The thing about being in a toxic relationship is that people in them tend to see the good and the bad so it's easy to minimize the bad and focus on the good but people outside just see the bad so they can get a slightly more objective view.
Bro I'd argue that sometimes the others just see the good side and therefore it's hard to see if you're right about it or not. So sometimes you just have to trust your instinct
@@GabuzonXYeah, I guess it's really more situational and nuanced than that. With my friends the flags were pretty obvious to us so we could see when things were not right. But there's definitely relationships where it gets hidden, and those are arguably worse
I don’t think outside parties have an objective view of someone else’s private life. I think they’re able to make a logical decision instead of an emotional one
Just got out of a bad toxic relationship after 2+ years despite friends telling me it was bad since day one. Guys, don't be afraid to be the one to end things off when you feel unhappy, listen to your friends they care about you too, dont think "i can fix them", and never think that you'll never find something better, one day you'll find your true soulmate. Also don't let yourself fall back into it if you get to breaking up and they beg saying they'll change or threaten anything including self harm. You deserve better
i havent ever been in a romantic relationship but i think this applies for toxic friendships too. when i was in highschool i never noticed it was a toxic friendship until she took her first sick day away from school that year, and i felt so good. i never really noticed how bad i felt until i felt good when she wasnt around. thats when i slowly started realising. i think its important to take breaks from people
Garnt is exactly right. I didn’t want to see it but I did not feel allowed to express myself or even my thoughts or feelings considered. I recognized my wrongs and I wasn’t perfect. Both partners should feel allowed to express or discuss things and what could help or be improved. Not talking or even touching it, sweeping it under the rug is NOT healthy and you will kick yourself later “Oh. I knew we should have unpacked “this” or “that” in the moment.” When your partner becomes focused on “themselves” in a way they don’t care about and even dismiss your needs or concerns….its done. It only goes down from there, save the off chance they recognize and care to work on it with you. I only hope they don’t hurt the next person like they did me. I hope I can do better for the next one too.
The toxic relationship part was so relatable, the way its small stuff first and then it spirals into the fact that you cant live anymore outside of it and you just think that you are crazy and at fault all the time while constantly getting disrespected
Not a romantic relationship but I had a toxic friendship that I didn't realize until it was over, we were friends for years but at some point they gradually went from being genuinely kind to insulting, narcissistic, and negative about everything
I had the worst type of relationship in high school with another classmate. I ignored red flag after red flag and I still don’t know why really. I started to open my eyes when he wouldn’t respect my body even MORE, I started to lose my temper more (I’m already a hothead), I hated when I got calls because the calls were nonstop and if we weren’t on the phone we were hanging out somewhere for HOURS, but I think what finally broke me was a dream I had; it was winter and me and him were visiting my family (so I’m assuming Christmas), but the energy was so negative and when I saw cousins I grew up with they didn’t recognize me so I said my nickname, and I started crying and desperately said my real name and they were like “ohhhh right” and treated me like an old friend. The amount of time he made me spend with him was pulling me away from my family and my real friends and that hurt.. but it terrifies me to think what state I would be in if I stayed.
I don't usually comment, but the relationship talk put a lot in perspective. Thank you guys for that talk. I related to Garnt's experience, and being single for two years now, put even more emphasis on learning what is healthy and what's not. Its a work in progress, but rather be in this status than still being in those relationships that were toxic & unhealthy for all involved.
If you think you're in a toxic relationship, just googling and analyzing different red flags was a great help for me personally. Most of the things I read reminded me of how she would treat me, sometimes there were even specific phrases. The most important advice I'd give someone having a rough go is as follows - You are NOT obligated to stay in a relationship if you are unhappy, it does not matter if they suffer from mental illness (be it a personality disorder or something else). It may sound heartless, but nobody is obligated to your help, ESPECIALLY at the cost of your own well-being.
