I too am a stay at home mom (and make videos, mini plug!) and I think it's such a privilege to offer our children our time. You are so fortunate to be able to give that to Addison. I think that if you have the choice and don't require double income to support the family, and you can find happiness in your role as a mother than do it! It's exhausting, but oh so rewarding! My life is ALL about routine, now with 2 kids, it's the only way to survive. Do you have Mommy groups in your area? I find it really helps keep me sane, and keep my kids active…aka tired ;)
Another thing I wanted to mention is that I totally agree about making time for yourself. I went to my mommy & me class yesterday and the organizer asked a girl how she had time to get her toes done, and that mommas don't have time for things like that! And then there's me with my bright purple, perfectly painted finger tips getting curious looks like I don't prioritize correctly. I wear makeup because it makes me feel good. I'm totally down with women not, that's not a problem, but I'm a little bummed with negativity because I enjoy keeping up with beauty stuff. The moral of the story, absolutely do what you enjoy with your time. Totally agree.
I've been watching u for years but I've slacked off for the past 8 months and this is the first time I see you in a long time and I STILL LOVE YOU AS VLOGGER! I'm happy for u :)
My little girl is 5 months old and we made the same decision! I don't plan on going back to work until after kids are in school. It has been such an amazing experience. My husband comes home for lunch everyday too, and he plays with Annabelle while I get to cook - and I love it. I wouldn't change a thing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I may have to do this type of video sharing my experiences down the road. Xo
Good for you! I was home with my kids for 15 years (they are 24 and 22 now) and it is still the most important thing I have ever done with my time and talents.
We recently moved and having no family nearby to watch my 15 month old daughter, I became a stay at home mom. It has been very hard at first and kinda put me in a funk because I too loved my job. Your tips and words of wisdom were such an inspiration to me and I will truly take them to heart. Thank you!!!
I love your thoughts on being good to yourself. This is a lesson my mom taught me long long ago. She is now 89 years old, in great health but pretty much home-bound as she no longer drives, and yet on a daily basis, you can find her perched in her chair, sporting her comfy sweat pants and cute shirt, and wearing some of her very best jewelry! She may not see many people throughout the day, yet she does this for herself! She enjoys it. It makes her feel good. I think this is a great lesson for you to pass down to your sweet girl :)
I'm just about to become a stay at home mum (I'm 36 and a half weeks pregnant) and I found this really helpful. I am definitely in the same mindset as you that staying at home is just right for me and my husband. Great tips! Xxx
I swear that this could have been my own video. I couldn't agree more about everything! Even when they might make us nuts sometimes, we are so lucky to be able to watch our kids grow up. :)
I think that it's amazing that you have the opportunity to stay home with your daughter. Not every mother has that option and I truly feel that it is so important for a new mother to be there for the first years! Kuddos to you!
I have a question and I hope it's not too deep. I am wondering what it's like once you decide to stay at home, not having your own money to spend? Although most marriages have joint accounts, mortgages, etc, I always have that plague my mind. Is he going to tell that I spent $300 at target and then went to sephora twice this month. Did you find you had to curb spending or is it the same for you now. Thanks for the super cute and honest video! :)
I agree...I'm a stay at home mom and now that I don't make an income I feel like I'm not "allowed" to spend money on myself. Not that my husband has ever said that. I just feel that way.
wambi10 Me too. I shopped at Sephora last week and have been feeling bad about it since. He hasn't said a word and for all I know it's no big deal, but I feel like now that I'm a stay at home mom I should discuss spending. Ugh.
She makes money from RUclips as well. I'm sure it's not as much as what she was making in a full-time job, but she probably uses the RUclips money to buy "her" stuff. Also as a StellandDot sales person she gets "credits" every time someone buys from her store so she uses those credits to purchase the jewelry she wears. I'm not saying she relies 100% on this method of making money but I'm sure it helps alleviate some of that stress.
Good advice Michele! I'm in a similar situation as you, graduated, had a successful career and I decided to stay home. Best decision ever but it did take me a lot of time to get used to!
I enjoyed this video. I made the choice to continue working full time and I think having a daycare or caretaker you really like is key. Our daycare has live feed cameras so it makes me feel more comfortable that I can login and see her whenever I want. I've been struggling with my choice to work. So much so that I doubt myself constantly. However, I feel I would have the same guilt if I stayed at home…like what if my husband was laid off or something else were to happen. I guess the bottom line is that I would have guilt either way--- and that no way is best, it's just what's best for your family and your situation. Working and staying home are both hard in unique ways (and also in some of the same ways). To all of the moms worried about "missing firsts" we are so lucky we never have---not one milestone. I sometimes wonder if it's God's little way of playing it all out that she's always done her firsts when we were present…I hope so :) anyway, I liked your video and the bottom line is that we all need to support eachother because every family needs to make a choice that is best for them. One more thing that I want to mention is that I see how much my baby girl is thriving and what a joyful baby she is…and that makes me feel so good. It does help take some of the guilt away when I see the little girl she's becoming.
Michele, that was so amazing to hear! I also chose to be a SAHM when my daughter was born 14 years ago and I've never regretted doing so. It was definitely hard going from 2 salaries to 1 but we made sacrifices and made it work. Thank you for sharing!
I made the same decision 12 years ago to be a stay-at-home mommy. I now have two boys, ages 12 and 6. I have NEVER regretted the decision once! So lovely to see how happy you are in the mommy role :)
I love that you did this video Michele! You took the words right out of my mouth on a number of things. I am also home with my girls, although I do mortgages, so work from home. I also put makeup/jewels on even if we are just going on a walk. You need to feel like you are still part of the world, and at time being home can be incredibly isolating.
Thank you so much for this video. I recently gave up my career that I enjoyed to stay at home with my little girl who's 5 months old now, and you articulated my thoughts and feelings about staying home perfectly.
Really interesting video. I have faced a lot of criticism from some for going back to work - one person told me I shouldn't have had a child if I wasn't prepared to look after him! Unfortunately I don't have a choice as I am the main earner in our house so to look after my baby I have to work. I worry all the time I'll miss "firsts". Anyway thank you for acknowledging how lucky your are for being able to make a choice.
I feel for you....its definitely a hot topic and one that people feel completely ok with giving their opinion on-even harsh ones like you received. To be honest, I was a little hesitant to post this video because of it. People are so easily judgmental - especially of those whom they don't even know or understand their situation. Ignore the ignorant people....you do what is best for you and your family. And think of the kind of role model you are for your children by working AND being a Mommy. I give you a TON of credit...its a lot of work!
Great tips! I stayed home with all of mine. They are grown and married now and I wouldn't trade the time for anything! We had so much fun! They grow up in a flash and you can't go back. So happy for you and I promise you will never regret staying home!
