“You’re never going to get any sleep again” and “you think you’re tired now, just wait” is all I hear all day every day and it’s honestly so heartbreaking. My husband and I have dreams to continue camping and traveling and everyone makes it seem like we can’t have that life anymore and I just refuse. Our daughter is half of each of us, right? So why shouldn’t she be involved in everything we do, too? My sister didn’t take drives further than two hours away until her kid was 5 years old. While my husband and I are moving across the world when our daughter will be 4 months. (Military) I just refuse to let these remarks rule our lives.
Me too. FTM in 3 months and it’s so heartbreaking to think our live will never be the same again. I really wish our baby is just another better addition to our experience, not to take away
I am pregnant after a several months of infertility meds. So whenever someone says how hard it is after childbirth, I can't help wondering how miraculous it was for me to get pregnant at all. Thank you for all the positive tips. Best of luck for the second one!
Congratulations!!! I’m so so happy for you. When I tried to get pregnant it was the most discouraging thing when I saw negatives. You’re going to be a wonderful mamma!
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Wow, congratulations!! I'm sorry the way I worded things offended you. Not my intention at all! You're absolutely right! I truly believe all pregnancies and births are miraculous.
@@margaretmatheny No no, you don't need to say sorry at all. In fact you have uploaded one of the most uplifting videos about new parenthood. It's really hard to focus on the positives when people around me keep hanging on to the negatives. I am so excited to meet my little one and best of luck to you too!
17 weeks pregnant. Only 19 years old and newly married. My husband and I got married and chose to have kids right away knowing that we were absolutely not ready for it but that no one ever really is ready and you just have to dive in and do it. People tried to say everything they could to scare us out of getting married and to scare us out of having kids this young, but we’ve found that marriage truly is the most beautiful and joyful thing, and I’m sure having a baby will end up being just as wonderful. I’m so excited for this little one!!
THANK YOU, I could cry... first time mom at the age of 33. People really do make parenthood seem so terrifying the moment you announce you're pregnant, when it's too late to go back. I am slow to accept change and I know that about myself, which is why it's taken me so long to be ready for children, I needed to hear these things. I know in my head that I can do this and we will be fine, but man the encouragement I got from this video really helped.
How are things for you? I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and I also have a hard time with change. Despite stocking up on supplies and my growing belly, the fact that I'm having a baby still hasn't really hit me in a lot of ways I feel, it probably won't until he's here! Curious how your experience has been, hope all is well!
@@AmallieGames we are doing great! I won’t lie, those first few months were tough in a lot of ways, I was induced after being rear ended on a highway exit and labored for three days as my body just wasn’t ready to give birth yet, the epidural was worth it for me! As a result of the accident, I didn’t have a car the whole first month, which was tough. After a 5-day hospital stay, I was very tired coming home, I didn’t expect that the baby wouldn’t sleep all night, but I later learned that is normal! So if it happens for you guys it is ok and you’re not doing anything wrong! Remind yourself everyday, WE ARE LEARNING! That was so helpful for me. Something shifted around that 4 month mark, I loved my baby when he was born, but in the months that have followed, watching him understand that he loves me and all the milestones we’ve reached together… I finally understood the huge shift that is a mother’s love. It’s overwhelmingly wonderful, I would do anything for this kid! The other thing to know, the gross stories and scary sounding stories that people tell: those things you just handle one step at a time, you’re completely in the moment and you don’t really have time to think about anything other than the next step, you’ll reflect later and be like wow that was tough! And you’ll feel proud that you handled it, and that’s why people share those stories. Not to scare you. I still don’t think it’s very nice of them, but I understand from their perspective a bit more now. You have totally got this, momma. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, it will be ok and you and baby and your partner are just learning. It turns out pretty wonderful on the other side. 💜
This video was very comforting!! I'm 33 weeks pregnant and let me tell you, I'm scared of post-pregnancy. I love the part where you mentioned that people talk about your relationship being basically over once the baby comes. My husband and I have a tight bond and honestly I don't see us distancing once the baby's here because this is all we ever wanted... but of course... people got to my head. This video got me back on track on my positive vibes and I feel so relaxed!
I'm so so so glad to hear! If I'm being completely honest, my husband and I got closer post-baby. There was just a deeper, more meaningful love that we both had for the child and for one another. Not everyone will have the same experience, but that was ours
While it can be an overwhelming time it’s so rewarding. Take it one day at a time, honour how you feel and spoil yourself loads. Keep your boundaries tall and strong and enjoy your new family dynamic 🌹
Currently 15 weeks pregnant and I am so happy I found this video. Thank you for the positivity. I’ve been having so much fear and anxiety about being a first time mom (losing my freedom & career which I worked so hard for my whole life). Your video helped me feel more calm ❤️
@@TheOrganizedPineapple yes! I just had my baby girl 2 weeks ago and I love her so much ❤️. Still recovering physically and adjusting mentally, but I’ve learned to take things one day at a time and slow down. One of my favorite things is watching my husband love being her dad. She has made both our lives brighter ☀️.
@@alessandrabenner6058 congratulations 🎉 I have 3 littles and my oldest is 11 ! None of these helpful things were around when I was having my babies. Glad they are around now.
Thanks for the video. Im 31 weeks with my Miracle baby girl after 6 years of infertility. 💖I'm so excited but I am starting to get a little nervous. I just hope I can be the best mom ever to my girl 💕🤰☺
I love this! I’ve been so nervous because of all the negativity surrounding postpartum. A lot of people tried to scare me when I got pregnant too about how terrible pregnancy is. They were SO wrong. I have loved my pregnancy, even when it’s been challenging or uncomfortable. You are so right! It’s all about your mindset. Go into pregnancy and motherhood with a positive and grateful attitude and you will have a positive and fulfilling experience!