One of my good friends... he even told me he considered me his best friend in town since he moved here... well he was the toxic one. It felt impossible to handle that... just like when someone touches another person inappropriately and you just don't know how to react other than look away unless you have experience with that and have no problem confronting someone. I mean what do you do.. do you do the aggressive confrontation? Do you just try to talk some sense? The type of toxicity is also important. He was just destroying her self confidence all the time and stuff like that. He would walk 10-20 meters ahead of her when they had a disagreement over something. In the end I probably did one of the worst things.. rather than talk to him because I was a pussy and he was not receptive anyways about being toxic or even mean to her. So I just told her that this is not normal and stuff and in the end they stopped all contact with me. After about a year she contacted me that they had separated and that I was pretty much right. Yet I still don't know if I did the right thing at all. I don't have any contact with him for obvious reasons.. I assume he thinks I wanted to steal his GF. She is super happy with another dude who seems like the polar opposite.. So I think I did the right thing. It's not even that this best friend of mine was just a bad person but that's what everyone in a toxic relationship sees aswell. Im happy this girl did not end up in a cycle of toxic partners who you know are good people with a disgusting temper. like my former best friend.
My brother finally broke up with his ABUSIVE ex-fiancèe a few years ago. He knew it was a bad situation but had to find the strength to finally walk away. Watching him accept that life and transform for the worst was one of the toughest things I've ever had to do.
I'm glad the guys are talking about toxic relationships. I remember back in high school i used to be in a 2 year toxic relationship with this one guy. At first I didn't see the red flags when we first talked because i was 14 and naive at the time. But when i actually started dating him, he showed to be more controlling on me calling and texting him every time i was free to the point where i had no time for myself. And he would control who I could and couldn't talk to, and i stopped talking to a majority of my friends, especially my guy friends. Any guy i talked to, even if it was just a classmate, he would start an argument with me. He even went as far as to make me go against my parents by talking about them like they were controlling me. And because he was so clingy and possesive, I couldn't hang out with any of my friends. He would also gaslight me at times like the problem was on me and that I should be the one apologize and believed it was always on me. It got to the point where i felt really numb the further our relationship lasted. And the main reason i never left was because he threaten to commit su*cide if i ever left, so of course, I stayed. But thankfully it ended for good because I knew if i continued any longer, I would've just broke down. So for those who are in a toxic relationship, you are stronger than you think, it is not your fault, and if you ever need any help to get out of that toxic cycle. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself or call for backup from those who care for your safety.
The internet really helped me with this. I was raised in a really abusive household so my bar for what's acceptable was very low when I got married at 21. He didn't drink or do drugs, he was employed, he didn't shout, call me names, or beat me. I wasn't happy but for 30 years I thought the problem was just me. It took people's comments on the internet to open my eyes and give me words for what had felt wrong for so long. I started to understand narcissism, manipulation, gas lighting, and that things like emotional abandonment and controlling money and time are all forms of abuse. I wish I could say I've left but I haven't. I have chronic illness and no family, money or skills. I don't have my health or the ability physically and mentally to start over. I just hope others learn what I didn't and get out while they can. If you think something might be wrong, it probably is.
Hearing Garnt talk about listening openly to people's views takes me back to when I learned he spent a chunk of his life meditating in a monastery. It definitely checks out here.
My ex started treating me horribly after a year and a half of bliss, and convinced me that I was imagining things when I noticed. Gaslighting, insults, ghosting, blaming. When she couldn’t gaslight me anymore, she convinced me that her mistreatment was my fault. And started ghosting harder. When trying to communicate to fix things, she went back to insisting it’s in my head. As if she didn’t admit to it before when blaming me and ghosting me. Then when I left her, she gaslit me into thinking I was the problem. That I was in my head and that I convinced myself that she was a bad person. When I was stupid enough to get back with her, she made sure I believed I was the problem. And I spent a good year trying to prove I was good enough. Thankfully our MUTUAL friends were honest with me and pointed out how toxic our relationship was. Most of them only referred to our relationship to avoid picking sides. But one of them referred to her specifically. All of them told me to leave and get away from her. And I did. Eventually she admitted that she runs from her problems and tries to instinctively shift the blame away from herself when she can’t. She matured, if only slightly.
Pretty much be wary of who you hang out, they will make you regret it later if your not careful... (that's pretty much it, people in this day and age will use you no matter what, remember this if you wanna stay away from that feeling)
alot of shoujo manga depicts toxic relationship very well Sign of Affection is one and theres this one scene i was like.. dude you need to get out of that relationship
1:50 Man thought he was crazy because he didn’t realise his partner was making his relationship toxic 3:00 Why you can’t see toxic relationships when your in it
10:26 = Haha sadly it occurs very often, I have a flat earth friend he's like "the governemnt is lying to us, blablabla..." I just have given up 😅 I'm alike to Gigguk to a certain extend like, I try to understand people minds even though they could think something unusual or that could seem immoral, in order to understand if they are a consistent reasons to think that way. But at the end except if they have very strong arguments, I would probably not change my mind. In the best case I could just assume their opinion might be true but I would find it pretty unlikely or disagree with the solutions they propose.
