7 "Polite" Things You Say That Are Actually RUDE
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- Опубликовано: 30 май 2024
- Have you ever found yourself wondering why certain polite phrases can unexpectedly rub people the wrong way? Well, get ready to explore with us as we navigate through the twists and turns of communication manners and social psychology. Some phrases might not always have the intended effect. So we will also be discussing some alternative ways to show we care without stepping on any toes.
We hope this video helps you improve your social skills and become more aware of the subtle nuances of communication.
#psychology #social
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Morgan Swift
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: Oki
Thumbnail Design: Zuzia
Video Editor: Utoonz
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Strong, R. (2023 Jul 12). 6 "Polite" Things You're Doing That Are Actually Rude, Etiquette Experts Say. Best Life. bestlifeonline.com/polite-things-youre-doing-that-are-actually-rude/
Reinhard, A. (2023 Sept 14). 10 "Polite" Compliments You're Giving That Are Actually Offensive. Best Life. bestlifeonline.com/offensive-compliments/
Brian, P. (2023 Aug 6). 20 “polite” things people say that are actually rude. HackSpirit. hackspirit.com/polite-things-people-say-that-are-actually-rude/
“You’ve lost weight, you look great now!”
“Thanks, it’s the cancer!”
I don't even know what to say god dammit!
💀💀💀
Im speechless becuase i just sont know how to react
Now i see how this could be offensive
I’m so bad at small talk that I could turn a friendly chat into an awkward silence in record time.
....
Bro why ain't you speaking?
Same😭
Yeah, me too.
My icebreaker to talk most likely will just lead to additional silence, only now just more awkward too lol.
You and me, both. I hate small talk. I almost always say the wrong thing.
Big small dont matter, I make it awkward instantly
timestamp !
0:27 - you look tired
0:54 - you’ve lost weight
1:38 - you’re so smart/talented for your age
2:06 - don’t worry, you’ll find someone
2:50 - you’re so lucky, you don’t have to worry about…
3:26 - well, that’s one way to look at it
4:04 - look at the bright side
hope this helps 🎀
Thanks
NOOO I DID ONE TOO
😭
People have said this all to me. It sucks ngl
"Your looks have really improved!" 😵💫
very useful to know, appreciate this a lot 👍
"You'll be fine." - This was said during my depression, when I could not find a reason to move on.
I hope you are better now 🖤
They have no clue what you are going through. I understand. It's better if they say nothing other than something so vapid.
I get so tired of hearing “you’ll be fine” or when people compare me to someone else
This one? This one right here? Hate it. They don’t have a goddamn clue if I’ll be fine. Feels belittling.
Damn, am I the only one that DOESN'T think to say that to anyone with depression? (If anything, I just feel useless if I'm not able to make someone's day more bearable.. ^^; I'd always try my best to be supportive.. I wish the best to the peeps, though. As the others have said, I hope you're doing well nowadays. Best wishes. 🫂)
My uncle said to me trying to be "Helpful"
"Your dead Mom never taught you how to be a man" Knowing fully well my Father died when I was a baby
and my Mom never remarried. He didn't think it was a messed up thing to say. Especially knowing the fact that he played little to no role in teaching me to be a man despite being a part of my life the whole time.
Nah that's messed up
sounds like he never really became a man himself. you're doing great, friend, keep it up.
@@Nate4Life01 He's the type of guy who likes to pitch but can't catch. Meaning when he speaks to others he says he has no filter, but if you call him on his BS he can't stand it.
@@kdot4068forgive me but i despise people like that
... So who's getting tossed into a meat grinder?
I got tired of tiptoeing around people for fear of offending them. So I say very little, if anything at all to another person.
I am like that, too. And I am VERY careful with texts as emotion is hard to interpret with a text.
It's why I've given up on people...
@@xxtimeisthefireinwhichweburnxx People, in general, are not worth the effort. But every now and then, some individuals are worth the effort.
@@LtRee96se yea, I know. Those are the ones I keep with me when I'm alone...
i can relate to this, it really strikes a note with me
Right or wrong, it's how well you know someone, and how empathic you are to them.❤
Exactly. You have to know someone that their motives are good. I don't believe we are responsible for others' feelings. That's codependancy.
