Another type of loser is the one that insults you or isn’t considerate to you even when having a fight. Politeness is a gesture of love and a sign or minimal human decency
It depends. Everyone has an argument style just as they have a communication style and a love language. When I argue, I go for the throat and jugular vein. I aim to win (and I almost always do BC my memory is edetic), but also make the person feel stupid for daring to question me in a certain way. Point out where I'm wrong, show me how I'm wrong, absolutely do it. Leave no rooms for doubt. Because when I reciprocate, the last thing that I'll be is polite.
@@sersastark I think I’m talking about people who use insults or demeaning words instead of attempting to communicate and reach an agreement during a fight. Of course, conflict is normal or necessary but aggression and being horrible is generally not obligatory.
@@sersastark I guess she's talking about someone agressive/mean which is DANGEROUS, imagine this person in a heated situation, they may harm you or hurt you really bad
Absolutely. But for some it's very difficult to break that bond. It can be really challenging if you're quite an anxious person. Saying this from my own experience.. I'd feed myself with thoughts like: no relationship is perfect, if I leave him I'll never be able to find someone else, ending this relationship would mean I've failed and so much more. If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support. Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
@@IevaKambarovaite You are right! For me it was not that difficult, however it took me some time to actually find the courage to leave this person even thought i knew I deserve better.
Another example: hot and cold, being inconsistent, playing mind games, make you feel less than, embarrassing you, making you look silly, getting revenge on you when stating firm boundaries, making you jealous on purpose to make you look fool and hurt.
My mom mom always says "What you see is what you get." You want a partner that you can grow and evolve with, not a project that you have to put all your energy into.
For growing and evolving you gotta put lots of energy and, I prefer "price is what you pay, value is what you get" meaning that I don't give a damn about what you all think a guys is based on what you and everybody can see with their eyes, cause frankly I doubt a guy showing off his wrangler could be richer that the one that doesn't have a car (that's why some people have it $ and others have bad debt for example). I know that perception is important for most people, but you'll be just speculating if you base your decisions in what you see and, you'll buy overpriced, meaning that it could cost you more at the end to be with that guy. I don't know why women can't even have faith to invest less in an average guy with a good grow potential, I know you don't see what I mean cause you'll have to think about something different.
My favorite one, "you're dating a looser if he starts manipulating you". He could be a perfect gentleman do everything else right and once he has you right where he wants you,slowly starts manipulating you. So glad you mentioned it!
1-want to split the bill 2- doesnt want commitment 3-ghosts you /doesnt make effort 4-lacks depth 5- lacks gentleman skills 6-manipulates you /aggressive 7-party boy everything weekend
A man who doesn't read or care about learning and improving, lacks insight about himself and lacks drive to become a better human being. He will not evolve with his partner and will block her evolution. A big goodbye in my books.
I don't know ladies, but It annoys me when a man tries to make you feel silly for not knowing something or makes fun of it and more in public!!! So disrespectful
No Se, in these cases, a great approach with your head held high is to say: “if you know more than me, then give me something, teach me!”. Everytime I used this, the guy shrunk into himself, gave me respect & never tried it again.
After binge watching your videos, I realized I don't like or feel good in most of my clothes and really want to update my wardrobe. I told my husband about this and that I want us to allocate money for me to get new clothes next time we do the budget. My husband is a frugal man, yet without hesitation he said "Get whatever you want baby, you work hard and deserve to get new clothes that you feel good in!" He has treated me like a queen from the beginning of our relationship, no matter what financial situation we are in 💖 Listen to Anna, do not settle!
I can tell you as a man that I completely agree with most everything on this list except #1. When I was young and dumb I used to spend big money on first dates to try to impress women who just ghosted me. Never again! No more Mr. Nice Guy. Now I still pay for dates, just not for lobster for all of her girlfriends. First date is always coffee or drinks. I'd rather save my money and spend it on my special lady when she comes around. So no, men who are cautious with their money at first are not losers. We are just smart with money and women. But I'm old fashioned in that whoever asks for the date should pay. I can verify from costly experience that women who demand you take them on expensive dates is a major red flag. Believe me, if two people like each other they want to spend time together even if it's just walking in the park. Young guys out of college just don't have much money, even though they are great guys.
On point 6: don’t let low quality men/people trick you into thinking you’re being ‘needy’ when all you’re doing is communicating your needs. Find someone who sees your worth and is willing to grow with you.
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You arent a virgin with a cookbook, hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
Loser: a guy that is always blaming others. Never is his fault. And if it was his fault: he was a victim, you or other is the reason he did wrong:s. Oh, thats a narcisist.
my step father and brother and they get mad when they're called out but I blame my mom for choosing to stay such piece of crap. She has no self respect, no dignity. She has even caught him cheating on her. I don't understand some women.
The major problem is most of us became from a dad like that, so we learnt that is normal & it could be even worst. By the time we discovered the reality it’s too late, plus if we live in a so so male culture as mine, believe me Mexico is a completely absolute all Inferno (Hell) about it.
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You arent a virgin with a cookbook, hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
Yea go ahead dump that one guy who love you so much but cant afford gucci and lui, and go with the rich guy who can depreciate after some time and get a new woman cause he rich and he CAN. Dumb ass people over here yo
Sign #3....YES!!!! I had a friend in college a few years older than me. She told me that when dating, "it just shouldn't be that hard." If you have to hunt him down, harrass him or beg for his attention, just do yourself a favor, and dont even bother!!!!
Yeah, why bother putting any effort into a relationship or doing things worthy of praise and attention when you can just dress up like a cat and play video games on twitch while you get showered in male attention for doing basically nothing?
He should be pursuing you, and you should NOT be playing hard to get - underdeveloped, immature women play games. Emotionally mature women reciprocate the mans pursuit.
"I would rather be single than be with a man who is really not at the level that I think I deserve to be treated." Everyone should have this mindset. It's ALWAYS better to be single than to be with a low quality partner who doesn't treat you right. Besides, you can use that time being single for all sorts of self-improvement. Edit for clarifications: When I say "low quality partner who doesn't treat you right" I mean someone who treats you in a way that is demeaning, belittling, disrespectful, etc. This has nothing to do with monetary value. No one deserves this kind of treatment. Secondly, I don't mean this in a heteronormative way. Regardless of who you are and who you date, it's better to be single (even if it means for your entire life) than to be mentally, emotionally or physically abused by your partner.
I kinda agree for person must self improve and feel life satisfaction no matter which path person takes but u if u ever want to enter to relationship have realistic view of relationships
@@alyxfaust5663 Exactly. You have average women competing with above average women, for above average men. The men in the top 20% are going to choose the women who are the youngest, and most beautiful. These average women don't understand that just because an above average man will sleep with them, is absolutely zero indication that he even likes her. But, you just have to let them figure that out the hard way.
@@jaythenihilist4689 I won’t cave to these delusional, emotionally driven sycophants, and they know this. They want a masculine man, but can’t handle masculine aggression when confronted with it.
I was in a relationship with a man that was so 50/50 that he wanted me to carry the lugage because ”he carried it last time” :)) Yes, I dumped him short after!
I just broke up with someone because he would always walk so far ahead of me, leave me in the dust. He was so superficial and only liked going out to eat, shopping, playing video games. We weren’t talking, he is completely shut off and if I mentioned how I felt, he would roll his eyes and make me feel guilty for having thoughts and feelings. Calling me crazy. He spent money on me, that’s all I got from him. No thanks
Most men love constructive criticism.... ways of improving himself. So the quiet boring fella you know can become the playful athletic traveling adventurer of your daydreams. If the man is not willing to improve himself after you've provided written wisdom then you know he won't change. Written guidance is much more helpful than a conversation because it will be a constant reminder until he's achieved those goals you've provided. The written details also shows these items have high value... in fact you can even rate the level of importance for each of them.
Was he quickly in a new relationship, by any chance? Manipulative persons (men and women alike) end relationships, by becoming completely unavailable, so that they don't have to end the relationship themselves. Gives them the internal excuse to jump ship immediately, with their moral facade intact.
Thank you for mentioning WRITTEN reminders Ive been doing that and he has Improved slot He actually keeps saying to me how he enjoys reading my notes every now and then He keeps It well hidden from others I think Im his therapist somehow
Not considers the woman's point of view and does not respect her choices and does not listen to her if she says no. Does not have the guts to stand up to her.
I saw a video yesterday of a woman who went to a mans place, told him "no sex" then she stayed all night and he didn't try anything. Ie, he accepted her "no." Her response: is he gay????
Absolutely. I used to go out of my way to dress up and be pretty for my ex, and he would make a point of complimenting other women when we went out. I decided to let him go chase those women, then XD;;
It is narcissistic to make such comments about others who are walking by. I was in a relationship with a Leo woman once who would do that and yes she was a narcissist. It is also a low value trait for a man to do that.
My man is not a millionaire yet, but after this video he is looking like the dream guy right now... haha My own family always says how spoilt he made me, and his answer is always around "No, she is finally having what she deserves". I come from a lower income and last year I got sick and he took on himself to pay for everything so I can be home and not worry. Feeling so lucky! Now him and his family has been talking about marriage, and of course it will be yes!!!
Number 4, 6, and 7 is literally hitting it on the nail. When you see them being aggressive and lashing out because they are not intelligent enough to convey their feelings, don’t walk RUN! RUN! And when a man does not know how to sit down, that is HUGE no no.
There is one thing that bothers me to a point of never dating the man a second time, if he is a cheap tipper. If he leaves poor gratuity on the ticket, it’s just a matter of time before he devalues me.
I had a date give a homeless man money on the street. Then turned to me with a smile and said “I never give them money. I’m trying to impress you.” I would have been more impressed if he had kept him mouth shut and didn’t fish for a compliment of sorts. I was still taking notes on his actions and words matching. I did not accept another date as the whole situation gl felt too awkward.
Let me add my favorite one: if he doesn’t have a long term plan, career wise and family wise. I hate the “we’ll see where life takes me” mentality 😩 Of course you can’t plan everything but you should have some guidelines or goals! Otherwise life will take you nowhere!!
Yep being hearing this answers on a lot of dates iv been on past month and nicely told them thanks for the date but all the best. I mean go with the wind /flow yuck
I'm having some problems with my husband. He won't give compliments. I purchased a new sun dress and he said I looked bad. Mind you, I had a baby 10 months ago I did lose most of the baby weight. What a way to shatter a woman's confidence in herself after giving birth.
Start a separate savings account, just for you. Say nothing. Any password you make, starting today, make sure it's private. Raise that baby well til you have a window of opportunity to leave. You will do better alone even if it seems scary. Life is happier on the other side with your babies and no man to exhaust you - a woman who knows
You’re the reason why I changed a lot, and I love the person I become for the last 2 years. People always give me compliments on my vocabulary, culture and manners, my work outfits, the whole image and my mental state of mind. I started reading more books for feminity, cut off all toxic friendships, working out (kick boxing), better clothes in my wardrobe… now, in this position, I’d date myself for the person I become. I’m like a magnet for gentlemen. Love it. Manifesting everything that I deserve. Life is more beautiful, I’m grateful for everything🥰❤️✨
Maja... I guess you attract the kind of person you now represent. I'm so glad to have read your comment. I better work on getting out of my slump. Thanks for sharing your experience.
@@unolowmanta7508 Turn off the TV and read, read, read! When you come across a word you don't know, look it up. Read the classics, modern novels, non- fiction, memoir and the news.
