WOFAI FADA: When your inlaws hate you & FINDING LOVE IN A HOPELESS PLACE..
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When I saw this story at first I knew what it was coz it's a similar case of mine.at first it looks like the man is supportive,but when he see u aren't caring Abt what his family feels,he gets to be on their side and the battles begins that even my children are not cared about. Haterd is transferrable. If u see where Dem no like u, run ooo. Even thou u are the one help him, he will follow his family later on.
Only few men can stand by u. But more men out there loves their family more than their wife,and if the family hates you,u cannot stand it in the later on.My own had to leave the house with my kids coz of the family hatred on me, and still announces me as his wife,no divorce.then keeps me on the edge, and stay aloof while family fights me when ever I raise my head to speak. Right now I av only my own family standing by me,and I am mute towards their side.
No go where husband family no just like u,na bad experience.
Not even love is enough,😢.not even pastor will save u from that hatred.😢.I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I am a married woman leaving like a single mom.😢no love again.
Wow
I can only agree as a victim
This is true for Americans too albeit not formally.
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Having been there myself, I would never advice someone to get into a marriage with a man whose family hates you and openly show that they do. Be safe out there. Don't spend the rest of your life fighting battles.
Thank you it happens to me and is still happening to me
I concur. Life is too short to be fighting battles you actually wouldn’t win. Why learn the hard way?
What are you doing about the situation or plan to do, remember ur life is more important than that marriage (word)@EzeMaryShide-wt7xu
I think she’s just being desperate to get married and doesn’t mind what comes after🤦🏽♀️ it’s very sad
Am a living testimony…it ended in tears with two kids…am now a single mum🥺🥺🥺🥺
Let me share my story on this issue. I was from a poor home and my then boyfriend was from an okay family when we met. One morning his mum came to my doorstep to rain insults on me for dating her son calling me a gold digger. I kept my peace and later
Later that day I invited my boyfriend to join me in his father’s shop and I told them what the woman did and broke up with him right there in front of his father.
My boyfriend chased me started begging me . He even stopped speaking to his mum. Later that woman apologized and I accepted him back.
We’re currently married for 7 years and I leave kids with my mother in law whenever am tired. Everything worked it well here. I would never advice anyone to marry into a family that doesn’t accept you
Lucky you...some mum jnlaws like mine won't show they don't want you but embrace and pretend.
One of the main issues with marrying in a family that doesn’t like you is that the man remains in a constant state of battle and problem solving and it wears out the heart.. you will not even feel joy knowing that your husband is constantly stressed. Peace will always be easy to carry than war… No matter how strong you are, and no matter how you cut family off, a part of them will always linger in your thoughts and you will subconsciously prefer things otherwise. too much strife will wear you out…
Girl, run for your life especially when you are in Nigeria.
You are successful, do not allow yourself to be killed early
that is if he chooses to stay in touch wiht them. I heard stories, very few, and testimonies, very few, of men who cut off their family and fully embraced their in-laws as their own family.
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this husband's family, have an extremely strong, generational family bond - even to cousins of four to five generations!
Neze, i am in my early 30s and my mum and dad family did not permit my parents marriage but they both made it clear that they chosed each other. In fact, both family members knew very well that my dad and mum did not give a damn about their opinions. My dad is a strong willed man though just like my mum. they ended up coming around and the marriage is still standing while alot of marriages with parental consent have crashed and my parent have been married for almost 35 years now. She need to be prayerful though because, they may become diabolical. I saw my parent go into their room to settle their issues without family involve even up till date. Never marry a boy, marry a real man that is God fearing and pray and have peace about it.
Your story is an outlier. Let’s not use an outlier as a standard. I am happy it worked out for you but it’s not the same for MAJORITY of couples with this issue. I repeat, an outlier can never be a standard.
This is a rare occasion.
This is not the reality. So please don’t generalise
Until you said your father prays. I was going to say, his family does not have witches & wizards or diabolical people. It is like a must. They will try to scatter it.
That is because your father was strong & consistent
I really feel for Wofai. She has never been involved in public scandals. Please, don't marry just the man, when things go bad, the family will be involved.
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I will never advice any woman to marry into a family were she is not accepted because she'll be living the rest of her life fighting the battle of acceptance and trust me, it's more disastrous than you can imagine especially in this part of the world.
