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Analyze Anna Delvey please. Perspective of how female friends could also manipulate. Or the perspective of how she studied her character to know about wines, fashion, and have a foot in the door if the wealthy... Just that she used her skills for Evil 😆. People felt sorry for her, idk if it was her baby doll face or her age that made people want to take care of her
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@@wingsphysio Yes, that’s a red flag too. But because scammers usually don’t ask for money at the first stages of dating, I believe that Anna wants us to be aware of red flags when you start dating a man (such a love bombing, etc.)
@@wingsphysio my point exactly since when an influent men,a millionaire,would do such a thing make no sense to me,this is not a red flag at this point it’s a deal breaker I’m out!
@@M_SC She went with a stranger after the first date to a different country. I think it might be different in Europe as people travel through many different countries easily, not like North America. So, that might be a cultural thing that I’m not used to. So, I can’t judge there. But, my first thought was it was dangerous right there. I wouldn’t. Too fast, you don’t know the guy.
The love bombing was a HUGE red flag, if a man declares he wants to marry you, have family with you, move in with you in barely one month of dating.. watch out.
Apparently Michael Douglas told Catherine Zeta Jones he was going to marry her and be her husband on their first date. Or was it the first time they met? It was one of the above.
I wouldn't go on a date with a person who has Instagram like that. It's a turn off for me for few reasons: 1. Showing off. 2. Egoistical and narcissistic 3. This man has too much time on hand to keep up with the feed (bcz it doesn't make sense for a super rich super busy businessman to be doing this) 4. BUSINESSMEN (not guys in their early 20s) don't do this as it's not so their style (if they are not in artistic industry/promoting anything) 5. I'd not believe even if an affluent woman posted too often flexing. I just don't buy it. Because so many influencers buy luxurious stuff, wear them few times for the feed and sell it or return it back. Also hardworking affluent men and women don't have much time in their hand so I'd pass these type of guys
It's always a red flag for me when a man doesn't take the time to get to know me to find out if I'm worth his time. That tells me that he's either low value or a player.
Some dudes tried pulling this on me 10 years ago on a couple of dating sites I was on. They all had the "oooh, baby I'm rich" line, bragging about their income, houses, cars, vacations, etc. I was skeptical but open. But as soon as the first request for money came, I called them out on it. I told them to cash in some stocks, ask daddy for a loan, pawn the Rolexes, get a payday loan on the car. You never saw them ghost anyone so fast! lol
Never, ever give a man money!One of the fastest ways to weed out these types is to say "no" and see how they react. This is my experience. Stay strong and confident, and hold your boundaries ❤️!
Asking for money, in my opinion, shouldn’t happen in any relationship from either party. (I’m talking about the early stages of dating). Maybe later, in a serious, committed situation or a marriage there are exceptions to that rule. Even then, proceed with caution. Do your due diligence- man or woman.
@@aa.9769 no one ask for money. That is not how the game is played. It’s very emasculating to a man to ask for money and it makes the woman look cheap… I won’t school you on the game tho, you sound like the type to ask
Another HUGE red flag: He always used pet names like "sweetie," "my love," "honey," and never actually used their real names. That way he doesn't get the names mixed up since he was talking to multiple women at once.
Watching this documentary left me with food for thought: 1. A high caliber man uses other types of online dating services that match his status. 2. Succesfull men put off arranging lavish first dates because they want to find out If the women are interested in them for the right reasons so the men might even down-play their importance. 3. A high caliber man would NEVER ask his girlfriend for a loan. 4. If it sounds too good to be true - IT IS!
In my own personal experience the no1 red flag is excessive enthusiasm/interest/attention/impatience to see you, from the get go! These type of men after 2 months can’t keep up their own show and you’ll start to see negative changes in their behaviour. Don’t fall for it and keep your boundaries till you feel you actually know what they are about!
@Molly McDade I really like the way you differentiated that. I do the same thing myself where I try to figure out "is this love bombing or a natural easy connection" and your words will be a more helpful way to frame that when I listen to my gut in the future!
Yes! I had to end because I saw red flags other might be taking for "cuteness". This person would follow me all the way home (went by train), and then on the secound date already be at my station and acted like we already knew each other. I felt the creeps and am so glad I ended it after that, it was much more ofc. Then I met my husband thankfully
I've been on 2 dates with a guy. I had covid and he wouldn't even give me space or time to get better. I touched his car window and he yelled at me. I was so uncomfortable both times we were together. I'm listening to my gut. I cancelled our date for tonight and I'm staying away. He wanted me to move in after coffee. Terrifying. All he could tell me is how he was such a catch. He even asked me to have a threesome with his ex. I'm not even that kind of girl.
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There's a finance RUclipsr who says you never lend money. You either give the money with no expectation of having it returned (in which case, you only give what you can give), or you say no. Lending money will only make you lose both the money and the person.
No I wouldn’t have gone on a date with him. Men who post a lot of selfies and is wearing flashy designer from head to toe is not manly and vain, likely also narcissistic. All absolute Turn-offs for me!🤢
Why would a rich man post what he has, for women to chase him or criminal to attack him. My dear they are very discreet and don’t even have social media sinew of them .
Better to be on your own than with a bad guy. Be careful. You deserve to be treated well meaning respectfully. Don't let men pressure you. A man who is truly interested will not pressure you.
It's sad that so many women become so desperate for validation (*validation is NOT love) and even sadder that men prey on insecurity. Women need to be guarded in all aspects: our inner circle, our bodies/health, our money and our trust. Moving in silence and vetting is the best way to guard against anyone (not just men!) who would want to take advantage
I cant agree more with you Anna. These women were giving him the passport details and the residential addresses after a few days from the first date. They are lucky they lost just the money.
One other thing I've learned over the years is to pay attention to how a person treats others, whether it's a server in a restaurant, or someone else in their life past or present. How do they speak about them? This is important because it is a big clue as to how they will eventually treat YOU. Excellent video here!
Did you watch this documentary? Here’s a spoiler: one of his victims spoke to his “baby mama” and she said he was a good guy. Turned out, she was defrauded by him in 2016 and now she’s in on his con. So you have to be careful even with that.
This treating waiter nicely is emphasized so much!!! What if the guy pretend to be polite to wait staff on date knowing the girl is observing and he wants to make an impression but deep inside still believes that they are beneath him?
Who in the world is thinking that a handsome millonare guy is going to be in a dating app? a true millonare doesn't need those things he can find ladies in his own circle 🤷🏻♀️
I met this guy a long time ago and he tried his best to get close to me on our 1st date but it felt off and I was not attracted to him. Shortly after that he called and gave me a sob story about his friend needing money desperately and he didn't know anyone else he could ask and so he wanted to "borrow" the money from me. At that time I was in my early 20s and I knew something want up but I didn't know what to say so I told him that I needed to think about it. A week or so later he called and I pretended to be my sister and said that I was not around and he never called back. Phew! Since then I've had a few encounters with other "friends" asking to borrow money but I've never given in and I tell them that my policy is that I don't borrow or lend money to friends and that's how we can be friends longer. But as soon as I've said that, they always disappear... Hahaha..
I would say I can't I have bad credit. I'll lend money if I know you WELL meaning multiple years and I don't lend what I can't lose. So if I never get the $100 back will that ruin me that moment? If not then I'll lend it, but if I can't lose it then I say, "I don't have it".
why should a "billionaire " be in a regular app like tinder where mostly middle class people get together. This question would be more than enough for those ladies to not date him!
this. the man from the documentary could have sold one of his „watches“ to live a month. why would i need to touch my savings? and do you want to be with a man that needs to be in a different country every day to escape from dangerous people that are trying to harm him? heck, go to the police and get help and don’t play james bond or shit.
