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An Honest Chat About Autistic Burn Out

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  • Опубликовано: 13 июл 2024
  • TL,DR: Im tiiiiired
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  • @henriettajsoneskelin7806
    @henriettajsoneskelin7806 Месяц назад +27

    It's a shame that you never seem to get the beneficial circumstances - like a permanent, enjoyable living situation that is in every way a safe space - to rest and recover. It angers me that people who are in most need of comfortable lives are not getting that, while so many people that could deal just fine with less live in complete abundance, in roomy, quite houses with yoga ladies coming in to their private dance room in the basement and everyone has their space and it's all like a barbie dream. The ND's would need that so much more to just stay people 😢 thank you for still uploading because we miss you and care

  • @coololi07
    @coololi07 Месяц назад +31

    autistic burnout is impossible. im just stuck in a loop of oh maybe ill have energy tomorrow, lets sleep. what about day after? maybe after that? on and on and on. I've gone through years of this just suddenly losing all energy at least once a month and I still have no clue how i get myself back.
    I have no solutions either but wishing you the best

  • @jamesmckean3221
    @jamesmckean3221 Месяц назад +12

    Similar to me. I get anxious about going to work, then anxious about going home from work.

  • @steveneardley7541
    @steveneardley7541 Месяц назад +8

    When you told us a bit ago about how noisy and buggy (and ratty) your new place was, I just thought "Of jeez, she's going to have to move and she just got there. That is SO depressing." But the fact that the lease is only six months is actually very good news. It isn't really all that long. Yes, it's a total drag, but here in the US, leases are almost always a year.

  • @sophiawools1971
    @sophiawools1971 Месяц назад +8

    I've been in what I think is autistic burnout and I quit my job 3 months ago and I haven't had a job since. It's been so hard to exist and at the same time look for jobs, interview, etc. I get anxious about leaving the house and the concept of going to work and being around people. I don't know how I'm going to do it. I feel lazy, but I know that's not true. I don't ever comment on here, but know you're not alone!

  • @_origami
    @_origami Месяц назад +6

    In burnout too. Nightmare of functioning.
    Ever single thing
    Talking, any form of communication
    Seriously depleting

  • @deesparklebazinga9374
    @deesparklebazinga9374 Месяц назад +9

    I'm still coming out of what you describe since the lockdown shitshow sent me into my worst ever burnout. It sucks and I dont really have any advice as my bed and watching RUclips is how I survive but just to kill time more than anything else. Sending positive vibes and a reminder that it takes time but you can and will get out of it gradually xx

  • @silvermoonuk
    @silvermoonuk Месяц назад +5

    Even socialising, basic daily routines or communicating burns me out. I can do things for only a short burst but then I get tired or anxious afterwards. I have to pace myself each day and only do very easy things each day. I used to overdo things at one point but then I would feel crap later on. I think most therapists or medical professionals sadly don't understand how autism works. As you know, we can have burnout and executive dysfunction issues but instead, we get wrongly labelled as depressed. Hopefully, you will get there one day. But I admit, it does take a long time to figure things out. I'm 40 but still figuring out how to deal with my autism. Dana, just be yourself. Don't worry about being tired or sad occasionally. It is OK to have shit days sometimes. Xx ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  • @nikneumann9170
    @nikneumann9170 Месяц назад +5

    Yeah, I had this when I moved. Burnt out for months. Mentally and physically drained all the time. Taking baby-steps all the time. Just take small steps each day, and stay in touch with friends who can help. Good luck, Dana ❗👍🏼

  • @Catlily5
    @Catlily5 Месяц назад +6

    Moving majorly sucks. Even if it is for the better. I crashed badly after my last move. It was worth it in the long run but was terrible at first.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 Месяц назад +2

      💜 Hang in there!