I absolutely LOVE being pregnant! With my first pregnancy, I thought I was some kind of freak because it was such a great experience for me. I was pregnant last spring, and it was starting out great again, so I thought, "Maybe not everyone always hates being pregnant." Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage and was devastated. I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant again, and I am SO happy and am enjoying being pregnant SO much again! I know a lot of women have a really rough pregnancy, and I feel for them, but I guess I'm just one of the blessed ones that really love being pregnant! ❤I
I am a 48 year old grandma to be and I love this video> I recommended it to my daughter soon to be FTM. Love your honesty and positive attitude. Being a mom is awesome!
this video is everything 🥺 !! Ive been struggling SO hard today with the anxiety of everything thats changing... so much fear mongering online about what to do/not to do, being a good mom etc..i just want to be a good mom and be relaxed 🥺
"Motherhood is what you make of it" LOVE THAT ADVICE! ❤ I'm going to start telling people "I'm sorry YOU feel that way." And walk away when they say negative crap to me. I don't need that kind of negativity. We tried to conceive for 14 months. My husband & I are about to celebrate 9 years together ❤ We're so excited to be parents. I know it won't be a walk in the park or all rainbow & sunshine... but I really don't think we will be as miserable as everyone makes it out to be. I feel like the joy of bringing our baby girl home will outweigh all the hard moments. 🥰
“It’s not a tired that’s ruining my life…” thank you for putting it that way. I’m 34 with my first and the tired is hard for me but putting it that way is so true and helped me place my feelings about being tired better. Thank you
This eased my anxiety so much, it's just hard when my parents don't realize how much has changed since they had kids so I'm always hearing different ways to do things and it's incredibly stressful but I know now they're just trying to help from how they remember things
12 weeks first time pregnant here! This is so true! My dad just told me that baths for babies are absurd because in their times they bathed the baby in the sink. That’s the level. My parents are so stubborn and strong minded though, I’m quite afraid of them pushing on how to take care/raise the baby , because I hate having conflict with them. How did you handle it? Any tip please? 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I'm over here super emotional and teary-eyed because this video was such a blessing to me. I'm about to go into my third month of pregnancy and I literally know nothing about it and don't have much support. But you are such a light! May God bless you, and encounter you. I pray that if you don't know Jesus, that you come to know him in such a real way. He created you beautifully, thank you so much for all of your help!
This is literally the number video out of the thousands I have seen so far that has eased my anxiety and given me a sense of relief omg! Thank you!! All the best for baby number two and congratulations on mama hood!!
I was going to say the same thing !! The way most people describe having a baby it’s like going to jail or something. Always saying say goodbye to your friends, say goodbye to alone time with your husband, goodbye to sleep until they turn 18 . I truly believe it’s the reason I’m afraid to have a baby . I was looking for a video like this . THANK YOU !!!
I feel like it's some weird form of validation for mums who found things difficult to say 'oh, you just wait! HAH. It's going to suck!' as if that makes all the hard work and suffering of motherhood they endured needs recognising. I don't know. I have had it loads too.
@@rainbowdolly yes this has really been bothering me lately and getting under my skin. It’s like moms online are the gate keepers of being tired and miserable and are laughing at anyone who’s not a mom?
I got so frustrated that I started cutting them off and finishing their stupid sentences every time people tried to tell me same old negative stories. 😔
I’m pregnant rn and i really dislike when people feel the need to make those negative comments you were talking about. I had a pretty rough first trimester, but i’m still so happy and excited about this pregnancy, so now i just immediately shut down the negative comments ‘cause... people!
Good for you! For some reason, people think they can relate to us through negativity. It's so false and actually hurts us more than helps. I'm so glad you're aware and acting on it. WAY ahead of the game!
This is relatable, I’m just under 12 weeks with fraternal twins (my first). Yes I am aware that it’s going to be super hard but I’m happy and excited to meet my babies. I also shut down negative comments, coz no one got time for that 👌🏼
Hi! ❤️ I'm currently a week away from my due date and have been having a bit of anxiety about post pregnancy and this really just reassured me to cut out all the negative comments and remain positive. I know motherhood isn't easy, but it really peeved me when my aunts made it sound like the worst thing that could ever happen, to my life and relationship. If anything, i am so excited to be a mom and me and my partner who are already so close knit, have become even closer...i love my bundle of joy so much and the sleepless nights, exhaustion and painful boobs will be worth it and i wouldn't trade it for anything
27 weeks currently and I've been getting really anxious about the shopping and taking care of a baby without having any experienced person directly around me. This video has really helped me calm down. Thanks a lot.
29 weeks, second time mom, I had my mother helping me with my first and till today I still think I would rather do it alone. You have your own thoughts and ideas for how to take care of baby, and mom did not really agreed with it, so we argued, like a lot. Doctors will help you with advises and , of course, internet. Just do not trust every information 😉
@@anastasiakholod2222 I agree with that, the older generation sometimes tends to be quite rigid in their ways and some of them are unnecessary and wrong.
So many first time moms gets anxious because of what other women tells them.. I was one of those first time moms. watching your video made me feel even more excited to share my experiences❤️❤️❤️very informative.. All first time moms you got this!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Your video is filled with positivity. I am 34 weeks now and first time mom freaking out with mixed feelings. This video is really helpful. Thanks for the wonderful tips.
I'm saving this to watch again, amazing video! I'm so fed up with the horror stories people tell, I mean the whole "it is what you make of it" advice I've really started to use in my life and it really does change things.
I'm due in a couple of weeks and you are the only person who seems to feel the same way as me about not wanting to ask for help and other people wanting to hold the baby. It's made me feel so much better knowing that somebody else feels the same way! Xxx
Yes!!! First time mom here, 3 weeks post partum and the first tip. Everyone seems to want to tell you horror stories and that “you don’t matter” once the baby comes like wtf is wrong with you. All these changes and hormones and you wanna stress me out on top of it?! Ugh. Its so much better than the predictions for us. And I’ve distanced myself from those crazy ppl.
I love your video. I am 4 months pregnant now and I super relate with your 1st tip. Dont let people scare you. This is something I've been dreading about but listening to you kind of made me feel better. ❤️
I love this, thank you! It took us two years to get pregnant and we’re so excited but everyone has been giving their opinion and some comments do sound scary! And I’ve been an infant nanny for years so definitely know more about infants than others, and still feel unprepared. Thanks for the tips!
