About the internet and pornography issue: The Good And The Beautiful has a really good unit on maturation. The unit has a section on pornography, and why we should stay away from it. The videos talk about how pornography is just helping sex trafficking, it has interviews from people who were formerly addicted to porn where they tell how having a porn addiction has affected their lives, and they talk about how they got out of the addiction. The videos were really eye opening even for me as an adult. They are done in a really thoughtful way. We thought the whole unit was very well done.
I just bought this and will be diving into some parts of it this summer with my daughter (Just the parts appropriate for a younger child). It's a great resource for revisiting as topics need to be addressed. My plan is to use this over the course of the next few years, and I have seen nothing but high praise about how The Good and the Beautiful address these topics!
I feel like from porn to other kids you're able to control the world your kids live in. Because of the number of the things I. The world you condemn I wonder why do you continue to have kids In a 🌎 so bad you really can't let your kids live in it unsupervised for more than 5 minutes safely?
Wow Sarah and Solo, this really hit home for me. I am a mother to a 8 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy and they have known electronics for a long time. It started with me giving them my cell phone as toddlers to “quiet” them down or to keep them occupied while I grocery shopped. It then graduated to my husband and I buying them tablets to help them learn their numbers, colors, etc. I always monitored what programs that was on their tablets until march of 2020. All of a sudden I’m working from home with a toddler and a kindergartner…oh and my husband who broke his hip on a electric skateboard…but that’s a story for a different day 🙄Suddenly, things were chaotic at home BUT there wasn't anywhere else to go! So, I did give my kids their tablets for an unlimited time because I had meetings to attend, trainings, and reports to submit to court. My kids quickly became addicted to their tablets and their behaviors changed They cried and screamed when we would take the tablets away, they were wired at night. Then my 7 year old daughter begins chatting with other players from games and trying to explain to her the reasons why she couldn’t text other players when all she wanted to do was make friends...it had to stop. So, more than 8 months ago my husband and I took the tablets away from our children. It was difficult at first but after 2 weeks our kids stopped asking for their tablets. We've noticed that they interact better with each other and they are more creative with drawing, coloring, and imaginative play! We now monitor RUclips content they watch as well because not everything on RUclips is kid friendly! I love the advice and thank you both for all you share! Tell my nieces and nephews hi from LA! ❤🙏🏾
@@bethlewis9981 I think she was referring to it coming into her household as a teen... when her parents got the internet and none of us knew what was going on!
We had a horrible situation when our grandaughter at 14 was scammed and manipulated by someone on internet. We are dealing with the consequences years later. I hope parents will really listen to you!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I just love your husband he’s so sensible and intelligent on things in life . There’s a knowledgeable sense about him. I can’t explain it.But anyway I like to hear him speak.
Sara I so love what you just said “we are trying to raise adults”. So many times I have watch people who have children that just forget that at some point their children will be considered adults in the real world and the real world will treat them that way whether they are ready or not. You two are doing a good job of raising responsible , caring, loving, people and that is not an easy thing to do.
Well said! As a teacher of 7th and 8th graders for over 30 years, I've seen a LOT of issues arise just because parents are NOT aware of what their child is really involved in. Teaching the "WHY" is so very important. Thank you for sharing this. Continued prayers! ❤️🙏❤️
You are so right. Many parents wouldn't dream of letting their child go alone to the park, but will readily allow them to enter into the world wide web, unmonitored.
Sarah, I know you’re a busy mama. BUT, if you started a parenting discussion series with advice and challenges, etc. I WOULD SO LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!! I have 3 boys and I admire your boys so much, I strive to raise such kind souls like you!!!
I’m soon to be 63. I love children but my childhood wasn’t the best and I knew at a very young age that having a child was not for me. I have 4 brothers. I have lots of nieces and nephews and 7 great nieces and my life is abundant with Joy and fulfilled as far as having children in my life! I also helped raise my husband’s 2 children, who are now in their 40’s! It seems it is such a difficult time with all of the internet and electronic games! We had TV and a pool table, many friends and my dad bought us a pong game! You two are wonderful parents and you have beautiful and kind children! Be Proud 🙏🏻🕊✝️🌸♥️
I love how protective (and rightfully so!) you two are with all your children, and their friends. My husband and I raised 3 boys. Our theory was always, in protecting their eyes, ears, and minds, we are also protecting their hearts. It’s our job and PRIVILEGE to protect them, and raise them to be the people God has called them to be. Kudos to you Solo and Sarah! I applaud you both. You are in our prayers as you strive to continue to protect their hearts, and their future. God bless you both!
You guys do SO well at really making your audience feel like they are a part of a conversation with you rather than just reading a script. Also, I adore how you each watch the other speak. Very endearing. ❤️
This is all so important! Thank you for speaking to it on this platform. I think there are parents who don’t even realize what they’re exposing their children to in this world, because it’s just the norm, and just need to learn. We don’t know what we don’t know! So thank you for using your voice!
Nothing has shown us the need to govern ourselves more than the internet has. You can put all kinds of perimeters for others, but the heart is still bent toward evil. So thanks for the great content, guiding the innocent, and also helping kids learn to make good personal choices. -Sharon
Bless you both 🙏🏼! I’ve always loved your channel and both of you individually but this video has blown me away. You are incredible parents to your beautiful children, and it is abundantly clear with everything that you share, that your family is focused on love and unity in the forefront. I have a whole new found respect for you both because everything you said should be considered by EVERY parent on earth. The internet and smart devices should never be a method to keep a child silent but unfortunately the internet and devices are taking over everything that made my childhood what it was; playing with the neighbors kids, playing in the yard, making up fun plays/shows/dances and playing Barbie’s in the dirt haha! This message is so incredible important! Thank you for being incredible human beings. I love you both and your incredible family! ♥️
Thank you both for your love for family and Christ. I will be sharing this video with my 13-year-old grandson that God has so graciously given me the honor of loving and raising him. Thank you for following your hearts on what God led you to share.
Y'all give me hope for the future of our children! We limited screen and cell use when our children were young and today they are thoughtful, creative, compassionate humans who value human connection over electronics. I continue to admire your commitment to your family ❤️
I love what you said about how the Lord will show parents what they need to be aware of. After raising our four children, who are adults with kids of their own, this truth was so powerful, as the Lord would enlighten me to areas of concern, and then He would provide divine grace and mercy to show how to lovingly guide them.
I don’t have kids but I highly recommend other parents watch this video and take notes. I love you you both parent. Your children are well rounded individuals, happy ,loved etc. bravo to you both❤
This is so timely for me as my six year old autistic daughter is becoming more interested in devices . As a young teen I experienced the images and bullying from school peers that I should have had no access to ! In that time our parents had no idea what we were accessing . I really admire you both as loving dedicated parents. ❤
I've been watching you guys for about 3 years now. Every video. I have to say I enjoy every one, but this is the BEST yet. You are amazing people and even better parents. Thank you!!!! Common sense & true love for your children. Wish the whole world was like this!
@@ASmith-jn7kf yes, thankfully! I stay home the majority of the day, so I get total control of what she sees. I know most parents don't get that opportunity. We are very blessed.
I agree. 80s was a great time to grow up. I appreciate my childhood now more than ever. Except for the fact that most of our parents were of the boomer generation which comes with a slew of issues in itself. Either way I'll take it over the internet generation. I feel so sorry for them.