I’m afraid, as well At 54, I’m Much more careful now than I was a few years ago when I first got divorced. There are a lot of nice guys out there, but also a few bad apples:((
Me too. I lost my husband and have vowed I will never ever give anyone any money, no matter what the relationship. I will never enter into any legal agreements, investments, etc with anyone either. And if someone is way way too into me, I'm out.
What got me was the love bombing that he did right away. It’s one thing to be sweep off your feet, but is should never happen in the beginning of the relationship. Men will do it after trust and love are established.
It's not true..your belief system is quite toxic. Each person's story is different. Do what works for you. Don't create fear! The world just mirrors you.
There is no such thing as love bombing. Love bombing accusers are abusive cause by accusing a men of "love bombing", you are implying that the woman is entitled to his attention, time and money which she is not.
After watching this documentary, I tried to put myself in the woman's shoes. To see how I would react if a man would ask me to join him on his private jet to a different country on the first date. My whole self said NO. A normal guy would not ask for that. I would actually be intimidated. But I am twice her age. So I don't know if I would have back in the days. Probably not. GIRLS - it is so important to be suspicious about men or people in general. Even if it were a celebrity or Hollywood star, I would have said no. That's how you get respect as well.
Yes you should be equally suspicious of rich people because they have RESOURCES to cover up or take care of their situation if things go wrong. At least in case of normal people it's usually just one or maybe couple of people.
Personally I would be incredibly alarmed because I know that is how some quite normal women are trapped into trafficking. I would never travel with a man I did not know exceedingly well for that reason.
Back when I used to date, first dates were to focus on finding obvious red flags, second date was to find green flags...third date was to find chemistry
Anna, I am so glad that you are finally addressing this huge issue! I am worried for the naive young ladies out there who may fall into worse hands…the hands of a human trafficker!!!! So, yes, women need to be educated and never ignore warning signs! Our female nature is so prone to only see the best in people.
Agreed, we often like to see the best in almost everyone-whether they haved earned it or not. It is quite important to be educated on behaviors such as narcissistic, as well as others. Dr. Ramani's videos, serve as a wonderful tool for this.
Oh yes. And the Toxic Positivity culture also promotes this attitude of only seeing the best in people/situations/circumstances, etc. BAD bad way to think in this world.
Yes. This happens often in my country: women are offered a job overseas and they dissapear with no trace. I know first hand an experience of a family who lured a woman with too many kids to give them the small daughter for them to rise and she being so „desperate“ agreed. The girl was the home servant until they kicked her off… be careful
No, I always mistrust men. Look what's going on in the world since centuries... Why would I trust men from the beginning? A guy has to prove first that I can trust him. If he is really interested in you, he will show true affection, all other crap will jump off and that's good!
Wow, my dear Anna! This video was spot on:) I have been a victim of love bombing despite being a smart successful independent women. There are many toxic malignant men out there and what I learnt from my experience is to never be desperate.
My best friend talked to this guy online for a while, and she had her doubts about him. She showed me parts of the conversation and pictures and immediately alarm bells went of in my head. I don’t want to get to personal but I’ve had a rough childhood with a very in stable family situation. I was mostly raised by my brother (only 13 years my senior) and he taught me to ALWAYS listen to my intuition, that feeling of dread in my belly when something just didn’t feel right, even though there’s no proof. Thankfully I listen to his valuable lessons and so did my best friend. Thank you Anna for highlighting the red flags, because if you don’t know any people that are potentially dark triad, you won’t recognize them. These ladies were very deliberately targeted. I wish you all the best in life, never ignore your gut ❤️
Looking at his Instagram profile, I would question why there are no other people in his pictures! No family? No friends? Just him and all the luxury things. This would tell me he either photoshopped all the luxury in or he is not a nice person because he had no friends!
@@BlondeQtie oh come on obviously not but in this context she was without even the pay. Babe when a man asks you to go to a hotel with him, he doesn’t want to play card games, it’s implied he wants or expects sex and that should be the message.
@@lunarosa321 Men usually always want sex, especially on dates. It doesn’t matter if you meet him for coffee or in a hotel, he usually wants sex. It doesn’t mean you have to have sex though.
I have been married for 18 years, but all young ladies should be educated on this topic. Thankfully they lost money not there lives. Great video Anna this could actually save a young life. 🥂💕
I’m so glad you did a video on this documentary! I watched it and he was completely ruthless! Those ladies that were the victims seemed so lovely, but that is why he targeted them and sadly they did not see the warning signs. In my opinion, when faced with a person like this, you need a strong sense of self, authenticity and trust your gut instincts! Thank you Anna!
Well, the good thing about being from South America is that, if a random guy asks me, without even knowing me in person, to travel with him to another country, I would think that he wanted to kidnap me for prostitution. Sad but true; many women here suffered this and it's extremely heartbreaking. So, I wouldn't trust at all, my safety comes first.
I thankfully wasn't conned out of money, but my ex lied about his identity, his job, his age, the fact that he was married, even lied saying his mom had cancer. It's so easy to judge other women who have experienced these people/relationships if you haven't been through it yourself. It's scary what we go through when we're uneducated about these red flags and we women have been taught that our needs/boundaries are less important than others'. I'm thankful that I got to learn from this extremely painful lesson without being physically harmed or drained of all my money. Ladies, you matter, your boundaries matter, and your needs matter, don't ever forget that.
How shocking! He is simply a career criminal according to what I have seen online. These sorts of people make me quite angry because someone I know was ensnared by such a fellow many years ago. That young lady's health never really recovered. I think that you have made some very important points, Miss Bey. Too much, too soon in a friendship is a warning. Being asked to lend money is ridiculous. People of substance always have access to resources. They have friends and family, too. Private jets, helicopters, and yachts may be hired quite easily. One red flag that I think is very important is if a lady is never introduced to family or friends. Meeting someone in their genuine context gives one some indication of the person's character.
@@Qzm0 Exactly so. Not meeting someone's family or friends is a concern - is the person hiding something? Of course, meeting parents is a serious step but at least after a few weeks to meet a sibling or a cousin and may be close friends. Hopefully, courting leads to marriage and one does not get married in a vacuum. I'm too old-fashioned. Haha.
100% agree on your red flag. It's the only big one I felt was missing from Anna's list, but also I think her list is more about early red flags/1st date. Ladies need to make sure they are being introduced not just to a man's friends but to significant people in his family (when the time is appropriate) like his mom, sister, or grandmother. If he's not, he very well could be married and at the very least isn't taking the lady seriously. Even meeting male relatives, sometimes they don't care what sort of games their nephew/cousin/whatever is playing with women.
The profile pics in Instagram are revolting to me. The wealthy men I have know would never advertise their wealth in photos or conversation. They were very guarded and discreet. I would be extremely suspicious of this type of man
My heart went out to those ladies in the documentary especially when they received such horrible comments and insults online. They were the victims! I loved the lady at the end who sold all his flashy clothes and was giggling about it 😂
@@bodnarova05 she was actually a victim of assault and beaten badly prior to meeting Simon. Completely unrelated. And he used that fear, which made her even more afraid of Simons “enemies” he never hired anybody to assault her. He just financially exploited her.
Thank you for this! i was waiting for your insight on this! Some stuff I noticed about red flags , 1. Bragger 2. Broken accent (Pernilla had an accent ,but her english is more fluent) 3.Take more than a month to actually know a person 4. He asks for big amounts of money too soon. 5. Moving in too quickly
Anna, you're really respectful of the victims, and I think that truly shows how well you know your proteges and how well you understand the subtleties and nuances of relationships where there is a power imbalance, whether that be financial or emotional.