I cannot tell you how much I relate to this video. I don’t understand the point of scaring a new mom. Thank you for all of the advice!!! I really loved this video (and I have watched a lot) 🥰
Im 36 weeks pregnant and have stuggled with severe depression and anxiety disorder all my teenage years. but, for some reason when i got pregnant its like it went away. Maybe its just distraction but its great. Even though this pregnancy was not planned as i am 16 but im happy that i feel happy.
This video helped me so much you have no idea! Just the positivity and empowerment of it. Everyone is SO negative! I am trying to decide if I want to try for a baby and like I know I want to and I know I will love it but everyone always is so negative about having a baby! I looked for a positive pov and I found it. Thank you!
So glad I found your channel! Currently 19 weeks pregnant and my anxiety is starting to go in overdrive with anticipation and not knowing what to expect. I love this video and it made me feel so much better! following you immediately and love these realistic, positive videos!!
Congratulations for your second little one on the way. I had my first baby almost 2 months ago now and am still in the learning curve of accepting that family and friends are genuinely happy to help. I feel the need to do as much s I can myself, accepting that help tho builds relationships. Letting people hold my baby too for the first few weeks was so hard, i didn't want to be one of those overprotective mums tho so made myself accept others hold her and I'm so glad I did too Trusting your mum instinct is so on point too and needed, all we want as mums is to do the best for our child and trusting our Instinkt is like an inbuilt internal GPS it's such an uplifting feeling, makes you feel more trust in yourself I find, so empowering
when you said women just have it in them this instinct and started talking about the "let your partner help" I just started smiling. I'm currently 37 weeks and i'm so excited to be a first time mom (nervous about delivery of course haha) and trying to figure everything out. I'm excited to hopefully do everything with my partner as well and include him as much as possible.
Wow this was SUCH a comforting video. You kept it so real and I love how you kept saying how empowering motherhood is. I really needed to hear this! Thank you!
I love how your video is not only very comforting for all the new moms, but also straight to the point. I see all those 30 minutes long videos for the same topic, and man, ain't nobody has this much time!
First time mom here. 29 year old as fully transitioned as you can be transwoman. I don't care if you think I can be a mom or not, I can't imagine how I could love and understand more than her. I wished I could have become pregnant and breastfeed and all, and I hope this little angel can understand one day, but for now the two of us and grandpa are happy and I wouldn't change a thing! My boyfriends even spent a few nights with us, hoping he can be the father... thank you for this video
Oh man, that's so good to hear, I love that! "motherhood is what you make of it" All I have heard from people is negative things like our marriage is gonna be over etc. But so good to hear! I'm excited!
I remember I saw this video when we were trying to conceive, and now that I am pregnant I rewatched it again.. It hits you after you are faced with reality, it is a challenge.. But I definitely ask for help from now, and nd I ask for support.. but some days feel fine so you live life nd suddenly symptoms hit.. may god bless you mamas
Im a 21 years old boy and i actually learned alot from this video, im gonna be a parent one day and i want to be the best i could get for my children, so thanks alot for ur tips❤
Ps- wish there were videos of basics for first time dads who raise their children alone/ with another man… Maybe that would be me who makes the first video of it one day it the future
I'm 14 weeks and a FTM. I'm so excited but have been nervous about some things. This video is a godsend, thank you. I'll be saving to re-watch with my husband a couple times 😊
Thank you for all your tips, especially no.1. We've been getting so many scary comments from people about how your life is over etc. that we were wondering why anyone ever has kids 😂
This is one of my favorite videos I have watched in my entire pregnancy, and I have watched so many haha. Everything you said, and the way you speak is so calming and true. Thank you so much!!! This video I’m saving to watch over and over.
Wow as a soon to be Father and a older brother of 7 I've been telling my girlfriend most of these things you are saying. I'm so glad a woman is saying it . God bless you and your family.
I love this. Thank you for sharing. I’m 16 weeks with my first at 27 and being scared is definitely on my mind quite a bit. Your positive energy is so calming and helpful. I hope to be a strong mama like you!
I love the idea of putting baby to sleep late! It makes so much more sense, having the morning free to get stuff done, especially if I don’t sleep until 23h/midnight anyways. Great tip, going to try it
I don’t even know if I want kids. My bf broke up with me because he does want them. So it got me thinking. (And no i don’t want kids to get him back, that’s unhealthy for everyone) but I always think about alllll the negative things, and I’m also so insecure of myself. Doubting if I be able to do it since I’ve been depressed a lot for the last years. I’m very happy to see this video. Thank you so much.
The number one tip we received was to get our son used to noise. From day 1 we had the tv on, talked, and did everything at full volume. He was used to the constant noise and it didn’t wake him up.
Their experience is not your experience.. you are a different person.. different partner different baby ... it’s a like she said it’s all what you make it :) it will be a learning curve for sure but you’ll be just fine!! Have a safe and healthy delivery !
This is my first time being pregnant I’m 5 weeks pregnant, just found out probably a week ago I’m also 15 so teen mom this is going to definitely be hard but such a wonderful journey!
True simple and clear. 3 weeks before baby comes! Thanks for the insight and this is one of the few videos where I haven’t felt “pushed” to buy something but it was clear counsel and direction.
Ahhh this is just what I needed to hear! Especially about time being even more special with hubby and growing closer. This is the one fear that society has put in my head that being a mum will be really hard on my marriage. Here's to it making us even stronger!
I'm 7 months pregnant, and everyone (including youtube algorithm) throwing birth horror stories at me! #1 has been key for me despite what the world is trying to do to me. I didn't realize how much the media sells you fear until I became pregnant.
This is SO helpful!! With the guidance of Mamas like yourself and my super gracious boss who has 4 girls of his own, I’ve been nothing but calm throughout these first 3 weeks. Thank you!
This was so helpful!! I’m having my first baby in 5 months and I’m so excited but so nervous at the same time. This brought me a sense of relief and I’m glad you shared these tips!
Ah congrats!! You’re going to do great, trust your instincts, they will kick in dear♥️. That’s exactly why I shared this, hoping to bring relief that I never had. Best wishes to you!!