Another one to never say to someone, especially if they have a disability or mental illness. “You don’t look like…” I’ve been told, “you don’t look blind.” I’ve also heard of other people telling others, “but you don’t look like you have PTSD. You don’t act like you have childhood trauma.” And so on, and so forth. You might be complimenting them, but really it’s not a compliment.
Yeah. Low IQ person here, I've been told so "you are so smart to have a low IQ! You might have low self steem" Then the same person proceeds to scold me when I don't understand something or I'm slower at other stuff. At first it might look like a compliment, but their denial just makes things harder in the practice, ugh.
That’s one of the worst things to say about someone!
@@littlestar4332 trust me. I’ve heard so many others. They’re not the right thing to say. I understand you’re trying to complement them. But those are very backhanded compliments. Another one I have heard other people witness is, you’re too beautiful to be this way or that way. For example, you’re too beautiful to be blind. How can you be blind? You’re so pretty though.
@@siennaprice1351 Yeah I know how terrible that is. My friend has scoliosis…she keeps hearing those things and sometimes begs her parents to stop having treatment😔
I've heard a movie that says that line, it was from the Bratz live-action
A lot of these are context-specific, and the reason saying them in the wrong context is a bad idea all boils down to "if they're NOT already worrying about this, bringing it up might make them start"
So a more generalized rule of thumb is "don't say stuff based on unjustified assumptions".
"You look tired, look at the bright side, don't worry or you'll be fine" i used to say those but now i know that trying to put yourself into their shoes & say sth regarding to that pov is much more efficent & sincire 💜
These comments r my fav bc you’re not avoiding it but your realizing your mistakes and trying to do better ❤
I was so shocked that some of these words I’ve been using is actually rude, like “you look tired today are u alright?” OR “I totally get what u mean but try look at the bright side….” bcuz I wasn’t doing on purpose or having the intention to insulting them:(( now I genuinely confused and worry if they gonna see me as a bad person omg 😭
It depends on tone and context 😅
Agree.
@@nowrinshi I'm glad you agree 👍
@@sevenswordsin like if someone told me that I'm looking tired then I'd actually feel good to know that someone cared enough to notice. So ya , context matters.
@@nowrinshi yeah you're right 👍
Ah, so someone else DID acknowledge this? Good.
It really depends on tones and contexts, you look tired~ also can express concern for other parties.
Fair but also sometimes when you’re speaking to a girl it just means they don’t have makeup on. I used to get that every day back when I didn’t wear makeup. It’s a big part of the reason I wear it now. I got tired of people telling me I look tired lol
@@scblei9848YES 😭😭 i actually have natural dark circles under my eyes, everyone in family has this no matter how much we sleep. I can’t tell you how annoying it is hearing “you look exhausted” or “are you sick?” whenever I don’t wear concealer/makeup
I agree. Some people may not take it as rude. Obviously not everyone is the same, but if I were in that situation, I’d probably assume that the person is referring to my expression, rather than my looks. *Then again, I’m not really insecure about my looks, so it all just depends on who you’re talking to.*
@@scblei9848 Just take it off at home. I wouldn't suffocate your skin 24/7. Even if it's a bit of a pain to wear.
That's true. Same goes for "You've lost weight (Suguru)"
This is all subjective and culturally based. Depending on where you are, has a bigger effect on what is rude and what is not.
I agree. Especially as each of these phrases are on a case-by-case basis or context-sensitive. i.e. "You look great now" can be seen as demoralising...but if someone was making an effort to turn their life around, that phrase has way more punch than before.
I am somewhat irked by some of the examples used though i.e. "You're so smart for your age" feels like a bad example. If I was hearing this as a kid, I'd be feeling like I was smarter than every other kid at the school. Egotistical but more confident.
The suggested better phrase of "Your intelligence and skills are truly impressive" feels...robotic or soulless in nature. It does the job it's intending for but doesn't feel like there is the heart that's in the problematic phrase. It might just be my lack in social skills but between the two, I find the problematic phrase better than the replacement phrase. It's got more heart, even if it could be taken the wrong way.
Yesss, especially the “You look tired” but I always added “are you feeling well today? how are you?” after. And it’s still made me concerned because I don’t want to make it sounds like I’m insulting/pointed out their insecurities 😭
I remember someone who would repeatedly tell me the first one “you look tired” when I was an undergraduate. It was so damn annoying and hurtful; I always thought: great, not only do I feel overwhelmed but I’m also self conscious now. It definitely felt like it was a put-down masked as a concern. Even a simple switch of you “seem” rather than you “look” might shift it to something more caring IMO.
