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I'm happier living alone and getting along with bare necessities than living in my parents home with more than enough commodities and physical comforts
This is exactly my relationship with my family. Being the youngest i have been infantilised all my life even now they never let me take a decision on my own i hate it so much but they literally will destroy my life if i don’t do exactly what they want. Moving out in 15 days and i could not be happier.
Good luck, I too am in that sort of situation but can't move out tho. What I hate is that my family didn't just let me make my own decisions but also downplays any ideas I have/had they would only support the things that are deemed to be successful to them, but wish I could've just run away yk
same. they've controlled me my whole life while also being emotionally neglectful and abusive. which is why I will not be guilt-tripped into thinking going no contact is a bad idea "because they're still family".
I visit them maybe once a year, as I live abroad. Every single time I gotta be super careful not to have some sort of nervous breakdown. Strangely, on my own I'm a rather balanced person, but with them I regress to the role of angry teen.
I relate to this so hard. When I'm around other people I'm generally calm and collected and people say I have a really good temper but one word from my parents and I feel like i'm gonna explode or breakdown. It's like their presence makes me miserable.
@@NIL0S I can relate! For me it's about repressed emotions; Anger, disappointment, frustration, hurt, sorrow etc. Members of my family trigger/reactivate these mountains of repressed emotions, and I fight an internal war to act calm and not explode in a fit of rage. This internal war against my own emotions is like my inner child is being kicked repeatedly while lying helpless on the ground in a fetal position...
Besides the behaviour of your parents, being around your parents for most people will have them regress into a more childlike state. It happens more or less automatically and is quite hard to get out of.
@@davidd854 That’s why it’s best to leave. I move out in February. Going no contact. If I feel drained or like I’m about to have a mental breakdown EVERY time I talk to you. It wasn’t meant to be. I’m done with this sh*t and I’m done with them. You have to come to terms with your parents don’t love you. Not b/c of you but b/c they can’t love you. How daft do you have to be to be unable to notice your children are pulling away or are rejecting you? Most don’t see until they’re in that nursing home or hospital bed.
Literally last night I was talking with someone about how I love my mum but usually I don't want her to talk to me cause it causes alot of stress, this video came out at a weirdly good time for me
@@brainhem oh my god me too. It’s the worst, but because I feel immense guilt over it. At least for me, it’s not my mother’s fault. She’s just off. We both love each other obviously but I just can’t relax around her
Same she has expectations for me (college in particular) that I'm unsure i want to pursue and everytime I visit that's all she wants to discuss. Obviously she just wants the best for me but it sucks that we can't just talk anymore without me getting stressed out lol.
I thought I was the problem, so came into addiction recovery at 19, was diagnosed with BPD, then CPTSD. I assumed that when I was 'better', then my family relationships would improve. The healthier I became, the harder it was to be in relationship with them. My parents did come to family therapy with me, but only to support me, and never showed interest in their own issues. I'm 29 now, a psychotherapist with a very successful career, and my family still see me as the problem. I have minimal contact, choose to spend Christmas alone- and couldn't be happier. The hardest part is letting go of the fantasy of who I wanted my family, my parents to be. Once I was able to let go of that (after many years)- I finally felt free.
My mother and I get into these arguments, where she says things that hurt me or trigger me, so I then get to the point where I lose control and I'm enraged and yelling, then she plays the victim by acting like I'm yelling for no reason when she caused it, or acts like I'm doing it on purpose. Then I start having chest pains, which of course she doesn't notice, she's bad for my health. And she never remembers(supposedly) the thing that she said that sent me over the edge.
This is actually ungodly timing, I usually don’t talk about my emotions with my dad, and we just had an unbelievably good conversation about how when I get super stressed over small things (I’m on the spectrum), it’s very hard for me to keep composure, and when I expected him to tell me that it’s a problem that I need to fix or else, we talked about what it’s like to spend every second of every day stressing over different stimuli, and he got a better understanding of why I act the way I do (sometimes rudely), it’s not because I intend to, it’s because I’m stressed and tired and can’t keep up a facade anymore
Currently watching this in my old room at my parents house. Family arrives in half an hour. Nervous for no apparent reason like every year. Reading the comments made me shed a tear but makes me feel understood. I love you guys. Mary Christmas. We will get through this together ❤️
This is incredibly relatable. I’m now in college somewhere that’s an 18 hr drive away, and even during extreme stress like during finals I am still infinitely happier than when I’m home. I always feel myself start to relapse and I go back to being the irritable, angry person who cries at everything and lashes out; it’s even worse during the holidays because I hate my extended family for giving me debilitating abandonment issues - they usually validate them too (didn’t even show up to thanksgiving). I also always fall back into the horrible dynamic of codependency with my mother and constantly being antagonized by my father. And then when I feel sad about this family dynamic, I get filled with shame because other people have it so much worse than me and I’ve always been raised to discredit my feelings
I deal with some mental illness/disorder in my family, and it's a struggle, to say the least, to live with it daily the way my family and I do. I feel that my parents and siblings need more help than they're currently getting, but if you have one parent who's arrogant and doesn't think we need help, and the other one has just given up on life and sits around all day doing nothing productive, then what is one to do in such an environment?
Potentially we can escape this environment we’re trapped in, if not tomorrow, eventually. I’m feeling the urge to move out grow stronger and stronger, and I believe I should act on it. I cannot control my mother’s behaviors, and my father is currently out of my life by my choice. I only have this life, so I’m going to start advocating for my own independence and health. I can be successful and love myself, and I won’t let parents be a drain for my soul and potential. Whatever situation you’re in, I have faith that a path to a healthy environment will reveal itself to you in time, and you’ll grow into that which you strive to be. Happy holidays my brother
My favorite quote for this question of "what is one too do?" Is from the boondocks. Huey asks his grandfather "What do you do when you can't do nothing, but there's nothing you can do?" His grandfather responded with "You do what you can." It will still make me smile to this day.
This time last year I was having panic attacks and a dissociative episode on Christmas Eve where I felt like my brain and my body weren’t connected. My dad said something about me to relatives that triggered me, and then a whole flood of memories and hollow sensations around this time of year from prior years came and I recognized that this has everything to do with why I feel like I can’t accept gifts from people or my issues with thinking that what I give the people I care about isn’t good enough. My whole self-value system was spotlight and as much as it hurt I think I needed to recognize the pain I was in. Last year I was completely sober for the first time in a long time, and I think that’s why I felt everything so intensely. The year before that I was the happy drunk at the family holiday parties, I didn’t realize how much I was leaning on substances to numb the feelings. I feel for anyone going through something like this, or dealing with their value system because of their upbringing.
