on Fe). It's beautiful and it's comfortable, but it's not my home. I'm happy to connect with some others on a similar path.
I am a type 4 and I am here to comment I am relieved I don't need to be more social or as social as other people 's types. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!
You are welcome. Isn't it a blessing to know and live your truth?
living too much in my own head - too stubborn > I am grateful that I have an incredible imagination, intelligence and level of deep caring on matters (and the select few) that I am passionate about.
Thank you for sharing!
I was told I was to serious, read too much, asked too many questions, was too much in my "own world". Go out and play with the other children and so on. I think I was "trained" of my very dominant mother to be a type 2. I was afraid of her anger. Still I´m very sensitive in every aspect. Even I´m not quite sure of my features (high cheekbones) am I for sure my own authority. I stand up for my values. English is not my mother-tongue but I hope you understand.
It is wonderful to know and live your true self. Have you taken the free course at dressingyourtruth.com?
When I was younger, I was often told I was boring, no fun, too uptight. The TRUTH is that I know the boundaries that honor who I am, and I am a lot of fun when I feel safe and not pushed beyond my own boundaries. I have been debating whether I’m a 4/1 or 1/4. This exercise helped me to realize that as I’ve gotten older and found people who respect me (and themselves), my secondary T1 has come out much more and people now see me as funny and outgoing! Go figure! :) Carol, thank you for all you do!
I'm glad you've determined your Type. You can heal and move forward. You are not boring.
I am grateful that I am respected for my bold opinions. ❤️ Thanks, Carol. I agree that knowing that I don’t have to be social has been such a relief for me since knowing I am T4.
Thank you for being you!
Thank you! It is so exact! In my T-Shirt when I was teeneger it says "I'm too thinker, to bossy" now "I'm respected for my matture aproche to life" and "I'm a deep thinker who is respected for who I'm" and this social thing...so true!!! Some time I was ashame of my bold thing. Thank you for your work and the good that you are doing in the world.
Perfect! You are welcome!
I immediately imagined a white t-shirt with black lettering. 'I'm not Good Enough' to 'I am bold'.
Perfect, thank you for sharing!
I’m pretty sure I’m a 4/1. My 1 can come out and make me more “friendly”. But, I’ve had many people in my life tell me there initial opinion me is that I’m cold and rude. My mom told me as a small child, I was the Boss between my twin brother and I. I’m naturally polite and was refashioned to be quiet as I got a bit older by my mother. Therefore, being a shy child. I have family members who see my 1 more, so they see me as childish. So when I try to give my opinion, they sweep it under the rug making me feel disrespected and unimportant.
You can heal this and move forward. Have you visited my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com?
I am grateful that I am appreciated for my thorough, deep thinking, perfecting nature. I will live true to myself 💖
Perfect!
I love deep thinking and thorough . I love these qualities about myself
I can't believe how much you understand me. And yes, I do get ashamed of who I am sometimes. I remember my mother telling me to be more social, go out and make friends, all the time. But I was always happy reading, drawing, learning, playing, writing and listening to music, by myself, concentrating and focusing on something I liked doing. Throughout my life people have been telling me to go out more often, but being social sucks the energy from me and it takes a few days to recover from everyone stealing my energy. No one understands this, especially my extrovert friends who can sometimes verbally abuse me because of my tendencies to privacy. So, yes to everything you said. I do like socializing with my family and life long family friends and I always had one best friend growing up. That was enough for me. Honestly, this video made me want to cry. "I am both private and detail oriented" and just a little opinionated. ;-) I can't help it. Thank you for allowing me to just be me. I feel better about myself already.
I'm so glad this helped you. You can heal and move forward!
Anita, dear, I'm having a "Twilight Zone" moment now 😳😉: you have described my own childhood, and also how I feel nowadays about my personality and tastes!
Jokes aside, let's keep moving, shamelessly, proudly of being T4s! Hugs! 🌹🌹🌹
I heard " If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" quite often growing up.
Of course, that is good to live by, but Type 4s need to find an outlet for their critiques.