Girls at least you didn't end marrying one of them and have kids with him.. Its OK you are still young and there are so many good men out there but do not repeat your mistakes and always think of yourself as worth to have a good man..
No need to feel embarrassed sis, most of us have cried over someone who was not worthy of our tears. The important thing is to learn to love yourself more and move on. There are good guys out there.
I broke up with my boyfriend this month. He was the quintessential ‘nice guy’. We did the 50/50 for FIVE years, yes I wasted 5 years with this man. He had no plans, never wanted to talk about our future and was selfish in bed. I feel like the world’s been lifted from my shoulders. Leave before it’s too late ladies.
@@thevcountdown9824 That is not true. We're never "too old" for men. I'm nearing my 60s and dating EXCELLENT gents. It helps if you make yourself a great catch! (Edited to add: "make yourself a great catch AND stop entertaining anyone who's not up to par!")
My boundaries become activated when my man wants me to do something wrong. I won't compromise on that and now he knows it. He can walk if he wants. Thanks for such an adequate video Anna!
What's wrong with her past? Everyone was immature at some point. It also depends on where you grew up. We all have to develope and learn. Noone is born elegant, some get taught by their parents and sone have to find out themselves.
@@mynew6972 I bet you anything that she probably rejected all of these good guys that she wants which she calls “high value men.” And they aren’t high value they are just nice to them, desperate for love.
you are dating a loser when the guy can’t stop criticising his ex girlfriends or the women that he dated. This just says a lot about him that hes disrespectful to women.
I watch how he treats/thinks about his mother. And how she treats him. My sister finally divorced a man whose mother would call him once a week and call him names, insult him, etc. he moved 3,000 miles from her but she got more abusive. It should have been a big red flag!
I would say we need number 8 here the man who can not do anything without his mother big or small and expects his girfriend/fiancee to love his mother like he does and be her best friend. while I do undarstand the need for mutual respect and cordial relationships I can't undarstand these men's mindset and I thing it's important to point them out
Rose. It's always worse when you see the manipulation by the Mother. A Mama's boy is often not independent...his mother does it all for him. And I wonder is he looking for a wife or mother. Often it's not a healthy relationship.
Mama's Boys are the walking dead or the pod people. They fool a woman into believing he is a whole man, suitable for marriage, but his mama is living rent free in his head, so he is just a shell. Somebody is gonna accuse me of despising mothers. They're pole vaulting. I despise toxic mothers who insist on clinging to their adult sons, keeping them trapped in emotional incest.
My ex kept a job and provided but not general is unless he wanted somebtimg and he cheated on me and hide money and gaslighted me! Disrespectful and made the kdis feel scared!
Another type of losers is those who won’t take responsibility of their own actions. Instead of bettering themselves, they blame their crappy behaviors on others “oh I’m the way I am because of my ex”. “ I’m the way I am because of my mother” etc. No, you are a grown man. If you cannot treat women the right way, it is ALL ON YOU. Stop making excuses.
@@lwy8887 women dont have responsibility or accountability. YOU CHANGED FIRST, women changed, you aren't traditional. We want an airhostess, not a copilot. Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You aren't a virgin with a cookbook (traditional), hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
I so agree. I have been through this with a man. He absolutely refused accountability and wanted to blame his ex for the situation when I knew he created it.
My best friend dated a man who was overweight but wealthy, he constantly told her to work out, and monitored her weight and what she ate. Only allowing her to order low calorie options in restaurants. As he stated he preferred slim women. My friend is very slim and healthy. He is a loser because he was harsh with her about her weight but had absolutely no care or regard to how he actually looked or carried himself.. She ended up leaving him 🙌🏽 she is now in a much better relationship. Don't settle ladies..
I’m sorry but if it was me, I’d really respond him horrendously when he even tries to make a comment on my physical look. I’d be like ...” says the man who is overweight himself”
@@irinaermolaeva5520 Overweight men were always the ones that had THE NERVE to call me fat or needing to loose weight. I was never called those names by slim or fit men.
The nerve of him to judge someone else on their looks when he is not Brad Pitt, Jason Momoa, Chris Hemsworth, or Henry Cavill. I’m glad she dumped him.
My advice: listen to your gut/intuition. The warning flags are always there. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt. If something doesn't feel right, cut and run.
This is some of the best advice, truly. My friends think I cut guys loose too quickly, but I know how I’m supposed to be treated. If I feel pressured sexually, if he’s being rude or patronizing, I’m outta there. You’re right. The red flags are always there.
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You aren't a virgin with a cookbook (traditional), hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
Male here. Disagree w/ your first statement. My girlfriend expected me to pay for everything and I felt unappreciated for it and being taken advantage of. I hated that relationship and glad I got out.
I mean if I can and want to pay that’s fine but honestly you being taken care of financially you have to earn that and you better be handling everything else around the house cooking cleaning ect. These women think because they have vaginas that they get to be taken care of what you gonna do for me ??? I better not have to lift a finger when I get home and I mean that
@@Henry-kz4gn You literally just assumed that for this guy. I always liked it when my ex girlfriend bought me things and I always enjoyed buying her things. It let me know we cared for each other. I personally didn't really care what she liked to wear.
There are some men who are absolutely wonderful to people outside but inside their house they are awful to their family. Hence no one will ever believe how such a nice guy can be abusive.
Does this apply to the woman? When the woman is the one in the relationship who's insecure, aggressively jealous, possessive, and I would even say manipulative?
What specific behaviours are you eliciting that are creating insecurity and jealousy? Do you check out other men in front of him? Are you secretive, or dishonest? Everyone has insecurities, and often, but not always, a womans unconscious promiscuous behaviour triggers insecurty. In a relationship, if either party experiences these triggers, open communication, space holding, and support are key to work through it together. Not pointing the finger, blaming, or quitting. Everyone has trauma to work through and a womans compassion and empathy are the two most attractive traits for a man healing and developing himself.
Men dont have drive to be great anymore? Lol😂😂 men still own 85 percent wealth in whole world. We men stay away from delusional women like you that's why you are single. We dont care about your money, bcz we know we have to spend money in relationship, I will marry a poor beautiful, submissive girl in 3rd world , but not a millionaire woman bcz we dont care about your money.
When I was admitted in hospital for the Coronavirus earlier this year my ex boyfriend at the time was so cold and hostile to me, he showed 0 empathy and 0 effort into sending me Get Well Soon gifts or anything sentimental... wow as I’m typing this I realize that this guy didn’t love me at all
@@chaitanyagupta6668 Then I won't pursue them, it's not like I'm in desperate need. I'm happy where I am and I know when the right time comes I'll meet the one for me. You don't have to worry so much ☺️.
@@Penelope_777 pursuing isn't a woman's thing. But youd sure as hell wish a masculine rich and attractive man pursues you. Every woman is desperate for that. Don't lie.
My husband had his whole family involved in our relationship and marriage. Princess Diana thought her marriage to Charles was crowded. NEVER get involved with a man who is too enmeshed with his family and won't value you unless he's taken some kind of vote and got everyone else's opinion. You will NEVER win.
Few years ago, young and naive me, was dating guy who worked in oil industry in Qatar, he had loads of money, but I mean LOADS... On one date he apologized for forgetting his wallet, young and naive me though ok, nevermind, I can pay this time... Then other time he called me if I could come to pick him up because his car was at service.. Young and naive me did it.. Then after few months I wanted to go to the trip in Ireland, we were looking hotels and in one moment he asks whether I can afford 5* hotel... I was like 😳.. First though he was kidding.. He wasn't.. Then he started monolog how woman must contribute and that he hates materialistic women.. Young and naive me was still young, but suddenly stopped being naive 😁...
I love this video. Ladies listen to Anna. I am 74 and very happily taken care of by my guy. He provides and is generous and thoughtful! Stand your ground and think about your own needs and making him happy too. There are good men out there … don’t settle… always work on yourself all the time as this will make you feel good about yourself! See you next time! ❤️ Suzy
“If you really loved me, you wouldn’t be sitting there with your feelings hurt, and you would comfort me.” That’s what I was just told two days ago when I was broken up with. My emotions were never important, my sensitivity was seen as a bad thing. At least I have a heart.
I was dating a guy from Jamaica, he wanted to disappear for a week, then turn up and continue as if nothing happened. The first time he did it, I was like WTF!!! The second time he did it, I said thank God! When he contacted me again, I just answered his text messages with yes/no answers, he got the message. Two years after we broke up, I started to receive messages from an unknown number, I ignored them until one was personal to me, it was him. He thanked me for all I did for him, for being a good, genuine person, etc. He asked for another chance, I just laughed. In my culture we have a saying ‘don’t eat your own vomit’, meaning once you eaten that, don’t eat it again.
Nubianess. I once briefly dated a guy who disappeared for a week.. early in the relationship, so I haven't met his friends or anything and I frankly didn't know what to think. 1 week later he showed up and he said he went to another city for work. I'm pretty sure my disbelief showed on my face but I let it go. Shortly there after he disappeared completely. 5 years later he called... apparently he's been out of the country (working) and he's back and wanted to know if I wanted to go out with him again. I gotta tell you.. I was shocked. What kind of person does that? And better yet, what kind of person would I be if I said yes. I would really like to meet someone but I am not THAT desperate. I can tell you that I have no idea what he was thinking. Which reminds me that we as women always want answers and closure and so on... but sometimes there is no understanding and we just need to let it go and move on with our lives. We'll meet someone who is like minded. I believe that.
@@suzannas.4965 5 years?! What the---! I think in those years he failed to meet a partner that's why he contacted you again. I got second hand embarrassement as I read this.
Typical ‘yardy mentality’Jamaican man. My family is Jamaican. They’re not all like this but it’s not uncommon. We joke about it, “ I soon come baby luv, going shop”, then turn up a week later.
@@suzannas.4965 Narcicist doesn’t give closure. When I was young I desperately wanted to have closures but as I grow older I learn that Narcs don’t give closure and I should not waste my emotion and energy over the past. With closure or not just accept what happen and just move on.
As a man, I agree with most these points lol. Side note: If you want to keep an "elite" man you're going to need to be a feminine, nice, and traditional woman. It goes both ways
It's that classic doublestandard modern women have. They want the top value man without being top value themselves. They flock to the high value dudes, giving away virtually free sex then wonder why he won't marry her. He's smart, he's high value, he knows well in advance she's just easy fun but she just won't admit it. Women like this only provide value to high value dudes: easy, nsa fun.
A low quality man spends three hours on the phone talking about himself and his woes, then finally asks you how you are but excuses himself after two minutes.
So relatable. I am a good listener but also a keen observer. When someone asks me "How have you been?" And I answer e.g. "pretty great, I just graduated" and want to build the conversation up from that but most men would just jump to "oh I graduated in ...." and make it all about themselves. I do not need to talk to much about myself and like to have a conversation with 75% about the other person. But when I tell him something about myself, that is a shot of trust and I feel so ignored and unimportant when he just takes it to say something about himself. Like ... boy, we have been talking about you the whole time....
Very few men are like this. Which is why these types of comments and videos feel like they are from another planet to most men. These guys your dating are dating 10+ women at a time because girls choose sex appeal only - not character. Women have created the modern Haram for the most sexy but least moral men and they complain about it online with little realization of who caused it.
