HORROR Stories About Cheap Men (Be Careful!)
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
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"You don't need to have a lot of money to be a good man" - I agree with this
S. B. But it sure helps
For me you need to be good looking and educated.
She teaches women to rely on men a women who is self relying is more attractive then a women who relies on a man is crazy how women want equal rights but don’t want equal responsibility such hypocrisy
@@punisherlol4368 self reliant women deserve men who respect and provide for them more than what women do for themselves. When self reliant women tag with when cheap men, they just drain the women. We don't want that. Be quality woman and chose a quality man
Some time good attitude.. polite.. silently make u look elangace..
One time my boyfriend (now fiancé) and I had economy class tickets on a flight. He was upgraded to first class because he travels a lot and has status on the airline, whereas I do not, so I was not upgraded. He made me sit in first class and he sat in economy. I will never forget how that made me feel - cherished. Ladies, hold out for a man who treats you like this. I have had the other kind and honestly I would rather be single.
Amazing. Hold on to that man!
very gentlemanly in a time when chivalry is practically dead! you found a good partner for life!
And that is what you deserve and now a man should behave.;)
You know you don't like this simpin'
I understand you abusing men for money, but i know that's not what you really want.
Yo amen.
My grandmother used to say "Always avoid two kinds of men: cheap/greedy and alcoholics".
I've seen alcoholics recover, I've never seen a greedy person become generous.
Both of those are signs of personality disorders and self medicating mental illness. Ask yourself why a man is an addict or why a man is so lacking of empathy. It isn't just that they're cheap, how they treat you is how they feel about you or even how they feel about themselves.
@@Andromeda_M31 do you think a greedy man could change?😐
My aunt actually said the same thing❤
I had been married to cheap alcoholic. I wish I knew before, but thank God, I'd divorced him.
Also, there are men who lead lavish lifestyles but have cheap characters. Be wary of those who shower you with gifts while demeaning and disrespecting you
Same here and argue with me in $1,50-
So so true!! That's why taking your time and being a good judge of character is so important
Maya those men are in a special horrific category
Yes probably because really he’s cheap but acting all that!
Graceland ❤
I totally agree with you. I divorce my first “deadbeat” husband after 4 years of marriage who treated me like a trash. This is his words to me “You’re going to be stuck with me because nobody will get interested with you because I over-used you and you’re like a rotten fruit that nobody wants to eat” but he was wrong because I married my second husband who showered me expensive jewelries, bags and we’re living in a nice place here in Mallorca, Spain. Ohh and more, he also sent my son (from my previous husband) to an exclusive school. There you go, there’s always a way to get out from a toxic relationship.
I dont knw you, but I'm so proud of you 💖
@@tehsinbhati Thank you dear
@@veronicajata3121 Thank you dear :)
Wow..awesome.. glad u could change your destiny
@@Lima3578user thank you for your nice words, yes! i couldn't ask for more what my life change for the better now. I do believe now, as long as we're breathing and alive, there's always a second, third, fourth and so on CHANCE in life. Have a nice day and keep safe always :)
When a man shows you his true nature don't try to change him ladies just observe and then make your exit.
Ooooh this! I just broke up today because he shows his true color several times 😟
Thank you 🙏
So true!
True!
I needed this 7 months ago but I learned my lesson
My grandpa had very little money so he walked my grandma home to be sure she was safe, everytime they met; so, ladies, money isn’t an issue if the guy is a true gentleman
Oh and the same did my father with my mom, but now he does have a car haha
That is so sweet of him
thats such a nice gesture... I am keeping such a guy no matter what
What if he gets a gf and stops walking you home or simping 😂🤦🏽♂️
@@leftlibgang7839 If you don't help women you are rude person your mother should be ashamed . If you help a women then you are simp👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
My husband is not rich, we are rather poor actually. When we had our first valentines day, he transformed his lounge into a beautiful room, with a gorgeous table, set to perfection, fire going. He cooked me a wonderful meal.
He has always treated me like I am the most amazing woman in the world.
I was shocked when he proposed to me, as the ring cost a large amount. I was amazed he would use that much of his savings, didn't have to! He then did the same with wedding ring and recently my anniversary ring.
He is incredibly romantic.
😎 Neither of you are poor; perhaps financially embarrassed, but you are both RICH. YOU have a loving, respectful mate, and HE has a loyal, adoring wife, who can boast of him! How many women have this? Few. How many women wish for exactly this? ALL.
It's not all about money.
It's about heart's attitude. 😏😉
That is so sweet🥰 It is never about how much the man makes but how much of an effort he puts in and the fact that he is willing to take care of his woman. May The Lord strengthen your relationship and bless you with happiness🤲🏽
Monique F 😍😍😍😍😍
Good I love hearing such stories, I got married in July had to separate for 3 months due to his job and traveling and my husband now doesn’t want me..he needs a break god knows from what...but this taught me to never sacrifice a career or even a simple work for anyone
Yes it’s not ALL to do with money 💰 it’s to do with a man respecting you and treating you like the woman you deserved to be treated, you sound like you have a lovely man, you chose well! Good Luck to you both 👩❤️👨
True story: my fiancé and I were flying from one foreign county to another. And on one of our flights, the air company upgraded him and him only to business class seat. There were no other passengers at the business class. No kidding. I asked to be moved with him, but was rejected a number of times without any explanation by every air company rep. So, without further ado, my fiancé refused to seat at the bus class without me and asked for us to be seated together at the economy. And that’s how we flew))) I assume this was a very good sign of someone who truly cares...
This type of emotional abuse is unacceptable, and both partners in a committed relationship are equal in status. One does not deserve more than the other, and both are equally responsible in their ability to provide the financial solidarity for the couple.
👌👏
Nah girl u just seem very Whiney. Their was no need for you to continue asking after the first rejection like it would be awkward if he was the only one that went, after you repeatedly asked them/begged them to be seated with him. It’s just a flight wats the worst that can happen??
So the fiance can't sit one flight without you? If it was me, I would sit alone on that flight.
@@pauljones4763
What a bastard.
You deserve to be alone.
Shout out to the strength of Anna to speak topics which almost everyone is afraid to speak loud.
Really!! You need to be strong to tackle these topics
Adriana N ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
School Of Affluence ❤
Adriana N Anna isn’t the first woman on RUclips to talk about hypergamy
@@crystal3160
I know, but I think it's a very sensitive topic to speak nowadays.
So I wanted to appreciate her strength as much as I appreciate the ones who are capable of exposing theirself as she does.
Anna casually saying “low level men” without batting eye is a total mood.
I admire Anna's straight forwardness, it is refreshing to see that the "old ways" are not forgotten. Ladies I have married a very successful man, who treated me like his Queen. I am recently widowed and would never settle for less. Best wishes to all I hope everyone finds there King. 🍷
I LOVE IT!!! & 💯 on point!!!
@@ravenstillwaters5195 sorry for your loss.
@@crazykat710 Thankyou ⚘
This woman is a mood, I love her sm
my grandmother always told me that if a man truly loves you then he will give you the world, poor or rich, he will find a way
Totally agree
It’s true. A man who truly loves you will give you the world. You will never have to constantly split the bills or whatever.
Yes, so true
My husband always paid while we were dating, always drove over an hour to take me out.....and now, he provides everything we need for our family. It’s important to not date a cheap man! We are not wealthy, but all of our needs are met, we travel, have a family and I’m a stay at home mom. Choose wisely ladies!
Bianca Robertson congratulations
I have a relationship like yours. Not affluent , but i stay at home. He's happy that I do.