My negative t-shirt would have said Speak Up! My new t-shirt says, I'm a deep thinker and am respected for my thoughtful ways. Woohoo!!
Good for you!
I definitely agree with the expectation of being social. Though when you mentioned the balance within myself, I had an "ah hah!" moment. All of my closest friends are loud, social butterflies. My balance is the symmetry I bring to them, not the group or myself.
Thank you for sharing.
My husband is a 3, my only 2 friends are 3. In the past my closest friends were 3s. I'm having an aha moment right now. Like you said, I bring balance to them. (and they get me out of the house, lol)
Great ah-ha!
I always felt ashamed to speak a truth that might disrupt the mood. Both my parents are type ones. So I could see how they unintentionally bestowed the need to keep the mood light in all scenarios on me.
In fact, I got so good at shutting out my bold opinions and being the life of the party that I had convinced myself (and soooo many others) that I was a type one!
In this visualization, I was brought back to my 8th birthday party. I don’t remember much about that day except for the fact that I ended up with a circle of licorice on my nose like a clown. (Literally a mask of fun)
My younger self was wearing this shirt that said “I’m responsible for the moods of others”.
I helped her change into a new shirt that said “you are not responsible for the moods of others and therefore can speak your truth freely” (that’s a lot of words for a tee shirt).
Thanks again, Carol.
Thank you for sharing this! Isn't it a blessing to know and live your truth now?
“ Not responsible for the moods of others” I absolutely love that.
I often feel like I'm not a very good type 4, because I'm not very organized or timely.
that is me exactly. And I have been lectured about it my whole life
You can heal and move forward. Have you visited my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com?
I'm a 4/1. As a child I was too loud. Daydreamer. Weird. Crazy. Too moody. I'll never forget a photo of me that I liked and someone dear to me didn't like it because I was too serious. In my mind it was a really wonderful day and I was truly happy.
Thank you for sharing. Isn't it wonderful to know and honor your true nature?
@@CarolTuttleVideos Yes! Yes it is!
I am all heart. I'm appreciated for my natural gift of seeing and speaking truth.
Perfect for a Type 4!
My Mom used to say I have a "chip on my shoulder," and that I "didn't suffer fools gladly." I also heard I was too "retiring." I heard all this to mean I appeared to think I was better than everybody else, snobby and standoffish. I knew that wasn't who I really was. I was also praised for being intelligent, kind, sweet, a loyal friend, and sticking up for others. When young, though, you can't help but to absorb some of the shame. Thank you, Carol, for holding up a mirror reflecting and naming who I truly am - bold, striking, impactful and just fine this way. The truth and insight you've helped me discover through your DYT course, books, clearings and Lifestyle content have impacted and enhanced my life. What a gift. I'm learning to manage and balance my lead T4 energy with other, natural T3 (secondary) and some T2 tendencies to best relate in my world while remaining authentic. I thank God I found you, and share your content hoping others will accept the gift.
Thank you for sharing, I am so happy to help!
I relate so much to this video, thank you Carol. I think my mother and I are both T4’s. But different secondaries. I remember (she was a nosy helicopter mom) me not that, I remember her and my Dad never giving me compliments on getting 100% scores on finals in school only telling me if I got 100%, that it was too easy for me! My Mother always asking me why I didn’t have a lot of friends in school and shaming me because I was too picky with who I liked and didn’t like. I remember my 6th birthday like yesterday. My Mom told me not to invite anyone over and I had already invited my bestie that was a year older in school. And I told my friend my Mom told me I can’t invite you over for my Birthday. My friend just laughed and said she already got a bus pass to drop off at my house and don’t worry her Mom and Dad will come pick her up at 8. My parents knew her parents. Well when I grudging told my Mom that I had already invited “Debbie” over for my birthday, my Mother had a screaming crying fit. LOL. My Dad had to calm her down and I have carried the pain of that being not able to have a Birthday Party ever because it’s too cold in January and too close to Xmas. I have two sisters one is a type 1 and the other is T2. Family is not close because my Mother plays off from everyone. She hates the fact that we could ever be close without her being center stage. It’s fine if all 4 of us are together but if it’s just 3 it’s always this is my favorite today, I’m leaving you out. With all of us sisters. So we aren’t very close. Sad isn’t it. She is an only child. I’m 60 and she is 78. If we are meeting up it’s nonstop texting, are you on time, too controlling. Maybe she’s a T3 S4. 😁
Thank you for sharing. You can heal and move forward!
