I'm not exactly in a committed relationship with this person but he wants us to be something more. I'm trying to figure out how to tell him no. Any advice Psych2go? Also I love your comments 😂
@Dooode Toochie well...If you're both committeed to one another, I don't think there's anything wrong. But you can try doing something to reignite the passion
Often times I find myself giving a hundred percent while my partner is only giving 25% into the relationship and I had to make a difficult choice in leaving them.
gyp me that same I’m trying to decide if I should break up with my girlfriend or not. I just don’t feel like she cares as much about are relationship as she did in the beginning and she’s been making me unhappy almost everyday with how she doesn’t communicate like I do
Depends on what you are doing. There are two sides to this problem that you are pointing out, one is how you see the relationship the other is how the other sees it. How are you giving 100%? Maybe the 100% that you give isn't what the other person wants in the relationship or maybe that person doesn't have the background to understand it. This is why communication is very important. You can explain to the other person that you believe in the relationship and want the best for both of you and this is why you are doing the things that you are doing. If the other person has a meh... type of response, then its time to leave. In these discussions you will find out where you stand in the relationship from the others point of view and decide if you want to continue or not. Don't let the frustrations pile because this will make you become too irrational to make a good and responsible decision.
@@ot2789 u said the truth. A guy could be giving a 100% in things that doesn't matter to a girl and girl could be giving 100% to the guy in things that doesn't matter to him. Both will feel disappointed. Communicate and come in terms with each others preferences.
I left a damaging relationship in 2013. I was too scared to leave because after 7 years together I was convinced that my life would be empty without him. Nine years later, I am about to receive my PhD.
Your post resonated with me. 2013 was also the year of my great relationship reckoning and subsequent journey of self discovery. Peace. Respect. Kindness. Fun. If we can not find the fun (joy) together, then I thank you, and with gentle kindness, farewell. Congratulations, Christine Lee. Doctor Christine Lee. Very cool.
Very happy. Interested to learn new things. A lot can be resolved with taking distractions away and communication. We all have slumps and a lot here are just that.
Ik this is very late. I feel terrible I am always letting people down especially my girlfriend and I feel like she can’t trust me I feel like I’m a terrible person
Same I’m trying to keep myself together but I HAD to up and leave in the middle of the night. I know it was right but it was so hard , I needed to take my power back. He didn’t care so I had to stop caring too...
What do you do when she won't leave and you have a 4 year old? Grind out 14 more miserable, lifeless years until the kid turns 18? Or make her leave, and also split your family?
I want to leave the relationship why can’t I just leave? It’s like something pulling me back all the time but I don’t want to be there anymore and I pray I have the courage to leave . Now I understand why older women just decide to be alone for the rest of they’re lives.
Same here guys😢 I am happy all by myself.. I don't know what's holding me back.. I am not able to work on myself when I am in a relationship.. When he leaves me everytime I make myself understand and be happy and when he comes I just forget to work on myself..
The signs are all there already, but I can’t leave him 😭 Edit : I’m finally over that relationship and I’m far happier now 🤩 thank you so much for the support y’all 🥺💝
Ahn Kyung Min....blv me I get u 100% but dear u have to try or atlst try loving urself more for the 1st time ever!! I'll be worth it nd soon ull see what u have bn missing all along
@@thando8149 wtf? what if it gets worse??? you cannot know what's good for her! if there are real reasons to leave, ok, but if it's just insecurity or people who don't have understanding for each other, things can be changed. no relationship is perfect and people think if you just run away, you solved your problems. self love can be built within a relationship. people forget that everything needs work. we have too much expectations of love, and of course we become bored if we don't invest our time
Same. Things are hard at the moment but I hope things will turn out well for me and that they turned out the best for you whatever that outcome may have been :)
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Yes im having the same problem with my girlfriend we are happy when together. Then when shes not with me takes ages to reply to texts and doesnt answer her phone for a long period. I think sometimes shes not being true to me. Its making me insecure
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This video is beautiful. I really love how it explains that you shouldn't be guilty after drawing a line if there's no future in the relationship. Instead of creating more issues in the future, it's better to let go now.
I haven’t trusted him in months. I love him but I feel like he’s a child and I’m mothering him from the way he acts and the way I talk to him. He never listens and never picks up when I call and need him. There has been many small events that have led me to hate him.
If you want your man to change, GET A DIFFERENT MAN. Do you think he wants to be with someone who thinks of him like that? You might think you're smarter or more mature but tbh all of you commenting this sound condescending as hell
Learn to relax and chill out. If the guy you're with isn't exactly what you want,, do find that dude then. You're right, guys don't change, and that's a good thing. You should never EVER change yourself for someone. Especially someone who just want you to be their image of what's perfect smh
Ive left a lot of relationships because we weren't working together, or I couldn't see us in the future. I wasnt satisfied, and it was just extra stress, and I didn't want to lead them on.
@Tara H I think if they are super attached to you and you don't want to hurt them, then the better to cut it off. For me, I'd rather give my hundred to a relationship I want to be in,rather than one I'm not it. They don't want a partial effort in exchange for full, or at least they shouldn't .
you will keep on leaving relationships until you realise that there are no miracles. a lot of young people do that, you won't find someone perfect. good luck.
@@Es3iya I agree. There are some relationships that needs to be put to an end for eg. if he's/she's too abusive, is cheating on you, doesn't reciprocate at all. But otherwise you just have to work it out. Every relationship will lack something and if we always chose to leave because of it then we are going to have to leave all our lives. I don't know what we are teaching these days. Leaving instead of teaching how to face and tackle problems and issues. No wonder why so many people are divorced these days. Relationships aren't supposed to bring you happiness all the time. It does bring happiness sometimes, but it brings a lot of pain too. This is the universal truth. Successful relationships aren't successful because they met the right one, they are successful because they chose to stay and work together. So many don't get this these days except for a few like yourself.
Yes after using them in a sexual way.....some men are like that .they used u and said ohhh l don't see us in the future....what a joke.....it should be a way that the very first day know that they are playing and using u.....
I just got out of a very meaningful relationship, even if I was still in love with my partner. What made me leave was the lack of attention and care to me, the efforts put in the relationship that were not equivalent (because of circumstances such as school, homework) and it also made me realize that me and my partner didn't expect the same things from each other, and right now both of us needed to let go, at least for a while, and maybe change. I appreciate all your videos a lot, this helped me getting more comfortable with my decision, so thank you guys !
It's very painful to end a relationship. We were together for 8 years and have a son in common. However, if deep inside you feel you are not 100% happy or that your partner doesn't support you or love you for who you are, don't force an unhealthy relationship. Over time will be even more damaging to your emotional wellbeing. It's been 1 month, I am now starting to feel slightly better. You are not alone in this. Your life starts now, stay strong everyone who is going through this.
I don't know what to say. None of these perfectly fit, but I'm bored in my relationship. Things used to make me consistently excited and happy, I would look forward to seeing him, but now I feel like I've been on the same date nineteen different times and I'm no longer growing. I feel like I keep having to stop my progress in order to go back and make sure he's not feeling left behind, unloved, or insecure.
Dillon Walker I see your comment was made quite a bit ago and I hope all is well :) I feel this very same way now with my boyfriend of two years. He also stuck with me during a difficult time in my life so I feel like I can’t leave but I know deep down that I probably should.
That's would fit under the "different paths" reason. I hear you. My bf and I when we were first seeing each other, we would have late night meet ups, drive around, do random things like go to the beach at night, the boardwalk, the park. Now its netflix, youtube, sex. And he makes going out to places a big deal. In 3 years we've never gone out to a club or bar together. Nor traveled more than once. I'm bored! Never ever dim your light or zest for life because someone else cant measure up. There are too many couples traveling the world together.
I found this video while trying to calm myself down. I'm ending my 13 year relationship, and right now I'm in what I think is a real life panic attack. I think I'm terrified of being alone. ..!
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Sometimes it hurts you a lot more holding on to something that is just making a deep wound. Let it go and watch how you heal ❤️ your future you will be thanking you.
Everytime I read something like this there's a subconscious thought that these are only for women. If a man feels the same thing and tries to let go of a relationship which is constantly making deep wounds then that's an act of cowardliness or something that's not right.
Thank you I feel like this is exactly what I needed to hear. I feel like I’m holding onto this relationship I’m in but I’m just not sure how to end things. This made me feel a little more confident tho 💕
Love is just dangerous in my opinion. No matter what you do, you are always hurting someone in it. That’s why I’m so afraid of it. I don’t want to hurt anyone or put ANYONE into the pain that I went through.
A lot of the things that make us happy can hurt us and/or eventually turn to a sad memory. Just because love is a dangerous thing, doesn't mean you don't try it. It doesn't have to be romantic love either. It could be your friends, your family, or even a pet. We all have to face the fact that we WILL lose the things we love on way or another. Either death or breaking things off. But we have to learn to accept that's okay. Don't let the fear of hurt hinder you from living. After all, if they make you happy, then it must be something that makes life worth living and anyone who has that is very much blessed in life~
Layla Beila Sure, maybe, but you’re taking yourself out of the equation here when you shouldn’t be. While you seem to be thinking about others getting hurt, seems like you’re hurting yourself in the process of trying to protect others, which supports your thesis of someone getting hurt no matter what. What you need to realize is that you’re equally as important as everyone else and should be as considerate to your own well-being as much as you are to others.
I was always complaining about being single, until I got into the most toxic one side narcissistic abusive relationship, that made me think I must have serious issues to have attracted such vile being, moral of the story, HEAL HEAL HEAL don’t chase any relationship, as you are fully healed you will automatically attract the right person.
