I am a straight, cisgender, 70 year old woman and I can't imagine being alienated by anything you might say. I find your channel to be informative, heartwarming and funny.
As a straight listener committed to this pod…I LOVE when Ashley gets indignant about us being here. 😂 You guys are amazing and I’m happy I found this family.
Hi from south Africa. I decided to tell a friend of mine how I felt. The friendship ended. I am still glad that I took a shot. This was last year November, listening to you guys reminded me of that.
I really appreciated your discussion on friendship. I know that for me, it was one of the toughest lessons as I moved from being a teen to adulthood - you can downgrade a friendship, you can move away from a friendship without it being the end of the world, you need to learn to be comfortable without being surrounded all the time, it's okay to have a few friends. Another thing that could be added to this discussion is maturity. I think it would be worth considering to see maturity in a less black and white manner (you're mature or immature). It serms to me that there are different types of maturity. Growing incompatibility in friendship also has to do with that, in my opinion.
25:40 I'm straight and love it when Ashley pretends to 'alienate the straights' 😉... and Alayna's reaction when she does ("Ashley! We've talked about this!")🤣. Thanks for letting us be part of the humor and am glad to be a Patreon member ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈
Speaking as an almost 50 year old woman, re: friendships - My friendships evolve over time and I need different things from different people. I am still connected to one or two people from high school (Class of '91, yo!) but we are at VERY different places in our lives now. I have had people that I were super intense friends with at certain times, and then we drifted apart. As you get older, it takes more effort to make and maintain friendships as you have things like jobs/partners/kids to juggle, and the friendships can feel more superficial, and that's totally okay. Not all friendships are made equal, and they can be hard, and that's just how it is.
I'm vision impaired, and there's a lot of damage/scar tissue in my eyes, lashes that grow in the wrong spots, etc. But I have a similar thing done with my blood to what Ashley's talking about, but it gets made into eye drops. I've been doing this for over a decade, and honestly it's the one thing that truly gives me noticeable relief. Interesting to hear other things they can do that for. Hoping you have good results too 🤞
I always thought having friends as an adult was exactly what Alayna is describing… just got mindblown by the idea that there are people who are still able to be present in each other’s lives regularly. 😅
This pod always manages to tackle something that I need to hear. I've taken realizations I've had listening to this podcast into my actual therapy sessions because the break throughs have been that significant.
I also just got PRP injections done for my chronic pain. It's so nice to hear of other people trying it and also being nervous that the procedure won't work. I don't have much hope for myself, but I am so glad Ashley got it and is hopeful
Thank you for doing this podcast, you guys inspire me and I’m very proud of you guys for all that you have accomplished. Thank you guys for giving us a safe space to just be ❤
I really do think realizing you need certian standards in friendship so important. For longest time, I kinda fell into friendship that maybe weren't the best, but since I didn't have friends, it was more like it's this or nothing. Which sometimes isn't the best choice, sometimes it is better being on your own or trying find new friends that do mash up well with you. Also Ashley, I hope that treatment works for you! ❤❤
She told a fan to kill themselves just recently multiple times at her recent Indianapolis show. A fan who bought VIP tickets.. Thought you should know.
I, unfortunately, do not remember where I read it, but the argument was that we all need all types of friends: - interest based - activity/group based - ride or die - proximity (neighbors/class mates...) But it brought me peace and made so much sense to me - as you said - that it's good/important to have various friends and especially a few close ride or die ones.
I loved this episode! Talking about friends, it's been interesting seeing how people come in and out of my life. And how I have different experiences. With the pandemia and whatnot I've had a hard time keeping up with people and in general just knowing how to text back. Also, recently fell in love with a friend. And before I could take my shot, they started dating someone else... it's been hard, but maybe it was the best course of action? (Don't want to admit it, but some red flags were there) So yeah, hearing this conversation felt refreshing and validating cause I've been a people pleaser and has started noticing all this friendship changes.