While I often don't feel respected and appreciated because of my opinions, my knowledge based on research and thoughtfulness, I'm grateful I like me. I'm grateful both my parents appreciated and supported me for who I was and am.
My shirt says, 'My thorough opinions are GREATLY respected!'
That is wonderful that you know your Type and can heal and move forward. Have you visited my healing center at healwithcarol.com?
@@CarolTuttleVideos Absolutely!(See my Type 4 again?lol) I'm also joining your lifestyle website! This is all coming at the *perfect* time in my life. Thank you Carol. :)
My response to the new t-shirt :) -- "People enjoy and respect me for boldly speaking my clear opinions and for being principled and solid."
Perfect! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you Carol, my new T-shirt says "I am an intelligent, beautiful princess" So much baggage from my childhood, but happy to burn that old way of thinking.
Perfect!
Ive always been taught my opinion dosent matter and people would talk over me when I went to speak.
You can heal this and move forward. Have you visited my healing center at healwithcarol.com?
Wow. I am absolutely in love with everything about this video and you. Thank you so much for your work, it has been so healing and relieving❤️❤️❤️
You're welcome! Are you a Type 4?
@@CarolTuttleVideos yes! I just took the quiz and listened to some videos, I’m so excited to learn more!!!
You are enough, you are so smart, you are so structured and an excellent planner, you see the bigger picture and the next steps much faster than your family and friends, it makes you feel different but his will benefit you hugely in the future.
Good for you! How long have you known your Type?
You know, you put a smile on my face. Thank you Carol.
Are you a Type 4?
@@CarolTuttleVideos i don't know but your message resonates with me
How do i learn my type. I know about the mbti I'm actually infj but i never learned about any numbers
@@kanahchi Please visit dressingyourtruth.com/freeoffer to learn about energy profiling!
I am compassionately strong and effective!
Good for you!
My type 4 is crossed with either T3 or T1. My mom always said I was bossy. I would love to be told I’m normal being home and having few ‘friends.’
You can heal and move forward. Have you visited my healing center at healwithcarol.com?
I was considered too smart and made other kids feel dumb so I needed to tone it down. I needed to smile more as a woman or was too serious, my mother would tell me to take smaller steps and be more feminine like her, she is type 1. Too masculine and intense, my mind is always on and others can't keep up with me, men only like girly girls etc. Really I see these are warrior, leader qualities. Thank you this was a real find. You're a very clever woman Carol.
You can definitely heal and move past that shaming. It's a blessing to know and honor your true nature.
My mother has always criticized me for being too opinionated and too forthright in speaking my thoughts. She also would tell me that I should stop all this deep thinking. I’m 76, and my mother only recently passed; so I got those messages for many years. I’ve been trying to soften my speech and trying to speak, maybe,like a Type 2. I’ll have to think about this.
No mingling, chit chatting… you are absolutely right!!🎉
Have you taken the course at dressingyourtruth.com?
Oh wow, OK, I will email support. Thank you!
I often heard as a child and teenager that I was slow. Did’nt know what that meant. But it made me feel inadequate somehow and that there was something wrong with my intelligence. I nowadays have trouble finishing projects that I start.
And as a grownup I have felt that it was something wrong with me ,because I like so much alone time and don’t like crowds.
How long have you known your Type?
Only for a few days,never thought I’d be a type 4.
I thought I was a type 3 first,in fact I was convinced of it . Because I like the clothes,and it looks a lot like the colours I love to wear. But I had trouble figuring it out,because I’ve been conditioned so much in my childhood that I rebelled later by being the opposite.But so much had been suppressed . My parents think I’ve always done my own thing, . But I’m not a type 3, when it comes to getting things done . I have trouble starting and finishing . And ended up being burnt out because I can’t focuse on more than one thing at a time and I have been a real people pleaser.