I helped an older lady at Family Dollar once when I was a teenager.
She said I "could be a model, if I watched my weight".
...Thanks, lady...I guess?
It, uh...didn't help that I was buying snacks with a family member at the time, but I don't know if she even noticed the snacks and drinks we were buying when she said that.
Either way, it was like-
"Great. The doctors and my family aren't telling me that I'm under weight anymore, but now I'm getting called fat..."
I was basically told I'm pretty, which is a nice thing to say...but I got told to watch my weight in the exact same sentence, which turned it into a backhanded compliment.
I've said "You'll be fine~" so many times to my peers and acquaintances. Now, I know that it doesn't help them at all. Thank you for opening my eyes to this 🤗
"No where are you REALLY from?" has to be on the top of the list
Don't comment on somebodys body, looks or age or something you know the person might be uncomftable with.
This guy has a really nice and soothing voice ☺️
And the animation is really cute!
I agree
@@mocha_lattecoffe7 agreed
Brandon will be appreciate to hear this!
@@Psych2go his voice is soooo angelic 🥹
I feel this way every time I say "Okay" "Alright" "I see..." etc. too much in a conversation.
I relate so badly to that 😭
I keep saying ok to literally everything
@@ConfuzzledClockwork
sometimes, we just don’t have a lot to say that day, or perhaps don’t have the energy to come up with what to say 💀
Nah saying "k" to someone is literally the worst
I agree with every point on here, except the first one. I don't find that telling someone they look tired to be rude or offensive. Maybe it's more a cultural thing from where I was raised, but I find that that statement when it is told to me by someone else, it ALWAYS comes from a place of care and concern for my health and wellbeing, and I NEVER take offense to it. I find that only saying, "Is everything okay?" to someone who appears tired can give them the means to answer with a "Yes. Everything's fine. Thanks." Then they can move on, but never really be helped if they are struggling with something, or something is bothering them. This isn't a helpful approach, especially for people who are very shy or private and may not always be inclined to share their struggles/worries with anyone. This allows their struggles (and the effect they have on a person's mental and physical health) to continue. These struggles never get better/improve and can have a big impact on their daily life.
I understand. Personally, I’m not offended by it either, but I know that people might take it the wrong way if they think you’re talking about their appearance. You can never be too sure though, so sometimes it’s best to ask “is something wrong,” “did you have a bad day,” or “what’s on your mind?” Of course, you don’t want to push the person to talk about it if they don’t want to, but this at least shows that you’re taking into consideration their thoughts and feelings, rather than their looks.
I disagree. Every time someone told me "You look tired" I found it condescending. In my head I'd say "No you idiot I'm clearly sad and depressed!". I know people say it to avoid that conversation, but that's why it's rude.
One time I was really crying my eyes out and some asshole said the thing. I'm then thinking "This time there's no question of whether I'm tired or sad and That's all you're going to say!?"
It was like the Universe was playing a sick joke.
@@frankkennedy6388
Oh, yeah in that sense, I can definitely see why that would piss you off
Sorry about that
eh, well, in my case, my resting face just naturally looks mad/upset/tired. especially when I am making plans or talking to myself. so like... being told that I look upset/moody when nothing in particular is wrong kinda feels bad. I do know the other person usually means good, wanting to know if im mad at something that's bothering me, but it just tells that I look depressed, unpleasant and unapproachable at all times and I need to smile to make a good impression and seem like I won't lash out on the next person I speak to. or maybe that's just me.
but yeah, it kinda depends. context is important.
the "you have it so easy" hit me so much
because i'm literally that guy and everytime i see people struggling with their problems i wish i could just take them all instead
same unfortunately sometimes people need to sort it out themselves its actually good for them! 😊
I clicked on the video because I mistakenly thought that "I'm sorry" was going to be one of those things.
I misinterpreted the thumbnail. 😅
Same though lol
yeah most people don't like hearing that phrase anyways so it's not always a #1 go-to when someones feeling down 😆
I was recently telling someone about my ocd and their response was "have you been diagnosed?" I immediately thought they didn't believe me or trust me and wasn't going to take anything I said about it seriously. It was quite upsetting.