Thank youuu ❤️
When I was in college, I dated a guy who, when we went out to dinner, would get angry and berate me if I ate too much of an appetizer and couldn't finish my entree ( they were late dinners, I was coming from class and starving!) It tolerated it for far too long. On my first date with my husband, I couldn't finish my entree. I began to apologize profusely. He looked at me like I was crazy. He said, " Eat it, don't eat it, have it wrapped up and take it home- I don't care! Whatever makes you comfortable. I just enjoy your company." That's when I knew he was The One!
Wow such a nice guy
That’s my husband too. He doesn’t care as long as I’m happy. If I met your ex, I will run as far as I can!
crazykat 😍😍 so cute !
My then boyfriend (now my fiance) treated me to the most expensive restaurants he could afford when we were dating and he encouraged me to try new, good stuff and I knew he's a keeper.
Honestly I don’t expect men to pay for me on dates, it would be nice if they offered, but it’s only fair since I don’t want them to expect me to fit into traditional gender roles either. But that’s just unacceptable, how much you eat is strictly your business and whoever you date would have absolutely no right to get mad at you for it. There’s absolutely no need to apologize for something like that
When my husband and I met neither one of us had much going on in our lives. But even with no money he treated me like a queen. He always has opened doors for me , I don’t carry anything EVER! He’ll break his back carrying all the groceries while I don’t lift a finger. He gets mad if I insist on helping. He opens my car door and always gives me his arm as we walk. He works long hours but still comes home and will change diapers and let me take a break. 3 years ago we finally found our way in life and now live a financially comfortable life. He works hard.... denies me absolutely nothing. Still brings home flowers randomly and I still don’t carry anything EVER! We found our “money” together. He protected and doted on me from the moment we met and still cherishes me dearly....These men exist. They don’t always have money... But because they love you they will find a way to make something out of themselves so they can provide everything you want and need in life. ♥️😊
Your love story is the best! 😍
What a beautiful story.
Ramsey , they are dead. Keep dreaming. You are lucky because you look beautiful and have one.....the rest dont exist.
You have got a man. Touchwood
Joe Hoe they do exist! I meet my now husband 2 years ago, and he’s is like that, he even was the first person that I meet with the same point of view of Anna
I agree with this even though my husband isn't particularly well off. I met him when we were both students. He insisted on paying for every date dispite my offers to split. Fast forward 10 years I am a stay at home mother & he still corrects me every time I say it's his money I am spending, saying 'our money'.
my husband would tell me the exact same thing that his earnings are our money.
God bless him
Y'all have good husbands😊
Praise God for his life. ❤
Stinginess and bad manners are becoming a virus it's unbelievable. Everyone is just super selfish these days. Don't let anyone disrespect you ladies! Thank you Anna for this, truly, women need you in this world ❤️
I agree.
Selfish 🤔
Idk why people give her and her channel such a hard time. She’s teaching women to have self respect and high standards.
Because men wanna hit it and quit it.wanna free sex and she thought us the opposite of that
Because when men do the same they are called all types of names. We should ALL have standards.
Exactly. What happens is that many women and men have huge or errant egos and can't admit their faults that led to their own downfall or mistakes.
@@KimmyQueen imagine the size of ego you would need to believe that someone else owes you THEIR own money just because you exist.
@@robbylebotha Men like you want what you want without the effort. I bet you think you are wonderful and deserving and you should not have to work for it. With that said, my point was about women and men having egos so large that they won't admit they should have and deserve someone that has high standards. It is a two way street. Women should not presume and abuse, and men neither. Women should be of value and men too.
If the man treats you with disrespect at the beginning you really shouldn’t be with him. They do not get better over time.
niki nina dump him
rude is rude
Absolutely
A hard lesson I had to learn
Also, you don't want to spend time trying to change a man because it does not work. Spend time finding the right man.
"MONEY IS A LOVE LANGUAGE" I've always understood the meaning but Anna has perfectly expressed it in words
I always used to say if a man is cheap with his money he is cheap with his heart.
And another thing.If a man doesn't spend money on you , dont expect him to financially support the children that you have with him too! So many mothers love to complain that their ex doesn't financially help with their kid but when you ask them if he was generous with them , most times the answer is no.Your children are also negatively affected when you only date cheap men so don't do it !
Exactly! Amen!!!! Ladies don't make babies with these men!! Look out! How can you think that you're children have nice things without you always providing these things if he doesn't even spend much on you!!!!!! Children should grow up having a pleasant supported childhood! They're less likely to end up stealing/get into drugs etc!!!
>Gets knocked up by a broke guy dropping a woman off in HER car at HER career
>Man is not a generous or active father
Surprise! Lol I see this all the time 🙄
The way you look from the photo on your profile, I would be surprised if you find a man that takes you to Mcdonalds once a month 🤫
This🙌🙌 so many women need to hear this.
I just hire a hit man. And the money is yours 😉🤑
Mama always said: never marry a stingy man... even if he gets to be rich, he will always still be stingy.
Starting to think this is true. Will take into consideration now
Mhm amen!!!
Your mom was 100% on point. We worked for an attorney in the top 100 list and he was a millionaire. He had his secretary search 12 tire stores for 1 tire he needed!! We could write a book about his cheapness👺!!
Mine told me get a career make your own money so you can kick someone to the curb if you need to
My mama once said: If a girl hasn't got the self respect to earn her own way in life, she'll never respect you either, just the money you make. And she'll walk when it's not enough for her.
Never had to tell me twice.
I was with a stingy man for about 4 years. He never changed... quite the opposite, actually. He got worse with time. It wasn't about the money. I have a career and make my own money. It was about generosity and kindness. I'm so grateful I finally got out of that relationship.
Yes! I was with a stingy man too. I thought it would get better because he wanted to make sure I wasn't with him just for his money (even though I made plenty) and he just got worse.
It was so bad. We couldn't do something unless it was free. If he was going to pay for our meal/drinks it could only be during happy hour. If he got me a gift I knew it was something he got for free.
I'm so embarrassed when I look back at these memories.
Love this!! You are so right it is all about generosity and kindness at the end of the day, and it doesn’t come out more crystal-clear how well (or not) a guy is doing in those two areas than in his spending habits.
They NEVER change.
I was in a relationship with a stingy man for about four years aswell. I catch myself sometimes wondering how come I stayed in it for so long, given that my dad and whole my family is lovely. I fell in love and thought love and time will change him, I guess...
you were in for the money only, money supply reduced, you exited.. quite typical
Ladies, Anna is so right. Men of a higher caliber are always generous and always show class, even just to be kind (i.e. not wanting to date a lady). I was recently on an overnight in another city, so my husband was not with me. For reference I wear a very visible diamond on my ring finger, and there is no question as to whether I am married. As I was staying at a resort with a country club, I chose to have my dinner alone at the bar, speaking with the female bartender. I ultimately found myself in an enjoyable discussion with a married couple and a third person, who also happened to be there alone. The third person was an older gentleman who had been playing golf, and he spoke a lot about his wife who was at home. Prior to leaving he ordered his wife her favorite dessert and shortly after he left I asked for my own bill. I discovered that the man had discreetly paid my bill. I was shocked because I had ordered the wagyu beef as a special treat for myself. It was over $100. I was so genuinely touched that I asked the bartender to thank this man for me when she saw him again. But guess what else? I tipped the bartender and then I got up to leave, but two men who had been at another table having dinner came up to me and insisted on paying for my dinner, too! Talk about gracious! So of course I had to let them know it had been taken care of. Ladies, these men exist.
lovely story! revives the hope for the menkind (i spelled it like this on purpose).
Wow that's great! What city was this ??
This is refreshing
What a beautiful story. There is still goodness in the world.
what city was this in? I need to make a trip 😂
I once had a man offer to take me shopping. I made ok money but would never buy myself anything extravagant. He walked me into the store telling me that I should get what I liked. Fortunately, I felt bad having him buy me something with too large a price tag, so I chose something cheaper. I did the whole 'oh I dont know...' and he did the 'you deserve it' so I took it up to the counter. And he walked away while the cashier was ringing it up! To save myself from embarassment from being in a store that I would never have otherwise been in, I pulled out my credit card and bought the 350 purse. I never returned the purse and whenever I go on a date I wear that purse to remind myself that some guys are not as high quality as the purse.
he WALKED away when it was time to pay? Oh my god.