Thanks. Thanks for taking the time to send some encouraging words my way. and YEAH, lots of mommas tell me that. I lucked out with their sleeping habits!
I love that you mention keeping toxins (like chemical fragrances) away from baby! That is definitely a conversation that people aren't having enough, in my opinion. I only use Dr bronners to clean myself because I can't stand anything with a chemical fragrance or a bunch of weird ingredients. You must really love your man, lol. Personally, I could never be with a man that wears cologne. I'd rather be with a smoker than live with someone wearing cologne and I hate the smell of smoke too. Especially now I'm pregnant. But that is tolerable at least because it doesn't rub off on me. But chemical fragrances are the worst and they get into my hair, skin and clothes just from a hug. It's super gross, lingering and drives my nose crazy. The birthing center I'm going to actually had us sign an agreement to not wear any fragrances or bring anything other than essential oils with us and I really appreciate that about them. Just really nice to know I won't be plagued by strange toxic smells while I'm laboring and giving birth. I've heard that applying breast milk to the skin really helps any skin issues like baby acne and rashes. Have you ever tried this?
im 18 going on 19 in December, i found out i was pregnant with my miracle child yesterday after being told before i wasnt able to have kids due to personal heath issues, im extremely grateful to have come across your video and learn how to be a great mom, my boyfriend thinks either way ill be but this helps me out so much!! thank you :)
Such a wonderful video! My husband and I were so anxious when we found out we were pregnant but we are feeling more at peace as this little ones due date rolls around! God bless y’all 🥰🙏
I feel like the thumbs up is not at all enough to say how much I loved your video and your attitude!) You are so wise and so right) I found myself smiling during the video and I keep smiling afterwards) I have two more months before meeting my previous one ❤️ And if I’m getting nervous or unwell I remind myself that my body is doing such an incredible magic, and I need to trust it. Thank you for all your advices and for the feeling of ease you gave 🥰🌹
I don’t want to assume how motherhood will be for me but I just feel like since I have my family that can help if I need it, then it won’t be as crazy as others say it will be.
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“You’re never going to get any sleep again” and “you think you’re tired now, just wait” is all I hear all day every day and it’s honestly so heartbreaking. My husband and I have dreams to continue camping and traveling and everyone makes it seem like we can’t have that life anymore and I just refuse. Our daughter is half of each of us, right? So why shouldn’t she be involved in everything we do, too? My sister didn’t take drives further than two hours away until her kid was 5 years old. While my husband and I are moving across the world when our daughter will be 4 months. (Military)
I just refuse to let these remarks rule our lives.
Me too. FTM in 3 months and it’s so heartbreaking to think our live will never be the same again. I really wish our baby is just another better addition to our experience, not to take away
I am pregnant after a several months of infertility meds. So whenever someone says how hard it is after childbirth, I can't help wondering how miraculous it was for me to get pregnant at all. Thank you for all the positive tips. Best of luck for the second one!
Congratulations!!! I’m so so happy for you. When I tried to get pregnant it was the most discouraging thing when I saw negatives. You’re going to be a wonderful mamma!
@@makaylaboren445 Aww thank you so much!!
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I was dumb forgot the login password. I appreciate any tricks you can give me.
Wow, congratulations!! I'm sorry the way I worded things offended you. Not my intention at all! You're absolutely right! I truly believe all pregnancies and births are miraculous.
@@margaretmatheny No no, you don't need to say sorry at all. In fact you have uploaded one of the most uplifting videos about new parenthood. It's really hard to focus on the positives when people around me keep hanging on to the negatives. I am so excited to meet my little one and best of luck to you too!
“Motherhood is what you make of it”. I love how you said this! It is all about our mindset!
It really is! Thanks for the encouraging words!
17 weeks pregnant. Only 19 years old and newly married. My husband and I got married and chose to have kids right away knowing that we were absolutely not ready for it but that no one ever really is ready and you just have to dive in and do it. People tried to say everything they could to scare us out of getting married and to scare us out of having kids this young, but we’ve found that marriage truly is the most beautiful and joyful thing, and I’m sure having a baby will end up being just as wonderful. I’m so excited for this little one!!
All the best mama, wishing you a safe delivery when the time comes❤😊
I watched this when I was pregnant. Came back to watch after having baby boy and everything you said is 100% true!
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THANK YOU, I could cry... first time mom at the age of 33. People really do make parenthood seem so terrifying the moment you announce you're pregnant, when it's too late to go back. I am slow to accept change and I know that about myself, which is why it's taken me so long to be ready for children, I needed to hear these things. I know in my head that I can do this and we will be fine, but man the encouragement I got from this video really helped.
How are things for you? I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and I also have a hard time with change. Despite stocking up on supplies and my growing belly, the fact that I'm having a baby still hasn't really hit me in a lot of ways I feel, it probably won't until he's here! Curious how your experience has been, hope all is well!
@@AmallieGames we are doing great! I won’t lie, those first few months were tough in a lot of ways, I was induced after being rear ended on a highway exit and labored for three days as my body just wasn’t ready to give birth yet, the epidural was worth it for me! As a result of the accident, I didn’t have a car the whole first month, which was tough. After a 5-day hospital stay, I was very tired coming home, I didn’t expect that the baby wouldn’t sleep all night, but I later learned that is normal! So if it happens for you guys it is ok and you’re not doing anything wrong! Remind yourself everyday, WE ARE LEARNING! That was so helpful for me. Something shifted around that 4 month mark, I loved my baby when he was born, but in the months that have followed, watching him understand that he loves me and all the milestones we’ve reached together… I finally understood the huge shift that is a mother’s love. It’s overwhelmingly wonderful, I would do anything for this kid! The other thing to know, the gross stories and scary sounding stories that people tell: those things you just handle one step at a time, you’re completely in the moment and you don’t really have time to think about anything other than the next step, you’ll reflect later and be like wow that was tough! And you’ll feel proud that you handled it, and that’s why people share those stories. Not to scare you. I still don’t think it’s very nice of them, but I understand from their perspective a bit more now. You have totally got this, momma. Take it one step at a time, one day at a time, it will be ok and you and baby and your partner are just learning. It turns out pretty wonderful on the other side. 💜
This video was very comforting!! I'm 33 weeks pregnant and let me tell you, I'm scared of post-pregnancy. I love the part where you mentioned that people talk about your relationship being basically over once the baby comes. My husband and I have a tight bond and honestly I don't see us distancing once the baby's here because this is all we ever wanted... but of course... people got to my head. This video got me back on track on my positive vibes and I feel so relaxed!