I was in a counseling program for a month where phones were a no for the first two weeks, then not allowed during class times or in the building after that. It was such an eye opening time. It was like suddenly the world came alive in full color and sound again. Like the device fuzzed everything out a little because my brain was so used to being subconsciously connected to something else going on somewhere else. It was so crazy to stop and really notice how many people were looking down all the time. How many people would be out together but never talked to each other. How dependant I felt on the distraction every time I needed to wait for something. It was so surreal. But, having gone back to regular life, it's so easy to get sucked back in, even knowing what I know...
Great advice! My MIL has a neighbor who had their 14 year old granddaughter spend the night. They live in a small town and another neighbor heard a car door and she looked out the window and saw a man parked in their alley. She didn't recognize the person and watched him walk to the back of her neighbor's house and saw him enter a side window. She immediately called the police thinking she was stopping a burglary. What was happening was that the granddaughter had been talking with this "boy" and had let him in the window when her grandparents were asleep. This "boy" was in fact 32 years old and had driven several hours to meet this young lady. So not only are you protecting your children but others!! Who knows what would have happened if the police weren't called immediately. Many blessings to you and your family!!!
I agree when I worked at Sam's club part time i saw to many adults coming thru the line and they were hooked to their phones. I would see kids trying for parents attention that the parents were hooked to the phone. I wanted to shout put the phone down people pay attention to the little ones that are striving for your attention.
I agree with you! It is so important to monitor internet use with your kids. Also, you hit the nail on the head with commercials. Even young children’s shows have inappropriate commercials! Great video.
Thank you for raising awareness and practical tips on this very important topic! About a decade ago I was staying with a bunch of teenagers for a friend who was out of town (including exchange students). I remember feeling very uneasy about all of them on the internet in their bedrooms with the doors closed. I was down stairs, silently panicking, wondering how I could protect them and I couldn't think of good solution in my position and I felt awful!
Hello Our Tribe of Many, good to see you both. Love watching your videos. My Aunty use to love flip phone, but she have changed to Samsung phone. Before time we do not have television up on the Island in the Torres Strait, living with my grandparents. We go gardening and bring back chopped wood to start a fire to cook our cooking for the evening. Well for me it was a hardship for my grandparents, but I’ve learned so much from them and I’m proud of myself and been telling her my story about how I grow up. But I will stop talking about myself and how are you both and also your family.🌺🌈🦋💖❤️😊😘 Take care and stay safe and God Bless all 🙏🏻Lots of love and hugs from Edith in cairns Queensland Australia 🇦🇺 Cheers!!!!
Solo & Sara ... each time I listen to you both share about your life, raising your beautiful children, I realize how much Godly wisdom you have in these challenging areas of life. It is a blessing to hear folks like you both sharing such practical, wise tools, ideas & boundaries to deal with the Internet. I too grew up in the days before computers, cell phones & electronics ... how much I realize now that my childhood was a gift of innocence, imagination & outdoor play with neighborhood friends! Your tips & wisdom help so many who are bombarded with these helpful, but often addictive tool ... electronics! I truly love & respect you both ... and your great children! God bless you all from your Internet friend in Southern Calif! (I do see the blessing of seeing you on RUclips!!)
Good morning, thank you for your encouragement and advice on this topic. We’ve had a 3 yr battle over cell phone, apps, and internet with our oldest. I’ve learned consistency, accountability, and communication are KEY!! We used all the things to block and you are spot on”Where there’s a will there’s a way!” A lot of things in also learning is an issue of the heart so this mamas prayer life has definitely gotten stronger❤️ Than you again for sharing your life with us on here. You are a weekly encouragement to me❤️
I agree not letting your children not be on the internet or social media, parenting helps in the home while they are under your care but prayer will be needed as they become adults and leave your home because we can all honestly say we now as adults we were taught things in our home but the world unfortunately provides enticements that curiosity trumps values sometimes, so I do what is necessary in the beginning and when and if they pull away they will have the foundation to I PRAY come back, but we may experience a prodigal child whether we want to or not
Fantastic conversation thank you. As a grandmother of 13 ranging in ages from 2 years old to 24 I am aware of the interaction children and young adults have with the internet. My oldest son has a rule in his house where at 7pm his childrens phones and lap tops are placed in a certain place. On the other hand, my youngest daughter has struggles with her youngest ( 12 years old ) playing on line game called Fortnight so much so that it started to effect his schooling. Fortunately she has that under control.
My oldest son is a protective soul. He makes sure that I have protective settings on my internet accounts. I have him check things out before I do things because he will help keep me safe. I was very protective of my children as they grew up and they are very protective of me as well. When my boys were growing up we had flip phones that didn't have any options but to make a phone call. It is challenging for parents to monitor what is available currently. Thanks for discussing this challenging topic.
Love your family! So with you on this subject. And it's a challenge for sure and you all use common sense which is severely lacking today. Children need to learn about the internet as it's our future and they need to be introduced in stages to keep them kids and not turn them into mini adults too soon. I didn't have internet when I grew up and turned out just fine. And I only have one TV and no computer or internet. I do have a cell phone, but it's old and no longer supported, however it's all I need, as I never shop or bank on line (long story, won't bore everyone with the details), and I function just fine! Gives me lots to time to spend with the pets, hobbies and spending time outside tending to my plants, reading, cooking and baking for my bubble buddy and co-worker groups. And not stuck to a computer and enjoy being in the present. Thanks for sharing! 💖
My husband's youngest sister said the other day she does not want to have kids and he was a little up set about that declaration but when I reminded him the climate of the country we live in is today and she might not want to bring children into an uncertain world
I have followed your channel for years. I have seen every video. This video is so right. Every point was right on. My teens also have Gabb phones. Thank you for taking the time to teach parents some wisdom.
This video is something that all parents can learn from. Good job! When I started the video my adult daughter asked what I was watching. I turned up the volume and she said u guys are so good together. Definitely two people who respect each other's view . You opened up a conversation on our home. God bless you and your family!!
If not the internet, there would be a different struggles. I feel you have the right approach. Teach through the struggles, cause they will always be there. Great vid
I totally agree with this! We have 3 children. Our oldest is 18 and our youngest are 6 and 2. When our oldest was little we didn't have so many devices around. With our two younger children it seems like most of the children their age are device experts already. We do not let our little ones have devices. We as parents do not use devices on a regular basis. Our oldest has a cell phone in case he has an accident or break down. We do monitor everything they see even with our 18 year old. We try to teach them about internet safety. It is a lot harder with the younger ones it seems to maintain their innocence... I think I would go back to no internet. I know there are many benefits to the internet, but I feel the bad things out weigh the good. Just my opinion. I would love to see a parenting series on here... Thanks so much for the content you are producing.
This is all so true.So many parents have given there parenting over to electronics .It takes a lot of hard work and time to parent the way you should without handing over a electronic.Sadly the parents can’t get away from the electronics to parent the children.Great video .
Sarah you and Solo are such good parents , and a good example for those with children , love your dad's book it's so helpful with guidance,. Thank you for being you and sharing this valuable information ❣️ love to The Tribe Of Many 💕🥰😘💖🌲🌲🌲🧚🕊️💐❤️
I always love hearing your take on parenting issues. My boys are now 14,17,19 and 22. I am pretty close to the same age as you guys. And it’s nice to have another parenting perspective and get some ideas on handling things.