@@alternativelyabled3757 CPT is a specific modality born out of CBT to help people process traumatic events! en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_processing_therapy
Not taking advil sucks when you have chronic pain! I have a platelet disorder so I can’t take any anti inflammatory drugs and acetaminophen just doesn’t help pain as much 😭 But I hope the treatment works for your Ashley 🤞🤞🤞🤞
It sounds like CBD+thc might help you a lot with pain relief! I work at a medical dispensary and help people with issues like this a lot, doctors just don’t recommend weed but it helps so many people
@@emilypalma5763 yes I’m sure it would! Unfortunately the New Zealand health system isn’t a fan of giving medical exemptions (weed isn’t legal here in any form unless it’s last case scenario) 🙂
I love this Chanel so much, it always helps me every time I go to watch it! Sorry for the blunt question but i really want to know as a young listener, is it a good idea to come out at high school but not to your family, especially if you are starting a new school?
PRP helped heal a small tear in my mom’s rotator cuff and helped my brother’s back. It works if it’s a smaller injury. It didn’t work on my torn labrum since it’s cartilage.
Yes, one can insert falafel into pita bread, although it requires a lot of preparation and trust. There are people who get sausage in there as well. You know I started typing this and was like “haha funny I know about this let’s use the analogy” and now I’m just mildly uncomfortable.
I am a people pleaser as well, and I chose to lean into my friendshis with people that left "good voices" inside my head. "You don't have a mean bone in your body." "You're not a bad friend at all. You're a great friend, and that's you're the person everyone calls when they're going through something." "I am never going to be mad at you for standing up for yourself. I love you, and I appreciate you letting me know how you feel." After years in a destructive friendship, these are the voices that I deferred to. They're such good people, like genuinely gook, kind, and compassionate people, and they do not lie. At a time when I couldn't trust my own memory or account, I chose to believe them instead of the nagging voice of my abuser. They gave me a safe space to put myself back together. I am so grateful to have them.
The content of Fam is very much so necessary ,all opinions vary,Point different dis ferent such a rare podcasts!r, the fam's open book topics are relatable! Btw ty Ash...Ím out,no closet anymore!❤🤟🏻✌🏻
I feel like the intimacy thing is huge- intimacy is so much more than sex. There’s lots of fun things to do together that aren’t sex that make you feel close. My partner and I sit like almost on top of each other and just hug and cuddle if I’m not in the mood but still want to be close. I’ve also seen a really cute ace couple that (or at least one of them is ace) that does body painting for intimacy. Like painting scenery on their partners back. I think there’s a lot of ways to get creative to feel close.
Ashley!!! CBD mixed with thc increases white blood cells reduces inflammation and can have amazing pain relief benefits please look into it even a low thc product can be super helpful I promise it’s worth looking at ❤❤
I know we're not super common and we're not your target or primary audience, but I just wanted to say I'm a trans lesbian and I love your content even though I'm not straight :) (Also "Jen 1" was a fantastic pun)
It was an inside joke from an earlier episode they did together that Alayna just completely forgot, I don't think it's a known term, so yes definitely in her defense not one to easily recall
I had the same thing done to my foot I had a bone spur and it cut off my Achilles and my dr cut two nerves which I could not feel my big toe and the two beside it and the nerves grew back in a couple of weeks so how did it work did it take your pain away
For the person with a different sex drive - would you be ok with just intimacy & not sex? Because I have chronic pain & illness my want is there but I can't always act on it as much as my wife would like. But sometime a quick make-out session or even just a good snuggle time gives her enough to get by. Just her knowing that I do still find her attractive & want to be physical even if my body won't let me, really helps us! Communication will be huge in figuring out a good balance for you both!
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"Why didn't you text me and tell me so I could worry?" is one of the most relatable things I've ever heard 😂
Seriously same! 😂
I love ur name it’s so cute 🙂
@admiralsyrup6456 aww thank you!
Yeah 😂😂
@@beardlessdragon aw ur welcome 😇
I am a straight, cisgender, 70 year old woman and I can't imagine being alienated by anything you might say. I find your channel to be informative, heartwarming and funny.