I am of product of such union. I lost my both parents to that battle and the battle was extended to I and my sibling.
Even in death they still didn't accept my Mum. She was buried at her father's house and non of my father's family members attended her burial, not even us her children were allowed to.
The hurt transends deeper than you could imagine.
Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured, your mental health, well being and life should be priority to love, so choose your battles wisely.
Sending you hugs ❤
The question is, were they (your parents) both happy? That's all that matters.
@@okokonscholastica8871 Thank you ❤️
@@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIES Yes they were but as regards been in the midst of my paternal family that happiness was not there.
So that happiness was never a complete one and even to us as their offspring.
@@DORCASDIASRIESMAKINGMEMORIESthat doesn't matter if the man's family is vehemently against the marriage.
Hi Neze, you are 100% right I was in the same situation thinking my husband loved me, so it didn’t matter what any family members said but the hell I went through as I am typing my message in 2020 he died and they said I killed him My sister didn’t think the Love alone can sustain the marriage the spiritual battles to fight, please watching from the United Kingdom ❤️❤️❤️
And na dem kill am o. Hmm. This life. They just wanted to pepper your eyes since they couldn't kill you. I have heard MANY similar cases to make that blunt conclusion. Witches, wizards, sorcerers and those that consult them have not a single conscience, nor heart. Just know your God and carry your warfare sword daily for you and your children. Let mfm type of prayers be your friend. It is well with you and your children forever.
U have said
What made me laugh was “The Cole Family of Victoria Island Lagos” see pride🤣🤣🤣🤣
Like serious pride 😂😂😂😂
Rubbish 😔😔😔
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Profound and senseless pride taken too far.@@sose9601
You call that pride?
😂😂😂😂 they are fluttering what they got o
Marring a man who is incapable of shielding you is the worst that can happen to any woman. Ndi Nwa mummy and "sister say sister say". Anyway, we wish Wofai Fada a happy married life. Wofai's situation happened to me, I ended it before it got too late. Today I am married too a real man and his family is the best.
Exactly. Support your write-up 💯.
…even from abroad, a family that doesn’t like you will still fight you via social media… may God help this beautiful lady
My people marriage especially in Nigeria is between two families. If they don't like/ want you in their family, please run ooooooh especially for a woman, they may NEVER!!! accept you into their family.
"And as the Obioma was taking our measurements,we opened Instagram and got a notification from Wofai's in-laws"😂😂😂
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My mom is a victim of circumstance. Initially, they were pretending to love her till their masks fell off n they started showing her their true colours. My dad was not even helping the situation cos he was the one who will even present her to his family members n rubbish her image. Imagine at 24 my mom developed high blood pressure which she's still suffering till date. She shed a lot of tears while I was growing n she's still shedding tears now that I'm grown. She will often say the consolation she has was to have us as her kids and I can only imagine her pain bcos she's an only child. I believe there are still good men and inlaws out there n I will marry right by God's grace. I know the trauma I and my siblings had to suffer bcos of my mother's wrong choice. May God heal our souls.
I know that cos I went through it. Wasted 6 years of my life.
@ijeoma, you made me cry. But , it is well. Please, you guys should make your mom proud . So that some of that pain can go away.
May the Good Lord bless and favor Mama. May he bless & provide for you & your siblings 🙏
@@godisgood9099 Thanks. And we're really doing our best.
My family do not interfer in marriages. We call the husbands to order if they misbehave. The type of wives they married made it easy for us to be on their sides if the husbands misbehave
I think you meant your father's and his family's choice to be wicked to a woman and her children. Your fathers choice to betray his marital vows
I experienced it and it’s the worst that can happen to anyone woman..when the man’s family hates you that marriage can never last
Love alone is not enough to marry someone! In most our African culture when you marry a man, you marry the whole family. I wish her the best of luck!
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Love can be blind, but marriage is an eye opener. The fact that the man's family openly disapprove of her is a likely red flag, unless the man is very strong willed and determined and he can withstand pressure from his family. Like Neze said, if the man is a mummy's boy and cant stand on his own feet , she may find herself frustrated in the marriage . I pray their union will make it .
For me personally , i dont think this kind of marriage is worth the stress. Normal marriage get plenty issues already, now add hatred from your inlaw join. Hmm, she needs to be extremely prayerful.
