Be A Priority, Not An Option
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Why you should never make someone a romantic priority in your life when you are only an option in theirs.
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From my heart to yours,
Corey Wayne
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” -Mark Twain
I like that: the strongest negotiating position is being able to walk away and mean it.
Love & light
Just Amazing! 👏
So simple yet so true
Welcome to the 3%
In life people naturally have their options and priorities, just be careful not to invest too much in someone that treats you like an option.
md2v4 exactly!!
Well, fuck
eventually someone has to make the first move though otherwise both people will treat each other as an option and take the other persons actions as them being treated as an option and nothing happens but the most mundane experience possible that could be great with both people hiding true intentions below the surface. It sucks as it never feels great to be the one who cares more and opens up first. We all ideally like to be the one getting the validation first and the person not being able to resist making their intent known for you. No one wants to be the vulnerable one but it must be done if you ever want to be in the position of having a person in your life. Someone has to make that initial investment that shows the other person you want them in your life. I think the problem is people wait to long before judging the situation. The answer is not to go to the extreme other end and just stop showing someone is a priority. Just have an exit plan and a time frame for when you stop doing that if it's not being returned so you don't end up breaking your own heart later on for nothing.
When my ex dumped me 5 years ago, I was devastated. I feel like the pain wouldnt end, my ego was hurt and I loved her so much. Almost destroyed my life. This guy saved me. Whenever im sad and misses her, I watch a ton of his vid and even bought his book. Thanks Coach. You saved my life. I came out fine and is now living the life I dreamt of.
That ex gf started begging me and tried to win me back and I dumped her.
Congratulations I am in the same boat as you and his videos really saved me.
She wanted you back after 5 years??
He saved mine too
They always come back
Never make someone a priority when you are only a mere possibility to them.
I love this
Just make yourself an impossibility to them then they will see what they lost
When your a man of great caliber women will chase you. Stop worrying about getting women and establish your life.(any woman worth having can recognize a good great man from a mile away). Don't chase. Be humble.
well said..
awesome. ...quote
Don King i am interested to hear why you say dont chase! If your a man of great caliber, woman will chase you.... i know the dating game has changed dramatically, but dont men like the thrill of making the first mover anymore? Or has this become boring and mundane?
belinda roulston A man always has to chase at the beginning but it's not chasing is courting, all you do is extend an invitation to a woman to hang out go out or whatever, if she rejects you twice, you walk away, if she accepts you keep extending those invitations until she starts contacting you more and more. You only reach out once a week to extend the invitation, if she contacts before then, then you just assume she wants to see you and extend the invitation. Extend invitations bro.
Im in deep darkness.A women can sure put your emotions in a state of hell.I came close to jumping off a building.Thanks for saving my life.Your videos have giving me great teachings and new hope.Im on my way out of the valley of darkness.Feels like God guided me to you your posting just in the nick of time.Thanks again.I will find that special women for me in the future becuase im worth it.GREAT VIDEOS
Ted you are powerful.
Ted Hibbard L'Oréal because your worth it
How are you doing after a year?
It is crazy what we (can or may) do for a person. I think that is commendable, but not to get me wrong about ending your life. But I know that pain as well.
I think it is a good thing what Corey is saying about walking away. More so, I tend to see it this way: Loyalty and love should be given unconditionally to the wo/man you love... but as soon as they back off or such, you should take the hit and back off, in fashion of how the coach suggests it.
I've been there doing all the (beta) stuff one shouldn't do, concsiously and deliberately.
You CAN'T win. Unless you do the backing off. If you want them to suffer. Really, dive deep like a submarine, uboot, whatever. You don't have to jump off a building if you can become a ghost and disappear likewise. Makes them go crazy af.
Jumping off a building is the worse a man can do for a woman, don’t let anyone get in your head stay firm and decisive remember you are valuable!
Glad youre still here! Never find THE permanent solution to only a temporary problem, brother.
"Don't you fucking dare dude." - Coach Corey Wayne 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I love the way Corey curses..its hilarious.
Nicole Judah literally 😂😂😂😂😂
What about a guy you have been seeing for 3months but won't let me call him boyfriend
Lmao,I agree he is Hilarious.
That's fuckin bullshit dude! HANG OUT HAVE FUN AN HOOK DA FUCK UP!!! (Coach Corey Wayne Voice)💀
FOREAL! lol
Attachment to anything is dangerous!!