I love how you addressed the 2 different videos you watched about complete opposite opinions that both sounded legit. I often get conflicted when it comes to looking things up on the internet through youtube..especially when it comes to fittness and food!!! Love your family and morals.
My husband doesn't know how to use any device, smart phone, tablet or computer and doesn't want to learn. He asks me to look up things for him. So many commercials have sexual content. It seems as if so many children have no filters. Your children are well behaved and seem so well adjusted. You are doing a great job.
I absolutely agree with everything you both said. I am overprotective over my daughter, my husband thinks it's too much sometimes, but I'm glad that I am this way due to all of these dangers and what it all can do to a child down the road. I do have your book also. Thank you so much again for your wisdom, you're both so amazing and very inspiring, God Bless.
Thank you for this video! I love this format of video and hope you do more! I raised 2 son's with these rules. I put a timer on any screen use. Then they had computers for school. I did make the rule computers only in the living room where they had their homework station. I thought I was doing all the right things. My older son learned very quickly from other kids at school how to bypass the "parental screen" that was supposed to keep you from accessing sites other than the school's program.. I am bringing this up so other parents know this is possible. I should have spent more time working and talking about why to stay out of the general internet. It all turned out okay but we did have some serious challenges as a result that we were able to walk through.
NON-internet for me, but then again, I’m in my 70’s. When I hear that my granddaughter’s teacher suggests she “look it up on the Internet” I really fear for the young generation in school. Is that the teacher being lazy, or is he teaching them to find out information for themselves - just as I used the library when I was at school. She is nearly 13 but needs a phone to ask which parent, or me, is picking her up from school each day. Other than using it for that - I would throw it in the garbage !
If you live in a different country from your family like I do and like Solo does...then you probably think that the internet is a blessing in spite of all its dangers.💯
One word of wisdom that I received from the Holy Spirit that has renewed me in the spirit of my mind is to be led and not driven. Our world teaches us to be driven to make your goals happen and your dreams come true, but God's ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. Those who are led by the Spirit of God, they are the children of God. ❤️
I remember years ago in the early days of the internet , our dog was not well and my daughter typed into the search engine sick puppy , I cannot tell you the horrors that were on that web page ! So it’s absolutely imperative to stand beside them in order to turn that stuff off immediately ! Xx
I am loving the background! Thank you, thank you, thank you for safeguarding your children. I know there are a lot of parents who protect their children from the bad stuff on the internet as well, but there are a lot of parents who do not think about the dangers of the internet. Keep up the good work. Your children depend on it.
This is brilliant. Alas our children are even older than the 2 of you and we didn't have this to worry about so much. It has been my grandchildren who have suffered because we didn't understand how much damage could be done. Our country would be a very different place if we had all known. Breaks my heart.
Thank you for this conversation! This is a great conversation on protecting and teaching our children. My favorite thought is our children on the internet is like leaving them in a park on their own. We would never do that.
Oh wow I did the same with my children regarding the password for school pick up. I was just talking about it yesterday. They're grown now with their own families
I really appreciate all of the content you guys put out. It's so refreshing to see other people hold the same beliefs as my family. Its easy to feel like society is going completely down hill these days. I have to remind myself daily that God is always winning.
I would recommend this video to anyone raising children. You are setting your children on a path to be discerning and mentally healthy. Plus you are so right about how long it takes a child’s brain to reach maturity. By regulating internet and social media your allowing their brain to mature before they are overwhelmed. I see many children and young adults with high anxiety and depression, which I believe is acerbated by the internet and social media. The human brain needs more downtime than just thinking, we don’t need to be entertained 24/7. Chill out people!
I’m parent of three adult children they all are educated and working to continue their education. I agree I believe in reading books,board games with interaction of subjects they don’t know about and the beginning of a open discussion as children. So, I agree with you on this topic.
I loved this.. needed this.. I've been making the changes with the electronics in my house.. I have 3 toddlers and I have just started to realize .. this is not safe
Sarah, I am so glad that you mentioned the example that even children who have been sheltered their entire lives from certain things, as adults they can still fall prey to certain influences. I think the best thing to take away from this is that, this is how your family has structured your rules for how you guys feel is best for raising your children, according to your lifestyle. For us who have children who have been subjected to "the real world", because we have no other choice but to send them to public schools, have our own challenges. It's HARD to parent children who have a variety of uncontrollable influences, but can be manageable. My big thing with my kids has always been communication, communication, communication! Open dialog I have felt has been key with raising my children. An example I have is with my daughter when she was younger, and a few of her friends were allowed 2 piece bathing suits to go swimming. I personally didn't feel that a 2 piece was appropriate for a young girl. We had discussed why (she was 8) and because I answered her honestly why I felt the way I did, and answered her questions, it wasn't an issue with her. It opened up the issue of modesty and having respect for your body, without making her feel shamed or the peer pressure to fit in with the crowd. She's now 21 and still has that mindset that she doesn't need to wear more revealing, trendy clothes to fit in with her peers. Nor does she dress like a puritan lol. At the end of the day, we just all need to raise our children to be the best possible humans they can be. By giving them the tools to live good lives, is the best thing we can do for our kids.
Parenting is never passive. We Were very intentional with our childrens access to the internet and rules regarding social media. Thier peers had freedom. As little ones they had books games etc. As children they still had imaginative play. Now in thierearly20s they are great young people who can hold meaningful conversation with any age group.are active in life and service to others and can put thier phones away with zero problems. None of this held them back or made them less socially aware or unable to navigate a tech led world
We have the same exact philosophy as you. We'll said. I've definitely considered getting rid of Internet and going old school (we didn't have a TV for 9 years) but I feel like it would be better to teach them how to use it wisely and to prepare them for being on their own and having to navigate it themselves.
I am like Sarah. I would like to go back to no internet. I know I do enjoy watching your videos on the internet because your values are what I grew up with. But I also limit my time and what I watch. You all are a blessing to your viewers.
This is a great conversation. Our household is a no tv household cause mindless tv watching and commercials are a no. My kids do have iPads. My 7yr old loves her educational apps. All apps need to be approved. We don’t do Roblox or Minecraft or any web games. I think many people gloss over the idea of these games being infiltrated by randos etc.
If there wasn't the internet we wouldn't have been able to meet you and your family. The internet can be used for good and bad. Just like the news. They report on shootings and then you hear of more. Solo I keep thinking of the time you went on the missionary trip and sat next to the guy name Hans. Y'all find so much joy in life.
This is a great video. I love the points you both brought to the table. If the internet was not available, I would visit the library more often as I was doing up until 2020. My children started using computers and the internet before me and brought the knowledge home, then I returned to school and learned more of it than they did at that time. As time went on, things got more serious and it gave cause for worry where relationships are concerned and children. I had to place parental control on the computer, but also having conversations with my children as they would often have access to the internet via the library. If I had to give up the internet, I would have to do some things differently, especially business- wise. It has it's pros and cons, evil/blessing ratio. It all comes down to how we manage this quick source of negative/positive information and entertainment. This is a big topic that could last for days. Thanks for approaching it and sharing.👍🏽👍🏽❤❤
This is such a topic that gets brought up daily in our house. specifically surrounding getting an iphone. he's 15 and has a gabb phone so he can talk and text but no picture sharing and internet. He also has a bunch of blockers on his laptop. he just doesn't understand the dangers. and we are trying to protect him by all the "junk" as long as we can
If I had to choose, I would probably choose NO INTERNET. However, knowing that it is not going anywhere anytime soon, I think the whole world needs to develop a mindset similar to yours! Our kids need us!
