Agreed I think made the documentary and shown the letter of love for 20 year was unnecessary. It is sad if they really want this work. They have to attend to family therapy and forgiveness in the relationship.
AMEN TO THAT!! ITS FUNNY HOW CELEBRITIES ARE VERY OPEN AND HAPPY IN LOVE IN THE BEGINNING. WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW BUT THEM WHEN DIVORCE HAPPENS IT LIKE A FUNERAL AND THE PUBLICIST GIVES OUT A STATEMENT: " AT THIS TIME THEY WOULD LIKE THEIR PRIVACY AS THEY NAVIGATE THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME" BLA BLA BLA ETC LOL
Looking at her track record, I don't think this whole "marriage" thing is for her. She should just stay unmarried. Would save her a lot of paper work and wedding related expenses. 😒
@@larrymarshall8900she should be a better person, then maybe she’ll stop being the common denominator in all these failures. She’s clearly a rotten person. Also, her being rich becomes a wash when she can’t keep a fellow rich man.
He has a funny way of showing that...not wanting to humiliate her would have been working on the relationship. This is a classic case of "when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them." I don't get how they both knew what they were signing up for from the first time they dated, yet somehow it took two weddings, a documentary and a musical for them to finally determine that it's not meant to be? Celebs are odd and extremely self-centered!
its true. someone has to do the cutting. I have just recently done this with a gf. and also asked her to come back - so she feels in the driver seat & not at a loss. Which feels worse than *voluntarily* taking the unwanted role. Result is walking away with a cleaner conscience. Chivalry exists in strange ways… (btw, if you want to ease out of a relationship start sharing good pieces of scripture 😂…a graceful way to get them fed up with you…) people are too stubborn to truly fall in love. they have unnecessary barriers, entitlements, & false assumptions of what they can get away with. People truly want the most positive experience & when they ask nicely for alignment, they get ignored. Then dignity starts asking for normalcy louder & louder as the attempts fail & patience runs out. Then the inevitable separation for peace. Love is a joyous dance, with an open, willing, enthusiastic heart - not a genie bottle where one is, or both are, self serving & remain fixed in their [blind] ways. It’s basically an education of how to be/communicate/understand, as a loving human being, living in their real truth. no room for arrogance, pride, ego, tyranny, cruelty, neglect etc..
@@duchess2412bc we're pretty sure all 4 marriages weren't bc of them, she got divorced in 2003 and immediately married again in 2004, that doesn't seem fishy to you
Woman aren't responsible for man's behavior she only responsible for her owned she's not his mama.go tell that to his ex baby's mom because she's even inside the soups she never gave them a break like she was sleeping with them. SHe was everywhere so called she supporting Jennifer Lopez plus Ben lady get a life with your man that you got any of your skeletal closets 😆🙄 private eyes 👀🙄🤔🤡🤥 she was counting how much money's Ben he's going to get from Jennifer Lopez to get a new wardrobe.....
It's not helpful it didn't work out Ben's baby mom never left them for a minute she was smelling both of their ass for Jennifer Lopez money 🤑💰 settlement
She should do what Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have done and never got married after previously failed marriages.....Guess what? They have lasted 30 plus years together now.
Seeing her doc and seeing Ben's reaction to her putting their love letters out there for everyone to see. That was the biggest red flag I saw. She doesn't know how to keep something that sacred private. He wants privacy for the sacred stuff, but she doesn't. She's in love with the spotlight. Marry yourself, girl!
So agree. The documentary really lade bare how different they are, although there clearly was love there. Not surprised by this at all. It was just not sustainable.
Ben said he didn’t want to have a relationship on social media so she goes and makes a whole documentary about their love life. It even included love letters he wrote to her. She had to know he would be uncomfortable with that being public. Nobody knows what happened behind closed doors but that documentary had to one of the reasons the marriage didn’t work out.
I think Jennifer should go with the Jennifer Aniston-route and stay single forever. Marriage ain't for everyone. That's why some rather stay single and/or never have kids. Freedom is beautiful.
Marriages is for no one that don't want to live up to it. Plus it's like people like y'all that cause a lot of conflicts y'all was talking down on them since day One plus the freeloader paparazzi making money hunting people down like get a life who like someone go after you with a camera regardless regardless Jennifer Lopez said they use to pass the boundaries psychopath
Heck yes, I know a young lady, who's NEVER been married or will NEVER have children. And it's not that she hates marriage or children , it's best she live this way . And she's 100% NOT an Narcissist either. I know couples who's been married for years and none of them have children .
Ben let her file so tabloids wouldn’t be “Ben divorcing JLO” and making it look so bad for her. He isn’t going to take any of her money either. He doesn’t have that vibe about him.
Ben is funny to me, the way how he bounces from one Jennifer to the other Jennifer. I know he is father of Jenn G. kids but things he said about her after divorce are bad, he said he was miserable with her, unhappy, he drank alcohol every day before bed. I hope she never takes him back!!
Jens ex Chris Judd said Ben was pursuing JLo when she was married to him. And Ben did the same thing when she was with Alex Rodriguez Ben started pursuing her again. Chris said he only wants Jennifer when she's with some man
He waited patiently for the money's to pay off... He was even gambling with Jennifer Lopez live like his ex baby's moms calculating the settlement but Jennifer a little bit got more money than both of them put together cuz she loved to gamble I'm pretty sure if Jennifer Lopez sure put a lawyer to look into that they probably both go into jail. For perjury
How do you know that what he did. I don’t normally read this stuff, I thought I would check in and see what people are writing, but it is amazing how mostly women put down other women. I guess you don’t have anything important to do. Get a life and leave other people lives alone. Do something productive like reading the Bible maybe you will learn that you don’t slandered people, you try to help people, and encourage people to do good. Treated people the way you want to be treated.