@@TrulyMademoizelle I have both my parents in my life. Great supportive parents. But I have a saviour complex. I always want to be needed and I always want to be someone's pillar. That's why I'm drawn to damaged people. I am trying to get to the route of why I am this way so that I can eventually leave my current relationship. One of the reasons keeping me in it is that I'm afraid to hurt him if I leave him. I sacrifice myself for other people's happiness and that is something that I need to work on.
@@TrulyMademoizelle I've observed their relationship and I don't seem to be mimicking any of them. But, I am digging into my relationship with my father from childhood until now. He's a great dad and he loves me a lot but, our relationship is different to his and my older sister's relationship so I'm trying to unpack that to see if that might be one of the root causes of my behaviour in relationships.
I’m only 22 but when my dad died earlier this year, my boyfriend of 3 years at the time didn’t know how to react I guess and just distanced himself. He didn’t provide any real emotional support. When I told him that the relationship was causing me additional stress on top of my grief and that I needed a break, he went out and got drunk with his buddies and made out with some girl and sucked her toe in a Denny’s bathroom. But you know “we were in a break”
After I left my ex, all my friends have noticed me getting happier. That I'm finally me. My friend finally said last night, "You're generally more happy, less worries, and you can express what you want without having to feel like walking on eggshells," It made me so happy. I'm free.
I love him very much almost a year but I don't know why he broke up with me and it is very hurt for me though I am still on the process of moving on but I don't know I can't because I still love him and maybe I still waiting him to be back .
I honestly thought I was the only one experiencing this signs in my relationship with my ex partner. I'm truly happy I'm not the only guy going through this storm. I really believe us guys have the heart to leave our toxic relationships no matter how hard it is. I'm with you my brothers!!❤❤🙌🏾 word.
My dad told me if my partner hits me even once to leave. I've never forgotten that advice. I've never been in a relationship though but I'll take that advice with me if I ever do.
You know my mom told me that.. she's went through that for 15 years, and me I always told myself I will leave the day my man lays a hand on me. And I never understood why my mom waited so long to leave her abusive marriage and I never thought that I would ever understand why.. but now I do.. I've dated this boy for 1 year and 4 months.. and I broke it off in October of this year because he abused me mentally, verbally and physically. Then a couple weeks passed no talking no communication just nothing. Until my mom gave me a hand written letter that was by him.. and we became friends again and everything was going well for a week until he started getting into his habits of telling me what to do and I can't have friends and all this.. and then now he's back to hurting but it's worse and I feel trapped 😞😞 and the worst part is that we're not even dating
@@SarahOlveraI'm sorry that you feel trapped. Does your mom or friends know? They can probably help you, don't let him hold you back :( I would have cut off all contact completely. Even rip up the letter and throw it away. It was different for my parents because before they got together and got married, they found out both of their previous partners found someone else and ended those relationships right away (They didn't mess around). I hope you'll have the strength to cut ties with him soon and for good.
My mom doesn't know really, but I'm 17 I plan on moving to a different state. And just write him a good bye letter soon. But I feel like if I leave like that I'm going to be the bad person .. I'm going to miss him so much. This is so hard for me and I feel like I'm all alone in this
They don't start hitting. They break down your spirit with critcism and hurtful comments. They dismiss your feelings, say you exagerrate and tell you that you are too sensitive....I left at this point. So he told me I was unreasonable and that HE WAS happy. Of course he would never find a girl like me again. I was miserable. When I told him it was over he was in denial. He tried for me to go back to him but I did not. Other great qualities he had: always broke and me having to pay for more than my share, no realistic goals, he was so FULL of himself. Honestly, what did I ever see in this loser? Well he had a good sense of humor and was very fun before he snapped like Jekyll/Hyde. He had TREMENDOUS mommy issues, in part brought on by his difficult nature. When you get the full picture you need to RUN..... He also liked to shoplift because he was so broke, yet he drove a Mercedes. I had to pay for his gas one time. He lived beyond his means. Sooooooo crazy....
My dad told me 2 things: don't try to change them, they never will. It will only get worse. (Agression, hygiene). And: look at the parents-in-law, they usually will become like them in the end (which is normal, they're being raised by them, sometimes get the same habits.
First thing you do to save yourselves time. When you get with somebody, ask them what their main goal is, if they want kids, if they just want to work and want money, if they want to get married. If you contrast from them, treat it like an interview in the date and then accept that they want different things despite you maybe liking eachother. It's cool to gain friends instead. Dont let your emotion outweigh your logic
Also ask within 2 weeks what they would do if in the long term you get very sick, or how they think about disability. Like my ex said: cancer? I don't think I could handle that, I'ld leave you. So there's that. At least he was honest.
Your logic is a bit flawed..no disrespect..ppl do change over the years..what they say now might be different from say 5 years time .if it were only that simple😄
when they stop saying i love you, are more distant, stop calling you babe or any other names, and start's calling you by your name witch they never used-
Yeah! Think of yourself first! If you feel like your relationship doesn't go anywhere then it's best to consider breaking up for your own good ans theirs.
Leah_Nicole097 yo i totally feel you, it’s heartbreaking but it’s for the best. If you ever need anyone to talk to though there are people who support you, and if not hmu
I mean she actually left me but deep inside I wanted to break up with her before so many times, but I stayed because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and ended up getting hurt more than I would have if I had listened to my guts. I was blinded by my feelings towards her and always thought that we might still go on the same road. In the end we went different ways and had different expectations from our relationship. But I'm glad that I don't have to suffer anymore. I felt like a part of my life was taken away, yes, but I regained a part of me back which I lost in our relationship.
I think it’s hard because you can have the perfect rel and then life takes you down different paths. It’s hard because you still love that person but need to move on. I feel that that later means forgetting them and memories fade out even if the split was amicable. It’s sad.
Yeah, never stay with someone because you’re worried about hurting their feelings. Break ups hurt, that’s just a fact, even when they’re mutual. You’re allowed to leave at any time; if they’re hurt, they’re hurt. You can’t stay in a situation for someone else, you have to do what’s right for you.
Yes, for some reason I couldn't trust her. This has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy. We didn't experience that at all, to my knowledge. Trust isn't about that. Trust is the assurance that you can always tell your partner about your worries and life complains without being met by a slap in your face metaphorically speaking. Trust is to be able to tell your partner that you have a feeling of not being enough for her or ask her how she felt about your not responding in the same manner on those rosy messages without being accused of being selfish. Above all, trust is the confidence that you will eventually sort things out together in the long run even if everything is a complete mess at the moment and you feel deeply hurt and devastated.
Can you guys do a video on looking at your own individual behavior in a relationship? IE: considering if maybe you're the manipulator or you're the source of conflict/toxicity?
@@deutschesmaedchen fair point. I wasn't asking for me. Moreso for people who struggle to put themselves in other people's shoes. But fair argument nonetheless!
There's no need to make a video on this subject because a toxic,manipulator and abusive side of a relationship very well knows what he/she is doing and and does it with absolute consciousness.
As someone who was a former manipulator, and who still has those traits, it took a lot of work for people in my life to get me to see that in myself as I actually was unaware. Most people are doing it subconsciously and too afraid to admit it or change once it's brought to their attention. Having to make that change alone, I found it very difficult. If I had an educational platform to rely on, my transition would have been easier. I still believe that having videos on this topic is essential, because there ARE people who want to change and don't know where to start. These blanket statements you're making are equally damaging. Everyone is manipulative and abusive and toxic at some point. Something this channel should acknowledge. Few people are this horrid on purpose. There are still plenty of them, but not in comparison to those who wish for better.
I have mostly experienced all. I was never good enough for my partner, mental and emotional abuse happened year after year without change! Now experiencing apathy toward the relationship! It's freeing to be in this state actually. Very freeing!
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I've seen a lot of comments like this but this is not necessarily the only reason. Some of us are just curious or want to fix the problems in a relationship, etc. In fact, comments like this are definitely not lifting the stigma of people who want to leave the relationship but don't have the courage to do that.
My gf told me there is no difference between me and her ex because of my smoking habit. It broke me and she compared her ex with me number of times. Last week this guy had an engagement. And she cried all night and called this guy to spend a night with her. The following morning she told me about it. I was out of town I felt terrible. She also told me that as of that moment I could leave her cause she thought there will be no right time than this to have a heart broken. I died inside that day. I knew I was a rebound guy at beginning but after almost 2years I was still a rebound guy. I've never felt so used. Funny thing I don't have anyone to share this thing except for her.
I was consistently unhappy for the last 3 years. I finally realized it and it was me. I was severely depressed and it hit me hard this last year but we got help and have been better than ever before. Our therapist is very good and has helped us a lot individually and as a couple. Like it's almost like he's an interpreter for us so we could understand each other better and learn how to communicate more effectively.
THIS. I hate using happiness as a meter to guage compatability bc as someone who's had chronic depression, its almost just a part of who i am rather than a reflection of the relationship. Im happy to hear that you're in a much better place! Stay strong and rock on :)
I wish my ex wanted to do anything therapy related at the time. He doesn't believe in therapy and got offended I suggested it to him and took it personally that I wanted to do therapy for myself...
Just found out that my ex is recently seeing a mutual friend, from whom I've taken advice from and knows the story. Both played me good.... Sucks to see what you've worked towards burn and crash, but people are selfish, and by understanding your worth and not settling for bs, I was able to move on.
I dont feel lile my gf cares about me. I text her everyday, ask her how she is and so on, but I dont get the same support back. Im constantly wondering if she loves me, and im beginning to overthink. I had a conversation with her but she ofc told me she loved me, but she didnt seem invested in the convo at all. I spilled out my feelings one time and she responded with a single letter afterwards. I dont know if i should stay or leave.