The internet brings a lot of connection to our world. Keeping in touch with friends and family who are traveling or move away. Also bringing exposure to other cultures and peoples. I think it's also improved knowledge sharing for countries that might not be as privileged. Important medical info is easily shared, sanitation, etc. Even take a look at how missionaries can operate differently now. There are internet hotspots that include a bible download in the local language, etc. All kinds of stuff that helps expand the reach. Bible translation with internet communication is improved too. I'm also a bit biased probably as I met my husband online in a gaming community. I may have not told my parents before we first met in person cause I knew my mom would flip. I took precautions to have friends around for safety and all. Everything turned out great! Parenting my kids in the internet age will definitely be a struggle. I had a lot of trust from my parents in earlier internet days, had my own computer with internet in my room as a teen. Was pre tablet and smartphone days. I don't know that I'll allow the same for my own kids, though I didn't really get into much trouble. But I knew the trouble was there. And it's certainly become even more dangerous over time.
Oh, Sarah! I would absolutely say no internet. It makes me sound like an old lady, and I'm only in my 40's, but I grew up without internet and have done just fine. I have 4 adult kids and we were very intentional about limiting their internet use and we actively had family time, encouraged reading and had actual conversations! None of them had TV's in their bedrooms and when they finally got phones at around age 15, they had to bring them to our bedroom and were monitored by day. Three of them have a very balanced relationship with the internet and have handled it very well. One will be 21 this month and she is NOT balanced. We knew she had the tendency to lean hard to one side or the other, so we spent a lot of time talking to her and trying to teach her self control and the importance of balance, which is something we've always done with this particular child. She actually got a phone even later than her siblings because, as parents, we know our kids! After getting the phone, we knew we needed to set up ALL of the protections possible in order to help her. Now, at almost 21, she is addicted or pretty close to, addicted to social media. It makes me sad because she can barely hold intelligent conversations and we have to tell her to put her phone away when we are all together and talking. But, she's an adult so the best we can do is pray and continue to talk to her as we feel led. Parenting/counseling/consulting adult children can be tricky to say the least!
A great topic!! For me who grew up with radio and television and our children had the world of video games!! Now the Grandchildren have the internet and all these electric devices is mind boggling!! It is good and not so good!! I am still glad we have it!!
There are so many positive things that the internet makes available to us, but if I had a choice I would choose to go back to pre-internet days and even pre-cell phone days. Even though the cell phones and internet connect us to so many people and things, it seemed like people were more connected and more social before cell phones and the internet. I so often see people using their phones to avoid having to communicate with people. It's as if to say I'm on the phone I cant be bothered. Thank you for the godly wisdom you impart through your channel. I always look forward to your videos.
Sarah, your parents were a delight and encouragement to our homeschool community last night! And then this came up this morning! Great timing! I am definitely sharing this!
I didn't grow up with internet in fact as a child we had a rotary phone. I believe back in the 90's when face book first came out it was like you had to get on it. I had a gut feeling I didn't need to get on it even though family and friends wanted me to. Outside of you tube and Rumble I don't belong to any social media. The way I see it it's been very detrimental in many ways. Took away the human ability to communicate with one and other. They don't play card or board games like what we did as teenagers. Unfortunately phones have become babysitters and parents don't know what their kid is looking at as their pushing buttons. It warms my heart that you brought this subject up. Too many young girls go missing due to the internet. Thank you both Sarah and Solo.
As a child, the internet was never an issue, as it wasn’t created yet. One thing you hit on was the password, and I still remember my password that my mom created for us as children. I am 53, and that lure of “Your parent was hurt, and sent me to pick you up, was a very real threat at that time, even by known people to that child and the parents.” I still to this day have never told anyone our password. My mom has now gone to live with our Lord, but this is such a great tip, that needs to be highlighted. Someone who knows your child could be a predator, and your child needs to be taught, that every single adult, including the ones they think they can trust have to be asked what the password is.
thanks for addressing this...with my young adult kids this wasn't much of an issue but then we adopted several younger children the past several years and controlling the electronics has been a huge struggle, they want them all the time. we also homeschool and have had to set strict boundaries but even then I feel the addiction issue is a real threat especially with children that may already be vulnerable to emotional difficulties
I couldn’t agree with this topic more. You explained it very well. So many need ti hear this message and no the dangers and harm that can happen from the internet. Thanks for sharing…I hope this video spoke to some people..and made people think for a while…🌷
Yes each child is different and must be parent differently. My daughter was very matured at an earlier age and involved in lots of extracurricular activities from middle school on. She's 20 now. During middle school until she started driving she had a non smart phone. BTW, the computers the schools gives them limits the sites they visit.
We had temporary guardianship of our teenage niece and the first thing they handed her when I signed her up for school was an iPad. I locked it down. Then the principal called me and told me ai had to unlock it. Lo and behold she got it tons of trouble related to the freedom of having unlimited use of device while she was in school. She wasn't allowed a cell phone at our home. It didn't matter because she had an iPad hooked up to wifi for 8 hours a day at school.
About the internet and pornography issue: The Good And The Beautiful has a really good unit on maturation. The unit has a section on pornography, and why we should stay away from it. The videos talk about how pornography is just helping sex trafficking, it has interviews from people who were formerly addicted to porn where they tell how having a porn addiction has affected their lives, and they talk about how they got out of the addiction. The videos were really eye opening even for me as an adult. They are done in a really thoughtful way. We thought the whole unit was very well done.
I just bought this and will be diving into some parts of it this summer with my daughter (Just the parts appropriate for a younger child). It's a great resource for revisiting as topics need to be addressed. My plan is to use this over the course of the next few years, and I have seen nothing but high praise about how The Good and the Beautiful address these topics!
@@yellowroses8736 That's exactly what we have done. We have done it piece by piece for the appropriate ages. The videos were especially eye opening.
Thanks so much for sharing! Always looking for great resources.
I feel like from porn to other kids you're able to control the world your kids live in. Because of the number of the things I. The world you condemn I wonder why do you continue to have kids In a 🌎 so bad you really can't let your kids live in it unsupervised for more than 5 minutes safely?
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Wow Sarah and Solo, this really hit home for me. I am a mother to a 8 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy and they have known electronics for a long time. It started with me giving them my cell phone as toddlers to “quiet” them down or to keep them occupied while I grocery shopped. It then graduated to my husband and I buying them tablets to help them learn their numbers, colors, etc. I always monitored what programs that was on their tablets until march of 2020. All of a sudden I’m working from home with a toddler and a kindergartner…oh and my husband who broke his hip on a electric skateboard…but that’s a story for a different day 🙄Suddenly, things were chaotic at home BUT there wasn't anywhere else to go! So, I did give my kids their tablets for an unlimited time because I had meetings to attend, trainings, and reports to submit to court. My kids quickly became addicted to their tablets and their behaviors changed They cried and screamed when we would take the tablets away, they were wired at night. Then my 7 year old daughter begins chatting with other players from games and trying to explain to her the reasons why she couldn’t text other players when all she wanted to do was make friends...it had to stop. So, more than 8 months ago my husband and I took the tablets away from our children. It was difficult at first but after 2 weeks our kids stopped asking for their tablets. We've noticed that they interact better with each other and they are more creative with drawing, coloring, and imaginative play! We now monitor RUclips content they watch as well because not everything on RUclips is kid friendly!
