What’s your relationship with alcohol? Have you ever quit? Have you ever done back after drinking? What’s the culture of drink like in your country? Let’s chat ❤️
I am from Canada and I relate so so much to everything you say. It’s normal to start young. I didn’t drink until 19 though.Not often but when I did it, it was in excess. Lost my first kiss because of it :(. Lots of high highs and low lows. I have been sober for 20 days and know in my heart it’s time to give it up. I am a half Irish and my mom and her parents were alcoholics I thank god every day that my mom quit before I was born. God has better plans for us. Hopefully I will find new friends who will adopt the same mindset ❤
I’m so happy for you for staying strong for a whole year! I don’t drink much since my binge drinking uni days. But I like the social aspect of going to the pub; so I’ll trial a sober night next time and stick to cranberry juice to see if I can get the best of both. Before I started drinking, as a teen I used to get second hand drunk from just being around drunks. Feels like you can still let go and have fun because everyone else is?!
I'm glad I never started drinking. It was just luck, my parents don't and my friend group at school didn't (Germany and female btw). Even though we didn't ever really talk about it my mindset was always similar to how yours is now. By never starting I saw it all from the outside and just thought "... but why". I'm in my early 20s now and quite happy to see that most people around me, friends from uni, are naturally drinking less and less as well even when they drank regularly before
I know Ireland is even more intense with it’s drinking culture but here in the US almost *every* social outting has drinking or there is drinking after it (if you do something active, well - time to hit the breweries up later). I think people in their late teens and 20’s are changing the tide of normalizing healthier drinking habits. ❤
Yes the culture is the exact same here! 😭 it’s so exhausting and from that reason alone you can see why so many people find themselves drinking from peer pressure alone but yes we are most definitely slowly but surely changing the tide 🥹❤️
I've been sober more than 20 years now. Like yourself, I wasn't an alcoholic, but I was definitely a problem drinker. It got to a point where I was severely underweight, my skin was the wrong colour, and I likely would've died. But you know what they say about when you hit rock bottom. So I made a decision - it was time to quit. Now, so many years on, I can have a drink and know that it will only be that one drink. Even so, it's a very rare occurrence. I'm much better off without alcohol. I also gave up smoking about six years after I quit drinking. Best two decisions I've ever made, not only for how it affected my life and those around me, but also for how it made me feel, and how amazing my body and health have felt since.
This is such a great video Jessie! I was wondering if you’ve decided to stay completely sober if you’re going to have a little bit here and there now? I fully get you. I’m from England and it’s the same vibe with the drinking culture. I started drinking to be absolutely hammered as a teenager and rarely wouldn’t binge drink if I drank. I’ve had some terrible moments of being way too drunk over the years, so for the last couple I’ve been really careful. There are months where I don’t drink- the last time that was because I had a really scary hangover after only two drinks. I discovered that red wine caused that so I’ll not drink that now. I’ll normally only ever have 1 or 2 drinks when I do. I just don’t feel the need to though, even with others drinking. Now I also just really dislike the feeling of being very drunk anyway.
Love this! I drank once at a party when I was 16, it made me burst into tears completely unprompted when I was previously having so much fun sober, mind you I do have adhd and have struggled with mental health issues, which I know alcohol doesn’t help with! That was the only time I drank, fast forward to 18 and I have no interest in drinking whatsoever and am passionate about living a healthy lifestyle and gaining more stability in my life and I know that alcohol would probably just hinder this self improvement journey. I’m so glad I didn’t follow the crowd on this one, I’ve had to learn to socialise well on my own (it’s not always easy), and I know I can have so so much fun without it. I’m so proud of anyone who is reducing/quitting alcohol, as you said, it is quite literally a poison of sorts! :)
In the past 6 months I've been significantly reducing the amount and the frequency at which I drink and I definitely feel a positive impact from it. It can be quite tough though when you've been brought up in such a normalised drinking culture and every social event / outing involves alcohol (I'm from Scotland!). Great video - I'm currently doing dry january and I am considering keeping alcohol cut out completely for another few months!!
I made the decision to stop drinking for 6 months to a year in 2024. I do not drink often, but when I do it is in social situations and I binge drink to the point of not remembering the night. I have so much anxiety the next and I will be in tears, and towards the end of the night when I am drinking I will have a mental breakdown. I tried to stop drinking for 3 months back in 2021, but it did not last 2 months. Honestly I am feeling so much more focused on making it to 12 months sober this year, and hoping that it will save me time, money, and my mental health.
When I drink sometimes I get heart palpitations and anxiety. I only usually have one drink but even that is a lot sometimes. I wonder if it’s the type of alcohol or if I should just give it up completely. Do you think you’ll ever drink again in moderation?
