3-year-old finds out her mom was adopted ❤️

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  • Опубликовано: 23 дек 2024

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  • @maryjane-rx4sq
    @maryjane-rx4sq Год назад +12227

    Her level of empathy is huge. What a sweet child.

    • @cat_atouille
      @cat_atouille Год назад +140

      She is a product of her environment, and reflects how her parents treat her. ❤️

    • @PrincessAfrica3
      @PrincessAfrica3 Год назад +32

      She truly is!! She touched my heart 🥺

    • @artenman
      @artenman Год назад +10

      Calm down she’s like 2

    • @ljeans531
      @ljeans531 Год назад +86

      ​@@artenman I'm sorry you are hurting, but nature and nurture go a long way in creating beautiful children and people

    • @GloomyStrawberries
      @GloomyStrawberries Год назад +37

      ​@artenman I'm sorry your childhood was bad, mine was pretty horrible too. It shows in your comment. You don't have to be that way you know? You can change

  • @bellzhellz5922
    @bellzhellz5922 Год назад +26103

    "I want you" I felt that, that child is healer

    • @proudtobeachristian286
      @proudtobeachristian286 Год назад +67

      Jesus loves you ❤❤

    • @childofgod269
      @childofgod269 Год назад +36

      Believe me, human beings do not create or heal themselves. Only God can orchestrate what happened in this video.

    • @BBCBOY919
      @BBCBOY919 Год назад

      This is the funniest thing I read all week thanks sis@@childofgod269

    • @vvoof2601
      @vvoof2601 Год назад +129

      @@childofgod269 Keep thy religion to thyself.

    • @NLLadaniva
      @NLLadaniva Год назад +26

      ​@@proudtobeachristian286Jesus Christ loves you too.❤ God bless you.❤ Amen.❤🙏

  • @mistameanor1
    @mistameanor1 Год назад +190985

    I think we just watched someone’s inner child be healed right in front of us.

    • @djmeatman
      @djmeatman Год назад +2006

      facts

    • @dovion
      @dovion Год назад +3484

      @@norcalgirly Don't take what the child did away. It was the child who said so it was the child that healed the mom. Done.

    • @aisaygonzalez9798
      @aisaygonzalez9798 Год назад +268

      Amen 🙏🏼

    • @missnurseeri
      @missnurseeri Год назад +421

      @@dovion they said what they said. Deal with it.

    • @Justbase
      @Justbase Год назад +63

      well said

  • @alyssaheubel
    @alyssaheubel 9 месяцев назад +3495

    She was so confused at hearing her “my mommy didn’t want me” because she couldn’t process the idea of a mommy not wanting their child. Shows how loved the little girl is.

    • @pmeehan_3
      @pmeehan_3 18 дней назад +15

      I don't think this mom should have said it that way to her daughter. Some women give up their baby due to hardship and they know another family would give their child a better life. She could have phrased it that way.

    • @venus4724
      @venus4724 14 дней назад

      You do realise this woman is speaking from her own experience? Her experience was that her mother didn't want her and she could've gone through tough times in foster care. She doesn't speak for everyone​@@pmeehan_3

    • @monicabastardo6898
      @monicabastardo6898 13 дней назад +17

      ​@@pmeehan_3The resentment made her said it that way. 😢

    • @walterhobbs9581
      @walterhobbs9581 12 дней назад +42

      ​@@monicabastardo6898or she could've been telling the truth and she knows her birth mother didn't want her. Some parents value honesty with their children.

    • @giannax5645
      @giannax5645 11 дней назад +3

      @@walterhobbs9581yes but when her child asked why she clearly didn't know the reason... She's just speculating as to why her mother gave her up.

  • @RubyMoon507
    @RubyMoon507 Год назад +34622

    The moment she said "my mommy didn't want me" you could see the toddler try to process what she heard. Instant empathy and understanding.

  • @Jacoe413
    @Jacoe413 Год назад +32618

    That little girl said something her mom desperately needed. She doesn't even realize the impact her words made.

    • @AB-ce3nn
      @AB-ce3nn Год назад +722

      This. She WANTED to hear this all her life. When the kid said she wants her, you could see her going through raw emotions from her face, god bless her kid ❤

    • @Latviešu_Amēlija
      @Latviešu_Amēlija Год назад +160

      ​@@AB-ce3nn the little girl was so sweet, even i teared up

    • @KobanFFX
      @KobanFFX Год назад +93

      ​@A B you can even hear the mother crying in the background while recording this video so heartwarming

    • @Sabrina_mccafferty
      @Sabrina_mccafferty Год назад +79

      As someone who was adopted from another country and never met my birth parents or know anything about them, I felt this!❤

    • @shar5308
      @shar5308 Год назад +25

      That made me cry 😭

  • @patrickthuis1
    @patrickthuis1 Год назад +9643

    You know that whatever a kid is saying is just unfiltered and sincere, good and bad. So this hits extra hard. That's a good kid.

    • @marc3301
      @marc3301 Год назад +80

      My girlfriend’s little sister told me that she was cheating on me 😅

    • @alonzogonzalez637
      @alonzogonzalez637 Год назад +22

      ​@@marc3301pfffttttt that's hilarious.

    • @sauce6746
      @sauce6746 Год назад +27

      ​@@marc3301 W sister lmao

    • @SavedByGrace-69
      @SavedByGrace-69 Год назад +14

      Right. There’s no need to guess what they’re feeling. They’re honest, pure and never have any hidden malice. 🥹🥹 it’s normally the adults that suck

    • @Monkforilla
      @Monkforilla Год назад +3

      Relying on your kid for emotional support when it should be the other way around , I would never put my emotional burdens on my kid, especially a toddler lol

  • @nimmow
    @nimmow 8 месяцев назад +233

    I’m also adopted and just hearing that made me tear up. That is a wonderful family!

  • @amarjeetdot
    @amarjeetdot Год назад +17586

    I like the parents who talk to their kids normally and dont dismiss/deflect their questions.

    • @Pink_pr1ncess
      @Pink_pr1ncess Год назад +277

      Yeah but I love parents who don’t trauma dump and unload emotional baggage onto their children even more 😊

    • @dimple.chaurasia
      @dimple.chaurasia Год назад +891

      ​@@Pink_pr1ncess in this particular case she didn't traumatised her

    • @Asiya__Devorak
      @Asiya__Devorak Год назад +1109

      ​​​@@Pink_pr1ncess she wasn't trauma dumping??
      It was literally just an explanation
      If she was trauma dumping she would say how horrible it was for her mother to left her and how she was hurt and how it affected her whole life
      Literally stop using buzzwords

    • @CorinnaAtHome
      @CorinnaAtHome Год назад +6

      Samesies

    • @Pink_pr1ncess
      @Pink_pr1ncess Год назад +60

      @@Asiya__Devorak she could’ve easily said “some people don’t have mommies and that’s okay” instead of saying “mommy didn’t want me waa”. That was so unnecessary

  • @missrhonda8891
    @missrhonda8891 Год назад +39075

    She waited her entire life to hear those words from someone who genuinely meant it. And it was her kid. God bless them.

    • @barcelonanova6789
      @barcelonanova6789 Год назад +539

      uhm she had an adoptive mother.
      You know those mothers are mothers who genuinely love their child dont you?ultimately and ironically it also proven by this video
      that is easier than what ppl think that adoptive parents may actually love their children more than two womb/scrotum parents.

    • @michellemichelle6985
      @michellemichelle6985 Год назад +197

      Exactly what Barcelona said, why you do dismiss and disregard her adoptive mother she obviously said her mommy choose her instead how you you be so close minded? God doesn't like closemindes blind ppl

    • @norcalgirly
      @norcalgirly Год назад +24

      God made you. 😂😇😘

    • @_terminal
      @_terminal Год назад +54

      ​@@norcalgirlyWhich god tho?

    • @Angxletic
      @Angxletic Год назад +114

      @@barcelonanova6789 i love how you have the urge to complain on a wholesome video 💀

  • @PhancyPants12
    @PhancyPants12 11 месяцев назад +4277

    I think that one sentence “I want you Mommy” healed a lot in her heart. I know it would have for me.

    • @BlackFairy-zk7wl
      @BlackFairy-zk7wl 9 месяцев назад +35

      No like I would break down in tears fr 😭

    • @sandradube4456
      @sandradube4456 8 месяцев назад +2

      And it started a toxic relationship between mother and child, and personalityissues for that child. Fix issues in therapy, a 3 year old child should not be a source of validation for a grown woman.

    • @MsMo08
      @MsMo08 8 месяцев назад +1

      Her heart was healed right before us

    • @conchuir5695
      @conchuir5695 8 месяцев назад +14

      @@sandradube4456idk bro sounds like you’re projecting

    • @sandradube4456
      @sandradube4456 8 месяцев назад +2

      @conchuir5695
      I'm a mental health expert, and I can not tell you how many children I've had to work with who came from such backgrounds. Moms not knowing where to draw a line with their child as regards disclosing information about their childhood and current trauma. Forcing their child to grow up faster than necessary, develop personality issues, always trying to make everyone around them feel better at the expense of their well-being. I promise you, a 3year old should never have to comfort a grown woman regarding her childhood trauma or anything else for that matter.