I think they asked because ppl self diagnose themselves or say in a joking manner that they have it like it’s some “made up” thing even though ppl actually really experience it💯, but I definitely agree with you
@@BENZ_ASMR yeah that's true. It's quite frustrating that a lot of people do that because it really takes away how serious and difficult it can actually be for those of us who really suffer with it :(
@@dreamannemusic I don't know if I have it for sure but years of having to do the most ridiculous stuff to stay alive apparently.
@@TBEQ I think you know if you have it when it really affects your daily life and you struggle, not just having little nags. If you're unsure, it could be worth speaking to a professional about it? Hope it gets easier!
@@dreamannemusic Sure I mean it's been like what 4 years? Sadly 2 of which have been me having to obey my thoughts and perform little actions or rituals to stay safe from crazy anxiety. But yeah Therapy was a shot and I'm gonna have new therapy really soon actually this year after the last one didn't really work out for me. I'm gonna try to just make it past 20.
i'm chronically ill and am forced to work. if i get a few days off i get into work and the supervisor says you should be well rested and ready to work your behind off. i can barely walk and have pain in my legs 24/7 plus i have a stomach that doesn't digest food at all . my days off are just trying to rest my legs and try to use things to get my gut functioning as much as possible. so i am pretty much still half out of it when i go back to work because i was dealing with health problems.
Some of these alternative statements do sound better, but some of them just don't sound like something a person would say in normal conversation
some of them are better but some of them sound the same but with a new coat of paint
I hate it when people say, “look at the bright side” because it absolutely does make your struggles or feelings seem invalidated. I’ve actually told my husband that he looks tired & this was after he’d had a busy day at work and was up late past his bedtime. Not sure if that was a bad thing though? Keep up the good work Psych to Go. Love this channel. I’m always learning new ways to engage with others.
when somebody said you will somebody soon, that made me feel sad and even more lonely than i was
one of the most popular ones is the infamous “you should smile more”
I respond with "I have no reason to smile. How about you try giving me a reason to smile, instead of just telling me to smile."
It also depends on the tone and context :0 unsolicited advice or a compliment of an unknown situation can also come of as rude, especially the losing weight one. If you know they are trying to lose weight, only then can you pass on that compliment. Otherwise, don’t even say a thing, especially if you don’t know them.
I think the general one, about my views not being right, or that I should take a different perspective. I have felt that I haven't had the space and room to express myself... and that have lead to me learning that I couldn't trust people I thought was my friends. Simply because they for one reason or another, don't have the room for me
I loved it when people told me I lost weight! It was a huge self-esteem booster for me. I knew I was fat before and it was a lot of hard work to lose those 80 pounds.
I think the difference between your case and the case covered in the video is that you were actively trying to lose weight, and so the comments were telling you that you were making progress on your goals.
Probably should only compliment people who you know are attempting to lose weight.
@airmanon7213 The comments told me I achieved my goal. My goal was 75 pounds and I lost 80.
@@rcaive0875 Glad you reached your goal!
What is a compliment for you may be percieced as failure for someone who try to gain weight. Its all about perspective
So much of this applies to me exactly where i dont connect anywhere else with anyone.
I also had a situation where I was trying to be friendly and save a place for her Husband and her by me each week. I ended up finding out she saw it as me being controlling and saying you have to sit there and that she wants to choose who she sits with and where the they. I honestly would never have thought anything was wrong with saving them a seat by me.
there are people out there who might just love to get rubbed the wrong way and no matter what you say and how you do it, their first (and sometimes even only) reaction is to feel offended. and i for myself assume such "polite but rude" comments are mostly used with friends, family or people you already know pretty well, so they know you and where it´s coming from. and if you´re not sure how something was ment, just ask - or even better: if a comment can be seen as polite but also as rude, just go with the assumptuion of it being polite and friednly - until you got told otherwise!
Amazing quality video,and very informative too.
Thank you so much!
@@Psych2go your welcome,your videos have really taught me a lot. So thank you too.
Why act polite, I like being blunt and honest. Other people might not like it, which is why I have only two close friends, but at least I can always count on those two close friends.