  • @paulinejulien9191
    @paulinejulien9191 Месяц назад +4

    I relate so much. When in burnout I really struggle to watch anything new because I can’t process new information and have to rewatch stuff I already know… the fatigue is hard. I know what you mean about not even having the energy to get words out or remember things or make decisions. I’ve been in burnout for 4 months myself. My focus and short term memory are shit. I don’t sleep very well. I’m so anxious and depressed all the time and my sensory issues are worse. Same with you in the past my only conclusion was ‘I must be depressed’ because I didn’t know about autistic burnout but the only time I tried antidepressants they made me feel worse and I regret taking them. Hang in there, we’ll make it through ❤

  • @WitchPaper1
    @WitchPaper1 Месяц назад +6

    I so relate. I’m off work (work in a school) for a couple of months and have enough to live on so this is the perfect time to relax and get over the intense burnout and physical exhaustion, right? Wrong!! Haha! Instead, let’s obsess constantly about what we *should* be doing and let’s give ourselves the worst hard time about being a lazy piece of sh*t and not having done enough ever and just generally being useless (not assuming this is what you’re going thru at all as it does sound different and you don’t have a good living situation like I do but it’s just the *constant* mental barriers to actually being reasonably content that I’m relating to, maybe!) Anyway, I’m out here, wishing you the best.

  • @JelloTwins
    @JelloTwins Месяц назад +6

    I've felt this way on and off for the past few years, and I hope things feel better for us at some point. I just recently learned I'm autistic and I can say that something that's helped me is hearing from people like you and others who go through similar experiences here on youtube or some of my friends. People like Orion Kelly and Irene at The Thought Spot and Claire from Woodshed Theory have helped me a lot when it comes to thinking "this burnout I've been in for what feels like forever really frickin sucks, but there are ways to help myself, and maybe I don't have the energy every day to do it all, but just knowing that it's an option and something to work towards makes me feel just a teensy bit better".

  • @UnvisibleGirl
    @UnvisibleGirl Месяц назад +5

    I'm in the same boat, constantly burnt out, I don't have the best living arrangement and I'm pouring all my enegy into caring for two dogs( of one them is elderly and needs to go out regularly ;-; ). I feel you on the knowing what you need but not having the skills or the means to do it 🙃. Well done for managing to edit and post the video too, proud of you 😊

  • @kr1221E
    @kr1221E Месяц назад +4

    I respect you for coming on here and sharing. You've moved house which is really stressful and had lots of problems since you moved in. I am autistic and also have problems. I find negative events and depression zap my energy, motivation and enthusiasm. Sorry your sleep pattern is out of whack and your attention is not on things, I find I struggle to keep my attention on things as well. I hope you can recharge your batteries and share with us how you did it. Thanks for the video.

  • @gillywild
    @gillywild Месяц назад +5

    I feel you. I think im bouncing along the edge of this right now. I have no energy and just want to sleep all the time. I’ve been here before and I know it will pass. I know that I have to just make myself as comfortable as I can and wait for the storm to pass. It still sucks though. I can only offer my solidarity. Take care :)

  • @marleysoluna
    @marleysoluna Месяц назад +3

    Really sorry for both of us that I related to this so much! I've had a pretty terrible last few years, but I still have responsibilities and bills. I can't just take it easy for a few months. I've been in and out of burn out for two years now, and idk when it'll end.

  • @MorbinNecrim86
    @MorbinNecrim86 Месяц назад +3

    I know it doesn't really help, but I can relate, Ive been going through very similar things lately. I can't offer any helpful suggestions but I wish you well and hope you settle and find a good groove again

  • @Elvenroyale
    @Elvenroyale Месяц назад +1

    So THAT’S what was wrong with me all those times! I described it to my therapist like the things I need to do are in bottles on a shelf in the back of my mind and to get to them, I have to figure out how to get there. Just walking to them feels like walking through molasses and even just forming sentences is challenging.
    Great video Dana! Thank you❤

  • @LoveCrumb
    @LoveCrumb Месяц назад +2

    I deeply relate to this ESPECIALLY the sleep issues and feeling so disoriented because of it. It's so unbelievably not fun.

  • @meganmakesmagic802
    @meganmakesmagic802 Месяц назад +1

    Totally relatable. I'm so sorry you're struggling with everything right now, Dana. Your new housing situation sounds equally terrible to your last, just in a different way. Sending you lots of love and strength from Vermont! 🥰

  • @lauraburystedmundsyoga8231
    @lauraburystedmundsyoga8231 Месяц назад

    My most recent burnout has been the longest & worst I've ever experienced - massive support & solidarity to you for getting up & out & filming a video while feeling like that 💚

  • @servadac42
    @servadac42 Месяц назад +1

    I can relate to this, I first got autistic burnout in 2020 and I’ve been in it for varying degrees ever since. At the time I was also 3 years away from my dx so it got ”treated” as occupational burnout. I try to follow every tip to make it better, but to be quite honest nothing works. If I lived in a house near nature I’m sure I could get better, but I live in a noisy apartment in the middle of a big city. I can also relate to not being the same person pre- and post burnout. Before I was a completely different person, I had so much energy to do things. It sucks.

