Success story update: I did everything Coach Lee said. Just focused on myself, let her have the breakup. After a week she contacted me crying. We talked it out and we have been the best we have ever been . This stuff works!
Yes, you right, i am going true a breakup right now and it is terrible feeling, the ex is really express her anger via social media, subtle but every one know what she´s trying to tell
What really sucks is all of the wasted time invested and the money. I have other options (actually, one wants me now)...but, I did love her. Ugh...I hate this feeling.
symbologee it was never time or money wasted when you loved someone. You did not see this coming. Don’t cry over materialistic things. You did all the things you did with that person because you loved them. Don’t get upset about things like that. Life is a gamble.
When my ex dumped me she told me years ago when her friends broke up with their boyfriends she'd imagine losing me and feel paralyzed, the same feeling she had as a kid when she thought of what would happen if her brothers died. Now, she said, she imagines her brothers dead and doesn't feel as bad because she accepted death as the reality of life. The message she was trying to convey was that I could move on without her. That's kind of sick, it's not like one of us died loving the other and the other needs to accept it. I always imagined if this happened to one of us the other would die single always cherishing the memories, or at best find someone who knows and respects the fact that we found them because our deceased partner wanted us to be happy. Now she is alive and possibly in bed with someone else, a few months ago she used to imagine us in our 80s and make jokes about it.
Keep holding on and remember that no one (and I mean one) is worth all that trouble. Get a new hobby or do something you wanted to do for a long time. Time heals all wounds
Trust me, I was the one who broke up with her and since I noticed that she dident not care about me for months I went back to her and now she does not want me anymore. It went exactly how it has been explained in this video.
The male is always the pawn in a romantic comedy. Come together, break up, go chase her, get her, roll credits. That’s what happens in all of them. Visit *MyExLove. info* If you want to get back your ex back
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I remember watching this, several times, obsessing over getting my ex back...over a year later, I've found someone much better. I'm so thankful to the ex for tossing me aside. It's the best gift he ever gave me in 8 years.
@@prettypearls26, No no you got it wrong.. Cats do care for you and show it pretty intelligently. Dogs however do not in sense, because although it may appear they do, is only because they are literally stupid... Also, it is fact, that cats are cleaner, and much much less maintenance to handle...
@Amna Yousuf sorry to hear that. I've done more research about relationships and you can find another love. There is no just the one. I think I started no contact to late and it's over for good. This is my greatest relationship loss.
Do It For Dooterz Bro you should never feel like that man it might not feel like it now but you will get better my g I’m going through rough shit as well if you need somebody to talk to who is going through something similar just text me back and give me a dm but u should never feel like that bro
I just want to say this works 100% and my case was tough ... makes sure you all come back and share your stories because when I was binge watching these videos during radio silence ( which is most effective I think ) everyday I was feeling anxious and these videos were they only thing that’s have me mental release until time kicked in . Reading nearly every comment gave me relief in knowing others were experiencing this too and then after a little over 30 days my ex contacted me ... then I couldn’t get too excited or angry or sad I had to keep calm sometimes the ex’s comeback prideful too or hurt too but show them you are not willing to play but also so more kindness than anger and wala we are back loving and appreciating each other...
Can i ask a question? Did he sleep around with other people when you guys broke up? I will have a hard time accepting that if my husband or bf comes back. By the way, my husband left me because he wants to pursue his sexual desire he saw on porn. He has sexual addiction. I wonder if no contact would work because i think he needs more than no contact. He needs a beating lol jk!
This is the best relationship coaching video I’ve watched. He is so no-nonsense, eloquent and straight-to-the-point that what he advises us to do makes sense without any mental resistance.
Is there any chance me and my ex-girlfriend could get back together? Last month she asked for time apart as her feelings had slowly faded over the course of the last three months. After giving it some thought, I told her the fair thing to do would be to break up. She insisted that she actually didn’t want the break up, but that she felt nothing for me (she said she truly loved me, but didn’t have feelings). She gave it some thought and agree that the best thing to do was to break up. I contacted her 5 days after our breakup for answers but the quickly gave up. Two weeks after no contact she reached out to me and I waited 6 hours to reply to her. She responded immediatly and kept the conversation going until I had to stop her. I said I had to do something and offered to get lunch the next day. She agreed. A week after this she sent me a random text, to which I replied with a short message. She didn’t reply. It’s been a week and we haven’t contacted each other in any way.
@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn As another woman, I don’t really think one can truly love a man and have no feelings. That zone is friendship. You can’t really stay in a relationship and feel nothing for that person. It’s very unfair on the other side. She is either interested in (or in love with) someone else and trying to keep you as plan B or is an emotionally immature person. It’s also very disrespectful to keep you with no response like that. I know it is hard, but I’d say you keep in strict no contact and move on. Go out with your friends, even start dating other people. The further you move, the more she will want to come back. They usually come back and do exactly the same thing and leave you emotionally scarred.
Based on my experience, what Coach Lee says is correct. THEY ALWAYS COME BACK. The thing is when they do I no longer give a F*&K and have found someone new!!!!
@_ BUDDHA _ There's really no guarantee. The best thing is to do your thing and enjoy your life and forget her. They sort of come back when you are at that stage.
Three month ago I cried looking at this video trying to get my ex back. Now I am very grateful that the relationship ends and I am never happier. I hope everyone who is struggling will recover soon. The no contact rule helps us to become more focused on ourselves and not necessarily the path to get back or ex.
SJPL Sjpl there is love but we as humans are not made to be with only one person. Thats why people cheat and dont find someone attractive after time. We are not made for that But love is there
Here's the truth, ladies. Being pretty doesn't keep a man. Being honest doesn't keep a man. Being loyal doesn't keep a man. Treating a man good doesn't keep a man. Being there for a man doesn't keep a man. Caring about a man doesn't keep a man. Making an effort doesn't keep a man. Paying attention to a man doesn't keep a man. Spending time with a man doesn't keep a man. You could have the best intentions, you could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be a good woman and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man because the only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you. You can't force a man to be with you. You can't beg a man to stay with you. You can't love a man into loving you. With a man, you could tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets hard and he does everything to fight for you because a man only fights for a girl he wants to belong to so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he doesn't want to be kept by you anymore. The moral of this? Don't hold on to a man who doesn't want to be kept by you. No, you're not giving up on him. It's him who gave up on you, and it's you who shouldn't waste any more of your time than you already have. Know when it's time to let go, know when it's time to walk away, and know when it's time for him to be unkept.
and what about when a man gives everything to a woman but she still dump him? No u dont talk about that cause u are a fcking feminist who thinks that only girls have feelings.
"No matter what you've done, you deserve respect. Even if you've made mistakes, you're lovable. Doesn't matter your looks, skills, age, size, or anything - you're worthwhile. No one can ever take that away from you." ~ Kai the Hitchhiker
My GF of 2.5 years., Ghosted on me 4 weeks ago. She finally answers my call and would not talk with me or tell me anything. I asked her for a conversation so I can understand the relationship and find closure and peace. She refused and went back to ignoring. Me. Maybe I am wrong for asking her for closure? I was generous with my Time and forgiveness...it's hurt me more to refuse me closure.
@@John-cq3hk You can have closure without her. "So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key..." ~The Eagles (Already Gone)
@@uncletony6210 ah yes indeed I was being dependent. I guess..i want the truth and to know if she switched on me and to understand the situation better
@@John-cq3hkSo, you are probably in a place right now where you're so hung up on her that you're not even attracted to other women. That said, the best thing you can do is to start dating other women. Also, if you have any hope of ever getting her back, the worst thing you can do is continue to call or text her. Every time you do, you are pushing her away even farther. Leave her alone, and after some time, she will more than likely start to wonder why you are not making contact, and in fact, she might reach back out to you. And who knows, maybe by that time, you will have found someone better and completely moved on. How sweet would that be?
If a man doesn’t see how wonderful of a woman you are and doesn’t make you feel amazing, just move on. The right guy will make you feel like you’re one in a million.
Goes both ways. You can show and tell how wonderful a woman is but what if she doesn't believe you and shoots you down? And she's cold to you but wants you to be tender and kind to her. And I still love her. Damn. I'm fucked up.
Lol he’s been calling me on *67. Ladies move on if they wanted us they would’ve kept us. No contact works but honestly do it for yourself. Work on ur own self-love ♥️
Alejandra Ramos definitely have to do it for my self my ex girlfriend broke up with me love her still to death probably even more but you’re are right if she love me she would not had left
@@armandopena2511, She leaves you because She lost her feeling for you.. She is your woman, you can get her back and She will spend her whole life with you.. I can help you, if your guts want her back then take her back otherwise forget her..