What a cruel trick. It's amazing ppl get off on that. Get a real life, dude.
Same thing happened to me at the hair salon. He told me he wanted to see me to get a perm, but I didn't have the money so he offered to pay for it. He drove me to the salon and waited. We both went to the register but as the lady was instructing me how to care for the perm, he went out to wait in the car. Leaving by me at the register and knowing I didn't have the money. I continued to hang out with his friends (girls and guys) after we broke up because they were nice, he wasn't.
so in order 'to save' yourself 'from embarrassment you bought the purse anyway? what embarrassment? the most embarrassing thing is to spend money you can't afford to spend. nobody cares. the person at the store does not care a damn about you. he was clearly not that into you so who cares what he thinks. don't do it again.
@@doriangray2001 Maybe learn to read... I never said I couldnt afford the purse, just that its not something I would normally spend money on. Also, maybe you didnt get that I dont plan to let it happen again. Silly me for thinking that was obvious. As far as the guy goes, he was clearly interested in some way. I believe this was some kind of test. He continued to call me afterward. So thanks for your totally worthless comment.
Before I seen this video I was actually considering calling my ex boyfriend who I dumped three months ago. Now I won’t bother, thank you for reminding me why I broke up with him! Us women are worth so much more than we settle for
Stevie Hasker This is the sign you needed . I fell for this trap a couple of months ago. I had broken up with my very cheap , stingy ex boyfriend and out of loneliness I decided to give the relationship another try. Guess what? He was still cheap, he was still selfish and he even went as far as asking me to loan him some money. ! So please stay far away run and never look back.
ps: I’m a single mom of 1 yet it never bothered him when asking me for money
Lol me too
Nonya Right, shocking
The reason so many marriages fail is because women settle....Statement made by a Catholic priest.
Cynthia Mubenga hey by cheap what you mean do I need to drive a Ferrari will a 1970 Dodge Challenger do the trick
For me, a generous man automatically becomes extremely attractive. No more pretty boys.
There are generous men who are still disrespectful.
Nothing like a gentleman
Many very good looking men are used to being catered to first by their mothers and sisters and family. They will continue to expect this from the women in their life. Ugh.
For sure! I mean who wants a man who poses in front of the camera or mirror , more than a woman?!
@@Maria-0017 Oh gosh, that is such a turn off ... and to think I dated a guy like that.
On the first date with my ex he paid for everything. He was only 21 (a few years younger than me) and worked as a garbage truck guy and did not make a lot of money, but he even bought me the taxi home because the date lasted so long that public transport quit for the night. We dated for three years, and soon I got a great tech job and my salary exceeded his. He still payed, every time. I of course spoiled him as well, with expensive gifts as well because I loved him, but he was a true gentleman all through out. It did not last for other reasons, but I still think very highly of him and the woman he ends up with, despite him having a working class job, is very, very lucky.
Being cheap doesn't mean he's poor and cant afford to give you nice things, it's about being selfish and not showing you respect!!
squishy booty respect needs to be earned. You can’t expect someone to spend money on you just because he’s rich 😀
Martin Zhel it not just about respect, it doing what is right! You did the invitation, then you know you are responsible for anything that follows. Simple knowledge!!! Dating or friend.
Perfectly on point!!
It’s impressive how guys after this video still come here to disturb girls positive feelings and ideas and start convincing about machist ideas.... like “the girl has to conquer respect”. Ah my God, yeah so the man don’t? It’s always about woman’s fault. Girls don’t get into this machist argument. That’s pretty stupid.
Love reading the bitter comments of men who are likely the low-level men Anna was talking about 😂
Stinginess is NEVER an isolated fault. Stinginess is the tip of the iceberg of a turd of a personality.
i agree. It could represent all kinds of negativity: lying about who he really is (it's the lying that matters), he might turn out to be financially controlling and abusive too. Who wants to be with a man who loves money before you?
Stitch that on a pillow. I would buy it!
Mara Zampariolo True.
Would if the woman in the relationship is stingy and not wanting to fully provide for her man? My boyfriend doesn't have a job and I pay for everything currently. I don't like it and it makes me feel resentful and act selfish.
@@zainajenkins there's probably something else going on in your relationship. Since you're earning all the money, is your boyfriend managing everything at home? Is he actively looking for a new job, or is he just lazing about?
Every relationship is different, it doesn't *have* to be the man makes all the money and women stays home, but every relationship *should* have mutual respect. I feel like if you were feeling respected and appreciated by your BF, you wouldn't mind being the breadwinner.
If a man is rude to anyone (wait staff, coat check person, etc.) that's a no-go for me. I don't care how rich someone is, if they are rude - this is bad form and I walk away. Another good video. Thank you.
Agreed! A gentleman shows his true colors when dealing with others "beneath" his status. If anything, he should treat those people even better than those in his own circle. Then you know he is humble and kind.
Agreed! This is why I get disgusted when I hear stories (fiction or otherwise) about people who supposedly treat their significant others well but are jerks/rude/evil to everyone else. That doesn't make sense to me and should be an indicator of this person's true character.
Yes! I went on a date with a man and he had a Porsche and tried to seem sweet and practically yelled and sneered at the waiter. I took a taxi home (before UbER) bye 👋
Sorry I thought you were talking about a karen
that's what my mom always tells me! a man's true colors come out when he interacts with those who have nothing to benefit him in return
When a man flies on his private jet and you are given a cheap non-direct economy flight......? He's married.
No, he is just a cheap guy
That was my first thought
It does sound like he is hiding something. You are just the side chick.
didnt see it that way... You’re right
It sounds so. He would take you with his private jet if he is really in to you and he doesn’t hide something.
I sent this to my mom a few minutes ago. She said "This is why I'm divorcing your dad. I don't want to be a cheap man's money bag, while he treats himself like a king."
@niki nina don't think twice, ditch him
yeaaaa
Hanna Hwang annnnd I..OOOP....... 😯
@niki nina are you in america theres alimony.
@niki nina I hope you find a way and come out of it strong. My friend faced a similar kind of life, and I can sympathize with you because I know it can be so so difficult to get out of such a marriage. Life can seem so daunting. Sending best wishes your way xx
Men do this on purpose! They laugh behind your back about how little they have to do for you yet they still get your attention.
STOP! And let him know you will not settle for the basi or "at least".
Jane Doe true
Jane Doe Amen:)
but the thing is, most men who are stingy or careful with money, tend to be rich. Rich men got rich by being very careful with their money. Most men who spend a lot tend to be poor, and not financially stable.
zurzak ne-etra that’s true, my family is very comfortable and I don’t take Uber luxe haha it’s a car who cares if it’s a Prius or an s-class, if you are insecure about your wealth that’s one thing but I actually prefer not to draw attention.
True Jane!
I met a guy when I lived in Germany and we went on a couple of dates. He was quite wealthy, had his own company and brand new convertible. In our second date we decided to go for a picnic and we went to a local store to buy food. He complained about the price of everything (at Rossmann!!), he didn't let me pay 10 cents for a bag and made me carry all he stuff in my arms for a long distance. 😬
And that day I understood why a very handsome and wealthy man was still single at the age of 35 😂
Well I make sure I always take enough bags from home, because I don't like paying for a plastic bag either, I am not that stingy, its more about principle.
@@woffordwolf2071 Yes but here the guy did not have his own bags obviously, so he had no choice but to buy some and carry them don't you think ?. But instead he preferred to use his date as a donkey, how shameful is that !