There's a fun story about the first ' u look tired one ' from my class 11 experience . Don't remember the details but i just thought about socialising a little bit and tried to get into a new environment to stay away from toxicity. I just thought it would be a little easy if i just had anyone to relax with. Don't know what got to me and the first thing in the morning , i went to a girl sitting farthest away from me in class. Just went and said, ' HI! U LOOK TIRED!!! U OKAYY?? ' . And she ( being a friendly type) just went ' Hi~ Yea didn't studied for today's test ' . Even i didn't expected that reaction. The whole situation was so random, it took me more time to process the situation than her. Same day, we got into same chem practical group ( being non med) coincidentally. Now we are practically good friends i guess...!?
And practically her therapist....
Anyways I can relax so WHO CARES!!??
The therapist in a friend group is usually the most broken one..
Cuz they usually have no one else that they trust enough to confide in or they don't want to burden others with their problems
So they ended up looking like they're strong and get-it-together all the time
Sorry, I had the urge to say it
Maybe I was overreacting
@@husnaliyana8393 nah I got you ❤
I didn't added this cause I thought it would be a unnecessary detail
I will remember the advice regarding "look at the bright side".
Heard the "you will find someone eventually" more times than it'd helped too, so that's a good example for me why I shouldn't say such things.
Like the pressure made me even more unstable than I am anyway with social aspects and especially love.
But the new animation style is fresh to look at, so that's a nice thing :)
4:34 OKAY, I’d like to add that, SOMETIMES, people are overreacting, so in that case, saying that they should toughen up is the way to go. Even if it hurts their feelings, they may later accept that they were wrong, and become more emotionally stable and secure.
Some people are simply trying to draw attention to themselves. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to look out for them, but be careful. In situations like that, it’s better to let them be.
As someone with autism i abselutely hate all of these but im still constantly "rude"😅
Great Video! Below are the key points summarized using ChatWithPDF:
👀 - Telling someone they look tired can be misinterpreted as an insult rather than concern.
🌟 - Complimenting weight loss may unintentionally imply they were less attractive before.
🧠 - Praising someone's intelligence "for their age" can undermine their achievements.
❤ - Assuring single friends they'll find someone may unintentionally add pressure.
🍀 - Avoid assuming others have an easy life by saying they're lucky without knowing their struggles.
🤝 - Instead of a potentially sarcastic response, appreciate different viewpoints respectfully.
🌈 - Encouraging someone to look at the bright side may invalidate their struggles.
💬 - Mindful communication is crucial to avoid unintentionally rude remarks and foster genuine connections.
I really hate the phrase "don't worry, you'll find someone" because that is usually the response I get when asked if I'm in a relationship and I say no. It's especially insensitive in my case because I am aromantic and asexual and not looking for a relationship. It feels like my romantic and sexual orientations are being invalidated. In short, please, PLEASE think before you speak.
Timestamps
1). You look tired 0:26
2). You've lost weight, you look great now 0:53
3). You're so smart/talented for your age 1:36
4). Don't worry, you'll find someone 2:04
5). You're so lucky you don't have to worry about 2:47
6). Well that's certainly one way to look at it 3:23
7). Look at the bright side 4:02
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
It took me too long to realize saying “it’s in the last place you look” was a rude thing to say. I just thought it was the normal response.
People telling me I’m “smart and talented” honestly just feels like they’re setting my bar high, and I already know I’m going to disappoint them, or if I don’t, it’s going to take way too much effort for what it’s worth. I wish people wouldn’t say that stuff. If they could just comment on things I’ve done, that’s better, usually.
my ex-friend has told me "aesthie, you look smart for your age :0"
I didn't really take that to heart, but I wasn't aware that it could mean a rude gesture. lol
for me, I've never told this to anyone. I rarely compliment people around me. I mostly mind my business and become quiet, especially in social situations.
I don't mind being perceived as rude, as long as I'm honest and not being an a-hole.
kinda what i do but ,sometimes i get too dismissive. i want people to understand my meaning without feeling bad 😔
These subtle things just make everyday significantly better ❤❤ thanks for the info!
0:19 I just wanted to share some appreciation for that transition leading to the video title 😊
It all comes down to tone and context at the end of the day for most of them.
I also wonder if something I say is rude, but I can always pull out the "English is not my first lenguage" thing ✨
My friend with cerebral palsy told me that once he got an 100 on a test and the teacher told him “your body may not work, but your brain does!”