I left mine for my protection. She was and is a histrionic/psychopathic/ narxussistic/cheating/lying/murdering/satanist. Pure evil. Left my home, family I loved/ dog. Wish i never met her. Believe she poisoned both me and my mother. Murdered someone before i met her.
Nothing is more painful than being dumped by someone you really love but it's better to feel that way than be the one who hurt somebody because they are likely to have more regrets in the future.
especially if you are loyal she will regret it, why because once she leaves you she will be going out with cheaters and she will realize the value you have
I started listening to coach lee for his advice to get an ex back. now i actually listen to coach lee when im having any kind of relationship issues because he gives good advice which i find calming
You're not alone. It's happening everyday to different people. "We are not compatible... ...There's just so many negatives that outways the positives about you... ...This relationship is boring" - I was told these words out of nowhere by the woman I thought she was the one for me.
You're not alone. It's happening everyday to different people. "We are not compatible... ...There's just so many negatives that outways the positives about you... ...This relationship is boring" - I was told these words out of nowhere by the woman I thought she was the one for me.
Learn from my mistakes. My ex broke up with me and I did the begging and pleading routine that didn’t work at all. I kept in contact with her because I was afraid of losing her forever. I will send text messages and try calling. Most of the time she either ignore or replied with vague messages. I finally had to accept the fact that I had to move on. Because right now I was in a position of weakness. So I am doing the no contact method. I started taking up new hobbies and going to the gym to better health. I am even considering dating again. Time is too short and valuable. If someone doesn’t appreciate the time you given them then they are not worth keeping around. Remember you are more valuable and certainly the top prize. I learn this extremely important lesson from Coach Lee.
Rey, stay strong, no more contact. Even if she called u tomorrow to fix it, she ended it once and you can't take her back. Her respect is gone and that's just life. Learn from that frantic bullshit you engaged in after she dumped you. It doesn't work and it makes you look low value and Beta. You have been given a gift, friend, for when the right one comes along.
Just wanted to leave an update to all. No contact worked !!! Took 5 months though. First 2 months I failed no contact every 2 weeks and eventually by finally stuck to no contact for 3 months and it worked. Binge watched these videos for the past few months. Wish you all luck, stick to no contact and use this time to better you self. Got my dream job, and lost 30 pounds.
Chase a dog, it runs from you...run from a dog, it chases you. Human life has great value but I'll be damned if we don't act like dogs...minus the love and loyalty.
Invest in yourself to the point someone else wants to invest in you and then keep going. A broken heart is one of the most painful experiences someone can go through. You can and you will get through it. it's something that can truly change your life you can let it break you or You and you only can choose to turn your pain into strength improve your life for yourself. We don't need another person to make us happy or feel whole you have the power to get up from the dirt brush yourself off and find happiness within yourself. Be a better you for you!
This is so true - lost it all - paid $60.000 child support - $80.000 student loan - Ray Ray/Tyrone had nothing but my money/wife let them have it - I'm a professional make six figures - and only have to show up - men take care of yourselves - life/money/emotions - the secret is time - the Bible says a dog will return to its vomit - net worth $500.000 ten years debt free.
@@ankanchakraborty1648 even if its been 7 months - just saw one of the people whom put obstacles in my path this morning - he was horrible looking - really broke my heart - in the Bible there is a verse that when the devil showed up it said is this the thing that was causing all this trouble - bottom line he and the distractions detractors are defeated.
6 weeks of No Contact and my ex set up a meeting yesterday to talk. He asked to start over because he missed me and realized he made a mistake. No contact work guys! Stay strong, focused and positive.
@@edeloleary2093 No never ignore them, them reaching out is what you want, just match their level of emotion and effort and only continue it they do. Don’t be the one to bring up the relationship talk either 👍
I really want to thank Coach Lee for his videos. When my bf broke up with me it feels like everything was falling apart and watching these videos help me think it might not be the end for us. Even if the point isn't to make you hold on to him but to focus on yourself, just thinking about getting back with that person calm you down. And "conceiving" a plan to get him back actually help YOU get out of bed. Then days are going and you're feeling better day by day :) I truly believe my time of "grieving" would have been longer if I didn't come across Coach Lee's videos. So thank you SO SO much. Oh and FYI my ex came back after exactly 1 month of NC so... ;)
My father taught me this when I was sixteen and had my first broken heart. he basically just said never chase a man. once my heart is broken, I run in the other direction. and when a friend says guess who I saw the other night? I tell them not to say another word. best thing to do is to be kind to yourself and guard your heart. learn to accept the situation no matter how much it hurts. and most important, date all their friends. kidding.
Sorry to say that to you. But you parents advice is not a good advice on my eyes. It’s easy to them to talk like that. Often times they themselves had experience divorce (like my have) and they try to “save” your heart by talking BS like that. I think it’s WORTH to fight for the love. Break ups and divorces sucks and often times they happening because of the ego of at least on of the partners. How many relationships and marriages could have been saved if only at least the dumper would talk and explain his feelings BEFORE they start thinking about a break up weeks or months ago !
Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
My long term man is my ex. We split and got back together several times. We did no contact. We learned our value, we learned what we are willing to do/invest, we learned how to fight properly, we learned how to deal with those irritations and ebbs and flows. We are doing great, and proud of ourselves.
Does the no contact work if I broke up with him? I broke up with him because we were fighting over everything all the time, and he got mad at me for the dumbest reasons most of the time, I was getting tired, I never stopped loving him, but I was mentally sick, and I had to think of my self care first so we could be happy in the future. I even told him, don't think I'm leaving because i stopped loving your or because there's someone else, it's not like that, I just need to recover from too much toxicity, and maybe in the future when we're okay again, we can get back, but he doesn't wanna see me, he's really mad, he even said we have mo future 😪
I used the no contact method after a recent split of a multi year relationship and my ex did come back trying to rekindle things. But he returned with the same issues and didn’t want to fix them so I continued on.
Maybe because u tell him about your feeling instead telling him what u been doing..people wont fix things if u keep talking about relationship,let them think about what have u become instead expressing your emotion about them..be the new version about yourself..be more attractive..do things what u want to do..
Curiosity must have been when she once called me to see if I ever got lonely; my answer was "No." There was no one with me at the time, talk about rejection I never meant to convey; I was, at the time, being honest, nor was there a brain with me because I'm a guy, nor did I think how hurt she might have been but a lot of these calls were about her, that she had had a panic attack; so she must have desired me back, problem was, she left which created the distance in the first place; I didn't throw her out nor did she have complaints and I gave her a hundred million reasons to pounce on (I have recently learned women file for divorce more so than men--that would have been nice to know, it is now impossible to unlearn, although I probably wouldn't have listened anyway, I've always been in another world when it comes to reality).
nenuhhS11 Yes, they do! My ex was a textbook narcissist, and he came back multiple times (or at least tried). Even after he had gotten into another relationship. The problem with narcissists is that its all a game to them & they are not capable & have no intention of giving you the relationship you want.
Hey coach...can I just thank you. I got her back!! After 4 months!!! But honestly by the time she came back. I’d already moved on. It’s sooo weird. The minute you are over her, there she is.
This is how I feel about it all. When you're with someone and you're doing nice things for them and you're freely and openly giving of your time, your energy, and your creativity and they can't appreciate those things, and want space or a break they've just shown you their value system. So don't feel bad about being good to them that's who you are. Here's the twist, if they do happen to come back around the first taste was free, the rest is going to cost them. Remember they showed you their value system so don't do all the work anymore, it has to be mutual. They're going to have to earn it now or you'll end up right back in the same scenario. Your time, your energy, your effort, your love, your attention, your money are all valuable. Don't waste spending these commodities on people who refuse to value them.
Reading the book of Psalms will comfort you. Don't beat yourself up. Love yourself. Get rest. Treat yourself. Work on yourself. I don't know about no contact. But don't contact often. Do not beg or plead. Let them know you love them. But don't over do it. Admit to everything that is truthfully your fault. Tell them you are changing those things. Never argue. Be patient. Be kind.
Lee i just want to thank you man, my girlfriend of two years left me a month ago and i was horribly depressed. I didnt eat for weeks at a time and I contemplating ending my own life. Once i found your channel you gave me hope. Iv recently started no contact and in 4 days she messaged me asking how i was doing.. again, thank you man.
I was once told 'going back to your ex is like reading a book you've already read'. Guess who told me that. My ex. And I enjoyed cracking her over the head with her own statement when she wanted me back
Jerrell Young time changes people - for the worse or the better... but it’s a new book every decade - in everyone’s life... I’ve changed a lot. I’m no where near the way I use to be
@kate sand love revenge? The fuck are you on about. Girl clearly deserved it and the guys is a champ and dodged a bullet. People better think of the consequences before talking out of their asses and trying to seem all wise and shit.
