How To Know If They’re Just Being Nice Not Flirting
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- Опубликовано: 6 июл 2024
- Have you been talking to your crush lately and you’re not sure if their flirting or just being nice? Flirting can be a tricky thing and the last thing any of us would want is to possibly jeopardize our friendship with them by making things awkward. Don’t worry, though. So, how to know if they’re just being nice not flirting? Here are a few tips!
We also made a video on the signs they like you even if you don't think so: • 6 Signs a Person Likes...
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Animator: Kwek ( / kwek_chi )
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References:
Messman, S. J., Canary, D. J., & Hause, K. S. (2000). Motives to remain platonic, equity, and the use of maintenance strategies in opposite-sex friendships. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 17(1), 67-94.
Parks, M. R., & Floyd, K. (1996). Meanings for closeness and intimacy in friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 13(1), 85-107.
Egland, K. L., Spitzberg, B. H., & Zormeier, M. M. (1996). Flirtation and conversational competence in cross‐sex platonic and romantic relationships. Communication Reports, 9(2), 105-117.
Commen below if you like this animation! Kwek is such a talent.
It’s so cute! 💛
The art style has a cute vibe
It looks cute 😻 but I like your normal style either
All of them are so cute!! But I also I really like the one you use for your second channel!
I know I've already said this but your videos get better and better every time I watch them :)))))
It's sad how being polite is so rare these days that it's confused with flirting...
Hmhm
Whenever I watch videos like this where it's "flirting" those flirting signs are literally me and how I treat all of my friends 🗿
So I'm like yeah no clue what to think about that
Facts. I once got a stalker for being too nice 😕
That's why I don't talk to new people
Except in canada
Bruh, this is so true. Whenever I treat someone nicely or with respect, they just keep quiet or other people childishly tease me thinking that I like them
1. 0:25 They're nice to everyone.
2. 1:04 They never initiate anything.
3. 1:35 They don't hang out with you alone.
4. 1:58 They keep a respectful physical distance.
5. 2:20 They're careful about what they talk about.
6. 2:48 They don't open up too much.
7. 3:23 They let conversations end organically.
8. 3:54 They talk about their crushes with you.
Thank you so much!
Thank you. But at the same time how is it 3 days ago when the video is 4 minutes ago
@@66plus22 channel members get early access to videos. 😁
@@johnnyrepine937 oh ok that explains everything
@@66plus22 so, no time travel? Awwwww
I don't care if some one is "just being kind" instead of flirting, we need so much more kindness in this world... ain't I right?
U're right
Yes :(
Ain’t I right? I had a stroke reading that
@@DenitoX7 Reading what again?
Be kind for no reason
Irritating at the most. All of my exes would say, “ you’re too flirty”… my response, “ I am a pleasant person, there is a difference”.
I used to be so bad at telling when someone liked me. I don’t know why I’d miss all the signs 😅 I always just thought they were being nice. As I’ve gotten older I can definitely tell patterns and habits of people who may like me
A good way to tell is to stop talking in the middle of the conversation. If they start initiating a new conversation and talking to you again, they like you.
@@AutomaticDuck300 yaah true
@@palaksri7908 When one mirrors someone they are subconsciously (or consciously) matching the other person's body language/movement or mannerisms. This is due to them paying attention to the other person. For example when I walked around hallways during school I typically looked at the floor and when I was walking behind someone, I noticed my speed matched theirs and our walking was synchronized. This also happens when I'm walking with someone. Even though I have longer legs and can take bigger strides, I end up shortening my steps to "mirror" another person. Another example would be crossing arms or legs when someone else you're looking at or talking to is. This can mean that someone is interested in you. Hope this helps!
@Khalilah It must be confusing to be in such girlfriend demand!