  • @anamariazambrano2404
    @anamariazambrano2404 4 месяца назад +503

    Also can we please talk about how she said “that’s exactly why I had you”
    Because she wanted that baby, with all her heart ❤

    • @deanna_8764
      @deanna_8764 2 дня назад +1

      This is what I came looking for. I loved that

  • @707ridah
    @707ridah Год назад +2507

    When she said " I want you mommy" even melted my 41yrs old man heart

    • @mluna1898
      @mluna1898 Год назад +37

      You’re human, you can cry

    • @ShonTolliverMusic
      @ShonTolliverMusic Год назад +21

      Me and you both bro pass the tissue!

    • @Kunn0ichiL3g3nd
      @Kunn0ichiL3g3nd Год назад +17

      You're human, you're allowed to cry. 💜 Regardless of your gender. 😊

    • @707ridah
      @707ridah Год назад +4

      @@mluna1898 thank you

    • @707ridah
      @707ridah Год назад +4

      @Bro. Tolliver facts bro 💯 🤧

  • @simran3302
    @simran3302 Год назад +8033

    That's why, every child deserves parents but not every parent deserve kids

    • @HereByChrist
      @HereByChrist Год назад +37

      Wow so true

    • @joyceeh.-johnson3609
      @joyceeh.-johnson3609 Год назад +123

      ​@@ninathetarotgirl I COMPLETELY and HONESTLY respect a person like you who is willing to admit that they're not ready to be a parent yet and will take the proper measures to prevent it instead of being an irresponsible parent. My aunt never wanted kids and never had them. She admits she's too selfish for children. She loves her independence. All of us (her nieces and nephews) are her babies. According to her, she can spoil the hell out of us and take us back home... Until next time 😄!!

    • @simran3302
      @simran3302 Год назад +25

      @@ninathetarotgirl that's soo me, good to know i am not the only one who think like this. I too want to whole heartedly be with my partner but not yet ready for conceiving. People might say that i am being selfish, but you know it's not the people who is going to take responsibilty or take care of that child, that's why i don't pay heed to them.

    • @TaKyraMoonlight
      @TaKyraMoonlight Год назад +26

      What does a mom do when she has an unexpected pregnancy and feel like she can’t take care of them? Everyone is saying no to abortion, put your kids up for adoption so they can have a chance at a better life! Which is it? Ik not getting pregnant is the best choice… but then why is everyone for hook up culture??? The pressure is too much.

    • @purpleclouds1504
      @purpleclouds1504 Год назад +3

      Never a truer quote said 👏 bless you 💞💌🧚

  • @joeface448
    @joeface448 Год назад +13010

    The difference one generation can make. That little girl couldn’t fathom being abandoned like her momma. That’s generational redemption right there

    • @pinecone4610
      @pinecone4610 11 месяцев назад +106

      I’m not crying your crying

    • @Emma88178
      @Emma88178 10 месяцев назад +44

      Putting someone up for adoption is not abandonment.

    • @willownash8664
      @willownash8664 10 месяцев назад +162

      ⁠​⁠@@Emma88178Abandonment: An act of leaving a person or thing permanently and completely. I don’t want to argue with you, but technicallyyyyyy yes it is

    • @jess4DC
      @jess4DC 10 месяцев назад +3

      @@pinecone4610no I’m not you are 😢

    • @theapproachingstorm2133
      @theapproachingstorm2133 10 месяцев назад +8

      ​@PortalRange They literally said that's not what the word means, when it does. He meant what he said lol

  • @elden5052
    @elden5052 9 месяцев назад +118

    The kid felt so sorry for her mom, her immediate reaction was to reassure mom, she’s wanted and loved.

  • @ritiksharma4056
    @ritiksharma4056 Год назад +23439

    Most people don't realise that children understand everything. They are innocent but not dumb.

    • @Kaleighlovescomics
      @Kaleighlovescomics Год назад +955

      lots of them have the intuition, they just don’t have the right words or experiences yet

    • @ThePartarar
      @ThePartarar Год назад +167

      They also have very short attention spans the younger you get, probably size/time perception ratio

    • @chrisevans7368
      @chrisevans7368 Год назад +32

      Some say we are born evil, but not all of us.

    • @chrisevans7368
      @chrisevans7368 Год назад +24

      You know maybe we're not so evil after all. Yeah all of us have some tendencies to enjoy misfortune of others but at the same time we are all predisposed to trust each other by nature.

    • @foomanxoo
      @foomanxoo Год назад

      They become dumb soon enough

  • @ZeRo-_-InfInIty
    @ZeRo-_-InfInIty Год назад +3921

    A parent who talks to their little child like a regular human being. I love it.

    • @jacksyoutubechannel4045
      @jacksyoutubechannel4045 Год назад +84

      They're children. You shouldn't treat them as though they're stupid, and you should help them learn by staying at a level that's graspable with effort. Here, as sweet as it is to hear her daughter say she wants her, this toddler was just introduced to the developmentally-inappropriate concept that some mommies don't want their children and give them away instead.
      This is the sort of thing that, the night after the next time you discipline them, you'll be walking out of their room after putting them to bed and hear, "Are you going to give me away to a different mommy?" (You're also liable to hear them ask a peer they discover is adopted why their mommy didn't want them.)
      A _lot_ of parents have seen this after (innocently) telling their children something like, "Don't worry. It didn't hurt. Grandpa just fell asleep and never woke up." Days later, as their child is falling asleep at the table (again), they ask why they're so sleepy and find out that their child has been scared to fall asleep at night, "In case I don't wake up, like Grandpa!"

    • @marcuswest1318
      @marcuswest1318 Год назад +129

      @@jacksyoutubechannel4045It’s all a part of life. Don’t shelter your kids emotionally..if you don’t introduce these things to your child, someone else will.

    • @a.r.m.y.chinghu926
      @a.r.m.y.chinghu926 Год назад +18

      ​@@marcuswest1318Very Bad
      ​It's the age when she is getting to know about Love, about family and especially her Mother and then BOOM Mothers can be like Monsters too, they can even abandone their child
      She will think that maybe a Mother's Love is Not pure and unconditional always like I thought
      She will even go further about what is it that caused Mother to be abandoned
      I should already knew so that I won't get abandoned too, she will be careful to not do things so that her Mother won't leave her too

    • @blessedbutterfly1111
      @blessedbutterfly1111 Год назад +32

      They're not regular human beings. They're easy to manipulate and don't know how to process big emotions. People should be cautious about what they say to their children and how they say it for these reasons.

    • @marcuswest1318
      @marcuswest1318 Год назад +61

      @@a.r.m.y.chinghu926 I’m not saying make your child watch cartel videos or anything here lol. Just talk to them like people and not like a dog dumbing down words all of the time. I have a 5 year old that does 200 piece puzzles by herself and picked up how to ride a bike with no training wheels within a week. She’s well aware of how to use certain words. They’re curious and sort of like a sponge when it comes to things said around them. So I’m not saying be brutally honest 24/7 but don’t shy away from telling them things when they ask about it. Doesn’t do them any good and if you don’t straighten out the answers to questions that they ask, they’ll find their answer somewhere else. Stop sending your little people out into the world blindfolded! Help them understand.

  • @peterwachira4191
    @peterwachira4191 Год назад +7587

    It's so impressive how a 3-year-old has such emotional intelligence.

    • @GRAOUIA
      @GRAOUIA Год назад +91

      It’s not emotional intelligence, she is just so innocent That she expresses her feelings in a pure and raw way, like a lot of 3 years old kids

    • @kepecos
      @kepecos Год назад +88

      @@GRAOUIA don’t underestimate the 3-year-old’s emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is definitely mixed in with her innocence and big heart.

    • @jimmyrodriguez5670
      @jimmyrodriguez5670 Год назад +9

      @@kepecos Seriously... Just stop.....

    • @kepecos
      @kepecos Год назад +13

      @@jimmyrodriguez5670 🤣🤣🤣🤣 lmao, ok I’ll stop. Jk I can say whatever TF I want. So can you. That’s the beauty of it all.

    • @jimmyrodriguez5670
      @jimmyrodriguez5670 Год назад

      @@kepecos It's never beautiful when stupid people are proud of being stupid.

  • @mandated9535
    @mandated9535 7 месяцев назад +45

    The way she speaks her love language, “I want you” instead of “I love you”. Child has a good heart ❤️

  • @wall57805
    @wall57805 Год назад +20373

    Child: "I want you"
    Mom: *Cries in inner peace and happines*
    Dog: CaN i hAVe BaNnANa?

  • @nautica7084
    @nautica7084 Год назад +10044

    I want you...... I knew she had tears to know that her own daughter accepts her. That makes me cry

    • @nautica7084
      @nautica7084 Год назад +13

      John 3:16

    • @Bert_de_Wit
      @Bert_de_Wit Год назад +51

      It amazes me how a 3 year old can think of the perfect thing to say in that situation.

    • @punnamrajenderreddy5537
      @punnamrajenderreddy5537 Год назад +6

      ​@@Bert_de_Wityeah iam amazed by that too most of the children at that age don't know about adoption

    • @globalist1990
      @globalist1990 Год назад +3

      She's a toddler. She won't know what she was saying in two years time.

    • @fwibbie
      @fwibbie Год назад

      Now days girls wanna kill the only thing that will genuinely love love them and never officially leave

  • @aaronmicalowe
    @aaronmicalowe Год назад +1307

    A child's words can heal years of pain.