@@nanacolore92 that's true
German guys are stingy...most of them !
That is really stingy , thank god not all germans are like that
Got one too: It was my birthday, and a friend of my brothers offered to take my out for it, because my family was busy. He left the table to "ensure the birthday dessert would be ready"; apparently, he told the restaurant that I was getting the bill and walked out. I had to call my dad to talk to the owner. It was so humiliating since the bill was way over what I could afford. Good news, the owner banned the guy and red flagged him to every other restaurant in Aventura's business council. Lesson learned.
Is he still your brother's friend?
Aventura in Florida? Wow that guy was really stingy
Owner rocks
@@kmen07 definitely not, they are good brothers. *Smiles gently*
Wow what an ass!
the Singer Cher said: "A man is not a neccessity. A man is a dessert" so choose the dessert that compliments your meal.
I've never heard that before but I love it! Wow she is on point!
@Ha Nguyen lol :)) love that one 👍👍👍
Ha Nguyen yeah listen here the true wisdom! 😂😂😂😂 (pls note sarcasm)
@@phoenixalbastru3706 Saying something is sarcasm does not hold an argumentative point. I could reply "nipple dusters" and it would have the same meaning.
True
My cousin, though not incredibly affluent, paid for several high quality hotel rooms for family to attend my mother’s funeral. THAT is a generous man. Even the most wealthy man can lack generosity, and the poorest man can be the most generous
spot on
Would you do the same?
So true .
@@autoblipper3546 yes if I can afford to
I hope your cousin is blessed in his life and all his kind deeds come back to him in some shape or form.
Once, a guy invited me to the movies, when I arrived at the cinema he had already bought his ticket, he told me " I can go with. you, so you buy your ticket." and I told him to go by himself to watch the movie instead, and I left.
My boyfriend has never made me pay and has never made go on Uber.
You can. see the difference between a man and a boy.
The difference is within yourself, you didn’t accept trash and didn’t end up with trash , that’s the difference.
Pengoto K he was inviting me, if I invited him I would buy the tickets. It was not polite because he wanted to date me. And I’m a lady I deserve to be invited and invite sometimes as well.
Isabella Soler
The only people I would invite and pay for would be family or friends never a man, jeez no
Marie F I wouldn’t mind , If I ask them out, but because that will never happen, I will never have to pay.
Isabella Soler
EXACTLY ! I’d never be that desperate to watch a movie, I’d sit in cinema alone before I would pay for a man 😂
I went on 3 dates with this young guy. For the first 2 dates, he kept constantly complaining about the price of the food. On the 3rd date, he made me pay for both of us. Some backstory, this man was a Marine and receiving 3000 in government checks a month and was a full time student living with his family and paying no bills. At the time I was also a full time student living at home on a 200 dollar a month allowance. I had 40 dollars left in my wallet for the rest of the month, and he still made me pay for both of us. When I told my mother this, she said if I ever saw him again she would lose all respect for me. Now I'm in a relationship with an older situated blue collar man who refuses to let me ever lift a finger for anything and spoils me rotten. Never settle, ladies!
I'm wondering why there was a date 2 & 3.
@@tereseday4060 I was young, dumb, with low self esteem.
The key about being spoiled rotten is that it means you are rotten and a brat. And yet you expect praise for that!?
So basically you don't do anything whatsoever but show up and are basking in and glorifying your position of being lazy and a parasite? LOL. Go get to work.
This channel honestly boosted my standards for men. Made me watch out for fake rich people
I know a man who has wealth enough to pay a whole years rent and not blink an eye. However to his wife he was stingy and didn't spend a dime on their home. The man lived in a house for 4 year and never did anything to it. Well his wife left him for being abusive and controlling. After he remarried 6 months later to what I think was his side chick and shes convinced him to buy some stuff. IDK how she does it but it's crazy.
Dear Young Elegant Ladies:
I was only a teen when a young man asked me on a date. I agreed, but he called before picking me up to ask if I could pay my own way. I said no and didn't speak with him again. I had been on enough dates before to know it just didn't feel right. My friends and family laughed, but my current husband has taken me around the world and we are currently in Norway as we were on holiday. The moral of the story is....don't settle no matter how old u are. And know ur worth! 💕💕💕
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Thanks for posting this. It's encouraging.
If that's what you like it was the right decision for you. But I, personally, like to pay my own part and I don't mind if I'm asked to do it. I wouldn't say that he was stingy because of this (and I don't say you said this), although I obviously can't be sure based on this story. Different preferences, and I'm happy it worked out for you. 💖
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I think it was actually not a bad move from his side to ask it beforehand rather than assuming it in the era of feminism. I don't exactly know about your stands on things so don't assume I am calling you out on this. But yeah we should pay our own ways out of anything . He doesn't have to be your sugar daddy to treat you like a queen. And yeah queens have responsibilities
This is so accurate. I'll add my little recent story as well... Recently I was going out with a guy who was trying to impress me, but had stingy comments like: "Oh you're the kind of a girl who's door has to be opened?" "Damn, it's always expensive with you" and "You can pay for your taxi home if you want, i'll rather drive you tomorrow"... Luckily I figured out fast that we also had very different values and he managed to do some really crucial mistakes, so it was an easy call to break contact with him. I'll rather be alone.
Geez, this is why I'm single and working towards making enough money to buy myself the life style I like. Thank you for these lessons so I know what red flags to look for.
Oh, the story's I could tell! Was dating a pilot, he had all kinds of money to buy house after house on the water here in Florida. But the one day we went to the market, I was picking out some nice meats and cheeses for a charcuterie board for us that evening( I had bought breakfast so I asked him if he would help out with dinner expense)He had a complete meltdown, told me that's not how he wanted to spend his money at the deli. He could afford all this waterfront property but I'm not worth some basic meat and cheese from the deli???!! It has always been my experience that if a man is cheap with their money, they will be just as cheap with their emotions..... Unfortunately, I feel like too many women these days put up with this tacky behavior out of loneliness or having low self esteem. So it perpetuates this cycle..Men will continue with this bad behavior unless women develop a sense of worth. .I have been with men who had very little to start out with who have been the most generous. I know this one guy (who eventually became my husband) ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for a week because he knew how much I'd been dying to go to a certain high end restaurant. At the end of the day it's not really about the money, it's about the lack of care and consideration for your partner. People treat you the way you teach them to treat you every time....
Very very true 👏 if you accept crumbs you will receive them, love yourself and put out for the CAKE 🎂 every time!
@YoshiPeach Mario You missed the whole point, congratulations! you must be really stupid
@YoshiPeach Mario 1) she was dating Him
2) she was making dinner for Both of them
3) meat and all of these things is investment too at least to his stomach 😂
@@Amy_omer 4) She had already paid for breakfast. I'm for paying 50% in all relationship expenses that are more expensive than a meal or a movie, and even I find that stingy! And a meltdown, like a toddler! How immature!
Most Pilots are pretty cheap and have the largest egos. Not to mention sexist, and mentally and emotionally unstable.
My father has always provided my mother (and the rest of my family) with the best of facilities. If my mother needs to go out for shopping/with friends or for any purpose, he always tells her to go with his chauffeur and takes a cab himself. He puts us before himself and that truly makes him a gentleman. I am not settling for any man who can’t do the same for me :)
Thanks for teaching this, Anna😊❤️
A man that is stingy with his money will be stingy with his affection
I sign that.
dian kreczmer Yes!
David h no. There's no excuse for being a stingy cheapskate man.
dian kreczmer yes! My husband is like that😞
this is true
My ex-husband didn't have a ring when he proposed to me, so I ended up buying/paying one myself to avoid the awkward moment where people would ask me to show off a ring :) It didn't have to be expensive, but he didn't even buy me a cheaper ring or a "placeholder" or whatever.