Greast video and you definately made the right choice! In Bulgaria where I leave we have a paid maternity leave from work (they keep your work place for that time) up to 3 years (the first year is the best because you get 90% from you salary, then the 2d and 3d are really less money), but many moms stay at home at least 2 years, if not 3 here. I am expecting a baby girl too this August and I plan on staying home for maybe 2 years, who knows... :)
Thank you for addressing the hard parts! I'm a stay at home mom to a 7 month old little boy and I love it but sometimes its hard and lonely. It's nice to be reminded that your not alone!
LOL i feel the same way about makeup and getting ready everyday. I feel SO much more motivated and awake and alive when i get ready. Even though Im a busy mom of 2… i prefer to get ready everyday. I had to explain myself in my vlogs about bringing makeup to the hospital :)
Thanks for sharing your experience. This could have been my story! I left a job that that I loved with incredible pay and benefits, and the transition was harder than I expected. I knew that I wouldn't be able to do both well. I chose to stay home and each day I am happier with my decision.
Oh Michelle, this video could not have come at a better time. I'm 7mos pregnant and have been talking with my husband quite a bit about what we should do once the baby is born. Like you and Nick, both of our mothers stayed home with us and we both enjoyed that very much. I guess the only hesitation for me is that I've been working since I was 17 and can't imagine what it would be like to not go into work every day. You are absolutely right, though...staying at home IS work. I used to work at a preschool (and loved it!) and I felt sad for the children who would see me more than their own family. I guess when it comes down to it, it is a personal decision and you just have to do what's best for you and your family. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!
I'm a stay at home mama too, with baby #2 on the way, and while I feel very blessed that we are financially able to have me be with our babies for their first years, it IS exhausting and trying and frustrating at times. I don't have any family here and we haven't had a date night at all since our son was born. It's starting to take a toll on me, I just feel drained. So we've been looking into babysitters more and I've gotten closer to our neighbor who adores our little guy. So I hope things will get more fun again once I get more time to myself and with just my husband, especially since soon there will be a second kid demanding my attention. I think it's so important to be open about the not so glamorous moments and days as well as the wonderful ones. It's not puppies and unicorns every day, but at the end it's so worth it to me. Loved this video :)
I'm a stay at home mom too & I love it. This is something that I've always wanted to do. I don't miss working AT ALL (well my last job that is). I love being able to watch my two boys grow up and be there for just about everything (school functions, outings, etc). It's true about having time to yourself. Mine is my workouts. It's my time to focus on me and help improve myself. Plus I look at it as a way to keep up with my very active two boys.
I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years and had to make the same choices. I love the decision my husband and I made and never looked back. We are a very close and bonded family and I love it!:)
Very well said! Classy as always. I love being at home with my babies. We make sacrifices and it is hard/lonely sometimes but they truly do grow so fast. I didn't want to miss a thing either!
that video was godsend to me! we just moved here from the uk with a 1 1/2 year old baby. we are all alone. no friends and no family. i just had an emotional break down on sunday about me being all day with the baby and not working and how tired i am. and that i want time for me and all that. you are so right about everything.
Great video, Michelle. I had planned to go back to work after I had my baby lady July and I just looked at her one day (I think it was during a middle of the night feeding, Lol) and I just thought that there's no way I could leave her with anyone. I love being home with her and yes there are days when I just need to go to the grocery store by myself or wash dishes without little hands climbing up me but in the end, I don't want to miss this time with her because it does go by so so quickly. And happy belated birthday to Addison!!
The decision to stay home was easy for me because I didn't have a job or career I loved. The best thing I found was a community of moms who share similar parenting styles and have kiddos the same age. We have weekly playdates and a Facebook group where we can chat and ask questions. I love to think that my daughter has potentially made some lifelong friends :)
Thanks for sharing your experience so far :) I've been a stay at home mother for nearly 8 years now (four children ages ranging from 12 to 2.5) and I've loved it so far. I agree about taking time for yourself, things like going for a walk or taking a bath are important :)
Your so right!! I have a 7yr old and one on the way. I do everything for her and nothing for myself. Sometimes I lose myself. Thanks for the great video!
Good for you Michelle! I wish every day that I was home with my two year old and it is indeed a privilege to be a stay-at-home mama. Hang in there and keep on being happy!
Very wise words Michele. My oldest is now 15 and I have a 5 year old as well and left a career when I had them and haven't regretted it for a minute. I want to pull my hair out sometimes, and look for a quiet place where nobody knows my name lol. But its been so worth it. Loved hearing your thoughts. xo Linda
My mom was a stay at home mom because she ran a daycare in our house so she could watch us grow up but still had some work it was really nice and i support your situation!
Loved this video!!!!! You read my mind with everything you said, I'm finding organizing my time at home difficult, but I feel motivated after watching this, thank you
Thank you for making this video! I am currently 20 weeks pregnant and let go of my DJ business because of the smoky atmospheres. It was very hard to give up the financial aspect of it and to also have that time out of the home. I'm glad I'm not the only who feels lonely at times. I know when the baby gets here I will be a bit busier and I am thankful that my husband is able to support us and that I can make a little extra cash from home. It's nice to hear the perspective of a stay at home mom. I think I definitely made the right decision. :)
I am stay home mom for 16 years since my eldest daughter was born. I have 2 girls now 16 and 12. I am still lucky and bless to stay at home and do home school with them. I will never change anything. I also put makeup on in the morning to start my day. Since my kids are older we can have conversations and it makes our relationship closer.
I'm a SAHM and I always worry about getting a job once my daughter is old enough for school. I'm glad to hear your comment on it, it makes me feel better and less stressed out. I am so thankful that my husband is supportive because I wouldn't want to miss out on all the "firsts". Time does go by super fast!
tell me about it! And though you may not find a job that you love 100%, I don't think you will regret staying home and having a so so job later in life, I know I won't! The trade off is priceless.
I was a stay home mommy until my son started Kindergarten and I am a floral designer part time while he's in school (now in 3rd grade)...I wouldn't trade any if the sacrifices I had to make bc it was the best decision we ever made! They grow too fast and I am blessed to have a supportive husband!
Im a 24 yo dental student (last year in dental school) and I really want to be a mom some day. As much as I would love the idea of staying home and taking care of my kids, sometimes I think it won't be possible with the job I will have. I mean, all this hard work, all the stress before exams, so much knowledge to put into your brain during this difficult studies - will I be able to put it all away, just like that? Dentists need practice, too. One year out of the working enviroment may feel like being dead for 5 years. What do you think? Any opinions?