    • @TheGreenDee
      @TheGreenDee Год назад +13

      this is so true.

    • @mommafist
      @mommafist Год назад +5

      My goodness, isn't that the truth❤

    • @twobitsandpepper8235
      @twobitsandpepper8235 Год назад +3

      They really can, I'm crying now.

    • @MylakaChapman
      @MylakaChapman 4 месяца назад +1

      @@aaronmicalowe Indeed it can. Especially when they are Heaven Sent

  • @cailynalexander7803
    @cailynalexander7803 2 месяца назад +11

    All those years of trauma, blasted away by 3 words by that lil angel 😇

  • @fightclub8927
    @fightclub8927 Год назад +6351

    That was probably the sweetest thing Mom could hear.

    • @Blah504
      @Blah504 Год назад +18

      Yes it is

    • @AB_Evans
      @AB_Evans Год назад +23

      For sure! Especially if it's true that she "wasn't wanted". That narrative is what many are lead or taught to believe is true, but often times it's not. Whatever the situation is, what a blessing they are to each other. It's a beautiful thing, and may it continue to grow & be blessed! 💕

    • @gg19myg12
      @gg19myg12 Год назад +3

      more like the sweetest thing in the universe. ever

    • @LLStark
      @LLStark Год назад +5

      It sure is but I want to know how a 3 year old knows what "to be adopted" means 😳

    • @thecassandraeffectvsperilo6754
      @thecassandraeffectvsperilo6754 Год назад +5

      I know, it was ABSOLUTELY perfect..got me crying over here 🥺

  • @farhadbakhschi5247
    @farhadbakhschi5247 Год назад +73530

    ‘’I want you’’ that really melted my heart, bless her little soul. 🥺🥺

  • @Hessed3712
    @Hessed3712 Год назад +3295

    Welp, I’m crying. Children are so pure.

    • @leohal456
      @leohal456 Год назад +26

      same here, it immediately brought tears to my eyes when she said it.

    • @Mega_gigachads
      @Mega_gigachads Год назад +4

      I’m just like that to my mom

    • @cme1027
      @cme1027 Год назад +5

      Me too😢

    • @victorylovelace
      @victorylovelace Год назад +4

      Yep, immediate tears.❤️

    • @petrap1769
      @petrap1769 Год назад

      you ppl cry bout every lil shit

  • @jordyschnaitman501
    @jordyschnaitman501 4 месяца назад +15

    I have so much respect for this mom because of how she starts to say "That's just the way..." but then changes her mind and decides to explain it to her child in the best way for her to understand. And we see what a beautiful outcome there was when that effort was made. Answering questions, especially tough ones like this, is so important

  • @guadalupemontero902
    @guadalupemontero902 Год назад +7076

    "I want you.."
    Damn, that hit me like a truck.

    • @rs-mt6kl
      @rs-mt6kl 10 месяцев назад +99

      I swear kids have this natural tendency to know exactly what needs to be said, or exactly what someone needs to hear.

    • @BeYoutifulDread
      @BeYoutifulDread 10 месяцев назад +37

      Yep, I definitely cried.

    • @MeowingCat835
      @MeowingCat835 9 месяцев назад +26

      ​@@rs-mt6klin my country we say "Truth is spoken through the lips of the child"

    • @judyjones6611
      @judyjones6611 9 месяцев назад +7

      I'm so emotional these days 😭😭😭😭😭That was sweet and heart felt

    • @SoulKhepri
      @SoulKhepri 9 месяцев назад +5

      Yep I’m in tears 😢❤

  • @ShaneCM
    @ShaneCM Год назад +4707

    I cried when she said “I want you” ❤

    • @lesliehunt3841
      @lesliehunt3841 Год назад +23

      Me too, instant tears.

    • @kizzyk4856
      @kizzyk4856 Год назад +8

      Me 3

    • @yanakardo3288
      @yanakardo3288 Год назад +7

      Me too

    • @rainy9698
      @rainy9698 Год назад +6

      Same here...😢

    • @muhammadharits7127
      @muhammadharits7127 Год назад +8

      Make me cry, never cries in 6 years but why things like this made me, i guess i just want to feel wanted in live and useful for someone

  • @azucarnegra9550
    @azucarnegra9550 Год назад +3348

    That child is highly intelligent. Asking questions non-stop until she got an answer that made sense to her.
    she already has the ability to sympathize and tell her mother that even if no one else wants her she does. Just Priceless.

    • @Mhats
      @Mhats Год назад +16

      average at best all kids to that, and it's annoying

    • @TheChickize
      @TheChickize Год назад

      @@Mhats you’re miserable

    • @Mhats
      @Mhats Год назад +6

      @@TheChickize stating facts is misery?

    • @andresmarver
      @andresmarver Год назад +59

      @@Mhats you’re kinda miserable yeah

    • @ItsEnerqii
      @ItsEnerqii Год назад +31

      ​@Mhats I bet your fun at partys🤡🤡🤡

  • @DaManTony
    @DaManTony 9 месяцев назад +29

    I remember my son and I playing outside and I kind of had a lot of stress out of nowhere and my son said whats "wrong daddy, are you sad nobody wants you" and I shook my head yes and he said "but I want you" literally made me realise he is the only thing that will ever matter the most. Kids can change a parent to be better.

  • @liquel1603
    @liquel1603 Год назад +3459

    "I want you", the most precious thing our child can say when we feel most of the world rejected us.

    • @Ruby-yn5fp
      @Ruby-yn5fp Год назад +3

      Yes but watch out bc as they get older they start saying things like I don't want you, leave me alone, all the way to i hate you. And all the comments I saw here nurture those feelings that are gonna feel so much harder when they do the opposite. Just know that it's a part of development and do your best never to take it too personally. They don't know how it feels on the other end. Or maybe they do and are just trying to cause as much pain as they can. If you treat them with compassion but boundaries that demand respect, they will come around (or perhaps they need mental healthcare).

    • @shrewmii
      @shrewmii Год назад +11

      ​@Ruby-yn5fp Telling your parents that you hate them is not a stage of development, that says something about their parents.

    • @autumncock5550
      @autumncock5550 Год назад

      @@Ruby-yn5fpso you are a terrible mother huh… what you type is not normal development at all!!!

    • @enderplayz8650
      @enderplayz8650 11 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@shrewmii I definitely agree but it's not ALWAYS the parents fault. Some kids r js they way they r or its them being mentally hurt elsewhere. Or js the parents being too soft and letting things like that slide

  • @charlesloomis2224
    @charlesloomis2224 Год назад +1602

    Hearing a little child's voice say, "I want you." Tears!!! Immediately!!

    • @recoveringsoul755
      @recoveringsoul755 Год назад +1

      My children don't want me. It's worse than death

    • @Henry._Jones
      @Henry._Jones Год назад +4

      ​@@recoveringsoul755The Lord bless you, soul . . .the Lord bless you. I don't know what to say to that, but I'll pray for you. If I knew you I'd give you a hug and lend you my ears.a

  • @daphneglasurus7886
    @daphneglasurus7886 Год назад +5108

    If you trust children enough to be completely honest with them, they may tell you exactly what you didn’t know you needed to hear.

    • @beatricedevarenne2621
      @beatricedevarenne2621 Год назад +20

      Big fact

    • @shayemari
      @shayemari Год назад +8

      Love this!

    • @jennenny87
      @jennenny87 Год назад +29

      My biggest goal as a parent is for them to trust *me* with what they have to say. This mama is clearly succeeding at that, and it's beautiful to see. ❤️

    • @quickstep2408
      @quickstep2408 Год назад +3

      can they do this with the stock market?

    • @jonnasteffes3213
      @jonnasteffes3213 Год назад +2

      You protect children from negative energy and your own traumatizing experience!!!!! You don't tell a 5 yr old girl that!!!!

  • @cultist1762
    @cultist1762 8 месяцев назад +35

    Her mom is the woman who adopted her. It's the parent who steps up that matters, not the parent who steps out.

    • @dannibee3648
      @dannibee3648 2 месяца назад

      Yeah I was a little confused as to why she was acting as if she didn’t have a mom.

    • @jsophiamm
      @jsophiamm 18 дней назад +1

      @@dannibee3648Same here. I’m thinking only if you had a bad relationship with your adoptive parents you would not see them as mom and dad. I would feel her brain would automatically respond with where her adoptive mom is, cause that’s mom.

  • @nicolesaintdenis
    @nicolesaintdenis Год назад +10746

    That's exactly what her inner child needed to hear 💜

    • @sherrellmccarthy2301
      @sherrellmccarthy2301 Год назад +113

      Well said ☺️

    • @glorybelieve9010
      @glorybelieve9010 Год назад +24

      @nicole st. denis - NO, That’s Exactly, What She Needed too Hear.

    • @noneofyourbuizness
      @noneofyourbuizness Год назад +100

      ​@@glorybelieve9010 our inner child is poisonned by our deepest traumas

    • @itzjo6649
      @itzjo6649 Год назад +57

      She just passed a lil of the trauma to her child.
      Speaking from experience. She’s to young for the way she told her.

    • @creativenative218
      @creativenative218 Год назад +4

      Exactly 💯😊

  • @SkullApplesproDN
    @SkullApplesproDN Год назад +9091

    Being chosen and wanted by an adoptive family is 1,000x better than being stuck with parents who don't want you.