And one thing more ,I can’t stand black clothes ! Except for pants or a jacket or an occasions cocktail dress but not a whole dress. I love colours or else I can’t live . So I did not want to be a 4.
I am a very nervous person ,so I also did not think that I would fit in the profile of a type 4. But my childhood had also made me that way,so one does not know if that is how I am or because of how I was raised.
Hi Carol ,I just watched your video with a girl named Jessica who is a type 3. And I am now sure I am a type 3!😊 I recognized myself in her ,I have experienced the same in my childhood. But also being shamed for being in on my own cloud a lot. So its difficult to tell. Maybe I got so wirhdrawn at times because it was difficult inwirement for me.
Do you yourself ,do assessments about types and what is the cost if so ?😊
Thankyou 🌷
Being judgemental, critical, and not social! I never think of myself as being bold, stunning,etc. I thought I was a type two, and was very upset at being a four! I gotta do some work on that! Going to watch this video again!! I like being bold!
Have you visited my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com? There is a clearing session there about not liking your Type that would be beneficial for you.
Thanks Carol, I have it bookmarked so I can find it and watch!!!
First T-shirt: WEIRD! I am hard to get to know.
New T-shirt: I have a KNOWING.
The second t-shirt looks much better on my freckle faced inner child. I have this intense need to mentally travel back in time and just LOVE on that little girl. She was so great and had absolutely no idea because she was told so often that she was wired wrong. Now I know that my perceived weakness is actually my coolest superpower. I love being my own authority. I love seeing the big picture.
LOVED this exercise! Talk about fully dressing your truth!
Now...how do I stop over-analyzing my energy type? I am so "sure" and then I think too hard about it and go back to the doubt place, because it's not exactly perfect. Mostly I am uncertain about my secondary - which feels much harder to peg.
It sounds like you already know you are a Type 4. Focus on your dominant energy first. Don't worry about your secondary. It will become apparent in time. The most important aspect is your dominant energy.
Right on the money! Not anti-social!
Yes!
And not shy.
This was definitely my childhood growing up my twin sister is definitely type 1. As a 4 I wasn’t supported by my family to be my true self. I was too quiet too shy as a child. Low self esteem. I’m proud to be a type 4
This, for some reason, brought my 21st birthday to my mind.
My sister (who I lived with) invited her friends to my "party". I was led to believe they ordered a pizza. Well, the " pizza guy" was a stripper. I was embarrassed and wanted to leave.
That stripper was really for everybody else, not me. I just wanted the pizza, honestly. I could never figure out why that whole incident made me feel so empty inside. I mean, they wanted to do something special for me, and I hated it. I just thought I was being a weirdo, and ungrateful.
I'm fairly sure I was the only type 4 from my family of origin, so I always felt like I didn't belong, like there was something "wrong" with me.
You can heal now and move forward. Have you taken the course at dressingyourtruth.com? I also have a Healing Center at healwithcarol.com.
@@CarolTuttleVideos I bought the original course years ago, but since then I've separated and became... financially challenged.
I would like to become a member of the healing site but I'm in survival mode. I guess this is a midlife crisis, lol. I'll tell you, it's much worse than anyone ever described it.
@@KittyPepperPhd You can heal and move forward. I have a lot of great free content that will help you here on the RUclips channel.
@@CarolTuttleVideos thank you! I've been watching a lot of your videos, and they are helpful. It's a process.
Kitty, I wouldn't have liked it either. I get it.
On my shirt as a child you can read a bold reproachful „Who do you think you are?!?“. And I stopped seeing myself as who I thought I was, because there seemed to be something wrong with it. My mother did not say it like that but her behaviour taught me that it‘s ok to be self-confident and bossy at home, but never outside with other people. So I ended up acting like a type 4 at home and acting (and feeling!) the complete opposite in any other situation - still knowing and feeling all the time, that this isn‘t me! Can‘t imagine to change that but I am trying - step by step... Long way to go...