I'm in college to become a nurse and i have had the exact same thought process! i have always wanted to be a stay at home mom because my mom was and i'm unsure about day care. BUT i also love the field of nursing. It gives me energy and confidence and i feel great about myself when practicing my (future) nursing skills.. not to mention all the hard work and dedication i have put towards it! For me personally, i need to put my energy towards work. My plan is to work part time once I have kids. Granted i don't have any kids yet and things can ALWAYS change! Based on what you just said, it seems like you have a strong work ethic and it seems like you might be the same way as i am. Part time work might be an option for you as a dentist ..but I think time is the only thing that will give us both the right answer. :)
Just came across your channel. I can totally relate to everything you talked about. I'm a stay at home mom too with an 11 month old. I tried to work from home the first few months but it made me guilty because a lot of time I felt like my son is on the way and that's just wrong, so I had to quit and now I love to be able to enjoy all of his milestones and take care of my family. I have to do my makeup and hair while he naps in the morning too because that motivates me to get out of the house, run some errands and just take him out for some fresh air. Same goes to the to-do lists, more productive when I make a list for the day. I would love to see you do more videos like this. :)
I am 57 years old with 3 grown children. About a year ago , I would have thought been there and done that and loved it. But our oldest daughter , who has wanted a child forever finally was able to adopt a baby. I now babysit her at least 3 days a week. And this may sound silly , but I am so glad I watched this video, because it reminded me of how I should handle each day with this precious gift we have been given. So thank you for this video, it even helped old chicks like me. !!!! And yes I do put a necklace, earrings and makeup on each day, because it makes ME feel better lol
Wow! I found this so helpful. My husband and I recently moved to a new city with our nine month old. I have found it so hard to make new friends that are stay at home moms. I agree with everything you said - her nap time is when I put on make up and get dressed and take time for myself :) the biggest challenge has been finding someone we trust to babysit for date nights. Even just hearing that someone else can get into a funk makes me feel better! I also agree with leaving the house once a day and the to do lists. I love this video and hope you make more! :)
I am a stay at home mom and I completely LOVE it. I have found that sometimes I do get in that funk that you are talking about though! It can definitely be tough at times! I am now learning to spend more time on myself and not feeling bad for having alone time with my husband. It took me about five months for me to even feel comfortable leaving my son to just go to dinner. But now I realize how important that time with my husband and the time for myself really is!! Thank you for your tips. I love your videos. (:
Jo Harris, I don't share your view. My 2 children are grown and I would have given anything to have been able to stay home with them when they were little but I couldn't. Michele is well aware of how lucky she is and isn't trying to make anyone feel bad. She is addressing the many SAHMs and the special issues that come with that. I love this video! Thanks for posting, Michele.
"Why do you put makeup on, you're just here at home!" Made me lol! When my now 5yr old was a newborn I had the hugest meltdown with my Hubby because he said the exact thing to me. Now he gets it! Haha! It genuinely just makes you feel good about yourself. It's nice to feel pretty, even if you're in yoga pants all day! I've been fortunate enough to be home with my Hopeybear for these entire 5 years and I would not trade it for the world!! Keep being an awesome Mommy! Thanks for sharing!
This is an amazing video. I have a two year old and I'm ready to go back to work now. I had the best time with her at home, though. Good on you for making such a well suited decision. I know it's not easy!
I took my first daughter to work w me everyday including travels worldwide for 3 years and with the second my we decided I'd stay at home, largely due to the fact that she would not take a bottle of pumped milk and I am adamant about breastfeeding. It was a hard adjustment to leave my wold behind, but I completely agree, she will only be a baby for a short time and I couldn't miss it! So happy to be able to take care of my girls and YES the support & love of my husband is a HUGE blessing!
I love this video. I just decided to stay home with my 2 little ones and I agree and feel the same way you do about putting on make up and putting on jewelry. I also make to do list as well. It's nice to know I'm not alone in the stay at home with your kids world. I look forward to your next video.
I've been watching your videos for ages and only comment every so often but I wanted to say I loved this. I'm not a mom and honestly don't want kids (finished my grad program last year, love my job, and don't see kids in the equation) but I loved hearing your story. A woman's decision to have or not have kids and how to raise them is very personal, and sadly I don't think women can make any decisions about it without criticism & having other peoples' expectations put on them. People have been asking me about kids and I know when I get married (couple more weeks!!) more people are going to insist I'll change my mind. I'm the daughter of a SAHM who still works incredibly hard caring for my siblings and I just know it's not the life for me, but my mom gave me the world by being there. Your little girl won't realize it at first, but she'll love you and appreciate you for it one day. Tl;dr, thanks for sharing your perspective from a non-mom :)
Thanks for doing this video. I have a little girl who has just turned 1, I work part time, 3 days a week. Would love to be a stay at home mummy but need my income to pay bills and the mortgage, it's great that you have the financial freedom to choose and I totally agree that they are only little for such a short time and it goes so quickly. I appreciate every day with my little one knowing that she's growing so fast and try to enjoy every stage as she's doing new things all the time now xx
Thank you soo much! I've been working full time for years and We are planning on starting a family this fall. I too have been thinking about staying at home! 😁 Thank you so much for your advise ..
For 3 years I've been a stay at home mom and now that I'm ready to start working again its hard to get employed because alot of jobs now are looking for recent work history and its been 3 yrs of no work. So its harder for me to get work unless I start from the bottom up. But I wouldn't change anything. My kids are my everything. Good luck to you.
you are such a down to earth women and you should be very proud of yourself. my 1st two children who are now in there 20s i had no choice but go back to work but my youngest who is 8 we decided that i wouldnt go back till she went school and it was the best desicion we made. i missed so much on my other 2 but i never missed a thing with my youngest.
Great video!! I have been a stay at home mom and now I have a home based business. It is a wonderful blessing to be able to stay at home in these times, and I have loved it!! MOPS and other mom groups really helped me get adult interaction to keep me out of frumpy mommy mode ;)
Thank you so much for this video! I am pregnant with twins right now! I hadn't planned on staying at home, but with the cost of daycare in our area (we live in the suburb of a big city so it is more expensive) I would be working just to pay the daycare. Part time isn't an option with my job either and my husband's schedule changes constantley so it would be hard to me to get a job around his schedule. I appreciate the tips for adjusting to being at home. It is also nice to get some reassurance that when the time is right there will be a job for me out there. Many people just keep telling me how hard it will be for me to rejoin the workforce, which I intend to do when they get older, which has had me a little stressed about the whole thing.
Michele i really hope u see this, I just really connected with u!! Im a 30 yr old at home Mom of 4 kids, my husband & I made the decision that i stay home! Ive been home with all my kids Since i had my first at 17.. Its been a tough road but being with my hubby since i was 17 & having his help & him back me on the decision to stay home has been the best for us as a family & most important our kids!! I do get sad & feel down on myself sometimes & getting into makeup really helped mr feel better & its something i can do at home & for myself!! I totally related to everything u said & i could go on & on abt this, LOL but wanted to say THANK U for doing this vid, loved it!!! and would love to see more of these type of vids!!! Thanks again Hun, Much love ~AMANDA~ from NH XoXo
I think this also applies to people who work at home like I do. I started 6 yrs ago, new work set up, new home. My children was a lot smaller then but now one is in middle school and the other 4th. But yes I think fixing yourself and doing stuff outside of home is very important, but there are days that you just feel very isolated and alone :( But just need a kick in the butt and self motivating conversation with yourself helps too. You were my first RUclips subscription and I have to say that you brighten up some of those days when I started questioning why do I have to wear make up when I'm just at home!