But his mother and twin sister attended the wedding, so it seems like its only the father who has been divorced from his mother for 27 years that objects. If she has some of his family in support, perhaps that gave her courage or hope that his father may be persuaded eventually.
I was in the same. Knowing what I know now I won't allow my child go ahead but I don't regret it because my husband is strong willed. He fought for me and I am grateful for his love. 13 after we are going strong
That's the key. If the man is strong willed. Nothing will go bad. Marriage biblically is between a man and woman. Not two families like we Africans like to always state that's why you're still married. If your spouse wasn't so it would have been a different story.
@@manunjoh6561we are Africans ma. Tradition and culture as plays a role. We can't throw it all away for the Bible.
The family did her a favor by publicly letting her know about their position so she would know what she’s entering into. I see people saying sometimes it would work but an outlier is never the standard. Marriage is between families, know it and know peace. Life is hard so why learn the hard way?
After speaking plenty English that wouldn’t hold water in the name of commenting please go and touch grass cos reality hits different.
Neze has spoken exactly the truth. Young women listen.
Life is hard enough..while make it harder especially in an African marriage setting where a MAN'S family hates the thought of you marrying their son? It's not worth it abeg.
That's just a sign up for long suffering and anguish.
I am in a similar situation but this time around my parents are the ones not in support of my marriage to my husband. The disagreement started with my parents and myself way before I met my then fiancé and now husband. They disowned me for reasons best known to them and it so happened that while I was disowned I met my husband. We still went ahead and got married. My parents in law are really amazing people and have tried to come to an agreement with my parents but to no avail. We are now 8 months in marriage and sometimes I get sad that I can't communicate with my parents but other times I am glad with the fact that I married into an amazing family and they always assure me that things will get better. I am hopeful for the future and very prayerful. But if you really look at it, our parents have lived their lives so it is time to live our own lives as well. Also it helps that I live in Canada and not Nigeria.
Neze gets funnier every other day! Lmaoooo which one is “Catastrophic Catacrisicm, Pandemic Pandemionion” 🤣🤣😭😭
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I got married at the age of 24 to a Christian guy, i thought i have found the love of my life at that time not knowing that i was getting married to the wrong person. He had no mind of his own. Our wahala started at the reception where his family wanted to share the wedding gifts within them. The storry of long every blessed day it was one problem to another. I walked out 3 years ago. Praise God we had no child
Share the wedding gifts ke? Na wah ohhh
@@chinubi103 yes trouble starts in some family during the ceremony, my sister in law hated me they put husband marry me on their bucket souvenir and it should be the other way round. To God be the glory they do not have enough influence to mess up our almost 25 years marriage
@@chinubi103 Yes my dr, my mother in law said her daughters have to share the wedding gifts because I didn't come with anything. The problem went right to church because my ex husband agreed with her mum , our wedding gifts were finally opened after two years of marriage n somethings even got bad. I've learned a lot in the marriage if there was a way to give a voicemail I will do it for others to learn from my mistake n regret. I'm a Cameroonian 🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲🇨🇲
@@chia8153sis na wusai for Cameroon so? Pipo bad o. Ashia mami.
It's muslims women who PRAY and even feed the less privileged if they finally leave toxic marriage without a CHILD 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤.
I am happy for you darling choose yourself over and over AGAIN ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I have been there for 15 years
She should go on and stay prayerful ❤
Mine is 30 years this November, and I am still doing night vigil
Neither stolen nor snatched🤣😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏👏
If I have crossed your way........please prepare your mind for more shege, wototo promax. I thought she was about to apologize🤔🤣🤣🤣🤣
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@@hairs_and_wears354 na Neze be the only tatafoo wey dey tickle my fancy oooo
That is part of what makes her stand out. I equally thought she was about to apologize, but it came as a pleasant surprise when she didn't, promising more wotowoto promax instead. Neze is worth listening to.
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The earlier a woman learns to withdraw immediately after she knows the husband people don't accept her, the better for her. The man will not be able to protect you from all his family members. Marriage is for better and worse, should be enjoyed. After not being able to fight all the battles, i left the 5 years old marriage with two kids, the hatred was even transferred to my son that looks like me. What a story! Flee when they show signs of not accepting you.
But in this case, the boys mother and siblings including his mother's family are in support and all attended the wedding. Only his father who has been divorced from his mother for 27 years appears to be against the marriage.