I've come to the realization that yes, Coach is right… if you have an active social life, you will meet someone else…bottom line! Make getting out there (Bars…wherever) a priority!
I've read the book 3 times. Dating and attraction have worked awesome.
Relationship... mastered being able to walk away and mean it. Works everytime. Can't seem to master negotiating,, when she doesn't call or puts me low on her priority I immediately go to walk away if you don't want to make me a priority then it's time for me to be done with this relationship. Always comes the emotional crying, I don't want to break up , etc.
Comments welcome,
I will read the book 5 more times and work on improving my weaknesses.
P.s. thanks corey i recommend you to everyone. You've changed my life
I've been in similar situation. I was also doing the same with "I'll walk away". That's not the way to say it but fuck it, if you're being disrespected for several times "Honey I would really appreciate if you don't do that" obviously doesn't work. "I'm sorry" means jack shit fifth time if you don't see it on her behaviour. You can accept her like that or find yourself someone better for you. My advice is always second option. Let her go, maybe she'll mature after some time and then you could possibly have healthier relationship.
I have been in the single dating game for about 7 years on an off and I have to say that these videos are EXACTLY what needs to be said and heard. I respect a man who has the courage to stand up to me and ultimately respect himself. You have men and women pegged with dating behavior! This needs to be shared with singles everywhere!
Cheating with a married person is NEVER ok.
Kendra Correct! I was about to subscribe until he gave his blessing to cheat with the cougar. WRONG to mess with ANY married individual!
CHARLES R. WALLACE While I respect your right to have an opinion, yours and mine are VASTLY different.
Yeah. Most of his stuff is spot on but this was pretty shady advise from a guy who always talks about honor and integrity.
dukex12 Yep I have to agree! Is never ok to cheat under any circumstances.
Kendra yeah but people have responsibilities to honor their marriage how is it some joe shmo’s fault that she wants dick on side of her marriage?
I value myself and will not be fooled again by this man. I will not be an option. Period
You're awesome Corey.
You go girl!
@@CoachCoreyWayne😂fucking hilarious
its hilarious how he swears with a smile in his face.
Folks tend to be very creative when lying to themselves :)
"He's a pathetic weak bitch." - Coach Corey Wayne 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
How about you leave married women alone? That's what your answer should have been.
How to leave cookie on the table. 😂
Walk and never look back is freakin genius! It’s liberating when you do it. Because I did this my ex of 8 years is baffled 😕 by this and she doesn’t know what to do. I am taking care of myself, focusing on my mission and becoming the best person I can be. I have the audio download of 3% Man, I purchased the paperback so I can take notes in it (I have listened to the audiobook 7 times so far) and I also purchased Mastering Yourself. The books will be at my door tomorrow. I was in a 8 year relationship, however my GF left me 4 different times and then of course wanted me back. She never officially broke up with me just “Ghosted” me. I wasn’t even good enough for her to break up with me. No more! This was I thought the one for me but obviously not. I am hanging in this guys words, and it is working. He’s a genius and hilarious 🤣. Thanks Coach!!!
Understanding this and applying it is the key to self respect in dating. Look closely at what people do, not what they say.
TIRED BEING AN OPTION
Lisa James you would be my only option baby
Losing weight helps.
This made me realize my self worth! Thanks for the awesome video Coach!
Corey, you kept it super real with that first email! LOVE IT! I found myself nodding my head in agreement with you the whole time. Leaving someone you love is hard but you have to love yourself more first :) been there, done that.
Nodding in agreement. Shaking is like saying no.
I've had ex boyfriends who wanted to stay friends after we broke up and I told them that I am not friends with my exes. People stay friends with their exes cuz they can't move on and it hinders them from moving on with their lives.
Cool Chicka Vlogs I don’t stay friends with exes either, I block them on the phone and social media. Bye!!!
I wish I was strong enough to that. I feel so lonely I can't let him go
Why didn't I see this about 4 years ago? Ugh!! Love seeing a guy calling a guy out instead of covering for him.
My girl got mad for me calling her ex out
Women only tend to cover for another woman... men rarely do that... we are usually fairly impartial.
Ok from a female's perspective. If you guys cheat with a married woman and u hurt her (after the passion is gone and u find someone else but she still is attached to u) there's s risk that her husband may get involved and come after you (if his wife can't cover her cheating tracks) or worst case scenario is she tells her husband that u did something to her. Don't mess with married women cuz women can get overly emotional (I know cuz I am one). Find someone who is single or "says" she's single so there's no repercussions on ur part.