This is why Anna drives home the importance of securing a good therapist. They can truly help one suss out the men who are good or bad for us, especially if we become attached too quickly.
I’ve not seen the documentary yet but I will just say this. Women need to take responsibility for themselves and their own boundaries, our culture today infantilises women into these little victims who can’t stand up for themselves and I hate it. I have a few friends who have given men money and it never ends well but I don’t get mad with them I get mad with my friends who willingly give men sex and money then complain that the outcome is not what they want. Keep your boundaries and standards high ladies!!!
If someone that rich asking you money; first question in your mind should be ;” doesn’t he have a rich friend or family member to borrow some money? why me?” Like Anna says; because of desperation.Loneliness is a big issue in today’s world.
and the fact that he asked these women money. My first thought is that if he's so well established, he must have some family and friends in the same circle with same lifestyle that it should be easy for him to ask money from them and not the woman he just met
I can't agree more and I really want your advice my dear Anna. It's very sad when society sets these standards through social media, television and movies...
And you think the standards will change? LOL women are still going to look and flirt with the good looking cute guys while the good ones who might look not that extraordinary are left out of it. Not surprising why MGOTW is relevant now.
@@neo5973 Well I was not thinking about this... I was talking about toxic relationships. And in case you don't know there are guys who are good looking and great personalities at the same time. Of course a good looking woman will want a good looking man. We work hard to upgrade our appearance and we don't want someone looking and acting weird to embarrass us in public. This is just common sense.
I just love love everything about u and ur channel! You genuinely care about women and have compassion. Nowadays it seems like 98% of the ppl on Tinder are scammer or just for hook up. This kind of IG profile is definitely a big big red flag! Most people with money in real life carefully hide their wealth and access. They don't tend to show off like that for obvious reasons. Thank you for making this video.
His profile was a red flag to me not just because he was showing off, but it was only of him. Not him with other people (friends, family, etc.), although I did see one picture with his bodyguard. That ties in with your first point about being a narcissist. Cecilie slept with him on the first date, which also shows desperation. The biggest red flag of all for me was when he asked to borrow money. Even if what he was telling these women was true (about his life being in danger), he didn't have friends or family that he could have borrowed money from instead of someone he was only seeing for a few weeks? What about his rich father that he was supposed to have? All in all I did feel sorry for these women, but you're right in that it could have all been avoided.
Anna is our guiding light through the darkness of this dating climate❤️🤣🤣🤣It actually really takes a lot of strength to stay true to yourself/your principles. I see almost all my friends settling for less…
I don’t know if my answer is completely biased, considering I’ve seen the consequences but I usually don’t go with flashy and snobby men who are too much into pictures and posting on social media. This just doesn’t seem like my type. So I think I would have passed
I love you Anna Bey! I have not watched your videos for six months due to a bereavement, but I am back and I really missed your videos. You make me feel normal. People with low standards and no self respect leave me feeling like I am a snob for taking good care of myself. Then I watch your video and I realise there are others out there who have good, solid standards and are loaded with uncompromising self respect. Thank you Anna! x
This is such an important video. As someone who has been through a toxic relationship with a narcissistic man, I really feel that people(in this case, especially women) should have a complete armoury of knowledge about these traits so as to be able to identify them easily and not fall prey to such kind of people.
If I saw a similar bio I don't think I'd date a guy like that either. He doesn't seem to have a lot of friends in his pictures. Every picture seems to be showing him doing some amazing thing instead of just regular every day stuff. His 'showiness' can be kind of scary if you value security, since this kind of flashiness can attract thieves and burglars.
The amount of narcissist preying online is really insane! Brutal... Social media is becoming so dangerous, so many lies, con artist etc. All preying on nice empathic people. Good video Anna and thanx for the Netflix tip ;-)
I absolutely loved this video! Thank God I have been in a beautiful and healthy relationship for the last 5 years so I've been out of the market lol, but it's really necessary to teach women to empower themselves and not to rely on any man, especially not trusting too much, it's always better to be too careful than reckless. Stay strong, ladies!
I’m also shocked that after being on the news he still got a model girlfriend after prison. I guess she doesn’t care as long as he never asks her for a penny. It also sickens me that not only as he a alleged thief he asked her to ask her house or car. he gets worse and worse
Anyone can be a victim, but some people make easy victims. Bad guys always look for the easy victim. The lady who told the story of The Tinder Swindler agreed to meet a stranger without any preliminary chit chat. Most don't do that. She agreed to get leave the country with a man she met an hour before. Most don't do that. She supposed someone who is wealthy must be "safe". Her friends kept warning her that he might be wealthy, but there were signs he might not be "safe". A friend even told her his family was likely connect to all the wrong people. She choose to stay in the relationship, regardless of the warnings of her friends. I don't want to victim blame, but some people make better victims that other people.
Shout out to those ladies. I'm so proud of them that they came out to the world about this even with the risk of appearing stupid. It takes bravery and strong mindset. This is such a huge lesson for all the other ladies AROUND the world. This documentary shows how easily anyone can take advantage of your good nature and how easy it is to fake everything.
This is such an important topic! I deeply believe that a major part of the journey of "leveling up" in life- and in patriarchal society- is knowing and understanding that 1) You have inherent value as a human being, 2) Trusting your feminine intuition and 3) Not allowing anyone to shame you out of trusting and protecting yourself. Self-respect and self-love can powerfully change the way a woman carries herself- and the types of people she attracts into her atmosphere. I would also like to mention that RUclips, of course, has a whole fantastic community that is dedicated to helping people identify, escape and recover from narcissistic abuse and trauma bonding that I have found personally beneficial, so hopefully others reading this might also benefit. Best wishes to everyone out there and please never be ashamed- or make anyone else feel ashamed- of realizing a mistake. After all, the shame would have been remaining blind to it and never learning or growing. 🌈Onward and Upward!
#2 a woman needs to prepare herself for entering a relationship. If just broke up with someone …take some time to reflect. In General move cautiously. There are really no rules but following your gut and asking yourself questions and being clear what you want.
Have been in a narcissistic relationship and these are the exact signs even you can see in his eyes and feel something is wrong. I was mentally so disturbed and later on found about narcissism and healed myself of the traumas and self-doubt he has given me and now I'm happy I left him.
That's why even Greta Bereisaite say that being HV woman means to not accept any last minute invitation or jump with man the first time before even knowing him better. It seems so simple but the consequences can be so dire like this
So glad you are presenting this subject. It is dangerous to be needy. Most important to look out for "weird" behavior. Don't let dreams become nightmares. Yes, it can be dangerous. You are right, love bombing before things naturally evolve into a genuine, supportive relationships is very suspicious. So glad you are bringing this out to help save women from bad experiences.
Billionaires son’s are not on TInder, they meet people in person, thorugh friends and family, at their family level. If a billionaire guy is on Tinder, he is not looking for something serious…
I watched this documentary last night and love that you made a video on this topic! Education and awareness is so important to stay safe while dating. Also you look amazing in this simple look. This blue is great on you.
On top of all the red flags she's mentioned, one of the first thing I found off about this guy is the way he talks. All the voice messages that were played really didn't sound anything like a sophisticated, well educated guy that you would expect with his (faked) background information. Maybe I'm being extremely judgmental there, but the guy seemed so incredibly superficial and simple-minded just from the way he spoke. And he calls all the girls "babe" or "baby" ....Dont know,but he lost me right there.
I'm a family person I have siblings and cousins and kids and friends. I didn't see any other person than a body guard. Not even an animal. This was a huge red flag for me.
I once heard that "the male equivalent of twerking is showing off wealth and fake materialistic life" This is exactly what this guy did. He himself appears to be really desperate but gained leverage because he knows this is exactly what lots of women are looking for in their partner.