It may be more of a case of differences between the boy, his mother and father than the bride herself which is why the father published the letter publicly to spite the boy and by extension his ex wife. It is best to have the consent and support of both parents, but the dynamics of a dysfunctional family may present obstacles initially.
I pray it gets resolved when tempers calm down, but at least she has her mother inlaws blessings.
Namibian here. African cultures are not that different when it comes to Dos and Don'ts. We don't marry without the approval of both families. we have a saying being an in-law doesn't end/expires.
Congolese here, it is the same there. to get married legally, the family and the traditional wedding need to have taken place. So if the family is against it, it is impossible to mave ahead so some people choose to live together regardless and be happy and men make sure to leave a will so that thigs are not taken away from his family.
Even the family that accepts you in the beginning can be very difficult to deal with sometimes not to talk of the ones that don't want you at all. That will be hell on earth. My Mom went through it, and they accepted her in the beginning. Like you said if you can fight gbas gbos with them , you can choose to embark on the journey, personally, I don't have that energy. Ps. I love your videos🤗
If she were financially dependent, I'd be afraid for her, but she's not. If the man was not strong willed they would not have gotten this far. Sometimes a man's family will still hate a wife even after accepting her at first. So I think Wofa is ready to tackle this situation head-on. Everything we think or say now is speculation, there's no way we can predict what will happen later. The future is never as bad as we fear🤗
Very true… thank God she is financially independent.
Really!!! We shall see. “To obey is better than sacrifice and to hearken than the fat of ram… “so says the Holy Book. Neze has said her own. Money can fail any time.🙏🏽❤️
@@roselinebella5892so Neze's opinion is the best apparently to you?
Well I wish Wofai the best,not because of what a person said.
It doesn't take a clairvoyant to tell that there will be problems with any marriage if the in-laws hate you. Why start fighting from the onset? What's this nonsense love people talk about. Even if the man is strong-willed, for how long? I don't think you understand the influence of in-laws.
@sose9601 At this point, Nezes' opinion is the best, considering the circumstances of Nigerian marriages, which doesn't mean her opinion is final or God's plan... Things are always subject to change.
So true marriage is a union of two family, am a Nigerian from the East Igbo to be precise and married to the West Yoruba. My marriage is 0ver 16 years and still counting, which am grateful to God for and very importantly I enjoy peace in my home because it is a blessing from both families. So yes marriage is an agreement between 2 families, as a lady if you are not welcomed by your mother inlaw and other members of the family please don't venture into it because peace, joy will be far from you. May God give us wisdom #Amen# Thanks Big Sis I love watching your 2 youtube channel more grace. ❤
This is not always the case. Some inlaws love you at first then hate you later. Be it the man's side or the woman's side. People change bases on what they want from you and they do not get. Or base on how much you let them in or out of your home. That is humans . No 2 situations can be same. Some in laws hate you at first then love you later. Etc
@bernadettebesong What do you just say? Hate you first and love u later?dey play, you better don't advise anyone to take such decision.
My in-laws never particularly liked me...trust me ... hubby and are good. Inlaws that like you today can turn against you tomorrow.
@@idowuayanda8552 hahaha I don't think you read my text. You only pick the last statements. The first thing I said was some in laws love you today, hate you later. And yes there are some in laws who hate you from the beginning but get to be objective later after seeing their family member is the issue. So life has no clear direction. No 2 marriages are same. My advice is if they hate you in the beginning run, if they are pretending to love you in the beginning and you are suspicious still run. Pray for the right person both men and women and their family too.
@beautyisola8416, good to hear your story. Indeed when married to your husband you literally are married to the whole family and vice versa. Not only in Nigeria but in many West African countries. May God continue to keep your family together in peace love and harmony in Jesus' Name. Amen.
Ghanaians marriage is like nigerian marriage, it strongly involves both families
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If i were her, i would not go ahead to get married to a man whose family does not like me at all. I am a product (child) of a marriage like this. My mum's family rejected me coz my dad was not from her tribe. Guess what, to this day, in my 30s i have no connection to her family. Please do your future children a favour and only marry into a family that likes you and accepts you. The emotional and psychological damage that rejection has had on me is indescribeable.
Well said!
It is well with you.