@@karljonsson5577 I was thinking that too, girls tend to do that when their rebounds don't work out. The real test of strength is not taking them back.
You have no idea how many times I have to watch this video (probably over 1 million times!). I mean, the way you explained to the situation, especially from an EX's perspective, make so much sense and it makes me feel so good about it. I'm into No Contact for almost 5 months now and I'm working on improving myself. It has to be one of the most challenges I've ever faced, and it taught me a lot about respect, control, how to handle the situation in a properly way, and so forth. So, Coach Lee, I humbly thank you for your hard work and share your experiences with us. If my ex-fiancé contacts me back, I will update and let you guys know! To all Dumpees out there, if I could, I'd invite you all and have a drink together and enjoy telling jokes about life, just to lift up spirits! Stay strong.
@Blabzillaweasel Hi, Blabzillaweasel. Nope, she has not contacted me and it's already passed 10 months so far. I've already removed her off of my friendlist on Facebook. I'm done with her. Not worth it. I am surrounding by amazing friends and family and that's all I need.
Just wanted to come back here and say that Coach Lee absolutely knows what he’s talking about. I thought I was never going to hear from my ex ever again. I followed the no contact rule anyway because I felt my ex didn’t deserve to hear from me or know how much I was hurting. To my surprise, my ex contacted me about 6 months post-breakup asking me to talk and to go for coffee. These videos truly brought me comfort during the hardest breakup I have ever had to go through. I also learned a lot about myself and grew as a person during NC. Thank you Coach Lee 🤗❤
Sam, I'm so happy for you! Would you please email my assistant Amber with your story? We won't use your name or image, but your story could encourage others. Amber's email is myexbackcoach@gmail.com and I would appreciate it! Glad for you!
@@beniemawu7359 only update is that my ex and I got back together a little while after going for coffee. We’ve been dating for about 4 months now and are even better than before 😊
This gave me a tremendous amount of confidence, I’m doing no contact, and I feel a lot better about now. The way you explained it made me excited to do my own thing, and in a way hopefully make my Ex feel the pain I felt. I’m about two weeks into the break up it was mutual but I only agreed because I knew she didn’t want the relationship anymore, so technically I was dumped and I didn’t realize that until now. I’m actually move on quite fast amazingly, I do get moments of nostalgic sadness, but also happiness think about the fun times we had. You hit some important points that I will definitely use: “act casual and make them think your doing great” I think that’s is simple but so important. Thanks Coach.
@@TheAsh265 Update: I fell off the no contact wagon June 15th after going a solid two weeks. i reached out to exclaim that "I didn't want to be friends", because previously at the break up i told her we could be friends after we had our time apart, and that i would giver her a second chance... so after seeing some videos and reading about friendship after the break up, i decided i needed to swiftly and efficiently tell her, i did not want to be friends, and i also told her that " Im worth more than that" which i am, and she knows that. After sending that text it literally put my mentality back at square one, day 1 of no contact, and it was horrible, i needed to reach out to tell her that, but it messed me up and it made me want to text her back and say i didn't mean that... because i fucking care about her, and lover her, but right now i need to love myself and not give any fucks about her to put it harshly. If you take anything away from this, its that reaching out for any reason even if you think its justifiable, will set you back, i don't regret reaching out and telling her "No friendship" but shit its like falling down after being half way up the hill. If you want to talk more and even be accountability partners, assuming your doing no contact as well, PM on YT and we can talk more. My break up is more complex than what I've said here, and leads me to believe that i have a lower chance of getting her back, but i wont know until i actually shut up and don't say anything to her, she needs to understand my pain.
Thanks so much Coach Lee! You have guided me through a very difficult and painful experience and everything you advised me to do has worked. You were my guiding Angel and my comfort through the journey. Your delivery is sensitive, confident and reassuring. I’m sure you are helping many people through very difficult times and for this I wish you every success! Sandra
Please more info for us heartbroken. How long were you together before the break up? How long was the break up? How old are you guys? Married ? What was the reason for the break up? Hope it’s ok to ask.
Don't be so crazy! Although it feels like the end of the world, it's not. It's a difficult time but it will ultimately make you stronger and wiser. Be strong, you'll get through it and look back laughing one day.
NO MAN, and NOTHING is worth you taking your life over. We've all been hurt. Someone who will adore you is just waiting to meet your acquaintance. The Universe delivers EVERYTHING to you at the right time. Work on you, school, career, etc. Be patient. Seek professional help from a LICENSED mental health counselor to discuss your issues. You're going to be just fine. Karma will take care of them.
There is no way we can know what our ex is thinking. It could be a million things. We can only surmise. But if they left you your best move will be to keep moving forward. Why go backwards.
This is helping me a lot.. I was having urges to send her messages all day, but I didn't.. We had the first month with very little contact, maybe 3 messages traded.. 1 month no contact.. and then I reached back, we traded 6 messages, the last one I sent was more casual just like you said! I decided to play cool, send emojis, smile... She was doing that so I thought I'd do the same, portray a persona that is completely ok with what happened. Some nights I remember she saying she was sad at first but now she can "look at our past and smile".. that hurts a lot to listen..godammed it! Wel.. I'll stop texting/answering, it makes sense. Thanks for the support, Lee
mynet drive one question please... if I was In relationship a month and he broke up on the way like I can not be with you .. bla,bla is it still one month no contact work? I mean we had been together a month and it’s short time . I don’t mind doing no contact,I did it before and it’s very good ,but I am not sure for this time . Please answer 🥰 thanks
Coach Lee is one of the best people to listen to during a break-up. His insight and easy to understand break-downs of how this whole thing works...I find it very comforting to listen to while I do house work, or relaxing. It keeps my mind off of the pain, and gives me something more rational to focus on.
Coach Lee I would like to thank you very much my girlfriend and I recently went through a 2 month separation we recently got back together and things couldn't be better I even told her that I watched your videos thank you once again for helping me to this difficult time God bless
Stay positive!!! I was absolutely devastated after my ex broke up with me. She left me out of no where. Turned cold and I couldn’t believe it. I DID NOT chase or beg her. I never thought she would reach out to me since she was so cold. Well, 42 days later of STRICT NO CONTACT she called me telling me she missed me and apologized to me. We’re meeting up for drinks and to catch up. I honestly took the time of no contact to work on myself and to rebuild myself on all aspects of life, spiritually, financially, physically, mentally and most of all emotionally. I do miss her and love her but I don’t need her. I’m at peace knowing that I will be okay, regardless if we get back together or not. Remain strong to everyone who’s going through a tough breakup, & eventually if they do realize your worth. They will reach out! Thank you coach Lee!!! Best of luck to everyone!
Stay strong, keep moving forward, don't fall back.. what if he does it again? Then you'll be right back where you started! You know you deserve better than that. Good luck!
This hit home so hard. I found myself emoting and nodding in agreement as you were speaking. Everything you said spoke directly to my situation. Thanks for this!
I don’t want them to miss me ,that’s not why I’m really watching…all I want to learn is to love myself in their absence…I want to go back to the times when I didn’t know of their existence..and am at the right place 😔😔😔
I’m so glad I’m in the no-contact period because my ex is cold af and made it super clear that they’ll never regret what they did to me and even got mad that I was trying to make them feel guilty for expressing how they hurt me !! What an absolute piece of trash !!!
I've seen a couple of videos on the no contact period. But man, your words shows how smart you are. Even your stare shows you know what you're talking about. Thank you man!
@@davidaustin8424 Its been 4 months. I've found myself in a rebound myself. I've been talking to somebody new but she still crosses my mind every few days. We have not spoken since this. I have grown definitely though.
Sometimes people need to grow a bit more and figure things out in order to make the relationship work. It is a bit creepy to actively chase your ex around though. The situation should be allowed to breathe and evolve and then maybe it will just organically happen.
My boyfriend and i are beautiful together, he loves me but he is leaving me and moving his ex into our home. For the last 3 years he has held guilt about being a drunk asshole and making the mother of his child back so they can be a family. But its not gona work
Exactly. Block your phone number(FOREVER) and don’t answer the door(EVER)....he has no choice.....you hold all the cards and they have lost control of you..... which is all they were interested in anyway.....
This really does work, the love of my life left me 26 days ago.I used no contact strictly. The other day she messaged me and said she missed me and that she still loves me. And consider this is a long distance relationship. We are back together now, and the time that I had from her let me figure out what I done wrong and fix my problems. I will never make the same mistake again. Thanks Coach Lee!!!😁
When I first began to read your comment I thought it was a woman - so if you are a woman stop reading now - how in the world you feel she came back to you fool - run Forest run.
