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Winner of a video, I been tryin to find out about "children of the mind pdf" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Giyoe Fonogan Builder - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.
I'm a huge believer of perspective but I still often catch myself having limiting beliefs in certain aspects of my life -- your videos always are a good reality check for me and a reminder that it's all a work in progress! I think this is such a great way to kick of the last month of 2018 as we look forward to 2019!
Having grown up in poverty, mindset is a huge deal. I never embraced telling myself that I was a poor person like much of my family did. I'm happy to say that I live a comfortable life (not lavish, but comfortable) and it wouldn't have been possible without a growth mindset.
So true. My mom grew up in poverty and she even said that poverty is a mindset. My grandparents never grew while she did even being a single mom for years but doing what she needed to invest in herself
Yeah, I am not poor but not rich either. I belong to a middle class family, where I can easily get access to the necessities but can't have that lavish lifestyle. I used to see my friends who were rich and felt jealous. But now, I am really proud to say that I am born in a lovely family, where my parents are so lovely and understanding and provide me everything that I need(my necessities). I learnt the habit of practicing gratitude and it really really made my life so great💕
I try to remember this every day: "Think new thoughts and you will change your mind. Change your mind and you will change your life." Positive self-talk is vital.
*I have the second tip. When you are able to back up your new beliefs with PROOF, your affirmations are set and you have more confidence in those new beliefs.*
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1.fixed & growth mindset 2.transform limiting beliefs into positive beliefs 3.transform negative self talk into positive supporting loving self talk 4.forgive yourself and other,and let go of the past
Limiting beliefs really do hold us back and it's important to recognize this and to work on changing those beliefs. This is why self-reflection and continuous self-improvement is so important! Cheers!
Rebuild the story and pretend like you were the superhero in all of this; I tried this, I rebuild stories in my head and i swear it's the best tip I got lately, because it really shiften my whole mindset! Thank you so much AiIeen for your wise words
i appreciate so much this types of videos. right now i’m in a very difficult time. i’m in the school of my dreams but i’m still struggling at adapting myself. it’s all different and sometimes i find myself talking and thinking about how i am not deserving of my position and school. thank u lav. i’ll definitely take this advice. thank u.
I do what I do in my life and walk away from all negative people as I accept my past I've turn hate to love by self love and confidence to feel good about life and don't care about what negative people think because it's small minded past disappointments I'm free thank you I'm getting counselling to close that chapters of my life thank you so much for your time and consideration 🙏💞 justice lots of love from London Lawrence Simon Anne Marie
thank u aileen. i’m experiencing hardships lately. w/ this reminder, i more firmly believe that a positive mindset is powerful. hope i can meet you someday. glad u are part of my life. thank you for everything. 😭
Another thing that is super helpful is asking if a thought, action, fill-in-the-blank will help me. If so, great, use it, hold it, improve it, treasure it. If not, change it, rewrite it, combat it.
The forgiveness one is a big one. I've lived with regret of not finishing a bachelor's degree (I have an associate's) and I felt like I had wasted my 20s because I've had to have a FT job as well as a PT job just to get by. I have to stop dwelling on my past and look to better my future and look at the good I did experience in my 20s with gratitude.
Love how you focus so much on helping others! I always been negative Nancy😂😅 without knowing it. It always felt that I had bad luck and things happend to me. Since I realized that it's all about HOW you deal with stuff. So much changed😍. Thanks to minimalism I stay focused on what really matters.
I love all your videos but this one really touched my heart. Especially when you talked about rewriting your stories. It made me realize how negative I have been to myself about my past. Knowing I can start rewriting them now and become more positive and loving to myself is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this video x
Wow. I always considered myself to have a growth mindset, but once I looked into the differences between the two mindsets, I realized I deep down have a fixed mindset. It’s crazy but an important realization. Well I think it’s time to stop limiting and sabotaging myself
I’m writing my senior thesis on how parents pass on independence to their children and I’m using one of Carol Dweck’s studies. So funny that this video came at a coincidental time. I’m motivated to finish my project now! Haha.
That is a great topic ! I would love to read that. I'm currently researching about self-efficacy for my own thesis, but I'm still at the beginning. I wish you the best for yours =)
I agree with you, Aileen! In the affiliate marketing business, it is really important to have that mindset. At the beginning of this business, I did not succeed and encountered many trials, yet I did not give up for I strongly believe in myself that I can get what I want to be and I am up for the challenges that I will go through. Hence, changing your mindset with positivity will surely have a big change in your life.
Aileen, you helped me a lot when I was feeling lost in my life. I changed a lot bcoz of u. I am still in a journey of finding my passion.. Thank you so much as you encouraged me to start my journey
Your videos have changed me so much, in a good way. I'm so grateful for you and your channel (genuinely). Thank you for sharing your art and thoughts. Much love x
exactely. mindset is very important thing that have power can change whole my life. I trying to talk myself ,was like, okay. I'm so proud of me and definitely I'm presious and have many talent able to give happiness to others for sure.