This is what made me stop just over 2 years ago! One of the best things I’ve managed to do! it was affecting my anxiety levels that much and anxiety medications that much that the negative effects just outweigh even two or three drinks! Genuine Miss drinking alcohol!
I feel for you with the hangovers. People don’t understand how bad my hangovers are, I can handle a few drinks but any more then I spend nearly two days being sick and then it takes a week for my stomach to go back to normal, it’s brutal. So I rarely drink, if I do it’s only a couple not even enough to get drunk.
I lived in ireland for 4 years, and i kinda saw the drinking culture there, and i blamed my lowkey alcoholism on it at the time, eventho the hungarian drinking culture i came from is the same if not worse. Looking back at it now, i can see that drinking was a part of masking my insecurity, i was very young, lived far from everyone i knew apart from my ex who was very abusive, im an introvert anyway but that 4 years really took a toll on me. Since i moved back home to hungary 2 years ago and broke up with my ex, and since I'm in a healthy relationship i barely feel the need to drink. If i do, i do it for the taste, one or two g&ts here and there. I dont lose control anymore, i dont lose days to hangover. Its a better life, i dont feel the need to mask anything and i actually feel like im more fun when im sober.
i do not have the same opinion about alcohol, but i agree that when you drink in excess of course it's not good for your health. in romania it is very normal to drink from a young age (even tho it's not legal before 18) and people can also brew their own alcohol at home - wine, țuică, pălincă, rachiu and vișinată are the most popular - if they have what is necesarry to do so. i am happy that you could quit drinking if it was bad for you and congratulate you for that. also, day drinking is very normal and casual here. i started drinking at 16 -i am 21 now- and have not quit or want to because my relationship with alcohol is not bad (it was at one point but it got a lot better)
A good excuse when people are pressuring too much and you're tired of explaining is either "I'm driving tonight / tomorrow morning" or "I can't cos of some medication (like pain killers or whatever)". mostly, people stop asking then :)
I am curious, what do you think if someone is drinking but never getting drunk just tipsy and not really doing anything that crazy? Btw congrats on your journey💗
I was very similar, I wouldn't drink heaps, But I still found myself forming an unhealthy habit. I wasn't liked much in school but would go to house parties once graduated and I found people liked me more when I was drunk, and my social anxiety was eased. But the hangover would also bring up a lot of my depression and I'd just feel awful the next day with anxiety. So I decided after a few years, it was probably best to stop. I don't know how Australia compares to Ireland, but the drinking culture is a lot here. It's normal to have a few beers with dinner and then get drunk every weekend, and if you don't, people judge you for it. The amount of times I've been questioned is gross. It doesn't matter what someone's reasoning is, people shouldn't pressure others to drink. And I also found I lost a lot of friends but anyone who is only around you for alcohol, isn't a real friend.
Drinking is very common the state I live in so I understand the difficulty. In breaking free from the culture of every activity ending at the pub 15:33 at
I did some months without drinking in 2023, but for now my goal is not to not drink at all, but to never drink more than a few glasses (like 1-3), so I'm still quite in control of myself
i just prefer not drinking and i have much more fun going out sober than the latter. it's just so sad though that people literally judge me so much for not drinking alcohol.
I have never been an alcoholic per se, but there was a period of time where I drank more than I thought I was… back then I lived in Amsterdam and people there be drinking in the park during the day 😂 and I’m also one of those who suffer from hangovers pretty badly, if I got drunk. I’d be throwing up for hours in the morning, and that was the dealbreaker for me after a few times. So I basically didn’t drink for a year or so. Now I drink socially, or just a little bit by myself occasionally, but I stop at tipsy if that. As long as I don’t get drunk, I’m generally fine the next day. So I let myself have a drink or two slowly if it’s there, but I don’t need alcohol to have fun or be fun! Also, absolutely no hard spirits 😅
I didn’t drink for 3 years, decided to start socially drinking to socialize. It went fine at first now I think I really don’t know how much I need to drink to get a bit tipsy but not to go overboard. So I think I will try again to stop doing it and also alcohol is a huge depressant
Yeah it’s so easy to go past that point! It also happens SO quickly and so many factors come into it like have you eaten etc so it’s such a fine line 😭 if you’ve done it once before you most definitely can do it again! ❤️
Seemed impossible, but it’s been over 2 years and I don’t crave a drop of alcohol, the key difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal, not even within the first 30 days, just happened after go’ogling Steffon Barkloads Quit Drinking Forever and genuinely quitting because I was a mess.