I’m sorry.. 6 years? My ex dumped me 2 days ago.... I was just stuck ... like he’s got to be crazy. I had no issue applying the no contact rule. I was pissed ..hurt obliviously as well..but I’m pissed. Wasted my time. I’m starting to calm down and the hurt sucks.. but I know how great of a catch I am.. I’ll be good.
Feb 9, 2019 was the day my ex DUMPED me, (a great and very decent bf). Been hurt and SUPER sad ever since, but after groveling until March 1st, I’ve since gone No Contact. By now I do feel a lil better, talking to someone else, and as for the ex, she can miss me.
My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me cause he was afraid of missing out on anything and “wanted to live his life” aka date as many people as possible. All while telling me he still loves me and would love if he could have the best of both worlds. People have weird reasons.
Because only love doesn’t conquer it all. Just because you love them it doesn’t make them a good compatible partner for you. Sometimes the ones you love, are the most toxic ones for you.
everything he says is so completely true. his videos helped me out so much more than what i had originally thought and helped me keep faith that no contact would work and it did after exactly 2 months, and admitted all the things coach lee was saying so trust his guidance! very helpful thank you
When one door closes another one open, just remember the things you did to have them split from you to make you better and help you grow as a person, so when the next time you get in a relationship you know the do's and don'ts,
“You matter you can get through this” this gives me so much hope ❤️ even if I’m not planning on getting them back, I’m wanting to receive happiness back into my life
I've learnt a lot watching these videos, builds up inner strength and keeps the focus on myself. I'm growing faster then ever before!!! Trust in your FAITH regardless of the outcome.
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Success story update: I did everything Coach Lee said. Just focused on myself, let her have the breakup. After a week she contacted me crying. We talked it out and we have been the best we have ever been . This stuff works!
I’m so thrilled to hear that, and very happy for you!
Never chase someone that you love and have been good to. Move on and if they do not return then they were not worth the time you gave them
Yes, you right, i am going true a breakup right now and it is terrible feeling, the ex is really express her anger via social media, subtle but every one know what she´s trying to tell
What really sucks is all of the wasted time invested and the money. I have other options (actually, one wants me now)...but, I did love her. Ugh...I hate this feeling.
symbologee it was never time or money wasted when you loved someone. You did not see this coming. Don’t cry over materialistic things. You did all the things you did with that person because you loved them. Don’t get upset about things like that. Life is a gamble.
Thanks that's what i needed to hear
Marie I totally agree with you. Give or receive a gift with no strings attached, nor scorekeeping.
those who have been dumped unexpectedly understand that it’s a feeling of grieving, losing someone who is still alive...such a painful feeling
been grieving over my wife for 8 months smh
Esteban Cartegena I’m sorry to hear that :( it’s unfair
@@karynaplotka7668 I been praying praying and praying not a sign a word and nothin has changed so discouraging yet I keep on praying
When my ex dumped me she told me years ago when her friends broke up with their boyfriends she'd imagine losing me and feel paralyzed, the same feeling she had as a kid when she thought of what would happen if her brothers died. Now, she said, she imagines her brothers dead and doesn't feel as bad because she accepted death as the reality of life. The message she was trying to convey was that I could move on without her. That's kind of sick, it's not like one of us died loving the other and the other needs to accept it. I always imagined if this happened to one of us the other would die single always cherishing the memories, or at best find someone who knows and respects the fact that we found them because our deceased partner wanted us to be happy. Now she is alive and possibly in bed with someone else, a few months ago she used to imagine us in our 80s and make jokes about it.
Karyna Pink ikr it’s unbearable
You have saved me from killing myself man. Thank you
Stay strong, I hope you’re doing better
Keep holding on and remember that no one (and I mean one) is worth all that trouble. Get a new hobby or do something you wanted to do for a long time. Time heals all wounds
Are u ok?
Stay strong my friend praying for you ❤️ I
Hope things are great for you soon
Be strong dear..meet some good friends and have fun time drive somewhere..try to watch some funny videos
To the people who’s going through a break up let’s all have faith and trust this method
Trust me, I was the one who broke up with her and since I noticed that she dident not care about me for months I went back to her and now she does not want me anymore.
It went exactly how it has been explained in this video.
Serge Ore it’s alright bro Shit happens , take it as a lesson
God speed bro,God speed.
Thank you.
Thank you
Be in abundance. Not scarcity. You are the prize. You dodged a bullet.
I, as well, was doing nothing which according to this video piqued her curiosity; problem was, I was really doing nothing, that she was right about.
Ryan Better, thank you. You're so right. This thought has been a constant companion in my head. Bullet dodged! Hope you are happy and well.
The male is always the pawn in a romantic comedy. Come together, break up, go chase her, get her, roll credits. That’s what happens in all of them.
Visit *MyExLove. info* If you want to get back your ex back
Ryan Better yuhhhhhhhhh, underrated comment 🙌🏻🙌🏻 I live in abundance not scarcity yuhhh
Facts
2 weeks of no contact already. Giving myself time to feel the pain first. After, I'll work on improving myself. But seriously, hurts like hell.
Fuk yea! Hell it does. I kpt txting, now I wish I didn’t.
Yeah, dude
Im Going through this
Same feeling
Guys,I am going through this also.Let's keep ourselves entertained!
In other words a “break up” means “wake up”
Level up game on overload
Exactly!!
wow
True!
Coach lee can be humorous!! Are you a libra coach lee?
"The tables slowly starts to turn." "Work on yourself and no contact."
“Refuse to be the BACK UP PLAN and BACK OUT!” Period! Hallelujah & Amen!
People will remember how you made them feel not what you did. Dont chase, they will remember it.
Dilligaf Amen.
Amen & Hallelujah..this is true in time.
Exactly
I just got my relationship fixed and my ||ex|husband is •back• to me and we are living happily like never before
I got help|from apowerfu|l spiritualist and his spe|ls works effectively just as you want
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Someone don't want you, never chase, fake it till you make it (if you have to). and move on.
amy lover wow
Hahaha. I love that "fake it till you make it and move on."
When you stop thinking about them they start thinking about you
That's definitely the truth. When I was finally able to forget about her, She just randomly decides to hit me up again
@Layerlol how many moths she reach out
I remember watching this, several times, obsessing over getting my ex back...over a year later, I've found someone much better. I'm so thankful to the ex for tossing me aside. It's the best gift he ever gave me in 8 years.
I fucking love this
Just get a dog. They're the only thing u can trust to return your love forever.
jackakhan thank god for dogs/cats! Seriously.
I say screw the dog, cat only, much less maintenance... 👉
Facts.
Triple A ..... cats don’t give a shit about you though
@@prettypearls26,
No no you got it wrong.. Cats do care for you and show it pretty intelligently. Dogs however do not in sense, because although it may appear they do, is only because they are literally stupid...
Also, it is fact, that cats are cleaner, and much much less maintenance to handle...
God give me strength during no contact. You're right and this is so hard.
@Amna Yousuf sorry to hear that. I've done more research about relationships and you can find another love. There is no just the one. I think I started no contact to late and it's over for good. This is my greatest relationship loss.
use your right hand when its so hard
Its tough bro ive been super depressed wondering why god cant take my life already 😞
Do It For Dooterz Bro you should never feel like that man it might not feel like it now but you will get better my g I’m going through rough shit as well if you need somebody to talk to who is going through something similar just text me back and give me a dm but u should never feel like that bro
Thank you
I just want to say this works 100% and my case was tough ... makes sure you all come back and share your stories because when I was binge watching these videos during radio silence ( which is most effective I think ) everyday I was feeling anxious and these videos were they only thing that’s have me mental release until time kicked in . Reading nearly every comment gave me relief in knowing others were experiencing this too and then after a little over 30 days my ex contacted me ... then I couldn’t get too excited or angry or sad I had to keep calm sometimes the ex’s comeback prideful too or hurt too but show them you are not willing to play but also so more kindness than anger and wala we are back loving and appreciating each other...
I am The Same way.i understand
I think you’re case is easier than mine.
@@shaniecegullison can u update ?
Can i ask a question? Did he sleep around with other people when you guys broke up? I will have a hard time accepting that if my husband or bf comes back. By the way, my husband left me because he wants to pursue his sexual desire he saw on porn. He has sexual addiction. I wonder if no contact would work because i think he needs more than no contact. He needs a beating lol jk!
What was your situation for the break up?
Very nice. Nobody chooses backup plan. Don't let anyone treat you like an option!
Awesome
That’s right
This is the best relationship coaching video I’ve watched. He is so no-nonsense, eloquent and straight-to-the-point that what he advises us to do makes sense without any mental resistance.