Love this video Michele! I don't have kids yet, but my fiancé and I know when we do the plan is for me to stay at home. I have always wanted to be a mom, I could relate to you a lot in this video! Can you talk more about the financial side of how you made things work, maybe how you adjusted your budgeting and any tips? Thanks!
I went back to work when my son was 2.5. At the time, being a SAHM wasn't for me and I missed working. I have to say it was the biggest mistake I have ever made! It led to some really, really bad series of events. After I left that job, I found Stella & Dot and that has become the perfect balance of being a SAHM and "working". Loved this video Michele! Are you going to Hoopla this year? I would love to meet you. xoxo
Thank you very much for sharing. I was wondering how you felt about your decision to be a stay at home mom. I am happy that you are satisfied and fulfilled.
I really do appreciate this video...I am a SAHM as well...and sometimes I just feel like I'm not doing anything productive...I get down because I feel as though I'm not accomplishing anything just because I'm not bringing home a paycheck, or because I don't go somewhere outside of the home for 8 hrs a day. Then I stop at the end of the day and think of all of the things I've done, all of the fun I've had with my little girl, and see how well she's doing, and it makes it all worth it. I do feel that I constantly have to remind myself that I'm doing something productive--raising and teaching my child. It just feels like society is so down on SAHMs sometimes. I even have friends and neighbors who have children asking me if I'd like to "make a few extra bucks" by watching their children (other women who work outside of the home). It gets me down sometimes. Long story short, I do appreciate this video, and hearing from other SAHMs. It's refreshing and I do feel a sisterhood to other women who have chosen to stay at home with their little ones. :)
This was so informative. :) I'm so happy for you that you're happy and doing well. I definitely agree that a person should always take time for themselves to do whatever they like that energizes them.
I agree with you, Michele. I'm a SAHM of 3. Ages 7, 5, & 3. The way I see it, if I were working outside the house I wouldn't want to look like crap. Why should I look like crap, which makes me feel like crap, just because I stay at home? Right? I refuse to be the mom that drops off the kids at school in PJs & slippers looking a mess. I want my kids to see that taking them to school & picking them up is important enough for me to put on some makeup and look nice. Not only that, I feel way more productive doing so. The other moms frequently compliment me for looking nice. All I do is switch out the cozy pants for maxi skirts, sandals instead of flip flops, my fave Target tanks and maybe a denim vest or jacket. It's not too much to switch out sneakers for boots, sweatshirts for a casual blazer. My mood is instantly better when I don't feel frumpy and my mind thinks, you're dressed & ready to get stuff done.
Michele I love your energy and enthusiasm. I swear your like my role model from the way you dress to the way you see things. I totally want to be like you when I have kids one day. Thank you for such a great video even I, not a mommy yet, enjoyed it.
I think being a stay at home mom is great and if you have the opportunity to do it i say go for it cause its so amazing to have the experience of watching your kid grow up and seeing them crawl for the first time, walk for the first time, talk for the first time, priceless moments you cant get back once their gone but my only thing would be i would feel like im relying on my significant other income and i dont think i would like that very much, im so use to be independent and making my own money that i dont think it would sit well with me having to rely on someone else income and i know your suppose to be in it together and they may not feel that way but thats how i would feel cause id wonder is it getting to be too much them taking care of me our baby and all the expenses, idk if im making any sense but great video michelle
I find that the tip about just dressing up or putting on a necklace to be around the house can be applied to anyone. Whenever I'm in my midterm/finals period, I always try to spend a little bit of time in the morning to either do my hair, lightly do my makeup or paint my nails the night before to allow myself to just relax and not be so stressed out. By doing those little thing, it makes me happy and I feel more confident and less stress walking into my exam. Of course this means I have to prioritize those previous days to study efficiently to be able to take some time off before the exam =P
We have a lot in common, I had a career and we had kids soon after getting married. I stayed home and before you know it they are both grown up. I work part time but even when i can work longer hours i don't feel it's my priority anymore. None of my sisters did what I did, they said the same thing about being bored but staying at home is work too. I put on makeup even if I'm cleaning my house all day. Makeup, shopping is my escape from the hardwork at home. Even my teenage kids know mommy needs alone time. Some moms need to work because they have to but i would stay home again and if our lifestyle allowed it, no regrets.
I have only just seen this video and as a stay at home mum with 2 boys under 5 I would have to say that listening to your entire story and feelings of your new role it felt like de ja vue. Your situation and feelings of your new role are exactly the same as me. It was like we took the same test and answered all the questions the same. Glad to hear that you have taken to being a mummy like a duck to water. Good luck for your family in the future. Love Gin x
Im very blessed n so thankful to my husband , Ive been a stay at home mom n wife, my whole marriage,my son is 23 now , N going to the pumkin farm , n xmas parties, I never missed out n so thaankful my husband didnt either, he has a great job to where he could go n have lunch with his son ,, elementary, jr high, n yes even high school,,im still a stay at home wife n soon to b a grammy:) 42 n loving my life n family.so blessed ♡♥
Great video. I was a stay at home mom of 2 for a few years. Those were the best years I have ever had. Now that I'm back in the working world it's been a challenge. I would give anything to be a stay at home mom again. Enjoy this time :D
Hi Michelle, I am so happy for you & Addison, being a stay at home mom is a very important one indeed! ;) I too was fortunate to have stayed home w/my children & let me tell you I have NO REGRETS whatsoever! :) One has graduated from college and the other is a senior in college, both thriving & doing extremely well in life! Yes you are right when you say that you too must have your own interests & do things away from the kids & also have time spent w/your hubby "date nights are important!" Keep up the great vids, we love you!! Take care!
I too am a stay at home mom (and make videos, mini plug!) and I think it's such a privilege to offer our children our time. You are so fortunate to be able to give that to Addison. I think that if you have the choice and don't require double income to support the family, and you can find happiness in your role as a mother than do it! It's exhausting, but oh so rewarding! My life is ALL about routine, now with 2 kids, it's the only way to survive. Do you have Mommy groups in your area? I find it really helps keep me sane, and keep my kids active…aka tired ;)
I love the aka tired part!
Two of my favorite mommys: Amanda Muse and Michelle :) thanks for your tips!!
Another thing I wanted to mention is that I totally agree about making time for yourself. I went to my mommy & me class yesterday and the organizer asked a girl how she had time to get her toes done, and that mommas don't have time for things like that! And then there's me with my bright purple, perfectly painted finger tips getting curious looks like I don't prioritize correctly. I wear makeup because it makes me feel good. I'm totally down with women not, that's not a problem, but I'm a little bummed with negativity because I enjoy keeping up with beauty stuff. The moral of the story, absolutely do what you enjoy with your time. Totally agree.
I've been watching u for years but I've slacked off for the past 8 months and this is the first time I see you in a long time and I STILL LOVE YOU AS VLOGGER! I'm happy for u :)
My little girl is 5 months old and we made the same decision! I don't plan on going back to work until after kids are in school. It has been such an amazing experience. My husband comes home for lunch everyday too, and he plays with Annabelle while I get to cook - and I love it. I wouldn't change a thing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I may have to do this type of video sharing my experiences down the road. Xo
Good for you! I was home with my kids for 15 years (they are 24 and 22 now) and it is still the most important thing I have ever done with my time and talents.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am so happy it is working out for you!