I love the advice and thank you both for all you share! Tell my nieces and nephews hi from LA! ❤🙏🏾
Wow....thanks so much for sharing your story!
excellent
As a '90s baby I am so glad I had a normal childhood before electronics came into our household.
YOU control what comes into your household.
@@bethlewis9981 I think she was referring to it coming into her household as a teen... when her parents got the internet and none of us knew what was going on!
We had a horrible situation when our grandaughter at 14 was scammed and manipulated by someone on internet. We are dealing with the consequences years later. I hope parents will really listen to you!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I just love your husband he’s so sensible and intelligent on things in life . There’s a knowledgeable sense about him. I can’t explain it.But anyway I like to hear him speak.
Its The Holy spirt In him
@@sharonatl yes I just never thought of that It makes sense😇
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I agree . Solo is clearly a wise man. I always appreciate his perspective .
Kindest Husband and Dad...adorable couple
Sara I so love what you just said “we are trying to raise adults”. So many times I have watch people who have children that just forget that at some point their children will be considered adults in the real world and the real world will treat them that way whether they are ready or not. You two are doing a good job of raising responsible
, caring, loving, people and that is not an easy thing to do.
Well said! As a teacher of 7th and 8th graders for over 30 years, I've seen a LOT of issues arise just because parents are NOT aware of what their child is really involved in. Teaching the "WHY" is so very important. Thank you for sharing this. Continued prayers! ❤️🙏❤️
Thanks for sharing!!
I’m 23 been watching you guys for years. I don’t have children yet but this is an example of how I want to parent when I have children in the future ❤
You are so right. Many parents wouldn't dream of letting their child go alone to the park, but will readily allow them to enter into the world wide web, unmonitored.
Sarah, I know you’re a busy mama. BUT, if you started a parenting discussion series with advice and challenges, etc. I WOULD SO LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!! I have 3 boys and I admire your boys so much, I strive to raise such kind souls like you!!!
Don't forget to buy her book
Good idea ❤🎉
I'm a 66 year old Grandma and I would like to watch this channel for my grandbabies. Then I would tell my Son and Daughter about this channel.
I love that you guys home school and allow the children to explore beyond media.
I’m soon to be 63.
I love children but my childhood wasn’t the best and I knew at a very young age that having a child was not for me.
I have 4 brothers.
I have lots of nieces and nephews and 7 great nieces and my life is abundant with Joy and fulfilled as far as having children in my life!
I also helped raise my husband’s 2 children, who are now in their 40’s!
It seems it is such a difficult time with all of the internet and electronic games!
We had TV and a pool table, many friends and my dad bought us a pong game!
You two are wonderful parents and you have beautiful and kind children! Be Proud 🙏🏻🕊✝️🌸♥️
I love how protective (and rightfully so!) you two are with all your children, and their friends. My husband and I raised 3 boys. Our theory was always, in protecting their eyes, ears, and minds, we are also protecting their hearts. It’s our job and PRIVILEGE to protect them, and raise them to be the people God has called them to be. Kudos to you Solo and Sarah! I applaud you both. You are in our prayers as you strive to continue to protect their hearts, and their future. God bless you both!
You guys do SO well at really making your audience feel like they are a part of a conversation with you rather than just reading a script. Also, I adore how you each watch the other speak. Very endearing. ❤️
This is all so important! Thank you for speaking to it on this platform. I think there are parents who don’t even realize what they’re exposing their children to in this world, because it’s just the norm, and just need to learn. We don’t know what we don’t know! So thank you for using your voice!
Nothing has shown us the need to govern ourselves more than the internet has. You can put all kinds of perimeters for others, but the heart is still bent toward evil. So thanks for the great content, guiding the innocent, and also helping kids learn to make good personal choices. -Sharon
Bless you both 🙏🏼! I’ve always loved your channel and both of you individually but this video has blown me away. You are incredible parents to your beautiful children, and it is abundantly clear with everything that you share, that your family is focused on love and unity in the forefront. I have a whole new found respect for you both because everything you said should be considered by EVERY parent on earth. The internet and smart devices should never be a method to keep a child silent but unfortunately the internet and devices are taking over everything that made my childhood what it was; playing with the neighbors kids, playing in the yard, making up fun plays/shows/dances and playing Barbie’s in the dirt haha! This message is so incredible important! Thank you for being incredible human beings. I love you both and your incredible family! ♥️
Thank you both for your love for family and Christ. I will be sharing this video with my 13-year-old grandson that God has so graciously given me the honor of loving and raising him. Thank you for following your hearts on what God led you to share.
God bless you for raising him!
Y'all give me hope for the future of our children! We limited screen and cell use when our children were young and today they are thoughtful, creative, compassionate humans who value human connection over electronics. I continue to admire your commitment to your family ❤️
I love what you said about how the Lord will show parents what they need to be aware of. After raising our four children, who are adults with kids of their own, this truth was so powerful, as the Lord would enlighten me to areas of concern, and then He would provide divine grace and mercy to show how to lovingly guide them.
I wish MORE parents thought this way ..I thought I was the only one who was this aware
I don’t have kids but I highly recommend other parents watch this video and take notes. I love you you both parent. Your children are well rounded individuals, happy ,loved etc. bravo to you both❤
agreed
This is so timely for me as my six year old autistic daughter is becoming more interested in devices . As a young teen I experienced the images and bullying from school peers that I should have had no access to ! In that time our parents had no idea what we were accessing . I really admire you both as loving dedicated parents. ❤
Good morning to both of you! It is nice to see more of Solo. You pair so well! Bless your family!🥰
Keep talking! Not enough people are discussing this issue in this way. Sooo important! 🎉
I've been watching you guys for about 3 years now. Every video. I have to say I enjoy every one, but this is the BEST yet. You are amazing people and even better parents. Thank you!!!! Common sense & true love for your children. Wish the whole world was like this!
You guys nailed it. Biggest challenge for educators, too.
My firstborn is 6 months old. I am just soaking up every moment before she learns what the internet is... 🤣
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She doesn't have to learn until she is much older.
My friend daughter grankid age 2 got tablet for Xmas she sits in buggy and gots to bed with it x
@@ASmith-jn7kf yes, thankfully! I stay home the majority of the day, so I get total control of what she sees. I know most parents don't get that opportunity. We are very blessed.
My granddaughter who is 3 and has already asked for a phone.
I 100% agree. Parenting with the internet has been the absolute hardest thing for me.
Us 80’s kids grew up without it! 😁 My husband and I wrote letters during college. It can be done. ❤️ Great message guys!
Us 80's kids lived the best life ( in my opinion LOL!!)
I agree. 80s was a great time to grow up. I appreciate my childhood now more than ever. Except for the fact that most of our parents were of the boomer generation which comes with a slew of issues in itself. Either way I'll take it over the internet generation. I feel so sorry for them.