Jennifer needs to be a great mother to her children and spend time with herself and get to know herself. So sad to have four failed marriages. She really needs to look at herself!
I’m not surprised, I knew that they weren’t gonna last the moment they got back together. Jennifer wanted to work through their problems whereas Ben was completely checked out of the marriage. In Jen’s mind, she thought that by doing random pop-ups, spending time with her step kids and visiting Ben on his birthday that everything was gonna be peaches and cream and guess what? Things weren’t working out. What did you expect, Jennifer? The man didn’t show up for you on your birthday and done already moved out. If I had a husband and I knew that our marriage was over once he didn’t show any signs of working things out nor spending time with me on my birthday, then I’ll be out the door. They got back together too quick and I’m surprised they even lasted like three years together. And she kept flaunting her wedding ring like girl! Put that shit up, he does not want you. He’s OVER this toxic ass fairytale.
@niabelizaire3596 - I don't get why this guy wrote her love letters and participated in her documentary if he wasn't in it for the long haul? The both knew what to expect since they dated before...I don't get these celebrities...they spend all this money on two weddings, only to decide that it's not working now? Shouldn't their incompatibility or compatibility have been something that they had figured out way before the wedding?
@@Ava2969ny exactly. He is the one who start and finish and destroy everything. He did it the first time they were together, then regretting even making the video with her and so son. He wrote letters for 20 years while he was married (a big NO NO) then he chased her, proposed, married in two ceremonies, know very well what he was getting into, participated and produced the documentary...I am convinced that before the letters came "public" in the film, he was already very close to the decision of leaving her. It is just not possible for a grown up man not to say "NO, I do not want this part of us to be public". I do not get it.
@@sabinne96 Look, he wrote her love letters that were supposed to be private. She made sure to share these letters in public ..big NO NO. That was a big part in him wanting out of the marriage.
"Heartbroken carrying a black Hermes bag"..lol just Googled. They are 10,000 and up. (more like 20,000 plus) My yearly rent holds her tampons and kleenex holder. Now, I'm heartbroken 💔
When Jennifer showed everybody in the studio the intimate and private love letters without Ben's knowledge or content....yebb, a MAJOR red flag. And I don't doubt Ben also got issues. They're just two very different people. It was so obvious from the documentary.
Filing for divorce on their wedding anniversary date was spiteful. She's an angry woman dead set to deliberately hurt Ben because of the hurt she feels he caused her. I hope he doesn't feed into her negativity.
Good point. She wanted to punish and humiliate him by filing on the Georgia Anniversary where they married that second time but she's the one looking like the fool.
You're absolutely correct, but she's not only angry but full of nasty revenge. Nothing good will come out of the negative energy she's exercising towards Ben, and she will hurt in the end.
The fact that things change for her in a matter of months is telling. She really doesn’t let things cool off or warm up. She just starts and ends. Honestly sad for the men that have loved her. She is like a black widow in a way.
💔 ~ Seems these two could have tried harder; or perhaps JLo should have focused on her marriage & blended family more than endless globetrotting?!? They were truly blessed with a second chance but sadly it all blew up in their faces ... 😢
Exactly! How insane is that? Most artists get inspired and write songs that later we find out was about a relationship. Jlo announces it, makes songs, a movie, tshirts, key chains…. even before her 2nd year anniversary
She needs to stop being ‘mean & narcissistic’ and she also needs to stop and stay away from ‘marriage reality’ because she’s HORRIBLE at being a real lady lover all along. This year was bad enough for her. Enough said.
People debating about the lack of pre-nup. Ben's by no means broke, would seem rather greedy of him to take her money!! Don't see why they couldn't split what they made together 50/50? And try and go about their lives amicably! No one benefits from a circus media 💩show except the media!!!
How do you know she's mean you sit with them at the kitchen table you sit with them in their patio do we do laundry with them you sit and talk to her about personal things no shut up go away nosey
J.Lo’s timing is intriguing-filing for divorce on her wedding anniversary with Ben Affleck adds another layer to their complex history. Curious to learn what led to this decision.
How about these two just STOP spending money on lavish weddings and donate it to people and charities that could REALLY and GENUINELY benefit from said funds??? 🙄 geez it’s so selfish and superficial. Embarrassing. Hollywood!!!!
Good luck Jen! Forget the past and take care of yourself! You’re a social media influencer and loves the spotlight so find someone who loves and can handle that spotlight with you! 🙏🏽 for you to settle everything peacefully! ❤️
Sharing intimate letters so cavalierly definitely speaks volumes about her priorities. Ben is no saint, but that man never seemed happy with her. If you have so many failed marriages to your name, maybe being single and finding validation from within would be best for her and her children-especially her daughter, who seems to have taken an emotional beating lately since the A-Rod breakup."
I don't think Ben Affleck is the settling down type, he is not capable of being a loving devoted husband to one woman as per his track record, he should just be in open relationships or have a partner with no marriage. As for JLO, she needs to get over herself. That level of attention seeking and social media validation and addiction is not healthy , she's 56 not 25
ben is an alcoholic who HATES the publicity and paparazzi, them giving us bennifer 2.0 after 20 years was obviously going to attract all of this on them and it did not help that jennifer decided to do this entire project of a documentary that was just downright cringe and a music album, even in this documentary ben says he´s uncomfortable sharing his personal life and relationship, jlo lives for this and ben doesnt
@@lizardqueen7052 I’m sure there are much deeper underlying issues for their divorce than just one wanting to be in the limelight and another wanting to live a private life .
@@fashiondestination3798i guess there was an accumulation of unpleasant facts for him which lead to his decision to quit marital home in order to breathe some healthy air
The writing was on the wall when that ridiculous documentary (that everyone she supposedly trusted warned her against doing) came out. And then there was whatever Ben may have learned after Diddy's homes got raided. (Scared to know what she may have been caught doing on those tapes). Her ego is massive and it's always been her downfall in relationships. She thinks she's the ultimate prize and that every man will cater to her no matter what. Not anymore, Ms. Lopez.