Wonderful points, especially listening to minute 14:00 on. (Anna has this type figured out!) No one likes a show off, male or female. Additionally, it is quite important to take as much time as needed-no rush, when dating and...choose wisely.😉✨
It's incredible ! I just watched this report a few days ago and I had noted to send a message to Anna Bey, convinced that she could make a video to help us avoid this kind of misadventure! Well I didn't have time to send my request!!! Anna has already reacted Thank you!!!!
Wow! I just watched it like 2 hours ago and was sorta really disappointed and scared but I’m glad you’re talking about it. Sorta comforting. Especially from you.
I am working now with a family, where the head of the family is abusive narcissist. And he was running a pharmacy his whole life, his also abusive and manipulative daughter runs this pharmacy now for him - they create a fasade of smiles and positive look for the public. I know the stuff behind closed doors and it is very dark.
If I see a man taking this many selfies, first, it gives an instant signal that he is narcisistic and in love with himself. Second, I always assume that he is gay 🤷♀️
Thank you dear Anna for making this video, it is a really important video it the era of modern online dating to open the eyes of all the women who do not have any kind of experience of these types of lowlife... Thank you for educating people for the good, the bad and the ugly.
Thank you so much Anna for sharing this. Like you said, even though recognizing some of the red flags should come across as obvious or common sense, that's not the case for some people unfortunately. I agree with you that raising awareness and educating ourselves about toxic personality types that we should steer clear of is definitely useful.
Best advice I got - if someone you love or care about is asking you for financial help, feel free to give the money but just have this talk with yourself - “IF I do not ever get this money back from the borrower, for genuine reasons (eg they had an accident, they died, they got even worse financially and just cannot pay you back although they are ashamed of it) , then am I OK with the financial loss?” This has helped me time and time again!
LOVE YOU Anna!! I dream of someday having coffee with you. I ve been following you for a very long time, and learned a lot from you. You feel like a friend to me, and I'm sure to a lot of ladies who follow your channel. Thanks for your empowering advice. Wishing you continuous success!
Never give a man money EVER. Also don’t be so quick to trust people especially if they are heavily putting on the charm and you don’t know them. I know us W fall in love with our ears but we need to fall in love with our eyes and watch out for specific behaviors. Trust your God given instincts if it feels wrong it’s usually not right. And traveling with M and doing dates in a home setting when you don’t know these M is a huge NO. Public dates only. They are lucky they are still alive and the only thing that was taken was money. Money can be replaced but your life cannot. Ladies stop putting yourself in bad situations.
You're right, genuinely wealthy men don't show off on social media. They're very careful in letting people know that they're rich. They're careful as well! Predatory women exist too. Excellent evaluation and a compassionate one. Most of us have felt desperate and compromised their values in different situations!
Dear Anna-this story is new to me. Thank you for doing a video on this concept. Everything that you have said was an imported education for that which I am grateful. I feel sad for those women.
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Analyze Anna Delvey please. Perspective of how female friends could also manipulate. Or the perspective of how she studied her character to know about wines, fashion, and have a foot in the door if the wealthy... Just that she used her skills for Evil 😆. People felt sorry for her, idk if it was her baby doll face or her age that made people want to take care of her
I really thought you were going to say that a truly affluent man would never ask to borrow money from a woman
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@@wingsphysio Yes, that’s a red flag too. But because scammers usually don’t ask for money at the first stages of dating, I believe that Anna wants us to be aware of red flags when you start dating a man (such a love bombing, etc.)
@@wingsphysio my point exactly since when an influent men,a millionaire,would do such a thing make no sense to me,this is not a red flag at this point it’s a deal breaker I’m out!
Desperation makes one ignore the red flags. Desperation is a huge blind spot. Thank you Anna.
Those women didn’t seem desperate to me. The first one seemed dumb. But not desperate. And the others neither
That’s 100% true 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽….. Selflove is very important❤️❤️❤️
@@M_SC She went with a stranger after the first date to a different country. I think it might be different in Europe as people travel through many different countries easily, not like North America. So, that might be a cultural thing that I’m not used to. So, I can’t judge there. But, my first thought was it was dangerous right there. I wouldn’t. Too fast, you don’t know the guy.
Also the need to floss on Instagram makes you ignore red flags.
@@M_SC The first one just loves love and was caught up in the romance of it all.
The love bombing was a HUGE red flag, if a man declares he wants to marry you, have family with you, move in with you in barely one month of dating.. watch out.
Makes my skin crawl
I mean tinder is a hookup site, that's the biggest red flag. These women are dumb and go what they deserved
Why?
Nah they just empty looking for need meditate as love
Apparently Michael Douglas told Catherine Zeta Jones he was going to marry her and be her husband on their first date. Or was it the first time they met? It was one of the above.
I wouldn't go on a date with a person who has Instagram like that. It's a turn off for me for few reasons: 1. Showing off.
2. Egoistical and narcissistic
3. This man has too much time on hand to keep up with the feed (bcz it doesn't make sense for a super rich super busy businessman to be doing this)
4. BUSINESSMEN (not guys in their early 20s) don't do this as it's not so their style (if they are not in artistic industry/promoting anything)
5. I'd not believe even if an affluent woman posted too often flexing. I just don't buy it. Because so many influencers buy luxurious stuff, wear them few times for the feed and sell it or return it back.
Also hardworking affluent men and women don't have much time in their hand so I'd pass these type of guys
Oh yeah, that’s so so true…. 100%👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽 Thank you ✨💐🌿☺️
Girll !!! Absolutely true
Also it shows that he has no personality cause he's leading with Ego and Ego alone.
100%
1000%
The first girl was so naive… she just jumped on a the plane with him 🤦🏻♀️ she could’ve easily been trafficked or kidnapped omg!
She wanted an adventure.. you can't imagine how many are like her..
that's beyond crazy... and Men are getting scammed every day by pretty lady
I did equally crazy things and had wonderful adventures. 🙂
When i was a teen i would do something stupid like that 🤦♀️
I thought the same thing.
It's always a red flag for me when a man doesn't take the time to get to know me to find out if I'm worth his time. That tells me that he's either low value or a player.
Some dudes tried pulling this on me 10 years ago on a couple of dating sites I was on. They all had the "oooh, baby I'm rich" line, bragging about their income, houses, cars, vacations, etc. I was skeptical but open. But as soon as the first request for money came, I called them out on it. I told them to cash in some stocks, ask daddy for a loan, pawn the Rolexes, get a payday loan on the car. You never saw them ghost anyone so fast! lol
Good for you!
What Tyson said. Glad you saw right through them.
Unfortunately not every woman is taught to look for these red flags
So you had not problem using his money but when he asked for help you rejected? Looks like he missed red flags that you only WANT and not GIVE
@@abhishekvishwakarma2756 another poor Tate fan in the comments 🤦♀️
Never, ever give a man money!One of the fastest ways to weed out these types is to say "no" and see how they react. This is my experience. Stay strong and confident, and hold your boundaries ❤️!
But you, can you ask money to a man or is it different because you are a woman?
Asking for money, in my opinion, shouldn’t happen in any relationship from either party.
(I’m talking about the early stages of dating).
Maybe later, in a serious, committed situation or a marriage there are exceptions to that rule.
Even then, proceed with caution. Do your due diligence- man or woman.
From a biological viewpoint, yea…. it is indeed worse for a “man” to ask for money because it’s a MAN’S job to provide. Not a woman’s
@@aa.9769 no one ask for money. That is not how the game is played. It’s very emasculating to a man to ask for money and it makes the woman look cheap… I won’t school you on the game tho, you sound like the type to ask
@@neffy2398 Nah, we living in equal times now, don't be sexist. You don't want feminism, you want special treatment
Another HUGE red flag: He always used pet names like "sweetie," "my love," "honey," and never actually used their real names. That way he doesn't get the names mixed up since he was talking to multiple women at once.