Aileen thank you so much you told me to take responsibility for my self,be grateful,love my self ....how depressed and anxious before I meet you ....but after I met you and heard your amazing voices,everything has changed.💫🍀I never thought I could be so happy ,because I just change my mindset✨💕💓.Though sometimes I am upset about I am unproductive and things was interrupted ☹️Send my love to you 💗💖
I always wished for having an elder sister to guide me , motivates me to achieve my goal and helps me to grow myself as a better human being . And i think my wish is now fulfilled 💜😘 i love your videos and keep sending us positive vibes through your lavendaire videos✨
Since this work week started I've been watching your videos non stop to help me get through the day at work while learning more about personal development and improving my habits. I am a silent subscriber for a couple of years now and finally soaked myself with your inspiring videos. You're one of the few people who inspires me as a content creator on this platform. Please don't stop sharing your wisdom and experiences to us. You have a very sweet and wonderful soul, Aileen. xoxo
I really wish that I had known your channel back when I was going through a rough patch in my life that lasted maybe a year and a half. Admittedly, I probably would've scoffed at the title of this video and most of your others but maybe I could've gotten something from it...that being said, I've learned a lot on my own and I get so much out of your videos NOW...so I am grateful for you and for your channel and for the timelessness of the internet. You are so helpful and wonderful
Aileen, you are killing it! This video has been very healing. It reinforces why I love what Marie Kondo said in her Spark Joy book, "Success is 90% dependent on mindset." I have been doing morning pages and I noticed that I am slowly shifting into a growth mindset. It takes time, but baby steps are something! Also, my AoL is on the way shipping! I am so excited. I went through the digital PDF and I love the addition of the Self Love section and the small adjustments to the goal book monthly pages! It is amazing!
I'm a huge believer of the growth mindset. I have the fixed and growth mindset diagram posted in front of my desk so that it's a reminder for me to continue having this mindset in everything that I do and for people that I oversee and mentor. Thanks for reinforcing this!
I have been followed your channel for half a year and your videos give me a lot of inspiration, provide me new perspectives toward life, and cheer me up when I feel down. Thank you.
I will start working on positive affirmations because negative self talk is one of my biggest issues. I have to learn to change that mindset. Thank you for this xx
The dislikes seriously make no sense to me. But to each their own.. Personally, I gain so much value from her videos that, honestly, there have been times when I found myself not wanting to watch them because I knew the truth that I would find, and at those times, the truths I was kind of avoiding...likely because I may not have been feeling like I was honoring myself to the fullest. I noticed that because, similarly, that's what seems to happen sometimes with my writing, I avoid writing for fear that I have been procrastinating on it (it really makes no sense when I describe it), knowing that the writing, like her videos, point me to the truth and guide me toward what I want and need for myself. So honestly, thank you so much for what you do. I think you're such a badass, Aileen!! ✊😊
I just tell My Self that "If they can do it, I can do it too!" It was my reflection by the time I have to learn to drive a car; just because I have to learn as part of my work. And..... Its so amazing! I already know how. Like, I feel driving a car is a part of me......... Mindsetting is really powerful.
You are such an inspiration to me ❤️☀️ just recently I noticed again how my life changed because of your videos, but also because of the books you recommended, I'm in such a different place and on a very different path, than I was a year ago !
Her second podcast was one of my favorites! Out of all the podcast episodes I have ever listened to, that one hit me the most. I have never felt so empowered and refreshed and happy before! I highly recommend that episode to everyone!!!
I love how you mentioned that we shouldn't get validation from others even though it feels good to get that. Ultimately, it is God that validates us and ourselves and that's all that matters. I decided to take a week off of my Snapchat due to the fact that I felt like I was seeking validation from others hoping someone would comment on my Snapchat post or that I'll get a lot of views. At the end of the day, those things don't matter. Thank you for the video!
This is so timely for me, we just had our Foundation Day in the school I work, in this event we are all required to dance and I experience depression and I felt my insecurities were so high that I cried myself to sleep every night for the whole week. I feel so not enough because of the fact that I do not know how to dance while my colleague dance so gracefully, I realize I was having a fixed mindset that is holding me back. Thank You very much for the inspiration Aileen, I am new in your channel. I am from the Philippines. God Bless :)
Hi Aileen, You have been thoughtful to post this weekly video and not forgetting about it while doing the weekly challenges videos. This show that you have not forgotten about us😘. I am grateful for that.
I'm starting to see that I think in a negative way about mysel, like, a lot. When I look to my husband, I say "what this beautiful and smart man has seen in me?" Or "my parents are so smart, why can't I be like them? They must feel sad". I always think that I don't deserve good things, good clothes, that I can't do a good job like other RUclipsrs, etc. As a result, my health is always "strange", my projects keep failing and I'm having a hard time losing weigh. I need to change my mindset asap, but I find so hard to say that I'm good, I'm beautiful, and that I deserve....
Joga Comigo The first step is recognizing that you have these negative thoughts.. next step Is diverting those thoughts into positive. If you want to know how you can improve your self-confidence, I have a video on this topic. Best wishes. 💕
I absolutely love this video! Just when I really needed it it's true to not let your past ruin the potential future 'you'. Its definitely not easy! But I always say do not let your circumstances breed self loath /hatred in your heart towards yourself or to others. ALWAYS find a way to search and focus on the positives internally and externally. I love you sooo much Aileen keep doing what you are doing. YOU ARE CHANGE THE WORLD ! 😚
I believe if you believe in sth so much it just happens. Sometimes we think some things are miracles (which they may be) but when you think of something it at some point it is sth you have wanted and believed so much deep down and that’s why it happened
That oprah quote hit me so hard! Forgiveness is a major block i still stumble on everyday. Thank you for sharing! This is so inspiring! Love from Belgium!