Men who use feminism as an excuse to not do something. I had men refusing to buy me food while they were buying food for themselves because "a woman should not just use a man and pay for what she wants herself" , refusing to carry a heavy object for me, because appereantly "I am strong enough to do it myself", throwing a whole tantrum when I do not buy something for a "man", because I actually earn more than him and somehow I owe him for that. Ladies that is why Ana is teaching us how to find a proper man, because we shouldn't waste our precious time.
@@ilovesunsets Welding does require a degree of skill, I can do it but I try to avoid it at all costs as I hate it. Take it as a complement because I wouldn't let just anybody loose welding something of mine. Not sure how lifting weights would help at all. Despite equality I wouldn't be happy letting a typical woman loose on any of my property, cars or motorcycles that needed work doing unless I had previously supervised them and seen what they could do myself. Same goes for any men under the age of 30 as most of them are hopeless at anything requiring any skill.
He asked me: What makes you think that men should be providers? I believe in 50/50. I told him : When men will be able to be pregnant, carry the baby for 9 months, go through the pains of labor, have issues after labor, take care of children, take them to school, cook at home and go to work at the same time, then I believe we can go 50/50.😂😎 Edit: I also told him that we need to spend so much money on our self care and that a normal eye cream is above 100 euros. And that men don't see behind the scene of us spending thousands on our appearances. One simple thing is our monthly expenditure on tampons and pads. Job-wise, I've never seen a man getting asked in a job interview if he has children, while that has been one of the things I have been asked as a woman, which might affect my chances of getting hired. Also, men are paid more than women. The guy didn't want to accept these of course.
And deal with our monthly cycle and all the myriad of upkeep that is required just to have a uterus. Even if we decide not to have children there is so much time, money, and resources taken up with this maintenance.
Not to mention the oodles of money and time spent to be attractive for them. We'd all look like cave women without workouts, cosmetic procedures, grooming, hair, makeup and wardrobe. Men only shower, shave and gym.
I dated a guy who actually got upset when I felt he should open the door for me. He got super angry and said.. why should I have to open the door.... loser
It’s so nice seeing those kinds of things right away in your first few dates. You didn’t spend your precious time with him after that anymore because you immediately spotted a loser and stopped talking with him. Good for you sis 🥰
They have this stupid mentality that politeness and gentleness are negotiable and the only way to get a special treatment it would be if we quit our hopes to get more freedom and rights if we just stay quiet and obbey. Basically loser men think we can't have it "all"
This is what I don't get ladies. While I have no problem opening doors and pulling out chairs for you. That's only because I think it's the right thing to do. Now if I don't wanna do something, I'm not gonna do it just because I know that's what you want. In my opinion, if a man really wants to open doors for you, he will do it for the rest of his life. Not just because you guys are on a date and he wants to make a good impression. So my question is: wouldn't you want a man to be a gentleman because that's who he is and not because he wants to get into you pants? And how are you gonna tell those two apart?
Another sign that a man is a loser, to add onto that first point, is if he asks, "Well, what do you bring to the table?" Or the nastier version, "What do you bring to the table other than ______ (ladies, you know what that empty space means)?" The men who ask this question know they cannot provide for you and they need to guilt trip you into getting into a 50/50 relationship with him. Recognize game, ladies!!! A friend of mine got asked this and she answered, "Another man because you aren't man enough for me," and walked away!
I was engaged to my ex of 6 years. Your videos really helped me realize I had a deep longing for a life that he would never be able to give or share with me. He did not have the same desire. Although it was very difficult and it is still a hard choice I live with every day, I am in the best shape I have ever been mentally, psychically, and financially! Thank you, Anna for helping so many women realize their worth and potential.
Everyone’s mother come from different background, thus they teach their daughters differently. Mayb some mothers teach and only know half of the teachings that Anna teaches, or all, or very little.
She teaches unrealistic expectations in a relationship all she is doing is setting you up to be disappointed. It's not the guys fault that it's not how she said it would be it's your fault for believing in these false videos
@California railfan- she is setting up a community of women to avoid time wasters of little boys that have grown to epidemic proportions with each generations. Strong women with a healthy sense of self preservation is a benefit to self and society at large. Detractors are either here to spy or to work through their issues. I wish you the best.
If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support if you're struggling. Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
@@earlaweese I think when someone is trying to speak to everyone, they're speaking to no one. Anna clearly knows that. However, there are great channels here on YT that specifically cater lgbtq community
My mom always told me that when looking for a guy it’s extremely important to notice what his family is like, so that you can understand if your relationship will work in the long run. Because he may not have the same goals, and values as you. Also if you have children you want to be able to trust and depend on your in laws, like if you need to drop off your kids at your in laws house you want them to be in a safe and wholesome environment.
Also, his family will tell you a lot about how he was raised and what you can generally expect from him in the long run. Anybody can put on a front of being marriage material, but a man's family is usually a reliable indication of how he will behave through life's ups and downs.
As much as I understand this point, I have to say from my personal experience that my guy was in a very troubled, alcoholic family with a lot of narcissism and that's on both sides. He, however, is sober, incredibly empathetic and is building a meaningful life and desires to be a provider, a role that exists nowhere in his family or upbringing. I think it's important to realize that some men saw their upbringing and decided to never be anything like that.
@prepi No, that’s rare, not common. They’ll put up a false front for a while, but revert to their family programming later in life when they get stressed. Negative childhood role models are powerful.
I was dating a man, who asked me to go work two extra jobs more so I could help him buy his first Porsche car... if I paid 100% for everything he was happy, if I said I didn’t had money to pay for the dinner he got aggressive. I run away two days ago, omg!
My story: the stingy guy. First year of university, I was a broke student with only €30 in my pockets during holidays. He lived in another city, had a job in IT and a paycheck that is considered high for our country's standards. We wanted to see each other and celebrate New Year's Eve together but he said that he'd calculated the expenses and €100 was too expensive for 2-3 days. He even said that he'd go with bus because it would be cheaper than taking his car but he didn't want to sit there longer than 3 hours which was the duration of the trip. One of his brilliant ideas was also that we should spend the first night roaming around my hometown until morning so he pays only one instead of two nights in the hostel. He suggested that I should come to his hometown. Mind you, he lives with his parents, doesn't pay for food or rent and has his own car. My ticket for bus was around €20 (suddenly the length of the trip wasn't a problem) but there wasn't a direct line to his hometown that was available. As a second option, I was supposed to get out in the nearby city 45min away from him and then search for a local bus to get to there (because he was too lazy to pick me up with his car). As a "bonus" he offered to pay for HALF of my bus ticket and that I'll be sleeping with him in his bed, meaning that he didn't have a room for guests. To me, it was inappropriate, especially because his parents were supposed to be there too. Needless to say, it didn't work out.
He wasn't lazy to pick you up with his car. He didn't want to pay for the gas and wear and tear on his car. You made the right move to not be with a stingy guy. There is a difference between a stingy guy and a guy with limited funds.
He was using you until he could afford better. The fact he earns enough but still lives at home shows that he is probably saving for a home or something. Most likely for the future woman that he TRULY wants to be with when he becomes established. Many do this. They will pass their time with a girl that has zero standards (because they need to get laid) but will leave her once they find a girl who is a bit more harder to get. That is why you must not be afraid of having standards. You will only know if they truly want you when they invest more.
Dude here. I am getting turned down for not taking women out to expensive restaurants in NYC the first time we meet. Like $150+ for dinner for two. Am I doing something wrong?
When I found your channel last year, your dating advice made me realize I needed to change the way my relationship was going. I ended up just changing the man lol
I wish I was able to watch this video like 10 years ago. I would have been able to save so much of the drama and emotional issues... But never too late to grow. Thank you for the video Anna.
It's going to be extremely difficult to leave him if you're quite an anxious person. Saying this from my own experience.. I'd feed myself with thoughts like: no relationship is perfect, if I leave him I'll never be able to find someone else, ending this relationship would mean I've failed and so much more. If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support. Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
Oh, how I needed this advice in my early 20’s. I had to learn all of these lessons through trial and error - it was painful 😖 It really is difficult to say goodbye to a man you ‘like’ even if all the bad behaviour warning signs are there. But the most important lesson I ever learned was how to handle short-term pain for long-term gain. Keep searching until you find a man worthy of you! xx
A Mama's boy that still gets meals brought over by his mother. Also a passive guy that manipulates you into taking the active/ masculine role.3rd a passive agressive guy...
I think we all women need to feel protected when we are in a relationship. Once I was dating some guy and were walking on the street one night and some drank men was walking towards us, and soon he was close, my ex literally step like 2 meters away from me, took his phone out his pocket, and start scrolling, while this men was rude to me and sad same stupid comments like what a hot chick 🙄🙄 My ex didn't do a thing. Off course I broke up soon after that. No women should be with someone who is not man enough to be there for her and protect her when threat is near 🙅♀️
I'm so sorry girl. up. That sucks. I was in a similarly situation. A guy started saying innappropriate things to me while the guy I was on the date with did nothing. At the very least switch sides with me(which he should already be walking on the outside of the sidewalk in the first place) to take me out of harms way. I did tell him later that it really bothered me. He was oblivious and sadly proved he didn't know how or care to learn how to truly treat a woman. Glad we know the signs and can share them with each other. The more we take a stand the more men will want to step up. Hope you find a truly manly, protective gentlemen.
I said men are meant to be protectors, but my female friend got offended. What did I say wrong? As a man, I am confused because not all women are the same.
when I become the top student in my class, my boyfriend tears up my GPA paper and said it's nonsense, since he failed himself. it was strange bc he asked for help and I accepted but then again it was hard for him I guess. if they can see your success they will hurt you. I broke up on my birthday and gifted myself.
I noticed the more time I spent focusing on self improvement, the less time I had for losers. When I met my husband I had just bought my first home and received several promotions at work. I wasn't focused on a man rescuing me out of a situation. If you've ever seen the Soup Nazi episode of Seinfeld...my husband was like Newman in the soup line when we were dating. He did everything perfectly. He sent flowers for every occasion, he showed up perfectly dressed, he took me on very expensive, well thought out dates. He never argued with me about anything. In short, I never had to question his intentions or my importance to him.
Thank you for this lovely video, I feel like chivalry is slowly going away from our society. I am talking to a guy that my loved ones have introduced me to through a website (Indian Arranged marriage situation). This guy on the topic of finances wants me to share the load of household responsibilities and would expect me to do so right after marriage. He even asked the frequency of my visits to my family home after marriage and upon answering the same I said I will pay for my own ticket. The moment he kept mum and didn’t say that “not a problem I can pay for your tickets too” was the sign for me to say no to him. This is just one such example. Thank you for sharing such useful content ❤🎉that may educate innocent girls/women.
ugh - a guy I dated wanted always to go on trips with his wealthy friends, but he wanted me to pay half, AND he would be really grouchy and jerky, then say, "oh, I'll be nice when we're on this trip." Only he would always be even shittier on the trip. Dropped him. He was astonished.