What’s your relationship with alcohol? Have you ever quit? Have you ever done back after drinking? What’s the culture of drink like in your country? Let’s chat ❤️
I am from Canada and I relate so so much to everything you say. It’s normal to start young. I didn’t drink until 19 though.Not often but when I did it, it was in excess. Lost my first kiss because of it :(. Lots of high highs and low lows. I have been sober for 20 days and know in my heart it’s time to give it up. I am a half Irish and my mom and her parents were alcoholics I thank god every day that my mom quit before I was born. God has better plans for us. Hopefully I will find new friends who will adopt the same mindset ❤
I’m so happy for you for staying strong for a whole year! I don’t drink much since my binge drinking uni days. But I like the social aspect of going to the pub; so I’ll trial a sober night next time and stick to cranberry juice to see if I can get the best of both. Before I started drinking, as a teen I used to get second hand drunk from just being around drunks. Feels like you can still let go and have fun because everyone else is?!
I'm glad I never started drinking. It was just luck, my parents don't and my friend group at school didn't (Germany and female btw). Even though we didn't ever really talk about it my mindset was always similar to how yours is now. By never starting I saw it all from the outside and just thought "... but why". I'm in my early 20s now and quite happy to see that most people around me, friends from uni, are naturally drinking less and less as well even when they drank regularly before
I know Ireland is even more intense with it’s drinking culture but here in the US almost *every* social outting has drinking or there is drinking after it (if you do something active, well - time to hit the breweries up later). I think people in their late teens and 20’s are changing the tide of normalizing healthier drinking habits. ❤
Yes the culture is the exact same here! 😭 it’s so exhausting and from that reason alone you can see why so many people find themselves drinking from peer pressure alone but yes we are most definitely slowly but surely changing the tide 🥹❤️
I've been sober more than 20 years now. Like yourself, I wasn't an alcoholic, but I was definitely a problem drinker. It got to a point where I was severely underweight, my skin was the wrong colour, and I likely would've died. But you know what they say about when you hit rock bottom. So I made a decision - it was time to quit. Now, so many years on, I can have a drink and know that it will only be that one drink. Even so, it's a very rare occurrence. I'm much better off without alcohol. I also gave up smoking about six years after I quit drinking. Best two decisions I've ever made, not only for how it affected my life and those around me, but also for how it made me feel, and how amazing my body and health have felt since.
This is such a great video Jessie! I was wondering if you’ve decided to stay completely sober if you’re going to have a little bit here and there now?
I fully get you. I’m from England and it’s the same vibe with the drinking culture. I started drinking to be absolutely hammered as a teenager and rarely wouldn’t binge drink if I drank. I’ve had some terrible moments of being way too drunk over the years, so for the last couple I’ve been really careful. There are months where I don’t drink- the last time that was because I had a really scary hangover after only two drinks. I discovered that red wine caused that so I’ll not drink that now. I’ll normally only ever have 1 or 2 drinks when I do. I just don’t feel the need to though, even with others drinking. Now I also just really dislike the feeling of being very drunk anyway.
Love this! I drank once at a party when I was 16, it made me burst into tears completely unprompted when I was previously having so much fun sober, mind you I do have adhd and have struggled with mental health issues, which I know alcohol doesn’t help with! That was the only time I drank, fast forward to 18 and I have no interest in drinking whatsoever and am passionate about living a healthy lifestyle and gaining more stability in my life and I know that alcohol would probably just hinder this self improvement journey. I’m so glad I didn’t follow the crowd on this one, I’ve had to learn to socialise well on my own (it’s not always easy), and I know I can have so so much fun without it. I’m so proud of anyone who is reducing/quitting alcohol, as you said, it is quite literally a poison of sorts! :)
In the past 6 months I've been significantly reducing the amount and the frequency at which I drink and I definitely feel a positive impact from it. It can be quite tough though when you've been brought up in such a normalised drinking culture and every social event / outing involves alcohol (I'm from Scotland!). Great video - I'm currently doing dry january and I am considering keeping alcohol cut out completely for another few months!!
I made the decision to stop drinking for 6 months to a year in 2024. I do not drink often, but when I do it is in social situations and I binge drink to the point of not remembering the night. I have so much anxiety the next and I will be in tears, and towards the end of the night when I am drinking I will have a mental breakdown. I tried to stop drinking for 3 months back in 2021, but it did not last 2 months. Honestly I am feeling so much more focused on making it to 12 months sober this year, and hoping that it will save me time, money, and my mental health.
Congrats Jessie, proud of you and glad you are doing well
When I drink sometimes I get heart palpitations and anxiety. I only usually have one drink but even that is a lot sometimes. I wonder if it’s the type of alcohol or if I should just give it up completely. Do you think you’ll ever drink again in moderation?
This is what made me stop just over 2 years ago! One of the best things I’ve managed to do! it was affecting my anxiety levels that much and anxiety medications that much that the negative effects just outweigh even two or three drinks! Genuine Miss drinking alcohol!
Hi my lovely Jessie, how are you?