We recently moved and having no family nearby to watch my 15 month old daughter, I became a stay at home mom. It has been very hard at first and kinda put me in a funk because I too loved my job. Your tips and words of wisdom were such an inspiration to me and I will truly take them to heart. Thank you!!!
I feel the same about getting ready for the day. When I don't get ready I don't feel motivated and I've had those days and I hate them.
I love your thoughts on being good to yourself. This is a lesson my mom taught me long long ago. She is now 89 years old, in great health but pretty much home-bound as she no longer drives, and yet on a daily basis, you can find her perched in her chair, sporting her comfy sweat pants and cute shirt, and wearing some of her very best jewelry! She may not see many people throughout the day, yet she does this for herself! She enjoys it. It makes her feel good. I think this is a great lesson for you to pass down to your sweet girl :)
I'm just about to become a stay at home mum (I'm 36 and a half weeks pregnant) and I found this really helpful. I am definitely in the same mindset as you that staying at home is just right for me and my husband. Great tips! Xxx
I swear that this could have been my own video. I couldn't agree more about everything! Even when they might make us nuts sometimes, we are so lucky to be able to watch our kids grow up. :)
Amen girly!
I think that it's amazing that you have the opportunity to stay home with your daughter. Not every mother has that option and I truly feel that it is so important for a new mother to be there for the first years! Kuddos to you!
I have a question and I hope it's not too deep. I am wondering what it's like once you decide to stay at home, not having your own money to spend? Although most marriages have joint accounts, mortgages, etc, I always have that plague my mind. Is he going to tell that I spent $300 at target and then went to sephora twice this month. Did you find you had to curb spending or is it the same for you now. Thanks for the super cute and honest video! :)
I agree...I'm a stay at home mom and now that I don't make an income I feel like I'm not "allowed" to spend money on myself. Not that my husband has ever said that. I just feel that way.
wambi10 Me too. I shopped at Sephora last week and have been feeling bad about it since. He hasn't said a word and for all I know it's no big deal, but I feel like now that I'm a stay at home mom I should discuss spending. Ugh.
Great question! Would love to hear the answer.
She makes money from RUclips as well. I'm sure it's not as much as what she was making in a full-time job, but she probably uses the RUclips money to buy "her" stuff. Also as a StellandDot sales person she gets "credits" every time someone buys from her store so she uses those credits to purchase the jewelry she wears. I'm not saying she relies 100% on this method of making money but I'm sure it helps alleviate some of that stress.
Great question, I'd love to know that answer as well :)
Good advice Michele! I'm in a similar situation as you, graduated, had a successful career and I decided to stay home. Best decision ever but it did take me a lot of time to get used to!
Wow - you hit the nail on the head. And I totally agree that getting dressed and ready everyday does make a huge difference!
I enjoyed this video. I made the choice to continue working full time and I think having a daycare or caretaker you really like is key. Our daycare has live feed cameras so it makes me feel more comfortable that I can login and see her whenever I want. I've been struggling with my choice to work. So much so that I doubt myself constantly. However, I feel I would have the same guilt if I stayed at home…like what if my husband was laid off or something else were to happen. I guess the bottom line is that I would have guilt either way--- and that no way is best, it's just what's best for your family and your situation. Working and staying home are both hard in unique ways (and also in some of the same ways). To all of the moms worried about "missing firsts" we are so lucky we never have---not one milestone. I sometimes wonder if it's God's little way of playing it all out that she's always done her firsts when we were present…I hope so :) anyway, I liked your video and the bottom line is that we all need to support eachother because every family needs to make a choice that is best for them. One more thing that I want to mention is that I see how much my baby girl is thriving and what a joyful baby she is…and that makes me feel so good. It does help take some of the guilt away when I see the little girl she's becoming.
Michele, that was so amazing to hear! I also chose to be a SAHM when my daughter was born 14 years ago and I've never regretted doing so. It was definitely hard going from 2 salaries to 1 but we made sacrifices and made it work. Thank you for sharing!
I made the same decision 12 years ago to be a stay-at-home mommy. I now have two boys, ages 12 and 6. I have NEVER regretted the decision once! So lovely to see how happy you are in the mommy role :)
What a blessing to be able to stay home with Addie! Hugs from Miami!!!
Love that you made this video!!! My little girl is 11 weeks old & Im staying at home, too. You hit the nail on the head describing your days,
I love that you did this video Michele! You took the words right out of my mouth on a number of things. I am also home with my girls, although I do mortgages, so work from home. I also put makeup/jewels on even if we are just going on a walk. You need to feel like you are still part of the world, and at time being home can be incredibly isolating.
Thank you so much for this video. I recently gave up my career that I enjoyed to stay at home with my little girl who's 5 months old now, and you articulated my thoughts and feelings about staying home perfectly.
Really interesting video. I have faced a lot of criticism from some for going back to work - one person told me I shouldn't have had a child if I wasn't prepared to look after him! Unfortunately I don't have a choice as I am the main earner in our house so to look after my baby I have to work. I worry all the time I'll miss "firsts". Anyway thank you for acknowledging how lucky your are for being able to make a choice.
I feel for you....its definitely a hot topic and one that people feel completely ok with giving their opinion on-even harsh ones like you received. To be honest, I was a little hesitant to post this video because of it. People are so easily judgmental - especially of those whom they don't even know or understand their situation. Ignore the ignorant people....you do what is best for you and your family. And think of the kind of role model you are for your children by working AND being a Mommy. I give you a TON of credit...its a lot of work!
Thanks Michele! Really pleased your happy with your decision ;)
I agree! I absolutely LOVED being a stay at home mom!! I didn't miss working AT ALL!!!
Great tips! I stayed home with all of mine. They are grown and married now and I wouldn't trade the time for anything! We had so much fun! They grow up in a flash and you can't go back. So happy for you and I promise you will never regret staying home!
Great advice and I agree with you totally...I have a 5 and 3 year old and I'm a stay at home mum 😊 xxx
Greast video and you definately made the right choice! In Bulgaria where I leave we have a paid maternity leave from work (they keep your work place for that time) up to 3 years (the first year is the best because you get 90% from you salary, then the 2d and 3d are really less money), but many moms stay at home at least 2 years, if not 3 here. I am expecting a baby girl too this August and I plan on staying home for maybe 2 years, who knows... :)
that's wonderful, I wish we had that here in the US.
Unfortunately, the US is I think one of the only countries that has terrible maternity leave.
Thank you for addressing the hard parts! I'm a stay at home mom to a 7 month old little boy and I love it but sometimes its hard and lonely. It's nice to be reminded that your not alone!
Amen!