@@AutomaticDuck300 Or maybe they're testing you as well 🤔
Please read this if you have the time, i need to say this
I don’t agree with some of these. I get told that I’m too nice and all of that stuff so I’m saying this from the perspective of someone who does these things and is one of these people. Sometimes we don’t initiate anything because we’re scared of how they’ll respond, we keep a respectful physical distance because we’re worried about how close or how far away we should be and we don’t want to scare them away, we might not hang out alone because we don’t want them to be uncomfortable or awkward or feel pressured into being with us, we might be nice to people because we want to impress them or maybe even out of fear of loneliness, and we might not open up because we don’t want them to think we’re weird, or maybe we’re even scared of opening up too anyone
If you ever meet a really nice person, and you start to notice some of this stuff, please, hug them, cherish them, tell them you love them
The people that are the nicest and most polite are almost always the ones that are a single thread snapping away from losing everyone and everything
Thank you for your time
Very well said
this is exactly how i am too :’)
@@keeptaiwanfree everything will be okay :)❤️
@@darknight3613 thank you very much :)
Thanks for sharing, that's how i am right now.
- She's nice to everyone (But that's a good trait)
- We only see each other at school or over text
- She usually saves me a seat next to her or sits next to me
- She initiates conversation
- We never hang out alone
- She talks to me about problems she has
In conclusion, I might be overthinking this
One thing that a lot of people need to understand is that a lot of people are either flirty by nature or nice by nature, and someone that comes off as flirty to you could just mean that you’re lonely. That’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it is something you should acknowledge about yourself. Just because someone is nice to you, whether it be because they are trying to nice or because they actually are a nice person, doesn’t mean they are attracted to you, and you need to be okay with that.
Some people actually like you but as an acquaintance or friend and nothing more, and if someone likes you more than that, then you can let the situation evolve as such on its own.
You can’t force someone to be more than that if they’re just being nice, some people are just flirty or nice by nature. Normally, I’d say that if you can’t tell, then ask, but that doesn’t work for a lot of situations, like if the person is already taken and happy, or if they have their own personal problems going on and just need a friend, but just consider that you have your own things going on and so does everyone else.
We’re all on our own journeys and none of us can force something into what we want it to be if that’s not how it’s meant to be, and that goes for everything. I don’t mean to be so vague, but basically, just let things come naturally, whether it be just a simple friendship and nothing more, or maybe something, but don’t expect everything, just respect anything (within reason).
Sorry for being so long-winded.
Oooh ! The art style :0 all of them are cute but it suprised me to see some "chibi anime" style
This is one of the most beautiful. Do you want to see shorts version?
Why does your comment say it's 5 days ago-
@@darlingdander9482 they must be a member of the channel
@@pratisthamukherjee4641 not really
@@darlingdander9482 I'm just god's favorite
some people are just naturally friendly. So they may say "hi" or give you a smile whenever they see you. But they may not think anything of it, because it's just how they are. Unless you're a mindreader, you can't really know what people's true intentions are.
How they respond to you talking about your dating life with other people is a good indicator.
Could you give me examples?
If I always assume they are just being nice, I would be correct 100% of the time. It’s not even a matter of choice at this point
It’s your belief system if you think that. That’s what you attract to happen.
@@moneytime1556 I understand and I agree with you, at some extent. The core issue with my statement is that I didn’t consider the case of the result being unknown; so that 100% is the sum of “Being Nice” and “I don’t know”, since “Flirting” (with certainty) was literally zero. So it’s not about what I think of the matter and my future endeavors, but a pure data analysis, so to speak. I am still stubbornly optimistic, though
No joke. =P
It's honestly sad.
@@moneytime1556 some flirting with you is being nice so they aren’t wrong. Also if I were to lie and say all my hats are green what about my statement is true?
for me the thing is:
they are nice to everyone
they have initiated things at many instances
they sometimes hangout with me alone, but often prefer to have a friend along
they have crossed the physical boundary with me in the past
they talk to me about almost everything
they often open up and share their thoughts
we used to have long never-ending conversations but not anymore
they already have a partner
Rip
I feel you brother
WASTED
very similar case. Except that I (kinda) know where we're at, and it's actually just how they are and a form of close friendship (or the intention, as it's still relatively new). Appreciate what you can get, because that's the best you can have.