This is really what I needed to see right now, after literally having to see my entire family bloodline fall apart. All I have is my youngest sisters, and their mom. And I need to stay strong and give them the happiness they deserve. I need to respect their growth. I will be okay, we will all be okay. We will find a way to enjoy the holidays together. Merry Christmas guys. I love all of you.
6:12 why are family psychologists so reluctant to analyze power dynamics? This treatment method assumes that people are infinitely changeable, and that no one is fundamentally incompatible. Sometimes that best mental health treatment is a government subsidized apartment. But also, this stems from looking at mental health with the same language as physical health: trying to improve it, and looking for certain outcomes. This language obfuscates the fact that sometimes, people just need to leave. The situation with the lodges mentioned in the video is close to a government subsidized apartment, but I assume that it is it exactly like one. At the end of the day, mental health is sometimes simply a socioeconomic problem, and we have to talk about how to make it possible for the person to live on their own. Therapists do talk about getting a job, but I really wishes they would have emphasized the socioeconomic aspect of life, and made it clear what they will and will not do for a patient.
As someone who's pretty sure they're autistic, those 3 factors at 5:00 really hit hard for me. I reacted like the stick figure directly after the sequence. I've been trying to work on my low self-esteem & borderline disturbing inner voice for years now, but rarely wondered where it came from until I noticed how much ahead of me my peers were in this regard- and how concerned they'd be by the thoughts I voiced aloud. It's a bit... embarrassing, paired with my open-book personality. I'd initially bash myself for being such a downer and "victimizing myself" as my mom says: "Why can't I just _be_ happy? I have these achievements & life is good atm, so... what's wrong with me?? Maybe this is why people don't wanna be around me." But the truth is, most people rarely shared in my joy, or sadness, including my family. My feelings were often berated or looked at with confusion. It made me accustomed to going through them alone, bc I felt emotions "wrongly". It caused exactly what you stated. I'd say most of them weren't emotionally intelligent or mature either, which didn't help. Anyways, I'm just ranting, but thanks for helping me find one of the last puzzle pieces of this dilemma.
my mom started a foundation that said just because your kid has mental health issues it doesn't mean it's your fault. it's true, and i'm proud of her for it. it's also hella self-serving and glosses over some things. even the nuance has nuance
Man what timing, just so happens that my mom and I had a really nasty argument and this makes realize again just how unequiped I am on coping with emotions or different stimuli and how much talking to my mom stresses or frustrates me, thanks for the video
The invalidation from my family during childhood is a reason why I never fully enjoyed it. Their trauma seeped into my head. I see my friends how my parents saw me which is why my friendships never last long. I didn't want to think that way but being in a family like that it's brainwash and that's why i became schizophrenic and ocd to try escaping it. I'll never be the same. Therapy only helps temporarily. I'll never be okay. That doesn't stop me from trying though. I still remember faint memories of when before I became "brainwashed". I see pain and joy. As I grew it just became too numerous to handle. Pain and joy became convoluted in trauma which restricted me from being truly happy. Therapy is there to help me escape from myself to heal. Idk if i will ever heal, but the distraction helps me form new experiences outside the trauma and gives new light. It's hard to heal from trauma when you live with your trauma. You have to face it, but as psychology suggests to heal from it you do it little by litttle. In a family you're always exposed lot by lot. Healthy therapeutic escapism is the only way to live somewhat happy and seem normal before you escape through reality by moving out and be able to actually be normal.
Italian here. Trieste is pronounced "Tre-a-sta", and also in the region of Veneto there is a 24-7 call center with psychologists that helps people in need!
Yes I have a small family already and on top of that either mental illness or addiction+mental illness on one side. The lack of drive and lack of self awareness that I have to go through day in and day out, and the shitty parts of their personalities I’m absorbing through sheer osmosis is quite literally suffocating me. I would go in the military, but that’s after I finish my graduate degree in 2 years. Life sucks rn man, especially considering I have a couple family members that aren’t insufferable to be around are thousands of miles away.
crazy how this was released a couple days before my mom stopped talking to me completely and acts as if i don't exist whiling living in the same house. on day 5 now :)
This video has given me so much food for thought!! Thanks for sharing these ideas. I was caregiver to my elderly dad for a really long time, and only counseling and self reflection have helped me realize that so much of our interpersonal stress was a result of both our struggles with expressed emotion. Not sure, but I don’t think either one of us understood how much our assumptions about what counted as normal would make it more difficult to connect and communicate. I remember being really stuck in EOI, feeling that it was the only way to exist because his dementia and generally oblivious , defiantly self sufficient outlook were combining in ways that put him in physical peril far more often than he was able to acknowledge. It’s taken me a long time to find a more balanced sense of perspective.
I'm gonna comment before watching the video. My family ask me where I'm at, where I'll be over Christmas, and I avoid any familial interaction like it's the black plague. The Christmas period is the most stressful for me due to the gravity of family. They all hate each-other, but Christmas is the only time they will entertain the time within each others presence, and it's always, 100% bad. The pain it is to distance myself during the period when they are trying to come together outweighs the effort in that moment to suffer through being with family during the holidays. I Envy anyone who enjoys their family, genuinely cherish it for more than what it means to you, because for some family is nothing to what your experience is.
Thank you! I've had a tough year exactly because of this, and even moved out abruptly in September. Even though the relationship with my family had become incredibly toxic again, I still mourn the loss of what once was community to me. Today was particularly bad. Understanding helps the feeling of Isolation wane a bit. This helped me heal a bit, thank you.