You can heal! Have you visited my healing center at healwithcarol.com?
I think my shame based statement is, "No one wants to hear what I really think, and if I share my opinions, I'll be rejected."
"I am a deep thinker who's ideas are worthy of respect."
But this is where I get stuck....I have so many attributes, tendencies, and preferences that are Type 4. But I also have a T1 energy I can easily access when I'm with others. I have always liked to challenge and stretch myself so that I can grow and develop all aspects, but if I really am a T4, then it makes me question if that is genuine access of my unique self or if I've tried to be a chameleon to not get rejected.
That's why it's such a great benefit to know and honor your Type. Remember we do have all four Types in each of us, we just lead with our dominant energy. And when we live true to our dominant Type we are more authentic and a gift to the world. Have you taken the course at dressingyourtruth.com? What is your facial profiling and natural body movement/energy telling you?
Thanks, Carol. I was very hurt and angry about it as a kid...and I hated myself for being the negative stuff the people who made me so angry thought I was. I don't know how that relates to thinking I'm too bold unless it's because I decided I wasn't going to take anyone's doo doo anymore and over compensated.
I'm glad this helped you. You can heal and move forward!
It is okay to be who I am. I have clear opinions. I am good at finding my own way to do things. I am enough. I am strong.
Perfect!
Exhausting having to go to parties with my highly social husband. My husband would tell me I need to be more social and talk to people.
Does he know about Energy Profiling?
I had a teacher in 5th grade call me "serious stephanie" and it hurt so much because I was shamed for my serious nature, I always feel like I should "lighten up." I'm embracing my T4 nature of bold, balanced, and reflective opinions. I naturally attract respect and that honors how God made me. I'm letting that shame go of being a "know it all" and am wearing the shirt of "I am smart and thoughtful."
Good for you! How long have you known your Type?
@@CarolTuttleVideos One year :) It has helped me soooo much!
I was always very curious as a child and it was difficult to find adults who first had the time to answer my questions, and even when they did engage with my curiosity they struggled to meet me on the same level of reflection about the world around me. I became very good at figuring things out for myself, becoming very involved in philosophical and psychological topics at a very young age, and reading anything I could get my hands on. Sometimes my relatives would get frustrated because as a young child I had already worked out their behaviors and deepest intentions and insecurities before they did, resolving conflicts but aggravating my parents with a sense of innate maturity and emotional intelligence which they feared because they were meant to be the "teachers" not the other way around. Being social is rarely as satisfying as I usually hope it would be because I am either doing one of two things. Firstly I am likely relaying realizations of aspects of life I have come to know through my keen observation of things and ringing them out on a silver platter for people who are interested but haven't been as curious to do the investigating as rigorously I have and so I feel like I am either talking to someone who is not that intellectually stimulating to a point of offering me any new viewpoints and are not always on my level of inquisitiveness, ( mean this in the best way - my type 4 energy has me saying things bluntly for the sake of the point I am trying to make - im sure you understand!! Yay someone does!), otherwise, and more often than not I find myself having to switch off my deepest curiosities that are always rampant in my experience so that I do not overwhelm or bore my fellow conversationalists with mountains of intellectual topics which they have no interest in. I love people, observing them more than talking to them because as I am observing I can let my curiosities blossom and learn at the same time by analyzing and appreciating what I see. I suppose my childhood at home didn't accommodate my thirst for knowledge, I loved school and learning but i didn't like homework or cramming information for tests, it felt like beating a dead horse, the first time you learn something it is thrilling - cramming it in your mind is like spoiling the joy of its wonder by making it so commonplace and repulsive. I have a deep respect for knowledge, it is very relaxing for me to read and learn, i don't watch many series or things on TV. I love novel information that is useful and practical to my spiritual practice, my wellbeing, my quality of life, and my personal sense of freedom and independence.
I'm glad you know and understand your Type. How long have you known you are a Type 4?