They can dump their partner
3 anime references:
1.Black Clover
2.Orange
3.Shikimori is not just a cutie
The way how Psych2go animate & demonstrate between Kamiya and Yuu Izumi's relationship to each other in number 8 is totally accurate.
Despite that Kamiya likes Izumi,she still respect Yuu Izumi's wish to become Micchon Shikimori's boyfriend and decided to free him and move on
Orange is amazing. I’ve seen it 3 times and it always hits the spot.
I see Shikimori characters, I click. This list is useful but also low key painful for me. I feel like I'm the one who initiate the plans and being proactive but other than that, nothing came from the other side which happens often.
Ah, sharp eye I didn't notice that. I did feel like it felt vaguely familiar though. I only noticed the Black Clover reference. I like their pop culture allusions though.
This is actually something I'm afraid of doing. I'm afraid that if I'm too nice to someone it will be perceived as flirting and they'll think I'm leading them on.
Don't be afraid of that. It is crazy world if we can't be nice to each other. Just shows you are good person. 😂
What about, “how do you know they’re only being polite but secretly hating you “. 🌝
They look down on you indirectly.
Idk abt anyone but there are some ppl in my life that do this and my mind immediately gives me hints that this is not a good thing to say to someone.
Try to listen in on their conversations to others and see if they talk about you
Always best to assume they're being nice. Don't want to jump the gun and get ur hopes up or make the other person uncomfortable
I've written a 17 thousand character summary on this subject, largely comprised of pretty condensed bulletin points and such, no verbose descriptions. To see a video under five minutes attempting to tackle the subject is commendable.
Wow! that's a lot of work.
@@hi-nt8bi It's a lot of BS is what it is! :D
Like, just because the sources are saying that when she leans towards you means that she is flirting, doesn't mean she actually does. You might just be too silent, and she doesn't want to sit closer to you, so she leans in.
That's funny because when I flirt with someone I like to be friendly and flirty at the same time to be ambiguous and I got half of the video corresponding to what I do and half what I don't
SAME
I'm kinda guilty of this. I'm a pretty bubbly person and I love hugs, so if you ask for a hug I'd probably give one to you whether I know you or not. This is actually how one of my guy friends ended up catching feelings for me. He said he felt special because I ran up to him whenever I saw him and gave him a hug. That's really just how I am, and I treat most of my friends the same way so it makes me feel bad.
Can you give me a hug?
I'm loving the animators and artists you've been hiring on, your content is always so sweet and oddly on the nose on the timing ❤️❤️
Big hug to anyone reading ❤️❤️❤️
I am just being nice, not flirting 😆
Sure
The most common perspective about politeness and flirtation is that, “Being polite is so obscure that people confuse it for flirting”. I’m of the school of thought that thinks that, being polite is in abundance so much so that it’s confused with flirting and vice versa. Or better yet, politeness and flirtation are never truly separate phenomenons because we typically expect that someone who is being flirtatious with us is also being polite. After all, two things can be true at the same time and that’s why it’s important to use discernment and have the courage to ask for clarity about the nature of your interpersonal relationship.
Based
I love this art style
We coudn't have agreed more.
yes
New art style is way too cute!You and your team are so talented
Here it's 3.40 pm
5:09 am rn lmao
your channel and idea to spread mental health awareness is awesome. recently i got a feeling that people’s knowledge about mental problems is too weak. the stereotypes are still a big problem and because of this many people decide not to share what they come through. i’m a victim of comments like “if she’s a border then run away” or “people with borderline are dangerous and mentally ill” - they don’t have even an idea that borderline is a disorder, not disease. it would be cool if you could make a content describing what are disorders and why it’s not appropriate to call disordered people psychically sick
This is the definition of perfect timing !
I’m glad that you made this video but I hate it because no one I like ever likes me back and I finally see that they did basically everything on this list
I feel you dude. I’m always the one texting them first but it’s almost never the other way around
@@lesshuman00are they introverted or extroverted
@@ked49 the girl I’m texting now seems extroverted since she has posts of her being in her usual friend group fairly often. Plus she’s a club VP which I doubt you can get as an introverted person
Perfect, meeting my crush today, thanks.