Absolutely excellent advice -- where else can women hear these things? My recommendation is to look for a man who has a kind heart. His salary does not matter, actually. His intentions matter. A good man will want to treat his (future) wife well and give everything that he can give her, "for richer or for poorer." And I want to say that you can find a good man when you are young -- look around at your classmates and you will see that there are some nice guys who are not flashy, flexing types, but are dependable and kind, the kind of guy who you think is just "nice" and "a good friend." Don't overlook this type. He might be the one for you. I chose the shy guy and as he matured and felt heard, he became successful and not so shy after all.
true.. my father is like this.. he is considerably wealthy but he is so cheap towards his family (my mom, me, and brother). thank God finally we managed to move out and settle in on different city with my father still paying for my tuition but still, he doesnt even give us (me n my brother. i dont know if i should include mother or not) enough money to live normally as a person should be. people know me as his daughter who go to a very good college but they dont know that his family live in a very cheap rundown house here with dangerous enviromental never settle for this kind of man
If a man asked me to split the bill, I would say “oh no, please allow me’” I would flex by picking up the bill and walk away like a boss! He would never hear from me again! 😜
With that entitled attitude, its not wonder that tons of guys are opting out of dating all together (see stats presented by Prof. Scott Galloway, e.g.). The result of all this, in the very end, will simply be that you ladies may find the guy you want, but you'll have to share him with like 10 other ladies, and he'll never be exclusive to you because he doesn't have to. I'm sure that's a super attractive outcome for ya'll - point being that with this attitude, you'll just create an ever increasing amount of competition among yourselves while simultaneously enabling the few guys you deem valuable to behave badly because of the amount of options they get. Time to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Peace!
A loser is also a man who simply can not lead and take his role as the man. I've had so much experience with those guys that can't stand up and defend you, and is lacking a basic level of courage. Trust me there's nothing worse than being in a foreign place, going into a restaurant/shop and your man not going ahead to speak for both of you.
There are so many things that are worse in this world, including a man who speaks for a woman who is perfectly capable and prefers to speak for herself.
@@dsquared1950 that's also true, I guess the extremes are equally horrible. Just shared my thought as for myself, I haven't had experience with bossy men, I seem to always get the "slipper" type of guy who is very generous, but when you'd need him to be a MAN he is just stressed and technically you have to be the man instead of the man.
Whenever men complain about you wanting a nice lifestyle ‘because of him’: we don’thave the same career oportunities as men have (I mean, theoretically we have them, but in reality: we are on a biological clock that men aren’t), so we are most likely to also want kids and we have a limited amount of time for that, we have to take care of the baby once he’s born for the most part, we have to keep ouerselves attratcive so that 1.we still feel beautiful and confident 2.he dosen’t loose the attraction/interest for us. With that being said: this is why we are less likely to have the same opportunity in career as men. There are some employers that don’t want to hire women who have or want kids because they know once they have kids they need to stay at home for a while and in the meantime they can’t replace that woman with another employee cause it’s illegal (at least in my country)and they know it’s going to be bad for the business etc. And if you do want to have kids and also to be exellent in your career, yes, it is possible but it’s very hard.
Another type of loser is the one that insults you or isn’t considerate to you even when having a fight. Politeness is a gesture of love and a sign or minimal human decency
It depends. Everyone has an argument style just as they have a communication style and a love language. When I argue, I go for the throat and jugular vein. I aim to win (and I almost always do BC my memory is edetic), but also make the person feel stupid for daring to question me in a certain way. Point out where I'm wrong, show me how I'm wrong, absolutely do it. Leave no rooms for doubt. Because when I reciprocate, the last thing that I'll be is polite.
I agree very much!
It shows so much about a man who is capable to maintain politeness and decency during an argument! Xx
That's not just being a loser, that's actually being abusive.
@@sersastark I think I’m talking about people who use insults or demeaning words instead of attempting to communicate and reach an agreement during a fight. Of course, conflict is normal or necessary but aggression and being horrible is generally not obligatory.
@@sersastark I guess she's talking about someone agressive/mean which is DANGEROUS, imagine this person in a heated situation, they may harm you or hurt you really bad
Me; Not in a relationship.
Also me; Furiously taking notes for future relationship.
Same as you 💕💕
Me 3
Same.
Totally me😅👍🏽
Same x
Believe me, when you leave a type of man Anna is talking about you immediately feel better:) (personal experience)
It's a life-changing experience when you realize there ARE decent men out there who will treat you like a queen! (Harder to find, but they exist!)
Absolutely. But for some it's very difficult to break that bond.
It can be really challenging if you're quite an anxious person. Saying this from my own experience..
I'd feed myself with thoughts like: no relationship is perfect, if I leave him I'll never be able to find someone else, ending this relationship would mean I've failed and so much more.
If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support. Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
@@IevaKambarovaite You are right! For me it was not that difficult, however it took me some time to actually find the courage to leave this person even thought i knew I deserve better.
Same here!
@@flyfly5172 did you get out of a relationship as well?
Another example: hot and cold, being inconsistent, playing mind games, make you feel less than, embarrassing you, making you look silly, getting revenge on you when stating firm boundaries, making you jealous on purpose to make you look fool and hurt.
Absolutely.
You talking about yourself right?
These are the behaviors of narcissists.
Well arent these women low value then by that definition?
i wasted Year on a Boob. Dumb!
My mom mom always says "What you see is what you get." You want a partner that you can grow and evolve with, not a project that you have to put all your energy into.
True, there're other ways to complete one's life.
For growing and evolving you gotta put lots of energy and, I prefer "price is what you pay, value is what you get" meaning that I don't give a damn about what you all think a guys is based on what you and everybody can see with their eyes, cause frankly I doubt a guy showing off his wrangler could be richer that the one that doesn't have a car (that's why some people have it $ and others have bad debt for example). I know that perception is important for most people, but you'll be just speculating if you base your decisions in what you see and, you'll buy overpriced, meaning that it could cost you more at the end to be with that guy. I don't know why women can't even have faith to invest less in an average guy with a good grow potential, I know you don't see what I mean cause you'll have to think about something different.
Wow thanks i need it
very true no Lowell's or Home Depots projects
I needed to read this, thank you❤️
My favorite one, "you're dating a looser if he starts manipulating you". He could be a perfect gentleman do everything else right and once he has you right where he wants you,slowly starts manipulating you.
So glad you mentioned it!
This is so true!!!!
Manipulating and being Narcisistic.. Stay away from them 🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
How can you tell if he's manipulating you in the beginning? What are the red flags?
@@sash8099 it will all seem too good to be true, that's usually number one red flag.
@@ilianacolston8070 ahh why is it so hard?
Disclaimer: Anna’s not telling you to leave your man… she’s just letting you know he’s a loser 🤣🤣🤣. What you do with that info is your business
Lmfaaooo!!
😂 perfect
Ikr? 😂😂😂
Bam 😂
Right! But you best leave for your health.
1-want to split the bill
2- doesnt want commitment
3-ghosts you /doesnt make effort
4-lacks depth
5- lacks gentleman skills
6-manipulates you /aggressive
7-party boy everything weekend
1-we are equal
2-he is not ur dad or sponsor
3-u depreciate much faster
4-smart men can read u fast
5-ur the loser
So basically if a man doesn’t want you then he’s a low value man?? 😹😹😹😹😹 delusional
LOL. I agree with 1. I would never split the bill. She ALWAYS pays.
@@ConstantChinner xDdd
1 - men should always pay and the rest are red flags
A man who doesn't read or care about learning and improving, lacks insight about himself and lacks drive to become a better human being. He will not evolve with his partner and will block her evolution. A big goodbye in my books.
Very true 👏🏻
This is so...powerful and true. Omg! Thank you.
How many cats are you singletons looking forward to having? 🤡🤡🤡
@TYC TV Er, because it is.
@TYC TV Wife, 4 kids, own business. Nope. Enjoy your kittens.
I don't know ladies, but It annoys me when a man tries to make you feel silly for not knowing something or makes fun of it and more in public!!! So disrespectful
I know, right? The right thing to do would be to stay polite and not embarrass you in front of the group!
No Se, in these cases, a great approach with your head held high is to say: “if you know more than me, then give me something, teach me!”. Everytime I used this, the guy shrunk into himself, gave me respect & never tried it again.
@@sk.n.9302 I apply this too
"If I don't know someone, don't belittle me; Teach me"
@@adflix424 Rishita, well said!
"OMG you didn't know that??How could you not know that??!" like wow okay, no need to be condescending there buddy
After binge watching your videos, I realized I don't like or feel good in most of my clothes and really want to update my wardrobe. I told my husband about this and that I want us to allocate money for me to get new clothes next time we do the budget. My husband is a frugal man, yet without hesitation he said "Get whatever you want baby, you work hard and deserve to get new clothes that you feel good in!"
He has treated me like a queen from the beginning of our relationship, no matter what financial situation we are in 💖 Listen to Anna, do not settle!
I'm so happy for you! Truly! It gives me butterflies when I hear stories of good men!
wow!
😍😍😍😍
I'm so happy for you😊😍
Wait what I am confused ??? You said do not settle? Did you settle for him? If a better man comes along are you going to leave him?
I can tell you as a man that I completely agree with most everything on this list except #1. When I was young and dumb I used to spend big money on first dates to try to impress women who just ghosted me. Never again! No more Mr. Nice Guy. Now I still pay for dates, just not for lobster for all of her girlfriends. First date is always coffee or drinks. I'd rather save my money and spend it on my special lady when she comes around. So no, men who are cautious with their money at first are not losers. We are just smart with money and women. But I'm old fashioned in that whoever asks for the date should pay.
I can verify from costly experience that women who demand you take them on expensive dates is a major red flag.
Believe me, if two people like each other they want to spend time together even if it's just walking in the park. Young guys out of college just don't have much money, even though they are great guys.
THAT'S A DISASTER, I HOPE YOU WILL KEEP YOUR SPECIAL WOMEN LIKE A QUEEN
Which part is a disaster?
@@StuJones-gn7te the ghosting
Women ghosting men is normal behavior. Men ghosting women annoys women. Women always hate it when men treat them the way women treat men.
@@patriot925 I like how you see it. 👍🏻☺️
On point 6: don’t let low quality men/people trick you into thinking you’re being ‘needy’ when all you’re doing is communicating your needs. Find someone who sees your worth and is willing to grow with you.
🙌🙌
yess
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You arent a virgin with a cookbook, hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
You sound like 50 cents son who just came out saying the 6700 dollars a month his dad used to give him was not enough. YOU DUMB girl
Or buy some cats
Loser: a guy that is always blaming others. Never is his fault. And if it was his fault: he was a victim, you or other is the reason he did wrong:s. Oh, thats a narcisist.
Nailed it...monsters. RUN 🏃♂️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♀️
Experienced such an idiot ... Dumped him
He-he, someone here lacks economics education and logic.
my step father and brother and they get mad when they're called out but I blame my mom for choosing to stay such piece of crap. She has no self respect, no dignity. She has even caught him cheating on her. I don't understand some women.
The major problem is most of us became from a dad like that, so we learnt that is normal & it could be even worst. By the time we discovered the reality it’s too late, plus if we live in a so so male culture as mine, believe me Mexico is a completely absolute all Inferno (Hell) about it.
"Life is too short to waste time with the wrong person." Best advice to young people ever.
Weak people need attention
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You arent a virgin with a cookbook, hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
Man that is some wholesome advice
Yea go ahead dump that one guy who love you so much but cant afford gucci and lui, and go with the rich guy who can depreciate after some time and get a new woman cause he rich and he CAN. Dumb ass people over here yo
And vague too.
Sign #3....YES!!!! I had a friend in college a few years older than me. She told me that when dating, "it just shouldn't be that hard." If you have to hunt him down, harrass him or beg for his attention, just do yourself a favor, and dont even bother!!!!