Sorry about your situation, but my parents case though similar had a different outcome. My maternal grandmother refused permission because my father was not from their town though same tribe and both families Catholic. My parents went ahead to get married after waiting in vain for consent for 2 years. They were abroad at the time, and when they returned to Nigeria 8 years later, with FOUR children in tow, that was when the traditional marriage was finally performed.
We were fully accepted, and my dad ended up being their BEST inlaw. They remained happily married for 38 years till my mum passed on. Three of my mums siblings who married people from their town with full parental blessings ended up with bitter divorce/separations...
I am not advocating ignoring parental blessings and consent, but I know of other couples who have thrived after initial objections, to their marriage particularly when based on tribal prejudice. And I find its usually the husband's family that are more unyielding. Most women's families give up objections after children arrive and they see the husband treating their daughter well. But I guess each person will know how virulent their family's hatred of an outsider can be, and act accordingly.
I agree with you and I don't understand people who do this. It's risky and emotionally damaging for the future children
That intro apology cracked me up😂😂😂😂yes give them more shegee 😂😂😂
She’s very rich, I mean Wolfi.. so she can easily relocate abroad, with her handsome bobo, far away from the family!
I support their marriage, they will make it and bear 3 boys and 3 girls.! Everyone who hates their union will shurrruupp in the end.!
Pray such a family does not resort to juju to battle the woman and even their son.spiritual battle is not easy.
Hmmmm! This is a difficult one, especially if she is pregnant. Growing up my mother always said never to get involved with a man whose family does not like you because he will always choose them over you, ultimately blood is thicker than water. Wofai does not have to prove anything here, rather let us see whether this individual is a man or just a male. I guess one good thing is that she is financially independent and can care for her child alone in this respect if things get to that stage.
I totally appreciate the dynamics of Nigerian marriage, however, I also firmly believe that when a person becomes an adult, parents need to accept that some decisions (including marriage) are solely for their daughter or son to make. Otherwise one begs the question- at what point do you allow your grown son or daughter to make decisions for themselves?
Furthermore, why is it acceptable for men to marry women young enough to be their daughter, even grand-daughter and society does not blink an eye? But if a woman gets involved with a man 3 or 5 years older than her pandemonium ensues. Men should be entitled to women's youth but women should be saddled with old men. Thankfully, I am attracted to men who are comfortable to think and act for themselves.
I love this comment.
Exactly, my parents waited 2 years for consent from my maternal grandmother, because though from the same tribe and both Catholic my dad was not from their town which my grandma insisted. My dad's family had no problem with the marriage. They got married anyway and had their traditional wedding 8 years and 4 children later when they returned to Naija.
They were happily married for 38 years till my mum passed on. My dad ended up being their BEST inlaw, their love was plain for everyone to see... Three of my mum's siblings who married people from their town with full parental blessings ended up with bitter divorce/separations...
Every story and the circumstances of refusal are different. In this case both his Mother and twin sister attended the wedding. It appears only his father who has also been divorced from his mother for 27 years is objecting!!! So she does have SOME of his family's support.
I can speak for my country Ghana, marriage is a union between two families as well 🔥🇬🇭🔥
Hmm, the story of my life. I ended my relationship days ago because the guy's parents and siblings do not want a woman from my tribe. If the family has clearly stated they do not like Wofai, I beg she should think twice ooo either than that she'll fight battles all her life.
A guy who is mommy or daddy's boy, hmmm, they're another wahala. We're abroad, yet his family decides for him. Let me end here. Hmmm
Abi na... No be say the Guy even fine sef.
Exactly!!! That resentment even gets put onto the children of that matriage. My mother's family rejected me as a baby just because my father was not from their tribe. They sent me away and to this day, ( i am in my 30s), i know nobody from my mother's family!!! My mother never laud eyes on me again since i was 5 months old. So people need to be very careful of the family they choose to marry into.
@@LexionKing 😆 you're mean
@bluebird4815 Aww, it is well. It's high time people put aside their emotions and think rationally about these issues before getting married because the psychological trauma you'll go through is not an easy thing.
@@bluebird4815your mother never did what for 30th years 😢😢never leaud eyes on you since 5month ,hope you try get in touch with her,
She's made her choice, some people prefer learning from their own mistakes not others.
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Your apology took me out. 😂😂 I was like in know she’s not apologizing to the trollsss. 😂😂 you got me.
I love your hairstyle.