Perfect timing. Sometimes I feel like a bad person because my parents irritate me even with the smallest things or trying to be nice. I just turned 18 and got pretty much every year of my life during my breaks I've been essentially made to travel. I guess I don't HAVE to go, but my dad will make me feel guilty if I don't (or just won't listen and order the tickets before I can say anything, so not going would mean wasting money.) It'd be one thing if I was going to resorts or sightseeing, but I just go to my families house and stay there for days on end, sometimes weeks... at home I'd have a car to go places, a computer to play games or watch things, and friends spend time with, but none of those things are there so it's either sit in the guest room or try to spend most of the day talking to family but I can only talk about so much... My father works two hours away and stays in a different apartment, and he comes home on weekends or during holidays. I love him but I can't help but say that he annoys me in a way no one else does and I feel bad. I like to relax during my breaks, I'd like to go out with friends or go on drives or see my partner, but when he's home, he asks way too many questions about it or just says no. So, I sit in my room most of the day trying to "salvage" some time where I can truly feel at ease. He'll call me lazy for spending so much time in my room and constantly find reasons to knock on my door, making it impossible to actually do anything requiring more than 10 minutes of commitment... I love my family but at this age spending time with them is difficult... we don't share common ground on most things (I have a middle eastern background but was raised here, I am essentially American), and Arab culture is very family based. It's not that my dads mean, he'll just guilt me if I don't do everything he wants me to do... no dad I don't want to spend every weekend moving random shit or doing yardwork... god forbid I made my own plans because he will straight make them for me lol Feeling this way feels pretentious but i don't have such an attitude with anyone else, I mean after all he has spent all this effort and time raising me, so not helping makes me feel bad... I also can't expect them to not ask me to do anything and I'm struggling to find what the middle ground is or just how to have it stop annoying me so badly because it starts to show in my body language and I feel bad. it's become a cycle where: - Having to do something for them/go somewhere makes me feel like I'm missing out on the things I want to do (I truly cannot see friends when my dad is home, ever) - I withdraw away from them to try and enjoy time alone (next best thing if I can't see friends or my partner) - they call my name or knock again, probably to ask me to do something they could easily have done, probably faster than getting me and making me do it And it just goes on and on like that forever I feel... only after 10:00 can I even put both earbuds in lol...
i just hate my family. theyve invalidated me and constantly put me in more and more dangerous situations that directly cause me to physically almost die. i still have years before i can leave this environment although; i do want to stop this generational trauma for both me and my children in the future, atleast i hope. thank you, merry christmas sisyphus.
Your video exposes how important research led, child centered, Early Childhood Education is to helping children find ways of coping and building resilience.
I'm not a person who really regrets his life decisions but the one thing I would for sure do differently if I were to go back in time would be moving out earlier. I lived with my parents well into my 20s and I only noticed how destructive for my mental health it was since living alone for quite some time and starting therapy
As someone with bpd and has a parent that is bipolar, most likely schizo and a lot more things This hits hard. You show how things like this happen and that’s somewhat comforting because I personally had a hard time knowing exactly what things from my youth were related to mental issues. The infantilisation even into adulthood and always being told me and my siblings do everything wrong was the final bit that probably broke us while growing up
It may have been but my brother abandoned me the first time I had a manic episode. People don’t truly care for mental health when it’s raw and they have to look at it, people just stand and cheer from a distance empty vacuous pleasantries “it isn’t weak to speak!” 🙄 you speak and you get left on read. Protect yourself and your mind, no one is out here to protect it for you unfortunately, just taking more axes to a whittled tree
This is really cool. I had a friend a few years ago who I believe experienced bpd. Her mom had autism as well as depression, and always criticized my friends expression in her childhood. My friend also struggles with autism, and depression while I knew them. I'm glad I understand how it works together now, and know that there are ways to do better. Thank you.
unless either: your relatives come to your house without your input. OR your parents demand you go to the relatives house, with no wiggle room. you can't walk away if there's nowhere to walk. you can't enforce boundaries if there is no punishment for breaking them, and you can't avoid contact if the contact is unavoidable. in all other scenarios, though, they are 3 pretty good points.
this really describes me. i dont suffer from any mental illness (or at least, i think so), i am just an anxious person. my anxiety was always underestimated by my parents, they always said "feeling anxious is useless", especially when i was about 11-12, where i had very high anxiety, that really impacted on my understanding of my feelings. i have a better understanding now, i learned by myself. i also feel very judged when i talk to them about my feelings, interests and stuff like that, so i always avoid to talk about it. I can't wait to move out of my house, even if i have to wait 5-6 years
I went home and took the train back to uni 2 days later. It’s my first year being away from home and i already seem to hate being back. So much so that I spent christmas alone, and was okay with it
Christmas is a time for love, family, togetherness. I love the time we spend together listening to my parents take passive aggressive jabs at their children and each other. I love when close family friends come over and the masks come up as we all act like a happy family. I love how palpable the contempt for each other is as we sit around the fireplace sipping hot coco. If you are young and full of fear, guilt, and insecurities like I was, get out quick. It will not get better, the longer you hesitate the harder it becomes.
It's tough because I want to be able to spend time with my close family but a certain family member has mentally abused and used me my entire childhood up until I was in my early 20's to the point that I have a hard time even being around family closely associated with them. The person in question obviously has undiagnosed mental issues like Narcissism and even possibly Paranoid Schizophrenia but at the end of the day you can't excuse it. I've tried my entire life to care for this person and rationalize everything but the hardest lesson was understanding that I just don't have any emotional attachment towards them. Not only does this hit close to home but puts in perspective to me how ridiculous all the other issues were on top of these. To anyone who reads this I wish them well during these trying times and want you to know that it can get better. It feels good to reflect on how far you've come along from your past traumas and I hope you all are able to push through the darkness so you too can feel that satisfaction.
To be honest sometimes my parents fight about money issues or cheating every time it not only my health but it bothers my head 24/7 and think negatively or cause me turmoil.
My whole life I always thought I lack something fundamental compared to others my age since I was a child. Something minor would push me to the brink of meltdown and everyone else (mostly families) will just think I'm strange and have unstable emotions to begin with and just let me be. I just find it hard to blend in with other play-mates. I had always find my dynamic with my families (parents and siblings) weird. At one side, I felt like I am never comfortable with my own families and in some cases I loathe them, but on the other side, they never really acted antagonistic toward me so I always felt like a 'bad kid' for lashing out at any different time. Finding an answer to this puzzle has always been why I'm interested in philosophy books and content, and observes people around me. It has always been a struggle, because most of my friends either have a harmonious family (which couldn't relate to my problem at all) or have a broken home situation (which is too drastic to relate to my case). The part with Criticism and Hospitality is relate-able but mentioning Emotional Over-Involvement really ticks the right box for me to trace what my problem has always been with my family. Also reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman helps me realize what I have been missing on since childhood that moulded some of my behavior until now. Anyway, I really thank you for creating this kind of video. I've been following for years and I always felt like home listening and learning from you!
Free Therapy doesn't work if there is nothing "wrong" in the family. Why do you need to seek treatment, if nothing is wrong. You can solve the issue by moving away, but the solution only lasts as long as you avoid the issue. It's like beating an addiction. As soon as the conditions are the same, you fall back into the addiction. Is there a way of beating this vicious cycle? I belive so, I just haven't found it yet.
