And that's exactly what I am stopping. In lockdown I sent him a small gift saying I miss you on it. He then messaged me saying its annoying because he couldn't get this man's bracelet on. A few weeks later my birthday comes along and I receive nothing in the post, not even a birthday card. So in future, lesson learnt he don't deserve sh*t. Amen!
@@whatsmaname9219 so what ? Many men show love in a different way . Even my parents never bought me anything on my birthdays , but will i call them not parent enough ? No
You are absolutely right! I asked for this. I have stopped spoiling him and making it easy for him, and have been waiting about 5 weeks to see any effort on his part. So far, none. I have a feeling this relationship is over after about 18 months. But thank you for reinforcing what I already suspected. I just didn't acknowledge that I am mostly to blame for the situation.
@Angee Castro Nothing ever changed. He never changed. He never put forth any effort and I ended the relationship. Sadly, but ended it. I genuinely cared about the man but didn't want to spend any more time feeling like I wasn't worth any effort on his part.
This is something that annoys me. Whenever you tell a person to describe themselves they say the same crap "oh I'm kind, generous,etc" and it's funny how you rarely meet people that are actually like this. I'm very generous and I love to give gifts to make people feel appreciated and loved in a way, but no one ever reciprocates with me. Like idk, just a thank you note or a flower you plucked out of a park. Anything that is sincere for you. But whatever, I will still keep my "treat others how you'd like to be treated" philosophy and if I see they do not appreciate it then I'll just shift my energy towards any other thing that is meaningful to me.
🤯 Wow, you are so right.... stopping that shit right now.... I do know he loves me but I was going above and beyond and he was doing the bare minimum.... and I taught him to. Thank you for opening my eyes.
I never ask for anything let alone expect anything. After 8 years he finally bought me a gift for my birthday. And even though i told him he didnt have to. Deep down i knew i was being set up. It was already bad enough he took control of my own things throughout this whole relationship and i just had this feeling. So now everytime he is angry he always takes my phone away as if im a child and literally has gone to the extent of physically removing it from me, then blames me for him needing to do that. It hurts to be called a spoilt brat from someone who brags about everything he got as a child and i basically grew up poverty and worked hard for everything i had but he took away.
Feels entitled, feel don’t need to reciprocate, because didn’t need to do anything to earn it. Just a bf did nothing to deserve it. Knows it. I’m partly to blame set tone it’s ok. STOP. Got it. Thank you. Never came back to talk. Acts like nothing happened. Guess enjoyed but didn’t value highly. In another car he insulted and attacked me trying to force me into submission, and I left shaken and sued him. Bad track record of being so over giving meet low self esteem insecure men I validate while confused or bitter and ungrateful. Learned to guard myself my heart, above all. Know how to highly homie myself loved me before not overt self hate now I homie myself in my actions and his guard my heart. My faith, therapy, love, all motivate me now vs external praise, relationships, and perfectionism
I think we should force a cold heart in ourselves and put an end to such relationship once and for all... Rest is all peace 🥰🥰 I'm saying cuz I just did that
Alright .Im aware of this, but still have spent money on him. I need to know how the talk is supposed to go when he realizes youve stopped. Because I know Im partially to blame, but have a big stupid generous heart.
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And that's exactly what I am stopping. In lockdown I sent him a small gift saying I miss you on it. He then messaged me saying its annoying because he couldn't get this man's bracelet on. A few weeks later my birthday comes along and I receive nothing in the post, not even a birthday card. So in future, lesson learnt he don't deserve sh*t. Amen!
Yea my six year hasn't given me shit not even a bday card
@@whatsmaname9219 so what ? Many men show love in a different way . Even my parents never bought me anything on my birthdays , but will i call them not parent enough ? No
@@justicethedoggo3648 You are not romantically involved with your parents though so you can’t compare the two!
I watched a million videos trying get an answer and in 2 minutes he broke it down and helped me wake tf up 😭
Where is he now. We need more videos. He's great.
Me too, I even used Google couldn't get a straight answer until now. I'm the one to blame😔
You are absolutely right! I asked for this. I have stopped spoiling him and making it easy for him, and have been waiting about 5 weeks to see any effort on his part. So far, none. I have a feeling this relationship is over after about 18 months. But thank you for reinforcing what I already suspected. I just didn't acknowledge that I am mostly to blame for the situation.
Should I do the same?bc It's too hard to resist.. 💔
@Angee Castro Nothing ever changed. He never changed. He never put forth any effort and I ended the relationship. Sadly, but ended it. I genuinely cared about the man but didn't want to spend any more time feeling like I wasn't worth any effort on his part.
This is something that annoys me. Whenever you tell a person to describe themselves they say the same crap "oh I'm kind, generous,etc" and it's funny how you rarely meet people that are actually like this. I'm very generous and I love to give gifts to make people feel appreciated and loved in a way, but no one ever reciprocates with me. Like idk, just a thank you note or a flower you plucked out of a park. Anything that is sincere for you. But whatever, I will still keep my "treat others how you'd like to be treated" philosophy and if I see they do not appreciate it then I'll just shift my energy towards any other thing that is meaningful to me.
This is the reason I'm leaving him some ppl dont want to see u happy.he asked me what I wanted and got the opposite
Yes some people don't care.
I think we should just reciprocate the same- not care
🤯 Wow, you are so right.... stopping that shit right now.... I do know he loves me but I was going above and beyond and he was doing the bare minimum.... and I taught him to. Thank you for opening my eyes.
F kind and giving , these men are so ungrateful!!
Not giving him shit
I never ask for anything let alone expect anything. After 8 years he finally bought me a gift for my birthday. And even though i told him he didnt have to. Deep down i knew i was being set up. It was already bad enough he took control of my own things throughout this whole relationship and i just had this feeling. So now everytime he is angry he always takes my phone away as if im a child and literally has gone to the extent of physically removing it from me, then blames me for him needing to do that. It hurts to be called a spoilt brat from someone who brags about everything he got as a child and i basically grew up poverty and worked hard for everything i had but he took away.
girl i hope you’re no longer in this situation bc you’re describing abuse
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So tired of being used
Me too.
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Feels entitled, feel don’t need to reciprocate, because didn’t need to do anything to earn it. Just a bf did nothing to deserve it. Knows it. I’m partly to blame set tone it’s ok. STOP.
Got it. Thank you.
Never came back to talk. Acts like nothing happened. Guess enjoyed but didn’t value highly. In another car he insulted and attacked me trying to force me into submission, and I left shaken and sued him. Bad track record of being so over giving meet low self esteem insecure men I validate while confused or bitter and ungrateful. Learned to guard myself my heart, above all. Know how to highly homie myself loved me before not overt self hate now I homie myself in my actions and his guard my heart. My faith, therapy, love, all motivate me now vs external praise, relationships, and perfectionism
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It didn't work in my situation, he just dont care anymore, i dont know what ro do.
Same here...he just doesnt reciprocate on anything..its a damn shame
@@toniechantelh9615 same boat I'm pulling away. I'm so loving, considerate and thoughtful.
I think we should force a cold heart in ourselves and put an end to such relationship once and for all...
Rest is all peace 🥰🥰 I'm saying cuz I just did that
This was really helpful.
Alright .Im aware of this, but still have spent money on him. I need to know how the talk is supposed to go when he realizes youve stopped. Because I know Im partially to blame, but have a big stupid generous heart.
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