LOL i feel the same way about makeup and getting ready everyday. I feel SO much more motivated and awake and alive when i get ready. Even though Im a busy mom of 2… i prefer to get ready everyday. I had to explain myself in my vlogs about bringing makeup to the hospital :)
Thanks for sharing your experience. This could have been my story! I left a job that that I loved with incredible pay and benefits, and the transition was harder than I expected. I knew that I wouldn't be able to do both well. I chose to stay home and each day I am happier with my decision.
You're beaming in this video, so happy! I'm so happy that you're so happy!! xoxo
Oh Michelle, this video could not have come at a better time. I'm 7mos pregnant and have been talking with my husband quite a bit about what we should do once the baby is born. Like you and Nick, both of our mothers stayed home with us and we both enjoyed that very much. I guess the only hesitation for me is that I've been working since I was 17 and can't imagine what it would be like to not go into work every day. You are absolutely right, though...staying at home IS work. I used to work at a preschool (and loved it!) and I felt sad for the children who would see me more than their own family. I guess when it comes down to it, it is a personal decision and you just have to do what's best for you and your family.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!
I'm a stay at home mama too, with baby #2 on the way, and while I feel very blessed that we are financially able to have me be with our babies for their first years, it IS exhausting and trying and frustrating at times. I don't have any family here and we haven't had a date night at all since our son was born. It's starting to take a toll on me, I just feel drained. So we've been looking into babysitters more and I've gotten closer to our neighbor who adores our little guy. So I hope things will get more fun again once I get more time to myself and with just my husband, especially since soon there will be a second kid demanding my attention. I think it's so important to be open about the not so glamorous moments and days as well as the wonderful ones. It's not puppies and unicorns every day, but at the end it's so worth it to me. Loved this video :)
I'm a stay at home mom too & I love it. This is something that I've always wanted to do. I don't miss working AT ALL (well my last job that is). I love being able to watch my two boys grow up and be there for just about everything (school functions, outings, etc). It's true about having time to yourself. Mine is my workouts. It's my time to focus on me and help improve myself. Plus I look at it as a way to keep up with my very active two boys.
Loved this. I would give anything in this world to stay home with my 5 month old but I am the primary provider for my family.
You are truly blessed.
I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years and had to make the same choices. I love the decision my husband and I made and never looked back. We are a very close and bonded family and I love it!:)
Very well said! Classy as always. I love being at home with my babies. We make sacrifices and it is hard/lonely sometimes but they truly do grow so fast. I didn't want to miss a thing either!
that video was godsend to me! we just moved here from the uk with a 1 1/2 year old baby. we are all alone. no friends and no family. i just had an emotional break down on sunday about me being all day with the baby and not working and how tired i am. and that i want time for me and all that. you are so right about everything.
Great video, Michelle. I had planned to go back to work after I had my baby lady July and I just looked at her one day (I think it was during a middle of the night feeding, Lol) and I just thought that there's no way I could leave her with anyone. I love being home with her and yes there are days when I just need to go to the grocery store by myself or wash dishes without little hands climbing up me but in the end, I don't want to miss this time with her because it does go by so so quickly. And happy belated birthday to Addison!!
The decision to stay home was easy for me because I didn't have a job or career I loved. The best thing I found was a community of moms who share similar parenting styles and have kiddos the same age. We have weekly playdates and a Facebook group where we can chat and ask questions. I love to think that my daughter has potentially made some lifelong friends :)
This is a great video. My soon to be hubby and I have always talked about kids too. I look forward to what your experiencing with a baby!
Thanks for sharing your experience so far :) I've been a stay at home mother for nearly 8 years now (four children ages ranging from 12 to 2.5) and I've loved it so far. I agree about taking time for yourself, things like going for a walk or taking a bath are important :)
Your so right!! I have a 7yr old and one on the way. I do everything for her and nothing for myself. Sometimes I lose myself. Thanks for the great video!
Good for you Michelle! I wish every day that I was home with my two year old and it is indeed a privilege to be a stay-at-home mama. Hang in there and keep on being happy!
very happy for your family, you are right this time only lasts such a short time
Very wise words Michele. My oldest is now 15 and I have a 5 year old as well and left a career when I had them and haven't regretted it for a minute. I want to pull my hair out sometimes, and look for a quiet place where nobody knows my name lol. But its been so worth it. Loved hearing your thoughts. xo Linda
My mom was a stay at home mom because she ran a daycare in our house so she could watch us grow up but still had some work it was really nice and i support your situation!
Loved this video!!!!! You read my mind with everything you said, I'm finding organizing my time at home difficult, but I feel motivated after watching this, thank you
checklists...I'm telling you! I am lost without them!
Thank you for making this video! I am currently 20 weeks pregnant and let go of my DJ business because of the smoky atmospheres. It was very hard to give up the financial aspect of it and to also have that time out of the home. I'm glad I'm not the only who feels lonely at times. I know when the baby gets here I will be a bit busier and I am thankful that my husband is able to support us and that I can make a little extra cash from home. It's nice to hear the perspective of a stay at home mom. I think I definitely made the right decision. :)
I am stay home mom for 16 years since my eldest daughter was born. I have 2 girls now 16 and 12. I am still lucky and bless to stay at home and do home school with them. I will never change anything. I also put makeup on in the morning to start my day. Since my kids are older we can have conversations and it makes our relationship closer.
That is a blessing to be at home with your children... Sometimes I feel like I do out on things by being a full time manager and mommy!!
I'm a SAHM and I always worry about getting a job once my daughter is old enough for school. I'm glad to hear your comment on it, it makes me feel better and less stressed out. I am so thankful that my husband is supportive because I wouldn't want to miss out on all the "firsts". Time does go by super fast!
tell me about it! And though you may not find a job that you love 100%, I don't think you will regret staying home and having a so so job later in life, I know I won't! The trade off is priceless.
I was a stay home mommy until my son started Kindergarten and I am a floral designer part time while he's in school (now in 3rd grade)...I wouldn't trade any if the sacrifices I had to make bc it was the best decision we ever made! They grow too fast and I am blessed to have a supportive husband!
Im a 24 yo dental student (last year in dental school) and I really want to be a mom some day. As much as I would love the idea of staying home and taking care of my kids, sometimes I think it won't be possible with the job I will have. I mean, all this hard work, all the stress before exams, so much knowledge to put into your brain during this difficult studies - will I be able to put it all away, just like that? Dentists need practice, too. One year out of the working enviroment may feel like being dead for 5 years.
What do you think? Any opinions?
I am a nurse, after having my son I work part time, if you can be a part time dentist that would work out.