Ended up paying for 90% of the wedding myself.
Needless to say, we got divorced now.
Thank you for posting this. This happened to me recently and I'm really embarrassed by it. He also lied about how much debt he was in. He ignores me and I am so bitter I snap at him alot. He claims my attitude is destroying us. I pay for everything. I bailed him out if debt and to this day (3 yrs later) he still has never planned a date. Ever. I feel so stupid and embarrassed. I will be filing for a divorce soon. Thank you for helping me not feel so alone. I hope you received many blessings after this happened to you
This is what happens when you are too desperate to be married. I am glad you found your way out of thay and realised you don't have to put such pressure on yourself to be happy
Should have just said , NO!
Same but I bought the ring, the wedding and honeymoon and the divorce 😭🤦♀️
@@carrieduvall4579 Wow... he owes you !
I wish this content was around 10 years ago. These are all perfect examples of red flags in a relationship. Single ladies, watch this video on repeat!!
Oh I needed it about 25 yrs ago 😒
I wish there was many more channels doing this, it might eventually sink into women’s brains, what they should be doing rather than following the herd!
Agreeeee!!!!! thumbs up anna.
La Petite American better to stay single why do care
Reject cheap men at all costs. Cheap man = he doesn't love you. Facts. The cheapness will reflect in every other facet of the relationship. My man is not rich, but the MOST generous person I know and I wouldn't change him for anyone. He gives me everything I want. With how men are these days I feel so lucky to be with someone so kind and generous.
@RightisRight 2019 wouldn't you like to know?
@RightisRight 2019 Ok mr Equality policeman.
@RightisRight 2019 What is a real woman?
Leave gal
@RightisRight 2019 if he wants someone to spoil and love and adore, it's his business? It's her choice to live this life, so what's your problem?
Thanks for encouraging us to value ourselves, Anna.
A message to the woman that posted about being stuck -- please know it is not too late. I was married 30 years before finally respecting myself enough to leave. Take some time to carefully plan your exit, make sure your children are safe, talk to an advisor about protecting your assets, and don't feel guilty about pursuing a happier life.
She is right ladies. I’m studying behavioral psychology and actions speak louder than words. Actions don’t cost money. You are priceless and your mate should always treat you that way.
This is excellent advice. I was trapped with four children for so long I forgot who I was, and where I came from. Ladies take her advice and run at the first discrepancy. Nothing ever changes, don't fool yourself. Thankyou
The worst part is that this type of guys never mind being generous to their side girls but not to their woman
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That's why you don't accept cheap. This is what they do!
It’s because those women are already doing themselves no favours by being a mistress so they usually want something to compensate for it. It’s the same reason why they spend more money on stripp*ers and call girls than they do on their wives/ girlfriends.
@kshiftkometh I remember you from Shallon videos
Because the mistress won't take his crap like the wife will, and the man sees her as the prize, which he gladly pays for, smh.
My goodness, how times have changed. Expecting a lady to accept a ride from a complete stranger (Uber) - most men of my generation feel it a very ungentlemanly and irresponsible, not to mention lazy, thing to do. A decent man picks a lady up and escorts her back to her door at the end of the date, unless the lady feels the need to drive herself to meet him. Anna - you are doing a wonderful job, reminding ladies of their worth!
yes. I was wondering the same, but uber doesn't take place a lot where I live.
YES, and at the very least, call a proper cab (not a stupid Uber that can be dangerous), your gentlemen should then go with you. Then he takes the cab back to his place. Now that ensures you are safe and all is paid for!
Well said! How can they trust to anyone their lady?
I one time went on a date with a guy who worked at a movie theatre and got free popcorn, he got a large and we shared. I was being very mindful and was eating slowly and respectfully. He then took the popcorn away from me and told me I was eating too much and went on to eat majority of it. I was so mad, how do you be stingy about something that is free ?
OMG! What a creep
Omg thats crazy. My husband buys us like 2 popcorn because i eat fast and when i ran out. He offered me his... what a stingy person! Stay away from people like that gosh
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Wow. I don’t know what I’d do if that happened
As a man with relatively little money, I am shocked. Wouldn't even treat a woman like this if the relationship was ending. Respect is really key, self respect even more so. Nobody should just settle. Whoever you are dating should make you feel better about yourself. Classy is not the same as rich, apparently.
I want to meet a man like you
@@meenanaicker8999 Thank you. That's very kind.
I agree! This society is messed up
Because you know how to act! 🙌🙌
I wish you health and find a kind wife.
Dear Anna, thank you for sharing these stories! As an older elegant lady, I have learnt that a man's cheapness is a sign of disrespect and foreshadows future disregard and selfishness on his part. I have dated generous poor men and stingy rich men, and vice versa. It comes down to values and respect for you. If you tolerate disrespect and cheapness now, you give permission for disrespect later.
My mom says: when poorness enters the door, love jumps from the window
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Agreed💃
I thought my mom came up with that sentence lol!
Very popular and true saying in México.
I can't believe women are being treated like this, let alone putting up with it. Here is a tip for free, if he is not treating you like his Princess, then he is just wasting your time, while he is waiting to meet his Princess.
So true
So so true
I was with a low level man that everytime I hinted going out, he would go over the date, prices and everything. He would say something like: If we go to the movies, we would spend $$ on gas, $$ buying the movie tickets, $$ buying popcorn and soda, $$ on this and that. I would always either have to pay for everything or settle for staying in watching Netflix. I dumped him and the man I’m dating treats me like a queen. I am so happy now!
debbie downer.
How unromantic 🙄
I’m happy you got better now 💯
@Shirley Jackson he can stay single. No one forces a man to do anything, hes a man obviously
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Happy for you dear 😎💗
@Shirley Jackson Why should a woman go broke spending HER hard-earned money on HIS worthless ass? Perhaps she works harder than he ever did.
Anna, what I love about what you did in this video is that you called out the bad behaviour and did not shame the women who accepted it and were vulnerable enough to share. The truth is that _many_ of us have accepted bad behaviour and often it is what becomes the turning point for us to lead us into a place of becoming high value. We should embrace our experiences if it helps us improve for the better and sharing helps the people watching more than they realise.
I have had several bad experiences with cheap men, some of them I am not proud of, but it made me stronger and more sure of what I would and would not accept and _that_ should really be the outcome.
Once again, I thank you for actually being a positive presence in this community. You are such a great example of what it means to be a high value woman and are empowering others instead of gloating, bragging or undermining. That is the epitome of class!
SOOOOO true! I was just thinking about all the crappy/abusive relationships I had before I finally wised up that it DOESN'T have to be that way! Ladies, you can say no! Once you begin to see your own value and just walk away from those who treat you poorly, you will begin to attract people - not just a future partner, but in all areas of your life - who treat you well.
It CAN be done!
Once I was dating a guy and he expected me to pay at the restaurant as he didn’t bring any money. He didn’t want the waiter to know I was paying so he made me give him the cash so he could hand it to the waiter himself. LOSER.
I was with a guy for 13yrs, two kids. And we use to do that. This guy was and probably still is a serial cheater. When the year I finally broke up with him, we went out and when he coyly held out his hand under the table I said, "Here babe! [Handing him my bank card in front of the waiter] Don't you need my card?" He looked so embarrassed. I pretended to be totally oblivious to it. Then I followed up with, "Babe, take it so you can pay for dinner." He gave me my card back and paid with his. Im so happy I finally left him.
OMG the fragility of his little ego
Total loser!
Expecting woman to pay for him. Loser.
Afraid to admit his disability to pay for himself in front of others. Double loser.
What a douche!
Self-respect is the most important thing we give to ourselves.Never let anyone to take it away!
It's not just about money! But it's about mannerisms, it shows how much he is invested in you.