I was in a counseling program for a month where phones were a no for the first two weeks, then not allowed during class times or in the building after that. It was such an eye opening time. It was like suddenly the world came alive in full color and sound again. Like the device fuzzed everything out a little because my brain was so used to being subconsciously connected to something else going on somewhere else. It was so crazy to stop and really notice how many people were looking down all the time. How many people would be out together but never talked to each other. How dependant I felt on the distraction every time I needed to wait for something. It was so surreal. But, having gone back to regular life, it's so easy to get sucked back in, even knowing what I know...
Great advice! My MIL has a neighbor who had their 14 year old granddaughter spend the night. They live in a small town and another neighbor heard a car door and she looked out the window and saw a man parked in their alley. She didn't recognize the person and watched him walk to the back of her neighbor's house and saw him enter a side window. She immediately called the police thinking she was stopping a burglary. What was happening was that the granddaughter had been talking with this "boy" and had let him in the window when her grandparents were asleep. This "boy" was in fact 32 years old and had driven several hours to meet this young lady. So not only are you protecting your children but others!! Who knows what would have happened if the police weren't called immediately. Many blessings to you and your family!!!
I agree when I worked at Sam's club part time i saw to many adults coming thru the line and they were hooked to their phones. I would see kids trying for parents attention that the parents were hooked to the phone. I wanted to shout put the phone down people pay attention to the little ones that are striving for your attention.
I agree with you! It is so important to monitor internet use with your kids. Also, you hit the nail on the head with commercials. Even young children’s shows have inappropriate commercials! Great video.
Thank you for raising awareness and practical tips on this very important topic! About a decade ago I was staying with a bunch of teenagers for a friend who was out of town (including exchange students). I remember feeling very uneasy about all of them on the internet in their bedrooms with the doors closed. I was down stairs, silently panicking, wondering how I could protect them and I couldn't think of good solution in my position and I felt awful!
Hello Our Tribe of Many, good to see you both. Love watching your videos. My Aunty use to love flip phone, but she have changed to Samsung phone. Before time we do not have television up on the Island in the Torres Strait, living with my grandparents. We go gardening and bring back chopped wood to start a fire to cook our cooking for the evening. Well for me it was a hardship for my grandparents, but I’ve learned so much from them and I’m proud of myself and been telling her my story about how I grow up. But I will stop talking about myself and how are you both and also your family.🌺🌈🦋💖❤️😊😘 Take care and stay safe and God Bless all 🙏🏻Lots of love and hugs from Edith in cairns Queensland Australia 🇦🇺 Cheers!!!!
Solo & Sara ... each time I listen to you both share about your life, raising your beautiful children, I realize how much Godly wisdom you have in these challenging areas of life. It is a blessing to hear folks like you both sharing such practical, wise tools, ideas & boundaries to deal with the Internet. I too grew up in the days before computers, cell phones & electronics ... how much I realize now that my childhood was a gift of innocence, imagination & outdoor play with neighborhood friends! Your tips & wisdom help so many who are bombarded with these helpful, but often addictive tool ... electronics! I truly love & respect you both ... and your great children! God bless you all from your Internet friend in Southern Calif! (I do see the blessing of seeing you on RUclips!!)
Good morning, thank you for your encouragement and advice on this topic. We’ve had a 3 yr battle over cell phone, apps, and internet with our oldest. I’ve learned consistency, accountability, and communication are KEY!! We used all the things to block and you are spot on”Where there’s a will there’s a way!” A lot of things in also learning is an issue of the heart so this mamas prayer life has definitely gotten stronger❤️ Than you again for sharing your life with us on here. You are a weekly encouragement to me❤️
Thanks for watching!
Sarah you and your husband really have my utmost respect. I love watching your videos. Thank you so much.
I agree not letting your children not be on the internet or social media, parenting helps in the home while they are under your care but prayer will be needed as they become adults and leave your home because we can all honestly say we now as adults we were taught things in our home but the world unfortunately provides enticements that curiosity trumps values sometimes, so I do what is necessary in the beginning and when and if they pull away they will have the foundation to I PRAY come back, but we may experience a prodigal child whether we want to or not
Fantastic conversation thank you. As a grandmother of 13 ranging in ages from 2 years old to 24 I am aware of the interaction children and young adults have with the internet. My oldest son has a rule in his house where at 7pm his childrens phones and lap tops are placed in a certain place.
On the other hand, my youngest daughter has struggles with her youngest ( 12 years old ) playing on line game called Fortnight so much so that it started to effect his schooling. Fortunately she has that under control.
My oldest son is a protective soul. He makes sure that I have protective settings on my internet accounts. I have him check things out before I do things because he will help keep me safe. I was very protective of my children as they grew up and they are very protective of me as well. When my boys were growing up we had flip phones that didn't have any options but to make a phone call. It is challenging for parents to monitor what is available currently. Thanks for discussing this challenging topic.
Love your family! So with you on this subject. And it's a challenge for sure and you all use common sense which is severely lacking today. Children need to learn about the internet as it's our future and they need to be introduced in stages to keep them kids and not turn them into mini adults too soon. I didn't have internet when I grew up and turned out just fine. And I only have one TV and no computer or internet. I do have a cell phone, but it's old and no longer supported, however it's all I need, as I never shop or bank on line (long story, won't bore everyone with the details), and I function just fine! Gives me lots to time to spend with the pets, hobbies and spending time outside tending to my plants, reading, cooking and baking for my bubble buddy and co-worker groups. And not stuck to a computer and enjoy being in the present. Thanks for sharing! 💖
I agree the digital world is scary. I love your parenting style I've learned so much to use with my grandsons!!
My husband's youngest sister said the other day she does not want to have kids and he was a little up set about that declaration but when I reminded him the climate of the country we live in is today and she might not want to bring children into an uncertain world
Kids have lived in much more uncertain times.
Agreed!!
I'm 65
Where is my landline!
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All times are uncertain because no one can predict the future
I actually think this is one of the best times to raise a child. I maybe wrong. But I'm today's society everything is at a arms length.
I have followed your channel for years. I have seen every video.
This video is so right. Every point was right on.
My teens also have Gabb phones.
Thank you for taking the time to teach parents some wisdom.
Thanks for watching for so long!
This video is something that all parents can learn from. Good job! When I started the video my adult daughter asked what I was watching. I turned up the volume and she said u guys are so good together. Definitely two people who respect each other's view . You opened up a conversation on our home. God bless you and your family!!
If not the internet, there would be a different struggles. I feel you have the right approach. Teach through the struggles, cause they will always be there. Great vid
I totally agree with this! We have 3 children. Our oldest is 18 and our youngest are 6 and 2. When our oldest was little we didn't have so many devices around. With our two younger children it seems like most of the children their age are device experts already. We do not let our little ones have devices. We as parents do not use devices on a regular basis. Our oldest has a cell phone in case he has an accident or break down. We do monitor everything they see even with our 18 year old. We try to teach them about internet safety. It is a lot harder with the younger ones it seems to maintain their innocence... I think I would go back to no internet. I know there are many benefits to the internet, but I feel the bad things out weigh the good. Just my opinion. I would love to see a parenting series on here... Thanks so much for the content you are producing.