This. I always felt weird about having to like my parents because of how they treated me in my childhood and even now. My own family and society is making me the villain in all of it for not being the perfect rock personality that does everything as my family says. I hated it, this the reason Im still in therapy and even then I still can't explain whats wrong with me. There's always a voice, worrying that I do something wrong when doing something that my parents conceive as wrong
The thing about mental illness is you can't really understand it unless you lived through it yourself, also people usually tend to separate physiology from psychology while the nervous system is in fact very physical, and psychosomatic symptoms may be very rampant. They either treat it like some average virus which will wear off in like 1-2 weeks, or they simply say "you're just being lazy, go to work and you won't have the time to stress out" not realising how destructive lines like this are. Not to mention the older generation tends to be quite invasive basically multiplying the sense of anxiety, it's like you are under surveillance. Kinda sad how your loved ones may accidentally become your downfall, children are bound to wear insecurities of their parents in tenfold manner.
I wish my english was better to understand your video properly. I feel relieved knowing that I'm not the only one having struggles with family which ruins my mental health ( I know I'm horrible). My parents ruin my health and says I'm acting when I go crazy. While all of the time they are wrong, they say it's me. I was never enough to them even though compared to most of the people I know, I'm so much better ( for me). I had the ability to study well, which was one of the only things I was good at. My parents gave me mental illnesses and now I can't study either. I've lost my skills and now my school days are over. And they are blaming me and shaming me for that. I don't even know where to begin to tell you in how many ways they ruined me. I really want to get out of here.
my sister has to repeat the word i love you to me atleast a couple of times everyday in a sarcastic deprecatory tone. if i ever have a girlfriend and she tells me i love you in bed its gonna be over . does this count as my family ruining my mental health?
Mental field is turning around after a period of blaming everything on the genetic factors and treating the symptoms with psycho drugs? Nah... who am I kidding?
Its unfortunate yet comforting many are alike to me. Mum was often literaly and emmotionally absent, leaving me to be raised by dad and his mom. I was happy without mom till dad had passed and now she's the one burdened. Didnt help i inherited most things and my mum was shunned. I still have to work with her as im still studying. Revenge has always been a driving force for me. Every achievement was to undermine her, with a small part to impress dad (though he always respected our intelligence and never had disdain for us as younger kids). Ive come to accept hatred as the way. Unfortunately, it is like severing a limb. The anticipation to her "execution" isnt pleasent.
Hey, so I feel like I don’t have a personality. Like I have a different face for everyone. When I look at myself at the end of the day, I can’t recognize myself, I think “Who am I, who is that person in the mirror, do I like pink? Do I like black? Do I like cats or dogs? I am body positive! But I need to lose weight, I am so ugly, but I’m in love with myself. My doctor says I might be bipolar, but I don’t meet the requirements. But I’m borderline from being diagnosed. I’m on antidepressants. But I’m not sad enough to where anyone actually cares enough to send me to a mental hospital. Every time I tell someone I need help it’s always, “ I’m not qualified to help you” or “ it’s just a phase” when I’ve been in this state of derealization for over 7 years now. I am actually so tired. I told my mom when I had a mental breakdown and… SH… and I told her, “ Mom. I’m tired. Can’t you see? I’m tired. I can’t handle being human, I can’t handle anything. I don’t even recognize myself.” And all she did was up my antidepressants.
Depression means that intelligent people do not yet have sufficient consciousness. Ignorance prevails in terms of recognizing family members and the body. Bad family members are thought to be good, the substances the body needs cannot be given to the body. Detailed information is in the book Flawless Things.
Schizophenia is totally different in the olden days they said it was from family upbringing which can be unfair just as they said Autism was mothers fault. Miss understandings about the illness can only make sufferers worse and worse carers. Schizophrenia I bet is gonna come our Genetic , psychiatric brain issue.The medical world science knows so little about these illnesses, and parenting should be taught in schools .
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"living at your parents is free but you pay with your mental health instead"
Fax lol i saved so much money but once I moved out my sense of purpose skyrocketed and my do bad things to myself thoughts went way down.
im currently going through that. im 25 addictive impulsive behaviour. Cant wait to move out. Took me way to long to realize.
@@jl6471exact same situation for me.. where are u from brotha!
Jesus christ this hits the nail on the head :(
I'm happier living alone and getting along with bare necessities than living in my parents home with more than enough commodities and physical comforts
This is exactly my relationship with my family. Being the youngest i have been infantilised all my life even now they never let me take a decision on my own i hate it so much but they literally will destroy my life if i don’t do exactly what they want. Moving out in 15 days and i could not be happier.
good luck
Good luck, I too am in that sort of situation but can't move out tho. What I hate is that my family didn't just let me make my own decisions but also downplays any ideas I have/had they would only support the things that are deemed to be successful to them, but wish I could've just run away yk
My situation is pretty much the same as yours, but without the moving out part. Hopefully will have a chance next year, wish me luck.
same. they've controlled me my whole life while also being emotionally neglectful and abusive. which is why I will not be guilt-tripped into thinking going no contact is a bad idea "because they're still family".
I hope to leave next year too. Best believe I will try. Godspeed❤
Better to be alone than with people that make you feel lonely, no matter who they are.
Solitude can be pretty enjoyable in the right company.
I've awakened to joy at a different tone for all I've loved I've loved alone .
story of my entire life
Why do I give valuable time, to ppl who don’t care i live or d.
I visit them maybe once a year, as I live abroad. Every single time I gotta be super careful not to have some sort of nervous breakdown. Strangely, on my own I'm a rather balanced person, but with them I regress to the role of angry teen.
I relate to this so hard. When I'm around other people I'm generally calm and collected and people say I have a really good temper but one word from my parents and I feel like i'm gonna explode or breakdown. It's like their presence makes me miserable.
@@NIL0S I can relate! For me it's about repressed emotions; Anger, disappointment, frustration, hurt, sorrow etc. Members of my family trigger/reactivate these mountains of repressed emotions, and I fight an internal war to act calm and not explode in a fit of rage. This internal war against my own emotions is like my inner child is being kicked repeatedly while lying helpless on the ground in a fetal position...
@@eastwood451i know exactly what u mean. idk what to do about it.
Besides the behaviour of your parents, being around your parents for most people will have them regress into a more childlike state. It happens more or less automatically and is quite hard to get out of.
@@davidd854 That’s why it’s best to leave. I move out in February. Going no contact. If I feel drained or like I’m about to have a mental breakdown EVERY time I talk to you. It wasn’t meant to be. I’m done with this sh*t and I’m done with them. You have to come to terms with your parents don’t love you. Not b/c of you but b/c they can’t love you. How daft do you have to be to be unable to notice your children are pulling away or are rejecting you? Most don’t see until they’re in that nursing home or hospital bed.