Yeah, why bother putting any effort into a relationship or doing things worthy of praise and attention when you can just dress up like a cat and play video games on twitch while you get showered in male attention for doing basically nothing?
Which is exactly what I did.
That’s funny because my brothers gf said that exact thing to me.
He should be pursuing you, and you should NOT be playing hard to get - underdeveloped, immature women play games. Emotionally mature women reciprocate the mans pursuit.
Modern women are not worth pursuing.
"I would rather be single than be with a man who is really not at the level that I think I deserve to be treated." Everyone should have this mindset. It's ALWAYS better to be single than to be with a low quality partner who doesn't treat you right. Besides, you can use that time being single for all sorts of self-improvement.
Edit for clarifications:
When I say "low quality partner who doesn't treat you right" I mean someone who treats you in a way that is demeaning, belittling, disrespectful, etc. This has nothing to do with monetary value. No one deserves this kind of treatment.
Secondly, I don't mean this in a heteronormative way. Regardless of who you are and who you date, it's better to be single (even if it means for your entire life) than to be mentally, emotionally or physically abused by your partner.
I kinda agree for person must self improve and feel life satisfaction no matter which path person takes but u if u ever want to enter to relationship have realistic view of relationships
this is why I'm single.
Problem is there are women who don’t realize where they are on the dating totem pole and live in the clouds.
@@alyxfaust5663 Exactly. You have average women competing with above average women, for above average men. The men in the top 20% are going to choose the women who are the youngest, and most beautiful. These average women don't understand that just because an above average man will sleep with them, is absolutely zero indication that he even likes her. But, you just have to let them figure that out the hard way.
@@jaythenihilist4689 I won’t cave to these delusional, emotionally driven sycophants, and they know this. They want a masculine man, but can’t handle masculine aggression when confronted with it.
My mom always said ‘better to be alone than to wish that you were’ Soooo true
is it true with men , or is it only true with women ?
Words of wisdom for sure!
This is how I think daily! It's been 10yrs and I'm over it!
@@daodung9609 is it true for human beings. All of them. In all kinds of relationship.
@@Maelani_mymelode same, cant wait to get away and start my life over !
I was in a relationship with a man that was so 50/50 that he wanted me to carry the lugage because ”he carried it last time” :))
Yes, I dumped him short after!
About to follow your steps girls🤣
Ohmg
Whaaaaatttt? LOSER!!
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Let me Guess, is he Swedish??
I just broke up with someone because he would always walk so far ahead of me, leave me in the dust. He was so superficial and only liked going out to eat, shopping, playing video games. We weren’t talking, he is completely shut off and if I mentioned how I felt, he would roll his eyes and make me feel guilty for having thoughts and feelings. Calling me crazy. He spent money on me, that’s all I got from him. No thanks
I think we dated the same man lol
Most men love constructive criticism.... ways of improving himself. So the quiet boring fella you know can become the playful athletic traveling adventurer of your daydreams. If the man is not willing to improve himself after you've provided written wisdom then you know he won't change. Written guidance is much more helpful than a conversation because it will be a constant reminder until he's achieved those goals you've provided. The written details also shows these items have high value... in fact you can even rate the level of importance for each of them.
Was he quickly in a new relationship, by any chance? Manipulative persons (men and women alike) end relationships, by becoming completely unavailable, so that they don't have to end the relationship themselves. Gives them the internal excuse to jump ship immediately, with their moral facade intact.
Thank you for mentioning WRITTEN reminders
Ive been doing that and he has Improved slot
He actually keeps saying to me how he enjoys reading my notes every now and then
He keeps It well hidden from others
I think Im his therapist somehow
High Value Men Dont Play Video Games
Not considers the woman's point of view and does not respect her choices and does not listen to her if she says no. Does not have the guts to stand up to her.
Yess!!!
I saw a video yesterday of a woman who went to a mans place, told him "no sex" then she stayed all night and he didn't try anything. Ie, he accepted her "no."
Her response: is he gay????
A uncultured man makes comments on women who pass him by while you’re with him. This is so unnerving to me, and very disrespectful to the woman
Absolutely. I used to go out of my way to dress up and be pretty for my ex, and he would make a point of complimenting other women when we went out. I decided to let him go chase those women, then XD;;
It is narcissistic to make such comments about others who are walking by. I was in a relationship with a Leo woman once who would do that and yes she was a narcissist. It is also a low value trait for a man to do that.
If a man doesn’t value the person he is in the company of ,he doesn’t deserve company at all, let him rot in his own putrefaction
It is SOOOO rude.
it screams loser to me
My man is not a millionaire yet, but after this video he is looking like the dream guy right now... haha My own family always says how spoilt he made me, and his answer is always around "No, she is finally having what she deserves". I come from a lower income and last year I got sick and he took on himself to pay for everything so I can be home and not worry. Feeling so lucky! Now him and his family has been talking about marriage, and of course it will be yes!!!
This is so beautiful, i’m so happy for you
you are so lucky :) yeah there are still good men even though its rare
Yes he is a very high value man! It is not all about the money. He is willing to do the extra step
Girrrrrrl I wish you all the best! GOD BLESS YOU!
As he should! He values the lady in his life. Wishing you all every happiness 💕
Number 4, 6, and 7 is literally hitting it on the nail. When you see them being aggressive and lashing out because they are not intelligent enough to convey their feelings, don’t walk RUN! RUN! And when a man does not know how to sit down, that is HUGE no no.
Feelings and intelligence don't go together. Just ask any Women. The sky is blue today. "I feel like it's green" "I feel like..."
@@r3games1985 Yeah. Not much going on when the best they can say is that. 😂😂😂
@@abbyxiong3931 way to prove his point lol
Who doesn’t know how to sit down?😳
He is emotionally unavailable.
Now I’m feeling a bit better about my recent breakup.
💪🏼
It's just the beginning, El... Prepare yourself for more nice feelings in the days to come!
Same 😄😄 you go girl!!!
Saaaameee
me too!! it’s hard at first but the more time that goes by, the more that i’m SO thankful he’s gone!
There is one thing that bothers me to a point of never dating the man a second time, if he is a cheap tipper. If he leaves poor gratuity on the ticket, it’s just a matter of time before he devalues me.
I had a date give a homeless man money on the street. Then turned to me with a smile and said “I never give them money. I’m trying to impress you.” I would have been more impressed if he had kept him mouth shut and didn’t fish for a compliment of sorts. I was still taking notes on his actions and words matching. I did not accept another date as the whole situation gl felt too awkward.
YESSSSSS!
Good point! 👏🏻
@@roselarouge9107 I guess he was testing you for your reactions to his unpleasant (and maybe also self-mocking) sincerity, no?
@@erzsebetkovacs2527 I said nothing nor reacted. I just wasn’t interested anymore.
Let me add my favorite one: if he doesn’t have a long term plan, career wise and family wise. I hate the “we’ll see where life takes me” mentality 😩 Of course you can’t plan everything but you should have some guidelines or goals! Otherwise life will take you nowhere!!
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Absolutely true 😞
Girl! Yes! The worst! lol
Yep being hearing this answers on a lot of dates iv been on past month and nicely told them thanks for the date but all the best. I mean go with the wind /flow yuck
@@707tich well done😂 it’s for the best
I'm having some problems with my husband. He won't give compliments. I purchased a new sun dress and he said I looked bad. Mind you, I had a baby 10 months ago I did lose most of the baby weight. What a way to shatter a woman's confidence in herself after giving birth.
Start a separate savings account, just for you. Say nothing. Any password you make, starting today, make sure it's private.
Raise that baby well til you have a window of opportunity to leave. You will do better alone even if it seems scary. Life is happier on the other side with your babies and no man to exhaust you
- a woman who knows
You’re the reason why I changed a lot, and I love the person I become for the last 2 years. People always give me compliments on my vocabulary, culture and manners, my work outfits, the whole image and my mental state of mind. I started reading more books for feminity, cut off all toxic friendships, working out (kick boxing), better clothes in my wardrobe… now, in this position, I’d date myself for the person I become. I’m like a magnet for gentlemen. Love it. Manifesting everything that I deserve. Life is more beautiful, I’m grateful for everything🥰❤️✨
Great job!
Maja... I guess you attract the kind of person you now represent. I'm so glad to have read your comment. I better work on getting out of my slump. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Please give me tips on how to build my vocabulary
Please recommend the book you are reading
@@unolowmanta7508 Turn off the TV and read, read, read! When you come across a word you don't know, look it up. Read the classics, modern novels, non- fiction, memoir and the news.
Me feeling embarrassed to have cried for these kinds of men in the past.
Don’t cry, be glad you learned it at some point.
I wishbI could give you a hug... Because- the same...
Girls at least you didn't end marrying one of them and have kids with him.. Its OK you are still young and there are so many good men out there but do not repeat your mistakes and always think of yourself as worth to have a good man..
No need to feel embarrassed sis, most of us have cried over someone who was not worthy of our tears. The important thing is to learn to love yourself more and move on. There are good guys out there.
Made life hell for ourselves because of these men that weren't even worth it , i'm MAD at myself for wasting my time on them
I broke up with my boyfriend this month. He was the quintessential ‘nice guy’. We did the 50/50 for FIVE years, yes I wasted 5 years with this man. He had no plans, never wanted to talk about our future and was selfish in bed. I feel like the world’s been lifted from my shoulders. Leave before it’s too late ladies.
Just to make you feel better - wasted 9 years in the exact same scenario. We WILL get better from here. 💕💕
Me too, 5 years wasted. Now my chances to meet a normal guy are almost zero, because im too old for men.
@@thevcountdown9824 That is not true. We're never "too old" for men. I'm nearing my 60s and dating EXCELLENT gents. It helps if you make yourself a great catch! (Edited to add: "make yourself a great catch AND stop entertaining anyone who's not up to par!")
@@irairod5160 Really? But where, and what age are they?
@@itsBenzie Thank you so much! We will definitely get better and allow better people around us.
My boundaries become activated when my man wants me to do something wrong. I won't compromise on that and now he knows it. He can walk if he wants. Thanks for such an adequate video Anna!
Lady you're in your 50s
@@garden_dork and?
Anna was so passionate in this video, she is really over these ‘losers’, lol
What's wrong with her past? Everyone was immature at some point. It also depends on where you grew up. We all have to develope and learn. Noone is born elegant, some get taught by their parents and sone have to find out themselves.
@@mynew6972 I bet you anything that she probably rejected all of these good guys that she wants which she calls “high value men.” And they aren’t high value they are just nice to them, desperate for love.
@@Doidao-xx5vf huh?
@@estherpovaletti2716 huh?
@@Doidao-xx5vf why would she reject men that she wants? And why would HV guys be desperate? Why wouldn’t the type of guys she is describing be HV?
you are dating a loser when the guy can’t stop criticising his ex girlfriends or the women that he dated. This just says a lot about him that hes disrespectful to women.
If all of his exes are "crazy" or the like, RUN.
Same was with him, he was 10/7 of what Anna described
I watch how he treats/thinks about his mother. And how she treats him. My sister finally divorced a man whose mother would call him once a week and call him names, insult him, etc. he moved 3,000 miles from her but she got more abusive. It should have been a big red flag!
It's just fun that's all. So many classic one liners. I sometimes only go on dates just for the stories after.
Lusers major in how they were victimized, how they got *lawd* ✌Vindicated✌ Also big on perpetually correcting and giving unsolicited advice to women.