Presently in such a situationship for 13yrs.its been hell. Aside having my children it was totally not worth it.
This situation is really critical, may God help her.
@okoloarobuye8502, may God see you through. Just do your best. I have seen a case where the family rejected the woman, but when she became successful and the man she married offended her.
She decided to leave but the man's family begged her not to leave.
The mother inlaw became sick & said if the marriage brake, she will die. Just be strong. Things might change. 13 years is not 13 days.
I love the natural hair style, can you please show me how you do it.
😂😂😂😂😂Neze you will not kill me with laughter" scrolling left,right,up and down, thank now I understand the story.❤❤❤
@tebaleomarobane8496 Me too 👌 now I understand the story. Thank 👏 you Nezeville 💕❤️
Nigeria marriage is the same as Ghana marriage, it's between 2 families more than the bride and groom itself.
True African and Asian marriages are like that
My daughter iam grandmother, i respect your intelligence.
"Not UK used" 😂😂😂 Queen Neze has made my day
Me see I like the guy. NOT UK OR U.S USES OOOIHe is still LOOKS CLEAN. WOFIA,HOLD HIM OOOO.
Thank you Neze , this is more than just a story, this is a Lecture for most especially the unmarried people. Marriage counseling be like say e join the gift when God give you, well done ma
You know when a man’s family doesn’t like you, they will make life very hectic and even though the man loves you, you will never enjoy your marriage. Children will come in, but to what extent do you want to exchange their lives for your love for the man. It’s sad this is happening. I think she should hold on and settle issues because a day will come she will regret. I hope things change for them
Neze you are so wise.
Ild love to read books written by u
Even if you have a man who can protect you from powers and principalities, if he dies early, your middle name has become sorry. Also when the chips are down, what happens. Your humble opinion is approved by me, Neze...
A very well put analysis Barr Neze. 💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I struggled with infertility and my husband shielded me like a warrior from his family because he has “coconut head” (the good kind 😁). After God blessed us with our miracle chid, I knew I couldn’t have gone through the tough times without my husband’s unflinching support!
In marriage you never know what challenges will come your way. If you’re not sure the character of your man will weather the storm, I’d opine that you don’t go into a marriage where the family (notably the parents) doesn’t want you. It’s not worth the shege pro max thag will follow!
Looking like a caribbean queen love watching your videos 🇯🇲
This woman no go kill me ooh "Not fairly used.
A person marries a family...period! There is no way to escape this fact. Please marry where you are wanted,not where you are hated!
Its my first time here,its Amazing watching you,ur not only beautiful but full of wisdom,i have learnt alot from you already,how i wish she will see ur post.
Love the well detailed bio.. storytelling out of this world.
Anyway, be sure to know what you are doing if you re going to swim against a massive trend like the in-law family… it can drown you.
Neze whom have you "offended "? 😂😂😂😂😂😂the truth is very bitter in some cases and am ready for it . Only people who can't stand the truth will be "offended " when things don't go their way. Welldon our sister you are doing great things here.
Imagine a whole Calabar beauty queen like this being abused and embarrassed. She’s the total package, beauty, brains, n hardworking n can stand 10 toes down to any “young girl”. Wofai, run before dark under eye circles and wrinkles evade your face from all the stress his family will give you 😂😂 Even if you are pregnant, your true Prince Charming will come for you and your child. Neze, told nothing but the gospel truth!
Exactly my thoughts. They just want to tarnish the image of this lady who has worked so hard to carve a niche for herself!
I just love Neze, I have been addicted to watching you ever since i came across your channel. Your narrative skills is amazing. keep getting bigger.
Loving the hair! Loving the promised sege and wotowoto promax!!! Le’go!!!!!
You are so good at telling stories with spices.Keep it up Neze!
Nez said not fairly used, not London used, not snatched, straight from the manufacturer. 😂
Love, love, love this. Absolutely true Neze. Thanks for all these reminders on what counts for a good, disciplined and loving provider and protector of us - their women. And how important his family's role is and one's comfort and acceptance within that family is. Halleluyah to this particular episode. Keep it up! Great stuff Neze!!! 🤩❤🤩
We Africans sometimes use culture, traditions and prejudices as an excuse for hate. Meanwhile all these tradition and culture was made by humans to protect us.
Why do you think oyibo marraiges dont last ....
@@kastortalkna lie. In America, everyone I know is married!
