Yes being present is so crucial for me. I've always ran from fear. Now, I have forced myself to acknowledge the fear for just exactly what it is, fear. Forcing myself to work through the pain in my belly, in my head, in my heart and acknowledge if it is real or fear. With this newfound freedom, at age 47 I am truly free of the fear that has kept me captive from being an authentic human, at the hands of the humans who have abused me with not my fears, but their own.
Thank you Catherine for sharing this. This is powerful. It's also necessary for so many people to understand that moving from fear to freedom requires courage. You did that. That's great!
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank You Tamara. You are giving of yourself, an excellent service to so many by helping them regain their freedom, some for the first time, so in great appreciation, I thank you again. Once one gets a taste of true freedom to be their true, authentic self, the courage to protect that freedom only increases ten fold. ☮️🌎💛✌🏼
@@catherinewacker141So Absolutely Spot on, I sometimes Feel Overwhelmed by this New Sense of Peace I feel, aware that defies the definition of the word 🤗✌🙄💗
So glad I found your page. I'm a college freshman and going to school during COVID is especially hard. I think what makes it hard is that I do not have a room mate, so I'm just alone with my own mind every day. I've never felt the need to cope with my feelings in my life until now, and I had no idea where to start. Thank you for making your videos so understandable.
Hi Dane, Thanks so much! And you're welcome. Glad this was helpful. I think your experience is an example of ALL of our experiences this year. We've had a tough year in the world and in our personal lives as well. This combination can lead to depression, anxiety, and even PTSD. We're all trying to figure out how to cope. 😳
My deepest sympathy to you and yours for the loss of your Grandmother Queen. I pray for your healing, especially knowing that you are ever so diligently healing others. Know that your Grandmother is with you at all times. All PRAISES due to the Most High God! 🙏🏾. You are a true blessing. This video came up and this is my 1st time watching. I did subscribe to your channel. You brought light to a dark place for me. I am a U S Army Retired (1982 - 2005) Iraq War Veteran and a true child of God. I believe because I am a (Black) woman and a Veteran, the universe could care less about my mere existence. Folks think that once you return home from a War (I was a Tractor Trailer Operator) that you fit right back into a sense of normalcy. NOT TRUE! I am grateful that I am mentally stable. Just know that my trauma didn't start with the Military. You have explained these diagnoses on a level that most can relate to and I appreciate that. Even the VAMC does it a little different. Just want you to know that I appreciate you today and will follow your videos for some "self help." Thank you, humbly. Peace & Blessings, Light & Reflections 💯
Hi Danielle Thank you very much for your heart and your wonderful words. Thank you and it has been God that has carried us this far. It is tough to lose somebody that you love and who played such an important role. I also pray for you and hope that you are doing well because I strongly believe we need to do better as a nation for our veterans. Thank you for your service to this country and for giving us the ability to live in peace. The least we can do is return that favor to you but unfortunately our country is a lacking in this way sorely. You have given me an idea to possibly do a video on the people who are ignored in our society and what that has done to them. We need to do better. Welcome to the channel. I wish you the best
@@TherapistTamaraHill Greetings & Salutations Queen Hill. Thank you! You are too kind! I am humbled! I would like to encourage you to do a video on African American (Women) Veterans because WE are FORGOTTEN. All we need is RESPECT, but, in a world that has degraded us (A.A.) as if we're not even human is demoralizing. And separate the phony's from the real folks. I may get an occasional "smile" if I have my Army shirts or jackets on, but, usually ignored. We suffer in so many ways and normally it is the "Black" women Veterans who tend to keep it under wraps. I'm not asking for anything, but, it would be nice to have some recognition sometimes. It's not easy to say the least. I wish well wishes to ALL Veterans and Civilians who deal with trauma in any way because at the beginning and the end of the day.... a painful heart is a painful heart. I "Thank You" in advance for the help and knowledge you put out there and it's a blessing coming from a "Sista!" 😌. Keep smiling Queen & enjoy your week. Make it great! Peace & Blessings, Light & Reflections 💯
Smiles Grateful Your Grandma Existed and Shines Through You.. The More I Learn, Grow and Improve the More I Expierience an Authentic and Hopeful Feeling of Interconectedness. Wishing You and Us Much Peace, Potential and Prosperity!
@@TherapistTamaraHill I already feel so Blessed Ma'am . I also Had a Most Beautiful & Compassionate Granny, as Well. As I Heal, and Find better Ways to Model to My own Lovlies that I Care Deeply For, the Greater My Hope Grows they Won't have to Struggle so Much, but can Truly Allow thier Own Potential to Shine!
Great video, thank you. I am sorry for the loss of your Grandmother, it's never easy losing someone you love. I lost my Mom 32 years ago today. We talked on the phone early that evening and she seemed fine. So when I got a call the next day saying she died it was hard to process it. She was only 58 at the time. To make matters worse, a neighbor emptied my Mom's pill bottles and so I was told by police she committed suicide. It took a month for the autopsy report to come out and find out she died from liver disease and not suicide. I have GAD most of my adult life. I was molested when I was 6 and watched other kids have it happen to them too which was even worse. A couple days after I turned 13 I was sitting across from a friend who was accidently shot in the face. It's the only time I was in shock as I ran out of the house screaming for help. The kid who was shot died two days later from a blood clot. So it's no wonder I've had anxiety issues since then. I normally didn't have the fight or flight response, I usually would freeze with my panic attacks. My anxiety has declined in recent years. First I learned to take deep breaths when I experience anxiety. I stopped drinking coffee and that made a big difference. And I've been using a weighted blanket for the past couple years and it does a good job making me feel calmer and fall asleep faster.
@Dale Blake thank you. I appreciate that. And I'm sorry for your loss as well. Very tragic and traumatizing to say the least. You suffered what I call an unexpected loss. Unexpected losses can truly impact us for years to come. I would say that you have experienced complex trauma as well as vicarious trauma. These forms of trauma come with health consequences but the ways in which you are tackling things now will surely help. I encourage you to learn more about these types of trauma through my previous videos. Take care
Excellent! Unbelievable how much we carry...even intergenerationally! I loved the video about that and how it has impacted Indigenous Afrikan nations globally!
I have really bad social anxiety. I remember one time when my class and I were popcorn(call on classmate) reading,, my leg was tapping uncontrollably and I intensely fidget with my fingers.
Thanks for sharing this with us. A lot of people do this out of habit but, as you point out, you're always fidgety. One thing I look for is a difference between ADHD and anxiety because it could be either or both.😳
@veronica carlson that's wonderful that it worked for you! I tried doing activities that forced me to interact with others and i just got more and more uncomfortable unfortunately.
Hi Bambii. I had social anxiety really bad in my past. You don't have to answer it here, but what are you afraid of exactly? If it's how others might think of you (which is what I had), I'll tell you what worked for me. One time in class, for some reason, I forgot to worry. I then realized how less panicky I put myself through. I then realized that the only way for me to get better, was to TRULY not care what they thought. Don't try to control your symptoms. If they happen and people look at you, who cares. If they don't, who cares. Will you even know those people in a year? You have to truly not give a crap what anyone thinks. It takes the power away from the anxiety issue. It takes some time. It won't happen overnight. But practice not caring (but really mean it) and things just might ease up for you. Good luck!
@Jeanne I agree with this approach but only with SOME things. You're right...who cares? But if we all go around not caring what good will we be? When do we know we should care? And can we turn the "caring" back on when needed? We don't want to be numb. We have to be careful not to dismiss life but rather choose the small things to ignore. It's not worth it. You're right.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Hi Tamara Hill. Thanks for your note. I didn't mean not to care in general. I meant specifics. I did have a specific issue and fear that they'd all notice. So the more I tried to control it, the worse it got. Let's say it's "I'm afraid people will see my hand shaking, when I'm nervous, and they'll laugh at me." And my hand does shake often and I'm really self-conscious about it. And people do laugh. To get to the point where I don't care if it shakes or not. To not care if they laugh or not. To let go of that fear. That's where my trying to control the reaction (desperately hoping it won't shake) starts to weaken. By not caring either way about it, you start to get your freedom and life back and not get distressed about it. (I was a counselor myself for several years). To then start to focus on what's important, instead of trying to control and obsess about a certain fear.