@KB-xp6dq - His ego is just as big as JLo's...remember, he's the A-list actor with an oscar for directing. As much as I wanted to like Ben, I feel like he may have played her big time...specifically because he knew he could play her at a time when she was vulnerable after the ARod break-up. Remember, for decades the public thought that Britney Spears cheated on Timberlake first, especially after he put out the "Cry Me a River" video with a Britney Spears look-a-like actress, but she later clarified that JT cheated on her first but he liked the sympathy and publicity that he gained by making Britney look bad, especially while he was promoting his album. Some men, no matter how much money they have, are not above using someone as a pawn for whatever their personal objective is.
Fame, Fortune, Looks --- They've GOT IT ALL! Except to paraphrase that Universal Message....The Ability to......KNOW THYSELF, FIRST! Before you KEEP JUMPING in and out of relationships
I don’t know why they had to get married in the first place.. why not just be together?! Was it really necessary to get married? We all know marriages never work out, seems like such a complete waste of time.. they should have just been together and kept the marriage out of it
being divorced 4 times isn’t funny. It is sad and concerning because obviously Ms Lopez isn’t able to sustain a relationship something is quite wrong when you have 4 failed marriages and non-married relationships that have also failed. I believe the common denominator here is Ms Lopez. Ms Lopez … you need mental counseling/therapy to help you figure out why you continue to fail at relationships
Ben already mentioned this in an interview...she insist on living her life in the public eye or is constanting seeking out self-gratifiying projects. He thinks there was some type of neglect in her childhood because she's never quite satisified with public adoration, and he's not interested in that type of visibility, as he has kids and is in his 50s and seems to wanted a low-visibility type of fame.
A cheater will always be a cheater, no woman can keep him happy.Sad reality. Its not her. He was just looking for a way out, because she wasnt as popular as he thought she was.
@@belindaschafer1593 - So one minute he's complaining about her "level" of stardom being too much, and then next minute she's not enough for his personal agenda? If that's the case, this dude is trifling! He should be ashamed of himself...he's not exactly a hot, in-demand 25-year old star! He's 52.
She needs heavy therapy and be single for a few years. She never had the time to actually work on herself and break free from patterns. Going from relationship to relationship doesn't give you time to heal, do some self-development and act different in the next relationship.
I know jlo has a bad rep right now, but we have to admit it’s incredibly human for her to put herself out there so vulnerably. At the end of the day most of us are just people longing for that one connection. Can’t blame a girl for trying! lol
Honestly, she is just selfish. She didn’t at all take into consideration or the wants and needs of the men she is with. She just did what she wanted over and over again. Sure she may be in love but she doesn’t know what love means. Sometimes you have to put yourself aside and meet someone in the middle. With her there is no middle, clearly!
I feel so bad for her. She believes in love and marriage but she chooses the wrong men. Ben is an A$$hole for saying he was temporarily insane for marrying her!! Good for you JLo for filing the divorce on your wedding anniversary!! Praying for your healing and restoration!
Believing in love and marriage is a first step. But you also have to do the work to stay in one. She seems obsessed with feeling “in love”. That won’t make a marriage last.
Stole from who? Affleck and garner divorce 2017, I have to google that because of your comment. They have been divorced for years. You are the kind of people that just assume anything and thinks it’s fact. I am not a fan but I think making stuffs up is not right
He has been very outspoken about how he doesn't like his private life being out there. He's also dealing with addiction, so imagine how hard it must be to deal with all that while being chase by paparazzi. It feels like Jennifer pushed him to be put there for the press more than he wanted to. He seemed so unhappy and she seems so insufferable, calculating and conniving.
I know Ben feel s like a LION let out of a cage. Now he's a free man. Jlow smothered him and always had her little game of calling paparazzi, informing them where they'd be at a certain time, knowing he hated that life. Fly Ben, you're free! 🦅
J.Lo, it's time to look hard within yourself. I learned as I went along my life that the people who can't stand being alone are the people who can't stand themselves.
I think if Jen loved him, she wouldn't have gotten rid nor his motor.bikes, given her producers the private love letters he gave her, or opened a new wine brand knowing Ben has an alcoholic problem. She would have respected his need for privacy and not have or call the paps on their outings.
She doesn’t know what love or respect is based on her actions to disregard his privacy or his wishes. She knows how to love herself and she seems more in love with the idea of love. A loving partner respects their partner’s opinions and privacy.
@idylledoll 🙃🤣😂she is similar to me. I honestly care only for myself and my sister called me another J.Lo 3 years ago as she couldn't keep up with my engagements. I have a fairy tale love once it gets sour I leave hehe I am out of that door. I always been lovey dovey so I live in the moment at least she keeps going for husbands as she doesn't allowed to be used which I like she will bounce back and get herself a new husband but the good thing is she loves herself which I like that about her.
@bettysmith9466 I think she did this the fact he hurt her 20 years ago and embarrassed her so she wanted to show the world that he was still after her as she didn't want to show that she was the only after him. I would do the same so what it is LOVE isn't it better to show share LOVE instead of hate. People in USA love drama why not share love? I still like my J.Lo she's my girl.
@@bettysmith9466 and she wasn't coming from a bad place she wanted to share that with her fans which I don't see anything wrong with it it's "LOVE LETTERS" but he knew who she was and he is famous too why is it okay for him to play the victim card.
Ben was in fact, not good lol Like he said in the doc, no amount of attention will ever be enough for her. Taking time to focus on inner work (rather than vanity and codependency) is so very important to learn from the past and grow. 🌱 Blending families, only to separate shortly after, has to be tough on the kids. Marriage should be taken seriously and not rushed into.