I'm so so so glad to hear! If I'm being completely honest, my husband and I got closer post-baby. There was just a deeper, more meaningful love that we both had for the child and for one another. Not everyone will have the same experience, but that was ours
While it can be an overwhelming time it’s so rewarding. Take it one day at a time, honour how you feel and spoil yourself loads. Keep your boundaries tall and strong and enjoy your new family dynamic 🌹
When you said “welcome to the club, mama” I immediately teared up! Ughhh all these pregnancy emotions. Thank you for this video💕
Ugh same 🥺
SAAAMMMMEEE! LOL I was like...OMG!.. Hey that's me.. I'm gonna be a mama! 😭🥰.
currently 38 weeks pregnant and i found your video this is so calming brought me away from pressure and anxiety
Currently 15 weeks pregnant and I am so happy I found this video. Thank you for the positivity. I’ve been having so much fear and anxiety about being a first time mom (losing my freedom & career which I worked so hard for my whole life). Your video helped me feel more calm ❤️
Hope it's going well!
@@TheOrganizedPineapple yes! I just had my baby girl 2 weeks ago and I love her so much ❤️. Still recovering physically and adjusting mentally, but I’ve learned to take things one day at a time and slow down. One of my favorite things is watching my husband love being her dad. She has made both our lives brighter ☀️.
@@alessandrabenner6058 congratulations 🎉 I have 3 littles and my oldest is 11 ! None of these helpful things were around when I was having my babies. Glad they are around now.
Thanks for the video. Im 31 weeks with my Miracle baby girl after 6 years of infertility. 💖I'm so excited but I am starting to get a little nervous. I just hope I can be the best mom ever to my girl 💕🤰☺
I love this! I’ve been so nervous because of all the negativity surrounding postpartum. A lot of people tried to scare me when I got pregnant too about how terrible pregnancy is. They were SO wrong. I have loved my pregnancy, even when it’s been challenging or uncomfortable. You are so right! It’s all about your mindset. Go into pregnancy and motherhood with a positive and grateful attitude and you will have a positive and fulfilling experience!
I'm so glad you enjoyed and that it resonated with you. You've got it!!!
I absolutely LOVE being pregnant! With my first pregnancy, I thought I was some kind of freak because it was such a great experience for me. I was pregnant last spring, and it was starting out great again, so I thought, "Maybe not everyone always hates being pregnant." Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage and was devastated. I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant again, and I am SO happy and am enjoying being pregnant SO much again! I know a lot of women have a really rough pregnancy, and I feel for them, but I guess I'm just one of the blessed ones that really love being pregnant! ❤I
I love how straight to the point you are!! I don't have the patience to sit through an hour long video with a bunch of filler info.
I’m pregnant w my first and god freaking bless you for these videos😭😭
I am a 48 year old grandma to be and I love this video> I recommended it to my daughter soon to be FTM. Love your honesty and positive attitude. Being a mom is awesome!
That's the sweetest thing! Thank you! Being a mom is SO awesome, I agree!
this video is everything 🥺 !! Ive been struggling SO hard today with the anxiety of everything thats changing... so much fear mongering online about what to do/not to do, being a good mom etc..i just want to be a good mom and be relaxed 🥺
"Motherhood is what you make of it" LOVE THAT ADVICE! ❤ I'm going to start telling people "I'm sorry YOU feel that way." And walk away when they say negative crap to me. I don't need that kind of negativity.
We tried to conceive for 14 months. My husband & I are about to celebrate 9 years together ❤ We're so excited to be parents. I know it won't be a walk in the park or all rainbow & sunshine... but I really don't think we will be as miserable as everyone makes it out to be. I feel like the joy of bringing our baby girl home will outweigh all the hard moments. 🥰
“It’s not a tired that’s ruining my life…” thank you for putting it that way. I’m 34 with my first and the tired is hard for me but putting it that way is so true and helped me place my feelings about being tired better. Thank you
This eased my anxiety so much, it's just hard when my parents don't realize how much has changed since they had kids so I'm always hearing different ways to do things and it's incredibly stressful but I know now they're just trying to help from how they remember things
12 weeks first time pregnant here! This is so true! My dad just told me that baths for babies are absurd because in their times they bathed the baby in the sink. That’s the level. My parents are so stubborn and strong minded though, I’m quite afraid of them pushing on how to take care/raise the baby , because I hate having conflict with them. How did you handle it? Any tip please? 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Finally realistic and positive advices ❤️ I needed that thank you
So welcome. Happy to help!
Yeah. Thanks!
I'm over here super emotional and teary-eyed because this video was such a blessing to me. I'm about to go into my third month of pregnancy and I literally know nothing about it and don't have much support. But you are such a light! May God bless you, and encounter you. I pray that if you don't know Jesus, that you come to know him in such a real way. He created you beautifully, thank you so much for all of your help!
This is literally the number video out of the thousands I have seen so far that has eased my anxiety and given me a sense of relief omg! Thank you!! All the best for baby number two and congratulations on mama hood!!
Oh my goodness, that made my heart explode. I'm so happy it helped you. That was my exact intention. Honesty and encouragement! Wishing you the best!!
I was going to say the same thing !! The way most people describe having a baby it’s like going to jail or something. Always saying say goodbye to your friends, say goodbye to alone time with your husband, goodbye to sleep until they turn 18 . I truly believe it’s the reason I’m afraid to have a baby . I was looking for a video like this . THANK YOU !!!
Yes, also such a nice voice of a nice, honest person!
Why does everyone try to frighten the crap out of expectant moms? I hate it!