Thank you! 🙂 Loss is tough even though a very real path we all walk down. And thank you again!! I do the same with RUclipsrs who do hair in videos. It's a stress releaser to watch.🤭
Excellent timing! As someone who has been dealing and struggling with anxiety since my childhood I also wanna tell a mental way on how to deal with anxiety and the stress that comes along with it which works really well for me (and perhaps ask you Tamara on your thoughts about this 😁): accepting your authentic thoughts and anxiety so they pass through you. It works best when we are in a place in which we (physically) feel safe and are not disturbed. I found that we can use all the information on coping mechanisms on anxiety when we first accept the anxiety without trying to change it, so it passes through us and we "survive" them. Of course there are so many more elements that go along with it, because it‘s not always something that can be dealt with mentally but practicing acceptance on anxiety and those bad feelings so they can pass through us first helps to use other healthy coping strategies 🙌🏼 because I found that when I deny, ignore or get around anxiety, it persists and comes back with even more intensity and feels like it‘s ruining my life. Since I started practicing acceptance on anxiety, it really helped my mind to calm down and stop figuring out on how to escape my situation or something.
That's great!! Glad this was helpful. And you make a great point here: "because I found that when I deny, ignore or get around anxiety, it persists and comes back with even more intensity and feels like it‘s ruining my life. Since I started practicing acceptance on anxiety, it really helped my mind to calm down and stop figuring out on how to escape my situation or something. " Agree!
Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC thank you for your response!! Next week I gotta binge-watch some of your videos I saved but couldn’t watch due to my exams hahaha 😆
Thank you. I actually just found your channel from RUclips #Withme. I needed to hear some clear words. I was dating someone for 3 months and I recently had to remove myself from that relationship. She has CPTSD and borderline bipolar from childhood trauma. She sometimes forgets to take her meds and she's not being honest with her therapist. She seems to fawn or fight and I was often the closest to get the angry nasty rapid incoherent words. I wanted to stay with her and help her and was trying to be present with her but she would have flashbacks or have triggers and I became the enemy. Someone who shares friends with her, drives her kids to work, help her when she's crunched for time. She would berate me, tell me I don't care about her, I'm not vested in a relationship with her, etc. It all took a toll on me and I stepped away and put up boundaries but she negated those boundaries. When I would speak to her about it, she would deflect tell me what's wrong with me and how it's because I don't accept her, and shut down. (I don't think I'll ever be able to be vulnerable with anyone else). So just recently, I froze, shut down, and walked away. Now the emotions I've not been able to release or show with her are all rushing out. As someone once said "you shouldn't have to put out your fire to ignite someone else's."
You're welcome! Thanks for watching. It sounds to me as if she isn't at the stage of growth yet and doesn't understand the importance of getting better in order to foster healthy relationships. She's on a destructive path of "hiding" and manipulating (intentionally or unintentionally). I like that last point you make. Very true. I do have videos on my channel about BPD and dealing with people who have unhealthy patterns. I encourage you to check them out. Take care
So very true. We can all agree. We have to stick together and push through this very hard time. To make matters worse we still have our own personal lives to carry. It can feel like too much sometimes.
Yes, it was a great reminder to use coping skills! You seem very real and down to earth, so I did subscribe. I'm sorry for your loss of your Grandmother, but glad you found a great way to cope. Bless you:)
Thank you for sharing this video. You just educated me with detecting signs of Anxiety . However; I have not found anyone who has experienced eyes nerve pain , wide , bug eye stare, pulsating, contracting upper and lower eyelid. I don't what category I fit in. I irritable, nervousness, shaky But I don't have other anxiety symptoms.
Thank you for the clear scientific explanation! I was diagnosed with GAD/Ibs and self awareness really helps me... Now I’m going to be aware when my central nervous system takes over.. and now you’ve given me some great coping skills!
Thank you Kate!☺🙂 I'm glad this was helpful. Self-awareness is something that helps me when I need it. It's healing if you do it right and accept what it is telling you, good or bad.
Wow I’m glad I stumbled on your channel😉 I need this badly as I suffer from anxiety & depression ... great info...sorry for your loss..new subbie..thanks☮️
THIS VIDOE HAS BEEN SO HELPFUL TO ME ESP. AS A STUDENT LEARNING A SIMILAR TOPIC THOERITICALLY IN DEUTSCH (HAD I DEEPER INSIGHT AFTER LISTENING TO YOUR EXPLAINATION IN ENGLISH) GOD BLESS YOU DEARLY
Hey been dealing with anxiety and depression. Been diagnosed with it over a year. Have been issues with the heart palpitations, don’t sleep much, rarely ever eat, the other day I thought I was having a heart attack with the chest pains. I felt super tense. Other than that I literally would get so nervous or scared that I have uncontrollable diarrhea or vomiting. I totally lost it about 3 years w/death of a loss one. Last March got diagnosed with major depressive disorder and this March doc said it was anxiety that cause the tension etc and trouble breathing. I kinda feel like it started when I lost my grandma almost 3 years ago we took her to the hospital during my birthday party. I literally can’t speak about death or talk about it without crying or losing it. I also have a shit memory now. That’s gone and I don’t even bother to associate with people anymore. I’m always down so I can’t spend time out socializing much or I get tired and just wanna run back home.... not sure what to do and I’ve tried different antidepressants and different dosages. Stressed so much I even started to have hair loss (thinning)!
I'm so sorry Keely. I am also sorry for your loss. These experiences can be traumatic and very destabilizing. In cases such as yours I often encourage three things: 1. Vitamin "therapy" - purchasing vitamins with B6, B12, and Q10. These supplements provide additional energy we don't get from food. 2.Liquid form melatonin which may work better than pills. 3. Exercise which increases feel good hormones and may foster better sleep We're a work in progress so we have to "work on ourselves" by trying different approaches until we find the right one. Take good care
Ive been dealing with extreme anxiety for years I've attempted medication as well as therapy. I come from a narcissistic background and I also have delt with absuive relationships as well as being a single parent.
I get stressed out when people “compliments “my body.checking my body out ,staring at me , coming up to me and telling me I look good.making eye contact with me ,thin and younger women checking my body,men checking me out ...I don’t wear sexy clothes
I think that kind of stuff makes you feel violated because of your anxiety and just because it's your personal space and you don't want people doing that. I used to be the same exact way until I got older and could handle my anxiety. This is a violation of personal space so I totally get you.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thanks, I don’t know what is was😀I wish strange women would stop asking me for “diet tips” when in the stores or ask me what size I wear .I wish women can look at themselves and not be so hateful towards their bodies and /or their faces .I’m not in competition with anyone ,but the environment other women created around makes it uncomfortable just to shop for food.I wish women can just like themselves enough and stop comparing themselves to others.I think my body is body and my face is my face.As long is I’m ok with me , that’s what really matters.I do care about the emotional health of women, if physical appearance , and /or body weight plays a role in it .
first of all, i just started watching your channel and i love your videos; i actually feel a sense of hope when i watch them. secondly, i suffer from anxiety and i try my best to schedule things in to help myself cope but i just feel like i can’t moderate myself. i like watching shows to distract myself, i like eating a delicious meal when im stressed, exercising a whole lot, and i like listening to music, etc.. i just feel like i really abuse these coping mechanisms to the point where i feel miserable enjoying them because im such a “binger” on hobbies. i wouldn’t say im a procrastinator to the point where this interferes with my everyday life, but it is still makes me so uncomfortable and i can’t get longterm tasks done because i’ve wasted so much time with these small satisfying activities which have somewhat become distractions if that makes sense. do you have any tips on how i can better moderate myself?