Literally last night I was talking with someone about how I love my mum but usually I don't want her to talk to me cause it causes alot of stress, this video came out at a weirdly good time for me
@@brainhem oh my god me too. It’s the worst, but because I feel immense guilt over it. At least for me, it’s not my mother’s fault. She’s just off. We both love each other obviously but I just can’t relax around her
@@Souptroop28 The guilt is part of FOG -- fear obligation guilt. Eggshell therapy has a good blogpost on it.
a cycle of generational trauma is some sort of hell a very few people tend to escape
Same she has expectations for me (college in particular) that I'm unsure i want to pursue and everytime I visit that's all she wants to discuss.
Obviously she just wants the best for me but it sucks that we can't just talk anymore without me getting stressed out lol.
I thought I was the problem, so came into addiction recovery at 19, was diagnosed with BPD, then CPTSD. I assumed that when I was 'better', then my family relationships would improve. The healthier I became, the harder it was to be in relationship with them. My parents did come to family therapy with me, but only to support me, and never showed interest in their own issues. I'm 29 now, a psychotherapist with a very successful career, and my family still see me as the problem. I have minimal contact, choose to spend Christmas alone- and couldn't be happier. The hardest part is letting go of the fantasy of who I wanted my family, my parents to be. Once I was able to let go of that (after many years)- I finally felt free.
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My mother and I get into these arguments, where she says things that hurt me or trigger me, so I then get to the point where I lose control and I'm enraged and yelling, then she plays the victim by acting like
I'm yelling for no reason when she caused it, or acts like I'm doing it on purpose. Then I start having chest pains, which of course she doesn't notice, she's bad for my health. And she never remembers(supposedly) the thing that she said that sent me over the edge.
@@lipstickandguitars73 damn me too it’s exactly this :(
This is actually ungodly timing, I usually don’t talk about my emotions with my dad, and we just had an unbelievably good conversation about how when I get super stressed over small things (I’m on the spectrum), it’s very hard for me to keep composure, and when I expected him to tell me that it’s a problem that I need to fix or else, we talked about what it’s like to spend every second of every day stressing over different stimuli, and he got a better understanding of why I act the way I do (sometimes rudely), it’s not because I intend to, it’s because I’m stressed and tired and can’t keep up a facade anymore
I have a similar experience, just not really good at articulating what makes being around people so difficult for me.
Bro started using EE like i remember what it means from the start of the video 😭😭
Me the entire video: "Dang, what does EE mean again? I know it's not electrical engineering. Fk, I just hope he says it again."
I think they don't mention what that is jajaja or is it Emotional expression?
Currently watching this in my old room at my parents house. Family arrives in half an hour. Nervous for no apparent reason like every year.
Reading the comments made me shed a tear but makes me feel understood.
I love you guys. Mary Christmas. We will get through this together ❤️
This is incredibly relatable. I’m now in college somewhere that’s an 18 hr drive away, and even during extreme stress like during finals I am still infinitely happier than when I’m home. I always feel myself start to relapse and I go back to being the irritable, angry person who cries at everything and lashes out; it’s even worse during the holidays because I hate my extended family for giving me debilitating abandonment issues - they usually validate them too (didn’t even show up to thanksgiving). I also always fall back into the horrible dynamic of codependency with my mother and constantly being antagonized by my father. And then when I feel sad about this family dynamic, I get filled with shame because other people have it so much worse than me and I’ve always been raised to discredit my feelings
You can't keep going to the hardware store looking for milk, when milk has never been something available at this hardware store.
Dang, love the analogy!
I deal with some mental illness/disorder in my family, and it's a struggle, to say the least, to live with it daily the way my family and I do. I feel that my parents and siblings need more help than they're currently getting, but if you have one parent who's arrogant and doesn't think we need help, and the other one has just given up on life and sits around all day doing nothing productive, then what is one to do in such an environment?
Potentially we can escape this environment we’re trapped in, if not tomorrow, eventually. I’m feeling the urge to move out grow stronger and stronger, and I believe I should act on it. I cannot control my mother’s behaviors, and my father is currently out of my life by my choice. I only have this life, so I’m going to start advocating for my own independence and health. I can be successful and love myself, and I won’t let parents be a drain for my soul and potential. Whatever situation you’re in, I have faith that a path to a healthy environment will reveal itself to you in time, and you’ll grow into that which you strive to be. Happy holidays my brother
@@raiylab You’re doing great bro keep it up
My favorite quote for this question of "what is one too do?" Is from the boondocks. Huey asks his grandfather "What do you do when you can't do nothing, but there's nothing you can do?"
His grandfather responded with
"You do what you can."
It will still make me smile to this day.
Leave.
damn, perfect timing
yeah, too spooky for me
@@PotatoCider yeah, feels like he know our lives.
@@PotatoCider i mean… clearly intentional :p
This time last year I was having panic attacks and a dissociative episode on Christmas Eve where I felt like my brain and my body weren’t connected. My dad said something about me to relatives that triggered me, and then a whole flood of memories and hollow sensations around this time of year from prior years came and I recognized that this has everything to do with why I feel like I can’t accept gifts from people or my issues with thinking that what I give the people I care about isn’t good enough. My whole self-value system was spotlight and as much as it hurt I think I needed to recognize the pain I was in. Last year I was completely sober for the first time in a long time, and I think that’s why I felt everything so intensely. The year before that I was the happy drunk at the family holiday parties, I didn’t realize how much I was leaning on substances to numb the feelings. I feel for anyone going through something like this, or dealing with their value system because of their upbringing.
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This is really what I needed to see right now, after literally having to see my entire family bloodline fall apart.
All I have is my youngest sisters, and their mom. And I need to stay strong and give them the happiness they deserve. I need to respect their growth.
I will be okay, we will all be okay. We will find a way to enjoy the holidays together. Merry Christmas guys. I love all of you.
Sorry to hear that :/ stay strong!
@@AkandeSTAR I’m sorry your biological family isn’t what you need, I hope you are able to rely on some chosen family members!!
6:12 why are family psychologists so reluctant to analyze power dynamics? This treatment method assumes that people are infinitely changeable, and that no one is fundamentally incompatible. Sometimes that best mental health treatment is a government subsidized apartment.
But also, this stems from looking at mental health with the same language as physical health: trying to improve it, and looking for certain outcomes.
This language obfuscates the fact that sometimes, people just need to leave. The situation with the lodges mentioned in the video is close to a government subsidized apartment, but I assume that it is it exactly like one.