A relationship in this context a romantic relationship one but it could be any where one or both partners are abusive towards each if I say it and short sentence being together would take a troll on your mental health you may feel insecure unsafe and stuck with the person personally I think the biggest call is when you realise you cannot trust a person and its unsafe
The replies are good, but one way to think about it is through the word "toxic" itself, ie something that's just bad for you. I think a lot of people instantly equate toxic to the word abusive since abusive relationships are inherently toxic, but there can actually be toxic relationships that aren't abusive at all, yet they're still bad because something about them prevents the people involved from having a healthy and functional lifestyle. For example: While rare, two people can love each other to the point that it becomes akin to an addiction, where they can't separate or uphold other important relationships in their lives or maybe even keep up their careers. This type of relationship can be considered as toxic, but just in another way than an abusive relationship is. There's tons of information about toxic relationships online, though personally i would suggest searching up reddit or other more trustworthy sources for it because these days AI-generated crap articles tend to flood the search results.
Something some people decided to bring into existence because they lack awareness of knowing how to properly take care of themselves, and thus found themselves overwhelmed when they inevitably spend time with another person who lacks the same self-awareness; thus spiraling into a vicious cycle of reciprocal reaffirming of another's bad behavior/habits. And because some don't know how to be in tune with themselves they struggle to break such a cycle of negative and mutual reinforcement in a way that is of benefit to them or both (or perhaps even more people). An innocent example: Think someone's singing being bad, and a friend encourages you to not feel bad about yourself. While the intention is cute, it only causes the person's singing not to improve and the other person to condition themselves into not learning how to deal with negativity and or deal with and give criticism. Sure, nothing bad will happen because it's just about singing and at worst one will only embarrass themselves lightly but if the topic changes from "singing" to "reliability at workspace" things can get reaaaaaaaaaaly ugly reaaaaaaaal quick. This would be an example of a toxic dynamic i.e. "toxic = bad". Please keep in mind that "toxic relationship" is a nonsense word that seeks to describe something that doesn't really exist, as the word is most often used interchangeably with "abusive" (violation of personal will for narcistic gain) as well as almost always meant negatively to absolve a participant of feeling wrongdoing on their own. However, this doesn't mean that everybody who uses the concept "toxic relationship" means it in this way, it's just that there is a pattern. At the end of the day, only someone who has spend too much time on the internet would describe things as such because people are rarely this simple on their own, yet alone together. It's best to just stick with regular words to describe one's experiences such as "having gone through a bad experiences with said person because of [X] and [Y]". This way you keep the focus on the peculiarities of your situation as well as what was and wasn't within your control. Oh and just one side note because someone actually said this "There's tons of information about toxic relationships online, though personally i would suggest searching up reddit [...]". Do not search up toxic relationships online and especially never search information on reddit lmfao. You can easily avoid bad relationships with people by just making sure you don't neglect your own physical and mental health (i.e. if someone makes you feel too good about yourself or too bad about yourself). Searching up the internet for this pseudo-terminology serves of no value as none of it is accurate, most of it is conjecture and meant for people who require others to tell them how to live. Respect your health and don't be afraid of conflict, as well as show willingness for cooperation and be nice to others without being a pushover, and you will be fine forever (as long as you don't forget to be that)
I think the best way to deal with a racist family member is to at least establish the irrationality of their racist belief. The most dangerous thing is for a racist belief to be considered valid or rational.