Same!! Here to change that! I mean reading through all of these comments, everyone feels the same
I feel like it's some weird form of validation for mums who found things difficult to say 'oh, you just wait! HAH. It's going to suck!' as if that makes all the hard work and suffering of motherhood they endured needs recognising. I don't know. I have had it loads too.
@@rainbowdolly Such an interesting point!
@@rainbowdolly yes this has really been bothering me lately and getting under my skin. It’s like moms online are the gate keepers of being tired and miserable and are laughing at anyone who’s not a mom?
I got so frustrated that I started cutting them off and finishing their stupid sentences every time people tried to tell me same old negative stories. 😔
I agree with the whole ‘people around you will freak you out’ thingy. Thank you for the reminder !
Absolutely! Thanks for being here!
I’m pregnant rn and i really dislike when people feel the need to make those negative comments you were talking about. I had a pretty rough first trimester, but i’m still so happy and excited about this pregnancy, so now i just immediately shut down the negative comments ‘cause... people!
congratulations on the baby!! Im sorry people are like that! i wish you the best!!
Good for you! For some reason, people think they can relate to us through negativity. It's so false and actually hurts us more than helps. I'm so glad you're aware and acting on it. WAY ahead of the game!
@@margaretmatheny Yes such a good way oh putting it!!
@@margaretmatheny Exactly!
This is relatable, I’m just under 12 weeks with fraternal twins (my first). Yes I am aware that it’s going to be super hard but I’m happy and excited to meet my babies. I also shut down negative comments, coz no one got time for that 👌🏼
Hi! ❤️ I'm currently a week away from my due date and have been having a bit of anxiety about post pregnancy and this really just reassured me to cut out all the negative comments and remain positive. I know motherhood isn't easy, but it really peeved me when my aunts made it sound like the worst thing that could ever happen, to my life and relationship. If anything, i am so excited to be a mom and me and my partner who are already so close knit, have become even closer...i love my bundle of joy so much and the sleepless nights, exhaustion and painful boobs will be worth it and i wouldn't trade it for anything
I’m 24 and barely 7 weeks. I’m so excited and this really helped ease my anxiety 🥺❤️
So fun! Do you know if it’s a boy or girl?
Why do they say “ready for no sleep?” I already can’t sleep with this big belly 😂
Girl same
Exactly! And having to pee every 2 hours
SAME. i havent been able to sleep since the first month that i got pregnant, im like at least now ill have some company once my baby is born 😂
I've never been a good sleeper even before getting pregnant 😆
Girl for real. I feellikd it's the training before the baby come
27 weeks currently and I've been getting really anxious about the shopping and taking care of a baby without having any experienced person directly around me. This video has really helped me calm down. Thanks a lot.
29 weeks, second time mom, I had my mother helping me with my first and till today I still think I would rather do it alone. You have your own thoughts and ideas for how to take care of baby, and mom did not really agreed with it, so we argued, like a lot. Doctors will help you with advises and , of course, internet. Just do not trust every information 😉
@@anastasiakholod2222 I agree with that, the older generation sometimes tends to be quite rigid in their ways and some of them are unnecessary and wrong.
So many first time moms gets anxious because of what other women tells them.. I was one of those first time moms. watching your video made me feel even more excited to share my experiences❤️❤️❤️very informative..
All first time moms you got this!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ah this is so kind and encouraging! Thanks for being here!!
Your video is filled with positivity. I am 34 weeks now and first time mom freaking out with mixed feelings. This video is really helpful. Thanks for the wonderful tips.
I'm so glad to hear this.
I'm saving this to watch again, amazing video! I'm so fed up with the horror stories people tell, I mean the whole "it is what you make of it" advice I've really started to use in my life and it really does change things.
I'm so happy you found hope in this video. Wish you could see my face, means so much! Wishing you the best
I'm due in a couple of weeks and you are the only person who seems to feel the same way as me about not wanting to ask for help and other people wanting to hold the baby. It's made me feel so much better knowing that somebody else feels the same way! Xxx
Yessss, gosh it was so hard for me. But in the end, they are offering to help because they want to! Still have to remind myself of that!
Yes!!! First time mom here, 3 weeks post partum and the first tip. Everyone seems to want to tell you horror stories and that “you don’t matter” once the baby comes like wtf is wrong with you. All these changes and hormones and you wanna stress me out on top of it?! Ugh. Its so much better than the predictions for us. And I’ve distanced myself from those crazy ppl.
IKR! It feels like people lose their ability to think and behave when they talk to a pregnant woman😩
Thank you for the boost of optimism! The “just wait” world we live does create fear!
I love your video. I am 4 months pregnant now and I super relate with your 1st tip. Dont let people scare you. This is something I've been dreading about but listening to you kind of made me feel better. ❤️
I'm 24 years old pregnant with my first baby! This video has relived a bunch of stress for me! Thank you so much!
Ah, I'm so so so happy to hear this. It's exactly why I made this video. Thanks for sharing!
I love this, thank you! It took us two years to get pregnant and we’re so excited but everyone has been giving their opinion and some comments do sound scary! And I’ve been an infant nanny for years so definitely know more about infants than others, and still feel unprepared. Thanks for the tips!
I cannot tell you how much I relate to this video. I don’t understand the point of scaring a new mom. Thank you for all of the advice!!! I really loved this video (and I have watched a lot) 🥰
Ah, so happy to hear. Thank you for sharing those kind words too!
33 weeks pregnant here! These seem so helpful yet so simple
Saving this video so my wife and I can watch it again once baby is here. 3 more weeks ❤️
Im 36 weeks pregnant and have stuggled with severe depression and anxiety disorder all my teenage years. but, for some reason when i got pregnant its like it went away. Maybe its just distraction but its great. Even though this pregnancy was not planned as i am 16 but im happy that i feel happy.
I’m not even pregnant but I can’t wait to have a child of my own someday 💖
haha, that's the sweetest thing. Thanks for watching!!
This video helped me so much you have no idea! Just the positivity and empowerment of it. Everyone is SO negative! I am trying to decide if I want to try for a baby and like I know I want to and I know I will love it but everyone always is so negative about having a baby! I looked for a positive pov and I found it. Thank you!