At the end of the day, mental health is sometimes simply a socioeconomic problem, and we have to talk about how to make it possible for the person to live on their own.
Therapists do talk about getting a job, but I really wishes they would have emphasized the socioeconomic aspect of life, and made it clear what they will and will not do for a patient.
As someone who's pretty sure they're autistic, those 3 factors at 5:00 really hit hard for me. I reacted like the stick figure directly after the sequence.
I've been trying to work on my low self-esteem & borderline disturbing inner voice for years now, but rarely wondered where it came from until I noticed how much ahead of me my peers were in this regard- and how concerned they'd be by the thoughts I voiced aloud. It's a bit... embarrassing, paired with my open-book personality. I'd initially bash myself for being such a downer and "victimizing myself" as my mom says: "Why can't I just _be_ happy? I have these achievements & life is good atm, so... what's wrong with me?? Maybe this is why people don't wanna be around me."
But the truth is, most people rarely shared in my joy, or sadness, including my family. My feelings were often berated or looked at with confusion. It made me accustomed to going through them alone, bc I felt emotions "wrongly". It caused exactly what you stated. I'd say most of them weren't emotionally intelligent or mature either, which didn't help.
Anyways, I'm just ranting, but thanks for helping me find one of the last puzzle pieces of this dilemma.
my mom started a foundation that said just because your kid has mental health issues it doesn't mean it's your fault. it's true, and i'm proud of her for it. it's also hella self-serving and glosses over some things. even the nuance has nuance
YOu have no idea how much ive waited for this with the current state of my mental being at an all time low living with my family
Man what timing, just so happens that my mom and I had a really nasty argument and this makes realize again just how unequiped I am on coping with emotions or different stimuli and how much talking to my mom stresses or frustrates me, thanks for the video
The invalidation from my family during childhood is a reason why I never fully enjoyed it. Their trauma seeped into my head. I see my friends how my parents saw me which is why my friendships never last long. I didn't want to think that way but being in a family like that it's brainwash and that's why i became schizophrenic and ocd to try escaping it. I'll never be the same. Therapy only helps temporarily. I'll never be okay. That doesn't stop me from trying though. I still remember faint memories of when before I became "brainwashed". I see pain and joy. As I grew it just became too numerous to handle. Pain and joy became convoluted in trauma which restricted me from being truly happy. Therapy is there to help me escape from myself to heal. Idk if i will ever heal, but the distraction helps me form new experiences outside the trauma and gives new light. It's hard to heal from trauma when you live with your trauma. You have to face it, but as psychology suggests to heal from it you do it little by litttle. In a family you're always exposed lot by lot. Healthy therapeutic escapism is the only way to live somewhat happy and seem normal before you escape through reality by moving out and be able to actually be normal.
Italian here. Trieste is pronounced "Tre-a-sta", and also in the region of Veneto there is a 24-7 call center with psychologists that helps people in need!
i've only recently noticed as I got older that my mother seldom lets me finish my sentences
Yes
I have a small family already and on top of that either mental illness or addiction+mental illness on one side. The lack of drive and lack of self awareness that I have to go through day in and day out, and the shitty parts of their personalities I’m absorbing through sheer osmosis is quite literally suffocating me.
I would go in the military, but that’s after I finish my graduate degree in 2 years. Life sucks rn man, especially considering I have a couple family members that aren’t insufferable to be around are thousands of miles away.
please never stop making such comforting and beautiful videos, sisyphus
crazy how this was released a couple days before my mom stopped talking to me completely and acts as if i don't exist whiling living in the same house. on day 5 now :)
0:58 I'm sorry to point this out. The George Brown portrait here is about the Canadian politician, not the British sociologist. 😭
omg and it seems that the real one is still alive hahaha
@@AngelicaGuaroPerdomo ikr? 😄
This video has given me so much food for thought!! Thanks for sharing these ideas.
I was caregiver to my elderly dad for a really long time, and only counseling and self reflection have helped me realize that so much of our interpersonal stress was a result of both our struggles with expressed emotion. Not sure, but I don’t think either one of us understood how much our assumptions about what counted as normal would make it more difficult to connect and communicate. I remember being really stuck in EOI, feeling that it was the only way to exist because his dementia and generally oblivious , defiantly self sufficient outlook were combining in ways that put him in physical peril far more often than he was able to acknowledge. It’s taken me a long time to find a more balanced sense of perspective.
I'm gonna comment before watching the video. My family ask me where I'm at, where I'll be over Christmas, and I avoid any familial interaction like it's the black plague. The Christmas period is the most stressful for me due to the gravity of family. They all hate each-other, but Christmas is the only time they will entertain the time within each others presence, and it's always, 100% bad. The pain it is to distance myself during the period when they are trying to come together outweighs the effort in that moment to suffer through being with family during the holidays.
I Envy anyone who enjoys their family, genuinely cherish it for more than what it means to you, because for some family is nothing to what your experience is.
Thank you!
I've had a tough year exactly because of this, and even moved out abruptly in September. Even though the relationship with my family had become incredibly toxic again, I still mourn the loss of what once was community to me.
Today was particularly bad.
Understanding helps the feeling of Isolation wane a bit.
This helped me heal a bit, thank you.
Before I watch this let me answer. Yes.
Perfect timing. Sometimes I feel like a bad person because my parents irritate me even with the smallest things or trying to be nice. I just turned 18 and got pretty much every year of my life during my breaks I've been essentially made to travel. I guess I don't HAVE to go, but my dad will make me feel guilty if I don't (or just won't listen and order the tickets before I can say anything, so not going would mean wasting money.) It'd be one thing if I was going to resorts or sightseeing, but I just go to my families house and stay there for days on end, sometimes weeks... at home I'd have a car to go places, a computer to play games or watch things, and friends spend time with, but none of those things are there so it's either sit in the guest room or try to spend most of the day talking to family but I can only talk about so much...
My father works two hours away and stays in a different apartment, and he comes home on weekends or during holidays. I love him but I can't help but say that he annoys me in a way no one else does and I feel bad. I like to relax during my breaks, I'd like to go out with friends or go on drives or see my partner, but when he's home, he asks way too many questions about it or just says no. So, I sit in my room most of the day trying to "salvage" some time where I can truly feel at ease. He'll call me lazy for spending so much time in my room and constantly find reasons to knock on my door, making it impossible to actually do anything requiring more than 10 minutes of commitment...