Lol. I am that Uncle. My friends who are white, always ask me, "whats with you with white people this white people that?" Growing up as an asian it was nuthin but racist remarks from school and now work, and has made me a very introverted person and short with anyone, especially when it comes to White people. Its funny cuz theres this thing thats going around where its okay to be racist to white people cuz they're nuthing and shouldn't be offended and i agree with that 100% Sure i could be the "Bigger" man but why should i? Fck that world never gave me chance so im not giving them a chance 🤷♂️
Then that's not actual toxicity It's like a degradation kink or sum. A toxic relationship is more when you feel awful you gain no pleasure or anything from it no sense of enjoyment just the ever lingering idea that your never good enough they took pity on you or you were once a good person but now your not and your hurting everyone around you. Now the kicker is you don't leave but not because they keep you there (some do) but because you feel you can become "better" for them like your indebted to them by soul. It's constant panic attacks second guessing and lack of confidence. That being said even if this is said as a joke in just explaining how it feels for alot (then again I also have ADHD that impacts that tremendously also sooooooo)
Nah, dude. It's not worth it. Just appreciate that you're not going through that crap. Also, don't doubt yourself. Hopefully, you'll find someone soon.
be careful for what you wish for. if anything it will just teach you how much better it is to be single. do you really want could be possible trauma effect your view on future relationships? fucking your mental state for some pussy really worth it? No it's not.
I'm also 22 and have never dated. You can be happy without being in a romantic relationship. I get the want, but a toxic relationship won't give you what you're looking for.
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The thing about being in a toxic relationship is that people in them tend to see the good and the bad so it's easy to minimize the bad and focus on the good but people outside just see the bad so they can get a slightly more objective view.
Bro I'd argue that sometimes the others just see the good side and therefore it's hard to see if you're right about it or not. So sometimes you just have to trust your instinct
@@GabuzonXYeah, I guess it's really more situational and nuanced than that. With my friends the flags were pretty obvious to us so we could see when things were not right.
But there's definitely relationships where it gets hidden, and those are arguably worse
I don't know how a more objective view can be had if they just have the bad
I don’t think outside parties have an objective view of someone else’s private life. I think they’re able to make a logical decision instead of an emotional one
@@Jay-ck5mjThat's what I meant. Their viewpoint isn't clouded by their emotions nearly as much as the person in the relationship
Respect for each other should always be the most important thing; when respect is missing, you're in a toxic relationship.
Just got out of a bad toxic relationship after 2+ years despite friends telling me it was bad since day one. Guys, don't be afraid to be the one to end things off when you feel unhappy, listen to your friends they care about you too, dont think "i can fix them", and never think that you'll never find something better, one day you'll find your true soulmate.
Also don't let yourself fall back into it if you get to breaking up and they beg saying they'll change or threaten anything including self harm. You deserve better
I know we all joke around a lot, but moments like this make me respect these boys so much.
i havent ever been in a romantic relationship but i think this applies for toxic friendships too. when i was in highschool i never noticed it was a toxic friendship until she took her first sick day away from school that year, and i felt so good. i never really noticed how bad i felt until i felt good when she wasnt around. thats when i slowly started realising. i think its important to take breaks from people
Garnt is exactly right. I didn’t want to see it but I did not feel allowed to express myself or even my thoughts or feelings considered. I recognized my wrongs and I wasn’t perfect. Both partners should feel allowed to express or discuss things and what could help or be improved. Not talking or even touching it, sweeping it under the rug is NOT healthy and you will kick yourself later “Oh. I knew we should have unpacked “this” or “that” in the moment.” When your partner becomes focused on “themselves” in a way they don’t care about and even dismiss your needs or concerns….its done. It only goes down from there, save the off chance they recognize and care to work on it with you. I only hope they don’t hurt the next person like they did me. I hope I can do better for the next one too.
This type of content makes me respect them even more! When they get serious, they can really get into subjects with lots of depth.
How did you comment on this 2 days ago?
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@@lr2683 bug, reposted, or its a time traveler , cant think of anything else
After just getting out of a toxic relationship, this makes me realize that it was for the best. I respect you guys.
I hope you're doing okay now :)
@@jasinta9788 I really appreciate it!! :]
thank you!!@@jasinta9788
Good on you for getting out of it.
The toxic relationship part was so relatable, the way its small stuff first and then it spirals into the fact that you cant live anymore outside of it and you just think that you are crazy and at fault all the time while constantly getting disrespected
Not a romantic relationship but I had a toxic friendship that I didn't realize until it was over, we were friends for years but at some point they gradually went from being genuinely kind to insulting, narcissistic, and negative about everything
I had the worst type of relationship in high school with another classmate. I ignored red flag after red flag and I still don’t know why really. I started to open my eyes when he wouldn’t respect my body even MORE, I started to lose my temper more (I’m already a hothead), I hated when I got calls because the calls were nonstop and if we weren’t on the phone we were hanging out somewhere for HOURS, but I think what finally broke me was a dream I had; it was winter and me and him were visiting my family (so I’m assuming Christmas), but the energy was so negative and when I saw cousins I grew up with they didn’t recognize me so I said my nickname, and I started crying and desperately said my real name and they were like “ohhhh right” and treated me like an old friend. The amount of time he made me spend with him was pulling me away from my family and my real friends and that hurt.. but it terrifies me to think what state I would be in if I stayed.