Obviously that was a joke...
@@hustler212 Of course it was, but I wanted to make that point anyway.
:333 very sweet mah heart !
That's awesome!! It somehow makes me happy when non queer people also watch this podcast. Even as a queer person I keep learning new things here
Whenever I see Alayna, I get the same panic I got looking at my English teacher
That’s how I feel looking at mak
She so sweet n kind 😊❤️
I sometimes have Ashley related gay panic 🫣😂 🙋🏻♀️
Alayna is giving great Elfin right not. zAdorable...
@@disneygirl8694lmao same, but that’s a whole other kind of attraction
The BLURRED FINGERS OF ASHLEY. PERFECTION, DANNY. PERFECTION.
Petition to get the wood chopping lady on the podcast
This post is severely under-liked! Everybody give the OP a like so we can get it seen! Consider this #petitionsigned 😀
YESSS
I’m so glad they know her! Lol
I'm on it!!
10:40 as a Dungeon Master with Chronic Pain, I feel hella represented lmao
I want to challenge the statement but can think of no examples
19:11 Ashley totally winked when Mak called her a flirt!! No denying it. ❤🔥
I’m so obsessed with this podcast I can’t believe I just watched this be uploaded LMAO
Re upload??? Sorry just confused
@@abbylu116 i just mean I watched it pop up and clicked within seconds
Catradora is an amazing username
@@maurice3 thank you 😌😌💗
Oh yes.100% grateful, Ive come oút.,......TY
Hearing Ashley talking about ableism in the very first seconds of the video is amazing
I just realised this podcast is the only podcast I've listened to religiously since episode one on the day its released.
Same!
As a straight listener committed to this pod…I LOVE when Ashley gets indignant about us being here. 😂 You guys are amazing and I’m happy I found this family.
Hi from south Africa. I decided to tell a friend of mine how I felt. The friendship ended. I am still glad that I took a shot. This was last year November, listening to you guys reminded me of that.
That was brave to do something true to yourself ❤
Went through a similar situacion 3 or 4 years ago and although i still love her from afar now i dont regret it at all
also from south africa !! had a friend i confessed to and they just slowly stopped talking to me :(
I am really sorry it happened to you, I hope you are safe and surrounded by people who truly love you for yourself!
Glad this episode is uploaded at the PERFECT time for European folks bisous de France
Same. Bisous de Belgique!
I really appreciated your discussion on friendship. I know that for me, it was one of the toughest lessons as I moved from being a teen to adulthood - you can downgrade a friendship, you can move away from a friendship without it being the end of the world, you need to learn to be comfortable without being surrounded all the time, it's okay to have a few friends.
Another thing that could be added to this discussion is maturity. I think it would be worth considering to see maturity in a less black and white manner (you're mature or immature). It serms to me that there are different types of maturity. Growing incompatibility in friendship also has to do with that, in my opinion.
25:40 I'm straight and love it when Ashley pretends to 'alienate the straights' 😉... and Alayna's reaction when she does ("Ashley! We've talked about this!")🤣. Thanks for letting us be part of the humor and am glad to be a Patreon member ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈
The "I hope it's blood" joke is absolutely hilarious!😂😂😂
😂😂 imagine if Alayna's prof sees this😂
Speaking as an almost 50 year old woman, re: friendships - My friendships evolve over time and I need different things from different people. I am still connected to one or two people from high school (Class of '91, yo!) but we are at VERY different places in our lives now. I have had people that I were super intense friends with at certain times, and then we drifted apart. As you get older, it takes more effort to make and maintain friendships as you have things like jobs/partners/kids to juggle, and the friendships can feel more superficial, and that's totally okay. Not all friendships are made equal, and they can be hard, and that's just how it is.