Serra Bird I agree . Too good !
Veej Orevillo I.
Oh yes coach Lee is right on point
Is there any chance me and my ex-girlfriend could get back together?
Last month she asked for time apart as her feelings had slowly faded over the course of the last three months. After giving it some thought, I told her the fair thing to do would be to break up. She insisted that she actually didn’t want the break up, but that she felt nothing for me (she said she truly loved me, but didn’t have feelings). She gave it some thought and agree that the best thing to do was to break up. I contacted her 5 days after our breakup for answers but the quickly gave up. Two weeks after no contact she reached out to me and I waited 6 hours to reply to her. She responded immediatly and kept the conversation going until I had to stop her. I said I had to do something and offered to get lunch the next day. She agreed. A week after this she sent me a random text, to which I replied with a short message. She didn’t reply. It’s been a week and we haven’t contacted each other in any way.
@@AustinFranklin-iq8tn As another woman, I don’t really think one can truly love a man and have no feelings. That zone is friendship. You can’t really stay in a relationship and feel nothing for that person. It’s very unfair on the other side. She is either interested in (or in love with) someone else and trying to keep you as plan B or is an emotionally immature person. It’s also very disrespectful to keep you with no response like that. I know it is hard, but I’d say you keep in strict no contact and move on. Go out with your friends, even start dating other people. The further you move, the more she will want to come back. They usually come back and do exactly the same thing and leave you emotionally scarred.
Based on my experience, what Coach Lee says is correct. THEY ALWAYS COME BACK. The thing is when they do I no longer give a F*&K and have found someone new!!!!
Lila Villa for real I know exactly what u mean I trying to keep the door open for the last one but it soon close
RIGHT...LIKE FOH!
Lila Villa what if she left for someone else?
@@jordyramirez287 there's a 50-50 chance. If she has a shit relationship with the new guy and had a better one with you.
@_ BUDDHA _ There's really no guarantee. The best thing is to do your thing and enjoy your life and forget her. They sort of come back when you are at that stage.
Three month ago I cried looking at this video trying to get my ex back. Now I am very grateful that the relationship ends and I am never happier. I hope everyone who is struggling will recover soon. The no contact rule helps us to become more focused on ourselves and not necessarily the path to get back or ex.
This honestly made me feel 100x better thanks
how does it feel now..??
love is not complicated, it's just that people are.
EntyseOnline no such thing as love
SJPL Sjpl there is love but we as humans are not made to be with only one person. Thats why people cheat and dont find someone attractive after time. We are not made for that
But love is there
SJPL Sjpl you can love someone with your whole heart and body, but you still find others attractive
True
Ppl arent complicated just cowards
Here's the truth, ladies. Being pretty doesn't keep a man. Being honest doesn't keep a man. Being loyal doesn't keep a man. Treating a man good doesn't keep a man. Being there for a man doesn't keep a man. Caring about a man doesn't keep a man. Making an effort doesn't keep a man. Paying attention to a man doesn't keep a man. Spending time with a man doesn't keep a man. You could have the best intentions, you could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be a good woman and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man because the only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you. You can't force a man to be with you. You can't beg a man to stay with you. You can't love a man into loving you. With a man, you could tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets hard and he does everything to fight for you because a man only fights for a girl he wants to belong to so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he doesn't want to be kept by you anymore. The moral of this? Don't hold on to a man who doesn't want to be kept by you. No, you're not giving up on him. It's him who gave up on you, and it's you who shouldn't waste any more of your time than you already have. Know when it's time to let go, know when it's time to walk away, and know when it's time for him to be unkept.
this mostly is the case for women because they are hypergamy
@@valentin19998 😂🤣😂 word brotha
Joanna kisekka very true and fact ...
Oh babey...this comment is a motivation message for LIFE
and what about when a man gives everything to a woman but she still dump him? No u dont talk about that cause u are a fcking feminist who thinks that only girls have feelings.
"No matter what you've done, you deserve respect. Even if you've made mistakes, you're lovable. Doesn't matter your looks, skills, age, size, or anything - you're worthwhile. No one can ever take that away from you." ~ Kai the Hitchhiker
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My GF of 2.5 years., Ghosted on me 4 weeks ago. She finally answers my call and would not talk with me or tell me anything. I asked her for a conversation so I can understand the relationship and find closure and peace. She refused and went back to ignoring. Me.
Maybe I am wrong for asking her for closure? I was generous with my Time and forgiveness...it's hurt me more to refuse me closure.
@@John-cq3hk You can have closure without her. "So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key..." ~The Eagles (Already Gone)
@@uncletony6210 ah yes indeed
I was being dependent. I guess..i want the truth and to know if she switched on me and to understand the situation better
@@John-cq3hkSo, you are probably in a place right now where you're so hung up on her that you're not even attracted to other women. That said, the best thing you can do is to start dating other women. Also, if you have any hope of ever getting her back, the worst thing you can do is continue to call or text her. Every time you do, you are pushing her away even farther. Leave her alone, and after some time, she will more than likely start to wonder why you are not making contact, and in fact, she might reach back out to you. And who knows, maybe by that time, you will have found someone better and completely moved on. How sweet would that be?
If a man doesn’t see how wonderful of a woman you are and doesn’t make you feel amazing, just move on. The right guy will make you feel like you’re one in a million.
You are delusional - nuff said.
Goes both ways. You can show and tell how wonderful a woman is but what if she doesn't believe you and shoots you down? And she's cold to you but wants you to be tender and kind to her. And I still love her. Damn. I'm fucked up.
@@louie111887 going through this too bro I hear ya
@@louie111887 yes you are - now cut that shit out and become a real man before you really get your feeling hurt you cat nip.
I did. She left.
Brilliant analysis. Hope someone with a broken heart sees your video to get the courage to face the depression and anxiety
I like your heart ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔😓😓😓💔💪💪💪💪💪
Where were you 6 months ago lol
I just saw it.. and indeed, it gave me some strength.. It hurts like hell..
@@agnesvarria8994 ok awesome thank you sounds good
Lol he’s been calling me on *67. Ladies move on if they wanted us they would’ve kept us. No contact works but honestly do it for yourself. Work on ur own self-love ♥️
Alejandra Ramos definitely have to do it for my self my ex girlfriend broke up with me love her still to death probably even more but you’re are right if she love me she would not had left
@@armandopena2511, She leaves you because She lost her feeling for you..
She is your woman, you can get her back and She will spend her whole life with you..
I can help you, if your guts want her back then take her back otherwise forget her..
Alejandra Ramos 😂😂 Did U Answer?
Yessss
This👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
If your partner leaves u...just know it's gods protection🙏
Thando lami or is it a punishment?
Come on that's some BS I don't need to hear RN
There is no god, now you can start to deal with realities of life!!
I left mine for my protection. She was and is a histrionic/psychopathic/ narxussistic/cheating/lying/murdering/satanist. Pure evil. Left my home, family I loved/ dog. Wish i never met her. Believe she poisoned both me and my mother. Murdered someone before i met her.
That’s a fact !!
You look like you're going to burst into hysterical laughter at any second.
Hahah
Only saw it after you said it 😂😂🤣
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I’ve read this before I even properly watched the vid...... vid ruined lol can’t watch it now lol
Lol this cheered me up
No I pretend that he died!
Lol so funny. Love it
Savage lol
You know what?!!! I should try this!
LOVE THIS!!!! I WILL DO THIS. 👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@Worthy107 be23 They Don't taking responsibility anyways, making it all your fault. So the other way is better because I can move on.
Nothing is more painful than being dumped by someone you really love but it's better to feel that way than be the one who hurt somebody because they are likely to have more regrets in the future.
How do you know they will regret it?
Bob Smith trust me you do. Been there before.
Amen!
especially if you are loyal she will regret it, why because once she leaves you she will be going out with cheaters and she will realize the value you have
Amen to that!
this is so calming, i was so sad and my heart was pounding so hard, but this video calmed to the normal state of mind, thanks a lot ♥
Get Tacoed same here.. my heart was pounding so much.. after watching this video i think i feel better now
I started listening to coach lee for his advice to get an ex back. now i actually listen to coach lee when im having any kind of relationship issues because he gives good advice which i find calming
Same here. I was so tense before watching this video
Wow!! Just discovered this guy!!! He’s SOOOO spot on!!
Very hard to watch but definitely a great video trying not to cry lol
“Did not see a future with you” yes he also said it to me 😢💔 feel so bad to heard that words 😢😭💔
You're not alone.
It's happening everyday to different people.
"We are not compatible... ...There's just so many negatives that outways the positives about you... ...This relationship is boring" - I was told these words out of nowhere by the woman I thought she was the one for me.