Type 4 don’t wear graphic t-shirts!? 😅
Shirt before: I am a Control Freak
Shirt after: I am in Control!
I'm still confirming my Type and not finding as many Type 4 resources as it seems there are for the others. Haven't found a video that provides dressing/wardrobe direction.
Please start here: dressingyourtruth.com/freeoffer
I'm not sure what word I would put on the first t-shirt. "Other," "weird," "strange"? I didn't, and don't, fit in with my family, in spite of the obvious physical resemblance. I always felt like they had kidnapped me from the gypsies. Even my first-grade teacher hated me. No kidding, she was after me like nobody's business. She said I couldn't walk right, or talk right, and she went way out of her way to humiliate me in front of the class whenever she could find an excuse. She even sent me to speech therapy; the therapist sent me right back to class because there was nothing wrong with me. Then we moved out of state, and my next school was full of girls who dressed in ruffles and crinolines. (My clothes were plaid wool skirts and crisp white shirts, mainly. Tailored.) So the weird girl goes to a new school where she's even weirder. Gee, that was fun. It didn't get better until I turned 16 and over the summer I, er, became more physically attractive. Still weird, though. Over the years, I grew to embrace being different. People are either instantly attracted to me or instantly repelled. I may never understand my life, but at least I know that I'm not the only type 4 weirdo out there! I enjoy being intellectual and I never stop learning new things. Thank goodness for the internet. I can have philosophical discussions in the morning, and in the afternoon debate the pros and cons of Henry VIII's marriage to Anne Boleyn. I love it.
It's wonderful you know your Type. You can heal and move forward from your past. We are starting a Childhood Wounding plan in my Healing Center next week at healwithcarol.com. You can try it out free for two weeks. What would your new t-shirt say?
I am thoughtful because I care so much. I am grateful that other people see me and want my contributions.
My natural boldness & independence is filled with loving kindness and not a sign of being unusual or odd.
Thank you for sharing!
I am respected. Thank you, Carol, very much!!!
You're so welcome!
I have some different myths - which this video helped me realize. I can’t be a type four because I’m not smart (I grew up with a type four dad who was the intelligence authority). I can’t be type four because I don’t sit still (which I learned from one of your podcasts really just is that I can stay confused on something, not physically being still)
I'm glad you see these as myths. You can heal and be your true Type 4 self!
You look pretty in all those varying shades of blue, Carol.
Thank you so much!
This helped me because I’m a bossy, no-it-all (not letting you know, until it’s obvious you are wrong😉.) (Not, always) Realizing I don’t need as many friends as I thought( I should.) And knowing, I can love others with any I want. Because I actually do have strong feelings, that I can show to people I love or even, like. It’s ok if it’s a little or a lot.
I had "Nobody likes a know-it-all" and then in changed to "My Opinions Are Heard And Valued"
Perfect!
Brilliant.... so very true...I was always told i am too much :)
What can you replace "I'm too much" with?
I’ve been reading The Child Whisperer to better parent my 4/1 son, but in reading it, I’ve realized I’m a total 4 and mothering this boy the right way is so healing to my (entirely misunderstood and repressed) inner child. My mother is a very repressed Type 3 and Borderline on top of it, so she wasn’t the one to pause and reflect as a parent, to be selfless, or to emotionally mother her children. We learned early on to shut it up and carry on. My Type 1 little brother and I both have healed so much in parenting our own children (my nephew is also a 4/1 like my son). I’m sending my brother and SIL a copy of The Child Whisperer. ❤️
I'm so happy to hear you are breaking the pattern and parenting in a healthy way. Have you visited my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com?
Funny that you replied this. I opened the link yesterday and got busy. 😅
Before: aggressive and garish
After: powerful and striking
Great, thank you for sharing!
Thank you Carol, you are so awesome ❤
You're welcome!
For all these years I've thought I was a T3/T1!!! I just did the quiz again and was shocked at the T4 result. I am curly haired with moles and freckles over my face and body. I thought T4 were perfection personified! So I watched this video feeling very annoyed... until I recognized all those negative comments from my mother! So my little self Tshirt that read "You are too bossy" was changed to "I am an intelligent leader".