Your videos have really sparked a change in my life. It came when I was looking and receptive to change. Thank you for your existence on RUclips. Love from Nigeria.
Our thoughts have such a profound impact on our perception of ourselves, others and situations. It's so simple but so challenging to actually put into practice - how you perceive a situation is EVERYTHING. This is so powerful! I also recommend a podcast called "Unf*ck your brain," it is excellent and helps to work through this in practical ways! Thank you for covering this, Aileen! Loving the new podcast episodes and this new series on the channel! 💙💙💙
you are really so good, as I have mentioned before, I'm not interested to follow anyone or wasting my time listen to anyone, but I have to admit, your way let me do that with you, I found myself watching your videos(most of them) and you have a good way for the explanation, I do respect you and well done coz you inspired lots of people. keep going
I believe so much in the power of words, in what we say to ourselves. I love that your videos are so unique and so inspiring, I learn so much. Thank you!!!!
I needed this video Too! I've been feeling really unmotivated today buuuuut instead of self-pitying I've kept thinking positive and keeping my growth mindset which is great 😊💕
I just realised that I do this exact same thing with learning languages, I say I'm not good at it and don't try that hard. It's something I've vaguely known but there's something about putting it into words. Thank you for this video!
Who are you ?? A motivational speaker and my most favorite youtuber ! I recently am watching your videos and now you are my inspiration for sure ! Lots of love
This video is just in the right time for me, for everything of mine from lifestyle and love story to study. Thank you for waking me up. I know I CAN DO IT!
such an amazing video it was. Im reminded of the things and beliefs which are holding me back from what i really want to do in life. Thank you Aileen Xu. Meeting you in person is one of my dream! I wish my dream to come true one day! I love you Aileen..
You are really my inspiration..you always inspires me ...whenever I feel down I come towards your videos....don't stop be youreself Love you lavendaire
I needed this so soooo much. Every week to me became very hard to face and I felt like I’ve been dragging myself to school every day. Thank you for reminding me there’s a sunny side to everything ❤️ Hi from the Philippines! :)
im listeng to this video for the 14th time im still doing it😍😍❤THANK YOU very much for this hope and positive enrgy and ur time that u give it to us 😍😍😍😘😘😘my advise to u NEVER stop posting vedios
I appreciate you and your videos so much.. You give me so much hope and inspiration to really take action to improve myself and my life.. I struggle with my diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder on a day-to-day basis and find it really hard to have hope a lot of the time.. Thank you for keeping me hopeful and inspired. :)
This is honestly such a fantastic resource! Great job on consolidating negative thoughts, providing ways to counter them, and providing relevant examples! Love this!
I try to tell myself so many times that I'm worthy, talented, that I can do it, that my ideas are good, but my growth mindset, at the end of the day, is just words...most of the time my body just doesn't want to follow and I costantly have this fatigue that drowns me down wathever I want to do. Very often, when I start a project, I fell extremely anxious to the point that I start sweating cold and my heart rate increases so much I have to stop and lie/sit down. This makes doing anything 10x slower. To this, add that I work full time and thus I don't have that much time to dedicate to my own projects. I feel like I'm in a vicious circle that I can't break. Anybody else who's experiencing the same? :(
Hi I'm Joy and I have some thoughts for you. I hope that's okay?! It's all about listening to your body and meal planning. Also fitting cardio of some kind into each and every single day of your life. Even if you are bed ridden you can do yoga in bed and get your heart rate up and break a sweat. I have a sister (age 35) who has been bed ridden, unable to care for herself fully or leave her bed for over 3 solid yrs now, so I know first hand the struggles of physical limitations. I lost 40 lbs and did it by changing my lifestyle. I quit eating out, fast food is the devil!! I simply switched my white mochas at a drive through coffee shop to black tea with 1/2 steamed coconut milk, organic honey and cinnamon. It's just as yummy and is a treat that isnt packed with refined sugar and dairy. All dairy now is full of antibiotics and toxins bc of horrible unthinkable farm conditions. The food that we are being fed is mostly toxic and getting to know your body and what you put into it are essential to wellness. I find myself starving all the time lately and have been slowly packing on the lbs again (I recently gained about 10 lbs in a couple week time span) bc I've been baking and eating lots of sweets. My body needs to be getting healthy proteins and eatting lots of greens. We often crave the opposite of what we need. If you could change one thing I'd say move your beautiful body and love yourself as you are today, right now, not the perfect imagined version of you; the you as you are!! Yiu deserve every good thing!! Look at yourself naked in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, how worthy, how precious you are! Even if you dont believe it do it anyway! In time it will come. Often times food fills a void. I get it I have struggled with both extremes. I used to starve myself in my adolescents after my dad criticized my stomache and to top it off I was running track so this had long term harsh affects on my health. Don't deprive yourself, just embrace it and choose to make positive changes and stick to them. But do not beat yourself up if you fail one day or mess something up in your plan. Just do what you can and reward yourself for meeting your goals!! You can always start again over and over. Sending you so much love and light. If you like you can follow me on instsgram and I'm going to be filming videos soon. I just got my lights in the mail about 2 weeks ago and have wanted a RUclips channel for years so I'm going to go for it. Blessings to you lovely💓☮🕉 Hugs, Joy