You're not alone.
It's happening everyday to different people.
"We are not compatible... ...There's just so many negatives that outways the positives about you... ...This relationship is boring" - I was told these words out of nowhere by the woman I thought she was the one for me.
My fiancé told me the same thing a month ago. I’m shattered and trying to pick up the pieces while trying to stay strong.
I literally got told I would act like their deadbeat father, despite knowing that I want to love my children even more than my parents had loved me
Jeze TN so sad so cold they maybe look future in other perspective !!!!????
Learn from my mistakes. My ex broke up with me and I did the begging and pleading routine that didn’t work at all. I kept in contact with her because I was afraid of losing her forever. I will send text messages and try calling. Most of the time she either ignore or replied with vague messages. I finally had to accept the fact that I had to move on. Because right now I was in a position of weakness. So I am doing the no contact method. I started taking up new hobbies and going to the gym to better health. I am even considering dating again. Time is too short and valuable. If someone doesn’t appreciate the time you given them then they are not worth keeping around. Remember you are more valuable and certainly the top prize. I learn this extremely important lesson from Coach Lee.
Hang in there, focus on #1 YOU!! One day at a time and DON'T contact her.
Simp.
Rey, stay strong, no more contact. Even if she called u tomorrow to fix it, she ended it once and you can't take her back. Her respect is gone and that's just life. Learn from that frantic bullshit you engaged in after she dumped you. It doesn't work and it makes you look low value and Beta. You have been given a gift, friend, for when the right one comes along.
you mind sharing what hobbies you are looking into..? I am in a similar situation right now.. it sucks
GuitarGuy amen to that. Never looking back. It’s her lost.
Just wanted to leave an update to all. No contact worked !!! Took 5 months though. First 2 months I failed no contact every 2 weeks and eventually by finally stuck to no contact for 3 months and it worked. Binge watched these videos for the past few months. Wish you all luck, stick to no contact and use this time to better you self. Got my dream job, and lost 30 pounds.
Update?
Chase a dog, it runs from you...run from a dog, it chases you. Human life has great value but I'll be damned if we don't act like dogs...minus the love and loyalty.
AMEN! 🖐🏻🙌🏽
Right?
Ryan1380 we are all retarded running on emotions
@@Misplacedvter 🙌
Dogs treat their humans far better then we deserve..they are also more loyal ..
Invest in yourself to the point someone else wants to invest in you and then keep going. A broken heart is one of the most painful experiences someone can go through. You can and you will get through it.
it's something that can truly change your life you can let it break you or You and you only can choose to turn your pain into strength improve your life for yourself. We don't need another person to make us happy or feel whole you have the power to get up from the dirt brush yourself off and find happiness within yourself. Be a better you for you!
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This is so true - lost it all - paid $60.000 child support - $80.000 student loan - Ray Ray/Tyrone had nothing but my money/wife let them have it - I'm a professional make six figures - and only have to show up - men take care of yourselves - life/money/emotions - the secret is time - the Bible says a dog will return to its vomit - net worth $500.000 ten years debt free.
@@markmoore7161 just one thing(even if its almost 7 months), thank you!
@@ankanchakraborty1648 even if its been 7 months - just saw one of the people whom put obstacles in my path this morning - he was horrible looking - really broke my heart - in the Bible there is a verse that when the devil showed up it said is this the thing that was causing all this trouble - bottom line he and the distractions detractors are defeated.
I guess just stay true to yourself. In the end that's all that counts. Be happy. That's all that matters
6 weeks of No Contact and my ex set up a meeting yesterday to talk. He asked to start over because he missed me and realized he made a mistake. No contact work guys! Stay strong, focused and positive.
Did you go back? Was he better? Are you still together?
This gives me hope. Thankyou. Currently on 14 days
If they text you do you ignore them?
@@edeloleary2093 No never ignore them, them reaching out is what you want, just match their level of emotion and effort and only continue it they do. Don’t be the one to bring up the relationship talk either 👍
@@houghtonmatt okay I'll do that :)
I really want to thank Coach Lee for his videos. When my bf broke up with me it feels like everything was falling apart and watching these videos help me think it might not be the end for us. Even if the point isn't to make you hold on to him but to focus on yourself, just thinking about getting back with that person calm you down. And "conceiving" a plan to get him back actually help YOU get out of bed. Then days are going and you're feeling better day by day :)
I truly believe my time of "grieving" would have been longer if I didn't come across Coach Lee's videos. So thank you SO SO much.
Oh and FYI my ex came back after exactly 1 month of NC so... ;)
Oh wow, did you get back with them?
Wow....awesome story!!!! so happy for you!!! :)
This gives me hope, thankyou
Great news! I love reading success stories of other people, makes me happy for all of you! Good luck!
Man you look so damn serious that i started getting concerned if i didn't follow what you say you're gonna come and find me.
Maybe that will motivate you! LOL
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My father taught me this when I was sixteen and had my first broken heart. he basically just said never chase a man. once my heart is broken, I run in the other direction. and when a friend says guess who I saw the other night? I tell them not to say another word. best thing to do is to be kind to yourself and guard your heart. learn to accept the situation no matter how much it hurts. and most important, date all their friends. kidding.
Chasing fireflys love this❤️
Yes! My mom says the same thing. Never chase anyone, especially the one that broke your heart.
Sorry to say that to you. But you parents advice is not a good advice on my eyes.
It’s easy to them to talk like that. Often times they themselves had experience divorce (like my have) and they try to “save” your heart by talking BS like that.
I think it’s WORTH to fight for the love.
Break ups and divorces sucks and often times they happening because of the ego of at least on of the partners.
How many relationships and marriages could have been saved if only at least the dumper would talk and explain his feelings BEFORE they start thinking about a break up weeks or months ago !
Patience!...wait for the table to turns!😂😂😂😂
She better not hold her breath! 😉
Yes mam
Antony S 😂😭
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Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Highly agree...no contact .
Respect yourself...you deserve this.
My long term man is my ex. We split and got back together several times. We did no contact. We learned our value, we learned what we are willing to do/invest, we learned how to fight properly, we learned how to deal with those irritations and ebbs and flows. We are doing great, and proud of ourselves.
So happy for you both!
Adrienne Olson i hope this happens for me and my ex... this is out second breakup due to lost of trust and arguements and anger from my part..
My ex and I broke up 3 times in the past 2 years. It’s irritating , but idk if I ever wanna be back wit him . He didn’t value me enough
How long was your no contact?
Does the no contact work if I broke up with him? I broke up with him because we were fighting over everything all the time, and he got mad at me for the dumbest reasons most of the time, I was getting tired, I never stopped loving him, but I was mentally sick, and I had to think of my self care first so we could be happy in the future.
I even told him, don't think I'm leaving because i stopped loving your or because there's someone else, it's not like that, I just need to recover from too much toxicity, and maybe in the future when we're okay again, we can get back, but he doesn't wanna see me, he's really mad, he even said we have mo future 😪
It’s so painful being dumped, it’s the worst feeling ever! But this video helped 👍🏻
I'm sure cancer is worse. Just a guess.
Sorry dear
Updatee ??
One thing you must learn is this: "REJECTION is PROTECTION!" Never put a question mark where GOD puts a period!! Focus on you and love yourself.
I know how it feels 💔😢
They need to experience the loss.
I blew it up even after year. He was in the curiosity safe so he wanted to test waters and i fell for it.. i made him go back to relief phase..
I used the no contact method after a recent split of a multi year relationship and my ex did come back trying to rekindle things. But he returned with the same issues and didn’t want to fix them so I continued on.
how long did it take to hear back
Maybe because u tell him about your feeling instead telling him what u been doing..people wont fix things if u keep talking about relationship,let them think about what have u become instead expressing your emotion about them..be the new version about yourself..be more attractive..do things what u want to do..
One exception... narcissists.
I'm No Contact forever.
Curiosity must have been when she once called me to see if I ever got lonely; my answer was "No." There was no one with me at the time, talk about rejection I never meant to convey; I was, at the time, being honest, nor was there a brain with me because I'm a guy, nor did I think how hurt she might have been but a lot of these calls were about her, that she had had a panic attack; so she must have desired me back, problem was, she left which created the distance in the first place; I didn't throw her out nor did she have complaints and I gave her a hundred million reasons to pounce on (I have recently learned women file for divorce more so than men--that would have been nice to know, it is now impossible to unlearn, although I probably wouldn't have listened anyway, I've always been in another world when it comes to reality).
Yes!...never go back to a narcissist!
Do they come back though ? Or they never reached out?