Good for you. You can heal and move forward.
Thank you Carol. You have helped me so much. I wish I could give you a hug. I have your book Dressing your Truth, and I think I will get It's just my Nature. I am a type 4/3 and I can wear myself out. I still struggle with feeling like I need to be more social For example, I let my secondary nature push me into trying to be more outgoing, but my type 4 gets stressed, and just wants to be less social. I feel like I am in battle with myself sometimes, and I think I can come across as too quiet or agressive. I am a work in progress within dressing in more bold colors, and starting to love it. I was told all of those things type 4s are like smile more don't be so serious, lighten up. Of course I tried to soften myself as most 4s do, and boy I noticed surprise in people's faces when I spoke with directness. I never understood it until I found your book and started researching about different types, I just thought I was odd. I will get this down thanks to you, and be the best me. ~ Christina
I'm so glad you know your Type and can live and honor it. Have you taken the course at dressingyourtruth.com?
@@CarolTuttleVideos I did Carol and it's helped me so much! Thank you! BTW you are aging backwards 😉.
I just want to thank you🌹
You're so welcome!
@@CarolTuttleVideos 🌹🌹🌹
I am worthy of respect!
Perfect!
I believe I might be a type 4, the one type I so hoped I was not. Everything resonates with me, the social aspect totally, the perfectionism, the need for silence and space and and and... although I can't relate to the intellect as I am very emotional and I am a poor planer/organizer.
My old T-shirt said: Who do you think you are.
My new T-shirt writes: I am all that is and that is perfect.
You can heal the feelings and thoughts of not wanting to be a Type 4 and get to the root cause of this. Please visit my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com.
I heard that "who do you think you are" too. I know who I am now!
I changed from "Lazy and Rude" to "Deep and Truthful"
Great, you can heal and move forward!
I have exacting standards. I have boundaries.
How long have you known your Type?
@@CarolTuttleVideos For a few years now but I doubted it, because I wasn't wearing it properly. I have been rewatching the videos, crying a lot and yes, I am bold! I tried to order the style guide last week but unfortunately you can't ship to the UK because of Brexit and taxes. So frustrating! Thank you for all the amazing healing I have been receiving form watching these awesome videos!
I am bad - you are right for who you are
I am not perfect - you are perfect just the way you are
I always say the wrong things - you say what you believe whether people like it or not
I am a deep thinker that is respected for who I am
I am beautiful and release myself from my mother’s view about how I should look and how I should feel about myself.
I am beautiful just the way I am, because of who I am
Yes, you can heal and move forward. Have you visited my Healing Center at healwithcarol.com?
My t shirt originally said 'Shut up Pippa.' because, for most of my childhood, I felt ignored, silenced, my parents were only bothered about my older brother. I have now changed this to 'My bold opinions matter '
That is fantastic
I love my type 4. What a relief that being me is not wrong. That my everything or nothing, black or white mentality is no longer bad. For as long as I can remember I have been told to have a more moderated view of the world, see shades. But could not. I have also been told not to waste my time perfecting things, that perfection is a waste of time, but I can't resist...I have been pushed into crowds of music classes, dancing classes, swimming classes, sailing classes, rowing classes, you name it, I did it all; I had activities 7 days a week to teach me to move more, move faster, interact more, in an effort to socialize me...ALL I EVER WANTED WAS TO BE ALONE...and I felt horrible (and wrong) for wanting that. I remember hearing on the radio, as a teenager, that a prisoner had been put into solitary confinement for weeks; that was the first time I felt envy. I WANTED that solitary confinement. When I heard of type 4, I totally recognized myself as one of the 4 beautiful energy types, I knew right away I had a right to exist. I felt adequate for the first time in my life. I will never thank you enough.
I'm so glad you know and honor your Type!
I am a thoughtful person who fights for what is right.
Great!
I'm a deep thinker. I don't have to talk all the time.
Perfect!