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 totally right !
And he can easily copy/paste the messages he sends
@@thepizzaqveen Chances are, if you google the messages, you might find them all over the internet.
You are absolutely right. Too me awhile to catch that trick.
Watching this documentary left me with food for thought:
1. A high caliber man uses other types of online dating services that match his status.
2. Succesfull men put off arranging lavish first dates because they want to find out If the women are interested in them for the right reasons so the men might even down-play their importance.
3. A high caliber man would NEVER ask his girlfriend for a loan.
4. If it sounds too good to be true - IT IS!
No way
I like the last point. Many times it's true in different contexts too.
High value men usually dont y
Use Tinder, maybe for sex only
Unhealed men ahd healed talk usually not do
Spot on ! Best comment !
In my own personal experience the no1 red flag is excessive enthusiasm/interest/attention/impatience to see you, from the get go! These type of men after 2 months can’t keep up their own show and you’ll start to see negative changes in their behaviour. Don’t fall for it and keep your boundaries till you feel you actually know what they are about!
Totally agree 👌🏻 in my own experience this is a huge red flag 💯
Agreed! They will often almost demand to meet right away, and won’t even be patient and talk on the phone for a while first.
@Molly McDade I really like the way you differentiated that. I do the same thing myself where I try to figure out "is this love bombing or a natural easy connection" and your words will be a more helpful way to frame that when I listen to my gut in the future!
Yes! I had to end because I saw red flags other might be taking for "cuteness". This person would follow me all the way home (went by train), and then on the secound date already be at my station and acted like we already knew each other. I felt the creeps and am so glad I ended it after that, it was much more ofc. Then I met my husband thankfully
I've been on 2 dates with a guy. I had covid and he wouldn't even give me space or time to get better. I touched his car window and he yelled at me. I was so uncomfortable both times we were together. I'm listening to my gut. I cancelled our date for tonight and I'm staying away. He wanted me to move in after coffee. Terrifying. All he could tell me is how he was such a catch. He even asked me to have a threesome with his ex. I'm not even that kind of girl.
There's a finance RUclipsr who says you never lend money. You either give the money with no expectation of having it returned (in which case, you only give what you can give), or you say no. Lending money will only make you lose both the money and the person.
Wow this is so powerful
No I wouldn’t have gone on a date with him. Men who post a lot of selfies and is wearing flashy designer from head to toe is not manly and vain, likely also narcissistic. All absolute Turn-offs for me!🤢
Yup.
Totally agree!!!!
My number one rule: as soon as a man asks me for money, I‘m leaving!!!!
@@parrysethi2894 Dude. Your grandma’s generation never paid for sh** stop normalizing men not doing their duty of providing and protecting
What if he really needs it??? Shouldn't u support him. Of course he needs to earn that trust first tho.
But it’s okay to ask the man for money
@@honeyorange1447 who ask whom?
I have my own money lol
@@savage_girl_07 is he my husband yet? No? Then next!
Lesson number 1: men with that level of money aren’t on Tinder…..
Why would a rich man post what he has, for women to chase him or criminal to attack him. My dear they are very discreet and don’t even have social media sinew of them .
Not true actually. Just most aren’t, I’ve dated celebs off tinder when in la.
Lol
And lesson number 2 : Men with that level of money don't want women on Tinder. They are not interested.
Please speak a little louder for those who cannot hear in the back!! Lol!!
Better to be on your own than with a bad guy.
Be careful.
You deserve to be treated well meaning respectfully.
Don't let men pressure you.
A man who is truly interested will not pressure you.
💯❤️
True
Yes ❤️
Just remember respect is not given, it's earned. They didn't deserve respect for they didn't earn it
The first red flag was he said come to my hotel and didn’t even offer to pick her up. Great analysis Anna! Can you do Inventing Anna next?
Exactly my thoughts! Where is the car service picking me up? Red flag 🚩
@@dianaadhdchannel right like he posted all those cars but can’t pick her up in one 😂
Yes to an analysis on Inventing Anna please! 😊
He did have her dropped off though 🤣
It's sad that so many women become so desperate for validation (*validation is NOT love) and even sadder that men prey on insecurity. Women need to be guarded in all aspects: our inner circle, our bodies/health, our money and our trust. Moving in silence and vetting is the best way to guard against anyone (not just men!) who would want to take advantage
Exactly. The golden silence.
That’s so true 💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽
I don’t think this was a validation case. This is total desperation. They were looking to this man for validation.
Desperate for the Disney lie
thank you ❤
I cant agree more with you Anna. These women were giving him the passport details and the residential addresses after a few days from the first date. They are lucky they lost just the money.
One other thing I've learned over the years is to pay attention to how a person treats others, whether it's a server in a restaurant, or someone else in their life past or present. How do they speak about them? This is important because it is a big clue as to how they will eventually treat YOU. Excellent video here!
I think it’s so important to see how he treated ex girlfriends. Did he cheat on them or abandon a baby, he will do the same to you. Khloek
Did you watch this documentary? Here’s a spoiler: one of his victims spoke to his “baby mama” and she said he was a good guy. Turned out, she was defrauded by him in 2016 and now she’s in on his con. So you have to be careful even with that.
This treating waiter nicely is emphasized so much!!! What if the guy pretend to be polite to wait staff on date knowing the girl is observing and he wants to make an impression but deep inside still believes that they are beneath him?
This gives you an in but the really good manipulators will treat everyone respectfully but you
“Desperation leads to danger” this is so true, I could see this on the first woman who used too much feelings right away.
Who in the world is thinking that a handsome millonare guy is going to be in a dating app? a true millonare doesn't need those things he can find ladies in his own circle 🤷🏻♀️
They use dating apps even celebrities have said they use the app. It’s not unheard off. They are still human beings like everyone.
You'll be surprised to learn that in this time and era, it's not surprising to find them
Exactly
Those apps are for Dusties and users 100%
Athletes and rappers are constantly at parties surrounded by women, they don’t go on apps. A d-list middle aged actor will go on app.
Apart from all the red flags....I would not keep "lending" anyone money so many times, when they are not even repaying, period.
Exactly, that was pure stupidity on their part.
@@josephinebournes8212 sadly they were blinded by thier love from him
I met this guy a long time ago and he tried his best to get close to me on our 1st date but it felt off and I was not attracted to him. Shortly after that he called and gave me a sob story about his friend needing money desperately and he didn't know anyone else he could ask and so he wanted to "borrow" the money from me. At that time I was in my early 20s and I knew something want up but I didn't know what to say so I told him that I needed to think about it. A week or so later he called and I pretended to be my sister and said that I was not around and he never called back. Phew! Since then I've had a few encounters with other "friends" asking to borrow money but I've never given in and I tell them that my policy is that I don't borrow or lend money to friends and that's how we can be friends longer. But as soon as I've said that, they always disappear... Hahaha..
You never lend to friends for real?
I would say I can't I have bad credit. I'll lend money if I know you WELL meaning multiple years and I don't lend what I can't lose. So if I never get the $100 back will that ruin me that moment? If not then I'll lend it, but if I can't lose it then I say, "I don't have it".
@@Cantetinza17 too many words. Just say no. No is a complete sentence, there's no need to explain yourself.
“this guy” you mean Simon Leviev or what?
@@chrystianaw8256 But I like it. I love hearing the sounds they make when I say it.
why should a "billionaire " be in a regular app like tinder where mostly middle class people get together. This question would be more than enough for those ladies to not date him!