@@Joy-xz2fx Hey Hi!! Thanks a ton for your reply. Made my day. Very nice to meet you and sure thing i will follow your advices.. - Loads of love and Hugs. Keep blooming :-)
@@dhanaDivyasekar you are so sweet thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement to get on my channel!! I just really enjoy sharing what has helped me because I have an autoimmune thyroid disease that really affects everything and can cause a lot of health problems so I've definetly been forced to dive into every avenue possible to find some relief in my mind and body. So if I can help even one person with a something thats helped change my life it makes me super happy. My belief is that we are all in this together ❤ Have such a blessed day!! Gosh I just love Eileen's channel. Grateful she creates a supportive space for all of us! My username on IG is yoga4joy ❤☮
@@Joy-xz2fx Every word was worth to read, we tend to punish ourselves and give up at the first "fail", like you said we can start over and over again. I just want to add that we can't rely on motivation, we need a powerful reason to change and remember everyday why we are doing it, discipline and purpose will be the ones that lead us to success, because motivation is a fuel that burns quickly. Don't feel overwhelmed about how much is left to achieve your goal, remember time will pass whether you take action or not, so, just think it one day at the time.
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forgiveness is for you. That's what my spiritual teacher told me. it's not for the person who hurt you.
Michaelle Stephen Very true! 💕
yes, so so true... because when we don't forgive, we're the ones that are suffering... so well said
I needed to read this
When we change our mind for positivity, we change our world.
That's true
Yes!!
yes yes yes!
*A lot of your videos have been changing a lot of our lives and our minds. Thank you Aileen.*
Winner of a video, I been tryin to find out about "children of the mind pdf" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Giyoe Fonogan Builder - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.
@@nerdysuzcategui3811 I haven't heard of that one! I'll add it to my list of things to research up :-) thank you for sharing!
Yeach, that's definitely right👍👍
@@who3881 🙏🙏 namaste to you.
I'm a huge believer of perspective but I still often catch myself having limiting beliefs in certain aspects of my life -- your videos always are a good reality check for me and a reminder that it's all a work in progress! I think this is such a great way to kick of the last month of 2018 as we look forward to 2019!
Journaling definitely helps and meditation! That's how I'm changing mine :-)
Piquetures by Nomi yes
I see you literally everywhere 😄👏😀
@@TheWellNourishedHomemaker hearts to you, Audrey! And your channel :)
@@dlahon We have similar tastes ^^ :)
Having grown up in poverty, mindset is a huge deal. I never embraced telling myself that I was a poor person like much of my family did. I'm happy to say that I live a comfortable life (not lavish, but comfortable) and it wouldn't have been possible without a growth mindset.
Simply Bentley Absolutely not! Great job !! 💕
Simply Bentley that’s great! I agree, your mindset has a lot to do when how we view our financial circumstances.
Same here!
So true. My mom grew up in poverty and she even said that poverty is a mindset. My grandparents never grew while she did even being a single mom for years but doing what she needed to invest in herself
Yeah, I am not poor but not rich either. I belong to a middle class family, where I can easily get access to the necessities but can't have that lavish lifestyle. I used to see my friends who were rich and felt jealous. But now, I am really proud to say that I am born in a lovely family, where my parents are so lovely and understanding and provide me everything that I need(my necessities). I learnt the habit of practicing gratitude and it really really made my life so great💕
I try to remember this every day: "Think new thoughts and you will change your mind. Change your mind and you will change your life."
Positive self-talk is vital.
I'm trying hard to do this daily i want too believe I can do it
Set up an alarm on your phone@@puffymuffin9064
*I have the second tip. When you are able to back up your new beliefs with PROOF, your affirmations are set and you have more confidence in those new beliefs.*
Truth! When you change your mind by thinking higher thoughts (appreciation, love, worthiness, etc) you literally change your reality. XO
Wendi Blum Very true. It’s amazing the power our minds hold. 💕
Yup. If your view the world through a lens of anger and pessimism, there is no doubt that that is exactly what you'll see and experience.
Thankyou for reminding❤️
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1.fixed & growth mindset
2.transform limiting beliefs into positive beliefs
3.transform negative self talk into positive supporting loving self talk
4.forgive yourself and other,and let go of the past
Limiting beliefs really do hold us back and it's important to recognize this and to work on changing those beliefs. This is why self-reflection and continuous self-improvement is so important! Cheers!