    • @kiahmadison8541
      @kiahmadison8541 Год назад +70

      I can say from personal experience that's not true. You are better of with awful real parents than greedy strangers.

    • @theoryofpersonality1420
      @theoryofpersonality1420 Год назад +517

      @@kiahmadison8541 not all adoptive parents are like that. If you see my comment. You should read it.

    • @sankajuice
      @sankajuice Год назад +423

      @@kiahmadison8541 thats why they said “being chosen and wanted”

    • @Mili-bedili
      @Mili-bedili Год назад +254

      ​@@kiahmadison8541The point flew right over your head.

    • @kiahmadison8541
      @kiahmadison8541 Год назад

      @@theoryofpersonality1420 Brainwashing. That's all it is.If you support adoption you are supporting legally sanctioned kidnap, child trafficking and abuse. It's not kind. Wanted is subjective. It doesn't stop people who adopt children from showing them disrespect or using adoption to laud it over them when they want control. All adoptive parents say they love their 'kids'. Not really- there is no bond like with a biological child. Trying to deny that is stupid.

  • @silverghost3063
    @silverghost3063 Год назад +1730

    Dude the way the mom just broke down from those words really shows how insane of an impact those words meant to her. Man.

    • @choppermanpl1832
      @choppermanpl1832 Месяц назад +2

      I think it took a lot of strenght from the mom not to break down completely after whay she heard, not to confuse the girl

  • @h3artands0uLL
    @h3artands0uLL 4 месяца назад +12

    We witnessed an inner child being healed by a child. Love ❤

  • @andreiarca3024
    @andreiarca3024 Год назад +7059

    I like how she's just having an honest adult conversation with her toddler.

    • @Crude.Critter
      @Crude.Critter Год назад +501

      it's something that should be normalized honestly
      obviously don't share what you think is too much on them but like having casual conversations like this genuinely build up a emotionally intelligent child

    • @CorbinHarrison1960
      @CorbinHarrison1960 Год назад +32

      Don't do this with kids. It makes them weirdos and they can't relate to the other kids.

    • @RyH-yx4ys
      @RyH-yx4ys Год назад +354

      ​@@CorbinHarrison1960So making them a bit more intelligent makes them weirdos? Damn I should've never asked my family any questions when I was a child

    • @CorbinHarrison1960
      @CorbinHarrison1960 Год назад +26

      @@RyH-yx4ys That isn't intelligence. That is making them more mature and adult than they should be at their age.
      Damn you didn't ask enough questions. You can't tell the difference.

    • @graysonrogers-barnes6302
      @graysonrogers-barnes6302 Год назад +262

      @@CorbinHarrison1960 You have zero comprehension of "emotional intelligence" huh

  • @ashsmee
    @ashsmee Год назад +1288

    I’m adopted as well and my sons said “I’ll always want you forever”. It melted me

    • @pamelameckley5040
      @pamelameckley5040 Год назад +38

      Of course you are wanted and loved. Your biological mother giving you up has absolutely nothing to do with your self worth. Idk her reasons, they could've been to give you a better life than she would be able to provide, emotionally and financially...or not. It hurts regardless, I understand that. But God gave you children that you obviously raised with lots of love. And you're reaping the rewards and they're worth more than money could ever buy. What awesome sons you have. :)

    • @freebird7017
      @freebird7017 Год назад +17

      What about the people who adopted you. They wanted you too. But yes, it’s a huge thing to deal with if your biological parents never brought you up, for whatever reason.

    • @yaboileroy561
      @yaboileroy561 Год назад +6

      Im adopted my real parents are the one who adopted i dont need or want any biological if you wefe adopted you were loved

    • @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad
      @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad Год назад +3

      Well of course they’d want you forever…. they’re your children? Gotta stop treating our kids like they’re our therapists. Plz.

    • @ashsmee
      @ashsmee Год назад +3

      @@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad treating my kids like a therapist because they said something nice to be about my adoption lol you’re the one who needs a therapist my friend.

  • @NeptuneTart
    @NeptuneTart 10 месяцев назад +1399

    The way that little girl struggled to comprehend how a Mommy could not want her baby just shows how she's always felt wanted by her own Mommy. Bless them.

  • @tsmc1130
    @tsmc1130 7 дней назад +1

    This grabbed my heart 😢 the mom also models the way you answer children's difficult questions - honest, short and simple. They understand the genuine emotions without all the context adult listeners require. I actually find it easier to answer their difficult questions because they're not trying to judge it, just trying to understand it. Bless this family ❤.

  • @Billco123
    @Billco123 Год назад +4468

    That hug just cured a lifetime of emotional baggage! Beautiful

    • @edithpatel7007
      @edithpatel7007 9 месяцев назад +7

      I almost wanted to tear up myself, that moment was just so heartfelt ❤️

  • @jamesscott3509
    @jamesscott3509 Год назад +4539

    "I want you" that made me cry, and then "Your mommy was lame" made me laugh. Children will break(in a good way) and fix your heart at the same damn time.

    • @mizhomesiq
      @mizhomesiq Год назад +88

      Yea. Just like my boy. Just yesterday I was frustrated coz I can't get dinner right. So he came over and gave me a hug. I said "I didn't do a good job. I'm sad."
      My son replied "I love what you did. I love your food." ❤️
      He fixed me in many other ways. I'm grateful I have a little man who loves me unconditionally.

    • @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad
      @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad Год назад +8

      @@mizhomesiq look up “parentification”. It’s not your child’s job to heal your trauma.

    • @mizhomesiq
      @mizhomesiq Год назад +21

      @@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad I didn't give him a job. He willingly gave his attention to me. So good if you can heal yourself on your own. I am not perfect like you to understand what parentification is. Good for your kids (if u had one) too to have a perfect parent like you. 👏 👏 👏

    • @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad
      @ShoyuRamenBreakingBad Год назад +8

      @@mizhomesiq he “willingly gave his attention” to you, because you put the subject + your emotions upon him.
      I’m definitely not a perfect parent, but I also know that if I’m struggling with something, it’s to be discussed with an adult. Not a toddler.

    • @mizhomesiq
      @mizhomesiq Год назад +17

      @@ShoyuRamenBreakingBad I'm proud that my boy has empathy and he's mature beyond his age to care about someone. Anyway good for you 👍that your kids are carefree without you burdening them. You can run along and have a good life. Goodbye.

  • @chuyu22
    @chuyu22 Год назад +1863

    if my child told me that i would literally burst into tears. the fact that your own child gave you consolation is so heartwarming.

    • @aforest1934
      @aforest1934 Год назад +4

      I know lots of girls with moms who had them to fill a place of loneliness and neglect and trust me when I say their current relationships are not good.
      Because the child adopts a parental role and then when the kid inevitably rebels the parent literally cannot handle that rejection again and it ends badly.
      It was a cute moment but that baby girl just took on a lifetime of burden.

    • @deezkacang4713
      @deezkacang4713 Год назад +2

      ​@@aforest1934 this is important too ^^^

  • @acmeallpurpose4974
    @acmeallpurpose4974 2 месяца назад +5

    I think it is by far, braver for a woman to let her child be adopted (because she cannot mentally, physically or financially raise a child), by another family, than the alternative. But most children feel a hole in their life. They need answers, too. We have many adopted in my family. I hope the truth is that her parents loved her more than they loved themselves and chos3 a better life for her.

    • @Leleche
      @Leleche 8 дней назад

      Such an idealistic way of thinking. Most of the time, parents just don't want a child. No big profound sense of love and duty to let their child go. Sometimes people just don't want a child, they don't love it, want it or have the capacity to appreciate it. If more people were honest about adoption, there would be less fkd up people in the world looking for the reason why they were thrown away. They should of had an abortion to be honest. The absolute hypocrisy to not believe in abortion but feel completely fine giving away your child because you don't want it.

  • @tonaerio
    @tonaerio Год назад +11979

    “I want you. Your mummy was lame” so fucking cute

    • @ShalomDove
      @ShalomDove Год назад +519

      “Your mommy was lame.” 😂😂😂🥰 i love this child!

    • @cabezadlimon
      @cabezadlimon Год назад +102

      😂😂 I heard that

    • @sourgummiez
      @sourgummiez Год назад +141

      Maybe her mother was someone who couldn’t care for her. She could’ve aborted her, but didn’t. And gave her to a loving home instead

    • @mistastealyogirlll
      @mistastealyogirlll Год назад +304

      @@sourgummiez i dont think its that deep… just enjoy this little girl loving her mommy so so much.

    • @Cosmic_Ocean_
      @Cosmic_Ocean_ Год назад +114

      @@sourgummiez Yeah, no judgements to anyone. Its just the kid is so cute.

  • @mattb7076
    @mattb7076 Год назад +1639

    Being adopted myself that "I want you" was the sweetest thing ever.

    • @whorable
      @whorable Год назад +12

      glad you found a home, the system sucks ass.

    • @PlaceForAnEcho
      @PlaceForAnEcho Год назад +10

      Same. Didn’t have the best adoption story (it’s kind of wild) but that little girl was so honest & it was beautiful.