❤Ben’s behavior is exactly matching his character he played in accountant . Ben is emotional violent specially when he has liquor , his temper is bad , could be more violent . Its why Gardner could not stand had to divorced him .
I think all of us knew this marriage wasn't going to last everything was a rush rush. Whoever thought the marriage was going to last, then you were delusional. Sincerely the world.
Nobody is surprised. J.LO should have respected that Ben expected some aspects of their marriage to be private. She crossed the line when she shared the emails and letters Ben wrote to her.
She needs to not go out of her way to make a statement like divorcing on her wedding anniversary. She is doing things for the wrong reasons. Instead of living her life she is doing things for clout, attention etc. He made it clear he wanted their lives to be more private in order to enjoy their lives but she wanted to do a documentary on their lives and love?! She should left well enough alone it seemed like she was forcing things instead of enjoying it.
To me i think she is not the problem she work so hard making movies singing Dancing modeling clothes she is a super star a symbol of Beauty we Love you Jennifer Lopez ❤
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Next time...don't make a movie about your relationship. That needs to be kept private 👍
Agreed I think made the documentary and shown the letter of love for 20 year was unnecessary. It is sad if they really want this work. They have to attend to family therapy and forgiveness in the relationship.
maybe next time don't be with a woman who is in the limelight if you hate it, Ben.
He literally produced it
Jane Fonda warned her too.
AMEN TO THAT!! ITS FUNNY HOW CELEBRITIES ARE VERY OPEN AND HAPPY IN LOVE IN THE BEGINNING. WANT THE WORLD TO KNOW BUT THEM WHEN DIVORCE HAPPENS IT LIKE A FUNERAL AND THE PUBLICIST GIVES OUT A STATEMENT: " AT THIS TIME THEY WOULD LIKE THEIR PRIVACY AS THEY NAVIGATE THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME" BLA BLA BLA ETC LOL
Looking at her track record, I don't think this whole "marriage" thing is for her. She should just stay unmarried. Would save her a lot of paper work and wedding related expenses. 😒
She should've stayed with Marc Anthony instead of getting back with Ben Affleck.
The funny things she having asked you 😆
@@larrymarshall8900 Her track record shows its her fault and the problem.
@vagabond4576 Of course it's her fault. The fact that she has a big head and ego. But she's still rich at the end of the day.
@@larrymarshall8900she should be a better person, then maybe she’ll stop being the common denominator in all these failures. She’s clearly a rotten person. Also, her being rich becomes a wash when she can’t keep a fellow rich man.
I think Ben was waiting for JLO to file. He didn't want to humiliate her
He doesn’t care
He has a funny way of showing that...not wanting to humiliate her would have been working on the relationship. This is a classic case of "when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them." I don't get how they both knew what they were signing up for from the first time they dated, yet somehow it took two weddings, a documentary and a musical for them to finally determine that it's not meant to be? Celebs are odd and extremely self-centered!
@@Ava2969nynever spin the block. I had to learn the hard way.
@@MisssKayy - GIRL!!!! I hear you. I learned the hard way too. Will never, ever repeat that mistake!
its true. someone has to do the cutting. I have just recently done this with a gf. and also asked her to come back - so she feels in the driver seat & not at a loss. Which feels worse than *voluntarily* taking the unwanted role. Result is walking away with a cleaner conscience. Chivalry exists in strange ways…
(btw, if you want to ease out of a relationship start sharing good pieces of scripture 😂…a graceful way to get them fed up with you…)
people are too stubborn to truly fall in love. they have unnecessary barriers, entitlements, & false assumptions of what they can get away with.
People truly want the most positive experience & when they ask nicely for alignment, they get ignored.
Then dignity starts asking for normalcy louder & louder as the attempts fail & patience runs out. Then the inevitable separation for peace.
Love is a joyous dance, with an open, willing, enthusiastic heart - not a genie bottle where one is, or both are, self serving & remain fixed in their [blind] ways. It’s basically an education of how to be/communicate/understand, as a loving human being, living in their real truth.
no room for arrogance, pride, ego, tyranny, cruelty, neglect etc..
I wish she would take a break from men for a year or two to get her head together…
Ideally, but given she's a love/sex addict, I don't see it lasting long unless she gets some much needed deep therapy.
Why do y’all always assume she’s the problem?
@@duchess2412bc we're pretty sure all 4 marriages weren't bc of them, she got divorced in 2003 and immediately married again in 2004, that doesn't seem fishy to you
It seems that she can’t live without a man in her life and then proceeds to sabotage the relationship. There’s clearly a pattern here.
Woman aren't responsible for man's behavior she only responsible for her owned she's not his mama.go tell that to his ex baby's mom because she's even inside the soups she never gave them a break like she was sleeping with them. SHe was everywhere so called she supporting Jennifer Lopez plus Ben lady get a life with your man that you got any of your skeletal closets 😆🙄 private eyes 👀🙄🤔🤡🤥 she was counting how much money's Ben he's going to get from Jennifer Lopez to get a new wardrobe.....
"She was carrying a black Hermes bag"...what the heck does that have to do with anything?!??
My thoughts exactly🥴🤦🏻♀️
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She has been engaged and married so many times. I don't think any one will make her happy. She is the common denominator in her relationship
OH please you don't know that.
And he has cheated, is an addict, and jumps to young ladies after his brake ups. He's no angel
@nell0329 didn't say he was. But she is happy married apparently
Yup. Engaged 6 times is nothing to brag about.
@@nell0329she likes that. Most of the time women with bad decisions loved or are attracted to toxic men
Jlo needs to marry herself. Then when she divorces herself she can see she's the problem!
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It's not helpful it didn't work out Ben's baby mom never left them for a minute she was smelling both of their ass for Jennifer Lopez money 🤑💰 settlement
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PREACH!!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
Jennifer should never get married again. It wasn't meant for her.