Cool Chicka Vlogs great advice, thanks
丨心心，風一，Cool Chicka Vlogs 8一一一一一一去
"... but in the end of the day"
OMFG.... Soooooo much THIS!!!!! People, stop accepting being someone's perpetual "side piece", UNLESS it's on YOUR terms!!!!Coach Corey, Your snarky humor cracks me up, and I absolutely freaking LOVE You.... Ugghhhh!!!! Ummm, and Your YT channel too, despite that it's geared mainly towards men, but glad to see you address women's questions too!!!! It's very clear that You identify as an Alpha Male (💘), a trait that an individual is actually born with, and reach out to coach individuals to let that "inner Alpha", the one that has been suppressed by society or brainwashed into a degrading Beta or even Omega, to FINALLY surface....However, not all ARE Alphas, and cannot 'learn' a trait that one's not born with. Until You come across a Sigma Male... And He's just as fierce as an Alpha. I would LOVE to see a video regarding Your opinions and take on the Alpha vs Sigma Male qualities. Most women these days, assume they are chasing an Alpha, but in all actuality He's a Sigma (😎💗).Also one other topic, that seems to be a central focus by most of Your followers is the subject of.... MONOGAMY. With the ridiculously outrageous rate of divorce in the United States being what it is... Maybe an interesting topic of discussion would be on that of Ethical Non-Monogamy and Polyamouris relationship dynamics???? 😉
8:22 "off like a prom dress" 😂
I died at that part😂😂
This is a great video, You must valued yourself through love and respect that you did not deserved to be just an option. Because you are worthy person.
THIS is SO effin brilliant!!!! I worship this man, a clear voice of sanity in a world of romantic confusion. Here, we have a Bhudda, a Jesus of the dating world telling it like it is and working miracles for those with ears to hear... WOW, effin WOW!!!!
I needed to find this channel
Straight forward and to the point with no fancy bullshit
This is so true! I keep watching your videos and now I'm hooked on them!!
Love the title before i even watched it. Thank you coachWayne. I was meant to be seeing a guy, but there were so many excuses, and really liked me. He was single, but he couldnt give me his time to even call let alone go out on dates. I told him that cant give me what i want, and not prepared to make himself available. I feel so proud of myself that i had the strength to stand up for myself.
I have since spoken to this guy, and found out he had a valid reason for not answering my messages. What might sound like an excuse to me at the time that makes me feel i am an option, actually seems i made a harsh judgement of this guy without knowing his situation. I would like to hear from coach wayne, when is his reason for not answering my messages an excuse that doesnt warrent me giving him my time, and when do you class their reason as a valid reason for going no contact?
Who am I to disagree with coach, who has taught me so much, but I think a man who truly respects himself would walk away and never take her back if she chose another guy instead of him and then came crawling back for another chance. What's done is done.
Don't be a standby guy. Don't be a girl in his messed up world.
Scarlett Begonias i will not be a woman in a guys messed up world.
@@mariamistretta3860 sure you won't
@@tonytrilex2555 well I think a guy should figure out what he wants, in life instead of sending mix signals to women it's so confusing at times.
I believe woman should be treated right not be a guy he really does love, but if a guy is abusive behavior that won't be acceptable it's never right for a man to be little women so he can better of himself, that ain't love that abuse and it's not unacceptable.
You hear about so much bad things happen around the world, no woman want to be treated that way.
44, married, 5 kids. What exactly is the draw?
Gordonblues Exactly what I was thinking. Must be some loser 24 year old kid who has mommy fantasies.
Thanks for your advice😞sometimes the correct thing to do is so simple but so hard. Time is important and we cannot loose ir with a person that is not honest.
Bought ur book bro, best 10$ I spent
Only $10?
Horse in the hamburger meat!!😂😂😂😂... Dude, I bought ur book, I'm reading it, so extremely happy that i came across you on the tube!
I agree with his remark about setting up ex's with ex's... I would just want him to be happy..
i love, love, love, love how you answer your emails, so true and so funny!!! THANK YOU!!!
Mannn this guy is good ,,, I been watching his videos today to get some counseling... and it works ..... tnx man ... I think I'll be buying ur book... tnx bro.
My most loved and enjoyable video uploads I have seen on RUclips are by Corey. Most authentic man and lightworker on the planet. Love it. Corey you´ve reached Enlightenment. When you are in The Netherlands let me know. You´re my guest.
i wish i could like this video more than once
Corey, I have a serious question. I'm sure many of us would like to know your thoughts.