So I've watched all four of these videos and every single one resonated. As do the colors for each type and they all look good on me. So I'm very confused...picking a dominant type and a secondary feels wrong ...i resonate so strongly with each type equally ...what do i do
We have each Type in us, but we lead with a dominant Type. Please email my support team at support@liveyourtruth.com for more help!
Love you Carol!
Mine was 'I am allowed to speak my truth'. ❤️
What can you change that to now?
I totally relate to this
Thank you for watching and commenting!
I am my own authority I make my own choices which work for me. People like when I speak and I am respected. I am popular.
Good for you!
I am respected as the well thought out child I am.
Perfect!
I would love if your book gets translated into Spanish language and selled on Amazon, so I could get it there. Do you have any plans for that?
We appreciate your interest in making these resources available to speakers of other languages and we agree it is beneficial to help more people. When the timing is right, we will pursue translation services with publishing houses that specialize in non-English speaking markets.
I see the value of replacing a shame statement with an empowering statement. I am appreciated and respected for the efficient organized way i do things. Yet...i am struggling with the Type 4 colors. I have been told constantly throughout life that i look sick (pale, all color drained from my face) when i wear black. Even first thing in the am when my makeup is freshly done. I can literally see all the color drain from my face when i wear black. Bright white is NOT flattering on me like off white or winter white. How can i dress my truth when i look and feel horrible in these colors? I am really conflicted by this. The quiz says im a type two but all those grays drain my energy. I dont fit within your system. I wanted to but since I cannot wear colors that make me look good i cannot adopt your system. Why would you classify colors with emotion when God given colors of hair and eye and skin dictates flattering colors for individuals. Plus. I love texture and you dont allow texture in type 4. Silver tones do not flatter my warm skin tone at all. If i dressed the way you suggested i would not feel like me. I wud feel stiff. If i dressed type 2 i would feel frumpy and disheveled.
It sounds like you are not a Type 4 and maybe not a Type 2. We have other resources to help you determine your Type. Please email my support team at support@dressingyourtruth.com.
I am grateful that I am smart, bold and through.
Perfect!
Old T-shirt: You're too hyper. New T-Shirt: I'm excited by life!!! Thank you Carol!
Are you a Type 1?
@@CarolTuttleVideos 4. Later I came up with a better T-Shirt: I'm happy.
@@melissaoprendek7019 Good for you!
I'm too bossy -> I'm a leader
Yes, replace bossy! You are a leader!
I’m confused. I have all of the Type 1 physical attributes, but Type 4 personality! I love the Type 4 clothes, not so much the Type 1, especially in the winter! What does this mean?
Have you taken the free course at dressingyourtruth.com? This video will help you as well: ruclips.net/video/Qt4ZNJ1KtWc/видео.html
I am the same. Up close I have type one characteristics, but take in the whole of me and I come across as a four, even physically. So I am certain I am a 4:1. Maybe you’re a 4:1, maybe you’re a 1:4!?
My shame based belief is that I'm "extreme" and "stubborn".
You can heal and move forward. How long have you known your Type, and what words will replace those shame-based ones?
I have been researching, emailing support and back and forth for a long time. My most recent conclusion is that I'm a 4 after studying the facial profiling in more detail. I'm comfortable and happy embracing this. I wanted to apply for a truthbomb but I don't want to be told I'm not a 4 hehe. Thank you for what you do. I use to think I was a 2 but something was not right. I've gone back and forth but I'm at a good place now
Thank you for this question. Hmm. I would say instead of extreme I can say I'm thorough. For being stubborn I can say I don't give up on what I value.
“Bold & Powerful”
Perfect! How long have you known your Type?
I am grateful for being smart loyal and respective... thanks God
Great! Isn't it great to know and honor your true self?
I’d say I’m a mix between 4 and 2 but I’m autistic so how much of what comes over is determined by autism and is that part of my true self?
The fact that I cannot be heard of. That people don't give a shit about what I have to say or put on the table
. My new affirmation is that others trust me and hear all I say and offer
@@mirellasylla9881 Thank you for sharing your affirmation.
What colors should a type 4 wear ?
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