Alayna, thank you!! That's so sweet and so good to hear. I'm glad they are helpful. I would suggest finding new coping skills you like and rotating them from time to time so you don’t get "stuck." This might help if you create for yourself a big enough "toolbox."
Thank you for your comment! I would suggest holistic approaches for chronic pain. I would try things like bath salts or essential oils such as lavender or peppermint oil which has natural properties for pain. I would incorporate some herbal teas and some green and black teas to help as well with building your immune system and antioxidants to help with pain. Getting exercise, getting massages, and pursuing physical therapy may be helpful. Take good care
I'm curious to learn how mental health professionals help patients with social anxiety; sometimes a patient knows that their fear or anxiety is irrational but they cannot help their response/reaction.
This is a great question Gaby. I usually assist my younger clients in going places they fear such as a playground or movie theater and walk them through the social anxiety. I like to practice first in the office and then again in public and then again at the place where they experience the most anxiety such as a movie theater. If I can teach the client to calm themselves with positive/balanced thoughts, by listening to my voice, etc. it shows them they CAN control it but they have to use the right tools.
I used to think weak minded people were weak. Now I'm the weak minded person. I dont wanna be but I am. It all started this year when alot of problems came at once. I believe I've developed depression. I cant find excitement in anything or anybody. At least I do recognize my problems I know that's important.
Thanks for being honest Cody. I certainly don't think you are the "weak minded person." Depression, anxiety, OCD, etc have no baring on whether you are weak or strong. I like to consider mental health as being more of a human condition that we are ALL susceptible to at some point and time in our lives. It's like diabetes and/or a heart condition. Living life and being human, experiencing all that life is, and trying to keep up in the world can all come crashing down on us causing anxiety, depression, etc. It's a human condition we are ALL susceptible to. Glad you see what's going on. I do hope it isn't getting you down too much. Take care
but not everyone, likes doing groups chat over the web, facetime zoom etc..... which for me is frustrating, a friend of mine wants to hangout inside and i dont really want to, outside is fine but, he doesnt want to, either one of us are, at an impass (neither 1 of us are finding a balance), although i could try asking him about, going somewhere, or doing an activity like pumpkin carving
I totally understand this, Mark. I had friends text and ask me to hang out at a restaurant. Even though they stressed it would be outside, I was freaking out about it. I didn’t answer their text for a long time because I didn’t want to disappoint them. Finally, after thinking a lot about why I was stressing so hard - because we had hung out before outside, socially distanced with masks on, of course! Then, I realized that it was because at a restaurant, I wouldn’t be able to control how many people would be around me, and I wouldn’t be able to “escape” like if I’m out taking a walk, or sitting in the park. So I decided I just had to text them and tell them exactly how I felt. I told then that I was sorry, and loved them very much and missed them, but I’m just not comfortable, or ready for that yet. I was surprised and happy to hear them say that they understood, and maybe we could meet somewhere outside where there weren’t other people around and I felt more in control of who was around me. It made me feel so much better. I was just stressing myself out without giving them all the information about what I was feeling. Also, your friends have to respect you, Mark. If they don’t want to hear you and they try to pressure you, then they don’t really care about your feelings, just their own. I will admit that I forget that sometimes.
where is your office located? are you online/virtual appointments only? or could I actually schedule to come in for a visit? please let me know I think you could really help me out I have been suffering from anxiety and other stress induced issues all stemming from a traumatic brain injury and PTSD that was a result of a very bad motorcycle accident... I can get into more details about my specific situation but if you think you could or would even be willing to try to help me I can give u my contact information so we can get in touch and get more information about each other... but literally, mostly everything you are saying is like you are talking about the issues I deal with every hour of every day... I hope we can get in touch you seem very very knowledgable and I think you would be able to help me out, even if we were just to speak on the phone. please let me know if you would be able to help me out in addition to your great videos!! thanks again and have a blessed day, -Peter
Hi Peter, please feel free to email me contact@anchoredinknowledge.com with your location/state and we can go from there. I offer consultations internationally and Psychotherapy in specific states.
Psalm 85 1 Lord, thou hast been favorable unto thy land: thou hast brought back the captivity of Jacob. 2 Thou hast forgiven the iniquity of thy people, thou hast covered all their sin. Selah. 3 Thou hast taken away all thy wrath: thou hast turned thyself from the fierceness of thine anger. 4 Turn us, O God of our salvation, and cause thine anger toward us to cease. 5 Wilt thou be angry with us for ever? Wilt thou draw out thine anger to all generations? 6 Wilt thou not revive us again: that thy people may rejoice in thee? 7 Shew us thy mercy, O Lord, and grant us thy salvation. 8 I will hear what God the Lord will speak: for he will speak peace unto his people, and to his saints: but let them not turn again to folly. 9 Surely his salvation is near that fear him; that glory may dwell in our land. 10 Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other. 11 Truth shall spring out of the earth; and righteousness shall look down from heaven. 12 Yea, the Lord shall give that which is good; and our land shall yield her increase. 13 Righteousness shall go before him; and shall set us in the way of his steps.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
My xwife for over a year has made my children fight in front of me has made my son hit me panic over going to church panic over doing homework. Throw fits scream and yell. Over the past year I’ve asked the children psychologist for help I’ve talked with the school. I documented everything my son repeatedly swears in front of me. In August the neighbor boy was at my house playing with my son and my son hit me and said swearwords. The neighbor boy said why would you talk to your father like that that’s disrespectful you have a nice Dad. My son’s answer was my mom makes me do it if I don’t do it I get punished. So, what does that really mean.? Not what normal person would think. She just wants to make in on my time and split the kids away from him, No that is not her goal. What she want is to win and look good. And to make me look bad. If I talk with the teachers about the behaviors after fight and homework is not turned in, I have these tremendous behavior problems out of my children. Am I X Wife can do the homework in five minutes she’s a super mom and the children don’t have panic attacks around her or anxious or anything. So it has to be the other parent is the problem. I’m doing something wrong with the children I’m making them act as way just to make my ex look bad because I’m asking for help and I’m trying to prove I have a problem. I bought a police cam. They can record for 12 hours if needed remote control. I asked my children and they only tell the truth if they are angry with my ex. Both of them said they get punished if they do not miss behave in front of me punch kick scream. If you Google one parent has anxiety panic attacks fighting hitting with the children and the other parent has peace and quiet. Google brings up the magic word triangulation and parental alienation.
That's a lot for these poor kids. I would look into getting them a trauma therapist and a child-based trauma therapist who can develop a relationship with them and help them work through their thoughts and feelings. This is a lot! If there is parental alienation going on as well as triangulation, the kids need an outlet with an adult who is objective and non-judgmental. Someone who is not so emotionally entrenched in the situation.
Today, I had them and both did the same thing again, I took the camera away and said, I not going to record anymore. Both you have too, I said why each day it is the same, not listening bad time. I try and what difference does it make to record it. My son said Mom will punish Us if you do not. So my x wants them to act out I record it show The children psychologist office and so I am the only one that has a problem with them. She making them do this, so I look bad and she is a victim. That’s a big case of alienation.
Hi I am someone that gets anxiety from being left alone for too long and miss understandings it had started getting bad for a while four when part of my support system was not really there for me and I am not really sure if I am using the right name but I had started having high anxiety attacks and not sleeping for more than about one or two hours A day and my feelings are a confusing mess that I cannot really trust my judgment
It sounds like panic attacks. Most likely from your own thoughts about the things that bother you. I think we "go inside ourselves" sometimes and totally miss that we are thinking very deeply about the things that bother us. We may even begin to blame ourselves for how situations have turned out. This cycle causes the panic attacks. It might be best to question where your anxiety is coming from the moment you notice it. This "sharpens" the brain for being more aware of what you anxiety is trying to tell you.