How about a video on dating women that are on antidepressants ?
Completely different game.
K Kenason yeah I decided that's a no go. you can't get a handle on that. well I can't.
I really enjoyed your straightforwardness and cursing in this video to send you point home!
Lol where do you get these analogies. "Im off like a prom dress" lol
I'm working between this situation & standing up for yourself. She's seeing another guy monkey branching at weekends with some fake alpha simp rebound & putting up a masculine shield because she's in her masculine energy a lot & it's difficult to truly get her to let her guard down on an emotional level. Shes not spending any quality time with our daughter. It all seems so superficial. Told her not to talk to me unless she's going to be nice sweet and loving again. I'm walking away & moving on until she apologises for breaking our family apart & sees the man she's losing. Love is a choice & action with equal echange of values. Limerance isn't!
Update?
Fake Alpha Simp Rebound 😂😂 Brilliant!
10:11 You're the "break glass in type of emergency" dude. LOL
10:22 You don't get what you deserve in life, you get what you negotiate. So be a good negotiator.
Don't hesitate not you is my preference but never my only option
Dude you are hilarious. Hearing you on my morning run. 🤣🤣🤣
I was seeing my ex of 7 years, broke up for around 10 months now. We went out a few times and then she flaked on two dates and when she arranged the third she flaked again.
After seeing this video the first time I said to her,
"I'd love to see you, so give me a call when you want to meet up"
It's been almost a week and no contact from her yet.
I don't hold any hopes of her contacting me to be honest but it would be good to get things going again
Danny Mcmonagle When you say flake if you mean no show you have to call her out on that. Wait for her to contact you (she might not AT ALL).Then tell her you value your time and don’t appreciate it. A Woman can’t love someone she doesn’t respect. She won’t respect you if you allow her to treat you this way.
Corey rules!!..end of story!!!!!!!!!!!
Every time he says "Bottom line" take a drink
I wish what i am struggle on to work on. Is the thing you are talking about i will be so happy so much, that okay.This is one of my options that is keeping me going stronger in life nothing else bothers me now .Great coaching coach.
Hi corey, really enjoy your videos and your way of explaining and being straightforward, really helps to see things clearly! just got out of a 4 year relationship and it's been hard but I feel that i can stop being a wuss and finally move forward and forget her. And watching your videos has helped me realize some of the mistake that I made.
As for the third guy? I wouldn’t mess with that married woman. That’s playing with fire. And you can’t play with fire and not get burned 🔥
It might be good advice but it's in direct contradiction to other videos, where he says, "Date around, don't tie down, have them chase you. Don't make them feel like a notch, make the women feel special but see other people". If that's not making those women an option and not a priority I don't know what is!
When the woman is not willing to be exclusive with me that leaves me with no choice but to keep other options open!
There are two different stages. 1. Dating 2. Relationship.
Until the woman you really like brings up the idea of a relationship, keep dating around to keep yourself centered and not get overly attached. Women that are 8’s and up want a man who is centered and is focused on his own life and doesn’t make her the center of the universe.
You’re a woman so this will be hard for you to understand as women act on emotions, not on logic.
I love your humor Corey! Your teachings has been such a blessing for my dating life and given me the right tools to step deep into my masculine core.
I would like more videos on how you master you own emotions/perspective as I believe you have some great insight to these topics aswell
I voucher for a video like that too. It is complicated when the girl find a guy who seems to be nice but he is struggling in dealing with you because of his emotions
i always knew this regarding my so called friends, but was always pretending to not notice it, and acting like its all good, but i guess in the process of growth you have no choice but to face this realities oneday. A huge amount of strength is needed especially if you've being involve with this people for a long time, but in growing up to be a man this decisions are necessary to uphold your pride and integrity and you will face them or they will keep coming back. In life people naturally have
Dude such a crazy ass experience. Tried to be friend zoned after she broke up with a guy hellllll no
...by their fruits you will know them. Matthew 7:20.
I need to examine my fruits as much as I do hers.
Another great coaching session. Thank you.
I love it when Cory tells everybody that he doesn’t suggest you mess with married women and reach out to choke yourself, 10 minutes later here’s my number when your Valentine is ever out of town 😂.