Welcome 🥺I'm so so glad and grateful I could be of help to you!
So glad I found your channel! Currently 19 weeks pregnant and my anxiety is starting to go in overdrive with anticipation and not knowing what to expect. I love this video and it made me feel so much better! following you immediately and love these realistic, positive videos!!
Congratulations for your second little one on the way.
I had my first baby almost 2 months ago now and am still in the learning curve of accepting that family and friends are genuinely happy to help.
I feel the need to do as much s I can myself, accepting that help tho builds relationships.
Letting people hold my baby too for the first few weeks was so hard, i didn't want to be one of those overprotective mums tho so made myself accept others hold her and I'm so glad I did too
Trusting your mum instinct is so on point too and needed, all we want as mums is to do the best for our child and trusting our Instinkt is like an inbuilt internal GPS it's such an uplifting feeling, makes you feel more trust in yourself I find, so empowering
About to have my first baby and just wanted to say thank you for this!! There is so much negativity out there and this is such a breath of fresh air
when you said women just have it in them this instinct and started talking about the "let your partner help" I just started smiling. I'm currently 37 weeks and i'm so excited to be a first time mom (nervous about delivery of course haha) and trying to figure everything out. I'm excited to hopefully do everything with my partner as well and include him as much as possible.
Wow this was SUCH a comforting video. You kept it so real and I love how you kept saying how empowering motherhood is. I really needed to hear this! Thank you!
Aw I'm so glad you found this page. That's exactly why I made it. Thanks for your encouragement, means so much!
I love how your video is not only very comforting for all the new moms, but also straight to the point. I see all those 30 minutes long videos for the same topic, and man, ain't nobody has this much time!
hahaha, I feel you! Thanks for these kind words!
I’m 19 not even pregnant no kids planned in any near future but this is undeniably reassuring
I am so going to recommend this video to anyone who has their first baby! Mine is 4 months now and I agree with everything you said here!
First time mom here. 29 year old as fully transitioned as you can be transwoman. I don't care if you think I can be a mom or not, I can't imagine how I could love and understand more than her. I wished I could have become pregnant and breastfeed and all, and I hope this little angel can understand one day, but for now the two of us and grandpa are happy and I wouldn't change a thing! My boyfriends even spent a few nights with us, hoping he can be the father... thank you for this video
Oh man, that's so good to hear, I love that! "motherhood is what you make of it"
All I have heard from people is negative things like our marriage is gonna be over etc.
But so good to hear! I'm excited!
I remember I saw this video when we were trying to conceive, and now that I am pregnant I rewatched it again.. It hits you after you are faced with reality, it is a challenge.. But I definitely ask for help from now, and nd I ask for support.. but some days feel fine so you live life nd suddenly symptoms hit.. may god bless you mamas
Im a 21 years old boy and i actually learned alot from this video, im gonna be a parent one day and i want to be the best i could get for my children, so thanks alot for ur tips❤
Ps- wish there were videos of basics for first time dads who raise their children alone/ with another man…
Maybe that would be me who makes the first video of it one day it the future
This is the best video I’ve watched to ease my thoughts and anxiety levels about this new chapter in my life. Currently 40 weeks and 1 day 😁
I'm 14 weeks and a FTM. I'm so excited but have been nervous about some things. This video is a godsend, thank you. I'll be saving to re-watch with my husband a couple times 😊
OMG I feel so much better after watching this. I am 26 and just had my first baby and this is just what I needed to hear.
Ah I'm so glad to hear! Truly, that's why I make these videos, in hopes to help others who were once in my shoes. Wishing you all the best.
Ay! Same age, fellow first time momma. You've got this. :)
Thank you for all your tips, especially no.1. We've been getting so many scary comments from people about how your life is over etc. that we were wondering why anyone ever has kids 😂
This is one of my favorite videos I have watched in my entire pregnancy, and I have watched so many haha. Everything you said, and the way you speak is so calming and true. Thank you so much!!! This video I’m saving to watch over and over.
Wow as a soon to be Father and a older brother of 7 I've been telling my girlfriend most of these things you are saying. I'm so glad a woman is saying it . God bless you and your family.
Thanks so much, Kenny. Best wishes to you both on this journey!
I love this. Thank you for sharing. I’m 16 weeks with my first at 27 and being scared is definitely on my mind quite a bit. Your positive energy is so calming and helpful. I hope to be a strong mama like you!
Also - meal prep as much as possible and freeze WEEKS of meals for your family. The best thing I did prior to delivery a few months ago
We had a meal train that helped us, but YES great idea!
telling the baby they are allowed to cry and listing off everything you've already done to soothe them helps you too! love that tip :)
:) So glad!
I love the idea of putting baby to sleep late! It makes so much more sense, having the morning free to get stuff done, especially if I don’t sleep until 23h/midnight anyways. Great tip, going to try it
To add because I had no clue before it happened to me: GET BREAST PADS WHILE PREGNANT!! I was 20 weeks when I started leaking, it’s notttt fun
Yeah... I have one good boob and one leaky boob. The leaky one leaks no matter what direction I'm lying and also "milkboards" the baby -_-
I don’t even know if I want kids. My bf broke up with me because he does want them. So it got me thinking. (And no i don’t want kids to get him back, that’s unhealthy for everyone) but I always think about alllll the negative things, and I’m also so insecure of myself. Doubting if I be able to do it since I’ve been depressed a lot for the last years. I’m very happy to see this video. Thank you so much.
Im having my first and this past week has been rough.This really calmed me down
The number one tip we received was to get our son used to noise. From day 1 we had the tv on, talked, and did everything at full volume. He was used to the constant noise and it didn’t wake him up.
Yes, oh this is such a good tip!
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I’m 13 weeks and this is my first little one, so much going through my mind and this helps a TON !! 😊
Very helpful tips. I deliver my first child sometime in the next two weeks and I instantly feel better, less worried.
Ah, bless you! You're going to do great. You've got instincts and will know what to do. Congrats momma!
Meal prep girl as much as possible! My best tip as a first time mom. Freeze as much as you can !
This may be the best RUclips video I've seen on new motherhood and at 28 weeks let me tell ya, I've watched thousands 🤣 thank you for your positivity!