I love my family but at this age spending time with them is difficult... we don't share common ground on most things (I have a middle eastern background but was raised here, I am essentially American), and Arab culture is very family based. It's not that my dads mean, he'll just guilt me if I don't do everything he wants me to do... no dad I don't want to spend every weekend moving random shit or doing yardwork... god forbid I made my own plans because he will straight make them for me lol
Feeling this way feels pretentious but i don't have such an attitude with anyone else, I mean after all he has spent all this effort and time raising me, so not helping makes me feel bad... I also can't expect them to not ask me to do anything and I'm struggling to find what the middle ground is or just how to have it stop annoying me so badly because it starts to show in my body language and I feel bad. it's become a cycle where:
- Having to do something for them/go somewhere makes me feel like I'm missing out on the things I want to do (I truly cannot see friends when my dad is home, ever)
- I withdraw away from them to try and enjoy time alone (next best thing if I can't see friends or my partner)
- they call my name or knock again, probably to ask me to do something they could easily have done, probably faster than getting me and making me do it
And it just goes on and on like that forever I feel... only after 10:00 can I even put both earbuds in lol...
The timing is criminal
i just hate my family.
theyve invalidated me and constantly put me in more and more dangerous situations that directly cause me to physically almost die. i still have years before i can leave this environment although; i do want to stop this generational trauma for both me and my children in the future, atleast i hope. thank you, merry christmas sisyphus.
@@hajebde8282 to forgive is divine
@ forgive, not forget.
Family ruins my mind no more than the internet, the economy, the politics, the society, the universe and the my own mind
Your video exposes how important research led, child centered, Early Childhood Education is to helping children find ways of coping and building resilience.
I'm not a person who really regrets his life decisions but the one thing I would for sure do differently if I were to go back in time would be moving out earlier. I lived with my parents well into my 20s and I only noticed how destructive for my mental health it was since living alone for quite some time and starting therapy
As someone with bpd and has a parent that is bipolar, most likely schizo and a lot more things
This hits hard. You show how things like this happen and that’s somewhat comforting because I personally had a hard time knowing exactly what things from my youth were related to mental issues. The infantilisation even into adulthood and always being told me and my siblings do everything wrong was the final bit that probably broke us while growing up
Your videos have a immensely calming effect on me.
Thank you for your hard work
It may have been but my brother abandoned me the first time I had a manic episode. People don’t truly care for mental health when it’s raw and they have to look at it, people just stand and cheer from a distance empty vacuous pleasantries “it isn’t weak to speak!” 🙄 you speak and you get left on read. Protect yourself and your mind, no one is out here to protect it for you unfortunately, just taking more axes to a whittled tree
Agreed.
This is really cool. I had a friend a few years ago who I believe experienced bpd. Her mom had autism as well as depression, and always criticized my friends expression in her childhood. My friend also struggles with autism, and depression while I knew them. I'm glad I understand how it works together now, and know that there are ways to do better. Thank you.
Yes. The solution is:
- to walk away
- assertively enforce boundaries
- employ grey rock or no contact
unless either: your relatives come to your house without your input. OR your parents demand you go to the relatives house, with no wiggle room.
you can't walk away if there's nowhere to walk. you can't enforce boundaries if there is no punishment for breaking them, and you can't avoid contact if the contact is unavoidable.
in all other scenarios, though, they are 3 pretty good points.
this really describes me. i dont suffer from any mental illness (or at least, i think so), i am just an anxious person. my anxiety was always underestimated by my parents, they always said "feeling anxious is useless", especially when i was about 11-12, where i had very high anxiety, that really impacted on my understanding of my feelings. i have a better understanding now, i learned by myself. i also feel very judged when i talk to them about my feelings, interests and stuff like that, so i always avoid to talk about it.
I can't wait to move out of my house, even if i have to wait 5-6 years
I went home and took the train back to uni 2 days later. It’s my first year being away from home and i already seem to hate being back.
So much so that I spent christmas alone, and was okay with it
Christmas is a time for love, family, togetherness. I love the time we spend together listening to my parents take passive aggressive jabs at their children and each other. I love when close family friends come over and the masks come up as we all act like a happy family. I love how palpable the contempt for each other is as we sit around the fireplace sipping hot coco. If you are young and full of fear, guilt, and insecurities like I was, get out quick. It will not get better, the longer you hesitate the harder it becomes.
It's tough because I want to be able to spend time with my close family but a certain family member has mentally abused and used me my entire childhood up until I was in my early 20's to the point that I have a hard time even being around family closely associated with them. The person in question obviously has undiagnosed mental issues like Narcissism and even possibly Paranoid Schizophrenia but at the end of the day you can't excuse it.
I've tried my entire life to care for this person and rationalize everything but the hardest lesson was understanding that I just don't have any emotional attachment towards them. Not only does this hit close to home but puts in perspective to me how ridiculous all the other issues were on top of these.
To anyone who reads this I wish them well during these trying times and want you to know that it can get better. It feels good to reflect on how far you've come along from your past traumas and I hope you all are able to push through the darkness so you too can feel that satisfaction.
Is your family ruining your mental health?
Me: When they celebrate christmas, yes.
To be honest sometimes my parents fight about money issues or cheating every time it not only my health but it bothers my head 24/7 and think negatively or cause me turmoil.
My whole life I always thought I lack something fundamental compared to others my age since I was a child. Something minor would push me to the brink of meltdown and everyone else (mostly families) will just think I'm strange and have unstable emotions to begin with and just let me be. I just find it hard to blend in with other play-mates. I had always find my dynamic with my families (parents and siblings) weird. At one side, I felt like I am never comfortable with my own families and in some cases I loathe them, but on the other side, they never really acted antagonistic toward me so I always felt like a 'bad kid' for lashing out at any different time.
Finding an answer to this puzzle has always been why I'm interested in philosophy books and content, and observes people around me. It has always been a struggle, because most of my friends either have a harmonious family (which couldn't relate to my problem at all) or have a broken home situation (which is too drastic to relate to my case). The part with Criticism and Hospitality is relate-able but mentioning Emotional Over-Involvement really ticks the right box for me to trace what my problem has always been with my family. Also reading Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman helps me realize what I have been missing on since childhood that moulded some of my behavior until now.
Anyway, I really thank you for creating this kind of video. I've been following for years and I always felt like home listening and learning from you!
I don’t even need to watch the video to say ‘yes’ been a lot better since I moved out. Still love them
I like the style and delivery - great job
Free Therapy doesn't work if there is nothing "wrong" in the family. Why do you need to seek treatment, if nothing is wrong.
You can solve the issue by moving away, but the solution only lasts as long as you avoid the issue. It's like beating an addiction. As soon as the conditions are the same, you fall back into the addiction. Is there a way of beating this vicious cycle? I belive so, I just haven't found it yet.