This is all so true.So many parents have given there parenting over to electronics .It takes a lot of hard work and time to parent the way you should without handing over a electronic.Sadly the parents can’t get away from the electronics to parent the children.Great video .
Great! Great! Great!!! All parents should watch this and take this wonderful wisdom and advice. Thank you Solo and Sarah.
Sarah you and Solo are such good parents , and a good example for those with children , love your dad's book it's so helpful with guidance,. Thank you for being you and sharing this valuable information ❣️ love to The Tribe Of Many 💕🥰😘💖🌲🌲🌲🧚🕊️💐❤️
I always love hearing your take on parenting issues. My boys are now 14,17,19 and 22. I am pretty close to the same age as you guys. And it’s nice to have another parenting perspective and get some ideas on handling things.
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I absolutely love listening to you both. You're both so wise ❤
I love how you addressed the 2 different videos you watched about complete opposite opinions that both sounded legit. I often get conflicted when it comes to looking things up on the internet through youtube..especially when it comes to fittness and food!!! Love your family and morals.
As a parent.
Love is unconditional. You feel it first from your children. Then have to remember to reciprocate
Absolutely. I wish others would think about this.
More parents should be doing this !
My husband doesn't know how to use any device, smart phone, tablet or computer and doesn't want to learn. He asks me to look up things for him. So many commercials have sexual content. It seems as if so many children have no filters. Your children are well behaved and seem so well adjusted. You are doing a great job.
I absolutely agree with everything you both said. I am overprotective over my daughter, my husband thinks it's too much sometimes, but I'm glad that I am this way due to all of these dangers and what it all can do to a child down the road. I do have your book also. Thank you so much again for your wisdom, you're both so amazing and very inspiring, God Bless.
Thank you for this video! I love this format of video and hope you do more! I raised 2 son's with these rules. I put a timer on any screen use. Then they had computers for school. I did make the rule computers only in the living room where they had their homework station. I thought I was doing all the right things. My older son learned very quickly from other kids at school how to bypass the "parental screen" that was supposed to keep you from accessing sites other than the school's program.. I am bringing this up so other parents know this is possible.
I should have spent more time working and talking about why to stay out of the general internet. It all turned out okay but we did have some serious challenges as a result that we were able to walk through.
Thanks for commenting!
I remember loving the library. It was my key to the rest of the world. I poured over the encyclopedia - from A to Z. That was my life & I loved it.
NON-internet for me, but then again, I’m in my 70’s. When I hear that my granddaughter’s teacher suggests she “look it up on the Internet” I really fear for the young generation in school. Is that the teacher being lazy, or is he teaching them to find out information for themselves - just as I used the library when I was at school. She is nearly 13 but needs a phone to ask which parent, or me, is picking her up from school each day. Other than using it for that - I would throw it in the garbage !
@@minkgin3370 I, too, am in my 70's and have the same fears. Scary.
If you live in a different country from your family like I do and like Solo does...then you probably think that the internet is a blessing in spite of all its dangers.💯
One word of wisdom that I received from the Holy Spirit that has renewed me in the spirit of my mind is to be led and not driven.
Our world teaches us to be driven to make your goals happen and your dreams come true, but God's ways are higher than our ways and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. Those who are led by the Spirit of God, they are the children of God. ❤️
I remember years ago in the early days of the internet , our dog was not well and my daughter typed into the search engine sick puppy , I cannot tell you the horrors that were on that web page ! So it’s absolutely imperative to stand beside them in order to turn that stuff off immediately ! Xx
Woah....internet translation can be so different than what we meant to ask!!!
I am loving the background!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for safeguarding your children. I know there are a lot of parents who protect their children from the bad stuff on the internet as well, but there are a lot of parents who do not think about the dangers of the internet. Keep up the good work. Your children depend on it.
This is brilliant. Alas our children are even older than the 2 of you and we didn't have this to worry about so much. It has been my grandchildren who have suffered because we didn't understand how much damage could be done. Our country would be a very different place if we had all known. Breaks my heart.
Yes it would!
Thank you for this conversation! This is a great conversation on protecting and teaching our children.
My favorite thought is our children on the internet is like leaving them in a park on their own. We would never do that.
Books, library, walks and talks!
Oh wow I did the same with my children regarding the password for school pick up. I was just talking about it yesterday. They're grown now with their own families
I'm so happy you made this! Just the other day I was thinking about asking you guys about this ☺️
I really appreciate all of the content you guys put out. It's so refreshing to see other people hold the same beliefs as my family. Its easy to feel like society is going completely down hill these days. I have to remind myself daily that God is always winning.
I would recommend this video to anyone raising children. You are setting your children on a path to be discerning and mentally healthy. Plus you are so right about how long it takes a child’s brain to reach maturity. By regulating internet and social media your allowing their brain to mature before they are overwhelmed. I see many children and young adults with high anxiety and depression, which I believe is acerbated by the internet and social media. The human brain needs more downtime than just thinking, we don’t need to be entertained 24/7. Chill out people!
I’m parent of three adult children they all are educated and working to continue their education. I agree I believe in reading books,board games with interaction of subjects they don’t know about and the beginning of a open discussion as children. So, I agree with you on this topic.
I loved this.. needed this.. I've been making the changes with the electronics in my house.. I have 3 toddlers and I have just started to realize .. this is not safe
Sarah, I am so glad that you mentioned the example that even children who have been sheltered their entire lives from certain things, as adults they can still fall prey to certain influences.
I think the best thing to take away from this is that, this is how your family has structured your rules for how you guys feel is best for raising your children, according to your lifestyle.
For us who have children who have been subjected to "the real world", because we have no other choice but to send them to public schools, have our own challenges. It's HARD to parent children who have a variety of uncontrollable influences, but can be manageable. My big thing with my kids has always been communication, communication, communication! Open dialog I have felt has been key with raising my children. An example I have is with my daughter when she was younger, and a few of her friends were allowed 2 piece bathing suits to go swimming. I personally didn't feel that a 2 piece was appropriate for a young girl. We had discussed why (she was 8) and because I answered her honestly why I felt the way I did, and answered her questions, it wasn't an issue with her. It opened up the issue of modesty and having respect for your body, without making her feel shamed or the peer pressure to fit in with the crowd. She's now 21 and still has that mindset that she doesn't need to wear more revealing, trendy clothes to fit in with her peers. Nor does she dress like a puritan lol.
At the end of the day, we just all need to raise our children to be the best possible humans they can be. By giving them the tools to live good lives, is the best thing we can do for our kids.
Parenting is never passive. We Were very intentional with our childrens access to the internet and rules regarding social media. Thier peers had freedom. As little ones they had books games etc. As children they still had imaginative play. Now in thierearly20s they are great young people who can hold meaningful conversation with any age group.are active in life and service to others and can put thier phones away with zero problems. None of this held them back or made them less socially aware or unable to navigate a tech led world
We have the same exact philosophy as you. We'll said. I've definitely considered getting rid of Internet and going old school (we didn't have a TV for 9 years) but I feel like it would be better to teach them how to use it wisely and to prepare them for being on their own and having to navigate it themselves.
I am like Sarah. I would like to go back to no internet. I know I do enjoy watching your videos on the internet because your values are what I grew up with. But I also limit my time and what I watch. You all are a blessing to your viewers.