I'm in college to become a nurse and i have had the exact same thought process! i have always wanted to be a stay at home mom because my mom was and i'm unsure about day care. BUT i also love the field of nursing. It gives me energy and confidence and i feel great about myself when practicing my (future) nursing skills.. not to mention all the hard work and dedication i have put towards it! For me personally, i need to put my energy towards work. My plan is to work part time once I have kids. Granted i don't have any kids yet and things can ALWAYS change! Based on what you just said, it seems like you have a strong work ethic and it seems like you might be the same way as i am. Part time work might be an option for you as a dentist ..but I think time is the only thing that will give us both the right answer. :)
Just came across your channel. I can totally relate to everything you talked about. I'm a stay at home mom too with an 11 month old. I tried to work from home the first few months but it made me guilty because a lot of time I felt like my son is on the way and that's just wrong, so I had to quit and now I love to be able to enjoy all of his milestones and take care of my family. I have to do my makeup and hair while he naps in the morning too because that motivates me to get out of the house, run some errands and just take him out for some fresh air. Same goes to the to-do lists, more productive when I make a list for the day. I would love to see you do more videos like this. :)
I am 57 years old with 3 grown children. About a year ago , I would have thought been there and done that and loved it. But our oldest daughter , who has wanted a child forever finally was able to adopt a baby. I now babysit her at least 3 days a week. And this may sound silly , but I am so glad I watched this video, because it reminded me of how I should handle each day with this precious gift we have been given. So thank you for this video, it even helped old chicks like me. !!!! And yes I do put a necklace, earrings and makeup on each day, because it makes ME feel better lol
Wow! I found this so helpful. My husband and I recently moved to a new city with our nine month old. I have found it so hard to make new friends that are stay at home moms. I agree with everything you said - her nap time is when I put on make up and get dressed and take time for myself :) the biggest challenge has been finding someone we trust to babysit for date nights. Even just hearing that someone else can get into a funk makes me feel better! I also agree with leaving the house once a day and the to do lists. I love this video and hope you make more! :)
I am a stay at home mom and I completely LOVE it. I have found that sometimes I do get in that funk that you are talking about though! It can definitely be tough at times! I am now learning to spend more time on myself and not feeling bad for having alone time with my husband. It took me about five months for me to even feel comfortable leaving my son to just go to dinner. But now I realize how important that time with my husband and the time for myself really is!! Thank you for your tips. I love your videos. (:
I was a stay at home mommy 20 years ago. I never regretted it. It was hard and rewarding. I am becoming an elementary school teacher now.
Jo Harris, I don't share your view. My 2 children are grown and I would have given anything to have been able to stay home with them when they were little but I couldn't. Michele is well aware of how lucky she is and isn't trying to make anyone feel bad. She is addressing the many SAHMs and the special issues that come with that. I love this video! Thanks for posting, Michele.
"Why do you put makeup on, you're just here at home!" Made me lol! When my now 5yr old was a newborn I had the hugest meltdown with my Hubby because he said the exact thing to me. Now he gets it! Haha! It genuinely just makes you feel good about yourself. It's nice to feel pretty, even if you're in yoga pants all day! I've been fortunate enough to be home with my Hopeybear for these entire 5 years and I would not trade it for the world!! Keep being an awesome Mommy! Thanks for sharing!
Couldn't have said it better Michelle! Enjoy your time with Addison
This is an amazing video. I have a two year old and I'm ready to go back to work now. I had the best time with her at home, though. Good on you for making such a well suited decision. I know it's not easy!
I took my first daughter to work w me everyday including travels worldwide for 3 years and with the second my we decided I'd stay at home, largely due to the fact that she would not take a bottle of pumped milk and I am adamant about breastfeeding. It was a hard adjustment to leave my wold behind, but I completely agree, she will only be a baby for a short time and I couldn't miss it! So happy to be able to take care of my girls and YES the support & love of my husband is a HUGE blessing!
I admire your way of thinking ,I'm an at home mom too who wants the best for her child
I love this video. I just decided to stay home with my 2 little ones and I agree and feel the same way you do about putting on make up and putting on jewelry. I also make to do list as well. It's nice to know I'm not alone in the stay at home with your kids world. I look forward to your next video.
this was super helpful.. in the situation where I need to decide and this helped thank you!
I've been watching your videos for ages and only comment every so often but I wanted to say I loved this. I'm not a mom and honestly don't want kids (finished my grad program last year, love my job, and don't see kids in the equation) but I loved hearing your story. A woman's decision to have or not have kids and how to raise them is very personal, and sadly I don't think women can make any decisions about it without criticism & having other peoples' expectations put on them. People have been asking me about kids and I know when I get married (couple more weeks!!) more people are going to insist I'll change my mind. I'm the daughter of a SAHM who still works incredibly hard caring for my siblings and I just know it's not the life for me, but my mom gave me the world by being there. Your little girl won't realize it at first, but she'll love you and appreciate you for it one day. Tl;dr, thanks for sharing your perspective from a non-mom :)
Thanks for doing this video. I have a little girl who has just turned 1, I work part time, 3 days a week. Would love to be a stay at home mummy but need my income to pay bills and the mortgage, it's great that you have the financial freedom to choose and I totally agree that they are only little for such a short time and it goes so quickly. I appreciate every day with my little one knowing that she's growing so fast and try to enjoy every stage as she's doing new things all the time now xx
Thank you soo much!
I've been working full time for years and We are planning on starting a family this fall.
I too have been thinking about staying at home! 😁
Thank you so much for your advise ..
For 3 years I've been a stay at home mom and now that I'm ready to start working again its hard to get employed because alot of jobs now are looking for recent work history and its been 3 yrs of no work. So its harder for me to get work unless I start from the bottom up. But I wouldn't change anything. My kids are my everything. Good luck to you.
Moms that work full time still witness they're kids first words first steps and all that u mentioned.
you are such a down to earth women and you should be very proud of yourself. my 1st two children who are now in there 20s i had no choice but go back to work but my youngest who is 8 we decided that i wouldnt go back till she went school and it was the best desicion we made. i missed so much on my other 2 but i never missed a thing with my youngest.
You are my favorite youtuber! I can totally relate to this. Left work to stay at home with my daughter and so happy with my choice.
thank you! I'm so happy for you!!
Great video!! I have been a stay at home mom and now I have a home based business. It is a wonderful blessing to be able to stay at home in these times, and I have loved it!! MOPS and other mom groups really helped me get adult interaction to keep me out of frumpy mommy mode ;)
Thank you so much for this video! I am pregnant with twins right now! I hadn't planned on staying at home, but with the cost of daycare in our area (we live in the suburb of a big city so it is more expensive) I would be working just to pay the daycare. Part time isn't an option with my job either and my husband's schedule changes constantley so it would be hard to me to get a job around his schedule. I appreciate the tips for adjusting to being at home. It is also nice to get some reassurance that when the time is right there will be a job for me out there. Many people just keep telling me how hard it will be for me to rejoin the workforce, which I intend to do when they get older, which has had me a little stressed about the whole thing.
Michele i really hope u see this, I just really connected with u!! Im a 30 yr old at home Mom of 4 kids, my husband & I made the decision that i stay home! Ive been home with all my kids Since i had my first at 17.. Its been a tough road but being with my hubby since i was 17 & having his help & him back me on the decision to stay home has been the best for us as a family & most important our kids!! I do get sad & feel down on myself sometimes & getting into makeup really helped mr feel better & its something i can do at home & for myself!! I totally related to everything u said & i could go on & on abt this, LOL but wanted to say THANK U for doing this vid, loved it!!! and would love to see more of these type of vids!!! Thanks again Hun, Much love ~AMANDA~ from NH XoXo
Thank you Amanda! And GO you for having 4 kids at such a young age!