Adriana Girdler Absolutely ! There’s always room for growth. Self-love is so important. Which is why I create content to spread the word. :)) 💕
Rebuild the story and pretend like you were the superhero in all of this; I tried this, I rebuild stories in my head and i swear it's the best tip I got lately, because it really shiften my whole mindset! Thank you so much AiIeen for your wise words
That's a great idea! Thankyou for sharing this wonderful tip
"you give yourself your own validation"... Oh myy.. U put it so well Aileen.. U are amazinggg...i really love you n ur channel... 💖
s k That’s right! External validation can be taken away from you. When you validate yourself no one can take it away! 💕
i would love to hear u talk more about forgiveness 🧡
Zaynab EF me to :)
Me too
Thank you Aileen.🤍namaste
i appreciate so much this types of videos. right now i’m in a very difficult time. i’m in the school of my dreams but i’m still struggling at adapting myself. it’s all different and sometimes i find myself talking and thinking about how i am not deserving of my position and school.
thank u lav. i’ll definitely take this advice. thank u.
Love you , you shine bright 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💕💕💕💕💞💞💞💞
Idk why but whenever I'm stressed or not feeling good, I see ur videos n get motivated n my mood automatically changes. Ilysm
The mind is our most powerful tool that can’t be taken away. 💛 love this video!
Carly Burr Absolutely. It won’t wake up one day and decide to walk out of our lives neither. 💕
Things have been difficult lately and I’m finding it hard to have a positive mindset so your video came out at the right time ! Thanks Aileen
Elin Lin I hope things are going better for you now ! 💕
D.E.Y.A Thanks D.E.Y.A :) Things are getting better. Positive affirmations helped me a lot.
Elin Lin Happy for you! 😊💕
I do what I do in my life and walk away from all negative people as I accept my past I've turn hate to love by self love and confidence to feel good about life and don't care about what negative people think because it's small minded past disappointments I'm free thank you I'm getting counselling to close that chapters of my life thank you so much for your time and consideration 🙏💞 justice lots of love from London Lawrence Simon Anne Marie
thank u aileen. i’m experiencing hardships lately. w/ this reminder, i more firmly believe that a positive mindset is powerful. hope i can meet you someday. glad u are part of my life. thank you for everything. 😭
Sending you love & strength 💓
Maya Padilla Best wishes to you.. if you ever want to watch more inspirational videos, I have a few! 💕
Another thing that is super helpful is asking if a thought, action, fill-in-the-blank will help me. If so, great, use it, hold it, improve it, treasure it. If not, change it, rewrite it, combat it.
The forgiveness one is a big one. I've lived with regret of not finishing a bachelor's degree (I have an associate's) and I felt like I had wasted my 20s because I've had to have a FT job as well as a PT job just to get by. I have to stop dwelling on my past and look to better my future and look at the good I did experience in my 20s with gratitude.
Love how you focus so much on helping others! I always been negative Nancy😂😅 without knowing it.
It always felt that I had bad luck and things happend to me.
Since I realized that it's all about HOW you deal with stuff. So much changed😍.
Thanks to minimalism I stay focused on what really matters.
Yes I was the same
I love all your videos but this one really touched my heart. Especially when you talked about rewriting your stories. It made me realize how negative I have been to myself about my past. Knowing I can start rewriting them now and become more positive and loving to myself is so beautiful. Thank you so much for this video x
Amazing, wishing you well 💖
Wow. I always considered myself to have a growth mindset, but once I looked into the differences between the two mindsets, I realized I deep down have a fixed mindset. It’s crazy but an important realization. Well I think it’s time to stop limiting and sabotaging myself
Awareness is the first step towards growth 💖 happy for you & sending you love!
Gigi V It is crazy how we can easily think we don’t do something until we see it from a different perspective ! 💕
I agree! @@F0reverblessed
It's really hard to change it, but the fact that you are open to it is so so important.
I’m writing my senior thesis on how parents pass on independence to their children and I’m using one of Carol Dweck’s studies. So funny that this video came at a coincidental time. I’m motivated to finish my project now! Haha.
madsolea good luck on your paper ! 💕
That is a great topic ! I would love to read that. I'm currently researching about self-efficacy for my own thesis, but I'm still at the beginning. I wish you the best for yours =)
Life is crazy, isn't it?! If you are looking at Mindset stuff, Alia Crum is an amazing researcher on the topic
I agree with you, Aileen! In the affiliate marketing business, it is really important to have that mindset. At the beginning of this business, I did not succeed and encountered many trials, yet I did not give up for I strongly believe in myself that I can get what I want to be and I am up for the challenges that I will go through. Hence, changing your mindset with positivity will surely have a big change in your life.
Aileen, you helped me a lot when I was feeling lost in my life. I changed a lot bcoz of u. I am still in a journey of finding my passion.. Thank you so much as you encouraged me to start my journey
Your videos have changed me so much, in a good way. I'm so grateful for you and your channel (genuinely). Thank you for sharing your art and thoughts. Much love x
exactely. mindset is very important thing that have power can change whole my life.
I trying to talk myself ,was like, okay. I'm
so proud of me and definitely I'm presious and have many talent able to give happiness to others for sure.
i'm leaning more towards the growth mindset! That's why I'm working constantly on my channel, my fitness and life!
I met you recently few days ago in youtube...But now I'm loving your videos sis.....Love from india....😊
Hello from Canada :-) she has fans from all over the world.