This is a great conversation. Our household is a no tv household cause mindless tv watching and commercials are a no. My kids do have iPads. My 7yr old loves her educational apps. All apps need to be approved. We don’t do Roblox or Minecraft or any web games. I think many people gloss over the idea of these games being infiltrated by randos etc.
If there wasn't the internet we wouldn't have been able to meet you and your family. The internet can be used for good and bad. Just like the news. They report on shootings and then you hear of more. Solo I keep thinking of the time you went on the missionary trip and sat next to the guy name Hans. Y'all find so much joy in life.
PLEASE KEEP GOING ON AND ON… I’m learning here!!!!! 🙋♀️🙋♀️
Gabb phone is really an awesome tool.
I wasn't informed about this option. Thank you guys!!!👍
This is a great video. I love the points you both brought to the table.
If the internet was not available, I would visit the library more often as I was doing up until 2020. My children started using computers and the internet before me and brought the knowledge home, then I returned to school and learned more of it than they did at that time. As time went on, things got more serious and it gave cause for worry where relationships are concerned and children. I had to place parental control on the computer, but also having conversations with my children as they would often have access to the internet via the library.
If I had to give up the internet, I would have to do some things differently, especially business- wise. It has it's pros and cons, evil/blessing ratio. It all comes down to how we manage this quick source of negative/positive information and entertainment. This is a big topic that could last for days. Thanks for approaching it and sharing.👍🏽👍🏽❤❤
This is such a topic that gets brought up daily in our house. specifically surrounding getting an iphone. he's 15 and has a gabb phone so he can talk and text but no picture sharing and internet. He also has a bunch of blockers on his laptop. he just doesn't understand the dangers. and we are trying to protect him by all the "junk" as long as we can
So glad you are discussing it though.
If I had to choose, I would probably choose NO INTERNET. However, knowing that it is not going anywhere anytime soon, I think the whole world needs to develop a mindset similar to yours! Our kids need us!
Sarah and family have a great week have fun thanks from Oklahoma
This was a such a fantastic video. I love the park analogy as well as the idea of a central space for viewing technology.
The internet brings a lot of connection to our world. Keeping in touch with friends and family who are traveling or move away. Also bringing exposure to other cultures and peoples. I think it's also improved knowledge sharing for countries that might not be as privileged. Important medical info is easily shared, sanitation, etc.
Even take a look at how missionaries can operate differently now. There are internet hotspots that include a bible download in the local language, etc. All kinds of stuff that helps expand the reach. Bible translation with internet communication is improved too.
I'm also a bit biased probably as I met my husband online in a gaming community. I may have not told my parents before we first met in person cause I knew my mom would flip. I took precautions to have friends around for safety and all. Everything turned out great!
Parenting my kids in the internet age will definitely be a struggle. I had a lot of trust from my parents in earlier internet days, had my own computer with internet in my room as a teen. Was pre tablet and smartphone days. I don't know that I'll allow the same for my own kids, though I didn't really get into much trouble. But I knew the trouble was there. And it's certainly become even more dangerous over time.
Good and bad....that is what you find on the internet.
Oh, Sarah! I would absolutely say no internet. It makes me sound like an old lady, and I'm only in my 40's, but I grew up without internet and have done just fine. I have 4 adult kids and we were very intentional about limiting their internet use and we actively had family time, encouraged reading and had actual conversations! None of them had TV's in their bedrooms and when they finally got phones at around age 15, they had to bring them to our bedroom and were monitored by day. Three of them have a very balanced relationship with the internet and have handled it very well. One will be 21 this month and she is NOT balanced. We knew she had the tendency to lean hard to one side or the other, so we spent a lot of time talking to her and trying to teach her self control and the importance of balance, which is something we've always done with this particular child. She actually got a phone even later than her siblings because, as parents, we know our kids! After getting the phone, we knew we needed to set up ALL of the protections possible in order to help her. Now, at almost 21, she is addicted or pretty close to, addicted to social media. It makes me sad because she can barely hold intelligent conversations and we have to tell her to put her phone away when we are all together and talking. But, she's an adult so the best we can do is pray and continue to talk to her as we feel led. Parenting/counseling/consulting adult children can be tricky to say the least!
A great topic!! For me who grew up with radio and television and our children had the world of video games!! Now the Grandchildren have the internet and all these electric devices is mind boggling!! It is good and not so good!! I am still glad we have it!!
There are so many positive things that the internet makes available to us, but if I had a choice I would choose to go back to pre-internet days and even pre-cell phone days. Even though the cell phones and internet connect us to so many people and things, it seemed like people were more connected and more social before cell phones and the internet. I so often see people using their phones to avoid having to communicate with people. It's as if to say I'm on the phone I cant be bothered.
Thank you for the godly wisdom you impart through your channel. I always look forward to your videos.
I think your children have great imaginations. Kudos to y’all
Sarah, your parents were a delight and encouragement to our homeschool community last night! And then this came up this morning! Great timing! I am definitely sharing this!
I didn't grow up with internet in fact as a child we had a rotary phone. I believe back in the 90's when face book first came out it was like you had to get on it. I had a gut feeling I didn't need to get on it even though family and friends wanted me to. Outside of you tube and Rumble I don't belong to any social media. The way I see it it's been very detrimental in many ways. Took away the human ability to communicate with one and other. They don't play card or board games like what we did as teenagers. Unfortunately phones have become babysitters and parents don't know what their kid is looking at as their pushing buttons. It warms my heart that you brought this subject up. Too many young girls go missing due to the internet. Thank you both Sarah and Solo.
As a child, the internet was never an issue, as it wasn’t created yet. One thing you hit on was the password, and I still remember my password that my mom created for us as children. I am 53, and that lure of “Your parent was hurt, and sent me to pick you up, was a very real threat at that time, even by known people to that child and the parents.” I still to this day have never told anyone our password. My mom has now gone to live with our Lord, but this is such a great tip, that needs to be highlighted. Someone who knows your child could be a predator, and your child needs to be taught, that every single adult, including the ones they think they can trust have to be asked what the password is.
thanks for addressing this...with my young adult kids this wasn't much of an issue but then we adopted several younger children the past several years and controlling the electronics has been a huge struggle, they want them all the time. we also homeschool and have had to set strict boundaries but even then I feel the addiction issue is a real threat especially with children that may already be vulnerable to emotional difficulties
I couldn’t agree with this topic more. You explained it very well. So many need ti hear this message and no the dangers and harm that can happen from the internet. Thanks for sharing…I hope this video spoke to some people..and made people think for a while…🌷
Yes each child is different and must be parent differently. My daughter was very matured at an earlier age and involved in lots of extracurricular activities from middle school on. She's 20 now. During middle school until she started driving she had a non smart phone. BTW, the computers the schools gives them limits the sites they visit.
Good to know.
Not at my daughters school She can get on social media On the chromebooks they give. I had to have a meeting with the school about it.
We had temporary guardianship of our teenage niece and the first thing they handed her when I signed her up for school was an iPad. I locked it down. Then the principal called me and told me ai had to unlock it. Lo and behold she got it tons of trouble related to the freedom of having unlimited use of device while she was in school. She wasn't allowed a cell phone at our home. It didn't matter because she had an iPad hooked up to wifi for 8 hours a day at school.
Thank you for this! You are absolutely spot on.🙏❤