I would start with psychotherapy and looking for a therapist who offer what's called Cognitive Behavior Therapy. This is working with your thoughts so as to change your feelings and behaviors. Take care
I'm sorry to hear that. This is an anomaly I haven't heard much about but I wonder if there is a correlation between this and anxiety. ??? Some research suggests there is but it's very rare.
1. Buy a KJV version Bible. 2. Read it. Start with the book of John. 3. Get to know God. The Old Testament is extremely important to "know" the mind of our Father. 4. Pray to Jesus Christ to accept him, admit to him that you are a sinner and NEED a Savoir. Find a Bible-believing church and attend regularly. Be sure the Pastor is preaching the true Words of God. There is a verse that says, "Be careful (anxious) for nothing but in prayer with thanksgiving let your request be made known unto God and the Peace of God that passes all understanding will guard your heart and your mind." THIS will alleviate your anxiety. Trusting your Heavenly Father with all of your life, decisions, future will give you a peace you never knew before. It also works for a lot of other issues.
First of all! don't say my anxiety! It's not yours, you don't want it! Renounce it, throw it in the bottom of the Sea! Just say it every time you feel anxious! Don't give it up! Give it Out! In JESUS name! Try it ! it works! Blessings to you! 🖐😁💕
Anxiety isn't inherently bad though. It's essential to our survival. Without our anxiety we would make dangerous, deadly decisions. Embrace healthy anxiety and treat unhealthy anxiety.
I suggest doing research on this before resorting to it. Not everyone can (or should) use marijuana. Marijuana including edibles can have a depressing impact on the brain. Research suggests that if mixed with alcohol, antihistamines or xanax, and other prescription drugs that the consequences are worse than the anxiety itself.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Point well taken. Of course it's not for everyone. Often the people who have issues with it take too high a dose. They need to limit the dosage to a sensible number of milligrams, especially if they are novices with it.
I'm so sorry to hear this. Are you in counseling or interested in counseling? The best place to start would be www.psychologytoday.com or www.goodtherapy.org. Take care
@@TherapistTamaraHill you are kind. however, the last year of my life, almost to the very day, has been a dumpster fire inside a train wreck surrounded by a hurricane that is plummeting into a black hole. ironically , covid has not been a part of it. so, you know, i have that going for me. i cannot be salvaged. thank you for your compassion, however . like led zeppelin says, nobody's fault but mine.
Believe it or not, this might be the most important post you'll read Everyone of us has broken God's moral law, the Ten Commandments. We have all lied, stolen, hated and lusted. And James 2:10 states that breaking one of the Commandments makes us guilty of breaking them all. Problem is, we can never outweigh our sins through good works because the Creator is perfect in Holiness, meaning His standard is far above ours. And He is also perfect in Justice, meaning not a single sin will go unpunished. And the punishment of sin is being cast into hell, where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth with no end. Ever. Fortunately, God is also perfect in love, so 2000 years ago, Jesus Christ left His throne in Heaven and came to this earth as a man. He lived a perfect, sinless life and He so loved us, that He took the punishment of our sin, when He suffered horribly on the cross. Isaiah 53 tells us that his face was marred beyond recognition and that he suffered more than any man. But right before His death, Jesus said "It is finished" meaning the the debt for our sins was paid in full. But on the 3rd day, Jesus conquered death and He was resurrected. So that means now, we can go free from the wrath of God's judgment not by earning it, but rather as a free gift of grace, if you accept Jesus. But, a gift can either accepted or rejected. So if you want to accept the free gift or forgiveness, of grace, and of salvation, this is what you should do: Humbly admit to God that you have sinned against Him, and through gratitude in the sacrifice of His Son, repent (turn away) from your old sinful ways. Then, confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord, your Savior. Believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross, was buried, and was resurrected 3 days later. Roman's 10:9 and 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 says that if you do this you are saved. I'm not telling you to get religious, because Christianity is not a religion, but a relationship with God. And the moment you do this, God will grant you a new heart, which does not take pleasure in sin and He will give you eternal life. Nothing on this earth even close to compares to what awaits believers. What you do with this information will determine where you will be for Eternity; meaning accepting Christ is the single most important decision you'll EVER make. And all of us here, believer or atheist, know that this is very true. Jesus Christ wants YOU to come to Him this very moment; don't even think about sleeping until you have accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior, because your tomorrow isn't guaranteed. You could die at any moment. Hebrews 9: 27 "It is appointed unto man once to die, but after this, the Judgment." All praise and honor to Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord of lords.
Thank you for this perspective. As one who follows God during my private study time this invigorates me. His peace passes ALL understanding which is why a simple prayer can perplex the anxious mind every single time.
There is no such thing as [emotional intelligence] or [emotion] for that matter. That is a nebulous abstraction conjured up by socio-psychological industrial complex to make people feel they need to come to them. The relevant way is to consider everything as thoughts or feelings.
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Yes being present is so crucial for me. I've always ran from fear. Now, I have forced myself to acknowledge the fear for just exactly what it is, fear. Forcing myself to work through the pain in my belly, in my head, in my heart and acknowledge if it is real or fear. With this newfound freedom, at age 47 I am truly free of the fear that has kept me captive from being an authentic human, at the hands of the humans who have abused me with not my fears, but their own.
Thank you Catherine for sharing this. This is powerful. It's also necessary for so many people to understand that moving from fear to freedom requires courage. You did that. That's great!
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank You Tamara. You are giving of yourself, an excellent service to so many by helping them regain their freedom, some for the first time, so in great appreciation, I thank you again. Once one gets a taste of true freedom to be their true, authentic self, the courage to protect that freedom only increases ten fold. ☮️🌎💛✌🏼
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@@catherinewacker141So Absolutely Spot on, I sometimes Feel Overwhelmed by this New Sense of Peace I feel, aware that defies the definition of the word 🤗✌🙄💗
"It is not a sign of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" ~ Krishnamurti
In it's proper context this is true!
So glad I found your page. I'm a college freshman and going to school during COVID is especially hard. I think what makes it hard is that I do not have a room mate, so I'm just alone with my own mind every day. I've never felt the need to cope with my feelings in my life until now, and I had no idea where to start. Thank you for making your videos so understandable.
Hi Dane,
Thanks so much! And you're welcome. Glad this was helpful.
I think your experience is an example of ALL of our experiences this year. We've had a tough year in the world and in our personal lives as well. This combination can lead to depression, anxiety, and even PTSD. We're all trying to figure out how to cope. 😳
My deepest sympathy to you and yours for the loss of your Grandmother Queen. I pray for your healing, especially knowing that you are ever so diligently healing others. Know that your Grandmother is with you at all times. All PRAISES due to the Most High God! 🙏🏾. You are a true blessing. This video came up and this is my 1st time watching. I did subscribe to your channel. You brought light to a dark place for me. I am a U S Army Retired (1982 - 2005) Iraq War Veteran and a true child of God. I believe because I am a (Black) woman and a Veteran, the universe could care less about my mere existence. Folks think that once you return home from a War (I was a Tractor Trailer Operator) that you fit right back into a sense of normalcy. NOT TRUE! I am grateful that I am mentally stable. Just know that my trauma didn't start with the Military. You have explained these diagnoses on a level that most can relate to and I appreciate that. Even the VAMC does it a little different. Just want you to know that I appreciate you today and will follow your videos for some "self help." Thank you, humbly. Peace & Blessings, Light & Reflections 💯
Hi Danielle
Thank you very much for your heart and your wonderful words. Thank you and it has been God that has carried us this far. It is tough to lose somebody that you love and who played such an important role.