Carol Loraine b
nenuhhS11 Yes, they do! My ex was a textbook narcissist, and he came back multiple times (or at least tried). Even after he had gotten into another relationship. The problem with narcissists is that its all a game to them & they are not capable & have no intention of giving you the relationship you want.
Hey coach...can I just thank you. I got her back!! After 4 months!!! But honestly by the time she came back. I’d already moved on. It’s sooo weird. The minute you are over her, there she is.
This is how I feel about it all. When you're with someone and you're doing nice things for them and you're freely and openly giving of your time, your energy, and your creativity and they can't appreciate those things, and want space or a break they've just shown you their value system. So don't feel bad about being good to them that's who you are. Here's the twist, if they do happen to come back around the first taste was free, the rest is going to cost them. Remember they showed you their value system so don't do all the work anymore, it has to be mutual. They're going to have to earn it now or you'll end up right back in the same scenario. Your time, your energy, your effort, your love, your attention, your money are all valuable. Don't waste spending these commodities on people who refuse to value them.
This is why I've recently ended a friendship. I cared too much and got nothing in return.
This is true. If she comes back she'll be dealing with a polite skeptic rather than what I'd been before.
Reading the book of Psalms will comfort you. Don't beat yourself up. Love yourself. Get rest. Treat yourself. Work on yourself. I don't know about no contact. But don't contact often. Do not beg or plead.
Let them know you love them. But don't over do it. Admit to everything that is truthfully your fault. Tell them you are changing those things. Never argue. Be patient. Be kind.
Such kind words
thats the best advice.
"Refuse to be the back-up plan and back out" 👍
Lee i just want to thank you man, my girlfriend of two years left me a month ago and i was horribly depressed. I didnt eat for weeks at a time and I contemplating ending my own life. Once i found your channel you gave me hope. Iv recently started no contact and in 4 days she messaged me asking how i was doing.. again, thank you man.
How did it work out?
At first, I was about to cry. But after I absorbed all of the words he said, I feel relieved and enlightened. Thank you!
🙏💪
I was once told 'going back to your ex is like reading a book you've already read'. Guess who told me that. My ex. And I enjoyed cracking her over the head with her own statement when she wanted me back
Jerrell Young time changes people - for the worse or the better... but it’s a new book every decade - in everyone’s life... I’ve changed a lot. I’m no where near the way I use to be
Jerrell Young but at times its fun😂😂
@@nhppublishing loved your comment as well as the original comment!
Damn
@kate sand love revenge?
The fuck are you on about. Girl clearly deserved it and the guys is a champ and dodged a bullet. People better think of the consequences before talking out of their asses and trying to seem all wise and shit.
I really hope she goes through the same thing she put me through
I just want someone better and richer who loves me than him and taller too he was short
Amen to that.
My girl cheated on me a couple days ago. I dont even want to contact her. But i wish she had remorse for what shes done. This is killing me.
She will probably start to feel as bad as u around the time u start to feel better. Then she reaches out.
@@karljonsson5577 I was thinking that too, girls tend to do that when their rebounds don't work out. The real test of strength is not taking them back.
This was hard to watch at the beginning, but it got strangely satisfying the whole way trough. thank you for this.
@@himanshusarda138 i am fine
QalbHeart the logic to what your feeling
You have no idea how many times I have to watch this video (probably over 1 million times!). I mean, the way you explained to the situation, especially from an EX's perspective, make so much sense and it makes me feel so good about it. I'm into No Contact for almost 5 months now and I'm working on improving myself. It has to be one of the most challenges I've ever faced, and it taught me a lot about respect, control, how to handle the situation in a properly way, and so forth. So, Coach Lee, I humbly thank you for your hard work and share your experiences with us. If my ex-fiancé contacts me back, I will update and let you guys know! To all Dumpees out there, if I could, I'd invite you all and have a drink together and enjoy telling jokes about life, just to lift up spirits! Stay strong.
rooting for you brother
@Blabzillaweasel Hi, Blabzillaweasel. Nope, she has not contacted me and it's already passed 10 months so far. I've already removed her off of my friendlist on Facebook. I'm done with her. Not worth it. I am surrounding by amazing friends and family and that's all I need.
@@larryclay8875any update ? Please
You are a genius. This is a talk every father should have with his son. Im saving it to view with my kid when he is ready.
Thank you
Just wanted to come back here and say that Coach Lee absolutely knows what he’s talking about. I thought I was never going to hear from my ex ever again. I followed the no contact rule anyway because I felt my ex didn’t deserve to hear from me or know how much I was hurting. To my surprise, my ex contacted me about 6 months post-breakup asking me to talk and to go for coffee. These videos truly brought me comfort during the hardest breakup I have ever had to go through. I also learned a lot about myself and grew as a person during NC. Thank you Coach Lee 🤗❤
Sam, I'm so happy for you! Would you please email my assistant Amber with your story? We won't use your name or image, but your story could encourage others. Amber's email is myexbackcoach@gmail.com and I would appreciate it! Glad for you!
@@RealCoachLee yes of course!
Thanks again! 😊
@@samrz any update?
@@beniemawu7359 only update is that my ex and I got back together a little while after going for coffee. We’ve been dating for about 4 months now and are even better than before 😊
Did you reconcile?
This gave me a tremendous amount of confidence, I’m doing no contact, and I feel a lot better about now. The way you explained it made me excited to do my own thing, and in a way hopefully make my Ex feel the pain I felt. I’m about two weeks into the break up it was mutual but I only agreed because I knew she didn’t want the relationship anymore, so technically I was dumped and I didn’t realize that until now. I’m actually move on quite fast amazingly, I do get moments of nostalgic sadness, but also happiness think about the fun times we had. You hit some important points that I will definitely use: “act casual and make them think your doing great” I think that’s is simple but so important. Thanks Coach.
Milby Vision going through the exact same thing
Zebron me or...?
@@TheAsh265 Update: I fell off the no contact wagon June 15th after going a solid two weeks. i reached out to exclaim that "I didn't want to be friends", because previously at the break up i told her we could be friends after we had our time apart, and that i would giver her a second chance... so after seeing some videos and reading about friendship after the break up, i decided i needed to swiftly and efficiently tell her, i did not want to be friends, and i also told her that " Im worth more than that" which i am, and she knows that. After sending that text it literally put my mentality back at square one, day 1 of no contact, and it was horrible, i needed to reach out to tell her that, but it messed me up and it made me want to text her back and say i didn't mean that... because i fucking care about her, and lover her, but right now i need to love myself and not give any fucks about her to put it harshly.
If you take anything away from this, its that reaching out for any reason even if you think its justifiable, will set you back, i don't regret reaching out and telling her "No friendship" but shit its like falling down after being half way up the hill.
If you want to talk more and even be accountability partners, assuming your doing no contact as well, PM on YT and we can talk more. My break up is more complex than what I've said here, and leads me to believe that i have a lower chance of getting her back, but i wont know until i actually shut up and don't say anything to her, she needs to understand my pain.
Stay strong and move on
Milby Vision anything Happen sense ?
Thanks so much Coach Lee! You
have guided me through a very difficult and painful experience and everything you advised me to do has worked. You were my guiding Angel and my comfort through the journey. Your delivery is sensitive, confident and reassuring. I’m sure you are helping many people through very difficult times and for this I wish you every success! Sandra
Thank you for the kind words and the tip/"Super Thanks"!
Please more info for us heartbroken.
How long were you together before the break up? How long was the break up?
How old are you guys? Married ?
What was the reason for the break up?
Hope it’s ok to ask.
I been suicidal lately and just got dumped and I was contemplating suicide today but I saw this video and it saved me thank you .
Don't be so crazy! Although it feels like the end of the world, it's not. It's a difficult time but it will ultimately make you stronger and wiser. Be strong, you'll get through it and look back laughing one day.
NO MAN, and NOTHING is worth you taking your life over. We've all been hurt. Someone who will adore you is just waiting to meet your acquaintance. The Universe delivers EVERYTHING to you at the right time. Work on you, school, career, etc. Be patient. Seek professional help from a LICENSED mental health counselor to discuss your issues. You're going to be just fine. Karma will take care of them.
There is no way we can know what our ex is thinking. It could be a million things. We can only surmise. But if they left you your best move will be to keep moving forward. Why go backwards.
Guys this is a real testimonial, his advice Works 👍🏼stick through
Can you tell us your story?
Have u experienced it
"Your ex is complex"
-CoachLee
I so needed this 😞, I'm depressed and I feel heart broken... Thank you for the video
I was this way 2 years ago. Trust me with due time you'll feel better.
Hang in there focus on u
I’m not chasing my ex. She had an affair and she has lost me. That’s it. Great insight though. Thanks
This video is for women and blue pill men, it isn't valid or needed.