I think this also applies to people who work at home like I do. I started 6 yrs ago, new work set up, new home. My children was a lot smaller then but now one is in middle school and the other 4th. But yes I think fixing yourself and doing stuff outside of home is very important, but there are days that you just feel very isolated and alone :( But just need a kick in the butt and self motivating conversation with yourself helps too. You were my first RUclips subscription and I have to say that you brighten up some of those days when I started questioning why do I have to wear make up when I'm just at home!
Love this video Michele! I don't have kids yet, but my fiancé and I know when we do the plan is for me to stay at home. I have always wanted to be a mom, I could relate to you a lot in this video! Can you talk more about the financial side of how you made things work, maybe how you adjusted your budgeting and any tips? Thanks!
I went back to work when my son was 2.5. At the time, being a SAHM wasn't for me and I missed working. I have to say it was the biggest mistake I have ever made! It led to some really, really bad series of events. After I left that job, I found Stella & Dot and that has become the perfect balance of being a SAHM and "working". Loved this video Michele! Are you going to Hoopla this year? I would love to meet you. xoxo
I love these videos you make..its amazing. Ur really good at getting your opinions across and be inspirational. Thanks for making this video.
I love your take on this subject!
Thank you very much for sharing. I was wondering how you felt about your decision to be a stay at home mom. I am happy that you are satisfied and fulfilled.
I really do appreciate this video...I am a SAHM as well...and sometimes I just feel like I'm not doing anything productive...I get down because I feel as though I'm not accomplishing anything just because I'm not bringing home a paycheck, or because I don't go somewhere outside of the home for 8 hrs a day. Then I stop at the end of the day and think of all of the things I've done, all of the fun I've had with my little girl, and see how well she's doing, and it makes it all worth it. I do feel that I constantly have to remind myself that I'm doing something productive--raising and teaching my child. It just feels like society is so down on SAHMs sometimes. I even have friends and neighbors who have children asking me if I'd like to "make a few extra bucks" by watching their children (other women who work outside of the home). It gets me down sometimes. Long story short, I do appreciate this video, and hearing from other SAHMs. It's refreshing and I do feel a sisterhood to other women who have chosen to stay at home with their little ones. :)
This was so informative. :) I'm so happy for you that you're happy and doing well. I definitely agree that a person should always take time for themselves to do whatever they like that energizes them.
Awww I'm so glad you did this video. I want to be a stay at home mom like my mom was. I hope I can be when I have kiddos :)
I needed this video today...thank you.
I'm happy to hear that ;)
I agree with you, Michele. I'm a SAHM of 3. Ages 7, 5, & 3. The way I see it, if I were working outside the house I wouldn't want to look like crap. Why should I look like crap, which makes me feel like crap, just because I stay at home? Right? I refuse to be the mom that drops off the kids at school in PJs & slippers looking a mess. I want my kids to see that taking them to school & picking them up is important enough for me to put on some makeup and look nice. Not only that, I feel way more productive doing so. The other moms frequently compliment me for looking nice. All I do is switch out the cozy pants for maxi skirts, sandals instead of flip flops, my fave Target tanks and maybe a denim vest or jacket. It's not too much to switch out sneakers for boots, sweatshirts for a casual blazer. My mood is instantly better when I don't feel frumpy and my mind thinks, you're dressed & ready to get stuff done.
Michele I love your energy and enthusiasm. I swear your like my role model from the way you dress to the way you see things. I totally want to be like you when I have kids one day. Thank you for such a great video even I, not a mommy yet, enjoyed it.
I think being a stay at home mom is great and if you have the opportunity to do it i say go for it cause its so amazing to have the experience of watching your kid grow up and seeing them crawl for the first time, walk for the first time, talk for the first time, priceless moments you cant get back once their gone but my only thing would be i would feel like im relying on my significant other income and i dont think i would like that very much, im so use to be independent and making my own money that i dont think it would sit well with me having to rely on someone else income and i know your suppose to be in it together and they may not feel that way but thats how i would feel cause id wonder is it getting to be too much them taking care of me our baby and all the expenses, idk if im making any sense but great video michelle
I find that the tip about just dressing up or putting on a necklace to be around the house can be applied to anyone. Whenever I'm in my midterm/finals period, I always try to spend a little bit of time in the morning to either do my hair, lightly do my makeup or paint my nails the night before to allow myself to just relax and not be so stressed out. By doing those little thing, it makes me happy and I feel more confident and less stress walking into my exam. Of course this means I have to prioritize those previous days to study efficiently to be able to take some time off before the exam =P
Very helpful video. I liked the part when you talked about not losing your relationship... you expressed it beautifully.
We have a lot in common, I had a career and we had kids soon after getting married. I stayed home and before you know it they are both grown up. I work part time but even when i can work longer hours i don't feel it's my priority anymore. None of my sisters did what I did, they said the same thing about being bored but staying at home is work too. I put on makeup even if I'm cleaning my house all day. Makeup, shopping is my escape from the hardwork at home. Even my teenage kids know mommy needs alone time. Some moms need to work because they have to but i would stay home again and if our lifestyle allowed it, no regrets.
Great video!!! I'm a stay at home mom and have been for 6 years. Best decision of my life:)
I have only just seen this video and as a stay at home mum with 2 boys under 5 I would have to say that listening to your entire story and feelings of your new role it felt like de ja vue. Your situation and feelings of your new role are exactly the same as me. It was like we took the same test and answered all the questions the same. Glad to hear that you have taken to being a mummy like a duck to water. Good luck for your family in the future. Love Gin x
Im very blessed n so thankful to my husband ,
Ive been a stay at home mom n wife, my whole marriage,my son is 23 now ,
N going to the pumkin farm , n xmas parties, I never missed out n so thaankful my husband didnt either, he has a great job to where he could go n have lunch with his son ,, elementary, jr high, n yes even high school,,im still a stay at home wife n soon to b a grammy:) 42 n loving my life n family.so blessed ♡♥
Your videos are always my favorite!! Always look forward to you being in my subscription box! :) love, a fellow philly suburb girl!
Loved this, Michele! I definitely want to stay home when we have babies as well. Great video. xoxo Schuylar
Great video. I was a stay at home mom of 2 for a few years. Those were the best years I have ever had. Now that I'm back in the working world it's been a challenge. I would give anything to be a stay at home mom again. Enjoy this time :D
Hi Michelle, I am so happy for you & Addison, being a stay at home mom is a very important one indeed! ;) I too was fortunate to have stayed home w/my children & let me tell you I have NO REGRETS whatsoever! :) One has graduated from college and the other is a senior in college, both thriving & doing extremely well in life! Yes you are right when you say that you too must have your own interests & do things away from the kids & also have time spent w/your hubby "date nights are important!" Keep up the great vids, we love you!! Take care!