I also pray for you and hope that you are doing well because I strongly believe we need to do better as a nation for our veterans. Thank you for your service to this country and for giving us the ability to live in peace. The least we can do is return that favor to you but unfortunately our country is a lacking in this way sorely.
You have given me an idea to possibly do a video on the people who are ignored in our society and what that has done to them. We need to do better.
Welcome to the channel. I wish you the best
@@TherapistTamaraHill Greetings & Salutations Queen Hill. Thank you! You are too kind! I am humbled! I would like to encourage you to do a video on African American (Women) Veterans because WE are FORGOTTEN. All we need is RESPECT, but, in a world that has degraded us (A.A.) as if we're not even human is demoralizing. And separate the phony's from the real folks. I may get an occasional "smile" if I have my Army shirts or jackets on, but, usually ignored. We suffer in so many ways and normally it is the "Black" women Veterans who tend to keep it under wraps. I'm not asking for anything, but, it would be nice to have some recognition sometimes. It's not easy to say the least. I wish well wishes to ALL Veterans and Civilians who deal with trauma in any way because at the beginning and the end of the day.... a painful heart is a painful heart. I "Thank You" in advance for the help and knowledge you put out there and it's a blessing coming from a "Sista!" 😌. Keep smiling Queen & enjoy your week. Make it great! Peace & Blessings, Light & Reflections 💯
it makes me happy to share this
"For When I am weak then,I am strong" . repeat this saying over and overagain. it helps
🙏 Amen💖
Smiles Grateful Your Grandma Existed and Shines Through You..
The More I Learn, Grow and Improve the More I Expierience an Authentic and Hopeful Feeling of Interconectedness.
Wishing You and Us Much Peace, Potential and Prosperity!
🥰😭 Thank you so much. Wishing you grace and blessing!
@@TherapistTamaraHill
I already feel so Blessed Ma'am .
I also Had a Most Beautiful & Compassionate Granny, as Well.
As I Heal, and Find better Ways to Model to My own Lovlies that I Care Deeply For, the Greater My Hope Grows they Won't have to Struggle so Much, but can Truly Allow thier Own Potential to Shine!
Great video, thank you. I am sorry for the loss of your Grandmother, it's never easy losing someone you love. I lost my Mom 32 years ago today. We talked on the phone early that evening and she seemed fine. So when I got a call the next day saying she died it was hard to process it. She was only 58 at the time. To make matters worse, a neighbor emptied my Mom's pill bottles and so I was told by police she committed suicide. It took a month for the autopsy report to come out and find out she died from liver disease and not suicide.
I have GAD most of my adult life. I was molested when I was 6 and watched other kids have it happen to them too which was even worse. A couple days after I turned 13 I was sitting across from a friend who was accidently shot in the face. It's the only time I was in shock as I ran out of the house screaming for help. The kid who was shot died two days later from a blood clot. So it's no wonder I've had anxiety issues since then. I normally didn't have the fight or flight response, I usually would freeze with my panic attacks. My anxiety has declined in recent years. First I learned to take deep breaths when I experience anxiety. I stopped drinking coffee and that made a big difference. And I've been using a weighted blanket for the past couple years and it does a good job making me feel calmer and fall asleep faster.
@Dale Blake thank you. I appreciate that. And I'm sorry for your loss as well. Very tragic and traumatizing to say the least. You suffered what I call an unexpected loss. Unexpected losses can truly impact us for years to come.
I would say that you have experienced complex trauma as well as vicarious trauma. These forms of trauma come with health consequences but the ways in which you are tackling things now will surely help. I encourage you to learn more about these types of trauma through my previous videos.
Take care
I loss of my beloved Son...never going to laugh again...😔😢🖤💔💜
I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you.❤🙏 I am praying you have peace. That pain is so hard to get over. But you can get over it. You will.
I feel ur pain... Lost my brother ten years ago.... Still dealing with it
I'm so sorry. Praying for your strength.
I am so sorry for your loss..prayers, love and peace to you and you family.
I feel for you and I say in an empathic way. Prayers try and smile if you have other children try to heal by pouring love unto them
Excellent! Unbelievable how much we carry...even intergenerationally! I loved the video about that and how it has impacted Indigenous Afrikan nations globally!
I have really bad social anxiety. I remember one time when my class and I were popcorn(call on classmate) reading,, my leg was tapping uncontrollably and I intensely fidget with my fingers.
Thanks for sharing this with us. A lot of people do this out of habit but, as you point out, you're always fidgety. One thing I look for is a difference between ADHD and anxiety because it could be either or both.😳
@veronica carlson that's wonderful that it worked for you! I tried doing activities that forced me to interact with others and i just got more and more uncomfortable unfortunately.
Hi Bambii. I had social anxiety really bad in my past. You don't have to answer it here, but what are you afraid of exactly? If it's how others might think of you (which is what I had), I'll tell you what worked for me. One time in class, for some reason, I forgot to worry. I then realized how less panicky I put myself through. I then realized that the only way for me to get better, was to TRULY not care what they thought. Don't try to control your symptoms. If they happen and people look at you, who cares. If they don't, who cares. Will you even know those people in a year? You have to truly not give a crap what anyone thinks. It takes the power away from the anxiety issue. It takes some time. It won't happen overnight. But practice not caring (but really mean it) and things just might ease up for you. Good luck!
@Jeanne I agree with this approach but only with SOME things. You're right...who cares? But if we all go around not caring what good will we be? When do we know we should care? And can we turn the "caring" back on when needed? We don't want to be numb.
We have to be careful not to dismiss life but rather choose the small things to ignore. It's not worth it. You're right.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Hi Tamara Hill. Thanks for your note. I didn't mean not to care in general. I meant specifics. I did have a specific issue and fear that they'd all notice. So the more I tried to control it, the worse it got. Let's say it's "I'm afraid people will see my hand shaking, when I'm nervous, and they'll laugh at me." And my hand does shake often and I'm really self-conscious about it. And people do laugh. To get to the point where I don't care if it shakes or not. To not care if they laugh or not. To let go of that fear. That's where my trying to control the reaction (desperately hoping it won't shake) starts to weaken. By not caring either way about it, you start to get your freedom and life back and not get distressed about it. (I was a counselor myself for several years). To then start to focus on what's important, instead of trying to control and obsess about a certain fear.
All I do is admire your hair, and all the stress melts away. Sorry for your loss.
Thank you! 🙂 Loss is tough even though a very real path we all walk down.
And thank you again!! I do the same with RUclipsrs who do hair in videos. It's a stress releaser to watch.🤭
Excellent timing!
As someone who has been dealing and struggling with anxiety since my childhood I also wanna tell a mental way on how to deal with anxiety and the stress that comes along with it which works really well for me (and perhaps ask you Tamara on your thoughts about this 😁):
accepting your authentic thoughts and anxiety so they pass through you. It works best when we are in a place in which we (physically) feel safe and are not disturbed. I found that we can use all the information on coping mechanisms on anxiety when we first accept the anxiety without trying to change it, so it passes through us and we "survive" them.
Of course there are so many more elements that go along with it, because it‘s not always something that can be dealt with mentally but practicing acceptance on anxiety and those bad feelings so they can pass through us first helps to use other healthy coping strategies 🙌🏼
because I found that when I deny, ignore or get around anxiety, it persists and comes back with even more intensity and feels like it‘s ruining my life. Since I started practicing acceptance on anxiety, it really helped my mind to calm down and stop figuring out on how to escape my situation or something.
That's great!! Glad this was helpful.