I would say we need number 8 here the man who can not do anything without his mother big or small and expects his girfriend/fiancee to love his mother like he does and be her best friend. while I do undarstand the need for mutual respect and cordial relationships I can't undarstand these men's mindset and I thing it's important to point them out
Rose. It's always worse when you see the manipulation by the Mother. A Mama's boy is often not independent...his mother does it all for him. And I wonder is he looking for a wife or mother. Often it's not a healthy relationship.
Another yucky trait. LOVE YOUR PARENTS YES. But answering to them 24/7 no.
Mama's Boys are the walking dead or the pod people. They fool a woman into believing he is a whole man, suitable for marriage, but his mama is living rent free in his head, so he is just a shell. Somebody is gonna accuse me of despising mothers. They're pole vaulting. I despise toxic mothers who insist on clinging to their adult sons, keeping them trapped in emotional incest.
You are a relationship guru. Broke up with that kind of guy just 2 months ago. Never been happier.
Anna: I am not telling you to leave him
All the ladies: Dump the loser…And fast!!! Who needs a time waster right now
@@homodeus8713 😂😂😂😂😂
A Gas Lighter. A guy that can't keep down a job. A guy that never has accountability; it's always everyone else's fault, never his fault.
A narcissist basically. Yep, cut the ties ASAP!
my father was a gaslighter, my Mother finally left him a year ago.
My brother
My ex kept a job and provided but not general is unless he wanted somebtimg and he cheated on me and hide money and gaslighted me! Disrespectful and made the kdis feel scared!
@@jennifernabrahamable what was i about to say!
Another type of losers is those who won’t take responsibility of their own actions. Instead of bettering themselves, they blame their crappy behaviors on others “oh I’m the way I am because of my ex”. “ I’m the way I am because of my mother” etc. No, you are a grown man. If you cannot treat women the right way, it is ALL ON YOU. Stop making excuses.
agreed
Same should go for women
@@bananacabana2817 it does. But this video is talking about men.
@@lwy8887 women dont have responsibility or accountability. YOU CHANGED FIRST, women changed, you aren't traditional. We want an airhostess, not a copilot. Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You aren't a virgin with a cookbook (traditional), hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
I so agree. I have been through this with a man. He absolutely refused accountability and wanted to blame his ex for the situation when I knew he created it.
Idk but it feels like a teenager talking about how things should be done
I see Anna, I click faster than the speed of light!
My dear elegant Speedy Gonzalez
Not faster than me😅😅😅🤣🤣❤ my elegant friend...
Exactly!!!
Me too🥰
4,000 views in the first 17 minutes
My best friend dated a man who was overweight but wealthy, he constantly told her to work out, and monitored her weight and what she ate. Only allowing her to order low calorie options in restaurants. As he stated he preferred slim women. My friend is very slim and healthy. He is a loser because he was harsh with her about her weight but had absolutely no care or regard to how he actually looked or carried himself.. She ended up leaving him 🙌🏽 she is now in a much better relationship. Don't settle ladies..
Oh gosh. This is an absolute horror story.
Glad she made a move and saved herself into a better future. Xx
I’m sorry but if it was me, I’d really respond him horrendously when he even tries to make a comment on my physical look. I’d be like ...” says the man who is overweight himself”
Sounds like my ex... The worst of the case is that he liked them younger. I was gr0omed.
@@irinaermolaeva5520 Overweight men were always the ones that had THE NERVE to call me fat or needing to loose weight. I was never called those names by slim or fit men.
The nerve of him to judge someone else on their looks when he is not Brad Pitt, Jason Momoa, Chris Hemsworth, or Henry Cavill. I’m glad she dumped him.
My advice: listen to your gut/intuition. The warning flags are always there. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt. If something doesn't feel right, cut and run.
This is some of the best advice, truly. My friends think I cut guys loose too quickly, but I know how I’m supposed to be treated. If I feel pressured sexually, if he’s being rude or patronizing, I’m outta there. You’re right. The red flags are always there.
@@LittleMissSunshine721 👏❤️
True
Most women dont see most men. When they finally build up their value, they're gonna play the game. You aren't a virgin with a cookbook (traditional), hence you wont get relationship attraction, just sex attraction
Male here. Disagree w/ your first statement. My girlfriend expected me to pay for everything and I felt unappreciated for it and being taken advantage of. I hated that relationship and glad I got out.
Yeah not everyone can be a elite men like not everyone can be a fine lady.
I mean if I can and want to pay that’s fine but honestly you being taken care of financially you have to earn that and you better be handling everything else around the house cooking cleaning ect. These women think because they have vaginas that they get to be taken care of what you gonna do for me ??? I better not have to lift a finger when I get home and I mean that
But she has to buy expensive designer clothes because you require that to be happy with her, its only fair!
Male here, 1000% agree. I dont mind paying honestly, but someone who feels entitled to my money is a deal breaker.
@@Henry-kz4gn
You literally just assumed that for this guy. I always liked it when my ex girlfriend bought me things and I always enjoyed buying her things. It let me know we cared for each other. I personally didn't really care what she liked to wear.
I avoid being friends with people who have poor behavior to waiters, cleaners etc. I consider them rude.
Exactly! I was looking for this comment - a big turn off for me!
There are some men who are absolutely wonderful to people outside but inside their house they are awful to their family. Hence no one will ever believe how such a nice guy can be abusive.
@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 yes it's hard to see through the facade
A huge red flag
Because they are.
Being unreliable or ghosting someone despite being together is abusive behaviour. Nobody should date someone like that.
Another sign you are dating a loser: When the man is insecure, controlling, very jealous especially when there is no reason to be. Ladies, ditch him!
Those end up being abusers or stalkers. Yes, run!
Just be careful...because these are the guys who can sometimes turn dangerous.
You are too beautiful for him because he is insecure .
Does this apply to the woman? When the woman is the one in the relationship who's insecure, aggressively jealous, possessive, and I would even say manipulative?
What specific behaviours are you eliciting that are creating insecurity and jealousy? Do you check out other men in front of him? Are you secretive, or dishonest? Everyone has insecurities, and often, but not always, a womans unconscious promiscuous behaviour triggers insecurty. In a relationship, if either party experiences these triggers, open communication, space holding, and support are key to work through it together. Not pointing the finger, blaming, or quitting. Everyone has trauma to work through and a womans compassion and empathy are the two most attractive traits for a man healing and developing himself.
I thought she was going to explain red flags in men but instead she went on a 10 min long pro feminist rant....
I’ve been single most of my life and I have no regrets. Men don’t have the drive to be great anymore. I make more money than most of them. It’s sad.
Good job sister!!
You are delusional, you never gonna find a man.
Men dont have drive to be great anymore? Lol😂😂 men still own 85 percent wealth in whole world. We men stay away from delusional women like you that's why you are single. We dont care about your money, bcz we know we have to spend money in relationship, I will marry a poor beautiful, submissive girl in 3rd world , but not a millionaire woman bcz we dont care about your money.
Only foolish men aka. simps are taking modern women seriously
@@Richjunior1 facts.
If he becomes extremely quiet when you're sick or on your period.
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Yes. Definitely will not be there when you needed him the most.
YES👏🏼
What do you mean? 🤔
When I was admitted in hospital for the Coronavirus earlier this year my ex boyfriend at the time was so cold and hostile to me, he showed 0 empathy and 0 effort into sending me Get Well Soon gifts or anything sentimental... wow as I’m typing this I realize that this guy didn’t love me at all
"Eshayah!" 😂I love seeing this fun and playful side of Anna coming out more in the last few videos and I'm here for it!
What does it mean?
She seems like she’s really losing up and having fun as of late.
@@pearlharbor4790 she was just meant to say etc etc etc three times but got tongue twisted and said eshaya .. so it was funny
As an ambitious man I must say that this video provides a useful resource in regards to what women to avoid.
Thanks for sparing us the trouble of going through men like you.
@@Penelope_777 but you're here exactly for men like him.😆
@@chaitanyagupta6668 Then I won't pursue them, it's not like I'm in desperate need. I'm happy where I am and I know when the right time comes I'll meet the one for me.
You don't have to worry so much ☺️.
@@Penelope_777 pursuing isn't a woman's thing. But youd sure as hell wish a masculine rich and attractive man pursues you. Every woman is desperate for that. Don't lie.
Or how to get them to dump you first.
I think there's another sign, if he lets his mom involve in every aspect of his life, including relationships.
momma boy
This!!
Omg, I met a guy who had his mother break up with his girlfriend on his behalf! How insane is that?!
@@Katiemadonna3 I met someone like this as well but it was a girl
My husband had his whole family involved in our relationship and marriage. Princess Diana thought her marriage to Charles was crowded. NEVER get involved with a man who is too enmeshed with his family and won't value you unless he's taken some kind of vote and got everyone else's opinion. You will NEVER win.
Few years ago, young and naive me, was dating guy who worked in oil industry in Qatar, he had loads of money, but I mean LOADS... On one date he apologized for forgetting his wallet, young and naive me though ok, nevermind, I can pay this time... Then other time he called me if I could come to pick him up because his car was at service.. Young and naive me did it.. Then after few months I wanted to go to the trip in Ireland, we were looking hotels and in one moment he asks whether I can afford 5* hotel... I was like 😳.. First though he was kidding.. He wasn't.. Then he started monolog how woman must contribute and that he hates materialistic women.. Young and naive me was still young, but suddenly stopped being naive 😁...
Whew, he really took you for a ride there. Glad you realized in time and moved on 👏🏾
Thanks for the tips lol
@@marcustaylor670 😂😂😂
So did you go to that trip eventually?
@@russtyshacklefordjr.4429 No, we broke up few days after that.
I love this video. Ladies listen to Anna. I am 74 and very happily taken care of by my guy. He provides and is generous and thoughtful! Stand your ground and think about your own needs and making him happy too. There are good men out there … don’t settle… always work on yourself all the time as this will make you feel good about yourself! See you next time! ❤️ Suzy
“If you really loved me, you wouldn’t be sitting there with your feelings hurt, and you would comfort me.” That’s what I was just told two days ago when I was broken up with. My emotions were never important, my sensitivity was seen as a bad thing.
At least I have a heart.
Alternative title: Anna Bey tries to tell you "dumb his ass" in polite way
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I think you meant *dump, with p. And I agree, dump the loser!
@@irairod5160 I think it's "dump the dumb loser" .
Just broke up with my boyfriend and I really needed this video, a life saver!
I was dating a guy from Jamaica, he wanted to disappear for a week, then turn up and continue as if nothing happened. The first time he did it, I was like WTF!!! The second time he did it, I said thank God! When he contacted me again, I just answered his text messages with yes/no answers, he got the message. Two years after we broke up, I started to receive messages from an unknown number, I ignored them until one was personal to me, it was him. He thanked me for all I did for him, for being a good, genuine person, etc. He asked for another chance, I just laughed. In my culture we have a saying ‘don’t eat your own vomit’, meaning once you eaten that, don’t eat it again.
Nubianess. I once briefly dated a guy who disappeared for a week.. early in the relationship, so I haven't met his friends or anything and I frankly didn't know what to think. 1 week later he showed up and he said he went to another city for work. I'm pretty sure my disbelief showed on my face but I let it go. Shortly there after he disappeared completely. 5 years later he called... apparently he's been out of the country (working) and he's back and wanted to know if I wanted to go out with him again. I gotta tell you.. I was shocked. What kind of person does that? And better yet, what kind of person would I be if I said yes. I would really like to meet someone but I am not THAT desperate. I can tell you that I have no idea what he was thinking. Which reminds me that we as women always want answers and closure and so on... but sometimes there is no understanding and we just need to let it go and move on with our lives. We'll meet someone who is like minded. I believe that.