💥👏R👀👀👀ght!!!👍✌️
They usually are on swinger sites lol
Exactly
I wouldn’t even say middle class most guys I met on there are complete bums 😂
@@moonlightprincess449 agreed! 😂 Tinder is full of losers!
If someone asks for money, direct them to charity programs. Let your tax dollars help them out.
Smart move! 😉
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Exactly!! Even family… I refer people to the United Way, Salvation Army, etc
this.
the man from the documentary could have sold one of his „watches“ to live a month. why would i need to touch my savings? and do you want to be with a man that needs to be in a different country every day to escape from dangerous people that are trying to harm him? heck, go to the police and get help and don’t play james bond or shit.
Brilliant 😂😂😂😂😂
This is why I am so afraid of online dating,especially as an older woman.
They prey offline too. Just be careful of the stories
You will be fine. Just be super aware.
I’m afraid, as well At 54, I’m Much more careful now than I was a few years ago when I first got divorced. There are a lot of nice guys out there, but also a few bad apples:((
Me too. I lost my husband and have vowed I will never ever give anyone any money, no matter what the relationship. I will never enter into any legal agreements, investments, etc with anyone either. And if someone is way way too into me, I'm out.
Thank
What got me was the love bombing that he did right away. It’s one thing to be sweep off your feet, but is should never happen in the beginning of the relationship. Men will do it after trust and love are established.
Yah baby, my love etc I hate when I get that so quick. You know it’s not real.
Can you explain more to me. I don't understand?
@@raniaralin6233 when a man confessed his love for you too quickly, it’s a red flag! 🚩
It's not true..your belief system is quite toxic. Each person's story is different. Do what works for you. Don't create fear! The world just mirrors you.
There is no such thing as love bombing. Love bombing accusers are abusive cause by accusing a men of "love bombing", you are implying that the woman is entitled to his attention, time and money which she is not.
After watching this documentary, I tried to put myself in the woman's shoes. To see how I would react if a man would ask me to join him on his private jet to a different country on the first date.
My whole self said NO. A normal guy would not ask for that. I would actually be intimidated. But I am twice her age. So I don't know if I would have back in the days. Probably not. GIRLS - it is so important to be suspicious about men or people in general. Even if it were a celebrity or Hollywood star, I would have said no. That's how you get respect as well.
Yes you should be equally suspicious of rich people because they have RESOURCES to cover up or take care of their situation if things go wrong. At least in case of normal people it's usually just one or maybe couple of people.
Personally I would be incredibly alarmed because I know that is how some quite normal women are trapped into trafficking. I would never travel with a man I did not know exceedingly well for that reason.
Back when I used to date, first dates were to focus on finding obvious red flags, second date was to find green flags...third date was to find chemistry
Anna, I am so glad that you are finally addressing this huge issue! I am worried for the naive young ladies out there who may fall into worse hands…the hands of a human trafficker!!!! So, yes, women need to be educated and never ignore warning signs!
Our female nature is so prone to only see the best in people.
Agreed, we often like to see the best in almost everyone-whether they haved earned it or not. It is quite important to be educated on behaviors such as narcissistic, as well as others. Dr. Ramani's videos, serve as a wonderful tool for this.
Oh yes. And the Toxic Positivity culture also promotes this attitude of only seeing the best in people/situations/circumstances, etc. BAD bad way to think in this world.
Yes. This happens often in my country: women are offered a job overseas and they dissapear with no trace. I know first hand an experience of a family who lured a woman with too many kids to give them the small daughter for them to rise and she being so „desperate“ agreed. The girl was the home servant until they kicked her off… be careful
No, I always mistrust men. Look what's going on in the world since centuries... Why would I trust men from the beginning? A guy has to prove first that I can trust him. If he is really interested in you, he will show true affection, all other crap will jump off and that's good!
it's not naiveness. it's stupidity. stupidity pays.
Wow, my dear Anna! This video was spot on:) I have been a victim of love bombing despite being a smart successful independent women. There are many toxic malignant men out there and what I learnt from my experience is to never be desperate.
My best friend talked to this guy online for a while, and she had her doubts about him. She showed me parts of the conversation and pictures and immediately alarm bells went of in my head.
I don’t want to get to personal but I’ve had a rough childhood with a very in stable family situation. I was mostly raised by my brother (only 13 years my senior) and he taught me to ALWAYS listen to my intuition, that feeling of dread in my belly when something just didn’t feel right, even though there’s no proof.
Thankfully I listen to his valuable lessons and so did my best friend.
Thank you Anna for highlighting the red flags, because if you don’t know any people that are potentially dark triad, you won’t recognize them. These ladies were very deliberately targeted.
I wish you all the best in life, never ignore your gut ❤️
Good advice!
Looking at his Instagram profile, I would question why there are no other people in his pictures! No family? No friends? Just him and all the luxury things. This would tell me he either photoshopped all the luxury in or he is not a nice person because he had no friends!
But not everyone wants to expose their family or friends in social media .
Someone who's flashy is always a red flag to me, it gives me a toxic impression that they're narcissistic and self-centered.
When he wrote her at the beginning: im leaving tommorow.come to my hotel...and She went 🤦i was like:C'mon girl,you Are not escort!🤦
Being in a hotel doesn’t mean being an escort.
escort for free
@@BlondeQtie oh come on obviously not but in this context she was without even the pay. Babe when a man asks you to go to a hotel with him, he doesn’t want to play card games, it’s implied he wants or expects sex and that should be the message.
@@lunarosa321 Men usually always want sex, especially on dates. It doesn’t matter if you meet him for coffee or in a hotel, he usually wants sex. It doesn’t mean you have to have sex though.
That's why I believe they are not the Victims!
I have been married for 18 years, but all young ladies should be educated on this topic. Thankfully they lost money not there lives. Great video Anna this could actually save a young life. 🥂💕
I’m so glad you did a video on this documentary! I watched it and he was completely ruthless! Those ladies that were the victims seemed so lovely, but that is why he targeted them and sadly they did not see the warning signs. In my opinion, when faced with a person like this, you need a strong sense of self, authenticity and trust your gut instincts! Thank you Anna!
Well, the good thing about being from South America is that, if a random guy asks me, without even knowing me in person, to travel with him to another country, I would think that he wanted to kidnap me for prostitution. Sad but true; many women here suffered this and it's extremely heartbreaking. So, I wouldn't trust at all, my safety comes first.
I'm from South America too and I was thinking the same. We are way more cautious, cause we need it.
I thankfully wasn't conned out of money, but my ex lied about his identity, his job, his age, the fact that he was married, even lied saying his mom had cancer. It's so easy to judge other women who have experienced these people/relationships if you haven't been through it yourself. It's scary what we go through when we're uneducated about these red flags and we women have been taught that our needs/boundaries are less important than others'. I'm thankful that I got to learn from this extremely painful lesson without being physically harmed or drained of all my money. Ladies, you matter, your boundaries matter, and your needs matter, don't ever forget that.
How shocking! He is simply a career criminal according to what I have seen online. These sorts of people make me quite angry because someone I know was ensnared by such a fellow many years ago. That young lady's health never really recovered. I think that you have made some very important points, Miss Bey. Too much, too soon in a friendship is a warning. Being asked to lend money is ridiculous. People of substance always have access to resources. They have friends and family, too. Private jets, helicopters, and yachts may be hired quite easily. One red flag that I think is very important is if a lady is never introduced to family or friends. Meeting someone in their genuine context gives one some indication of the person's character.
I was wondering about the families and friends too.