@@Thefitty hello from Sri Lanka. Welcome to the family 😊♥️💜️
Hello from Brazil and welcome to the community :)
Thank you & glad to meet with all of you...😊
@@hashinigunasinghe6227 Aw thank you! I feel the warmth all the way here.
Aileen thank you so much you told me to take responsibility for my self,be grateful,love my self ....how depressed and anxious before I meet you ....but after I met you and heard your amazing voices,everything has changed.💫🍀I never thought I could be so happy ,because I just change my mindset✨💕💓.Though sometimes I am upset about I am unproductive and things was interrupted ☹️Send my love to you 💗💖
I always wished for having an elder sister to guide me , motivates me to achieve my goal and helps me to grow myself as a better human being . And i think my wish is now fulfilled 💜😘 i love your videos and keep sending us positive vibes through your lavendaire videos✨
Love you Aileen, we girls are proud of you and your amazing work,just listening to you itself gives us immense happiness and meaning to our lives ❤
Since this work week started I've been watching your videos non stop to help me get through the day at work while learning more about personal development and improving my habits. I am a silent subscriber for a couple of years now and finally soaked myself with your inspiring videos. You're one of the few people who inspires me as a content creator on this platform. Please don't stop sharing your wisdom and experiences to us. You have a very sweet and wonderful soul, Aileen. xoxo
I often forget to forgive myself. I am not perfect, but I love myself Including a personality that is not perfect. Your video always reminds me!!
Hitouch LIFE No one is perfect and that’s okay. 💕
I really wish that I had known your channel back when I was going through a rough patch in my life that lasted maybe a year and a half. Admittedly, I probably would've scoffed at the title of this video and most of your others but maybe I could've gotten something from it...that being said, I've learned a lot on my own and I get so much out of your videos NOW...so I am grateful for you and for your channel and for the timelessness of the internet. You are so helpful and wonderful
Aileen, you are killing it! This video has been very healing. It reinforces why I love what Marie Kondo said in her Spark Joy book, "Success is 90% dependent on mindset." I have been doing morning pages and I noticed that I am slowly shifting into a growth mindset. It takes time, but baby steps are something! Also, my AoL is on the way shipping! I am so excited. I went through the digital PDF and I love the addition of the Self Love section and the small adjustments to the goal book monthly pages! It is amazing!
I’m so happy you’re starting to work on it! ❤️
Those small steps at the beginning are usually the hardest. Best of luck, Pamela!
@@MindMoneyBalance Thank you for the luck and the kind words! I need all the luck I can get! ((:
Always love this subject. Everyday when I wake up, I listen “ the law of attraction “ on your Chanel. And now, I have one more . Amazing!
I'm a huge believer of the growth mindset. I have the fixed and growth mindset diagram posted in front of my desk so that it's a reminder for me to continue having this mindset in everything that I do and for people that I oversee and mentor. Thanks for reinforcing this!
I have been followed your channel for half a year and your videos give me a lot of inspiration, provide me new perspectives toward life, and cheer me up when I feel down. Thank you.
I will start working on positive affirmations because negative self talk is one of my biggest issues. I have to learn to change that mindset. Thank you for this xx
The dislikes seriously make no sense to me. But to each their own.. Personally, I gain so much value from her videos that, honestly, there have been times when I found myself not wanting to watch them because I knew the truth that I would find, and at those times, the truths I was kind of avoiding...likely because I may not have been feeling like I was honoring myself to the fullest. I noticed that because, similarly, that's what seems to happen sometimes with my writing, I avoid writing for fear that I have been procrastinating on it (it really makes no sense when I describe it), knowing that the writing, like her videos, point me to the truth and guide me toward what I want and need for myself. So honestly, thank you so much for what you do. I think you're such a badass, Aileen!! ✊😊
I just tell My Self that "If they can do it, I can do it too!"
It was my reflection by the time I have to learn to drive a car; just because I have to learn as part of my work. And..... Its so amazing! I already know how. Like, I feel driving a car is a part of me......... Mindsetting is really powerful.
You are such an inspiration to me ❤️☀️
just recently I noticed again how my life changed because of your videos, but also because of the books you recommended, I'm in such a different place and on a very different path, than I was a year ago !
Amazing
I have been able to successfully diminish my limiting beliefs by listening to positive affirmations in the morning and at night 🤗
I don't need to find inspiring people. My inspiring person is right here.
Her second podcast was one of my favorites! Out of all the podcast episodes I have ever listened to, that one hit me the most. I have never felt so empowered and refreshed and happy before! I highly recommend that episode to everyone!!!
Just watching you talking gives me positive energy & makes me feel inspired :) Thank you so much Aileen .. Love you
I love how you mentioned that we shouldn't get validation from others even though it feels good to get that. Ultimately, it is God that validates us and ourselves and that's all that matters. I decided to take a week off of my Snapchat due to the fact that I felt like I was seeking validation from others hoping someone would comment on my Snapchat post or that I'll get a lot of views. At the end of the day, those things don't matter. Thank you for the video!