When it seems like a girl is flirting with me I will automatically assume she's just messing with me or being nice.
I always assume the latter
Weird how its hard to be nice to people, People always think its you liking somebody if your nice.
Happens to me too
Need a "How To Know They're Flirting With You Without You Realizing It" video.
Yes!
- Of course she’s nice to most people that I see her with that part makes sense I’m kinda the same,
- The few times we have spent time together she actually has been the when to initiate (though it was more like after school she wanted to go somewhere and didn’t mind me going with),
- like I said we do actually spend quite a bit of time together during the end of the school day though certainly not as much time as I do with my other friends not even once with her during this summer (to be fair she’s literally been away all summer but I don’t imagine we would’ve really hanged out anyways),
- The times we are together and talking or whatever at the time we have been fairly close to each other however those times were on the bus or walking or sitting down stuff like that so we *kinda* *had* (I think maybe?) to be close but whatever,
- To be honest I’m not entirely sure what this one means but I can just say when we talk it is usually about things we like or that had happened though occasionally she’d tell me about problems (some fairly serious) that she had just for me to listen and of course I’d do the best I can,
- Like I said she does sometimes tell me about stuff going on in her life even though she seems like a naturally tough girl she opens up a bit to me the more we’re together,
- For this one I don’t really have a gauge for how long conversations should’ve lasted but I think the times we just sat down talking they did last quite awhile (again I feel it did bc I don’t know),
- She seems like the kind of girl at least from what I know about her to naturally have a guard up so I don’t see her and she hasn’t told me (or anyone I can imagine) that she’s interested in anyone in particular or in a relationship in general to be honest soo.
Consensus is that people are really confusing and I’m still not even sure lol 😭.
bro, according to the video your crush likes you
A person doesn't have to reciprocate feelings for another to have a crush on them. Even if you think they are being nice, it might be a good idea to tell them you like them. Maybe it will end the friendship, but maybe that's better than obsessing about them in secret and give you the ability to move on, one way or another.
THIS ANIMATION STYLE IS SO CUTE PLEASE KEEP ITTTT
Also my crush *pokes my stomach every 2 minutes and laughing bout it*
Or they think you're the Pillsbury Dough Person
Ask about it
OMY THE ART STYLE
IT IS SOOO CUTE I LOVE IT!!!
Good job psych2go! This is an amazing animation!!
i love this art style, its so adorable. i hope you use this art style more
The Thumbnail is Kamiya and Izumi!!! 🥰 First you did Genshin now Kawaii dakejanai Shikimori-San
Broooo I've been waiting for this comment 😂
Thank you Psych2go, you always post when I need it most. Even though it hurts it’s what I need to move on
I think he likes me! This one time he called me "man" and I kinda got the message that I'm friendzoned but then he circled back when he realized it bothered me and said he has romantic interest in me and he only called me that cause it's one of the usual things he says, the fact that he verbalized everything to give me clarity was a green flag 💚
Before my gf and I became official, she always calls me bro and that made me think I was friendzoned, so I decided to not confess until she confessed. Still today she still calls me bro even tho she is my gf
Aaa the art style is adorable!
This art style reminds me of a movie I watched when I was 7 it looked just like this keep it up ilysmm.
1. Yes they seem nice to others as well, that’s a good trait tho?
2. They initiate, albeit less than me.
3. They do hang out with me alone.
4. Yes but I am also the one keeping physical distance.
5. Yes, but again goes both ways.
6. They open up a fair bit about problems in their life, more than me actually.
7. Conversations end once one of us has something important to do.
8. Never.
This doesn’t help...
A good way to tell if somebody likes you is to stop talking in the middle of the conversation. If they start initiating a new conversation and talking to you again, they like you.
Interesting
Or they could read it as you don’t like them and may cause suicide
I have been told for years that my friendliness comes off as flirting LOL
THAT'S THE VİDEO I NEEDED !