Bro- My best friend just sent this to me. I don’t know how to feel: I’m this close to laughing and crying right now. Love ya, Girlie😭
This. I always felt weird about having to like my parents because of how they treated me in my childhood and even now. My own family and society is making me the villain in all of it for not being the perfect rock personality that does everything as my family says. I hated it, this the reason Im still in therapy and even then I still can't explain whats wrong with me. There's always a voice, worrying that I do something wrong when doing something that my parents conceive as wrong
There’s a difference between love and attachment
I'm the italian guy who is gonna tell you that Trieste is pronounced Tree-est-eh
Dutch guy here who was about to say the same :P
The thing about mental illness is you can't really understand it unless you lived through it yourself, also people usually tend to separate physiology from psychology while the nervous system is in fact very physical, and psychosomatic symptoms may be very rampant. They either treat it like some average virus which will wear off in like 1-2 weeks, or they simply say "you're just being lazy, go to work and you won't have the time to stress out" not realising how destructive lines like this are. Not to mention the older generation tends to be quite invasive basically multiplying the sense of anxiety, it's like you are under surveillance.
Kinda sad how your loved ones may accidentally become your downfall, children are bound to wear insecurities of their parents in tenfold manner.
Very insightful!
Okay okay but WHY are bro’s timings always so on point ??
This hit a bit too hard and I’m not even done w the video… invalidated so much I’m questioning how hard it even hit 😂😂😂
yeah i love my parents but everytime i'm around them i feel so emotionally exhausted
I feel physically exhausted around them.
Finally, a video that relates to me AND makes me cry
definitely. unfortunately there's nothing i can do to escape this
I am being smothered by my parents. They give me everything I want and everything I need, but it just makes me feel awful.
6:14 maybe but if its narcissism it can do more harm then good :(
Couldn't be timed more perfect to be on my feed
I behave like someone with an avoidant attachment style when around family but never around my friends
just with the title yes, I hate my family and they hate me
I have been trying to escape them for 12 years now but have been sabotaged at every opportunity.
My answer: Yes, it is! At least it was until I moved out. And I will NEVER go back!!!
An insanely timed video.
It never goes out of fashion!
I wish my english was better to understand your video properly.
I feel relieved knowing that I'm not the only one having struggles with family which ruins my mental health ( I know I'm horrible).
My parents ruin my health and says I'm acting when I go crazy. While all of the time they are wrong, they say it's me. I was never enough to them even though compared to most of the people I know, I'm so much better ( for me). I had the ability to study well, which was one of the only things I was good at. My parents gave me mental illnesses and now I can't study either. I've lost my skills and now my school days are over. And they are blaming me and shaming me for that. I don't even know where to begin to tell you in how many ways they ruined me. I really want to get out of here.
Bro it will get better. Keep working on yourself and keep fighting.
What to do in a world which is only for digital relations. How does one live in a world more and more distant? I’m barely a person anymore…
Yes
my sister has to repeat the word i love you to me atleast a couple of times everyday in a sarcastic deprecatory tone. if i ever have a girlfriend and she tells me i love you in bed its gonna be over . does this count as my family ruining my mental health?
Literally travelled back home for the holidays today. Impeccable timing.
Watching this while my family is yelling at each other hits different. lmao.
Mental field is turning around after a period of blaming everything on the genetic factors and treating the symptoms with psycho drugs? Nah... who am I kidding?
My family was, luckly, after grew a little bit, i can handle it alone
Its unfortunate yet comforting many are alike to me. Mum was often literaly and emmotionally absent, leaving me to be raised by dad and his mom. I was happy without mom till dad had passed and now she's the one burdened. Didnt help i inherited most things and my mum was shunned. I still have to work with her as im still studying.
Revenge has always been a driving force for me. Every achievement was to undermine her, with a small part to impress dad (though he always respected our intelligence and never had disdain for us as younger kids). Ive come to accept hatred as the way. Unfortunately, it is like severing a limb. The anticipation to her "execution" isnt pleasent.
Super well timed, lol. we will get thru this 🙏
Woah, a mini documentary about my family.
its hard to have care and sympathy for family that destroys your mental health. leaving leaves you feeling healthy but guilty for the abadonement.
I Love you Sisyphus55.
I wish you a lovely christmas time.
wish i couldve seen this sooner to understand why im such a mess
Hey, so I feel like I don’t have a personality. Like I have a different face for everyone. When I look at myself at the end of the day, I can’t recognize myself, I think “Who am I, who is that person in the mirror, do I like pink? Do I like black? Do I like cats or dogs? I am body positive! But I need to lose weight, I am so ugly, but I’m in love with myself. My doctor says I might be bipolar, but I don’t meet the requirements. But I’m borderline from being diagnosed. I’m on antidepressants. But I’m not sad enough to where anyone actually cares enough to send me to a mental hospital. Every time I tell someone I need help it’s always, “ I’m not qualified to help you” or “ it’s just a phase” when I’ve been in this state of derealization for over 7 years now. I am actually so tired. I told my mom when I had a mental breakdown and… SH… and I told her, “ Mom. I’m tired. Can’t you see? I’m tired. I can’t handle being human, I can’t handle anything. I don’t even recognize myself.” And all she did was up my antidepressants.
Yes. I will start watching the video now.
Ha, my own Mother's been dead for a quarter-century and she's STILL ruining my mental health.
i’ve run away from home at 19.. haven’t been happier!!
Depression means that intelligent people do not yet have sufficient consciousness. Ignorance prevails in terms of recognizing family members and the body. Bad family members are thought to be good, the substances the body needs cannot be given to the body. Detailed information is in the book Flawless Things.
Yes, the answer is yes
music at 5:55?
my first word after seeing the title (is your family ruining your mental health) was.......YESS
“A man’s enemies are the members of his own household.”
-Micah 7:6
Schizophenia is totally different in the olden days they said it was from family upbringing which can be unfair just as they said Autism was mothers fault. Miss understandings about the illness can only make sufferers worse and worse carers. Schizophrenia I bet is gonna come our Genetic , psychiatric brain issue.The medical world science knows so little about these illnesses, and parenting should be taught in schools .
Beeing the youngest is like beeing the target for everyones problems so yes this video is super accurate
all of these things always say "there is no manual on how to raise a family"
well, we sort of have one now. this is it. we are building it. ?????
I feel bad for even thinking about this but it’s true.
watching this from my childhood bedroom on holiday as we speak :/
Yes. I cannot afford to move out either.