I'm vision impaired, and there's a lot of damage/scar tissue in my eyes, lashes that grow in the wrong spots, etc. But I have a similar thing done with my blood to what Ashley's talking about, but it gets made into eye drops. I've been doing this for over a decade, and honestly it's the one thing that truly gives me noticeable relief. Interesting to hear other things they can do that for. Hoping you have good results too 🤞
Im straight asf but i LOVE THIS PODCAST. ❤️ this feels like a hangout and i love it.
Same. It’s just really fun to listen to. Greattt chemistry
I sympathize with you. That must be really hard.
Same these ladies feel like my besties and I love them
@@gunselshaly537 it is incredibly hard for us, thank you for your consideration 🫶🏾
@gunselshaly537 aww thanks! Yeah it's definitely not easy dealing with closeminded broken people such as yourself. I hope you heal from within 😊
My best recommendation for making friends as an adult is volunteering ! It's a really good way to meet people who care about the same things as you.
Staying up all night for lesbian advice is a vibe!!🤪🙃
the amount of comedic lore this podcast has is incredible
So excited for this episode, it makes Wednesdays a million times better!
Hope everything goes well, dad.
Even though you don't love me for being straight, I'll send you all the love for your treatment and recovery. ❤
Watching this podcast every Wednesday is a part of my self care routine ❤️
I always thought having friends as an adult was exactly what Alayna is describing… just got mindblown by the idea that there are people who are still able to be present in each other’s lives regularly. 😅
This pod always manages to tackle something that I need to hear. I've taken realizations I've had listening to this podcast into my actual therapy sessions because the break throughs have been that significant.
After Mak said "Im just a kid..." my scumbag Millennial brain filled in "...and life is a nightmare"
If you EVER disrespect your beautiful and brilliant millennial brain like that EVER again my fist will find your face! Understood? 🧐
I appreciate the tapas style menu as a bi woman in a straight relationship … severely appreciated
LOLLLLLL loving the reference to the wood chopper we ALL know about 💀 "she's hard to miss"
Oh my gosh Mak I love how big the microphone is haha. You all vibe and mesh so well together!!! You guys are such a joy to listento
“i hope its blood” 😊 *tosses fry into mouth* 😂😂😂
I also just got PRP injections done for my chronic pain. It's so nice to hear of other people trying it and also being nervous that the procedure won't work. I don't have much hope for myself, but I am so glad Ashley got it and is hopeful
Thank you for doing this podcast, you guys inspire me and I’m very proud of you guys for all that you have accomplished. Thank you guys for giving us a safe space to just be ❤
Awwww Mak! "Dude, why don't you text me and tell me so I can worry!" So sweet and so fkn funny ☺️
I really do think realizing you need certian standards in friendship so important. For longest time, I kinda fell into friendship that maybe weren't the best, but since I didn't have friends, it was more like it's this or nothing. Which sometimes isn't the best choice, sometimes it is better being on your own or trying find new friends that do mash up well with you.
Also Ashley, I hope that treatment works for you! ❤❤
And the menu analogy ties right into the what you had for dinner segment 🙃
I love Ashley and her bits, she's awesome and hilarious!
Even her flimsy bits?
She told a fan to kill themselves just recently multiple times at her recent Indianapolis show. A fan who bought VIP tickets.. Thought you should know.
I, unfortunately, do not remember where I read it, but the argument was that we all need all types of friends:
- interest based
- activity/group based
- ride or die
- proximity (neighbors/class mates...)
But it brought me peace and made so much sense to me - as you said - that it's good/important to have various friends and especially a few close ride or die ones.
This podcast is always the highlight of my day!! I wake up to it Wednesday morning. Never fails to lift my spirit!
I loved this episode!
Talking about friends, it's been interesting seeing how people come in and out of my life. And how I have different experiences. With the pandemia and whatnot I've had a hard time keeping up with people and in general just knowing how to text back.
Also, recently fell in love with a friend. And before I could take my shot, they started dating someone else... it's been hard, but maybe it was the best course of action? (Don't want to admit it, but some red flags were there) So yeah, hearing this conversation felt refreshing and validating cause I've been a people pleaser and has started noticing all this friendship changes.