TBH, “your intelligence and skills are truly impressive,” sounds far more insulting/sarcastic than, “you are so smart/talented for your age,” if speaking to a younger person (Sub 10 years.)
I disagree and I’m a highschooler sooo
This actually reminds me of a time at my work place. There was this one customer I had.. I'm not sure if he was just having a very off day or what, because after I told him nicely to "have a good day", he looked back at me angrily and said, "Don't tell me what to do!"
I had no idea that would take such an offense to the guy. The intent wasn't to "tell him what to do", I was just being nice. So, from then on, every time this customer came in, I was more careful with how I phrased my wording.
You know what is rude? Unsolicited Advices. They’re as annoying as nagging
I've been getting lots of "you should do this" "you should do that" and it's frustrating when you didn't ask for advice, just wanted to share a problem!
3:24 i get so irrationally pissed when ppl say stuff like this
I am used to acting like these don't hurt when actually I'm extremely hurt and offended. Yeah it's autistic masking on my part but I can't say anything about it. For some reason, most typical people find it offensive if you point out those are hurtful.
I feel like i'm kinda guilty of something similar to the last one, "look at the bright side" (toxic positivity?)
When the people I cherished confided in me (introvert here), my intention was to motivate them and help them see the positive side of it, cuz i wanted to help them feel better when they were going through a bad time
But it seems like my intention did not translate well into verbalised words, which makes it look like i'm undermining their struggles
It gets to the point where i'm stuck with whether I should say anything at all
People understand silence as ignorance sometimes
But it's not that I don't care
It's just that I don't know how to respond/react/reply to that and I'm afraid that the things that I would say next would make them feel even worse
On another unrelated note, I don't know how to response to apologies from people
Like, it feels weird saying "don't do it again, okay?" and i don't wanna say "it's okay" when i don't mean it
So, yeah, talking is hard 😮💨 (for me, at least)
What I learned is it doesn't matter how you say it. It matters how people preceive it. It's a sad world where alot of people lack common sense to decipher a simple message. Or perhaps they are just pessimistic.
Maybe it comes from people living on the internet.
Why is nobody talking about Toji and Gojo at 1:40?
there's Geto too
Maybe people don't know about them😅
wait is the thumbnail literally the project sekai miku "I'm sorry..." stamp
Lol *GOOD*
I know how compliments feels hurting sometimes😔. Specially when they give compliments about looks, intelligence, by comparing our past self. It's like all they care is about looks, intelligence but not their feelings and character.
"Everyone must think carefully before giving compliment to someone"
Or
A Good person might feel himself as A Bad person 😖😔
where did the girl go? No offence to the guy narrating, you are also good...
I won't forget how after one night with almost no sleep, with my baby, I told my mother-in-law in the morning that I hardly slept... she said something like "very good", I know she doesn't hate me and I know she appreciates effort and hard work, and even though it happened Years ago, I still remember this unusual moment.
I have been told multiple times by friends and family members that i have it so easy and its very annoying! It really does make me feel like theyre ignoring the problems i have to face and only focusing on how bad their problems are. I appreciate you pointing this out!
Offense is taken, not given.
You know what else is taken? My god damn money! TAXES ARGHHHH
Facts too many ppl soft these days
@@JACQUEZJOHNSON23i am soft myself but not to the point of being offended by anything, i can FEEL when they say things with kindness and when they say things with second intentions, i enjoy someone who takes their time to say a nice thing to me even if they are a little confused what to say
“UhM weLL aCtUaLlY” it depends on what and how something is said (I’ll put this emoji myself so you don’t have to; You’re welcome: 🤓👆)
One of the greatest pieces of advice my sister told me. It helps me a lot.
This was very helpful, thank you
I love the references, especially the all might one !!
I believe, It is not all about our age, But It is all about we actually acquire a skill.
Life is good in this way
thank you so much for your efforts
Small talk is my biggest strengths when it comes to socialising
When people say “you’re so lucky you________” it actually hurts so much because people never used to notice when I was upset or when I talked about it they said “you’ll be fine.” I just took that as them not caring about me so I hid my emotions as to not be a burden on them. I think I have a lot of mental illnesses but I hide them because I don’t think people will care. When they say that it makes me want to cry.