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This video helped reassure me that I made the right decision in breaking up with my ex. I had a hard time admitting that I wasn’t happy and going to see him began to feel like such a chore. We argued over everything and I felt like everything was always made to be my fault. And we weren’t even together for a long time before the arguing started. Communication got worse because I didn’t wanna say anything that could trigger an argument with him. I’m relieved to be alone and work on myself
He took advantage of my kindness. When he wanted something I’d try my best to get it for him, whether it was material or personal or something i could do and he’d do the same. But later someone else came into the picture and he’d try les for me and more for them. I was an afterthought.
I genuinly wish you to heal from this - you're definitely better than a secon option or anything. Wishing you the best, the right one will come along. you deserve to be no.1 and you are a no.1 !"!!!
@@Psych2go Omg that would be an amazing video. Please take your time with it though, as almost everyone on the Earth will be able to relate to it and learn from your video. Love you guys
Lying is always there. There is lack of feeling of being secure. I always feel like if this relationship is not made for you ,better you leave it quietly.Let them hook up with whoever they want to. No more holding up.
@Claudia Vlahović yes definitely. Still hard every single day almost a year later. But it needed to be done. There was no way to mend what was broken between us, no matter how much we didn't want to acknowledge it.
I feel you 100%!! I'm so hurt & confused and truly terrified of the outcome if I go thru with this on my end.. But also just so tired of hoping and wishing that things will get better after 10 years..
I love getting relationship advice from this channel. When we need someone else to tell us what we already know.... then we know what we need to do. Good bye doesn't have to be the end, it can be the start to a new and improved you! 👏🏼💜
3 months ago or so I had to leave a group of friends behind. They broke my trust too many times and hurt me emotionally without noticing and made me an outsider. I saw this video while I was writing about it in my diary. Thank you psych2go for your videos they always help me feeling understood. And for everyone whos reading this-don't be scared of leaving people that don't make you feel supported and happy. Thanks for reading :)
I’ve left for pretty much all of these reasons on a certain occasion. I found out that she had been lying to me about stuff involving my friends to make me get distant from them. She had also been keeping our relationship a secret from her family for reasons that I’d rather not say for the sake of her privacy. She had been using me and an emotional outlet to dump all of her crap onto. There was never a point where she didn’t try to shove all of her problems, grudges, and rage right into my face, and there were almost no times where I was able to talk about things that were making me feel depressed, and even suicidal at times. Everything was always about her. She was always the victim, she was always the one who needed to find justice, and she was never a part of the problem in any and everything she told me. After a while, I had had enough of it. I apologized to my friends for my and my girlfriend’s behavior, promised that I’d changed for the better, and asked them for the truth behind her lies. It’s safe to say that I wasn’t very happy with what I had learned, so I decided to confront her about it, and was prepared to break off the relationship if necessary. To put it simply, she saw the writing on the wall and thought it was a good idea to shout out “we’re through!” In the middle of the cafeteria, during lunch. It hurt more than I though it would to realize that we were apart. I had honestly hoped that we could work it out and be happy. And even after all that had happened, it was my friends that comforted me in my time of grief. Just another reason why I stick by them to this day. After the not-so-quiet break up, lots of people came to either ask if I was ok, what had happened, or to just tell me that I’m an asshole for pissing off my girlfriend. I then had to explain and tell them what REALLY happened just to get then to leave me alone. And this happened for a full month. Here’s what pissed me off. About 2-3 months after the breakup, I had already gotten over her and she decides to walk up to me and start a conversation as if nothing had happened. I wouldn’t have minded at all if it weren’t for the fact that she never apologized for what she did and what she put me through. But I kept my anger suppressed for the sake of curtesy... and because she had brought a friend with her to basically be a witness. What really pissed me off was when she said that she wanted to get back together, and smiled as if she wasn’t the one that broke my heart. My instinct was to say “Fuck No!” and leave, but unfortunately, I did not listen to that instinct. So here’s what I said “We were in a toxic relationship, and I don’t think getting back together is a good idea. I’m sorry, but my answer is no.” She took it surprisingly well, and her friend then took me to a place with no other people and asked why I said no. I then explained why and thanked her for asking me in private. It turns out that there was a rumor that my Ex was already dating someone, but in all honesty, I could care less. I was just happy to be out of that nightmare of a relationship and had no intention of going back. Unfortunately, she continues to ask if I want to get back together with her to this day. So I’m terribly sorry, but there is no happy ending so far.
Not talking about it won’t help the wounds heal. And despite everything, I’ve forgiven her. Not for her sake, but for my own. If I hold a grudge against her, then I become no better than her.
Damn Brony I’m so deeply sorry this happened to you people are so sick and it makes me sick how people can become so heartless and just discard you like you weren’t there and wasn’t by their side. I believe I’m in a toxic relationship after seeing this and I’m sad because I have a daughter with him..
I just had a recent (30 mins ago) mutual breakup on our 10 month anniversary. I watched this to gain confidence that breaking up was what was best for both of us and it was, we both wanted diffrent things and there was a lack of trust. I still love him and he was a big part of my life but sometimes, love isn't enough. Thank you for helping me through this
adding a copy of one of my replies to someone because I feel it's actually an important point: As someone who was a former manipulator, and who still has those traits, it took a lot of work for people in my life to get me to see that in myself as I actually was unaware. Most people are doing it subconsciously and too afraid to admit it or change once it's brought to their attention. Having to make that change alone, I found it very difficult. If I had an educational platform to rely on, my transition would have been easier. I still believe that having videos on this topic is essential, because there ARE people who want to change and don't know where to start. These blanket statements you're making are equally damaging. Everyone is manipulative and abusive and toxic at some point. Something this channel should acknowledge. Few people are this horrid on purpose. There are still plenty of them, but not in comparison to those who wish for better.
My boyfriend wouldn't let me leave him even though I was very unhappy for a ling time. He always turned everything around on me and made me feel like a terrible person. Everyone in my small town loves him and think he's such a great guy. Because hes fake and a manipulative lier who always puts on his mask. And I have a terrible reputation. For being honest and so damaged from years of constant abusive relationships. No one gives me a chance to get to know who I really am. It drives me crazy. And I'm a pretty tough girl but sometimes I cry when I hear things about myself that aren't true. I don't understand why people are so fake and cruel. But all I know is that in order to get away from him I had to have him evicted because he refused to leave me. I must be a pretty terrible girlfriend if he wouldn't leave me. It's just ridiculous.
I feel like my kids are suffering because of this relationship I've got that's pretty bad when I still can't break up with this guy God bless us and God bless me to help me find my dignity Grace and priorities again cuz this is pure hell
I'm in a toxic relationship and everytime I try to leave...my partner tend to justify his actions and influence me he would change. Our compatibility is way out and becomes difficult to navigate through.
Memeiisyaa NEVER let a man determine your worth girl you’re absolutely beautiful and I’m sure you’re personality is jus as beautiful!! You’re 1000000% worthy 💛
Elise Langseth aww girl ! You’re so strong for that seriously that takes a lot ! Its awesome how you can see everything with a clear head and do what’s best for you despite certain circumstances that’s really admirable ! I’m in a really similar situation and I wish I could do the same so jus know we all rooting for you and I hope things can work out the way you want 💛
If you think being on a relationship is supposed to bring you happiness you're in for a surprise. No you're not supposed to be misserable but don't expect too much.
You know I prefer being single than being in a relationship like this myself currently I'm in one trying to find my dignity and trying to find what I deserve again I hope you do too sweetheart
Love yourself everything falls into place when you truly can love yourself forgive yourself of all your past forgive everybody in the past I know it's so much easier said than done but that's the only way
From the perspective of a woman, I broke up with my previous BF because he simply refuses to grow up. He's now almost 20 years old and still behaves like a 10 year old. I had started to move forward in my life and he started to fall behind. I have school, work, responsibilities at home and many other things. He would stay at home and play games and do just the bare minimum. As a woman, when you start to grow and become more and more mature, you aspect the same from your partner. He stayed a child and that's not always a bad thing, but when it's become the defiance of who you are it's a big problem. Maybe over time he'll see that. My Current BF is doing stuff with his life. He has goals and dreams. As a woman I need a man, not a child. As a great man once said, "I'm only 19, but my mind is older." [Lin-Manuel Miranda]
How do you cope with ending a relationship where the other person has done nothing wrong, but loved you, but you know you aren't right together? To the extent where most things they say give you anxiety, you just don't know why. What is more, you know that if you end the relationship, they will try to cause themselves physical harm?
I think it's important to remember that these points don't have to just exist in romantic relationships. I'm in a relationship and I love my boyfriend to pieces, we're both very happy together. I came here because I feel my grandmother is toxic and I've been needing reassurance that walking away from her was the right thing for me to do. This video has confirmed to me that it was so thank you for your support. You've just earned a new sub 😊
I love this video ! So true ! Time for me to go now...- total misery ! Verbal, psychological and financial abuse ..not to mention other terrorizing ...destruction of property, stolen property etc...
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and I really love him. However, I’ve been having trust issues with him because he’s been a bit too close to my best friend. They used to blow kisses and wink at each other all the time. I told them to stop, which they agreed to do. Then it turned into them joking about being f buddies. Every time I told them to stop, they would, but then do a new thing. Both my boyfriend and my best friend are clearly taken, yet they flirt like they’re single. My best friend’s boyfriend and myself have been slightly tired of this
To the people reading these messages understand this. It is better to be single, and free then in a toxic relationship. Trust me on this. I was miserable in mine, and since leaving my life is like being reborn. You can do this too. Walk away. Cut ties. Embrace the unknown!