    • @ACAB.forcutie
      @ACAB.forcutie Год назад +4

      Yeah I'm still waiting to hear those words 😅

    • @Mike_E_DeShaman
      @Mike_E_DeShaman Год назад

      Would you tell your 3 year old u dont have a momy because your momy didn't want you .. wheres foster momy . How does foster momy feel about your momy didn't want me shit .. hell shes probably in the next room helpin raise your baby .. because no one with half a brain or soul would say that to their 3 year old daughter if they loved them

    • @nevets3889
      @nevets3889 Год назад +6

      @@whorable just because you’re adopted , doesn’t mean that you found a home

  • @kalasue7
    @kalasue7 9 месяцев назад +1

    I do appreciate that the mother calmly explained the situation to the young child and she reacted in empathy instead of the mom having a break down about it and the child reacting to those emotions. Very sweet.

  • @viperdemonz-jenkins
    @viperdemonz-jenkins Год назад +670

    poor baby was so confused, but figured it out and let her mom know she is needed and loved.

  • @evalynbrown7810
    @evalynbrown7810 Год назад +1337

    People say kids are dumb even at 3 she understood exactly what her mom said and had empathy for her.... she's so sweet

    • @theeternal6890
      @theeternal6890 Год назад

      Those people are dumber than those kids.

    • @macsmack6961
      @macsmack6961 Год назад +26

      I truly think we underestimate how smart these little ones are!

    • @marcusaurelius4941
      @marcusaurelius4941 Год назад

      empathy is hardly linked to intellectual capabilities, it's mostly ingrained in us naturally

    • @pedodocdds112
      @pedodocdds112 Год назад +20

      As a pediatric dentist I can tell you that kids a just short adults with big feelings. Esp when you factor in that most adults are stunted somewhere because of childhood traumas so they display the same emotional outbursts and temper tantrums when things don't go their way.

    • @Alex_in_Wonderland111
      @Alex_in_Wonderland111 Год назад +11

      If you explain it plain and blunt instead of beating around the bush, they will understand just fine. Even with their brain still developing, 9 times out of 10 they will get it

  • @Time4change111
    @Time4change111 6 дней назад +1

    "I want you" ❤ sweetest words ever. That's how God is for all of us, even though others may not want us God wants us all and loves us❤

  • @JahScammedYou
    @JahScammedYou Год назад +1734

    A parent who talks to there kid like a normal human is a great parent

    • @jackydegraaf3144
      @jackydegraaf3144 Год назад +20

      Except when it turns into trauma dumping

    • @xXxKaley2013xXx
      @xXxKaley2013xXx Год назад +82

      @@jackydegraaf3144 there are always exceptions, but I would’ve preferred this to the sheltered life my mom raised me in. She left me unprepared for how life works because she wasn’t honest with me.

    • @Name-yv2zq
      @Name-yv2zq Год назад +23

      @@jackydegraaf3144 Sure but the kid is directly asking and its not exactly age inappropriate

    • @brookecaudill9392
      @brookecaudill9392 Год назад +26

      ​@@jackydegraaf3144 that wasn't trauma dumping.

    • @woolycoat01
      @woolycoat01 Год назад +10

      ​@@xXxKaley2013xXx Same here, my dad was a single parent. He kept me sheltered so much that I believed that when a couple got married, they would move to a thatched house in the country with a beautiful garden brimming with flowers. I honestly believed that until I was 11! I'm very old now and my childhood seems so long ago, but it was a shock to go out into the big wide world! I was not the same bringing my children up, thank goodness. 🙂

  • @anniek55112
    @anniek55112 Год назад +658

    She knew exactly what to say and meant it with all her heart. What an emotionally intelligent child.

    • @canisha-anncalloway6997
      @canisha-anncalloway6997 Год назад +6

      Yes my four year old daughter (my bonus baby) is the same way she’s beyond most adults. My mommy keeps saying she’s me all over again.

  • @umbreoniteUwU
    @umbreoniteUwU Год назад +4170

    I was adopted at birth. Not because i wasnt wanted, but because my birth parents couldnt afford children. My parents always told me how loved and wanted I was. I remember once in elementary school, for mothers day, I was drying because I "didn't know my mom, my REAL mom," and my teacher held me and told me that out of everyobe in this room, that I was the only one whose parents had specifically picked me out, that they wanted ME, and that lack of blood relation doesnt mean anything when it comes to family. I still think about that conversation often and am so grateful for that teacher.

    • @bluebirbas
      @bluebirbas Год назад +287

      Your real mom is the one that rasied you with love, your biological mom in this case is the one that made the hard decision to give you up so you could both have a better life

    • @ftbllguy2515
      @ftbllguy2515 Год назад +147

      What an awesome teacher. That's a great way of spinning a really complicated issue in a positive light for a child. It's objectively true as well, and proof that sometimes it's all about you the way you look at a situation.

    • @haleyt3754
      @haleyt3754 Год назад +28

      That’s such a sweet memory. I’m glad you got to hear that❤️

    • @lisamurphy3028
      @lisamurphy3028 Год назад +23

      Yes, Yes Yes Just because you are not blood related, doesn't make the love a parent feels for you any less. I actually believe it's more special because you were chosen to be their child. I love all the beautiful children that come into my life, just as much as I do, the children I gave birth to. You are beautifully loved ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @RockDay-wv8jq
      @RockDay-wv8jq Год назад +16

      What an awesome teacher. 🙂 Blood may be thicker than water, but love is what makes a true family. 🙂

  • @skbanyu
    @skbanyu 2 месяца назад +3

    And the mom gave the child something she never got. I hope it helps her path to heal tremendously. 😢

  • @mehimrc1314
    @mehimrc1314 Год назад +5045

    Her adopted life has now came full circle, she is the mom that's wanted and has stuck around 👍

    • @TheNightshadePrince
      @TheNightshadePrince Год назад +5

      You’re really handsome. :)

    • @Freedom-rc6ww
      @Freedom-rc6ww Год назад +1

      😢🖖🏼

    • @ojitosrodriguez114
      @ojitosrodriguez114 Год назад +2

      It would've been actual full circle if she would've adopted her child instead of birthing her lol

    • @PureCurebyFaith
      @PureCurebyFaith Год назад

      Friends, Please listen: ❤️ GOD of the universe has been there with you, known every aspect of your soul and mind before you were born: all your hairs are numbered; all tears kept; sadnesses remembered, memories since birth and childhood: even today He waits for you to open the door of your Heart, that you will accept His Generous Gift of Salvation!
      The Son is eternal and uncreated, He Became Incarnate and Came to earth with a single Purpose: The Mighty Plan of Salvation for all mankind who listens and accepts.
      The LORD Jesus paid the penalty for your sins and mine on the Cross *(Matthew 27)* 2023 years ago, Resurrecting on the 3rd day *(Matthew 28)* to show you that by the same Power will His Loving and Committed followers inherit Heaven on Earth and of course for eternity by His Grace and Mercy. He was seen!
      That is what we call Salvation from the torment of hell (which is eternal damnation, and worse: complete separation from The Holy LORD. Those who keep on ignoring Him hate Him, and at least as of now don't want anything to do with The LORD-they are dead now and will remain dead in hell).
      We *deserve* punishment for our sinful dirty nature, but The Lord YAHWEH is Forgiveness Himself: He washes His followers with Holy Blood through Christ Jesus, caressing us with undeserved Mercy that we may become His children. 😊
      Therefore Repent and Believe, you, and receive The Spirit of Truth Who will Dwell in you and Be always within you!
      • Jeremiah 1:5 _"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart (...)."_
      • Matthew 10:29-31 _"Are not two sparrows sold for a cent? Yet not one of them falls on the ground without the knowledge of your Father. And the very hairs on your head are all numbered. Therefore do not fear; you are more valuable to GOD than many sparrows."_
      • Psalms 56:8 _"You keep track of all my sorrows, You have collected all my tears in Your bottle, You have recorded each one in Your book."_
      • Revelation 3:20 _"Behold! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My Voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with Me."_
      • John 11:25-26 _"Jesus says: I am The Resurrection and The Life. The one who believes in Me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives by believing in Me will never die. Do you believe this?"_
      • John 5:24-25 _"Verily, verily, I say unto you: whoever hears My Word and believes Him who sent Me has eternal Life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to Life. Verily, verily, I say unto you: a time is coming and now has come when the dead will hear the Voice of The Son of GOD and those who hear will live."_
      • Romans 6:5 _"For if we have been united in the likeness of His death, we will certainly be also reunited with Him in the likeness of His Resurrection."_
      • Ephesians 2:8 _"For it is by Grace you have been saved-and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of GOD."_
      ° James 2:26 _"For as body without spirit is dead, so is Faith without works dead also."_
      • Romans 6:23 _"For the wages of sin in is death, but the gift of GOD is of eternal Life in Christ Jesus our LORD."_
      • Revelation 1:5 _"And from Jesus Christ, Who is the faithful witness, the firstborn from the dead, and The Ruler of the kings on earth. To Him Who Loves us and freeds us from our sins by His Blood, (...)"_
      • Hebrews 9:14 _"How much more then will the Blood of Christ, Who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself unblemished to GOD, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may Serve The living GOD!!"_

    • @gaylorde101
      @gaylorde101 Год назад

      @@TheNightshadePrinceGo back to grinder

  • @CraigyBoyGaming
    @CraigyBoyGaming Год назад +3163

    As a father of three who had parent's that didn't love him, this hit hard 😢

    • @dannybrown2857
      @dannybrown2857 Год назад +72

      I feel for you bro don't worry that's their loss not yours brother. You take care of your own kids without their help means u don't need them anyways . Stay strong brother people don't really console men with these problems as much.