She needs a real man like Jared leto
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@@MisssKayy jered Leto is a professional actor and a grade A HUNK!
She should do what Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have done and never got married after previously failed marriages.....Guess what? They have lasted 30 plus years together now.
The fact her song went marry me marry me say yes is soooooo cringe 😂😂😂
Jennifer Lopez: "Not all love stories have a happy ending".
Me: "You got that right".
Facts!!!!!!
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Husbands number 1-4: "Tell me about it" 🙄
I heard she is not very kind woman plus very bossy 😮no wonder all men leave her also people we all know looks not gonna keep men it’s the attitude 😅
The greatest love story ever told. Ended in forth divorce.🙈
That's okay at least she gave it a shot. More than I can say about you. I say long as you could love and lay keep on trying.
@@mdejesus3888 it was a self serving love. It was doomed to fail from the start.
*fourth
Seeing her doc and seeing Ben's reaction to her putting their love letters out there for everyone to see. That was the biggest red flag I saw. She doesn't know how to keep something that sacred private. He wants privacy for the sacred stuff, but she doesn't. She's in love with the spotlight. Marry yourself, girl!
So agree. The documentary really lade bare how different they are, although there clearly was love there. Not surprised by this at all. It was just not sustainable.
Woah, I didn't know that she published Ben's love letters! 🤯 That written, it's sad that they are divorcing, and wish the best for both of them.
And when she let her staff call him Pen Affleck. The look of betrayal on his face. I knew it was months before he filed😬
@@ashleydunham6957 💯% TRUE!
When your first true love is fame, it’s no wonder you can’t keep a husband
@herbzzz Sad, but true 👍
Ben said he didn’t want to have a relationship on social media so she goes and makes a whole documentary about their love life. It even included love letters he wrote to her. She had to know he would be uncomfortable with that being public. Nobody knows what happened behind closed doors but that documentary had to one of the reasons the marriage didn’t work out.
Coz she assumed his love was unconditional so she turnt a blind eye to what he didn't want...
His legitimate concerns were overlooked for her desperation for fame and adulation - and now she’s paying the price for that. Silly, silly woman.
He was in the movie!
No one forced Ben to be in her movie!
They have very different personalities. And the fact that she is good at making money does not help her fel less used.
He literally produced and starred in it.
I think Jennifer should go with the Jennifer Aniston-route and stay single forever.
Marriage ain't for everyone. That's why some rather stay single and/or never have kids. Freedom is beautiful.
Marriages is for no one that don't want to live up to it. Plus it's like people like y'all that cause a lot of conflicts y'all was talking down on them since day One plus the freeloader paparazzi making money hunting people down like get a life who like someone go after you with a camera regardless regardless Jennifer Lopez said they use to pass the boundaries psychopath
AND GET DOGS LIKE JEN AN̈NISTON!
She wont she has to find some dude she loves the spot light to much
@@michaelruiz6616 Isn't J. Lo still relevant while not as hot as the 2000s?
Heck yes, I know a young lady, who's NEVER been married or will NEVER have children. And it's not that she hates
marriage or children , it's best she live this way . And she's 100% NOT an Narcissist either.
I know couples who's been married for years and none of them have children .
I don't think he will come for her money.
She filed it herself because she’s been through it 3 other times, she’s a pro at it now
😂 Yes.
Exactly. She is an expert
When you go through that many broken marriages, i think its time to look at your self and your decision making
Ben let her file so tabloids wouldn’t be “Ben divorcing JLO” and making it look so bad for her. He isn’t going to take any of her money either. He doesn’t have that vibe about him.
This is her 4th divorce! She can probably file the paperwork with her eyes closed 😂
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That’s sad but many celebrities have done that.
The papers are filed on day one... She just has to sign them when the time comes.
@@mrddorsey19I think so, and on day1 he also already signed the paper
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I honestly think she was and has always been in love with BA. Always sad to see couples divorce.
Ben is funny to me, the way how he bounces from one Jennifer to the other Jennifer. I know he is father of Jenn G. kids but things he said about her after divorce are bad, he said he was miserable with her, unhappy, he drank alcohol every day before bed. I hope she never takes him back!!
Finally a person with human empathy. God bless you! You will go far with this mindset! ❤ Wishing you all the best Christina! 🥰
He pursed her again. He love bombed her.
Jens ex Chris Judd said Ben was pursuing JLo when she was married to him. And Ben did the same thing when she was with Alex Rodriguez Ben started pursuing her again. Chris said he only wants Jennifer when she's with some man
The problem is, NO ONE will ever Love Jennifer more than Jennifer.
How in the world someone shows the letters your man wrote to YOU only, to everyone you work with?
Egotistical women never last in a relationship they love themselves more than they could ever love another person
I don’t think I’ve ever seen Affleck look so miserable than while he was married to JLo. The “Greatest” Love Story that should have never been told! 😂
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That’s sad. Why are you laughing?
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Laughing at the funny poses and faces she makes standing next to Ben.
Lets all take marriage advice from a woman who takes engagement rings like shes Thanos
At first, I thought you wrote Tacos? LOL.
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This comment wins. #endgame
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Ben allowed her to file it
Yes, he waited patiently.
He waited patiently for the money's to pay off... He was even gambling with Jennifer Lopez live like his ex baby's moms calculating the settlement but Jennifer a little bit got more money than both of them put together cuz she loved to gamble I'm pretty sure if Jennifer Lopez sure put a lawyer to look into that they probably both go into jail. For perjury
How do you know that what he did. I don’t normally read this stuff, I thought I would check in and see what people are writing, but it is amazing how mostly women put down other women. I guess you don’t have anything important to do. Get a life and leave other people lives alone. Do something productive like reading the Bible maybe you will learn that you don’t slandered people, you try to help people, and encourage people to do good. Treated people the way you want to be treated.