This is so timely for me, we just had our Foundation Day in the school I work, in this event we are all required to dance and I experience depression and I felt my insecurities were so high that I cried myself to sleep every night for the whole week. I feel so not enough because of the fact that I do not know how to dance while my colleague dance so gracefully, I realize I was having a fixed mindset that is holding me back. Thank You very much for the inspiration Aileen, I am new in your channel. I am from the Philippines. God Bless :)
Hi Aileen, You have been thoughtful to post this weekly video and not forgetting about it while doing the weekly challenges videos. This show that you have not forgotten about us😘. I am grateful for that.
I'm starting to see that I think in a negative way about mysel, like, a lot. When I look to my husband, I say "what this beautiful and smart man has seen in me?" Or "my parents are so smart, why can't I be like them? They must feel sad". I always think that I don't deserve good things, good clothes, that I can't do a good job like other RUclipsrs, etc. As a result, my health is always "strange", my projects keep failing and I'm having a hard time losing weigh. I need to change my mindset asap, but I find so hard to say that I'm good, I'm beautiful, and that I deserve....
Joga Comigo The first step is recognizing that you have these negative thoughts.. next step Is diverting those thoughts into positive. If you want to know how you can improve your self-confidence, I have a video on this topic. Best wishes. 💕
I absolutely love this video! Just when I really needed it it's true to not let your past ruin the potential future 'you'. Its definitely not easy! But I always say do not let your circumstances breed self loath /hatred in your heart towards yourself or to others. ALWAYS find a way to search and focus on the positives internally and externally. I love you sooo much Aileen keep doing what you are doing. YOU ARE CHANGE THE WORLD ! 😚
I believe if you believe in sth so much it just happens. Sometimes we think some things are miracles (which they may be) but when you think of something it at some point it is sth you have wanted and believed so much deep down and that’s why it happened
Emma Mkoba Very true.. spoke it into existence without knowing. 💕
Yes it defs helped! Thanks for this, Aileen. And I appreciate that you’re taking another step to help others who are suffering from mental health. 😊
That oprah quote hit me so hard! Forgiveness is a major block i still stumble on everyday. Thank you for sharing! This is so inspiring! Love from Belgium!
Your videos have really sparked a change in my life. It came when I was looking and receptive to change. Thank you for your existence on RUclips. Love from Nigeria.
Our thoughts have such a profound impact on our perception of ourselves, others and situations. It's so simple but so challenging to actually put into practice - how you perceive a situation is EVERYTHING. This is so powerful! I also recommend a podcast called "Unf*ck your brain," it is excellent and helps to work through this in practical ways! Thank you for covering this, Aileen! Loving the new podcast episodes and this new series on the channel! 💙💙💙
you are really so good, as I have mentioned before, I'm not interested to follow anyone or wasting my time listen to anyone, but I have to admit, your way let me do that with you, I found myself watching your videos(most of them) and you have a good way for the explanation, I do respect you and well done coz you inspired lots of people. keep going
The best thing I did tomorrow is, I found yur channel. Thanks❤😌
I love you Lavendaire... You inspire me so much
I believe so much in the power of words, in what we say to ourselves. I love that your videos are so unique and so inspiring, I learn so much. Thank you!!!!
I think I should watch this video every morning to remember all of this! And to implement these to my daily life. 💜
Thank you Aileen for helping me 😊😭💜😊😃really thank you! U are helping me change my mindset for good
I needed this video Too! I've been feeling really unmotivated today buuuuut instead of self-pitying I've kept thinking positive and keeping my growth mindset which is great 😊💕
I LOVE YOU YOU CHANGED MY LIFE 💋💜💜
I really admire u from d bottom of my heart
I just realised that I do this exact same thing with learning languages, I say I'm not good at it and don't try that hard. It's something I've vaguely known but there's something about putting it into words. Thank you for this video!
Who are you ?? A motivational speaker and my most favorite youtuber ! I recently am watching your videos and now you are my inspiration for sure ! Lots of love
Can we all agree that Aileen is so amazing? ❤️
This video is just in the right time for me, for everything of mine from lifestyle and love story to study. Thank you for waking me up. I know I CAN DO IT!
I love you and your videos! 🙏❤️ Thank you once again!
such an amazing video it was. Im reminded of the things and beliefs which are holding me back from what i really want to do in life. Thank you Aileen Xu. Meeting you in person is one of my dream! I wish my dream to come true one day! I love you Aileen..
I LOOOOVE YOUR LAST VIDEOS. i really really do need them right now. thank you so much for these kinds of videos
What you said about seeking validation made me tear up. 💕
Yeah I did it to myself!.. thank You sister!!. ILOVEMEILOVEMUSELF!!my beautiful smart, kind, religious girl, fauza!!.
You are really my inspiration..you always inspires me ...whenever I feel down I come towards your videos....don't stop be youreself
Love you lavendaire
Being negative about not being able to do something definitely will keep people from being able to do it
Growth mindset did blow my mind and helped me a lot! It totally changed my perspective! Life-changing concept!