  • @Cr4zyLady
    @Cr4zyLady Месяц назад +1

    I'm right there with you, so thank you for investing your limited energy to share this, your effort and openness truly helps me feel validated and understood 🤗

  • @bunnywavyxx9524
    @bunnywavyxx9524 10 дней назад

    i watched your videos before i discovered that i was autistic as well, its crazy how i thought i was an outsider. i relate to this so much. I need time to rot basically, do nothing, be alone etc. but do things that arent overstimulating and social life, work, and other responsibilities make me feel like apart of me is breaking away. i need to relax. im fully masking so often it makes me hate everything. the emotional burnout is so key that even talking gets exhausting, yes, yes... no ability or energy to do anything. just that. I wish i could help myself.

  • @cupofteawithpoetry
    @cupofteawithpoetry Месяц назад +2

    Thanks for sharing Dana. Much Love 💕 💕

  • @cowsonzambonis6
    @cowsonzambonis6 Месяц назад +1

    Also in burnout. I never realized how much energy my brain needs to function properly…

  • @gratefulkm
    @gratefulkm Месяц назад

    Living in a permanent state of Shock and pretending we are not in shock is exhausting

  • @Hermitthecog
    @Hermitthecog Месяц назад

    Hey again, I empathize. I left home (decades ago) as an undiagnosed AuDHD teen and my housing and financial circumstances were similarly, massively disregulating.
    One adaptation I found helpful was to deliberately leave the house with a walkman (showing my age here, aren't I?) and absolutely NO plan other than to go randomly wherever. Initially it may feel aimless and counterintuitive but once you're moving with that agenda in mind it (walking) quickly becomes a self-sustaining stim that one can really lean into (and I'd recommend listening to full albums rather than finicky playlists of curated songs; committing to the album's duration frees oneself to just be in the moment.)
    In the absence of a bicycle it's the most empowering means I know of for reclaiming one's sense of autonomy and grounding, and the album-length listening experience encourages one to keep walking until the album ends.
    (That said, personally I recommend Brian Eno's Ambient I: Music for Airports as an essential album, as it's very easy to condition oneself to get calm by hearing it.)
    Incidentally, this funk is still part of your body's way of processing the trauma of everything you moved to get away from, and judging by this video you have progressed in that compared to the last video I commented on, so do give yourself credit for that - it's a slow process, granted, but you're getting there! 😊

  • @imanej368
    @imanej368 Месяц назад +1

    I'm sorry dude . Hope it gets better soon

  • @KatjaTheAutiArtist
    @KatjaTheAutiArtist Месяц назад +1

    Omg, Dana… I’ve been going through burnout for a while now. Every time I try to build a routine it doesn’t stick. I am taking everything I can to sleep but instead I’m awake watching your video explaining so much of what I have been going through. I spend so much time like more than half the day just trying to get myself up and doing something. But it’s all so much and overwhelming. I haven’t made a video in like a month and a half. Maybe I will once I have a/c in my attic studio…

  • @pbjellytime
    @pbjellytime Месяц назад

    thank you for this. it felt like someone was inside my brain saying everything that was in there, highly relatable.