I agree. I never expected my husband to pay but he graciously did. He's generous with his affection even if he doesn't have alot but he is with everything else. If he was wealthy he would take me out to dinner and spoil me rotten
@David h If you like someone straight away you shouldn't be waiting around for "a return", that implies there is no actual reason why you are considering them. They should be the highest worth as they are. The real issue is you essentially think like an aged man, and not someone who is attuned into love language and feels romantic pulls.
When out for breakfast with my brother. He hung my coat, brought my food, paid for it, when I needed a napkin he stood up and got it without me asking him. On our way out he held my coat so I can put it on. I thought to myself in that moment: my brother is showing me an example of what I deserve. I should never settle for less.
This video would make me cry, if I hadn't had the good sense to break up with my boyfriend a few months ago. Being from different countries, he was able to convince me that since he comes from a poorer country and I earn more money than him by far, he can not only not treat me and invite me, but on the contrary, I am supposed to pay more than him. So, not even a half-half relationship. I always bought much bigger presents, paid more for our trips, and he was always jealous when I spent MY money to go out with friends. Yes, I know it sounds stupid, but when you are in the relationship and in love, it's amazing what behaviour we are willing to accept! The last drop was when we were planning to move in together and I found out he was planning on keeping his savings and real estate to HIMSELF, while living on MY money. That ended everything for me and since that day I have never once regretted that decision.
Thank you, Anna, for making us understand our worth and what is unacceptable behaviour 💜
Well done for ditching that useless leech. What a scumbag.
So obviously he did what all woman normally do with man. Feels great right?
@@cryptowest6555 I don't agree with you. I can only speak for myself, but if I had a man who paid mostly for me, provided for me, took care etc. I would make sure to compensate this by doing the house work, cooking, cleaning etc. I think every relationship is a balance. My ex had no problem with me bringing in the money, working 50-55 hours a week, but expected me to be the woman at home, cleaning, cooking, being always dressed nice, and sexually available at all times. You can't have it both ways.
@@cryptowest6555 I know that a lot of women work their ass of at home, with children and work. And the man if lucky works. And when they payed work is done, they relax at home, drink beer in a bar to relax after work. So if you have dates with a woman and you pay for her and treat her well..., that is the fase, when she is pampered. And if the man has the feeling ' he got her'..., the honeymoon is over and the man relax to the max after work and does lesser and lesser his best for her. So, i think women do more this days, then ever in hystory for men. And my personal experience is..., when you pay from the start 50/50 or more and be nice and friendly and do stuff for him, the more rude, egoistical he gets from the start. Then he treats you like a doormat. But when a man is generous with me, in all kind of ways, i would treat him with the most respect and care. How do you explain all this? I spent money for MD, food, gas, shoes, drinks, clothes, sailboat stuff, items what he needed, pay for shampoo, woodfire, presents, massages, vitamin pills, restoring watches, cleaning at his home, laundry, lending items, post envelopes for his lawer, giving money for his handy, sex with love, compassion, encouragement, emotional support, time, effort, consistency, affection..., and furthermore.
He treated me and my 21 year old son with disrepect. Hatefull, egoistical, shameless, rude...and he said i do nothing for him. I am on disability do chronic healthissues and struggle hard to survive. He never even wanted to know, wich healthissues i have or go with me to the medical doctor (i would allways..., no question about that!). 1,5 year relationship and he expected more and more from me and he only gave me 20$ earrings for my birthday ones. Bought no christmas gifts or valentine. No dates. Ooh, yes 5$ box of little shampoo and bodylotion. Had to go allone at night all the time, from his house to mine...But he wanted that i call, to be shure i am allright (i said, if something happens, it is to late, but he did not get the concept). Did not comfort me, even not at the time, when someone wanted to abduct me! Why?
I am done with him now (he does not understand even why and complains all women dump him?!).
But in my head and heart i am totally a mess, confused and drained and feel worthless then ever. But i was in love at first site..., and alone for 17 years! Why do men behave like that? I know women who do much for a man. But this men do not treat her well. Why? Bless you
@@heide-raquelfuss5580 You deserve so much better honey. I'm praying for you and your big heart. Please never settle like that again. ❤🙏❤
I’m loving this. This is not about money, it’s about respect. Using the economy vs business class plane ticket example: If a man decides to buy you a ticket, but he buys the cheapest for you and he gets one better for himself, he’s not treating you equally and with respect. He’s basically saying you are not worth a business ticket, and putting you on a lower level. And that is a major disrespect!
And for those who may say “well maybe he didn’t have money for two business tickets”, well he should have gotten himself an economy ticket as well and problem solved. :) putting someone down like that is embarrassing and not worth anyone’s time!
My Mother always said "what you accept, you teach." A man should treat you with respect, kindness and consideration - qualities that money cannot buy. A person that truly cares for you, has your best interest at heart.
This is why, in older societies and still in some families today, mothers, aunts, fathers, uncles, more mature friends and relatives act as "gatekeepers", not so much to hinder what young women do, but to weed out the frauds and the bad guys. That wasn't such a bad idea. Make it a little difficult for a man to spend time with you.
That is such a good explanation. This is how it is in my family and my culture. When were younger we saw it as controlling but we understand once we got older and realized how much we've been protected from the bad men out there.
Unfortunately not every has family with the right mind for this. Would be nice though. And those thay do have families don't always care much of their opinion. It'd be nice to have the option of good family stepping in.
A high quality man starts with a high quality mother. Ladies, teach your male children how to be a gentleman. Sometimes you look at some men and think to yourself *"who raised you...? Wolves?"*
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I feel like this is unfair to wolves and pigs. 😉
Where the daddy at
wow soo true. I think so myself. Some men act like they weren't raised by human beings
S D yes, maybe it’s how they see their father treat their mother
Some time ago, I met a guy who had just retired as a Lt Commander in the Navy. We went to a salad bar for dinner (the meal actually coat $7). Then he brought me home and expected sex. Sex for a salad? Like I owed him for that? He didn't get what he wanted and I decided never to see him again.
This type of guy is only just up for fun.
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So he took you to a mess hall🤣🤣🤣
I kid you not, I had the same experience with an Indian Navy officer who's in the rank of Lieutenant. So, ours was an arranged marriage set up, very typical in India.
This guy always talked about being respectful to ladies and his etiquettes that he was taught in Navy. He was all good words but 0 actions.
He always talked about respecting women but was always so so disrespectful of me and my family. He was never consistent with his efforts, never bothered to call me or bother to meet me. He would keep ranting about his ex infront of me. Never bought me anything, not even some flowers or chocolates.
The breaking point came when he was in the same city as me and never even bothered to give me a call or meet me. When I confronted him, he as usual blamed it on me.
I dumped him after that.
Don't regret it.
This man came from an affluent profession and was yet so so CHEAP!
Sex for a salad 🤡
Good call!
Anna: I have been watching your videos for some time now. I am a happily married woman w 3 small children. I wanted to "level up". Since watching your inspirational videos my husband has been mentioning how much he likes the changes I have implemented. (Even calling me a high caliber woman...he hears your videos from time to time lol) For example, putting effort in my look( it's hard to put yourself first with three little ones, being a stay at home mom and work from home mom) but since I have started taking your tips I feel happier and my husband smiles more at me. You have probably saved me a lot of trouble in my future by bringing to my consciousness my lack of intentionality. Thank you Anna and keep doing what you are doing.
I love this comment. May God bless you with many more years of pure happiness❤❤
@@amaj_lex thank you dear
You are an inspiration! Often times we can create the life and relationship we want when we improve ourselves in the relationship. ❤
One time a guy offered me a ring that an ex girlfriend has left in his apartment, I told him that I didn’t need or like leftovers, that I would never settled for anything worthless, used or a hand me down. Another time he took me to a cheap restaurant, it was awful, please ladies stay away from cheapskates, listen to Anna. Red flag right there: a man who is cheap or greedy with his money, is also with his feelings and affection and doesn’t care about you at all!