Putz Gabi, faz isso não! Entendo seu raciocínio, porém assim você apenas prolonga o fardo que é manter esse relacionamento... Cria forças e pula fora! Claro, com jeito e sem precisar sem grossa ou rude mas pula fora sim! E seja feliz, livre e leve como deveria ser ;)
Ive just broke up with my ex boyfrind and watching this im feeling a bit better. He wasnt emotional or just supportive in general and it was beginning to become emotionally abusive. Im glad its over now it wasnt going to last.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THESE GREAT TIPS! I wish more women would look into #1 critically. I hear of too many people who stay in relationships that don't make them happy only because they are desperate they won't find anything better and therefore decide to settle. It's heartbreaking! THANKS FOR SHARING
He made me realize my self worth, how I shouldn’t be a choice at all...I was his second choice. I was his backup plan. It’s my tone to leave him because if he can’t choose me or if he even had to think about us being together, it’s not it. My only problem is I hate doing this to people, making them feel bad. But I can’t lead him on for any longer because that would hurt me and him even more. I will work on my self love more and it will be a good life. Wish me luck! 😞❤️
For me, it’s not even the toxicity or unhappiness. The spark is just kind of dead, at least for now. It’s so hard to give up because our relationship started over quarantine, and how things are is no way to have a relationship. But who knows
Same, mine started in quarantine and I'd feel like a quitter, she has her good points, she will help me with my personal problems but then the next second she's making everything worse...I'm consistently unhappy and we agreed if we were to break up it would be amicable but in reality we both know that not true and I'm afraid to lose my best friend... again.
Same exact thing for me! Spark is gone and people say that butterflies go away after a while but I feel like it’s more than just the butterflies I’m bored all the time with her and I’m not really excited to even see her anymore but I don’t wanna give it up
Mc Lovin Thanks for replying and bringing this comment back to my attention, I’d forgotten about it. I broke up with my aforementioned girlfriend about a month ago, it just wasn’t working anymore. I felt some of the same things you did. There was no anticipation. When we were new and things were good, I brought my phone upstairs and stayed up until 2-3 AM some nights unknown to my mom, just to talk to her. Last few weeks before I ended it, I went to bed at 10 o’clock and just left my phone. The first and second time I went to see her I felt so much anticipation, especially the second time. But the last time I visited her before I ended it with her I just felt “meh”. It was nice, and I had a decent time, but it didn’t really feel like I belonged there anymore. Like there was better out there for me. Sometimes you can rekindle a spark but usually it’s better to just end it. You don’t have to end it tomorrow, but just keep in mind it’s a lot of work, which I now know first-hand
There are good reasons to leave people like controlling people or those who are always negative. I didn't doubt you have been hurt. But have you thought about how you have hurt others? Or if you are choosing relationships for the wrong reasons, e.g. good looks, wealth? You should ask yourself these questions and bear in mind that nothing is wrong with seeking counseling
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I think I really needed to see this to help me decide to go on a temporary break up or ask for space from my boyfriend cuz honestly I haven't been feeling happy with him for the past couple weeks
These things can be true of friendships too. I’ve finally realized that my closest friend isn’t who I thought she was, and the friendship isn’t healthy for me.
Goodness. It's difficult seeing the aftermath of your reality when watching one of these. It's TRUE it comes down to the other person and what they're willing to do, change and put up with. Never settle. It's a waste of your time and energy and emotional and physical wellbeing.
i had more sad times than happy times during my relationship, she is always sad and makes me moody too but i like her and i try to care about her and try to resolve what makes her sad but it ends up hurting me
Hey Psych2Goers! Are you...single? Taken? In love with food? Are you free next Saturday to go on a coffee date?
God damn y'all are getting wayyyy to close to home
@In My Honest Opinion Wherever you want! It's my treat. I can even pick you up, and drive you there :)
Speak on it, word is Bond, son!!!
I'm free next Saturday but I need to ask my moe. She said is it Alexis asking?
I'm not exactly in a committed relationship with this person but he wants us to be something more. I'm trying to figure out how to tell him no. Any advice Psych2go? Also I love your comments 😂
Leaving a relationship is really difficult, I hope everyone who's going through it will find the much needed happiness and peace....😢
😔
@Dooode Toochie well...If you're both committeed to one another, I don't think there's anything wrong. But you can try doing something to reignite the passion
I’m in a bad relationship and I’m scared to leave
@@YukonYuki same :(
😔😢💔
Often times I find myself giving a hundred percent while my partner is only giving 25% into the relationship and I had to make a difficult choice in leaving them.
gyp me that same I’m trying to decide if I should break up with my girlfriend or not. I just don’t feel like she cares as much about are relationship as she did in the beginning and she’s been making me unhappy almost everyday with how she doesn’t communicate like I do
gyp me that
Same
Depends on what you are doing. There are two sides to this problem that you are pointing out, one is how you see the relationship the other is how the other sees it. How are you giving 100%? Maybe the 100% that you give isn't what the other person wants in the relationship or maybe that person doesn't have the background to understand it. This is why communication is very important. You can explain to the other person that you believe in the relationship and want the best for both of you and this is why you are doing the things that you are doing. If the other person has a meh... type of response, then its time to leave. In these discussions you will find out where you stand in the relationship from the others point of view and decide if you want to continue or not. Don't let the frustrations pile because this will make you become too irrational to make a good and responsible decision.
@@ot2789 u said the truth. A guy could be giving a 100% in things that doesn't matter to a girl and girl could be giving 100% to the guy in things that doesn't matter to him. Both will feel disappointed. Communicate and come in terms with each others preferences.
I know the feeling. Best of luck in your future! ^_^
I left a damaging relationship in 2013. I was too scared to leave because after 7 years together I was convinced that my life would be empty without him. Nine years later, I am about to receive my PhD.
Your post resonated with me. 2013 was also the year of my great relationship reckoning and subsequent journey of self discovery. Peace. Respect. Kindness. Fun. If we can not find the fun (joy) together, then I thank you, and with gentle kindness, farewell. Congratulations, Christine Lee.
Doctor Christine Lee. Very cool.
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ....
Congratulations 🎉
It’s crazy how 1 person can hold you back.
Happier with them, or alone.
Take a while to decide that answer.
You watching this video it's the first sign...
that's true lol
Very happy. Interested to learn new things. A lot can be resolved with taking distractions away and communication. We all have slumps and a lot here are just that.
Fuck
So true
Oh
When his actions dont match his words, it is very hard to trust.
It's not just males, females can be the same way.
Henry The Not So Sane Gachatuber yes but, they may be talking about a boy.
@@_vvizi0 I know they are. I'm just stating my opinion because I've had the same problem with girls.
Henry The Not So Sane Gachatuber oh okay
Ik this is very late. I feel terrible I am always letting people down especially my girlfriend and I feel like she can’t trust me I feel like I’m a terrible person
Everything was my fault, never owned up to his mistakes, unapologetic, argumentative, never wrong.
Preaching to my choir 😂
Same. I hope you are free
Same with my gf.
He didn't care bc was cheating 🤷🏾♀️
Same I’m trying to keep myself together but I HAD to up and leave in the middle of the night. I know it was right but it was so hard , I needed to take my power back. He didn’t care so I had to stop caring too...
"I will miss you" "me too" - gosh that hit me HARD.
Same.
yea that got me..
Got me too
im so joji level sad here :(
If only it was that easy
When love turns into ever-lasting pain you're probably better off ending the torture before it kills you
Yes indeedy
Can I borrow that for my next tattoo so I don’t forget?
That hit home hard
What do you do when she won't leave and you have a 4 year old?
Grind out 14 more miserable, lifeless years until the kid turns 18? Or make her leave, and also split your family?
*oh shit thats deep*
I want to leave the relationship why can’t I just leave? It’s like something pulling me back all the time but I don’t want to be there anymore and I pray I have the courage to leave . Now I understand why older women just decide to be alone for the rest of they’re lives.
It's happening with me too
Same
Same here guys😢 I am happy all by myself.. I don't know what's holding me back.. I am not able to work on myself when I am in a relationship.. When he leaves me everytime I make myself understand and be happy and when he comes I just forget to work on myself..
random soul you are just scared to tell the truth, that’s why people don’t break
Me now😔
Leaving a relationship should not feel like punishment, it's just 2 people, shared experiences, added value to each other, now moving on...
Your Favorite Lifecoach what if u keep missing that person and u feel guilty!!
Huh that's quaint
You know maybe they mean a bea of water?🧐
U make me feel more confident on breaking up now
depends on why you're leaving
The signs are all there already, but I can’t leave him 😭
Edit : I’m finally over that relationship and I’m far happier now 🤩 thank you so much for the support y’all 🥺💝
Ahn Kyung Min....blv me I get u 100% but dear u have to try or atlst try loving urself more for the 1st time ever!! I'll be worth it nd soon ull see what u have bn missing all along
Ahn Kyung Min same😢
Ahn Kyung Min you can choose to leave when the universe tells you to, or be forced to leave when the universe gets sick of you not listening..
@@thando8149 wtf? what if it gets worse??? you cannot know what's good for her! if there are real reasons to leave, ok, but if it's just insecurity or people who don't have understanding for each other, things can be changed. no relationship is perfect and people think if you just run away, you solved your problems. self love can be built within a relationship. people forget that everything needs work. we have too much expectations of love, and of course we become bored if we don't invest our time
Same here😔😔
I dont wanna leave my relationship.... I just want us to heal ourselves so we can be better and better for eachother
Ruby Gee why are relationships so complex
same but when it's just you giving effort to heal it's not worth it.
Ruby Gee same girl 😔
Same. Things are hard at the moment but I hope things will turn out well for me and that they turned out the best for you whatever that outcome may have been :)
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I always feel like I'm the toxic one in any relationship.