You're so talented ☺️
amazing video. i only wish it came out sooner so i would've known how to tell -- losing friends over thinking they are flirting happened a lot
nice question. well you see, you really can't tell
Some of these points work with having a best friend and then wondering if you are still besties or have they changed their feelings about being your best friend. The new animation is cool beans😍
Do you like your best friend as more then your best friend?
If so they also probably like you and you should take ask them out. And it probably won’t ruin your relationship
i had this thing years ago when I really thought I got on so well with one of the receptionists at the office. I asked her out, just for lunch, but got nowhere. I realised later she was "professionally nice" to everyone, it was her job to make each person feel special, and she was very good at it. She probably could have eaten out every day of the week but to her credit she was not taking advantage. I still miss her.
I love the new art style
Same here.
the art is sooo cute❣️
I needed this video months ago before I decided to go and asked a guy out that I fell for at work and got turned down and now we are just awkward
I’m so scared of that happening to me! I hope you find a way to get out of the awkwardness
This is definetly the video I needed since I experience compliments from the opposite gender pretty rare so when I get some I get easily attached and that makes it hurt pretty much
I like the new artstyle :O
Thank you so much psych squad. I have a crush who actively does these things, but I’m nervous of asking if they like me back. I really don’t want to get it wrong and ruin an actually really good friendship
Just ask them if they have seen minions rise of gru if they say no ask if they want to see it and then see what happens next
art and animation is just wow!
Your new animations r amazing
i would never know if someone is flirting to me.. like i would like just think there being nice😭
This art style >>>>
This animation style is so cute and pleasing to me 😌😌 I would love a wallpaper with itt
I actually cannot believe I have seen all these signs in the person that i actually might be interested in.
This is just so sad 😞.
Well atleast thanks for opening my eyes I guess🥺.
Ask them out.
You are James Bond you got this
this one boy i see every day walking to school needed this video last week 😭 i hope him confessing to me and me rejecting won't make things awkward cuz he's a nice person😭
Sad. At least he tried that is better then half the introverts here
I really like this list. Actually, I have an interesting scenario and it’s kinda confusing. So, this girl I like will sometimes initiate convos, sometimes not, mostly in person. We were talking one day about how boring our lives are (#relatable) and we asked each other what we like to do. I told her I like fishing sometimes and out of nowhere she suggests we go fishing sometime in the coming weeks. But she also said she wants to bring her brother. Idk if it’s because she just thinks of me as a friend or if she’s scared or if she genuinely wants me to meet him. But I asked her one time if she was serious about the offer or if she was just joking, she said she was serious followed by something like “you’re cool as hell”. I have no idea what to think and if anyone could give me some suggestions (I will block trolls and mean people), that would be much appreciated.
bruh i think the entire thing is relatable, in which case i would suggest to wait for more signs/information before you believe anything that your mind is feeding. Most of the times if you like a person who's also a good friend of yours, you can misunderstand their friendliness. I have the same issue and each time i choose not to believe what's in my brain and it has been a while for my crush, i might as well ruin my friendship cuz this shit exhausting lmao. idk if that helps but lemme know if theres any updates! Kindly rooting for you.
- Stranger.
@@Overlord_11235 well here’s the thing, I only ever see her at work and the few times we see each other, we love to talk. That’s the most confusing part. Whether or not she likes someone she barely knows. I mean, we know a fair bit about each other, but I didn’t think it was enough for HER to ask ME to hangout.
@@mikeroconsole well I guess that changes things a bit. But still in my opinion, it's better to not assume anything (well, at least for now), it's safer that way if that's how you want to take things forward with her.
@@Overlord_11235 yeah…
after watching this video, it made me realise this guy i was talking to months ago was like halfway between being friendly and flirting. i have always been pretty oblivious to flirting so i passed it off as nothing, but we “hung out” together alone and it ended up more like a date and i was still so oblivious so i literally was so awkward and even friendzoned him and acted so embarrassing. we never had another date, which is okay because he was a nice guy but i wasn’t really romantically attracted to him looking back on it. but yeah, basically just try to be yourself if you are ever in the same situation because basically i let my doubts get in the way which caused me to act out and kind of ruin our connection if there even was one😅
Goodness, did I need this one. I'm kinda paranoid everyone is flirting with me honestly, because I've had too many people that liked or flirted with me, reciprocated and completely unwanted.