@@followGreatnesswith their 50% divorce rate?
@@kastortalkThe so called lastness of marriages in Nigeria,do you know the numbers of women it has drained?
Some that didn't leave the marriage even became shadow of themselves,even died in abusive marriages at least you see some on social media and they are more that never got to social media,some women in psychiatric homes.
Some women has even become mentor of sufferness because they've been brainwashed to accept nonsense looking for other women to accept the rubbish they accepted in their so called marriages,,seeing their sufferness as an achievement in the name of marriage.
So is the so called marriage worth it?
Or is marriage useful in the grave?
A lot of single women are even far better than a lot of married women.
i just wish i can give thumbs up a million times. more wisidom Barr. Neze👍👍👍👍
This woman has the TV vibes...showbiz to be precise.like... just started watching recently and her indepth explanations of events really gets me. Love from Ghana
Our beloved Barrister Neze, the emotional and cultural complexities you have described are profound and insightful. You have e created a vivid picture of the potential challenges that come with marrying into a family that disapproves of the union, particularly in African societies where family ties and traditions hold significant weight.
The sense of isolation, potential conflicts, and possible obstacles to inheritance rights paint a daunting future for Wofai Fada in this situation. Your counsel, born out of experience and understanding, is poignant and offers a pragmatic perspective on what could lie ahead.
Yes I was waiting for you
What has Wofia done that cannot be treated within d two families. It such a shame & d old man didn't handle it maturely at all. I would have felt disappointed if this was my father
Your smile and laughter is priceless and infectious... I smile watching you laugh
I can listen to you all day. It’s pure love from here❤
The gist I have been waiting for😂😂
I knew that you will give us the full comprehensive gist❤
I'm afraid, Neze. I 100% agree with you. If the family does not support the relationship, let it go. You would isolate the man from his family who you, in your infinite wisdom, think you know inside out. When the man, God forbit, has few challenges, would have nowhere nor familiarities to turn to. What happens when he gets pushed to the wall? You are f...!! You, by virtual of your not getting the families on your side (blessings), have exposed yourself and child to be, into a very small community. My prayer is someone older and more worldly in your family work towards mending those fences on your, sorry to say, childish behalf.
Being married is one thing. Standing the test of time is a WHOLE kettle of smoke. Goodluck child, you would certainly need it.
Neze, your maturity and truthfulness are out of this world. Sweerie, be ever blessed ❤
NEZEEEE😮,KU ISE E E. A1 FOR THIS PRESENTATION. WISDOM IN ALL RAMIFICATIONS.
Neze you nailed it. This analysis is the undiluted truth and top notch. A thousand likes for this❤
Matter well exhausted by Nezeville Full-Stop! ... Nezeville you are a BOMB!!
Neze does not beat around the bush ❤❤❤
You said the whole truth Aunty Neze. It is good to marry a man that stands on his ground and not a mommy's boy
I love your hair style Neze
Honestly this piece has blessed. I wll download and save
Watch from time to time to keep catching these values
Hello my sister, I love the way you present your program. More grace ❤😊
Neze,you know how to dish it out.Awwww u know ur job.Nezevillianssssss let keep watching!
Beautiful content, well presented, thanks nezeville ❤
Thanks for the piece of advise I got much lessons from this clip. I have been a big time victim I wished I had listen to you before. Any way I'm grateful and in my next world or in my next relationship I'll adjust and shine my eyes very well before I enter any deal with any man. Once more thank you barrister
You’re my best in this industry. I really love the way you talk . Very sweet to see and hear.
A word is enough for the wise. You have said it all, Neze.
Neze love the way you narrate the stories. You present all sides of the issue without forcing your opinion on your audience. You also keep them captivated .
This your hair style is the bomb! Loving it Girl! Wo..❤
I love your outfit and you look stunning!
This is not only in Nigeria but all over Africa
You're such an amazing story teller with such cute finesse.
Nice advice one Neze
My advice to Wofa is put everything on hold and pray about it before making any decision l pray God helps hef to move on the right path.
Amen!
Neze, you are the very best.
Thanks for all you do.
I love watching and listening to you
All thee mummy boys avoid me😂
Yu are right my dear sister
Some sister in laws are even worse than mothers. You have to be really prepared for marriage so you in laws will have some respect for you. Financial independence is the key to happiness in marriage.