@@Qzm0 Exactly so. Not meeting someone's family or friends is a concern - is the person hiding something? Of course, meeting parents is a serious step but at least after a few weeks to meet a sibling or a cousin and may be close friends. Hopefully, courting leads to marriage and one does not get married in a vacuum. I'm too old-fashioned. Haha.
100% agree on your red flag. It's the only big one I felt was missing from Anna's list, but also I think her list is more about early red flags/1st date. Ladies need to make sure they are being introduced not just to a man's friends but to significant people in his family (when the time is appropriate) like his mom, sister, or grandmother. If he's not, he very well could be married and at the very least isn't taking the lady seriously. Even meeting male relatives, sometimes they don't care what sort of games their nephew/cousin/whatever is playing with women.
I’m sorry meeting their family doesn’t mean anything as the saying goes the Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
@@sranyak Why do you begin with an apology. If that is your opinion, that is fine. I have a different opinion. That is all.
Just one quote : "Too good to be true" 😁 Happy Valentine's day all
The profile pics in Instagram are revolting to me. The wealthy men I have know would never advertise their wealth in photos or conversation. They were very guarded and discreet. I would be extremely suspicious of this type of man
Most women would be. Wealthy people don't show off like that
My heart went out to those ladies in the documentary especially when they received such horrible comments and insults online. They were the victims! I loved the lady at the end who sold all his flashy clothes and was giggling about it 😂
I was so happy that she finessed him right back.
Me too, Ayleen (I think that was her name) was such a boss! But I hope she is being safe, since she had been beaten up before ☹️
Apparently he hired men to beat her up severely afterwards… :/
@@bodnarova05 she was actually a victim of assault and beaten badly prior to meeting Simon. Completely unrelated. And he used that fear, which made her even more afraid of Simons “enemies” he never hired anybody to assault her. He just financially exploited her.
@@VeeLondon1449 that’s sad. And makes sense why she had such low self esteem and vulnerability
Thank you for this! i was waiting for your insight on this!
Some stuff I noticed about red flags ,
1. Bragger
2. Broken accent (Pernilla had an accent ,but her english is more fluent)
3.Take more than a month to actually know a person
4. He asks for big amounts of money too soon.
5. Moving in too quickly
Thank you Anna for your commitment in educating women on how to level-up, and what that really looks like and what it does not!
Anna, you're really respectful of the victims, and I think that truly shows how well you know your proteges and how well you understand the subtleties and nuances of relationships where there is a power imbalance, whether that be financial or emotional.
Self awareness is the best education a woman can obtain.This video was delivered right on time. Thank you, Anna.🥰
This is why Anna drives home the importance of securing a good therapist. They can truly help one suss out the men who are good or bad for us, especially if we become attached too quickly.
I’ve not seen the documentary yet but I will just say this. Women need to take responsibility for themselves and their own boundaries, our culture today infantilises women into these little victims who can’t stand up for themselves and I hate it. I have a few friends who have given men money and it never ends well but I don’t get mad with them I get mad with my friends who willingly give men sex and money then complain that the outcome is not what they want. Keep your boundaries and standards high ladies!!!
If someone that rich asking you money; first question in your mind should be ;” doesn’t he have a rich friend or family member to borrow some money? why me?” Like Anna says; because of desperation.Loneliness is a big issue in today’s world.
Always watch out for red flags. For me, If It's Too Good To Be True...beware! Ladies, never let our hearts rule over our heads. Thank you Anna!
and the fact that he asked these women money. My first thought is that if he's so well established, he must have some family and friends in the same circle with same lifestyle that it should be easy for him to ask money from them and not the woman he just met
I can't agree more and I really want your advice my dear Anna. It's very sad when society sets these standards through social media, television and movies...
And you think the standards will change? LOL women are still going to look and flirt with the good looking cute guys while the good ones who might look not that extraordinary are left out of it. Not surprising why MGOTW is relevant now.
@@neo5973 Well I was not thinking about this... I was talking about toxic relationships. And in case you don't know there are guys who are good looking and great personalities at the same time. Of course a good looking woman will want a good looking man. We work hard to upgrade our appearance and we don't want someone looking and acting weird to embarrass us in public. This is just common sense.
Just don't listen to them
@@neo5973 Do you flirt with ugly girls or those who hold their own
@@soniakal7751 it's not common sense. That's why this happened in the first place and will continue to happen and no I'm not victim blaming
I just love love everything about u and ur channel! You genuinely care about women and have compassion.
Nowadays it seems like 98% of the ppl on Tinder are scammer or just for hook up. This kind of IG profile is definitely a big big red flag! Most people with money in real life carefully hide their wealth and access. They don't tend to show off like that for obvious reasons.
Thank you for making this video.
When I was watching the show, I kept on thinking, wow! These ladies need to get some classes from Anna. 🤭
Me too!
Gold diggers hahahaha
Me top hahahagah
Please don‘t fall into misogynistic mindsets here
Looks like he was the one who had classes 😂 I guess this is the male version of marrying rich
THANK YOU for speaking on the disadvantages of hookup culture for women
There’s are zero benefits to hookup culture for women, it’s all bad
His profile was a red flag to me not just because he was showing off, but it was only of him. Not him with other people (friends, family, etc.), although I did see one picture with his bodyguard. That ties in with your first point about being a narcissist. Cecilie slept with him on the first date, which also shows desperation. The biggest red flag of all for me was when he asked to borrow money. Even if what he was telling these women was true (about his life being in danger), he didn't have friends or family that he could have borrowed money from instead of someone he was only seeing for a few weeks? What about his rich father that he was supposed to have? All in all I did feel sorry for these women, but you're right in that it could have all been avoided.
Can we just take a second to appreciate this editing. Your videos have come so far
Anna is our guiding light through the darkness of this dating climate❤️🤣🤣🤣It actually really takes a lot of strength to stay true to yourself/your principles. I see almost all my friends settling for less…
I don’t know if my answer is completely biased, considering I’ve seen the consequences but I usually don’t go with flashy and snobby men who are too much into pictures and posting on social media. This just doesn’t seem like my type. So I think I would have passed
I think this should be taught in schools, universities and online campaigns because it is more common than what is reported.
I love you Anna Bey! I have not watched your videos for six months due to a bereavement, but I am back and I really missed your videos. You make me feel normal. People with low standards and no self respect leave me feeling like I am a snob for taking good care of myself. Then I watch your video and I realise there are others out there who have good, solid standards and are loaded with uncompromising self respect. Thank you Anna! x
This is such an important video. As someone who has been through a toxic relationship with a narcissistic man, I really feel that people(in this case, especially women) should have a complete armoury of knowledge about these traits so as to be able to identify them easily and not fall prey to such kind of people.
I was hit on by a romance scammer on Facebook. He sounded too good to be true! I blocked him. This is good information Anna.
If I saw a similar bio I don't think I'd date a guy like that either. He doesn't seem to have a lot of friends in his pictures. Every picture seems to be showing him doing some amazing thing instead of just regular every day stuff. His 'showiness' can be kind of scary if you value security, since this kind of flashiness can attract thieves and burglars.
That is a massive red flag
I don't consider not a lot of friends in his pictures a red flag. If this was the case Ana Bey pictures would also be considered a red flag.
The amount of narcissist preying online is really insane! Brutal... Social media is becoming so dangerous, so many lies, con artist etc. All preying on nice empathic people. Good video Anna and thanx for the Netflix tip ;-)
I absolutely loved this video! Thank God I have been in a beautiful and healthy relationship for the last 5 years so I've been out of the market lol, but it's really necessary to teach women to empower themselves and not to rely on any man, especially not trusting too much, it's always better to be too careful than reckless. Stay strong, ladies!