Should I be watching this pod 10 mins after uploading? Currently 2:15am my time?
*yes absolutely.*
I love how Ashley is making a bit at all times and Alayna knows how many people would have a panic attack from that
This podcast gives me an insane amount of serotonin, I look forward to hanging with you guys every week!
Am I the only one that would love to see Mac do reaction videos on the Ultimatum I feel like that needs to be a thing
Ooh all 3!! Would be the best
CPT is also cognitive processing therapy, a treatment for PTSD and CPTSD :)
Glad I'm not the only one whose mind constantly goes there first. 😆
I thought that is CBT - Cognitive behavioral therapy?
@@alternativelyabled3757 CPT is a specific modality born out of CBT to help people process traumatic events! en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_processing_therapy
At some point Mac had a great line that got ignored because Alayna and Ashley were actually being serious. Haha, when Mac is on she is on!
Not taking advil sucks when you have chronic pain! I have a platelet disorder so I can’t take any anti inflammatory drugs and acetaminophen just doesn’t help pain as much 😭 But I hope the treatment works for your Ashley 🤞🤞🤞🤞
It sounds like CBD+thc might help you a lot with pain relief! I work at a medical dispensary and help people with issues like this a lot, doctors just don’t recommend weed but it helps so many people
@@emilypalma5763 yes I’m sure it would! Unfortunately the New Zealand health system isn’t a fan of giving medical exemptions (weed isn’t legal here in any form unless it’s last case scenario) 🙂
That branch looks so good!!! I was listening on Spotify, but I had to come over here to see if I could see the bench 😂
The "it's a new week" bit😂😂
I hope to Ashley live she's a talented and hilarious comedian 😆 love this podcast so much ❤
Straight married 42 yr old mom of a teenager here. I’ll follow Ashley anywhere for the lols
I love this Chanel so much, it always helps me every time I go to watch it! Sorry for the blunt question but i really want to know as a young listener, is it a good idea to come out at high school but not to your family, especially if you are starting a new school?
Always my favorite part of the week!!!❤️❤️
CHOSEN FAMILY PODCAST!!
Vancouver recommendation for Alayna!! There is the most amazing falafel pittas at Mr Shawarma food truck in Robson Square 👌
This is my terapie fav Podcast 🫶
PRP helped heal a small tear in my mom’s rotator cuff and helped my brother’s back. It works if it’s a smaller injury. It didn’t work on my torn labrum since it’s cartilage.
"bee booop" 🤖🤖 Happy pride everyone 🇨🇦🏳🌈
I'm excited to hear about how your procedure works. I'm an EDSer as well and can completely relate. Thanks for the CPT!
Love the update segments. Ok, I love it all!
Yes, one can insert falafel into pita bread, although it requires a lot of preparation and trust. There are people who get sausage in there as well. You know I started typing this and was like “haha funny I know about this let’s use the analogy” and now I’m just mildly uncomfortable.
😂😂 great use of the analogy
I've been looking forward to this all day😍😍😍
It's me being in South Africa and seeing y'all type 3am and wilding out 😂😂
Hahaha This is me in Spain, having the SAME reaction!
I just had a good little giggle as I was watching the podcast my video froze and I got a text about Ashley's shows in my area. 😂😂
I am a people pleaser as well, and I chose to lean into my friendshis with people that left "good voices" inside my head.
"You don't have a mean bone in your body."
"You're not a bad friend at all. You're a great friend, and that's you're the person everyone calls when they're going through something."
"I am never going to be mad at you for standing up for yourself. I love you, and I appreciate you letting me know how you feel."
After years in a destructive friendship, these are the voices that I deferred to. They're such good people, like genuinely gook, kind, and compassionate people, and they do not lie. At a time when I couldn't trust my own memory or account, I chose to believe them instead of the nagging voice of my abuser. They gave me a safe space to put myself back together. I am so grateful to have them.