    • @AlexKunstar
      @AlexKunstar Год назад +43

      I wasn't adopted, but my father was.. And he was the greatest dad I could have ever asked for. I can't imagine what it must have felt like growing up without your biological family, but clips like this reminds me that we weren't all that lucky. Makes me want to call my dad.

    • @SyndroOmCani
      @SyndroOmCani Год назад +7

      ❤❤❤❤❤ oh my god

    • @TheresaJordan-ds1ig
      @TheresaJordan-ds1ig Год назад +12

      And look at the magnificent man that you are!!! You are indeed a wonderful blessing! May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family!

    • @yoyea2807
      @yoyea2807 Год назад +3

      Decirle a tu hijo tan pequeño que tus padres no te querían es un abuso, no le cuentes tus penurias hasta que sea más mayor

  • @sandyallen1523
    @sandyallen1523 Год назад +1253

    The three year old has more empathy than a lot of adults

    • @LoreMartinelly
      @LoreMartinelly Год назад +19

      Most kids does

    • @boyfriend23
      @boyfriend23 Год назад +13

      @@LoreMartinelly yeah, theyre just being natural and arent always on the defense, most adults arent and are lol

    • @ericcartman7600
      @ericcartman7600 Год назад +6

      A 3 year old shouldn't be having to comfort her mother like this. As the adult she needs to address her trauma with a therapist. Not with her child.

    • @boyfriend23
      @boyfriend23 Год назад +30

      @@ericcartman7600 she was informing her child of information she asked for. shes teaching her child about her life. the little girl telling her mom she wants her out of love in her heart is not the same as someone having to go out of their way to comfort someone. should you be a therapist? or maybe you should go try and 'teach' someone else your nuggets of the wise because I know d*** well you saying that was not out of what is genuinely in the best interest of either of them, because its impossible for you to know what works for their specific situation, it was to sound important and smart. was it not. thats what you having your own children is for. please go comment on a(n) actually bad parental figure if you prefer to be the knowledgable one

    • @boyfriend23
      @boyfriend23 Год назад +16

      @@ericcartman7600 let people enjoy love.

  • @iwuverzyou1
    @iwuverzyou1 4 месяца назад +1

    This is why they say. You heal your inner child when you have children of your own. You get to do all the things for them that you missed out on. And then you get that unconditional love in return

  • @salvie777
    @salvie777 Год назад +2857

    I love how she talks to her like a normal human being and not like some little pet just cuz she’s little. Kids are smarter and more mature than we let them on to be. That’s how you parent

    • @billable1861
      @billable1861 Год назад +57

      One thousand percent agree

    • @moonsigil
      @moonsigil Год назад +206

      My friend makes fun of me for talking to her toddler "like an adult" but eventually she noticed that he's a lot more verbal and articulate around me...

    • @trinajenkins8486
      @trinajenkins8486 Год назад +93

      I knew what we were doing was right when my niece, at 5 years old, corrected her uncle, that she never met before. He tried to demean her response for not automatically hugging him when he said he was her uncle. She replied " no, your a stranger. I don't know you." Yeah, I laughed all in his face, not ashamed either.

    • @Montisfe
      @Montisfe Год назад +50

      Thank you for saying this! I hateeeewee when people talk to their kids like they’re stupid pets or that they don’t understand 🙄 kids are humans and they are pretty smart

    • @tlxxx1596
      @tlxxx1596 Год назад +22

      Exactly how I talk to my 5 year old. Now, he’s a great conversationalist

  • @OGJerBear
    @OGJerBear Год назад +1105

    Me, a 30 year old man, not adopted, crying! Children are a blessing.

    • @ipenguinnyt
      @ipenguinnyt Год назад +9

      22 year old man not adopted, also crying lol

    • @heavyspark813
      @heavyspark813 Год назад +3

      Damn right they are!

    • @destinylovesasmr
      @destinylovesasmr Год назад

      Same!!

    • @ishpants
      @ishpants Год назад +7

      39 year old man checking in… crying not adopted and have a 2 year old boy… kids are the only thing in this world we can count on to be honest and caring!

    • @gingergaluk
      @gingergaluk Год назад +2

      Same. That child is so pure

  • @shannilovely
    @shannilovely Год назад +1773

    When I told my 8 year old child that my biological father left me, she put her hand on my arm and said “I’m so sorry” ♥️ I started crying. I had always needed that empathy.

    • @lilkittygirl
      @lilkittygirl Год назад +14

      That’s sympathy not empathy

    • @LM-mr3fd
      @LM-mr3fd Год назад +63

      @@lilkittygirl It can be a demonstration of both actually.

    • @LadyofdaNO
      @LadyofdaNO Год назад +4

      😢

    • @andrewodinson3726
      @andrewodinson3726 Год назад +13

      @@lilkittygirl Sympathy would be "aw, that's so sad"

    • @seveneyes77
      @seveneyes77 Год назад +8

      @@lilkittygirlcould be any of them or both, you don’t need to be through what another been through to feel empathy.

  • @CloudxO_Nine
    @CloudxO_Nine 2 месяца назад +2

    I cried omfg 🥺 kids really don’t know how much they save us fr 🤞🏽💜

  • @efaz4321
    @efaz4321 Год назад +1151

    " i want u " as soon as she said it it made me realize that the smallest things are the most precious and memorable

    • @RealCirnoFumo
      @RealCirnoFumo Год назад

      I honestly started crying for some reason when she said that

  • @lelouchvibritannia4235
    @lelouchvibritannia4235 Год назад +634

    This got me choked up. The way she said “aww.” And hesitated because she wanted to say something to make you feel better. What a precious moment

  • @cherrygomez2265
    @cherrygomez2265 Год назад +4617

    my girl really said, “your mom was lame” woww that’s truly mother and daughter bonding!! ❤❤❤

    • @miss_B_
      @miss_B_ Год назад +8

      what a golden heart

    • @iker8909
      @iker8909 Год назад +15

      Maybe her bio Grandma wasn't lame at all. Maybe she had an abusive partner or family, was dirt poor, underage or drug addicted and giving her kid up was the best thing she could have done for her child.

    • @Iqjaahbssbsjaj
      @Iqjaahbssbsjaj Год назад +29

      @@iker8909or maybe she was just lame

    • @iker8909
      @iker8909 Год назад +5

      @@Iqjaahbssbsjaj Not improbable.

    • @SaintEM821
      @SaintEM821 Год назад +2

      I am so sorry but so grateful for your babygirl. You are wanted AND NEEDED in this world, Cherry!! Love and hugs from Puerto Rico!🇵🇷❤️💯🥰

  • @parasit6183
    @parasit6183 4 месяца назад +1

    The fact a 3 old child said is so heart warming.

  • @m_l27453
    @m_l27453 Год назад +5794

    This is a good example of why parents need to be honest and clear with children at a young age especially when they’re developing. This young girl, who is three years old was able to understand, and her sense of empathy was so pure.😊

    • @Angelaius
      @Angelaius Год назад

      Exactly. Same with death as well. We can't hide it and then dump all the info on them later

    • @aimeepollock2943
      @aimeepollock2943 Год назад +238

      Even more importantly, when she meets other kids who were adopted like her mom this girl isn’t going to tease or stare. She’s going to accept it, which reinforces what those new parents are: that adoptees parents.
      Kudos to honest mom for helping teach acceptance & kudos to daughter for understanding.

    • @fielding6096
      @fielding6096 Год назад +55

      You can tell kids the truth about anything, just simplify it for them

    • @triggerwarningiidentifyasc725
      @triggerwarningiidentifyasc725 Год назад +2

      But why this kid didn't meet the new Grandma?

    • @littlebirdy5962
      @littlebirdy5962 Год назад +7

      Tbh it just seems to me like the mom is already using her daughter to vent to at the ripe age of 3.

  • @JanoyCresvaZero
    @JanoyCresvaZero Год назад +2606

    Oh my god I’m a grown ass man sitting on the toilet just bawling right now. Not only was she lucky enough to be adopted and loved and nurtured by a stranger, but she had a child whose heart is so huge that she was able to recognize that it hurt her mom that her mom didn’t want her… Such an amazing video.

    • @Markuden
      @Markuden Год назад +6

      its sick its piss (btw the same for me)

    • @julietapintor5501
      @julietapintor5501 Год назад +18

      It doesn't matter your age, it's ok to cry, It's a natural thing anda ir's human ❤️✨

    • @JanoyCresvaZero
      @JanoyCresvaZero Год назад +4

      @@Markuden
      Jus some lil tears PJ don’t be mad

    • @Markuden
      @Markuden Год назад +1

      @@JanoyCresvaZero maybe brother PJ had some free supplements or money for your birthday

    • @Markuden
      @Markuden Год назад +2

      @@julietapintor5501 Its sick, its piss, its revolting, its insulting! WHOOOOOO

  • @brodakarat6340
    @brodakarat6340 Год назад +1320

    Humans: "hearty conversation"
    Doggo: 🍌👀

    • @SweetJoye
      @SweetJoye Год назад +11

      Hahaha right ha

    • @FreyaFromAsgard
      @FreyaFromAsgard Год назад +23

      He was patiently waiting and got nothing 😭

    • @empresslugia97
      @empresslugia97 Год назад +13

      ​@@FreyaFromAsgardhe did get a small piece tho

    • @rollinlikeaboss
      @rollinlikeaboss Год назад +4

      I came for this exact comment 😂

    • @ToeBiter112
      @ToeBiter112 Год назад

      Lol I’m laughing so hard 🤣🤣🤣

  • @cgreen399
    @cgreen399 3 месяца назад +1

    The way the mom buckled over you can tell she’s been needing to hear that for her entire life

  • @Gummy_Pop.
    @Gummy_Pop. Год назад +618

    When she pleaded "i want you....i want you as my mommy 🥺" i almost wanted to reach through the phone and hug her. Shes so sweet 😭

  • @OsirisT
    @OsirisT Год назад +428

    That child is so intelligent. At her age I didn't have the capacity to realize that my mom had a mom. I just assumed that she just appeared out of thin air like everyone else's mom.