Jennifer needs to be a great mother to her children and spend time with herself and get to know herself. So sad to have four failed marriages. She really needs to look at herself!
I’m not surprised, I knew that they weren’t gonna last the moment they got back together. Jennifer wanted to work through their problems whereas Ben was completely checked out of the marriage. In Jen’s mind, she thought that by doing random pop-ups, spending time with her step kids and visiting Ben on his birthday that everything was gonna be peaches and cream and guess what? Things weren’t working out. What did you expect, Jennifer? The man didn’t show up for you on your birthday and done already moved out. If I had a husband and I knew that our marriage was over once he didn’t show any signs of working things out nor spending time with me on my birthday, then I’ll be out the door. They got back together too quick and I’m surprised they even lasted like three years together. And she kept flaunting her wedding ring like girl! Put that shit up, he does not want you. He’s OVER this toxic ass fairytale.
@niabelizaire3596 - I don't get why this guy wrote her love letters and participated in her documentary if he wasn't in it for the long haul? The both knew what to expect since they dated before...I don't get these celebrities...they spend all this money on two weddings, only to decide that it's not working now? Shouldn't their incompatibility or compatibility have been something that they had figured out way before the wedding?
U can tell she always wanted him more than he wanted her. I feel like she was his rebound
2 years
@@Ava2969ny exactly. He is the one who start and finish and destroy everything. He did it the first time they were together, then regretting even making the video with her and so son. He wrote letters for 20 years while he was married (a big NO NO) then he chased her, proposed, married in two ceremonies, know very well what he was getting into, participated and produced the documentary...I am convinced that before the letters came "public" in the film, he was already very close to the decision of leaving her. It is just not possible for a grown up man not to say "NO, I do not want this part of us to be public". I do not get it.
@@sabinne96 Look, he wrote her love letters that were supposed to be private. She made sure to share these letters in public ..big NO NO. That was a big part in him wanting out of the marriage.
She’ll be collecting her fifth wedding ring next 💯💍
"Heartbroken carrying a black Hermes bag"..lol just Googled. They are 10,000 and up. (more like 20,000 plus) My yearly rent holds her tampons and kleenex holder. Now, I'm heartbroken 💔
Omg 😂 you made me lmao
Tampons? Nope, doubt it I’m sure she gone though me opuase by now….but I get your point!
When Jennifer showed everybody in the studio the intimate and private love letters without Ben's knowledge or content....yebb, a MAJOR red flag. And I don't doubt Ben also got issues. They're just two very different people. It was so obvious from the documentary.
Whether anniversaries or birthdays, there's no significant effect on ben. Just filed it to finished the relationship.
I believe so, whatever the day he will feel relieved, coz it's what he wanted : to end his nightmare!
Thank God…. now we can get these two out of the news
And this was a big part of the problem that JLo caused
I hear diddy is single. 😂
Filing for divorce on their wedding anniversary date was spiteful. She's an angry woman dead set to deliberately hurt Ben because of the hurt she feels he caused her. I hope he doesn't feed into her negativity.
Good point. She wanted to punish and humiliate him by filing on the Georgia Anniversary where they married that second time but she's the one looking like the fool.
You're absolutely correct, but she's not only angry but full of nasty revenge. Nothing good will come out of the negative energy she's exercising towards Ben, and she will hurt in the end.
The fact that things change for her in a matter of months is telling. She really doesn’t let things cool off or warm up. She just starts and ends. Honestly sad for the men that have loved her. She is like a black widow in a way.
"The Greatest Love Story Never Told" should've stayed that way and never been made 😂
if youre divorced twice you shouldn't be allow to get marry again, learn to be alone, marriage is not for you Jlo
Three times - Ben was husband No. 4.
That's rude
And may we ask who in the world are you !? I bet you haven't even got married once just a booty call
imagine someone trying to make such a wild suggestion in America 😂
@@jusletursoulglobabythey only say it about women. Tons of men in US were married 2-3 times
💔 ~ Seems these two could have tried harder; or perhaps JLo should have focused on her marriage & blended family more than endless globetrotting?!? They were truly blessed with a second chance but sadly it all blew up in their faces ... 😢
Yes, it is so sad bc it seems they genuinely had love for each other despite their issues
He looked drained af when he was with her
She made business out of her love
Exactly! How insane is that? Most artists get inspired and write songs that later we find out was about a relationship. Jlo announces it, makes songs, a movie, tshirts, key chains…. even before her 2nd year anniversary
She needs to stop being ‘mean & narcissistic’ and she also needs to stop and stay away from ‘marriage reality’ because she’s HORRIBLE at being a real lady lover all along. This year was bad enough for her. Enough said.
People debating about the lack of pre-nup. Ben's by no means broke, would seem rather greedy of him to take her money!! Don't see why they couldn't split what they made together 50/50? And try and go about their lives amicably! No one benefits from a circus media 💩show except the media!!!
How do you know she's mean you sit with them at the kitchen table you sit with them in their patio do we do laundry with them you sit and talk to her about personal things no shut up go away nosey
Best of luck to both!
Intense chemistry does not mean you are compatible. She needs to stop looking for the fairy tale and build a mature relationship.
J.Lo’s timing is intriguing-filing for divorce on her wedding anniversary with Ben Affleck adds another layer to their complex history. Curious to learn what led to this decision.
How about these two just STOP spending money on lavish weddings and donate it to people and charities that could REALLY and GENUINELY benefit from said funds???
🙄 geez it’s so selfish and superficial.
Embarrassing.
Hollywood!!!!