@@LordSos91 shut up
@@palladium607 or what? simp
Then why you are here sucker
@@trestrum2008gmail because I can lmao, y'all butt hurt over my comment it's quiet hilarious. Y'all still hoping your ex thinks about you lmfao
This is helping me a lot.. I was having urges to send her messages all day, but I didn't.. We had the first month with very little contact, maybe 3 messages traded.. 1 month no contact.. and then I reached back, we traded 6 messages, the last one I sent was more casual just like you said! I decided to play cool, send emojis, smile... She was doing that so I thought I'd do the same, portray a persona that is completely ok with what happened. Some nights I remember she saying she was sad at first but now she can "look at our past and smile".. that hurts a lot to listen..godammed it! Wel.. I'll stop texting/answering, it makes sense. Thanks for the support, Lee
Did you guys get back together?
Thank you very much Coach Lee. You are a life saver. I really recommend this video for the heart broken out there. This is straight to the point.
Please let me know if you need anything
Interesting. Now put children and assets into the equation and explain that mess.
mynet drive one question please... if I was In relationship a month and he broke up on the way like I can not be with you .. bla,bla is it still one month no contact work? I mean we had been together a month and it’s short time . I don’t mind doing no contact,I did it before and it’s very good ,but I am not sure for this time . Please answer 🥰 thanks
@@charliedavies3236 really??
mynet drive Would like this but I don’t wanna be that guy that ruins how sexy the number 600 is
Coach Lee is one of the best people to listen to during a break-up. His insight and easy to understand break-downs of how this whole thing works...I find it very comforting to listen to while I do house work, or relaxing. It keeps my mind off of the pain, and gives me something more rational to focus on.
Coach Lee I would like to thank you very much my girlfriend and I recently went through a 2 month separation we recently got back together and things couldn't be better I even told her that I watched your videos thank you once again for helping me to this difficult time God bless
Stay positive!!!
I was absolutely devastated after my ex broke up with me. She left me out of no where. Turned cold and I couldn’t believe it. I DID NOT chase or beg her. I never thought she would reach out to me since she was so cold. Well, 42 days later of STRICT NO CONTACT she called me telling me she missed me and apologized to me. We’re meeting up for drinks and to catch up. I honestly took the time of no contact to work on myself and to rebuild myself on all aspects of life, spiritually, financially, physically, mentally and most of all emotionally. I do miss her and love her but I don’t need her. I’m at peace knowing that I will be okay, regardless if we get back together or not. Remain strong to everyone who’s going through a tough breakup, & eventually if they do realize your worth. They will reach out! Thank you coach Lee!!! Best of luck to everyone!
I was in no contact for nearly 3 yrs and he just text and said 'hello'. Wtf? 3 yrs? I was doing fine and now my head is cabbaged.
Stay strong, keep moving forward, don't fall back.. what if he does it again? Then you'll be right back where you started! You know you deserve better than that. Good luck!
Cabbage lol mine calls but never talks just listen from other numbers lol but im not so sure
Cabbage😭😭😭😭
Not the cabbage 😂😂😂😂😂
This hit home so hard. I found myself emoting and nodding in agreement as you were speaking. Everything you said spoke directly to my situation. Thanks for this!
Im in so much pain right now because of getting cheated and dumped. Thanks to this video, I am a little better now, at least I can eat properly now...
I don’t want them to miss me ,that’s not why I’m really watching…all I want to learn is to love myself in their absence…I want to go back to the times when I didn’t know of their existence..and am at the right place 😔😔😔
I’m so glad I’m in the no-contact period because my ex is cold af and made it super clear that they’ll never regret what they did to me and even got mad that I was trying to make them feel guilty for expressing how they hurt me !! What an absolute piece of trash !!!
Vishvaa Pandya sounds like mine
REHE'S NARCISSTIC...YOU'RE BETTER OFF...WE ARE BETTER OF WITHOUT THEM.
Samee
Are they contacted or anything??
Did they contact again?
I've seen a couple of videos on the no contact period.
But man, your words shows how smart you are. Even your stare shows you know what you're talking about.
Thank you man!
100% the best breakup video I’ve seen 👌🏼
A week of no contact has been so hard. I hope this continues to heal me and make her think about how special our relationship was 💔
How did it work out?
@@davidaustin8424 Its been 4 months. I've found myself in a rebound myself. I've been talking to somebody new but she still crosses my mind every few days. We have not spoken since this. I have grown definitely though.
I would never circle back to an ex. Why give someone another chance if they didn’t deserve you in the first place? This is foolish talk.
Depends, everyone that has been dumped is not innocent so, or sometimes both have equal wrongs but one of you have less limits
Sometimes people need to grow a bit more and figure things out in order to make the relationship work. It is a bit creepy to actively chase your ex around though. The situation should be allowed to breathe and evolve and then maybe it will just organically happen.
My boyfriend and i are beautiful together, he loves me but he is leaving me and moving his ex into our home. For the last 3 years he has held guilt about being a drunk asshole and making the mother of his child back so they can be a family. But its not gona work
Golden Never let an old flame burn you twice! I tell myself this all the time
That’s just your ego talking if u were to good for him u would’ve never fucked wit him. Stop a being a stuck up BIATCHHH! 😭
First genuine RUclips guy or gal on the topic. Respect
Yes and with a narcissist it is even more crazy because they always try to come back and they think that they own you
Ohh god this is so true😔they always think they own u which hurts so bad
Exactly. Block your phone number(FOREVER) and don’t answer the door(EVER)....he has no choice.....you hold all the cards and they have lost control of you..... which is all they were interested in anyway.....
My ex came back after a little over a month. No contact works. Stay strong. Thank you Coach Lee I will be sending you appreciation
This really does work, the love of my life left me 26 days ago.I used no contact strictly. The other day she messaged me and said she missed me and that she still loves me. And consider this is a long distance relationship. We are back together now, and the time that I had from her let me figure out what I done wrong and fix my problems. I will never make the same mistake again. Thanks Coach Lee!!!😁
Hii, can I ask how you responded to her when she contacted u finally?
I have the same question. How did you answer to their contact?
When I first began to read your comment I thought it was a woman - so if you are a woman stop reading now - how in the world you feel she came back to you fool - run Forest run.
Fkn awesome bro. Good luck
Bro I’m so fucking happy for you!
If you'd really love someone - truly love them - why would you break up with them in the first place???
Exactly. My gf of 6 years dumped me today. I will not accept her back even if she returns back in a week.
I’m sorry.. 6 years?
My ex dumped me 2 days ago.... I was just stuck ... like he’s got to be crazy. I had no issue applying the no contact rule. I was pissed ..hurt obliviously as well..but I’m pissed. Wasted my time. I’m starting to calm down and the hurt sucks.. but I know how great of a catch I am.. I’ll be good.
Feb 9, 2019 was the day my ex DUMPED me, (a great and very decent bf). Been hurt and SUPER sad ever since, but after groveling until March 1st, I’ve since gone No Contact. By now I do feel a lil better, talking to someone else, and as for the ex, she can miss me.
My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me cause he was afraid of missing out on anything and “wanted to live his life” aka date as many people as possible. All while telling me he still loves me and would love if he could have the best of both worlds. People have weird reasons.
Because only love doesn’t conquer it all. Just because you love them it doesn’t make them a good compatible partner for you. Sometimes the ones you love, are the most toxic ones for you.
Curiosity kills the "EX"!!! Serves him right!!
everything he says is so completely true. his videos helped me out so much more than what i had originally thought and helped me keep faith that no contact would work and it did after exactly 2 months, and admitted all the things coach lee was saying so trust his guidance! very helpful thank you
So needed to hear this today. Thank you, thank you, thank you. My goal is to stay strong and not be stupid again.
When one door closes another one open, just remember the things you did to have them split from you to make you better and help you grow as a person, so when the next time you get in a relationship you know the do's and don'ts,
This is the most absolutely right.
If there was 1 MILLION like button, I would have pressed that. What an analysis man.
Very helpful. Gf broke of 5 years broke up with me 3 days ago. First 2 days were very painful but now I’m healing. Thank you for this vid❤️
“You matter you can get through this” this gives me so much hope ❤️ even if I’m not planning on getting them back, I’m wanting to receive happiness back into my life
Sometimes the best way to get someone’s attention is to stop giving them yours..🙌
Facts 💯
This is by far the best and most accurate explanation of the no contact strategy that I’ve ever heard. Bravo 👏
I've learnt a lot watching these videos, builds up inner strength and keeps the focus on myself. I'm growing faster then ever before!!! Trust in your FAITH regardless of the outcome.
Fresh on a break up,,this is bang on the money!! Fully understood and makes so much sense. Thanks for the advice man.