Update: I'm still toxic.
Don’t be so hard on yourself, we all have something we need to work on 🤗
@@UnamusedAHole sad
@@Heroui I'm just kidding lol.
@@UnamusedAHole
Spoken like a typical abuser bro
@@UnamusedAHole 😂😂😂👌🏼
When we are together we are happy it’s when we arnt together he’s flaky inconsistent which makes me feel insecure.
Same like wtf is going on in his brain..
Yes im having the same problem with my girlfriend we are happy when together. Then when shes not with me takes ages to reply to texts and doesnt answer her phone for a long period. I think sometimes shes not being true to me. Its making me insecure
@@damianclarke8056 Oml same! My bf doesn't reply and he seems soooo uninterested in me when we aren't together like WHAT THE HELL?
Have you tried talking to him about it? I know it can be hard but you'll be better for it!
Mew Two for real.
Lack of empathy is usually when I hit the eject button on a relationship
Me too.
That’s where i am now
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ..
So basically every woman
5 Signs It's Time to Leave a Relationship
1. You're consistently unhappy
2. You're traveling on different paths
3. Lack of support
4. Abuse of any sort
5. Lack of trust
:)) like the video and dont forget to subscribe (if you havent yet)
Thanks for the summary! Yipee
Psych2Go I love the summary.
@@Psych2go got a video on how to deal with best friend ditching you completely for a partner?
I didn't ask for spoilers :,c
What do you mean by traveling on different paths?
This video is beautiful. I really love how it explains that you shouldn't be guilty after drawing a line if there's no future in the relationship. Instead of creating more issues in the future, it's better to let go now.
I haven’t trusted him in months. I love him but I feel like he’s a child and I’m mothering him from the way he acts and the way I talk to him. He never listens and never picks up when I call and need him. There has been many small events that have led me to hate him.
I can relate to this.
Same..
Same and I’m still with him after 6 years. Engaged. Guys like this will rarely change.
If you want your man to change, GET A DIFFERENT MAN. Do you think he wants to be with someone who thinks of him like that? You might think you're smarter or more mature but tbh all of you commenting this sound condescending as hell
Learn to relax and chill out. If the guy you're with isn't exactly what you want,, do find that dude then. You're right, guys don't change, and that's a good thing. You should never EVER change yourself for someone. Especially someone who just want you to be their image of what's perfect smh
Ive left a lot of relationships because we weren't working together, or I couldn't see us in the future. I wasnt satisfied, and it was just extra stress, and I didn't want to lead them on.
That's very mature of you to have done!
@Tara H I think if they are super attached to you and you don't want to hurt them, then the better to cut it off. For me, I'd rather give my hundred to a relationship I want to be in,rather than one I'm not it. They don't want a partial effort in exchange for full, or at least they shouldn't .
you will keep on leaving relationships until you realise that there are no miracles. a lot of young people do that, you won't find someone perfect. good luck.
@@Es3iya I agree. There are some relationships that needs to be put to an end for eg. if he's/she's too abusive, is cheating on you, doesn't reciprocate at all. But otherwise you just have to work it out. Every relationship will lack something and if we always chose to leave because of it then we are going to have to leave all our lives. I don't know what we are teaching these days. Leaving instead of teaching how to face and tackle problems and issues. No wonder why so many people are divorced these days. Relationships aren't supposed to bring you happiness all the time. It does bring happiness sometimes, but it brings a lot of pain too. This is the universal truth. Successful relationships aren't successful because they met the right one, they are successful because they chose to stay and work together. So many don't get this these days except for a few like yourself.
Yes after using them in a sexual way.....some men are like that .they used u and said ohhh l don't see us in the future....what a joke.....it should be a way that the very first day know that they are playing and using u.....
I just got out of a very meaningful relationship, even if I was still in love with my partner. What made me leave was the lack of attention and care to me, the efforts put in the relationship that were not equivalent (because of circumstances such as school, homework) and it also made me realize that me and my partner didn't expect the same things from each other, and right now both of us needed to let go, at least for a while, and maybe change.
I appreciate all your videos a lot, this helped me getting more comfortable with my decision, so thank you guys !
are you happy now ? , please share your experience it much needed for someone like me who is about to take this step
This sounds like me-
Wait can I get sum advice on what to say??
It's very painful to end a relationship. We were together for 8 years and have a son in common. However, if deep inside you feel you are not 100% happy or that your partner doesn't support you or love you for who you are, don't force an unhealthy relationship. Over time will be even more damaging to your emotional wellbeing. It's been 1 month, I am now starting to feel slightly better. You are not alone in this. Your life starts now, stay strong everyone who is going through this.
I don't know what to say. None of these perfectly fit, but I'm bored in my relationship. Things used to make me consistently excited and happy, I would look forward to seeing him, but now I feel like I've been on the same date nineteen different times and I'm no longer growing. I feel like I keep having to stop my progress in order to go back and make sure he's not feeling left behind, unloved, or insecure.
Dillon Walker I see your comment was made quite a bit ago and I hope all is well :) I feel this very same way now with my boyfriend of two years. He also stuck with me during a difficult time in my life so I feel like I can’t leave but I know deep down that I probably should.
I feel you
That's would fit under the "different paths" reason. I hear you. My bf and I when we were first seeing each other, we would have late night meet ups, drive around, do random things like go to the beach at night, the boardwalk, the park. Now its netflix, youtube, sex. And he makes going out to places a big deal. In 3 years we've never gone out to a club or bar together. Nor traveled more than once. I'm bored! Never ever dim your light or zest for life because someone else cant measure up. There are too many couples traveling the world together.
Dillon please update! Your comment was so perfect and fited exactly w my past situation
@@narakaren2571 I had multiple talks with him, but I actually ended up leaving and taking time for myself.
I found this video while trying to calm myself down. I'm ending my 13 year relationship, and right now I'm in what I think is a real life panic attack.
I think I'm terrified of being alone. ..!
Man w/o a Plan 💪
I feel you buddy
Stay strong. Think things through. I really hope things go well for you.
@@hoohahoohalihoohah74 thank you my friend
Man w/o a Plan Im dealing with that right now and Im going insane
After she said “What’s a spongebob?” I knew that it was time
I'd RUN so quick LMAOOO
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😂 😭
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Sometimes it hurts you a lot more holding on to something that is just making a deep wound. Let it go and watch how you heal ❤️ your future you will be thanking you.
@@elshootingstar U ll be okay
Everytime I read something like this there's a subconscious thought that these are only for women. If a man feels the same thing and tries to let go of a relationship which is constantly making deep wounds then that's an act of cowardliness or something that's not right.
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ..
Thank you I feel like this is exactly what I needed to hear. I feel like I’m holding onto this relationship I’m in but I’m just not sure how to end things. This made me feel a little more confident tho 💕
Love is just dangerous in my opinion. No matter what you do, you are always hurting someone in it. That’s why I’m so afraid of it. I don’t want to hurt anyone or put ANYONE into the pain that I went through.
:-( *virtual hug*
You have to learn a lot of things and remember, nothing is perfect
A lot of the things that make us happy can hurt us and/or eventually turn to a sad memory. Just because love is a dangerous thing, doesn't mean you don't try it. It doesn't have to be romantic love either. It could be your friends, your family, or even a pet. We all have to face the fact that we WILL lose the things we love on way or another. Either death or breaking things off. But we have to learn to accept that's okay.
Don't let the fear of hurt hinder you from living. After all, if they make you happy, then it must be something that makes life worth living and anyone who has that is very much blessed in life~
Layla Beila Sure, maybe, but you’re taking yourself out of the equation here when you shouldn’t be. While you seem to be thinking about others getting hurt, seems like you’re hurting yourself in the process of trying to protect others, which supports your thesis of someone getting hurt no matter what. What you need to realize is that you’re equally as important as everyone else and should be as considerate to your own well-being as much as you are to others.
Eh fuck it. Who needs love when there are internet memes?
When his words doesnt match his actions , and he rather let me suffer than anyone else.
I was always complaining about being single, until I got into the most toxic one side narcissistic abusive relationship, that made me think I must have serious issues to have attracted such vile being, moral of the story, HEAL HEAL HEAL don’t chase any relationship, as you are fully healed you will automatically attract the right person.
BlessedSoul🌟 dealing with a very mentally abusive person. Needed this
I would guess one of your parents wasnt in your life.
@@TrulyMademoizelle I have both my parents in my life. Great supportive parents. But I have a saviour complex. I always want to be needed and I always want to be someone's pillar. That's why I'm drawn to damaged people. I am trying to get to the route of why I am this way so that I can eventually leave my current relationship. One of the reasons keeping me in it is that I'm afraid to hurt him if I leave him. I sacrifice myself for other people's happiness and that is something that I need to work on.
@@societyzpinksheep2645 do you ever observe your parents relationship with each other to see if you might be mimicking one of them? Usually the mom
@@TrulyMademoizelle I've observed their relationship and I don't seem to be mimicking any of them. But, I am digging into my relationship with my father from childhood until now. He's a great dad and he loves me a lot but, our relationship is different to his and my older sister's relationship so I'm trying to unpack that to see if that might be one of the root causes of my behaviour in relationships.
I’m only 22 but when my dad died earlier this year, my boyfriend of 3 years at the time didn’t know how to react I guess and just distanced himself. He didn’t provide any real emotional support. When I told him that the relationship was causing me additional stress on top of my grief and that I needed a break, he went out and got drunk with his buddies and made out with some girl and sucked her toe in a Denny’s bathroom. But you know “we were in a break”
list of reasons to NOT leave a relationship:
• you don't have one
• you don't have one
• you don't have one
Yup exactly
Lol
I have never related to something more 😂
ALEX
Lol XD
Dušan Xmetov
He is just kidding
After I left my ex, all my friends have noticed me getting happier. That I'm finally me.