Good luck Jen! Forget the past and take care of yourself! You’re a social media influencer and loves the spotlight so find someone who loves and can handle that spotlight with you! 🙏🏽 for you to settle everything peacefully! ❤️
I really want them both to find happiness and may they remain friends. No ugliness, nastiness and mud slinging. Good luck to them both.
Scoring points! He was so done with JLo and she’s trying to salvage as much dignity as she can - it was completely deliberate!
I knew it was doomed when they got engaged using the "same" engagement ring... talk about bad luck
Same engagement ring?! No it’s not. First time around it was a pink diamond. This time it was a green one.
We all know Jennifer garners on her couch sipping wine laughing at these headlines
I feel very emotional about how the marriage ended. I hope you get back together and respect each other's opinions...❤
Sharing intimate letters so cavalierly definitely speaks volumes about her priorities. Ben is no saint, but that man never seemed happy with her. If you have so many failed marriages to your name, maybe being single and finding validation from within would be best for her and her children-especially her daughter, who seems to have taken an emotional beating lately since the A-Rod breakup."
I don't think Ben Affleck is the settling down type, he is not capable of being a loving devoted husband to one woman as per his track record, he should just be in open relationships or have a partner with no marriage. As for JLO, she needs to get over herself. That level of attention seeking and social media validation and addiction is not healthy , she's 56 not 25
ben is an alcoholic who HATES the publicity and paparazzi, them giving us bennifer 2.0 after 20 years was obviously going to attract all of this on them and it did not help that jennifer decided to do this entire project of a documentary that was just downright cringe and a music album, even in this documentary ben says he´s uncomfortable sharing his personal life and relationship, jlo lives for this and ben doesnt
@@lizardqueen7052 I’m sure there are much deeper underlying issues for their divorce than just one wanting to be in the limelight and another wanting to live a private life .
I blame her .
@@fashiondestination3798i guess there was an accumulation of unpleasant facts for him which lead to his decision to quit marital home in order to breathe some healthy air
Its her 4th marriage and you go after Ben LOL!
She is something else, then again...he's a real joy. They should stay together, as to save others from themselves!
Good for her 🎉❤ she deserves happiness
The writing was on the wall when that ridiculous documentary (that everyone she supposedly trusted warned her against doing) came out. And then there was whatever Ben may have learned after Diddy's homes got raided. (Scared to know what she may have been caught doing on those tapes). Her ego is massive and it's always been her downfall in relationships. She thinks she's the ultimate prize and that every man will cater to her no matter what. Not anymore, Ms. Lopez.
@KB-xp6dq - His ego is just as big as JLo's...remember, he's the A-list actor with an oscar for directing. As much as I wanted to like Ben, I feel like he may have played her big time...specifically because he knew he could play her at a time when she was vulnerable after the ARod break-up. Remember, for decades the public thought that Britney Spears cheated on Timberlake first, especially after he put out the "Cry Me a River" video with a Britney Spears look-a-like actress, but she later clarified that JT cheated on her first but he liked the sympathy and publicity that he gained by making Britney look bad, especially while he was promoting his album. Some men, no matter how much money they have, are not above using someone as a pawn for whatever their personal objective is.
This is so sad & nobody is thinking about the children
Fame, Fortune, Looks --- They've GOT IT ALL!
Except to paraphrase that Universal Message....The Ability to......KNOW THYSELF, FIRST!
Before you KEEP JUMPING in and out of relationships
I don’t know why they had to get married in the first place.. why not just be together?! Was it really necessary to get married? We all know marriages never work out, seems like such a complete waste of time.. they should have just been together and kept the marriage out of it
'Heartbroken and carrying an Hermes Bag'
Very demuuure, very mindfull
being divorced 4 times isn’t funny. It is sad and concerning because obviously Ms Lopez isn’t able to sustain a relationship
something is quite wrong when you have 4 failed marriages and non-married relationships that have also failed. I believe the common denominator here is Ms Lopez. Ms Lopez … you need mental counseling/therapy to help you figure out why you continue to fail at relationships
Ben already mentioned this in an interview...she insist on living her life in the public eye or is constanting seeking out self-gratifiying projects. He thinks there was some type of neglect in her childhood because she's never quite satisified with public adoration, and he's not interested in that type of visibility, as he has kids and is in his 50s and seems to wanted a low-visibility type of fame.
or pick the wrong man
A cheater will always be a cheater, no woman can keep him happy.Sad reality. Its not her. He was just looking for a way out, because she wasnt as popular as he thought she was.
@@belindaschafer1593 - So one minute he's complaining about her "level" of stardom being too much, and then next minute she's not enough for his personal agenda? If that's the case, this dude is trifling! He should be ashamed of himself...he's not exactly a hot, in-demand 25-year old star! He's 52.
I've said it before and I will say it again: JLO and A-ROD were perfect for each other. Their egos matched.
She needs heavy therapy and be single for a few years. She never had the time to actually work on herself and break free from patterns. Going from relationship to relationship doesn't give you time to heal, do some self-development and act different in the next relationship.
Hear Hear!
You compromise too much you lose yourself and get resentful .. she needs 3/4 years single
She will be spending this Christmas with A-Rod, knowing that he is still a Cornball. 😐
Ben is better off
Absolutely
And JLo probably too.
1:13 this quote “heartbroken with a Hermes bag” was legit unnecessary 😂
I know jlo has a bad rep right now, but we have to admit it’s incredibly human for her to put herself out there so vulnerably. At the end of the day most of us are just people longing for that one connection. Can’t blame a girl for trying! lol
Honestly, she is just selfish. She didn’t at all take into consideration or the wants and needs of the men she is with. She just did what she wanted over and over again. Sure she may be in love but she doesn’t know what love means. Sometimes you have to put yourself aside and meet someone in the middle. With her there is no middle, clearly!
America's Most Talentless Star
Yes!
@@pattyh2410yes! 😢
I knew this whole "Bennifer" thing wasn't going to last.