And you make a great point here: "because I found that when I deny, ignore or get around anxiety, it persists and comes back with even more intensity and feels like it‘s ruining my life. Since I started practicing acceptance on anxiety, it really helped my mind to calm down and stop figuring out on how to escape my situation or something. "
Agree!
Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC
thank you for your response!!
Next week I gotta binge-watch some of your videos I saved but couldn’t watch due to my exams hahaha 😆
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You're welcome!
Thank you. I actually just found your channel from RUclips #Withme. I needed to hear some clear words. I was dating someone for 3 months and I recently had to remove myself from that relationship. She has CPTSD and borderline bipolar from childhood trauma. She sometimes forgets to take her meds and she's not being honest with her therapist. She seems to fawn or fight and I was often the closest to get the angry nasty rapid incoherent words. I wanted to stay with her and help her and was trying to be present with her but she would have flashbacks or have triggers and I became the enemy. Someone who shares friends with her, drives her kids to work, help her when she's crunched for time. She would berate me, tell me I don't care about her, I'm not vested in a relationship with her, etc. It all took a toll on me and I stepped away and put up boundaries but she negated those boundaries. When I would speak to her about it, she would deflect tell me what's wrong with me and how it's because I don't accept her, and shut down. (I don't think I'll ever be able to be vulnerable with anyone else). So just recently, I froze, shut down, and walked away. Now the emotions I've not been able to release or show with her are all rushing out. As someone once said "you shouldn't have to put out your fire to ignite someone else's."
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
It sounds to me as if she isn't at the stage of growth yet and doesn't understand the importance of getting better in order to foster healthy relationships. She's on a destructive path of "hiding" and manipulating (intentionally or unintentionally). I like that last point you make. Very true.
I do have videos on my channel about BPD and dealing with people who have unhealthy patterns. I encourage you to check them out.
Take care
@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you. I will look into more of your videos.
You're welcome!
Anxiety and Panic attacks and debilitating depression...😔life never been so tough...😱🤯😨🤢😷
So very true. We can all agree. We have to stick together and push through this very hard time. To make matters worse we still have our own personal lives to carry. It can feel like too much sometimes.
Yes, it was a great reminder to use coping skills! You seem very real and down to earth, so I did subscribe. I'm sorry for your loss of your Grandmother, but glad you found a great way to cope. Bless you:)
Thank you Suzanne. ❤ I appreciate that. And Welcome to the channel!! Glad this was helpful.
Thank you for sharing this video. You just educated me with detecting signs of Anxiety . However; I have not found anyone who has experienced eyes nerve pain , wide , bug eye stare, pulsating, contracting upper and lower eyelid. I don't what category I fit in. I irritable, nervousness, shaky But I don't have other anxiety symptoms.
I loved watching your video! Thank you for sharing something so helpful during this time☺️
Thank you😊Glad it was helpful!
I might need to see someone. I try everyday but im at the point where my emotions get the best of me a lot. Its not ME its my brain...
I'm glad to hear that you have an open mind about this. Sometimes having that extra support is needed and very healthy.
Thank you for the clear scientific explanation! I was diagnosed with GAD/Ibs and self awareness really helps me... Now I’m going to be aware when my central nervous system takes over.. and now you’ve given me some great coping skills!
Thank you Kate!☺🙂 I'm glad this was helpful.
Self-awareness is something that helps me when I need it. It's healing if you do it right and accept what it is telling you, good or bad.
Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC wow, I think I need to start practicing acceptance! Thank you again 😊
Yes, me too!!
You're welcome! 😊
Wow I’m glad I stumbled on your channel😉 I need this badly as I suffer from anxiety & depression ... great info...sorry for your loss..new subbie..thanks☮️
😊Thank you! Welcome!
Thanks for your work , your articles are excellent
Thanks so much Connie!! Glad they're helpful.
THIS VIDOE HAS BEEN SO HELPFUL TO ME ESP. AS A STUDENT LEARNING A SIMILAR TOPIC THOERITICALLY IN DEUTSCH (HAD I DEEPER INSIGHT AFTER LISTENING TO YOUR EXPLAINATION IN ENGLISH)
GOD BLESS YOU DEARLY
Thank you. Glad it was helpful! God bless you too!!
Hey been dealing with anxiety and depression. Been diagnosed with it over a year. Have been issues with the heart palpitations, don’t sleep much, rarely ever eat, the other day I thought I was having a heart attack with the chest pains. I felt super tense. Other than that I literally would get so nervous or scared that I have uncontrollable diarrhea or vomiting. I totally lost it about 3 years w/death of a loss one. Last March got diagnosed with major depressive disorder and this March doc said it was anxiety that cause the tension etc and trouble breathing. I kinda feel like it started when I lost my grandma almost 3 years ago we took her to the hospital during my birthday party. I literally can’t speak about death or talk about it without crying or losing it. I also have a shit memory now. That’s gone and I don’t even bother to associate with people anymore. I’m always down so I can’t spend time out socializing much or I get tired and just wanna run back home.... not sure what to do and I’ve tried different antidepressants and different dosages. Stressed so much I even started to have hair loss (thinning)!
I'm so sorry Keely. I am also sorry for your loss.
These experiences can be traumatic and very destabilizing. In cases such as yours I often encourage three things:
1. Vitamin "therapy" - purchasing vitamins with B6, B12, and Q10. These supplements provide additional energy we don't get from food.
2.Liquid form melatonin which may work better than pills.
3. Exercise which increases feel good hormones and may foster better sleep
We're a work in progress so we have to "work on ourselves" by trying different approaches until we find the right one.
Take good care
Thanks means a lot. I'll try my best to get the vitamins.
Thank you this is very helpful... Getting over depression is hard right now and I think if I practice coping mechanisms it's very helpful
You're welcome!
Ive been dealing with extreme anxiety for years I've attempted medication as well as therapy. I come from a narcissistic background and I also have delt with absuive relationships as well as being a single parent.
I get stressed out when people “compliments “my body.checking my body out ,staring at me , coming up to me and telling me I look good.making eye contact with me ,thin and younger women checking my body,men checking me out ...I don’t wear sexy clothes
I think that kind of stuff makes you feel violated because of your anxiety and just because it's your personal space and you don't want people doing that. I used to be the same exact way until I got older and could handle my anxiety. This is a violation of personal space so I totally get you.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thanks, I don’t know what is was😀I wish strange women would stop asking me for “diet tips” when in the stores or ask me what size I wear .I wish women can look at themselves and not be so hateful towards their bodies and /or their faces .I’m not in competition with anyone ,but the environment other women created around makes it uncomfortable just to shop for food.I wish women can just like themselves enough and stop comparing themselves to others.I think my body is body and my face is my face.As long is I’m ok with me , that’s what really matters.I do care about the emotional health of women, if physical appearance , and /or body weight plays a role in it .
first of all, i just started watching your channel and i love your videos; i actually feel a sense of hope when i watch them. secondly, i suffer from anxiety and i try my best to schedule things in to help myself cope but i just feel like i can’t moderate myself. i like watching shows to distract myself, i like eating a delicious meal when im stressed, exercising a whole lot, and i like listening to music, etc..
i just feel like i really abuse these coping mechanisms to the point where i feel miserable enjoying them because im such a “binger” on hobbies. i wouldn’t say im a procrastinator to the point where this interferes with my everyday life, but it is still makes me so uncomfortable and i can’t get longterm tasks done because i’ve wasted so much time with these small satisfying activities which have somewhat become distractions if that makes sense. do you have any tips on how i can better moderate myself?
Alayna, thank you!! That's so sweet and so good to hear. I'm glad they are helpful.
I would suggest finding new coping skills you like and rotating them from time to time so you don’t get "stuck." This might help if you create for yourself a big enough "toolbox."
Thank you for your advice. I suffer from chronic pain. Do you have any coping skills for someone like me?