My friend finally said last night, "You're generally more happy, less worries, and you can express what you want without having to feel like walking on eggshells,"
It made me so happy. I'm free.
Same here bro
My God those eggshells yes. Totally get it.
I love him very much almost a year but I don't know why he broke up with me and it is very hurt for me though I am still on the process of moving on but I don't know I can't because I still love him and maybe I still waiting him to be back .
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ..
I honestly thought I was the only one experiencing this signs in my relationship with my ex partner. I'm truly happy I'm not the only guy going through this storm. I really believe us guys have the heart to leave our toxic relationships no matter how hard it is. I'm with you my brothers!!❤❤🙌🏾 word.
My dad told me if my partner hits me even once to leave. I've never forgotten that advice. I've never been in a relationship though but I'll take that advice with me if I ever do.
You know my mom told me that.. she's went through that for 15 years, and me I always told myself I will leave the day my man lays a hand on me. And I never understood why my mom waited so long to leave her abusive marriage and I never thought that I would ever understand why.. but now I do.. I've dated this boy for 1 year and 4 months.. and I broke it off in October of this year because he abused me mentally, verbally and physically. Then a couple weeks passed no talking no communication just nothing. Until my mom gave me a hand written letter that was by him.. and we became friends again and everything was going well for a week until he started getting into his habits of telling me what to do and I can't have friends and all this.. and then now he's back to hurting but it's worse and I feel trapped 😞😞 and the worst part is that we're not even dating
@@SarahOlveraI'm sorry that you feel trapped. Does your mom or friends know? They can probably help you, don't let him hold you back :( I would have cut off all contact completely. Even rip up the letter and throw it away. It was different for my parents because before they got together and got married, they found out both of their previous partners found someone else and ended those relationships right away (They didn't mess around). I hope you'll have the strength to cut ties with him soon and for good.
My mom doesn't know really, but I'm 17 I plan on moving to a different state. And just write him a good bye letter soon. But I feel like if I leave like that I'm going to be the bad person .. I'm going to miss him so much. This is so hard for me and I feel like I'm all alone in this
They don't start hitting. They break down your spirit with critcism and hurtful comments. They dismiss your feelings, say you exagerrate and tell you that you are too sensitive....I left at this point. So he told me I was unreasonable and that HE WAS happy. Of course he would never find a girl like me again. I was miserable. When I told him it was over he was in denial. He tried for me to go back to him but I did not.
Other great qualities he had: always broke and me having to pay for more than my share, no realistic goals, he was so FULL of himself. Honestly, what did I ever see in this loser? Well he had a good sense of humor and was very fun before he snapped like Jekyll/Hyde. He had TREMENDOUS mommy issues, in part brought on by his difficult nature. When you get the full picture you need to RUN.....
He also liked to shoplift because he was so broke, yet he drove a Mercedes. I had to pay for his gas one time. He lived beyond his means. Sooooooo crazy....
My dad told me 2 things: don't try to change them, they never will. It will only get worse. (Agression, hygiene). And: look at the parents-in-law, they usually will become like them in the end (which is normal, they're being raised by them, sometimes get the same habits.
First thing you do to save yourselves time. When you get with somebody, ask them what their main goal is, if they want kids, if they just want to work and want money, if they want to get married. If you contrast from them, treat it like an interview in the date and then accept that they want different things despite you maybe liking eachother. It's cool to gain friends instead. Dont let your emotion outweigh your logic
Yeah. Too many people are rushing into relatioships.. there really is no reason to.
Also ask within 2 weeks what they would do if in the long term you get very sick, or how they think about disability. Like my ex said: cancer? I don't think I could handle that, I'ld leave you. So there's that. At least he was honest.
If only people are honest at the start some people tell all u wanna hear just to get you trapped
Your logic is a bit flawed..no disrespect..ppl do change over the years..what they say now might be different from say 5 years time
.if it were only that simple😄
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when they stop saying i love you, are more distant, stop calling you babe or any other names, and start's calling you by your name witch they never used-
I feel like we're becoming toxic for each other.
I.. okay... I’ve gotten the answer to a question that’s been nagging me for a while.. it’s so crazy how things pop up right as you need them 😞
Be strong and do what's best for you. You've got this!
Yeah! Think of yourself first! If you feel like your relationship doesn't go anywhere then it's best to consider breaking up for your own good ans theirs.
True.
Yup. Synchronicity.
Leah_Nicole097 yo i totally feel you, it’s heartbreaking but it’s for the best. If you ever need anyone to talk to though there are people who support you, and if not hmu
"I never wanted to let you go. But I never wanted you to stay, and see you continue in pain."
I've declared myself single! Tired of broken promises! I'll be dating myself from now on!
Thats the way girl!
i tried lol, but again I fall in love again :(
Me too, better be single than get cheated on 😓
Pulling a Emma Watson i see
What the hell does that even mean? It’s okay to just be single and have friends.
I mean she actually left me but deep inside I wanted to break up with her before so many times, but I stayed because I didn't want to hurt her feelings and ended up getting hurt more than I would have if I had listened to my guts. I was blinded by my feelings towards her and always thought that we might still go on the same road. In the end we went different ways and had different expectations from our relationship. But I'm glad that I don't have to suffer anymore. I felt like a part of my life was taken away, yes, but I regained a part of me back which I lost in our relationship.
Damn I know that feeling
Exact same thing happened to me!
I think it’s hard because you can have the perfect rel and then life takes you down different paths. It’s hard because you still love that person but need to move on. I feel that that later means forgetting them and memories fade out even if the split was amicable. It’s sad.
Yeah, never stay with someone because you’re worried about hurting their feelings. Break ups hurt, that’s just a fact, even when they’re mutual. You’re allowed to leave at any time; if they’re hurt, they’re hurt. You can’t stay in a situation for someone else, you have to do what’s right for you.
Same thing happened to Me! Proud of you!
Yes, for some reason I couldn't trust her. This has absolutely nothing to do with jealousy. We didn't experience that at all, to my knowledge. Trust isn't about that. Trust is the assurance that you can always tell your partner about your worries and life complains without being met by a slap in your face metaphorically speaking. Trust is to be able to tell your partner that you have a feeling of not being enough for her or ask her how she felt about your not responding in the same manner on those rosy messages without being accused of being selfish. Above all, trust is the confidence that you will eventually sort things out together in the long run even if everything is a complete mess at the moment and you feel deeply hurt and devastated.
Can you guys do a video on looking at your own individual behavior in a relationship? IE: considering if maybe you're the manipulator or you're the source of conflict/toxicity?
You shouldn’t need that, just extrapolate from existing videos. Pretend the other person being described as toxic is you. That’s it.
@@deutschesmaedchen fair point. I wasn't asking for me. Moreso for people who struggle to put themselves in other people's shoes. But fair argument nonetheless!
There's no need to make a video on this subject because a toxic,manipulator and abusive side of a relationship very well knows what he/she is doing and and does it with absolute consciousness.
As someone who was a former manipulator, and who still has those traits, it took a lot of work for people in my life to get me to see that in myself as I actually was unaware. Most people are doing it subconsciously and too afraid to admit it or change once it's brought to their attention.
Having to make that change alone, I found it very difficult. If I had an educational platform to rely on, my transition would have been easier.
I still believe that having videos on this topic is essential, because there ARE people who want to change and don't know where to start.
These blanket statements you're making are equally damaging. Everyone is manipulative and abusive and toxic at some point. Something this channel should acknowledge.
Few people are this horrid on purpose. There are still plenty of them, but not in comparison to those who wish for better.
i agree to this!!
Narrator: one, you’re constantly unhappy
Well boy i am dead
I have mostly experienced all. I was never good enough for my partner, mental and emotional abuse happened year after year without change! Now experiencing apathy toward the relationship! It's freeing to be in this state actually. Very freeing!
The fact that you are watching this is a clear sign
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Lol
I'm not even dating anyone
I've seen a lot of comments like this but this is not necessarily the only reason. Some of us are just curious or want to fix the problems in a relationship, etc. In fact, comments like this are definitely not lifting the stigma of people who want to leave the relationship but don't have the courage to do that.
When the other person starts comparing you with other individuals, and not in a good way...
My gf told me there is no difference between me and her ex because of my smoking habit. It broke me and she compared her ex with me number of times. Last week this guy had an engagement. And she cried all night and called this guy to spend a night with her. The following morning she told me about it. I was out of town I felt terrible. She also told me that as of that moment I could leave her cause she thought there will be no right time than this to have a heart broken. I died inside that day. I knew I was a rebound guy at beginning but after almost 2years I was still a rebound guy. I've never felt so used.
Funny thing I don't have anyone to share this thing except for her.
Never accept less than what you deserve,
Ur amazing and you deserve the best❤💫
I was consistently unhappy for the last 3 years. I finally realized it and it was me. I was severely depressed and it hit me hard this last year but we got help and have been better than ever before. Our therapist is very good and has helped us a lot individually and as a couple. Like it's almost like he's an interpreter for us so we could understand each other better and learn how to communicate more effectively.
THIS. I hate using happiness as a meter to guage compatability bc as someone who's had chronic depression, its almost just a part of who i am rather than a reflection of the relationship. Im happy to hear that you're in a much better place! Stay strong and rock on :)
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ..
I wish my ex wanted to do anything therapy related at the time. He doesn't believe in therapy and got offended I suggested it to him and took it personally that I wanted to do therapy for myself...
@@autumnmusic22 leave him
@@tammmiiifresca7379 I did, but not for that reason alone
Just found out that my ex is recently seeing a mutual friend, from whom I've taken advice from and knows the story. Both played me good....