    • @monroerobbins7551
      @monroerobbins7551 Год назад +8

      Same, I called my Abuela Abuela cause that was her title, not cause she was my dad’s mom, lol

  • @GLITTER_GUTS
    @GLITTER_GUTS Год назад +2063

    At first I thought to myself “she’s too young to hear that” but I remember being confused about why my sister was always going to this weird place every week until my parents told me “someone bad hurt your sister, so she’s seeing someone that’s helping her” after that I was much more caring towards my older sister (someone molested her and she was going to therapy twice a week. they told me the whole story when I was much older)
    She told her in a light way without too much detail. That’s the way to do it! She’s a lucky girl having a beautiful mother like her. Thanks for sharing the video

    • @Ro-wc1ug
      @Ro-wc1ug Год назад +92

      Completely agree. People can be bad. As long as you don’t go into detail and freak the shit out of your kid they’ll understand

    • @SSR00000
      @SSR00000 Год назад +82

      Cudos to your parents for making sure your sister received intensive therapy. And what a lovely sibling you are for being so supportive. Hope your sister is doing well.
      The same happened to me when I was 11 but my father had anger issues and my mum was too scared to tell him. I suffered in silence resulting in a disrupted, chaotic life as an adult. By the time I went to therapy as an adult, my thought patterns etc was very much established. I'm 53 and its still an ongoing battle against / process to try and change my hurt self.

    • @serenegenerally
      @serenegenerally Год назад +15

      I’m so glad your sister has gotten help

    • @trenvert123
      @trenvert123 Год назад +6

      @@SSR00000 I'm so sorry this happened to you. But I'm happy that you are in a space to heal now. And I'm proud of you for the work you are doing.

    • @cc_snipergirl
      @cc_snipergirl Год назад +11

      You can hear her start giving the default parent response too before changing her mind "That's just the way..." She chose to be honest and vulnerable in an age appropriate way and her daughter responded in the sweetest way

  • @hcnplaiaarl934
    @hcnplaiaarl934 2 месяца назад +3

    I have a 4-year-old son like that, he says he will take care of me and protect me, and when I get sick or feel bad he worries about me and takes care of me.

  • @chrissullivan6574
    @chrissullivan6574 Год назад +663

    I had to watch this again because I wasn't sufficiently crying the first time.

    • @peachpixiedust
      @peachpixiedust Год назад +15

      Lmao same, what always gets me is the comments crying with us 😭

    • @Art.and.Hamsters
      @Art.and.Hamsters Год назад +3

      @@peachpixiedustSame 🥺

    • @Chief_Of_Sinners
      @Chief_Of_Sinners Год назад

      Maybe seek professional help? Stop using soy milk. I dunno what to tell you, unless you're embellishing, because that's not a normal response for something so mundane.

    • @jackiet1612
      @jackiet1612 Год назад

      Good answer

    • @twobitsandpepper8235
      @twobitsandpepper8235 Год назад

      @@peachpixiedust Bout to do the same, even after reading your disclaimer

  • @epicleak
    @epicleak Год назад +392

    right when she said “ i want you “ i bursted out in tears, she’s so sweet & this is a moment a mother will never forget

  • @710purpz
    @710purpz Год назад +5050

    As a man who was adopted. This hit me right in the gut.

  • @tabbiejhungerford8858
    @tabbiejhungerford8858 4 месяца назад +1

    That totally made her day. She needed to hear that from her little girl.

  • @TeeBaby82
    @TeeBaby82 Год назад +2144

    She saved her years of therapy and money with that one comment. 😭😭😭❤❤❤

    • @TeeBaby82
      @TeeBaby82 Год назад +49

      @cartoons I wasn’t saying her mom didn’t need to go to therapy, nor was my comment trying to turn her daughter into a burden bearer 😏. But sometimes loving words coming from a pure place can heal deep wounds in ways you can’t express. I’m a living witness of that. 🙏🏾❤️ God bless

    • @marcrose3403
      @marcrose3403 Год назад +20

      @@TeeBaby82 😂😂😂 your statement was funny. That other person is a party pooper

    • @marcrose3403
      @marcrose3403 Год назад +12

      @cartoons 😂😂😂 you must be fun at parties

    • @troelsvestergaard6644
      @troelsvestergaard6644 Год назад +4

      @cartoons
      Blah blah blah

    • @UrbanMatts
      @UrbanMatts Год назад +1

      @@cartoons4042she just couldn’t think of a lie it’s not that deep lol

  • @jjohnston326
    @jjohnston326 Год назад +524

    Little girl, that was the absolute best answer you could've ever given!

  • @bonnielass3975
    @bonnielass3975 Год назад +5898

    I was adopted at birth. My birth mother couldn't mentally handle children. She was slow and only had the mental capacity of a 14 year old and Men took advantage of her. So her cousin adopted me. She told me year's later. "I wanted you very much I love you! But they said I couldn't take care of you cause I'm not smart." It broke My heart. She's a beautiful person and we have a great relationship. Everything happens for a reason. God's plan for your life isn't always what you want but it's what's Best.

    • @AB_Evans
      @AB_Evans Год назад +547

      Thank you for sharing, Bonnie! That was so sad that she was told that, but I completely agree that everything happens for a reason. And it's wonderful that you have a great relationship with her now. What a blessing! May God continue to bless you both & your families! ❤

    • @bonnielass3975
      @bonnielass3975 Год назад +157

      @@AB_Evans God bless you as well.

    • @icturner23
      @icturner23 Год назад +346

      Thank you. I’m adopted too and I hated how this mother unjustly maligned her biological mother to her child. It’s far more likely that she couldn’t take care of her or wasn’t allowed to. Now the child has an image of anyone who gives up a child as being in the wrong. I’d hate to be an adoptive parent of a child in the daughter’s class, as she might unwittingly say something unkind at any time.

    • @wordnado9788
      @wordnado9788 Год назад +48

      I want to hear more of your story.

    • @Tata83102
      @Tata83102 Год назад +205

      I know a little boy who was adopted at birth, same situation, his parents both couldn’t mentally handle children, I didn’t know too much more other than that but it ended up perfect because the little boy not only looks just like his adoptive parents, but his adoptive parents had been trying for a baby for many years and they just couldn’t get pregnant so They raised him so well and then all of a sudden, his birth parents got pregnant again! And they were able to adopt that little baby as well, a baby girl. So now he has a full blood sister and although I feel for the woman who can’t care for her babies, I’m happy they ended up with the perfect people.

  • @RivaashK
    @RivaashK 9 месяцев назад +1

    Kids are smarter than we think and they can handle the truth told truthfully. Not much can bring me to tears but this certainly has

  • @Linkolite
    @Linkolite Год назад +761

    It’s crazy how the mom wasn’t upset or sad about telling her daughter that her mom didn’t want her. But the little girl had the emotional intelligence to a) see that a mother giving up her child can hurt the child. And b) impose herself as a solution to her mother’s pain. All in a matter of a few seconds. Humans are amazing. It’s like you lose the ability to realize that we’ve always been very emotionally intelligent creatures. You don’t just wake up one day with adult emotions. We’re all born with compassion.

    • @shivamsud
      @shivamsud Год назад +5

      I mean for most people who are adopted.....we dont resent it or anything.....its just the feeling u have sometimes....a singular thought of why didn't they want me

    • @a.r.m.y.chinghu926
      @a.r.m.y.chinghu926 Год назад +2

      Very Bad
      ​It's the age when she is getting to know about Love, about family and especially her Mother and then BOOM Mothers can be like Monsters too, they can even abandone their child
      She will think that maybe a Mother's Love is Not pure and unconditional always like I thought
      She will even go further about what is it that caused Mother to be abandoned
      I should already knew so that I won't get abandoned too, she will be careful to not do things so that her Mother won't leave her too

    • @geministrial950
      @geministrial950 Год назад

      ​@@a.r.m.y.chinghu926Twice?? Holy crap dude are you really this lazy?

    • @Anna-pz1ot
      @Anna-pz1ot Год назад +11

      As someone that was adopted- it’s not sad lol. if a mother doesn’t want a kid but gives birth, the responsible thing to do is give it to someone that CAN raise it properly. It’s not like we were abandoned. They gave us up because they wanted better for us.
      Keeping the baby would be the selfish thing to do, if the mother isn’t ready/doesn’t desire to be a mom. People don’t realize that.

    • @oksnarobinson-pl3bq
      @oksnarobinson-pl3bq Год назад

      Because God -Everlasting - Father did created all humans, and He did put in every heart - compassion and love!
      All glory to Him !