Thank you for your comment! I would suggest holistic approaches for chronic pain. I would try things like bath salts or essential oils such as lavender or peppermint oil which has natural properties for pain. I would incorporate some herbal teas and some green and black teas to help as well with building your immune system and antioxidants to help with pain.
Getting exercise, getting massages, and pursuing physical therapy may be helpful.
Take good care
I feel you. I have connective tissue disorder and am constantly in agony. Pain is anxiety fuel. I was finally put on opioids and it has helped a bit.
CBT - you can do it by yourself. Think long and hard before taking meds. They can really make you a mean person if not careful.
Very true. Medication should be the last resort and should be used when things feel out of control.
Thanks for such an informative video! ❤
Thank you!! Glad it was helpful and You're welcome!!
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Thank you!
I'm curious to learn how mental health professionals help patients with social anxiety; sometimes a patient knows that their fear or anxiety is irrational but they cannot help their response/reaction.
This is a great question Gaby. I usually assist my younger clients in going places they fear such as a playground or movie theater and walk them through the social anxiety. I like to practice first in the office and then again in public and then again at the place where they experience the most anxiety such as a movie theater. If I can teach the client to calm themselves with positive/balanced thoughts, by listening to my voice, etc. it shows them they CAN control it but they have to use the right tools.
I used to think weak minded people were weak. Now I'm the weak minded person. I dont wanna be but I am. It all started this year when alot of problems came at once. I believe I've developed depression. I cant find excitement in anything or anybody. At least I do recognize my problems I know that's important.
Thanks for being honest Cody. I certainly don't think you are the "weak minded person." Depression, anxiety, OCD, etc have no baring on whether you are weak or strong. I like to consider mental health as being more of a human condition that we are ALL susceptible to at some point and time in our lives. It's like diabetes and/or a heart condition. Living life and being human, experiencing all that life is, and trying to keep up in the world can all come crashing down on us causing anxiety, depression, etc. It's a human condition we are ALL susceptible to.
Glad you see what's going on. I do hope it isn't getting you down too much.
Take care
I love this one
😊 Thank you
First...love the music. 🤩🧡🧡🧡
And I love this topic. Good timing for my daughter. Thank you.
You are welcome!!
thank you for sharing this video...
You're Welcome!
Thanks for watching.
I'll watch this video to see if biblical teachings assist in the conversation! I can contribute from a spiritual perspective
enjoyed the video
Thank you!! Glad this was helpful.
Very easy make all your moves informed then have no regrets that’s how I do it just turned 50....also it’s never as bad or good as you think...
This would be helpful for some situations. I would suggest this in minor situations or situations that do not require a lot of thought.
Fight, FREEZE and then Flight. :p Y'all need to stop forgetting about freeze.
Very true. Pausing is an important component of coping.
but not everyone, likes doing groups chat over the web, facetime zoom etc..... which for me is frustrating, a friend of mine wants to hangout inside and i dont really want to, outside is fine but, he doesnt want to, either one of us are, at an impass (neither 1 of us are finding a balance), although i could try asking him about, going somewhere, or doing an activity like pumpkin carving
I totally understand this, Mark. I had friends text and ask me to hang out at a restaurant. Even though they stressed it would be outside, I was freaking out about it. I didn’t answer their text for a long time because I didn’t want to disappoint them. Finally, after thinking a lot about why I was stressing so hard - because we had hung out before outside, socially distanced with masks on, of course! Then, I realized that it was because at a restaurant, I wouldn’t be able to control how many people would be around me, and I wouldn’t be able to “escape” like if I’m out taking a walk, or sitting in the park. So I decided I just had to text them and tell them exactly how I felt. I told then that I was sorry, and loved them very much and missed them, but I’m just not comfortable, or ready for that yet. I was surprised and happy to hear them say that they understood, and maybe we could meet somewhere outside where there weren’t other people around and I felt more in control of who was around me. It made me feel so much better. I was just stressing myself out without giving them all the information about what I was feeling. Also, your friends have to respect you, Mark. If they don’t want to hear you and they try to pressure you, then they don’t really care about your feelings, just their own. I will admit that I forget that sometimes.
This is great Edd! Thank you for sharing this with him and us. Good points.
where is your office located? are you online/virtual appointments only? or could I actually schedule to come in for a visit? please let me know I think you could really help me out I have been suffering from anxiety and other stress induced issues all stemming from a traumatic brain injury and PTSD that was a result of a very bad motorcycle accident... I can get into more details about my specific situation but if you think you could or would even be willing to try to help me I can give u my contact information so we can get in touch and get more information about each other...
but literally, mostly everything you are saying is like you are talking about the issues I deal with every hour of every day... I hope we can get in touch you seem very very knowledgable and I think you would be able to help me out, even if we were just to speak on the phone. please let me know if you would be able to help me out in addition to your great videos!! thanks again and have a blessed day,
-Peter
Hi Peter,
please feel free to email me contact@anchoredinknowledge.com with your location/state and we can go from there. I offer consultations internationally and Psychotherapy in specific states.
wonderful video thank you
You're welcome!! Glad this was helpful.
Psalm 85
1 Lord, thou hast been favorable unto thy land: thou hast brought back the captivity of Jacob.
2 Thou hast forgiven the iniquity of thy people, thou hast covered all their sin. Selah.
3 Thou hast taken away all thy wrath: thou hast turned thyself from the fierceness of thine anger.
4 Turn us, O God of our salvation, and cause thine anger toward us to cease.
5 Wilt thou be angry with us for ever? Wilt thou draw out thine anger to all generations? 6 Wilt thou not revive us again: that thy people may rejoice in thee?
7 Shew us thy mercy, O Lord, and grant us thy salvation.
8 I will hear what God the Lord will speak: for he will speak peace unto his people, and to his saints: but let them not turn again to folly.
9 Surely his salvation is near that fear him; that glory may dwell in our land.
10 Mercy and truth are met together; righteousness and peace have kissed each other.
11 Truth shall spring out of the earth; and righteousness shall look down from heaven.
12 Yea, the Lord shall give that which is good; and our land shall yield her increase.
13 Righteousness shall go before him; and shall set us in the way of his steps.
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Amen❤❤
How ican contact with you plz answer me i am a mom and depressed for my daughter
Very helpful
Glad to hear that.😊
My xwife for over a year has made my children fight in front of me has made my son hit me panic over going to church panic over doing homework. Throw fits scream and yell. Over the past year I’ve asked the children psychologist for help I’ve talked with the school.
I documented everything my son repeatedly swears in front of me.
In August the neighbor boy was at my house playing with my son and my son hit me and said swearwords.
The neighbor boy said why would you talk to your father like that that’s disrespectful you have a nice Dad. My son’s answer was my mom makes me do it if I don’t do it I get punished.
So, what does that really mean.?
Not what normal person would think. She just wants to make in on my time and split the kids away from him, No that is not her goal.
What she want is to win and look good. And to make me look bad.
If I talk with the teachers about the behaviors after fight and homework is not turned in,
I have these tremendous behavior problems out of my children.
Am I X Wife can do the homework in five minutes she’s a super mom and the children don’t have panic attacks around her or anxious or anything.
So it has to be the other parent is the problem. I’m doing something wrong with the children I’m making them act as way just to make my ex look bad because I’m asking for help and I’m trying to prove I have a problem.
I bought a police cam. They can record for 12 hours if needed remote control.
I asked my children and they only tell the truth if they are angry with my ex.
Both of them said they get punished if they do not miss behave in front of me punch kick scream.
If you Google one parent has anxiety panic attacks fighting hitting with the children and the other parent has peace and quiet.
Google brings up the magic word triangulation and parental alienation.