I don't usually comment, but the relationship talk put a lot in perspective. Thank you guys for that talk. I related to Garnt's experience, and being single for two years now, put even more emphasis on learning what is healthy and what's not. Its a work in progress, but rather be in this status than still being in those relationships that were toxic & unhealthy for all involved.
If you think you're in a toxic relationship, just googling and analyzing different red flags was a great help for me personally. Most of the things I read reminded me of how she would treat me, sometimes there were even specific phrases.
The most important advice I'd give someone having a rough go is as follows - You are NOT obligated to stay in a relationship if you are unhappy, it does not matter if they suffer from mental illness (be it a personality disorder or something else). It may sound heartless, but nobody is obligated to your help, ESPECIALLY at the cost of your own well-being.
being isolated is the worst part of these fr. they make u dependent on only them. its so tuff.
One of my good friends... he even told me he considered me his best friend in town since he moved here... well he was the toxic one. It felt impossible to handle that... just like when someone touches another person inappropriately and you just don't know how to react other than look away unless you have experience with that and have no problem confronting someone.
I mean what do you do.. do you do the aggressive confrontation? Do you just try to talk some sense? The type of toxicity is also important. He was just destroying her self confidence all the time and stuff like that. He would walk 10-20 meters ahead of her when they had a disagreement over something. In the end I probably did one of the worst things.. rather than talk to him because I was a pussy and he was not receptive anyways about being toxic or even mean to her. So I just told her that this is not normal and stuff and in the end they stopped all contact with me.
After about a year she contacted me that they had separated and that I was pretty much right.
Yet I still don't know if I did the right thing at all. I don't have any contact with him for obvious reasons.. I assume he thinks I wanted to steal his GF. She is super happy with another dude who seems like the polar opposite.. So I think I did the right thing. It's not even that this best friend of mine was just a bad person but that's what everyone in a toxic relationship sees aswell.
Im happy this girl did not end up in a cycle of toxic partners who you know are good people with a disgusting temper. like my former best friend.
My brother finally broke up with his ABUSIVE ex-fiancèe a few years ago. He knew it was a bad situation but had to find the strength to finally walk away. Watching him accept that life and transform for the worst was one of the toughest things I've ever had to do.
I'm glad the guys are talking about toxic relationships. I remember back in high school i used to be in a 2 year toxic relationship with this one guy. At first I didn't see the red flags when we first talked because i was 14 and naive at the time. But when i actually started dating him, he showed to be more controlling on me calling and texting him every time i was free to the point where i had no time for myself. And he would control who I could and couldn't talk to, and i stopped talking to a majority of my friends, especially my guy friends. Any guy i talked to, even if it was just a classmate, he would start an argument with me. He even went as far as to make me go against my parents by talking about them like they were controlling me. And because he was so clingy and possesive, I couldn't hang out with any of my friends. He would also gaslight me at times like the problem was on me and that I should be the one apologize and believed it was always on me. It got to the point where i felt really numb the further our relationship lasted. And the main reason i never left was because he threaten to commit su*cide if i ever left, so of course, I stayed. But thankfully it ended for good because I knew if i continued any longer, I would've just broke down. So for those who are in a toxic relationship, you are stronger than you think, it is not your fault, and if you ever need any help to get out of that toxic cycle. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself or call for backup from those who care for your safety.
Having friends you can turn to for advice is SO SO valuable. I didn't have that, and it resulted in an absolute horror story.
The internet really helped me with this. I was raised in a really abusive household so my bar for what's acceptable was very low when I got married at 21. He didn't drink or do drugs, he was employed, he didn't shout, call me names, or beat me. I wasn't happy but for 30 years I thought the problem was just me. It took people's comments on the internet to open my eyes and give me words for what had felt wrong for so long. I started to understand narcissism, manipulation, gas lighting, and that things like emotional abandonment and controlling money and time are all forms of abuse. I wish I could say I've left but I haven't. I have chronic illness and no family, money or skills. I don't have my health or the ability physically and mentally to start over. I just hope others learn what I didn't and get out while they can. If you think something might be wrong, it probably is.