@@suzannas.4965 5 years?! What the---!
I think in those years he failed to meet a partner that's why he contacted you again. I got second hand embarrassement as I read this.
Typical ‘yardy mentality’Jamaican man. My family is Jamaican. They’re not all like this but it’s not uncommon. We joke about it, “ I soon come baby luv, going shop”, then turn up a week later.
@@suzannas.4965 Narcicist doesn’t give closure. When I was young I desperately wanted to have closures but as I grow older I learn that Narcs don’t give closure and I should not waste my emotion and energy over the past. With closure or not just accept what happen and just move on.
Did you find out who he was dating in the course of that one week?
As a man, I agree with most these points lol. Side note: If you want to keep an "elite" man you're going to need to be a feminine, nice, and traditional woman. It goes both ways
I agree, don't expect a 1950s gentleman when you are not a 1950s grace kelly lady
Cuck much?
It's that classic doublestandard modern women have. They want the top value man without being top value themselves. They flock to the high value dudes, giving away virtually free sex then wonder why he won't marry her. He's smart, he's high value, he knows well in advance she's just easy fun but she just won't admit it. Women like this only provide value to high value dudes: easy, nsa fun.
Could you please make the same list for women?
Bars
A low quality man spends three hours on the phone talking about himself and his woes, then finally asks you how you are but excuses himself after two minutes.
Yess!!
So relatable. I am a good listener but also a keen observer. When someone asks me "How have you been?" And I answer e.g. "pretty great, I just graduated" and want to build the conversation up from that but most men would just jump to "oh I graduated in ...." and make it all about themselves. I do not need to talk to much about myself and like to have a conversation with 75% about the other person. But when I tell him something about myself, that is a shot of trust and I feel so ignored and unimportant when he just takes it to say something about himself. Like ... boy, we have been talking about you the whole time....
Very few men are like this. Which is why these types of comments and videos feel like they are from another planet to most men. These guys your dating are dating 10+ women at a time because girls choose sex appeal only - not character. Women have created the modern Haram for the most sexy but least moral men and they complain about it online with little realization of who caused it.
@@matrices3987 You hit the nail on the head.
@@hobbosen-jz4pq Indeed. And those men that all women want, have that personality BECAUSE all women want them. Same goes for women.
Men who use feminism as an excuse to not do something. I had men refusing to buy me food while they were buying food for themselves because "a woman should not just use a man and pay for what she wants herself" , refusing to carry a heavy object for me, because appereantly "I am strong enough to do it myself", throwing a whole tantrum when I do not buy something for a "man", because I actually earn more than him and somehow I owe him for that.
Ladies that is why Ana is teaching us how to find a proper man, because we shouldn't waste our precious time.
My brother wants me to do welders job around the house just because I lift weights in the gym... Like wtf!!!
That is feminism though. Why offer to buy your food when you never offer to buy his. That's why I don't subscribe to feminism in the least.
@@ilovesunsets Welding does require a degree of skill, I can do it but I try to avoid it at all costs as I hate it. Take it as a complement because I wouldn't let just anybody loose welding something of mine. Not sure how lifting weights would help at all. Despite equality I wouldn't be happy letting a typical woman loose on any of my property, cars or motorcycles that needed work doing unless I had previously supervised them and seen what they could do myself. Same goes for any men under the age of 30 as most of them are hopeless at anything requiring any skill.
Feminism is about having equal rights with men but there are people who take feminism out of context. They want to masculinize women and feminize men.
@@princessleia1122 Take that up with the women that started this feminism bullshit.
He asked me: What makes you think that men should be providers? I believe in 50/50.
I told him : When men will be able to be pregnant, carry the baby for 9 months, go through the pains of labor, have issues after labor, take care of children, take them to school, cook at home and go to work at the same time, then I believe we can go 50/50.😂😎
Edit: I also told him that we need to spend so much money on our self care and that a normal eye cream is above 100 euros. And that men don't see behind the scene of us spending thousands on our appearances. One simple thing is our monthly expenditure on tampons and pads. Job-wise, I've never seen a man getting asked in a job interview if he has children, while that has been one of the things I have been asked as a woman, which might affect my chances of getting hired. Also, men are paid more than women. The guy didn't want to accept these of course.
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When they ask “why” that’s when you know you should move on. High value men would already know why.
And deal with our monthly cycle and all the myriad of upkeep that is required just to have a uterus. Even if we decide not to have children there is so much time, money, and resources taken up with this maintenance.
Not to mention the oodles of money and time spent to be attractive for them. We'd all look like cave women without workouts, cosmetic procedures, grooming, hair, makeup and wardrobe. Men only shower, shave and gym.
Also women sacrifice their careers. This is why men are more likely to paid better and have higher positions.
This passion is what I need right now. Love the aggressive Anna
I dated a guy who actually got upset when I felt he should open the door for me. He got super angry and said.. why should I have to open the door.... loser
Tell him didn't your grandpa teach you how to be a gentlemen?
It’s so nice seeing those kinds of things right away in your first few dates. You didn’t spend your precious time with him after that anymore because you immediately spotted a loser and stopped talking with him. Good for you sis 🥰
GET RID OF HIM!!
They have this stupid mentality that politeness and gentleness are negotiable and the only way to get a special treatment it would be if we quit our hopes to get more freedom and rights if we just stay quiet and obbey. Basically loser men think we can't have it "all"
This is what I don't get ladies. While I have no problem opening doors and pulling out chairs for you. That's only because I think it's the right thing to do. Now if I don't wanna do something, I'm not gonna do it just because I know that's what you want. In my opinion, if a man really wants to open doors for you, he will do it for the rest of his life. Not just because you guys are on a date and he wants to make a good impression. So my question is: wouldn't you want a man to be a gentleman because that's who he is and not because he wants to get into you pants? And how are you gonna tell those two apart?
Another sign that a man is a loser, to add onto that first point, is if he asks, "Well, what do you bring to the table?" Or the nastier version, "What do you bring to the table other than ______ (ladies, you know what that empty space means)?"
The men who ask this question know they cannot provide for you and they need to guilt trip you into getting into a 50/50 relationship with him.
Recognize game, ladies!!!
A friend of mine got asked this and she answered, "Another man because you aren't man enough for me," and walked away!
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@@seabreeze4559 what are PUA forums?
@@pinamawya1967 Pick up Artists
@@seabreeze4559 Nasty
Any self-respecting person is going to ask that. You ask that, so why can’t he? What do you offer if you treat relationships like transactions?
Anna is out here saving us all, what a queen❣️
Oh, I love your comment !!!
Shame she will fail. At least she will get plenty of views and make money off of RUclips.
@@marcustaylor670 balbalabalabal
Out here manipulating gullible sheep
ANNA is out there to keep you single in your 40s and you will end up raising dogs and cats...lmao...bad advice!
I’m a guy and I randomly came across you video. This is good advice, and many of these go the other way as well.
Simp
@@Michael-hz2dx you miss the part where I said it works both ways
@@Amir-mq4jy sorry 👍🏻
I was engaged to my ex of 6 years. Your videos really helped me realize I had a deep longing for a life that he would never be able to give or share with me. He did not have the same desire. Although it was very difficult and it is still a hard choice I live with every day, I am in the best shape I have ever been mentally, psychically, and financially! Thank you, Anna for helping so many women realize their worth and potential.
Would you like to share a bit more of your story?
You are a gift to women. Most of us did not learn this from our mothers.
Everyone’s mother come from different background, thus they teach their daughters differently. Mayb some mothers teach and only know half of the teachings that Anna teaches, or all, or very little.
She teaches unrealistic expectations in a relationship all she is doing is setting you up to be disappointed. It's not the guys fault that it's not how she said it would be it's your fault for believing in these false videos
Most mothers do NOT have Anna's high intellect to put this advice together!
@California railfan- she is setting up a community of women to avoid time wasters of little boys that have grown to epidemic proportions with each generations. Strong women with a healthy sense of self preservation is a benefit to self and society at large. Detractors are either here to spy or to work through their issues. I wish you the best.
Indeed. Our mothers knew no better. But we can change the history of our lives.
For those who want to hear it:
Ladies, you have the courage to leave that AVERAGE JOE behind. You are strong and you can do this. 🙂
If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support if you're struggling.
Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
Yes, you're better than him!
*Why are you assuming that all women are heterosexual? Also, what’s the female equivalent to an Average Joe- Average Kendra?*
@@earlaweese I think when someone is trying to speak to everyone, they're speaking to no one. Anna clearly knows that.
However, there are great channels here on YT that specifically cater lgbtq community
@@earlaweese Plain Jane
Men are busy pursuing their goals lady. Stop asking him to climb mountains to meet you. You're not his goal you should be his partner in life.
My mom always told me that when looking for a guy it’s extremely important to notice what his family is like, so that you can understand if your relationship will work in the long run. Because he may not have the same goals, and values as you. Also if you have children you want to be able to trust and depend on your in laws, like if you need to drop off your kids at your in laws house you want them to be in a safe and wholesome environment.
Also, his family will tell you a lot about how he was raised and what you can generally expect from him in the long run. Anybody can put on a front of being marriage material, but a man's family is usually a reliable indication of how he will behave through life's ups and downs.
agree upbringing is sooooo important but so is willingness & commitment to grow and be a decent, great man.
Guess orphans are fucked
As much as I understand this point, I have to say from my personal experience that my guy was in a very troubled, alcoholic family with a lot of narcissism and that's on both sides. He, however, is sober, incredibly empathetic and is building a meaningful life and desires to be a provider, a role that exists nowhere in his family or upbringing. I think it's important to realize that some men saw their upbringing and decided to never be anything like that.
@prepi No, that’s rare, not common. They’ll put up a false front for a while, but revert to their family programming later in life when they get stressed. Negative childhood role models are powerful.
I was dating a man, who asked me to go work two extra jobs more so I could help him buy his first Porsche car... if I paid 100% for everything he was happy, if I said I didn’t had money to pay for the dinner he got aggressive. I run away two days ago, omg!
Eww
never go back dear so happy to hear you’re out
That guy used you just like this channel wants women to do to guys
How long were you two together?
@@southernrailwayfan1338 Troll 😈
My story: the stingy guy.
First year of university, I was a broke student with only €30 in my pockets during holidays. He lived in another city, had a job in IT and a paycheck that is considered high for our country's standards.
We wanted to see each other and celebrate New Year's Eve together but he said that he'd calculated the expenses and €100 was too expensive for 2-3 days.
He even said that he'd go with bus because it would be cheaper than taking his car but he didn't want to sit there longer than 3 hours which was the duration of the trip.
One of his brilliant ideas was also that we should spend the first night roaming around my hometown until morning so he pays only one instead of two nights in the hostel.
He suggested that I should come to his hometown. Mind you, he lives with his parents, doesn't pay for food or rent and has his own car.
My ticket for bus was around €20 (suddenly the length of the trip wasn't a problem) but there wasn't a direct line to his hometown that was available. As a second option, I was supposed to get out in the nearby city 45min away from him and then search for a local bus to get to there (because he was too lazy to pick me up with his car).