You are just a great life teacher....thank you for all the informations and tips you show us to learn how to improve our soul, brain and life
I loved it when you talked about forgiveness. Letting go of the past. 🥰
Love u for all your work...going to start listening to your podcast when I go for my walks....🌻
I needed this so soooo much. Every week to me became very hard to face and I felt like I’ve been dragging myself to school every day. Thank you for reminding me there’s a sunny side to everything ❤️ Hi from the Philippines! :)
im listeng to this video for the 14th time im still doing it😍😍❤THANK YOU very much for this hope and positive enrgy and ur time that u give it to us 😍😍😍😘😘😘my advise to u NEVER stop posting vedios
I appreciate you and your videos so much.. You give me so much hope and inspiration to really take action to improve myself and my life.. I struggle with my diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder on a day-to-day basis and find it really hard to have hope a lot of the time.. Thank you for keeping me hopeful and inspired. :)
This is honestly such a fantastic resource! Great job on consolidating negative thoughts, providing ways to counter them, and providing relevant examples! Love this!
Wow aileen back to back. I love all ur inspiring videos
I try to tell myself so many times that I'm worthy, talented, that I can do it, that my ideas are good, but my growth mindset, at the end of the day, is just words...most of the time my body just doesn't want to follow and I costantly have this fatigue that drowns me down wathever I want to do. Very often, when I start a project, I fell extremely anxious to the point that I start sweating cold and my heart rate increases so much I have to stop and lie/sit down. This makes doing anything 10x slower. To this, add that I work full time and thus I don't have that much time to dedicate to my own projects. I feel like I'm in a vicious circle that I can't break. Anybody else who's experiencing the same? :(
Your videos have changed my life I'm inspired by you thank you so much from New Zealand ❤️ 😊
my day has at least a video of yours... I repeat and repeat... your voice and words have just become my motivation ❤
Neha Sharma same girl!
u always inspiring me by the way what you are.. thanks for creating " lavendaire " for us... you are my ever green inspiration
thank you so much for a booster, I so needed this, keep shining & enlightening xx lots of love
Hi Aileen.. Please do some contents on weight loss motivations and consistency please.. badly needed
Hi I'm Joy and I have some thoughts for you. I hope that's okay?! It's all about listening to your body and meal planning. Also fitting cardio of some kind into each and every single day of your life. Even if you are bed ridden you can do yoga in bed and get your heart rate up and break a sweat. I have a sister (age 35) who has been bed ridden, unable to care for herself fully or leave her bed for over 3 solid yrs now, so I know first hand the struggles of physical limitations. I lost 40 lbs and did it by changing my lifestyle. I quit eating out, fast food is the devil!! I simply switched my white mochas at a drive through coffee shop to black tea with 1/2 steamed coconut milk, organic honey and cinnamon. It's just as yummy and is a treat that isnt packed with refined sugar and dairy. All dairy now is full of antibiotics and toxins bc of horrible unthinkable farm conditions. The food that we are being fed is mostly toxic and getting to know your body and what you put into it are essential to wellness. I find myself starving all the time lately and have been slowly packing on the lbs again (I recently gained about 10 lbs in a couple week time span) bc I've been baking and eating lots of sweets. My body needs to be getting healthy proteins and eatting lots of greens. We often crave the opposite of what we need. If you could change one thing I'd say move your beautiful body and love yourself as you are today, right now, not the perfect imagined version of you; the you as you are!! Yiu deserve every good thing!! Look at yourself naked in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, how worthy, how precious you are! Even if you dont believe it do it anyway! In time it will come. Often times food fills a void. I get it I have struggled with both extremes. I used to starve myself in my adolescents after my dad criticized my stomache and to top it off I was running track so this had long term harsh affects on my health. Don't deprive yourself, just embrace it and choose to make positive changes and stick to them. But do not beat yourself up if you fail one day or mess something up in your plan. Just do what you can and reward yourself for meeting your goals!! You can always start again over and over. Sending you so much love and light. If you like you can follow me on instsgram and I'm going to be filming videos soon. I just got my lights in the mail about 2 weeks ago and have wanted a RUclips channel for years so I'm going to go for it. Blessings to you lovely💓☮🕉 Hugs, Joy
@@Joy-xz2fx Hey Hi!! Thanks a ton for your reply. Made my day. Very nice to meet you and sure thing i will follow your advices.. - Loads of love and Hugs. Keep blooming :-)
@@Joy-xz2fx I am sure to follow you in instagram and waiting for your youtube channel..
@@dhanaDivyasekar you are so sweet thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement to get on my channel!! I just really enjoy sharing what has helped me because I have an autoimmune thyroid disease that really affects everything and can cause a lot of health problems so I've definetly been forced to dive into every avenue possible to find some relief in my mind and body. So if I can help even one person with a something thats helped change my life it makes me super happy. My belief is that we are all in this together ❤ Have such a blessed day!! Gosh I just love Eileen's channel. Grateful she creates a supportive space for all of us! My username on IG is yoga4joy ❤☮
@@Joy-xz2fx Every word was worth to read, we tend to punish ourselves and give up at the first "fail", like you said we can start over and over again. I just want to add that we can't rely on motivation, we need a powerful reason to change and remember everyday why we are doing it, discipline and purpose will be the ones that lead us to success, because motivation is a fuel that burns quickly. Don't feel overwhelmed about how much is left to achieve your goal, remember time will pass whether you take action or not, so, just think it one day at the time.
Aileen this is so helpful....i have struggled with this in the past but here I am doing the things I never thought I'd do
Such a beautiful human being! Cant thank you enough