Thank you for sharing your story, you and Melanie are some of my comfort RUclipsrs! xx
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I’m good lovely how’re you? 🥹 your support is more appreciated than you’ll ever know! 😭❤️
@@JessieB98 I'm glad you're good lovely. I'm okay thank you, going through it though 😔💔😭 Ofc, been supporting you for years and always will 😃💕
I feel for you with the hangovers. People don’t understand how bad my hangovers are, I can handle a few drinks but any more then I spend nearly two days being sick and then it takes a week for my stomach to go back to normal, it’s brutal.
So I rarely drink, if I do it’s only a couple not even enough to get drunk.
Congratulation, Jessie!🎉
I lived in ireland for 4 years, and i kinda saw the drinking culture there, and i blamed my lowkey alcoholism on it at the time, eventho the hungarian drinking culture i came from is the same if not worse. Looking back at it now, i can see that drinking was a part of masking my insecurity, i was very young, lived far from everyone i knew apart from my ex who was very abusive, im an introvert anyway but that 4 years really took a toll on me. Since i moved back home to hungary 2 years ago and broke up with my ex, and since I'm in a healthy relationship i barely feel the need to drink. If i do, i do it for the taste, one or two g&ts here and there. I dont lose control anymore, i dont lose days to hangover. Its a better life, i dont feel the need to mask anything and i actually feel like im more fun when im sober.
i do not have the same opinion about alcohol, but i agree that when you drink in excess of course it's not good for your health. in romania it is very normal to drink from a young age (even tho it's not legal before 18) and people can also brew their own alcohol at home - wine, țuică, pălincă, rachiu and vișinată are the most popular - if they have what is necesarry to do so. i am happy that you could quit drinking if it was bad for you and congratulate you for that. also, day drinking is very normal and casual here. i started drinking at 16 -i am 21 now- and have not quit or want to because my relationship with alcohol is not bad (it was at one point but it got a lot better)
A good excuse when people are pressuring too much and you're tired of explaining is either "I'm driving tonight / tomorrow morning" or "I can't cos of some medication (like pain killers or whatever)". mostly, people stop asking then :)
I am curious, what do you think if someone is drinking but never getting drunk just tipsy and not really doing anything that crazy? Btw congrats on your journey💗
Congrats Jessie
I was very similar, I wouldn't drink heaps, But I still found myself forming an unhealthy habit. I wasn't liked much in school but would go to house parties once graduated and I found people liked me more when I was drunk, and my social anxiety was eased. But the hangover would also bring up a lot of my depression and I'd just feel awful the next day with anxiety. So I decided after a few years, it was probably best to stop.
I don't know how Australia compares to Ireland, but the drinking culture is a lot here. It's normal to have a few beers with dinner and then get drunk every weekend, and if you don't, people judge you for it. The amount of times I've been questioned is gross. It doesn't matter what someone's reasoning is, people shouldn't pressure others to drink. And I also found I lost a lot of friends but anyone who is only around you for alcohol, isn't a real friend.
Drinking is very common the state I live in so I understand the difficulty. In breaking free from the culture of every activity ending at the pub 15:33 at
I did some months without drinking in 2023, but for now my goal is not to not drink at all, but to never drink more than a few glasses (like 1-3), so I'm still quite in control of myself
Do fabletics deliver direct to Ireland yet?
i just prefer not drinking and i have much more fun going out sober than the latter. it's just so sad though that people literally judge me so much for not drinking alcohol.
I have never been an alcoholic per se, but there was a period of time where I drank more than I thought I was… back then I lived in Amsterdam and people there be drinking in the park during the day 😂 and I’m also one of those who suffer from hangovers pretty badly, if I got drunk. I’d be throwing up for hours in the morning, and that was the dealbreaker for me after a few times. So I basically didn’t drink for a year or so. Now I drink socially, or just a little bit by myself occasionally, but I stop at tipsy if that. As long as I don’t get drunk, I’m generally fine the next day. So I let myself have a drink or two slowly if it’s there, but I don’t need alcohol to have fun or be fun! Also, absolutely no hard spirits 😅
I didn’t drink for 3 years, decided to start socially drinking to socialize. It went fine at first now I think I really don’t know how much I need to drink to get a bit tipsy but not to go overboard. So I think I will try again to stop doing it and also alcohol is a huge depressant
Yeah it’s so easy to go past that point! It also happens SO quickly and so many factors come into it like have you eaten etc so it’s such a fine line 😭 if you’ve done it once before you most definitely can do it again! ❤️
Seemed impossible, but it’s been over 2 years and I don’t crave a drop of alcohol, the key difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal, not even within the first 30 days, just happened after go’ogling Steffon Barkloads Quit Drinking Forever and genuinely quitting because I was a mess.
Just love your honesty 💕💕💕
Thank you angel!🥹 hope you’re keeping well!🥹✨