As a "bonus" he offered to pay for HALF of my bus ticket and that I'll be sleeping with him in his bed, meaning that he didn't have a room for guests. To me, it was inappropriate, especially because his parents were supposed to be there too.
Needless to say, it didn't work out.
He wasn't lazy to pick you up with his car. He didn't want to pay for the gas and wear and tear on his car. You made the right move to not be with a stingy guy. There is a difference between a stingy guy and a guy with limited funds.
He was using you until he could afford better. The fact he earns enough but still lives at home shows that he is probably saving for a home or something. Most likely for the future woman that he TRULY wants to be with when he becomes established. Many do this. They will pass their time with a girl that has zero standards (because they need to get laid) but will leave her once they find a girl who is a bit more harder to get. That is why you must not be afraid of having standards. You will only know if they truly want you when they invest more.
Dude here. I am getting turned down for not taking women out to expensive restaurants in NYC the first time we meet. Like $150+ for dinner for two. Am I doing something wrong?
Follow up question: At 14:07 she talks about meeting halfway. Does that apply to the bill?
When I found your channel last year, your dating advice made me realize I needed to change the way my relationship was going. I ended up just changing the man lol
I wish I was able to watch this video like 10 years ago. I would have been able to save so much of the drama and emotional issues... But never too late to grow. Thank you for the video Anna.
Same here!
Are you gonna cook and clean
It's going to be extremely difficult to leave him if you're quite an anxious person. Saying this from my own experience..
I'd feed myself with thoughts like: no relationship is perfect, if I leave him I'll never be able to find someone else, ending this relationship would mean I've failed and so much more.
If deep in your heart you know this is not your person and you deserve more, seek support. Talk to your girlfriends, get a therapist, read and watch material that will help you understand why you love the way you do. You deserve to have the relationship you truly desire 💕
I got u IEVA
What kind of material should I seek ?
@@sarahwildflower2168 The subtle art of not giving a f*ck
Nah as a man all of these are valid points if i love someone i want to make sure that they have the best things in life
Oh, how I needed this advice in my early 20’s. I had to learn all of these lessons through trial and error - it was painful 😖 It really is difficult to say goodbye to a man you ‘like’ even if all the bad behaviour warning signs are there. But the most important lesson I ever learned was how to handle short-term pain for long-term gain. Keep searching until you find a man worthy of you! xx
I absolutely love that someone is standing up for boundaries and educates other people about it. I love this video!!!!
A Mama's boy that still gets meals brought over by his mother. Also a passive guy that manipulates you into taking the active/ masculine role.3rd a passive agressive guy...
Weak men are very dangerous to those around them. No thanks, I'm good...
💯💯💯 so true
He asked you to help out and you took it as him making you do everything
Then do not be surprised with an authentically masculine guy who is also aggressive.
@Maya Alan sure, until you question his honor and integrity and he drops you like 2 week old milk
so what happens if the woman has most of these traits?
No comment.. yet
I think we all women need to feel protected when we are in a relationship. Once I was dating some guy and were walking on the street one night and some drank men was walking towards us, and soon he was close, my ex literally step like 2 meters away from me, took his phone out his pocket, and start scrolling, while this men was rude to me and sad same stupid comments like what a hot chick 🙄🙄 My ex didn't do a thing. Off course I broke up soon after that. No women should be with someone who is not man enough to be there for her and protect her when threat is near 🙅♀️
I'm so sorry girl. up. That sucks. I was in a similarly situation. A guy started saying innappropriate things to me while the guy I was on the date with did nothing. At the very least switch sides with me(which he should already be walking on the outside of the sidewalk in the first place) to take me out of harms way. I did tell him later that it really bothered me. He was oblivious and sadly proved he didn't know how or care to learn how to truly treat a woman. Glad we know the signs and can share them with each other. The more we take a stand the more men will want to step up. Hope you find a truly manly, protective gentlemen.
I said men are meant to be protectors, but my female friend got offended. What did I say wrong? As a man, I am confused because not all women are the same.
i legit gasped out loud. what a cowardly degenerate loser.
Maybe he knew your bodycount was high anyways, so why protect something that never belonged to you??
@@Richjunior1 what if the guy have load of body counts too i feel disgusted having him.
when I become the top student in my class, my boyfriend tears up my GPA paper and said it's nonsense, since he failed himself. it was strange bc he asked for help and I accepted but then again it was hard for him I guess. if they can see your success they will hurt you. I broke up on my birthday and gifted myself.
A person who you deserve is always proud of your victories.
@Esha wow he’s horrible
What the -
@Esha what in the world.
That’s so messed up.
Good riddance! Else Tomorrow he would have teared your appointment letter or business receipt.
Feels like her sense of humor increases in every new video and I love it! 😂😂
6:53 Is it intentional that your PDF seems to flow oddly, or is it just me? Why is it difficult to read the content of your cheat sheet? 🤔
I noticed the more time I spent focusing on self improvement, the less time I had for losers. When I met my husband I had just bought my first home and received several promotions at work. I wasn't focused on a man rescuing me out of a situation. If you've ever seen the Soup Nazi episode of Seinfeld...my husband was like Newman in the soup line when we were dating. He did everything perfectly. He sent flowers for every occasion, he showed up perfectly dressed, he took me on very expensive, well thought out dates. He never argued with me about anything. In short, I never had to question his intentions or my importance to him.
awww I love this! Be happy!
This is wonderful!
Fast forward 5 years and you're divorcing him and taking 50% of his house, pension, stocks
@@oswaldjameslangston6008 that part 👈
Amazing! Solid advice. You attracted someone on your level :)
Men who actually complain about all of these points are usually what we want to repel haha
Seriously. Lol Better for us to know right off the bat!
@@bpom527 exactly!
Lot of them are unreasonable
The type of man who's crazy about you, but after a few months disappears without an explanation..
Yup!
The definition of narcissistic. It's always starting from "love bombing" stage which is not honest adoration, just pure manipulation.
Well, if he disappeared, he disappeared. Move on, he might pop out like a mushroom when you don't need him
Don't sleep with him too soon. The best sex a man is getting 'is the sex he isn't getting' protect yourself, and wait! Let him earn it.
Thank you for this lovely video, I feel like chivalry is slowly going away from our society. I am talking to a guy that my loved ones have introduced me to through a website (Indian Arranged marriage situation). This guy on the topic of finances wants me to share the load of household responsibilities and would expect me to do so right after marriage. He even asked the frequency of my visits to my family home after marriage and upon answering the same I said I will pay for my own ticket. The moment he kept mum and didn’t say that “not a problem I can pay for your tickets too” was the sign for me to say no to him. This is just one such example.
Thank you for sharing such useful content ❤🎉that may educate innocent girls/women.
ugh - a guy I dated wanted always to go on trips with his wealthy friends, but he wanted me to pay half, AND he would be really grouchy and jerky, then say, "oh, I'll be nice when we're on this trip." Only he would always be even shittier on the trip. Dropped him. He was astonished.
He sounds like an a$$hole. There’s a lot of these types!
Why are these types of men always so *surprised* when the woman leaves??
Absolutely excellent advice -- where else can women hear these things? My recommendation is to look for a man who has a kind heart. His salary does not matter, actually. His intentions matter. A good man will want to treat his (future) wife well and give everything that he can give her, "for richer or for poorer." And I want to say that you can find a good man when you are young -- look around at your classmates and you will see that there are some nice guys who are not flashy, flexing types, but are dependable and kind, the kind of guy who you think is just "nice" and "a good friend." Don't overlook this type. He might be the one for you. I chose the shy guy and as he matured and felt heard, he became successful and not so shy after all.
true.. my father is like this.. he is considerably wealthy but he is so cheap towards his family (my mom, me, and brother). thank God finally we managed to move out and settle in on different city with my father still paying for my tuition but still, he doesnt even give us (me n my brother. i dont know if i should include mother or not) enough money to live normally as a person should be. people know me as his daughter who go to a very good college but they dont know that his family live in a very cheap rundown house here with dangerous enviromental
never settle for this kind of man
Problem is women want every single thing of their list checked or else they are “settling”.
If a man asked me to split the bill, I would say “oh no, please allow me’” I would flex by picking up the bill and walk away like a boss! He would never hear from me again! 😜
I am SO doing this!
That's the best come back I've ever heard!
oh my gosh, YESSS.
I would never ever pay for him. And he would never hear from me again. We must educate men here.
I do think men should cover the bills from first date but is it okay for me to let him keep pay for the bills for 2nd 3rd dates? Idk...
With that entitled attitude, its not wonder that tons of guys are opting out of dating all together (see stats presented by Prof. Scott Galloway, e.g.). The result of all this, in the very end, will simply be that you ladies may find the guy you want, but you'll have to share him with like 10 other ladies, and he'll never be exclusive to you because he doesn't have to. I'm sure that's a super attractive outcome for ya'll - point being that with this attitude, you'll just create an ever increasing amount of competition among yourselves while simultaneously enabling the few guys you deem valuable to behave badly because of the amount of options they get. Time to check yourself before you wreck yourself. Peace!
facts as a man I agree with you.
most women are to cofadint in their looks and not what they deserve.
A loser is also a man who simply can not lead and take his role as the man. I've had so much experience with those guys that can't stand up and defend you, and is lacking a basic level of courage. Trust me there's nothing worse than being in a foreign place, going into a restaurant/shop and your man not going ahead to speak for both of you.
There are so many things that are worse in this world, including a man who speaks for a woman who is perfectly capable and prefers to speak for herself.
@@dsquared1950 that's also true, I guess the extremes are equally horrible. Just shared my thought as for myself, I haven't had experience with bossy men, I seem to always get the "slipper" type of guy who is very generous, but when you'd need him to be a MAN he is just stressed and technically you have to be the man instead of the man.
Good job I have a body like Zyzz when I've done my cut for summer, I can pretty much not worry about doing or saying the wrong thing.
women want men to have all of the responsibility but none of the authority
A guy could step up and speak up, then he orders the wrong things and it’s alright for you to freak out on him.
Whenever men complain about you wanting a nice lifestyle ‘because of him’: we don’thave the same career oportunities as men have (I mean, theoretically we have them, but in reality: we are on a biological clock that men aren’t), so we are most likely to also want kids and we have a limited amount of time for that, we have to take care of the baby once he’s born for the most part, we have to keep ouerselves attratcive so that 1.we still feel beautiful and confident 2.he dosen’t loose the attraction/interest for us. With that being said: this is why we are less likely to have the same opportunity in career as men. There are some employers that don’t want to hire women who have or want kids because they know once they have kids they need to stay at home for a while and in the meantime they can’t replace that woman with another employee cause it’s illegal (at least in my country)and they know it’s going to be bad for the business etc. And if you do want to have kids and also to be exellent in your career, yes, it is possible but it’s very hard.
very very hard. Look whats happening to priyanka she needs to cut back on work to get pregs but doesn't know how
this is why i haven't been on a single date in a year 🙄 nobody i met so far deserved a date with me.
I have been single 2 years hang in there.
I stopped dating 12 years ago when l was in my early 30s. I'm just gonna stay single.
Quality, not quantity. Keep that energy ❤️ 👌🏾
its a number again..keep it going
You sound superbly arrogant and entitled. That’s why you’ll remain single. Cheers!🍻
Took me a while to figure I was manipulated and didn’t enforce my boundaries