That's a lot for these poor kids. I would look into getting them a trauma therapist and a child-based trauma therapist who can develop a relationship with them and help them work through their thoughts and feelings. This is a lot! If there is parental alienation going on as well as triangulation, the kids need an outlet with an adult who is objective and non-judgmental. Someone who is not so emotionally entrenched in the situation.
Today, I had them and both did the same thing again, I took the camera away and said, I not going to record anymore.
Both you have too, I said why each day it is the same, not listening bad time. I try and what difference does it make to record it.
My son said Mom will punish Us if you do not.
So my x wants them to act out I record it show The children psychologist office and so I am the only one that has a problem with them.
She making them do this, so I look bad and she is a victim. That’s a big case of alienation.
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That's great!! Glad this was helpful.
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Hi I am someone that gets anxiety from being left alone for too long and miss understandings it had started getting bad for a while four when part of my support system was not really there for me and I am not really sure if I am using the right name but I had started having high anxiety attacks and not sleeping for more than about one or two hours A day and my feelings are a confusing mess that I cannot really trust my judgment
It sounds like panic attacks. Most likely from your own thoughts about the things that bother you. I think we "go inside ourselves" sometimes and totally miss that we are thinking very deeply about the things that bother us. We may even begin to blame ourselves for how situations have turned out. This cycle causes the panic attacks. It might be best to question where your anxiety is coming from the moment you notice it. This "sharpens" the brain for being more aware of what you anxiety is trying to tell you.
@@TherapistTamaraHill That sounds right and and I have to ask how can I start on changing this behavior
I would start with psychotherapy and looking for a therapist who offer what's called Cognitive Behavior Therapy. This is working with your thoughts so as to change your feelings and behaviors.
Take care
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank u Thank u so much
😊 you're welcome
Thank you for this!!
You're welcome! Thanks for watching.
Hmm interesting I have a cyst on my pituitary gland.
I'm sorry to hear that. This is an anomaly I haven't heard much about but I wonder if there is a correlation between this and anxiety. ??? Some research suggests there is but it's very rare.
1. Buy a KJV version Bible. 2. Read it. Start with the book of John. 3. Get to know God. The Old Testament is extremely important to "know" the mind of our Father. 4. Pray to Jesus Christ to accept him, admit to him that you are a sinner and NEED a Savoir. Find a Bible-believing church and attend regularly. Be sure the Pastor is preaching the true Words of God. There is a verse that says, "Be careful (anxious) for nothing but in prayer with thanksgiving let your request be made known unto God and the Peace of God that passes all understanding will guard your heart and your mind." THIS will alleviate your anxiety. Trusting your Heavenly Father with all of your life, decisions, future will give you a peace you never knew before. It also works for a lot of other issues.
First of all! don't say my anxiety! It's not yours, you don't want it! Renounce it, throw it in the bottom of the Sea! Just say it every time you feel anxious! Don't give it up! Give it Out! In JESUS name! Try it ! it works! Blessings to you! 🖐😁💕
Thank you for this! Easier said than done for moderate to severe cases. But I think that it is possible for those who believe.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Exactly! Works for those who have faith & Beleive GOD!
Anxiety isn't inherently bad though. It's essential to our survival. Without our anxiety we would make dangerous, deadly decisions. Embrace healthy anxiety and treat unhealthy anxiety.
Why did I find this in my recommended.
Take an edible now and then. Works well for anxiety
I suggest doing research on this before resorting to it. Not everyone can (or should) use marijuana. Marijuana including edibles can have a depressing impact on the brain. Research suggests that if mixed with alcohol, antihistamines or xanax, and other prescription drugs that the consequences are worse than the anxiety itself.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Point well taken. Of course it's not for everyone. Often the people who have issues with it take too high a dose. They need to limit the dosage to a sensible number of milligrams, especially if they are novices with it.
Hey I need help ASAP I’m loosing my mind 😪
I'm so sorry to hear this. Are you in counseling or interested in counseling? The best place to start would be www.psychologytoday.com or www.goodtherapy.org. Take care
I don't want to help my anxiety, it does enough damage on its own.
nobody is with me, nobody ever was, nobody ever will.
I'm sorry you feel this way Kris. You may find someone, perhaps a therapist, who can truly help. You just never know.
@@TherapistTamaraHill you are kind. however, the last year of my life, almost to the very day, has been a dumpster fire inside a train wreck surrounded by a hurricane that is plummeting into a black hole. ironically , covid has not been a part of it. so, you know, i have that going for me. i cannot be salvaged. thank you for your compassion, however . like led zeppelin says, nobody's fault but mine.
I understand. Reality is reality and you're accepting of that. I just hope it changes for you at some point soon. Take care
I highly recommend Xanax 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
In moderation and only if legal and prescribed.😳
Just listen Quran recitation, you'll become Calm in a minute, just forget about everything
Believe it or not, this might be the most important post you'll read
Everyone of us has broken God's moral law, the Ten Commandments. We have all lied, stolen, hated and lusted. And James 2:10 states that breaking one of the Commandments makes us guilty of breaking them all. Problem is, we can never outweigh our sins through good works because the Creator is perfect in Holiness, meaning His standard is far above ours. And He is also perfect in Justice, meaning not a single sin will go unpunished. And the punishment of sin is being cast into hell, where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth with no end. Ever.
Fortunately, God is also perfect in love, so 2000 years ago, Jesus Christ left His throne in Heaven and came to this earth as a man. He lived a perfect, sinless life and He so loved us, that He took the punishment of our sin, when He suffered horribly on the cross. Isaiah 53 tells us that his face was marred beyond recognition and that he suffered more than any man. But right before His death, Jesus said "It is finished" meaning the the debt for our sins was paid in full. But on the 3rd day, Jesus conquered death and He was resurrected. So that means now, we can go free from the wrath of God's judgment not by earning it, but rather as a free gift of grace, if you accept Jesus. But, a gift can either accepted or rejected.
So if you want to accept the free gift or forgiveness, of grace, and of salvation, this is what you should do:
Humbly admit to God that you have sinned against Him, and through gratitude in the sacrifice of His Son, repent (turn away) from your old sinful ways. Then, confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord, your Savior. Believe that Jesus Christ died on the cross, was buried, and was resurrected 3 days later. Roman's 10:9 and 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 says that if you do this you are saved. I'm not telling you to get religious, because Christianity is not a religion, but a relationship with God.
And the moment you do this, God will grant you a new heart, which does not take pleasure in sin and He will give you eternal life. Nothing on this earth even close to compares to what awaits believers.
What you do with this information will determine where you will be for Eternity; meaning accepting Christ is the single most important decision you'll EVER make. And all of us here, believer or atheist, know that this is very true.
Jesus Christ wants YOU to come to Him this very moment; don't even think about sleeping until you have accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior, because your tomorrow isn't guaranteed. You could die at any moment. Hebrews 9: 27 "It is appointed unto man once to die, but after this, the Judgment."
All praise and honor to Jesus Christ, King of kings, Lord of lords.
Thank you for this perspective. As one who follows God during my private study time this invigorates me. His peace passes ALL understanding which is why a simple prayer can perplex the anxious mind every single time.
There is no such thing as [emotional intelligence] or [emotion] for that matter. That is a nebulous abstraction conjured up by socio-psychological industrial complex to make people feel they need to come to them. The relevant way is to consider everything as thoughts or feelings.
Seek the kingdom of God and go and forgive your parents. Repent. Do not resent, judge, or have anger. Sit still and know GOD.
I liked what you said all the way until I got to "you're welcome." No need for arrogance. We're heard better that way. Important view nonetheless.
@@TherapistTamaraHill No arrogance, I just know I'm right. I fixed it anyway.
Better!
Not all parents are worthy of forgiveness.
listen , just stop being a weirdo and go talk to others .. boom fixed thank me later
flip a coin when you can't decide A or B
Great advice
Thank you!