8:20 lmao "fuck this bull sheeeite"
wam bam thank you ma'am hahahahaha
I'm a female and I wouldn't allow myself to be someone's mistress or side chick unless that man has money and can afford to keep me. Otherwise, I'm out. I learned to use logic not go by my emotions.
Ho fo sho
Cool Chicka Vlogs Im a mistress but he has tons of money and let’s me play around too.
Cool Chicka Vlogs whats this a smart woman using logic. Welcome to the other side
Lol a woman discovers logic. Congratulations
Trust me the way my ex is acting I know I am not a priority. Actions are much louder than words. She wants to stay friends for life but never again as lovers. 10 years of friendship and relationship thrown away like trash. WTF!
Hey Corey you are so open minded so true about everything keep up the good work corey
You call it how it is, I love you man.
Corey is very smooth. Geeked! 😍
How equally insightful is your material. Invaluable.
I don't like the fact the married women is subtilty flirting with the guy and the guy is slowly trying to hook up with her. LEARN BOUNDARIES PEOPLE DON'T CROSS THEM. THERE ARE ENOUGH SINGLE PEOPLE OUT HERE. STOP HITTING ON PEOPLE MARRIED OR IN RELATIONSHIPS.
Having a boyfriend and dating someone else is not okay.
Yes I hate to admit it but I'm in the exact same situation the only difference is is that I'm a guy that's been messing around with a girl that has a boyfriend it's been going on for about 6 months now and it's been nothing but empty promises and basically dishonesty the whole entire time! I really have nothing to base the belief that she even cares about me at all she never ever does anything that she says that she's going to do something always gets in the way every single time and many many times if not most of the time it has something to do with him and she doesn't even have any consideration for me at all and I have broken It Off now two times the first time was just about a week and a half ago maybe 2 weeks ago and after about two days she started texting me again and I fell for it but then about 2 days ago I told her I was DONE! and now I have to be strong against the temptation of texting or texting back even if she texts me or calls me I have to be done for real for real it is hard it's extremely hard because she has got a smoking body!!! I guarantee you that!!! but it's just not worth it it's just not worth it at all it's way way way too much heartache and pain and suffering for nothing there's no solidity to this relationship there's no future I know that if she's cheating on him now that she'll cheat on me later and that's just all there is to it I've got to get my head out of my ass!!!!!!!
I love your videos, how honest and direct you are!
I loved him so much and all of a sudden he says he has started feeling for someone else and when she said a no. He wants to be back with me
When he says "cougar!" Lmfao xD
Love your realness 😂😂😂😂😂
just got my book yesterday the reading begins now
How has it been?
If I could I would upvote and like this video 800 times.
Consider yourself like a boxing match treat yourself like a the main event not some under card
If a girl blows you off cancelled dates don't ask again until she brings up hanging out or hits you up that's it. Be a man of your word.
2:05...and yet they never do..hahahaha, that was funny!
Why this man is so interesting!!!!!! I just love him.. 😂😂😂
please do a video on compatibility. this is a huge topic.
Don't waste your time on anyone who's not willing to waste their time on you.
Corey Wayne you are HILARIOUS!😫😂😂🤣
What you mean it's none of his business your the one that says you only get what you negotiation, if it bothers him he should defiantly speak up set boundaries or leave.
Never go after a married woman. This stuff affects people’s entire families. Have some respect for yourself and others and be with someone who isn’t taken.
You fucking give me a good mood. One of the best mans alive.
2:34 More like a side chick
3:11 Watch what he DOES: Do his action match his words (this also goes for women as well)
Who ever wrote last email needs to listen to Doc Love he has the standards he is looking for
" im off like a fucking promdress" HAHAH that cracked me up !
I need this because I am going through the same thing sigh I’m in my bed crying like now ... I get treated well etc but I just can’t do it
Corey I love how you say things- you are too funny.. These videos are awesome
‘I’m off like a prom dress’ 🤣
Great sense of humor while sharing the wise lessons!!
Corey 100% right. For me its a girl in the Philippines..
Say she loves be so I was going their for Christmas 2017..... Says come see me but I don't want you at my house bc of what the neighbors will think...
Fuck that.... I told her I'm a priority I gave her a chance to change....anyhow it's BS so I put an add on a dating site 2 days ago...WOW over 1200 likes and 400 replies... I felt confident again and proud... Many asked to spend Christmas with me.... They said your welcome to be with me at Christmas.... Who needs this kind of person.
corey ....have u dated women who are in street gangs or the mob before with/witout drama?