This narrator is awesome, this animation style is awesome, man, this video was done right!
I definitely need to work on this! Ty for the video
Glad it was helpful!
@@Psych2go thank you
Excessive overthinking prevents me from doing that stuff thankfully
Tell me im not the only one who recognized the thumbnail is a project sekai stamp 😭
I can‘t unsee it now 😭
What is that....a POKEMAN???
HHHAHHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA YAH
I found when someone tells me I look tired responding with so do you doesn't usually go over well for them.
Good thing I've never said those to my crush or even thought to say them if I see her again.
When someone I knew sees me when I gain weight, they say, "oh, you've gained weight." And when they see me losing weight, they'll point that out as well. It's like I don't know where I should stand because regardless what I look like, they always have something to comment. So I tend to not care at that now.
3:48 imagine how much more sarcastic i'll sound saying this with this face on. thanks psych to go, you've taught me something valuable
"Don't worry, you'll find someone" has been slapped in my face thousands of times by possibly all people I know, that's why I shut down and I literally don't talk about it anymore
In all honesty, all of these things can be interpreted negatively. It really depends on how well you communicate your intent which body language and tone of voice are very important for. Of course, that is very difficult over text, but if you know someone well enough, you start hearing their voice in the text. There are also people who just refuse to interpret things in any sort of positive light because they are stuck in a certain mindset, at that point, it's completely on them and not you. At the end of it all, genuine understanding between each party involved is what really matters. Assumptions help no one.
oh yea, i've said someone looked tired in college... she got mad at me cause she said it's just cause she hadn't put on make up....
with that said, i feel like it could still mean that she hides how tired she is with make up (also it was morning, and i was tired too)
in my class, i always keep on top of my studies, homework, projects etc.
and basically everyone asks me how i do so well, or if i dont play games or watch videos that i have all these time to do everything etc. but even after all these praise, they actually dont really know my struggles and hardships. and also during that period, i was very depressed and anxious
and i also feel absolutely horrible if i let anyone down and get anxiety from a lot of normal things, so i tend to overwork myself for other people
Best way to not be rude: Close your mouth and shut up! Keep your opinions to yourself and don't throw them at people.
I was told once that everyone can be in a happy relationship and have babies, but not me. Why not me? Why was I being singled out? Do I not deserve to be happy?
Pjsk ahh thumbnail w that sticker in the corner (i love pjsk)
Thank u❤
As someone who has recovered from anorexia after 6 years (yet always a struggle), I will say, any compliments, even “wow you look good” or “wow you’re shining” etc. would make me proud of my progress of starvation. If you think someone is not losing weight in a healthy way, I would say (from my ED prospective) don’t comment unless it’s raising concern (out of care).
“Oh if they think I look good now, that means the skinnier I get i probably will look better!”
I suffer from my words getting taken the wrong way sometimes 😢
The whole reason i hate speaking, literally getting called rude mf and getting hated by people i hate everyone and myself lol
Hey. I have a question.
How do you know if you're on your way getting depression?
you don't
U feel like I do nothing with your life your life passing by
It is normal to be depressed from time to time. When you are depressed more days than not depressed, you might look into getting help. I have severe depression. There is a questionnaire that most regular doctors use to check if your depression is lasting too long. Best to take that question to a professional.
Goddamn finally someone say something about "LoOk On ThE bRiGhT sIdE" i hate when people tell me that..
I didn't know these things were rude
I actually don't mind people pointing out that I've lost weight. I've struggled to lose weight over the years (for health reasons - I'm obese), so I like it when people notice.
Asking an overweight person if she's pregnant or a couple who hasn't had any kids after several years of marriage is rude. It's awkward too. In both instances I believe not saying anything about a baby possibility is best.
the "you look tired" can vary. if said with the right tone and something's really wrong, it could be actually taken nicely and express concern. but... for me personally, I've been told a lot of times that I looked... tired, upset, when nothing in particular was wrong. it can turn into anything like.. "you have an upset/unpleasant expression" "you look cold and unapproachable" or just that "you look unattractive".
always being told that i look like im mad at something just... isn't it.
Ngl you’d be amazing at ASMR your voice is so calming
I hate my parents telling me “Oh you’ll find the right person one day “ because it implies I need a relationship.
No I don’t.I need a ferret,thank you very much.