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He probably would have give you the wedding dress of his ex-wife for your wedding. 😄
Max Mustermann Thrift store lol
I’m lucky to have a father that has always been so generous and has always taken such good care of my mother, so I’ve always had a good example of how I should be treated and I’m lucky for this ❤️
Me too! It's good to have a great example
Me too ! They divorced and he was dating a Swedish woman, she must have appreciated a lot his generosity (as a French man) :)
Me too! I dont take bullshit at all.
I get wanting to be treated right, but if you can't treat your man right in return then you don't deserve the man
You certainly are!
On a first date with a guy, we went to a historic tour site. In the midst of it I told him I’m thirsty and if he would be kind enough to get a bottle of water for me (deliberately, to test his stinginess). He pretended to look around and said there are no vendors nearby. After a few mins I asked him again and said i see a vendor selling water and asked him to get me a bottle again. He then proceeds to grumpily comment “this is why one should be responsible in preparing their water bottles from home. “ 😱
I hope you didnt date that grumpy child again.
deadly experience.
To be fair, I am on this guy's side. I never buy water, always bring my own water bottle...
Buying water is such a waste of money
Trashy dude who lacks chivalry and generosity. That's so selfish of him.
Oh really? Did he bring any water bottles even for himself?
All i have to say Anna is: you should also record videos directed to men. I'm saying this because all the "relationship coaches" they only teach what women HAVE TO do in a relationship, they never teach what MEN HAVE TO. As i see you have a lot to teach them. 😘
Yes! So true. No one is out there teaching guys how to treat quality women!
Yaelra R. They know how to do so, women just let them get away with bad behavior so they don’t bother
They're always blaming women for men's behavior. Quite sad. But men aren't on RUclips looking for relationship advice either. They know women take it seriously so they do research. If they blame the woman she will have to keep watching.
It's not a woman's job to teach men. These male relationship/life coaches need to teach men but instead they focus on women. Smh.
I moved in with my boyfriend not too long ago, I offered to pay rent (knowing he would never make me pay for rent, but out of courtesy). He said "no, I take care of you , and you spend your money on yourself" this is when I knew he is the type of guy Anna is talking about .
Lol you are a parasite
@@cryptowest6555 so if you wanted a wife and children you expect your wife to provide? Because the way her partner treat her make her feel secure and safe to start and raise a family with him, whilst being a great wife. Pregnancy is so underated I know men can't even deal with flu, let alone having a human being growing in your stomach.
Vic Bujok That’s a real man. Omg 😍
m if he can’t afford it then he shouldn’t have a girlfriend.
@m of course, but like the lady in the video say you only spend what you afford anyway, you can both make things work. But usually the reason woman like men to make an effort financially, is so they can feel secure enough to have children. That's literally all it comes down to in a woman's mind, so when men don't expect woman to pay (no matter their wages) that make them feel secure which leads them to feel safe enough to start a family, because deep down if they feel like they're dying for 6 months of a pregnancy the last thing they can worry about is the rent. Most men feel useless watching the other halves suffer bringing children in to the world, and dealing with a baby, it actually makes a man feel strong and powerful instead of helpless, providing for his family, making it possible for them to have a fulfilling life. And then shes happy and secure enough to look good and keep her man pleased, which is a win win for everyone right? It's only fair that what makes a great man to a woman is someone who provides wether he has little or a lot of money, just like for men , looks and sex is a massive priority. Woman are not shaming men for trying to find the most attractive girl or for thinking about sex mainly. It can be seen as harsh but it's just human nature. All that matters is both parties are happy.
Cash Uber? Red flag, he's probably married!!!! Occasional cash transactions are one thing, but I'll bet the majority of affluent men use cards - simply because they can manage expenses easier.
FromFlabToFourteener good point!!!
👀👀👀👀 so true
Oh, I didn't think of that, but you might actually have a point...
FromFlabToFourteener I agree these are signs of a married man who’s wife most likely has access to his bank accounts so he tries to hide things.
@Pengoto K You clearly belong to the Cheaters Club
Went on a date with this guy, he had no money so i paid AND HE KEPT THE CHANGE
Wow 😂
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You're lying 🤣🤣
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This video is .000% about rich men and their money and 100% about respect for women.
Love it 😍 the world needs to know this now.
You said it!
I used to be a first class flight attendant for a major European airline. Once I had a guest in first class. It was a day flight. Nonetheless we always hand out Pyjamas to our guests. When I handed him the Pyjama, he replied: "I'm not going to sleep, so thank you."
I said: "you can keep the Pyjama and give it to someone else as a gift."
He said: "if I wanna make a gift, I buy a gift."
What a gentleman. Too bad he was three times my age.
This video is literally saving me from being a victim of the “lonely” spell. Thank you! Reminding me I have standards
The cheapest date I had been on, I split a plate of dumplings which cost less than a dollar (converting from my currency) with my date. He pulled out his card and I offered to pay too as I usually do,.... he asked the waiter to split the bill so that each ended up swiping less than 50 cents.
The waiter was rolling his eyes, I am embarrassed, And this dude was just glowing like he's achieved the top tier of being feminist.
Sounds like a king
King Turd
@@JosieStev king of all kings
Well said! I am 47 when I was younger I always expect the guys to pay for everything. That's the way it should be. Especially if they were the ones inviting you. I have young friends and daughters that think they have to pay when a guy invites them. When I tell them this is not right they say " you are old fashion, that's embarrassing!' and when they find a guy that pays for everything they say "it was so embarrassing". They are not very smart! DON"T GO OUT WITH A CHEAP GUY!
And don't put out when they do pay! I'm not embarrassed by a man who pays for me. I think of it as a nice bonus that I can save money on things that matter. My guy friends always paid for me if they invited me out to eat. Girls nowdays are getting brain washed by this so called 3rd wave "feminism" it's mostly trash and I'm only 30. The quality of options out there are going down. I'm teaching my son how to treat women kindly
I feel so lucky, my man always gets the best for me (gifts, traveling, going-out), he never let me pay for anything and he feels happy when he provides for me... He's such a gentleman thank God! Ladies my grandmother used to say about men "Stingy with his money, stingy with his feelings"... Please, no woman deserves misery in her life ladies, just find a better partner...
I'll share one with you. I agreed to go on a date with a man who worked at a bank in Toronto. He lived in a good condo in an expensive area. He didn't agree to meet me half way because he didn't have a car (not uncommon in a big city), so I said ok. I'll just meet you there. Whatever.
We were supposed to go to a christmas market, and he dragged me around the city on the coldest night of the year on record, on foot! I was freezing! He didn't want to pay for an uber, or take the subway. We went for dinner, which came to $15 per meal, and he didn't offer to pay for that as well. He just talked about how things are too expensive, and it was clear we weren't compatible. I just wanted to go home. I was so tired and unimpressed. He offered me an uber home and I took it and never contacted him again!
I now have a wonderful man in my life who is working his way up, who isn't rich, yet treats me like a queen, and just bought me a diamond and sapphire ring for our anniversary and took me to a 5 star restaurant. Don't settle!
My mother already had a difficult life since she came from a poor family so she worked hard to be financially independent but when she married my dad and it became worse. He did not even provide for me and my sister's education and child support. She had to give up her time and money to give us a better life. If I must say, she gave up on herself to provide for us. It is such a waste that my mom who is a good woman, a graduate of a prestigious university, hardworking and ambitious, never really had that opportunity for her to shine. She really deserves better than this.
I am sorry how your dad treated you and Your mom .
It's so sad
Ladies always secrifice their life their happiness, their love for others .
