2. Your experience of ‘uncontrollable’masking and loss of identity really, really speaks to me! It’s awesome that you are so self aware that you worked this out about yourself at 25. I wasn’t diagnosed til 47 and I’ve been going through very much the same realisations as you! Needless to say - I really enjoy your content. Actually, I dig it, lol ✌️💕☺️
Hi, same here! She could be me! . .I am 51 years old and I'm not bothering with a diagnosis as I'm not very trusting of the medical community in general 🤗
I totally wouldn't have worked any of this out without being diagnosed at 21! It's so brilliantly weird to me that so many of us go through the exact same emotions and realisations following diagnosis regardless of age though. I'm glad you're enjoying what I make, and thank you for commenting!
Dana, I agree with your initial statement that there is not a binary or gender to autism, but rather the autistic person has a gender identity. Autistamatic and Aucademy did excellent videos on this. I like your original thinking on autistic experience!
Some people with ADHD and autism do something labelled as 'oversharing'. This is where the person goes beyond the societal norms, when talking about private/personal things. My son and nephew do this often, however, I see this differently from the rest of society . . .my son and nephew are the most truly authentic people you could ever meet. When talking with others, they don't feel a need to keep certain personal details private, as at their core, they don't have a fear of being judged like most people do. They don't do 'shame' at all! I think this is Amazing personally! They also do not judge others like most people do. I always saw this quality as very refreshing and authentic, as opposed to ' oversharing'. I believe that this neurotype is here to teach us how to love properly! 💖
Oooh absolute sore spot for me here! Growing up my brother started almost every sentence with 'Apparently' and it drove me up the wall 😂 It's the context though, he used it to constantly correct people, it's not annoying when its more of a 'I'm not totally sure but apparently'!
@@wilM26 Oversharing can be touching or inappropriate. It depends on the circumstances and whether people are sharing about themselves or other people.
So relatable...! Only replace Dr Who with LotR and Harry Potter in my case. It blows my mind how no one looked at me age 11-20 living, breathing and copypasting those worlds and characters, and thought maybe MAYBE this is signaling something?! Especially when paired with the hundreds of other autistic traits that were and are applicable
Hi Dana, don't you think that it's verbal language full stop that we have a problem with, as opposed to language itself. I think a lot of us have difficulty with auditory processing, which creates terrible confidence and anxiety problems in social situations, as, how can we interact verbally when we're spending most of the conversation catching up with what's been said! This also causes us to be ridiculed, which creates more anxiety because we begin to expect this! A lot of us also have difficulty with the volume and tone of our voices, which means we sometimes talk too loud, and sometimes too quietly! Both of these create anxiety and add to our verbal struggles. I think there are soooo many layers to the topic of verbal communication! 💖
Oooh absolutely, I might just steal some of your thoughts for a video specifically on verbal language 😂 It also totally ties into why I'm much more comfortable communicating via text or my videos, where I can of course take a full week to read, process and think of a reply for any comment! Sorry its taken so long, but thank you for this comment, really given me a 'light bulb' moment in exactly what my issue with 'language' really is!
Hi Dana, greetings from Wales! It's brilliant to see British RUclipsrs about because I rarely see them! First and foremost, I extremely enjoy your videos, carry on making content and I enjoy it very much! I edited my previous message as I realised I might've came across as blunt (always self-conscious about that lol). I'm 13, AFAB (though I'm a trans-guy). For the past six months (or more, I can't remember), I've looked (and still looking) into the possibility that I might have autism but I'm unsure on which traits I should look at, AMAB or AFAB or doesn't it matter? As I mentioned, I love your content and can't wait to watch more of your videos, Orion.
2. Your experience of ‘uncontrollable’masking and loss of identity really, really speaks to me! It’s awesome that you are so self aware that you worked this out about yourself at 25. I wasn’t diagnosed til 47 and I’ve been going through very much the same realisations as you! Needless to say - I really enjoy your content. Actually, I dig it, lol ✌️💕☺️
Hi, same here! She could be me! . .I am 51 years old and I'm not bothering with a diagnosis as I'm not very trusting of the medical community in general 🤗
I totally wouldn't have worked any of this out without being diagnosed at 21! It's so brilliantly weird to me that so many of us go through the exact same emotions and realisations following diagnosis regardless of age though. I'm glad you're enjoying what I make, and thank you for commenting!
Congrats on 1K subs!!!
Dana, I agree with your initial statement that there is not a binary or gender to autism, but rather the autistic person has a gender identity.
Autistamatic and Aucademy did excellent videos on this.
I like your original thinking on autistic experience!
I don't like eye contact. I look at people's eyebrows instead. It usually fools people.
14:00 apparently people think I say apparently too much
Some people with ADHD and autism do something labelled as 'oversharing'. This is where the person goes beyond the societal norms, when talking about private/personal things. My son and nephew do this often, however, I see this differently from the rest of society . . .my son and nephew are the most truly authentic people you could ever meet. When talking with others, they don't feel a need to keep certain personal details private, as at their core, they don't have a fear of being judged like most people do. They don't do 'shame' at all! I think this is Amazing personally! They also do not judge others like most people do. I always saw this quality as very refreshing and authentic, as opposed to ' oversharing'. I believe that this neurotype is here to teach us how to love properly! 💖
Oooh absolute sore spot for me here! Growing up my brother started almost every sentence with 'Apparently' and it drove me up the wall 😂 It's the context though, he used it to constantly correct people, it's not annoying when its more of a 'I'm not totally sure but apparently'!
@@wilM26 Oversharing can be touching or inappropriate. It depends on the circumstances and whether people are sharing about themselves or other people.
So relatable...! Only replace Dr Who with LotR and Harry Potter in my case. It blows my mind how no one looked at me age 11-20 living, breathing and copypasting those worlds and characters, and thought maybe MAYBE this is signaling something?! Especially when paired with the hundreds of other autistic traits that were and are applicable
I would love more videos like this one :)
I'm gonna get to it! Thanks for letting me know you liked it!
Hi Dana, don't you think that it's verbal language full stop that we have a problem with, as opposed to language itself. I think a lot of us have difficulty with auditory processing, which creates terrible confidence and anxiety problems in social situations, as, how can we interact verbally when we're spending most of the conversation catching up with what's been said! This also causes us to be ridiculed, which creates more anxiety because we begin to expect this! A lot of us also have difficulty with the volume and tone of our voices, which means we sometimes talk too loud, and sometimes too quietly! Both of these create anxiety and add to our verbal struggles. I think there are soooo many layers to the topic of verbal communication! 💖
Oooh absolutely, I might just steal some of your thoughts for a video specifically on verbal language 😂 It also totally ties into why I'm much more comfortable communicating via text or my videos, where I can of course take a full week to read, process and think of a reply for any comment! Sorry its taken so long, but thank you for this comment, really given me a 'light bulb' moment in exactly what my issue with 'language' really is!
You're Amazing Dana! 😜
Hi Dana, greetings from Wales! It's brilliant to see British RUclipsrs about because I rarely see them! First and foremost, I extremely enjoy your videos, carry on making content and I enjoy it very much! I edited my previous message as I realised I might've came across as blunt (always self-conscious about that lol). I'm 13, AFAB (though I'm a trans-guy). For the past six months (or more, I can't remember), I've looked (and still looking) into the possibility that I might have autism but I'm unsure on which traits I should look at, AMAB or AFAB or doesn't it matter? As I mentioned, I love your content and can't wait to watch more of your videos, Orion.