  • @plasmabat718
    @plasmabat718 13 дней назад

    I'm going through this too, to the point of wanting to leave this world often.
    For anyone else going through this just know that these feelings WILL end, and you WILL recover. Be patient with yourself, and show yourself compassion. Treat yourself like a good friend would, and if you have anyone you can reach out to help you please do so; Trust me when I tell you that anyone that genuinely cares about will much rather be slightly inconvenienced by having to help you do even basic things like cook or clean or be there for emotional support and help you plan and execute things that will help you recover than lose you.
    I don't have anyone in my life who I can ask for help from, but I pray to Christ and He helps me. I think I would have been dead by now if not for Him.
    I wish everyone going through this and that will go through this again in the future the peace and comfort and time and meaning and purpose and anything else they need to recover. And I hope you all are given the strength and opportunities and support needed to build lives worth living, that one day soon you'll all find joy and peace and comfort.
    I know it doesn't feel glorious, and no one else even sees or appreciates just how much you're struggling and how just continuing to live takes everything you have in you, but continuing on even when it feels and seems like things will never get better is one of the strongest and bravest things anyone can ever do. Don't ever be ashamed of not being able to do as much as other people, you were born in such a way that everything you do is extremely difficult. People without autism and ADHD are walking on gently sloping hills carrying 50lbs, and you are carrying 100, 000lbs climbing a mountain. Don't even compare yourself to other autistic people that are more socially or financially successful, they almost definitely have/had some combination of more support, less severe symptoms, more opportunities, fewer obstacles, and more resources. You are trying your best and you deserve acknowledgement of your efforts, you even try so hard to the point of complete exhaustion again and again. You aren't lazy or selfish or worthless or useless or a burden or deserve to suffer or broken. The world is better with you in it even if other people never see that, even if YOU don't see that and you don't understand why it is. You have good things about you, even if you don't see them yet.
    I'm right there with you, slowly digging inch by inch back up to the surface from miles underground, but we CAN make it back to the surface, even though it feels like we never will. We'll get there one day. The darkness never last forever, the day always returns, the sun will come up again. For now just ride out the night with me and be there with me to see the sun when it does rise again.

  • @stephenie44
    @stephenie44 Месяц назад +3

    I know you said you’re not processing things, so maybe this is a useless recommendation, but Lucifer is a good long show to get lost in.

  • @justinhambidge8811
    @justinhambidge8811 Месяц назад +1

    Thanks for sharing

  • @Cheri.Marie_
    @Cheri.Marie_ Месяц назад

    I've been going through the same thing myself. Moved to NYC about 8 months ago, because my partner wanted to move back close to family. I had no real support system or family to help where I'm from, so I agreed to move, and I knew it would be hard, but holy hell. I am in my 40s, and this is the first time I've experienced true autistic burnout. I have no idea how I can pull out of it. All my usual coping mechanisms are no longer available to me here. I live in a tiny basement apartment with no windows and no bathtub. I have to clean constantly to avoid rats or cockroaches, and I am always feeling sick and in pain. I miss nature and silence and fresh air so much it hurts. I love my partner but as an autistic person, this place is literal hell for me and I hate it here.
    Like, I knew it would be hard, but this is insane. Nobody else really seems to understand, and they wonder why I can't just be happy. I can feel myself changing for the worse, like I'm slowly dying inside, and it's quite frightening.
    I barely am able to leave the apartment anymore, and have zero energy for even things I used to love, like drumming and dancing. Those were also my stims and my exercise, so I am in rough shape. 😅
    I just want to sleep all the time lately, but it's never enough to feel rested.
    I am having skills regression and more frequent periods of being non verbal, too, but still have to function and appear as normal as possible for my partner's family. I just want to lie down in a peaceful meadow for a couple of years, but of course that's not possible.
    I'm not depressed, and don't want to take medication I don't need, but that's all doctors seem to know how to do these days. Every night I hope tomorrow will be better, but it's the same hamster wheel of work, anxiety, overstimulation and pain with no real way to rest or relax, every single day.
    Anyway, you're definitely not alone, I very much understand what you are saying in this video! I hope anyone going through this finds their way out very soon. It's an awful way to exist, and so lonely when nobody else in your life gets it. 😢

  • @thehardwaregirl
    @thehardwaregirl Месяц назад

    I feel you so much 🥺

  • @elizabethcarrie2329
    @elizabethcarrie2329 Месяц назад

    Thanks!

  • @izzyonyoutuba
    @izzyonyoutuba Месяц назад +1

    relatable

  • @ANeurodivergentGuy
    @ANeurodivergentGuy Месяц назад

    Sorry you're going through this

  • @ckblackwoodmusic
    @ckblackwoodmusic Месяц назад

    That was my first thought - us autistic folk sitting out in the forest?! Unheard of!

  • @AutisticAF
    @AutisticAF Месяц назад +1

    I feel you on everything you've said, I moved in March and I still don't have a proper routine and my sleeping pattern is constantly switching between normal and nocturnal. Resting definitely does help but only in a calm, safe environment which from the sounds of things, you don't have right now. I do hope things improve for you, and I hope it's soon! Don't worry about appearing "depressive" or "tired", you're being real and it's a massive help to those who think that us NDs have it together all the time, when that's far from the truth. Keep going Dana! You got this! 💪