She should think maybe SHE'S the problem, not the people she married/divorced.
I feel so bad for her. She believes in love and marriage but she chooses the wrong men. Ben is an A$$hole for saying he was temporarily insane for marrying her!! Good for you JLo for filing the divorce on your wedding anniversary!! Praying for your healing and restoration!
Believing in love and marriage is a first step. But you also have to do the work to stay in one. She seems obsessed with feeling “in love”. That won’t make a marriage last.
i guess its kinda karma shell never get the guy she stole from another woman lol
Neither will Ariana grande or Angelina Jolie
Stole from who? Affleck and garner divorce 2017, I have to google that because of your comment. They have been divorced for years. You are the kind of people that just assume anything and thinks it’s fact. I am not a fan but I think making stuffs up is not right
She did not steal BA.
@@Rina_di_Denmark lol you need to look into it further hun
Actually Jenn G stole Ben from Jennifer L long time ago, and cheated with her first husband with Ben.
I've said it, and I'll say it again. "Ya'll can have these marriages!" I've never been married. No kids. I enjoy my peace and quiet
He has been very outspoken about how he doesn't like his private life being out there. He's also dealing with addiction, so imagine how hard it must be to deal with all that while being chase by paparazzi.
It feels like Jennifer pushed him to be put there for the press more than he wanted to. He seemed so unhappy and she seems so insufferable, calculating and conniving.
Source: for symbolic reasons
Me: what does it symbolize? It’s just another day on the calendar.
I know Ben feel s like a LION let out of a cage. Now he's a free man. Jlow smothered him and always had her little game of calling paparazzi, informing them where they'd be at a
certain time, knowing he hated that life.
Fly Ben, you're free! 🦅
She just stay always glamorous in internet. Her life.
JLO thinking there’s still a lot of life ahead of her is just funny
J.Lo, it's time to look hard within yourself. I learned as I went along my life that the people who can't stand being alone are the people who can't stand themselves.
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I feel bad for her she sincerely loved him though
I think if Jen loved him, she wouldn't have gotten rid nor his motor.bikes, given her producers the private love letters he gave her, or opened a new wine brand knowing Ben has an alcoholic problem. She would have respected his need for privacy and not have or call the paps on their outings.
She doesn’t know what love or respect is based on her actions to disregard his privacy or his wishes. She knows how to love herself and she seems more in love with the idea of love. A loving partner respects their partner’s opinions and privacy.
@idylledoll 🙃🤣😂she is similar to me. I honestly care only for myself and my sister called me another J.Lo 3 years ago as she couldn't keep up with my engagements. I have a fairy tale love once it gets sour I leave hehe I am out of that door. I always been lovey dovey so I live in the moment at least she keeps going for husbands as she doesn't allowed to be used which I like she will bounce back and get herself a new husband but the good thing is she loves herself which I like that about her.
@bettysmith9466 I think she did this the fact he hurt her 20 years ago and embarrassed her so she wanted to show the world that he was still after her as she didn't want to show that she was the only after him. I would do the same so what it is LOVE isn't it better to show share LOVE instead of hate. People in USA love drama why not share love? I still like my J.Lo she's my girl.
@@bettysmith9466 and she wasn't coming from a bad place she wanted to share that with her fans which I don't see anything wrong with it it's "LOVE LETTERS" but he knew who she was and he is famous too why is it okay for him to play the victim card.
Don't tell me "She wanted it to be symbolic and have references"
2 years of “marriage”. 4 years of marriage. Do these ppl really take marriage seriously
Here’s an idea: How about be alone for a while? 🤦🏻♀️
Break up a marriage and a family for some fling that lasts only 2 years. Disgusting.
Jlo needs to stay single for a while... always on back to back relationship..she has to stop and learn to be by herself
Ben was in fact, not good lol Like he said in the doc, no amount of attention will ever be enough for her. Taking time to focus on inner work (rather than vanity and codependency) is so very important to learn from the past and grow. 🌱
Blending families, only to separate shortly after, has to be tough on the kids.
Marriage should be taken seriously and not rushed into.
I’m so disappointed - just like the Golden Batchelor. It was very telling when she said “I know Ben won’t like this but I’m going to do it anyway…..”
❤Ben’s behavior is exactly matching his character he played in accountant . Ben is emotional violent specially when he has liquor , his temper is bad , could be more violent . Its why Gardner could not stand had to divorced him .
I think all of us knew this marriage wasn't going to last everything was a rush rush.
Whoever thought the marriage was going to last, then you were delusional.
Sincerely the world.
3:15 I guess she listened.
Ben and Jen will be OK.
In other news; the world is on fire, we can barely pay rent, food, gas or even save a damn penny.
Nobody is surprised. J.LO should have respected that Ben expected some aspects of their marriage to be private. She crossed the line when she shared the emails and letters Ben wrote to her.
I'm sure JLo will be quite happy with. . . herself.
Ben. . . well, Ben doesn't ever seem happy.
She has gotten divorced so many times that she is like I can do it myself! lol 😂
Their birth charts are not compatible and neither is Jennifer Garner’s with Ben’s, at all.
She needs to not go out of her way to make a statement like divorcing on her wedding anniversary. She is doing things for the wrong reasons. Instead of living her life she is doing things for clout, attention etc. He made it clear he wanted their lives to be more private in order to enjoy their lives but she wanted to do a documentary on their lives and love?! She should left well enough alone it seemed like she was forcing things instead of enjoying it.
To me i think she is not the problem she work so hard making movies singing Dancing modeling clothes she is a super star a symbol of Beauty we Love you Jennifer Lopez ❤
You can't compromise DIVA and totally CHILL. She has said numerous times she loves falling in love. There is more than the falling part!
She exposed their whole Bible of his love letters to her that's just trashy. She has no integrity.