Yes, people do misunderstand being nice for harassment or flirting.
Thanks for making things clear for everyone. I really appreciate the work of this channel, we want more such esoteric videos.😁👍
I get flirting but unless the nice person is a guy I don’t think harassment would be a misunderstanding of what is going on
@@ked49… 😬
If a handsome guy is being nice or flirting, it’s fine… But if an uggo like me is being nice, it’s considered as *harassment* . That’s a harsh truth that nobody accepts.😫😭
Can we talk about how calming her voice is? I love your voice :3
I love how you add these small anime easters ❤️❤️
I don't know if someone has the same situation like me. I behave like that but in my thoughts i think i'm subtly flirting. I act like that because I don't want to cross someone comfort zone, or offend them by my unconfortable question or spicy proposal. I know it's a reason I almost always get fucking friendzoned. But it is the way I am. I'm so shy in terms of relationships with women.(if considered as potential gf) I feel worthless everytime I try to make some contact... I hate myself for that. I wish I could be bravier, but I don't really know how to bypass that feeling
If you feel like you are being friend zoned ask them out. Then you can see how deep you have sunken. And about that feeling I don’t think that goes away you just have to try to not listen to it
HOW THE HECK DO YOU POST ALL THE RIGHT VIDS AT THE PERFECT TIME??
Love the artstyle
Well looking back at some people i was confused on who liked me and who were just being nice it does show that i still have a lot to learn and hopefully next time it happens i can try to tell if they are jist being friendly
I love your videos there so helpful ❤❤❤ Thank you
Thank you! That's me, always just being nice, hahaha!
early!! thanks for this
I find it really helpful because it helps many girls mistaking the person just bekng nice with her or flirting
I'm better off being single indefinitely as an introvert.
Actually no who is going to ask the waiter to remake your food if it is made wrong
Ohh thanks for this list...
And by the way i just love the new art style...
And for some anime reference: we have Black Clover (Asta etc.) and the Shikimori anime
Animation getting cuter and cuter I love it soft style art but detailed
Omg! This was right on time…
Since this video showed up on my recommended, I knew this was gonna be a sign to get over my crush
Off topic, if you do another video talking about depression and/or ptsd, I think the hexide squad of the owl house would be a great fit, specifically Luz and hunter! I’m only suggesting because you put willow in a video before :) edit: another good combo is amity and hunter if you need to talk about childhood abuse
its true, theres lot of people are just real nice, quite easily mistaken for being interested with you
Love this video, really! It made me realize that I am pretty bad in deciding whether somebody likes me :/. Also, I have recognized myself not keeping these points often, even if I hadn't considered wanting to be anything more than friend before. Strange, isn't it?
4:00 is a Shikimori refrence right? I like small details like this so much :)
The thumbnail is also shikimori
i kinda needed that video haha
Wanted to say... HI lol. Great video today! 😉😉
I love the way u used Asta and the others in a very cute way in ur video 😍😘
how to build self esteem?
I think personally it has something to do with actually putting in the work. going through the pain of fighting that urge to put it off and make it meaningful with relationships. But im open to hear others takes :)
Since the anime (shikimori-chan is more than a cutie) came out I was counting to see it depicted in this channel haha, so cute, love you art work so much.
Love the thumbnail 😆
Chaala baaga chepparu andi.
*sigh* 5th time I've watched this video. The truth hurts. That non-engagement is just breadcrumbing for me. Thanks for the info, it'll help moving on.
For me any kind of being nice to me triggers my "They must be in love with me" sense. How did we get here?
You aren’t used to compliments, and you don’t have many people that you think show you love and affection.
@@ked49 Congrats Sherlock
Omg this is really what I need and suddenly pop out in my timeline. Cute animation tho ❤️