Due in 2 weeks and everyone around me is freaking me out. They're telling me to live as much as I can in these 2 weeks. Makes me depressed. :(
No! Don't listen to them
Their experience is not your experience.. you are a different person.. different partner different baby ... it’s a like she said it’s all what you make it :) it will be a learning curve for sure but you’ll be just fine!! Have a safe and healthy delivery !
@@christinetavazoei8714 So well said!
I hate that, don’t listen to people. Enjoy your pregnancy and your baby, and don’t be afraid to shut down any kind of negative comments.
@@tinyoddfable Yes x 100.
Such a sweetheart!! I recently found out im expecting again after a miscarriage & its all starting to hit me. Needed to see this!❤❤❤
I’m almost 4 weeks with my first child im nervous but I’m trying to stay positive as much as possible.
You've got this. Seriously, you will shock yourself with how fulfilling it is.
This is my first time being pregnant I’m 5 weeks pregnant, just found out probably a week ago I’m also 15 so teen mom this is going to definitely be hard but such a wonderful journey!
Bless you! It's one of the greatest journeys you will even embark on. Wishing you all the best. So happy you're here.
How are you holding up mamas??
True simple and clear. 3 weeks before baby comes! Thanks for the insight and this is one of the few videos where I haven’t felt “pushed” to buy something but it was clear counsel and direction.
Ahhh this is just what I needed to hear! Especially about time being even more special with hubby and growing closer. This is the one fear that society has put in my head that being a mum will be really hard on my marriage. Here's to it making us even stronger!
Yes!! We're living proof of that. you've got this momma!
Just got my first ever positive test yesterday 🥺 your words definitely help calm the soul. Thank you!
I'm so happy to hear that. Wishing you all the best on this journey. The greatest one you will ever go on!
You remind me of Rory Gilmore and it's so comforting.🥺😘
I'm nearly 7 weeks and your advice is giving me life! Thanks for sharing. 🥰
I’m having my first baby in February, thank you so much for these tips ❤️
Absolutely!! Congrats dear, wishing you all the best! I'm an open book!
I'm due with my first in February too!
Me too 😍
Me too! I’m due February 5th
@@kaylaburch149 same!
I'm 7 months pregnant, and everyone (including youtube algorithm) throwing birth horror stories at me! #1 has been key for me despite what the world is trying to do to me. I didn't realize how much the media sells you fear until I became pregnant.
Honestly I’m super glad I found this video I feel so much better about being a first time mom 💗
This is SO helpful!! With the guidance of Mamas like yourself and my super gracious boss who has 4 girls of his own, I’ve been nothing but calm throughout these first 3 weeks. Thank you!
This was so helpful!! I’m having my first baby in 5 months and I’m so excited but so nervous at the same time. This brought me a sense of relief and I’m glad you shared these tips!
Ah congrats!! You’re going to do great, trust your instincts, they will kick in dear♥️. That’s exactly why I shared this, hoping to bring relief that I never had. Best wishes to you!!
This may be my favorite new mom advice video.
Thank you for mentioning perfume and air fresheners. This needs to be talked about more in terms of everyone's health but especially babies!
Very good advice. Also lines up with my experience except for putting your kids to bed night. All the kids I've ever met wake early no matter what.
Thanks. Thanks for taking the time to send some encouraging words my way. and YEAH, lots of mommas tell me that. I lucked out with their sleeping habits!
I love that you mention keeping toxins (like chemical fragrances) away from baby! That is definitely a conversation that people aren't having enough, in my opinion. I only use Dr bronners to clean myself because I can't stand anything with a chemical fragrance or a bunch of weird ingredients. You must really love your man, lol. Personally, I could never be with a man that wears cologne. I'd rather be with a smoker than live with someone wearing cologne and I hate the smell of smoke too. Especially now I'm pregnant. But that is tolerable at least because it doesn't rub off on me. But chemical fragrances are the worst and they get into my hair, skin and clothes just from a hug. It's super gross, lingering and drives my nose crazy. The birthing center I'm going to actually had us sign an agreement to not wear any fragrances or bring anything other than essential oils with us and I really appreciate that about them. Just really nice to know I won't be plagued by strange toxic smells while I'm laboring and giving birth.
I've heard that applying breast milk to the skin really helps any skin issues like baby acne and rashes. Have you ever tried this?
Yes, oh love hearing that.
and yes!! haha, I used breastmilk for my babies acne and rashes. It's straight magic!
im 18 going on 19 in December, i found out i was pregnant with my miracle child yesterday after being told before i wasnt able to have kids due to personal heath issues, im extremely grateful to have come across your video and learn how to be a great mom, my boyfriend thinks either way ill be but this helps me out so much!! thank you :)
Ah congratulations
This is extremely helpful, thank you so much 🥰 I’m 14 weeks pregnant and so excited to be a mommy.
I am in my 5th month and yes...loads of panic happening with each anecdote I hear from mothers. This was super helpful. Thanks :)
RUclips recommended☺️. I’m 15 days pp and really could use tips for my new normal 🌞💕 thank you for the video!
Such a wonderful video! My husband and I were so anxious when we found out we were pregnant but we are feeling more at peace as this little ones due date rolls around!
God bless y’all 🥰🙏
Aw, that makes me so happy. Deepest congratulations! It's the most fulfilling job you guys will do great. God's got you! thanks so so much
I feel like the thumbs up is not at all enough to say how much I loved your video and your attitude!) You are so wise and so right) I found myself smiling during the video and I keep smiling afterwards)
I have two more months before meeting my previous one ❤️
And if I’m getting nervous or unwell I remind myself that my body is doing such an incredible magic, and I need to trust it. Thank you for all your advices and for the feeling of ease you gave 🥰🌹
im glad i have found our channel. thank you.
Thanks for being here, I'm so grateful!
I don’t want to assume how motherhood will be for me but I just feel like since I have my family that can help if I need it, then it won’t be as crazy as others say it will be.
I'm not expecting children for another decade, but I'm just so excited to be a mother, it's my dream to have a big family ❤