Hearing Garnt talk about listening openly to people's views takes me back to when I learned he spent a chunk of his life meditating in a monastery. It definitely checks out here.
Toxic ppl are really good at manipulating, people say u can get out of it but don’t understand how hard it is.
I’ve literally had the “holocaust never happened” argument with my older cousin at a christmas dinner so holy shit joey hit that on the spot lmfaoo
Next time do this kinda thing the garnt way if you haven’t already
My ex started treating me horribly after a year and a half of bliss, and convinced me that I was imagining things when I noticed. Gaslighting, insults, ghosting, blaming.
When she couldn’t gaslight me anymore, she convinced me that her mistreatment was my fault. And started ghosting harder.
When trying to communicate to fix things, she went back to insisting it’s in my head. As if she didn’t admit to it before when blaming me and ghosting me.
Then when I left her, she gaslit me into thinking I was the problem. That I was in my head and that I convinced myself that she was a bad person.
When I was stupid enough to get back with her, she made sure I believed I was the problem. And I spent a good year trying to prove I was good enough.
Thankfully our MUTUAL friends were honest with me and pointed out how toxic our relationship was. Most of them only referred to our relationship to avoid picking sides. But one of them referred to her specifically. All of them told me to leave and get away from her. And I did.
Eventually she admitted that she runs from her problems and tries to instinctively shift the blame away from herself when she can’t. She matured, if only slightly.
1:14 so the true toxic relationship was the friends we made along the way huh?
Pretty much be wary of who you hang out, they will make you regret it later if your not careful...
(that's pretty much it, people in this day and age will use you no matter what, remember this if you wanna stay away from that feeling)
Garnt is such a big GREEN flag for this
alot of shoujo manga depicts toxic relationship very well Sign of Affection is one and theres this one scene i was like.. dude you need to get out of that relationship
1:50 Man thought he was crazy because he didn’t realise his partner was making his relationship toxic
3:00 Why you can’t see toxic relationships when your in it
Garnt is the only mf who actually has no enemies
10:26 = Haha sadly it occurs very often, I have a flat earth friend he's like "the governemnt is lying to us, blablabla..." I just have given up 😅
I'm alike to Gigguk to a certain extend like, I try to understand people minds even though they could think something unusual or that could seem immoral, in order to understand if they are a consistent reasons to think that way.
But at the end except if they have very strong arguments, I would probably not change my mind.
In the best case I could just assume their opinion might be true but I would find it pretty unlikely or disagree with the solutions they propose.
Garnt is still in a TOXIC relationship 👀
What anime is on the thumbnail?
Yuno Gasai from Future Diary
Future diary. It’s toxic, but I enjoyed the anime
Dumb question What's a toxic relationship?
A relationship in this context a romantic relationship one but it could be any where one or both partners are abusive towards each if I say it and short sentence being together would take a troll on your mental health you may feel insecure unsafe and stuck with the person personally I think the biggest call is when you realise you cannot trust a person and its unsafe
It’s basically a relationship built on emotional and psychological control. Or one that is brimming with negativity
The replies are good, but one way to think about it is through the word "toxic" itself, ie something that's just bad for you. I think a lot of people instantly equate toxic to the word abusive since abusive relationships are inherently toxic, but there can actually be toxic relationships that aren't abusive at all, yet they're still bad because something about them prevents the people involved from having a healthy and functional lifestyle.
For example: While rare, two people can love each other to the point that it becomes akin to an addiction, where they can't separate or uphold other important relationships in their lives or maybe even keep up their careers. This type of relationship can be considered as toxic, but just in another way than an abusive relationship is.
There's tons of information about toxic relationships online, though personally i would suggest searching up reddit or other more trustworthy sources for it because these days AI-generated crap articles tend to flood the search results.
Something some people decided to bring into existence because they lack awareness of knowing how to properly take care of themselves, and thus found themselves overwhelmed when they inevitably spend time with another person who lacks the same self-awareness; thus spiraling into a vicious cycle of reciprocal reaffirming of another's bad behavior/habits.
And because some don't know how to be in tune with themselves they struggle to break such a cycle of negative and mutual reinforcement in a way that is of benefit to them or both (or perhaps even more people).