Ladies listen to Anna and listen to her clearly. The route of all evil is selfishness. When a man is selfish, it’s an indicator of his character. I wasted two years of my life with a low life like that and they (these cheap dudes) never get better with time. He will not only treat you badly but will also eventually want your money. I was smart and refused to have his kid and I am free of that looser. Don’t buy into the ‘let’s go half’ lifestyle. A man’s heart is where his treasure is and if his treasure ain’t with you his heart isn’t either.
Safire Carol agree with every word you're saying❤❤❤❤❤❤
I could never go half, seriously whether I was rich or poor, I don’t know I’d rather be alone, honestly and just have a lover if it got to that .
@Pengoto K you don't sound very smart either. She's not with him now so what's it to you and why are you so concerned? You must be broke. Why don't you go get a job and stop wasting time on a woman's channel?
If there were no kid involved it would have been amazing. Kids are the best thing in the whole world even if they come in a hard relationship during hard times. Ladies don’t deny the greatest experience of your lives going after glamour, it is a hunger that never satisfies, but kids are heaven on earth if you keep them close to your heart and educate their minds and spirits.
@@tatiginattosantana There is nothing heavenly about raising children to suffer in poverty. We are here to date/marry well, work on our level-up, and raise our children to have a leg up in life. I fear you have come to the wrong channel with your message...or is this a silent cry for help?
Anna, this video brought me to tears. My case is exacy like the last lady you mentioned. My husband makes a good income, but he's always been cheap. He never gave me an engagement ring. He never took me to a nice dinner when we were dating. Our wedding was very cheap because I didn't want him to spend so much money. The list goes on and on, and it is my fault. I set the tone of the relationship by enabling this kind of behavior. I never saw this before because I come from a very toxic family, and I never learned self respect growing up. There is no escape for me now, as I'm not willing to destroy my kids's life. But to all the ladies that are still single, take this advice seriously. It is the only wise piece of advice you'll find on the internet. Believe me, you will thank Anna for the rest of your life.
Have you tried talking to your husband? I mean, he is making good money. I'm sure he can set some money aside for hoildays and dinner. Your not asking for much. This is too extreme.
Leaving your husband won’t destroy your children’s lives, my father was like this and we (my mother, brother and I) are so much happier since the divorce
My story is similar except we don't have kids and I'm married for 10 years. My parents are divorced when I was young. It's great that your children have both parents remaining in the marriage but it's ok, in my opinion, if their marriage doesn't work out so I wouldn't remain in the marriage just because of your children... Unless you can't survive on your own. It's never too late. I'm in my early 40. I've lost 25 pounds and looking better than when I was in my 30s. I'm tidying up my lose ends so I can have a smoother exit from the marriage. He still wants to be with me but I'm tired of paying for the mortgage and all the bills. It's never too late to do the right thing for yourself. Start upgrading yourself and you know what to do next when you look like a supermodel.
I’m experiencing this type of behavior too and I’m barley 25. My fault for it too. I paid my husbands and I house (he didn’t give me a penny, he makes more than me) because I desperately wanted to have a happy family. Were you able to change this behavior of him being cheap?
I had set boundaries, but now he is treating me worse for it.
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
I was so in love with my bfriend in my 20s that I didn't see signs that he's absolutely worthless. He put my emotions on the edge constantly until I invited him to my home and he met my family and family friends. His first impression, when he arrived was: "You Really live HERE?!! OO" I never showed my quite high social status by my clothes but he didn't get it by my good manners and love.. until he saw the money viewing my home and meeting ppl around me. Then he changed 360ds: he started to give my little gifts as golden earings etc. To me it was obvious that he wanted to buy his place. To me our relation was over because he didn't treat me the same way before he noticed material value. Sad.
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Wow. My boyfriend isn’t rich. He’s excellent with his money and does well (investments and savings etc) but he’s not this cheap! He would never buy me a ticket worth less than his and always gives me the best he can. He’s very generous and kind in all things.
Wealth doesn’t make someone highclass in my opinion. These men sound like snakes and low life’s.
That’s so encouraging to hear! My ex was so stingy, that i’m traumatized lol
I feel the same my bf and I are broke college kids but I wouldn’t trade him for a rick rude guy
David h We treat each other well. But I also do follow a lot of this channels advice along with being raised with a heavy influence by my grandmother. She was raised affluent and was very high class. I feel that, though I am not wealthy myself, I offer a lot to a relationship and after some mistakes in my youth I am committed to being treated exactly how I deserve. My current partner, whom I mentioned above, is a result of this mind set. Originally I was looking for an affluent man but he surprised me and carry’s himself with class. I know my grandmother would approve of him.
Jessica H you go girl!! out of curiosity, what should a woman offer?
@@ellapark8770 wow me too, I am a little disappointed that I did not realize what kind of man is from the beginning of the relationship
A good sign of a quality man is if he treats his mother or grandmother or sister with love and respect.
Nah, that's just a small part. Some men are momma's baby"s and treat their moms better than their wives. I know, I had one. He would take his mom's advice before mine and made sure to buy her special gifts for all the holidays, when he often got me nothing. He would often say, "I was gonna get you" 'this or that,' but you are so hard to shop for, I didn't know what to get you." Our 1st Valentines day he didn't get me anything and after I handed him chocolates and a bear, he said, "oh I was trying to find a gift for you, but everything said love on it, and I didn't want to be too forward or freak you out"🙄
They will worship them and still be so self absorbed they are stingy with other women...trust me
I’m financially well established. I used to go to dates purposely with my Michael Kor or Kate spade bags, because I didn’t want to intimidate the men with my wealth or make them think I’m materialistic. But NOW, I’m going to all dates with my super expensive bags because I want the men to know that they shouldn’t date me if we are not financially compatible. I’m not settling for less.
If he notices or care what kind of bag you have, then you picked the wrong guy.
Selina Y the type of man you’re looking for doesn’t care about bags, you might have to communicate that in a different way
@She’s so Lucky most women I know don't know the difference, lol Southern farm life, and after your comment, proud of it🙄
What she means is that women have to set right expectation about the life they want to lead. Now telling this to someone on face would be rude and better way is to show them your lifestyle so that men as clear. In my example I would wear a modern ( decent) looking outfit to convey my message that I am not conservation.
as a man I can tell you I have no clue to what kind of designer purse you might have... I could care less.... what I look for is how a woman acts and if she has lipstick on her tooth
I always get the feeling selfish stingy men would throw a woman off the Titanic and he would get in the life boat.
Great analogy!
And he wants people to admire him for it. So demonic.
Cal.....
So you would sacrifice yourself, while your boyfriend/husband was floating?
I laughed soo hard at this😂
My friend was invited for a coffee by some guy. They ordered drinks and she said she is hungry because it was late and she was working all day. She ordered a salad (3 eurous) and when check arrived he told her "give me 3 eurous". That was like a year ago and still today I'm speechless. Wow.
someone clearly doesn't want to be treated as an equal
I sat up off my bed when I read that!
The problem is not with the money. If a man is not generous with money, he wont be generous with love either. He will always withold it
If a burger is expensive for him, how about diapers, how about maternity bill? Will he be able to cater for that??
Maybe that’s the reason he says something like that, he wants to be able to buy diapers and all that.
@@Jeff_Green that’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard 😂😂😂😂😂
@@Jeff_Greenbroke men usually don't believe in marriage anyways, translation they know they don't have the funds for it and they want to use the coins they do have on themselves. That's completely fine but no true lady should be giving those men the time of day. Our bio clocks are ticking so fast we can't give it up on men who can't and won't afford the diapers and school supplies.
This video is so important in today’s society women shouldn’t
be tolerating these types of actions from any men, if he can’t even pay for a ride home or a meal you can’t expect much from him, can you?🙅🏻♀️🤦🏼♀️