Sucks to see what you've worked towards burn and crash, but people are selfish, and by understanding your worth and not settling for bs, I was able to move on.
I dont feel lile my gf cares about me. I text her everyday, ask her how she is and so on, but I dont get the same support back. Im constantly wondering if she loves me, and im beginning to overthink. I had a conversation with her but she ofc told me she loved me, but she didnt seem invested in the convo at all. I spilled out my feelings one time and she responded with a single letter afterwards. I dont know if i should stay or leave.
Zapzey leave
Leave
LEAVE asap.
@@mikethewise2000 done, 5 months ago, no regrets
@@lindstenvfx how did it feel man?
Anyone else notice the “bea” as in, “before else anyone” instead of “before anyone else”
Audrey Whitaker or they misspelled bae lol
I WAS SO ANNOYED
Yeah that got me mad. It’s because it originated from the Black community and people mess up how we spell words like how they mess up how you say words like in the game telephone. Thanks for noticing.
Audrey Whitaker it’s short for Beatrice
Before everything else has been around a while
This video helped reassure me that I made the right decision in breaking up with my ex. I had a hard time admitting that I wasn’t happy and going to see him began to feel like such a chore. We argued over everything and I felt like everything was always made to be my fault. And we weren’t even together for a long time before the arguing started. Communication got worse because I didn’t wanna say anything that could trigger an argument with him. I’m relieved to be alone and work on myself
That was the good decision to make
You made the right decision
just went through this last night. It sucks because I feel like I made a mistake by ending it.
Redbull357 how do you feel now?
@@Redbull357 i want to know too
Her voice is so soothing, it helps.
He took advantage of my kindness. When he wanted something I’d try my best to get it for him, whether it was material or personal or something i could do and he’d do the same. But later someone else came into the picture and he’d try les for me and more for them. I was an afterthought.
Damn, situations like these really do lessen the trust one has in other people. Stay strong, you deserve a beautiful partner.
Thank you. I’m working on it.
I genuinly wish you to heal from this - you're definitely better than a secon option or anything. Wishing you the best, the right one will come along. you deserve to be no.1 and you are a no.1 !"!!!
THIS. Nobody talks about this but it's a surprisingly common experience. I hope you find someone that treats you the way you want to be treated!
:(
It doesn't matter how much I trust someone, I will always be jealous, fml lmao
Yeah it's a real human emotion, Do you have strategies on how to deal with jealousy? Actually, would you like to see a video on this topic?
@@Psych2go yes please!
@@Psych2go yess please
@@Psych2go I'd love to see a video on this topic!
@@Psych2go Omg that would be an amazing video. Please take your time with it though, as almost everyone on the Earth will be able to relate to it and learn from your video. Love you guys
Lying is always there. There is lack of feeling of being secure. I always feel like if this relationship is not made for you ,better you leave it quietly.Let them hook up with whoever they want to. No more holding up.
Trust is the most important thing in relationship
and respect too, something my boyfriend lacks.
No. Respect is
Everything else comes naturally
I really hate saying this but i dont fully turst my partner but i love her too much :/
After 10 years, hardest decision I've ever had to make in my life... 😔
@Claudia Vlahović yes definitely. Still hard every single day almost a year later. But it needed to be done. There was no way to mend what was broken between us, no matter how much we didn't want to acknowledge it.
I left my partner after 9 yrs about 9 months ago. Best and most painful decision I ever made, but boy does it suck being single sometimes lol
IDK if I should like this or not
How'd you do it 😢
I feel you 100%!! I'm so hurt & confused and truly terrified of the outcome if I go thru with this on my end.. But also just so tired of hoping and wishing that things will get better after 10 years..
I love getting relationship advice from this channel. When we need someone else to tell us what we already know.... then we know what we need to do. Good bye doesn't have to be the end, it can be the start to a new and improved you! 👏🏼💜
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3 months ago or so I had to leave a group of friends behind.
They broke my trust too many times and hurt me emotionally without noticing and made me an outsider.
I saw this video while I was writing about it in my diary. Thank you psych2go for your videos they always help me feeling understood.
And for everyone whos reading this-don't be scared of leaving people that don't make you feel supported and happy.
Thanks for reading :)
I’ve left for pretty much all of these reasons on a certain occasion. I found out that she had been lying to me about stuff involving my friends to make me get distant from them. She had also been keeping our relationship a secret from her family for reasons that I’d rather not say for the sake of her privacy. She had been using me and an emotional outlet to dump all of her crap onto. There was never a point where she didn’t try to shove all of her problems, grudges, and rage right into my face, and there were almost no times where I was able to talk about things that were making me feel depressed, and even suicidal at times. Everything was always about her. She was always the victim, she was always the one who needed to find justice, and she was never a part of the problem in any and everything she told me. After a while, I had had enough of it. I apologized to my friends for my and my girlfriend’s behavior, promised that I’d changed for the better, and asked them for the truth behind her lies. It’s safe to say that I wasn’t very happy with what I had learned, so I decided to confront her about it, and was prepared to break off the relationship if necessary. To put it simply, she saw the writing on the wall and thought it was a good idea to shout out “we’re through!” In the middle of the cafeteria, during lunch. It hurt more than I though it would to realize that we were apart. I had honestly hoped that we could work it out and be happy. And even after all that had happened, it was my friends that comforted me in my time of grief. Just another reason why I stick by them to this day. After the not-so-quiet break up, lots of people came to either ask if I was ok, what had happened, or to just tell me that I’m an asshole for pissing off my girlfriend. I then had to explain and tell them what REALLY happened just to get then to leave me alone. And this happened for a full month. Here’s what pissed me off. About 2-3 months after the breakup, I had already gotten over her and she decides to walk up to me and start a conversation as if nothing had happened. I wouldn’t have minded at all if it weren’t for the fact that she never apologized for what she did and what she put me through. But I kept my anger suppressed for the sake of curtesy... and because she had brought a friend with her to basically be a witness. What really pissed me off was when she said that she wanted to get back together, and smiled as if she wasn’t the one that broke my heart. My instinct was to say “Fuck No!” and leave, but unfortunately, I did not listen to that instinct. So here’s what I said “We were in a toxic relationship, and I don’t think getting back together is a good idea. I’m sorry, but my answer is no.” She took it surprisingly well, and her friend then took me to a place with no other people and asked why I said no. I then explained why and thanked her for asking me in private. It turns out that there was a rumor that my Ex was already dating someone, but in all honesty, I could care less. I was just happy to be out of that nightmare of a relationship and had no intention of going back. Unfortunately, she continues to ask if I want to get back together with her to this day. So I’m terribly sorry, but there is no happy ending so far.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I'm glad you have shared your story
Not talking about it won’t help the wounds heal. And despite everything, I’ve forgiven her. Not for her sake, but for my own. If I hold a grudge against her, then I become no better than her.
Genau
Damn Brony I’m so deeply sorry this happened to you people are so sick and it makes me sick how people can become so heartless and just discard you like you weren’t there and wasn’t by their side. I believe I’m in a toxic relationship after seeing this and I’m sad because I have a daughter with him..
Exhausted of feeling jealous and lack of trust even though I had no reason to not trust her
Sending this to my friend because she has experienced most of these reasons but still believes she should stay in a relationship.
@ Killian455's friend ... Hello!! Let us know if the video helps you out :)
I just had a recent (30 mins ago) mutual breakup on our 10 month anniversary. I watched this to gain confidence that breaking up was what was best for both of us and it was, we both wanted diffrent things and there was a lack of trust. I still love him and he was a big part of my life but sometimes, love isn't enough. Thank you for helping me through this
My trust was broken too much and I was no longer safe emotionally or physically. I chose myself over the bad situation and I am happier and safe now.
adding a copy of one of my replies to someone because I feel it's actually an important point:
As someone who was a former manipulator, and who still has those traits, it took a lot of work for people in my life to get me to see that in myself as I actually was unaware. Most people are doing it subconsciously and too afraid to admit it or change once it's brought to their attention.
Having to make that change alone, I found it very difficult. If I had an educational platform to rely on, my transition would have been easier.
I still believe that having videos on this topic is essential, because there ARE people who want to change and don't know where to start.
These blanket statements you're making are equally damaging. Everyone is manipulative and abusive and toxic at some point. Something this channel should acknowledge.
Few people are this horrid on purpose. There are still plenty of them, but not in comparison to those who wish for better.
My boyfriend wouldn't let me leave him even though I was very unhappy for a ling time. He always turned everything around on me and made me feel like a terrible person. Everyone in my small town loves him and think he's such a great guy. Because hes fake and a manipulative lier who always puts on his mask. And I have a terrible reputation. For being honest and so damaged from years of constant abusive relationships. No one gives me a chance to get to know who I really am. It drives me crazy. And I'm a pretty tough girl but sometimes I cry when I hear things about myself that aren't true. I don't understand why people are so fake and cruel. But all I know is that in order to get away from him I had to have him evicted because he refused to leave me. I must be a pretty terrible girlfriend if he wouldn't leave me. It's just ridiculous.
Talk to someone or someone professional or get the fuck out of that town
Please move out of that town, there is so much more to life. It will give you an opportunity to grow as a person.
Sounds Like my situation ,want him out
I feel like my kids are suffering because of this relationship I've got that's pretty bad when I still can't break up with this guy God bless us and God bless me to help me find my dignity Grace and priorities again cuz this is pure hell
I'm in a toxic relationship and everytime I try to leave...my partner tend to justify his actions and influence me he would change. Our compatibility is way out and becomes difficult to navigate through.