  • @lazydaisy2292
    @lazydaisy2292 Год назад +1773

    "My mommy didn't want me" That's a heartbreaking thing to hear. It made be cry. You're true mommy CHOSE you.

    • @smokked
      @smokked Год назад +13

      your*.... sorry

    • @JanieBee
      @JanieBee Год назад +8

      No child should feel unwanted or be cast out 😢

    • @JovialityBabyy
      @JovialityBabyy Год назад +3

      @@smokked you're was actually right.....

    • @smokked
      @smokked Год назад +10

      @@JovialityBabyy no.. no its not LMAO

    • @JovialityBabyy
      @JovialityBabyy Год назад +2

      @@smokked yes.... Yes it is in correct grammar it's you're.. look it up.

  • @carolinegichia1687
    @carolinegichia1687 Год назад +484

    Abandonment wounds healed in real time. ❤ so precious

    • @beledathedruid7567
      @beledathedruid7567 Год назад

      She wasn't abandoned... She was adopted 2 totally different things

  • @Itfeelzlike422
    @Itfeelzlike422 3 месяца назад +1

    Our kids will never know how much their entire being heals us 🥹🥰

  • @thewideawakeclub4843
    @thewideawakeclub4843 Год назад +465

    I don’t care what any expert says about kids don’t have empathy until they reach 7 years old. This proves this little girl has empathy.

    • @queenkoi
      @queenkoi Год назад +66

      Some kids definitely have a sense of empathy before seven. Highly intelligent children very quickly relate to you as a living, feeling creature.

    • @RexyBing
      @RexyBing Год назад +31

      If someone who believes that calls themself an "expert", they have wasted their life studying something they still know nothing about...

    • @thewideawakeclub4843
      @thewideawakeclub4843 Год назад

      @@RexyBing I love this!! And I love you for this. They can have all the degrees they want coming out of their ears. You don’t need a degree in independent research or the level of stupidity. All medical Drs/nurses etc. all been taught the poison chemical way.
      They always treat the symptom and don’t look at the cause. That’s why they’re so rich. They get paid bonuses for every jab. They’re untouchable. At the minute I’m having massive problems with them with my Dad. I’m putting in a complaint. He’s in so much pain? He’s on 4 packs of medication.
      I had to call the emergency help line last week. He came out with all his tablets. When I saw one of them I knew immediately why he was in pain. Codeine Phosphate has stopped him going to the toilet. He’s lost a stone, he can’t eat. He’s been to the Drs 8 times in 3 weeks, A&E twice and sat for 9 hours.
      Tomorrow he gets an endoscopy. It’s absolutely disgusting.
      I went to the chemist next to his Drs as I know what to get him. They wouldn’t give me anything. They keep telling him to go to A&E. Nothing more they can do. I knew the tablets he’s on affect the body. I still believe he doesn’t need the heart tablets. He’s got a pace maker. No Dr will refer you to a nutritionist because they’re to get your health back on track.
      It’s all a massive scam. Money making big pHARMa. Tablets are designed to keep you sick. My Mam ended up in hospital due to the same tablets my Dad was told to stop taking.
      She was on 30 tablets out of her 13 boxes a day + morphine. High levels of morphine were found in her blood.
      She died suddenly. There was an inquest. Pathologist said he couldn’t find anything, reports came back 3 times as inconclusive. They wanted the whole case closed do they wrote unknown death on her certificate. Just to get a piece of paper. They know, they all know why she died. And all those tablets poisoned her body. They never did a full autopsy. A 71 year old lady just doesn’t suddenly die. I’m wanting to open a case and get justice for my Mam. It took my Mothers death for me to really wake up. From the second I saw her lifeless body on the floor I started to inspect her. I said that evening. ‘They have missed something, something isn’t right here.’ She would have wanted me to investigate. When I saw inside of her mouth it was weird, it was like black mould. The paramedics or pathologist would have pumped her stomach out. I bet there was signs of adjuvants in her gut. Apparently blood came up out of her gut when she was moved from her chair.
      I am not having unknown when I know, and they know. You will never find a death certificate with. Vaccine reaction on . Or anything to do with the medical system.

    • @JanoyCresvaZero
      @JanoyCresvaZero Год назад +21

      I worked in a few pediatrics units and did rotations in daycare centers when I was in nursing school. All under 7, damn near ALL of them were empathetic and understood that I was a nurse and wanted to help people. They told me they liked me and wanted to help people too. When they asked about my mommy and daddy and when I told them my daddy was hurt and he can’t walk too well, they made a sad face and gave me a big hug. They actually said, “I’m sorry,” and I swear I teared up every time. These experts don’t give kids enough credit. They’re way smarter than they give them credit for.

    • @Chrissi35813
      @Chrissi35813 Год назад

      This little girl is so sweet! Mom is doing a good job raising her!

  • @jack1701e
    @jack1701e Год назад +505

    'I want you' two little words and a letter carry so much weight and meaning, what a sweetie!

    • @ashtonbrooks
      @ashtonbrooks Год назад +40

      Three little words

    • @FancyNoises
      @FancyNoises Год назад +4

      ​@@ashtonbrooks 😄👍

    • @ununun9995
      @ununun9995 Год назад +5

      ​@@ashtonbrookswhat's a letter?

    • @CCgivemeawedgy
      @CCgivemeawedgy Год назад +11

      No he's right, two words and a letter.

    • @FancyNoises
      @FancyNoises Год назад +4

      @@CCgivemeawedgy I guess I missed (or didn't understand) "and a letter" 🤔
      Hey, everyone's right! 😄

  • @edcrfvtgbyhnujmikolpqazwsx
    @edcrfvtgbyhnujmikolpqazwsx Год назад +289

    No hearts were spared when she said "I want you". 😢

  • @lashawnwilliams2015
    @lashawnwilliams2015 3 месяца назад +1

    This made my heart and soul melt. Children are wonderful 😢

  • @ThisIsSewMe
    @ThisIsSewMe Год назад +1569

    She said “I want you” and I started crying and I’ve seen this before ❤

  • @elizabethmion4595
    @elizabethmion4595 Год назад +408

    As someone who went through the foster system and was eventually adopted I can’t tell you how much that hurt little child inside that was abandoned craves hearing that. Definitely shed a few tears watching this

    • @monkeyearcheese420
      @monkeyearcheese420 Год назад +3

      My mom dipped when I was about 5. Definitely leaves a scar that can't really heal . Raising your own and doing better definitely helps

  • @sitron7224
    @sitron7224 10 месяцев назад +823

    props to this woman for being open and honest (but gentle) with her kid about heavy topics, that's how you raise emotionally mature and compassionate childen

    • @JenniferDefoor
      @JenniferDefoor 9 месяцев назад +24

      i do wonder if her adoption was a closed adoption. My twin cousins are adopted and their mother was victim of a rape & got pregnant with both of them. She didnt want to have an abortion but she also wasnt ready to be a mom (she was barely 15). So she gave both of them up to a couple (my aunt & uncle) that wanted both of them. Its not that they werent wanted, its their mom wanted them to have better than she could give them. they did eventually meet her once they were of age & they still have contact; but they still call my aunt & uncle, mom & dad and their biological mom by her name. I wasnt there at visits, but i do remember them saying that she cried a lot seeing that they were okay; that it was the hardest thing she'd ever done to let them go. But she knew she made best choice after seeing how well they turned out. One is a nurse and another is in school to be speech therapist

    • @SinginginD
      @SinginginD 9 месяцев назад +29

      I just wish she’d said “my mommy couldn’t take care of me” or something. I understand the honesty, but a 3 year old hears that, and they wonder what they could do to make mommy not want them.
      Or another kid tells them they’re adopted, and they innocently ask the kid why didn’t you mommy want you?

    • @heoniebee9566
      @heoniebee9566 8 месяцев назад +10

      ​​@@SinginginDyeah, I kinda see that and "that's exactly why I had you" as red flags, tbh. You shouldn't have a child just to fill some kinda hole in yourself or to fix your life. It doesn't work and that's a LOT to put on a child. They're a brand new, vulnerable person - their existence shouldn't be about your trauma & that's likely to backlash on the kid's own psyche. Not to mention affect and possibly damage their relationship when the child grows up.

    • @SinginginD
      @SinginginD 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@heoniebee9566 exactly. I do believe we need to be gentle with parents, especially those of us who have survived trauma. And I think it’s also important to see where we can tweak our loving parenting to do the best we can for our own babies!

    • @sandradube4456
      @sandradube4456 8 месяцев назад +10

      ​@SinginginD couldn't agree more! I see alot off people applauding her "honesty". As a clinical psychologist I cringed when she said that. It's quite toxic. It's too much to burden a 3 year old with. That's a conversation she should have with her friends, partner and a therapist and get validation from those relationships. Validation from a 3 year old?? nah!

  • @liferiot
    @liferiot 2 месяца назад +1

    She will never forget that, ever.

  • @ravennawolf387
    @ravennawolf387 Год назад +539

    Me crying as an adopted person who is now a parent too. What a beautiful lil soul.

  • @jasmijnariel
    @jasmijnariel Год назад +451

    Those basic and simple 4words, "i want you mommy" were the most important one in the mothers life

    • @jasmijnariel
      @jasmijnariel Год назад +1

      @Luna B. smith its a 3y old. Stop your freaking brain from wondering off