I’m also shocked that after being on the news he still got a model girlfriend after prison. I guess she doesn’t care as long as he never asks her for a penny. It also sickens me that not only as he a alleged thief he asked her to ask her house or car. he gets worse and worse
Thank you so much Anna and all of the ladies commenting and reassuring these red flags. I really needed this right now.
Anyone can be a victim, but some people make easy victims. Bad guys always look for the easy victim.
The lady who told the story of The Tinder Swindler agreed to meet a stranger without any preliminary chit chat. Most don't do that. She agreed to get leave the country with a man she met an hour before. Most don't do that. She supposed someone who is wealthy must be "safe". Her friends kept warning her that he might be wealthy, but there were signs he might not be "safe". A friend even told her his family was likely connect to all the wrong people. She choose to stay in the relationship, regardless of the warnings of her friends.
I don't want to victim blame, but some people make better victims that other people.
I was concerned for her too. She could have been trafficked.
Shout out to those ladies. I'm so proud of them that they came out to the world about this even with the risk of appearing stupid. It takes bravery and strong mindset. This is such a huge lesson for all the other ladies AROUND the world. This documentary shows how easily anyone can take advantage of your good nature and how easy it is to fake everything.
This is such an important topic! I deeply believe that a major part of the journey of "leveling up" in life- and in patriarchal society- is knowing and understanding that 1) You have inherent value as a human being, 2) Trusting your feminine intuition and 3) Not allowing anyone to shame you out of trusting and protecting yourself. Self-respect and self-love can powerfully change the way a woman carries herself- and the types of people she attracts into her atmosphere. I would also like to mention that RUclips, of course, has a whole fantastic community that is dedicated to helping people identify, escape and recover from narcissistic abuse and trauma bonding that I have found personally beneficial, so hopefully others reading this might also benefit. Best wishes to everyone out there and please never be ashamed- or make anyone else feel ashamed- of realizing a mistake. After all, the shame would have been remaining blind to it and never learning or growing. 🌈Onward and Upward!
#2 a woman needs to prepare herself for entering a relationship. If just broke up with someone …take some time to reflect. In General move cautiously. There are really no rules but following your gut and asking yourself questions and being clear what you want.
Have been in a narcissistic relationship and these are the exact signs even you can see in his eyes and feel something is wrong. I was mentally so disturbed and later on found about narcissism and healed myself of the traumas and self-doubt he has given me and now I'm happy I left him.
That's why even Greta Bereisaite say that being HV woman means to not accept any last minute invitation or jump with man the first time before even knowing him better. It seems so simple but the consequences can be so dire like this
So glad you are presenting this subject. It is dangerous to be needy. Most important to look out for "weird" behavior. Don't let dreams become nightmares. Yes, it can be dangerous. You are right, love bombing before things naturally evolve into a genuine, supportive relationships is very suspicious. So glad you are bringing this out to help save women from bad experiences.
Billionaires son’s are not on TInder, they meet people in person, thorugh friends and family, at their family level. If a billionaire guy is on Tinder, he is not looking for something serious…
Exactly. They mix in their own social circles
I watched this documentary last night and love that you made a video on this topic! Education and awareness is so important to stay safe while dating.
Also you look amazing in this simple look. This blue is great on you.
On top of all the red flags she's mentioned, one of the first thing I found off about this guy is the way he talks. All the voice messages that were played really didn't sound anything like a sophisticated, well educated guy that you would expect with his (faked) background information. Maybe I'm being extremely judgmental there, but the guy seemed so incredibly superficial and simple-minded just from the way he spoke. And he calls all the girls "babe" or "baby" ....Dont know,but he lost me right there.
I don't think you are judgmental. My boyfriend said exactly the same thing!
Right. He called them babe and baby to save time.. he was sending them/ reusing the same messages and didn’t want to mix up names !!!
I'm a family person I have siblings and cousins and kids and friends. I didn't see any other person than a body guard. Not even an animal. This was a huge red flag for me.
I once heard that "the male equivalent of twerking is showing off wealth and fake materialistic life"
This is exactly what this guy did. He himself appears to be really desperate but gained leverage because he knows this is exactly what lots of women are looking for in their partner.
Wonderful points, especially listening to minute 14:00 on. (Anna has this type figured out!) No one likes a show off, male or female. Additionally, it is quite important to take as much time as needed-no rush, when dating and...choose wisely.😉✨
It's incredible ! I just watched this report a few days ago and I had noted to send a message to Anna Bey, convinced that she could make a video to help us avoid this kind of misadventure! Well I didn't have time to send my request!!! Anna has already reacted Thank you!!!!
Probably the most important video you ever made! It can literally save a life, because even worse things can happen to women if they get conned
Wow! I just watched it like 2 hours ago and was sorta really disappointed and scared but I’m glad you’re talking about it. Sorta comforting. Especially from you.
Mrs. Anna..i thankyou for your content..your love and your wisdom and concern
Very greatful
I am working now with a family, where the head of the family is abusive narcissist. And he was running a pharmacy his whole life, his also abusive and manipulative daughter runs this pharmacy now for him - they create a fasade of smiles and positive look for the public. I know the stuff behind closed doors and it is very dark.
Do tell more!
spill the tea
I love this woman and her commitment to help us ladies out on multiple levels. Thank you Anna, you are a true inspiration to me and so many others!
One of your most important videos, Anna, in my opinion. Thank you for spreading the word, we have to watch out for each other. ❤
If I see a man taking this many selfies, first, it gives an instant signal that he is narcisistic and in love with himself. Second, I always assume that he is gay 🤷♀️
Omg I was about to ask you to make a video on this!
Can you please do a video about Inventing Anna, the Netflix series about Anna Delvey?
Thank you dear Anna for making this video, it is a really important video it the era of modern online dating to open the eyes of all the women who do not have any kind of experience of these types of lowlife... Thank you for educating people for the good, the bad and the ugly.
Thank you so much Anna for sharing this. Like you said, even though recognizing some of the red flags should come across as obvious or common sense, that's not the case for some people unfortunately. I agree with you that raising awareness and educating ourselves about toxic personality types that we should steer clear of is definitely useful.
Best advice I got - if someone you love or care about is asking you for financial help, feel free to give the money but just have this talk with yourself - “IF I do not ever get this money back from the borrower, for genuine reasons (eg they had an accident, they died, they got even worse financially and just cannot pay you back although they are ashamed of it) , then am I OK with the financial loss?”
This has helped me time and time again!
LOVE YOU Anna!! I dream of someday having coffee with you.
I ve been following you for a very long time, and learned a lot from you. You feel like a friend to me, and I'm sure to a lot of ladies who follow your channel. Thanks for your empowering advice. Wishing you continuous success!
Never give a man money EVER. Also don’t be so quick to trust people especially if they are heavily putting on the charm and you don’t know them. I know us W fall in love with our ears but we need to fall in love with our eyes and watch out for specific behaviors. Trust your God given instincts if it feels wrong it’s usually not right. And traveling with M and doing dates in a home setting when you don’t know these M is a huge NO. Public dates only. They are lucky they are still alive and the only thing that was taken was money. Money can be replaced but your life cannot. Ladies stop putting yourself in bad situations.
Exactly. Never meet a man for the first time st his home or your home. That is not a date
You're right, genuinely wealthy men don't show off on social media. They're very careful in letting people know that they're rich. They're careful as well! Predatory women exist too. Excellent evaluation and a compassionate one. Most of us have felt desperate and compromised their values in different situations!
Ummm have you even heard of Dan Bilzerian
Dear Anna-this story is new to me. Thank you for doing a video on this concept. Everything that you have said was an imported education for that which I am grateful. I feel sad for those women.
I’m so happy that people and exactly you start to talk about this. As I domestic violence survivor Thank you ❤️