What about now
I just felt generally unhappy. Told him that I didn't feel loved and he didn't do any effort.
cutieLori I am getting there
same,i feel so unworthy😭
Memeiisyaa NEVER let a man determine your worth girl you’re absolutely beautiful and I’m sure you’re personality is jus as beautiful!! You’re 1000000% worthy 💛
Elise Langseth go you girl !!
Elise Langseth aww girl ! You’re so strong for that seriously that takes a lot ! Its awesome how you can see everything with a clear head and do what’s best for you despite certain circumstances that’s really admirable ! I’m in a really similar situation and I wish I could do the same so jus know we all rooting for you and I hope things can work out the way you want 💛
If you think being on a relationship is supposed to bring you happiness you're in for a surprise.
No you're not supposed to be misserable but don't expect too much.
I just want to be loved the way I love.
You know I prefer being single than being in a relationship like this myself currently I'm in one trying to find my dignity and trying to find what I deserve again I hope you do too sweetheart
Love yourself everything falls into place when you truly can love yourself forgive yourself of all your past forgive everybody in the past I know it's so much easier said than done but that's the only way
From the perspective of a woman,
I broke up with my previous BF because he simply refuses to grow up. He's now almost 20 years old and still behaves like a 10 year old.
I had started to move forward in my life and he started to fall behind. I have school, work, responsibilities at home and many other things.
He would stay at home and play games and do just the bare minimum.
As a woman, when you start to grow and become more and more mature, you aspect the same from your partner. He stayed a child and that's not always a bad thing, but when it's become the defiance of who you are it's a big problem.
Maybe over time he'll see that.
My Current BF is doing stuff with his life. He has goals and dreams.
As a woman I need a man, not a child.
As a great man once said, "I'm only 19, but my mind is older."
[Lin-Manuel Miranda]
sthmlptmntluver liking this just for the Hamilton reference 😂 but well said
You made him like that. Transition into you doing less paid income and him doing more. Get pregnant.
sthmlptmntluver damn, you got a top notch brain
Men don’t fully emotionally develop til they’re 43...
...he’s still a baby
I'm currently in the same situation. I'm not sure what to do... Everything I have links to him.
Just stay single. Problem solved
period
Very wise words of advice! Thank you
That’s what I’m gonna do. Relationships aren’t for me
This guy just solved all my problems and cured my depression.
You just saved my life
How do you cope with ending a relationship where the other person has done nothing wrong, but loved you, but you know you aren't right together? To the extent where most things they say give you anxiety, you just don't know why. What is more, you know that if you end the relationship, they will try to cause themselves physical harm?
I think it's important to remember that these points don't have to just exist in romantic relationships. I'm in a relationship and I love my boyfriend to pieces, we're both very happy together. I came here because I feel my grandmother is toxic and I've been needing reassurance that walking away from her was the right thing for me to do. This video has confirmed to me that it was so thank you for your support. You've just earned a new sub 😊
The moment I felt I was receiving little to no emotional support, I left the relationship.
It was hard but I was ''clingy''.
I love this video ! So true ! Time for me to go now...- total misery ! Verbal, psychological and financial abuse ..not to mention other terrorizing ...destruction of property, stolen property etc...
Can't leave one if ur not in one 😃😃
Is that a challenge?
You’re so lucky ...
Claudia Vlahović we all are 😊
I was being emotionally manipulated. Thanks for this video!
Its very hard to break-up with someone with whome you loved ,cared,trusted,and lost youself in remembering her...
But I have to do it 😭😭😭
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ....
I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and I really love him. However, I’ve been having trust issues with him because he’s been a bit too close to my best friend. They used to blow kisses and wink at each other all the time. I told them to stop, which they agreed to do. Then it turned into them joking about being f buddies. Every time I told them to stop, they would, but then do a new thing. Both my boyfriend and my best friend are clearly taken, yet they flirt like they’re single. My best friend’s boyfriend and myself have been slightly tired of this
Start doing those same things with your best friends boyfriend. That'll put a stop to it real quick. Or just break up. It doesnt seem healthy.
I would personally end it.
Wtf leave them both! Why would you do this to yourself?!
To the people reading these messages understand this. It is better to be single, and free then in a toxic relationship. Trust me on this. I was miserable in mine, and since leaving my life is like being reborn. You can do this too. Walk away. Cut ties. Embrace the unknown!
I'm so scared to go through the pain of breaking up with him that i choose to believe that we can fix those signs.
same:(
I can understand 🙂
Putz Gabi, faz isso não! Entendo seu raciocínio, porém assim você apenas prolonga o fardo que é manter esse relacionamento... Cria forças e pula fora! Claro, com jeito e sem precisar sem grossa ou rude mas pula fora sim! E seja feliz, livre e leve como deveria ser ;)
Ive just broke up with my ex boyfrind and watching this im feeling a bit better. He wasnt emotional or just supportive in general and it was beginning to become emotionally abusive. Im glad its over now it wasnt going to last.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THESE GREAT TIPS! I wish more women would look into #1 critically. I hear of too many people who stay in relationships that don't make them happy only because they are desperate they won't find anything better and therefore decide to settle. It's heartbreaking! THANKS FOR SHARING
He made me realize my self worth, how I shouldn’t be a choice at all...I was his second choice. I was his backup plan. It’s my tone to leave him because if he can’t choose me or if he even had to think about us being together, it’s not it. My only problem is I hate doing this to people, making them feel bad. But I can’t lead him on for any longer because that would hurt me and him even more. I will work on my self love more and it will be a good life. Wish me luck! 😞❤️
TRUST...is the most important thing when it comes to relationship...in all aspects...
All of them but I’m too scared because I’m too nice:(
same
For me, it’s not even the toxicity or unhappiness. The spark is just kind of dead, at least for now. It’s so hard to give up because our relationship started over quarantine, and how things are is no way to have a relationship. But who knows
Same, mine started in quarantine and I'd feel like a quitter, she has her good points, she will help me with my personal problems but then the next second she's making everything worse...I'm consistently unhappy and we agreed if we were to break up it would be amicable but in reality we both know that not true and I'm afraid to lose my best friend... again.
Same exact thing for me! Spark is gone and people say that butterflies go away after a while but I feel like it’s more than just the butterflies I’m bored all the time with her and I’m not really excited to even see her anymore but I don’t wanna give it up
Mc Lovin Thanks for replying and bringing this comment back to my attention, I’d forgotten about it. I broke up with my aforementioned girlfriend about a month ago, it just wasn’t working anymore. I felt some of the same things you did. There was no anticipation. When we were new and things were good, I brought my phone upstairs and stayed up until 2-3 AM some nights unknown to my mom, just to talk to her. Last few weeks before I ended it, I went to bed at 10 o’clock and just left my phone. The first and second time I went to see her I felt so much anticipation, especially the second time. But the last time I visited her before I ended it with her I just felt “meh”. It was nice, and I had a decent time, but it didn’t really feel like I belonged there anymore. Like there was better out there for me. Sometimes you can rekindle a spark but usually it’s better to just end it. You don’t have to end it tomorrow, but just keep in mind it’s a lot of work, which I now know first-hand
𝑪𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕'𝒔 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒐 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒓𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒅 𝑳𝑶𝒀𝑨𝑳𝑻𝒀? 𝑰 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒇𝒊𝒈𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒎𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒎 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒓 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒆𝒙 𝒃𝒐𝒚𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅. 𝑺𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒅𝒊𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒇𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒎𝒚 𝒔𝒖𝒔𝒑𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒐𝒏. 𝑰 𝒉𝒊𝒓𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝑰 𝒔𝒂𝒘 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒓𝒆𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝑰 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒉𝒐𝒏𝒆. 𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒗𝒊𝒂 𝒄𝒓𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒉𝒂𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒓.𝒄𝒐𝒎 ....
Definitely for me it is the same. The spark just dies and I stop feeling anything for them.
So according to my calculations i need to pack up and move.... far far away
I leave people so they don’t leave me
Sure you do. Lol you probably are not as great as you think you are. He is probably seeing another twelve year old behind your back. LMAO
this was an attack
Then why even bother?
There are good reasons to leave people like controlling people or those who are always negative. I didn't doubt you have been hurt. But have you thought about how you have hurt others? Or if you are choosing relationships for the wrong reasons, e.g. good looks, wealth? You should ask yourself these questions and bear in mind that nothing is wrong with seeking counseling
Fear of rejection. I would guess your parents are divorced. Or you experienced a traumatic breakup
“Temporary breakups”
It’s been 3 weeks of no speaking. I was hoping it was just temporary but I guess not😞 I miss him so damn much.
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Update? I'm currently going through this but he still text me about "phone bills" or "he's sorry" but doesn't want to be with me.
This is seriously my most favourite channel of all. You can make your videos fun, educating and helpfull ^-^
Love you guys~
Thanks for the kind words! :)
@@Psych2go
Youre very welcome 💕
You used to be one of the channels that I made fun of but now you gave me the confidence to step in the right direction. Thank you
I think I really needed to see this to help me decide to go on a temporary break up or ask for space from my boyfriend cuz honestly I haven't been feeling happy with him for the past couple weeks
These things can be true of friendships too. I’ve finally realized that my closest friend isn’t who I thought she was, and the friendship isn’t healthy for me.
This happened to me like two weeks ago with my best friend of 7 years. Hope she’ll be okay but I’m done.
Goodness. It's difficult seeing the aftermath of your reality when watching one of these.
It's TRUE it comes down to the other person and what they're willing to do, change and put up with.
Never settle. It's a waste of your time and energy and emotional and physical wellbeing.
i had more sad times than happy times during my relationship, she is always sad and makes me moody too but i like her and i try to care about her and try to resolve what makes her sad but it ends up hurting me
really love the videos
Thanks for your support, Joy!