An innocent example: Think someone's singing being bad, and a friend encourages you to not feel bad about yourself. While the intention is cute, it only causes the person's singing not to improve and the other person to condition themselves into not learning how to deal with negativity and or deal with and give criticism. Sure, nothing bad will happen because it's just about singing and at worst one will only embarrass themselves lightly but if the topic changes from "singing" to "reliability at workspace" things can get reaaaaaaaaaaly ugly reaaaaaaaal quick.
This would be an example of a toxic dynamic i.e. "toxic = bad". Please keep in mind that "toxic relationship" is a nonsense word that seeks to describe something that doesn't really exist, as the word is most often used interchangeably with "abusive" (violation of personal will for narcistic gain) as well as almost always meant negatively to absolve a participant of feeling wrongdoing on their own. However, this doesn't mean that everybody who uses the concept "toxic relationship" means it in this way, it's just that there is a pattern.
At the end of the day, only someone who has spend too much time on the internet would describe things as such because people are rarely this simple on their own, yet alone together. It's best to just stick with regular words to describe one's experiences such as "having gone through a bad experiences with said person because of [X] and [Y]". This way you keep the focus on the peculiarities of your situation as well as what was and wasn't within your control.
Oh and just one side note because someone actually said this "There's tons of information about toxic relationships online, though personally i would suggest searching up reddit [...]".
Do not search up toxic relationships online and especially never search information on reddit lmfao. You can easily avoid bad relationships with people by just making sure you don't neglect your own physical and mental health (i.e. if someone makes you feel too good about yourself or too bad about yourself). Searching up the internet for this pseudo-terminology serves of no value as none of it is accurate, most of it is conjecture and meant for people who require others to tell them how to live. Respect your health and don't be afraid of conflict, as well as show willingness for cooperation and be nice to others without being a pushover, and you will be fine forever (as long as you don't forget to be that)
Wait is it normal for relationships to feel awkward at first.
I think the best way to deal with a racist family member is to at least establish the irrationality of their racist belief. The most dangerous thing is for a racist belief to be considered valid or rational.
This has been my strat, treat them like a joke so that they're the ones who feel uncomfortable about it
I dont get the thumbnail
Yuno Gasai from Future Diary.
The og yandere
@@manuelsputnik I know lol, don’t see what’s toxic about her (kidding)
Lol. I am that Uncle. My friends who are white, always ask me, "whats with you with white people this white people that?"
Growing up as an asian it was nuthin but racist remarks from school and now work, and has made me a very introverted person and short with anyone, especially when it comes to White people.
Its funny cuz theres this thing thats going around where its okay to be racist to white people cuz they're nuthing and shouldn't be offended and i agree with that 100%
Sure i could be the "Bigger" man but why should i? Fck that world never gave me chance so im not giving them a chance 🤷♂️
i like a lil bit of toxicity not sure why
Maybe you like harsh banter?
So, you're masochist?????
Then that's not actual toxicity
It's like a degradation kink or sum.
A toxic relationship is more when you feel awful you gain no pleasure or anything from it no sense of enjoyment just the ever lingering idea that your never good enough they took pity on you or you were once a good person but now your not and your hurting everyone around you.
Now the kicker is you don't leave but not because they keep you there (some do) but because you feel you can become "better" for them like your indebted to them by soul. It's constant panic attacks second guessing and lack of confidence.
That being said even if this is said as a joke in just explaining how it feels for alot (then again I also have ADHD that impacts that tremendously also sooooooo)
"How to deal with toxic relationships"
Never get into the relationships, smart I know?
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Welp I am 22 and never dated. At this point Ill have to settle for toxic if it arrives. I dont got room to be more picky than I am.
Nah, dude. It's not worth it. Just appreciate that you're not going through that crap. Also, don't doubt yourself. Hopefully, you'll find someone soon.
That will just fuck you up for the next person. Toxic relationships breed toxic habits and insecurities
That's just asking for trouble if anything.
be careful for what you wish for. if anything it will just teach you how much better it is to be single. do you really want could be possible trauma effect your view on future relationships? fucking your mental state for some pussy really worth it? No it's not.
I'm also 22 and have never dated. You can be happy without being in a romantic relationship. I get the want, but a toxic relationship won't give you what you're looking for.
Such a small amount of views and comments? Prob because most of people who watch these three are weebs who will never get a gf