I just love you guys! Hope you guys are all doing well! Much love and light to you guys and and everyone here! ❤🧿
Joining the Patreon today because I really want to see Mak’s sign
The content of Fam is very much so necessary ,all opinions vary,Point different dis ferent such a rare podcasts!r, the fam's open book topics are relatable! Btw ty Ash...Ím out,no closet anymore!❤🤟🏻✌🏻
😂😂😂😂😂😂 I'm such a headcase..immediately thought CBT..cognitive behavioural therapy. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Saame 😂
At least you think of the good CBT and not the cursed one.
@@nhaedzwero43 There is? I don't think I'm familiar with it. 🤣😅
I feel like the intimacy thing is huge- intimacy is so much more than sex. There’s lots of fun things to do together that aren’t sex that make you feel close. My partner and I sit like almost on top of each other and just hug and cuddle if I’m not in the mood but still want to be close. I’ve also seen a really cute ace couple that (or at least one of them is ace) that does body painting for intimacy. Like painting scenery on their partners back. I think there’s a lot of ways to get creative to feel close.
Hi, I just watched every episode of this podcast this week and I love it! Keep doing what you are doing, its amazing! 🖤
Ashley!!! CBD mixed with thc increases white blood cells reduces inflammation and can have amazing pain relief benefits please look into it even a low thc product can be super helpful I promise it’s worth looking at ❤❤
Oh, pleeeaaase, more about the professor and all the different non-vanilla tapas! It sounds so interesting! :) :)
Why didn’t you tell me so I can worry 😂😂😂😂😂😂 same same
orphan gay here, i wholeheartedly approve this messaging
Really crazy how early I am. really love the podcast
Y’all are the best part of my week!!
Lmao “why don’t you text me and tell me so I can worry”
Weekly D&D 🤝 my chronic back pain. It is known 😂 I hope the platelets help!!!
I would watch the crap out of a video where you 3 just talk about the ultimatum for an hour or so
23:00 BAHAHA Ashley!!😂 shes not wrong
“Flimsy bits” isn’t a flimsy bit, lol. I laughed out loud
I know we're not super common and we're not your target or primary audience, but I just wanted to say I'm a trans lesbian and I love your content even though I'm not straight :)
(Also "Jen 1" was a fantastic pun)
25:42 Ashley 😂! I surely know one straight person that watches this podcast and sometimes even the one we don’t talk about here: Me.
I hope Ashley addresses her Indianapolis show. And I feel for Mac and Alayna, this must be uncomfy for y’all.
same
(what happened to address?)
These intros are killllllling me omg 😂💀💀
I've had PRP twice without any luck. Hoping it works out for you Ashley!
Really good advice today! Thanks 😊
Jen 1 and 2 reminds me of Tammy 1 and 2 from Parks and Rec hahaha
The professor talk reminds me of the dominatrix in Forever.
love Mak so much!
In Elena's defense, I *have* daily chronic pain, for decades now, and I've never ever heard anyone - doctor or friend - use the term CPT.
It was an inside joke from an earlier episode they did together that Alayna just completely forgot, I don't think it's a known term, so yes definitely in her defense not one to easily recall
I had the same thing done to my foot I had a bone spur and it cut off my Achilles and my dr cut two nerves which I could not feel my big toe and the two beside it and the nerves grew back in a couple of weeks so how did it work did it take your pain away
For the person with a different sex drive - would you be ok with just intimacy & not sex? Because I have chronic pain & illness my want is there but I can't always act on it as much as my wife would like. But sometime a quick make-out session or even just a good snuggle time gives her enough to get by. Just her knowing that I do still find her attractive & want to be physical even if my body won't let me, really helps us! Communication will be huge in figuring out a good balance for you both!
falling in love with a best freind and getting heart broken is a universal canon event for queer people (diff not talking from personal experience...)
“I’m your hot older brother.” … “Baby Bear” 😂
Another instant classic!! 😂🤩
i remember ur thoughts about reactions vids so i was thinking if u want a cheesy light sapphic movie then watch hulus crush